How to Begin Dealing With PTSD
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Are there other resources out there that you would recommend for PTSD? Books?
Trauma shapes a person. A person can't change trauma, the trauma changes you ... #afflictions are part of our fallen sinful world... Everyone has them...
Secret programs have secret victims. I have no place to off-load this. 18
Months? 😅 33 years and counting. The childhood traumas almost seem small, yet still there. Like a shitty guide book I can’t trust. Secret victims need secret counseling that’s just not available.
"You are so nice" a sentence said to me years ago by a man I hardly knew saved me when I had to acknowledge the hell a couple of people made of my life.I had helped and saved hundreds by that time already but that didn't count,as I was doing it for them not for me and it's impossible to make it up for something you didn't do. .
It is hard to walk for hours crossing streets without seeing the cars, not being able to understand what people are saying, watching the letters dancing like in another language, falling on the ground of any park as you can't even keep your eyes opened, waking up every single time to discover you are not death. Losing your memory again as everything is PAIN . Afraid of walking in front of any high window as the gravity has turned to pull you through it.... and so... so.... painful when you refuse to fall and walked away from it. When the collapse came with the silver heads spinning around in the darkness I was in, the only one who kept me living was that forgotten memory,....... he standing in front of me saying " You are so nice" and he kissed me on my forehead before leaving.
It wasn't my fault anything, I knew it,but I could not feel it as I could not accept until then what they did... and for a stranger that had nothing to win with me I was worthy, and not a despicable human being guilty of the acts of others . A kindly act can save many lifes.
Thank you very much Dr. Peterson. I wanted to add from personal experience. Stellate Ganglion Block. Develop by Eugene Lipov has been a game changer to calm the nervous system with chronic complex post traumatic stress.
It's like a perpetual loop. Once that memory re-emerges in your head, you spend all your time preoccupied with it and you can't get it out. It's like when you try telling someone to stop thinking about something, that ends up being the only thing they can think about.
It's insane isn't it. My brain counters it by shouting at me.
The loop is devastating. I’ve found that it at least has been occurring less and less frequent. But my wife and kids are very much aware of the need for me to have space when it happens. The very last thing I want to do is lash out to someone I love when I’m in that negative head space.
A father for those who never had one.
I have CPTSD and was literally done with life. Everyone told me that I live too much in my head, let it go, your crazy etc and then I saw a video of yours that describes exactly how I feel and for the first time EVER, I felt validated. I wasn't crazy anymore, I was acting and thinking within my current nature and reality. I continued to watch your videos and can proudly say that I had successfully awaken the monster. I do not tolerate any way, shape or form of abuse and after doing your online personality assessment, I rated 97 percentile in assertiveness. I truly believe you saved my life and it all started with validation.
Thank you 🙏
I feel your pain. This is exactly what happened to me. I've heard him speak for years, but as im going through another traumatizing event...this is validating and healing at the same time. As well as the people that can relate whom are commenting here now. Like yourself. I wish you happiness and peace, my friend.
Also....I just posted this video online and wrote that JP is saving my life...it almost brought a tear to my eye reading he's done the same for you!
@@dianakarina8080 thank you! 🙏🌻
I can one hundred percent relate. I believe very strongly that J B Peterson IS the antidote to suffering. I introduce him to everyone and anyone I find that goes through troubling times.
He has inspired more than anyone I've ever known.
I wish you wisdom, courage and determination in everything you do friend.🙏🌻
@@dianakarina8080 im Proud of your progress guys, nothing but love ❤ 🥹
I feel the same, yet I still find myself in chaos while doing the past authoring. Wish I can find a solution sooner or later so that I can review this comment.
It’s only when you start to recover that you realize how true this is
You will be so much stronger
why do people say you cant recover from it. i just wanna hear your opinion about it ?
I am nearly completely out of ptsd today. Outside is beautiful.
How do you know if you dont mind me asking?
@@wenniewarriorpost traumatic STRESS DISORDER. not yelling, just emphasizing to make sense. If you don’t have dysfunctional stress regulation you are free. Really ironing out the good and evil philosophy like Peterson says to works perfectly.
I watch this video often when I have issues that are about or relate to the past that I can’t solve or understand, and normally solve them by the end of the video. Some of these problems being solved made me no longer worry about things that made me vomit daily for over a decade. The underlying psychological structure is real and can be repaired to a great degree even if everything seems completely unmanageable sometimes.
Please help me, I thought I was out, something similar just happened and I'm a wreck. I'm not okay SOS
@@beatrixkiddo5 what ahppened
I would love to know what’ve been doing / your routine of practices / medications to move out of PTSD. I’m going through such a hard time with sleep…unable to get restorative sleep no matter what I do.
Trauma, depressive episodes, and anxiety(what could/would possibly be deemed as CPTSD) over time are what I was told by mental health professionals is what led to my gait(walking) issue starting in 06'. I've used a cane for the past decade or so and through enough emoting(etc?) I move better than I did years ago. I very often (especially lately) think about the experiences that contributed to my various challenges. By speaking aloud(to someone appropriate) and telling these stories I'm able to essentially psycho analyze myself and feel better and get better to an extent..time to vocalize now.
Take a look in E. Sarno books. He was healing people in similar way.
Forgiveness is the key.
It reconnects you to the life you forgot you are.
Quite honestly, I've listened to JP for yrs now but never REALLY LISTENED 👂
He is a God send, you can tell he has been through alot and really wants to help humanity, at its base core to heal. To evolve past our emotional or mental imbalances.
I'm going through a very traumatic and debilitating grief as I type this. I almost had to be hospitalized because I couldn't eat or go anywhere without crying. All I did was shake and cry for 2+ weeks. I already was diagnosed ptsd, dysthymic depression, panic disorder, GAD & ADHD (yeah I'm a nut bag lol) so it hits extra hard.
Then he started uploading things like this , the time is uncanny, everything I need to hear....
Because of him, I am finally just starting to see that there maybe light piercing through the darkness. He is right. Make your bloody bed! 😄
*Remember* you can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved. They'll keep dragging you down with them & the depths get deeper and deeper each time.
This is a lesson I'm still struggling with and has put me in the worst life circumstances. MR. Peterson's writings and lectures are reinforcing the wisdom and strength that can be gained with said lessons.
My prayers 🙏 ❤️ for everyone struggling or living with someone struggling. WE'LL make it thru this.
Sorry for what you have been through. Stay strong. Thank you for posting your story.
A man I thought was good used me and hurt me. I was literally levelled by it, not so much because I didn’t know people could be malevolent in that way…. But because I didn’t have any concepts of my own weaknesses and faults that enabled me to place myself in that situation. First I refused to even accept that they had done what they did to me and tried to interpret it in ways to avoid admitting it. Then I cried for months in pain, and for about a year was obsessively thinking it over in my head. My productivity crashed. My health failed me. It was embarrassing to even tell anyone that I could be so destroyed by something objectively small compared to other things. But I think Peterson is bang on… it was the shock to my conceptual architecture that caused the trauma, not the actions of the person. I emerged from this completely changed insofar as personal values, concepts and beliefs. The entire narrative of my life and past has been reconfigured. I died, and through repentance have been made new.
Scourging, crucifixion and resurrection.
Anyway, I like to compare all this crap with bone growth in childhood.
Growth pain.
It doesn’t seem to work without it, unfortunately.
@@svenboelling5251 "growing pains" are actually repressed rage. Look up John E Sarno, "Healing Back Pain" (free audiobook on RUclips). His work changed my life as much as JBP.
When you say it was the shock to your system and not the actions of the person that caused the trauma, this upsets me.
I want to point the finger at her, she did this and then my heart, brain and soul broke all at the same time. She caused the shock to my system that made it collapse. It feels like a minimization of what they did. How can you as an individual (the victim) do that and feel ok with yourself and what happened? That makes it your fault for not being prepared for that type of evil. Your systems were weak.
Also, at the end you mention repentance. For the past month or so I’ve been reading the Bible and trying to develop a relationship with Christ to help me finally get over this and onto a better life. Im not sure if this is what you did as well and are alluding to do can you please elaborate? Thank you.
when trauma is extreme enough, it will kill the ego, and then "god" or whatever your personal beliefs are about spirituality, will lift you up since you have no other choice to be strong. its within this persistence of treading on when youre already broken is when you grow the most and become the strongest.
Loving how much content is out recently. Keep up your great work Dr Peterson!
Ya can’t wait to see what he does with his new streaming deal
when you told the story of the girl and her brother, i had an intense epiphany and started crying and laughing at the same time, my wife looked at me and i just said "it was good that my mom left my dad!" she saved our lives, it crushed his world but it gave us a chance, i had been blaming her because of so many thoughts he put in my head, or as a way to make sense of it all, it was a tragedy, but it was also a courageous move, my mom is my hero.
I wish my children would see this. Thank you for being brave enough to have dealt with it.
Peace be with you.
Fear is always near
A close companion
Never far away
Sometimes it whispers
Sometimes it shouts
Sometimes it shudders
At the glimpse of a ghastly ghost
Hovering just out of sight
Hiding in a brain
Rewired by the terror of one dark night
Once a trusted protector
Now a faulty danger detector
With a missile guidance system
Firing at both real and imagined threats
Repairs are underway
I hope it's fixed one day
Until then
Fear for me
Is like an once close buddy
Suffering from PTSD
I feel everything you said ❤️
I worked for the railroad for 15 years was the golden boy that could do no wrong, I excelled at everything I did…. My life was perfect then it began to happen… my first critical incident happened when I was 23 and the woman was still alive when I walked back after witnessing the horror of her being struck by my locomotive.. I immediately began to act out…self medicate….blame thinking I was bad inherently…. Fifteen years later and 8 more fatalities later I am homeless fired and completely defeated until I saw this video thank you dr Petersen you saved my life
My life is a series of failures and traumas, so I am constantly seeking out contingencies. I expect the worst and hope for a decent plan to combat it. My PTSD (not a veteran) is quite the mental chess match without check mate. I found that openly discussing my traumas has helped by numbing the emotional impact. Every time I talk about it, the pain is lesser and lesser. Ha, the Preto distribution. The good side to all of it is the pursuit of knowledge and the want to help others. Psychology or even psychiatry might be avenues in my future. Thank you Dr. Peterson for your bountiful knowledge and at no expense. Very kind of you.
Have they really been failures? Or have they been lessons learned? I don't think anything counts as failure, short of you stopping putting in your all. I have a question for you, if you're expecting/focusing on the "could happen" worst case scenario, then how do you have time to plan ahead of time to ensure that you prevent what you don't want to happen, ahead of time. If you're planning on the worst, then you're probably going to make it happen. Kind of a self-fulfilling negative cycle. You get to choose to fight against your demons every day, or let them hold you back from the satisfaction and full life you could be experiencing instead. I know it's so hard to take a risk, but you aren't really living if you don't take up on offered experiences. You can't get past the past if you dwell on it all the time. Dwelling won't change it. The only way you can make for a better future for yourself is by changing how you think about yourself and life. I'd recommend CBT or psychodynamic therapy. No point going at this struggle alone when you could be learning coping skills and getting support from a trained professional.
@@echofoxtrot2.051 I appreciate your feedback more than you know. This is exactly why I like to be open and vulnerable. I am going to read this comment several times and meditate on it. I see my “failures” exactly as you said. Along with the traumas, they are truly the most valuable lessons learned and I wouldn’t take them back because they have allowed me to be tougher than hell when I need to be. I get hung up on “why” and “what if”. In my neuroticism, I worry about something terrible happening to my kiddos and my response. My mothers suicide nearly broke me, so naturally my mind cannot compute another huge loss. I know I need to breathe and honestly stop over thinking things. I have beautiful children who deserve only the best and yet I let these mind games retard progress. I know and see the problem but can’t seem to get a grip. Thank you once again.
@@jakenicholson926 I second his recommendation on CBT, it worked for me and I had some ugly stuff too.
psychiatry is evil and not every psychologist is carl jung
Lately i have been vocalising what i go through to the therapist despite reluctance. I'm sure it does help
For PTSD Process orientated psycology is the number 1 format. It resets the brain without having to think about and relive the trauma . Its fast working which is also important as many go through so many professionals who make it worse often .
I’m lost. I’m just twenty years of age but it feels like I’d never be able to come out of this. I feel embarrassed to show care or love for others. I’m going deeper and deeper in this pit.
I’ve been where you are. I’m 45 yo now and much more stable than my 20’s. If you drink alcohol or do drugs, quit now and give yourself time to heal and figure yourself out❤
Peace be with you.
I found that people do and say nice things as a sign that you can be safe (emotionally or otherwise) around them. That's why some feel better after being distressed when you do or say something nice, because its like they can accept your invitation to emotional peace and safety.
I've been there also I'm in my 30s and only just been diagnosed with ptsd and trying to cope but it's alot to take in tbh
How amazing would it have been to have JP as a college professor?! Teachers are rarely as passionate and knowledgeable as this!!
I have Aphantasia and SDAM(about 1% of population) . I don't have imagination and my memory is very weak. I never think about past and future and always live in a moment. I have maybe 15 memories from my childhood (I'am 30). But in comparison to other people in the community I treat this as a blessing. Not being distracted my memories, no daydreaming, being a master of daily habits and consistency, lack of cravings to the certain extend (no memories of voices, images, smells), ability to move on quickly, forget about people/events instantly if I have to. I never miss people cause I can't recall vivid memories with them but once I see them even on the picture everything comes back to normal (I'm not a psychopath. It's been studied already. Part of the brain responsible for emotions works normally). It's a blessing. Taoism
That's a good man right there.
His new short videos and new content is amazing. Really helpful
Your work will be remembered as the Peterson rebellion.
Thank you JP 🙏🏻
amen brother man, learned more from this RUclips channel than years seeking help with VA, I feel I am on my way out of my decade long funk by trial by fire, connection and reflection 🤙🏼
Love this man, he's the real deal. Very helpful.
Thank you. This is excellent validation of what I observed in practice. Talking people through their severe life stressors in a clinical setting allowed them to acknowledge and reduce their stress. I saw lab values change based on this alone.
Very enlightening, thank you Dr. Peterson.
The Body Keeps the Score is a book that introduced me to this terrain.
Thank you. This lecture saved my life.
Thank goodness! A doctor who understands ❤️
I was in the military for a few months. Couldn't stay there any longer because everytime I looked myself in the mirror and saw me wearing the army uniform I had the urge to puke. I could not imagine that I was someone who could kill another person. With JP' teachings I then started to realized It was because I had not yet developed a sophisticated view on myself and my good and my evil parts. I was a disintegrated person. I would have definetly been a PTSD candidate If i went to combat.
Then yesterday I had a dream: A man was following and trying to kill me with his bare hands. I had several chances to defend myself with a handgun and kill him. But I did not do it because I had empathy with him, even though he was trying to kill me. As soon as I laid down my weapon, he continued to followed me. I ran away and out of fear aimed at him again. I couldn't pull the trigger. So I ran away again. Even though the man knew I had a weapon and he did not he was still following me, because he knew: I would not pull the trigger.
I then woke up and realized and this shaped my view on good and evil completely: Evil comes in all forms and shapes. Sometimes there's even sympathy for someone evil because there's no pure evil except the devil himself. But evil has to be defeated without hesitation or it will keep following you. You have to be a monster, and then learn how to control it.
Just stick with the video games kid
@@Gdawg0331 I don't play video games, but you do it seems. Your point?
I'm curious why you joined?
@@labornurse I wanted to discipline myself
As a former drill sergeant I've dealt with people like you. You most likely have some mental health issues that has nothing to do with actually serving in the military.
You most likely joined to try and run from your problems only to realize the problems were still there. Then made an excuse as to why you were separated before completing basic training/boot camp, or MOS training.
Get some help and take ownership in your life setbacks. You will become a stronger person.
Oh this explains exactly where i am right now. I call it survival mode but its on the dot how you described it. I had suspected PTSD but this kind of confirmed it. Ive never been abused but i have been emotionally hurt really bad and after that my brain started registering everything as a threat. I started having panic attacks a year ago. Now its less frequent but its been acting up a little again. Im gonna try the writing autobiography and see if it helps. Thanks for an informative video. It helps because i have never been this low on the bottom before in my life.
Thank you just thank you
Thanks Jordan. I have PTSD but I will survive and I will learn to live a much better life than I have been. Age 30. I have a lot to appreciate in my life with the time I have left. Life is good if you make it that way
It took me 8 years, but I got there. Thank you Dr Peterson.
Ugh the same thing with the young kids happened to me and on my own the more I thought about it the more I realized there was bad sense of boundaries in the family and we were very little and I blame the adults now
Very helpful! 👉❤
Thank you
Thank you doc .. so true
Daily wire staff has put these clips on overdrive. Fantastic,
Extremely helpful insights! Thank you very much for sharing!
These clips keep me human
Im entranced in this man’s words and following along and he’s speaking to me and…
I happen to look at the kids who actually there. Most have their dang heads down and staring at a screen?!?!!
How can you not pay attention to this?!?!? Mind boggling.
I love this man. ❤
This is so true in 2011 I had a breakdown from a realationship with a malevolent person who really done very sneaky cunning evil things to me over and over again he was a bad person it took years and years for me to recover from him and still today im weary of people and to have a realationship with someone is something I really can't contemplate that is my life as after the breakdown I was in a terrible place in life very scared of everything it just does not change for years
I feel you on this. ❤️
Great video describing PTSD and I agree with most of the comments. The only thing that helps traumatic memories is time. It is not only what happened to you but it is the horrible things that you also may have seen. It gets complicated if you have suffered many traumatic events as well.
brilliant
An action common among Humanity that can INDUCE PTSD: The Pecking Order. What I went through for years I can share a lot about this topic.
I wasn’t in the military but listening to military veterans made me realize I had PTSD. As they were detailing their PTSD it made my eyes open. I’ve been trying to heal from that. It is extremely hard.
I have nightmares every time I sleep. It doesn't matter if I'm taking a nap or a full night of sleep. They're never about things that happened, they're always complex and inexplicable but they are draining me more and more.
Very helpful in working with eft clients
Very much logical
Have had the same PTSD from bloody combat when deployed to Iraq in 2007. Still right here with me. Don't think its leavin anytime soon.
God bless you I hope time and gourage helps you❤
I've lived in such a state for like 17 years (+ immigration trauma) & several years of EMDR therapy helped me off of it.
Besides other self authoring programs, writing about my past is still painful to me to get it done. I don't know which perspective should I take to set myself in a rightful posistion in order to make the authoring helpful for the future.
I'm conflicted on the concept of examining the previous trauma and basically telling your brain that you are not in danger anymore.
I think it's fantastic advice, but what about for the traumas that were not caused by another person or yourself, but just by happenstance. Two examples for me is a severe car accident where I was at fault and the only one involved, or going into preterm labor that resulted in loosing my child.
How are you supposed to let go of those fears when there is almost nothing you can do to actively prevent those things from happening again?
I don’t agree with a lot of what JP says on other subjects outside his domain of expertise, but I’m also not in the habit of throwing the baby out with the bath water. Talks like this are where he excels, this content is really helpful.
I had an episode a month back, 3am heat stroke amd anxiety attack. My entire system was out of control due to my equilibrium, it went apesh*t and I derailed as i hyperfocused on it. Distraction and focusing on other things has helped me not expect a repeat, my hypertension has been through the roof and my nerves are at Peak sensitivity. All of this due to extremely stressing myself out. Heat, lack of food and water, expressing a ton of anger at Bill Gates, and not getting enough sleep. On a finer note, The sooner y'all put his severed head on my desk I will start feeling better.
Oh just live with it .
I wish I could join that class to help me deal with my trama
This is basically my lived experience. I struggle to get past my childhood. It was filled with violence, emotional abuse, verbal and other assaults, fatherlessness and substance abuse.
These have filled my life right through to adulthood, and when I eventually ran away as a late teen, I have never been able to get past the memories, and the blanks in memory.
So I basically can’t sleep, and live in a hyper alert mode.
Fun…
Learn to recall events without reliving them. The memories don't go away, and you must be able to unpack and repack them whilst keeping yourself at a distance. There are tools and methods to help with this.
"OK, you're back here now, so be normal." Hardest part for me was simply attempting to be "normal.." because it was somebody else's version of normal that I was supposed to be.
PTSD imparts a different normality, and it is critical to understand that you are still normal (neurotic but not psychotic, that's pretty much what normal means) but now informed by uncommon discovery. The psychosis comes from fighting that.
I am not an expert on anything. Find your own way, but I do hope this meager contribution helps someone somewhere.
i was recently at the first meeting of parents and teachers and we all sat in a circle and someone told us that everyone can say a thing or two about themselves and intruduce themselves. i got nervous and i knew that i hated that situation. but i tried to calm myself and said to myself it was going to be fine. it wasn't.
when it was my turn it was like my peripheral vision went black and my eyes went straight to the ground. it took me about a second to recover and i forced myself to say some normal things, which went quite well. i didn't say much and i knew that it's obvious from the outside that i was having some kind of trouble. i was sure the people there would be understanding of it. so it could definitely have been worse. but that experience hit me pretty hard. i did not at all think that i would ever enter that sort of state. and i'm not sure where it somes from either. i also don't know how to get this resolved since i don't know if i will be in that situation again.
i'm a rather quiet guy and there's lots of reasons for it, other than just being shy or something. i was actually pretty sure i could talk to a crowd of people with a bit of preparation. i've done things like that in the past, where i spoke in front of a class freely enough and that went well. so this is weird and i don't quite know what to do
The term is allostatic load.
What if someone is living in an ongoing threatening situation? Such as living in a country at war?
Finally a conservative Christian psychological view of ptsd thank you
What about this has to do with religion or politics?
My PTSD was caused by my experiences as an interrogator at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. I was in Iraq too, but that didn't bother me as much for some reason.
This explains how returning to ( my childhood) Catholic church has helped to heal me.
When i hear this i 100% have PTSD. I should've never have let this happen to myself. I knew the dangers, but now i know them better.
You start with the Wim Hof method. Where did I learn about this? Oh, yeah, from Dr. Peterson.
Wow, I don't feel like I have the final answer yet, but at least I now have the ability to define the problem. That is exactly what is happening to me in multiple areas of my life. There are several important areas of my life where my failure is 100%. I completely own that I must be doing something wrong, but there are literally millions of possible explanations of what those things are. If I had the ability to figure it out on my own, I would have figured it out. Heck, I have spent tens of thousands of dollars trying to figure a lot of it out. I have talked to friends and therapists and coaches trying to figure it out. The most common response I get is, "Deep down, you know exactly what you are doing wrong." The second most common response I get is some variation of, "Why do you keep telling yourself that story?" or "You get what you attract. If you would just stop having limiting beliefs everything would change." Well, maybe that is true, but I have spent decades trying every possible way I can think of to not have those limiting beliefs. Also, often "the story" I'm telling myself is me for the first time in decades being able to put a label to something that has been bothering me, so I have only had that explanation for less than a week when I tell it. If it was me telling myself the story that is causing the problem, then I should only have had that problem for a week, not decades. Also, it is interesting that when I finally did have words to describe the problem a little and understand it a little bit better, the pain got a little less and my strategies got a little better, so the idea that me understanding the problem is also the reason I have the problem in the first place just doesn't track with my experiences. Anyway, it does make sense that the reason I'm always on edge is because my mind is keeping track of my win to loss ratios, and when the loss ratio is literally 100% they idea that I can extrapolate from only failures to derive what I'm doing wrong and what creates success is highly unlikely. It is when you have both successes and failures and can compare the two that you can finally start extrapolating the answers, or at least when someone who is outside of you who has had successes who can give you feedback on your strategies, or at least give their personal strategies, that you can finally figure that out. And that isn't my mind just worrying about nothing. It comes with real consequences. It is why I have no romantic partner. It is why I have no children. It is why I may be homeless soon. The mind would be foolish NOT to take that seriously. Watching this and getting that understanding and perspective is so cathartic.
he's right just lost 15years to it.And its not just sleep you lose
This exposure therapy doesn’t only apply to people who suffer from PTSD but has good health benefits for most people.
I’ve recently been triggered and my ptsd has been in overdrive and I can’t get out. I’m not ok. My mood is super low. My energy is super low. My emotions are super low. How can I make it stop? I’ve tried talking about it. I’ve tried writing. I’ve tried to get out and do things but nothing is helping.
He kept pushing my buttons. I tried to walk away he said “you’re acting like a bitch” really? That’s when I turned into someone else and everything has been downhill since. He left but idk where or when he’ll be back. I need to make him stay away but bc of our kids I don’t keep that damn boundary. But after these past couple weeks I feel myself getting more angry and more ready to say stay away and leave us alone bc you’re causing more pain than love.
I’ll be ok. I’m strong. I’m just so tired of allowing this to happen to myself and children. Let me not forget the ones that I talk to that love and care about me. It hurts them too.
Just a note. I think the person around me is a narcissist. Because when I watch videos about this it’s like the video is about me and him. Especially when he gets a reaction from me and then tries to make me seem like I’m crazy and the problem when I was happy and when crap happened I tried walking away to avoid problems but he couldn’t be happy with that reaction so he had to keep poking.
Gosh I’m so angry
I had a traumatic sexual event happen when I was 18, I’m 30 now, I could have avoided it, I was drunk, I went into a kind of numb depersonalised state. It has made me feel bad/cringe as recently as a couple of days ago. I don’t know what to do about it. I have written about it. Maybe I need to write more or read again what I’ve written, I’m not sure.
Unfortunately, most of what I call PTSD is from my past , and the past has been brought up again but in a way that's been told from others who were never there, and lost that many people to drugs , and suicide etc I still carry to this day , and there's not much I can do to change facts of past , no matter who tells them , I know I've tried to be sympathetic with many younger people who have been let down , and I've taken care of my kids as much as I could ,
Now just help me understand how to tame macrocephalic emotional self control impairment and address the 40% impact on executive function due to the PTSD as a HSP and I’ll be ready to roll!!
4 and 6 and unsupervised they were doing that, which is normal, but society forgets to tell people that. Society tells a story of children who wouldn't be interested in such things nor be mean about such things. If you too were unsupervised but not mean about such things with lots of other similar children and then were to tell the truth about it later, a lot of people would have very mean and nasty things to say about you. You aren't supposed to tell those truths.
Had a meeting with an Old Accutaned Psycopath reasonently...
Been thinking about looking up the old version of this video...
Sleep 4h a day 6-10days a and then crashes and sleep 16h..
Been thinking I have to become a Monster to Fight this Old Monster that owes me a hefty sum of money
I just cannot function at all. My alertness keeps me awake and my overstimulated amygdala makes it impossible to function. I’m barely employable at this point.
Ok so debriefing help to set right what was misunderstood of the episode.
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what are the computers for? what are they typing? i imagine its something like instead of watching the video you just went to the comment section and started typing notes while you listened. maybe for some it helps, but i'd bet if most students trained in listening and retaining information without note taking they would learn more. idk, note taking is definitely not my style, hard to relate
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My girlfriend is 23 and has a very big mental problem... ironicly this video helps me to understand it. When she was 18 she had a "sugar daddy" that she didnt had sex with, but he went to a cinema with her that showed "adult movies". She was blindfolded when they went there and had to take it off when they got inside. She said "i dont like it here" and she had to put the blindfold back on. Then he moved her into a darkroom where she was raped by about 30 to 50 men over 2-3 hours (tied down... he told the other men it's her fantasy to get raped and she had a ball in her mouth so she couldnt yell. It's hard to explain what happens with your brain when you get raped over hours from different men and how it changes your feeling of "beeing in controll" and that you will be scared for the rest of your life to lose controll again).
The worst part is that she never talked about this untill like 1 year ago when we came together and i concluded that something must had happen to her, because she refused to sleep without light and what she told me didnt make any sense.
She has PTSD, because when her ex stalked her (coming to her place in the night) and the guy that she sold something on ebay (what ever that was) also stalked her..she conncted darkness with problems and not the behavior of the guys. She cant sleep before 3am, because after 3am the "darkest part of the night" is over and THEN she can sleep. The ironic part is that she still thinks that making idiots pay for stuff is ok and she didnt came to the conclusion that this guy is bad and meeting stranger is the reason why it happened, because "men give money = good thing". She refused to give up her lifestyle, because going to work herself for low money isnt "her thing" when she can meet 3 guys per week that buy used socks from her for 300$ each. If they say "it'snt that expensive" then she just says "then you're to poor and i'm to exclusive" and she just looks for another weirdo.
Dont know what to say...she looks like a supermodel and i dont want to leave her because of what happened to her (she's basicly a 9,5 out of 10), but the fact that she still thinks that selling used underwear or asking "fiendzoned guys" to buy her stuff that she cant buy herself dives me nuts.
She says "it doesnt hurt you" and in the end i also somehow dont mind if other idiots pay for random stuff and i can keep my money, while still having her. I mean she really doesnt do anything with them...she even WANTS to send me her live GPS on whatsapp so that i know where she is... she's shopping or eating...
But I find it strange that she thinks that this is the correct way of living and she doesnt connect the BS that turned her into the "i cant sleep at night" controll freak that cant even get on a train (only lets others drive her to takes a taxi), because she could get a panic attack, because she cant get out of a moving train but she can tell the driver of a car to stop. She is scared about beeing locked into a "moving box" or that someone could look the door, because she couldnt get away/out from the cinema and when the guys stalked her... she couldnt get out of the front door.
This is so stupid and didnt make any sense... untill now, because i start to see that her stupid behavior is based on "well, i get free stuff and it worked 99,9% of the time" why stop? She refused to think about this, because she didnt want to think about the bad memory and wanted this to go on..
She never encountered someone this evil and he said "i'm sorry, i didnt know it would be that bad for you" and SURE she wanted to think about this like "nothing bad happend... i'm fine...." so her logic finally makes sense to me.
Run.
You need to stop seeing her and stop sleeping with her. She's not doing the work to heal properly and will destroy your life for trying to fix her.
Leave her to Heaven. Forget what she looks like.
There is something very wrong with you if you think it's even vaguely appropriate to write things like this about your partner in a RUclips comment.
You're either full of shit and it's naught but a fable, or you both have serious issues
For the sake of your own sanity, leave her.
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Dealing with my PTSD was best with a partner who listened patiently. The shrink I was going to labeled me a danger to society. That’s the corruption of healthcare in Canada. Those crooks love the paycheque with zero work and responsibility. I notified the local commanding officer of the issue. She never showed up at the military ball again.
As a combat veteran that deployed to Iraq 2003-2005 and have been trying to heal my mind since then; I’ve come to the conclusion that all of you therapists have no clue what you’re talking about when it comes to battlefield PTSD.
When you have to step over dozens of dead civilians torn apart by an IED blast and you have to make sure there are no more IEDs; only to have an insurgent use a woman as a human shield right in front of you……..I don’t think you psychologists know what to do with us combat veterans.
That's smart of the other soldier to use a civilian as a shield. It would give you the veteran a moment of pause. You either shoot and maybe kill the civilian and the enemy soldier or risk getting killed and the lives of your own squad. They really test your priorities. If you don't have them straightened then you're dead. I'm guessing that since you're alive now it suggest you shot without hesitation. You made a decision then and there's nothing more to think about. Even if there was, ask yourself. If you were there again, would'nt you make the same decision again? Or would you die and let some of your squad die with you? There's a price for every danm choice you make in life. You cant have everything. You can't become a soldier or veteran in your case without making decisions like that.
@@MrInfinite09 no true warrior uses an innocent to shield themselves from harm. Only cowards hide behind innocents
I am having such a hard time lately . .
Cptsd is ruining my life and my soul
That thumbnail pic is crazy because I drew an uncannily similar picture many years ago and I titled it "Panic/PTSD".
Just doesn't click with me (PTSD diagnosed in 2004, not only diagnosis). Then again I don't agree with him much, so guess debate why I watch these. Only thing haven't tried is ECT (also Borderline and told ECT doesn't work well with Borderlines with multiple diagnosis).
Well. . . I started life with traumatized parents, or with the genes inherited from trauma.
It took me decades to find out that the loss of the first child did not occur during pregnancy, but almost three months before my conception.
Dysthymia for me right from the start. .
Again and again severe depression, almost 8 years ago PTSD, because of a psychopath who had me under control for years at work and finally a trauma because I was at war with the asshole.
But what I realized only at the last moment from the dimension and it almost cost the life of an innocent person, which I can’t prove.
Through psychiatrists and psychologists in positions of power, diagnoses have been made in recent years that do not reflect any of this.
The problem began with an examination to be carried out by an expert who was a vascular surgeon.
That bastard diagnosed me with adjustment disorder after 15 minutes.
After that, I was in the clinic for 2 weeks as an emergency to get competent diagnoses and came across a morbidly ambitious station manager who passed on one of his mistakes to me to maintain his inhuman 0 error rate, which reminded me of the psychopath and therefore triggered me.
I tried to explain why his character makes me sick and left the hospital, after 3-5 conversations, with the diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia.
A few years later, due to similarly short conversations, the diagnosis of combined personality disorder was added.
Or rather, the schizophrenia has been replaced.
Schizoid and paranoid personality disorder, and after I went to court, none of that. .
Instead, histrionic and narcissistic personality disorder.
The subject of psychopaths and the consequences for a victim has been completely wiped away.
Here, at least in Germany, these are the problems that have to be dealt with in the health care system.
At the end of the day, you’re a Dramaqueen.
Severe depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, everything that’s bad and costs the state a lot of money is apparently relativized and erased on the way through the system.
just as if the problem doesn’t exist.
So. . . what’s there to do? Especially when even one’s own family doesn’t want to know about this horror and apparently the majority of humanity prefers to flee into lies?
Maliciousness and all that just doesn’t exist in people’s minds, and when evil bastards sit in appropriate positions of power, it’s all hopeless.
Not completely hopeless, of course, but bad enough to make me wonder if a fight against these people makes any sense at all.
I don’t want this eternal war anymore. .
(The church of ambrosia) on youtube has the answer's
Peace be with you.
If I get woke up by a loud knocking, I don’t know where the hell I am and it takes me right back to what’s clearly caused it. I find it hard to solve because it’s only when I’m being woken, rather than awake.
You might be associating the simple sound with a past mental state. During sleep we have less control, like hypnosis, and your mind goes back to that past memory. Based on the logic in this video about reliving past trauma by writing it down repeatedly, how about finding some ring tones with loud knocking sounds and making them your standard alarm. The first morning you might get the usual response, but eventually it will become the new memory of just safely waking up. Just a thought.
@@mikeblain9973 Hi Mike, it is most definitely that. My dad woke me up in the middle of the night panic knocking on the glass window to my bedroom. 20 minutes later and my mum had passed away. During the day the sound is no issue, it’s a massive issue when I’m woke, for me and my fiancée. Thank you for that advise I will most definitely try something like this.
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so many students with screens open in front of them - _for what_ ? if you find yourself hearing a talk this brilliant try to be as present as you can. close the stupid laptop and absorb for all you are worth.
Maybe they're typing what he's saying?
MDMA assisted Psychotherapy
I sure wish JP would stick to psych & comparative religion.
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Narcissistic abuse brought me here.
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