Thanks everyone for your comments! Just wanted to put this disclaimer out that this video is from a Christian and biblical perspective so if you don’t read the Bible then this video may sound very counter cultural to you. I also wanted to say that of course respect goes both ways, it is not just women respecting their husbands. I am stating ways that women can submit and respect their husbands as the husbands are the head of the household and are to submit to Christ themselves. As I’ve said it’s not about control, abuse, or anything close to that nature. If you don’t agree you can read the Bible and pray on it - please keep disrespectful comments to yourself as this is not the place to put men or women down. 🥰
I still appreciate it not coming with scriptures back to back tho that’s why I hit like some people are extra I love this view but I’m not a Christian there’s lots of people that believe feminism destroys the traditional values of family other than Christians so i appreciate that there’s less Bible thumping than most others you seem like the type of Christian that Jesus was unfortunately most aren’t
1 Peter 3:3-6 New Living Translation *3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands. 6 For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.*
When a wife is docile, she softens her husband’s heart toward her. When she is sweet, she feeds his desire to care for her. When she shows her vulnerability, she activates his natural instinct to protect her. Neither men nor women will ever get what they want by forcing the other. But through love and respect they will get what their hearts’ desire. The husband wants to be the man the wife truly desires and the wife wants to be the woman the husband truly desires.
Yes, by forcing, neither of them are gonna be happy. However, things fade away with time and people expect changes. How do we deal with it? People normally find alternatives to keep themselves happy instead of trying to forcibly change each other. But, I don't think that's the solution. We, as humans, should mutually keep making changes to keep the spark alive, instead of suppressing our expressions/desires/expectations, just to make things look perfect to the world!
Amen! It was a year into my marriage when my husband said he wanted a divorce because I was trying to be the man. I didn’t understand. I had no clue how disrespectful I was. I recently read Love and Respect and I think it should be required reading for marriage. I can’t speak for men as I am not one, but women today struggle so much with showing men respect as if respecting them belittles us. Even in Genesis, a part of the curse was that women would want to be over their husband but that he would be over them. This is not actually a new thing. Women have struggled with this sin since the start
The genisis part is something i read by accident earlier this year and was shocked at how its often overlooked as well as how prevalent it is today. But also, congrats on having the awareness.
Hello sister I'm not Christian I'm a Muslim and I have huge respect for Christians,what you said is sacred and totally correct ,may the almighty God bless you.
I liked this video! I feel like feminism has turned toxic in some ways (like your disclaimer said) and it makes me sad to see how some women treat their husbands. I’ve seen women say horrible things about their husbands, and then they just laugh about it. If a man said some of these things about his wife (she’s great but needs to lose weight, she’s annoying, etc.) he would be blasted across the internet for that. Respect for each other goes both ways.
I think the same, I am not a Christian, but for Noahides and Jews we also have to follow that part of the Bible, it is in Genesis, where the part of the submission of women appears in The punishments that God gives for breaking the pact of the fruit, makes me sad just like you that women treat their husbands like this, I hope I can find a good wife, who is not like the ones mentioned. Do you have any advice to get a good wife that is not like the ones you mention?
@@rcrddnl My advice would probably be to find someone that you can be good friends with so that you can see if you will be compatible and also how they treat others around them. My husband and I started out as coworkers, then friends, and then it progressed from there. We’ve been together for nearly 5 years, and he is still my best friend. I think it’s because we went into a solid friendship first and we both have mutual respect for each other. In a friendship, you can see if they will apologise if they’re wrong, how they treat people, and what their general values in life are before deciding if you want to be in a relationship with them.
Yes Feminism has turned in to this ugly modern era hate filled anger. The problem is, the modern age has lost respect for each other, empathy and understanding. The % of the modern generation have become this spoiled entitled brats. Another problem is the lacking of discipline in schools and by parents. Including Woke ideals and gender politics to add on to the confusion
Love this thank you . As someone delivered from new age, I would have LAUGHED about submitting but now in Christ, submitting is a reflection to my submission to God and just another way I can express my love to God.
Thank you SO much for speaking about this: I’m finally experiencing the truth, relief and fulfillment in submission and really appreciated the examples and help! ❤
so basically my story is that im 15 and my relationship with God has been all over the place i stopped praying and one point i didn't believe in him anymore but now i am healing and accepting it back but i have come to realize there are things in this religion idk. I feel SICK when talking about submission i grew up an older sister at 10 i was taking care of my 5 year old brother helping homework cooking meals etc. My family wasn't the most stereotypical either my mum worked and my dad worked in another country so i rarely saw him my mum took on both roles in consequence until he came back it confused me that she would tell me my dad is the head when he was never there and she made the decisions. i Don't think i can EVER submit it makes me feel small and my upbringing hold this feeling tight
Hello lovely. I understand your pain. When a father isn't present the idea of submitting to a husband feels wrong, off and sometimes sickening. I don't know you personally or your full story, so I don't want to assume anything, but I pray that in your journey as a Christian you may meet exemplary, God fearing men. I'm not even talking for a relationship, I'm talking about mentors, leaders, etc etc that can show you what healthy masculinity is like. When the men in our lives are exemplar, the idea of submitting to them in marriage seems okay. When, sadly, that isnt the case, there is so much hurt. But God can turn your brokness into your testimony 💖 I also pray that you may be healed, and that your heart may be renewed daily through Him. Walking as a Christian isn't easy, some things will only make more sense over time. But I believe He will hold you, transform you and use you for His glory.
i also feel so sick when i think off the idea off submision i just dont underdstand why any man would want someone they love to submit to them and why i am i not alowed to lead in a relationship what did i do it feels like my voice is les worty to his like im not capeble of leadership and i dont understand why. Ive been stuk with these thoughts for so long and i dont know if there something wrong with me cuss i feel like thats what poeple are telling me but the idea makes me sick. ive heard that there are mistranslations or mis interpitations and that there are things aded to the bible that are untreu so i wonder is this one of them has this been misstransleted or misenterpeded idk. ive been asking god to please tell me the truth so that im sure but i havent gotten an answer but im also so scared thet the response god will give me will make me feel sick cuss of how unfair it feels so ask god to also pleas axplain why but this video kinda helped but i still dont understand why im not alowed to lead or what the difrents is with love and respect cuss how can you have one without the other. I saw someone respond saying that women feel this way cuss of the lack of a father figure in there life and my dad pased away when i was around 8 so is that the reason is there really something wrong whit me?
I’m so guilty of always being this strong independent woman. I don’t know how to accept help but I’ll break my back for anyone. I’m always the fixer .. I’m always the one people run to. But i am making progress because i have made great sacrifices, and I’d do it all over again in a heart beat. Also i don’t take kindly to to being told what to do but i love kind wisdom and encouraging instruction. Submission for me is easy when received in love and kindness and above all patience. Your so amazing girl! Thank you for wisdom and slowing me down❤️ God bless you
Thank you so much for sharing! Yes totally understandable. I think receiving instruction in love is the only way! And can definitely understand that mentality of being independent. I found that sometimes I’ll rely too much on my own strength and independence so I really had to surrender that to the Lord! Thank you for watching my videos and for your encouraging comments! 💕🤍
@@Dreamgiirl23 it’s nice to know there is somebody who identifies with me, and my struggles. Lord, I pray for Marley, that you would give her her hearts desires, and her dreams come true and all the promises that you have promised to her. I asked her that she would hear your voice clearly and know what you are saying to her at this time. May she know your presence in a real deep and powerful way. Give her encounters with you and may she know you love so deeply at this time. Heal her heart and bring her comfort Jesus. In Jesus name Amen, sweet sister I love you
@@nikkiisrael2708 thank you that prayer means a lot because i have been through heart breaks i didn’t deserve but i pressed through and though it still stings i know the pain i feel is worth the miracle God has done and will soon be at my door. Thank you … those videos especially about the pearl has give me so much perspective that grain of sand that caused me so much pain is my greatest treasure and blessing …. I love you too sweet sister ❤️
The more she talks on this matter you can see why that wise man who's her husband put a ring on her. Children to a woman awoken like this is a blessing
Wow your deep love for Christ is so evident in your channel. Your content has blessed me in an incredibly hard season. I’ve found your husband’s perspective very helpful as well and your marriage gives me hope that the wait is worth it and this season of trials will help transform my brokenness. Could you please do a video on breaking soul ties?
Thank you this is such an encouraging message to hear 🙏 I’m so happy that God can speak through my channel in different areas of your life, praise the Lord 💕 yes definitely I’ll do a video on that and just agreeing in prayer for the Lord to bring you through this season and that you will come out stronger than ever 🙌
One thing I don’t understand like I am a woman I do want love but I want respect more then I want love. My logic behind it is if you show me respect and that I am your equal then I feel loved.
You're not equal. I'm sorry to tell you but men have more control over their emotions and are better in combat in general not only physically but in all aspects. What you have is the strongest and most self deceiving sin in existence: pride. You don't wanna accept the fact that men are better than you and your partner is not your equal. But as long as you have pride, you'll live in denial and in war with reality, in war with your partner and in war with God and Yourself because pride makes you unable to accept your lesserness. The problem is that you'll never win, you will lose, God gave you a body that will never become equal to a man INTENTIONALLY, and if you don't believe me, how many women are miserable in the feminist way? You can't force happiness, you gotta play with the rules God gave you, or suffer eternally.
Thank you soo much for this video!! I feel like God just spoke to me through you, like he does try to speak to us through other people. Your video motivated me to make a change. I knew I don't have enough respect when talking to my parents (I'm not married yet) so I realize that I would be able to scare my (hopefully) future husband away or hurt him with my way of talking and getting irritated and bossy. I feel awful thinking that I could make a person who I love the most upset with my disrispectful words. Your video feels motivational and somehow eye-opening too. I think I'll need it for later as well. God bless you and your husband!
I have only just started watching this video (am at 0:13 mark) and had to rewind a bit to check and confirm that we have the same coffee/tea cups like the one u r drinking from; we've had them since the 90s and I live in a small country in Europe. Brought a smile to my face seeing that and just wanted to share :) much love (now onto the video)
Wow that’s so cool! I thrifted these cups here in Vancouver with matching bowls :) the thrift store is in an area with a lot of Europeans so that’s so cool to hear! Thanks for your support on our channel btw! 🙏🙌
It's all about being like Esther. I am telling you, to be a godly woman that respects and submits to her man, as a man it melts the heart of any real godly man out there, and some worldly men too if you are married with one (1 Peter 3:1-2). Even by being with a worldly man, Esther was able to totally change him through her godly form of submission and respect. I can even say that in some loving way she had him in the palm of her hand. And that seems so contradictory at first to have that happen by being (respectful and) submissive. But that's really how we work as men. To be with a respectful and submissive wife we will only want to cherish and protect her and feel ashamed if we ever talk bad back at her or do something wrong. And yes as a woman she can use other tools to reach what she wants like being too direct, or too confrontational, etc... But it won't work as well and even sometimes be hurtful compared to doing it through a godly form of submission and respect. It's the same for us men about how we have to be towards our wife. We could use other tools like starting to not consider her, giving orders, etc... Instead of doing things God's way. By being a servant leader, by honoring her, and showing how we love her every day in anything we do.
You just don't know how much I applaud you, your husband is lucky. My wife and I are separated right now because she doesn't know or doesn't want too respect me she tells me she wants to be with me but at the same time she wants to be able to do as she please without me having to ask her about it or tell her I'm not happy about things . I love her with all of me and would do absolutely anything for her I would give my life for her but sad truth is that she wouldn't do the same for me and I'm not trying to speak for her , but with how she is acting how else am I to think and feel. I just know that I would not wish this on my worst enemy . It Hurts to know that I love this woman soo much when she knows so little of respect towards me , she doesn't know the hurt I carry with me. Sorry for sharing a little bit to much of my life with you It felt good to get it of my chest though.
Brother I don’t know you, but I’m living in the same situations, my life compare to yours is almost a copy and paste, I mean exactly the same. I took her with her son, which is my own son now. I have 2 boys with her and the other one is on the way. I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman, but is the most painful thing to do. May be coz I love her, only God knows. since i married her 7 years ago, I never experienced peace, respect, submission, honesty, trust, stability, the only thing is keeping me with her, is my kids are still too little. 4 and 2 years old and another one the way. Another thing that is keeping me is the promise I gave to God, of living with her all my life. You’re not alone brother, lets get it out, it does help
I have listened to several women explain this topic. You have done the best job explaining this topic. Exactly, prayers are powerful. Thank you. I hope my wife will listen to God.
Your husband is blessed to have a women who truly understand what it means submission , coz so many families are falling apart, reason because Christians now days we don’t want to put into action the act of husbands to truly love their wives and wives also to be submissive to their husbands I am a born again Christian, husband and a father of 3 wonderful boys But I never experienced what it means submission or respect in my own household. Sorry for putting my privacy out there, I just can’t keep it to my self anymore Remain blessed with your lovely Family.
Nothing wrong with being strong and independent or being a problem solver but being told what to do or consulting with your husband in decision making or letting him decide is the key. If you are in a company, are you not required to do your job well? But at the same time, aren't you rather submissive or a follower or your boss/manager's instructions or leadership? So many women, Christians or otherwise can follow their workplace leader's leadership but not so at home with their husbands...think about it.
Beautifully said. Our generation is so off track. Both husband's and wives doing all they can to meet each others needs is crucial for making a marriage work.
A secular video showed me this better than a religious one ever has. Women are designed to receive and support while men, good men at least, are motivated to carry out acts of service and gain pleasure from doing so. Basically, good men like to serve. So, under the umbrella of Ephesians 5:21, submit to one another, wives submit to their husbands by receiving and supporting, and husbands lead by carrying out acts of service to show their love as Christ loves the church. There is no hierarchy in these verses, no obedience, no who makes decisions, etc. This is just an example of Christ's command to love one another, but in a way that touches on the natures of femininity and masculinity. The sinful world, though, tries to make this about power and hierarchy. Remember, love one another, and couples are free to make decisions as they see fit.
Sorry for commenting on you video a lot I just kinda vibe with it a lot because I grew up catholic and around a lot of rules about being a “proper women” and raised to only take care of my husband. So I do have my disagreements with the church. I have learned a lot about these relationships in my 25 years of life and why some work while others do not. I also just have more of a masculine outlook on life with some feminine aspects. Like I said everyone’s version is going to be different but I truest believe for myself I’m not made to be a follower to my husband rather a kind of coleader. I don’t mind doing things my boyfriend asks as long as he holds the same respect for me, which for the most part he does. I also change between husband and boyfriend because you talk about your husband and I mirror that language. I do have a boyfriend and we work well together as a team.
Great video Sarah. ☺️ You are wise beyond your years. I love the way you and Adam interact with each other in the comments too. 😄 It’s so cute, sweet and endearing.
Wow!! This is so much needed for this generation for sure!! So profound and important. I’m glad your sharing this. Thank you. Like they said “ the man is the head but the woman is the neck.” LOL, With intuition and lead by the Holy Spirit we can guide our husbands but with wisdom and understanding. And even if people just notice this issue, it is written! Thank you Abba for your word!! 🙏🙌🏽💯
@Praise TMH beloved, if you read carefully it’s says “Like they said” meaning like other people quote, if this way sounds better to you. It’s good to ask better than to assume. I hope this helps you understand. God bless you.
What if you don’t have a father but brothers but they aren’t “men”. They are irresponsible, immature, “adult babies” and have to be told what to do? Unemployed as well
Then they aren't to be taken seriously. Their opinions are wrong because they haven't earned their right to lead. A woman submits to MEN, not manchilds.
I'm still confused, but perhaps I should take it down a notch, whats the difference between respecting men and respecting women, is it not just the same as respecting any person (human being)? Is there a need to specialise in respecting men or women?
Because men and women are different. You respect women and men in regards to what they give you. Men go outside, risk their lives, resources, time and safety for women and their children(which always have a chance to not be his but not the other way around for women) and gather real life experience. Therefore, they know more about the world and are better equipped to make decisions. Men should have the final day because they ARE BETTER than women at taking decisions. That's the point. Is not some arbitrary rule that just so happen to be. It's because it's logically the best decision, and to pretend to be better than you really are, as a woman being equal to a man, it's disrespectful because it incorrectly devalues the man.
@@johnx140 but that can reversed when women also get education and get out there, read etc, it's not a rule nor law of the universe, but an arbitrary oppression and prohibition of women from getting education in the past, as you said yourself, it's by being exposed to more opportunities to get the ability to make more advanced decisions, so it goes for that men who are illy educated or just not willing to go out in a metaphorical sense would be worse than a woman who has gone through the mental effort to navigate the world, so in the end, it's not about the gender, also have you not know of plenty of tribal cultures in the world that had or have women who take the lead in their societies? Respect then is given accordingly. Take for example, Sabine Hossenfelder is a Nuclear Physicist and where I barely have the knowledge to comprehend her works, and so I pay her respect accordingly, in regards to what she offers to fellow youtube video watchers and the work she is working on, stop this gender stereotyping, as for a minute think about how men have certain kind of qualities that are not considered stereotypically masculine, take Alan Turing for example. Let people shine and contribute as much as they can, why suppress when they can do great things and even help everyone substantially, denying a woman from say being a doctor when she absolutely have the skills is just not logical, and since you seem like someone who pride themselves with logic, bringing up the word to justify your own biases and beliefs, wouldnt you just agree that we need both male and female doctors to keep the patients of both genders well and alive and keep the society running? anyway that's my gribe towards ESTJ sort of views like yours
@@johnx140 Sorry, but in this day and age, women are out in the world, are educated, and have experience. Saying that women are not as good as men at making decisions or that women don't know about the world is frankly going to drive people away from Christ and make Christians look, well, strange. Just look at all the female doctors, astronauts, scientists, etc.
Submission goes both ways. I would challenge the entire Church to spend far more time preaching and teaching on how men are to submit themselves to Christ. Too many women have been abused in the Church and stayed in unsafe situations due to the focus of women and submission. Damage has been done to an immeasurable degree and those of us who have walked with the Lord a long time need to be wise on communicating this topic.
Exactly right. Domestic violence was a big problem in these authoritarian marriages of years ago. This submitting stuff is absurd, and frankly dangerous. Religion is very scary, far too radical for me. 👎
@C M What proof do you have that God exists? What proof do you have that God and Heaven aren't merely humanity's way of softening the blow of mortality. Humanity makes up all kinds of things as we know. Religion has been used for millennia to manipulate and control people, esp women. Prove to me any of it is real, and not just made up.
Right she knows there is no such thing as freedom. Just obedience and submission. That is great for men. Only. Only men benefit. Women never benefit from pretending to be a weak flower. It just means she is worth only what you paid.
Men and women must realize they are created differently. Different bodies, different minds. We should accept those differences if we want healthy society
Thank you for making this video! It was really encouraging to hear you sharing about this subject. I'm getting married this summer and I've been processing the subject of wives submitting to their husbands and what it actually looks like. I haven't completely figured it out yet (and as you said one learns through experience) but I feel like God really used your video to teach me about this subject. Especially what you said about respecting your parents (especially one's father) really resonated with me. Made me realize how much the father-daughter relationship I have reflects on the relationship with my fiance. I'm quite new to your channel but I can sense that God has blessed you with a lot of wisdom. Be blessed and keep it up with the videos!
Personally I find submission to a TRULY good man is the most fulfilling and satisfying thing EVER. It gives me sooooo much freedom to be able to allow my boyfriend (whom I trust fully and know as a fact that he wants the best for me) to make desisions for me, obey him and let him guide me. And it makes me truly happy and content!
@Praise TMH The head of every human being, male or female is God. That said the head of every wife is God, not her husband. Her husband doesn’t take the position of God in her life. The husband is the head of the household and the wife his helpmate. However they both have God as their heads. Wives can, do and should have a relationship with God directly. Not with God through their husband.
I created a whole philosophy on lasting relationships and you too seemed to have figured it out. Well, some of it. You are making great use of the golden rule which is really from the Bible. I'm not religious but I for reason spend all my time learning lessons from the Bible...
You can totally be strong without being disrespectful completely agree, I’d never tell my husband he’s stupid for thinking one way or another I’d be understanding and try to figure out why he sees it that way. As for him being the leader of the household just because of his junk, nah. We both lead but that just my own balance. We lead together as a team not as a dictatorship. If he were to ask me to do laundry because he needs something, sure, I don’t mind. I like to help him because helping him helps build his success and well being just like if I am busy and I ask him to do the dishes he’ll agree no problem because he knows it will help with my success and we’ll being. It’s about being a team and leading together then one person taking the reigns. But everyone have a different balance and version of what that looks like.
I guess the whole thing is tricky. Because what some people respectful and disrespectful. Also because of the world we live in now where you need a 2 income household, and both men and women are at the same level of status, income, and education where there is room to colead. I believe God evolves before us and we need to view the scripture differently. It's one thing to speak life into our partners and to be thankful and appreciative. It's another not to challenge and not be enabling him under the idea that is not what is done.
I married a "Christian" man when I was 21 years old. He was a religion major. His first job was youth pastor. He emotionally abused me for 20 years. He was careful not to leave physical bruises. All of our church leaders told me to submit to him. He almost completely shattered me mentally. I finally divorced him and was shunned by my "church family". I worked for that church as an administrator for over 10 years. When I left and had no support... the pastor cheated on his wife and left her and their 3 children for a fling. After I went through the valley of the shadow of death... I met a wonderful man. He was agnostic. I, however remained firm in my Christian beliefs. This wonderful man was/is the kindest, sweetest, nicest, most generous man I have ever met whether inside or outside of the organized church. We married and this man is now my Christian spouse. He is smarter than I am in many ways as I get emotional. I'm smarter in some ways about finances, etc. I'm here to tell you that I believe that this is what the Bible is telling you. Submit to one another. Acknowledge each other's strengths and weaknesses. Work together. Would anyone like to tell me where I'm wrong here?
what a great story. submission is a two way street. eph 5-21 says submit one to another but the church has taken that to only women should submit and like your marriage there has been a lot of abuse. it is now only coming to light this video is extremely one sided. the bible does not say women are to only be wives, housemakers and birth huge broods. have you heard of the podcast called bare marriage --lots of great info on the marriage dynamics and what God really expects of wives....and husbands.
@@smiechu47 it is not about whether she chose the wrong man or not...the church is full of wolves because of the false teaching of "women submit obey be silent" --it attracts abusers and many of them hide behind those scriptures for their abusive behavior. many churches advise a woman to go back to her abuser to "win him to Christ" be more submissive and obedient, which is what they were already doing. but it rarely if ever works. you might want to read the stories of christian woman who just like the lady above married a "christian" man and was abused. there are hundreds of them coming out of the church and little is being done......... the southern bapt church is more concerned with a few women pastors then it is about the 200 named abusers...which btw, happen to all be men...within church leadership.
Supposing everything you said is true: You did good but took too long for it. If s man abuses someone, the community should unite and intervene him to tell him to stop, repent and change his ways. If he still abuses you but shows sings of changing, give him times since people don't change overnight and bad habits die hard. If he doesn't wanna change, a woman should gather evidence of the abuse to the best of his ability, then divorce him after 3-6 months and make his case public. Shaming the unrepentant pleases God. Your church was a disgrace and an insult to God. I'll give you a secret: most churches are fake and Judas Iscariotes's. They are complicit to the sins of the world and therefore guilty as well. Hope youll be happy forever with your real husband now 😊
I always aspired to be a good wife, who respects her husbands, who submits to him and follows his lead. But my parents are against this nature of mine. they always tried hard to make me more masculine and independent. but my basic nature is to be docile and to value love more than my independence
I used to be a Christian and I’m not sure what I believe now. I never had positive male roles in my life which makes it hard for me to want a partner. I love being single and on my own. I feel that submission should go both ways depending on the matter. For example if the car breaks down, then one partner should be more submissive to the other partner who has more knowledge and experience in the field. I want to be respected and held at the same level as a man.
What a great video! As a man I have supported feminist once but realized that we are - men and women - different. The strongest marriages I have seen always shown a respectful wife and a loving husband. The wokisme is trying to change our very own nature but it’s impossible.
I think the submitting your talking about is actually compromise, and finding a balance between the couple to work together in a progressive perspective way. And men should NOT completely lead the household but neither should women. Submission, I think, has to do with gender roll traditions and women giving up there own thoughts feelings and behaviors as a sacrifice for there husbands ego and well being, just so they can feel powerful and respected. This is not how it should be it should be unless you choose for it to be that way. And you both have to choose that. It is okay to challenge and ask why, you should never be little or get passive aggressive, but it’s okay to disagree on something but you both make that sacrifice and compromise. A women does not have to submit and let him take charge. Same with the opposite, a man should never have to submit and let her take charge. You both make the sacrifice and talk about it together. It’s a team effort. I’ll give a simple example. When we go out to eat me and my boyfriend, we’ll look at the menus and decide what we want and then when the waiter comes I let him tell the waiter what he wants and what I want. It’s the simple fact I know he likes the feeling of ordering for me. That can be seen as submitting. But one thing he submits to for me is he lets me open all the Amazon packages because it’s like opening a present. Even if it’s something he really wants to open himself. Both people have to submit both people have to compromise it’s about finding that balance. That balance is found between both partners and deciding what should happen. You do get a variety of couples where it can be 50/50 or 40/60 or completely traditional. As long as it’s discussed and agreed upon.
I think the examples you cited are fairly trivial examples that don't require a leader, but I think a fairly prominent leader (however subtle of one) is needed in a variety of scenarios. For example, take a dance between a couple holding each other both literally and figuratively. If no one leads here, then there's no movement. Both people would be waiting for the other to initiate and take the lead, and that would last indefinitely until someone does. If both people try to take the lead, then they will step on each other's toes. For a couple to dance beautifully together, someone has to be the ultimate leader and the other has to be the willing follower. If they take turns doing this without being awkward and constantly trying to figure out who does what and when, then someone still has to ultimately lead the choreography and the other has to be a willing follower. This is a practical requirement regardless of gender; a homosexual couple will face the same problem and dance very awkwardly without a clear leader. The ultimate point of a leader is to move multiple people in a uniform direction as in the analogical dance, and where you discover who is the more prominent leader in a relationship is not in small routines that you've already established, but in terms of who is ultimately moving the both of you in uniform direction. As another example, take a couple who has a dispute they can't resolve in a headless way. Perhaps it's over where to send their children to school, and both are passionate and unable to come to an agreement. If there's no leader here to resolve the conflict and say, "All right, this is what we're going to do," then there's no movement as in the dance analogy, and the children will not be sent to any school while both parents are waiting for the other to take the ultimate lead and responsibility associated. If both people try to lead here, they will step on each other's toes and most likely fight and divorce. Either that or they might have to appeal to a third party to lead like a judge in a courtroom or a marriage counselor. Relationships without a clear and competent leader will often devolve in this way at some point. This is the sort of practical need for a leader, and generally all groups no matter how small or how large will tend to need a reasonably prominent one. A good one will also tend to listen to the other people's desires and, while still being the one responsible for making the executive decision, factor those desires into every one of those decisions.
@@darkengine5931 Excellent comment. Another quite common example is what house a new married couple should purchase. A competent leader, ideally, will take input from the other party, but still make the ultimate final decision.
I wouldn’t underestimate the power of keeping in touch with your own needs, talents, and career skills. It is important…you may not realize why it’s so important until it’s too late. When you are consumed with all of the responsibilities of mothering, keeping the house, etc, and you start to feel like an empty shell, that’s when you may realize that you left your own potential and talents behind to fulfill your husband’s expectations. This is just my experience, and kudos to you if you find fulfillment in shifting to serving your husband’s needs. I just felt like it was neglectful to let my own dreams and needs go for those of another.
Hey Shannon! Thank you so much for sharing! Would you say that your husband encourages you in your projects? I see that this woman has her own projects and personality
hey sarah! i had a realization while you were reading that passage in ephesians 5 and i thought i'd share. as you were reading i was wondering why there was an emphasis on those specific things that wives and husbands were to do, and i related it back to that thing you mentioned in the beginning of the video about how men need respect and women need love. what if all of that is a result of the curse on man in genesis? in the garden, when eve is tempted by the serpent and eats the fruit she is actually undermining adam's authority/judgement as her husband, and then when adam pushes the blame onto eve when God confronts them about eating the fruit he ultimately denies her of love through a wrong decision made in her weakness despite succumbing to that weakness himself. this means that the passage in ephesians 5 is not just an instruction for husbands and wives, but in heeding to those instructions we're partnering with the spirit to actively work against the curse that has been passed onto us since the garden. idk i just thought that was such a cool point that the holy spirit pointed out to me. i would love to hear your thoughts on this if you have any. as a side, i truly love the work you're doing and the content you're creating. wishing you and your husband all the best!
ephisians 21 also says submit to one another, then it specifically says what wives and husbands should do. most modern sensibilities have an ick with that phrase wives submit to your husband
The examples you gave really helped me. I keep hearing, respect, honor and submit but never really understood what that looks like or what it doesn't. I really appreciate your vulnerability!
This is my main problem in my marriage. I feel like i don't even matter to her. I don't know how much more i can take and i blame myself for it being this way
sorry for bad english it isnt my first language hi im 14 and idk i feel so sick whenever i think of the idea of submiting i saw someone say in the comments that that is beceaus theres something wrong with me but i just dont get it why do only women have to submit why cant it be depending on you ralationship evreyone knows there are dominant and submisive men and women so why cant it be that if you're submisive you find someone dominant and if ur dominant you find someone submisive. But then there are also poeple that are simply neutral dont mind being submisive or dominant in some situations just whatever is practical a man being the leader ALWAYS can simply never work what if the car breaks down and she has knowledge and he does not? What should he lead then, ofcourse not that would be redicules. So what i think is that that rule aplied to the poeple in whatever time those paragrafs where writen idk if this is common knowledge but a lot of scriptures where written for the land of isreal not the intire world and not the future whe are sometimes suposed to change them according to todays world cuss ofcourse women used to have to obey men back then it was suposed to help them cuss they could not rule they had no education and no knowledge on anything accept cooking so she wasn't capeble of leading and if she would have tried knowing what time she lived in who knowes what would have happend to her but thats just what i think im not sure if its 100% true but what sarah posted i think cant be the full truth cuss there are so many misenterpetations (maybe just my opinion) and thins i think she didnt ad like why do we have to humble ourselves and not men so men get to basicly have evreything there way cuss they like being respected WHO DOESN'T. To me it sounds like what she's saying is well you have to humble yourselve and give up youre pride but men get to have it there way cuss they like it that way. she didnt give a reason for that. Ik that someone will say yea bt men need to love there wives yea duh so its fine for a women to not love her husband like hows dat fun like for men they HAVE to enjoy and be in love in there marriage (sounds very hard) while women have to give up there pride like how is that fair this fact makes me hate being a women if my future husband decides to not ask me something and just do so hes fine like why am i even there then wherent we described as helpers EQAULS but theres nothing eqaul about that men have it so much esier it seems. Ik someone will say something like "yea but men are ecpected to die for there wives" yea me too thats easy to do anyone that loves someone so dearly that they would choose to spend the rest of there lives with them would die at the very thought of losing them or life in misery for the rest of there live so it would be much esier for them to choose to die for them. So again they have it so easy they can basicly do whatever they want aslong as they love us while we cant even be sarcastic around them like why i feel like crying cuss i cant seem to make sense of this i cant believe that this could posebly be somthing from god it must have been edited can someone please help me. i feel so lost should i be having these thoughts am i wrong for tinking this is unjust? is there something wrong with me? I ask god almost evrey night to help me am i doing something wrong. It just doesnt sound right.
I have a question. What do you do when you're called to work for God and to travel around the country but your wife won't submit and go along with you 😕 ? I can't be in a long distance relationship as a married man 😕. I'm in this situation right now 😕. Thanks
Hey there this video make sense totally and in my personal preferences i treat not only a partner like this but all people. But was wondering we are supposed to be like this but are you saying a man doesnt have to reciprocate it back. If we ask for laundry to be done he can say no and still be good in god graces? Or if we have an idea they are allowed to control an belittle us? Im really confused.
Some husbands are not worthy of being the leader of the family. If he is drinking, drugging, gambling or abusing the people who love him, he is not fit. I only see this working with men who are worthy of being the masters of their house. If they are kind, loving, honest, judicious… He has to be a man first, before he can be the “man of the family.”
I bind myself to submit to my godly-ordained spouse who confidently knows how to lead me and is being held accountable for the way he leads me while binding to hell being led by any man in whom I should not put in any confidence when he is not taking up accountability of leading me rigtheously, in accordance with this word and ephesians 5:22-33, hebrews 13:17, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah: "Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account."
For all pastors, priests, bishops, servants or anyone who preach Paul’s rules for the roles of women and men in marriage and in the church. If these rules are not from God for each woman and man for our time and until end of days, you are committing blasphemy against the Holy Spirit In addition, if Paul’s rules for the roles of women and men in marriage and in the church, which is applied by all churches, have caused a woman or a girl to stumble in their faith or a man to stumble with pride then this verse is for you. “If anyone causes one of these little ones - those who believe in me - to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea.”
This is pure instinct and truth ! A man is only as strong as the woman who stands behind him and vice versa . It’s hard for men men to not be overbearing and it’s hard for women to obey ! Maybe that’s because of modern laws ! The whole system needs a swift kick in the ass !but in conclusion this is a mans world! Love your man and change your life for the best!!!
Submit is to support, help. Words lose their meaning over time and has we see them today, they meaning is different previously in another time. Women was created to "Help" man. This does not suggest servant or secondary figure to "submit". The original word in Hebrew is "Ezer". which does mean Helper. The actual meaning is to " Help another in need " Remember people; God is often described in Old Testament as Ezer. We must also take into account the the Bible has been translated down into numerous different languages as well. We can never suggest God as one that Submits or is a servant. The background of Ephesians, was believed to be a letter written by St Paul ( Previously known as Saul ) written around AD 60-62. St Paul was a man, who originally persecuted Christians, who had a life changing event, when he heard the voice of God. St Paul travelled extensively spreading the word of God. He wrote about his time, situations and addressed problems occurring "during his time".
Why does practically everyone, Christian youtubers refer to audience of women as "you guys"? I'm not a guy. I'm an older woman of 60. It's just frustrating. For one, it implies a merging of genders. Like calling a woman 'dude'. Men, nowadays don't honor or court women and our speech perpetuates this. I love all people and pray for them. Calling sisters 'you guys' reinforces the LGBTQ agenda that our biology and sex isn't important. I'm not a guy. I'm a woman. A sister. Other than that, love your videos. Just making a point.
My sister, I mean no disrespect, but saying, “you guys” was a slang phrase coined sometime 70 years ago or so, to address a group of people. It even specifically got popularized and used by women as a gender-neutral term when addressing multiple people, regardless of gender. Nowadays it is so ingrained it is perceived as a colloquial phrase. So the lady saying it isn’t literally calling you a dude. She addressing a group of strangers (us) in a catch-all, gender-neutral phrase that existed and has been used since before you were born. Which it’s context has not changed. There is no LGBTQ agenda with saying the phrase.
Does that mean you have a problem with the Bible (especially KJV) often using the masculine term “brethren” as the default when the recipients of the message are male and female? As a woman I am not anyone’s brother, just like I am not a “guy” but still understand that these terms are intended to address a collective and is not a nod toward androgyny / gender obscurity.
As a man, i think being a submissive woman doesn't mean you are a slave nor makes you dependent and weak. To make it clear, there are abusive dominant man and there are kind dominant man as well, meaning that it will solely depend upon the woman's discernment or feeling if she'll continue to live/decide to submit to whichever what kind of man he is. A kind but dominant man will always balance his dominant and soft side to the woman she truly loves especially if he feels that his woman submits to her. The moment a man feels like he is being challenged and ripped off of his authority by the woman she loves or he feels he is being overpowered, that will leave a hole in his heart forever and it somehow doubt his capabilites as a man. Personally, I am dominant in our relationship with my partner now, before I don't realize that I am overly dominanting her in some ways and she just submits and she'll say yes even if it's against her will without me knowing. Now I realize that all throughout our relationship there are no confrontation because she just listens to me and kept her mouth shut and it made me feel so sick of myself and I really regret what I did. Now don't get me wrong, she is a strong independent woman who can defend herself and live by her own rules but she decided not to provoke and overpower me everytime I am mad at her for something that she did. I admit I do kinda want to be in charge of all situation in our relationship but that changed me, I openly say that I am shameful to her of what I did and I don't deserve her. All I am saying is that, she softened my heart and calmed the storm in me. Her love and trust towards me made me the man I never thought I can be. Up to now, she still wholeheartedly submits to me. I admit I do kinda like it hehe but now I know that she does that to me, I will always make her feel loved, cared and respected. I will do anything for her even if it will cost me my life. She gave me what I asked, I will give her what she asked as well or even more. Honestly now I don't want to be the dominant one anymore because there's no need to and because there are no opposing force and actually she's way better than me in most things lol. We live our lives in happiness and in peace as we both try to listen and understand each other without dominating. Now im in a dilemma thinking on how am i supposed to be better for a woman of her kind. I just watched this video because I didn't know this is a complex topic to mostly women. Thankfully the one I met was the one very supportive who brought the best in me and not the one who will challenge me for a duel lol.
What should a women do if she is a working women??? Pays bills equally??if i quit my job n submit to him completely n become an ideal housewife take care of him, give birth to his babies...n he gets bored of me n goes out cheating on me knowing the fact that I m submissive n the only thing i'll be able to do is pray to god n be more submissive n still treat him with respect to win him over. Doesn't having no career of my own n depending on him completely creates a situation where I have to agree to all his demands n ignore all his defects just to make sure he doesn't leave me ???
Why don't you leave him??? He's cheating on you, a clear sign of disrespect and disregard for your spiritual and mental wellbeing. In the passage of submitting, it says that your husband submits to you AND that he is to love you as Christ loved the church, this sounds like your husband and the devil have more in common than not, no offense. God put you here to live an abundant life, abundance and abuse or disrespect do not go together.
@Praise TMH I do not care if you can accurately quote Bible passages lol. The head of me as a woman is God, putting man before God is contradictory. So you can walk around with a false sense of authority all you want but I frankly do not care, and I would never consider you to be a godly man ever if your first thought from me telling the OP to honor herself is to bring up a vague verse fit to your worldview with no consideration whatsoever of the emotional and spiritual damage being done to her by her cheating husband.
@Praise TMH you also must be forgetting this "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Hebrews 13:4
Could you please help me with this. Growing up my mom did not set the best example of being a godly wife. She always told me I should not submit to a man and if I do that means he is controlling. Now I’m a wife of 16 years and I still struggle with this. I do not know how to be a good wife.
I think the greater challenge lies in being dominant (the leader, i.e.) rather than follower. Good leaders usually inspire loyalty and submission very naturally. That applies for us guys too: for example, when I have a great and extremely responsible boss in my workplace, I naturally submit to his/her leadership because I know I'm in good hands and that he/she is looking out for my well-being. However, I once had a very irresponsible and bad leader in my 20s and that led to chaos in the company with everyone competing to take charge of the situation since he wasn't stepping up to do it himself. Submitting to your husband voluntarily doesn't mean he's controlling; it means you trust him to protect and provide and look out for your well-being. He's only controlling if he demands this of you instead of inspiring it out of you. Also, just as a good boss doesn't needlessly micro-manage his workers and gives them a great deal of independence and autonomy, so too does a good husband. He should also listen very carefully to any concerns or desires you have (and you should definitely speak up about them) so that he can weigh them carefully into any decisions he makes that impact you both. One of the things is to let him take ultimate responsibility for your family's well-being (provided he's capable of it). Like a cooperative worker at a business doesn't take ultimate responsibility for their product's success; that's impractical and leads to conflicts because the worker lacks ultimate control over the product's success. They instead let their boss take ultimate responsibility. The job of the boss is to then make everyone feel like they're in good hands under his/her guidance so that they don't have to worry about the product's success.
As much as I love contents like these. I hardly ever see men making content on 'how to love a woman' 'lead her right' 'love her through all her phases' 'its not about looks' 'buy her nice things'. I wish men made such content at the rate women make these content. Again, I'm totally for submission. The right man deserves submission indeed, and the wrong man deserves all my force.
It is (partly) about looks, both partners are morally obligated to make an effort to be attractive to one another, since they are the only source of sexuality for each other, if they are in a typical mutually exclusive monogamous relationship. This is a forgotten moral aspect of monogamy, doesn't even depend on religion technically, it's just ethical. If you don't try to be attractive for your partner, but still demand that they remain faithful to you, you are denying them sexuality.
You cleary wasn't listening to anything this godly humble woman said SMH. You speaking from all pride and ego and correction the right man don't deserve your submission your husband does. It's simple if you don't wanna submit don't get married
My husband and I also found that book, Love and Respect, super helpful. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr Laura Schlessinger (despite cringe title) was a game changer for me too
Thanks everyone for your comments! Just wanted to put this disclaimer out that this video is from a Christian and biblical perspective so if you don’t read the Bible then this video may sound very counter cultural to you. I also wanted to say that of course respect goes both ways, it is not just women respecting their husbands. I am stating ways that women can submit and respect their husbands as the husbands are the head of the household and are to submit to Christ themselves. As I’ve said it’s not about control, abuse, or anything close to that nature. If you don’t agree you can read the Bible and pray on it - please keep disrespectful comments to yourself as this is not the place to put men or women down. 🥰
I still appreciate it not coming with scriptures back to back tho that’s why I hit like some people are extra I love this view but I’m not a Christian there’s lots of people that believe feminism destroys the traditional values of family other than Christians so i appreciate that there’s less Bible thumping than most others you seem like the type of Christian that Jesus was unfortunately most aren’t
1 Peter 3:3-6
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*3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands. 6 For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.*
Women used to be this way a natural woman. We are equal but in different way's that's why we love each other.
@@InResponseOutreach Nothing wrong with so-called "Bible thumping" if it's the truth. Also, try using periods in your sentences.
The church should be completly submissive towards Jesus as the Head.
When a wife is docile, she softens her husband’s heart toward her. When she is sweet, she feeds his desire to care for her. When she shows her vulnerability, she activates his natural instinct to protect her. Neither men nor women will ever get what they want by forcing the other. But through love and respect they will get what their hearts’ desire. The husband wants to be the man the wife truly desires and the wife wants to be the woman the husband truly desires.
Your comment is powerful. Love it
Great comment, perfectly stated.
True
Don't forget the softening goes both ways. Treat your wife with the kindness and love that you would want someone to treat your daughter with.
Yes, by forcing, neither of them are gonna be happy. However, things fade away with time and people expect changes. How do we deal with it? People normally find alternatives to keep themselves happy instead of trying to forcibly change each other. But, I don't think that's the solution. We, as humans, should mutually keep making changes to keep the spark alive, instead of suppressing our expressions/desires/expectations, just to make things look perfect to the world!
Amen! It was a year into my marriage when my husband said he wanted a divorce because I was trying to be the man. I didn’t understand. I had no clue how disrespectful I was. I recently read Love and Respect and I think it should be required reading for marriage. I can’t speak for men as I am not one, but women today struggle so much with showing men respect as if respecting them belittles us. Even in Genesis, a part of the curse was that women would want to be over their husband but that he would be over them. This is not actually a new thing. Women have struggled with this sin since the start
How were you being the man? That means you guys follow predetermined gender roles based on stereotypes? Woman weak ,man strong?
The genisis part is something i read by accident earlier this year and was shocked at how its often overlooked as well as how prevalent it is today. But also, congrats on having the awareness.
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So did you guys reconcile ?
Are you still together? Hope so.
Hello sister I'm not Christian I'm a Muslim and I have huge respect for Christians,what you said is sacred and totally correct ,may the almighty God bless you.
if allah slaps you with his right hand, which hand does he slap you with?
He should slap you with both and one of them will definitely be His right hand.
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I liked this video! I feel like feminism has turned toxic in some ways (like your disclaimer said) and it makes me sad to see how some women treat their husbands. I’ve seen women say horrible things about their husbands, and then they just laugh about it. If a man said some of these things about his wife (she’s great but needs to lose weight, she’s annoying, etc.) he would be blasted across the internet for that. Respect for each other goes both ways.
I think the same, I am not a Christian, but for Noahides and Jews we also have to follow that part of the Bible, it is in Genesis, where the part of the submission of women appears in The punishments that God gives for breaking the pact of the fruit, makes me sad just like you that women treat their husbands like this, I hope I can find a good wife, who is not like the ones mentioned. Do you have any advice to get a good wife that is not like the ones you mention?
They probably treat their husband bad because their husband don't respect then.
@@freespirit7450 no, no excuses.
@@rcrddnl My advice would probably be to find someone that you can be good friends with so that you can see if you will be compatible and also how they treat others around them. My husband and I started out as coworkers, then friends, and then it progressed from there. We’ve been together for nearly 5 years, and he is still my best friend. I think it’s because we went into a solid friendship first and we both have mutual respect for each other.
In a friendship, you can see if they will apologise if they’re wrong, how they treat people, and what their general values in life are before deciding if you want to be in a relationship with them.
Yes Feminism has turned in to this ugly modern era hate filled anger. The problem is, the modern age has lost respect for each other, empathy and understanding. The % of the modern generation have become this spoiled entitled brats. Another problem is the lacking of discipline in schools and by parents. Including Woke ideals and gender politics to add on to the confusion
Love this thank you . As someone delivered from new age, I would have LAUGHED about submitting but now in Christ, submitting is a reflection to my submission to God and just another way I can express my love to God.
I enjoy hearing about people changing. It reminds me that we are made of clay... not stone. I wish you the best.
Thank you SO much for speaking about this: I’m finally experiencing the truth, relief and fulfillment in submission and really appreciated the examples and help! ❤
so basically my story is that im 15 and my relationship with God has been all over the place i stopped praying and one point i didn't believe in him anymore but now i am healing and accepting it back but i have come to realize there are things in this religion idk. I feel SICK when talking about submission i grew up an older sister at 10 i was taking care of my 5 year old brother helping homework cooking meals etc. My family wasn't the most stereotypical either my mum worked and my dad worked in another country so i rarely saw him my mum took on both roles in consequence until he came back it confused me that she would tell me my dad is the head when he was never there and she made the decisions. i Don't think i can EVER submit it makes me feel small and my upbringing hold this feeling tight
Hello lovely. I understand your pain. When a father isn't present the idea of submitting to a husband feels wrong, off and sometimes sickening. I don't know you personally or your full story, so I don't want to assume anything, but I pray that in your journey as a Christian you may meet exemplary, God fearing men. I'm not even talking for a relationship, I'm talking about mentors, leaders, etc etc that can show you what healthy masculinity is like. When the men in our lives are exemplar, the idea of submitting to them in marriage seems okay. When, sadly, that isnt the case, there is so much hurt. But God can turn your brokness into your testimony 💖 I also pray that you may be healed, and that your heart may be renewed daily through Him. Walking as a Christian isn't easy, some things will only make more sense over time. But I believe He will hold you, transform you and use you for His glory.
@@nysevicente2913 thank you so much your advice means alot.
God bless you💕
i also feel so sick when i think off the idea off submision i just dont underdstand why any man would want someone they love to submit to them and why i am i not alowed to lead in a relationship what did i do it feels like my voice is les worty to his like im not capeble of leadership and i dont understand why. Ive been stuk with these thoughts for so long and i dont know if there something wrong with me cuss i feel like thats what poeple are telling me but the idea makes me sick. ive heard that there are mistranslations or mis interpitations and that there are things aded to the bible that are untreu so i wonder is this one of them has this been misstransleted or misenterpeded idk. ive been asking god to please tell me the truth so that im sure but i havent gotten an answer but im also so scared thet the response god will give me will make me feel sick cuss of how unfair it feels so ask god to also pleas axplain why but this video kinda helped but i still dont understand why im not alowed to lead or what the difrents is with love and respect cuss how can you have one without the other. I saw someone respond saying that women feel this way cuss of the lack of a father figure in there life and my dad pased away when i was around 8 so is that the reason is there really something wrong whit me?
i also feel like this is there any way that you might wanna comme in contact ive been wanning to find someone that feels the same as me
I’m so guilty of always being this strong independent woman. I don’t know how to accept help but I’ll break my back for anyone. I’m always the fixer .. I’m always the one people run to. But i am making progress because i have made great sacrifices, and I’d do it all over again in a heart beat. Also i don’t take kindly to to being told what to do but i love kind wisdom and encouraging instruction. Submission for me is easy when received in love and kindness and above all patience.
Your so amazing girl! Thank you for wisdom and slowing me down❤️ God bless you
Thank you so much for sharing! Yes totally understandable. I think receiving instruction in love is the only way! And can definitely understand that mentality of being independent. I found that sometimes I’ll rely too much on my own strength and independence so I really had to surrender that to the Lord! Thank you for watching my videos and for your encouraging comments! 💕🤍
Oh, we are so alike! ☺️
@@nikkiisrael2708 soul sisters 😂
@@Dreamgiirl23 it’s nice to know there is somebody who identifies with me, and my struggles.
Lord, I pray for Marley, that you would give her her hearts desires, and her dreams come true and all the promises that you have promised to her. I asked her that she would hear your voice clearly and know what you are saying to her at this time. May she know your presence in a real deep and powerful way. Give her encounters with you and may she know you love so deeply at this time.
Heal her heart and bring her comfort Jesus.
In Jesus name
Amen, sweet sister I love you
@@nikkiisrael2708 thank you that prayer means a lot because i have been through heart breaks i didn’t deserve but i pressed through and though it still stings i know the pain i feel is worth the miracle God has done and will soon be at my door. Thank you … those videos especially about the pearl has give me so much perspective that grain of sand that caused me so much pain is my greatest treasure and blessing …. I love you too sweet sister ❤️
The more she talks on this matter you can see why that wise man who's her husband put a ring on her. Children to a woman awoken like this is a blessing
Wow your deep love for Christ is so evident in your channel. Your content has blessed me in an incredibly hard season. I’ve found your husband’s perspective very helpful as well and your marriage gives me hope that the wait is worth it and this season of trials will help transform my brokenness. Could you please do a video on breaking soul ties?
Thank you this is such an encouraging message to hear 🙏 I’m so happy that God can speak through my channel in different areas of your life, praise the Lord 💕 yes definitely I’ll do a video on that and just agreeing in prayer for the Lord to bring you through this season and that you will come out stronger than ever 🙌
One thing I don’t understand like I am a woman I do want love but I want respect more then I want love. My logic behind it is if you show me respect and that I am your equal then I feel loved.
You'll never be equal to man. That's why you don't understand.
Exactly! I feel like Im back to 1950 right now.
With love comes respect
I feel the same way.
You're not equal. I'm sorry to tell you but men have more control over their emotions and are better in combat in general not only physically but in all aspects.
What you have is the strongest and most self deceiving sin in existence: pride. You don't wanna accept the fact that men are better than you and your partner is not your equal.
But as long as you have pride, you'll live in denial and in war with reality, in war with your partner and in war with God and Yourself because pride makes you unable to accept your lesserness. The problem is that you'll never win, you will lose, God gave you a body that will never become equal to a man INTENTIONALLY, and if you don't believe me, how many women are miserable in the feminist way? You can't force happiness, you gotta play with the rules God gave you, or suffer eternally.
It's a sign of respect and trust, a good man doesn't want to let down a woman who trust him.
What a powerful message. God has truly led me to this channel to hear these words. May He bless you Sarah!! 🙏🏻 💖
The you tube algorithm led you to this channel
Thank you soo much for this video!! I feel like God just spoke to me through you, like he does try to speak to us through other people. Your video motivated me to make a change. I knew I don't have enough respect when talking to my parents (I'm not married yet) so I realize that I would be able to scare my (hopefully) future husband away or hurt him with my way of talking and getting irritated and bossy. I feel awful thinking that I could make a person who I love the most upset with my disrispectful words. Your video feels motivational and somehow eye-opening too. I think I'll need it for later as well. God bless you and your husband!
I have only just started watching this video (am at 0:13 mark) and had to rewind a bit to check and confirm that we have the same coffee/tea cups like the one u r drinking from; we've had them since the 90s and I live in a small country in Europe. Brought a smile to my face seeing that and just wanted to share :) much love (now onto the video)
Wow that’s so cool! I thrifted these cups here in Vancouver with matching bowls :) the thrift store is in an area with a lot of Europeans so that’s so cool to hear! Thanks for your support on our channel btw! 🙏🙌
@@NowBloom Ha! Only saw (and got the notification) your response now - this makes so much sense and is heartwarming to read :)
It's all about being like Esther. I am telling you, to be a godly woman that respects and submits to her man, as a man it melts the heart of any real godly man out there, and some worldly men too if you are married with one (1 Peter 3:1-2).
Even by being with a worldly man, Esther was able to totally change him through her godly form of submission and respect. I can even say that in some loving way she had him in the palm of her hand. And that seems so contradictory at first to have that happen by being (respectful and) submissive. But that's really how we work as men. To be with a respectful and submissive wife we will only want to cherish and protect her and feel ashamed if we ever talk bad back at her or do something wrong.
And yes as a woman she can use other tools to reach what she wants like being too direct, or too confrontational, etc... But it won't work as well and even sometimes be hurtful compared to doing it through a godly form of submission and respect.
It's the same for us men about how we have to be towards our wife. We could use other tools like starting to not consider her, giving orders, etc... Instead of doing things God's way. By being a servant leader, by honoring her, and showing how we love her every day in anything we do.
You just don't know how much I applaud you, your husband is lucky. My wife and I are separated right now because she doesn't know or doesn't want too respect me she tells me she wants to be with me but at the same time she wants to be able to do as she please without me having to ask her about it or tell her I'm not happy about things . I love her with all of me and would do absolutely anything for her I would give my life for her but sad truth is that she wouldn't do the same for me and I'm not trying to speak for her , but with how she is acting how else am I to think and feel. I just know that I would not wish this on my worst enemy . It Hurts to know that I love this woman soo much when she knows so little of respect towards me , she doesn't know the hurt I carry with me. Sorry for sharing a little bit to much of my life with you It felt good to get it of my chest though.
Brother I don’t know you, but I’m living in the same situations, my life compare to yours is almost a copy and paste, I mean exactly the same. I took her with her son, which is my own son now. I have 2 boys with her and the other one is on the way. I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman, but is the most painful thing to do. May be coz I love her, only God knows. since i married her 7 years ago, I never experienced peace, respect, submission, honesty, trust, stability, the only thing is keeping me with her, is my kids are still too little. 4 and 2 years old and another one the way.
Another thing that is keeping me is the promise I gave to God, of living with her all my life.
You’re not alone brother, lets get it out, it does help
You say you love and show her respect, and maybe you do, but would she say the same? Is it possible that you're being self-centered?
I love a woman that respects me and I respect a woman who loves me.
You really put this in perspective. Definitely a helpful video for people who aren’t normally submissive.
Thank you for speaking so boldly and transparently.
I have listened to several women explain this topic. You have done the best job explaining this topic. Exactly, prayers are powerful. Thank you. I hope my wife will listen to God.
Your husband is blessed to have a women who truly understand what it means submission , coz so many families are falling apart, reason because Christians now days we don’t want to put into action the act of husbands to truly love their wives and wives also to be submissive to their husbands I am a born again Christian, husband and a father of 3 wonderful boys
But I never experienced what it means submission or respect in my own household.
Sorry for putting my privacy out there, I just can’t keep it to my self anymore
Remain blessed with your lovely Family.
Nothing wrong with being strong and independent or being a problem solver but being told what to do or consulting with your husband in decision making or letting him decide is the key. If you are in a company, are you not required to do your job well? But at the same time, aren't you rather submissive or a follower or your boss/manager's instructions or leadership? So many women, Christians or otherwise can follow their workplace leader's leadership but not so at home with their husbands...think about it.
A husband doesn't rule over his wife. I address this in a post.
Beautifully said. Our generation is so off track. Both husband's and wives doing all they can to meet each others needs is crucial for making a marriage work.
Thank you for giving actual examples. Anytime I ask how does one summit to their husband, it's always very vague.
A secular video showed me this better than a religious one ever has. Women are designed to receive and support while men, good men at least, are motivated to carry out acts of service and gain pleasure from doing so. Basically, good men like to serve. So, under the umbrella of Ephesians 5:21, submit to one another, wives submit to their husbands by receiving and supporting, and husbands lead by carrying out acts of service to show their love as Christ loves the church. There is no hierarchy in these verses, no obedience, no who makes decisions, etc. This is just an example of Christ's command to love one another, but in a way that touches on the natures of femininity and masculinity. The sinful world, though, tries to make this about power and hierarchy. Remember, love one another, and couples are free to make decisions as they see fit.
I recieved a copy of Love and Respect from my mom before she passed away. I haven't read it, though I think it's time that I do :)
The lord told me in prayer time a few years ago that he wanted me to respect men
Sorry for commenting on you video a lot I just kinda vibe with it a lot because I grew up catholic and around a lot of rules about being a “proper women” and raised to only take care of my husband. So I do have my disagreements with the church. I have learned a lot about these relationships in my 25 years of life and why some work while others do not. I also just have more of a masculine outlook on life with some feminine aspects. Like I said everyone’s version is going to be different but I truest believe for myself I’m not made to be a follower to my husband rather a kind of coleader. I don’t mind doing things my boyfriend asks as long as he holds the same respect for me, which for the most part he does. I also change between husband and boyfriend because you talk about your husband and I mirror that language. I do have a boyfriend and we work well together as a team.
So, you prefer your emotions than the word of god
Great video Sarah. ☺️
You are wise beyond your years. I love the way you and Adam interact with each other in the comments too. 😄
It’s so cute, sweet and endearing.
Wow!! This is so much needed for this generation for sure!! So profound and important. I’m glad your sharing this. Thank you. Like they said “ the man is the head but the woman is the neck.” LOL, With intuition and lead by the Holy Spirit we can guide our husbands but with wisdom and understanding. And even if people just notice this issue, it is written! Thank you Abba for your word!! 🙏🙌🏽💯
Thanks girl you’re the best! 💕🙏 totally agree 🤍
@Praise TMH beloved, if you read carefully it’s says “Like they said” meaning like other people quote, if this way sounds better to you. It’s good to ask better than to assume. I hope this helps you understand. God bless you.
This is better: “ the man is the head but the woman is the heart.” :)
@@petrajendekova9637 I Like it! that’s a good one.
@Praise TMH Jesus loves you very much!:) Let's humble our hearts when we correct others and exalt Him
Wish I had followed this 😔. I hope it's not too late for my marriage of over 8 years
It’s never too late. Remember the parable of the workers of the last hour. You can change your attitude and redeem the Time. Ask God for help 💗
I really needed this message and will study those scriptures. Thank you
What if you don’t have a father but brothers but they aren’t “men”. They are irresponsible, immature, “adult babies” and have to be told what to do? Unemployed as well
Then they aren't to be taken seriously. Their opinions are wrong because they haven't earned their right to lead.
A woman submits to MEN, not manchilds.
I'm still confused, but perhaps I should take it down a notch, whats the difference between respecting men and respecting women, is it not just the same as respecting any person (human being)? Is there a need to specialise in respecting men or women?
Nope, this is patriarchal crap
Because men and women are different. You respect women and men in regards to what they give you.
Men go outside, risk their lives, resources, time and safety for women and their children(which always have a chance to not be his but not the other way around for women) and gather real life experience. Therefore, they know more about the world and are better equipped to make decisions. Men should have the final day because they ARE BETTER than women at taking decisions. That's the point. Is not some arbitrary rule that just so happen to be. It's because it's logically the best decision, and to pretend to be better than you really are, as a woman being equal to a man, it's disrespectful because it incorrectly devalues the man.
@@johnx140 but that can reversed when women also get education and get out there, read etc, it's not a rule nor law of the universe, but an arbitrary oppression and prohibition of women from getting education in the past, as you said yourself, it's by being exposed to more opportunities to get the ability to make more advanced decisions, so it goes for that men who are illy educated or just not willing to go out in a metaphorical sense would be worse than a woman who has gone through the mental effort to navigate the world, so in the end, it's not about the gender, also have you not know of plenty of tribal cultures in the world that had or have women who take the lead in their societies? Respect then is given accordingly. Take for example, Sabine Hossenfelder is a Nuclear Physicist and where I barely have the knowledge to comprehend her works, and so I pay her respect accordingly, in regards to what she offers to fellow youtube video watchers and the work she is working on, stop this gender stereotyping, as for a minute think about how men have certain kind of qualities that are not considered stereotypically masculine, take Alan Turing for example. Let people shine and contribute as much as they can, why suppress when they can do great things and even help everyone substantially, denying a woman from say being a doctor when she absolutely have the skills is just not logical, and since you seem like someone who pride themselves with logic, bringing up the word to justify your own biases and beliefs, wouldnt you just agree that we need both male and female doctors to keep the patients of both genders well and alive and keep the society running? anyway that's my gribe towards ESTJ sort of views like yours
@@johnx140 Sorry, but in this day and age, women are out in the world, are educated, and have experience. Saying that women are not as good as men at making decisions or that women don't know about the world is frankly going to drive people away from Christ and make Christians look, well, strange. Just look at all the female doctors, astronauts, scientists, etc.
@@Himmiefan Look at all the female soldiers in the trenches... oh wait.
Submission goes both ways. I would challenge the entire Church to spend far more time preaching and teaching on how men are to submit themselves to Christ. Too many women have been abused in the Church and stayed in unsafe situations due to the focus of women and submission. Damage has been done to an immeasurable degree and those of us who have walked with the Lord a long time need to be wise on communicating this topic.
Exactly right. Domestic violence was a big problem in these authoritarian marriages of years ago. This submitting stuff is absurd, and frankly dangerous. Religion is very scary, far too radical for me. 👎
@C M What proof do you have that God exists? What proof do you have that God and Heaven aren't merely humanity's way of softening the blow of mortality. Humanity makes up all kinds of things as we know. Religion has been used for millennia to manipulate and control people, esp women. Prove to me any of it is real, and not just made up.
Men do not submit to the church we submit only to god.
@C M That’s exactly what her comment says.
@@plasmaa76 Re-read. That’s not what she said.
This lady is young but she's been made culturally aware to what's important to build healthy families
Yes. Ask wisdom and you will receive. God is speaking to her and it’s a great video.
Right she knows there is no such thing as freedom. Just obedience and submission. That is great for men. Only. Only men benefit. Women never benefit from pretending to be a weak flower. It just means she is worth only what you paid.
I prayed for this so much! Still working progress, with the little faith I have left!
One of your best videos, Honey! Thank you for inspiring so many people with you words! ✝️🤗🙌🏽
Thanks honey love you! 🙏💕
Men and women must realize they are created differently. Different bodies, different minds. We should accept those differences if we want healthy society
You have no idea how much I needed this video today. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you for making this video! It was really encouraging to hear you sharing about this subject. I'm getting married this summer and I've been processing the subject of wives submitting to their husbands and what it actually looks like. I haven't completely figured it out yet (and as you said one learns through experience) but I feel like God really used your video to teach me about this subject. Especially what you said about respecting your parents (especially one's father) really resonated with me. Made me realize how much the father-daughter relationship I have reflects on the relationship with my fiance. I'm quite new to your channel but I can sense that God has blessed you with a lot of wisdom. Be blessed and keep it up with the videos!
Personally I find submission to a TRULY good man is the most fulfilling and satisfying thing EVER. It gives me sooooo much freedom to be able to allow my boyfriend (whom I trust fully and know as a fact that he wants the best for me) to make desisions for me, obey him and let him guide me. And it makes me truly happy and content!
@Praise TMH
The head of every human being, male or female is God. That said the head of every wife is God, not her husband. Her husband doesn’t take the position of God in her life. The husband is the head of the household and the wife his helpmate. However they both have God as their heads. Wives can, do and should have a relationship with God directly. Not with God through their husband.
Praise God ,
For reveling the mystery as it is , used right words from scripture
Feminism was never about equality. Never have they asked for women to be drafted, for example.
I created a whole philosophy on lasting relationships and you too seemed to have figured it out. Well, some of it. You are making great use of the golden rule which is really from the Bible. I'm not religious but I for reason spend all my time learning lessons from the Bible...
Wow, something I needed to hear! Love this!
If you continue on this path and your husband is truly a good man, I predict a very long,happy and successful marriage for you both.
Glory to God for you putting this video out. I needed to hear this. Thank you Sarah!!🙂
I wish more women thought like you. You’re very awesome. God bless you and your family.
You can totally be strong without being disrespectful completely agree, I’d never tell my husband he’s stupid for thinking one way or another I’d be understanding and try to figure out why he sees it that way. As for him being the leader of the household just because of his junk, nah. We both lead but that just my own balance. We lead together as a team not as a dictatorship. If he were to ask me to do laundry because he needs something, sure, I don’t mind. I like to help him because helping him helps build his success and well being just like if I am busy and I ask him to do the dishes he’ll agree no problem because he knows it will help with my success and we’ll being. It’s about being a team and leading together then one person taking the reigns. But everyone have a different balance and version of what that looks like.
Thank you for explaining the meaning of submit to your husband's. Now I have a better understanding. God bless you.😊
“The unbelieving husband can be saved through the believing wife” (Bede, 731 AD)
When a woman is nice to her man he will do anything for her and will do whatever it takes to give her the world.
I guess the whole thing is tricky. Because what some people respectful and disrespectful. Also because of the world we live in now where you need a 2 income household, and both men and women are at the same level of status, income, and education where there is room to colead. I believe God evolves before us and we need to view the scripture differently. It's one thing to speak life into our partners and to be thankful and appreciative. It's another not to challenge and not be enabling him under the idea that is not what is done.
God never evolves to contradict Himself
I married a "Christian" man when I was 21 years old. He was a religion major. His first job was youth pastor. He emotionally abused me for 20 years. He was careful not to leave physical bruises. All of our church leaders told me to submit to him. He almost completely shattered me mentally. I finally divorced him and was shunned by my "church family". I worked for that church as an administrator for over 10 years. When I left and had no support... the pastor cheated on his wife and left her and their 3 children for a fling.
After I went through the valley of the shadow of death... I met a wonderful man. He was agnostic. I, however remained firm in my Christian beliefs. This wonderful man was/is the kindest, sweetest, nicest, most generous man I have ever met whether inside or outside of the organized church. We married and this man is now my Christian spouse. He is smarter than I am in many ways as I get emotional. I'm smarter in some ways about finances, etc. I'm here to tell you that I believe that this is what the Bible is telling you. Submit to one another. Acknowledge each other's strengths and weaknesses. Work together. Would anyone like to tell me where I'm wrong here?
what a great story.
submission is a two way street. eph 5-21 says submit one to another but the church has taken that to only women should submit and like your marriage there has been a lot of abuse. it is now only coming to light
this video is extremely one sided. the bible does not say women are to only be wives, housemakers and birth huge broods.
have you heard of the podcast called bare marriage --lots of great info on the marriage dynamics and what God really expects of wives....and husbands.
So you chose the wrong man and you blame it on submission?
@@smiechu47
it is not about whether she chose the wrong man or not...the church is full of wolves because of the false teaching of "women submit obey be silent" --it attracts abusers and many of them hide behind those scriptures for their abusive behavior.
many churches advise a woman to go back to her abuser to "win him to Christ" be more submissive and obedient, which is what they were already doing. but it rarely if ever works.
you might want to read the stories of christian woman who just like the lady above married a "christian" man and was abused. there are hundreds of them coming out of the church and little is being done......... the southern bapt church is more concerned with a few women pastors then it is about the 200 named abusers...which btw, happen to all be men...within church leadership.
Supposing everything you said is true:
You did good but took too long for it. If s man abuses someone, the community should unite and intervene him to tell him to stop, repent and change his ways. If he still abuses you but shows sings of changing, give him times since people don't change overnight and bad habits die hard. If he doesn't wanna change, a woman should gather evidence of the abuse to the best of his ability, then divorce him after 3-6 months and make his case public. Shaming the unrepentant pleases God.
Your church was a disgrace and an insult to God. I'll give you a secret: most churches are fake and Judas Iscariotes's. They are complicit to the sins of the world and therefore guilty as well.
Hope youll be happy forever with your real husband now 😊
I always aspired to be a good wife, who respects her husbands, who submits to him and follows his lead. But my parents are against this nature of mine. they always tried hard to make me more masculine and independent. but my basic nature is to be docile and to value love more than my independence
Damn. Your parents are your enemies wtf lol
I used to be a Christian and I’m not sure what I believe now. I never had positive male roles in my life which makes it hard for me to want a partner. I love being single and on my own. I feel that submission should go both ways depending on the matter. For example if the car breaks down, then one partner should be more submissive to the other partner who has more knowledge and experience in the field. I want to be respected and held at the same level as a man.
There is a lot wrong with what you said.
elaborate. Don’t make a claim without context. That’s wrong.
@@TheMan-ud2wq cool
@@cherriixo what context do you need?
@@Bryana13 yup
I am immensely impressed 😁👍🏾... This women's eyes have truly been opened!!!!
What a great video!
As a man I have supported feminist once but realized that we are - men and women - different.
The strongest marriages I have seen always shown a respectful wife and a loving husband. The wokisme is trying to change our very own nature but it’s impossible.
This will be forever needed be blessed!!!
Thank you so much for watching 😀💕
I think the submitting your talking about is actually compromise, and finding a balance between the couple to work together in a progressive perspective way. And men should NOT completely lead the household but neither should women. Submission, I think, has to do with gender roll traditions and women giving up there own thoughts feelings and behaviors as a sacrifice for there husbands ego and well being, just so they can feel powerful and respected. This is not how it should be it should be unless you choose for it to be that way. And you both have to choose that. It is okay to challenge and ask why, you should never be little or get passive aggressive, but it’s okay to disagree on something but you both make that sacrifice and compromise. A women does not have to submit and let him take charge. Same with the opposite, a man should never have to submit and let her take charge. You both make the sacrifice and talk about it together. It’s a team effort. I’ll give a simple example. When we go out to eat me and my boyfriend, we’ll look at the menus and decide what we want and then when the waiter comes I let him tell the waiter what he wants and what I want. It’s the simple fact I know he likes the feeling of ordering for me. That can be seen as submitting. But one thing he submits to for me is he lets me open all the Amazon packages because it’s like opening a present. Even if it’s something he really wants to open himself. Both people have to submit both people have to compromise it’s about finding that balance. That balance is found between both partners and deciding what should happen. You do get a variety of couples where it can be 50/50 or 40/60 or completely traditional. As long as it’s discussed and agreed upon.
I think the examples you cited are fairly trivial examples that don't require a leader, but I think a fairly prominent leader (however subtle of one) is needed in a variety of scenarios.
For example, take a dance between a couple holding each other both literally and figuratively. If no one leads here, then there's no movement. Both people would be waiting for the other to initiate and take the lead, and that would last indefinitely until someone does. If both people try to take the lead, then they will step on each other's toes. For a couple to dance beautifully together, someone has to be the ultimate leader and the other has to be the willing follower. If they take turns doing this without being awkward and constantly trying to figure out who does what and when, then someone still has to ultimately lead the choreography and the other has to be a willing follower. This is a practical requirement regardless of gender; a homosexual couple will face the same problem and dance very awkwardly without a clear leader.
The ultimate point of a leader is to move multiple people in a uniform direction as in the analogical dance, and where you discover who is the more prominent leader in a relationship is not in small routines that you've already established, but in terms of who is ultimately moving the both of you in uniform direction.
As another example, take a couple who has a dispute they can't resolve in a headless way. Perhaps it's over where to send their children to school, and both are passionate and unable to come to an agreement. If there's no leader here to resolve the conflict and say, "All right, this is what we're going to do," then there's no movement as in the dance analogy, and the children will not be sent to any school while both parents are waiting for the other to take the ultimate lead and responsibility associated. If both people try to lead here, they will step on each other's toes and most likely fight and divorce. Either that or they might have to appeal to a third party to lead like a judge in a courtroom or a marriage counselor. Relationships without a clear and competent leader will often devolve in this way at some point.
This is the sort of practical need for a leader, and generally all groups no matter how small or how large will tend to need a reasonably prominent one. A good one will also tend to listen to the other people's desires and, while still being the one responsible for making the executive decision, factor those desires into every one of those decisions.
@@darkengine5931 Excellent comment. Another quite common example is what house a new married couple should purchase. A competent leader, ideally, will take input from the other party, but still make the ultimate final decision.
I wouldn’t underestimate the power of keeping in touch with your own needs, talents, and career skills. It is important…you may not realize why it’s so important until it’s too late. When you are consumed with all of the responsibilities of mothering, keeping the house, etc, and you start to feel like an empty shell, that’s when you may realize that you left your own potential and talents behind to fulfill your husband’s expectations. This is just my experience, and kudos to you if you find fulfillment in shifting to serving your husband’s needs. I just felt like it was neglectful to let my own dreams and needs go for those of another.
Hey Shannon! Thank you so much for sharing! Would you say that your husband encourages you in your projects? I see that this woman has her own projects and personality
to me more important than respect is trust. if i can trust my woman i'm happy.
hey sarah! i had a realization while you were reading that passage in ephesians 5 and i thought i'd share.
as you were reading i was wondering why there was an emphasis on those specific things that wives and husbands were to do, and i related it back to that thing you mentioned in the beginning of the video about how men need respect and women need love. what if all of that is a result of the curse on man in genesis? in the garden, when eve is tempted by the serpent and eats the fruit she is actually undermining adam's authority/judgement as her husband, and then when adam pushes the blame onto eve when God confronts them about eating the fruit he ultimately denies her of love through a wrong decision made in her weakness despite succumbing to that weakness himself. this means that the passage in ephesians 5 is not just an instruction for husbands and wives, but in heeding to those instructions we're partnering with the spirit to actively work against the curse that has been passed onto us since the garden. idk i just thought that was such a cool point that the holy spirit pointed out to me. i would love to hear your thoughts on this if you have any.
as a side, i truly love the work you're doing and the content you're creating. wishing you and your husband all the best!
ephisians 21 also says submit to one another, then it specifically says what wives and husbands should do. most modern sensibilities have an ick with that phrase wives submit to your husband
this video is so amazing! thank you for sharing Sarah, i just grew from watching this, Thank God for you
Thank you for sharing and explaining how to be respectful to your husband. I never heard any christain woman teach like this before. 😊✝️
The examples you gave really helped me. I keep hearing, respect, honor and submit but never really understood what that looks like or what it doesn't. I really appreciate your vulnerability!
This is my main problem in my marriage. I feel like i don't even matter to her. I don't know how much more i can take and i blame myself for it being this way
sorry for bad english it isnt my first language
hi im 14 and idk i feel so sick whenever i think of the idea of submiting i saw someone say in the comments that that is beceaus theres something wrong with me but i just dont get it why do only women have to submit why cant it be depending on you ralationship evreyone knows there are dominant and submisive men and women so why cant it be that if you're submisive you find someone dominant and if ur dominant you find someone submisive. But then there are also poeple that are simply neutral dont mind being submisive or dominant in some situations just whatever is practical a man being the leader ALWAYS can simply never work what if the car breaks down and she has knowledge and he does not? What should he lead then, ofcourse not that would be redicules.
So what i think is that that rule aplied to the poeple in whatever time those paragrafs where writen idk if this is common knowledge but a lot of scriptures where written for the land of isreal not the intire world and not the future whe are sometimes suposed to change them according to todays world cuss ofcourse women used to have to obey men back then it was suposed to help them cuss they could not rule they had no education and no knowledge on anything accept cooking so she wasn't capeble of leading and if she would have tried knowing what time she lived in who knowes what would have happend to her but thats just what i think im not sure if its 100% true but what sarah posted i think cant be the full truth cuss there are so many misenterpetations (maybe just my opinion) and thins i think she didnt ad like why do we have to humble ourselves and not men so men get to basicly have evreything there way cuss they like being respected WHO DOESN'T. To me it sounds like what she's saying is well you have to humble yourselve and give up youre pride but men get to have it there way cuss they like it that way. she didnt give a reason for that.
Ik that someone will say yea bt men need to love there wives yea duh so its fine for a women to not love her husband like hows dat fun like for men they HAVE to enjoy and be in love in there marriage (sounds very hard) while women have to give up there pride like how is that fair this fact makes me hate being a women if my future husband decides to not ask me something and just do so hes fine like why am i even there then wherent we described as helpers EQAULS but theres nothing eqaul about that men have it so much esier it seems.
Ik someone will say something like "yea but men are ecpected to die for there wives" yea me too thats easy to do anyone that loves someone so dearly that they would choose to spend the rest of there lives with them would die at the very thought of losing them or life in misery for the rest of there live so it would be much esier for them to choose to die for them.
So again they have it so easy they can basicly do whatever they want aslong as they love us while we cant even be sarcastic around them like why i feel like crying cuss i cant seem to make sense of this i cant believe that this could posebly be somthing from god it must have been edited can someone please help me.
i feel so lost should i be having these thoughts am i wrong for tinking this is unjust? is there something wrong with me? I ask god almost evrey night to help me am i doing something wrong.
It just doesnt sound right.
YOu are 14 and should not be worrying about such things. Focus on school
@@niltomega2978 lmao
I have a question.
What do you do when you're called to work for God and to travel around the country but your wife won't submit and go along with you 😕 ?
I can't be in a long distance relationship as a married man 😕.
I'm in this situation right now 😕.
Thanks
Respect is everything Respect is LOVE 💘 💯
Hey there this video make sense totally and in my personal preferences i treat not only a partner like this but all people. But was wondering we are supposed to be like this but are you saying a man doesnt have to reciprocate it back. If we ask for laundry to be done he can say no and still be good in god graces? Or if we have an idea they are allowed to control an belittle us? Im really confused.
Some husbands are not worthy of being the leader of the family. If he is drinking, drugging, gambling or abusing the people who love him, he is not fit.
I only see this working with men who are worthy of being the masters of their house. If they are kind, loving, honest, judicious…
He has to be a man first, before he can be the “man of the family.”
I bind myself to submit to my godly-ordained spouse who confidently knows how to lead me and is being held accountable for the way he leads me while binding to hell being led by any man in whom I should not put in any confidence when he is not taking up accountability of leading me rigtheously, in accordance with this word and ephesians 5:22-33, hebrews 13:17, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah:
"Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account."
Everman wants women like you. Also, it's a big responsibility for the man to be worthy and say worthy and deserving.
For all pastors, priests, bishops, servants or anyone who preach Paul’s rules for the roles of women and men in marriage and in the church. If these rules are not from God for each woman and man for our time and until end of days, you are committing blasphemy against the Holy Spirit
In addition, if Paul’s rules for the roles of women and men in marriage and in the church, which is applied by all churches, have caused a woman or a girl to stumble in their faith or a man to stumble with pride then this verse is for you.
“If anyone causes one of these little ones - those who believe in me - to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea.”
🙏 I appreciate how u speak the word as it should be. Thank you
This is pure instinct and truth ! A man is only as strong as the woman who stands behind him and vice versa . It’s hard for men men to not be overbearing and it’s hard for women to obey ! Maybe that’s because of modern laws ! The whole system needs a swift kick in the ass !but in conclusion this is a mans world! Love your man and change your life for the best!!!
Sarah this was so good I wish I had heard this when I was first married. 💕💕💕💕💕🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Aw thank you so much for watching Auntie Emily 💕🙏 love you 😍
This is so awesome, I need me a woman like that. And I agree woman tend to be more emotionally intelligent.
Submit is to support, help. Words lose their meaning over time and has we see them today, they meaning is different previously in another time. Women was created to "Help" man. This does not suggest servant or secondary figure to "submit". The original word in Hebrew is "Ezer". which does mean Helper. The actual meaning is to " Help another in need " Remember people; God is often described in Old Testament as Ezer. We must also take into account the the Bible has been translated down into numerous different languages as well. We can never suggest God as one that Submits or is a servant. The background of Ephesians, was believed to be a letter written by St Paul ( Previously known as Saul ) written around AD 60-62. St Paul was a man, who originally persecuted Christians, who had a life changing event, when he heard the voice of God. St Paul travelled extensively spreading the word of God. He wrote about his time, situations and addressed problems occurring "during his time".
Im currently about going through a divorce because I don't feel "my wife" submits in our marriage
I wouldn't divorce her for this. Nooo. You divorce for adultery or she's violent/dangerous or SHE decides to leave for good.
I'm the boss the leader number one but I love I care with all my being for my woman!!!
What camera are you using?
Love this video thank you.. send it to my wife
Why does practically everyone, Christian youtubers refer to audience of women as "you guys"? I'm not a guy. I'm an older woman of 60. It's just frustrating. For one, it implies a merging of genders. Like calling a woman 'dude'. Men, nowadays don't honor or court women and our speech perpetuates this. I love all people and pray for them. Calling sisters 'you guys' reinforces the LGBTQ agenda that our biology and sex isn't important. I'm not a guy. I'm a woman. A sister. Other than that, love your videos. Just making a point.
My sister, I mean no disrespect, but saying, “you guys” was a slang phrase coined sometime 70 years ago or so, to address a group of people. It even specifically got popularized and used by women as a gender-neutral term when addressing multiple people, regardless of gender. Nowadays it is so ingrained it is perceived as a colloquial phrase. So the lady saying it isn’t literally calling you a dude. She addressing a group of strangers (us) in a catch-all, gender-neutral phrase that existed and has been used since before you were born. Which it’s context has not changed.
There is no LGBTQ agenda with saying the phrase.
@@DodgeDart I hear you. It just bothers me. I'll get over it. Thanks.
Does that mean you have a problem with the Bible (especially KJV) often using the masculine term “brethren” as the default when the recipients of the message are male and female?
As a woman I am not anyone’s brother, just like I am not a “guy” but still understand that these terms are intended to address a collective and is not a nod toward androgyny / gender obscurity.
This was really good and challenging
So the man can fulfill his God given role at its best.
As a man, i think being a submissive woman doesn't mean you are a slave nor makes you dependent and weak. To make it clear, there are abusive dominant man and there are kind dominant man as well, meaning that it will solely depend upon the woman's discernment or feeling if she'll continue to live/decide to submit to whichever what kind of man he is. A kind but dominant man will always balance his dominant and soft side to the woman she truly loves especially if he feels that his woman submits to her. The moment a man feels like he is being challenged and ripped off of his authority by the woman she loves or he feels he is being overpowered, that will leave a hole in his heart forever and it somehow doubt his capabilites as a man. Personally, I am dominant in our relationship with my partner now, before I don't realize that I am overly dominanting her in some ways and she just submits and she'll say yes even if it's against her will without me knowing. Now I realize that all throughout our relationship there are no confrontation because she just listens to me and kept her mouth shut and it made me feel so sick of myself and I really regret what I did. Now don't get me wrong, she is a strong independent woman who can defend herself and live by her own rules but she decided not to provoke and overpower me everytime I am mad at her for something that she did. I admit I do kinda want to be in charge of all situation in our relationship but that changed me, I openly say that I am shameful to her of what I did and I don't deserve her. All I am saying is that, she softened my heart and calmed the storm in me. Her love and trust towards me made me the man I never thought I can be. Up to now, she still wholeheartedly submits to me. I admit I do kinda like it hehe but now I know that she does that to me, I will always make her feel loved, cared and respected. I will do anything for her even if it will cost me my life. She gave me what I asked, I will give her what she asked as well or even more. Honestly now I don't want to be the dominant one anymore because there's no need to and because there are no opposing force and actually she's way better than me in most things lol. We live our lives in happiness and in peace as we both try to listen and understand each other without dominating. Now im in a dilemma thinking on how am i supposed to be better for a woman of her kind.
I just watched this video because I didn't know this is a complex topic to mostly women.
Thankfully the one I met was the one very supportive who brought the best in me and not the one who will challenge me for a duel lol.
What should a women do if she is a working women??? Pays bills equally??if i quit my job n submit to him completely n become an ideal housewife take care of him, give birth to his babies...n he gets bored of me n goes out cheating on me knowing the fact that I m submissive n the only thing i'll be able to do is pray to god n be more submissive n still treat him with respect to win him over. Doesn't having no career of my own n depending on him completely creates a situation where I have to agree to all his demands n ignore all his defects just to make sure he doesn't leave me ???
Wisdom is profitable to direct you my dear. You can of course get a job outside the home and get paid, however your husband has to agree to it.
Why don't you leave him??? He's cheating on you, a clear sign of disrespect and disregard for your spiritual and mental wellbeing. In the passage of submitting, it says that your husband submits to you AND that he is to love you as Christ loved the church, this sounds like your husband and the devil have more in common than not, no offense.
God put you here to live an abundant life, abundance and abuse or disrespect do not go together.
@Praise TMH God lol.
@Praise TMH I do not care if you can accurately quote Bible passages lol. The head of me as a woman is God, putting man before God is contradictory. So you can walk around with a false sense of authority all you want but I frankly do not care, and I would never consider you to be a godly man ever if your first thought from me telling the OP to honor herself is to bring up a vague verse
fit to your worldview with no consideration whatsoever of the emotional and spiritual damage being done to her by her cheating husband.
@Praise TMH you also must be forgetting this "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Hebrews 13:4
Could you please help me with this. Growing up my mom did not set the best example of being a godly wife. She always told me I should not submit to a man and if I do that means he is controlling. Now I’m a wife of 16 years and I still struggle with this. I do not know how to be a good wife.
I think the greater challenge lies in being dominant (the leader, i.e.) rather than follower. Good leaders usually inspire loyalty and submission very naturally. That applies for us guys too: for example, when I have a great and extremely responsible boss in my workplace, I naturally submit to his/her leadership because I know I'm in good hands and that he/she is looking out for my well-being. However, I once had a very irresponsible and bad leader in my 20s and that led to chaos in the company with everyone competing to take charge of the situation since he wasn't stepping up to do it himself.
Submitting to your husband voluntarily doesn't mean he's controlling; it means you trust him to protect and provide and look out for your well-being. He's only controlling if he demands this of you instead of inspiring it out of you. Also, just as a good boss doesn't needlessly micro-manage his workers and gives them a great deal of independence and autonomy, so too does a good husband. He should also listen very carefully to any concerns or desires you have (and you should definitely speak up about them) so that he can weigh them carefully into any decisions he makes that impact you both.
One of the things is to let him take ultimate responsibility for your family's well-being (provided he's capable of it). Like a cooperative worker at a business doesn't take ultimate responsibility for their product's success; that's impractical and leads to conflicts because the worker lacks ultimate control over the product's success. They instead let their boss take ultimate responsibility. The job of the boss is to then make everyone feel like they're in good hands under his/her guidance so that they don't have to worry about the product's success.
People be married 2 min and already giving marriage advice.
Wisdom is learned and applied and doesn’t require a time requisite.
only 21,666 views? this needs to be spread loud and clear! you are speak TRUTH and that's shall reverberate true..
As much as I love contents like these. I hardly ever see men making content on 'how to love a woman' 'lead her right' 'love her through all her phases' 'its not about looks' 'buy her nice things'. I wish men made such content at the rate women make these content. Again, I'm totally for submission. The right man deserves submission indeed, and the wrong man deserves all my force.
Look up Paul Washer Biblical Manhood. He covers husbands loving their wives a lot. 💗
Your husband deserves your submission, period.
It is (partly) about looks, both partners are morally obligated to make an effort to be attractive to one another, since they are the only source of sexuality for each other, if they are in a typical mutually exclusive monogamous relationship. This is a forgotten moral aspect of monogamy, doesn't even depend on religion technically, it's just ethical. If you don't try to be attractive for your partner, but still demand that they remain faithful to you, you are denying them sexuality.
You cleary wasn't listening to anything this godly humble woman said SMH. You speaking from all pride and ego and correction the right man don't deserve your submission your husband does. It's simple if you don't wanna submit don't get married
@@corasbloom exactly
Real Man Love Godly Women ! Real Women pray for Godly Men !
Great message, Sarah xx
This was so helpful! Thank you ❤
My husband and I also found that book, Love and Respect, super helpful. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr Laura Schlessinger (despite cringe title) was a game changer for me too