Naturally Lynn Lol, she was sleeping with a man who was with his bm and she had a bf he found out she left him. & side dude bm bust in one day and caught them.
^No. She left her man to be with someone she thought was worth it. Also a BM isn't a relationship lmao. You literally will always be BM and BD to someone you had a kid with, sounding stupid with that... She did fuck up though being in a relationship and doing that, both were messy but the point is she thought the guy was worth the risk/chance. But he was just using her instead. So she lost in all regards. So she's an asshole for cheating but the guy's an asshole for leading her to believe leaving her man would mean they'd be properly together.
Best advice is that noone can take the piss out of u if u dont let them, listen to ur brain instead of ur heart, stop letting a feeling u feel for someone to be more important than how u feel towards urself
Ended up in a toxic relationship around the time my brother was killed, 3.15.14, 10 years ago tomorrow. This song always helps me get my anger out about that whole period of time when it haunts me. Thank you Jhene.
She's so raw with her lyrics. Ppl actually overlook the part about her cheating as well. She said she didn't want to hurt bf but she thought it was worth it, just to find out it wasn't. Cheated with someone who took advantage of her who also cheated on her. Love me some Jhene her story telling is impeccable
i overlooked that bar..... when she said cheated with someone who took advantage I thought she meant the current bf was the one she cheated with then got in a relationship with and she didnt mean to hurt her ex.... interpretation is a helluva thing huh
When she says "Cause my brother was dying, and you gave me a shoulder to cry on" WOOH I FALL APART. Imagine singing about losing a loved one, going through it is already enough. I commend her for that.
She's telling a story! That's what she does with her music! You need to listen to ALL her music and then judge. Or at least listen to more than just this song! Her albums always tell a story
Finally someone who understands the honesty and pain in a women at all time. This is outstanding she underrated because it only takes real people to understand something so beautiful👐💪👏
@@infiniteepoch8 did you hear the part where she said " I thought you were the one so it was worth it"? They both did wrong, that doesn't mean she doesn't have the right to be hurt. She took a risk because of a lie and ended up losing it all, all at the same time. She made a mistake, that is exactly what she's saying. She also said "really we should have just ended it" and several " I should have never". This song is filled with her emotions and experience, both her own and her cheaters wrongdoing.
@@infiniteepoch8 You don't have to feel sorry for her. And she has realised her mistakes, that is what the song is about. You see, when someone makes a mistake but are blissfully unaware of it because they are emotionally unavailable is one thing. But She is aware of her mistakes, she regrets and she owns up to it. This song is part "outrospect" *and* part introspect. That is where the pain lies. Retrospect is one of the most powerful perspectives we have, and she is taking the time to look back and learn from her mistakes and to own up to them. She is facing her mistakes, sharing them with us at the same time as dealing with it privately - that is actually a pretty bold move. She doesn't want us to feel sorry for her, she is simply sharing her pain and her regret. If anything I think she wanted to get it out more than she wanted to create a "piece". If you can't feel sorry for her (which you don't have to) try to see the beauty in that she is actually reflecting over the situation instead of shying away from it. Sorry about the rant it just interests me so I get a bit engaged, but I'm not trying to argue with you or anything so that is clear, I'm just talking about it with you :) (just feel like I have to say it so yiu sont get the wrong idea and get too fired up as people on yt do sometimes)
I think she did a misjudge of character. She fell in love with someone eccentric then and there because she was hurting and she [may have] thought that the love between them would wash away the pain because it seemed so real, new and exciting that she finally had other things to focus on. But then when he turned out to be a dick, she realised how much of a dick she was too (which she completely missed until that point as she was high/drunk on a fantasy) because she did Keys completely wrong and basically became the same kind of person that screwed her over. I think she is thoroughly ashamed of her actions. In some way she might feel like she got what she deserved, but in a different way I think that is a retrospect thing. Before all this happened, she was in love, she thought she was safe and she moved on from Keys, which often happens in love if someone is not the right one. So even though she betrayed him, she was in a difficult situation too and didn't know how to handle it which made it all a big mess. I think in the moment she thought she deserved "real love" because she didn't feel that with keys anymore so she thought she would get that from this other man. But he ended up being everything she thought she wasn't and then, after it's all too late, she realised that she is the same to Keys that this man is to her. I think that's what made her make the song in the first place, explaining what lead to this point in her life, explaining what hurt, what she thought would happen, what happened and didn't in addition to her own mistakes because she realised she thoroughly screwed up. I don't think she feels bad for cheating on Keys as much as she feels betrayed by herself for making the wrong choices, handling it poorly and making rash decisions which in turn hurt Keys. She definitely feels bad for him, you can hear it in her voice when she says the lines about him, but I think she doesn't feel like she deserves to say that she's sorry or to go more into that subject because she knows he doesn't wanna hear it. She definitely feels like she got what she deserved in retrospect, but more as a consequence of herself handling it poorly rather than because of her being a "cheater". If she would have broken up with Keys, told him what's up and had a real conversation about it that would still hurt but at least he would have felt more respected than he did when e had to find out himself. I think she is ashamed of her actions but I think that feeling speaks louder than getting what she deserved, because in the end everyone deserves true love and for her to be driven to this point shows that she was not Keys' true love in the first place so their relationship was destined to end regardless - the big factor is how it ended which she is definitely mad about. But what was she supposed to do? Stay in a relationship with someone she didn't fully love and deceive him that way instead? Pretend to be a perfect match for him but eat herself up from the inside? I think that in the long run, that would have made her deserve far worse than trying to listen to her heart, even though her heart was making her blind from the reality of the person she was in love with.
I'm glad I could contribute to your understanding of the complexity of these things :) I think most people in these situations, regardless of gender, have a lot of things leading up to and to deal with regarding these things and I think if we were better at asking people what's going on or putting more thought into these things regardless of what we think of it before we judge we could promote to a more fair and just way of dealing with these things as people who find themselves in these scenarios usually already have a lot of turmoil to deal with. I think the go-to way of dealing with it is often "you got what you deserved/you deserve to get bad karma from this" or "I want to get revenge on you because you should feel as bad as I do" when in reality it's often no need for such harsh and blunt reactions as the person is already going through enough even though we feel like they deserve worse. Often we are blinded by how much it hurts because "they hurt me" without realising that they hurt themselves just as much.
looking at the comments 😯 this song displays after effects of Narcissistic abuse . Remember who you were before they tainted your esteem . You are worthy and deserving of a happy , beautiful life baby .😘
2 abusive relationships, toxic as poison. Suicidal was the end result. But then i found my worth in Jesus christ. Hes the one and only man who will remain faithful, even in death.
Been there. Never thought I’d end up dealing with a narcissist. Long story short they are toxic and will put you down and bring you back up just to do it all over again with no remorse or regrets. He saw every flaw he had in himself in me because of his own insecurities and guilt. And that was a part of the cycle. It went from perfect to bad to worst without anything happening. And to top it all off I lost our son at a week old due to his “bad habits “🤷🏾♀️, while for all of six years I was dating him while he was single and chasing everybody else....no matter how much you think someone is there for you always ❤️ yourself first and harder. Everybody isn’t worth it....
This is one of those song that I would be chilling with a glass of wine in hand while tears trickle down my cheeks exiting my beautiful left and right eyes. Thinking of all the fuk up mistakes I've made allowing punk ass men in my life. After the tears have dried I would be back to my normal happy self.
You know Sean actually mentioned that too in his feature with queen naija in they hate our love. 👀 This song was definitely about Sean because he said he was there when her brother was dying
got me through my most heartbreaking breakup , i literally listened to this and 'drinking and driving' every second of everyday . i cried to this, fell asleep to this, showered to this. i truly don't know where i would be without this.
I second that. One day i was singing so heart my roommate. Was yelling to my room. Girl you better sing. I sung this so hard. I cried everyday to this song.
Seeing her cry in the car is a different kind of pain you think u can never over come but I’m here to let u know that it gets better it always hurts when you deeply love someone & u won’t forget fast or easy but I promise it gets better with time 💜 self love is the best love
I'm a MAN n I rocc wit dis shit heavy....U never know the pain u cause your significant other....when a woman loves she loves with everything she has.... they try to fully blend there life into yours....took me a long time to "fully" understand this n I'm still learning......Their God's greatest gift.....fellas treat your queens right
Revisiting this song after so many years… but really just an observation. I’m glad she called out some of the questions like “why would you call it love when you knew that it wasn’t” “if this is not love than please tell me what was it” at the end of the day, the amount of love that you have for that person pour it into yourself. A unhealed/broken man, even sometimes lacking self awareness, will look for comfort and bury their hurt feelings into women when those unsuspecting women think it’s actually love. Guard your heart and your love ladies! Because that deep hurt, sorry will never be enough because it’s as though they stole a piece of you and threw it into the ocean when it doesn’t work out. Be open to pure love but only after you know and love yourself, and can trust what a man is offering you is intentional and fulfilling.
Luba Makwelo "Pose to Be" has a great dance beat, a subject matter of degrading women, lyrics loved by many of today's young people and the collaboration of 3 (make that 2) of today's hottest artists each with their own very large fan base. I would not be surprised if the song won an award next year.
After hearing this song for YEARS this is what I got: Verse 1: She's yelling at herself at all her ex's that used her for their needs. She was cheated on and it hurt her to the point where she went to another guy. Verse 2: The new guy and her were really vibing and the sex was amazing. She was enjoying everything until " 'Quis" (I'm guessing Marquis from verse 1) found out. She left Quis for him and the new guy's baby mama caught them together. She was devastated to know that he was cheating on her too. Verse 3: Jhene reveals to us she was in a dark place and deeply sad because her brother was dying. She thought the new guy was her comfort and showed her vulnerability only for him to do the same thing everyone did to her. I'm pretty sure Marquis was cheating on her and she cheated back for revenge, but ended up falling in love with the wrong person.
IF YOU WATCH THE SCENES IN THE VIDEO IT STARTS AT THE END AND SHOWS EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENED THAT LED UP TO THAT THE WHITE GUY WHO SHE'S HOLDING HANDS WITH AT THE END IS THE GUY WHO CHEATED ON HER
Clearly she hit the nail on the head, most of these comments are so emotional, and it's in reaction to the song. Shows how easily we as people can be swept away with words, sound, visuals.
Stephanie Gutierrez Whatever she appeared, she looked damn passionate. I do not condone vandalism but for the sake of art(how she translated the emotions brought about by betrayal) t'was glorious.
+kissmiss629 Yeah that's one of those things that the entertainment industry really does us a disservice. It's emotional and it visually works so well, and often things like cars and clothing are things that people show their care for and thus more care for than the person they're cheating on. But we'd all be in the slammer if we made something look bad or destroyed stuff in reaction to all the ruined, wasted, and lost things from a bad relationship.
It's crazy how most of the guys commenting on this video, only seems to notice her burning up the shit SHE probably BOUGHT HIS BROKE ASS, n completely missing the point of the song/video.... HE CHEATED ON A WOMAN THAT PRETTY, HE DESERVES HIS SHIT TO BE BURNT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't cheat, once I fukk another nigga its already a wrap for the now "EX BF"..... I don't fukk multiple people at one time Kids do that! N my BD cut up a bunch of my clothes before, but material things come n go, bet u I have a much better wardrobe now.... lol..... When I wrote this comment though, I was going thru a cheating incident with my BF n a co worker, all I did was cut up n pour cooking grease n bleach on the mattress I bought, so he n the next hoe don't enjoy the fruits of my labor, ya know!
You missed the point of the song. She cheated on her BF to be with him. And she was mad cause he never stopped stroking his BM. That's what happens when you play that game. The video didn't fit the song. SN: If that was my stuff, I'm coming back 10 times worse.
Lol..... Basically can we all admit that when angry, the possibilities of doing something outta rage, can occur? He started as her friend while being with another guy, he comforted her during the time her brother was battling brain cancer, so in a weakened state, people do things they may later regret, but instead of continuing to hurt the other guy, she left him, feeling as though the friend was worth it, but later found that he was still meeting on the side with his bench players, lol..... It happens in life..... Ya'll been through it before....
Such an honest song. You never hear of a woman admitting to cheating. She had someone who loved her. She became interested in someone else. Turns out that relationship was not meant to be. Her dude found out so she had to leave him. In the end she was going through a lot. Making unwise decisions coping with losing a brother.
spoo man people interpret it in a personal way. I love her as an artist so I always listen to her lyrics. Without honesty and good lyricism a song is pointless.
Casey Walker ‘Cause that night turned into every weekend and Every weekend turned to every evening You took me out and left me in the deep end then Quis found out and then I had to leave him 'Cause I couldn’t be the one to hurt him Plus I thought you were the one so it was worth it I had to listen again too! Never picked up on that. Love when a person is lyrical like this
I remember listening to this almost every single day during my last year of high school. I was so young and heartbroken lol to this day it still slaps ❤
The part that literally makes my heart ache ..”And I never would’ve came into your house in the first place if I would’ve known that you would hurt me like in the worst way.” 💔 I’ll never stop listening to this song, and feeling it all in its entirety.
This song right here is EVERYTHING..This brings back memories..I remember the betrayal was so intense I wanted to get out of my own skin to leave the pain....Jhene knows how to write some songs on love that hurts...
Dear heartbroken people...nothing in this world is forever , not even life here on earth...Its ok to feel pain but you have to know everything is a beginning to an end..my boyfriend left me and I grieved for about two weeks and I was back living my life because I know heartbreak is apart of life experiences. I know it won't be the first or last heartbreak in my life..I am ready for the next one..People leave us through life or through death..its envitable...Nobody or nothing is forever..Even the seasons leave before another comes back the next year...you will find a new season a new 💘 love...
Very beautiful message. I was touched when reading this and I needed to read that for sure I really believe your comment was meant for me. Thank you for sharing such wise words. Very well said. God bless you!
@Georgia Peach I think her friend was naming all the guys that did Jhene wrong and jhene was just quoting what her friend told her in naming those guys. And right after she gives her a shout-out. Could be wrong but that was my interpretation 🤷♂️🤷♂️
This song hit different when you did your real soul mate dirty and she warned about the ones who was never gonna have genuine love for you like she did and always will
It has been a long time since I've seen a music video match up to the song lyrics so strongly. This is why Jhene Is unstoppable at the moment. Every video she has brought out for her sail out album are visually deep. This video honestly gave me a rebellious Lisa left eye vibe. Theirs only so much a woman can take before she does something crazy like burn your shit haha. All in the name of love. But can you blame her?
This shit still hurts hearing in 2024 when you've felt the exact pain, she's a true poet
Yes
I still can't get over this being a freestyle. We are spoiled with her.
hellooooo I don't think people really understand how gifted she really is
+Dewey Raines can a freestyle be written down and then performed?
NirvanaDreamin Yes. Freestyle doesn't necessarily mean it's off the top of the head.
then what is a freestyle?
Tox.sick im guessing it was the notes she chose to sing
" I was weak then, and you knew it" I felt that shit in my soul, yo
Mieshia Dyches chills
Oml
Yes! Back when this first came out I was dating someone who did similar stuff and caught me at a very vulnerable time in my life. Smh
damn rt this song so really real!!
Mieshia Dyches "chills"
Who's still here in September 2024? 😣❤
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I'm still here😊...from Cape Town ❤
@@NandiphaSithole-d6lThat’s South Africa
@@Cr7goatronaldosui Yes!
You are not the only one 😅
"Why would you call this love when you knew that it wasn't?" -still cuts deep into my soul.
Ik!!! My favorite line!
Dasha And Co. FELT THID
Also “If this was not love, then please tell me what was it?”
The way that she sang love was the best!
@@meeladsamadi lp
It's crazy how the most beautiful souls get used and abused , I thank god she put that pain into music and didn't become bitter
She also used him?? do u even listen to the song
Naturally Lynn Lol, she was sleeping with a man who was with his bm and she had a bf he found out she left him. & side dude bm bust in one day and caught them.
^No. She left her man to be with someone she thought was worth it. Also a BM isn't a relationship lmao. You literally will always be BM and BD to someone you had a kid with, sounding stupid with that... She did fuck up though being in a relationship and doing that, both were messy but the point is she thought the guy was worth the risk/chance. But he was just using her instead. So she lost in all regards. So she's an asshole for cheating but the guy's an asshole for leading her to believe leaving her man would mean they'd be properly together.
Wow. Exactly.
Bad taste in men.
"Why would you call it love when you knew that it wasn't?" Gets me every time! 🤕😭
kaiasia boyer gold fish memory.
kaiasia boyer same here
kaiasia boyer swear
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She really spoke from her heart on this one. It takes a lot to get so vulnerable. This song will never got old :(
If you listen closely yo the lyrics sound like she left a nigga for a nigga. That’s called karma
“ I was weak then,and you knew it” I felt that 😭
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that part hits too hard 😭
Stuck😭😭😭
Felt it oh so personal
Bigperiodt
Easily one of the best songs of the decade ....
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decade my nigga ?
^^^^^^^^ 😭😭😭😭😭😭
King kAS For reaaaal
The decade? Bitch where😂😂😂😂. Its still a good song though lol
"if this wasn't love then please tell me what was it" that part hit me💮
I came back to this song for that part. Narcissistic men never loved you, youre just a means to their end. It was all a lie.
Love this entire song but that part hits me every single time!!!
Literally read this while she was singing the same words
Best advice is that noone can take the piss out of u if u dont let them, listen to ur brain instead of ur heart, stop letting a feeling u feel for someone to be more important than how u feel towards urself
Lust
Ended up in a toxic relationship around the time my brother was killed, 3.15.14, 10 years ago tomorrow. This song always helps me get my anger out about that whole period of time when it haunts me. Thank you Jhene.
“I was so weak then, and you proved it.”
She just gets better and better.
for sure!!!!!
Meni Asani omg marry me!! XD
Exb
Tru af
Indeed, the lovely lady Jhene Aiko has a beautiful gift. Her voice, heart, body, essence & spirit illuminates your mind to estonishing plains...
This lady should be receiving award after award. Such a deep soulful songs. Hits your core.
Sharon Davis you're right...I'm agree!!!
This girl's lyrics doe...damn she pours her heart out on every song. You just don't see shit like that no more
Yessss!!!
actually you do
Tezzlena1x06 O, ok
***** *cough cough* August Alsina too
^^august alsina is a bubble gum r&b singer , justin biebers album went harder than his
She is seriously music therapy for me. I'll sing along to all her songs like I'm goin THRU it 😂
Yu are mi.. With all the emotions😂 and acting it all out in my head.
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me too 👀, this sounds like a problem lol 🤣😂
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She's so raw with her lyrics. Ppl actually overlook the part about her cheating as well. She said she didn't want to hurt bf but she thought it was worth it, just to find out it wasn't. Cheated with someone who took advantage of her who also cheated on her. Love me some Jhene her story telling is impeccable
Oh i always thought it had to do with keys wanting to fight the dude for cheating on her
i overlooked that bar..... when she said cheated with someone who took advantage I thought she meant the current bf was the one she cheated with then got in a relationship with and she didnt mean to hurt her ex....
interpretation is a helluva thing huh
One of the most underrated artists. Her voice is amazing lyrics are great also.
I think this is happening to me
When you realize it’s a freestyle. She just came with the whole situation in her head at the moment. Magic.
her music gives the absolute best vibes
Sooooo tru
yeeeeeeeeesss
This woman always speaks to my heart & soul 😩
I love her so much
SAME !!
+Destinee Colvin Girl did you just respond to your own comment??
she was talking to bullwinkle
yess$s$
2024 still here. Jhene Aikos music is everything
Nothing is worst than giving so much time & energy to love someone, just to end up alone in the end
PrettyBeautification so true 😩
AMEN TO THAT
PrettyBeautification bro exactly
😥 story of my life
Feel like all I've been doing is crying buckets of tears for the longest. Pssh. These dudes aint shit.
AND THE FACT THAT THIS IS A FREESTYLE OMG I LOVE HER
“But I was the only one” “so I was the only lonely one” Those words hurt, especially if you’ve ever actually experienced those feelings first hand.
Forever_ Evolving_ she said I wasn’t the only one not I was
Girl I feel u ♥
💯💔
Im late but i am currently ecperiencing this and it sucks in the worst way
one of the best songs ever written. this describes women's pain so well. i felt every lyric and melody. thank you
Yes
Istg . But I don’t think she wrote it . I think it’s a actual freestyle
The world needs more Krissy's. Like real talk
Tyra Johnson hell yeah
Tyra Johnson word
Tyra Johnson Amen.
Tyra Johnso
facts !
"I was so weak then, and you proved it." Always a reminder of the things we shouldn't have tolerated
When she says "Cause my brother was dying, and you gave me a shoulder to cry on" WOOH I FALL APART. Imagine singing about losing a loved one, going through it is already enough. I commend her for that.
yeah me too. hits my heart.
okay? LOL...
i hate sad music
if that makes u feel some type of way listen to for my brother by her
therealimlikewoa sorry for your lost
2024 anyone .? Definitely nostalgic 💜
Yuh
Definitely ♡
Yep I'm here
Man!!! you ain't never lied 😢
Yep
Is it just me but I swear I can never get tired of this song....Jhene is amazing...
+Eddie S all we ask for is honesty
I've not even kidding, legit listened to this song 90 times, maybe more...
nah when I first heard it I had it on repeat & cried to it lol
your right! it changes a mans thought of Mind soul and characteristics
TAKUMI FUGIWARA
Keying a car never looked so...... fascinating! Like I've never had the want to key a guy's ride but damn Jhene, it looked so dope.
Lmao, IKR! The running jump kills me....
When she brought up her brother that shit tore me up 💔.
star bevolo dealing with this now ...
@@taylorh2967 I'm sorry hun :( . I hope everything gets better 💗.
star bevolo thanks it’s been a few months since I’ve lost mine so this song represents it oh so well ❤️
I literally cry every time she says that part.
star bevolo facts I was so damn sad
Years later and I STILL LOVE THIS SONG
RIP to all the good girls out there.
💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔🤬
No, we’re still out here! 💪🏽
Completely destroyed 💔
Wow lol 😎
Yall should stop cheating and it wouldnt be RIP
The betrayal of it all, that's what cuts like a knife. When I get vulnerable with him and I tell him my inner fears and Pain and they still hurt you.
42893alison and they always promise th3y they wont hurt you.. liar!!!😤💔
Nicole Holder yesssss🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
42893alison it hurts
Or when they laugh about it in your face. ☹️😢
She's telling a story! That's what she does with her music! You need to listen to ALL her music and then judge. Or at least listen to more than just this song! Her albums always tell a story
man..her music n a blunt n i'll be zoned out
Yess ! 🔥
😏😏😏💨💨💨🍷
X'O
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Crazy how you can actually feel her emotions thru the song, specially if your going thru something similar to this.
Yes a break up now
I love how the music video only focuses on her and they didn’t show the male actors face.
Exactly 💯💯💯
Finally someone who understands the honesty and pain in a women at all time. This is outstanding she underrated because it only takes real people to understand something so beautiful👐💪👏
@@infiniteepoch8 did you hear the part where she said " I thought you were the one so it was worth it"? They both did wrong, that doesn't mean she doesn't have the right to be hurt. She took a risk because of a lie and ended up losing it all, all at the same time. She made a mistake, that is exactly what she's saying. She also said "really we should have just ended it" and several " I should have never". This song is filled with her emotions and experience, both her own and her cheaters wrongdoing.
@Joep GTAS and I second that btw
@@infiniteepoch8 You don't have to feel sorry for her.
And she has realised her mistakes, that is what the song is about.
You see, when someone makes a mistake but are blissfully unaware of it because they are emotionally unavailable is one thing. But She is aware of her mistakes, she regrets and she owns up to it. This song is part "outrospect" *and* part introspect. That is where the pain lies.
Retrospect is one of the most powerful perspectives we have, and she is taking the time to look back and learn from her mistakes and to own up to them. She is facing her mistakes, sharing them with us at the same time as dealing with it privately - that is actually a pretty bold move.
She doesn't want us to feel sorry for her, she is simply sharing her pain and her regret. If anything I think she wanted to get it out more than she wanted to create a "piece".
If you can't feel sorry for her (which you don't have to) try to see the beauty in that she is actually reflecting over the situation instead of shying away from it.
Sorry about the rant it just interests me so I get a bit engaged, but I'm not trying to argue with you or anything so that is clear, I'm just talking about it with you :) (just feel like I have to say it so yiu sont get the wrong idea and get too fired up as people on yt do sometimes)
I think she did a misjudge of character. She fell in love with someone eccentric then and there because she was hurting and she [may have] thought that the love between them would wash away the pain because it seemed so real, new and exciting that she finally had other things to focus on. But then when he turned out to be a dick, she realised how much of a dick she was too (which she completely missed until that point as she was high/drunk on a fantasy) because she did Keys completely wrong and basically became the same kind of person that screwed her over. I think she is thoroughly ashamed of her actions. In some way she might feel like she got what she deserved, but in a different way I think that is a retrospect thing. Before all this happened, she was in love, she thought she was safe and she moved on from Keys, which often happens in love if someone is not the right one. So even though she betrayed him, she was in a difficult situation too and didn't know how to handle it which made it all a big mess. I think in the moment she thought she deserved "real love" because she didn't feel that with keys anymore so she thought she would get that from this other man. But he ended up being everything she thought she wasn't and then, after it's all too late, she realised that she is the same to Keys that this man is to her. I think that's what made her make the song in the first place, explaining what lead to this point in her life, explaining what hurt, what she thought would happen, what happened and didn't in addition to her own mistakes because she realised she thoroughly screwed up. I don't think she feels bad for cheating on Keys as much as she feels betrayed by herself for making the wrong choices, handling it poorly and making rash decisions which in turn hurt Keys. She definitely feels bad for him, you can hear it in her voice when she says the lines about him, but I think she doesn't feel like she deserves to say that she's sorry or to go more into that subject because she knows he doesn't wanna hear it. She definitely feels like she got what she deserved in retrospect, but more as a consequence of herself handling it poorly rather than because of her being a "cheater". If she would have broken up with Keys, told him what's up and had a real conversation about it that would still hurt but at least he would have felt more respected than he did when e had to find out himself. I think she is ashamed of her actions but I think that feeling speaks louder than getting what she deserved, because in the end everyone deserves true love and for her to be driven to this point shows that she was not Keys' true love in the first place so their relationship was destined to end regardless - the big factor is how it ended which she is definitely mad about. But what was she supposed to do? Stay in a relationship with someone she didn't fully love and deceive him that way instead? Pretend to be a perfect match for him but eat herself up from the inside? I think that in the long run, that would have made her deserve far worse than trying to listen to her heart, even though her heart was making her blind from the reality of the person she was in love with.
I'm glad I could contribute to your understanding of the complexity of these things :) I think most people in these situations, regardless of gender, have a lot of things leading up to and to deal with regarding these things and I think if we were better at asking people what's going on or putting more thought into these things regardless of what we think of it before we judge we could promote to a more fair and just way of dealing with these things as people who find themselves in these scenarios usually already have a lot of turmoil to deal with. I think the go-to way of dealing with it is often "you got what you deserved/you deserve to get bad karma from this" or "I want to get revenge on you because you should feel as bad as I do" when in reality it's often no need for such harsh and blunt reactions as the person is already going through enough even though we feel like they deserve worse. Often we are blinded by how much it hurts because "they hurt me" without realising that they hurt themselves just as much.
looking at the comments 😯 this song displays after effects of Narcissistic abuse . Remember who you were before they tainted your esteem . You are worthy and deserving of a happy , beautiful life baby .😘
Dainty Dacia this.
Good words
2 abusive relationships, toxic as poison. Suicidal was the end result. But then i found my worth in Jesus christ. Hes the one and only man who will remain faithful, even in death.
Been there. Never thought I’d end up dealing with a narcissist. Long story short they are toxic and will put you down and bring you back up just to do it all over again with no remorse or regrets. He saw every flaw he had in himself in me because of his own insecurities and guilt. And that was a part of the cycle. It went from perfect to bad to worst without anything happening. And to top it all off I lost our son at a week old due to his “bad habits “🤷🏾♀️, while for all of six years I was dating him while he was single and chasing everybody else....no matter how much you think someone is there for you always ❤️ yourself first and harder. Everybody isn’t worth it....
Needed that
This is one of those song that I would be chilling with a glass of wine in hand while tears trickle down my cheeks exiting my beautiful left and right eyes. Thinking of all the fuk up mistakes I've made allowing punk ass men in my life. After the tears have dried I would be back to my normal happy self.
This made me lol. Why can't I be like this.
+Ebony Walter TF lol i love this comment
+Ebony Walter TF Real Talk girl! you gotta shed them tears in order to grow move on and remind yourself of the Queen you are!..
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Facts
When Jhene Aiko said “cause my brother was dying and you gave me a shoulder to cry on but it was nothing “ I FELT THAT😭😭
Sameeee
Felt felt felt that. Cos that really happened to me😪😪😪😪😪😪😪
Deadass :((( same ugh it hurts
Same here😭, had just lost my dad
You know Sean actually mentioned that too in his feature with queen naija in they hate our love. 👀 This song was definitely about Sean because he said he was there when her brother was dying
The guitar strums are so haunting, it may be a small piece of the song, but it so memorable and keeps me coming back.
BrocksHampton 💯💯💯
BrocksHampton fr 💯
got me through my most heartbreaking breakup , i literally listened to this and 'drinking and driving' every second of everyday . i cried to this, fell asleep to this, showered to this. i truly don't know where i would be without this.
I woulda killed a man after a break up listening to this
same
going thru that shit right now.
I second that. One day i was singing so heart my roommate. Was yelling to my room. Girl you better sing. I sung this so hard. I cried everyday to this song.
Laay ❤❤❤❤❤
Seeing her cry in the car is a different kind of pain you think u can never over come but I’m here to let u know that it gets better it always hurts when you deeply love someone & u won’t forget fast or easy but I promise it gets better with time 💜 self love is the best love
Idk smh
jhene got me feelin heartbreaks I never experienced
I'm a MAN n I rocc wit dis shit heavy....U never know the pain u cause your significant other....when a woman loves she loves with everything she has.... they try to fully blend there life into yours....took me a long time to "fully" understand this n I'm still learning......Their God's greatest gift.....fellas treat your queens right
Thank you King!!
thank you king!!!!!!! you deserve the world .
Preach
Round of applause 👏🏾👏🏾
Oh God
What I love about this video is how Jhene had Krissy right there with her keying that car...
Krissy is best friend goals tbh
Lol big ups to the bff
afeefa Valentine What?...
“Why would you call this love when you knew that it wasn’t, If this was not then please tell me what was it” the ending of the song is my favorite
This song was so good
Glad to see that there is still great artist like jhene in today's music industry. So talented and great personnality go girl!!
Right!! everybody else making all these songs that really don't mean anything.
This brings back memories....thank God I've grown...dudes be doing the most
Micaela McBride stg!
Doing the most, & blaming us bc they cannot accept the truth!
🤷🏽♂️ the games tight till you find out
Still here in 2024 ❤❤❤
"I was weak then and you knew it" most heartbreaking part of the song for me...
Lydia that part BECAUSE THEY KNOW!
Lydia ,💯💯💯
Yess
Why was i listening to that excact part when i read this . 😢
this song gives me chills every time I hear it. so powerful
Lindsey Harrell ethaan😍
florinda L.
...Grayson?
Lindsey Harrell I love taehyung💖
"cause that night turned to every weekend, every weekend turned to every evening" 💔😭😭😭
Mohau Haukiie Mafolo thee truest lyric in this entire song
Revisiting this song after so many years… but really just an observation. I’m glad she called out some of the questions like “why would you call it love when you knew that it wasn’t” “if this is not love than please tell me what was it” at the end of the day, the amount of love that you have for that person pour it into yourself. A unhealed/broken man, even sometimes lacking self awareness, will look for comfort and bury their hurt feelings into women when those unsuspecting women think it’s actually love. Guard your heart and your love ladies! Because that deep hurt, sorry will never be enough because it’s as though they stole a piece of you and threw it into the ocean when it doesn’t work out. Be open to pure love but only after you know and love yourself, and can trust what a man is offering you is intentional and fulfilling.
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She's so underrated its sickening
Agreed!
All the people who speak real shit is underrated
I don't think she's underrated...
Love her voice... real shame though; awesome voice; she’s so old school, and the very best of👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Silvia Mendes she is thooooo doesnt have the spotlight like the big names cardi etc
THIS SONG IS SO BEAUTIFUL CAN SOMEONE PLS TELL ME WHY I DIDNT DISCOVER IT BEFORE AND WHY A SONG ABOUT BUTTS IS MORE POPULAR THAN THIS
Luba Makwelo Because this generation is only about butts.
I'm sorry man...
I just don't want to be in this generation anymore.
Lana Rose
Luba Makwelo "Pose to Be" has a great dance beat, a subject matter of degrading women, lyrics loved by many of today's young people and the collaboration of 3 (make that 2) of today's hottest artists each with their own very large fan base. I would not be surprised if the song won an award next year.
so true. i love jhene's real songs
+Lana Rose me too.. at least you be you and love what u love. not what the massa wants you to love
I love this woman and her music
Keep seeing u everywhere. #dopeshitonly
I’m sure I love her more 👍🏽
It’s so beautiful
I dont even wanna comment outta respect for Big Sean..😌
I’m sure I love her more
After hearing this song for YEARS this is what I got:
Verse 1: She's yelling at herself at all her ex's that used her for their needs. She was cheated on and it hurt her to the point where she went to another guy.
Verse 2: The new guy and her were really vibing and the sex was amazing. She was enjoying everything until " 'Quis" (I'm guessing Marquis from verse 1) found out. She left Quis for him and the new guy's baby mama caught them together. She was devastated to know that he was cheating on her too.
Verse 3: Jhene reveals to us she was in a dark place and deeply sad because her brother was dying. She thought the new guy was her comfort and showed her vulnerability only for him to do the same thing everyone did to her.
I'm pretty sure Marquis was cheating on her and she cheated back for revenge, but ended up falling in love with the wrong person.
wow i have never looked at it like that, that was deep .
Sounds like a good interpretation to me.
Yep, I gathered the same thing pretty much too when I listened way back when.
You broke that down so well.
Or Marquis was a good guy n she fucked up
truly relating to this! love this woman!
#Pisces
Yesss . #TeamPisces
+CollegeBound27 hell yah!
♋️💜
I thought she was an Aquarius?
pisces are heartless 😭 no more for me
I used play this song out! Cried cried cried....But stronger now...Time heals all wounds ...
Stronger = Crazy.
I LOVE HOW THE VIDEO PLAYS BACKWARDS THAT'S DOPE
Lol just noticed that.
what do you mean??
IF YOU WATCH THE SCENES IN THE VIDEO IT STARTS AT THE END AND SHOWS EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENED THAT LED UP TO THAT THE WHITE GUY WHO SHE'S HOLDING HANDS WITH AT THE END IS THE GUY WHO CHEATED ON HER
Laporsha Jackson THANK YOU :)
"You weren't the only one who was hurting, you weren't the only one with a burden." Damn that line! 😢
I can't respect her actions but I respect her honesty in this freestyle. It's so raw. She is really throwing her life in her songs
lol I can....
Sheeila Marrie I know that's rightttt!
Sheeila Marrie crazy bitches. maybe dudes should start burnin dresses
***** do what you have to do sir lol
shit iight
Clearly she hit the nail on the head, most of these comments are so emotional, and it's in reaction to the song. Shows how easily we as people can be swept away with words, sound, visuals.
When she scratched that Ferrari, I felt that in my soul 😩 sheesh!
Yessssss 😩😩
I replayed it so many times
jasmine j 😂😂😂
Oh😹😹😹
Yessss, #release
I come back every time ❤
The way she went to key his car was glorious.
My thought was wow look at this crazy fuckin bitch 😳
Stephanie Gutierrez
Whatever she appeared, she looked damn passionate. I do not condone vandalism but for the sake of art(how she translated the emotions brought about by betrayal) t'was glorious.
+kissmiss629 lol 💯
+kissmiss629 Yeah that's one of those things that the entertainment industry really does us a disservice. It's emotional and it visually works so well, and often things like cars and clothing are things that people show their care for and thus more care for than the person they're cheating on. But we'd all be in the slammer if we made something look bad or destroyed stuff in reaction to all the ruined, wasted, and lost things from a bad relationship.
Sabrina Dean
Everyone relax It was only a video that depicted real life situation.
It's crazy how most of the guys commenting on this video, only seems to notice her burning up the shit SHE probably BOUGHT HIS BROKE ASS, n completely missing the point of the song/video.... HE CHEATED ON A WOMAN THAT PRETTY, HE DESERVES HIS SHIT TO BE BURNT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So if you cheated on a nigga you deserve your shit burnt?
I don't cheat, once I fukk another nigga its already a wrap for the now "EX BF"..... I don't fukk multiple people at one time Kids do that! N my BD cut up a bunch of my clothes before, but material things come n go, bet u I have a much better wardrobe now.... lol..... When I wrote this comment though, I was going thru a cheating incident with my BF n a co worker, all I did was cut up n pour cooking grease n bleach on the mattress I bought, so he n the next hoe don't enjoy the fruits of my labor, ya know!
she was cheating on her man with him so i think she had it coming
You missed the point of the song. She cheated on her BF to be with him. And she was mad cause he never stopped stroking his BM. That's what happens when you play that game. The video didn't fit the song.
SN: If that was my stuff, I'm coming back 10 times worse.
Lol..... Basically can we all admit that when angry, the possibilities of doing something outta rage, can occur? He started as her friend while being with another guy, he comforted her during the time her brother was battling brain cancer, so in a weakened state, people do things they may later regret, but instead of continuing to hurt the other guy, she left him, feeling as though the friend was worth it, but later found that he was still meeting on the side with his bench players, lol..... It happens in life..... Ya'll been through it before....
She is the best out tho!
Too good to not come back🔥
still waiting for her to colab with the weekend
Taylor Kennedy The Weeknd*
How dare you spell king abel's name wrong!
Taylor Kennedy i taught i was the only 1 dat tink dat :)
Sara's World thats not real..
Taylor Kennedy The weeknd* is not what he used to be at his beginning, he's just voice now.. no lyrics anymoar :'(
I relate to this so much right now .
Likewise😔
me too. Im so sad right now.
me too girl
+chaphoofd 👏👏👏
"we were in love , but I was the only one. so i'm the only lonely one" 😭
Shelby Swain a year later and still the realist line ever! So relatable
Shelby Swain facts
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This song hit but when she said “if this wasn’t love then what was it “ felt the shit out of that
Who still gon be listening in 2020❤️❤️
💕Always..🙌🏻🎆
Me
Meeeeee ☺️❤️💔
Is this about big Sean ?
I hope one day I meet a man who won’t make me want to listen to this song ever again 💯
Such an honest song. You never hear of a woman admitting to cheating. She had someone who loved her. She became interested in someone else. Turns out that relationship was not meant to be. Her dude found out so she had to leave him. In the end she was going through a lot. Making unwise decisions coping with losing a brother.
spoo man people interpret it in a personal way. I love her as an artist so I always listen to her lyrics. Without honesty and good lyricism a song is pointless.
Karma is real
@@Lovergirl44 yesss you get what you put out into the world
Umm where is the she cheated part...
Casey Walker
‘Cause that night turned into every weekend and
Every weekend turned to every evening
You took me out and left me in the deep end then
Quis found out and then I had to leave him
'Cause I couldn’t be the one to hurt him
Plus I thought you were the one so it was worth it
I had to listen again too! Never picked up on that. Love when a person is lyrical like this
Jhene Aiko is just the best to listen to when your hurting inside
Nu-Lu Jay :)
I remember listening to this almost every single day during my last year of high school. I was so young and heartbroken lol to this day it still slaps ❤
i have no reason to be fkn crying but i am smh thx jhene
Right. Shit had me mad emotinal outta nowhere 😞
Nice name😉
lol right 😢
I really like her lyrics an her voice I would like for her and mr Stevie wonder to do a a CD IN the near future. One LOVE
WTF THIS WORLD NEEDS MORE CRISSY'S
hell ya
Deandra Shaquanie-Jackson no we don't bc Chrissy would get her ass beat eventually 😂😂😂
Deandra Shaquanie-Jackson what is a crissy?😂
Hvj Ly referring to the line 'Shout-out to Krissy, that's my bitch 'cause she tells me everything'.
Fadi Ohh right, thanks😂
The part that literally makes my heart ache ..”And I never would’ve came into your house in the first place if I would’ve known that you would hurt me like in the worst way.” 💔 I’ll never stop listening to this song, and feeling it all in its entirety.
SAMEEEE ugh that part hit
Hii baby
That part!!!
And here I’m am still fucked up bout 2014💔 crazy how it’s so relatable 🙌🏾
I need some friends that vibe to her music
Hannah Girl, I been saying that for years
Hannah Nah, I need some Crissys.
Hannah ❤
Hannah baby u got one here
Not even going through a break up right now. Actually happily married and this shit got me in my feelings!
Halleluja to that!
Exactly
me2
Coconut Bay Resort crazy right!!!
Give it time 😈
I swear this song always makes me cry. I could be in the happiest of moods and once this song comes on, I get in my feelings.
I love her talent, this woman captures a moment and leaves you to dwell on it, long after the music stops.
This song right here is EVERYTHING..This brings back memories..I remember the betrayal was so intense I wanted to get out of my own skin to leave the pain....Jhene knows how to write some songs on love that hurts...
“I wanted to get out of my skin to leave the pain”. That’s the deepest shit I read all day
COCO EXCELLENCE. girl this a WHOLE freesytle this is why i frickn love her she so real just spilling her guts on the beat. now thats real music
Dear heartbroken people...nothing in this world is forever , not even life here on earth...Its ok to feel pain but you have to know everything is a beginning to an end..my boyfriend left me and I grieved for about two weeks and I was back living my life because I know heartbreak is apart of life experiences. I know it won't be the first or last heartbreak in my life..I am ready for the next one..People leave us through life or through death..its envitable...Nobody or nothing is forever..Even the seasons leave before another comes back the next year...you will find a new season a new 💘 love...
Very beautiful message. I was touched when reading this and I needed to read that for sure I really believe your comment was meant for me. Thank you for sharing such wise words. Very well said. God bless you!
Thanks...it hurts so bad this ending of my bb dad of 11 years...the lies cut deep...
@@andreabartlett6160 u bak with him??
Yes but we shouldn't normalize countless heartbreaks. We need to grow and learn from it to not repeat otherwise its a bad toll on your health.
You can only have one heartbreak in a lifetime, other's are merely disapontments
This beat tho.
She badass!!!
@Georgia Peach
It was a freestyle. Maybe about something that happened to her.
@Georgia Peach her best friend’s name who help her harassing the other woman that her boyfriend have I think 😊
@Georgia Peach I think her friend was naming all the guys that did Jhene wrong and jhene was just quoting what her friend told her in naming those guys. And right after she gives her a shout-out. Could be wrong but that was my interpretation 🤷♂️🤷♂️
Yeah specially that break down
It’s 2022 & still there’s an emotionally raw feeling attached to this song that resonates in the depth of my heart ❤️🩹
same
This song hit different when he really was cheating on you and you were right about your instincts all along .
I know
Like seriously
Man.. 💯💔
Yes 💯
true
we need one for STAY READY
When she brought up her brother, dying, my heart dropped to my stomach
This song hit different when you did your real soul mate dirty and she warned about the ones who was never gonna have genuine love for you like she did and always will
"Plus I thought you were the one so it was worth it " The WORSE feeling ever 😒💔
So Gingerella agree😟
Preach 🙌
So Gingerella facts
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It has been a long time since I've seen a music video match up to the song lyrics so strongly. This is why Jhene Is unstoppable at the moment. Every video she has brought out for her sail out album are visually deep. This video honestly gave me a rebellious Lisa left eye vibe. Theirs only so much a woman can take before she does something crazy like burn your shit haha. All in the name of love. But can you blame her?
Peace out
When she said “Why’d you.... Why’d you call it love” 3:57 Hear how sweet her voice sounds. Completed me 😕❤️
That is legit my favorite part of the song 😩❤️
Hii ❤❤❤baby
She should make a whole song out of just that part
This song is sooooo mesmerizing 😭 & painful at the same time 💯 Especially when you can relate 😭😩
This song gives me chills.
chills? this is psycho stuff!
We're nothing....we're nothing...we're nothing