I need to Leave | S08E30
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2023
- Sailing has taught me a lot about myself. It’s taught me how to learn. It’s taught me how to make mistakes. It’s taught me that I’m capable of more than I ever imagined. But this week it taught me that there might be something wrong with me. Here in the Ionian Islands of Greece we have been in one of the most beautiful places that I’ve ever seen, but it is also one of the most crowded, and I find myself constantly on the verge of a nervous breakdown. And I’m forced to confront a very raw and sensitive aspect of myself, one that seems to make me incapable of enjoying such an amazing place.
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I'm fond of the advice, "before you diagnose yourself with depression, be sure you aren't just surrounded by assholes." In vacationland, with many trying to live for 52 weeks in one, you may well be.
Jordan, I'm a little crude myself, so the post above speaks to me!
It's not paranoia, if the B...rds really are out to get you (even if it's through stupidity or lack of skills).
You're doing it right, and the beauty is you can change your neighborhood easier than most!
Keep your family safe, and yourself sane. Find that sweet spot, safe anchorage and a little peace!
That should be on a tshirt
Jordan and Desiree, you both are very competent and can ride this out. Everybody has problems like this once or maybe a lot more in their lives. There should be some kind of mechanism, order, rules that can be enforced to let only so many boats in an area and that would absolutely solve the problem. Of course humans being what they are can't get together on this, story of the human race. Everybody should be as happy as ESA, thanks much and look forward to your next❤❤❤
If I can help you at all, I suffer from anxiety and depression way the world is now it’s very wishy-washy I have a brand new boat for you to maintain a wife and a daughter. Just those three
Would you send a normal man crazy you’re doing a great job learn how to breathe learn how to except the good things that you’ve done each breath each day, measure your accomplishments and sit back in the confidence of your own self reliance. I hope this helps. take care my friend.
Jordan, remember, you were a newbie one time and I’m sure you made some people nervous. We all have a learning curve. If someone maneuvering makes you nervous as long as it doesn’t affect you, offer assistance, teach someone as you’ve been taught. Make a friend, chances are you’ll run into them again down the road. It seems that you look for things to be upset about. You don’t have to be perfect. We are all flawed, just roll with it. Try to embrace your surroundings,boats, people or new environments. Remember your in their country.
That little girl is just the cutest little bundle of pure happiness!! That face is adorable!!
I think your anxiety comes from being a father and wanting to protect your family. It's normal
Could not agree more! It’s part of being the protector of your wife and child.
Exactly- new dad and definitely those stressors are real. Having people nearly hit your boat/home everyday would stress anyone. Not just you. Try mindfulness in the meantime and scoot somewhere less crowded.
@@MrHogadogHa now I know what my t shirt with mindfull state means!
Ha, yes true- btw mindfulness won't stop a charter boat running into you.
yes! the male actually changes (new neural pathways and stuff) as fatherhood sinks in. So, more careful, aware, anticipating threat etc. Translates hugely to sketchy anchorages that create loss of control/security. Nothing is wrong with you Jordan. Try to be OK with the tension. See it for what it is, accept it and know you'll deal with it well.
Don't sweat your issue Jordan, a lot of us don't like crowds and in some cases, people in general. I don't think the is anything wrong with you, you're just part of a group with your kind of perspectives. I also think that is partly a prerequisite for being a cruiser, you don't want to spend time in large groups, you want to spend it by yourself or in small groups.
Well said! Jordan, there is nothing wrong with you. There are a lot of us out there just like you.
Agree. Be compassionate with yourself. You have new responsibilities and are exposed to a lot of new experiences. You are very skilled and not everyone has the same skill level which would create worry in many people.
So glad your not afraid to talk about your true feelings ,
Oh, and I would also add that having a baby changes your priorities and what you are looking for. Those people on a week’s holiday are looking for a very different experience to you and the stakes are very very different. Your boat is your family home and the trip is your lifestyle. For them, it’s a holiday and…. I notice you don’t drink alcohol. Speaking as a European I can tell you a lot of drinking is going on around you. If you put an English bloke on a boat and stick him in Greece for a week he is going to be drinking.
I like your channel x
So glad there wasn’t an ad for Better Help in this episode! 😂 Well done, as always!
I gotta admit I thought this was definitely going to have a better help ad. Kudos to him for being real, and not shoving online therapy ads at us during his anxiety.
Indeed. I actually tried BetterHelp but quit right away when I learned they are being sued for sharing patient information. That and the care wasn't very good as well.
@@tofuComputer I’m a Licensed Counselor and Better Help is horrible for therapists. They grossly underpay. I’m very glad Jordan got support and has been so open but there are much better services out there such as Headway and Alma
I was thinking the exact same thing 😅
Being aware of risks has a few times saved my life and often prevented serious harm. It is difficult though to find a fine balance and I am not sure I ever have. But being still alive at 62 with years of motorcycle riding behind me I know that worry can sometimes be your friend.
Your situational awareness is excellent and you know what you are doing. Anxiety usually serves as an early warning and that is a good thing! What is not good is that you think there is something wrong with YOU. Watched you many seasons now and know you have struggled with self doubt, etc but please, please, please....knock off the negative self talk. Not a damn thing wrong with you! Relish the awareness, don't beat it down or feel guilty to recognize that most people automatically lose 40 points off their IQs when they get on the water! You have a beautiful family and you are a Good Man!
Best tip for the med. Stay away from everyone, get a long chain (100m at least) and put some more rope and anchor in the deep water so stay out in the bays, then use the dinghy to come in. Avoid Italian boats at all costs.
This was a particularly good episode in no small part because it was so good to see how you two support each other when one of you is stressed or unhappy about something.
Jordan, a lot of men will not share their personal insecurities with others..... it is big of you that you do so with us. It makes me feel closer to your family in a humbling way. It makes me want to keep coming back to your channel. I love your narration of these episodes, they are so, so, good. I have learned a ton from Project Atticus and I appreciate you, Desiree and your precious daughter who is one of the happiest babies I have ever seen. You guys are such great parents. Keep up the great work guys, can't wait to tune in next week. Be well, be safe.
Jordan, I know many would call you a worry wart, but your cautiousness may just save a life one day, learn to be OK with who you are and just avoid situations that make you worry, aim to avoid being in the wrong place at the wrong time and you'll be a lot happier (I see in this video you're already starting to do that 👍)
That just reinforced his anxiety. Not helpful.
@@thecirinos You say that as though anxiety is bad, it's just an emotion, you learn to control your emotions and use them to strengthen yourself they can can be very positive. Every emotion can be either a weakness or a strength, depends how you control it or let it control you.
Feel you man. I suffered from anxiety alot of my life. What works for me is putting things into perspective. Understanding that I'm powerless over everyone and everything around me. Knowing that I can't sweat the small stuff and unless it's life or death, it's all small stuff. I think your insight is healthy. By no means am I telling you what to do, these seam to work for me. ❤ your channel. Peace out.
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There is an anchorage called "Amos" on the North Westernmost point of Greece on an islet called Othonoi off the coast of Corfu (Latitude: 39° 50' 29" N, Longitude: 19° 24' 08" E). This anchorage is very secluded where very few sailors know about it. You will love it there to relax and unwind. There are two general stores and a couple of cafe's. The anchorage provides free water. Ask for Yiannis Katechis who manages the anchorage. Good Luck and enjoy your stay in Greece!
Jordan you are not crazy. My wife and I crew 2x times year on a47ft catamaran in Greece during shoulder season .We have an experienced Greek captain and the place is insane. I told my wife I would never charter a boat there. The feelings you have are normal for anyone who tries to balance risk/reward. You hit the nail on the head ,too many boats and few safe places to keep them. Love your channel .
So glad to hear someone else has an aversion to crowds. I personally am annoyed when we go to a tourist spot to “see the sights” and there’s a million other people ruining it. It definitely spoils the ability to enjoy without anxiety because you’re constantly trying to be one step ahead of “that guy”. You’re not broken, you’re responsible and it comes with a price.
Second that, man. I absolutely cannot stand crowds, especially around these supposed highlights. Turn around the corner to lesser known places and you will find other spots not in guidebooks or travel websites that are just as awesome and beautiful, and probably even more. I will actually look up the highlights, only to avoid them, hahaha. The world and even the Med is full of off the beaten path locations and you don't even really have to look for them. Just walk away from the crowds and you will run into them by accident. And it even feels better to have the have 'discovered' them yourself!
A true skipper will always be aware of the risks at all times, it is normal especially when everything you hold dear and own is within your boat. You will become more comfortable with the anxiety over time but it will always be there as is part of the life you choose Jordan. All I would say is that some of the people you will meet on charter yachts desperately wish they were you and get to feel that life for two weeks a year. Please be patient with them.😊
Perfect answer !
I can only say...your not alone in those feelings. Even on land, when I leave the crowded metropolitan areas and start entering the rural country, I feel a sense of relief. It's like I was meant to be away from the crowded masses. I think you're the same way.
Baby looks great & happy!!! Welcome to fatherhood.
The anxiety may be related to that feeling of when everythings going right, we anticipate something will go wrong, especially if theres been incidents in the past.
Iv spent 50 summers on the sea going to our island and I can tell you every time our children were in the boat my guard was at max..use this emotion as a tool like an extra brain to be turned on and off as your situation calls for it ..but learn to do it in a relaxed way..if you truly love the sea as I do it will come to you don't stress over it ..God knows your heart for your family He has been there 🙏. I had all the family on board and the fog became thick My compose did not work we were headed out to see I knew the tide well in my location blinded by the fog I stopped the boat and threw a 15 inch of floating hemp over board and watched it run away from the boat . It was an incoming tide so I set my pocket compose found by my daughter in the rugh sack to the drifting rope and off we went 45 min later the landing came into view ..trust what u know feel the sea in your bones and fly on the wind..good sailing
As a father of 3 I empathise with you. I think it is stressful when around people who are self absorbed and unaware of the consequences their actions have on others. There is a lot of beauty in the world where the herd do not congregate, and you are less at risk from others. I have a lot of respect for you both as parents and sailors. Go well
At first glance I read your comment as "as a father of 31.." I totally understood the anxiety lol
I read the same thing. 😂
Don’t be so hard on yourself I like your cautious ways don’t change how you do what you do.
I feel your pain. We have only spent 2 seasons in the med and have med moored maybe 5 times total. I pick our anchorage to swing moore and accept a longer dingy ride i also like the privacy. Don't forget nearly all those boats are charters with no experience other than video instruction before their holiday. Wait til October, it's a different world.
I see a caring father and husband and a fierce protector of his family. I see a man I would choose to sail through a storm with. I see a brave courageous man following his truth. I see a man questioning himself and in so doing growing into a better version of himself. I see a man gifted and chosen by a beautiful supportive partner. I see a man who is hard on himself for being the man he is. I see a solid good man! Keep on keeping on, you are on track and you got this🤗.
Hi Jordan, I’m a psychotherapist and a green sailor. While watching this episode, before you even made the decision to move away from the crowds, I was telling my husband, he needs to avoid those crowed areas and pivot toward what matters and then you came to that insight. I would never suggest that someone should expose themselves to suffering unless they’re trying to overcome a particular fear, like a phobia regarding crowds or learning to be more assertive. Also, Europeans aren’t as sensitive as us Americans. They appreciate the directness. Americans, we kinda avoid it😊You and Desiree figured out how to med moor and in a pinch, you could do it again but 1) it looked stressful 2) no one wants to be on the road with crazy drivers let alone crazy boaters. We admire both you and Desiree’s tenacity and ability to work through a problem. And Desiree has really good hair. Hang in there!
Respect to you for making the call to leave. Takes courage.
Man Jordan you just keep inspiring me! The care you put into the family, and boat are astronomical. Striving to be a bit like you everyday. Don’t beat yourself up too much, as a man you’ll always run that scenarios through ya brain. Desiree the way you supported him in this video is lovely. Fav family on RUclips ❤
Everyone who gets a boat and plans on seeing the world imagines secluded Islands with peaceful anchorages and solitude. Port life is most of the reality.
Jordan, Med mooring goes with the territory. When we sailed in the Med, everyone would moor stern to the quay. That allowed all the locals on their evening stroll to peer into your cabin. I preferred to go in bow first, dropping my anchor off the stern, which gave us privacy and kept the quay dirt and dust out of the cabin. Many Italian harbors are semi-circular so as the Med mooring people anchor, rodes lay over one-another. I wondered how we could leave in the morning with an anchor-rode salad on the bottom of the harbor.
In the morning scuba divers are on harbor duty. When you indicate to them you'd like to leave, they'll go down along your rode; get the anchor; untangle your anchor and anchor rode from all the others and hand it back to you. Their charge for their service was very reasonable. In the Med, at Italian ports, boats are very tightly packed. When you arrive there someone will wave at you, and indicate you should moor there. All boats will move a few centimeters and Voila, you have a spot for the night.
Italian sailboats also have a gate in the stern rail and many have elegant and elaborate teak boarding ladders - with hand rail - so that you can leave your boat in proper Italian evening "go to dinner" stylish dresses or slacks and silk shirts.
The best restaurants, gelato, and clothing stores are all in the quay area.
Italian ports also have public baths available. Ask!
Enjoy your trip.
I'm a grandfather these days and my love of and fascination with cute babies has grown so much in the last couple years. I'm so grateful to get to see your wonderful little girl! Jordan, I really hope you got away from all of the anxiety. Your patience and perseverance are really noble.
Beautiful people thank you for your video.
Jordan - Thanks for being so open and real. I can identify with the way you think.
I'm a twelve-year U.S. Navy veteran and spent my time on three different nuclear powered submarines. Quite a different dynamic from your life on Atticus II, which is why I love your show so much!
What you are describing is what we in the nuclear world call "conservative decision making" and it's a good thing that will drive risk down and will keep you and your beautiful family safe.
Keep on keeping on and get the heck out of dodge 😊
I have noticed since you've become a Father the weight of everything now weighs double... You can't constantly second guess everything... An my dear heart as I suffer with anxiety... Please don't let it stop you from living life... ! I say this because it what I did... An I am relearning how to live an move thru this beautiful world .. when I feel it coming on what I do is focus on something an I put myself in that moment not in my worries an fears... But in the moment!!
I love how you 2 support each other.. So inspiring. Live is a beautiful thing . Your both just the bestest parents wee Isla could ever have!! ✌🏼💗😊⛵
Most people become more cautious and anxious as they get older and when they have the additional responsibility of a young child. I was 28 when my daughter was born and I went through the same thing you are going through. Now at 56 my goal is to have as little stress and worry as possible even if that means traveling to places “off peak” and taking roads less traveled. I enjoy peace and quiet. That is why we moved out of the city. Find your own pace and your own place.
Hey mate, there's nothing wrong with you, different isn't wrong. You've got this, together, what a team you two make. 🤗
I just want to say that you trusting your gut makes you not only an excellent father but husband as well.
Also, the craziness of what was going on in that anchorage would give me anxiety too!
Have grace for yourself. This too is part of the adventure.
And your videos of a window into this lifestyle are super meaningful. You don't labor in vain!
I'm with you bud, can't take being around knuckle-heads or in crowds. My entire life I have chosen remote places and small gatherings. I'm 71 and it hasn't changed. Fair winds and smooth sailing.
As an introvert, I energize by being alone. Extroverts energize by being around people. However when Extroverts comes near me they can suck out my strength. I think it is the same with personal space. Some people want space, others want closeness! The latter type of people make me want to take up shooting as a hobby! Jordan, there is NOTHING wrong with you!!!!!! You are simply different that a lot of people. This does not make us wrong, just different. Learn to embrace who you are and accept your uniqueness! You are, from the perspective of a long time viewer, a really great guy. Find your comfort zone, learn toendure the hard times and bask in the good times. Life is about finding the balance! Blessings!!
Oh they are so cute when sleeping. And Jordan is so cute about the big garbage can.
Living the dream! Santa Cruz misses you.
I must say that your little precious girl is the world . There is nothing better than that sweet potato!!! She kills us with her smiles ❤
Jordan you are so not alone in this overwhelming desire to protect your home/boat and most importantly your family. I have sailed and power boated all over Florida, the keys, Bahamas, Windward and Leeward islands. And although I love being in those beautiful places, the anxiety never fully left. I couldn’t accept boat crews that I knew were inexperienced and dangerous, sketchy anchorages, weather windows that others on our boat didn’t appreciate. I guess I always felt like I was the one who was always expected to have the right answers, and I just was never sure in the moment. And I ultimately I made the choices that kept everyone safe and reasonably happy. But at the decision point I always felt l I should have better skills, be more knowledgeable and better prepared. It’s exhausting You are an inspiration and I am squaring up a lot of my demons hearing your honest emotions. Thank you for putting yourself out there
Andy
Those kinds of anchoring situations with lots of people rubbing shoulders would drive me nuts too man. Nothing wrong with you. Like you said at the end, go to the places you love.. maybe the north seas around scotland and iceland and greenland would suit you better.
Welcome to being warrior, protector, provider,husband and father Jordan! You and yours will survive! Oh, and PS bud we have to learn to pick our battles!
Lovely Vlog …It’s quite simple ….What you are experiencing is Fatherhood …!!…You naturally have such a protective, caring & compassionate character…so wonderful that you can talk to your beautiful “Bud” about how your feeling …don’t ever stop doing that ….You have one happy gorgeous baby …love to see her growing & fitting into boat life …a natural ….As for Italians !! There boatmanship is exactly like their driving !!!! Avoid at all costs 😂😂😘😘😘
Wow. That is a conversation rarely encountered on other sailing vlogs. So refreshing. Bravo to you both. Haven't watched your channel for some time, but now I'm back, subscribed.
Thanks for your thoughts on anxiety. When I reach the point of burnout as a skipper after several days of crowded anchorages and docks, and possibly bad weather, I take a few days of rest in a safe harbor or marina. After a few days, the desire to sail and cruise returns. The responsibility is even greater with family and dog on board. I feel you.
Everything you've been through...just to die from anxiety. Pull your shit together, you've built an empire .
You guys have a lot going on... little baby with some scares of health issues plus sailing....its good to talk it out in hopes to let go and know its all going to work out with maybe a few bumbs along the way.
Darn straight, you are not broken. You are you, go with it and enjoy!
Hi guys, Isabella is such a beautiful little baby. I know you are very proud of her and having anxiety and anxious. Sometimes it is a common thing when you become a new dad and you have more responsibility and got a lot of things going through your head. Keep up the good work. Love your videos Cliff from Logan city Queensland Australia from the big island 🧑🏾🦽🏝️🦘🐨🧌🧌🇦🇺
Excellent self awareness & analysis. Very gracefully and vulnerably shared. I love your choices and your inner& outer work to be a great person. Yer a stand up guy, Dad and partner. Great job. Great video. 🙏🌅🌿
After two years cruising, we came to the USA east coast. Upon entering the ICW in Fort Pierce FL, I felt this huge weight off my shoulders that I didn’t know was there. I think it was the constant vigilance to weather, tides, waves and how much water/food was aboard at any given time, that caused some anxiety. Maybe that little bit of anxiety at least is somewhat “natural”.
Many years later, back on land, I found myself one day so worried about my job that I practically passed out. Couldn’t breathe. Felt faint. I did get some cognitive behavioral therapy. Immediate improvement. I still had cases where I felt anxious, but I was able to quickly recognize it and deal with it in a positive way before it got too bad. A feeling of control…that I had tools to deal with it…was very powerful.
As cruisers, having control over what we can makes for both safer cruising and more relaxing times.
We can tell you flat out Jordan with over 40 years of both offshore and local crusing and living aboard experience one of the most frustrating things for us is crowded anchorages full of inexperienced boaters....We figure most of your anxiety is just good old common sense telling you to avoid those areas!! Your boat and family's safety is your world. And most of those charter boats are more like a toy for the people who charter them for a week or 2.....We think you guys are Excellent parents and cruisers! We wish you all the Best!! ❤
Take your time. You have totally got this.
Jordan, I concur with what so many have already said. Trust your "spidey-sense." You have it for a reasons, good reasons.
Going to pretty much anywhere in the Med in August is like going to IKEA on a Sunday afternoon. With the added perk that all prices are jacked up. It's quite normal to be stressed out :)
Isabella is looking awesome! She shares the same name as my granddaughter. That is cool stuff! Jordan, I feel your pain. Going into fatherhood can be stressful for sure. I know the feels even after 5 kids. Lots of people here got your back for sure after reading the comments here. Atticus is your home and the worry you have about it is real. It need to be in top condition for your family. Worry for Isabella is legit too. My family will keep yours in our prayers to help you get resolve for how you’re feeling. Lauren is an awesome cheerleader for you. She got your back and loves you very much. Keep your chin up sir! You got this!
Look guys, there is nothing wrong with either one of you. I am stressed watching these situations. Its my stress. Not me being stressed because you are stressed. This place is not cutout for you guys and thats OK. Get the heck out of there. Look most of us on this channel dont give 2 craps about where you go. We just want to be with you. We are a part of your family. I watch because I want to see you. Doesn't matter where. I dont care if its Greece or 10 buck 2. Seriously. Your production is awesome and beautiful no matter where you take us. Your show is fun to watch, well because yall are good people. Get out. Go somewhere else. Dont care where. Its not worth it! Love yall.
Living in the south of France and having had a boat here for more than 30 years, I quite understand your feelins. I experienced this every season in Corsica or Ibiza. The mad August crowd of inexperienced sailors who only rent a boat one week a year spoils everything. Keep away from the « must se » places untill the end of September. Love your episodes, you’re a lovely familly
That cave is so awesome 👌 ❤. Greece 🇬🇷 is so beautiful 😊.
Hang in there Jordan! You are taking care of your family excellently! Love you guys! 🥰
I really admire you guys honesty in your opinions...and how you'll try to be polite in tight situations. Coming from the Caribbean Trinidad and Tobago
I've found that how I relate to people, especially in social situations comes down to how I deal with my own anxieties and challenging feelings. When I hide from anxiety or suppress it or distract myself from my problems, they get bigger and stronger. When I talk it out, admit I need help and ask for it, ESPECIALLY with the "biggest" stuff, I feel better and deal better. Like with everything else, communication, patience and putting in the work makes all the difference. I used to feel like asking for help was the same as failing, but I've found that the fastest path to failure is to keep pushing myself to go it alone. I get the feeling you might relate to that, Jordan. I hope you find what you need, because so many of us love you guys and wish you the best!
Daughter so beautiful! She has that smile that lights up the sky ❤
You're a seasoned sailor amidst a bunch of mostly amateurs. You left us landlubbers to be more at ease on your own , so hardly a surprise you're ill at ease amongst the hoards. I'd also be super anxious.
Jordan you are doing awesome, keep doing you!!!
Theres nothing wrong with you!!! Were the same way! Prefer anchoring over marinas, solitude over crowds, our own Company over congested places. Which is why sailing is so perfect for us😊We just move when it gets too crowded. Love your videos, keep it up please♥️
Litle crew member is having the time of her life!
I'm sorry to see you experiencing such anxiety and missing out on the charm of some beautiful places because of it. You're on the right track, keeping to more remote places or going to the popular ones off season. Isabella is getting sooooo cute. I just wanna pinch her cheeks and squeeze her 🤗💞
Ditto. I'm with you Jordan. We don't live aboard, but I lay awake at night in my bed at home thinking about what needs to be fixed on the boat, how I need to improve the rig, how to handle different conditions. And then when we do sail, I just wish we were farther away from everything. The further we get from the shore and the traffic, the more relaxed I feel.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You are doing great. I know the feeling about many boats and many beginners and the chaos there can be. I have teached in sailing sailboats since spring 2006. There are many crazy beginners after the years with corona who think that they can sail but they can't. I love your family.
Jordan, I assure you that you are not alone. Though not a live aboard sailor, which I understand completely ups the ante, my husband and I struggle with 'too many people' scenarios often. The more people , the more chance of poor choices.
Do you and make the right choices for you and your family. ♥
great video beautiful islands just a great way to enjoy nature sea and colors and meals i was drooling over your fish meal, enjoy stay safe and dont worry so much dear one youre great !!!
I'm with you. I too like my space.
Dear Jordan & Desiree. You guys are living a dream and so are we through your experiences. You are real and its a joy to have seeing your growth over the last 2 years . Jordan you are an amazing narrator. Man the way you tell the story is so pleasing I can even listen to your stories without watching and I can visualize what is happening while you fix stuff. 😀. Awesome job man! Desiree what can I say lady. You are just awesome and you complete Bud and he completes you. Baby and Oso fill us up with smiles every time. Baby will have a story to show and tell about like no other one day/. Anxiety is real and at 58 I am feeling it so I know what you feel and I know you will manage it well. Love you guys😍
You shared a very real and beautiful moment between husband and wife. This is why I love this channel so very much. Thank you for sharing your life and adventure.
He’s fine….its all for content and pumping out videos. He maybe a little introvert but hey who isn’t when you’re travelling the world. Rock on
Jordan,
There isn't anything wrong with you. There are quite a few of "us" that don't "trust" the situations or environments we are in because we recognize that we can't trust the decisions of others. The truth is that you can't. You're working through it, and you are on the correct path. Find where you are comfortable so you can enjoy your life. Just because other people enjoy something (crowded areas, cities, anchorages, etc.) doesn't mean that you must. Just be you. Yes, you have it correct. You have a wonderful family and a wonderful life. Thank you so much for sharing. You aren't alone, pun intended, in your quest to be alone. I'm with you, in spirit.
Hi there…….your anxiety is understandable. I live in Lefkas and I have my own sailing boat here. I hibernate in August and just go out for day sails. I am on high alert come 4pm when the charter yachts and day boats start coming in, because this is the time of year that inexperienced sailors are out on holiday and there are just too many boats here. Your description of these charter boats trying to anchor and coming onto the quays is so true. Most cruising people leave the Ionian between mid July and the end of August and head for the Peloponnesus. You hardly see other boats and it is just as beautiful, if somewhat limited in anchorages. Happy sailing. ⛵️
We sailed the ionian in August, your stress levels are normal and we felt the same as you, stressed berthing, anchoring.
Knowing yourself is so important, in part because it gives you the awareness to recognize what you might want to change to improve the experience of your lived life. You're doing awesome brother. You see a part of you, and you're starting to understand why you feel that way. You don't have to accept it as just 'the way you are'. If it becomes a priority, then you can change. It appears that you are stressed by the things that are out of your control and that you have limited power to respond to. My question is about the level of risk you're facing. You're speaking about catastrophe, when there's someone inexperienced anchoring next to you. Really, in those calm conditions, close to shore, what's the potential catastrophe? Sometimes anxiety is exasperated by an exaggeration of the risk. I don't know if that's the case. You'll have to decide. But it might help to ask your self, "what's the worst that could happen here?" Maybe you'll be able to relax more after you've got a couple of dings in that beautiful boat! I'm sure with your skill you'd be able to make her look as good as new.
You are both doing incredibly well ❤❤❤
I sailed the Greek waters from west to east and south as well for one year with my 490 Najad, I felt the same at the start, I learned that its the norm for anchors to get on top of others, mine was lifted by another and swung back to dock until neighbering boats helped to hold it away when I was in town that time. just enjoy the little villages and towns that you will see yourself while millions can not experience what you have.. I just left Greece to Montenegro, another dimension. cheers
There is no way in this world I would leave that part of the world without visiting the Island of Patmos. So many people could only dream of being that close , and to not visit would be a shame.
I don't blame you for being nervous. You have a family to protect and your investment. What a jerk, the guy that refused to motor away just a bit. I wouldn't want to anchor there ever again.
Anxiety comes at weird times in our lives. The only thing I can tell you is to really listen to your inner voice, which is exactly what you did. Sending love from California🤟🏻💜😎🐬🇺🇸
Isa 🎈is laughing and smiling under all this stress of boats getting too close. lol
We are “land sailing” all over North America and it amazes me we can be in the middle of no where 15 miles down a dirt road and someone will park right near us! GIVE ME SPACE!
I need to make what I call "left turns when the masses go to the right . Make your plan with a left turn plan as your back up! You got it made! Happy for all of you in your journey!
I went through similar issues. I had to see a doctor about it. He told me I didn't meet the clinical criteria for anxiety. I was giving myself anxiety/panic attacks. He did cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) with me for a few sessions. It was lifechanging. The main things he had to get me to to remind myself was that somethings are out of my control and whatever is going to happen will happen. Now that I remind myself of that, and accept it, my life is so much better.
I watch your shows since quite a while with joy and look forward to every new episode, but also watch you guys as people and how you are, who you are, with you Jordan noticed you deal with the same problems I have been dealing with, ‘’Anxiety ‘’, it can become a big problem if you are not taking care about this situation and yourself you are a perfectionist everything you do has to be 100%and mostly turns out that way, which is good most of the time, because it is about your and your families safety and well-being, but on the other hand to push yourself up to a level of anxiety and panic, where it becomes a situation with not only psychological pain also physical and your body reacts with pain and sometime not functioning as it has to, and then it becomes more serious, you deal with a secondary emotion fear of the fear, this can shut you down and make you not functioning well, my always just slow down, look in the moment for places with less people, mostly egoistic psychopaths making your life difficult, you can not change them and you find more peace of mind, also learn to trust the situation, things mostly turnout all right, put your self in a situation where you can have more sleep, just hang out with your wonderful family, with your food and beverage look for some changes avoid coffee and alcohol as much as possible, it has a lot of influence how you react and how you do things, sometimes not the right way, drink more often calming and relaxing herbal teas, drink a lot of fresh plain water, for relaxation you should try cbd oil when ever you have the feeling comes up hitting you, stay away from prescription drugs if you can, I went through this for a number of years, till I found balance and peace and so will you, but address it and take care about it, and you will because you guys are in paradise, wish the best and all of you
Put out as many Fenders as possible and don't be so hard on yourself!!!
Isabella is turning into the sweetest happiest little soul.
Love your blog!
Happy sailing.
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The best time of year to be in greece is now, too busy in the summer. Keep cracking on to more remote spots
Do not feel bad Jordan, my husband and I and many other people are exactly the same in similar situations. We are not into crowds and very trying situations with other people which cause you to feel tense. Its called care and concern about the posessions that you care dearly about. Its a shame that others don't share that care and concern. Give us our own space and company and we are happy campers. Nothing wrong with you at all.
I have been following you for years! I am 87, I sailed in the Caribbean, St Barths, St Maarten, Curacao and Bonaire and Us Virgin Islands and I crossed the Atlantic 3 times on a Battle ship.!! You still amaze me!!
Sail on, you and your family will be fine. You are a father, a husband, and a sailor. The fact that you talk about feelings shows many positive attributes about who you are and what you believe. As always have fun be safe and see you next week.
Love this episode (all of them of course)! And Isa's smile and giggles are soo contagious! I miss that, wish my kiddos would stop growing:-) Thanks for opening up and your views on the anxiety. So I'm 46 years young, and just had this occur for me this year. In not wanting to acknowledge it or discuss, it actually got out of hand for me one day and I ended up taking the express ride to ER. Let myself get so stressed that my BP was 208/177. Anyways, I've been doing well since, but yes now something that I work through. I loved your comment, "instead of changing what I dislike, maybe I should pursue what I love with even more fervor"! I could not think of a better saying, thanks again! Take best of care of each other and your lil' rock start:-)
I understand completely the anxiety situation. Although my lifestyle is different, I do full-time RV and seek out remote locations. In fact I've basically became a hermit. But I like it. Thank you for your beautiful videos. Blessings to you and your family. ⛵
Non preoccuparti non sei malato di mente! Nel mediterraneo debi abituarti a certi ancoraggi selvaggi!! Un caro saluto da Giovanni Italy