ADHD HOUSE HACKS (& tour)
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- Опубликовано: 7 дек 2022
- Wanted to show off just a few ways I make accommodations for myself in my own home!
I’m curious if there’s anything here you haven’t tried OR if there’s something I should try! Let me know in the comments!
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Another hack (not just for ADHD): if you notice you always have a pile of laundry under you piano, put a landry basket there! Not placing things where they 'should' go, but where you actually use them.
Yayyyyy “point of performance” organizing!!!
This is amazing advice
Love this! I did something similar, I had a hamper for a while that had a lid, and I noticed that I’d just pile dirty clothes on top or stuff I tried on but didn’t put away. So I got a hamper without a lid and I *mostly* stopped doing it! It’s so important to design spaces to shape the behavior we want from ourselves (and others!)
I have laundry hampers in three rooms for this exact reason xD
My biggest struggle is *keeping* the laundry basket in those spots.
When you said you keep things “intentionally messy” I have never connected to something more. If it’s not out, it’s not getting used.
And the next step after that is changing your space to give that "intentional mess" a home. Like her random pile of laundry? Maybe she could accept it camps out there frequently and give it a guest home in the form of a collapsible hamper or something. "Messy" intentional table top? Maybe look for a decorative box or tray that you can set on top of its own lid 90% of the time, but then cover when you have company.
yo that makes me wanna have a "messy box" or "holding zone" in every room that is intentionally for stuff like the windex or fabric spray that need to stay out and bounce. i have a need for grouping in my adhd, if i cant easily put stuff in a bunch of specific piles i will leave it out. its all about allowing yourself to work with your adhd at home, in your safe space.
Yes!
Visual organisation style. Theres a decluttering channel that talks about using clear baskets or storage so you get to still see it but it's more contained
@@mkat8505 I don't understand having a random pile of clean laundry because they'll need to be ironed or re-washed. If they're dirty, that's what a hamper with a lid is for. You'll remember you have dirty clothes once you either *A)* can no longer close the lid OR *B)* run out of clean underwear.
My toiletries live in a basket. In the morning, I take them all out and put each item back into the basket as I use it so I know if I've put deodorant or lotion on yet. In the shower, I do the same with the products. They move from one shelf to the other as I use them.
Love this!!
Brilliant. Too much stuff sitting out can get visually overstimulating for me. But at the same time, if I don't have a visual cue, things just do not exist and I WILL forget. I have all daily staples/rituals tied together like a basket of fish hooks in my top vanity drawer. Face, hair, deodorant, etc. all visually present when I open the drawer so my brain will remeber each task, but then shut away the rest of the time.
Omg great idea! I often forget IN THE MOMENT if I put on deodorant or whatever 😢
Me, too! I can’t remember who recommended this to me but it was a game changer! 😊
Not all in one basket, but I do take everything out that I'm going to need, and put it back as I go. I'd never considered that was one of my ADHD coping tools, I've been doing it waaaay longer than I've known about my ADHD. I guess I just thought I was unique and epic. 🫣
I don’t have ADHD, my sister does, but I have autism and we share hacks sometimes because some hacks and solutions work for both of us even if they work for different reasons.
A few months ago, someone taught me the bag method and it changed my life. I have a small apartment and I cant easily keep things out so I have them in bags. Need to get ready for work? Grab the work bag in the bathroom. I will empty out everything in it and place it all over my counter and then as I use each item it goes back into the bag. When the counter is empty I know I have remembered everything (especially deodorant) and then I just zip the bag up and put it away.
It’s basically a giant visual checklist and I can use the bag method for all kinds of different things. It’s also ok to have duplicates of items. I have a deodorant in my get ready for work bag and I also have one in my get ready for a normal (not work) day bag. It’s ok if I have multiples as long as they actually get used.
Total game changer for me and it works for my sister too. Hope this helps someone else. ❤
I have to have multiples as well. I keep a copy wherever I most use them. And found I remember things, or have motivation for things, as soon as I get to work, so I keep copies of those things at work - like deodorant, vitamins, toothbrush and paste.
I keep a travel deodorant stick in my car for those days that I forget or need a refresh.
I do this, too! I have kits for every situation in activity that I regularly do
What happens when I'm not paying attention and walk away without my belt?
Love this idea! I currently have a routine app that I use to help me remember what I need to do. It is really good at pinging me when the task is supposed to be complete (each task is timed) and this helps me if I get distracted mid get ready
Hopefully this helps someone!
House hack 1: hooks by the door 1:08
House hack 2: engage your senses 1:52
House hack 3: leaving cleaning supplies visible 2:23
House hack 4: comfy lighting 2:33
House hack 5: easy place for reminders 3:21
House hack 6: make bedroom safe space 4:16
House hack 7: create comfy get ready space 4:27
Thank you! Again, visual reminders!❤❤❤
THANK YOU!! My attention span is too short to watch this whole video
Thank you!!
Thank you!
This is the best ADHD Friendly comment
I hate things looking messy, but I can't keep everything on it's place, so I love cute looking boxes where I can throw things that "go together" and forget abot it.
Doom boxes at their finest
Organized chaotic doom boxes! 😂
Love a good box.
i love this so much
@lizac.h.3838 That sounds like a "ladybug" in Cas from Clutterbug's organizing quiz categories: hidden + minimal categorizing. Lots of people with ADHD are also "butterflies" who need things on display + minimal categorizing. Knowing my organizing style for various things has made such a difference in actually putting things away! (Also reducing my overall stuff so there's actually *room* for them! ; - D
When I added a full “vanity” to my bedroom a couple of years back, it changed my whole process of getting ready. Thank you for the reminder of do what works cause it does.
Yep
See I don’t even know what tf that is 😅 I was amazed at her home. It blows me away how people can decorate while my creativity ends at a poster on the wall 😢
@spiriteNsh1 For me decorating has been fun more so cause I get to "get it wrong" and try stuff out. Just even moving around stuff I already have and like a muscle, it gets stronger! I think posters a pretty cool too
The best advice I ever got was from a book called Organization for ADHD (iirc) the biggest thing was how it suggested more open, functional storage. It also emphasized the importance of things being convenient to put away, rather than convenient to retrieve. You know how it is when you’re on a project warpath? No amount of digging stops you. But cleanup is another story.
Here some personal tips:
1) paper drawer. Maybe it’s an old bill, copy of your lease, a w2 from two years ago. (If you’re a student, school stuff as well) Will I need this? I don’t know. Boom throw it in the paper drawer (or basket or whatever) when you throw stuff in there it is naturally sorted chronologically. If you do realize you were given a paper forever ago you that you actually need, you know to look towards the bottom bc it’s old. Saved my ass and also saved me from having weird receipts around my house all the time.
2) I got one of those garage shelves for my art supplies. If it was art stuff, it sat on the big open shelves. I could see everything and clean up was a breeze
Digging stops me. It's a huge hurdle for getting things done. However, part of the reason I spend so much time digging is because the thing did not get put away to where it was "supposed" to go. So having homes that make it convenient to put away helps me too!
yes!! I got that book too! Open shelving and having dedicated homes/shelves for different things has saved me so many headaches
(In case anyone is looking for it, it's called "Organizing solutions for people with ADHD" by Susan Pinsky)
My teenage twins were diagnosed with ADHD approx. 2 years ago; during THAT process I recognized so many similarities in myself that I subsequently got diagnosed with the same. This video was so helpful! It's a great reminder that "out of sight is out of mind" with ADHD, and comfort is crucial when arranging our living space. I'm so glad you pointed out the importance of pleasant scents in your life!
Personally, I've also found that an analogue clock in the house goes so far. a) for the physically reminder of Time existing; and b) to visually watch the breakdown of the hour move
Ooh! Speaking of analog clocks, I have a timer that “lights up” blue for how much time you have left. Great visual.
Yes! Finally someone who also needs smells and sounds in every room. It's just part of the vibe. Also overhead lights are the BANE of my existence 😫
Really appreciate the honesty about your situation (letting viewers know you're not the only one cleaning), and that you left things where they were! Much more realistic
Absolutely ❤
Normally I wouldn't comment on older videos but damn, this speaks to me! This is the first apartment I've ever seen in a video that makes me think "I'd live there. My apartment could actually look like this"
I've been recently diagnosed and so much makes sense now. I love the phrase 'intentionally messy'. I too keep things like my deodorant visible so I don't forget it. But in a studio apartment things look messy so quickly. Whenever I have someone visit I used to think I need to hide all my stuff because I don't want people to think less of me. I recently talked to some of my friends about how I never invited them because I felt like my apartment was always too messy and cleaning it and then also hosting was just too much. They all said that they literally don't care if my apartment is a mess. They care about quality time with me and if that means sitting on the balcony because my dining table is full of painting supplies that's fine. One even offered to come over for body doubling If I need help sticking to my decluttering plans.
But back to the video: the "hacks" that I'll definitely try out (well at least if I remember in two weeks because I'll be on vacation till then😅) are introducing more smells (I love my candles but I never burn them in summer because its too hot already so I feel like essential oils might be a game changer) and possibly more christmas lights. I have the lighting in my main space set up quite nicely but it never occurred to me that my bathroom and my bed nook could use some dim lighting as well. Also music for the bathroom might be good... but my bathroom is so tiny that I don't really know if it's a possibility. Maybe a water proof battery powered speaker could be am option... anyway I'm rambling and you all don't need to read my musings about my apartment but I wanted to just thank you for the video. It really set in motion some great ideas for me.
I got a waterproof bluetooth speaker with a VISIBLE CLOCK ON IT!! game changer for time blindness in the shower. It hangs from the shower rod so there's no space taken either!
It’s ok, all of us on here probably ramble! 😂
@@that1fangrlI NEED THIS!! i have a waterproof speaker but i really need a clock because of that reason 😭
@@that1fangrlI thought I was the only one who had time blindness in the shower 😮! AND I didn’t know there was a name for it!!! I’m going to go on Amazon for that!
For my birthday my son (he’s 16 so I still tell him what to get me lol) gave me a candle warmer lamp I found on Amazon! It takes care of the nice smell- I don’t have to burn my candles so they last longer and the soft lighting! My birthday is this Saturday so I can’t wait to actually get it! ❤❤❤
Thank you for showing us your real life ADHD living space. I carry this sense of guilt with me because my kitchen countertops are full of food items. The reason is because I can’t remember I have food if it’s behind the cupboards. I have to come to terms with being OK with having things on my kitchen countertop. And not being able to live like the Kitchen Countertops in magazines and RUclips videos. It’s really all about making adjustments to make your life easier especially when we have a hard time remembering so many things.
Hey @jenshark4!
I think not even for people in those videos the places look like what we get to see. Most people probably hide stuff on the other side of the camera, in a cupboard or whatever.
And if they do look like it: what's the price they pay? Is worth the time and effort? That really depends on the person.
But what I mostly wanted to say: if you need to see everything but don't want it on the counter: maybe taking off the doors to your cupboards could help!
I heard that it works for some people. You could use clear containers for easier access.
Another way could be to use vertical space on your counter. Getting little shelves so you can better reach your items by not having to stack them so much.
Have a good day :) 🌻
@@Nelia2705 great suggestions thank you
100% part of the book club! I need to physically entice myself so I must leave my treats in spots that can tempt me while I'm on my way to a something.
My story was actually flipped. Severe chronic gastritis finally lead me to my ADHD diagnosis. I'm still struggling with food. But another thing I've had to shamelessly resign myself to is kids food. 🤷🏻♀️ (luckily that means there are sneakily healthier options now for the kids) but. If today all I can eat is some fish cakes and a mini pizza, then that is okay.
Lunch box strips of cheese crackers hanging out in the lounge, next to the mini milkshakes 👌🏼(milkshake is great for morning meds with no appetite. But hopefully you manage a couple crackers to line the stomach before not thinking of food again until about 19:00)
I also came to say how about taking your cupboard doors off, it's not that wierd, some people do it as a design feature. It could help you work better on the work space and feel like you can see more. Also you must feel like you're wasting cupboard space if there's nothing in them. Hope you find your easy ways
I need a hundred part series of this as you discover more ADHD home hacks, this was actually the best
Good call out on lighting. For myself, I actually prefer bright lights to keep me awake. I have smart bulbs throughout my house and setup a shortcut for “I’m ready to get to work”. I’m both telling myself - roll your sleeves up - while also turning all my lighting to 100%. If I keep my indoor shoes on and put headphones in listening to a podcast - I manage to hyper focus for a few hours or the day. It’s finding the motivation to start is the problem.
I have Major Depressive Disorder and anxiety and work from home. I get a lot of great advice from videos by people who are autistic or have ADHD. I'm ready to get a bunch of great ideas for my own house from this video.
Love your cozy vibe! One accommodation I’ve done for years is “visual cues”. I’ll leave something out in a super obnoxious spot or a light on so that I (or someone will ask this reminding me) remember to do the thing it’s related to. It hardly every makes sense to anyone but me.
I bought my dog a matching towel set at Target that has loops in the middle so I can hang the hand towel (for wet paws) and bath towel (for rainy days) right inside the door on our coat rack. He sits on his bath mat before/after walks like the super good boy that he is, and while he may not appreciate that his accessories are burnt orange and bring out his eyes while also tying in with our decor, I sure do! 🐾🖤
Commenting on an older video but I love the smell hack in every room. For anyone planning to do that that have pets, please be careful with essential oils and candles/melts, many scents are not good for animals!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you for sharing! I use tons of the same hacks. One of my other favorites is labeling. If I give everything a "home" as soon as it enters my space, it makes it less stressful when cleaning and easier if I have outside help.
YES, making labels RIGHT away made a big difference for me!!
I used to hate the idea of decanting (who has time for that?!) but now, I do little things like taking the cereal bag out of the box and putting it in our “cereal” basket (with a clip once open) - fits much better in the space (we don’t have any cupboards that are tall enough for the boxes), and then I can easily see at a glance how much of each & what kinds we have when I’m planning for grocery shopping. The first time I did this, NONE of us could remember to put it away so it would live on the counter, but since I added a label, we all pretty consistently do it :)
It also seems to help to keep a few extra clips in that same basket :)
I love how honest you are about not being perfectly clean. I hate how messy my place gets, but this makes me feel less alone. Visual clutter makes me anxious so I have clear bins on shelves in a closet. I can close the door and it hides the organized clutter but doesn’t hide it enough that I forget about it. Also, I like biggish bins with categorized stuff. If it takes a few seconds to put away it might get put away. And if I know something is in a bin I know what pile of stuff to look in. Another one is I don’t really rinse my dishes. If they don’t get clean they go through the wash twice. I don’t fold my clothes and have 1000 chargers.
I also have glow in the dark stars and a bed canopy and it has completely transformed my sleep/cozy vibes in my bedroom 🥰🤗!
"It's very messy, but it's intentionally messy" so relatable
i feel literally so much better just knowing that dim lighting and nice scents being a necessity is normal? i live with someone else that likes bright lights and i cannot stand it, but i could never put it into words why they bother me. thank you for sharing the little things like that! it is so so helpful for people like me that do not know how to live with this yet
I literally do all of these things and never even thought of it as a adhd hack until I started living with my husband who has a much more severe case of adhd and I started doing more research into how to accommodate the household so it makes when he isn’t on medication easier for him. I just sat there staring into space I realized that I have adhd too lol
The cleaning hack that has changed my life is "don't put it down, put it away"
I also designate general sections for things rather than specific places.
Don't put your vegetables in a hidden drawer. Put your sweets/junk food there. Your brain will seek your treats out naturally but you need the fruits and veggies to be highly visible to remember that you have them
Instead of a dresser to out my clothes in, I have a plant stand to help keep everything open. Not only does it help me to see what clothes if have, but also helps me from buying more clothes that I don't need
I also made a cute looking reminder with Canva, laminated and taped it to the back of my front door. It lives there permanently so I made it look nice. It reads as follows:
KITTENS (I close the bathroom door when I leave with items like chemicals that they don't need to be into and sometimes they like to sneak by me unnoticed while closing the doors so I count them all before I leave to make sure they're not locked in)
PHONE
WALLET
WATER BOTTLE
PURSE
KEYS
WORK BADGE
MEDS
HEADPHONESE
SNACKS
APPLE WATCH
I read these all OUT LOUD before I leave my house for any reason. If I know the night before I need to remember to bring something extra with me I right it on a post it and stick it to the back of the door next to the sheet.
Thank you so much for the hacks! In the spirit of reciprocation, you mention keeping things visible where you need them so you remember to use them. Same goes for making a place for things where you tend to use them.
One of the best things I did for myself was buy a laundry hamper to keep near the front door in addition to my room hamper. They make some short ones that’ll fit under your piano if you’re interested. ❤️
OMG the lighting thing is such a good idea!!! I sometimes have sensory issues on bright lighting but now you have changed everything THANK YOU
Word. Lighting makes such a huge difference for my audhd sensory bandwidth. It takes a little trial and error to get the right bulbs. I can't stand any fluorescent bluish, white-white light. Warm glow is 1000x more agreeable for me. Also, just like HH, I never, never use the overhead ceiling lights, because gross. It's like why am I in a bad mood? Oh wait, there's this harsh interrogation bulb hanging over me, bumming me out, effin up the vibe in here. Gonna fix this right tf now. 📴😌
I’m very sensitive to basically everything. I have Christmas lights in every room and most of them are also plugged into dimmer outlet things to adjust the brightness. Then I have them plugged into remote control outlets. When I get ready for bed I turn everything dim or else I can’t sleep. I use red Christmas lights in my room and bathroom and a set in the kitchen so if I need to get up the only lights I need to turn on are the red ones. I also wear orange safety glasses that go over my regular glasses. The dimmer switch outlets I got were amazing and all my lamps are plugged into them too. I know everyone else will have these things connected to wifi or something fancy but I like to turn internet off. Okay. Hope that helps someone.
@@tnijoo5109❤ I do the exact same thing! I taped a magnet to the back then they stick right to the wall wherever there is corner. One lifes right next to the door main door and one by the bed.
"Because I'm an adult now and you can't tell me otherwise"
To be honest, I found this to be my #1 life hack ❤😂
When I heard you say that you have help to keep your place clean etc it really made me feel validated. I have help too but sometimes I feel bad about needing the help, as others my age don't and I "should" be able to handle these things on my own. Even with the help I'm barely keeping things together and I still feel guilty. Sound in several rooms is a great idea, I do use it to manage anxiety, I have a little bluetooth speaker my sister and her husband gave me and it does help but I don't have it on nearly enough really.
Also your bedroom is awesome! ❤
You should never feel bad about getting something you need. I have been a caregiver and all around support person for years yet, I have a caregiver myself and people think it’s weird but when do not have one my personal spaces look like and episode of hoarders. I never had company over because I was so embarrassed about the state my place was/is in and they make it better. They are a cog to my semi well oiled machine
I’m wondering where or how I could find someone to help me. I would be too embarrassed to let most people know my real problems.
@@tnijoo5109 it's hard to get help if you are afraid of people knowing your problems. But it also depends on where you are from. Different countries and different regions in different countries are vastly different. It's hard to give you advice because of that. For example I'm in Sweden and I managed to get help by a coordinator/councilor atvmy general practitioners office. But even then you have to admit your problems, and that took me years to do. I hope you find the support you need. ❤️
I was given home care by the city I live in since I have ADHD, bipolar and other mental disorders making me unable to function. They cleaned my house so I could use me energy on more important things, like showering and making myself food, but I had to pay so much that I couldn't afford it. Still I live in Sweden where this kind of care is supposed to be free if you fulfill the criteria of needing help which I did.
But I hired a private company to clean for me instead because it was cheaper. She comes every other week and vacuums, dusts, do wet cleaning of the floor, the bathroom etc. It's SO helpful!!
Don't be ashamed of needing help, many of us do. We have limited energy and capacity, just like someone with a physical illness, so of course we need help. I can't even work, so despite being "home all day doing nothing" I still can't clean my own house. ADHD is called neuropsychiatric disability for a reason, and if you have more than one disorder like I do it becomes so much more challenging.
You're not weak for accepting help. You're smart to save your energy to more important things in your life.
@@SamirCCat thank you 🙏 and thank you for taking the time to write your comment. 💚💚💚
Adding nice smells/sounds and dimming lights has helped me so, so much. Strikes a nice balance between overstimulation (which I struggle with) and understimulation (which I also struggle with)
This video popped up on my feed. ADHD is no joke, and unfortunately, so many people are uneducated about it and don’t take it seriously. My 7yo daughter got diagnosed earlier this year and her dad got diagnosed with ADD after we got her diagnosis. Things have been extremely hard for me over the years bc of their ways. I thought ADHD just meant someone was hyper and had no idea what ADD was. I thought they were just messy and lazy, didn’t care about much and so many other things. Since their diagnoses I’ve learned so much and now know that’s not the case. Some things are still hard for me to understand bc the ADHD and ADD brains work so differently, but I try my best and ask God to help me to be kind, patient and understand them more. I try to take in as much information as I can with the time I have and videos like this bring more perspective and new things to try. Thank you 🩵
Intentionally messy-This! I COMPLETELY understand this-out of sight, out of mind for me. I have to do the same thing at work; can’t use a stand up file for ongoing projects-have to have separate small piles for ongoing projects or I’ll forget.
For me, I’ve had to make peace that I need to have less things because I can only mangage a certain amount of ‘stuff’. It’s an ongoing battle as energy/motivation fluctuates!
The music everywhere is so key, I would never do chores if I wasn't listening to music or a podcast.
my mom always taught me that everything should have a place. it’s super helpful for certain things especially stuff you don’t use all the time but still need. it keeps me from losing the stuff i lose otherwise! another hack i learned that goes hand in hand is when you get home or finished with something is “dont put it down, put it away” and it helps so much just to go put something back where it belongs (ie clothes in the closet vs on the floor) so it doesnt create unnecessary mess! everyone has different habits. i keep my deodorant in the bathroom and i always put it on after i shower!
My husband has ADHD, we think (it's a new discovery), and he likes low light. Makes sense now. I'm trying to change the house round to make it work for him. Thanks for the info. 😊
Awww 🥰 you’re such a sweetie for your sweetie! Good luck with everything! Your support is so important!
While there was no new ideas to help me be "better organized" in this video, I felt extremely validated by it because these "hacks" are all strategies I have also found work for me, but have been criticized by the NT people in my life so I thought I needed to change them. But you made me see that if it works, it's organized! And that's all that matters.
You won me over within minutes, of this video. Instant sub lol.
THANK YOU for being your perfectly authentic, self! Don’t ever change!!!!
Thanks for reminding me I forgot to put deodorant on this morning, because it was not in it usual place where I would've seen it. I smell much better now. All these hacks make so much sense!
Sorry for the long post, you know how it is when you get rambling on an idea 😂
TOTALLY understand the cleaning supplies & broom always out right by where you need them, the deodorant on the counter, the dim lighting in every room, the whiteboard for anything super important, and all stuff for going outside right by the door!! I’ve been doing those things naturally for the past year… but I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one, because it has been a challenge sometimes to get my spouse on board! (He’s the only non-ADHDer in our house, yet things that work for the rest of us often make no sense to him - like when I took off ALL our cupboard doors).
For the laundry on the floor, I put a laundry basket right wherever clothes naturally seem to end up (I often keep one in the living room for just this purpose - which doubles for all the random blankets there too). At least it’s off the floor! I also keep a garbage can in almost EVERY room f the house (not in my living room anymore since the kitchen one is right between the two rooms, but when I did most people thought I was soooo weird!)
Absolutely love the scent idea in every room, and the look of the plants everywhere, I’ll have to try those :)
Oh my gosh, this is sooooo good! Like really. I do this professionally, and you've nailed so many key things here.
I'm actually a local personal home (or any space) organizer who specializes in helping neurodivergent brains create the space THEY need that works for THEM!
Your space honestly already looks amazing and I love everything you said. Having said that, I'm actually looking to do some free organization projects for local neurodivergent influencers as I'd love to spread the word more about the things we can do and ways we can think out of the box about our spaces and how to make them work for us and how to totally ditch the idea that we need to do what is socially "normal" or designed for neurotypical brains... and I'd love to connect if you're interested. No strings attached other than if we did do a project together, I'd love to be able to post some of it (open to your edits and review first. Nothing without consent) and I'd love to be tagged in anything you post about the project. :)
If you're interested. If not, I totally get it. (Btw, I have ADHD, my boys both have ADHD, and one has autism, and I live in Langley, so not too far) :)
Also, Hi! I'm Holly! I love your content. It's nice to meet you. :D Hehe
Please let us know when your brilliant minds collide! I’d love more hacks!!
Great video! Thank you!
@@tickledpink9052 awe, that’s such a kind comment. Thanks for the encouragement. I agree, I think our minds would come up with some pretty cool stuff. 😁
I keep random cleaning supplies around too! Also it’s great to hear you have someone come to help you clean. I’ve always felt embarrassed by wanting (&maybe needing!) that. I did get SO many accommodations for my house though. Like robot vacuum, counter top dish washer & I sometimes just pay to get my laundry done or else it will *not* get done. 🤠
Thank you so much for this. I relate heavily and it’s wonderful to see you helping yourself and embracing yourself without treating your ADHD as something to cause shame or apologize for. I got diagnosed last year and do a lot of these same tricks things now. and honestly my physical, social, and mental health have never been better! I hope you continue to find comfort and success with your accommodations. You were so real for admitting you would avoid showering because the bathroom was boring/ showering was too much of a chore to motivate… Now I use my Alexa and a candle and make myself feel like it’s a party! 🎉😂❤
Haha your dad joke actually made me subscribe instead.
PS: Everything about the part where you explained about your dog's sweater "needs" was sooo cute lol
I use a variation on group by use instead of type and bag/box everything that I have to have consistant access too. I have mobility issues so I have to group into small enough containers I can move without help, having it in a container lets me move it to the less painful seating areas of the house to use and doesn't make me juggle stuff, and having it together already when I settle down to use the items keeps me from burning spoons getting up and down going back to drawers for items I forgot to grab the first few times. Anything that has to leave the house with me is in those redbubble zipper bags (seeing the item doesn't help me, but for some reason a randomly associated image does). For example all my "get ready" stuff is in one that also goes in my day bag in case I realize as I pull up to an appointment that I forgot a step. "Project" based stuff goes in thrifted small suitcases and asthetic boxes so that it looks nice while still having them visible. This one actually really helped with taking better care of my hair, because its really long and a pain to take care of right after washing. One of the boxes that lives on the bottom of my coffee table has my hair dryer, straightener, the combs and brushes for when its wet, a shoulder towel, and a fold away mirror. I'm way more likely to actually do something to control my hair resting on the couch with the stuff already there and ready to go than trying to stand in the bathroom or haul all those items to the living room.
Holy crap this is amazing and I've unintentionally done so much of it!! I have a good hack; I ORGANIZE the dirty things! A pile of dirties is bad but if I separate it into (pants)(shirts)(socks &undies) or (plates)(bowls)(forks)(spoons) then its easier to complete a noticable fraction of the mess vs having a slightly smaller pile
oh dude!!! I would love a speaker in every room; I always rush back to the room the music is playing in but that would totally fix that problem
"That thing lives here." I can so relate to this phrasing.
Feeling overwhelmed is no fun. I applaud you for doing whatever you need to do to turn down the volume on the overwhelm. Hacks of my own: I fill two large glass containers with water in the morning and put them on one end of my desk. That way I don't become dehydrated during the day when I'm focused on work. I keep a giant, untippable water bowl topped up for my dogs each morning for the same reason -- I would feel terrible if they couldn't stay hydrated and comfortable when I have my attention focused on some crisis or the other at work. I pre-load a weekly pill minder with all my vitamins and medications in order to both avoid skipping something I need and to also avoid double-dosing. Five minutes of filling that big pill minder keeps me on track for the entire week. Out of sight = out of mind is a big problem when I'm feeling overwhelmed. Keeping things where I can see them (e.g. my insulin pens, five pen tips out in the a.m. for each day, one good black pen in a specific spot where I can reliably grab for it when needed, etc.) means that I am not anxiously rooting around for things all day. Need to write a check? Boom, good black pen is in my hand almost before I can even think of it. Time for lunch? Boom, insulin pen and pen tip in my hands without having to open anything or dig through anything. My keys live in my right pants pocket 100% of the time. My dog's leashes are on a specifically placed set of hooks right next to the door. All of the things you mentioned are very helpful and will be useful for EVERYONE as we age, even if staying organized is easy when we're young.
Never ever under any circumstances turn on the big light. I hate it so much. I relate so hard to dim lighting
Good video Hayley, it seems there are different versions of ADHD. I have ADHD, but I can't imagine living in such a mess. It's very noisy to my eyes, and I can't work in that kind of environment. For me as an ADHDer, minimalism is the best option to finish my tasks and stay productive with ADHD.
LOVE THIS. Currently in the process of trying to incorporate adhd friendly things in my home. Started with putting more bins in place. Working through adding little goigle speakers to different rooms. Lighting is next. Absolutely love this ❤
I have bins everywhere! and other stuff where I use them (much to my bf dislike) I just need to work on my tidyness but I haven't 'hacked' that one yet.
I identify with the lighting thing SO much! Im dying for soothing nice lights in my home, I cannot wait to turn off the white lights!
Hayley things you need to make your life easier (advice from a person exacly like you): a copy-cat Norwex towel from amazon to clean mirrors with just water. Lysol wipes from sams/cotsco to clean everything. A canister vacuum from Walmart, hypertough 1.5g $30 and the extended kit to vacuum any corner and ceiling it's way better than the Dyson (I have the Dyson tho is not satisfying). Clear Dollar tree bins to trow the corner collections we create per sectors (because mess attracts mess). Brushes to do dishes instead of sponges. declutter regurlarly. Velvet bedsheets. And if those cream plugs hurt your ear canals, try any pink color ones, any brand.
This is the first video I'm seeing from you. I don't usually click this sort of video because I've spent a lot of time seeking hacks and feel like I don't have much left I could do at this point but...When I saw trash mountain I knew I had to immediately "Like and Subscribe." Hello, it is me you're looking for.
Put it where you use it (point of action placement), Dim warm lights, clear spaces with intentionally placed visual stimulation, voice activated music/audio books, good ol' todo list/structure helper. I'm AuDHD and set my flat up in a similar way. Thanks for sharing you Room Setup.
AuDHD=autism and adhd correct?
@@tianamarie989 Yes.
I have a cute shower caddy from 5bellow with multi surface cleaner, a rag/paper towels, lysol wipes, and fabric febreeze and I leave it out on my coffee table. Just seeing it makes me want to clean and its super easy to carry from room to room. It's also not super ugly so I don't feel the need to hide it under a sink or behind a cabinet.
Gahhhh. It’s so nice to see a home tour that’s ADHD friendly but still cozy and aesthetically pleasing. I often feel like I have to choose between the two.
These tips and ideas were helpful! I didn’t realize that I do the audio thing too. I use music and podcasts to get myself to cook, wash dishes, and tidy. I’m also a fan of the low lighting. Most of the apartment is lit by lamps and Christmas lights. :) I like the idea of a space to get ready at too. Two-bedroom and one bath means I try to use the bathroom as little as possible in the morning, so now I really want to try to find a little space in my bedroom that I could designate for getting ready. I’m always running around in the morning, and it’d be nice to not trip over stuff and just have it all in one spot.
Loved the video!
I’m only 2.5 mins into the video and got to your essential oil joke. I didn’t unsubscribe. I subscribed. 🤣🤣🤣
We moved into a new apartment, and I could not figure out why I hope they’re struggling to keep my room clean when it used to be immaculate. Your princess bed just reminded me that I used to have my room decked out in the most Princess way possible for myself. And because I brought me joy, I would make sure it stayed neat every day. Now my room is BLAH and I don’t care as much… TIME TO DECORATE!
Cas from Clutterbug also uses Alexas to set reminders while she's thinking of them and to announce when to switch tasks. Highly recommend her handful of videos on ADHD! She also has a quiz on her website to find out your organizing style which makes keeping things organized WAY easier. Somehow she and Dawn from the Minimal Mom (plus the *magic* of TEMPTATION BUNDLING🤩) have helped transform me from a slob who detests cleaning because I was so shamed about it growing up into someone who's actually had the thought "It would be fun to do some cleaning/clutter clearing." Fun?!?!? Mind-blowing!😄
Get a cabinet towel holder for the dog towel, or get or sew some twill tape to the towel so you can hang the paw rags nearby. Use more 3m command hooks to left of the door to free up counter space. Get a tall (rectangular garbage bin (lined with a permanent bag that never leaves) that sits beside your reg bin. This is your recycling bin. Get Phillip hue bulbs or if too costly for smart bulbs, or replace your lighting with 3000 kelvin bulbs (except for bath and kitchen, that's why hue is great so you can change on the fly with their system). 3m command cable hooks to keep cables, cords and wires away from surfaces and unseen. Wash your mosquito netting cause that is a dust magnet (and allergy irritant). Clean your hairbrush every time you use it (you just need to remove the dead hair with your hands and deep clean it when you need to with shampoo) Your hair will forever be greasy by reintroducing the old sebum after you wash by using that brush uncleaned. Tonnes of brush cleaning tutorials on youtube. Do your laundry when the main basket is full or get a second basket. Regular piles on the floor are how adhd piles get out of hand.
I'm just realizing what I do to accommodate myself without even knowing it. 😆 The most important thing for me is accepting the way that I am and that I won't change (much). 😊
An interior designer i follow helped me the most by saying, if somewhere is a high traffic dump zone, put something there to contain it and it immediately looks more organised. 👍
This is extremely validating
My weird tip is two hampers, one for priority laundry (work clothes, socks, messy items) and one for the rest of my laundry
YES to all of this!!!
Best thing ever that has worked for me is to just put he thing where I use it, not where normal people are supposed to be putting it. Sure, vacuum does live in a closet with me because the hairs on the floor will remind me to use it... But other than that, keys literally on the door knob, spray cleaning in every spot I need to clean (kitchen, toilet, bathroom) more frequently even if that means I have double things in all the spots. It just works better that way.
Sometimes, when i've put stuff away "in a designated put away spot" to make it seem less messy for my love who lives with me, I can literally forget about shit and lose my shit over not being able to find something. Then to actually find out I had a stroke of stupidity and started to declutter and make me actually lose my actual shit.
Oh my gosh! We are so much alike! I too use Christmas lights around my house, music and scented oils. My daughter and I both listen to RUclips too, on our phones, while we clean and get ourselves ready. She has wax warmers. I just have the scented oil plug ins. I love natural lighting and dimmer lightning as well. And so does my son. My daughter likes it very bright, every light in the house on. I don’t forget my
normal routine stuff, But I have to do everything the same order everyday. I have a routine for my whole day. That helps me remember things! I too love to connect with my inner child! I love the color pink! I love sparkly, fuzzy and cute! But also beautiful, classy looking art, pillows, etc. Thank you for the great video and advice!
You do music in the shower too!! Its relaxing, but I mostly do it because of my time blindness. I have no concept of time in the shower, but if I have music going, I can say Oh, I've been in the shower for 5 songs and 1 song is roughly 5 minutes, so I've been in here 25 minutes-ish. It helps me lol
Thanks for sharing! Definitely could use a white board 😂 I live in a sea of sticky notes to my future self. Pre-loaded soap sponges are great, too, as well as backpacking towelettes so that even I don’t have time or energy to shower, I can still get clean.
I think I really need a hook by my front door cause I’ll forget to bring my wallet with me to the store way too often and then realize once I’m in the car then I have to run back in to grab it. It’d be easier if I had a hook by the door with my purse on it and my purse will have everything I need in it cause I usually put my stuff back in my purse. I at least try my best to do so.
One I just recently started-
I hate putting away laundry. I will fully just let baskets of clean laundry live in the middle of the floor and use things out of there, which takes more time, is wrinkly, an annoys me to have to walk around. But I still couldn't get myself to always put it away.
I started just laying my work shirts flat on each other, and there's a special shelf for it in my bathroom. I don't get ready in my room, I get ready in my bathroom, so I just get my clothes straight from there (on work days).
My pants I just fold in half and half again, and stack them like that. It's been really great, honestly. I manage to hang up my non-work clothes/jackets because theres so much less to hang up overall.
This... a realistic and safe space for me and my ADHD. Love this, this is real life. I feel normal now, thanks for posting!
I feel seen! Thank you for sharing and being transparent.
I love that you called it a princess bed! I did the same but mainly for all the flying biting insects in Cyprus.
I keep trying to keep things I'm the way you do. Organising your drawers a certain way, putting things where I'm going to need them. Annoyingly I have a habit of carrying random objects around with me and putting them in the random placed so I still take so long doing anything because I'm trying to find anything I misplaced 😂
Or better still I hang my oven gloves exactly where intended. Once i need them I assume I haven't put them back and go looking for them (mid trying to get something out of the oven before it's burned) and then find them in their rightful place 😂
I'm also envious of you living alone, Iiving with my partner means I've got someone else constantly undoing my organising. There's a silent argument going on between me and my partner while I keep returning fridge items the correct shelved and he keeps changing it! 😂
I love your videos, your vibe. Thanks for the practicality of it all - so appreciative.
I love that you put your diffuser next to your coffee maker to remind yourself, but if you got some smart plugs you could set them up on a schedule, and/or tell Alexa to turn it on/off. (Almost) everything in my house is automated now. Lamps, alarms, Christmas tree, robot vacuum… I just bought some Kasa plugs on Amazon and they are cheaper than Amazon’s plugs, and pair with Alexa.
Pro tip: get smart devices with "Matter" so that in the future it will work with any system (Amazon, Google, etc.)
your house is just like my apartment. I'm shook :D all the indirect, versatile light options, all the speakers, all the "random" stuff, and my no 1 prio: everything's just so cozy, I instantly feel comfortable. It's absolutely crazy for me to see someone else developing the same weird strategies as I do for my daily living. With the same ways to trick their brain :D love!
The UUuUGgGGGGGhhhHhhhh at the end. Dude I can’t say the amount of times I crack UP because it’s like. SAME. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You created a very cosy space 😊 thank you for sharing!
thank you for this channel, thank you for existing. thank you for sharing your experience, THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING!
Thank you for sharing your adhd house hacks! you have such a nice home :) and your doggo is sooo adorable!
I love your energy.
Thank you for starting this video with "these are things that help me, I hope they can help you too, they may not work for you". If I had a nickel for every "jobs for neurodivergent people" video or article that was just "this is the only thing I found that works for me", one suggestion that was just their job, that usually didn't even work for me anyways, I wouldn't need any of these hacks to be able to be productive to make enough to pay my bills 😂
omg i literally love you so much, this all makes so much sense!
The big white board is genius. I need to do something like that too. Thank you!
I have laminated calendars and posters in my house that I turn around and stick backwards into the inside of my cabinet doors in a kitchen. That I can use a whiteboard marker to do like the top three most important things MIT of the day. Spray wipe and repeat. Takes up less space.
I love this thank you! I already do alot of these or things similar. But I really wanted to say thank you because I always want my place to be neat but sometimes thats not always functional so seeing your place helps me feel better.
in case ppl don’t know it’s not good to put your keys near the outside wall of your house, your car can get stolen that way (not by breaking in, by hijacking the radio signal). it’s best to put them near the center of the house and/or upstairs, even though it’s not as convenient.
Your to do list. Nailed it!
Immediate subscribe! I’ve never related to everything more than this video and you just saved my sanity (and my fam who has to live with me). ❤❤
A SCENT FOR EVERY ROOM omg I need to do tjis
I put all my makeup etc in a basket with three dividers and go back and forth with it between my vanity and my bathroom as I feel like. It’s a 110 year old building and sometimes the room with the vanity is blazing hot, or my brain is just too unsettled to sit down in the morning. So the portable makeup basket helps a lot!
Let’s see, what else… I bought ottomans for my living room and entryway so I could store things that I don’t want out every day but KNOW that I would immediately feel defeated going to look for.
I keep bathroom cleaning materials between the toilet and the wall because no one looks there anyway; and I can just look down at it and say, “hey, I should use this Iron Out real quick” (see: 100-year-old building) or “I can dump some toilet cleaner in while I do my skin care”.
I deliberately leave certain cooking tools and items out on the counter so that I will feel more motivated to start cooking (for some reason the get-things-out part psychs me out?? idk) - I plan to get a cute basket to put it all in.
My fish care is in my kitchen so that while I’m waiting for the water to boil, I will see it and quickly do that.
It’s like a weird treasure hunt, the “next stage” of chores is often with the chore before it.
This video is fabulous, thanks for the ideas/tips
The lights queen👌🏾
thank you for beeing transparent ❤
Oh, I am SO onboard with the different smells idea. I am implementing this TODAY. Thanks for the tip.
I do a lot of these things to and I found this incredibly comforting. Thank you! x