How to (ACTUALLY) Stop Buying: 4 Unconventional Tips
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Okay, so.. as someone who worked in several thrift stores, I can give some input here. I have worked at Goodwill and here is how the actual process works. We take your donations and give you a slip if you need one for taxes, we then sort your donations between clothing and non clothing items. The clothing is then processed by another worker who looks it over for significant damage like tears or stains. Those clothing items get chucked in a salvage bin immediately to be taken to other companies that can utilize the cloth waste. The "good" clothing gets put on a hanger on a rack and is tagged by another employee with a specific color tag for the week. The non-clothing items are assessed by how likely they are to sell and if there is floor space. They are also marked with a tag that is the color for that week. As long as it seems useful to someone (which is most everything- Just In Case, right? We know this) it will make it to the floor unless it genuinely does not fit. If it is deemed entirely unusable it is put into a trash compactor to lower the size of the waste as much as possible, and is picked up on occasion to be dumped. If it is useful but there is no space for it, we will try to store it in the back area (which is generally pretty large), as long as there is space and we can still comfortably process donations (we can't have people tripping themselves and getting hurt). However, if it really just can't fit, It may also make it's way into the trash compactor. More than likely though, it will fit. I would love to tell you that is because what was on the sales floor has been curated well, the right people came in and found just what they need and they bought it. If you want to stay "in the matrix" and allow yourself the " ignorance is bliss" thinking, leave now. For those of you left, we are going to discuss "Pulling". This is where employees walk the floor looking for the oldest clothing tag color so more clothes of that color can be put out the following week. These clothes have been on the floor for the entirety of the color cycle and have not sold, they go to salvage. The same happens with other small items like dishes, trinkets, and decor. However, sticky tags are tricky and like to fall off of stuff (this is why sometimes you see a few of the same tag on one goodwill item) and if there is no tag, we just have to remember or guess). With clothing, if the tag comes off it will either be noticed and retagged or stay there forever until someone buys it but also will never be removed for a new item to take it's place (So please don't remove tags thinking it's going to help!). Also, if you donate straight trash, like actual garbage, something that smells really gross, or is really dirty, or heaven forbid infested with something, we don't have the time or the means to wash or care for clothing or other items, so it is trashed the second it gets in the door (and we are not happy to have had to touch it either, so please don't do this either). In smaller or private owned thrift stores they get/choose to take less donations so the process is very similar except that things mainly sit there until they are sold more often as they are not doing weekly tags. Occasionally things will be tossed if they have been there a long time and it just makes sense. I have only worked in one store that laundered things. Please try to bring your donations in clean or at least not absolutely gross. Churches that do their own shops or run stores like the salvation army, and st vincent de paul tend to do things the latter way i mentioned. Goodwill reallt has it's own whole system. So, what do we take from all this? Don't expect a secondhand store to clean up your mess (literally, or in the sense of continuing to over purchase), but if you need to get things out to make breathing room and you really need that second chance for an item to part with it, bring it in. Unless your going to directly list it to your community or give it to someone you know for sale or free, it will most likely be the best option for it to get used again. Use it for decluttering, Don't use it as an excuse to shop for more stuff! If you have any questions, feel free to reply. I worked in these store environments for years. And Dawn, if you have somehow read this whole thing, feel free to use any of it to explain this process to your other subscribers. 😄 Whew, that was loooong, but hey if you made it this far, hopefully you learned something new today. Knowledge is power! Have a great day! 🥰
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I am not loving a video called “how to stop buying” followed by 15 minutes of things to buy
They were giving mday gift ideas
Same. I used to watch a lot of Minimal mom but this one has totally put me off
I agree. This was the first video in this channel that I didn't like :-( I'm really good about shopping and decluttering, this stuff comes super-naturally to me, but I know that a lot of women are struggling. And the worst part is that the gifts suggested here are particularly bad: who doesn't already have a water bottle? Why buy a book when you can get it at the library? I expected consumable gifts to be suggested (like chocolates, wine or flowers)... Definitely not gifts that stay in your closet for years until you finally get rid of them. I hope this channel sticks to its original and excellent concepts.
She said she normally doesn’t do this at all. Also finding quality products can help us avoid buying more products that do not work.
I get that, but I think the lesson was more that if you buy something of quality that you are happy with you won't shop for another
My favorite Mother’s Day gift is to get my car detailed. My 3 grown kids and husband paid to have my car detailed last Mother’s Day. It made me happy and I didn’t add any clutter to my house!
I LOVE that idea thank you for sharing!!!
Yes I think its better to do something like this or take your mother out for lunch, rather than buying useless junk they don't need.
I’ve asked for that before and absolutely love it!
My favorite Too!
Good idea
Feel like this could have been two separate videos. A video about impulse buying. A video about mothers day gift ideas.
I feel the same way. It kind of contradicts by saying "stop impulse buying" yet "here, buy these things". It's giving mixed signals, ladies!
@@crystalwalk6920 I think as adults we are able to distinguish Dawn's message about stopping impulse buying and gift buying. We are not 5 years old.
Dawn, this video is fine. I didn't get confused or feel you needed to make 2 separate segments. I am an adult, not a child.
I agree. Halfway through, I thought to myself... wasn't this about NOT shopping... but we're now shopping for OTHERS, not ourselves, right?
Agreed! I got confused half way through. However, since Dawn and her sister are so lovely it doesn't really matter!
My favorite Mothers Day gift was when my then 15 yo son bought and hauled 3 truckloads of mulch and mulched ALL our flowerbeds! Talk about surprised. 🎉 Can you tell Acts of Service is my love language? ❤. He is 33 now and I tell him every year how much that meant to me.
Well, of course! Because . . . really . . . it should be done every year.😉
How to stop buying, but here you can shop using our affiliate link???
Yes, and the affiliate link is for an MLM. Oops.
Have to agree with others, the gift ideas go against the title of the video.
I just saw a video about Trades of Hope being a MLM. You should watch that video before sharing...
I'm also really irritated by the gift ideas you present in a video about how not to buy stuff. It's still stuff! And stuff the gifted people don't choose themselves so maybe it's trash.
For mothers day last year my husband painted a bowl with our then 2 year old daughter and filmed the whole process. That was the best gift ever😂 as someone who works with young kids I laughed sooooo hard at my husband who desperately tried to make something pretty while being sabotaged by a toddler.
Am I going crazy or did you just tell us not to buy stuff then go on to tell us to buy all thus other stuff for Mother’s Day with an ethical stamp on it . Oh no I thought I could trust you .
I've loved your channel for years without commenting. Your positive attitude has always been uplifting. What I'm not loving in this video is your title of how to stop buying followed by 15 minutes advertising things to buy. Even worse, you promote your Trades of Hope side hustle - a known MLM scheme disguised as an advocacy organization. I don't feel uplifted now, I feel let down.
Been wondering also if Trades of Hope is a side hustle for Dawn
aw that’s a shame you never chose to comment except a negative one
Sometimes I go to the library when I’m really overwhelmed and I pick up anything that looks good and check out an armload of books. The library is calming, I feel like I bought something without buying anything, and you help libraries keep books on shelves. And then you return the books 2 weeks later, and sometimes I never read them! (I am a reader so it’s also comforting to have piles of interesting books that I *might* get to in my house).
I’ve been watching your channel for several years now, and I’m not gonna lie, I’m disappointed that a large part of this video about not buying things is showing us things to buy. Especially after you just complained about influencers always selling stuff. Shopping addiction is a real problem that a lot of people suffer from (myself included) and this video does nothing to address that. ☹️
What I’ve actually found really helpful are low buy/no buy videos on RUclips, as well as the no buy group on Reddit. People there are in various stages of conquering consumption, and they’re all very encouraging and helpful.
My favorite tip from an earlier video was to shop and put everything in your online cart - then only buy things on the first day of the month........ It's amazing how much fun I have looking and how little I end up buying!
I do that and most the time i change my mind after a week
I do love her videos… kinda wish the Mother’s Day gift ideas were a separate video. I feel like if you’re struggling to not overbuy on impulse, this could be a bit triggering. But the gift ideas were great!!! Definitely will keep them in mind. Holiday or special occasion gifting seems to get harder and harder every year, so it’s great to have good suggestions.
My favorite gift when my son was a baby was a day off. My husband would either take our son out for the day, or I would go out for lunch and a walk, go to the library to read, browse cute shops (I don't have a shopping problem). Time is the gift new mothers need.
Could have been a different video on holiday gifts, how many water bottles does one need lol
I loved this one. When trying not to buy I make myself visualize all of the things that I have decluttered. It helps me put things back. I also try to use the buy nothing sites to get rid of items as you are generally giving directly to someone that needs the item VS donation centers. All great advice and gift ideas.
What I want most from my daughter for Mother's day is a hug and an "I love you Mom!" That's all.
One thing we like to do is have 1 day a week dedicated to all things “shopping”. Groceries. Things for the house. Things for the kids. Etc. If it’s not a legitimate “need” that comes up during the week. It gets pushed to the shopping day. And then we’ll go through and review all our carts and take out what we don’t need or want anymore. Cuts down on the impulse purchases during the week.
That’s a good idea, I think I’ll give it a try!
How sensible! I get freaked out by those websites which tell me there are only 15, or 9 or 3 left when it's something I want. Maybe I need to think if I miss out, it's not for me. I also need to remember I can return things, and try them on instead of just assuming they will fit.
@@thatswhatisaid8908 yep! I used to be this way too. But I figured marketing is designed to create a scarcity mindset so we buy it. If I wait on it….it usually is still there. And if not? Depending on what it is….i check other stores and usually I can find it elsewhere. And if it’s really popular….theyll restock bc they know it will sell. Just have to practice patient spending. Easier said than done I know! ;)
This is a fantastic idea!
I have a really hard time with trades of hope because it is an mlm. They claim to help those women, and maybe they do, but they prey on our women like all mlms do. I don’t support mlms in any capacity, no matter how much they push religion or philanthropy. Of all the things you both talk about and preach this is the one thing that has never sat well with me. I encourage you to look into mlms more and see how it’s hurting one group of women to help another.
Thank you for saying this. It doesn’t sit well with me either and I’d be curious to know if Dawn is receiving a commission from Trades of Hope when her many followers are influenced to use her link.
@@deplorabledeb2615 oh she absolutely is. When you follow the link you go to her shopping page. All commissions go to her and since her sister Diana signed her up I’m assuming… then they’re both making money
@@deplorabledeb2615she says in 15:00 she gets money when someone uses the link
1. I highly recommend reading Sustainable Wardrobe by Sophie Benson.
2. When you see fashion videos or ads, let them inspire you to come up with something similar based on what you already have.
3. Have a mending day - replace that missing button, fix that seam, etc.
I am currently unemployed but what has helped me not to buy are 1) I prepared an excel spreadsheet of the things I wanted to buy when I got a job. Well so far I did not get a job and when I looked at that list, more than half the things that were on that list I did not want anymore anyways 2) I am now an organization queen. In past each time I went to Costco I picked things up thinking I may need it. Did not realize I ended up with 2 large gallons of Dawn dish soap. Two 36 rolls of toilet tissues. Lots of laundry detergent. Tons of toilet bowl cleaner. But now I am highly organized and I know exactly where everything is and I don't buy unless items I already have a used up. I am no longer trying new items. Even when I go food shopping I first make a meal plan for the week and then buy exactly what I will eat that week. Being organized made a big difference.
I wish I could upvote this a 100 times. This is exactly what I did. I have a pencil-written list on the fridge organized by store that I strictly stick to - Almost all essentials only. Organization and storing like-things together has made a huge impact.
While declutterring, I recently found old MD cards from my kids. No store-bought items can top those innocent loving heartfelt words.
I go, with my children to a local greenhouse and pick out two hanging baskets with the kids. They pay and then we go home and they make lunch for me and we eat together. (I would have bought the baskets anyway 😊). It is the best! I feel special just because they made time to spend with me. ❤
YES! I always ask for a hanging basket too!
And, it declutters itself every Fall.
While I see others don’t like seeing all the things to buy in a minimal video, I love it. For me this was like a shopping trip where I didn’t buy anything. 😊 I still got to see all the things, got the thrill with no regrets.
First Half: How to stop buying stuff...
Second Half: "Look at all this cool stuff to buy for Mother's Day!"
Really?
Wait a minute.....Did you just tell us not to shop and then just showed us all things to buy?? I'm confused.
I’m happy to have gift ideas for others!
@@NovasRUclipsName Yes! "Gift Ideas" would have been a great title for this :)
How to stop buying …buy more stuff. I’m joking but this video needs a trigger warning. Love you dawn but this is not a good video it just needs to be separate because it’s a bit of a trick . We watching to stop buying then it’s all secretly about buying .
How to ACTUALLY stop buying... And then How to buy some more lol
I usually love your videos, but really think you dropped the ball here. This should've been two separate videos.
Dawn, I love you, but: this video mentioned several things to buy! Argh! Mixed messaging today for sure...
She mentions it, because most people buy a gift for their mothers for Mother's Day. She isn't just saying to go shopping. She also says that some moms would rather go to eat or spend time together instead of having a gift. Everyone is different, but there are a lot of gift people. They don't feel loved if they aren't given a gift even if it is just a small one.
A video full of alternative gifts (time spent, cook a dinner, do a chore) would have been more on message
@tsunshine3564 my mom loved eating out
I agree.
Agreed, I think a separate Mother’s Day idea video could have been nice. I started off loving it and then became really confused as to what I was watching.
Yikes - what happened with this video? Quite the bait and switch - how to stop buying, but here are a bunch of great ideas of things to buy? I don't care if it's Mother's Day. This is not a good look.
I agree. I felt like this minimizing video became an advertisement.
Excellent first few minutes! I love you gals, but you lose me every time you try to sell stuff, especially in a video about how to not buy stuff. I recommend reexamining our gifting culture (who promotes it and who benefits from it). My family doesn’t do gifts for Hallmark holidays - I’ve never had to stress about the perfect gift for my mom or anyone else or over the guilt of decluttering a Mother’s Day gift I didn’t really want to receive. That doesn’t mean we don’t show love and appreciation (my mom is awesome and we’re very close), but it is possible to simply opt out of this aspect of our consumer culture.
I honestly get sick of all these days that are made up by shops to get people to buy more stuff they don't need - mothers day, fathers day, valentines day.... I'd prefer not to celebrate any of these - except birthdays maybe. My mother has everything she needs and wants so I make it clear I am not buying her a "thing" but will take her out to lunch, or wheverer she wants to go.
I’m on the divorce financial diet so it’s easy not to buy but that’s not all of my motivation not to buy. I lived with a hoarder and he always had to have a back up item or two in the pantry. If not, I’d get the blame. There were no clear walkways in the house. When I decided to leave I started decluttering, sent the kids’ stuff to them which they didn’t appreciate and went through my own stuff. Before he moved out, I knew I wanted my clutter under control, I only bought stuff that I was going to need for about 10yrs like linen, tools and pans that I wouldn’t be able to afford.
I’m actually loving stuff not coming to the house every day and that I have empty space in my home. Now I only buy stuff for a cheap reno of the house and I bought myself a book for my birthday. I’m proud to say I’m re-using anything around the house for reno that I can and actually doing the reno. I’ve always been a responsible saver but if you have an addictive spender in the house no matter what their income, your finances are toast.
I am a regular watcher. The folks turned off by your sales pitch for buying stuff towards the end was correct. Food for thought.
It wasn't toward the end, it was more like from the second quarter onward.
Trades of hope are an mlm!
"How to stop buying"- or "What to buy next"?? This is mostly advertising... For Mother's Day, ask for flowers or a potted plant, or something to be cooked for you. Stop buying more clutter. The next video will be about decluttering water bottles, too much jewelry and donating more stuff? Sorry, Dawn, this was disappointing but I'm still subscribed.
trades of hope operates like an MLM.
Please declutter the idea of giving gifts for a Mother’s Day. If you must, just do consumables only. I always just ask for going out to eat, or do take outs for dinner, so I don’t have to cook. That’s all. No gifts.
Agree! I love consumables, breakfast in bed, and/or homemade cards!
I recently heard shocking statistics on how much clothing goes to the landfills. It's sickening. I think donation centers just perpetuate the cycle of fast fashion and consumerism, over buying etc. I have been decluttering and donating a lot over the last few years but I have not been repurchasing and refilling those spaces that I've emptied.
I don’t understand why you talk about owning less and then you tell us about all this junk
Why are you showing us some stuff to buy ?????????
Controversial Tip: Boycott Amazon/Target/Walmart for their terrible business practices. Its crazy how much money you save and impulse purchases you avoid when you have to physically go to a thriftstore to get an item. The free shipping really adds to the "buy now" culture.
This only works if you are able-bodied. My mom is able to get everything she needs delivered because she cannot walk or drive.
@@julietteferrars3097 A lot of companies will ship directly, without having to go through Amazon. And of course, the tip is only for folks who have the option, which is a huge majority of those reading.
For someone like me who can see the potential in almost everything, thrift stores are a real danger for impulse buying things I don’t need but can upcycle.
@@kathychatterton5623 I hear you. Maybe set a limit. Youre allowed to buy one thing a month or one thing every three months to upcycle. Self control is hard in thrift stores because of its "temporary" nature. The item may not be there next time you go. I like to go with a list and only get what I need. And I avoid certain home decor aisles to prevent impulse buying. I also only go once a month if that. I used to shop on Amazon and walmart easily every week and have an eternal "cart" full every day. This tip has helped that tremendously. If I need to buy something new I will go to the actual website of the product. Usually the shipping cost will help me decide if it's a need or not. Free shipping is ruining our culture.
@@julietteferrars3097 alternative tip: buy things off of the manufacturer website directly. The shipping cost alone is a deterant to impulse spending.
I used to really enjoy dawn and cass videos, but now it seems like so much of the videos are pushing the online take back your house thing
The best Mother’s Day gift is to spend time with my kids doing an outdoor project without them grumbling, and a nice meal at home or a picnic made by my husband and kids. They also write in a journal for me each Mother’s Day and birthday. That’s about as clutter-free and economical as it gets.
I’m sending my mom a gift card to a restaurant and a gift so they can go see a movie, hopefully Unsung Hero that is coming out this week. We were able to go to a screening and loved it. It’s a GREAT movie to celebrate Mother’s Day and the gift of family.
How? Being poor really helps with curtailing the shopping.
Ive always told my kids when you are feeling down or depressed or feeling anxious try to do something nice to help someone. It takes your mind off of yourself.
Love that.
My most favorite Mother's Day gift was a jigsaw puzzle that my 5 kids designed for me. It is a patchwork quilt design which includes pictures of me with each of them, my favorite Bible verse and is bordered with the words that each of them would use to describe me. So, so special!!
For Mother’s Day I started asking for plants! And if anyone needs an idea, I’d love a month to audible or money toward getting my car detailed. I wrote down a whole list of things I’d rather have than one more physical item to care for.
I've asked for a gift card from our local garden center. I'll use it for annuals. I've asked one of my daughters to add me to her family plan for Spotify. She did that for her sister at Christmas. I do not want more stuff!
Here’s a thought…how about we DONT BUY yet another Mother’s Day gift?!! More “ stuff” we likely don’t really need, but spend TIME with our families?!
That would take a whole LOT of pressure off feeling the need to spend money, buying more stuff!🙌👍
Some of us are very far away from our mothers and would like to send them a gift. It's not so black and white.
This reminds me- when my grandmother died, we found all the Mothers Day gifts her grown kids had sent her over about 14 years, beautiful blouses, sweaters, skirts, jewelry, scarves- still in the boxes, stacked on her closet shelf…. They had all moved 8-12 hours drive away, but took care to send mom nice gifts for Mothers Day…
@@erikastanger7848 I agree, Absolutely, to each his own!👍
Trades of hope! Oh no, Dawn. That’s an MLM from what I e heard. half of this video is you trying to sell stuff you’ll earn commission from in a video titled how to stop buying! If anything, it could’ve been a separate video at the very least.
I talked with my son recently on gift giving. We both agreed that it's so hyped up. (We were talking about kids' birthdays, but it can apply to anyone.) Going out to dinner and spending that time talking is my favorite gift. It keeps down on clutter!
That's what I like to do too. It's easier to convince the immediate family to do that(parents kids etc), but much harder for siblings and in-laws. I have a 4 yr old toddler, she's the only one of her age range in the grandparents/aunts/uncles family, the amnt of toys she got for bday and christmas were so overwhelming every year, we kept telling everyone no need to buy so much, but it just made it worse, each aunt ended up buying 3-4 large toys for each occasion, and we as parents always got buried in the headache of what to do with the toys, and like Dawn said, my kid gets overwhelmed by the large amnt of toys she doesn't even know what to play with. It's so wasteful and energy consuming
For birthdays for my kids our tradition has always been that my husband takes the day off of work, the birthday kid gets to choose where they want to go for lunch or supper (depending on the time of the day that we go out), a treat for us all (either desert at the restaurant they chose or to go to an ice cream shoppe or something similar...they pretty much always choose ice cream haha) and they get to choose something fun to do with the whole family. That doesn't mean something impractical like going to Disney world....but like going to our favorite beach for the day, or going to the trampoline park or going swimming at the indoor pool. We all love this tradition and there are NO material gifts. My kids would way rather spend time with the family and have fun together than get a new toy, they have even said it themselves many times!
When I was a working single mom I used to take my son to the discount stores Saturdays and shop. Mostly I filled my cart and put a lot of it back but it was a way to deal with loneliness and isolation. To this day my grown son hates stores like TJ Maxx. Although he is mostly kidding I think it did affect him to have to spend half a Saturday sitting in a shopping cart and being bored. We should have been at home baking cookies or outside playing. I realize now that it was an addiction.
I would love to find a company that has the same mission as trades of hope but isn't an MLM.
And "stop buying", then pay 90 plus dollars for a video course on how to declutter? Just find any military mom who is moving and has a weight allowance, she'll show you how to dump the junk!
Another wonderful gift my kids have given me is the gift of “service.” They come and do a yard project or a house project that otherwise may or may not get done or it would take twice as long alone.
2 years ago I asked for my family to come help me cut willows and gather rocks for my garden. We had a fire and cooked our lunch out in the bush and got fresh air and exercise and goofed off. Best Mother's day ever❤❤
Please don’t promote MLMs like Trades of Hope. These are predatory companies that have no place on a channel like this. I typically love your content, but promoting your MLM business on here is a hard NO for me.
I made a comment early on saying it seemed great. Someone commented that it is an MLM, so I edited my comment to add that. The comment got a lot of attention and responses. The comment has now been deleted. I'm very disappointed Dawn is not allowing the discussion. It's a fact.
@@MyFocusVariesinteresting...I think I commented directly to you about that, well that is sad. They should look into it for themselves and not believe anyone else but it's easy enough to look up.
I’m sorry to hear that comments are being deleted. I don’t know if this one will stay, but I hope that Dawn will reconsider her relationship with them.
I also commented on Trades of Hope being an MLM and how these companies truly damage lives of vulnerable women. Now it looks like it has been deleted.
@@JeanHarvey03417_ it def does destroy lives!!
This is why im so fed up with high prices at charity shops, its so greedy when over flowing with donations!
But so many of the donations are complete junk, not stuff people want to buy. They have to look at what is cost effective
Yes! I can't scream this loud enough.
There is kind of a fine line between them putting their prices too low and then other thrift store owners or online shops just clean them out to profit their own shops. I had a friend that was in the thrift store business and told me about this.
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Hi. I had no idea. Unbelievable
@farmgirl4958 Yes, this....I was just told about this by my friendly local thrift shop ladies. It's sad. I shop almost solely thrift and yard sales. Always have. I find it's a relaxing hobby as well, just browsing, trying on goofy costumes with my daughter, the thrift employees and I bantering and visiting.
My favorite Mother's Day gifts are the handmade things my kids make for me, and the cards they make.
Isn’t trades of hope a MLM company? If we are truly supporting women, shouldn’t we avoid MLMs (which seem to specifically target vulnerable women) at all cost?
Sorry, can’t watch anymore if you’re going to say buy this instead, I don’t need any help in that area
This particular video isn’t very characteristic of most of Dawn’s videos… she has hundreds of videos I’m confident you’d find super helpful and encouraging ❤️
@@lisameloon1516 I’ve watched before…
Only a word of caution using double walled glass, and tell this to your kids if they are using them. Be very gentle with them. If you are putting ice in them, place the cubes inside very gently. Never drop the ice into them, or use with an ice dispenser on the fridge door. If using a spoon for stirring, don't bump the side walls. I had these, and used my ice dispenser to put ice into it. I did not hear the breaking, or see it. I filled with water, which is especially hard to see if it gets between the double walls. Started drinking, and thank goodness I noticed something was off. There was broken glass in my water that I could have swallowed. I immediately threw them all away. I just checked the reviews of your link and there are people who had similar experiences. They really were wonderful to use otherwise, but the glass just isn't strong enough and it's a pretty high risk.
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I thought you were going to focus on activities, not things, as MD gifts: going for walks, going out for meals, getting coffee, going to the movies etc . . .
Some of us appreciate gift ideas for mothers day. I'm 12 hours away from my mom.
I've always put stuff in my cart, then a week or so later I'll do additional research on the products & move them to save for later. Then I go through my save for later & delete. 😂
A show about ,"Stop Spending," but if you Spend,,,, Shop these products ...😮?
And shop these products that I make a commission off of 😮
I try to remember that it's not just what you take out, it's what you put in its place. If you used unnecessary buying for mood boosting, then when you take the unnecessary buying away, you need to replace it with something healthy that boosts your mood. Too many times we're just trying to grit our teeth and muscle through the void when we need to fill the void with something that truly satisfies.
I just got my Bundt cake book and I am excited! Love all of your content! Thanks for doing what you do ❤️
At this time I no longer by things for gifts. I only give flowers/plants from Trader Joes, gift card for movies or food. Things that do not clutter up your home and life.
I let my adult daughters off the hook long ago for Mother’s Day. They are loving and kind to me 365 days a year. Plus I had to arrange my day for them to honor me even though they were mothers too! I remember a particular Mother’s Day that their dad cooked, served and cleaned up a meal for both me and his current wife (we all get along). Other than that, I get to do whatever I want on Mother’s Day. Nap, read and watch TV!! We all wish each other HMD.
Nearly No waste gifts....salon or massage services, hire a task rabbit for things that need to be done at the house, gift certificates or gift cards...especially for restaurants or movie theaters, tickets to a play or concert, gift food, wine, fruit, etc.,
I am so fine without "getting" anything for Mother's Day. Or any other "holiday" for that matter. If I should mention something I need or want in conversation, a little surprise is always welcome - no need to wait for a "holiday.". 😄
When asked what I want I always say "good kids" and when they all roll their eyes and moan I say the same thing every time. Flowers or plants in ANY form(seed, bulb, cut, in pots, fake) or a massage. They then tell me every time how boring I am. All of my family except me are high in gift giving. Especially chocolate or treats. Not me. I want quality time(especially if it's outdoors) or just a good massage:)
4:42 I also get frustrated when people I follow try to sell me things. Ironic for this video title being “how to stop buying” and then became a Mother’s Day purchase video.
I'm so disappointed. How do you title a video on how to stop buying then endorse all these products? Ridiculous.
They’re human. Maybe it should’ve been split into 2 videos.
Love you guys, and I watch you very often. You’re always inspiring with great encouragement and grace for those struggling with clutter.
Please be careful of Trades for Hope. They seems like a great charity, but they are an MLM and have some shady business practices. They are a for profit company.
Again, some pretty fun suggestions for Mother’s Day, thank you so much!
Very well said,my words exactly ,thank you🙂
Ever since decluttering, I really appreciate tips for what is worthwhile to purchase. Thank you! I love the mother’s day gift ideas!
How to stop buying... followed by endorsements for products? Not cool. I feel this video was targeted to people with shopping addictions as help, then ended up being a potential "fix". Shame shame. I usually love your videos.
I love getting just hanging baskets or annual flowers from my kids along with spending the afternoon together. My kids are grown and still love to buy me things for Mothers Day and what better than flowers that you can enjoy for the summer 🌸
Each of my children (who are grown with families of their own) have given me very thoughtful Mother’s day gifts but the most recent one was a gift to go to a beautiful garden with my daughter and her family, a beautiful walk and lunch out. So sweet and memorable.
I don’t understand why Dawn gets so upset with influencers who she follows because they are always trying to sell things. Dawn does the same thing on her channel. It seems like a double standard to me.
This is so very true..
Respectfully, isn't Trades of Hope all sold via affiliate links?
I loved this. My favorite thing about this video is the joy you have about these items. And i think that's the feeling you develop when you declutter. You genuinely like the things you like. Also, I keep meaning to check out Trades of Hope.
I'm trying to make it so that if I'm in the mood to shop, I first have to check the status of my "procrastinated" to-do list (which is organizing my closet/storage/pantry). This way, I'll be re-learning what I have (which scratches that exploration itch) and have something set out to do (can't get bored if I already have a task/plan in place).
Thrift stores meet a real need for lower income areas. Our small rural town lost two Salvation Army stores during the lockdowns and ReStore had a fire and I am lost!
Affluent areas might not need them as much.
Yes. For most of my life, I haven't even been able to afford to buy new. I still buy most of my things second-hand, partly to benefit the charity, partly to save the planet by reducing the amount of stuff that is consumed, and partly because buying new fairly-traded stuff is expensive and I won't buy anything new if I feel that the person making it was not well treated.
The practical useful things go fast and I count on those.
That said, the thrift stores are overflowing with junk.
Home decor is the most awful - ever notice that Holiday decor is always the last to go at estate sales? It's very hard to repurpose!
First one of your videos I just can’t finish watching. Please change the title or separate the videos. It makes zero sense to complain about affiliate links and influencers and then spend 15 minutes trying to sell us stuff. Your links, albeit for a good cause, are still encouraging people to buy 😅😂
I LOVE you both, but I have noticed that you are starting to sell me things in your videos all the time. Don't make me stop following you!! I wish I could get through a video without something you showed me that I can buy.
I agree I don’t love the video
I tend to shop my house. When i declutter i always have the maybe pile. When i feel like shopping i go explore that section of whatever it is. So, say its clothes. I tend to gravitate to a certain part of my closet. When i get board i change those items out and put the others away. so everything is new to my eyes. I am on a no buy year and so i still get to have new stuff just stuff i already own that i dont normally go to. same with if i want to reorganize i have a few sets of baskets /totes that just make the rounds of the house. its new to the eye and room just not the house
Great idea. Going to try that!
@@Rose_is_a_Rose_ Hope it works for you. I find it fun. My style really doesnt change so its easier for me to do.
You are intentionally grabbing the attention of women with impulse shopping problems...only to then smack us in the face with a bunch of neat goodies to desire? Harsh!
I 100% am ok with you tubers selling things, promoting things, giving gift ideas...that's great! But to include that as a "surprise" in a video meant to attract women with impulse shopping problems? who are seeking help? that's just not okay😔
I have two favorite Mother's Day gifts: 1. a fountain for our deck. So relaxing to hear the water! 2. A ring with my 2 son's birthstones. Happy Mother's Day Dawn & Diana!
commit to buying second hand. It takes longer to find what you want and the right size. good for the planet too.
Lovely to see you together x
I love taking pictures of things at the store. It really helps. If I think about it again I can look at the picture. See what the price is, when the sale ends, or the color options. It's been awesome to do. I also do it with my kids. I will say let's take a picture and I will add it to your birthday/ holiday list.
Best gift was last year from my oldest, she ordered me a breakfast food from where I grew up. Geotta from Cincinnati.
This video is very contradictory. How to actually stop buying and then showing all the things you can buy for Mother's Day. It's like attracting all the shopaholics to your video to get them to buy all the things you have for sale. Really disappointing.
Such good ideas! I have been doing the “leave it in the Amazon cart” idea and it has really helped! I actually usually save it to the Save for Later area below the cart. That way the item isn’t mixed in with things I actually need when I go to buy those, but it’s still easy to find it if I realize I actually do need it another time!
I do this too. Just before I went and realised I’d put the same product in my save for later items four times! And I still am not going to buy it! So just shows you. Often it’s a whim that we don’t really need.😊
It has helped me tremendously to just put to "save for later". A day or two later, I'm thinking I realIy don't see the point of getting it anymore😂.
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To cut down on buying; I stay out of thrift stores unless I am looking for something specific. Today it was a king size sheet to cover my bedding plants (frost protection). I didn’t look for anything else. My SO waiting in the car for me, helps insure I don’t browse. Not going shopping unless he is there and waiting helps me stop shopping for entertainment.
I am a firm believer in shopping locally, for me that means a nearby city as I live in a small town with limited places to shop other than for groceries. So Amazon is a line item in my budget with a fixed dollar amount. I have one payday that my Amazon purchases are deducted from. I don’t shop other sites. I put whatever I think I want in my cart and then once a month, directly after paying bills, I look at my cart and prioritize what I am going to buy. At first I spent up to my dollar amount. Now I am able to buy only those things that I really want or need. It keeps me out of stores where I might be tempted to impulse buy. If I KNOW a local store has an item I want, I’ll buy locally, but I don’t go “looking for” a new watch or whatever I might want, for me that means no impulse buying a new purse when I went looking for a watch.
How to Stop Buying: stop watching influencers, even the "minimal" ones push you to buy things you don't need.
Thanks for all the great ideas for Mother's Day!! I love you guys and appreciate you both!!
Love the sweater Dawn! That color looks great on you!
I was looking forward to some practical tips to curb shopping (as opposed to esoteric things like “understand how dopamine works.”) and it seemed like most of the video was showing us more stuff we could buy 🤦🏻♀️
I've read that Trades of Hope is an MLM business model and therefore is perhaps not the most direct way to assist women in poverty. Can you research this more for us and let us know? I think we need to pursue ethical purchasing, even in our attempts to assist others. There are RUclipsrs making videos on how this company is an MLM so might not be a good look for you in promoting it? I don't know myself, just concerned to be ethical.
I'm interested in this as well.