I remembered I left a comment here a few months ago and wanted to comeback and give a final update. After about 8/9 months of being separated, my ex and I found our way back to each other. I feel through taking the time apart to heal, grow, and apply new tools gained from therapy, reading, and outside research we now have a much stronger foundation than we ever had in our past. Only wanted to come back and repost so that I can be seen as another example that exes do comeback (even when you think things are truly over or least expect it). Just make sure when they do, you have done the work on yourself to put you in a position to receive them back healthily and not out of necessity. Goodluck to those who truly wish to have their ex back, I am rooting for you. Thank you Coach Lee for these videos, because regardless of whether my ex and I got back together or not they helped me get through some dark times.
@@rickym936stay strong and focus on coach lee's videos whenever you feel down. It helped me to reach to 29th day and break no contact by that day. It doesnt feel well, its like stabbing your own confidence also so better stay No contact until they are the one to reach you. Now I feel I need to double the time I've reached to gain that same confident during no contact.
“Get your part done right” no matter what the outcome is, in the end you can say to yourself that you’ve done your part and you’re gonna be alright. Thank you coach lee.
3 years in no contact? It gets easier? I hope you're not just staying a perpetual state of no contact while not actively moving on and starting new relationships? You've moved on right? 3 years is a bit too long to be dwelling
@@sloanmagnum5009 For me its been more than a year and no i have not date or had one night stands or thought about others... I really worked on myself and found out i have strong issues on connections with man. Norhing wrong wit being single ❤
was in a long distance relationship for 3 years, she said she saw me differently after her last visit and only loved me as a friend... 3 weeks no contact. stay strong everybody we in this together
8 years????? Wow. No one stays with someone for 8 years without loving them. Not sure what happened. Buy I pray that she will still see you as available and will reach out.
I was the one that broke up with him. I begged at first for him to take me back. It didn't work. It pushed him away. I started watching these videos and all videos about break ups. It was so hard.... 4 months of little contact.... and overnight we are back together. I worked very hard on my new business and made myself so much better during the break up. I never thought it would happen, but it did.
Me got the same.. my ex goes back to her parents to think about our relationship, After 4 weeks i couldnt wait anymore and break up the relationship.. after 1day i realised it was a mistake and beging and say sorry for the mistake but she was very sad+angry. Now im in no contact for 1 week and it feels like she never come back to me. The best i can do is wait or?
@don4717 waiting yes. Minimal contact. Yes. Work on you. Become irresistible. I worked really hard on myself, dated other people, but knew they weren't the one. I prayed a lot and watched videos all the time. I was ready to move on. I had done the work to make myself better. He came back. It's rare. I was hopeless and hopeful.
@@katiekunch830 great to hear that. I will try to improve myself and im in no contact now for 8 days. Its hard every day but the hope doesnt die. I wish you all the best for your relationship and thank you for your advice
I was out with my wonderful, loving new partner and ran into my narcissistic ex in a bar...complaining loudly about being miserable. I just smiled and waved. My ex looked AWFUL! 😅 Thank you, coach Lee, for getting me through this!
Thanks! My hat is off to the person 3 years No Contact. Going to sleep and I turn on coach Lee at MN. Feel so weak. To get through this sadness, anxiety. The words are right on.
Its heartening to see many here going through the same thing i am. Was in a 14 year relationship. My ex broke up with me 1.5 months ago. Didnt find this channel so did many of the rookie mistakes of begging etc. But ever since moving out(on good terms), i never reached out to her. But frustratingly she still reaches out to me every 2-3 days about trivial things. I reply to her but always keep it short and succint. Ever since knowing this channel i have new insights and try my best to be hopeful.
10 years. Its been 80 days. This is crazy how much this is happening to these long term relationships. I think social media is really fucking with our relationships... they get fed all day shit about how terrible their partner is and how they deserve so much better... and not to work on things, just leave. Go to clubs. Go to the beach. You should be partying girl! Leave him! If you aregue once, just leave! He's so replaceable.... and they eat it up, and leave.... I've seen so many of my friends long term (10+years) dissolve the last two to three years. Something is up. For sure.
@ommitedommited154 this is so true in this day and age. The "grass is greener" Syndrome is being fed by social media relentlessly to them and i think its disgusting
Coming up on three years and I used to pray they’d come back. Now, I pray that I never here from hem ever again. No contact works at getting yourself back to where you were the day before you met them.
What if you were to blame? I wasn't as good as I should've been but I laid it all out and said I needed to sort myself out. She still left and blocked me a month later, and seems to be fooling around with a guy but not dating.
@@yohanesingkiriwang6571 I just did what coach lee is always talking about in his videos....I just did no contact for 8 months before we started talking casually again before he asked me to be his girlfriend again
Hi coach Lee just want to say thank you for making these videos. Everytime I feel like contacting I watch your videos and they motivate me to not do so. I’m so thankful I came across your videos. Me and my ex are in 1 weeks of no contact and 16 days since the break up, she left me but we wasn’t toxic at all, we have our bickers and we can get moody and the usual things but she feels like time apart can help us so much and she says she still sees a future with me and that she thinks she’ll want to get back with me one day but I don’t know if that’s a lie or not. We are great and I wish we was still together but I really don’t know if she’ll ever come back I just hope she does. Stay strong everyone
I started no contact 10 days ago and I walked away from her because she now wants to be friends.. all I am doing is staying silent and watching coach Lee programs.. I really do believe I'm gonna get her.. I acted to needy and clingy and didn't even recognize it. But I feel I'm going to be able to get her back the way I want her all because I am following coach Lee's break up plan
Well she never reached out but I found out later she has an avoidant attachment style.. so she is never going to reach out to me.. I think she might have blocked me on what's app... I don't see her posts anymore..
I lost my girl for her early 20s we started dating when she was 18 and I was 23 and after almost 5 years of living together and going through college together we started talking about getting married - she went distant. After a few grey months she came to me crying saying she loves me but she feels she need to travel and have fun alone and discover who she is without me. I chased her a few weeks but then I saw your channel and also coach ken videos and after a call with coach Ken I started nc . I am now only 2 weeks in but already feeling better. Still hoping she will come back but if not I know I’ll manage- and it’s all thanks to your videos .
I find this video to be Lee's most impactful work. As I reflect on my own past relationship, the message resonates deeply with me. Living through an extreme imbalance in a relationship can be a profoundly difficult experience. Inevitably, the relationship reaches a breaking point, and although the breakup can be painful, it's often a necessary step towards healing and regaining one's sense of self.
There’s some more off-center situations I’d love to see breakup videos on- too much work, not enough time, distance. When incompatibilities are not mentioned, when attraction doesn’t seem to be a factor
I was there at one point ready to give up. Don’t stop living. More than likely they’ll be back. Just be patient. If they reach out don’t ignore them that’s the biggest thing I had to get over because I was ready to treat them how they treated me but that’s doing more damage than good. Now we’re back together now for 7 months and it’s way better than before.
Usually happens when you least expect it to happen. You will one day realize it’s been 97 days since you have even thought of them and then out of nowhere…. Boom …..Funny how that works in life….. I have been there myself and that’s part of what was imparted on me to heal and change perspective… hope it works out for you!
I would just work on getting rid of the hope and do no contact for yourself. I am on around 40 days nc and it hurts a ton but I love myself more. I personally think nc should never be broken if they dumped you. If u ever go back with them that will always be lingering for future fights or disagreements.
He ghosted me after saying that I hold on to the friendship so after 2 weeks of no contact, I left him a message saying I am letting him go. I can't hold on to a friendship that is one-sided. And knowing him, he will not come back.
Just met with my ex last night after 9 weeks of no contact. Things seemed to go really well. Lot of tears on her side. She apologized for mistakes she made in the relationship, told me she missed me and that she loves me. Going to let it breath for now so we both have time to reflect. Hopefully she reaches out again in the near future though. Any recommendations from the comment section on what to do next is also appreciated.
If she really meant it, should reflect in actions and be back with you. Until then keep being the best version of yourself , maybe you will attract better ;)
Proceed with caution, as coach Lee always says you should be always a step behind her in terms of keeping conversations going and making plans! Keep working on yourself and be open but don’t jump back into it too fast :) best of luck ❤
50 days in. I was calm and respectful on the day of the break-up. Literally said “I don’t want this and I love you, but I respect what you want”. She left, I packed my stuff and never said a word. She unfollowed and blocked me on everything within a few days (which felt pretty terrible). She had her brother reach out to me to get the rest of my things from the house. She finally texted me a few weeks later about a little money I owed her for something and to ask if I still wanted some concert tix she bought me for Christmas. We worked that out pretty quickly and pleasantly. I haven’t heard a thing since. It’s been a tough transition for sure. No idea what will happen, but I banking on her to simply move on. She’s a beautiful girl…she won’t have a problem finding someone new. Part of me would love to talk to her again and possibly rebuild a new and improved version of our relationship. It’s a true paradox. Hanging onto that hope keeps me involved in wanting her back, while simultaneously keeps me from fully moving on. One day at a time I suppose. I feel for everyone experiencing these feelings. It can be truly gut wrenching at times. All the best, guys.
@@yohanesingkiriwang6571 Not too bad, man. I started seeing someone new a couples months ago. Funny enough…my ex texted me out of the blue a couple weeks ago telling me she missed me and even baked me a cake and wanted to bring it over. She told me she was worried that I didn’t care about her anymore (which was odd). She mentioned wanting to get together and work-out again…we used to train at the gym together. She also ended the text conversation by telling me she loved me. Definitely a strange feeling, because I do still miss a lot of things about her and hope she’s doing well. Parts of me would like to be with her again, but I know it would never be the same. I’ve also realized that I could never really allow myself to get back to her considering the fact that at one point she was able to look me in the eye and tell me she didn’t want me anymore. So out of self respect I’m just moving on with what I have now. I think that’s for the best. If you’re struggling…I feel for ya, brother. I know it gets said repeatedly, but focus on yourself. Things really do feel better in time.
@@Champman543 her 19 y/o son live with us and he decided he was going to move his girlfriend into our house. I tried to put a stop to it. A big fight started and they all left the next day!
Been two weeks no contact , focusing on myself and what I need to get right . Missing her like crazy but I know this is all patience and correcting myself . I know where I went wrong I could feel that while it was going on . Making sure I’m improving physically, mentally , spiritually. It’s hard but the bond and love I have for this person is something special and I’ll make the improvements and be a better version of myself
Coach, you know my situation perfectly... My ex is in a partying phase right now and he chose it over me. He is deep into drugs and alcohol. I went out and partied with him for months and met so many of his friends at clubs, etc. As soon as I let him know how stressful it was to be dragged around bars and clubs all the time, he broke up with me. Completely blindsided me. Now I'm going back to rehab to get sober, because I decided I don't want to fall into that lifestyle ever again. Staying no contact. I truly hope they can get get better because their behavior is unhealthy and dangerous. Worried about him every day, but I'm going to focus on myself for now. 😥
Thank you for all your movies. He come back after a break up ❤ It took him 1 week to understand. I am sooo happy. I thought I am his rebound. Hope now everything will be better.
happy for you, in my case i was the one who was dumped, i didnt know i have too many selfish behaviors, over the span of 1 months and counting, i corrected all of it. research on different attachment styles and even on how to be an empathetic person
imranhakim, NO, do not lose hope. There is still time, and in the event you need some extra help, Coach Lee has an Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
10 months no contact. I still wish there was hope. I know there isnt and these videos perpetuate a dead dream. But i cant help it. I don't understand why i still love this person so much and hate life without her. I know how she hurt me, i know how i hurt her. Yet every night i still dream of her. I wish these coaching things were real and there was an actual path to reconciliation. But 9/10 times this isnt the case. Especially when the dumper is female. I still mourn. I still go by my day. But the pain refuses to leave me. Its not less, ive just learned to live with it
Dr, I realized something this morning from listening to you over several months. Besides my wife leaving and using no contact that may or may not save my marriage, your teaching that 'THEY HAVE FIGURE THING OUT FOR THEMSELVES' could and should be a life philosophy toward all people , understandings and interactions. ....THEY NEED TO FIGURE THING OUT FOR THEMSELVES
Hey man, thanks for your comment. For a marriage situation, I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at www.marriageradio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/
Another "mic drop" - Coach Lee! This time you crammed in an entire human relationship college course combined with a college survey course on psychology (normal ex vs. dealing with a "cluster b" ex).
This is so confusing to me because he moved away while in the relationship. We stayed together and we visited each other a few times in 9 months. We were talking about our future together and it all devolved because I couldn’t handle the distance. I broke up with him and fixed it the next morning. Then he broke up with me 2 weeks later saying he couldn’t meet my needs or shake that I broke it off with him. He was very hurt and so was I and now we haven’t talked for 5 weeks today.
18:44 that’s what happened to me. Not necessarily long distance, but she wanted me to move in and I hadn’t yet. When we broke up I offered and she said too late.
I was married for 8 years.. During the divorce and after the divorce, I didn't absolutely EVERYTHING wrong. We needed guardians to swop kids so we would not see each other. I discovered these videos and went into no contact for 6 months and started casually dating someone. My ex wife has reached out and we now text regularly and see each other again. Hopefully if we take it slow, things will work out.
@coleenkulaw1447 Hi, no, we did not get back together. My causal girlfriend became my real girlfriend for nearly 2 years now. Best choice ever! Two people had to work 9n themselves and make changes. Unfortunately, my ex-wife believed she had done absolutely nothing wrong. Therefore, she made no efforts to change, I worked on myself for 2 years and continued every day. So I emotionally outgrew her in every way and moved on.
I told my ex 3 months after being dumped, he had better be sure of that decision (to leave, he dumped me over the phone), he had this confused look on his face and said why?...I said because once you walk out my door, there is NO coming back to me, ever! We won't see each other, we won't talk to each other, the door will be completely closed, and locked.....his mouth fell open he looked like a lost puppy and said, I don't understand why you are so angry....I said why do you care? You lied to me, deceived me, cheated on me (he found replacement 6 months prior to dumping me),,,and NOW you are concerned with MY feelings?? I said, get out of my house, go run to your next unsuspecting victim, use them like you used me. He stood there staring at me, I went not another word from you, get out of my house, and if you are not out in the next 5 minutes I will call the cops to have you arrested for trespassing....he grabbed his stuff, headed out the door and turned back and said, I thought we were friends, I thought we could stay friends....I said friends don't do another dirty like you did, I warned you at the beginning how it would be if you left, he goes I thought you were joking. I slammed the screen door, then the front door....went to my bedroom to make sure he was leaving, he slowly walked to his truck, stood there staring at my house looking really confused, bewildered, he gets in sitting there briefly, I see the door open like he was coming back but he closed it and drove off. Needless to say...he went straight to a bar (we were not drinkers)...his daughter kept calling me, 3 times in an hour looking for him, told her I didn't know where he was, the last time I left and went over to this bar near his work, sure enough his truck was there. I go inside, he looked fearful now, like oh shyte why is she here...he was drinking beer and smoking,,, I went smoking?, your now smoking?!...told him to get his worthless a## home because his daughter was looking for him, he actually got up and walked out....outside he says, I truly don't understand why you are so angry.....I began yelling at him, called him a worthless coward and I got in my car and left.....3 months later he marries the other woman, becomes a raging alcoholic (it got back to me)...and then stalks me for another 3 years. It finally stopped when I caught him......he is not with her anymore but now is with wife no 6.....wow did I dodge a bullet...😂
im at roughly the same amount of nc as you. ive now deleted her number and messages from the past.. it seems to help because i cant break nc if i dont have her number. were right there with ya
A year and a half in no contact. I realized I'm much happier without him and guess what? Financially I'm doing even better without him, until he left I had no idea how little money I spend on myself.
He would leave me off and on during the relationship. Sometimes for weeks at a time. I would wait and he would always come back around. Now he told me we should “part ways” and it has been over 90 days. I immediately went NC and don’t expect a return this time. Pretty sure I was just an option.
It’s very situational, but my ex came back twice!! We broke up two times already and now he’s back. You have to have been a really good partner to them for them to know they lost something good. He said he realized his mistakes in the relationship and never stopped loving me. Trust me. I felt like it was over for GOOD. But nope. He came back again😊
There's some truth in that. Females don't NEED to learn if they don't want. They can get attention from anyone else. Men love hard and can't just point and choose whoever is single. @@nathantrujillo471
Did he break up with u ? Nd what was the reason ? Mine because i got upset repeatedly coz he wd get defensive whenever i say he hurt me or said smth wrong, he wd snap right away nd consider it an argument when i just wannna express my feelings nd be heard. He said he got tired of this. Blocked me everywhere. We were gonna get married. Im sure he s nt coming back coz he s stubborn nd has big ego nd i dont think he s ever gone back to an ex but there is a bit of hope even tho im so hurt.
Went 5 months no contact except times for children...she finally "reached out" apologizing and crying. Wanting to take it ao but idk if I should believe it but I'm allowing her to open up to me and I'm trying as well....I need a coach call cuz I messed up along the way but hopefully we can improve together. Shes so arrogant man idk, I gotta get me right for me.
I walked away from a very toxic relationship over 2yrs ago & lately my Ex has been texting msgs of what he misses of what we had, I'm on his mind & he's sorry for all the crap he put me thro & we've spoken a cple of time's & his voice is so shaky & he's stuttering, l don't know what to think? I still have a lot of feeling's towards him but is it just a ploy a game?? Would love to understand
tamaralegget, your comment really caught my eye. When you mentioned the word TOXIC, it hit me. I was involved with a Toxic guy years ago, and found out he was a narcissist. I NEVER knew what that was until I got into Therapy. If he has any narcissistic traits, PLEASE DON'T TAKE HIM BACK. Coach Lee has 2 videos in his library which I suggest you listen to them. Go to Coach Lee's videos. They're both very informative and interesting. Good luck to you always. ❤
I was dating this one woman who for about three months or so. After our first date, she went on vacation for about two weeks and I waited for her to come back. We went on another date. Then I went on a vacation and she waited for me too. We went out again. We went out in a total of five dates and after that she texted me a day after my birthday and said she didn’t feel the “spark” and “wished me luck to find the right person”. I genuinely thought we were a good match. We laughed together a lot and enjoyed each other’s company and we both treated each other fairly and nicely. It’s been about 43+ days of NC. It’s been still difficult trying to move on and I’m really trying but if she said that is there absolutely no chance she will come back?
I really think nc is for relationships that are for people that are in 6months or less. After that 99% it’s over and if they get in touch your second choice….really do you want that. Best way do your healing get yourself back and move on.
Been watching your videos for two weeks, as well as coach blac but yours are more logical...my ex broke up with me end of March and did the block unblock thing for a month, and still had things of hers but we both moved out so i took a few things to where she works, she has two jobs and one is as bar lady which we know is around men, she likes the vibe but is kinda getting over it, our first meet up was three weeks ago and she told me we were 'toxic' and i should move on, we kissed a few times quite intimately and i can see she isnt doing great but also know she is talking to guys, her one good friend which i introduced to her as my friends girlfriend has Slay queen mentality and her mom and dad is influencial in her life choices. She said i would have persauded her to stay if she had not left like she did, even moving her stuff out on my bday. I asked if me being able to persuade her meant anything and she said no, we are both manipulative. I agree we are, she also said that i was controlling and she was needy(early days of break up she said she found herself) shes enjoying the freedom, i miss her dogs as well as her, not sure what to do as no contact has been super difficult but also afraid it will be easier for her to 'move on' if im silent until she reaches out. Time makes things easier for the ex too...i asked her to lie to me and tell me she never loved me so that i can have that kind of closure and move on, she said she wont because that is bullshit and she will always love me but again we are toxic for eachother. Im 29 and shes turning 24. 😅 Sorry for the long explanation, hard to get perspective with little information... Coach Lee you have been helping alot so far.
Maybe I'm delusional, but I think my breakup was very circumstantial. The relationship was really good. He broke NC 2 days after breaking up with me expressing doubt about his decision, then went back to NC. It's been a month. I believe he broke up with me, not because he didn't love, but because he was overwhelmed with grief (his father had passed away a week prior to the breakup), and because he feels reponsible for his immature and spoiled mother. She's moving in with him, and she has no boundaries. It's very unhealthy. So yeah, because of these circumstances, I really don't think he'll come back to me. He has a lot on his plate right now...
beatitcreep, I am so sorry about his Father, and about his Mother. I also feel very bad for you. I'm on your side here, and I do NOT believe that due to him being overwhelmed has anything to do with his leaving you. He's using that as an EXCUSE! DON'T believe it. If he really loved you, he would never leave you because of what has happened. He should need you MORE! Think about this. How can you just let someone go that you LOVE? I don't believe he is being honest with you. Please, think about this WHOLE situation. ❤❤
@jannlewandowski5540 like I said, the relationship was really good. I spent the weekend with him before the breakup, and he couldn't get enough of me. He called me wife material, told me he was in love with me and was making plans for Christmas. Everything changed when I told him I was anxious about his mother moving in with him. I told him I was worried about the amount of privacy/intimacy we were going able to have, because his mother is quite intrusive. He completely shut off. He went from crazy in love to wanting to break up in 48 hours. He wanted to be friends, and he seemed genuinely heartbroken when I declined. I went no contact, and 2 days later he contacted me to tell me I was all he could think about, and that he thought he might have done a mistake. I really don't think he would have broken up with me under different circumstances. I think he knows his mother and I couldn't get along. She already showed up unannounced 2-3 times a week, FaceTimed him 3-4 times a day... she borrowed my bathing suit without asking for my permission... she has NO boundaries. All that was before she moved in with him. He feels responsible for her, so there's no room for a romantic relationship in his life right now. His controlling mother is his priority.
A mama's boy? Save yourself. Maybe after she dies, he'll be ready, but with a lot of mama issues that will get directed and dumped onto you, because even though you are kind and wonderful, all his anger toward his mother will get dumped on you.
@@jannlewandowski5540Not true for many men. Many of us need time alone to digest feelings when turmoil and problems arrive aside from a relationship. We feel the need to focus in these new problems and solve them, and this, not for a moment, means that we don't love our partner. In fact we do that to save them our own preoccupations and keep them happy. I am not saying this is the rght thing to do, i am saying that this usually happens and that by no means this is a signal of disdain, au contrarie.
I think it is unknown whether they change their mind but as the person dumped you need to recognise and be realistic about what has happened. If you are a man and your partner has dumped you and then entered into a rebound relationship then unfortunately if you are a real man, there should be no return and you should treat the rebound as your closure. If you accept your ex back after a rebound you also accept that your credibility has all been lost. NEVER take an ex back from a rebound no matter how painful that may be. NEVER
Hi Coach. I had a nasty breakup but used the clean slate message, went into no contact and did the work. Life has been amazing. Next week my ex and I are going on a vacation with another couple. This was planned over 6 months ago and cancelling wasn't an option. She texted me after 4 weeks of no contact: saying that she does not want any drama and just a fun time on the vacation. I responded saying the same and left it there. Whats next for me towards and during the vacation?
That is great man! Act casually, she will see that as a respect and strength from your part, a lot of maturity also. Have fun, act like you were not in a relationship at all. As she made her up mind for the break up, give it to her, show case your self respect and strength by not using this vacation to come back up with her. For example, let say she is having something for you again, then say to her that you are open to it, but you do not want to rush things up and "reject" her gently, this will demonstrate your strength, your maturity and show her you are confident and serious about it. I will show that you have changed and possibly set a new frame. If it happens that she tries to kiss you, accept it but cut it fast and tell her that you guys need to take it slow. Then the next day, do not act on that kiss, act like it never happened, because you dill have plenty of time afterwards after you return from vacation. She will not understand it but she will feel attraction to you. These are examples, even if she does not try to kiss you or having a fling for you, act casually, act not like friends but like two adults going on vacation together, respect her time her privacy, and enjoy your time. Your best thing to do is having a perfect peacefull joyfull time together to build a perfect peacfull joyfull memory in you, and also in her. Then when you come back from vacation, go straight into no contact. Like you were never in vacation one day, one week ago. Then all these memories will bring back the other good memories, etc let her spirit do the work instead of you trying to convince her you are worth it. Silence and time will be your friend, while yo work on yourself, on what is insecure in your heart, your wounds, and also your practical life, if needed, meaning fitness, food, finance, project, job, family, etc
@nino_94 thank you so much for your answer. Its depth gives me lots of insight and hope towards the situation. Going no contact after the vacation sucks but I understand that I have played my part then and should wait for the magic to happen. Again very grateful!
Coach Lee my ex and I had plans to get married this year (february) thanks to You, i Made a Big mistake I followed another coach advice on making your partner jealous (very immature on my part) and it all went down the hil, as he is Also a very insecure person, i regret doing that. Before that we had a great relationship overall, were best friends until I did that knowing he was already. Jealous person. I told him I took my words back but it wasnt enough. I started no contact, he still textes me every now and then, but it's like he doesnt trust me. He makes sarcastic jokes on me and doesnt take me seriously is there a way to fix this?
Great videos! But what if you kinda called things off or a mutual breakup? We became good friends first then start a good connected relationship after 8 months. Recently I noticed changes in his behavior that I’ve mentioned before to be problematic. He did make short lived changes but Rt back to not prioritizing the relationship. So I started to not care and I ignored his one call. He popped up at my home and flipped things on me and asking for his things. I went straight into NC and refuse to reach out. He’s a stubborn person so I need to out stubborn him. But overall we had no major problems I guess we just need time apart.
She contacted me 18 after days of no contact, it was a Friday night and we were both out drinking.. We had a chill quick 5 minute convo and I said to come have a drink with me, she said she can't as she had a friend with her for the night but then she suggested Sunday to meet up... I never heard back from her about Sunday... It's been two weeks since that reach out.... Any advice please? Continue with no contact or?
@@RealCoachLee Then I shall stick with no contact. Your words have been solid, your videos have got me through and mad me stronger, thanks for the advice coach Lee 🙏
I'd really like a video around the topic of the breakup being somewhat deserved. Your videos are mostly about out of the blue getting dumped, but for some people like me it was at least partially deserved. I was with her for 3.5 years, we went on many trips and we loved each other, but I didn't do as much as I could've. I wasn't very romantic. I showed interest in other women online by viewing them (not by talking/flirting). I feel like the bad guy and I know that maybe I was bad but I am not a bad person. I could never cheat. I really wanted her forever but she just saw the bad and left, and seems to be having sex with another man immediately following the breakup. It really hurts knowing I wasn't enough when the bar was pretty low. I was a wreck and probably pushed her away during the breakup, but I am better now and know it could work out.
This is exactly what I was thinking about as well similar situation I wasn’t giving her affection and was really lacking. In a lot of things she would continuously tell me the things that I needed to work on, but I would always shrug them off and not pay attention to them until one day she left. She told me she didn’t love me anymore, but I still feel like this would apply to us man because we didn’t cheat. We didn’t do anything extremely major easily things we could’ve changed and worked on but sadly we are human and a lot of us only change threw painful experiences. I still have hope I was with her for 16 years engaged for five or four the reason for the long engagement was due to being engaged before Covid. Stay up man. Trust me a lot of people in these comments are going through it
@@angelmontelongo4110 sometimes it takes the pain of loss to figure yourself out. She really didn’t even bring up the problems until she had already lost her desire for me, and while I can’t just blame her I do wish she would have talked to me more. That was one of her complaints. I didn’t talk enough to her, just enjoyed her presence. Yet she didn’t tell me how she felt. Would I have been able to do much? Probably not. I needed that pain to wake me up. I still miss the connection we had and it feels really bad knowing I was not enough for her to the point she was comfortable falling in love with someone else and pushing me out.
Coach Lee. I was in a relation for 2 years and 7 months. She broke up. After 33 days, we ran into each other, talked and get together again. After 2 months and a half, I tried talking to her because she was acting hot and cold. She even missed dates and did not even called or texted cancelling. As I tried talking, she would not even listen. She became angry and very hurtful. Which made me angry and so I broke up this time. I immediately regretted it and called her but she rejected the call. I texted her apologizing but also explaining how cold she had become and letting her know how offensive and hurtful she had reacted at my attempt to talk. She did not answer. I took no further action. It has been 3 days. No word from her. Any advice? Thank you for your time.
Good morning, I really needed to see this video. My ex girlfriend friend and I have broken up for 18 months, and she has been in new relationship for over a year. However since March, my ex girlfriend and I have been texting and talking on the phone. Matter of fact she has reached out to me on Father's Day and 4th July. On one occasion she asked me, have I thought about her during the break up. She also agreed to meet me for coffee, but she postponed the coffee meet. As I mentioned she reached out to me on Father's Day and the 4th July. However my birthday was in July, but she didn't reach out. Matter of fact I haven't heard from her in over 2 weeks. I'm so over her!! I've blocked her!! She is so immature!!
I’m NOT. a fan of blocking unless it’s due to threats and harassment. She reached out on those particular occasions then didn’t. Just leave it at that. I think maybe she’s curious and that could be why she reached out? Maybe she’s a bit confused with her feelings on the new guy? I wouldn’t block her though
@@fire12731 Ok...she reached on those particular holidays. However she doesn't reach out on my BDAY and then she ghost me. I haven't heard from her in two weeks. She is playing games.
Day 27 of no contact. She deleted me on socials last week on her bday. Not sure if she’s mad I didn’t congratulate her or she’s moving on. Anyways I’ll stay in no contact.
WoenselTuning, Keep staying in NO contact. That is the wise thing to do. You are doing the right thing, and keeping your promise..See what happens when NO contact is over.
Broke up with my ex in late march of this year and stayed contacting each other for 2 months until my birthday on may and I’ve used NC for a month until June i messaged her again we talk for like a week and after that she created new social media accounts. After again a week of communicating I used NC again for 30 days and yesterday I emailed her and sent her some money to help her with her school and she replied that she was surprised and thought ive already moved on and she was happy that even without communication I still care about her. And now I am very confused about my feelings if I want to continue pursuing her or should moved on for good? And i really dont know if im chasing her or pursuing her.
jayjaytornea7132. It's obvious that you still care about her, BUT, are the feelings mutual? Has she told you she misses you and wants to see you? I know you're going into NO CONTACT but as long as you keep sending her money, she'll keep you around. Please be careful with your feelings, and observe the way she treats you. Follow your GUT feeling. Best wishes.
@@jannlewandowski5540 she told me that she missed me, replied to my email we stayed connected for like a week and agreed to meet up but never happened and shes been distant to me again after a month. And its very confusing
I don't understand what is going on in our relationship. We are long distance and he is having a hard time coming to the United States 'so I told him that it's okay if we can be friends instead of aging in a 3 years long distance relationship. Now he won't answer me 😢 I love him but I'm not trying to stay if he is not coming
kimmiewils, I understand that LDR's are difficult, and I do feel for you both. If he can't come to the USA, would you consider going to his country? 3 years is a long time, so you have to decide what is BEST for you..Good luck to both of you. Finally, when you mentioned "friendship," that must have really hurt him..❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 GOOD MORNING KIND SOUL. HE IS HAITIAN AND LIVE IN THE DOMINICAN REPUBLIC. HE WORKS ALL DAY TO PAY HIS BILLS. I TOLD HIM TO JUST MAKE IT HERE IN THE UNITED STATES THAT HE HAS A PROMISE BUSINESS OF HIS OWN AND I WILL HELP SUPPORT HIM IN EVERY WAY. BUT TIME IS A ISSUE WITH ME BECAUSE I AM OLDER THAN HE IS AND I'M READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND BE HIS WIFE' I GET APPROACHED BY GUYS DAILY BUT I DONT WANT NO ONE BUT HIM🥺I'M SOOOO CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO. 😢💔🙏🙏🙏
kimmie, A decision will have to be made otherwise this will go on and on. Talk to him and ask a friend whom you trust to give you their ideas. Best of luck..❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 I TRY NOT TO INVOLVE PEOPLE I KNOW ' BUT I TRULY APPRECIATE YOUR KINDNESS.🥰❤🙏🙏🙏THANK YOU FOR LISTENING PRECIOUS HEART ♥ BLESSINGS TO YOU 😊
I already apologized for my mistakes but i feel all this guilt now after she left me. My heart wants to just spill my heart out to her but it wouldn’t make a difference now. She needs space and wants to be free so i have to accept that even tho i miss her extremely. I need to keep working on myself to be a better man and do it not just for her but also for me. I feel like all hope is lost but the little hope i still have i just have to put in god hands and not contact her ever egain no matter what happens.
Yeah Jerome, don’t spill your heart to her. You’ll just inflate her ego. Don’t give her the satisfaction. Give her your silence. Let her assume you are living a great life and are too busy to mess with her. You can do this.
You are right coach i wont feed her ego any more. I started running and working out again today after some time off and i want to continue this on a daily basis now. I was thinking about posting my runs every day on my social media for my motivation to keep going no matter what. I haven’t posted anything since the breakup but i want to do it for myself more than for her. What are ur thoughts on that? And thank you so very much for being there for all of us god bless ur soul brother 🙏🏾❤️
My husband, together 17 years, 2 kids, and I are separated for almost 15 months. We had a relationship with some conflict and there was rejection by me the worst being the 2 years prior to separation. He has decided we are not a couple anymore, wants to move on and now says we were never happy. He has been seeing someone for about a year. He shows no affection anymore, not even a hug because I think he sees it as cheating on this ‘friend’. So this looks extremely bad. He sees I have changed but says it’s too late. I have a lot of regrets and probably deserve what I got even though I didn’t mean to wreck it. I didn’t feel enough of an emotional connection from him.
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. To start, I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/. Then, for something this serious, you really should get in my Relationship Reignite workshop.
My ex broke up with me after 6 hears we have 3 daughter 2 weeks later she is in a happy State and a happy (relationship) she says the kids know him now he is helping her and and and I reacted porly maybe even very porly but since she told me she is in a relationship or idk maybe a rebound i just stopt texting When we talk about the kids i still make my jokes or are sarkastic and she still laughts and find its funny I told her already in the beginnig that i wont be her friend but i will be there for the kids Right now im taking care of myself and try to do the best out of it but ofc ill still love her and dont know what to do with her because shes soooo happy right now Would be amazing if u wrote back because if u wont know who else 😢 Love from germany
pasti_kadasti21. I know it must be vary hard for you, and the most I can do for you is recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for married couples. It will help you immensely. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/emk Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
Narcissist ex did come back and doesn't seem to want to take no for an answer. I have finally been freed from the games and horrible feelings I was constantly left with about myself feeling not enough or feeling I did something wrong. The question is now will I change my mind about the breakup. Not very likely.
My and I just broke up three days ago. Before that, we attended church and Sunday School together. I don't want to find another church, do I still go and sit elsewhere? Do I find another church? I can't think clearly
Man i did something that is unforgivable and made me look really bad in her parents eyes to where they dont accept me. She was reaching out every two days for the last 3 weeks. And i made the mistake of carrying on conversation. We had sex 3 weeks ago and she still comments on having sex again but this last Friday she made a comment about us happen to try to date other people which she could tell I didn’t like and she backtracked and said it was a joke now I haven’t heard from her since and she’s liking all these guys post on Facebook now
goodlor, that was NOT a joke. I've heard it before and that's why all these guys are on her Facebook now. Read in between the lines. Go NO Contact with her, and get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you.totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you. You are very consistent with your responses. I know it wasnt a joke she was testing to see what i said. I told her i couldnt be just friends with her and if she does just look at me like a “friend” we should prolly stop talking about sex and sending pictures since its for nothing. And she responded “nothing!!!??? Best believe im still going to call you” “youll always have a special place in my heart” and just the other day i ended the conversation saying i was going out so ima be busy. And she got all upset saying she loved me and will always love me. So i said i have love for her too but i think its time to let go since clearly love aint enough for us to work on things. And she responded “me too i guess….” And i asked her what she wanted and what shes getting out of this since one second she loves me and the other not enough. She said “i just dont know what i want” and “im ruining it for the both of us” then started getting all mad asking what ima be doing and if theres going to be girls there and saying how she will always be jealous of me and what im doing and who im with.
@@goodlord420Thank you so much for the compliment of me being consistent with my answers. When a person is hurting, I try my best to help them. God bless you..❤
Hey bro serious question... ??? What shows up on your credit card statement when you buy your "Emergency Break Up Kit" ?? I could see my wife looking at that and laughing in my face!! It could seriously have the opposite effect and make me seem desperate. We share checking and credit cards at the moment still and that's a big worry for me. I wouldn't want to give her the advantage of knowing my strategy to win her back. You should maybe consider another video: "What to do if your ex discovers you are getting help from Coach Lee?"
She offered me the friendship and I said I cannot stay friends and it's better we should stop talking (basically told her that I'm not gonna reach out) and it's been 3 weeks now and she seems very normal about it, what're my chances?
redditcard9288 She offered you friendship, but you rejected that. She's not contacting you bcse you told her not to. She is holding her ground. Since you can't be friends with her, let her go, and move on. Take care!
Coach Lee. We were together 2 years and 7 months. She broke up. After 33 days we ran into each other, talked and get together again.. After 2 and a half months I tried talking to her because she was acting hot and cold. She even missed dates and did not even call me to cancel. As I tried talking she reacted badly and became offensive. Which made me angry and I broke up. It ended badly. I immediately regretted it and tried to call her. She rejected the call. I then texted her apologizing but also letting her know that she had hurt me. She did not answer. I took no further action. It has been 3 days. No word from her. Any advice?
Coach Lee could the length of the relationship be a determining factor as to how long it will l likely for my ex to reach out if he does? It's been a little over 2 months of no contact, my ex and I were in a 5 year relationship. When I decided to go into no contact I felt it was going to take a lot longer than 30 or 45 days but as time passes I get more and more scared and try to focus on other things to not drive myself crazy.
I broke no contact and make her feel angry and annoyed at me again,,, her friend said that she won't ever talk to me again,, is all hope lost.??? Someone please reply!?
I remembered I left a comment here a few months ago and wanted to comeback and give a final update. After about 8/9 months of being separated, my ex and I found our way back to each other. I feel through taking the time apart to heal, grow, and apply new tools gained from therapy, reading, and outside research we now have a much stronger foundation than we ever had in our past. Only wanted to come back and repost so that I can be seen as another example that exes do comeback (even when you think things are truly over or least expect it). Just make sure when they do, you have done the work on yourself to put you in a position to receive them back healthily and not out of necessity. Goodluck to those who truly wish to have their ex back, I am rooting for you. Thank you Coach Lee for these videos, because regardless of whether my ex and I got back together or not they helped me get through some dark times.
Who reached out first?
@@Nrsouth12She did. If she didn't, we never would have talked. It has to be their choice to initiate.
@@drehawknsrespect 💯
I'm on day 3 of NC. It's definitely not easy. I read this and gained a sense of hope.
@@rickym936stay strong and focus on coach lee's videos whenever you feel down. It helped me to reach to 29th day and break no contact by that day. It doesnt feel well, its like stabbing your own confidence also so better stay No contact until they are the one to reach you. Now I feel I need to double the time I've reached to gain that same confident during no contact.
“Get your part done right” no matter what the outcome is, in the end you can say to yourself that you’ve done your part and you’re gonna be alright. Thank you coach lee.
💯💯
3 years in no contact. It gets easier and they'll be a day you just wake up and you don't care to have them anymore. Keep going 💪🏼
I'm in the same position. 3 years and counting. I've got my eyes on other women. I've very much moved on. Hope you have too
3 years in no contact? It gets easier? I hope you're not just staying a perpetual state of no contact while not actively moving on and starting new relationships? You've moved on right? 3 years is a bit too long to be dwelling
Another testament on how no contact doesn’t work. These people fooled me lol
@@nathantrujillo471 no contact is not about to just get your ex
@@sloanmagnum5009 For me its been more than a year and no i have not date or had one night stands or thought about others...
I really worked on myself and found out i have strong issues on connections with man.
Norhing wrong wit being single ❤
was in a long distance relationship for 3 years, she said she saw me differently after her last visit and only loved me as a friend... 3 weeks no contact. stay strong everybody we in this together
Damn :(
Update?
It works. Having stayed in no contact for 60 days, day 57, she reached out to me
So you have replied 3 days later ?
How’s it going now?
I’m almost positive she’s gone for good but I keep watching these videos anyways! Thank you Coach Lee
Move on. Nobody is worth pain.
@@johnlanier3616 I don’t know how to we were together for 8 years. I still love her so much
@@mattkiebach6506 I was with mine for 16 years. 5 months later and my life is way better. When you decide to move on, it will all make sense.
@@johnlanier3616keyboard warrior lol
8 years????? Wow. No one stays with someone for 8 years without loving them. Not sure what happened. Buy I pray that she will still see you as available and will reach out.
I was the one that broke up with him. I begged at first for him to take me back. It didn't work. It pushed him away. I started watching these videos and all videos about break ups. It was so hard.... 4 months of little contact.... and overnight we are back together. I worked very hard on my new business and made myself so much better during the break up. I never thought it would happen, but it did.
Me got the same.. my ex goes back to her parents to think about our relationship, After 4 weeks i couldnt wait anymore and break up the relationship.. after 1day i realised it was a mistake and beging and say sorry for the mistake but she was very sad+angry. Now im in no contact for 1 week and it feels like she never come back to me. The best i can do is wait or?
@don4717 waiting yes. Minimal contact. Yes.
Work on you. Become irresistible. I worked really hard on myself, dated other people, but knew they weren't the one. I prayed a lot and watched videos all the time. I was ready to move on. I had done the work to make myself better. He came back. It's rare. I was hopeless and hopeful.
@@katiekunch830 great to hear that. I will try to improve myself and im in no contact now for 8 days. Its hard every day but the hope doesnt die. I wish you all the best for your relationship and thank you for your advice
@@don4717any updates?
I am on the same situation right now
Did all the mistakes and blocked everywhere.
It's been 2 months of silence and 3 months of breakup
I was out with my wonderful, loving new partner and ran into my narcissistic ex in a bar...complaining loudly about being miserable. I just smiled and waved. My ex looked AWFUL! 😅 Thank you, coach Lee, for getting me through this!
lorhip4087, Narcissists are very TOXIC. I was with one for 5 years, and I left him over 12 years ago. Good luck to you and your new partner. ❤
Thanks! My hat is off to the person 3 years No Contact. Going to sleep and I turn on coach Lee at MN. Feel so weak. To get through this sadness, anxiety. The words are right on.
3 years and you're still counting the days? Do you thinks that's a bit long?
Its heartening to see many here going through the same thing i am. Was in a 14 year relationship. My ex broke up with me 1.5 months ago. Didnt find this channel so did many of the rookie mistakes of begging etc. But ever since moving out(on good terms), i never reached out to her. But frustratingly she still reaches out to me every 2-3 days about trivial things. I reply to her but always keep it short and succint. Ever since knowing this channel i have new insights and try my best to be hopeful.
10 years. Its been 80 days.
This is crazy how much this is happening to these long term relationships. I think social media is really fucking with our relationships... they get fed all day shit about how terrible their partner is and how they deserve so much better... and not to work on things, just leave. Go to clubs. Go to the beach. You should be partying girl! Leave him! If you aregue once, just leave! He's so replaceable.... and they eat it up, and leave.... I've seen so many of my friends long term (10+years) dissolve the last two to three years. Something is up. For sure.
@ommitedommited154 this is so true in this day and age. The "grass is greener" Syndrome is being fed by social media relentlessly to them and i think its disgusting
Cant thank you enough Coach Lee...at the lowest phase of my life..u r a savior
We live in uncertainty life is so short i grab all the chance to express and tell my love ones how i love and care for them.
arp99u, God bless you for saying that. As a child, my parents taught us that. You never know WHEN your time is over. Take care and God Bless! 🙏⚘️
Coming up on three years and I used to pray they’d come back. Now, I pray that I never here from hem ever again. No contact works at getting yourself back to where you were the day before you met them.
I'm slowly getting there!
If they walked away from you, let them walk. Let it go and move on. If it was meant to be you would still be together.
@maxsheerin8219 It's not easy, but you have to get yourself to that point. You may be amazed what may happen if you truly let go
What if you were to blame? I wasn't as good as I should've been but I laid it all out and said I needed to sort myself out. She still left and blocked me a month later, and seems to be fooling around with a guy but not dating.
@Camroc37, sorry to hear that. I can relate. Are you still separated? Did you move on?
Thank you @coach lee I finally got my ex back after 1 year
hi Kayler, may you inform who initiated the broke up at the first place? And what did you do to get her/him back
@@yohanesingkiriwang6571 I just did what coach lee is always talking about in his videos....I just did no contact for 8 months before we started talking casually again before he asked me to be his girlfriend again
Hi coach Lee just want to say thank you for making these videos. Everytime I feel like contacting I watch your videos and they motivate me to not do so. I’m so thankful I came across your videos. Me and my ex are in 1 weeks of no contact and 16 days since the break up, she left me but we wasn’t toxic at all, we have our bickers and we can get moody and the usual things but she feels like time apart can help us so much and she says she still sees a future with me and that she thinks she’ll want to get back with me one day but I don’t know if that’s a lie or not. We are great and I wish we was still together but I really don’t know if she’ll ever come back I just hope she does. Stay strong everyone
I started no contact 10 days ago and I walked away from her because she now wants to be friends.. all I am doing is staying silent and watching coach Lee programs.. I really do believe I'm gonna get her.. I acted to needy and clingy and didn't even recognize it. But I feel I'm going to be able to get her back the way I want her all because I am following coach Lee's break up plan
Good luck, wishing u well!!
Update??
Well she never reached out but I found out later she has an avoidant attachment style.. so she is never going to reach out to me.. I think she might have blocked me on what's app... I don't see her posts anymore..
I lost my girl for her early 20s we started dating when she was 18 and I was 23 and after almost 5 years of living together and going through college together we started talking about getting married - she went distant. After a few grey months she came to me crying saying she loves me but she feels she need to travel and have fun alone and discover who she is without me. I chased her a few weeks but then I saw your channel and also coach ken videos and after a call with coach Ken I started nc . I am now only 2 weeks in but already feeling better. Still hoping she will come back but if not I know I’ll manage- and it’s all thanks to your videos .
Any updates?
I find this video to be Lee's most impactful work. As I reflect on my own past relationship, the message resonates deeply with me. Living through an extreme imbalance in a relationship can be a profoundly difficult experience. Inevitably, the relationship reaches a breaking point, and although the breakup can be painful, it's often a necessary step towards healing and regaining one's sense of self.
There’s some more off-center situations I’d love to see breakup videos on- too much work, not enough time, distance. When incompatibilities are not mentioned, when attraction doesn’t seem to be a factor
97 days of no contact. I'm starting to lose hope…
I was there at one point ready to give up. Don’t stop living. More than likely they’ll be back. Just be patient. If they reach out don’t ignore them that’s the biggest thing I had to get over because I was ready to treat them how they treated me but that’s doing more damage than good. Now we’re back together now for 7 months and it’s way better than before.
Stay strong
Usually happens when you least expect it to happen. You will one day realize it’s been 97 days since you have even thought of them and then out of nowhere…. Boom …..Funny how that works in life….. I have been there myself and that’s part of what was imparted on me to heal and change perspective… hope it works out for you!
I would just work on getting rid of the hope and do no contact for yourself. I am on around 40 days nc and it hurts a ton but I love myself more.
I personally think nc should never be broken if they dumped you. If u ever go back with them that will always be lingering for future fights or disagreements.
200 days here ✋🏼 i already moved on.
He ghosted me after saying that I hold on to the friendship so after 2 weeks of no contact, I left him a message saying I am letting him go. I can't hold on to a friendship that is one-sided. And knowing him, he will not come back.
Just met with my ex last night after 9 weeks of no contact. Things seemed to go really well. Lot of tears on her side. She apologized for mistakes she made in the relationship, told me she missed me and that she loves me. Going to let it breath for now so we both have time to reflect. Hopefully she reaches out again in the near future though. Any recommendations from the comment section on what to do next is also appreciated.
Dre, Keep doing what you're both doing, and you'll be fine. Looking good..👍
Same happened to me a week ago. Shes been quite since but hopefully she reaches back out. I'm back in no contact. Stay strong focus on you.
If she really meant it, should reflect in actions and be back with you. Until then keep being the best version of yourself , maybe you will attract better ;)
Proceed with caution, as coach Lee always says you should be always a step behind her in terms of keeping conversations going and making plans! Keep working on yourself and be open but don’t jump back into it too fast :) best of luck ❤
Do nothing. If she reaches out again, she is giving you the green light to pursue (but very lightly)
Im on day three, this sucks. I have been reading for inspiration. Thank you all for sharing your stories
How are you doing right now?
50 days in. I was calm and respectful on the day of the break-up. Literally said “I don’t want this and I love you, but I respect what you want”. She left, I packed my stuff and never said a word.
She unfollowed and blocked me on everything within a few days (which felt pretty terrible). She had her brother reach out to me to get the rest of my things from the house.
She finally texted me a few weeks later about a little money I owed her for something and to ask if I still wanted some concert tix she bought me for Christmas.
We worked that out pretty quickly and pleasantly. I haven’t heard a thing since.
It’s been a tough transition for sure. No idea what will happen, but I banking on her to simply move on. She’s a beautiful girl…she won’t have a problem finding someone new.
Part of me would love to talk to her again and possibly rebuild a new and improved version of our relationship.
It’s a true paradox. Hanging onto that hope keeps me involved in wanting her back, while simultaneously keeps me from fully moving on.
One day at a time I suppose.
I feel for everyone experiencing these feelings. It can be truly gut wrenching at times.
All the best, guys.
I guess it’s better that I lose hope.
hows the update, man?
@@yohanesingkiriwang6571 Not too bad, man. I started seeing someone new a couples months ago. Funny enough…my ex texted me out of the blue a couple weeks ago telling me she missed me and even baked me a cake and wanted to bring it over. She told me she was worried that I didn’t care about her anymore (which was odd). She mentioned wanting to get together and work-out again…we used to train at the gym together. She also ended the text conversation by telling me she loved me.
Definitely a strange feeling, because I do still miss a lot of things about her and hope she’s doing well. Parts of me would like to be with her again, but I know it would never be the same. I’ve also realized that I could never really allow myself to get back to her considering the fact that at one point she was able to look me in the eye and tell me she didn’t want me anymore.
So out of self respect I’m just moving on with what I have now. I think that’s for the best.
If you’re struggling…I feel for ya, brother. I know it gets said repeatedly, but focus on yourself. Things really do feel better in time.
My ex left me 18 months ago. We were together 9 years. She cut off all contact with me and I never heard from her again!
Sounds very cruel..i mean 9 years relationship. What happened?
@@Champman543 her 19 y/o son live with us and he decided he was going to move his girlfriend into our house. I tried to put a stop to it. A big fight started and they all left the next day!
Been two weeks no contact , focusing on myself and what I need to get right . Missing her like crazy but I know this is all patience and correcting myself . I know where I went wrong I could feel that while it was going on . Making sure I’m improving physically, mentally , spiritually. It’s hard but the bond and love I have for this person is something special and I’ll make the improvements and be a better version of myself
Coach, you know my situation perfectly... My ex is in a partying phase right now and he chose it over me. He is deep into drugs and alcohol. I went out and partied with him for months and met so many of his friends at clubs, etc. As soon as I let him know how stressful it was to be dragged around bars and clubs all the time, he broke up with me.
Completely blindsided me. Now I'm going back to rehab to get sober, because I decided I don't want to fall into that lifestyle ever again. Staying no contact.
I truly hope they can get get better because their behavior is unhealthy and dangerous. Worried about him every day, but I'm going to focus on myself for now. 😥
Thank you coach , still watching since last year November... still healing
Thank you for all your movies. He come back after a break up ❤ It took him 1 week to understand. I am sooo happy. I thought I am his rebound. Hope now everything will be better.
happy for you, in my case i was the one who was dumped, i didnt know i have too many selfish behaviors, over the span of 1 months and counting, i corrected all of it. research on different attachment styles and even on how to be an empathetic person
hi Kayler, may you inform who initiated the broke up at the first place? And what did you do to get him back
Spoke to a couple of professionals and they said see it as a blessing 😕 yet i still want her smh
Today is 50 days of no contact. I cannot sleep these days losing hope
imranhakim, NO, do not lose hope. There is still time, and in the event you need some extra help, Coach Lee has an Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
I’m at 47 and I feel the same way. Stay strong, our time is coming.
10 months no contact. I still wish there was hope. I know there isnt and these videos perpetuate a dead dream. But i cant help it. I don't understand why i still love this person so much and hate life without her. I know how she hurt me, i know how i hurt her. Yet every night i still dream of her. I wish these coaching things were real and there was an actual path to reconciliation. But 9/10 times this isnt the case. Especially when the dumper is female. I still mourn. I still go by my day. But the pain refuses to leave me. Its not less, ive just learned to live with it
Coach Lee: the no contact GAWD
Well I’m not going to be easy like a lot of these girls that don’t value themselves. You need to respect yourself!
This time comment section is right, never go back to your ex if he/she left you and got into another relationship , it’s so stupid to do.
I sorta pushed her into it...
Dr, I realized something this morning from listening to you over several months. Besides my wife leaving and using no contact that may or may not save my marriage, your teaching that 'THEY HAVE FIGURE THING OUT FOR THEMSELVES' could and should be a life philosophy toward all people , understandings and interactions. ....THEY NEED TO FIGURE THING OUT FOR THEMSELVES
Hey man, thanks for your comment. For a marriage situation, I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at www.marriageradio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/
love you for what you do @@RealCoachLee
16 days of no contact and what's worse is today is our marriage anniversary. Nothing. Lost my job too. Nothing is going right.
Update?
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Humanity is in the Dark Ages Regarding Relationships
Another "mic drop" - Coach Lee! This time you crammed in an entire human relationship college course combined with a college survey course on psychology (normal ex vs. dealing with a "cluster b" ex).
I appreciate you following so closely. And you’re smart too.
I still have hope. I have this gut feeling she will come back
Did she?
@ no 😓 I’ve lost hope. It’s been 5 months 😥
Day 3: getting better w9rking on myself more. Getting ahead in life 💯
This is a great video!
Excellent video
So spot on. Your vdo is uplifting!
Thank you Coach Lee❤❤❤
This is so confusing to me because he moved away while in the relationship. We stayed together and we visited each other a few times in 9 months. We were talking about our future together and it all devolved because I couldn’t handle the distance. I broke up with him and fixed it the next morning. Then he broke up with me 2 weeks later saying he couldn’t meet my needs or shake that I broke it off with him. He was very hurt and so was I and now we haven’t talked for 5 weeks today.
18:44 that’s what happened to me. Not necessarily long distance, but she wanted me to move in and I hadn’t yet. When we broke up I offered and she said too late.
I have loved her to the highest levels and she dumped me
I was married for 8 years.. During the divorce and after the divorce, I didn't absolutely EVERYTHING wrong. We needed guardians to swop kids so we would not see each other. I discovered these videos and went into no contact for 6 months and started casually dating someone. My ex wife has reached out and we now text regularly and see each other again. Hopefully if we take it slow, things will work out.
Matthew, you need to get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/
Did you & your ex wife get back together? I’m asking for my situation, not being noisy.
@coleenkulaw1447 Hi, no, we did not get back together. My causal girlfriend became my real girlfriend for nearly 2 years now. Best choice ever! Two people had to work 9n themselves and make changes. Unfortunately, my ex-wife believed she had done absolutely nothing wrong. Therefore, she made no efforts to change, I worked on myself for 2 years and continued every day. So I emotionally outgrew her in every way and moved on.
We broke up on June 6th. He’s a good man. Very giving and catering but he doesn’t have empathy.
I told my ex 3 months after being dumped, he had better be sure of that decision (to leave, he dumped me over the phone), he had this confused look on his face and said why?...I said because once you walk out my door, there is NO coming back to me, ever! We won't see each other, we won't talk to each other, the door will be completely closed, and locked.....his mouth fell open he looked like a lost puppy and said, I don't understand why you are so angry....I said why do you care? You lied to me, deceived me, cheated on me (he found replacement 6 months prior to dumping me),,,and NOW you are concerned with MY feelings?? I said, get out of my house, go run to your next unsuspecting victim, use them like you used me. He stood there staring at me, I went not another word from you, get out of my house, and if you are not out in the next 5 minutes I will call the cops to have you arrested for trespassing....he grabbed his stuff, headed out the door and turned back and said, I thought we were friends, I thought we could stay friends....I said friends don't do another dirty like you did, I warned you at the beginning how it would be if you left, he goes I thought you were joking. I slammed the screen door, then the front door....went to my bedroom to make sure he was leaving, he slowly walked to his truck, stood there staring at my house looking really confused, bewildered, he gets in sitting there briefly, I see the door open like he was coming back but he closed it and drove off. Needless to say...he went straight to a bar (we were not drinkers)...his daughter kept calling me, 3 times in an hour looking for him, told her I didn't know where he was, the last time I left and went over to this bar near his work, sure enough his truck was there. I go inside, he looked fearful now, like oh shyte why is she here...he was drinking beer and smoking,,, I went smoking?, your now smoking?!...told him to get his worthless a## home because his daughter was looking for him, he actually got up and walked out....outside he says, I truly don't understand why you are so angry.....I began yelling at him, called him a worthless coward and I got in my car and left.....3 months later he marries the other woman, becomes a raging alcoholic (it got back to me)...and then stalks me for another 3 years. It finally stopped when I caught him......he is not with her anymore but now is with wife no 6.....wow did I dodge a bullet...😂
im at roughly the same amount of nc as you. ive now deleted her number and messages from the past.. it seems to help because i cant break nc if i dont have her number. were right there with ya
A year and a half in no contact.
I realized I'm much happier without him and guess what? Financially I'm doing even better without him, until he left I had no idea how little money I spend on myself.
He would leave me off and on during the relationship. Sometimes for weeks at a time. I would wait and he would always come back around. Now he told me we should “part ways” and it has been over 90 days. I immediately went NC and don’t expect a return this time. Pretty sure I was just an option.
TexasToast, he sounds like a narcissist. Let him go. The behavior itself tells me "he doesn't care." Good luck to you.❤
Unfortunately, I agree that you might have just been an option.
thank you Lee
It’s very situational, but my ex came back twice!! We broke up two times already and now he’s back. You have to have been a really good partner to them for them to know they lost something good. He said he realized his mistakes in the relationship and never stopped loving me. Trust me. I felt like it was over for GOOD. But nope. He came back again😊
Men come back cuz they love harder. Women don’t have too many options. Different lives experiences for us.
So it is possible to get a ex husband back after 2 divorces????
@@oemamira I can’t speak on that. A husband and divorces are a whole other level!
There's some truth in that. Females don't NEED to learn if they don't want. They can get attention from anyone else. Men love hard and can't just point and choose whoever is single. @@nathantrujillo471
Did he break up with u ? Nd what was the reason ? Mine because i got upset repeatedly coz he wd get defensive whenever i say he hurt me or said smth wrong, he wd snap right away nd consider it an argument when i just wannna express my feelings nd be heard. He said he got tired of this. Blocked me everywhere. We were gonna get married. Im sure he s nt coming back coz he s stubborn nd has big ego nd i dont think he s ever gone back to an ex but there is a bit of hope even tho im so hurt.
Went 5 months no contact except times for children...she finally "reached out" apologizing and crying. Wanting to take it ao but idk if I should believe it but I'm allowing her to open up to me and I'm trying as well....I need a coach call cuz I messed up along the way but hopefully we can improve together.
Shes so arrogant man idk, I gotta get me right for me.
99.9% not the grass is always greener
I walked away from a very toxic relationship over 2yrs ago & lately my Ex has been texting msgs of what he misses of what we had, I'm on his mind & he's sorry for all the crap he put me thro & we've spoken a cple of time's & his voice is so shaky & he's stuttering, l don't know what to think? I still have a lot of feeling's towards him but is it just a ploy a game?? Would love to understand
tamaralegget, your comment really caught my eye. When you mentioned the word TOXIC, it hit me. I was involved with a Toxic guy years ago, and found out he was a narcissist. I NEVER knew what that was until I got into Therapy. If he has any narcissistic traits, PLEASE DON'T TAKE HIM BACK. Coach Lee has 2 videos in his library which I suggest you listen to them. Go to Coach Lee's videos. They're both very informative and interesting.
Good luck to you always. ❤
Needed this. Thank you coach Lee
I realy need an advise: no contact for 3 years and than he whants me as a mistress...we both moved on...what is this?
Valentin. I would ask if he was joking. That is an INSULT!!
I was dating this one woman who for about three months or so. After our first date, she went on vacation for about two weeks and I waited for her to come back. We went on another date. Then I went on a vacation and she waited for me too. We went out again. We went out in a total of five dates and after that she texted me a day after my birthday and said she didn’t feel the “spark” and “wished me luck to find the right person”. I genuinely thought we were a good match. We laughed together a lot and enjoyed each other’s company and we both treated each other fairly and nicely. It’s been about 43+ days of NC. It’s been still difficult trying to move on and I’m really trying but if she said that is there absolutely no chance she will come back?
Coach lee. Mine. About 5 month Of NC. Didn't. Heard. From him ... Nothing at all.. But i and he Broke up. 7 month already.. Mine NC is. 2nd. Time.
crystalina, he won't be back. Too much time has passed. Go out with your friends and have fun. ❤❤
Who.are u
@@crystalinalee8585I work with Coach Lee
@@jannlewandowski5540 coach lee. He. Not that. Coach ask. U. Move on. ... Or. What .. He said. Stay. Nc..
He wont. Said like that .. He. Said. Stay on nc.
I really think nc is for relationships that are for people that are in 6months or less. After that 99% it’s over and if they get in touch your second choice….really do you want that.
Best way do your healing get yourself back and move on.
Been watching your videos for two weeks, as well as coach blac but yours are more logical...my ex broke up with me end of March and did the block unblock thing for a month, and still had things of hers but we both moved out so i took a few things to where she works, she has two jobs and one is as bar lady which we know is around men, she likes the vibe but is kinda getting over it, our first meet up was three weeks ago and she told me we were 'toxic' and i should move on, we kissed a few times quite intimately and i can see she isnt doing great but also know she is talking to guys, her one good friend which i introduced to her as my friends girlfriend has Slay queen mentality and her mom and dad is influencial in her life choices. She said i would have persauded her to stay if she had not left like she did, even moving her stuff out on my bday. I asked if me being able to persuade her meant anything and she said no, we are both manipulative. I agree we are, she also said that i was controlling and she was needy(early days of break up she said she found herself) shes enjoying the freedom, i miss her dogs as well as her, not sure what to do as no contact has been super difficult but also afraid it will be easier for her to 'move on' if im silent until she reaches out. Time makes things easier for the ex too...i asked her to lie to me and tell me she never loved me so that i can have that kind of closure and move on, she said she wont because that is bullshit and she will always love me but again we are toxic for eachother. Im 29 and shes turning 24. 😅 Sorry for the long explanation, hard to get perspective with little information... Coach Lee you have been helping alot so far.
Maybe I'm delusional, but I think my breakup was very circumstantial. The relationship was really good. He broke NC 2 days after breaking up with me expressing doubt about his decision, then went back to NC. It's been a month. I believe he broke up with me, not because he didn't love, but because he was overwhelmed with grief (his father had passed away a week prior to the breakup), and because he feels reponsible for his immature and spoiled mother. She's moving in with him, and she has no boundaries. It's very unhealthy.
So yeah, because of these circumstances, I really don't think he'll come back to me. He has a lot on his plate right now...
beatitcreep, I am so sorry about his Father, and about his Mother. I also feel very bad for you. I'm on your side here, and I do NOT believe that due to him being overwhelmed has anything to do with his leaving you. He's using that as an EXCUSE! DON'T believe it. If he really loved you, he would never leave you because of what has happened. He should need you MORE! Think about this. How can you just let someone go that you LOVE? I don't believe he is being honest with you. Please, think about this WHOLE situation. ❤❤
@jannlewandowski5540 like I said, the relationship was really good. I spent the weekend with him before the breakup, and he couldn't get enough of me. He called me wife material, told me he was in love with me and was making plans for Christmas. Everything changed when I told him I was anxious about his mother moving in with him. I told him I was worried about the amount of privacy/intimacy we were going able to have, because his mother is quite intrusive. He completely shut off. He went from crazy in love to wanting to break up in 48 hours. He wanted to be friends, and he seemed genuinely heartbroken when I declined. I went no contact, and 2 days later he contacted me to tell me I was all he could think about, and that he thought he might have done a mistake. I really don't think he would have broken up with me under different circumstances. I think he knows his mother and I couldn't get along. She already showed up unannounced 2-3 times a week, FaceTimed him 3-4 times a day... she borrowed my bathing suit without asking for my permission... she has NO boundaries. All that was before she moved in with him. He feels responsible for her, so there's no room for a romantic relationship in his life right now. His controlling mother is his priority.
A mama's boy? Save yourself. Maybe after she dies, he'll be ready, but with a lot of mama issues that will get directed and dumped onto you, because even though you are kind and wonderful, all his anger toward his mother will get dumped on you.
@@jannlewandowski5540Not true for many men. Many of us need time alone to digest feelings when turmoil and problems arrive aside from a relationship. We feel the need to focus in these new problems and solve them, and this, not for a moment, means that we don't love our partner. In fact we do that to save them our own preoccupations and keep them happy.
I am not saying this is the rght thing to do, i am saying that this usually happens and that by no means this is a signal of disdain, au contrarie.
@@lmiller1413 I think he's a mama's boy, yes. That's very unfortunate, he'll always side with his mother, even when she's being unreasonable.
What does he mean by “get your side right?” Can anyone explain this
I think it is unknown whether they change their mind but as the person dumped you need to recognise and be realistic about what has happened. If you are a man and your partner has dumped you and then entered into a rebound relationship then unfortunately if you are a real man, there should be no return and you should treat the rebound as your closure. If you accept your ex back after a rebound you also accept that your credibility has all been lost. NEVER take an ex back from a rebound no matter how painful that may be. NEVER
Thanks Coach Lee
I think i am worth more than crumbs...
I think so too.
Hi Coach. I had a nasty breakup but used the clean slate message, went into no contact and did the work. Life has been amazing.
Next week my ex and I are going on a vacation with another couple. This was planned over 6 months ago and cancelling wasn't an option. She texted me after 4 weeks of no contact: saying that she does not want any drama and just a fun time on the vacation. I responded saying the same and left it there. Whats next for me towards and during the vacation?
just have fun and don’t pressure. re attract her by being neutral and having fun with everyone.
That is great man! Act casually, she will see that as a respect and strength from your part, a lot of maturity also. Have fun, act like you were not in a relationship at all.
As she made her up mind for the break up, give it to her, show case your self respect and strength by not using this vacation to come back up with her.
For example, let say she is having something for you again, then say to her that you are open to it, but you do not want to rush things up and "reject" her gently, this will demonstrate your strength, your maturity and show her you are confident and serious about it. I will show that you have changed and possibly set a new frame.
If it happens that she tries to kiss you, accept it but cut it fast and tell her that you guys need to take it slow. Then the next day, do not act on that kiss, act like it never happened, because you dill have plenty of time afterwards after you return from vacation. She will not understand it but she will feel attraction to you.
These are examples, even if she does not try to kiss you or having a fling for you, act casually, act not like friends but like two adults going on vacation together, respect her time her privacy, and enjoy your time.
Your best thing to do is having a perfect peacefull joyfull time together to build a perfect peacfull joyfull memory in you, and also in her. Then when you come back from vacation, go straight into no contact. Like you were never in vacation one day, one week ago.
Then all these memories will bring back the other good memories, etc let her spirit do the work instead of you trying to convince her you are worth it.
Silence and time will be your friend, while yo work on yourself, on what is insecure in your heart, your wounds, and also your practical life, if needed, meaning fitness, food, finance, project, job, family, etc
Don't make them feel pressured and don't try to over compensate and make it appear as if you are dating
@nino_94 thank you so much for your answer. Its depth gives me lots of insight and hope towards the situation. Going no contact after the vacation sucks but I understand that I have played my part then and should wait for the magic to happen. Again very grateful!
Oh hell no. Do NOT go. Things can always be cancelled. You're not her partner, and friends isn't what you want. Don't go.
I LOVE YOU BROTHER
Coach Lee my ex and I had plans to get married this year (february) thanks to You, i Made a Big mistake I followed another coach advice on making your partner jealous (very immature on my part) and it all went down the hil, as he is Also a very insecure person, i regret doing that. Before that we had a great relationship overall, were best friends until I did that knowing he was already. Jealous person. I told him I took my words back but it wasnt enough. I started no contact, he still textes me every now and then, but it's like he doesnt trust me. He makes sarcastic jokes on me and doesnt take me seriously is there a way to fix this?
Great videos! But what if you kinda called things off or a mutual breakup? We became good friends first then start a good connected relationship after 8 months. Recently I noticed changes in his behavior that I’ve mentioned before to be problematic. He did make short lived changes but Rt back to not prioritizing the relationship. So I started to not care and I ignored his one call. He popped up at my home and flipped things on me and asking for his things. I went straight into NC and refuse to reach out. He’s a stubborn person so I need to out stubborn him. But overall we had no major problems I guess we just need time apart.
2 months and still blocked 😢
She contacted me 18 after days of no contact, it was a Friday night and we were both out drinking.. We had a chill quick 5 minute convo and I said to come have a drink with me, she said she can't as she had a friend with her for the night but then she suggested Sunday to meet up...
I never heard back from her about Sunday... It's been two weeks since that reach out.... Any advice please?
Continue with no contact or?
You pretty much have to stay in no contact if she pitched and flaked.
@@RealCoachLee Then I shall stick with no contact. Your words have been solid, your videos have got me through and mad me stronger, thanks for the advice coach Lee 🙏
I'd really like a video around the topic of the breakup being somewhat deserved. Your videos are mostly about out of the blue getting dumped, but for some people like me it was at least partially deserved. I was with her for 3.5 years, we went on many trips and we loved each other, but I didn't do as much as I could've. I wasn't very romantic. I showed interest in other women online by viewing them (not by talking/flirting). I feel like the bad guy and I know that maybe I was bad but I am not a bad person. I could never cheat. I really wanted her forever but she just saw the bad and left, and seems to be having sex with another man immediately following the breakup. It really hurts knowing I wasn't enough when the bar was pretty low. I was a wreck and probably pushed her away during the breakup, but I am better now and know it could work out.
This is exactly what I was thinking about as well similar situation I wasn’t giving her affection and was really lacking. In a lot of things she would continuously tell me the things that I needed to work on, but I would always shrug them off and not pay attention to them until one day she left. She told me she didn’t love me anymore, but I still feel like this would apply to us man because we didn’t cheat. We didn’t do anything extremely major easily things we could’ve changed and worked on but sadly we are human and a lot of us only change threw painful experiences. I still have hope I was with her for 16 years engaged for five or four the reason for the long engagement was due to being engaged before Covid. Stay up man. Trust me a lot of people in these comments are going through it
@@angelmontelongo4110 sometimes it takes the pain of loss to figure yourself out. She really didn’t even bring up the problems until she had already lost her desire for me, and while I can’t just blame her I do wish she would have talked to me more. That was one of her complaints. I didn’t talk enough to her, just enjoyed her presence. Yet she didn’t tell me how she felt. Would I have been able to do much? Probably not. I needed that pain to wake me up. I still miss the connection we had and it feels really bad knowing I was not enough for her to the point she was comfortable falling in love with someone else and pushing me out.
Coach Lee. I was in a relation for 2 years and 7 months. She broke up. After 33 days, we ran into each other, talked and get together again. After 2 months and a half, I tried talking to her because she was acting hot and cold. She even missed dates and did not even called or texted cancelling. As I tried talking, she would not even listen. She became angry and very hurtful. Which made me angry and so I broke up this time. I immediately regretted it and called her but she rejected the call. I texted her apologizing but also explaining how cold she had become and letting her know how offensive and hurtful she had reacted at my attempt to talk. She did not answer. I took no further action. It has been 3 days. No word from her. Any advice? Thank you for your time.
Waldem. Forget her! She's playing games, and you can do much better. Don't contact her at all.
Thank you for the advice Jann.
@@Waldemar-bb1sn you are welcome. 💕
Good morning,
I really needed to see this video.
My ex girlfriend friend and I have broken up for 18 months, and she has been in new relationship for over a year.
However since March, my ex girlfriend and I have been texting and talking on the phone. Matter of fact she has reached out to me on Father's Day and 4th July. On one occasion she asked me, have I thought about her during the break up. She also agreed to meet me for coffee, but she postponed the coffee meet.
As I mentioned she reached out to me on Father's Day and the 4th July. However my birthday was in July, but she didn't reach out. Matter of fact I haven't heard from her in over 2 weeks.
I'm so over her!! I've blocked her!! She is so immature!!
gregepps1669, I don't blame you at all for letting her go. It sounds like she loves playing games. Let the other guy have her!!
I’m NOT. a fan of blocking unless it’s due to threats and harassment. She reached out on those particular occasions then didn’t. Just leave it at that. I think maybe she’s curious and that could be why she reached out? Maybe she’s a bit confused with her feelings on the new guy? I wouldn’t block her though
@@fire12731 Ok...she reached on those particular holidays. However she doesn't reach out on my BDAY and then she ghost me. I haven't heard from her in two weeks.
She is playing games.
Day 27 of no contact. She deleted me on socials last week on her bday. Not sure if she’s mad I didn’t congratulate her or she’s moving on. Anyways I’ll stay in no contact.
WoenselTuning, Keep staying in NO contact. That is the wise thing to do. You are doing the right thing, and keeping your promise..See what happens when NO contact is over.
Broke up with my ex in late march of this year and stayed contacting each other for 2 months until my birthday on may and I’ve used NC for a month until June i messaged her again we talk for like a week and after that she created new social media accounts. After again a week of communicating I used NC again for 30 days and yesterday I emailed her and sent her some money to help her with her school and she replied that she was surprised and thought ive already moved on and she was happy that even without communication I still care about her. And now I am very confused about my feelings if I want to continue pursuing her or should moved on for good? And i really dont know if im chasing her or pursuing her.
jayjaytornea7132. It's obvious that you still care about her, BUT, are the feelings mutual? Has she told you she misses you and wants to see you? I know you're going into NO CONTACT but as long as you keep sending her money, she'll keep you around.
Please be careful with your feelings, and observe the way she treats you. Follow your GUT feeling. Best wishes.
@@jannlewandowski5540 she told me that she missed me, replied to my email we stayed connected for like a week and agreed to meet up but never happened and shes been distant to me again after a month. And its very confusing
@@jayjaytornea7132 Whatever you do, STOP SENDING HER MONEY! You need your money, you WORKED for it. Don't give her a dime! She's using you...❤
I don't understand what is going on in our relationship. We are long distance and he is having a hard time coming to the United States 'so I told him that it's okay if we can be friends instead of aging in a 3 years long distance relationship. Now he won't answer me 😢 I love him but I'm not trying to stay if he is not coming
kimmiewils, I understand that LDR's are difficult, and I do feel for you both. If he can't come to the USA, would you consider going to his country? 3 years is a long time, so you have to decide what is BEST for you..Good luck to both of you. Finally, when you mentioned "friendship," that must have really hurt him..❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 GOOD MORNING KIND SOUL.
HE IS HAITIAN AND LIVE IN THE DOMINICAN REPUBLIC. HE WORKS ALL DAY TO PAY HIS BILLS.
I TOLD HIM TO JUST MAKE IT HERE IN THE UNITED STATES THAT HE HAS A PROMISE BUSINESS OF HIS OWN AND I WILL HELP SUPPORT HIM IN EVERY WAY.
BUT TIME IS A ISSUE WITH ME BECAUSE I AM OLDER THAN HE IS AND I'M READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND BE HIS WIFE' I GET APPROACHED BY GUYS DAILY BUT I DONT WANT NO ONE BUT HIM🥺I'M SOOOO CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO. 😢💔🙏🙏🙏
kimmie, A decision will have to be made otherwise
this will go on and on. Talk to him and ask a friend whom you trust to give you their ideas. Best of luck..❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 I TRY NOT TO INVOLVE PEOPLE I KNOW ' BUT I TRULY APPRECIATE YOUR KINDNESS.🥰❤🙏🙏🙏THANK YOU FOR LISTENING PRECIOUS HEART ♥ BLESSINGS TO YOU 😊
First 4 minutes were literally my ex gf…
I already apologized for my mistakes but i feel all this guilt now after she left me. My heart wants to just spill my heart out to her but it wouldn’t make a difference now. She needs space and wants to be free so i have to accept that even tho i miss her extremely. I need to keep working on myself to be a better man and do it not just for her but also for me. I feel like all hope is lost but the little hope i still have i just have to put in god hands and not contact her ever egain no matter what happens.
Yeah Jerome, don’t spill your heart to her. You’ll just inflate her ego. Don’t give her the satisfaction. Give her your silence. Let her assume you are living a great life and are too busy to mess with her. You can do this.
You are right coach i wont feed her ego any more. I started running and working out again today after some time off and i want to continue this on a daily basis now. I was thinking about posting my runs every day on my social media for my motivation to keep going no matter what. I haven’t posted anything since the breakup but i want to do it for myself more than for her. What are ur thoughts on that? And thank you so very much for being there for all of us god bless ur soul brother 🙏🏾❤️
Coach lee my ex has broken no contact in some weeks but i think she's doing this so as to move on @@RealCoachLee
My husband, together 17 years, 2 kids, and I are separated for almost 15 months. We had a relationship with some conflict and there was rejection by me the worst being the 2 years prior to separation. He has decided we are not a couple anymore, wants to move on and now says we were never happy. He has been seeing someone for about a year. He shows no affection anymore, not even a hug because I think he sees it as cheating on this ‘friend’. So this looks extremely bad. He sees I have changed but says it’s too late. I have a lot of regrets and probably deserve what I got even though I didn’t mean to wreck it. I didn’t feel enough of an emotional connection from him.
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. To start, I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/. Then, for something this serious, you really should get in my Relationship Reignite workshop.
We are going to exchange our things on Sunday what should I do?
Oops.
My ex broke up with me after 6 hears we have 3 daughter
2 weeks later she is in a happy State and a happy (relationship) she says the kids know him now he is helping her and and and
I reacted porly maybe even very porly but since she told me she is in a relationship or idk maybe a rebound i just stopt texting
When we talk about the kids i still make my jokes or are sarkastic and she still laughts and find its funny
I told her already in the beginnig that i wont be her friend but i will be there for the kids
Right now im taking care of myself and try to do the best out of it but ofc ill still love her and dont know what to do with her because shes soooo happy right now
Would be amazing if u wrote back because if u wont know who else 😢
Love from germany
pasti_kadasti21. I know it must be vary hard for you, and the most I can do for you is recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for married couples. It will help you immensely. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/emk Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank u
@@pasti_kadasti2179
You are welcome, and best wishes to you. ❤
🌹🙏🏻Thank you
Narcissist ex did come back and doesn't seem to want to take no for an answer. I have finally been freed from the games and horrible feelings I was constantly left with about myself feeling not enough or feeling I did something wrong. The question is now will I change my mind about the breakup. Not very likely.
My and I just broke up three days ago. Before that, we attended church and Sunday School together. I don't want to find another church, do I still go and sit elsewhere? Do I find another church? I can't think clearly
He gave me a ring, i was unhappy with ring and he broke up with me , im regret now what should I do, i just want to chosse my own ring
What do you consider log distance? 50 miles, 150 miles, 500 miles?
The longer the worse.
Man i did something that is unforgivable and made me look really bad in her parents eyes to where they dont accept me. She was reaching out every two days for the last 3 weeks. And i made the mistake of carrying on conversation. We had sex 3 weeks ago and she still comments on having sex again but this last Friday she made a comment about us happen to try to date other people which she could tell I didn’t like and she backtracked and said it was a joke now I haven’t heard from her since and she’s liking all these guys post on Facebook now
goodlor, that was NOT a joke. I've heard it before and that's why all these guys are on her Facebook now. Read in between the lines. Go NO Contact with her, and get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you.totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
I feel your pain. Stay strong. Head down, work hard and hit the gym. Endorphins help and looking good never hurts. I’m here if you need an ear
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you. You are very consistent with your responses. I know it wasnt a joke she was testing to see what i said. I told her i couldnt be just friends with her and if she does just look at me like a “friend” we should prolly stop talking about sex and sending pictures since its for nothing. And she responded “nothing!!!??? Best believe im still going to call you” “youll always have a special place in my heart” and just the other day i ended the conversation saying i was going out so ima be busy. And she got all upset saying she loved me and will always love me. So i said i have love for her too but i think its time to let go since clearly love aint enough for us to work on things. And she responded “me too i guess….” And i asked her what she wanted and what shes getting out of this since one second she loves me and the other not enough. She said “i just dont know what i want” and “im ruining it for the both of us” then started getting all mad asking what ima be doing and if theres going to be girls there and saying how she will always be jealous of me and what im doing and who im with.
@@goodlord420Thank you so much for the compliment of me being consistent with my answers. When a person is hurting, I try my best to help them. God bless you..❤
Hey bro serious question... ??? What shows up on your credit card statement when you buy your "Emergency Break Up Kit" ?? I could see my wife looking at that and laughing in my face!! It could seriously have the opposite effect and make me seem desperate. We share checking and credit cards at the moment still and that's a big worry for me. I wouldn't want to give her the advantage of knowing my strategy to win her back.
You should maybe consider another video:
"What to do if your ex discovers you are getting help from Coach Lee?"
That is a good question but she’ll see your serious about working it out
She offered me the friendship and I said I cannot stay friends and it's better we should stop talking (basically told her that I'm not gonna reach out) and it's been 3 weeks now and she seems very normal about it, what're my chances?
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She offered you friendship, but you rejected that. She's not contacting you bcse you told her not to. She is holding her ground. Since you can't be friends with her, let her go, and move on. Take care!
Why would you want to be friends if that’s all they want ?
Coach Lee. We were together 2 years and 7 months. She broke up. After 33 days we ran into each other, talked and get together again.. After 2 and a half months I tried talking to her because she was acting hot and cold. She even missed dates and did not even call me to cancel. As I tried talking she reacted badly and became offensive. Which made me angry and I broke up. It ended badly. I immediately regretted it and tried to call her. She rejected the call. I then texted her apologizing but also letting her know that she had hurt me. She did not answer. I took no further action. It has been 3 days. No word from her. Any advice?
After 2 months of no contact rule, she sent her boyz to try to have me beaten cause i was dating someone else. What does that mean?
Coach Lee could the length of the relationship be a determining factor as to how long it will l likely for my ex to reach out if he does? It's been a little over 2 months of no contact, my ex and I were in a 5 year relationship. When I decided to go into no contact I felt it was going to take a lot longer than 30 or 45 days but as time passes I get more and more scared and try to focus on other things to not drive myself crazy.
I broke no contact and make her feel angry and annoyed at me again,,, her friend said that she won't ever talk to me again,, is all hope lost.??? Someone please reply!?