The Sign You're Truly in Love | Macken Murphy
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A person in love makes you feel at peace, looks out for your well-being, wellness and happiness. You the beloved will feel that sense of peace , safety and so at home conversing anything with them because the energy the person is emitting is genuine.
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😊❤🎉 yes!!!!
Agree
I actually prefer this answer.
You are correct 💯. (This guy in the video is talking about obsession or limmerance) the Greeks have a wonderful set of definitions for the different Types of love.
I disagree. That’s someone who knows how to love and can love a particular person but not necessarily someone who is in love. But it says there are 3 and he only mentions 2-obsessive thinking and special meaning…?
That is not love. That is having a crush. Love needs more than this - love needs character.
He says romantic
Ehhh I've dated alot of people. Think there's some truth to this. Maybe not the second part but thinking about them non stop is 100% accurate
After hearing this, I thought - didn't he just describe infatuation? 😳
@@feelthepeaceI hear what you guys are saying and I totally get it but I think the nuance comes from the specifics of the question He asked what an indication that somebody is in love with you is so he's saying what can I notice in their behavior that will let me know they're in love with me Not what the love consists of cuz obviously real romantic love is deeper than that theres more meaning to it and a consists of so many things So I think it's two different things that they are talking about and that some of the people in the comments are thinking about
When you'd do anything for them. Even die for them.
He just described infatuation.
exactly.
Yeah I don’t think that’s a bad thing .. that’s the point
Agreed 👍
Funny. Obsessive thinking is seen as fine if love is reciprocated, but seen as creepy if it's unrequited.
Exactly
My husband described our first date felt like "coming home." I think that was pretty accurate. 😍
Exactly wht i felt when I met my husband of 30+ yrs
That’s amazing. ❤😊
That’s why I love Billy Joel’s song You’re My Home!
That’s how my husband described the moment he knew he loved me. He felt home. Like I was his home. We had been dating for 6 weeks, (just dating!) And he knew! It took me 6 months! 😂
That's perfect. Lucky you❤
I would actually like to point out that being in love requires action, consistency, dedication, time, energy,resources, respect, excitement, protection and a sense of adventure there’s more but hey 😇
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the same as with meditation or any business.
❤👏👏
Yeah that's being in love. Love is a verb like you described but it starts with a feeling like he described.
That ain’t the point. Stop being so strategic that’s why you’re single
This stayed with me and it is something my granny told me,” Baby when a relationship feels easy but isn’t. You found love. “ I didn’t understand first but when you meet that certain one. You know and it does feel like a home coming in a sense. You found where you feel safe, protected, and secure. Hope everyone founds that kind of love in their lives. Stay fearless.
Appreciate you for this beautiful sharing!
I’m tearing up, love this ❤
"Feels easy but isn"t. Fascinating but hm isn't this contradictory? What does this mean?
@@aciuschristophores7789 It means being so at ease and peaceful around a person that interactions become effortless as if your connection deepens. The hard part is being okay losing the most precious peace you have ever found except through God of course. Love lost is beyond consolation
@@aciuschristophores7789 love is hard to let go of when you truly find it….is how I interpret life. Peace ✌️
Obsession is not love. A peacefulness, looking out for each other, mutual respect, consistent kindness, reciprocity, understanding and seeing each other’s true self and accepting the whole person, knowing you have each other’s back, that, I believe is love. The look on your face, when he said, obsessive thinking…..😊
Yes that is "love". He said that he is describing "in love".
Love is when you want the best for that person - even if that means not being with you.
Nah that's called the friendzone.
The topic is “In Live”, which is kinda different.
@@armbsecureNope - that's love. If the person for whatever reason is not with you - you can love them by wanting what's best for them.
@@hannayaya7413 Yeah that's true love in the friendzone.
Lool
@@armbsecureWell, I'm going to have to disagree with you on this but for clarity and because I'm curious - how would you define or describe love "outside of the friendzone?"
It's the glasses... When they take them off, then put them back on for no apparent reason...then you know it's real love.
Hahaha I wondered who too picked up on that! That was so obviously planned.. sad 😂
😂😂😂👏🏼
Right? 😂😂
He tried so hard, then failed with his garbage answer. 😂
😂😂😂😂
Someone who is truly in love with you will do anything to make you happy and you feel very comfortable around them. You will have no doubts about them.
You just describe my husband and myself 😊❤
That's infatuation not love
Disagree.
Agree with you, infatuation tricks, obsessive thinking can be dangerous and can be a sign of narcissism and control
Thank you
limerance
Right! It's limerence he's describing. He really didn't even address the actual question that Louis asked him😂
When a person sacrifices for you & loves you no matter what. Love is two imperfect people who don't give up on one another & push one another to learn & grow.
Fact
That to me sounds like the best way to define it. I'm stealing this!! 😊😊😊
Yeah LOVE is that. But being in love and love are 2 different things.
“In love” is just code for the beginning high of the chemical rush that makes people think they have fallen.
From that perspective, the video is right.
Love is everything that comes after you’re not “in love” anymore because the dopamine and oxytocin that created the “in love” feeling will end.
Right. He describes infatuation. Real life takes time, & it’s something you actively do, over time, w/ dedication, & sacrifice.
@@JesusIsKingForever77 I couldn't agree more. Thanks for sharing.
That is the worst description and sign of someone who truly loves you. Obsessive thinking?? What?? Out of all the things that could mean someone authentically loves you, I would never think that would be the clearest sign..Yes, we can have "obsessive" or over inflated thoughts about someone we love, but so can someone who is unhealthily infatuated or in lust or limerance.
Well, its reported that the reason successful marriages last so long is because they constantly do nice things for each other day in, day out. In a way that's a form of obsession.
What some call love for such long marriages.
Its a mutual interest in the well being of the other person because their well being and presence brings you well being.
Yeah it sounds like limerence or “pedestalisation”….Love is an abstract concept perhaps but I think it is built through unwavering trust, honesty and respect over time.
He just described every teens first date 😂
“I love you” is an expression of “I see you”, rather than “I like you”.
The true meaning of “I love you” is not at all loaded with emotions. It rather comes from a space of feeling.
🌾 Emotions come from a space of thinking.
🌾 Feelings come from a space of awareness.
To love someone is, to see and to honour the other. There is no clutch to it, as there are no expectations attached to it. It’s the joy of seeing life unfold within the other!
Interesting. Limerence has very similar traits fwiw
My thoughts exactly
This is totally limerence.
Yes but limerence has little to no (loving) interaction withthe object of the obsession.
Agréé with you! This happened to me last Year with a womanizer. Knew him only 3 months, seen 5 Times. 6 months heartbreak!!!!!! Emotonal dependency!
Much Love from South of France
What is this?
Peace, definitely. Nothing speaks love more than feeling at complete peace
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@Sim True words ❤
I disagree with that too. I think love comes with pain and being triggered so you can heal. Not only peace because it's a learning process, there is growth involved, there are ever-changing emotions, there is forgiveness involved.
I'm not so sure about this. I have felt that way about a man I never really knew well at all. There is no way that I was legitimately in love with him. You have to spend time with someone in order to love them.
same
What you experienced must’ve been Limerance.
Never heard about "love at first sight" ???
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His answer is how i know if I'm in love with someone. I thought the question is how do I know if someone is in love with me.
I said almost the same thing.
Good observation!
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Right!! He didn't even answer the question Louis asked him😂😂
I'm so used to these RUclips videos being mislabeled I didn't even notice this time
Love is, the ability to forgive and see that person as more than their flaws. Love is everlasting and compatible, love finds it way back over and over again. Love is, through sickness and health, ups and downs. Love is unbreakable. Love is knowing we’ll grow old together. 18 years in a loving relationship.
It’s respect. When she gives you space and then smiles really wide next time you see her. Enjoys every minute together.
Love at first sight. I have an ace s-t detector. Saw my husband the minute I walked into a party. Said to my HP “I’ll take him if You give him to me.” He showed up at my door the next morning, with flowers. I got him. Twenty-five blissful years together. I know who’s for me. That includes my best friends. They seem to have a halo around them -a golden glow. And they seem to love me back the same way. Stay open to receive the miracle of love. Be willing to wait for it. It helps to like and love yourself. And it must be unconditional all around. ❤️👊
Just wonderful! I am so touched!
I met a man when i passed by a restaurant, WE shared a moment of pure delight, our êtes climbsed one in another like suns! Saw him again and it was the same attraction.
After 6 months heartbreak because of an 3 months fling with an emotionally non available player it was so soothing, comforting.
I dont know what to do. This sunshinenis again younger than me... I am 73... Lived 12 years alone.
I wish Love and sensualité in my life... time passes by...?
Much❤ from South of France
Never pursue a man.
Amen🙏
Hope it occurs to me.
I love how science is going to tell people what love is. XD *dramatically takes off his glasses and puts them back on* So if you are obsessed with someone you are in love.
Seriously 🙄😆
Furthermore, the question was how to know that the other person is truly in love, not how to know if you yourself are in love 🙄
I always thought obsession was the sign of infatuation, not Love!
I'm glad you see right through it
I know the glasses thing😂🙄
When someone truly loves you, they fully incorporate you into their life, selflessly, not through obsessive thoughts and behaviors, but through supportive words and actions that foster and enhance a sense of well-being, peace, and contentment, for both of you. They do what they can to encourage you to be your best self, for no other reason than to see you make yourself happy, and to see you succeed for yourself. Real love is intrinsically selfless and comes as naturally as breathing. What that guy in the video is describing is something else.
Its pretty sad when you realize that the person your dating, isn't, in love with you...but you realize, you are in love with them. These symptoms should be in both partners, because just 1 sided, is a sign to end the relationship 💯💫
The best thing to do is not wonder why that is. It could be their capacity to love, it could be your lifestyle.
Either way all that matters is you deserve the person who will be in love with you. That persons feelings about you do not.
I know what it means. When you are in love like that and everything about them seems special except the fact that many things about you irritate them and no way you are special to them as they are to you. I call it torture.. it really hurts so bad! Plus add the fact that none can leave the other brcause of so many reasons.. double torture..
@@The_Real_Casey_Timmins this is spot on. It really is a reflection of their inability to Love...they don't love themselves, so they aren't able to Love anyone else either💝
@@MahasSaham79 experience taught me this. It’s hard to accept. It’s hard to not want them to over come their inability for you. It’s a selfish thing that will cause you more harm than good.
I’m out
Obsessive thinking doesn't sound like love..... maybe lust or possession
They both have that high vibrational love energy. If you have it within, you will be able to connect with them. You both will feel it. It's not feeling butterflies, lust, etc.. nothing of the sort. It's on a higher level. Which is very rare. It takes bringing your whole selves into the relationship; mental, physical, and spiritual. ❤❤
When you are in love with someone wild horses couldn’t keep you from them in their time of need. Thats it.
Love is when someone hurt you, you still try to understand them
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mmmm nope pretty sure that’s called anxious attachment boys 😂
Seriously. The biggest pile of rubbish I’ve heard all month!
Exactly..stalkers can think obsessively..
Thank you 😂
This is how I feel at the beginning of every relationship - not a developed love.
When you are truely in love
You become a better person 😊✨
It's something that cannot be described. It just IS. An embodiment of peace, security, endearment, and love in such a form that it cannot be replicated. You just fit. You provide one another a happiness in a way no one else ever has...Its not something you think of all of the time..Its..It is just being blessed..it is innately being appreciative of the the enrichment of love between two.
I can’t tell if someone is in love with me, but I can tell when someone fancies me. They go all silly and laugh when I haven’t said anything funny.
Yes !this is true😂
That's a good one😃😃
I do this with everyone 🤦♀️ I'm a happy goofy person.
😂😂😂 jk ❤
@saltandsrirach❤😂😂😂a
You decide. Everyone is reflecting you.
He described feelings. Love is a choice. It's faith. I have faith that my spouse will love me through good and bad. I have faith that we will make it through our next fight. I have faith that even if I wake up one day and I feel "bored" with my spouse I will still choose him. I have faith that if my hormones are crazy after giving birth and I don't find myself attracted to him, it'll be temporary and I will choose to find a way to get that spark back. I have faith that our marriage will last. ❤
The way you look at them is never the same (even in a extremely crowded room). You can look at that person forever and enjoy ever second. The way they talk, smile, hold you, the way they smell ( hope they had a shower lol), the way they kiss you, they way they hold your hand whenever you walk with them etc.
He didn’t understand the question, he is describing how you know you’re in love with someone; not how you know someone is in love with you.
The question contains an error because it is actually self-contradictory. It asks both "in-love" and "really loves you". Those are two different stages. The former stage most often doesn't always transform into the second stage.
Exactly!!!!!
Got it, me and my dogs are in love❤
He looks like he’s “never gonna give me up, never gonna let me down…” LMAOOO 😂🎵
Love is when you want the very Best for your partner
Love can't be studied. The ones who experienced true love know that it happens naturally. It's the most simple thing in the world when you find it. Till then we can try to do what ever we want, it's not love.
100% right.
Agree. For years I thought I love my husband. Then one day after 16 years married I FELL MADLY IN LOVE with him. Totally different feeling. Before I loved him as a companion, a friend, a lover, but now I'm IN LOVE it's obsessive and magnetic and desperate and overwhelming. It's a need not a choice. He is the love of my life and that is not the same thing as just loving someone. At all.
Can’t study love? And why on Earth couldn’t you? Is it impossible to find more than 2 people in love on this planet and compare their action and brain to people who are not in love?
Love is when it feels great and there is an equal exchange of effort. You can't (or shouldn't) be in love by yourself, this is not love but obsession. Obsessive thinking is actually quite unhealthy if it's only one person doing it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! 🧡
Being in love is a fantasy, true love is reality. 🐺
Science splaning what cannot be science-xplaned.
When the best for our introvert & extrovert couple works when we have time for me time and we time 💞
I love that. Such an important balance for that mix of temperaments.
What he’s explaining is just the dopamine love that many experience in their lifetimes. However, you won’t truly fall in love if you don’t heal your wounds first. Of course, you will get hurt times & times until you realize you need to do the inner work first!
What type inner work you recommend?
I’m in a LD relationship. My fiancé has a particular way of cutting his meals. I always joke about it because it looks so childlike. One day i found myself at a restaurant alone just thinking about him and how much i miss him that i started cutting the sausage on top of my bed of pasta the way he does and i started to giggle. Theres so many definitions of love what is real what isn’t and i often question if my relationship doesn’t have this or that is it really love?….. anyways, maybe this isn’t considered love to some or all but it felt good to me and it made me appreciate my partners silly form of cutting that much more. ❤
What is an LD relationship
@@saltandsriracha “Long Distance”
What he just described is true for someone who is 'in love' because that is just a thrill, the real thing is when you can truly say that 'you love' an individual and not just 'in love' with them; loving someone is much deeper than the thrill of just being in love with them..
Love means unconditional. People change circumstances change. It's when you still get through together fighting the storm.and at the end still feel love.
He described the early stages of love
Yes this sounds like attraction, not love
@@yuppers1True❤
That's why he prefaced it with the word acutely.
Absolutely. You can’t stop thinking about them. Also you feel lighter inside. Like the way felt as a kid when you had a snow day. Just happy
Obsessive thoughts don’t always equal love, it could just be something else called limerence. Personally I believe the best tell for love is when you or someone else genuinely wants only the best for the other person. It is putting the best interests of another up there in equality or even above your own.
WHAT?!?! Ever heard of nutty stalkers who clearly dont love you but STILL angry that you dumped them??? They weren't "in love".
I'm glad you have put the word "stalker" to the conversation. These days you need to pray before you leave home that you don't cross paths with certain people. As such an encounter may turn out to be very dramatic, to say the least!!!
yes exactly and I guess I shouldn't date or hangout with guys I've called stalkers, yea just went on a date with one , and he's wanting me to spend the weekend and saying we need to make it official and oh talking about buying land oh damn no joke happening now In Dallas Tx
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How do you know they weren't in love? Because they were angry? You can be angry with someone you used to be in love with.
Always go for the initial sense of security with a person; you can have those butterflies in your tummy later in life if you decide to be with that person. But always good this way than going from- butterfly in tummy excitement state to not comfortable to be even seated together. If you know what i mean.
How do you tell the dofference between that and limerence?
No. Difference. It's the same phenomenon. Love would have to have manifested in a happy life together and progressed to real love. You know, with commitment, loyalty and sacrifice. Without that it's just an obsession bordering on the unhealthy.
That's also how someone feels if they have a crush and it's obsessed too?!!
"Being the One is like being in love... you just know it... balls to bones..." The Matrix (movie)
Actions speak louder than words
"Makes you feel at peace". This was so such an important point, thank you. I would add also safety. ❤
Obsessive thinking is not the same as attentive thinking, thinking of someone attentively is what marks love in my opinion
Sounds like infatuation what’s the difference?
True, and feeling happy just being with him
So obsessing over someone is actually a good thing? 😩😩😩 I’m so confused I thought that was limerence
When you're in love ,you care about that person's feelings,respect them and if needed ,let them go if that guarantees their welbeing.
good morning. correct. true love is all so rare something that’s hard to find. so if you got someone special take my advice and hold on tight. don’t let them go if they mean something to you. you might find yourself searching. bless all us here amen.🎉
Limerance also makes people obsess over someone. This is not an accurate marker for love.
In DV counseling on healthy relationships an analogy used is a flower. The flower needs specific sunlight, nurtured soil, watered amd cared for everyday and in an environment that promotes it's growth. Living it's cycle to seed which is replanted in the same nurtured soil 💖🙏 Hence the term.. the grass is never greener on the other side. It's usually burnt to a crisp.
Wow. Just wow. The algorithm recommended this at the perfect time.
It's been 4 months and 25 days since my breakup. It's been the hardest breakup of them all. The process hasn't been linear, but it's there. Some days I don't even remember his name, others the nostalgia hits me hard and some days i just rot in bed bawling my eyes out.
It's comforting watching someone (and reading other people's experiences) experience something similar to me; knowing, even if it feels like it, I'm not the only person going thru this.
In other note, loved the music and the editing
Crush, infatuation, and love show the same symptom; obsessive thinking at the beginning. How do you know that is love??? Also that; "I can't wait to have sex with you", could be a symptom of what??? Please share
So right.....are the hormones....
My grandmother said the same thing
The question was how can you tell if someone is in love with you but what he explained was how you can tell if You are in love with someone. Different things
I think the biggest sign is if they make you feel safe with them in all regards. You can talk to them about anything, share anything without being judged, be understood, you can just be yourself around them. When you don't have ambiguity in your mind about them and you can see a future with them and can't imagine your life without them in it.
TRUTH BE TOLD...❤😂
WHEN THESE SYMPTOMS ARE WITH YOU...CONSTANTLY...YOU KNOW.
TRUE LOVE IS AT HAND.....EMBRACE IT...WITH BOTH ARMS...AND NEVER LET GO! ❤😊
Can a stalker be considered in love?
Good question😂
Oh no I don't think 😕 so
Stalker is more of unhealthily obsession, chasing you aggressively, exuding unwanted attention that could lead to harrasement and fear threats but true love is meant to be harmless, healthy and looking out for person's wellbeing .
Love is not hurtful and disrespectful.
Stalking is sign of mental disorder.
Sounds like infatuation 🤔
Omg that "Who's in there" with eye rolling 😂❤
Seen all these points in parents for their children...so the love❤
His body postures make him seem like an insecure person trying to act like a very secure person
obsessive thinking sounds like… obsession
I mean it kind of is, but in my experience the times I've ever felt like this this strongly, the other person did as well, and there wasn't an issue. This person would text me constantly and plan things, and I couldn't stop thinking about this person and respond in kind, give this person gifts, etc. There were times the texting was out of hand from this person, but I didn't care.
We thoroughly enjoyed each other's company while the rest of the world sort of was in the background. And we were always happy to see each other after we'd been apart for a few days, or even a day. Especially midweek, after getting off work, etc. I would visit this person, and sort of cocoon inside, away from the world, just enjoying each other in every possible way.
I felt comfortable and at ease when we were together.
Truly I much prefer that than being alone going through the banal average motions of life.
He did say "acutely" and "in love"
This guy knows his stuff.
And even humble enough to credit Dr. Helen Fischer
True. Also, remembering easily without effort, details about them like their birthday or anything they tell you 😊.
DO THEY INVIGORATE YOU OR DO THEY DRAIN YOU# ENERGETICALLY ⁉️💯🤔
I will have to wake up my husband from his deep sleep and ask him if he’s thinking about me or dreaming about me. 😊 Great clip!
He is clearly saying Romantic Love, not just Love. And thinking about someone in an obsessive way, not taking any actions, just thinking about them a lot is the Romantic Love. When you can’t stop thinking about them in a loving way because you Love everything about them, no matter what.
No, he is referring to attraction. This doesn't define romantic love.
Love is a state of being to be cultivated within. Something happening within, should be in one's control, the other is just the stimulate, so it can never be about the other.
Sounds acutely fixated to me. Wouldn’t be “thinking “ so much if they were “doing”.
I give up in love.Its like a car with out petrol ⛽ 🤧 😪 😕
❤. You’ve been test driving the wrong cars honey ….
Someone who is in love with you and someone who really loves you are two really different things. "In love" stage will be gone in 3 years max, the true love keeps growing every day.
I’d like to say that there’s a correction that needs to be made. Ellen Fisher needs to be recognized for her books and her writing and her research. I would name those books if I were you.
I knew i loved my dog so much when I thought his scratches on my new boots were so cute!
I heard that! ❤🎉🐶🐕
I'll take adoration over love
True love is not thinking they are superior to everyone, it is not them being the only thing you can think about; this is infatuation that happens in the beginning; true love is seeing all those illusions shattered in front of you, seeing the worst parts of them and still choosing to be there the next day. True love is joy, sadness, pain, pleasure, compassion, anger, excitement, exhaustion, dedication and compromise.
I’m soooo looking forward to this! 🥰🥰
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
All these streets are from obsessive-compulsive disorder not necessarily love love is extremely pragmatic and logical in many cents is not as a logical as you might think especially by grown-ups now you must understand that narcissists display all these traits when they are targeting a person I believe the short here is inaccurate
…Constantly thinking about someone sounds like insanity to me. 🤔
I remember seeing my friend's car model everywhere and then I realised I was subconsciously looking out for his car 🙈 We've been together 12 years now.
Sounds more like infatuation to me
And how long does that last?
I feel like forever ♾️
Around 6 months, the honeymoon phase, physiological state of lust, wears off Around 6 months...
Cmon you asking this man this question.. Riduculous..
Love is love when you first meet and celebrating every anniversary after that and the love gets deeper and deeper as you two get older
#truth. It’s a special love, unbreakable bond you both have towards each other.