Womanhood Diaries: I REGRET MY 20s
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately. They say you do this when you're approaching the end of your 20s. I have a lot that I'm proud of from this era in my life, but one thing I'll always be, is honest.
and honestly speaking, I dropped the ball more times than I shot it. I'm not bashing myself in any way. I just have be truthful and own it.
The best thing you can do for yourself is stand in your truth, accept it and move on while applying the new knowledge you have.
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Tbh I hated my 20s, I was never truly happy w/ myself or anything else in my life during that time. I am 32 now and look back on my younger self with compassion & forgiveness for what I didn't know. Give yourself grace ladies, we are all in this together ❤
I’m 32 also and I totally agree. Have compassion for yourself and it’s never too late to start living the life you want to.
I once heard on a video "One day, you will get tired of your own mind". You are so right. Taking years to do something that would take you 25 MINUTES really struck a cord with me.
@@RaspberryCharlotteProductions that quote is the realest thing ever. Real change happens when you’re fed up with yourself and start doing things different
I needed this. I’m 29 and will be 30 by the end of the year. I wasted my 20s of men, two husbands to be exact. Pouring so much into them, worried so much about we that I completely neglected me. Then I got pregnant in my last relationship and made me life harder. SMH I’ve been single for four years and I’m still not ready to date again. I’d rather be single another 5-7 years while I grind to get my career underway. We are not old. It’s just about to get better. I start school this Monday and I’m looking forward to finishing something for myself
@@noirefit5954 oh yes, you definitely have plenty of time to focus on you. 30 is so young and I didn’t realize it as a kid. Lol I thought life was over by 30 but really it’s a chance to have another round of 20s but with wisdom. I’m rooting for you love! ✨🩵
I’m 22 and the last 4yrs was just me and the men I was with. I neglected myself as changed into an uglier version of me. We will thrive
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Go you 🎉❤ It's great to focus on education and building yourself up
You were with 2000 men?
Man, I always thought I was the only one! Definitely self sabotaged in my 20s. I'm in my early 30s now 😩 everyday you wake up is a new opportunity to make new and better decisions, you got this!!!
I am 25 years old, and I really needed to hear this tonight. 🌈
@@Life_withJayde 🩵
Get a coach or an active mentor
I am 29 too and I always pushed myself but I definitely suffered from indecision and not doing what I said I will do. I recently got a coach and my life is changed completely within weeks I have become very active with my choice, disciplined, cut out perfectionism and stop being afraid of what people think. Get a paid accountability coach, Save your money for that, not just courses.
I going through this right now. I’m 26 and felt stuck and stagnant for a while. I want to do things that challenge me for the next 4 years. I’m single with no kids. I have a career that requires me to be self motivated and take a lot of nos to get a yes.
God put you on my algorithm for a reason I will be in my 20s next year. The brutal honesty is amazing and my 19 year old self really needed it!!! Thank you can’t wait to keep up with your journey
@@KenahRae444 🫶🏽 I’m so glad you find this helpful. I will definitely continue to keep it real
All todays people are going to regret their 20´s, older women always gives advices to younger ones but they never listen, they look down on older women giving them advices, but all you need to know is already out there.
needed this. im 22 and this was a reminder to tap in and to hold myself accountable. thank you
I turn 20 in September and I’m so grateful to have access to this knowledge!
Every woman I ask “regret” their 20’s, meanwhile the dudes are all hype 😂 My 30’s been great so far. Prepare for your years. This is something all the adults who cared about you in your life have told you several times, but you’ve never taken seriously.
Seriously, prepare for your years. I had to play catch up in my mid to late 20s because I stunted my own growth from earlier years.
Im 18 and i just wanted to see what advice i could get from all u beautiful ladies, but the comments are so sweet , i hope u all have all the things u wish too have and age beautifully ( i hope i do to 😘) .
@@asmaa8010 thank you! Just remember you have the power to do whatever it is that you want. Seek advice but always go in the direction that you feel is right in your heart. You hold the keys to your success and happiness
Thank you for this, always need a reminder that my happiness is in my control
@@jubiterr yes, it is! 🩵😊 thanks for watching love
I’m 26 now and honestly I can’t wait to get in my thirties I pray by that time majority of the lessons I learned would have pushed me to grow into who I really want to be and I’ll be a bit more stable mentally financially all around I feel like that’s when I’ll start to feel like an adult and deserving of great things fr right now I feel like a lost child wanting someone to tell her what to do because she can’t make her own decisions
You better count your blessings! At least you didn't obtain a felony conviction in your 20s.
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Turning 26 in about a week and I needed to hear this!
@@whitneyhasseenthis 🩵
I’m still in my 20s and regret my 20s as well 😅
@@Whoamiiiiiiiiiiii good thing is… there’s still time to turn them around 😊
I'm 24 and I feel the same way how you felt. Trying to push through and make God the center of everything but it can get hard when I'm caught up in the moment of difficulty. I don't know if its also because I expect more from myself that I'm not giving. I feel tired, scared and at times depleted. This video did bring light into my situation, trust me, God finna bless you 10 fold. Most of these battles are mental and the fact that you are courageous enough to share this will help so many women or just anyone in their 20's.
@@maylasiaiam thank you so much! It was definitely a mixture of all of those things. But one thing that was certain the whole time was… God would never let me/us fall. Pushing through has been my greatest move
im happy that it aint too late to start.. and ill be rooting for you
@@JelaniRoberson 🫶🏽 thank you. It’s never too late.
I’m 25 watching this. And just came out of my first serious relationship where I experienced a lot. Love and loss. Plans for marriage and children. But now I’m out of that I feel so lost and like I’m almost running out of time. I envisioned myself at a different point in my life when I was younger and it hurts
@@nicoledesiree_ as crazy as it sounds, you’re in the most perfect spot. At 26, I was coming out of a 5.5 year relationship. I took that as a chance. This is a great time for you to learn who you are without the attachment to someone else. You can try to new things and places and ideas. You may even find out that you want something completely different than what you envisioned.
I know I did. 😩
Still need to watch, but i don't regret my 20s, but I'm glad I'm out. I'm officially 30 and I'm so happy. I spent most of my 20s struggling with depression. I've learnt how to manage so much better.
I am glad that I took dating srsly and still took care of myself.
@@mahlatse8605 I’m so glad you took care of yourself. That’s something I wish I did. I was depressed from my teens and well into my 20s and definitely needed to care better for myself
You are godsent, i feel exactly like this about my teenage years im 23 rn, thank you for making this
@@erenyeeagah204 thank you love. I appreciate you
You hit the nail on the head! definitely needed
this reminder to keep pushing through regardless
of all the adversities we face.
as someone about to step into their 20s i really appreciate this video 🤍
thank you for this video, i’m rooting for you!
@@444sunnibiswas 🩵🥹 thank you!
I’m 24 and I resonate with this sooo much !!! Thank you
Girllll the first 5 minutes of this video was very convicting thanks for this content. Keep sharing
9:38 she cookin’ 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I’m only half way thru the video and i fw you so hard already❤💯🔔
im 22 now. im so scared to regret or miss out. this inspired me to check in with myself. subbed :)
@@kaylahkindacool thank you love. & yeah, I definitely wish I could have checked in more with myself but I know better now and will do that way more
@@kaylahkindacool something my mom keeps telling me if you’re living in your youth it’s not regret it’s FOMO! Just go with the waves
I’m 19 I really wanna utilize my 20’s i want to be my best I have no idea how
Me too but I honestly think it’s best to start by looking into who you are and what you want for yourself by setting boundaries and standards so you never tolerate people who think they dictate your life
Hi, Shae!
When you say delaying your own success, what were yoy supposed to / wanted to do in your 20s that you didn't?
Thanks for sharing! I'm 22 right now and i don't want to self sabotage.
@@joelleweir9535 I’ve always wanted to do RUclips, for like 10years but I didn’t finally take it seriously until last year. I wanted to move to another state. So many events and opportunities I was invited to and wanted to go to but I would scare myself out of doing it. I was so afraid of failing that I scared myself out of success.
There’s no success without failure. That’s how you get better.
This is such an insightful video. You just gained a new subscriber. I look forward to your next video and success.
Thank you so much!
You’ll get it right next lifetime
Damn not you hitting the wall 😂😂😂
It took her alot of maturity to make this, we gotta giver her that.
Let's spend our 30s together ❤
I would love to hear certain examples of how you didn’t go in for yourself. Like what specifically was it that happened?
@@aliatianna888 the biggest one is starting RUclips almost 10 years ago. God placed it on my heart to start documenting my journey from the beginning and I would watch other RUclipsrs and get imposter syndrome. I would record videos all the time and tell myself I’m not good enough and delete them. I’ve been serious about RUclips now for about a year & im seeing why God lead me here.
❤️thank you for this.
It’s scary how much I relate to this I’m about to turn 19 on the 26th and this might be sign
@@AaliyahPresley oh yes, to be 19 again lol. But you’re gonna do so well moving into your 20s. & Happy early birthday.
8:40 is something I been saying but couldn’t articulate it and that was it ‼️
Dope content keep rising
big ups vid put alot of shit into perspective for me
This was good! 😮💨
@@ashantiksmithtv thankyou 🩵
I am self sabotaging as we speak (26) but I am making it out of there. But I'll tell you this, I am stuck stuck this time, I am being bummed by starting over, after my biz plans flopped just once. I can't believe myself though, the things I do? I don't celebrate birthdays, I don't buy myself chocolate, I don't go anywhere, I let my mom low key guilt me to home things, I agree to do things that have nothing to do with me here at home, I am at home unemployed 😂 Imagine I really do that to myself. It's me😢
But
I wanna travel to Thailand
I want to work towards my first million
I want to have my dream persona(not just body
I want to work on my self worth and love, hopefully through therapy and identifiable steps incorporated in my routine
I want to have a healthy savings account
I want to have a long term business, operating on itself
I want to continue with my studies
I want to pursue philanthropy
I'm turning it upside down, I'm going for it, I'm going to be planned and prepared when it comes to My Big Picture
@@brighterwithnzu392 I completely understand where you are! I was newly single with a low paying part time job & living w/ my parents at 26.. multiple failed business plans. But big desires. I’m now 29, a homeowner & doing more traveling than I would’ve imagined. It’s so possible to achieve every want you have.
It starts with the little things of taking care of yourself first. Setting boundaries that lead you to your goals.
I’m seriously rooting for you love.
@@theshaesthetic I have not set boundaries yet, I am just living n stopping certain things I don't appreciate When they occur but with no known boundaries to me or others. Thank you for the good word.
@@theshaesthetic I am taking care of myself through this phase and it's one thing I'm working on, it's a foundation I want to have bcoz of how it's essential to my dreams
You're God's Greatest angel😇 hallelujah❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ you're very beautifulperson
I see where you're coming from but, that's not the case with me! I deal with people being scared of everything and everyone, than on top of that, dealing with the problem of some believing that if you're not looking at them or talking to them, or if you're using one word phrases! You're not interested! Which, personally to me, is ridiculous! Especially when it comes to a woman being interested in you or just with people that could be possible friends. There's four MILLION different reasons why someone isn't looking at you or not talking to you: for one, they're probably busy with something! Or they just didn't see you. But that doesn't mean someone isn't interested in talking! And one word phrases doesn't mean someone isn't interested in talking! It's comical how many friendships have fallen through because of this! And if I could talk to the guys and women out their that were interested in talking to me, but thought I wasn't interested in talking to them! I would say, NOT EVERYTHING WORKS ON YOUR TIME! And in conjunction, slow it the hell down! We can become friends SLLLLLLLLOWWWWLLLY. Let me take a dump! Let me eat some brownies! We don't have to become friends RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW! That's what I would say to them. Feels good to get that off my chest. And don't even get me started with these "one chance nancys" not giving people second chances! Ridiculous! Good god! Anywho! Hope you guys are having a blessed day! :)
Love ❤ thanks for sharing
Was it all worth it? This is the question so many women will ask themselves when they get older and see the state their life is in. Women are not honest with each other because feelings are more important than truth. The reality is most women cope through life instead of living a life they can be proud of. Was it all worth it?
@@truthseekingfreethinker5214 actually yes! & it was still all worth it… i am the person i am today because of every part of my story.
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13:07 - 13:36 😂😂😂😂
@@Babygirl758 😂😂
@@theshaestheticthank you for the video, i needed to hear that ❤ (as a 26 year old)
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Your life is now.
Ok, but what are you even talking about?
Y'all.
This was great , I’m 25 and I can definitely relate this just motivated to be more intentional in my actions moving forward!💯🤞🏾💕
@@KAYLATHEPROBLEM 🩵 thank you! This is our chance to do better
I just need to know how to speed run this frontal lobe developing cus i just turned 21 in may and I’ve spent most of it crying 😩🤎
@@marsbarzart 🥹aww I wish.. but honestly love, it’s all about the journey. Something I didn’t do was enjoy the ride. I took life wayyyyy too serious. If you just allow yourself to have fun with it while learning from your own mistakes, it’ll be so much better
I’m scared of entering my 20s 😭😭😭i dont Wanna regret it
@@BigAfroLucky I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t be scared love. I’d suggest learning from those of us who made some decisions that we regret.. it’s very possible to have a good experience in your 20s. Remain positive and connected with yourself & your intuition will guide you right
@@theshaesthetic I’ll take notes thank you so much big sister