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In Class with Carr, Ep. 80: The Booker T. Washington Paradox (and Nicki Minaj)

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  • Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
  • On this day 126 years ago, Booker Washington of @TuskegeeUniv gave his famous “Atlanta Cotton Exposition Address.” Dr. Greg Carr (@AfricanaCarr In #Knubia) will use our Africana Studies framework to connect it to everything from Black nativism to #NickiMinaj. #HowDoItFreeUs? #Knarrative #InClasswithCarr
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  • @marcustoney7762
    @marcustoney7762 2 года назад +19

    That's why I love Dr. Carr, he surprised me with that "The Mack" reference. Lol what other educator can make those type of references and relate them to the topic. That's a cold brother right there. Master Teacher.💯💪💪💪

  • @charleslouis1665
    @charleslouis1665 2 года назад +33

    Love the quote..."came out their mother's womb talking"! So many people speak/talk and can't/won't listen!

  • @unitedvillage614
    @unitedvillage614 2 года назад +13

    Man, the connection Carr draws between Booker Washington and our current "curated" leaders/celebrities. This was powerful.

  • @ReinventingEnergyAndLove
    @ReinventingEnergyAndLove 2 года назад +40

    "BE THE ELDERS THAT THEY NEED!"
    ✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
    This is the most profound quote in the last 40 years.
    Love you Karen Hunter ❤ 😘

  • @trugibbs2551
    @trugibbs2551 2 года назад +46

    This platform is addicting

  • @rodshaw8472
    @rodshaw8472 2 года назад +63

    This "curation" lesson is something else. Bread crumbs dropped everywhere! 👊🏿✊🏿

    • @danieldhardman5388
      @danieldhardman5388 2 года назад +7

      Breadcrumbs? I think Dr. Carr was feeding us whole morsels from his plate.

    • @Nisa1971
      @Nisa1971 2 года назад

      @@danieldhardman5388 indeed! ✊🏾

    • @tauheedahali1262
      @tauheedahali1262 2 года назад +1

      Yes!!! And not only breadcrumbs being offered as incentives to assimilate into the dominant social structure as part of the ongoing curation process, as the profs are asserting, they multiple n varying. They’re being purposely used to undergird the ‘status quo. We must continue to strive to reverse this historical trend by utilizing #The Governance Model as proffered by Profs. Hunter and Carr…🌼

  • @mrcoache86
    @mrcoache86 2 года назад +98

    A day without learning is a day wasted.

  • @rajajack1058
    @rajajack1058 2 года назад +22

    I love professor Hunter’s smile. Lights up my day.

  • @vphiameradisogaarwa
    @vphiameradisogaarwa 2 года назад +45

    Can someone say "this is more necessary than television"!
    A little rhyme for this class, inspired by your work.
    In Class with Carr hits like bricks to the pavement thrown by the hands of the wisest A-men; I said, you said, we said - Karen - Hunter the spear holder gathers our Ancestors.
    Thank you Doctors for the great inspiration and the time you spend putting this together each week.

  • @louise-yo7kz
    @louise-yo7kz 2 года назад +13

    "It's not really our responsibility, but now it is." ~Prof. K. Hunter. That is a word

  • @Nisa1971
    @Nisa1971 2 года назад +16

    Ancestors are working through you both!! Mind blowing how the fugitive slave act 9/18/1850, Atlanta cotton exchange speech 9/18/1895 and this essential discussion we watched in knubia 9/18/2021 all have the same anniversary date. Back here to support this algorithm! 🤩✊🏾🥰✊🏾🤗✊🏾😍

    • @DrMichaelWalker
      @DrMichaelWalker 2 года назад +3

      Yes! I'm here for that reason also. Do what you can, right where you are! The ancestors will multiply it! One person can sow the seeds to destroy oppression

  • @kristisundberg5052
    @kristisundberg5052 2 года назад +18

    I watch in awe and gratitude, feeling that this is one of the rare places left in the world where I can find the clean water, even knowing I don't deserve it, even knowing I'm likely poisoned beyond repair, because the colonization of the mind is difficult to escape. In the social (anti-social?) structure the 'truth' is a means of controlling others, rather than empowering others. I feel like an infant in my understanding of history and the way things 'work'. But if I know better, then I can do better. I want to learn and reduce human suffering. Thank you, Dr. Carr and Professor Hunter.

    • @zeepickens9049
      @zeepickens9049 2 года назад +4

      *@Krisi, as long as you are on THIS SIDE of the universe, you can actively learn. It is never too late, you have proven that by your presence and gratitude!* 💕✌🏽💕

    • @tauheedahali1262
      @tauheedahali1262 2 года назад +3

      You are demonstrating your capacity to recover from your PTCS#post traumatic colonilization syndrome! Your comments indicate that the heart of your soul is in correct rhythm with the reality of your experience. You, like all of Us, must ask ourselves “Are we ready to be well?” My guess is Yes! That’s why you’re here!#and so are we! Thanks you for caring and sharing!🌈🦋

  • @charleslouis1665
    @charleslouis1665 2 года назад +77

    G.S. Heron needs to be reintroduced to our culture. His comments about government and culture in the 70s and 80s is just as relevant today.

  • @bloved7615
    @bloved7615 2 года назад +7

    In class on time

  • @rodshaw8472
    @rodshaw8472 2 года назад +22

    Yes on that Love Craft theory. It became "quickly" uncontrollable. That map had 'em shook.🤔🤔🤔

  • @talibsalaam3880
    @talibsalaam3880 2 года назад +26

    Giving shout outs from Toronto. We're always watching, listening and learning. In klass with you and the Doc.

    • @nwananka
      @nwananka 2 года назад +2

      T.dot from day1

  • @DivaDawn9
    @DivaDawn9 2 года назад +16

    It is our responsibility to be the elders that they need❣ Well said, Karen! Hate I didn't catch this live. Sending ❤ & 🤗 to the Knarrative & Knubian fam.

  • @ursulabaptiste4241
    @ursulabaptiste4241 2 года назад +25

    "Taste is being curated" - We have to be mindful that we are not being led towards ignorance.

    • @tauheedahali1262
      @tauheedahali1262 2 года назад

      Check! What we’re witnessing is the manipulation of our subconscious (e.g. taste n preferences) subliminally!💕

  • @wwstarks1
    @wwstarks1 2 года назад +6

    Great show, a powerful lesson. Booker T. Washington is a complex conflicting figure. True, we must be mindful of time he lived. He did something we few individuals could do start a university. He had an impact many including Dr. Carver, Mrs. Bethune, Marcus Garvey etc. . We should not have chosen between Washington or DuBois, Martin or Malcolm , we should take their best qualities & use for our greater good. Thanks, Prof. Hunter & Dr. Carr for your good work.

  • @jeanninejohnson7957
    @jeanninejohnson7957 2 года назад +11

    I enjoy every conversation every Saturday

  • @CoachMikeD
    @CoachMikeD 2 года назад +17

    "Everybody knows everything and nobody is wrong, how does that end?" -Karen Hunter
    🎯

    • @mikec5641
      @mikec5641 2 года назад

      In bloodshed........

    • @tauheedahali1262
      @tauheedahali1262 2 года назад +1

      We’re discovering,”Thanks 2 Profs. Carr and Hunter and our other ‘viable ancestral scholars and their contemporaries”, the process of miseducation is being interrupted. Our ongoing participation in and auditing of this‘Cultural Correcting Educational Process’, is both mandatory and essential!

    • @michaelgarrett7941
      @michaelgarrett7941 2 года назад +1

      The people will find their own way.

  • @wunfoe
    @wunfoe 2 года назад +1

    Booker T. Washington's legacy of self-determination and sustainability should be at the center of the conversation. Even by today's standards, his works are unmatched. The Atlanta speech at the agricultural event was appropriate.
    Dr. Carr should have highlighted Washington's speech at Harvard in 1896, receiving an honorary award.

  • @deborasmith4668
    @deborasmith4668 2 года назад +27

    This is what "frees us." Love extra facts in Knarrative & Knubia.

  • @ellalynkhayeslcsw1914
    @ellalynkhayeslcsw1914 2 года назад +14

    Well Now preach, Dr. Carr. I can’t watch the news the same way any more. It really is just entertainment.

    • @tauheedahali1262
      @tauheedahali1262 2 года назад

      Yes. Understood. Largely dressed and laced with misinformation #WMD’s. We need to do as you’re suggesting #Pay Attention!🌸

    • @Grimloxz
      @Grimloxz 2 года назад

      Or tragedy…

  • @rodshaw8472
    @rodshaw8472 2 года назад +29

    She's teaching about the tabloid vs broadsheet. Hope y'all caught the ideology lesson...

  • @shanettedrayton7217
    @shanettedrayton7217 2 года назад +1

    Thank you very much Dr Greg Carr and Karen Hunter. Thank you again

  • @troydavis5018
    @troydavis5018 2 года назад +1

    Ms. Hunter thank you for your platform! You make a difference and I appreciate you and Dr. Carr.

  • @maryburrell3948
    @maryburrell3948 2 года назад +11

    Dr. Carr can sing, I am enjoying this.

  • @romaerb4161
    @romaerb4161 2 года назад +1

    I cannot thank you enough for the service of Truth your channel shares before the unblinking eye of the camera. Dr. Carr is one of the most important voices of the chorus of those who will shape our best leaders toward an elevated good that is intended to serve Truth, Good and Life! THANKS in advance for the shows, lectures and information to follow from a light sculptor in the Show Me state!!!!

  • @dytsras
    @dytsras 2 года назад +10

    We gon get Dr Carr to make a Knubia Records R&B album 😂

  • @troydavis5018
    @troydavis5018 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Dr. Carr! That is a very valid question especially for black's ( African Americans).

  • @rodshaw8472
    @rodshaw8472 2 года назад +8

    Dr Carr is right about the feel of the newspapers. Dumb it down mentality now...

  • @dawngregory6181
    @dawngregory6181 2 года назад +4

    This class is just as the air I breathe ! So needed in our lives of knowledge, the ancestors and the community! Thank you Professor Hunter and Dr Carr for being so transparent in helping us grow! Keep watering the seeds and we all shall grow. 🙌🏽❤️

  • @antoniohopson5287
    @antoniohopson5287 2 года назад +1

    Just Watched This Discussion Again..FANTASTIC 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @theresajolly1814
    @theresajolly1814 2 года назад +8

    Best day of the week!

  • @devonedwards4395
    @devonedwards4395 2 года назад +1

    Prof Hunter dropping BOMBS!!!!

  • @pearlyj.7493
    @pearlyj.7493 2 года назад +2

    Dr. Carr can sing!!!😃

  • @celesterichmond9929
    @celesterichmond9929 2 года назад +4

    I understand your program will be transitioning from You Tube to Knubia. You may have already given information on this and I missed it. My husband and I love this station. I love it so much I want to take a class at Howard. Dr. Carr my granddaughter who is nine now was so amazed at the number of books you have in the background. Professor Hunter we love you too. Been listening to you for some years on XM radio.

    • @KarenHunterShow
      @KarenHunterShow  2 года назад +5

      Thank you, Celeste. We have to be in spaces owned and controlled by us.

  • @lyndak3269
    @lyndak3269 2 года назад +6

    Great Afternoon Dr. Carr, Hunter and everyone.

  • @delberthudson
    @delberthudson 2 года назад +1

    Always on time 😉
    Prof Hunter and Dr Carr, are by far the best educators I've ever had the pleasure to listen to. Thanks for the lesson 🤠

    • @delberthudson
      @delberthudson 2 года назад

      Thanks 👍
      Always willing to listen and learn

  • @donnabohanon1570
    @donnabohanon1570 2 года назад +3

    Booker T Washington was a paradox indeed. Thanks for more insight on the man. I was aware of some but the bits Dr. Carr dropped are fascinating.

  • @abowlofsoul
    @abowlofsoul 2 года назад +8

    We are starring in a B movie. Good stuff Professor Carr!!

  • @lark623
    @lark623 2 года назад +5

    I love 💘 dr carr...great brain 🧠

    • @1984Nupe
      @1984Nupe 2 года назад

      Dr. Carr is brilliant!

  • @rodshaw8472
    @rodshaw8472 2 года назад +20

    Gil Scott Heron's "B Movie" says it all...
    "This ain't really your life, ain't nothing but a movie..."

  • @gregoryharris2207
    @gregoryharris2207 2 года назад +8

    "Once you're curated you can be decurated." - Dr. Carr
    synonym for 'decurated' = 'cancelled'
    "cancel culture" is a phenomenon existing within white institutions of media (from news to Hollywood), it requires one first having been dependent on said institutions from which they may be "cancelled."

    • @tauheedahali1262
      @tauheedahali1262 2 года назад

      Reformation is also possible. However, your comments are definitely respected and understood!# the curation modality has a set of built -in land mines, for instance, expendability,etc.

  • @dytsras
    @dytsras 2 года назад +6

    Wassup Knarrative and Knubia family.

  • @CoachMikeD
    @CoachMikeD 2 года назад +3

    "When the curate your leaders they attempt to maintain their hierarchy" -Dr Greg Carr
    Another 💎

  • @dkeowndk
    @dkeowndk 2 года назад +21

    That shirt is beautiful! Would live to have that!!

  • @dkeowndk
    @dkeowndk 2 года назад +4

    I love to Dr Carr sing!!

  • @grandmag8499
    @grandmag8499 2 года назад +1

    Bl, POW FBA CODED HOTEP BLACK MATTER FOREVER LIVES ETC. I love the updates and lessons young and old. Keep teaching us. MAAT

  • @charleslouis1665
    @charleslouis1665 2 года назад +8

    Curated...carefully chosen and thoughtfully organized or presented

    • @Nisa1971
      @Nisa1971 2 года назад

      💯! And there are those of us (pick me's) so desperate to be accepted we continue to allow it.

  • @davidtrotman1812
    @davidtrotman1812 2 года назад +1

    Love it love it love it .

  • @martinmoses1342
    @martinmoses1342 2 года назад +1

    Black library is in class today philly Karen and carr time to learn

  • @michaelcalhoun3036
    @michaelcalhoun3036 2 года назад +1

    UUUUUMMMMMMM!!!!!, PROFESSOR HUNTER, "I", thought i was the only (1), THAT called certain things & people WHOLE ASS. I STAND CORRECTED. "THANK YOU" for using it in the right "TEXT"!!! 😂😂😂 ✌

  • @nicandrews1370
    @nicandrews1370 2 года назад +24

    I was literally JUST searching to see if you were gonna upload today's lessons ❤🔥🙏🏽

    • @dkeowndk
      @dkeowndk 2 года назад +2

      I did too.

    • @gregscott877
      @gregscott877 2 года назад +3

      Riite! I guess they nt doin em on live anymore..? I was just wondering 2...

    • @nicandrews1370
      @nicandrews1370 2 года назад +3

      @@gregscott877 I think just maybe not this week. They do lives still, but I dont think its every single week.

    • @blackboards4us298
      @blackboards4us298 2 года назад +1

      @@AnandaAtHome same here. I thought since Hampton vs. Howard football 🏈 game played at noon with Kamala Harris doing the coin toss. In class with Carr might not be on.

    • @gregscott877
      @gregscott877 2 года назад +1

      @@nicandrews1370 rite on! Preciate ya hoping out!

  • @raineyj560
    @raineyj560 2 года назад +1

    Dr Carr really has a beautiful voice w the knowledge.....ok now

  • @tamilhoward9708
    @tamilhoward9708 2 года назад +2

    Y'all hit so many nails on the head. Karen was spot on beginning at 29:30 minutes. I was clapping my hands and shouting.

  • @cathylewis3967
    @cathylewis3967 2 года назад +4

    Man, this is good! Dang! My brain is exploding with all of this eye-opening truth. Thank you Dr. Carr and Karen Hunter!

  • @EricMajiedMajesticMusic
    @EricMajiedMajesticMusic 2 года назад +4

    Thank you Dr. Car thank you so much and Professor Hunter,!!!! The delivery of educational uplifting through humor and real feelings & SINGING reaches the deepest DEPTHS of our psyche🙏🏾🙏🏾😎👍🏾😵‍💫❣️

  • @thumbprint9
    @thumbprint9 2 года назад +1

    We can support, appreciate them and vote/support others. Acknowledge they are incapable of accomplishing what is necessary. When reelected, maintained in their positions, we end up bleeding. Thank you for this. Was speaking with a friend about this yesterday (for 4 hrs).

  • @tap_water872
    @tap_water872 2 года назад +2

    This is an all time GOAT episode.

  • @dytsras
    @dytsras 2 года назад +10

    i think we're still in a generation where we think that Black Capitalism will save us.

  • @dytsras
    @dytsras 2 года назад +5

    "in all things social, we can be as separate as the fingers...." "cast down your bucket where you are." I have such polarizing ways i feel about this. Cant wait for your deep dive lol

  • @lamontvernon757
    @lamontvernon757 2 года назад +1

    I love this show, please keep up the great work!

  • @yuriajones
    @yuriajones 2 года назад +3

    I absolutely love the reference to us living in a B-movie. That's exactly what it is. Like a cheap Matrix reboot.

  • @sirenadieudonne4957
    @sirenadieudonne4957 2 года назад +4

    Good morning my Knubia family. Excited to be in class today. Wresting with the treatment of our African brothers & sisters of the Haitian diaspora under a bridge in Texas awaiting their air transport off U.S. soil. Do we have a voice to interrupt the process?

  • @jesseharvey2362
    @jesseharvey2362 2 года назад +3

    Hello class, glad to be with you all!

  • @thelocc144
    @thelocc144 2 года назад +4

    Top of the morning from Cali 🙌🏽💙
    I’m giving you y’all flowers 💐 now 💯💪🏾💪🏾

  • @parlayticket7175
    @parlayticket7175 2 года назад +1

    The sad part is LOST people follow the celebrities, and it’s not just the young it’s the older people too! They are afraid of knowledge and wisdom. Me and my husband have turned so many people onto the show, and each and everyone has thanked us. You have to wake the sleep and make them think…Thanks again

  • @MrSolonolo
    @MrSolonolo 2 года назад +2

    Professors and Dr.,Hunter and Carr.... I am writing again from Warsaw,Poland.This is one of those times when all I can do is to express how thankful I am for your presence in this space. This experience is beyond edifying, and I am practically overwhelmed when considering how I can possibly express my gratitude. Once again, I interpret these lessons and discussions , somehow, as a call to action. At the same time, something in my spirit is telling me to "stand back and stand by....". Thank you.

  • @Sakiyna33
    @Sakiyna33 2 года назад +1

    Love Love love Knarrative and those head wraps you be sporting!

  • @moneycologne
    @moneycologne 2 года назад +1

    Great quality and excellence. Thx Dr. Carr and Karen Hunter. It's true my generation isn't asking for anything. We are being carved into quality, and we understand that some/many of us won't be able to handle this pandemic, great depression 2, and corporate monopolies. We will innovate and we will not be denied.

  • @lua1957
    @lua1957 2 года назад +1

    Another great show!

  • @vanessasanders5647
    @vanessasanders5647 2 года назад +4

    I am just in Awe, this knowledge is ......no words. Thank you so much.

  • @franklee318
    @franklee318 2 года назад +1

    Wow excellent!

  • @pamelawilliams5353
    @pamelawilliams5353 2 года назад +1

    I'm coming wit nickels and pennies
    History is Life and Freedom. Be Blessed You and Dr. Carr

  • @drvalpat1
    @drvalpat1 2 года назад

    We must ensure that they have the resources they need #thisgeneration!

  • @cherylthomas5857
    @cherylthomas5857 2 года назад +7

    all the Black journalists knew each other. We now only know the folk we have been curated to know.
    Damn. We don't know what we don't know.

    • @1984Nupe
      @1984Nupe 2 года назад

      You mean the black talking heads?

  • @p.w.7493
    @p.w.7493 2 года назад +1

    Prof. Hunter and Dr. Carr both started this session of "Class" on 🔥🔥🔥!!
    The knowledge you share put you on a different 'plane' and I'm just grateful to be taken on the 'journey' with you whenever I'm in "Class"!!
    Btw, thanks for remembering Gill Scott Heron, Dr. Carr! That ancestor was a GENIUS!!💯

  • @ellalynkhayeslcsw1914
    @ellalynkhayeslcsw1914 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for taking a stand for truth based on science and critical thinking. “When you know more you should do better”

  • @pele914
    @pele914 2 года назад +1

    That 1hr 45 mark😂...that was sooo on point🖤😂

  • @jacquelinesanders6574
    @jacquelinesanders6574 2 года назад +2

    Listening to Dr. Carr is like listening to Dr. Rev. Jeremiah Wright when he sings the different measures of music...

  • @NR-ly5ly
    @NR-ly5ly 2 года назад +4

    Hey Fam. Greetings from CT!!

  • @ifeford6646
    @ifeford6646 2 года назад +1

    Great discussion!

  • @beverlygeorge4510
    @beverlygeorge4510 2 года назад +1

    Dr. Carr was name dropping today! Utrice Leid had an amazing show on WBAI. Her brother Ury Leid was my boss and mentor 30 years ago. Thank you so much for what you do.

  • @paschajefferson5699
    @paschajefferson5699 2 года назад +2

    Truth never changes but facts and information does change.

  • @tashaunalindsley
    @tashaunalindsley 2 года назад +1

    I thoroughly enjoy watching Karen Hunter and Greg Carr talking to each other and doing their back and fourth . I love Karen Hunter's mind and input so much through out these conversations. Blessings🙏🏼

  • @adventuresforthesoul6472
    @adventuresforthesoul6472 2 года назад +2

    I definitely come for the knowledge however, Dr. Carr's singing is a definite bonus 🎼🎤

  • @josedavid6203
    @josedavid6203 2 года назад +1

    From Alameda, CA. We just finished viewing episode 80, Professor Karen Hunter and Dr Greg Carr. We are headed to Marcus Book store in Oakland, CA The only African American Black own book store in Northern California We love the educational teaching. Dr Carr's backdrop is beautiful, his collection of books. We are going to continue investing in books for our adult daughters, teenage grandchildren and great granddaughter who we welcome next month. Less TV and more reading of books. Professor Karen Hunter and Dr Greg Carr your mentoring is contagious and leaves me wanting more knowledge and the opportunity to understand the truth. WOW!!! Thank you

  • @gemsamaa
    @gemsamaa 2 года назад

    Besides the bounty of knowledge shared with us every weekend Dr. Carr sometimes mentions people, places, and organizations that I have come across in my life. Three words he spoke in this video brought back memories of a beloved community member I had the privilege of knowing for some years. The words were "what happens is"; these words were spoken constantly by Shekhem Tut Ner Amuf aka William Davis one of the former directors of the Pan African Studies Community Education Program at Temple University back in the 70s and 80s.

  • @mikec5641
    @mikec5641 2 года назад +1

    I love you guys!

  • @barbaraebron2482
    @barbaraebron2482 2 года назад +2

    Beautiful. Yes! Good morning Family. Coming in a little late. Tried to check into Knnarative but didn't make. So I came back to UTube. 🦁

  • @philiptemidara9456
    @philiptemidara9456 2 года назад +1

    KNubia!!!

  • @AyanDaceStudios
    @AyanDaceStudios 2 года назад +14

    My Life in Search of Africa by John Henrik Clarke is everything.

  • @doityourselfqueen
    @doityourselfqueen 2 года назад +2

    Wow! Wow! Wow! Teach Drs. I appreciate y'all so much.

  • @ernestinehenning273
    @ernestinehenning273 2 года назад +1

    Karen,, I am totally with you. I don’t want them singing our song..

  • @antoniohopson5287
    @antoniohopson5287 2 года назад +2

    Karen.. I Heard That Uh Oh👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank You For The Education As Always 🙏🏾

  • @dytsras
    @dytsras 2 года назад +14

    Ut oh.....lemme get ready to curate my book list from today's lesson. How many books will i buy today 😅

    • @1984Nupe
      @1984Nupe 2 года назад +1

      I’m up to 32 books since this platform started.😆✌🏽

  • @thestimulus
    @thestimulus 2 года назад +2

    I’m displaced from multiple natural & manmade disasters / and yet I have a home and family in Knubia & Knarrative! Thank You! ❤️🖤💚

  • @cavhaynes
    @cavhaynes 2 года назад +1

    Dr. Carr, I’d have to lose all the brain cells in my head before I stop listening to you