I was married two times to black men because I was attracted to them and also thought that was what I was supposed to do... The marriages were horrible because I didn't know who I was or what I wanted, they were broken and I was broken. Cleaned myself up and took ten years and wanted to open the pool of men that I would consider and I ended up marrying a white man who treats me like a queen and may not understand everything racially that I deal with, but he has loved me unconditionally and has the most purest heart I know. Be open for love to be in a different package than what you expected 💯❤️
Do we not see the plan from the very begin I g to divide and conquer us. Everyone see it but us because we are starved for love and self identity and acceptance. We are the only people who does this. Your preference is your preference. But, a choice is stronger than a preference. Many Blacks are self hating toward each other. A house divided will never stand. I love God and HE is my Lord and Savior. I do not like the divide in our community, however, the field is never equal when it comes the economic leveling of Blacks in America verses other communities. We take our talents, gifts, treasures and build up substantially in other communities while we do nothing for our Black community. This is the issue l have. Why do we have to look outside of our community? Do they do it equally? They will never see us as equal to them in nothing.
Just because someone is white doesn't mean they are going to treat you the way you want to be treated. Just because someone is black doesn't men they are going to treat you in a way you don't want to be treated. Going to white men is no guarantee of a successful relationship.
Thank you for sharing this. I've been divorced for 11 years now and holding out hope for another relationship with an AMAZING substantive black man. Lately I've been pondering if it's time to allow God to bless me with an AMAZING substantive "man" ‼️🙏🏾
Oh yes,I had a man who couldn't control his sexual desires,very annoying, he couldn't give me a min to be just by myself and watch or listen something quietly, he was always distracting cos his d%ck couldn't stay calm
I just don’t understand how men don’t see how their actions over time has resulted in women being more masculine today. Like take accountability & let’s talk real solutions.
I don’t get why women continue to try to get men to hold other men accountable, yet attempt to rationalize their own faults. You’re accountable and responsible for your own actions. Stop trying to check other people for what you perceive is a lack of.
Facts when you say this to men especially black men they can you a simp ,it's starts with us as men how you want women to be in order when most men are out of order
You dont have to marry or couple up with everyone you love. Control your lust and love them from accross town. Marry your 'Help Meet' only! Is he/she ready and willing to help you... and you want yo help him...
Exactly! I love seeing that, although it's rare now. But in books and shows in the old days that was cool seeing men and women couples working together as equal for a greater goal.
His “Ho” explanation is pretty spot on in my opinion. I can say from experience that in my teens and twenties, I developed this idea subconsciously that if I notice that this situation will not become a relationship for whatever reason (me not liking them like that, them not liking me like that, etc.), but I was still attracted to them, I would still see what the sex was like, to satisfy at least that craving. I did not know this is what was happening until about a year ago. I’ve been abstinent for about 10 years, I started this flirtatious relationship with a guy but once we realized we weren’t it for one another, my brain immediately went to the thought “see what the d do”. I knew I wouldn’t because my conscious toward God would not allow me to, but I realized that was my thought process all along. All those years I thought I was just so raw, able to separate feelings from sex, but I was truly just searching for love the improper way. I hope this helps someone.
I’m so happy for you. I use to feel the same way. I thought I was so tough being able to celebrate my feelings from the act. Nope, just dealing with past trauma seeking …. Something … a solution, a salve… It’s so much better to go within, heal and turn to God.
"She will settle for anything when she gets older" Boy you got it wrong guys, it's the opposite! The quality standards are way higher: As a man you have to be able to show that you will show up. That you are reliable. That you take care of yourself as she does. Older doesn't mean ugly either. They are alone not because they're bitter - They're alone because it's slim pickings... Drop the prejudice guys, you sound like freshmen college...
Exactly, I am single by choice. Guys approach me all the time. The problem is, I don't have time for the games, I'm not trying to be someone's bank or mother. I've had the marriage and I am not interested in having kids. I've been there and done that. What I am more interested in is peace. I have that now and I will not let anyone disturb that with their immature foolishness. I will not "settle" because I am not afraid to be alone.
Guys I know theres probably a TON of work yall have been doing on the back end. The podcast is evolving so well thank you for the fire content and consistency. Love the OG episodes so much as someone who grew up in a family of women. Thanks guys and congratulations to the brother for losing all that weight.
Im a woman and my experience is that where the male, hasn't taken his rightful place in the home, being the head, the protector and provider, I've had to adopt "masculinity" to a certain extent, by having to step in where this man has left a gap. Now this has gone on for years and I'm done now and am going through a divorce, because on top of this behaviour unfortunately is an emotionaly abusive man. Now your discussion talks about the masculine woman, but this is caused by men who fail as men and women have to adopt this role which is unnatural. Show me a woman who doesn't want to be feminine, dependent on a reliable man, nurturing her man, loving and caring for him . Unfortunately there are a few rmature real men out there, few and these situations HAVE made women become the strong, masculine women they are. Standards are then up there and it'll take a lot to impress that kind of woman, because she's done it all, she's had to. Not that many men out there that are secure enough, mature enough or able enough to meet her needs and give her what she wants and Vicious cycle
LOVE THIS!!! Honest! Raw! Transparent! Humorous and REFRESHING!!! More women need to listen-hear this and incorporate this information into their personal growth journey!Thank YOU!!!!
I came to say thank y’all for having this dialogue without bashing women when speaking on them. This information was very helpful. You have a new follower. As a woman who has tried to be a nurturer for the wrong man I began to feel there was something wrong with me. Being 38 and single is hard. People always think there is something wrong with you. I just pick the wrong men for the wrong reasons. I’ve had men come back and tell me it wasn’t me it’s them. I’m trying to fix my picker 😂. Thanks for this video!
OMG, can i say that was me in the past and at 62 I am so spot on how I allow people in my personal space and my home is my sanctuary where I continue to grow. I love your show and I am a member:)
I'm American but I have a gap. When African men approach me I am given lots of complements about my beauty and even told I may be Youroba. They encourage me to never close my gap and keep smiling. Black men immediately see my gap and " oh no, I can't date no girl with a gap". She not ugly but the gap is a no for me. Meanwhile, they is a social justice organization and protest regularly 🤔. My gap tells you I AM the very thing your fighting for in this country. Yet, you haven't heard a thing I believe in or even what I think about ....but my gap is the deal breaker 😑. It's not that I didn't try, I just have to do more work to find one that is not brainwashed by American BS. I still have white, and Spanish men mostly Dominican and African men who nearly fall out their seat when I smile. Imma go where I'm wanted JS 😏.
What!!!! Black Americans men don’t like gap? Really ? I am Haitian and I have a gap. Haitian men believe women with a gap are freak in the bedroom so yes we are desirable.
And Tysean thank you so much for knowing when to let Ken finish the point he was making. Knowing when to pull back in an interview is absolutely PRICELESS. please bring Ken back. Plus he’s a southern brotha (I think) so he good folk! Lol. Peace
Thank you for this valuable insight! I just had a conversation like this yesterday. I found out exactly what he wanted and told him exactly what I wanted. Needless to say, I am moving on.
I LOVED THIS! Soo many gems given. Not only can I just agree but self-reflect on certain areas that need healing, discipline and a heavy use of discernment
Men and Women needs to realize that we need to be committed to one another consciously in order to make this work. Have you noticed that when a man A does bad ( cheats, beats or irresponsible ) to woman A, she becomes bad to the next spouse and even if she doesn't, her sister or daughter or some woman down the line that watched her go through that experience will have their guard up and treat any man they come across badly. Also vice versa when a woman treats a man badly , the man treat the next partner with disgust and even if he doesn't, a brother or son or any man does the line treats any woman they come across as the perpetrator. This result in a vicious cycle and messes up the whole community. No ONE is more important, we need one another.
Coach Ken, is the smartest man you have had on this show!!!! Everything I have learned in 56 years of life he has just verified! Wish I new these things when I was in my 20’s. 💕 Only thing men, you do realize woman love receiving oral too. Never hear you all talk about what your woman may need sexually. We don’t all need your money, we need intimacy and love.
This is one of my favorite videos from HI! I just watched it in its entirety the second time. His language is raw, but his message is so real and I applaud the hosts for having the highest of quality guests in the RUclips space. They are really serving the community.
Coach Ken is by far the most knowledgeable guest you have had so far. He is spitting so much knowledge here. I have learned so much just from this.. I ❤ this
Coach Ken did a wonderful job on emasculation. Most women do not want to “take the lead” or do things to emasculate. When a man just takes the lead, it’s AMAZING! When we have to do all of the instructing, that is essentially taking the lead. I would love Coach Ken to explain masculinity in relationship dynamics. I found some guys ate great at it while many are not. I subconsciously fall right into being more feminine with a truly masculine man. For me it’s been a man who already sees himself in the masculine role and acting it out in a respectful manner. He has clarity and vision. Like Coach Ken and love that he spoke of the subconscious mind. It dictates 95-97% of everything we do but is mostly developed in early childhood.
I appreciate this episode and as a Married Man this was sooo uplifting to hear. If I can put in time at the gym, and perfect my craft, then why not put in that same dedication and energy into a marriage! 💯🙏🏿👑
Fantastic correction on quality! I believe a high quality man is about his mindset. He has a vision for his life and is actively pursuing it. He is a leader. It’s not necessarily about a specific salary even though I have a great salary. Is he going to elevate us by having the mindset to lead us forward? He automatically gets crossed off the list if his mindset will sink our ship. I believe what the Bible says when it says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. I know I bring favor, so together we will be able to achieve the goals. I’m 38.
Hey man. Curse words are just that. So much wisdom, but a filthy mouth everything is spiritual kinda hard to make it through lol but I pushed through. The man ain’t lying.
Experience speaks here. I love his bold stances, says it as it is. Message for men and women. Some men think sex is all there is and the women think think sexy is all there is exposing all she has. Coach Canion is so real. Thanks for bringing him on. I think happiness transcends beyond race as long as you are equally yoked. That's important for me.
I found you brothers a few months ago and I can’t thank you all enough for helping me gage where I am on my journey as it certainly speaks to where I’ve come from. I’m 50 and single. Was married in the past. All my daughters are adults. I have a career and I’m at an amazing peaceful place in my life. I see y’all as my little brothers that I’ve never had 😘😘 The dating scene is very interesting especially since I attract a mixed bag of men 30 and up. (My oldest daughter is 33 😂) I feel as it relates to settling down again ‘someone’ is about to cancel my ‘Bachelorette’ show in the near future 😊 I’ve learned so much along the 7 year journey of being single. You guys have been sort of a recap for me. I share ALL OF YOUR CONTENT with the Brothers I date and engage with in any way. THANK YOUUUUU!!! ❤❤
I really enjoyed the whole interview especially during a time when being toxic and inhumane is popularized. I am a 26F. At 20 I had a list that was full of physical likes for my partner. I got into my first relationship at 22 with a 35M and learned that physical attraction wasn’t enough. It’s about the character of the person, their morals/values, their faith. I see the progress from immature to mature as I reflect on the changes from 20 to 26. It actually makes me laugh. A nice 180
The best way to avoid trouble is for women to take their time and not move too fast. So what, you find a guy attractive? Just chill out and let it go. What's the hurry? Don't let it dominate you. You don't have to do anything and shouldn't do anything just bcuz you find a man attractive and he's making a play for you. Don't actually do anything but chill out and carry on like there's nothing bcuz there is nothing. If impulse is what a guy is looking for, he's not gonna hang around a woman who's not acting on impulse. And ladies, that's how you know he's toxic AF. He's gonna try to press for impulse and will surely not like seeing a woman have control over herself.
These men are not trying to have multiple wives , they're trying to sleep around. Why don't they get into relationships with women who agree to polygamy, if you want more than one woman , don't lie and say that you want one and THAT is the problem.
I don’t know how I started this video, but I am so glad I watched it! I noticed how many things I have been guilty of and the wrong men have done to me in my past as well before I was saved. It definitely helped me understand a lot of things it kept me laughing in the car. I thought I loved me most when I worked out which I do like a lot, however getting closer to Jesus and going through what I went through I recognize that I feel very confident being healthy and thin without any pressure just eating clean food I enjoy. I am not super attracted to overly buff men I like a man who takes care of himself. That made a lot of sense that you attract what you are. I personally love natural I strongly dislike the plastic surgery look and when men like that it is a huge turn off he automatically becomes unattractive to me. The part that confused me was when Coach said that and then said he works out all the time yet he likes plus size women. I also would like to hear some advice on how as a woman you learn not to let your man thinking other women are attractive/ check them out upset you so much. I would like for a man’s opinion who doesn’t sound so lustful if that makes sense? Lastly, I would love to hear someone speaking about single moms and dating. I personally have a son and went through all of the pregnancy alone. I am not perfect I made mistakes, but I am a woman of God and I wish I had the intimate relationship I have with the Lord before all the mistakes. However God turns all things meant for evil to good! So I trust God’s plan, I just would like to hear more relationship advice for people in my situation.
#Word, I resonate with this guest, people should look inwardly for what contributed to the behavior or perception change. This is the most difficult thing that we fail to acknowledge our contribution to the emotions the other person is expressing.
I didn't want this episode to end, I felt good, content, and hopeful. I loved the part about the subconscious mind and listening to your intuition. And perception of self. People consciously manifesting or into manifestation videos will love this episode. #manifestation#loa#spiritual
I commend you on powerful speakers. Wisdom, truth, maturity and harvesting Healthy, whole, and happy humans and relationships. I was really surprised at the emotional response of the host at time 37:22 where he had a strong emotional response to a toxic woman’s damage to a man, as if it was way worse than the damage of a toxic man on a woman. Definitely a perception that men’s emotions are more valuable, and women are just casualties of a man’s privilege. If more people valued themselves and each other we’d have a lot less broken people, relationships, and families. Also, as a 40 year old successful woman I am waiting for my equally yoked partner to submit to because I want it, not because I need it. However, that submission will only come with trust, authenticity, and vulnerability which takes work to build. I will survive solo but I pray to thrive with my king.
"Playa" is actually toxic since you play with her emotions and leave her with a bitter feeling that is toxic. I don't see how you can be a "playa" without being manipulative cause you obviously want something that's why someone is a "playa". Can't be a man and play. Aside of that his talk makes sense. Nice that he saved 200 and some relationships, he gave a word "accountability " a new meaning
Omg ...this man is so impressive! Totally impressed, gotta admit. Wise words ... I agree with just about everything he saids. 💯 Thank you! Great interview
For the woman who takes her boss ways and masculinity home, two things can happen here. A. She’s a controller herself B. She doesn’t RESPECT him enough for him to lead. Once we start choosing our mate by our top values, we will get better connections vs choosing based on looks and status only.
Women are also leaders which is a positive attribute in a healthy relationship. A woman should not have to “LET” a leader lead. Leaders lead naturally and even if she is a leader in her own right she will follow if she TRUST his leadership and decision making. Sure there can only be one driver and one copilot but the person behind the wheel needs to know where We are going and How we are going to get there. If he does not know the answer then he may not need to drive anyone anywhere.
The youngee men I get atttracted too or we strike a friendships have fairer minds, show more care, not ramming down on their place financially low or high value. I see more confident young men, fairer in their perspectives,
Best gift you can give a man is a book… You can never go wrong with feeding him KNOWLEDGE ❤.. Also i could never in life date a younger man I need intelligence not youth
I believe a man who truly respects his wife will not tell the world about what they do behind closed doors... it lacks taste and tact. *Edit: it also lacks class Hopefully it's something both men and women can improve on as a whole.
You CAN help who you fall in love with. Love is a decision not a feeling. You don't catch love like you catch a cold. Saying you can't help yourself is why we have people making dumb decisions
I get what you are saying but men believe they can fall in love. I've heard it from so many men that I decided not to date after listening to what they see as ideal. I don't want to meet those men's needs at all because it doesn't align with God at all....
Older women don't want everything or settle for everything, older women, want what we want also, we just not taking any and everything, for most older women like my self, have been married, divorced and now living our lives. But in most older women lives that still looks good and takes care of their selves want men that are real not playing games and want to live life, even be remarried if have the right real man. That's what most older women want. I am in a relationship with my man, and everything that Coach Canion, is saying is true, but what I do I recognize what I bring to your attention when the timing is right, and I don't argue, I come in love, and if anything is going on, he comes and tells me, but if he tells me, and I know it's not adding up or he wants to bring things like Coach Canion states it's being rectify. But remember through having peace and love, having the right ways to confronting his actions by letting him know and having calmness and peace.
most relationships fail because people fake who they are at the beginning to snag their partners I just find it weird when people claim they’re in a relationship but barely know about each other
At a younger age, I wanted the big house and luxury cars BUT now that I'm older now, those things have no value! I have always wanted someone to love me! Provide/Protect/Prize our relationship above all others; except God!!!❤
We have a relational expectation in every relationship, not just romantic. He’s right, when an emotional need is not met disappointment happens & it causes a chain reaction…
Your guest was on point! He's speaking real truth: like your recent guest Stephan Speaks should NOT be giving advice and he SINGLE yet coaching married couples 👀👀👀... That's like the blind leading the blind and confused these women that praise him just eats it up, 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ PLEASE 😂😂😂! Kudos to Coach Ken having him on PLEASE have him return... He's awesome in facts he's giving and speaking... Bless him in his foundation and more he's doing
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I was married two times to black men because I was attracted to them and also thought that was what I was supposed to do... The marriages were horrible because I didn't know who I was or what I wanted, they were broken and I was broken. Cleaned myself up and took ten years and wanted to open the pool of men that I would consider and I ended up marrying a white man who treats me like a queen and may not understand everything racially that I deal with, but he has loved me unconditionally and has the most purest heart I know. Be open for love to be in a different package than what you expected 💯❤️
Say that Lady❣️
Do we not see the plan from the very begin I g to divide and conquer us. Everyone see it but us because we are starved for love and self identity and acceptance. We are the only people who does this. Your preference is your preference. But, a choice is stronger than a preference. Many Blacks are self hating toward each other. A house divided will never stand. I love God and HE is my Lord and Savior. I do not like the divide in our community, however, the field is never equal when it comes the economic leveling of Blacks in America verses other communities. We take our talents, gifts, treasures and build up substantially in other
communities while we do nothing for our Black community. This is the issue l have. Why do we have to look outside of our community? Do they do it equally? They will never see us as equal to them in nothing.
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Just because someone is white doesn't mean they are going to treat you the way you want to be treated. Just because someone is black doesn't men they are going to treat you in a way you don't want to be treated. Going to white men is no guarantee of a successful relationship.
Thank you for sharing this. I've been divorced for 11 years now and holding out hope for another relationship with an AMAZING substantive black man. Lately I've been pondering if it's time to allow God to bless me with an AMAZING substantive "man" ‼️🙏🏾
I’m commend any man who has self control and isn’t a slave to his lust. That’s the definition of a man.
Yasssss
I fully agree!! ❤ A man should show some discipline too!
Oh yes,I had a man who couldn't control his sexual desires,very annoying, he couldn't give me a min to be just by myself and watch or listen something quietly, he was always distracting cos his d%ck couldn't stay calm
Absolutely
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I just don’t understand how men don’t see how their actions over time has resulted in women being more masculine today. Like take accountability & let’s talk real solutions.
Because they'll have to change. Look in the mirror and say, "It's Me." They don't want that. It's easier to blame someone else for their shortcomings.
I don’t get why women continue to try to get men to hold other men accountable, yet attempt to rationalize their own faults. You’re accountable and responsible for your own actions. Stop trying to check other people for what you perceive is a lack of.
Facts when you say this to men especially black men they can you a simp ,it's starts with us as men how you want women to be in order when most men are out of order
You dont have to marry or couple up with everyone you love. Control your lust and love them from accross town. Marry your 'Help Meet' only! Is he/she ready and willing to help you... and you want yo help him...
Facts please women be his soft place to land. Be his peace, not just his piece.
Exactly, I tell people this all the time.
Powerful comment
that is deep, thank you
Exactly! I love seeing that, although it's rare now. But in books and shows in the old days that was cool seeing men and women couples working together as equal for a greater goal.
His “Ho” explanation is pretty spot on in my opinion.
I can say from experience that in my teens and twenties, I developed this idea subconsciously that if I notice that this situation will not become a relationship for whatever reason (me not liking them like that, them not liking me like that, etc.), but I was still attracted to them, I would still see what the sex was like, to satisfy at least that craving. I did not know this is what was happening until about a year ago. I’ve been abstinent for about 10 years, I started this flirtatious relationship with a guy but once we realized we weren’t it for one another, my brain immediately went to the thought “see what the d do”. I knew I wouldn’t because my conscious toward God would not allow me to, but I realized that was my thought process all along. All those years I thought I was just so raw, able to separate feelings from sex, but I was truly just searching for love the improper way.
I hope this helps someone.
10 yrs though. Lord
Thank for your transparency ❤️
I’m so happy for you.
I use to feel the same way. I thought I was so tough being able to celebrate my feelings from the act. Nope, just dealing with past trauma seeking …. Something … a solution, a salve…
It’s so much better to go within, heal and turn to God.
"She will settle for anything when she gets older" Boy you got it wrong guys, it's the opposite! The quality standards are way higher: As a man you have to be able to show that you will show up. That you are reliable. That you take care of yourself as she does. Older doesn't mean ugly either. They are alone not because they're bitter - They're alone because it's slim pickings... Drop the prejudice guys, you sound like freshmen college...
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Exactly, I am single by choice. Guys approach me all the time. The problem is, I don't have time for the games, I'm not trying to be someone's bank or mother. I've had the marriage and I am not interested in having kids. I've been there and done that. What I am more interested in is peace. I have that now and I will not let anyone disturb that with their immature foolishness. I will not "settle" because I am not afraid to be alone.
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@@2436goldenAmen! Girl you better preach!
@@2436golden I know I’m late in this but if I could like it three times girl I would. 👏
Guys I know theres probably a TON of work yall have been doing on the back end. The podcast is evolving so well thank you for the fire content and consistency. Love the OG episodes so much as someone who grew up in a family of women. Thanks guys and congratulations to the brother for losing all that weight.
Im a woman and my experience is that where the male, hasn't taken his rightful place in the home, being the head, the protector and provider, I've had to adopt "masculinity" to a certain extent, by having to step in where this man has left a gap. Now this has gone on for years and I'm done now and am going through a divorce, because on top of this behaviour unfortunately is an emotionaly abusive man. Now your discussion talks about the masculine woman, but this is caused by men who fail as men and women have to adopt this role which is unnatural.
Show me a woman who doesn't want to be feminine, dependent on a reliable man, nurturing her man, loving and caring for him . Unfortunately there are a few rmature real men out there, few and these situations HAVE made women become the strong, masculine women they are. Standards are then up there and it'll take a lot to impress that kind of woman, because she's done it all, she's had to. Not that many men out there that are secure enough, mature enough or able enough to meet her needs and give her what she wants and Vicious cycle
THIS!!!
Ditto. It irks me when men say women trying to take over and do everything. How do you do everything if someone is already doing them?
Facts!!!
Right on!
And it’s seems feminine to me for men to call women masculine. It feels like yet another form of manipulation and evasion of accountability.
LOVE THIS!!! Honest! Raw! Transparent! Humorous and REFRESHING!!! More women need to listen-hear this and incorporate this information into their personal growth journey!Thank YOU!!!!
I came to say thank y’all for having this dialogue without bashing women when speaking on them. This information was very helpful. You have a new follower. As a woman who has tried to be a nurturer for the wrong man I began to feel there was something wrong with me. Being 38 and single is hard. People always think there is something wrong with you. I just pick the wrong men for the wrong reasons. I’ve had men come back and tell me it wasn’t me it’s them. I’m trying to fix my picker 😂. Thanks for this video!
OMG, can i say that was me in the past and at 62 I am so spot on how I allow people in my personal space and my home is my sanctuary where I continue to grow.
I love your show and I am a member:)
He spoke all Facts. Listen up Ladies💅
Protect this man. He isn't biased or pandering to wither side. Just truth! Respect
I'm American but I have a gap. When African men approach me I am given lots of complements about my beauty and even told I may be Youroba. They encourage me to never close my gap and keep smiling. Black men immediately see my gap and " oh no, I can't date no girl with a gap". She not ugly but the gap is a no for me. Meanwhile, they is a social justice organization and protest regularly 🤔. My gap tells you I AM the very thing your fighting for in this country. Yet, you haven't heard a thing I believe in or even what I think about ....but my gap is the deal breaker 😑. It's not that I didn't try, I just have to do more work to find one that is not brainwashed by American BS. I still have white, and Spanish men mostly Dominican and African men who nearly fall out their seat when I smile. Imma go where I'm wanted JS 😏.
What!!!! Black Americans men don’t like gap? Really ? I am Haitian and I have a gap. Haitian men believe women with a gap are freak in the bedroom so yes we are desirable.
And Tysean thank you so much for knowing when to let Ken finish the point he was making. Knowing when to pull back in an interview is absolutely PRICELESS. please bring Ken back. Plus he’s a southern brotha (I think) so he good folk! Lol. Peace
Thank you for this valuable insight! I just had a conversation like this yesterday. I found out exactly what he wanted and told him exactly what I wanted. Needless to say, I am moving on.
I LOVED THIS! Soo many gems given. Not only can I just agree but self-reflect on certain areas that need healing, discipline and a heavy use of discernment
Men and Women needs to realize that we need to be committed to one another consciously in order to make this work. Have you noticed that when a man A does bad ( cheats, beats or irresponsible ) to woman A, she becomes bad to the next spouse and even if she doesn't, her sister or daughter or some woman down the line that watched her go through that experience will have their guard up and treat any man they come across badly. Also vice versa when a woman treats a man badly , the man treat the next partner with disgust and even if he doesn't, a brother or son or any man does the line treats any woman they come across as the perpetrator. This result in a vicious cycle and messes up the whole community.
No ONE is more important, we need one another.
Yes we do! Lord knows we do!
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Coach Ken, is the smartest man you have had on this show!!!! Everything I have learned in 56 years of life he has just verified! Wish I new these things when I was in my 20’s. 💕 Only thing men, you do realize woman love receiving oral too. Never hear you all talk about what your woman may need sexually. We don’t all need your money, we need intimacy and love.
Yes
This has to be the BEST and most meaningful podcast I have ever watched. Great and profound topics.
Absolutely love this interview! Coach Ken is one of the rawest out there.
You can help WHO you love. If you give opportunity, you are choosing WHO you give your time to to love.
This is one of my favorite videos from HI! I just watched it in its entirety the second time. His language is raw, but his message is so real and I applaud the hosts for having the highest of quality guests in the RUclips space. They are really serving the community.
Coach Ken is by far the most knowledgeable guest you have had so far. He is spitting so much knowledge here. I have learned so much just from this.. I ❤ this
Coach Ken did a wonderful job on emasculation. Most women do not want to “take the lead” or do things to emasculate. When a man just takes the lead, it’s AMAZING! When we have to do all of the instructing, that is essentially taking the lead. I would love Coach Ken to explain masculinity in relationship dynamics. I found some guys ate great at it while many are not. I subconsciously fall right into being more feminine with a truly masculine man. For me it’s been a man who already sees himself in the masculine role and acting it out in a respectful manner. He has clarity and vision.
Like Coach Ken and love that he spoke of the subconscious mind. It dictates 95-97% of everything we do but is mostly developed in early childhood.
God Bless this man (& his wife)!!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻💯
I appreciate this episode and as a Married Man this was sooo uplifting to hear. If I can put in time at the gym, and perfect my craft, then why not put in that same dedication and energy into a marriage! 💯🙏🏿👑
Fantastic correction on quality! I believe a high quality man is about his mindset. He has a vision for his life and is actively pursuing it. He is a leader. It’s not necessarily about a specific salary even though I have a great salary. Is he going to elevate us by having the mindset to lead us forward? He automatically gets crossed off the list if his mindset will sink our ship. I believe what the Bible says when it says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. I know I bring favor, so together we will be able to achieve the goals.
I’m 38.
Hey man. Curse words are just that. So much wisdom, but a filthy mouth everything is spiritual kinda hard to make it through lol but I pushed through. The man ain’t lying.
Facts! It’s off putting 😒
Experience speaks here. I love his bold stances, says it as it is. Message for men and women. Some men think sex is all there is and the women think think sexy is all there is exposing all she has. Coach Canion is so real. Thanks for bringing him on. I think happiness transcends beyond race as long as you are equally yoked. That's important for me.
I agree. I like how he stood firm and didn’t allow himself to be baited.
The thing about forgiveness is that it does not change what was done .!! And sometimes the damage is irreversible.
very true, sometimes the damage leave wounds that turn to scars.
OMG, I cried when he talked about “Joelle.” This is helping me heal.
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I found you brothers a few months ago and I can’t thank you all enough for helping me gage where I am on my journey as it certainly speaks to where I’ve come from. I’m 50 and single. Was married in the past. All my daughters are adults. I have a career and I’m at an amazing peaceful place in my life. I see y’all as my little brothers that I’ve never had 😘😘
The dating scene is very interesting especially since I attract a mixed bag of men 30 and up. (My oldest daughter is 33 😂) I feel as it relates to settling down again ‘someone’ is about to cancel my ‘Bachelorette’ show in the near future 😊
I’ve learned so much along the 7 year journey of being single. You guys have been sort of a recap for me. I share ALL OF YOUR CONTENT with the Brothers I date and engage with in any way. THANK YOUUUUU!!! ❤❤
This was a great conversation not to mention I clutched my Pearls a couple times , thanks for the honesty fellas.
He is the truth and I enjoy hearing him speak. He keeps it a hundred
I really enjoyed the whole interview especially during a time when being toxic and inhumane is popularized. I am a 26F. At 20 I had a list that was full of physical likes for my partner. I got into my first relationship at 22 with a 35M and learned that physical attraction wasn’t enough. It’s about the character of the person, their morals/values, their faith. I see the progress from immature to mature as I reflect on the changes from 20 to 26. It actually makes me laugh. A nice 180
I love the response to" looking outside of your race to find a happy home"
Amen!! Well said sir!!!
I appreciate what y'all are doing by getting these spokespeople on here 👏🏼 a lot of good conversations and laughs! Thank you for giving us this heat.
The best way to avoid trouble is for women to take their time and not move too fast. So what, you find a guy attractive? Just chill out and let it go. What's the hurry? Don't let it dominate you. You don't have to do anything and shouldn't do anything just bcuz you find a man attractive and he's making a play for you. Don't actually do anything but chill out and carry on like there's nothing bcuz there is nothing. If impulse is what a guy is looking for, he's not gonna hang around a woman who's not acting on impulse. And ladies, that's how you know he's toxic AF.
He's gonna try to press for impulse and will surely not like seeing a woman have control over herself.
Great interview! Coach Ken is definitely on point with his perspectives. They definitely align with my values. Thank you for having him as a guest.
Great to hear!
I hope the hosts are hearing him! He’s not just head for the subscribers!
Exactly)))
@@caramelmosaicmosaic7940 Yes, because they seem a little red pill-ish.
Realizing how he checked them is they way women wanted to be "held accountable" . It was strong but not destructive and offered a lot of grace
Coach KEN for the win .!!! Dude literally touches every topic .!!!!
These men are not trying to have multiple wives , they're trying to sleep around. Why don't they get into relationships with women who agree to polygamy, if you want more than one woman , don't lie and say that you want one and THAT is the problem.
Exactly. Plus some cant even provide for many women. The issue is the manipulation. They tried to downplay it.
Coach Ken done did it again! Thanks y’all this was another gem! 💪🏾💯💎
I don’t know how I started this video, but I am so glad I watched it! I noticed how many things I have been guilty of and the wrong men have done to me in my past as well before I was saved. It definitely helped me understand a lot of things it kept me laughing in the car. I thought I loved me most when I worked out which I do like a lot, however getting closer to Jesus and going through what I went through I recognize that I feel very confident being healthy and thin without any pressure just eating clean food I enjoy. I am not super attracted to overly buff men I like a man who takes care of himself. That made a lot of sense that you attract what you are. I personally love natural I strongly dislike the plastic surgery look and when men like that it is a huge turn off he automatically becomes unattractive to me. The part that confused me was when Coach said that and then said he works out all the time yet he likes plus size women. I also would like to hear some advice on how as a woman you learn not to let your man thinking other women are attractive/ check them out upset you so much. I would like for a man’s opinion who doesn’t sound so lustful if that makes sense? Lastly, I would love to hear someone speaking about single moms and dating. I personally have a son and went through all of the pregnancy alone. I am not perfect I made mistakes, but I am a woman of God and I wish I had the intimate relationship I have with the Lord before all the mistakes. However God turns all things meant for evil to good! So I trust God’s plan, I just would like to hear more relationship advice for people in my situation.
#Word, I resonate with this guest, people should look inwardly for what contributed to the behavior or perception change. This is the most difficult thing that we fail to acknowledge our contribution to the emotions the other person is expressing.
LOVE THE COACH! He breaks it down in the purest form! Raw and truthful!❤
Thank you Coach Ken for your transparency, so many men need to apologize 😊I love this podcast so much.
LEARNED A LOT FROM THIS DISCUSSION. THANK YOU
You made me cry talking about Janell, I appreciate your apology as well, thank you
I love Brother Ken. Black women and men need him. Shalom!
He dropped soooo many gems; this was an AMAZING episode; amazing
I didn't want this episode to end, I felt good, content, and hopeful. I loved the part about the subconscious mind and listening to your intuition. And perception of self. People consciously manifesting or into manifestation videos will love this episode. #manifestation#loa#spiritual
I commend you on powerful speakers. Wisdom, truth, maturity and harvesting Healthy, whole, and happy humans and relationships. I was really surprised at the emotional response of the host at time 37:22 where he had a strong emotional response to a toxic woman’s damage to a man, as if it was way worse than the damage of a toxic man on a woman. Definitely a perception that men’s emotions are more valuable, and women are just casualties of a man’s privilege. If more people valued themselves and each other we’d have a lot less broken people, relationships, and families. Also, as a 40 year old successful woman I am waiting for my equally yoked partner to submit to because I want it, not because I need it. However, that submission will only come with trust, authenticity, and vulnerability which takes work to build. I will survive solo but I pray to thrive with my king.
Real talk…..I appreciate how y’all are keeping it real
"Playa" is actually toxic since you play with her emotions and leave her with a bitter feeling that is toxic. I don't see how you can be a "playa" without being manipulative cause you obviously want something that's why someone is a "playa". Can't be a man and play. Aside of that his talk makes sense. Nice that he saved 200 and some relationships, he gave a word "accountability " a new meaning
I said the same thing, playing with emotions is toxic
What you Hide, will Divide! #Boom💥
It’s called “MAN-ipulate” for a reason
You also have man in Wo-Man so you cab honestly its a two party thing!!!
@@HardlyInitiated that’s the manipulation stuff I’m talking about right there 🙄 regardless MAN started it.
I LOVE COACH KEN!!!!!!!! Where can I find a man like this?
He’s speaking straight facts❤
I love the transparency of these men, thank you.
I ❤ Coach Ken! He's speaking facts 💯
my uncles explained women to me like this, its NOT THE AGE BUT THE MILEAGE, THAT LOWERS THE VALUE!!
I love coach ken❤ he gives the best relationship advice and he's straight to the point 💯💕
Omg ...this man is so impressive! Totally impressed, gotta admit. Wise words ... I agree with just about everything he saids. 💯 Thank you! Great interview
This was fire!! Very informative and enlightening for me.
For the woman who takes her boss ways and masculinity home, two things can happen here. A. She’s a controller herself B. She doesn’t RESPECT him enough for him to lead.
Once we start choosing our mate by our top values, we will get better connections vs choosing based on looks and status only.
Right, love who loves you back, great show guys.
I love the different topics on the same topic...love.
I said the same thing, where are they getting surveys from!??
Okkkkayyy COACH KEN …. speaking Straight facts!!! He gives GREAT ADVICE. ~Aggie Pride 💙💛
Women are also leaders which is a positive attribute in a healthy relationship. A woman should not have to “LET” a leader lead. Leaders lead naturally and even if she is a leader in her own right she will follow if she TRUST his leadership and decision making. Sure there can only be one driver and one copilot but the person behind the wheel needs to know where We are going and How we are going to get there. If he does not know the answer then he may not need to drive anyone anywhere.
The youngee men I get atttracted too or we strike a friendships have fairer minds, show more care, not ramming down on their place financially low or high value. I see more confident young men, fairer in their perspectives,
Great show, fellas. It was refreshing to hear your guest point out that every man and woman is not like that.
Best gift you can give a man is a book… You can never go wrong with feeding him KNOWLEDGE ❤.. Also i could never in life date a younger man I need intelligence not youth
I believe a man who truly respects his wife will not tell the world about what they do behind closed doors... it lacks taste and tact.
*Edit: it also lacks class
Hopefully it's something both men and women can improve on as a whole.
You CAN help who you fall in love with. Love is a decision not a feeling. You don't catch love like you catch a cold. Saying you can't help yourself is why we have people making dumb decisions
I get what you are saying but men believe they can fall in love. I've heard it from so many men that I decided not to date after listening to what they see as ideal. I don't want to meet those men's needs at all because it doesn't align with God at all....
I appreciate the fact that he make it a point to not generalize ppl,
Older women don't want everything or settle for everything, older women, want what we want also, we just not taking any and everything, for most older women like my self, have been married, divorced and now living our lives. But in most older women lives that still looks good and takes care of their selves want men that are real not playing games and want to live life, even be remarried if have the right real man. That's what most older women want.
I am in a relationship with my man, and everything that Coach Canion, is saying is true, but what I do I recognize what I bring to your attention when the timing is right, and I don't argue, I come in love, and if anything is going on, he comes and tells me, but if he tells me, and I know it's not adding up or he wants to bring things like Coach Canion states it's being rectify. But remember through having peace and love, having the right ways to confronting his actions by letting him know and having calmness and peace.
I Agree |w| Him! HE GOT GAME! Well Watched 🙏🏽
HE IS DA MAN! Continue to speak the truth! Ask an ol man degrades Black women
most relationships fail because people fake who they are at the beginning to snag their partners I just find it weird when people claim they’re in a relationship but barely know about each other
Masterful Interviews & Guests! Thank you for your high valued content💜 🔥
Exactly! your priorities change as you age but you value men in a different way as you get older. Respect,Loyalty & honesty become more important.
Well said
You attract what you are!!!!
What Ken said about a girl thinking she will be it by being his “ride or die is true “ that got me nowhere but I’m happy I’m learning men perspective
“Then What” that’s good! You think about after and not before . 👏👏👏
Great episode once again!! Keep up the good work gentlemen.❤
At a younger age, I wanted the big house and luxury cars BUT now that I'm older now, those things have no value! I have always wanted someone to love me! Provide/Protect/Prize our relationship above all others; except God!!!❤
Calling a man who is willing to support and love and make his wife happy a wimp,is everything that’s wrong with society
Him calling her after all those years to 2 apologize - sent me 2 tears
Very genuine
Dope, one of the few interviews I watched that was informative and it kept my attention. Just subscribed.
Who told men to disrespect because of what she’s wants to do?
We have a relational expectation in every relationship, not just romantic. He’s right, when an emotional need is not met disappointment happens & it causes a chain reaction…
the coach is absolutely right
Despite all of the cursing, I listened to the end. Can I have my time back?
This was a great interview. Good job, gentlemen.
Your guest was on point! He's speaking real truth: like your recent guest Stephan Speaks should NOT be giving advice and he SINGLE yet coaching married couples 👀👀👀... That's like the blind leading the blind and confused these women that praise him just eats it up, 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ PLEASE 😂😂😂!
Kudos to Coach Ken having him on PLEASE have him return... He's awesome in facts he's giving and speaking... Bless him in his foundation and more he's doing
Thank You Coach… Real Talk I appreciate Your Delivery
Love Coach Canion....(Minus the profanity 😞🤦🏽♀️)...Coach is always a good time! Very informative and relateable! God bless this platform! 😍🙏🏼💯💪🏼