Eliminate anger. Listen beyond the words. Smile at him whenever you look at him. Express your love with physical affection. Never react. Praise and support. Never blame him. Be calm. Be proud of him. Push the boundaries of love. Fall in love.
This was reassuring, I’m on the right track. My husband was being cranky the other day. I chose not to react, I listened and met his needs, he was soon happy again and apologised. He was just tired and hungry, he wasn’t upset with me.
This man is a complete Angel, I am taking notes on this, as for I am the one who needs to change the most in my marriage. Everything he says is everything my husband says and I just didn't believe him. I am so blessed to have found this channel!! Thank you Paul, you are changing lives!
This video offered a breakthrough for me. The idea that we can say to ourselves, "I can boost my feelings of love even higher and higher still" helped me significantly. I say this to myself all the time now. Thank you.
Thank you so much. I woke up this morning in prayer and had a conversation with HS that I was to focus on a restoration on my married of 32 years ( after many destructive years) this immediately popped up on my RUclips as I was looking for worship. I subscribed and am excited about what my Father wants me to learn from you.
Oh, Dear Lord! What a blessing and mind opening! Thank you so much for teaching this, I know that God has given you this undertanding of love to stop brokenness of marriages. Even thought my husband loves me, he is not happy with me, today I pray to Father God -whats wrong? It´s amazing how quickly gave me the answer through this video! Thank you!!!
It’s a life changing. This is what i badly needed to hear all of this time. I need to work out extra mile to work on my marriage and I am the one who needs to hear this! Love is all we need! Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
Thank you so much for this 🙏 it’s the best advice I’ve found so far. I’ve been feeling like a bad wife and wanting to quit hurting my husband with my bad moods. I keep trying and keep messing up, then I feel so bad for him because I know I’m messing up and he deserves so much more. Thank god he’s a patient man 😅 anyway thanks so much. I’m subscribing and going to watch more.
Everything you said, my husband has been asking me to do. I refused and continued to be hard-headed. This week, we had a big fight he said he can't be married to a woman who's no understanding. This brought me to your page. Thank you! You're a blessing and refreshing.
Found you just in time. I now understand what my husband has been trying to delicately tell me. I’m going to hold on to him tightly with these points. It’s not just about them making us happy is it? We also need to play a part in our marriage. Thank god I found you.
Thanks for such knowledge.. much needed today! I do my husband this way already but I’m going to increase it. He pours into me so much and deal with so much from my family. This is truth. Try it if you haven’t. Don’t think you’re kissing his butt because you’re not. Plus he can think the same about you. ❤❤❤❤
Better yet, a man who speaks horse sense. Thank you. I grew up in an abusive home and have had no idea to act, love and think . 42 years of marriage has been hard for me .
You are very welcome. Remember that the past pain will fade as its never been when you start to live your marriage rightly, it is designed to produce joy and it is never too late
I believe that anger is a messenger - when it appears, it’s because you want something. You’re not sure how to get what you want, or maybe you’re not sure what it is that you want. It’s a message, telling you to look for what you want - do you feel unfairly treated? Are you hungry? Do you need to change something? Many people don’t know how to get what they want, or, they just don’t think about what the best way to get it is (they may act on impulse instead of weighing the options). Releasing yourself of anger takes practise to pause, notice that you feel angry, ask yourself what you want, and then ask yourself, “what is the best way for me to get that, whilst feeling proud of myself?” This is just my take on it. My perspective. Happy for your feedback on this, Paul.
Only because you asked... the mind's job is to control its host. It is best to rise above it and its endless desires. "Seek God first" and all you need will be well provided.
I have gotten so much out of this! Just what I needed to hear and I’m going to listen to this every single day. I’m not married yet, but my boyfriend and I are looking towards the future together, so this is very valuable advice. Thank you, thank you thank you!❤
You can choose your behavior and reactions - if only more people would understand and apply this! The world world would be a better place and we would have many happy marriages instead of divorces and heartbreak! Thank you for your wonderful lessons 🌸
Thank you so much for these amazing videos. I've only been watching a short time, but you are already helping me so much. When you say to get rid of anger you are so right! I loved the focus on love in this video, when you spoke of pushing the boundaries of love because love has no boundaries I could feel the truth and it felt like a spiritual experience, although I know you say you are not here to teach spiritual things. But thank you, thank you, thank you. I will keep watching to keep myself on the path to an ever happier more loving marriage.
Thank you very much, Paul, for sharing with us this another beautiful and true teaching. As you say, this is common sense, yet it is difficult to put it into practice sometimes. I wish you could talk about humility in marriage as well. Without humility, this may be more difficult to achieve. I have just bought one of your books, looking forward to reading it once arrives. God bless you:)
There are no "both ways" in marriage. It isn't a business. It is about learning to love, unconditionally and being in joy all the time themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
We all have "reasons" for not striving to be our best but those are from the mind to derail us from our true mission as human beings, to learn to love and live in joy
Thank you for giving us a very unique theory system from main stream psychology today, I believed your tips in each one of them. Those words are the rest of the world need to hear about more as people are deveating from religion, from unit with each other to pursue personal enjoyament and achievement. Not easy to do but we need to start having these enlighment reminders!
You can do everything on this list - but when you withhold your affection, kissing and sex from your husband - no amount of gifts, compliments or niceness will make up for not connecting with him, period - it simply won't.
So if he has habits that affect his family but he won’t stop. I’ve talked about it and he refuses to discuss. When subject is brought up he is angered.
I have a question my husband loves to stay in house and doesn’t allow me to go out alone and doesn’t take me out what should I do he says I want to protect you and he doesn’t like to go out as much I want to create memories and enjoy doing activities together what to do sir
Put more attention on your husband for now until the love within you is so stirred up that all else counts for naught. Then, that love will deliver all you need.
Is so hard wife will stay calm and the husband is crabby ,he is a temptation,stress you up ,accoused you ,angry and be proud of him .how can you be proud of him.Yes he is a provider but a hisband should make a wife happy first and he should be calm and love and be patience to his wife so the wife will be a loving person.If a husband is crabby everyday how can a wife be loving ,wife will dislikes and hate the husband like that.He is like a devil a temptation everyday
Ah, of course you should always behave in the most admirable ways you can, from the heart and not depend on anger and hurt to decide how you will be... have you looked at all our offerings? themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
I am a Christian woman preparing for marriage. This teaching has blessed me. God bless you, Paul Friedman ❤️
Eliminate anger.
Listen beyond the words.
Smile at him whenever you look at him.
Express your love with physical affection.
Never react.
Praise and support.
Never blame him.
Be calm.
Be proud of him.
Push the boundaries of love.
Fall in love.
Thank you!
Seems this is pro husband.
keep sweet pray and obey
@brokendreams195 Yes, but it's not anti-wife. This doesn't hinder her from doing self-care nor does it hinder his care for her.
It’s NO ONE’s job to read anyone’s mind or read between the lines. If you want sth COMMUNICATE CLEARLY.
This was reassuring, I’m on the right track. My husband was being cranky the other day. I chose not to react, I listened and met his needs, he was soon happy again and apologised. He was just tired and hungry, he wasn’t upset with me.
Amazing how this thing called cause and effect is 🙏 always going to rule. We might as well use it to be happy!
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This man is a complete Angel, I am taking notes on this, as for I am the one who needs to change the most in my marriage. Everything he says is everything my husband says and I just didn't believe him. I am so blessed to have found this channel!! Thank you Paul, you are changing lives!
Me too! I am right there with you.
I really want to be better for this wonderful man of mine.
I like the “give yourself reasons to be happy”
You have the right attitude, keep on the path of opening your heart and being happy all the time.
This video offered a breakthrough for me. The idea that we can say to ourselves, "I can boost my feelings of love even higher and higher still" helped me significantly. I say this to myself all the time now. Thank you.
We are not taught that we can intentionally love or increase our love yet it is clearly true.
Paul has been a breath of fresh air!
Thank you so much. I woke up this morning in prayer and had a conversation with HS that I was to focus on a restoration on my married of 32 years ( after many destructive years) this immediately popped up on my RUclips as I was looking for worship. I subscribed and am excited about what my Father wants me to learn from you.
Its so cool how God guides us when we are recptive. Glad for you 🙏
Oh, Dear Lord! What a blessing and mind opening! Thank you so much for teaching this, I know that God has given you this undertanding of love to stop brokenness of marriages. Even thought my husband loves me, he is not happy with me, today I pray to Father God -whats wrong? It´s amazing how quickly gave me the answer through this video! Thank you!!!
Same here
It’s a life changing. This is what i badly needed to hear all of this time. I need to work out extra mile to work on my marriage and I am the one who needs to hear this! Love is all we need! Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
Glad it was helpful! Some need more like we have in our offerings themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Thank you so much for this 🙏 it’s the best advice I’ve found so far. I’ve been feeling like a bad wife and wanting to quit hurting my husband with my bad moods. I keep trying and keep messing up, then I feel so bad for him because I know I’m messing up and he deserves so much more. Thank god he’s a patient man 😅 anyway thanks so much. I’m subscribing and going to watch more.
I am so glad you found some help 🙏
Everything you said, my husband has been asking me to do. I refused and continued to be hard-headed. This week, we had a big fight he said he can't be married to a woman who's no understanding. This brought me to your page. Thank you! You're a blessing and refreshing.
Yes, but don't stop here. Get the course so you heal everything themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Found you just in time. I now understand what my husband has been trying to delicately tell me. I’m going to hold on to him tightly with these points. It’s not just about them making us happy is it? We also need to play a part in our marriage. Thank god I found you.
I am the one in my marriage that needs to change.
I need to add some of these things in my relationship, for sure this is a game changer.
Yes, it is a start...themarriagefoundation.org/system/
Thanks for such knowledge.. much needed today! I do my husband this way already but I’m going to increase it. He pours into me so much and deal with so much from my family. This is truth. Try it if you haven’t. Don’t think you’re kissing his butt because you’re not. Plus he can think the same about you. ❤❤❤❤
It is ALL about LOVE, not ego. You got it! 🙏
Better yet, a man who speaks horse sense. Thank you. I grew up in an abusive home and have had no idea to act, love and think . 42 years of marriage has been hard for me .
You are very welcome. Remember that the past pain will fade as its never been when you start to live your marriage rightly, it is designed to produce joy and it is never too late
The best ive heard
Learning alot.
I believe that anger is a messenger - when it appears, it’s because you want something. You’re not sure how to get what you want, or maybe you’re not sure what it is that you want. It’s a message, telling you to look for what you want - do you feel unfairly treated? Are you hungry? Do you need to change something?
Many people don’t know how to get what they want, or, they just don’t think about what the best way to get it is (they may act on impulse instead of weighing the options). Releasing yourself of anger takes practise to pause, notice that you feel angry, ask yourself what you want, and then ask yourself, “what is the best way for me to get that, whilst feeling proud of myself?”
This is just my take on it. My perspective.
Happy for your feedback on this, Paul.
Only because you asked... the mind's job is to control its host. It is best to rise above it and its endless desires. "Seek God first" and all you need will be well provided.
I have gotten so much out of this! Just what I needed to hear and I’m going to listen to this every single day. I’m not married yet, but my boyfriend and I are looking towards the future together, so this is very valuable advice. Thank you, thank you thank you!❤
Yes! When you two are ready be sure to get our premarital courses so you are well prepared for love and joy than always grows. 🙏
You can choose your behavior and reactions - if only more people would understand and apply this! The world world would be a better place and we would have many happy marriages instead of divorces and heartbreak!
Thank you for your wonderful lessons 🌸
Thank you so much for these amazing videos. I've only been watching a short time, but you are already helping me so much. When you say to get rid of anger you are so right! I loved the focus on love in this video, when you spoke of pushing the boundaries of love because love has no boundaries I could feel the truth and it felt like a spiritual experience, although I know you say you are not here to teach spiritual things. But thank you, thank you, thank you. I will keep watching to keep myself on the path to an ever happier more loving marriage.
I really need this message. Thank you so much ❤
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Wow!! Thanking God...for bringing me to this video ..its A message of Healing and love in itself...God bless you.
Wow this video is beyond helpful! Thank you so much for sharing ❤
It's really helpful.thankyou sir
This is amazing thank you so much.
I am glad you find our philosophy about marriage helpful
Thanks sor
Thank you very much, Paul, for sharing with us this another beautiful and true teaching. As you say, this is common sense, yet it is difficult to put it into practice sometimes. I wish you could talk about humility in marriage as well. Without humility, this may be more difficult to achieve. I have just bought one of your books, looking forward to reading it once arrives. God bless you:)
Thank you so much sir its very helpful. Your an angel😊
So nice of you, I'm trying 🙏
Thank you I feel like I can’t go ask for advice from my family and I feel like you answer every question I got in my mind
Thank you Sir 😢
Thank u so much ,may God richly bless and long live
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Thank you, going to try
I feel blessed to stumble on your advice Thank you for your videos.😊
Paul, thanks very much for this deep insight.
You have just gotten a new subscriber from Accra, Ghana.
God bless the marriage foundation ❤❤❤
Thank you! Can't wait to apply everything to my husband.❤️
Thankyou🙏🏻
You’re welcome 🙏
thank you ☺️
Your teachings have helped me alot.
I will keep following you to learn more.
My husband and I are picking up
Great approach the past is the past
Thank you for this
thank you sir I needed those words very much
I agree with you on all points but doesn’t all this work both ways!
There are no "both ways" in marriage. It isn't a business. It is about learning to love, unconditionally and being in joy all the time
themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Better yet, a man who speaks horse sense. Thank you. I grew up in an abusive home and have had no idea to act, love and think .
We all have "reasons" for not striving to be our best but those are from the mind to derail us from our true mission as human beings, to learn to love and live in joy
Thank you for giving us a very unique theory system from main stream psychology today, I believed your tips in each one of them. Those words are the rest of the world need to hear about more as people are deveating from religion, from unit with each other to pursue personal enjoyament and achievement. Not easy to do but we need to start having these enlighment reminders!
Yawning is very contagious too lol just making a joke even though it’s true. Loved this video, it’s helping me learn 😊
This video makes sense❤
Here for another video!!!!❤❤❤ Also Merry Christmas!!🎄🌟🎄🌟
I hope i can
Learn how and do it. I am sure you can
Thanks so much!❤
Brrakthrough is an understatement..i started crying
If my any one lying to me how can I forget this it's very hard .what should I do.
Instead of worrying about it, your not a policeman, concentrate your efforts on creating a love filled and joy filled marriage.
I wish you were my grandpa I could call all the time.
Even I wish ....
You can do everything on this list - but when you withhold your affection, kissing and sex from your husband - no amount of gifts, compliments or niceness will make up for not connecting with him, period - it simply won't.
I would say you are right. Affection is very important to our connection and one must be proactive in showing it. 🙏
You are like My father.
So if he has habits that affect his family but he won’t stop. I’ve talked about it and he refuses to discuss. When subject is brought up he is angered.
Is marriage not to be for both sides
It makes it difficult when only one partner tries and the other one keep on doing all that can be wrong
Marriage is very much for both soulmates, one "side" so sometimes only one can build the bridge. But both will use that bridge
I have a question my husband loves to stay in house and doesn’t allow me to go out alone and doesn’t take me out what should I do he says I want to protect you and he doesn’t like to go out as much I want to create memories and enjoy doing activities together what to do sir
Put more attention on your husband for now until the love within you is so stirred up that all else counts for naught. Then, that love will deliver all you need.
I pray to be more merciful and forgiving. I mostly see white, but ignoring the black dots seems to have enabled my husband to be unproductive.
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So we have to become saintly and angelic.... but you're right . Hopefully he follows my example.
More hopefully you learn to love without expectations of him.
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Is so hard wife will stay calm and the husband is crabby ,he is a temptation,stress you up ,accoused you ,angry and be proud of him .how can you be proud of him.Yes he is a provider but a hisband should make a wife happy first and he should be calm and love and be patience to his wife so the wife will be a loving person.If a husband is crabby everyday how can a wife be loving ,wife will dislikes and hate the husband like that.He is like a devil a temptation everyday
Bringing your preconceived ideas abour marriage to me won't help you with yours. Listen to more videos until you start to see the light.
Should you be doing all these things even when the man is a chronic cheat??
Ah, of course you should always behave in the most admirable ways you can, from the heart and not depend on anger and hurt to decide how you will be... have you looked at all our offerings? themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
thank you soooooo much