How self-belief can make or break you
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- Опубликовано: 12 окт 2022
- A documentary about limiting beliefs. Featuring earplugs, canoes, an experiment from 1975, and David Goggins.
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should go beanieless more often mate, shaved head looks so sick
Thank you for your inspirational videos. Always a relatable topic. :)
ur head be like: I'm holding u back
This channel is pure therapy 😭💖
don’t know if you’ll ever see this, but i think it might really impact you. this book: grit by angela duckworth. it really changed my life in a lot of ways, far beyond just the general premise of the book
i hope then that it’s on shortform! :)
The thing I like the most about your work is that you don't spend the bulk of your time labelling an issue. You label it, explain it succinctly and then most of the content is tangible solutions and examples. It's so helpful.
ikr, its so human
I agree🌸
That's why he's my favorite RUclipsr ever. He's knowledgeable and gets right to the point. And his perspective on life is so refreshing.
@@emmawalker7566 for sure. I find a lot of things that just list all the reasons you're bummed (i.e. life kicking you in the face) and it makes me, personally, just feel more sad/ victimy (hate the term but in line with learned helplessness). These ideas to overcome barriers are well thought out, clear and helpful. It's not, like, take a bath and light a candle. Actionable solutions are hugely helpful and his are super solid. Really appreciate that.
Exactly. I'm tired of learning about why I do things (or don't do them) and I love having actual steps to take to start making changes
Wow the canoe analogy is on point. Also there’s a story about a baby elephant that is chained by a small chain to a fence. It tries so hard to get free, pulls on the chain but fails. Tries again and again and still can’t overcome the chains. So one day it just stops trying. After years, it grows still chained to that fence. Now it is a big elephant and it has the power to pull on that chain and break it or to break the fence pretty easily. But it still believes it can’t so it won’t even try. Circumstances change, people change. But we cannot see it because we’re still that kid that was bullied at school, or that kid that had a volatile parent. At heart, we are governed by that kid that we once used to be.
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I work with horses and I see it a lot here, it's called learned helplesness. Where tehy are thought usually by beating and pain that if they show any ressistance, opinion, even if they are hurting or uncomfortable, hey will be beaten until they submit so sooner or later, hey just stop trying. It's seen a lot with lesson horses and sports horses, unfortunately it's seen as desired result of their training. I've been studying it a lot lately and I really think it can be seen a lot in people too. Maybe not always in every area in their life, but I think mos people have it in some area or the other. Where they failed so many times or so painfully that they just won't ever try again, even when circumstances change and they would succeed if they tried again.
This is one of my favorite parables as well.
@octopusxoctopus I love that story! Thank you for sharing that! ☺️🫶🏻
This explains a lot about my teens. I was a... weird kid, so I got branded as the weird kid for most of my childhood and teen years. I kept to myself and that protected me from bulling and rejection. It also resulted in me being a loner with no friends and believing that I was an introvert. When I was about 16 I became friend with an exchange student from South America, and he did not care if I was supposed to be the weird kid with no friends or social skills. He introduced me to his other exchange student friends, and although there were a lot of growing pains about learning social skills, I sorta realized that I didn't have to be "the weird kid with no friends." I challenged myself to become an exchange student, a program that exclusively looks for extroverts. I put myself out there, learned a language, had a lot of pain on the way. I grew a LOT, I learned how to talk to strangers. over the years of being an exchange student and pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I learned conflict resolution skills. By college and now after college, I am the friend who is constantly busy with plans with friends with a loaded social calendar with many worthwhile people in my life. Don't let other peoples labels of you define you. You can change, and will change, So let it.
Interesting story thanks for sharing
Bro thanks for putting that in word the " It also resulted in me being a loner with no friends and believing that I was an introvert." hit hard. enjoy your journey
Same happend to me! I was the introvert kid at school but my dream was to go abroad, so I did and I realized I don’t have to be introvert but love socializing! Now I have actually become an digital nomad and travel the world Meeting new people everyday.
@@Josyyhvf I want to be a digital nomad. How does one go about that?
I love your story! Thanks for sharing!! I am glad you pushed past what others told you that you were and became who you are now. Who you were meant to be.
As children, we often blame ourselves for being incompetent at something when the real problem has nothing to do with that. In your case, you were just not what that audience was expecting to see that night, thus they reacted poorly. You internalized it to mean you sucked. When you did get onstage and meet audience expectations, you succeeded. The answer is you never sucked and the people who let you onstage should have known not to. They designed their show poorly and you wrongly blamed yourself. The key to success is getting the right content in front of the right audience.
I’ve learned I can ‘be seen trying.’ Historically, I have a habit of going too hard, needing to be perfect immediately. Eventually I’m not able to sustain that Herculean effort, I give up and end up hating myself.
Now I allow myself to practice mediocrity because I now understand I can’t be mediocre once. You have to try to be mediocre constantly. When you allow yourself to practice mediocrity, you understand that what you have going on will never be finished but that you always have more time to try and try again.
I try to study for 2 hours a day and journal for 20m. I aim for a consistent 50-60% effort, record it and post it on my youtube channel.
Thank you for this comment. It is exactly what I need. For some reason the thought of other people watching me "trying" scares me and keeps me from even starting something new.
That's the way to go. If you can be mediocre every day consistently, you'll end up better than the 100% effort 24/7 guy who will eventually not be able to take it anymore. And when he tries to downshift and do it at a mediocre level so he can take it easy, he'll be extremely unhappy to do so.
Your mediocre will eventually become better than average if you do it consistently.
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Good story about tackling what you needed to address. As an addition next step replace 'being mediocre' with 'paced approach' or the 'anti burnout approach'. By using the word mediocre you are still feeding the self criticism monster whereas what you've actually done is learned to work smarter. The self criticism operates at the subconscious level so while your approach is working, which is great, the next step is to consistently remind your sub conscious that you are winning not succeeding by something that still carries a negative connotation.
Thank you for sharing this! So much in such a short and simple statement.
This video came at the perfect time. Two days ago I was invited to do an art show, which has been my dream as an artist. And immediately I told the person no. I was like I don’t have enough art to show, and the art I do have isn’t good enough. It’s not enough time to make new art. And since then I’ve been regretting saying no, and thinking why did I think I can’t do it? This is the push I needed to go back and say yes. Thanks Cam!
That's awesome! Good luck with the show!
Dude, YES, go back and say you're in! I'm an artist too and my first show was scary. Prep was crazy and this idea of my work not being impressive enough weighed on me. But it was so worth doing it. Nobody knows if the piece you entered is your personal best, they just know they want it in the show. I personally like incorporating my insecurities directly in the piece so that it's like a big f you to what's holding me back. I often care so much that I burn out and become numb to stuff so I literally wrote "apathy sucks" in one of my large scale drawings and every time I see it I know my fear of failing is because I care. And isn't it a beautiful thing to care, even if sometimes we question our skills? Just know the work you've put in is valid and deserves to be appreciated. GOOD LUCK and go get 'em! 😁
Do it next time! You got this!
@@emberflash1641 “my fear of failing is because I care” dude! That’s genius!!
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Dude, thank you, I needed this reminder… I started 2020 at 425lbs, read Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins, and I’ve dropped 187lbs. I hit a personal wall recently and haven’t been able to climb out of it; this video sparked something man, thank you.
Climb that damn wall....U CAN
Anthony, you don't mention how tall you are, but I hope you're feeling a lot better...you have lost half your body weight in pounds over the past couple years!! I hope you are in good health and learning about your mind and emotions as your body changes. I am also a person who lost more than half my body weight in poundage...it was a strange journey for me, because it happened mostly as a result of grief after my mother died. Still, others assumed I'd done a lot of work for the "achievement"...really I had given up on myself to the point of not caring. Still later in life, ppl in the world decided I was "too thin" & make nasty comments about that too. It's what you DO in life that's truly valuable - what makes you joyful ❣️
You can do it man!
Losing 187lbs is one helluva BADASS achievement 😮 that wall can't stop you, maybe it's just a reminder to look back at what you achieved already 😉
Hey man, 240 is where I'm at and it's the heaviest I've ever been, so if you dropped there from 425, mad props to you.
i am consistently blown away by your ability to condense so much information and express such multi-layered stories in such a practical manner 😮
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Most of our self limiting beliefs stem from a place of fear. Fear distorts reality and wherever there is fear, there is a level of ignorance.
"YOU'RE singing?? 😂😂"
Yeah I was about 5 years old, singing in my parents room, wandering in the house. Thought I was alone. Older sibling caught me. Didn't even know they were there until I heard that line and I just shrunk down in the corner. I felt so stupid and embarrassed. Why would I, of all people, think that I could do that? I literally could not sing in front of my loved ones, let alone in public 2 years ago. Like my whole throat would tighten up. I'd try, but I just couldn't get out more than a whisper and I'd feel that same shame and fear.
I started making videos on this channel and I don't think I'm where I want to be yet, but I only just started actually training my voice instead of just singing in the car alone. But I still remember when I shared the first recording to my girlfriend. She was so supportive. I just broke down and cried. Felt like that 5 year old was just told that it's ok to express yourself. When I shared on Facebook I had everyone from old high school friends to close family members that were really supportive, kind, and even surprised that I even had the desire since I kept it so buried.
Anyway it's still hard to talk about and it feels really cheesy to speak about it like something I've moved past, or that it even matters. Still, it was a really big moment in my life.
Been there… I’ve been writing music for a long time and even the most subtle of criticism seems to really fuck with your head when it comes to singing.
I play guitar and would always be down for us to get another singer, since when I did try it just wasn’t good enough for whatever reason, so eventually, I didn’t really try at all, and now that I’m finally doing a solo project it’s REALLY hard to get back into it.
Intellectually I know it’s okay and that some people actually really like my voice, but there’s just some serious hesitation I have toward singing in front of anyone, even my girlfriend who has heard my music (with vocals) and is totally supportive and a singer herself… super weird brain stuff. It’s incredibly frustrating.
@@almightytreegod Singing is one of the most vulnerable things you can do, especially if you're musically inclined. It feels like you're pulling your heart out of your chest. For someone to laugh or say its not that good is just devastating. If someone say's you're not good at guitar, then you can just practice, or say you've had an off day. If they say your voice is bad then they're criticizing something that's literally a part of you.
I've learned though that you can grow a thicker skin and you can improve your voice with technique though. Getting better at treating it like an instrument has helped a lot.
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What a great video! Though I’d just like to say (even if I’m just a viewer) that I’m genuinely so sorry that that happened to you and your friend, it sounds like such a heartbreaking thing to go through as a kid. The fact you actually did manage to overcome that stage fright is so impressive, regardless of how long it took you! As always, thanks for being so candid, it sets you apart from any other advice-type RUclipsr I’ve seen - helps me really see how such advice could result in positive change :)
How would those [former] "metalheads" feel when seeing this?
@@JSSMVCJR2.1 I’ve heard that metalheads-at least today’s-are usually nice. Wonder if enough similar incidents became cause for a shift in values.
@@Window4503 Metalhead here- in my experience hanging with other metalheads, they're usually really nice and caring. It's usually people who have been ostracized that get into metal in the first place. There's the occassional nitwit (and honestly- they're mostly frowned upon by other metalheads), but it's usually a really supportive group, to the point where big strong "scary" metalheads usually pick up the smaller, more fragile ones when they've fallen over in a mosh pit.
Though that's just my general experience. I also know of and heard of people who seek out metal as an excuse to be violent and angry, though I suppose you always have people like that regardless of the social group.
I'm really sorry for struthless though, that sounds like a horrible experience to go through and I detest those so-called "metalheads" for putting someone else through a situation they've likely been through themselves.
Trauma has a way of sticking with us and turning into biases/expectations later in life. In a way it protected us from tigers and other things that could kill us, but our bodies just aren’t made for the modern day and gets confused when there isn’t a real threat.
That story you shared was so scary, but thank you for sharing it. I’m glad you overcame it, I’m trying to overcome my own limiting beliefs especially with my art because boy did my art professors and every adult at the time do a number on me…
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It’s so important to recognize your past and how it effects you throughout your life… thank you for your personal story; The moment you realize ‘wow! I’ve been hanging out with a really negative person my entire life; and they’re in my head!’ 🤯
Affects*
Takes a big person to dissect a personal revelation so others can benefit. Thank you!
That David Goggins story really struck a cord with me and it even gave me an idea, potentially a video idea. 'Telling people to work hard, doesn't work.' It's all personal goal related and dependent on mental breakthroughs. For Marco Pierre White, the goal was to get the Michelin stars. We're all different. We all have different circumstances that push us to the edge. For me, it's the thought of having to work a 9-5 forever. I just cannot! I will not! But having that kind of a strong why is only half the battle.
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800K followers and the brain still says we're not good enough and no one wants to hear what we have to say. That's profound. Thank you for sharing. I always learn something.
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I’ve been in a deep depression for the past few months where I’ve forgotten everything I enjoyed or ever wanted to achieve. Watching your videos has helped me remember what I wanted and helped me start to see the light again. Thank you, and keep up the awesome work ❤
"life is one big head game. and once you learn to play the game, it's no longer a game at all."
I don't usually comment, but oh my god. that struck something in my brain.
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"Self-talk: Using the things that got you into this mess against itself"
Reflecting
The realization that I missed so many opportunities and moments that could have probably changed my life drastically but i didn't use those opportunities and all because I had limiting beliefs which limited me. And I was really the one limiting my life and preventing myself from being successful. But all the beliefs I had about myself were fictional and I really wish I'd understood it sooner. I then got out of my comfort zone and set aside my limiting beliefs and just did what I'd wanted. It worked out, and I just stopped caring about my limiting beliefs and then they were shortly forgotten.
I love how you managed to integrate the video and the story about Goggins, without letting me feel the guilt or the shame that I would have felt if I searched the story myself.
You always give this calm vibe that makes me heal my old self and think: "It's okay, before you didn't have the same resouces that you have now, you still have time to get better".
Thanks a lot🥰
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3:47 Weird kind of notes to evaluate. That meens that the research professor had to ask the previous class to write them. "And after you've all handed them in to me, we'll be going on a field-trip, to look at the view from some cliffs. There will be no further assignments."
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I remember the first time I broke a MAJOR limitation and that was by finally saying I AM an artist.
I signed up for an incredible graphic design class in high school where half the day I’d be at high school and the other half I would be designing, sketching, and drawing at a trade school. And I was terrified..
I used to draw, but over time I continued to place the limitation that I wasn’t an artist, I’m not creative enough to stick out. So for years I basically quit. That first day in class I saw people pull out their sketchbooks and fear instantly washed over me that I was going to embarrass myself.
“I don’t belong here, this isn’t me.”
By the end of class I had already talked to the teacher about dropping the class.
But I decided to stay.
I knew that I wasn’t a great artist at the time, but how embarrassing would it be that I placed that limitation on myself? I absolutely don’t regret taking the class now, and I’m incredibly grateful for the amazing events I didn’t miss out on. I ended up winning a design competition for a snowboard company at the end of the year and it was such an incredible relief to finally be back into my passion.
I missed drawing and sketching, and no one pushed me away from it but myself.
The content, the originality, the quality. It feels illegal to be free man
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I like that you only showed this side of Goggins' Journey, because all the discipline talk he gives may be motivating for some, but for me e.g. I just can't push through hard stuff because of my depression (and I really had to be careful to not let the diagnosis become my limiting belief!) and I just have to manage my energy and mood all the time to give my best, which is different every day. But I always had the belief that I'm bad at math (from school and being overwhelmed with computer science class in uni) and therefore thought I can't become a Developer. I'm 30 now and know my strengths and therefore know that 1. the way of thinking you need for coding is something I already have and 2. I actually like math when I use it in real life (aka coding) so here I am an my way again trying to become a Developer, practicing and being patient with myself :D
I was “pretty bad” at math too. Years later I am really good at it with my logical thinking developed, and I ended up realizing that I didn’t have my proper time at school. All my teachers sucked!!!! On a side note my husband is a developer, he was a musician until he was 28 y.o. And now he makes tons of money on his new career so yes, anything is possible when you believe in yourself (and then act) 😂
Managing energy and mood is itself an activity that should be included in "giving your best". There is this idea that things we do for ourselves don't count in a social context, I think it's wrong.
Maths is not required for the vast majority of coding jobs, coding is about the ability to articulate what exactly do you want from the computer, the ability to understand how other people will perceive your code so it's easier to read for them, and the ability to find information. Maths is only needed in areas like machine learning or game engine design.
Love your story . 👍👏💪
I also thought I was bad at math until I had to retake a class and wouldn't graduate high school if I didn't pass.
Math just finds me in everyday life while I'm pursuing other things and I wonder if I should pursue something like computer science.
Man thanks for sharing this. I wasn’t sure about pursuing a career in web development because I was terrible at math in school. Your comment definitely gave me some hope ;)
This is accurate for me. I grew up believing no one gave a sh*t about what I had to say so I became quite and started to hate everyone. I still am and still do but I’m more chill now. These days I just ignore people but the belief still remains deep inside of me. I’m slowly escaping that cycle at the moment. Difficult by not impossible
I used to think I was standing in the way of my own life and happiness- until I realised it was actually a lifetime of trauma and undiagnosed adhd. Now, with medication and trauma therapy, I finally get the tools to build the life I want. When you’re struggling to just function and survive, you don’t have any capacities for self love and your own goals. That’s why I liked the last example, even tho I don’t completely agree with him. Once you realise what’s the root for you feeling unworthy, you can make the changes that help you live the life you want. Like just realising you don’t want to live this way. Then you can try to get help or find a way to pull yourself out of it. Whatever you need.
I feel as if the suicide note experiment may have missed some contributing factors. If the group who was told they got high scores got a huge dopamine hit from that perceived victory, having higher levels of dopamine may have affected their guess in their future abilities. Waiting a week or a month and then asking the two groups to guess their ability may have been a more thorough way to conduct the experiment
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It's crazy how things that happen in our childhood stick to us for so long and keep us trapped. This shows how important it is to reflect and re-evaluate our beliefs on a continuous basis. I'm so glad you were able to overcome one of your limiting beliefs, idk if you have more but I hope you overcome those too! This inspired me to make a list of my limiting beliefs and basically just dig deeper! Thank you so much for sharing! :)
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I'm in love with how these videos are structured, they just scratch an itch in my brain
Your videos always get me crying by the end cause they remind me that I can actually be who I want to be. I’m only holding myself back.
I’m going to be going a year without alcohol which is HUGE for me. There’s so much “nah bro there’s no way you can do it” going through my head, so this video really was impactful.
Keep doing what you’re doing man! You’re a huge inspiration and you’re saving lives!
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there is nothing better to listen to than a Self- Lived- Experience. I was there, I felt like this, I pushed through, and after I was HERE. You made me smile sooo when you told us about how much joy you feel now in front of an audience. Born to speak, to share, to laugh. thank you very much
"If you think you can or you can't, you're probably right"
2:55 - "Gotta do something about it... not hand out ANY earplugs. Yeah, man, that's gonna solve it!"
And congrats on doing your comedy show tour!
Holy fuck... I've been feeling like real shit during this week, feeling lost about my artwork and in life in general. Hours ago I was thinking: 'hey, maybe I should quit... I can't make enough money from my art, but I don't know what else to do. Art is a big part of my world and I don't want to give up, but I suck at it and I suck at everything else'
This video really helped me. Thanks so much man... for real.
Perfect timing, my sister just asked what I want for my birthday and I could not think of anything
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One comment from a middle school teacher affected me until my mid 40’s when I realized that it was a limiting belief and not the truth.
They say limiting beliefs hinder a person’s road to success. It’s important to keep in mind that we shouldn’t limit ourselves entirely. As human beings, we are more than capable of achieving so much in our lives. I feel as though limitations could only affect our mindsets and our own sense of well-being.
I've only articulated it a couple of times, and more with regard to what happened rather than the impact of what happened. On two occasions, when I was at school, I did something creative that was being entered into a competition, and on both occasions, the teachers failed to enter my work, so I never got the chance to see if other people saw value in my creativity.
The first time was a poem. I know all my classmates thought it was a great poem. I wasn't the most popular kid in school, so I tend to think that if they went to the trouble of saying that, they probably meant it. The second time was a poster/mural on the theme of mathematics. The teacher couldn't even be bothered to apologise, merely saying, 'Well, we'll put it on the wall for the Parent/Teacher evening.
I know that this continues to be a problem for my beliefs about myself, because 30+ years later and these stories still make me angry/upset 😞 In retrospect, I think that its power stems from the Rejection Sensitivity/Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria relating to the ADHD that I was only diagnosed with earlier this year.
With the exception of 12 years spent DJing, I've never really done anything creative (and even that was, in many ways an intellectual exercise), unless you count the last decade of, on and off, using my creativity in the pursuit of academia, developing creative ideas in moral psychology... but I tend to think of that as a different kind of creativity: it's creative, but not creative expression.
I have nothing to say expect: I am so happy for you!
I comb through so much self help, finding the majority of it to be redundant, obvious, or shallow, but actually spurred new thoughts. I’m so into this.
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I feel that so many important influences talk about it rn, but a bit from different perspective. How you posed it is a bit closer to understanding. Like real reasons of our reactions. Our defensive mechanisms that can drag us down now, were once instruments that helped us. And it so difficult for a person with addiction personality as me to refuse from old limiting beliefs that helped me once. I can add a bit on how to work with those thoughts: is this thought contains any words of generalization? Like: always (shy), never (win). And words of obligation, like: I have to be respectful, this shut up, they have to respect me, thus be always kind for me.
Searching for those words helped me to find those believes that many times hide in my mind so well it’s impossible to disguise them
I thought about all of this separately over the past few months but collecting all thoughts in one video and between each other… 💥 I physically felt how something clicked in my brain 🙌 omg
What a beautiful beautiful video! i always had this thought "What if i didnt have these mental jails that i have build up for myself?" fortunately i have started on the path to break these jails and be truly and finally.. free! :)
I've been trying a similar idea. I'm changing from thinking "why can't I?" (looking for reasons i *can't* do it), to "why not!" (looking for ways that I *can* do it).
Inspiring as always mate. There's a lot of self improvement content out there that seems to be turning from harsh truths into toxic advice these days. Really respect that you always keep it helpful and non-combative
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_the autism leaving my body when a CBT therapist says my social difficulties are due to limiting beliefs which I can overcome if I try hard enough_
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no hate to you for making this, it just needed to be said that the concept isn’t applicable in all situations 😅 if your video encourages people with anxiety, trauma, insecurities, etc to challenge their limiting beliefs that’s awesome
I recognise and respect what you’ve said, here: that people often act as if autism isn’t a real thing, and try to convince you that you can just overcome it if you try hard enough. (I think that’s what you’re saying, I hope I got it.) Recognising, and setting aside (for the moment) all the baggage and trauma that comes along with such unreasonable expectations (on the part of other people)…. Don’t let it stop you from seeing that you might have some negative self-beliefs that are holding you back. (Not from changing who you are, but from being/ doing who you want to be.)
I may be biased being a fellow Australian but your videos are legit so helpful for me and my over thinking, perfectionist, imposter syndrome riddled brain 🧠
As someone juggling full time work and full time study your method of "aim for 70% not 100%" was so revolutionary I compare it to sliced bread.
Much love and support from someone in Canberra who thinks you're the bees knees
This channel can read minds
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I really want to say tysm Campbell for these videos. Every video you make has helped me so much, this one in particular. I’ve struggled my whole life with the effects of having abusive parents that told me on a daily basis that I was no good, and wasn’t and will never amount to anything. In the last year I’ve spent everyday learning to code, I’m a few pounds away from losing 100lbs, and I’ve built habits to better myself. Your videos have helped me so much during this process. This video hit me on a deep level, and I’m 100% buying your book tomorrow. Tysm for everything you do. Sending so much love to you and your family from Portland,OR.
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Can't express how much you helped me with this video. I just moved from the city back to my parents in the village. Lost my job due to my, hm, overthinking, not taking it serious, taking shortcuts and having a mindset that I'm just not suited for any other job than being a secretary (the job I lost was a QA tester, total career change ... and that sort of scared me). Somehow I wish I knew all this (what you presented, the canoe problem) before, at least a year ago.
But, now I have a chance to "re-build" myself, my beliefs, mindset. I've given myself a month off - no work, no job hunting, just me, my journal, your book, your videos and writing my ass off.
Thank you for this, thank you a lot.
For some reason I’ve never put two and two together that YOU created “Your Head Is a Houseboat”… a book I bought on a whim because I loved the illustrations and turned out to be the best “self help” book I’ve ever read! All of the exercises are so useful but the mind dump one…man, talk about an efficient way to make daily life a lot less heavy. Thank you!!
I especially liked when you said the band was heavy 1:37 and the animation (Presumably your work) had them weighing more than an elephant
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I love this! Thank you!
I have gotten to a point in my life where I’ve started to have to face the parts of my mind that are holding me back, I dunno how it happens but everytime I am feeling at my lowest your videos appear in my feed and they seem to be BANG ON the money. I just wanna say, you’re helping at least one person figure out their fucked up brain, thank you, it helps me carry on
The quality on this channel is unreal
this video is golden. a few months ago I stumbled upon a change of mindset about a limiting belief, it just so happened that i suddenly found the reality of the better outcome likely enough to dare to take a leap, and today I have a new job with barely any commute as a result. I've been hunting for an explanation around this because the difference in mindset is so strong it impacts my skills. literally I speak a foreign language better since my mindset changed about whether or not I speak it well enough for professional use. ever since I felt my skills in this language are ready to use it for work, it just works better, like a whole bunch of passive knowledge suddenly became accessible, miraculous.
so ever since this experience I'm obsessed with "what else can I drop from mindset and thereby unlock treasures"
Hey cam just thought I'd drop that your book has been helping me through a tough time recently and I've gotten my sister into your content, loving everything you do, cheers!
Needed this video right now! So good, thank you.
We are all so extremely lucky to have you on RUclips, thank you for your content it really has made a HUGE impact on my life. love from Mexico🇲🇽✨
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Love you Campbell, I needed to hear this
Love your work - thank you!
Loving this video
I'm from Canada and I come to your channel whenever I need guidance. I've worked on my confidence and self-development seriously and this video hit me the hardest. I appreciate you!
Yess!!! Amazing video!
I know you won't see this, but I have to put these words out there.
This video has been in my suggestions for ages, but I've literally avoided viewing because I fear acknowledging my self limiting behaviors.
I've read Goggins' book. It's damn good. But it made me feel like a lazy slob; because of self limited behaviors.
As a former Marine, I know what I am capable of. A major TBI gave me seizures for several years and the healthiest thing I could do then was NOT doing many of the things I loved. This created the mental state I've been in for the past decade.
Tip toeing thru the minefield of life, avoiding explosive possibilities, real or imagined.
Even at 52...
Damn.
This was great man🙏
Thank you for your videos!
I really needed to hear this dude, thank you.
Love it! So happy that I found your channel. Thanks for sharing your story and thoughs🤗
Thank you!!
Loving your content.
This video popped up right when I needed it, thanks man
That was great. Well done on your tour and overcoming your fears.
always love your videos, this is another banger and I feel better for it
Thank you man! I needed this :)
Thank you heaps!!! So good 💓
So so good. Your content is fantastic. Thank you!
I can personally confirm the fact that procrastination is all mental and perfectionism is the trigger for procrastinating
My days had no structure, no to do list or calendar and I always made excuses like "I need a physical calendar and paper in order to be productive" and the likes of it
I realized that this was my brain trapping me into the illusion of perfectionism so that I can procrastinate and once I realized that I have never been the same
I always make sure from now on to start my day by reviewing my task list and calendar for the day and week and simply get to work
As David Goggins says, "your mind always has a tactical advantage over you"
And discipline is the only way to overcome your mind's tactical advantage over your self
Loved this video mate you are an inspiration for me ❤🔥
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Would love to hear more from you. Thank you :)
Thank you!
Great video. Thank you!
“Cognitive Canoes’. Brilliant!
this really helped me thank u!
Your videos are awesome! 👏🏽
Thank you for the inspiration :)
god I'm loving your new content!!
your videos have been helping me so much! thank you :)
As always, love your content, but this one hit deep. Thank you for sharing this!
This is so inspiring and helpful, thanks
So empowering!
I’m loving the animation❣️
Thank you ❤
I have been wondering this for 2 years now, honestly good timing 😅
Great video man. . . Keep up the great work. Honestly, I love these vids. Thank you so much.
Thank you for this amazing content
This is extremely inspiring!
Thanks!
Absolutely loved this, and great work getting to the other side.