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I definitely feel you on feeling my bandwidth/capabilities were so much fuller "before" - change comes whether or not we're ready for it, and a lot of that feeling for me was not being ready to embrace the changes my mind, spirit, and body were going through. Sending lots of love and solidarity, as someone who's feeling better these days (at least this week lol) the hardest burnout can eventually lead to the most fulfilling path forward :)

444 subbies is a wonderful sign. I took 8 months off of my youtube channel to divorce myself from feeling the pressure of producing. It was a magical transformative period. I first needed the space to just relax, then I needed the space to reflect, then I needed the space to rebuild. I grew myself tenfold, just got selfish with my energy and being alright with being alone. I came back in February harder than ever and I never looked back. Forgive yourself, love yourself, indulge yourself and then rebuild! 💞

Solidarity, friend -- you are very much not alone in this, especially right now. Our culture was built around the idea of constants, and many of those are very much NOT right now: whether we'll have democracy in a few months, projected fallout from climate change, trying to stay safe and informed during a pandemic everyone is ignoring -- and that's just 3 things. It all means we can't plan long-term the way we used to, and that leads to feeling like reality doesn't have dimensions that include things like a foundation or boundaries. You're 1000% right that sleep is paramount: your brain cannot do a lot of what it does without sleep as a time for things like memory storage and biochemical rebalancing, your endocrine system (which includes all the glands and hormones that make up the fight/flight/freeze response) can't function properly, and on and on through every system in your body... and since your body is what carries your mind, that means your psychology will be inescapably affected as well. Social Rhythm Therapy techniques/strategies and learning as much as you can about the sleep cycle and sleep hygiene would be a great place to start -- and you may even discover that getting enough sleep ends up being like 80-90% of what's been going on. Not sure if you've mentioned whether you have ADHD or not (I do!), but if so there's a saying in the ADHD-o-sphere: do less to do more. The less you do, the more successfully you can do the things you DO focus on and get done. Never hesitate to reevaluate how necessary even little things are, and don't hesitate to cut them in favor of the time and energy to tackle the things that matter most to you. How To ADHD here on YT just did a really helpful overview of "mental load" recently, which would be helpful to anyone experiencing burnout, ADHD or not. A third thing to check in on is to reflect how long you've been feeling the way you do: if it started after you last had that pathogen everyone is ignoring, it might be worth getting evaluated for Long C0v!d or post-viral neurological effects -- many of the things you're describing here are common in folks post-virus for some period of time, but if it's gone on quite awhile, you might need extra support and guidance. Good luck to you, I'll be sending health-filled and mind-rejuvinating thoughts your way! And holy heck that was long, i hope YT allows it to post!!

good luck on your caffeine cleanse 🫡

Loving the vibe of your apartment. Loving the artwork and midcentury furniture. So original and lots of colour. And yes I love a small space as well. Just bought a bungalow (I'm in the UK). 😊

Great ideas ❤

I feel like some people think the internet can be an opportunity to be somewhat anonymous and then act like there's no consequences for their bigotry when actually its not anon!! Its wild how people feel entitled to ask questions & to be rude too!! Really appreciate you highlighting that this happens more on content that has to do with serious issues like Gaza and SARS2!! enjoyed this sunday yap!!

I definitely admire how you're able to keep your sanity in being a content creator and having to deal with those hateful comments and just like large amount of notifications in general. I feel like I get overwhelmed by like a single text sometimes lmao. It's also always cool to watch your vids and stuff blow up and go viral because I know how much work you put in and you definitely deserve it. Great video as always bestie!

yass friend!

Hey I just found your videos and really dig the format and the subject matter! Commenting here cause I've been drawn to stuff about people pleasing (and apartment tours lmao) since that's something I'm also working on, and I read a book recently called Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents that called me out on it hardcore- it's mostly about parental relationships but it covers a lot of the social avenues where those instinctual people pleaser tendencies get instilled and reinforced, like religion! It also gets waaaayyy deep into the types of interpersonal and self worth issues that come from internalizing a "pleasing" role in life and relationships, which I've found an especially sinister combo with the perceived need for masking as a neurodivergent person too.... it doesn't solve everything but omg! eye opener! anyway i dig the yap sessions and social awareness, keep em up!!

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thank you for sharing these tips! also i like your yellow star. is it starface?

Going to therapy and working on mental health is very demure and very cutesy

When there's smoke there's the GAS that caused the fire 💭

I asked and I received!!!!

Oh, man where do I start. You’re right on the labor trends and looking for balance. Totally healthy attitude. As mid-30s man in Ukraine, I’ve never been more motivated to grind(so is my social bubble). We kind of have to keep projects here and keep up the economy and keep donating.

Chile not the 4 jobs!!!! 😂 I feel the exact same way, I don't hate my personal job but it is not the end goal whatsoever. The way I can compartmentalize my job personality and my real life personality. Covid made me sit my ass down and reevaluate how I feel about work and careers. My youtube channel came out of that and I am forever grateful for the direction. I am taking a professional pay cut to be able to hold space for myself and my passions. I can always go back to school, but I need to show myself I can at least try to make my dreams come true. I VALUE TH💞E WORK LIFE BALANCE MORE THAN ANYTHING!!! and that is something I am glad Covid taught me at 24 instead of 44. Love your content bb!!! another great video!

I have similar experiences, sometimes I feel like looking feminine and sometimes I want to look more masculine. I feel natural and more masculine when I don't have to think about what I am, how I look or what I wear. When I don't think about my shapes or look like my female self i feel much better. I feel a bit confused about everything and about my identity. Maybe I am non binary. I don't look at myself being any specific gender, I'm just a human being. Basically I stopped thinking about having to be female and beautiful because I like myself the best when I am very neutral and natural. I can absolutely relate to what you say but in my own way, if that makes any sense. 😊 Your videos are great and always very interesting. You're doing a great job making awesome videos. 💐💐💐

🗣🗣🗣 allll of this! Working is a SCAM I tell ya. I can literally get all my shit done in 4 hours. we're forced to work at least 40 hours/week to make sure we are dissociated, disconnected from ourselves and our communities so that we can remain cogs in the wheel. we deserve more than this! the whole part of not being able to talk candidly about this rings so true too. sort of related but my work recently enforced all-cameras-on policy, and now in meetings, after some announcements the person leading will be like "Wahh why does everybody look so serious? COME ON, smile!!" like :| pls, I'm just forced to be here for 1/3 of my life why do I have to pretend I like it lol ;-;

Agreed to all of the above!

In a lot of ways I'm concerned for creators safety because of these parasocial relationships. A few people will go far to meet and be around their celebrity or social media influencer. On the other end video watchers or fans need to know they don't really know influencers or celebrities in any real ways.

Trump as trixie is so accurate LOL

Hey there! Just found your video through the algorithm. When u said u wanna be big and beefy but not in a masculine way I instantly thought about Jasper from Steven Universe. I know it is a cartoon but the whole vibe is a big, beefy (agender) character but still kinda slightly feminine presenting... Maybe that is what u are talking about? Otherwise I feel u some what. Not that I am nonbinary I am actually (binary) trans but first I feel also very attracted to the bear community. I like the guys there, mostly chill grounded dudes being comfortable with themselves and others and I dunno... I don't just wanna them, I wanna be like them lol. Bears are amazing! Second I understand the wish to transform. I gained 15 kg (dunno what this is in lbs) because of HRT, sport, change in diet (I eat more lol) but I feel good in my (new) body. Being not so tiny anymore gives me a lot of (gender) euphoria. Third: I am also not into gym culture and gym bros... I mean there are oc also a lot of chill and very kind and helpful dudes but there is a lot of toxicity, u already did mentioned it. So I feel ya here and that is why I train at home. Also I feel the last part of your video too. I mean some changes are necessary so that I can develop as a person but personal change is maybe less scarier than e.g. political changes. And here in Europa a lot of shit is happening, ufff... Not the best time to be here but otherwise in the past other stuff was shitty. Get that's humanity for u. About the Q&A: I just found ur channel, so I do not know so much about u (yet) but I will check out ur other stuff too. :) Get well soon my friend!

sharp looking apartment................nice amount pf light thru the windows too!

I believe getting sun and being around nature is scientifically proven to improve symptoms of depression! The power of yellow is amazing 💭

I think it's interesting hearing more about people pleasing and just how it's unfortunately a successful coping method because I think most of the population by default... are raised to be people pleasers and that's why society has gotten to where it's at today 💭💭 don't have much else to add to this bc working rn but yeah interesting to think about I think! Thanks for sharing 🙏

you never mi- [booing noises] all jokes aside though, this was a good video. i've been on tiktok significantly less lately and wasn't even aware of this situation so i appreciate you breaking it all down. i also agree, feels like parasocial relationships between content creators/influencers and their fans are getting progressively worse and it's pretty offputting lmao

madiswan was absolutely right and did NOT deserve that

have u been invited to "the garden" on gather? (closed space for covid-cautious BIPOC)

Armpit reveal pog. Also that insane secret game in season 1 of milf manor lmao literally traumatized her son. Great bonus yap tho! Love the outdoor vibe

💞Omg Bae!! My messy ass is fully sat for this video..just subbed!!!!

it's one thing to watch someone's content and follow them on social media. It's a WHOLE different thing when your making alt accounts dedicated to one person and a large chunk of your time is spent fruitlessly worshipping someone who doesn't know you. This is great commentary

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talk to much

are we stans or are we just desperate for a cult leader 😭 really appreciate your thoughts on this episode!

Stop I literally have a ribbon from a gift from 5 years ago and I recently actually used it!!!!!!!!!!! this was a fun format

love these yap sessions! thanks for the podcast shares! love finding more people talking about life with long covid and folks still awake to the realities of the on going pandemic!

Spill the tea on Kelsey on your next yap session lmaooo

Linen! The washable kind. It's great for summer (I'm another Okie), and I do definitely see it in second hand shops here.

Looking forward to the apartment tour. I'm finally investing in decorating myspace more. COVID has really turned me into even more of a homebody

Wait wait wait friend - we’re both Okies?! Also, more than 1 drink is the FLOTILLA.

The variants can be worse than the original covid.

Agreed. But hopefully they only paint the cheaply made and/or destroyed stuff, and the stuff with no style from the ´80s and ´90s, not something like that.

Nice! But it needs a feline or two! Glaringly missing.

You're so correct 💯

Thank you for discussing Covid 🫶🫶🫶

Love the way you think, all your yellow, and the CAPTIONS. I know captioning takes a lot of work. Loving your channel + talks so far 💛🌟🌞