I remember when I got engaged to my husband,after only 2.5 weeks of dating, how my college friends asked me if I loved him. My answer was of course I don’t love him because there is no history together but I knew I could and would love him. One year later having had a full cycle of shared experiences I could feel it starting to blossom and at the three year mark I was sure we were on love. 26 years in I realize I was only touching the tip of what love really means. Having grown together and built so much together - we share a love that is so deep and meaningful and I now know will only get stronger. To clarify one thing- I was definitely attracted to my husband when we dated and definitely loved being with him and felt that “ zing” whenever we were together. But that is infatuation. Not love. It was exciting. And fun. But what I have now is deep and secure.
The definition of true love: …Love is patient and is kind. Love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails… I Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is always appropriate any and everywhere. Even the Messiah, the *SON* of the living G-D, showed love to those crucifying him as he hung on a tree. 🩸 What may I ask, would cause you to think that love isn’t appropriate?
@@ONEFAITHofJESUS “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.” what comes after this is your changed Bible, he was addressing himself only to jews. He helped the Caananite woman only after she said this: '“Lord, help me!” Jesus answered, “It is not right to take the children's bread and give it to the dogs.” The woman said, “Yes, Lord, but even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters' table.” Then Jesus answered, “Woman, you have great faith!' The childrens bread: means himself , his body for his people, the ''bread'', and according to him the Cannaanite woman was a dog, a foreign to what he was sent for to help....he never said he is God, I and the father am one means i am part of the one who created me, same as u are part of God and anyhuman and living creature and everything that exists inb this Universe, jews and christians i see that they understood things differently, and the ones who modified Bible substracting and adding to it, did a very very wrong thing.
See *SON* of G-d in bold print in my comment above. Matthew 16:16, Peter's confession is the Rock 🪨 of the TRUE identity of the Lord's Christ. There may have been some alterations in the New Testament but definitely more than enough truth and accuracy to be saved. The few who are true Christians have also been born of the Spirit and have the promise of being guided into ALL truth. Paul(Saul of Tarsus), who was personally converted by JESUS the CHRIST and became Apostle to the Gentiles who said: “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.” Romans 1:16
Even when you get married for love, love still grows over time. I love my husband more today than when I married him 35 years ago. As I have watched him develop as a husband and father and grow as a Christian I love all the different aspects of his character. I thand G-d for him.
My husband and l been married 44 years, 2 children 6 gr children. Have we always been happy? No! But we endure we forgive each other, and hang in there. For us, there is no others. We know each other's weakness have compassion, on each other. We need each other. Until death do us part.❤😢😅😊
People who married without love and didn't fall in love as they had expected will never advise someone to do the same. Only the ones who have fallen in love will. It is hard to live without love, passion, romance... whatever you call it.
If you’re born into the culture, it usually works. Sometimes it even works for non-Jews. My parents were introduced by a Jewish woman, a Holocaust Survivor and neighbor to my father. When he took too long to pop the question, she gave my father a necessary kick in the tuchis. They were married 68 years and passed one day apart. Seven of nine children are still living, 29 grandchildren, 14 great grandchildren, three great, great grandchildren and one more since their passing.
Some people simply are not marriage material due possibly to mental illness, drinking/drugging and/or narcissism. A couple of people in this podcast impressed me that way. It’s better to stay single than to ruin other people’s lives.
I 'm sorry, but l lived, 44 years with a narssis, lt can be done. The years pass fast, 2kids and6 gr kids. You have to want to make it , work, pray a lot, wait love, does come. Divorce, is selfish, it hurts every body, even you. God meant 1 man, 1woman married.! I believe God puts people, together. Esp.jews.although, l didn" find out l was Jewish until much later, my Jewish grandmother's, assimilated, married gentiles my husband being Jewish, l didn't know.. his family, was catholic.l met him, in a pentecostal church. I was raised, pentecostal, yet, we were .married, there, in 44years ago. That long, we might as well end, together!!!!!❤😂😅😊❤
Omg!!! I love the couple- Michael, his exuberant wife and their baby girl is darling!!! They laugh so much together and their daughter smiles all the time!! They are so happy together and they are just plain charming!!!! I would want what they have!!
Attraction is VERY important because it is nature's way of assessing our partner's genetic suitability for us so a marraige without physical attraction, at least at the beginning, is quite wrong. However a marriage based ONLY on attraction is ridiculous because human beings are so much more sophisticated than just animals and those complexities need to be matched as closely as possible. So the elders and parentswith their wealth of character experience introduce the prospective matches and FROM that group, the couple then make their selection for marriage where God of course guides their choice. This to me is the best course of action.
My mother used to tell me that love wasn’t all that important. She said that affection, respect and compatibility were important and love comes later. She told me that she didn’t love my father when they got married but that she grew to love him over time. They were happily married for 47 years until she passed away in 1997. I come from a Jewish family but my parents were pretty much non observant. However my mother seemed to have embraced this part of Judaism. My dad passed away in 2012 and told us before he died that my mom was waiting for him.
Sometimes that happens, in my honest opinion that really is how good marriages survives. People often confused lust with love and then they get over it so fast and I am thinking did you really love that person? Love is built on mutual understanding, care and respect. It is certainly not always about love at first sight that just doesn't really happen to majority of people. We are fed those romantic fairytales and then people want that. We need to take a hard look at ourselves and say is where am I in life that I need a partner. I am not really a person so fixated on marriage but I feel that building that relationship through time may show up and built on respect, mutual trust and then love but that requires time.
I was totally amazed when the matchmaker for the hip hop guy saw him as he really is-a totally self absorbed 16 year old in a 34 year old body! I feel bad for any woman he gets hooked up with she'll be raising a baby alongside any children she has!
This is the real problem for him. He's not marriage material, stuck in his adolescents forever. I don't think he's a bad person, just immature. He needs a mother forever.
I watched a video of a divorced lady who said her family paid her expenses and gave them a house so she would marry the guy. He never really worked because he was a scholar. He ibly studied the scriptures. Her family was happy for her, but she was miserable. It didn't work for her. But I can see it might for others. The happy lady in this video has a happy personality. Is annoying because many of us are not like her. She is who she is. I am happy for her. It is inspiring, but not for all.
Miriam Leah and I were roommates years ago. She has not changed. ML: What about what you want!!!! And no you don’t need to follow that. You need to do what feels right for you!!! Girl listen to yourself!
Even we who make our own decisions mess up all the time. They are doing for religious beliefs, and that is the most important thing. I am sure many will abuse the situation like everything else in this world.
I met my 32 year old divorced husband when I was 26! We had our first child when I was 32. We married when I was 40. I’m now 54, we’ve had our ups and downs, but EOTD, there’s so much love in our family home. Do I love my husband, absolutely. God bless 🥰
This rappers mother spoiled him so much he is completely obsessed with himself. There is no room for anyone else. Who would marry a kid like this with such a mother?
Geeting married without being in love are not rare at all across all cultures. I can't confirm to know anyone who has subsequently fallen in love, but I do know people who haven't and it is not easy to settle with the fact that there is not romance in your life. I think I would always feel unfullfilled if I was to settle for a loveless marriage. It takes two people for love and romance. I can not understand hiw Michael can just laugh like that when his wife is obviously frustrated with not getting what she was even ashamed to admit to have wanted.
I think Miriam wants someone who looks manly, not just a good father for her kids and supporting husband. He loves her though. Sadly that it doesn't evolve into romantic love for everyone. It is misleading that this matchmaker tries to convince people that love is inevitable later.
@nerminacamovic1600 I bet money most of them will not love their partners after 10 years. But them is too late and 8 or 9 kids are involved. I read the Bible, and it is like that. Jacob loves Rachel, not Liah. I can't remember others, but it was like that.
Marriage is something you build together, day by day, year after year, experiences shared, memories made and bonded together by trust, love, forgiveness and a whole lot of laughter! My husband and I are celebrating our 40th this year. I can say most definitely it’s been the sweetest, happiest adventurous, slap-happy, toe-tapping, joyously journey for me, my only regret is that we didn’t meet sooner in life.
I love this couple!!! They are so happy in their simple desire to do God’s Will. How beautiful is that?! My husband and I are devout traditional Catholics. We believe in a lot of what these beautiful people believe too. We are always open to God’s Will. It brings complete peace and happiness on earth. We have been married 32 years and we are best friends. Thanks be to God!
That dude made a list of his mommie! Yikes, he's a big kid on the endless teet of his mom. 100% his parents buy his studio time. See the tenacious D song that references "sometimes you follow your heart .... Some times your heart cuts a fart..."
I agree with Miriam, God doesn't intend us to marry just to marry, he intend us to be in loving, supportive marriages. That is a common human need. I also agree that some individuals in very conservative and/or strict families or communities (this can happen in any family/community) may feel they are forced into early marriage by loved ones. This can be very difficult for ans stressful for them. Scriptures should be taken in context of the individuals' timing, resources, and mental capacitu. Also, the focus on having children can be difficult for couples who experience infertility or may not be financially ready.
i agree that marriages should be supportive and loving but you can't hold your spouse hostage and terrorize them with feeling inadequate because you're neurotic like this woman. sometimes its just going to be bland.
In their beliefs, they must have babies. How they will feed them is not up to them. The families will help each other. That's what I heard, even a woman's family supporting them because the man is a scholar and won't make money. This is not for us, but them. If they don't abuse themselves, that's what matter.
When I saw my husband for the first time at my baptism, the words that came out of my mouth were “That’s the man I want to marry.” And he said the Lord told him, “She’s the one.” So glad we had love at first sight because marriage came quickly a year later.
There should be a very strong like, fondness, affection, compatibility, otherwise love may never come or turn into dislike, anger, disappointnebt and feeling trapped. You've got to have some love! Love really exists!
Don't put it all on her. His parents seems like nice, normal, well adjusted people. He just does not possess the qualities of a man that are suitable for a partnership. You can't be a partner if you're in love with yourself. He's an XY male, but something is missing i his genetic makeup. No one's fault.
Yonatan is in love with himself. There's no room for anyone else. He's a little boy in a 33 yr old body. He never grew up, and frankly, at his age, it's not likely that he ever will. It's no one's fault. He seems to have good parents, with a good man as his father. He has made his choice. His identity is inextricably involved with his so-called "music." That's his identity. So he is destined to live as a eunuch--married to himself and his "music." There's nothing wrong with that. There have always been people in families and society who function as loners, adjunct family members rather than husbands or wives. He has nothing to offer a woman--it's just not in him. These people are still valuable members of families. It's a heartbreak for his mother, but she needs to face reality.
She was speaking passionately while talking to the rabbi. I didn’t take it as anger. I think she’s not feeling fulfilled in her marriage. She wants to feel but is lacking, being in love and is missing/wanting romantic feelings towards her husband.
She was bright red! You could see one of the guys she dated was very handsome but blurred out! She was not in love with this man, they were just friends really! So unfortunate
@@dorothysmith3850it is clear how she manifested her feelings. Because she is a happy woman, that doesn't mean she has what she wanted from this marriage. It is her personality to be happy lucky going. So, if it was another woman, that's disturbing, because you must to suppress and move on. But this is life, we do it all the time. None of us have a perfect life. She will be fine.
Miriam wants romance, passion. Awe, arousement as she said when talking about romance - 34:35. She expects this romance, sense of aliveness, after the period of friendship/compatibility in marriage - 15:10. I feel she will be disappointed and will have to drop romance for non romantic love.
My husband made me laugh, 34 years later, he still does. But it took us 11 years to marry. I was married before and did not want to risk what we had. It's been laughs, haaaard work, trials and tribulations, even before marriage and a love that has grown so much as we have got older. A good martiage is worth working for. That does not mean staying in a marriage with no love and respect.
I sense Miriam has realized that their marriage is not all the way where she hopes it would be at the time of her spoken concerns, and there is this deep fear that that missing piece she never had the experience of will give her regret at the end of her life.
I wanted my son to find someone, I really did, and he came close a number of times. He had good employment and could have made a home but he had issues. He had addictions and anxiety and I didn't doubt that marriage would be really a disaster unless he could get a handle on things. He's still single and I expect he'll stay single and that will have to be ok. He doesn't have a lot of patience and he might not make a good parent.
I don’t understand why Miriam is so angry in that one scene when talking to the matchmaker. I thought she liked (even loved?) her husband and was happy with her marriage. Maybe not??
Oh dear, she is not happy, but that is not the reason they stay together. She is enjoying her life, but probably there is some resentment there. And I guess that is normal, even us who are free to date many people and choose.
It doesn’t really seem like Miriam wanted to be married, she just wanted to be wanted and sought after. She said she was in many relationships before her marriage and there she found love, but if she found love then why didn’t it lead to marriage? She seems bitter and angry that God gave her what she needed in her life rather than what she wanted for her own pleasure. The way she describes Michael is supportive, kind, lovable, understanding, encouraging, all these things women seek in a spouse, yet she’s not satisfied? Confusing.
She is definitely a type A personality! She’s YELLING at the Rabbi, I wouldn’t yell at my Pastor, I would DEFINITELY disagree but I would do it RESPECTFULLY.🤷🏻♀️
Sorry, but the little short rapper boy is 34 going on 15 in the maturity arena! Plus he wants a Kim K lookalike……sorry, has he taken a look in his own mirror? Someone needs to come down to reality!!! He ain’t no looker. Let’s be honest here! Plus he basically brings nothing to the table marriage wise. I think he has the right idea though. Yes, please stick to your music and step aside for a real man to be introduced to the woman. Just my opinion 🤷♀️
The interview at 35:00 is missing the word “connected.” The woman is attempting to express that she senses a lack of intimate bonding. This lack is due to the husband’s emotional inadequacy. The “Rabbi” is validating the husband’s dysfunction by insisting that the wife is wrong to be discontent. How will marital peace be nurtured if her accurate estimation of lack is disregarded? I’ve been where she is and the lack induced loneliness which drove me from my family, children and friends who remain influenced by a fundamentally religious cult. A person can leave a cult but the cult will NEVER leave an ex-member. Haunting, isn’t it!
this woman is neurotic. i agree that its okay to feel connection but you're not always going to feel connected. taste and moods change. you can't hold your spouse hostage by demanding that they feel the same way or always meet your desire to change with them
My rock of a husband does not always connect with me. I went to school in the marriage. Became a nurse and I have lots of hobbies. Love my husband more now that the kiddos have moved out lol. We are constantly evolving.
Yonathan discribed his relationship to G-d, and shared that he looks for that experience with his future partner. Why would a partner would need to be like that if i found it already with G-d? My perspective is, having found this with G-d enables me/us to do service together with our partner. Thank you, everyone who allowed us to look into their personal lives, to reflect who we ourselves are. 🙏
What is the purpose of marriage? It is a business contract. I am an atheist married woman who is happy in life but believe you do not need to marry. There is no reason for it. If you want to be with someone, be with someone. What’s the point of marriage? It’s true reason for being?
I'm not religious to And I fully appreciate that marriage is a contract. I mean I was married at the Town Hall according to the Italian Republic civic laws by a civil servant. It was quite a long cerimony, many laws were mentioned, a contract legally binding was formalized and the word God was never mentioned. Where is the problem?
How I wish. I wish I was raised in an Orthodox Jewish Family. I believe too, this attention to “Love” is more an animalistic sensation that yes, it’s lust, but more a genetic factor in humans. But it’s definitely not a good criterion for a lifelong marriage. We’re married now 51 going on 52 years (Thank God) & this “Love” Factor was never in my mind. What WAS, was the knowledge that I admired him & trusted him. So maybe we were just lucky…luck had zilch to do with it. This world and all the people in it, would be so divine & so much happier if the Jewish traditions around marriage were the norm…. Definitely NOT “Love”!
Michael is certainly the glue… I think you should just be absolutely grateful to have such a patient and understanding husband. Dear lady, you need only look around at the toxic marriages around you and realise what an absolute gem of a husband you really have. In fact God answered your prayers FAAAR above what you really wanted. He gave you a genuine, husband. Yonatan,,, oh myyy you are in for a hard marraigen if you do not adjust your mindset. You will be divorced faster than you got married. In all honesty Torah teaches to separate yourself from the pagans,, be careful your lifestyle of music is directly involved with pagan living… turn back to Torah and let your music be a hobby. Find a work that supports Torah and family,, because when you are 50+ you will realize your errors chasing the music industry above total commitment to Torah and family.. I'm not Jewish but I love Torah instructions.. Great instructions for family and community living..
Life is all about loving the Lord,with all your heart,mind,soul,and strength,doing his will for your life,sharing your life with a partner in Marriage,in the Lord,if you desire , delighting in the Lord,he gives us the desire of our heart🪅🫶🪅💞💞💞💕 hear oh Israel the LORD is one Amen, 🌿🌷🫶🪅 great video, prayers for deliverance for the man ,and his so called music 🌿😢 Amen Israel 🌿🪅🌿🇮🇱🇮🇱 blessings ! Love the true brethren / sister's Amen , God's Kingdom Reigns Forevermore,evil is coming down under our feet Amen 🌿😇🌿💞🫶🪅🌿
Marrying for "love" is a dicey matter. We get old, we get fat (most of us), we get aches and pains. Loves waxes cold. Better to have a lot of similarities and complimentary traits. You should at least LIKE the person very much and agree to give 100% (not 50% each). :)
i think i really like the handkerchief women wear on their head, my mother used to wear one some times when we went places especially to the park or something to protect herself from the heat!
God can change people, God can change anyone, the Bible tells us that what is impossible with man,is possible with God, God still has a lot of work to do in me but He has very undeservingly done a lot in me already, we cannot change our selves, the Bible tells us that without God we can do nothing,we all need God in everything and for everything! praise the name of God forever in Jesus name!
The musicians music really isn't that good. He acts similar to those immature narcissist women who have aist of 140 needs in their mate. He talks and acts like a modern woman. Isn't he supposed to be a provider, protector, the guide for the family yo a closer relationship with God?
The fact that our grand parents were married for 40-50 years does not mean anything to me. C😂circumstances were different. Woman could not survive in their own and couples stayed together even if their relationship sucked since divorce Wes condemned by their environment, and would effect their children’s options for Shiduch…. Also the idea that a person in general, and women in particular have every right to pursue their fulfilment - didn’t down yet, it’s a modern concept of “self” and thus people stayed together sometimes miserably hanging on , for lack of supportive information and since they believed they were doomed to do so “till death make us past”…. Luckily we know better today and we have more choice - which also means more responsibility……….i
It is strange to watch this after the forced marriage video. Almost all states have exceptions to age limits where a victim can be forced to marry her rapist, or who the parents arranged for the daughter.
That poor guy with the loud mouth wife. When she finds humility and respects her husband she might find what she is looking for. Dang. Baptist lady here. Did not love my husband as I do now 20 years ago. Much better 😮
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I remember when I got engaged to my husband,after only 2.5 weeks of dating, how my college friends asked me if I loved him. My answer was of course I don’t love him because there is no history together but I knew I could and would love him. One year later having had a full cycle of shared experiences I could feel it starting to blossom and at the three year mark I was sure we were on love. 26 years in I realize I was only touching the tip of what love really means. Having grown together and built so much together - we share a love that is so deep and meaningful and I now know will only get stronger. To clarify one thing- I was definitely attracted to my husband when we dated and definitely loved being with him and felt that “ zing” whenever we were together. But that is infatuation. Not love. It was exciting. And fun. But what I have now is deep and secure.
Thats lovely.
Beautiful
The definition of true love:
…Love is patient and is kind. Love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
Love never fails…
I Corinthians 13:4-8
Not appropriate for here.
Love is always appropriate any and everywhere.
Even the Messiah, the *SON* of the living G-D, showed love to those crucifying him as he hung on a tree. 🩸
What may I ask, would cause you to think that love isn’t appropriate?
What if one of the spouses is (or becomes) abusive to the other one?
@@ONEFAITHofJESUS “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.” what comes after this is your changed Bible, he was addressing himself only to jews. He helped the Caananite woman only after she said this: '“Lord, help me!” Jesus answered, “It is not right to take the children's bread and give it to the dogs.” The woman said, “Yes, Lord, but even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters' table.” Then Jesus answered, “Woman, you have great faith!' The childrens bread: means himself , his body for his people, the ''bread'', and according to him the Cannaanite woman was a dog, a foreign to what he was sent for to help....he never said he is God, I and the father am one means i am part of the one who created me, same as u are part of God and anyhuman and living creature and everything that exists inb this Universe, jews and christians i see that they understood things differently, and the ones who modified Bible substracting and adding to it, did a very very wrong thing.
See *SON* of G-d in bold print in my comment above. Matthew 16:16, Peter's confession is the Rock 🪨 of the TRUE identity of the Lord's Christ.
There may have been some alterations in the New Testament but definitely more than enough truth and accuracy to be saved.
The few who are true Christians have also been born of the Spirit and have the promise of being guided into ALL truth.
Paul(Saul of Tarsus), who was personally converted by JESUS the CHRIST and became Apostle to the Gentiles who said:
“For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.” Romans 1:16
Even when you get married for love, love still grows over time. I love my husband more today than when I married him 35 years ago. As I have watched him develop as a husband and father and grow as a Christian I love all the different aspects of his character. I thand G-d for him.
Or decreases, that's why some people divorce.
All glory be to the most high God in heaven!
My husband and l been married 44 years, 2 children 6 gr children. Have we always been happy? No! But we endure we forgive each other, and hang in there. For us, there is no others. We know each other's weakness have compassion, on each other. We need each other. Until death do us part.❤😢😅😊
People who married without love and didn't fall in love as they had expected will never advise someone to do the same. Only the ones who have fallen in love will. It is hard to live without love, passion, romance... whatever you call it.
If you’re born into the culture, it usually works. Sometimes it even works for non-Jews. My parents were introduced by a Jewish woman, a Holocaust Survivor and neighbor to my father. When he took too long to pop the question, she gave my father a necessary kick in the tuchis. They were married 68 years and passed one day apart. Seven of nine children are still living, 29 grandchildren, 14 great grandchildren, three great, great grandchildren and one more since their passing.
Some people simply are not marriage material due possibly to mental illness, drinking/drugging and/or narcissism. A couple of people in this podcast impressed me that way. It’s better to stay single than to ruin other people’s lives.
I agree❤
Get to know yourself, appreciate/love yourself first.
Then you can truly care & love someone else🕯🌟
Very true
I think you mean most people.
I 'm sorry, but l lived, 44 years with a narssis, lt can be done. The years pass fast, 2kids and6 gr kids. You have to want to make it , work, pray a lot, wait love, does come. Divorce, is selfish, it hurts every body, even you. God meant 1 man, 1woman married.! I believe God puts people, together. Esp.jews.although, l didn" find out l was Jewish until much later, my Jewish grandmother's, assimilated, married gentiles my husband being Jewish, l didn't know.. his family, was catholic.l met him, in a pentecostal church. I was raised, pentecostal, yet, we were .married, there, in 44years ago. That long, we might as well end, together!!!!!❤😂😅😊❤
It's God's choice, but he gave us a choice, too. He does not override, our will. He makes the opportunity, but leaves it open, for us.❤😅
Omg!!! I love the couple- Michael, his exuberant wife and their baby girl is darling!!! They laugh so much together and their daughter smiles all the time!! They are so happy together and they are just plain charming!!!! I would want what they have!!
That woman annoyed the F outta me.
Attraction is VERY important because it is nature's way of assessing our partner's genetic suitability for us so a marraige without physical attraction, at least at the beginning, is quite wrong. However a marriage based ONLY on attraction is ridiculous because human beings are so much more sophisticated than just animals and those complexities need to be matched as closely as possible. So the elders and parentswith their wealth of character experience introduce the prospective matches and FROM that group, the couple then make their selection for marriage where God of course guides their choice. This to me is the best course of action.
My mother used to tell me that love wasn’t all that important. She said that affection, respect and compatibility were important and love comes later. She told me that she didn’t love my father when they got married but that she grew to love him over time. They were happily married for 47 years until she passed away in 1997. I come from a Jewish family but my parents were pretty much non observant. However my mother seemed to have embraced this part of Judaism. My dad passed away in 2012 and told us before he died that my mom was waiting for him.
Sometimes that happens, in my honest opinion that really is how good marriages survives. People often confused lust with love and then they get over it so fast and I am thinking did you really love that person? Love is built on mutual understanding, care and respect. It is certainly not always about love at first sight that just doesn't really happen to majority of people. We are fed those romantic fairytales and then people want that. We need to take a hard look at ourselves and say is where am I in life that I need a partner. I am not really a person so fixated on marriage but I feel that building that relationship through time may show up and built on respect, mutual trust and then love but that requires time.
I was totally amazed when the matchmaker for the hip hop guy saw him as he really is-a totally self absorbed 16 year old in a 34 year old body! I feel bad for any woman he gets hooked up with she'll be raising a baby alongside any children she has!
This is the real problem for him. He's not marriage material, stuck in his adolescents forever. I don't think he's a bad person, just immature. He needs a mother forever.
I watched a video of a divorced lady who said her family paid her expenses and gave them a house so she would marry the guy. He never really worked because he was a scholar. He ibly studied the scriptures. Her family was happy for her, but she was miserable. It didn't work for her. But I can see it might for others. The happy lady in this video has a happy personality. Is annoying because many of us are not like her. She is who she is. I am happy for her. It is inspiring, but not for all.
The rabbi is fantastic and so down to earth in this documentary
Miriam is a realist and I am here for it. ❤
The rebbe and the husband are so pleased to disrespect another adult. "And that's wht I'm gonna say because that's what I believe. "
Beautifully crafted documentary on a world most people would pre-judge but one in fact with rock solid foundations.
Miriam Leah and I were roommates years ago. She has not changed.
ML: What about what you want!!!! And no you don’t need to follow that. You need to do what feels right for you!!! Girl listen to yourself!
Even we who make our own decisions mess up all the time. They are doing for religious beliefs, and that is the most important thing. I am sure many will abuse the situation like everything else in this world.
I met my 32 year old divorced husband when I was 26! We had our first child when I was 32. We married when I was 40. I’m now 54, we’ve had our ups and downs, but EOTD, there’s so much love in our family home. Do I love my husband, absolutely. God bless 🥰
This rappers mother spoiled him so much he is completely obsessed with himself. There is no room for anyone else. Who would marry a kid like this with such a mother?
She seems very overbearing!
Totally agree
When she said he was 34 my jaw dropped. He looks and acts like barely 20.
Right. Michael is absolutely the glue....complimenting your baked potato success.
Encourage him as well.
I need an aspirin after that.
Geeting married without being in love are not rare at all across all cultures. I can't confirm to know anyone who has subsequently fallen in love, but I do know people who haven't and it is not easy to settle with the fact that there is not romance in your life. I think I would always feel unfullfilled if I was to settle for a loveless marriage. It takes two people for love and romance. I can not understand hiw Michael can just laugh like that when his wife is obviously frustrated with not getting what she was even ashamed to admit to have wanted.
You have no idea what love is. And neither does that horribly annoying woman. THAT'S why she's frustrated.
I could not be with someone I did not love let alone go to bed with them.
Those long beards many ultra-orthodox Jews have would be a turn off for me!
@autumn111155551 as a muslim i don't like long beards either. My husband respects my wish in that regard.
I think Miriam wants someone who looks manly, not just a good father for her kids and supporting husband. He loves her though. Sadly that it doesn't evolve into romantic love for everyone. It is misleading that this matchmaker tries to convince people that love is inevitable later.
@@autumn111155551 yeah that is definitely a no for me, not a big fan of those beards
@nerminacamovic1600 I bet money most of them will not love their partners after 10 years. But them is too late and 8 or 9 kids are involved. I read the Bible, and it is like that. Jacob loves Rachel, not Liah. I can't remember others, but it was like that.
Marriage is something you build together, day by day, year after year, experiences shared, memories made and bonded together by trust, love, forgiveness and a whole lot of laughter! My husband and I are celebrating our 40th this year. I can say most definitely it’s been the sweetest, happiest adventurous, slap-happy, toe-tapping, joyously journey for me, my only regret is that we didn’t meet sooner in life.
I love this couple!!! They are so happy in their simple desire to do God’s Will. How beautiful is that?! My husband and I are devout traditional Catholics. We believe in a lot of what these beautiful people believe too. We are always open to God’s Will. It brings complete peace and happiness on earth. We have been married 32 years and we are best friends. Thanks be to God!
Montreal here Love is patient and kind
Love is not romance, it is far greater than that. Better said, love is the greatest of all.
That dude made a list of his mommie! Yikes, he's a big kid on the endless teet of his mom.
100% his parents buy his studio time.
See the tenacious D song that references "sometimes you follow your heart .... Some times your heart cuts a fart..."
We saw a expose on two narcissist. One who terrorizes her husband with feeling inadequate
Caveat: You *do* have to have a spark there. See emotions and infatuation are not love. Love is only real when its tested and proven over time.
I agree with Miriam, God doesn't intend us to marry just to marry, he intend us to be in loving, supportive marriages. That is a common human need. I also agree that some individuals in very conservative and/or strict families or communities (this can happen in any family/community) may feel they are forced into early marriage by loved ones. This can be very difficult for ans stressful for them. Scriptures should be taken in context of the individuals' timing, resources, and mental capacitu. Also, the focus on having children can be difficult for couples who experience infertility or may not be financially ready.
i agree that marriages should be supportive and loving but you can't hold your spouse hostage and terrorize them with feeling inadequate because you're neurotic like this woman. sometimes its just going to be bland.
In their beliefs, they must have babies. How they will feed them is not up to them. The families will help each other. That's what I heard, even a woman's family supporting them because the man is a scholar and won't make money. This is not for us, but them. If they don't abuse themselves, that's what matter.
Religion should be a guide and should in no way be the be end, end all.
To that woman :
OH GOOD GRIEF !
And does the man talk ?
Such a thought provoking video! It makes you stop and think! Yes stop and think! Very powerful when you give it time to sink in!
When I saw my husband for the first time at my baptism, the words that came out of my mouth were “That’s the man I want to marry.” And he said the Lord told him, “She’s the one.” So glad we had love at first sight because marriage came quickly a year later.
There should be a very strong like, fondness, affection, compatibility, otherwise love may never come or turn into dislike, anger, disappointnebt and feeling trapped. You've got to have some love! Love really exists!
met at 16 married at 19 and still together 48 years later!!!!
Poor Yonatan..clearly it doesn't matter what he wants in love, life, a partner. It's all about Mom.
Lot of pressure from his mum
Negative impact can last for long time
Came here to say just this.
Don't put it all on her. His parents seems like nice, normal, well adjusted people. He just does not possess the qualities of a man that are suitable for a partnership. You can't be a partner if you're in love with yourself. He's an XY male, but something is missing i his genetic makeup. No one's fault.
Is the patriarchy challenging and challenged because of that?
No offense but he is VERY immature... he shouldn't be married right now
Yonatan is in love with himself. There's no room for anyone else. He's a little boy in a 33 yr old body. He never grew up, and frankly, at his age, it's not likely that he ever will. It's no one's fault. He seems to have good parents, with a good man as his father. He has made his choice. His identity is inextricably involved with his so-called "music." That's his identity. So he is destined to live as a eunuch--married to himself and his "music." There's nothing wrong with that. There have always been people in families and society who function as loners, adjunct family members rather than husbands or wives. He has nothing to offer a woman--it's just not in him. These people are still valuable members of families. It's a heartbreak for his mother, but she needs to face reality.
As a Muslim we agree that love comes after marriage not the other way round.
Miriam seemed angry 😮😢
She was speaking passionately while talking to the rabbi. I didn’t take it as anger. I think she’s not feeling fulfilled in her marriage. She wants to feel but is lacking, being in love and is missing/wanting romantic feelings towards her husband.
She was bright red! You could see one of the guys she dated was very handsome but blurred out! She was not in love with this man, they were just friends really! So unfortunate
@@dorothysmith3850it is clear how she manifested her feelings. Because she is a happy woman, that doesn't mean she has what she wanted from this marriage. It is her personality to be happy lucky going. So, if it was another woman, that's disturbing, because you must to suppress and move on. But this is life, we do it all the time. None of us have a perfect life. She will be fine.
Miriam wants romance, passion. Awe, arousement as she said when talking about romance - 34:35. She expects this romance, sense of aliveness, after the period of friendship/compatibility in marriage - 15:10.
I feel she will be disappointed and will have to drop romance for non romantic love.
Why?
Yeah, I wonder if Miriam is feeling disappointed with her spouse
I feel sorry for Yonatan. What if he is gay?
no just really immature
My husband made me laugh, 34 years later, he still does. But it took us 11 years to marry. I was married before and did not want to risk what we had. It's been laughs, haaaard work, trials and tribulations, even before marriage and a love that has grown so much as we have got older. A good martiage is worth working for. That does not mean staying in a marriage with no love and respect.
So educational! Thank you & blessings!
Lani, so happy that you found a great husband! You both seem so well suited! Love Stacey (from Neve)
I sense Miriam has realized that their marriage is not all the way where she hopes it would be at the time of her spoken concerns, and there is this deep fear that that missing piece she never had the experience of will give her regret at the end of her life.
I wanted my son to find someone, I really did, and he came close a number of times. He had good employment and could have made a home but he had issues. He had addictions and anxiety and I didn't doubt that marriage would be really a disaster unless he could get a handle on things. He's still single and I expect he'll stay single and that will have to be ok. He doesn't have a lot of patience and he might not make a good parent.
Yes, not everyone is cut out for marriage. Better to stay single if you are like that.
Good job mom.......and dad?
Miriam is so loud and angry.
Beautiful show
I don’t understand why Miriam is so angry in that one scene when talking to the matchmaker. I thought she liked (even loved?) her husband and was happy with her marriage. Maybe not??
Oh dear, she is not happy, but that is not the reason they stay together. She is enjoying her life, but probably there is some resentment there. And I guess that is normal, even us who are free to date many people and choose.
The Greatest thing that happend is when our Lord Jesus christ "Yeshua" was born who died on the cross for our sins and rose on the third day.
It doesn’t really seem like Miriam wanted to be married, she just wanted to be wanted and sought after. She said she was in many relationships before her marriage and there she found love, but if she found love then why didn’t it lead to marriage?
She seems bitter and angry that God gave her what she needed in her life rather than what she wanted for her own pleasure. The way she describes Michael is supportive, kind, lovable, understanding, encouraging, all these things women seek in a spouse, yet she’s not satisfied?
Confusing.
My impression is that she did too much drinking and drugging in her early years.
She's super annoying.
I think she really wants to love him but doesn't.
Like that fun, quirky couple. Seem like good people.
Very interesting video!
She is definitely a type A personality! She’s YELLING at the Rabbi, I wouldn’t yell at my Pastor, I would DEFINITELY disagree but I would do it RESPECTFULLY.🤷🏻♀️
God is Love. We can begin from there. In God.
The orthodox jewish lifestyle is a highly restrictive lifestyle with a lot of rules
And it can be toxically partriarchal.
Sorry, but the little short rapper boy is 34 going on 15 in the maturity arena! Plus he wants a Kim K lookalike……sorry, has he taken a look in his own mirror? Someone needs to come down to reality!!! He ain’t no looker. Let’s be honest here! Plus he basically brings nothing to the table marriage wise. I think he has the right idea though. Yes, please stick to your music and step aside for a real man to be introduced to the woman. Just my opinion 🤷♀️
Not everyone has to be good looking to land with a handsome partner. It's not like a law of physics. It is more about if it was destined to be.
Just beautiful, thank you. 🌷🌷🌷 (Holland)
the bride looks like a ghost !!!!!!!!!!! horrible
Bellísimo. Me encantó. Shalom y bendiciones desde Colombia.
And omg can we talk about how the beard is a v shape!! It’s called styling men!!
I cant relate to any of this but I imagine it's possible to be ok if you have similar interests and similar goals. If not it's doomed
The interview at 35:00 is missing the word “connected.” The woman is attempting to express that she senses a lack of intimate bonding. This lack is due to the husband’s emotional inadequacy. The “Rabbi” is validating the husband’s dysfunction by insisting that the wife is wrong to be discontent. How will marital peace be nurtured if her accurate estimation of lack is disregarded? I’ve been where she is and the lack induced loneliness which drove me from my family, children and friends who remain influenced by a fundamentally religious cult. A person can leave a cult but the cult will NEVER leave an ex-member. Haunting, isn’t it!
this woman is neurotic. i agree that its okay to feel connection but you're not always going to feel connected. taste and moods change. you can't hold your spouse hostage by demanding that they feel the same way or always meet your desire to change with them
💯 🙌🏼
My rock of a husband does not always connect with me.
I went to school in the marriage. Became a nurse and I have lots of hobbies. Love my husband more now that the kiddos have moved out lol.
We are constantly evolving.
15:42 such an adorable couple !
What sweet stories it even affirms my own story❤❤😅😊
Yonathan discribed his relationship to G-d, and shared that he looks for that experience with his future partner.
Why would a partner would need to be like that if i found it already with G-d?
My perspective is, having found this with G-d enables me/us to do service together with our partner.
Thank you, everyone who allowed us to look into their personal lives, to reflect who we ourselves are. 🙏
This guywants more than what he can get, he needs to settle and find another basic like him.
😂😂😂😂
I agree with her. The Rabbi has no sensitivity. Yelling doesn't make it true
What is the purpose of marriage? It is a business contract. I am an atheist married woman who is happy in life but believe you do not need to marry. There is no reason for it. If you want to be with someone, be with someone. What’s the point of marriage? It’s true reason for being?
Marriage is security for the woman she needs to know that If she and her partner have children he'll be providing until at least 18 yrs of age.
I'm not religious to
And I fully appreciate that marriage is a contract.
I mean I was married at the Town Hall according to the Italian Republic civic laws by a civil servant.
It was quite a long cerimony, many laws were mentioned, a contract legally binding was formalized and the word God was never mentioned.
Where is the problem?
I can't imagine living with someone I barely know, let alone having sex with someone I don't love.
I wish I fell the way this lady feels about life.
How I wish. I wish I was raised in an Orthodox Jewish Family. I believe too, this attention to “Love” is more an animalistic sensation that yes, it’s lust, but more a genetic factor in humans.
But it’s definitely not a good criterion for a lifelong marriage.
We’re married now 51 going on 52 years (Thank God) & this “Love” Factor was never in my mind. What WAS, was the knowledge that I admired him & trusted him.
So maybe we were just lucky…luck had zilch to do with it.
This world and all the people in it, would be so divine & so much happier if the Jewish traditions around marriage were the norm…. Definitely NOT “Love”!
The first question in the Westminster Catechism: WHAT IS THE CHIEF END OF MAN? Answer: Man''s chief end is TO GLORIFY GOD AND TO ENJOY HIM FOREVER.
This was 7 years ago.
Michael is certainly the glue… I think you should just be absolutely grateful to have such a patient and understanding husband. Dear lady, you need only look around at the toxic marriages around you and realise what an absolute gem of a husband you really have. In fact God answered your prayers FAAAR above what you really wanted. He gave you a genuine, husband. Yonatan,,, oh myyy you are in for a hard marraigen if you do not adjust your mindset. You will be divorced faster than you got married. In all honesty Torah teaches to separate yourself from the pagans,, be careful your lifestyle of music is directly involved with pagan living… turn back to Torah and let your music be a hobby. Find a work that supports Torah and family,, because when you are 50+ you will realize your errors chasing the music industry above total commitment to Torah and family.. I'm not Jewish but I love Torah instructions.. Great instructions for family and community living..
If a woman wants a divorce the man must agree to give her the "get", if he refuses shes stuck with him for life.
What a beautiful couple. ❤
If there is a spark love should follow
Marriage is difficult for everyone.
Life is all about loving the Lord,with all your heart,mind,soul,and strength,doing his will for your life,sharing your life with a partner in Marriage,in the Lord,if you desire , delighting in the Lord,he gives us the desire of our heart🪅🫶🪅💞💞💞💕 hear oh Israel the LORD is one Amen, 🌿🌷🫶🪅 great video, prayers for deliverance for the man ,and his so called music 🌿😢 Amen Israel 🌿🪅🌿🇮🇱🇮🇱 blessings ! Love the true brethren / sister's Amen , God's Kingdom Reigns Forevermore,evil is coming down under our feet Amen 🌿😇🌿💞🫶🪅🌿
Marrying for "love" is a dicey matter. We get old, we get fat (most of us), we get aches and pains. Loves waxes cold. Better to have a lot of similarities and complimentary traits. You should at least LIKE the person very much and agree to give 100% (not 50% each). :)
Define love. Then talk.
That's why I put quotes around the word: Love. Hard to define. @@chickenlover657
I thought Hasidic Jews could not use the internet.
SEXY..Initial Attraction Is Important even essential..but Character & qualities More lasting Things
Glad they are ok in general
i think i really like the handkerchief women wear on their head, my mother used to wear one some times when we went places especially to the park or something to protect herself from the heat!
Its done because married women don't show their hair in public.
The rapper was raised by a narcissist, and he is an infantantalized narcissist. Personality disorders do not change.
@meeeka but when muslim women cover their hair, they are being oppressed... that is the narrative in the West...
God can change people, God can change anyone, the Bible tells us that what is impossible with man,is possible with God, God still has a lot of work to do in me but He has very undeservingly done a lot in me already, we cannot change our selves, the Bible tells us that without God we can do nothing,we all need God in everything and for everything! praise the name of God forever in Jesus name!
O hell no. I wud NEVER marry someone i did not love in the hope of.....
We don’t know each other but they’re my soulmate. Ridiculous.
The musicians music really isn't that good. He acts similar to those immature narcissist women who have aist of 140 needs in their mate. He talks and acts like a modern woman. Isn't he supposed to be a provider, protector, the guide for the family yo a closer relationship with God?
Miriam is the only one that can’t see she loves Michael
Knew he d bring in fiddler somehow
Mom, get a LIFE❤😅
...overbearing won't get you grandchildren.
It's about giving space as well mystery
The rapper needs to start being a man
The fact that our grand parents were married for 40-50 years does not mean anything to me. C😂circumstances were different. Woman could not survive in their own and couples stayed together even if their relationship sucked since divorce Wes condemned by their environment, and would effect their children’s options for Shiduch…. Also the idea that a person in general, and women in particular have every right to pursue their fulfilment - didn’t down yet, it’s a modern concept of “self” and thus people stayed together sometimes miserably hanging on , for lack of supportive information and since they believed they were doomed to do so “till death make us past”….
Luckily we know better today and we have more choice - which also means more responsibility……….i
Does this worth hearing?
It is strange to watch this after the forced marriage video. Almost all states have exceptions to age limits where a victim can be forced to marry her rapist, or who the parents arranged for the daughter.
Yonatan- Tzidrate ofinkopf, what my Tata would say.
Yonatan needs a dose of realism.
That he does, he's super immature.
Like his life hasn't already started.
There are times love may not come at all
That poor guy with the loud mouth wife.
When she finds humility and respects her husband she might find what she is looking for. Dang.
Baptist lady here. Did not love my husband as I do now 20 years ago. Much better
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