Example of kingship adoption: in the secret garden Mary Lenox losses her family in a cholera epidemic and is sent to England from India to live with her uncle.
The fact that adoption is so expensive and takes so much time, effort, and paper work makes me so confused as to why my parents who adopted me were so abusive
This ticks me off just reading it and it goes to my other points. They would rather put children in abusive homes than to allow straight single men to adopt girls. They have put a stigma on men here in this country the US in the entire west and it was all by design. I took care of children had them day and night during the 80's/90's, a three year old, I had her for 7 months, loved her like my own, and then I was told adoption wouldn't workout because I was a single he, not a she. Today the have demonized and vilified us men to the point we can't go near children anywhere and the only time I ever get to see children is on the internet if even then, years of emptiness, no Christmas's, no birthday's, nothing. And by now I believe you can see why this ticks me off.
I'm so sorry they did that to you I've heard so many ppl talk about their adopted parents being abusive and I seen shows where adopted parents adopted their kids just to abuse them this world is so cruel and unfair. It's like ppl that want kids can't have them and can't adopt bc they cant afford to adopt and ppl like my nieces mom can have kids and my niece is on the autism spectrum non verbal and has all kinds of health problems bc her mother has pku an took pills her whole pregnancy she told my aunt any kid she has would have problems and shes even said she doesn't have that mother baby bond she makes me sick my niece was in the nicu the first 6 months of her life and 1 month in the picu her mom took us off the visition list for 2-3 weeks and i found out a few yrs later my niece passed away but they luckily was able to bring her back she didn't have one visitor when she took us off the visition list my moma got custody luckily and my niece left the hospital with my moma and my nieces mom has had 5 kids after her 2 are my brother's the others idk who their dad's are the first 2 kids we don't know for sure either
I grew up bulimic from the age 7+, and I sadly can not have children for myself because of the toll it had on my body. But since I have always loved children and wanted to raise children, so adopting seems so perfect. I’ve had a rough childhood and I want to give my future children a much better life❤
The only choice of having kids is to adopt as I am a homosexual male. I've known I've wanted to adopt for a while now but I still need to finish college, get a stable job, and overall have a consistent life. There are enough stereotypes about single males adopting and with me being gay I just hope it doesn't cause any more problems. The only reason I actually want to adopt is to make a child's life the best it can possibly become. I could go on and talk more about it but I don't want to write another essay. I guess adopting a waiting child through foster is the way to go, thank you for this video.
I’m a gay teen girl right now who wants to adopt kids when I’m older I could do donor but ain’t no way I want a entire human coming out of me I’m thinking adopting after I have a good job maybe a girlfriend or wife and around 30
You were saying you hadn’t heard of open international adoptions, but I just wanted to chime in and say that it definitely can and does happen. I know one family that adopted a baby boy with Down syndrome from Ukraine who has stayed in contact with his birth mother over the years, and has especially had increased contact throughout the war in Ukraine as the adoptive family tries to be there for the birth mom emotionally as well as financially through this dark time.
I live for these videos. 🙂 I'm open to adopting ages 5-14 most likely a sibling group 1st. I already know which waiting children I'm interested in but I have to wait until I turn 25 to adopt in my state... just 1 year away😩 but enough time to prepare.
Thanks again for the great, informative content! My husband and I are actually looking into embryo adoption and I'm surprised no one talks about it more (I knew nothing about it either until we got in touch with a couple different programs). It's generally faster and less expensive than domestic infant adoption (from what I've read, most programs can get you into their clinic within 6 months and cost between ($10,000-20,000 dollars). The program we are leaning towards costs $15,000 but has a 95% success rate and will fully refund you if you don't get pregnant within 3 attempts. We're also still in the process of becoming licensed to foster/adopt :)
I think a lot of people don’t mention this as a form of adoption because they don’t really see it as adoption and see it more as a fertility treatment, as most people don’t see brand new embryos as actual children that need to be adopted. If that’s how you want to grow your family and you’ll let the kids have contact with their genetic family then I think that’s great though 😊
Thank you for making this! My partner and I are thinking of starting of family soon and we both didn't even know where to start. This video is a great starting point to the conversation
Thank you for the helpful information. My husband and I have had no luck conceiving a child, so we are thinking about adopting. I was adopted myself, so that makes me want to adopt that much more.
I am 20 years old from Egypt. My mother and father separated 18 years ago, and I live alone, looking for a family that will make me feel a sense of belonging.
I know a family that had an open adoption and it was great! The little girl was very happy and very good and she loved her family and she called her birth mom her birth mom and knew all about it she was super smart and loved getting visits from her birth mom
Watched this whole video to find out you live in OH too! 💕 adoption is a huge part of my husbands life, and mine. I just had our first baby 4 months ago and we would absolutely love to adopt to complete our family. I know it’s a process, so I’ve been spitballing the idea. It’s seems silly all the hoops you jump through to adopt a child, but the hospital will let you walk out with a newborn with no prior knowledge.
When you hear about all the children who are abused in foster/adopted homes you’ll understand why the hoops are necessary! I used to volunteer as a CASA (court appointed special advocate), and the little girl I was advocating for was being verbally bullied in her foster home, but the case worker said it “wasn’t that bad” and she had no where better to move her to. Children desperately need homes that are safe, loving and trauma informed.
My Dad’s best friend adopted a girl through foster care. She had been severely beaten by her mom’s boyfriend. She had problems developmentally. The pediatrician in town told my dad’s best friend and his wife that the girl would not be worth adopting. They continued with the adoption. Yes the girl was delayed. My dad’s best friend and twin sister were adopted. The twin sister had cerebral palsy. Their parents would not split those two up and he wasn’t going to turn away anyone with a disability. The daughter grew up. She is an adult now and has kids of her own. They are having to raise the grandkids. I don’t know the backstory on the father so much other than he had developmental problems as well.
@@Thelambsdoor which type of adoption are you considering? I offer consultations for those hoping to adopt from foster care. You can check it out here if interested ☺️ www.adoptinformed.com/
Hi Katie. I am currently 5 months pregnant with a healthy baby boy. I have a 10 year old son. I'm a healthy 30 year old. This baby is baby number 2. Financially, I wouldn't be able to make it given the economy in South Africa. I want my second son to have thee best life ever. I am thinking to let him be with adoptive parents from new born. Just no idea how any of this even works!
The thing is, we shouldn't call these "agencies" because they are not government agencies. They're for-profit businesses, companies, that manipulate, coerce, and deceive the birthmothers in order to obtain their product for other families to procure. Some of them have price lists for white babies, Black babies, newborns, older infants, healthy babies, babies with known disabilities or physical ailments. It's a racket. Supply and demand completely shapes the pricing. My adoption in 1964 cost $600, equivalent to $5,600 today. But you know how much private adoptions cost today. What changed? Nothing substantial has changed except two things: a) Roe v. Wade, and b) most white women in prenatal crisis who are carrying to term are keeping their babies today. Supply and demand! Yes a couple of things have changed: there is open adoption (NOT legally enforceable in any state, even in California which declares it enforces it but the judges don't do so), and birth-matching. Birth-matching doesn't cost money, though; it makes the adoption agency more money by making it more likely the birthmother will surrender her child to the hopeful adoptive parents. Both of these are deceitful, manipulative gimmicks to part the mother and her child.
Hey Katie! Thanks for your videos. We are in the process of getting our foster care license in hopes for adoption . However, is there a way to ask for children who are “waiting children”?
There are lists of waiting children in each county as well as a national list on Adoptus kids. You can talk with your agency about adopting a waiting child and then you can see what they are able to do! Our agency can adopt from anywhere in the US, but our kids have all been placed from our state (just different counties).
Question: when adopting a waiting child, can they be homeschooled during the time of waiting? I’ve heard that they have to go to public school… I homeschool my 4 so just want to prepare for the dynamic
It is very possible they will require the child to go to public school during that time frame. There can be good things about that because it could allow them to meet kids in the area and the school can often provide services like speech, occupational therapy, one-on-one time with the counselor, etc. That saves you a lot of time and effort as a homeschool parent having to outsource those things :) However, if you think homeschool would be a good fit for the child, you could always ask if they would allow you to do online public school. That way the child would still be at home, just following a public school curriculum on the computer.
Great video!!! Thank you so much for this information. Ive been watching so many videos to get myself educated. I want to adopt teens but I dont think my house is ready for the home study (it's a fixer upper) I cant wait though!!!
I love that you want to adopt teens! ❤ I teach high school, so teens have a special place in my heart. You should look into your state/local requirements for what your house needs to be like because you'd be surprised at what would be okay! Once you start with an agency they will give you a list :)
@@adoptinformed I've been slowly looking into agencies. I'm in New Jersey so we are still pretty locked down over here 😂 but I hope to go to some information sessions onces my state starts them again. Thank you for all your content I've been watching your videos all day :)
I understand making the waiting parents wait 7 years but why do these adoption agencies also make the poor child wait so long? they keep these children waiting too?
Very informative video, thank you for taking the time... I didn’t know where to start. Off topic question, what is your color paint name?? Is a true gret which is hard to get.
Hi Katie, thanks for your amazing videos. Could I ask a question: If I am not a US citizen, and I want to adopt US children, where the process could be different from a US-citizen-adoption? Let’s say I want a US new-born, I assume I come to the US, find a private agency, express my interest to them, pay and wait? I believe it would be more complicated and more red tapes involved 😢 Thank you!
If you live in the US and have a green card there can be a slightly different process depending on your state but it’s not impossible from what I understand!
What I learned in this video is that the government & adoptive agencies own the kids & they just do whatever rules. I say this cuz it seems that all the process is just toooo long & EXPENSIVE.😳 When people get pregnant they have their kids in any situation & they adapt their lives to their new member of the family. The only think that those entities should know is the fact that the couples are not criminals, they have jobs & a house or apt. Thank you for the video I learned something else.
yeah i hate it, I want to adopt a boy so bad but i cant afford these costs. We already have a 9 year old daughter and i would have another kid myself but had a traumatic experience and don't want to go thru it again.
Ive thought about being a foster parent to be able to adopt and if not just be a warm and loving home even if its for a short while to a child and show them love and respect just so they know someone does love and care about them i hate that kids have to go in foster care and end up having to go place to place and not having a place to call home or that security or someone not loving and caring about them it breaks my heart 💔
@@AmandaR08 there are options to adopt a waiting child from foster care, and there is a HUGE need for good foster families! I have tons of other videos about the topic so hopefully that could help you get started if you are interested! ❤️
Hello, I'm 36 years old and I've lived in Alabama all my life. But I did see this video and I am interested in learning more about foster care for a newborn baby or up to 2 years old. Although the goal in mind is to provide a loving and safe home for a child however long they are with us, but if we and the child are a good fit and its not possible for that child to retirn back to theor borth parents, I want to know the process in how to adopt that child and will the govement still provide medical care for that child as well as a monthly billing to provide for all of the childs needs and care. Or if they immediately cut you and the child off from that source of means that helps provide even more so for that child? And I want to know more aboit the entire process of fostering to hopefully adopt in the future if your blessed enough to provide a jome for a baby that needs one that cannot go back to birth parents even thoigh that should be the main goal. It does sound more affordable and might have luck down the line of adoptong a child of the desired age you are wanting. I had no idea that other ways of adopting a child could cpst 20,000 or 40,000. So yes, foster and possibly adopt if given that chance sounds better too me of possible. I'm not ready to fill out a form or anything because I have to take this one step at a time with my husband. And discuss when is the best time to start the process. And I wonder how long it usually takes from starting the process and actually adopting a baby boy or baby girl in Alabama. Or how long it takes to just becole foster parents who may adopt later down the road. I just want to learn about the entire process, the requirements, the cost and how long it can take sometimes to find a newborn baby boy or newborn baby girl or 4-7 months old. And if you adopt or foster twins, is it alright if they share 1 decent size bedroom together? I don't know what the requirements need to be if my husband and I were to both decide to adopt a baby boy or baby girl. Or twin babys. Or foster them. But we can provide a safe, clean and loving home for a child with a bedroom all to themselves. And room to sleep, play and study for school when they are older. And a nice big yard to play outside. And provide according to their needs to the best of our ability. Plus my husband has a very large family and siblings lots of cousins and 2nd cousins he is close to that are kids and I have young nephew and nieces. So any child we are blessed with will be happily received and loved by this big family who supports one another and is there for each other. And they will have young cousins to grow up with. Do mosy start out as foster parents and sometimes decide to adopt the one they have fostered? How much does it cost to adopt those fostered in Alabama? And what are the requirements of being a foster parent? Is the cost the same no matter how young or old the child is? If we were to adopt a baby, and I decide to either only work part time or be a stay at home mom for a couple of years since my husband works full time, is that an issue that an adoption agency will have any problems with? Im sure they do a criminal record, and my husband and I have a clean record and have not been in trouble with the law. We also do not allow drugs or alcohol in our home. We are highly against it. Neither of us has any children. And I'm in my 30s. And we have been married for 17 years. And we are in good health. I imagine that it's hard to find adoption for a newborn baby boy and newborn baby girl, so is it best to fill out a form as soon as possible and get on a waiting list for adoption or fostering? And how many months will go by before a social worker would come out to your home to see your home and the provided room you have for a child? What are some questions we can be expected to ask and what all does a social worker look for in both the house and the potential adoptive parents? Do they require you to make a certain yearly income? Any information you can give me or send me by email I would greatly appreciate. I have a gmail account and can msg you if you give me your email. Or perhaps share a link to a page I can read about what to do and who to call? Thank you so much for your time. And I hope these little Angel's all find a home where they are safe and loved and given a chance for a great future and a family to support them along the way.
Hello, I am interested in adopting in the state of Texas; if you have any information on Texas adoption process or would do a Video on the Process it would be Greatly Appreciated. Thank you. Awesome Video!!!💯
What about wanting to adopt a kid anywhere from age 2-7 years old? Is it possible to foster them first and then fully adopt them? Is it possible to adopt a kid 2-7 years old without fostering them first as well? Are all kids who are in the foster care system have parents and or family who are alive or are any kids in the system kids with no living family at all?
Yes that’s actually pretty common, sometimes the parent or the social worker will offer you to adopt the child if you have a good connection and are a good fit for that kid
Do you know if there is a way for an American to adopt an Italian child if I have dual citizenship? Or as an ordinary American without dual citizenship?
Hmm...I'm not sure on that one! I mostly help families adopt from the US foster care system. I haven't actually heard of an American adopting from Italy before, so you might want to research agencies that have Italy programs to see if there are any. Best of luck on your search!
As long as her newborn isn’t in the custody of CPS for some reason, you can most likely go through an adoption attorney! I would look for some in your area and see if they have free consultations.
You will want to look for an agency in your state that does “foster to adopt” or “waiting child adoptions.” Different states call it different things. You can also call your county’s job and family services first, but many prefer to find an agency that also helps facilitate adoptions from other states. It is more rare to adopt a child that is 2 or 3 in this way, but definitely not impossible. A lot will depend on if you are open to adopting that child with an older sibling or if you are open to adopting a child with some special needs.
Yes, because you already have a relationship with them! Even a teacher adopting one of their students would count as kinship because there was a previous relationship.
I have custody of a baby. I know the birth mom. I want to adopt, but I don’t know what paperwork to file. Mom and Dad are not going to contest the adoption. Can anyone point me into the right direction?
Assistance for childbirth on the premise of giving up your child feels incredible unethical. Are there similar assistances available for parents who choose to keep their child?
This is an older video so I’m trying to remember what you are referring to…in infant adoption, adoptive parents typically will help with medical assistance for the birth mom who has chosen them to parent her child. If the birth mom changes her mind after giving birth (which I completely think she deserves that right), the adoptive parents don’t get any of that back, so in essence that bio mom did get assistance. In foster care adoption, the bio parents lost parental rights due to ongoing neglect and abuse. Foster parents who adopt these children are often given some financial assistance to help care for their child’s needs, including different types of therapy and activities to help them overcome some of the trauma they have experienced. Foster care adoption fills a big need and is more financially accessible for most parents.
Unfortunately, yes...although the hospital bills in the US are definitely quite expensive. I agree that adoption should be more accessible, but in infant adoption a lot of that money is actually going towards supporting the birth mom...sometimes helping with rent, medical bills, etc. The agency needs to be paid for providing the home study service and matching as well. However, it is pretty insane how much it costs to adopt!
My gf nd I wanna adopt maybe two lol girls so they can be sisters for our lil 3 yo , I’m 24, she is 23 . I’ll be buying my second house this year a bigger one , we are looking in the ages of 5-6 is it harder ?
Like the American adoption system is any better than any other country. The same problems if you have looked behind the curtain of the American system. Just more greed in the American system, and more money for the human traffickers. No difference at all. The only way adoption should work is flat fee with no astronomical prices and make sure the families are stable. That doesn't cost that much. A camera to do the home recording is like 100 bucks. A person to review it for approval only 200-300$ worth of man hours. Thats for America and thats cheap.
2:46 this sounds an awful lot like child trafficking. I would like to adopt a child I do not mind the police doing criminal records checks or other people from say, child welfare or whomever federal government employee needs to look at the residence. I have no specifications as to color of the child I see life having far too many youngins without a legal guardian as they lost their moms and dads in car accidents or the parent just could not keep up with rent, food, clothing. I have a cat my cat eats before I eat but at the same time, my cat always has access to outside he has total; freedom we've had our talk he knows he is his own puddytat
Uh, hi. I'm not actually trying to adopt. But as a nonprofessional writer/artist, I have this female character that happens to take care of a preteen girl that used to be homeless. Now that I'm attempting to go deeper in how this happened, it turns out I have no idea of how adoption works. I'm in no way looking to disrespect you, would appreciate if you could give me a little notion about adoption of homeless children. If you are not comfortable with it, I'll understand it and delete my comment right away! Thanks!
There are almost 1 million unborn babies killed in the US every year. There are more than enough adoptive families that could save the lives of those sweet souls. Keep pushing for change.
Completely disagree. We don't need anymore unwanted children in this world. We have so many already los t in the system and way too mmy people have no business having kids. It's also expensive for tax payers.
@@dee20221 what are you talking about? Maybe you live ina a different world or country. In US, roughly 20,000 kids age out of foster care every year. Are you mentally OK?
@RosettaStoned462 What does that have to do with this topic? The purpose of foster care is reunification with their family. Nearly all kids in foster care will never be available for adoption as their family works to get them back. Your lack of understanding in this topic is not surprising, but it should be a sign for you to educate yourself before making any comments about it.
That's sad. So many children need love and have a price for their souls. So many are trap in these places that don't really help the children. People are not property to be sold like property.
I totally agree. I wish the process of adoption wasn’t so expensive. We adopted from foster care because we knew we wanted to adopt, but the other routes didn’t seem financially feasible. There are definitely corrupt situations, but there is also a lot of complexity to why adoptions are so costly. With infant adoption, a lot of money often goes to helping the birth mother with medical expenses or even living expenses, which can add up. With international adoption, you have documentation traveling from one country to another, needing to be translated. Oftentimes workers from your agency will need to travel to the country to help make arrangements. You need attorneys to help with making the adoption legal…etc. I wish there was an easier solution!
To me that is actually buying a baby. We pay taxes, so this should be covered by government, as we are keeping these kids away from foster care, even if they come direct from a birth parent. I adopted 2 girls, in my country, after giving birth to 3 boys. The ONLY fee I had to pay, was for their new birth certificates, and that was about $1 US dollar. So to me, when I hear about these fees, it feels like buying a baby. And I am afraid now for one of my sons, as we move away from our country, and now he wants to adopt… but these fees make it almost unattainable to him…
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Example of kingship adoption: in the secret garden Mary Lenox losses her family in a cholera epidemic and is sent to England from India to live with her uncle.
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The fact that adoption is so expensive and takes so much time, effort, and paper work makes me so confused as to why my parents who adopted me were so abusive
I’m so sorry that happened to you 😢
They paid an arm and a leg for designer babies so they expect good product 😢 I'm sorry that happened kids should be cherished.
@@gabrielbush6455😭
This ticks me off just reading it and it goes to my other points. They would rather put children in abusive homes than to allow straight single men to adopt girls. They have put a stigma on men here in this country the US in the entire west and it was all by design. I took care of children had them day and night during the 80's/90's, a three year old, I had her for 7 months, loved her like my own, and then I was told adoption wouldn't workout because I was a single he, not a she. Today the have demonized and vilified us men to the point we can't go near children anywhere and the only time I ever get to see children is on the internet if even then, years of emptiness, no Christmas's, no birthday's, nothing. And by now I believe you can see why this ticks me off.
I'm so sorry they did that to you I've heard so many ppl talk about their adopted parents being abusive and I seen shows where adopted parents adopted their kids just to abuse them this world is so cruel and unfair. It's like ppl that want kids can't have them and can't adopt bc they cant afford to adopt and ppl like my nieces mom can have kids and my niece is on the autism spectrum non verbal and has all kinds of health problems bc her mother has pku an took pills her whole pregnancy she told my aunt any kid she has would have problems and shes even said she doesn't have that mother baby bond she makes me sick my niece was in the nicu the first 6 months of her life and 1 month in the picu her mom took us off the visition list for 2-3 weeks and i found out a few yrs later my niece passed away but they luckily was able to bring her back she didn't have one visitor when she took us off the visition list my moma got custody luckily and my niece left the hospital with my moma and my nieces mom has had 5 kids after her 2 are my brother's the others idk who their dad's are the first 2 kids we don't know for sure either
I grew up bulimic from the age 7+, and I sadly can not have children for myself because of the toll it had on my body. But since I have always loved children and wanted to raise children, so adopting seems so perfect. I’ve had a rough childhood and I want to give my future children a much better life❤
Hello i am from Bangladesh i am 14 boy
Isn't it wild? $400 to abort one $40,000 to take it home alive... what a sad world we live in.
It is crazy!
Heartbreaking
Girl shut up
I never thought of it that way.
It's almost as if the system doesn't care about kids. 🤔
The only choice of having kids is to adopt as I am a homosexual male. I've known I've wanted to adopt for a while now but I still need to finish college, get a stable job, and overall have a consistent life. There are enough stereotypes about single males adopting and with me being gay I just hope it doesn't cause any more problems. The only reason I actually want to adopt is to make a child's life the best it can possibly become. I could go on and talk more about it but I don't want to write another essay. I guess adopting a waiting child through foster is the way to go, thank you for this video.
I’m a gay teen girl right now who wants to adopt kids when I’m older I could do donor but ain’t no way I want a entire human coming out of me I’m thinking adopting after I have a good job maybe a girlfriend or wife and around 30
You were saying you hadn’t heard of open international adoptions, but I just wanted to chime in and say that it definitely can and does happen. I know one family that adopted a baby boy with Down syndrome from Ukraine who has stayed in contact with his birth mother over the years, and has especially had increased contact throughout the war in Ukraine as the adoptive family tries to be there for the birth mom emotionally as well as financially through this dark time.
That’s beautiful! ❤️ that’s so great that they were able to keep contact.
@@adoptinformed Are foundling situations close adoptions or special needs adoptions???
I live for these videos. 🙂 I'm open to adopting ages 5-14 most likely a sibling group 1st. I already know which waiting children I'm interested in but I have to wait until I turn 25 to adopt in my state... just 1 year away😩 but enough time to prepare.
This is awesome! Sibling groups are one of the hardest to find homes for.
I'm 19🙂🙂💔
I'm 17 😳😓 looking to be adopted by a new family
Thanks again for the great, informative content! My husband and I are actually looking into embryo adoption and I'm surprised no one talks about it more (I knew nothing about it either until we got in touch with a couple different programs). It's generally faster and less expensive than domestic infant adoption (from what I've read, most programs can get you into their clinic within 6 months and cost between ($10,000-20,000 dollars). The program we are leaning towards costs $15,000 but has a 95% success rate and will fully refund you if you don't get pregnant within 3 attempts. We're also still in the process of becoming licensed to foster/adopt :)
That's awesome! I didn't feel like I knew enough about it to include it in the video but that's another great option to be aware of!
I think a lot of people don’t mention this as a form of adoption because they don’t really see it as adoption and see it more as a fertility treatment, as most people don’t see brand new embryos as actual children that need to be adopted. If that’s how you want to grow your family and you’ll let the kids have contact with their genetic family then I think that’s great though 😊
Thank you for making this! My partner and I are thinking of starting of family soon and we both didn't even know where to start. This video is a great starting point to the conversation
Thank you for the helpful information. My husband and I have had no luck conceiving a child, so we are thinking about adopting. I was adopted myself, so that makes me want to adopt that much more.
This was so helpful, thank you!
I am 20 years old from Egypt. My mother and father separated 18 years ago, and I live alone, looking for a family that will make me feel a sense of belonging.
Thank you so much for these videos! Our family is looking into adoption and your videos are helping us make a plan!
We have decided to pursue adoption. These videos are very helpful
I know a family that had an open adoption and it was great! The little girl was very happy and very good and she loved her family and she called her birth mom her birth mom and knew all about it she was super smart and loved getting visits from her birth mom
That’s so great! I think it can be really healthy for the child!
Watched this whole video to find out you live in OH too! 💕 adoption is a huge part of my husbands life, and mine. I just had our first baby 4 months ago and we would absolutely love to adopt to complete our family. I know it’s a process, so I’ve been spitballing the idea.
It’s seems silly all the hoops you jump through to adopt a child, but the hospital will let you walk out with a newborn with no prior knowledge.
Oh nice! Yeah, there are a lot of hoops to jump through, but it’s totally worth it. 🥰
When you hear about all the children who are abused in foster/adopted homes you’ll understand why the hoops are necessary! I used to volunteer as a CASA (court appointed special advocate), and the little girl I was advocating for was being verbally bullied in her foster home, but the case worker said it “wasn’t that bad” and she had no where better to move her to. Children desperately need homes that are safe, loving and trauma informed.
My Dad’s best friend adopted a girl through foster care. She had been severely beaten by her mom’s boyfriend. She had problems developmentally. The pediatrician in town told my dad’s best friend and his wife that the girl would not be worth adopting. They continued with the adoption. Yes the girl was delayed. My dad’s best friend and twin sister were adopted. The twin sister had cerebral palsy. Their parents would not split those two up and he wasn’t going to turn away anyone with a disability. The daughter grew up. She is an adult now and has kids of her own. They are having to raise the grandkids. I don’t know the backstory on the father so much other than he had developmental problems as well.
We need help/ advice on how to do this adoption thing.
@@Thelambsdoor which type of adoption are you considering? I offer consultations for those hoping to adopt from foster care. You can check it out here if interested ☺️ www.adoptinformed.com/
Seriously, thank you for your videos!
Hi Katie. I am currently 5 months pregnant with a healthy baby boy. I have a 10 year old son. I'm a healthy 30 year old. This baby is baby number 2. Financially, I wouldn't be able to make it given the economy in South Africa. I want my second son to have thee best life ever. I am thinking to let him be with adoptive parents from new born. Just no idea how any of this even works!
What agency did you go through? We are really really looking into adopting a child!
The thing is, we shouldn't call these "agencies" because they are not government agencies. They're for-profit businesses, companies, that manipulate, coerce, and deceive the birthmothers in order to obtain their product for other families to procure. Some of them have price lists for white babies, Black babies, newborns, older infants, healthy babies, babies with known disabilities or physical ailments. It's a racket. Supply and demand completely shapes the pricing. My adoption in 1964 cost $600, equivalent to $5,600 today. But you know how much private adoptions cost today. What changed? Nothing substantial has changed except two things: a) Roe v. Wade, and b) most white women in prenatal crisis who are carrying to term are keeping their babies today. Supply and demand! Yes a couple of things have changed: there is open adoption (NOT legally enforceable in any state, even in California which declares it enforces it but the judges don't do so), and birth-matching. Birth-matching doesn't cost money, though; it makes the adoption agency more money by making it more likely the birthmother will surrender her child to the hopeful adoptive parents. Both of these are deceitful, manipulative gimmicks to part the mother and her child.
Appreciate this video. Thinking about adoption but theres not many good videos about it.
Great content! Very helpful information thank you!
Hey Katie! Thanks for your videos. We are in the process of getting our foster care license in hopes for adoption . However, is there a way to ask for children who are “waiting children”?
There are lists of waiting children in each county as well as a national list on Adoptus kids. You can talk with your agency about adopting a waiting child and then you can see what they are able to do! Our agency can adopt from anywhere in the US, but our kids have all been placed from our state (just different counties).
Question: when adopting a waiting child, can they be homeschooled during the time of waiting? I’ve heard that they have to go to public school… I homeschool my 4 so just want to prepare for the dynamic
It is very possible they will require the child to go to public school during that time frame. There can be good things about that because it could allow them to meet kids in the area and the school can often provide services like speech, occupational therapy, one-on-one time with the counselor, etc. That saves you a lot of time and effort as a homeschool parent having to outsource those things :) However, if you think homeschool would be a good fit for the child, you could always ask if they would allow you to do online public school. That way the child would still be at home, just following a public school curriculum on the computer.
@@adoptinformedthank you! I was thinking the same thing about the online public school thing too!
Great video!!! Thank you so much for this information. Ive been watching so many videos to get myself educated. I want to adopt teens but I dont think my house is ready for the home study (it's a fixer upper) I cant wait though!!!
I love that you want to adopt teens! ❤ I teach high school, so teens have a special place in my heart. You should look into your state/local requirements for what your house needs to be like because you'd be surprised at what would be okay! Once you start with an agency they will give you a list :)
@@adoptinformed I've been slowly looking into agencies. I'm in New Jersey so we are still pretty locked down over here 😂 but I hope to go to some information sessions onces my state starts them again. Thank you for all your content I've been watching your videos all day :)
I think its very informative information I got no idea about adoption but I am really interested in adoption. I am from Papua New Guinea 🇵🇬
I understand making the waiting parents wait 7 years but why do these adoption agencies also make the poor child wait so long? they keep these children waiting too?
Also post adoption support!
Very informative.. thank you 👍
Very informative video, thank you for taking the time... I didn’t know where to start. Off topic question, what is your color paint name?? Is a true gret which is hard to get.
It is Sherwin Williams light French Gray! We love it!
Hi Katie, thanks for your amazing videos.
Could I ask a question: If I am not a US citizen, and I want to adopt US children, where the process could be different from a US-citizen-adoption? Let’s say I want a US new-born, I assume I come to the US, find a private agency, express my interest to them, pay and wait? I believe it would be more complicated and more red tapes involved 😢
Thank you!
If you live in the US and have a green card there can be a slightly different process depending on your state but it’s not impossible from what I understand!
@@adoptinformed thanks ❤️
What I learned in this video is that the government & adoptive agencies own the kids & they just do whatever rules. I say this cuz it seems that all the process is just toooo long & EXPENSIVE.😳
When people get pregnant they have their kids in any situation & they adapt their lives to their new member of the family.
The only think that those entities should know is the fact that the couples are not criminals, they have jobs & a house or apt.
Thank you for the video I learned something else.
yeah i hate it, I want to adopt a boy so bad but i cant afford these costs. We already have a 9 year old daughter and i would have another kid myself but had a traumatic experience and don't want to go thru it again.
Ive thought about being a foster parent to be able to adopt and if not just be a warm and loving home even if its for a short while to a child and show them love and respect just so they know someone does love and care about them i hate that kids have to go in foster care and end up having to go place to place and not having a place to call home or that security or someone not loving and caring about them it breaks my heart 💔
@@AmandaR08 there are options to adopt a waiting child from foster care, and there is a HUGE need for good foster families! I have tons of other videos about the topic so hopefully that could help you get started if you are interested! ❤️
Hello, I'm 36 years old and I've lived in Alabama all my life.
But I did see this video and I am interested in learning more about foster care for a newborn baby or up to 2 years old.
Although the goal in mind is to provide a loving and safe home for a child however long they are with us, but if we and the child are a good fit and its not possible for that child to retirn back to theor borth parents, I want to know the process in how to adopt that child and will the govement still provide medical care for that child as well as a monthly billing to provide for all of the childs needs and care.
Or if they immediately cut you and the child off from that source of means that helps provide even more so for that child?
And I want to know more aboit the entire process of fostering to hopefully adopt in the future if your blessed enough to provide a jome for a baby that needs one that cannot go back to birth parents even thoigh that should be the main goal. It does sound more affordable and might have luck down the line of adoptong a child of the desired age you are wanting.
I had no idea that other ways of adopting a child could cpst 20,000 or 40,000.
So yes, foster and possibly adopt if given that chance sounds better too me of possible.
I'm not ready to fill out a form or anything because I have to take this one step at a time with my husband. And discuss when is the best time to start the process. And I wonder how long it usually takes from starting the process and actually adopting a baby boy or baby girl in Alabama.
Or how long it takes to just becole foster parents who may adopt later down the road.
I just want to learn about the entire process, the requirements, the cost and how long it can take sometimes to find a newborn baby boy or newborn baby girl or 4-7 months old.
And if you adopt or foster twins, is it alright if they share 1 decent size bedroom together?
I don't know what the requirements need to be if my husband and I were to both decide to adopt a baby boy or baby girl.
Or twin babys. Or foster them.
But we can provide a safe, clean and loving home for a child with a bedroom all to themselves. And room to sleep, play and study for school when they are older.
And a nice big yard to play outside.
And provide according to their needs to the best of our ability.
Plus my husband has a very large family and siblings lots of cousins and 2nd cousins he is close to that are kids and I have young nephew and nieces. So any child we are blessed with will be happily received and loved by this big family who supports one another and is there for each other. And they will have young cousins to grow up with.
Do mosy start out as foster parents and sometimes decide to adopt the one they have fostered?
How much does it cost to adopt those fostered in Alabama?
And what are the requirements of being a foster parent?
Is the cost the same no matter how young or old the child is?
If we were to adopt a baby, and I decide to either only work part time or be a stay at home mom for a couple of years since my husband works full time, is that an issue that an adoption agency will have any problems with?
Im sure they do a criminal record, and my husband and I have a clean record and have not been in trouble with the law. We also do not allow drugs or alcohol in our home. We are highly against it. Neither of us has any children. And I'm in my 30s. And we have been married for 17 years.
And we are in good health.
I imagine that it's hard to find adoption for a newborn baby boy and newborn baby girl, so is it best to fill out a form as soon as possible and get on a waiting list for adoption or fostering?
And how many months will go by before a social worker would come out to your home to see your home and the provided room you have for a child?
What are some questions we can be expected to ask and what all does a social worker look for in both the house and the potential adoptive parents?
Do they require you to make a certain yearly income?
Any information you can give me or send me by email I would greatly appreciate.
I have a gmail account and can msg you if you give me your email.
Or perhaps share a link to a page I can read about what to do and who to call?
Thank you so much for your time.
And I hope these little Angel's all find a home where they are safe and loved and given a chance for a great future and a family to support them along the way.
Hello, I am interested in adopting in the state of Texas; if you have any information on Texas adoption process or would do a Video on the Process it would be Greatly Appreciated. Thank you. Awesome Video!!!💯
I don’t know much about Texas adoption, but here is a website that might help: www.dfps.state.tx.us/application/tare/search.aspx/children
I am Bangladesh 14 year boy
What about wanting to adopt a kid anywhere from age 2-7 years old? Is it possible to foster them first and then fully adopt them? Is it possible to adopt a kid 2-7 years old without fostering them first as well? Are all kids who are in the foster care system have parents and or family who are alive or are any kids in the system kids with no living family at all?
Yes that’s actually pretty common, sometimes the parent or the social worker will offer you to adopt the child if you have a good connection and are a good fit for that kid
@@CryptidboyO.O thank you!
Very helpful, thank you!
Foster to adopt waiting child sounds good to me 💞
Do you know if there is a way for an American to adopt an Italian child if I have dual citizenship? Or as an ordinary American without dual citizenship?
Hmm...I'm not sure on that one! I mostly help families adopt from the US foster care system. I haven't actually heard of an American adopting from Italy before, so you might want to research agencies that have Italy programs to see if there are any. Best of luck on your search!
I want to adopt even thou im single but still i want 🥰
I have a question so my sister wants to let me adopt her newborn what is the process we have to start at
As long as her newborn isn’t in the custody of CPS for some reason, you can most likely go through an adoption attorney! I would look for some in your area and see if they have free consultations.
How do my wife and I go about doing fostering a waiting child? And could we adopt a baby, young toddler (like 2 or 3 years old) this way?
You will want to look for an agency in your state that does “foster to adopt” or “waiting child adoptions.” Different states call it different things. You can also call your county’s job and family services first, but many prefer to find an agency that also helps facilitate adoptions from other states. It is more rare to adopt a child that is 2 or 3 in this way, but definitely not impossible. A lot will depend on if you are open to adopting that child with an older sibling or if you are open to adopting a child with some special needs.
I don't mind the Consultation fee , I would like to know if u can help me
You can schedule a consultation at adoptinformed.com or email me with questions at katie@adoptinformed.com :)
I'm 19 bout 2 be 20 this year I'm still looking 4 my own apartment 😊 but i wanna adopt a daughter
What agency did you go through?
@@KBPhotos we used Action Adoptions! They are in Ohio, so you have to be in Ohio to use their agency.
I love my home, too.
I’m a happily single mom of one and feel a tug to adopt. Are single parents able to adopt?
Yes, absolutely! A lot of single parents adopt :)
If my best friends mom has custody of her grandson decides she does not want to adopt him and I do would that me a kinship adoption?
Yes, because you already have a relationship with them! Even a teacher adopting one of their students would count as kinship because there was a previous relationship.
How can I adopt a 2yr old that lives with me ..the mom and baby lives in my home with my 6yr old and I ..can u help
I really want to adopt. I can't raise and love my own baby knowing that there is another baby or even child or kid is out there needing to be loved.
Can a permanent resident of America adopt?
I have custody of a baby. I know the birth mom. I want to adopt, but I don’t know what paperwork to file. Mom and Dad are not going to contest the adoption. Can anyone point me into the right direction?
great video
Assistance for childbirth on the premise of giving up your child feels incredible unethical. Are there similar assistances available for parents who choose to keep their child?
This is an older video so I’m trying to remember what you are referring to…in infant adoption, adoptive parents typically will help with medical assistance for the birth mom who has chosen them to parent her child. If the birth mom changes her mind after giving birth (which I completely think she deserves that right), the adoptive parents don’t get any of that back, so in essence that bio mom did get assistance. In foster care adoption, the bio parents lost parental rights due to ongoing neglect and abuse. Foster parents who adopt these children are often given some financial assistance to help care for their child’s needs, including different types of therapy and activities to help them overcome some of the trauma they have experienced. Foster care adoption fills a big need and is more financially accessible for most parents.
It’s crazy that anyone getting pregnant is free, but buying a kid is $$$$$+.
Unfortunately, yes...although the hospital bills in the US are definitely quite expensive. I agree that adoption should be more accessible, but in infant adoption a lot of that money is actually going towards supporting the birth mom...sometimes helping with rent, medical bills, etc. The agency needs to be paid for providing the home study service and matching as well. However, it is pretty insane how much it costs to adopt!
My gf nd I wanna adopt maybe two lol girls so they can be sisters for our lil 3 yo , I’m 24, she is 23 . I’ll be buying my second house this year a bigger one , we are looking in the ages of 5-6 is it harder ?
It is a little harder to adopt younger kids, but not impossible. If you are open to adopting two siblings that makes it a lot more likely!
@@adoptinformed so siblings are easier to adopt , yea I wouldn’t mind that
Like the American adoption system is any better than any other country. The same problems if you have looked behind the curtain of the American system. Just more greed in the American system, and more money for the human traffickers. No difference at all. The only way adoption should work is flat fee with no astronomical prices and make sure the families are stable. That doesn't cost that much. A camera to do the home recording is like 100 bucks. A person to review it for approval only 200-300$ worth of man hours. Thats for America and thats cheap.
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I'm mudiaga I'm looking for a family to adopt me I'm 17
This is why ppl don't want to go through the hassle this is awfully complicated
It definitely can be! But once your kid is home with you, it’s easy to forget about all of the hassle 😊
2:46 this sounds an awful lot like child trafficking. I would like to adopt a child I do not mind the police doing criminal records checks or other people from say, child welfare or whomever federal government employee needs to look at the residence. I have no specifications as to color of the child I see life having far too many youngins without a legal guardian as they lost their moms and dads in car accidents or the parent just could not keep up with rent, food, clothing. I have a cat my cat eats before I eat but at the same time, my cat always has access to outside he has total; freedom we've had our talk he knows he is his own puddytat
Uh, hi. I'm not actually trying to adopt. But as a nonprofessional writer/artist, I have this female character that happens to take care of a preteen girl that used to be homeless. Now that I'm attempting to go deeper in how this happened, it turns out I have no idea of how adoption works.
I'm in no way looking to disrespect you, would appreciate if you could give me a little notion about adoption of homeless children. If you are not comfortable with it, I'll understand it and delete my comment right away!
Thanks!
We are looking adopting child plz hepl us
What are the advantages of going through an agency for adoption option through the foster care system?
Hello. l want talk to you?
Thank you , you’re giving great information!!
I’m 13 years old but I want a little sister
The other thing is if a mother and father want to willingly give their child to a family member it should be free and no say on the governments part.
Excellent point
There are almost 1 million unborn babies killed in the US every year. There are more than enough adoptive families that could save the lives of those sweet souls. Keep pushing for change.
Completely disagree. We don't need anymore unwanted children in this world. We have so many already los t in the system and way too mmy people have no business having kids. It's also expensive for tax payers.
@@RosettaStoned462 Incorrect. There are 0 unwanted children. What a ridiculous comment you made.
@@dee20221 what are you talking about? Maybe you live ina a different world or country. In US, roughly 20,000 kids age out of foster care every year. Are you mentally OK?
@@dee20221 do you live in a different world? In the US, roughly 20,000 kids age out of foster care every year.
@RosettaStoned462 What does that have to do with this topic? The purpose of foster care is reunification with their family. Nearly all kids in foster care will never be available for adoption as their family works to get them back. Your lack of understanding in this topic is not surprising, but it should be a sign for you to educate yourself before making any comments about it.
That's sad. So many children need love and have a price for their souls. So many are trap in these places that don't really help the children. People are not property to be sold like property.
I totally agree. I wish the process of adoption wasn’t so expensive. We adopted from foster care because we knew we wanted to adopt, but the other routes didn’t seem financially feasible. There are definitely corrupt situations, but there is also a lot of complexity to why adoptions are so costly. With infant adoption, a lot of money often goes to helping the birth mother with medical expenses or even living expenses, which can add up. With international adoption, you have documentation traveling from one country to another, needing to be translated. Oftentimes workers from your agency will need to travel to the country to help make arrangements. You need attorneys to help with making the adoption legal…etc. I wish there was an easier solution!
If the government actually cares then adoption would be subsidized.
Foster care adoption is, which is the route we took!
@@adoptinformedis foster care adopt faster?
To me that is actually buying a baby. We pay taxes, so this should be covered by government, as we are keeping these kids away from foster care, even if they come direct from a birth parent. I adopted 2 girls, in my country, after giving birth to 3 boys. The ONLY fee I had to pay, was for their new birth certificates, and that was about $1 US dollar. So to me, when I hear about these fees, it feels like buying a baby. And I am afraid now for one of my sons, as we move away from our country, and now he wants to adopt… but these fees make it almost unattainable to him…
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