I wanna say something here that in many asian countries, adults don't realise you have interest on the opposite sex until you are like 20, and if you get girls before that they think you are embarrassing as you are still a "kid" and shan't be doing stuff like that next, I find it hard to not overthink. it's almost never that I'm scared to approach girls, is that every time when I get back home I overanalyse everything and think that she hates me or stuff and eventually I stopped hanging out with them cuz I am worried that they are trying to reject me but not saying it straight and I should know my place and stay away. oops with friends I never mention girls or related stuff cuz I always have this feel that sexual desire is a forbidden thing and you should suppress it as much as you can. its the same thing w parents and family. and I guess since this is asia its pretty normal to not have a girlfriend until you are like 30 and I believe its the way it is half across the globe here. Yet, the tips are accurate, broke, sensitive and depressed people don't make good influences as friends.
You can't fully blame the male depression and male lonliness rates on dudes who aren't getting any or don't have girlfriends, it's also because girls can be super manipulative and toxic among other things which can create significant damage for men but no one wants to talk about that. It's always about how girls are the ones getting treated wrong... please
I've seen what you mean but I'm making excuses if I think that's all women. Might be approaching wrong, might be approaching girls with boyfriends, it's hard to say but what I mean is there's a huge amount of ambiguity in what you say. Maybe you're making excuses, it might be the sociological upbringing of the women, it might be psychological in that she's seen so many toxic or low-value guys before and has to be strong. There is so much toxicity in not knowing who you are and that I would venture is at least most of what I interpret you're saying - and likely or easily, not even about you.
You know you cant control what they do once you get them. However, you cant blame not getting a gf on cheating which happens after you got her. I also see men like to be the power ones in relationships but fail to realize with the most power comes most responsibility and most blame.
In regards to the depression bit, even if exercise is the solution, tell me how you’re going to get someone who can barely get out of bed to lift. Obviously exercise should be a part of the treatment plan, but you need to build up to it. Depression sucks the life out of people
Depressed and addicted. Didn't have the courage to change my life for many years, 41 now, these things will slowly eat away at your soul until you realize that 15 years went by and you're a mess.
After getting accused for sexual harassment just because I told a chick that she looked nice today, yeah. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. It is what it is. I'm weak i guess.
I quite literally had a conversation with one of my friends (a good one, not anyone on the list) about the amount of people/family in my life I've had to distance myself from who have these problems AND don't want to help themselves lol 😆 Good timing
@@Kyonak sounds more like you having a coping problem there buddy. 🤡 As a gamer I find what he said very based & fucking true. But with that said, being a gamer is not being a loser. If anything; watching sports on TV or going to a stadium to watch it; makes you even far more of a loser than becoming a talented gamer or athlete yourself. I don't personally care if others gets this; people choose to live their lives how they wish & have their own type of entertainment that they enjoy; that isn't up to me to decide. And then there is THIS: 6:00; you REALLY do not need to study this at all to master; if you can't do this by default, you have a problem. But glad he figured it out even tough the way he chose to figure it out is cringe as hell & the way of a real loser. 🤣 Women are not trophies or something you have to try & "impress" by approaching; nor does that give you "balls" when you do. No; if you're a try hard & you try & approach them trying to look tough, you're a failure & here's why; they're just another human being like anyone else & a possible partner you actual idiots; they're nothing else. 🤡 If you haven't figured this out yet in 2023; you're a loser. 🙃
If you’re in highschool….this is normal. You’re still going through puberty, still trying to figure out how to tie a tie, etc. This is for people like 19-35. Just fyi
Before I got married my ideal situation was finding my girl that liked to kick it with no strings attached. We went to festivals, out to dinner, hooked up on a regular schedule but never did the boyfriend/girlfriend requirements like holidays appearances at parents and such. Finding someone to fulfill needs that you have great chemistry with can be done without sleeping around or wrapping a chain around your neck. There are plenty of females that are looking for the exact same situation and they aren't hard to find. Engaging in a relationship with hard limits that does not lead to marriage is a colossal waste of time and heart ache. Find a consistent piece of cake and roll with it.
I agree with the rest of the list... But #3 is a bit of a poor take. Like, don't get me wrong, I kinda get it, but I know people who can't approach girls who are some of the best people who I met in life. This part is a bit shameless like you really wanna make money 💀 And holy shit #7 is such a bad take... Why would you AVOID people who are depressed? Help your fucking homies. Some people just don't recognize it dog... The fuck? I know as someone who has fought outside of depression that it's a dark, hopeless void and you don't know what is right and what is wrong. It's not bullshit, it's delusion caused by a chemical imbalance. Get your homies straight...
Dang, to think that I asked a girl out when I was 13 and that full grown men can't even muster the strength to ask a lady out kinda gives me confidence for my future. Heck I even wrote her a poem. Guys, I hope you find a great lady in your life and I hope you live a life worth fighting for. 🔥 ❤ 💥
Dude I feel like such a loser when it comes to dating. I remember back in high school I once had 6 dates in one week from asking out strangers. Literally have had less than 5 dates since and it’s been YEARS. I just don’t do it. I don’t even think to ask them. I used to make a game out of it. Now when I do try, it’s awful.
I mean I got a good job a dope car some muscle and looks but I'm still single af. It's hard no matter who you are unless you got some game brother. Just start practicing again.
I don't reach out to women, but I have. I asked out the most attractive woman at my old job (everyone else was too nervous to do it) and she said yes. This is while my confidence was low and i was awkward. I didn't even know I was capable, but it was cool to know I could. However, for me, it's a huge waste of time when it takes away from improving myself. I have things to accomplish, and sleeping around like everyone promotes you should is not helpful to me.
Sleeping around isnt that helpful for anyone. But yeah, if youre going to date you should be looking for someone that helps your self improvement. An intelligent and stable young lady can do wonders. I believe the masculine requires the feminine to function efficiently. Im not religious but men and women were made to help eachother, you just have to find the right gal. Not that that is easy. Ive maybe been on 16 first dates in the last 6 months and not one of them has been worth a second. Girls are icky and have coodies anyway
@@LoktarOgar69420 I was thinking the same thing for a couple reasons. #1 is fake MeToo allegations against you, #2 your co-workers are your competition for a raise, and #3 there might be a difference in authority at work which may cause problems legally.
1. people that get easily offended 2. white knights (guys that get offended on behalf of other people) 3. guys that cant approach girls in real life 4. guys that are broke (not contributing to society) 5. the guys that get a girlfriend and disappears 6. simps 7. guys that are depressed
2 n 6 is facts but i disagree wihh the rest espically 1 n 7. Not everything is a "joke" or meant to laugh at espically if its offensive. Yu never kno why someone could b depressed
I've become the depressed, unconfident type that doesn't initiate conversation with anyone except for family members from time to time. For some reason I just always gravitate towards my comfort zone. Now I'm 22 and I feel like I've underachieved in high school and university because I let fear hold me back (although I do have a successful RUclips channel). Guess I've gotta to get to work on getting better in the real world.
That's been my goal. I don't think I'm "above" other people so I make it clear to others. I've improved myself in many ways over the past 5 or so years and I feel great, but they come up with excuses like "you're built, you have nice hair, you're cool" or whatever. I'm like bro, you can be as cool as you want without completely changing your personality. 95% of shit people are jealous of are totally attainable. But they simply don't want to do it, and it bothers me when the boys are down on themselves.
The main point is to be careful who you hang out with. The average dude in their 20s only hangs out with brokies and losers and that shit rubs off. Its like lobsters in a bucket, they'll pull you down, be jealous, sabotage you and it is hard to succeed in that environment. But like you said, dont be an elitist asshole who only hangs out with rich people and snobs their nose at anyone else. Most our friends are fairly well off but we have close friends from the spectrum from not well off at all to billionaires
Real chad will help his friends, motivate them. A fake chad or idiot will make friends down, there you know, he is not worthy of a friendship, probably a narcissist. Throw them away! Narcs are cancer!
Started kickboxing, hitting the gym since 3 months, deleted my Playstation account and packed that thing up for selling, started my appreanticeship in 2022 as a surgical mechanic, got my drivers license since November and still going to becoming better
Do you really need to sell your playstation lol? I think you guys are taking it too far if you think any form of playing video games is horrific for you...
I'm a person with a sense of humor. I'm not easily offended, but I do have to let you know something. The only reason I didn't date in high school was because my parents still believe in finding wives for their sons. That's all! It had nothing to do with confidence levels. Of course I didn't want to follow it and rebelled. But that was the situation.
This video makes me feel like such a loser. I get 0 bitches even though I'm 9 years old, make $250K/year, finishing up the fourth grade, getting shredded at the gym, hang out with the boys every day at recess, and taking cold showers on the regular while reading Marcus Aurelius. Please help
Honestly , it’s truthfully hard to find dudes that are “on it”. Even bros that go to the gym are insecure, depressed, and awkward. Girls are definitely more disciplined, focused, and social. Hamza made a video about this a few months ago. Girls have passed dudes and a lot of dudes haven’t caught up. That’s why a lot of girls think that dudes are dorks. It is sad as hell.
A big issue is there are so many dorky and subpar dudes that these women will meet a guy at or above her level and much of the time they'll try to treat those men the same.
Easy for a girl to be "disciplined, focused and social" when they can do literally anything or nothing at all, and get positive social feedback, get into relationships without lifting a finger, and have sex on demand whenever they want with an attractive guy thanks to Tinder/Bumble and other such apps. Man can work his fingers to the bone and still be a lonely depressed loser that gets shitted on by society and treated worse than a dog.
Girls get constant attention and validation which is a nice motivation. Trust me, without that they would be depressed as hell. Their entire well being is based on their dopamine addiction. Guys don’t have that luxury
dating is overated, sex is mandatory, when i was younger i had a lot of confidence and care about my looks and everything but you get used to it eventually, human nature is not lineal, when you get older sex and relationships become almost like a routine, the best advice i can give is to do it everything to improve yourself first, after that everything gets clearly.
I might be 4 but I'm not broke. I worked a lot when I was younger like you. But I take pride in the fact that I don't contribute to this sick society. It needs to be forced into collapse.
I'm sorry you went through that shit. I've been through a lot of shit in life as well.(not anything close to actually being shot. I was ALMOST shot by corrupt cops) I think the important thing is to not give up. Things have been rough for me for the last 7 years. We can do this, bro. Stay strong.
you should always take care of yourself, but never leave behind people you know who can change. also don't ever take denmos gospel and go "im the shit and everyone else is a loser" that's lame
That's sad, you lost a parent, and it took you a couple of weeks. Don't lie to yourself. 20 years later and it still hurts. Everyday I think about them.
Playing video games is good for socialising but do not let it consume you, a 2-4hr of playing video games per week is optimal for me. As for depression the feeling of burnouts is terrible, I heard huberman talk about it chasing something big then once it's achieved the reward system goes below the threshold.
Remember guys nobody is perfect try to be 1% better every day but don't put that burden on other people doesn't mean if people don't meet it you expections doesnt mean you should stop hanging out with them
Bro, don´t be offended, it might hurt but you have to face the pain. Embrace the f*cking pain man to become stronger! Life is hard, we all know that! That´s why such videos exist!
About #2, I actually refused the advice of everyone around me to go on welfare simply because I didn't feel it was right, since I have the ability to work. If you're wondering what I have been doing instead, it's self teaching web development. Finished everything yesterday skill and project-wise, and am making a few resumes right now as I listen to this.
I have friends that i think should change some habits in their lives, but I'm either afraid that they'll get offended if i point out their flaws or that they'll stop taking me seriously if anything i talk about sounds remotely "red pilled".
Brother, I'm 15, I'm currently friends with people you've listed, and I'm also the depressed type, luk ily I'm recovering from my lack of accountability, though I also hav what you called a reliability on my friends as I have no other options. I'm going to be studying at the same school as them for years to come, and I don't know if I should end the friendships, stay further away, or find others.could you helped me out with the decision?
@@AJ_Alliance A high quality friend will not judge you for being friends with underachievers. According to your logic an ambitious new friend might reject you because you're a loser who has no friends. It's always better to have some kind of companionship than to have no friends at all. Your old friends won't stick around forever anyway. You don't need to purposefully end things by declaring it. If you hang out less and less it's just a smooth transition. If they truly care about you, they will reach out to you and suggest to hang out more frequently. But most of the time they won't care that much about your friendship and the friendship will slowly fade. It's common.
@@AJ_Alliance well whatever you say man. if you don’t follow your heart, you’ll eventually suffer those decisions where you didn’t. plus life will fuck you over but i guess you need to learn that for yourself first
be friends with them, but be better. Be a role model. Be the reason they wna get better. The ones that are worth will stick with you after that. Dont end any friendships, let bad ones die out on their own. Being friends doesnt mean you have to be there for them 100% of the time, value yourself the most but try ur best to make effort for ur friends
Most people here are thinking ''uh let me see who are my friends that fit these types'' but I was looking at it like ''let me see if I'm one of those''. I'm not depressed, not a simp, not pussy whipped, I can approach girls, I'm not a white knight, I don't get easily offended and I hit the gym. It's not that I'm broke (family) but I still haven't worked yet and I'm starting to see my friends get some money for themselves and I have yet to do the same. I'm on college right now and I know that seems like a reason not to work but I want to make money so bad. Other thing is that I literally can not find friends who are masculine, every guy is either a simp, pussy whipped, can't approach, easily offended or depressive. I don't wanna sound like a pussy but I feel like a friend who would do the masculinity journey with me would be AMAZING.
Tbh the real dudes who have a set career and are still single like myself, are taking time finding the right woman not just some girl from tinder. Most of the time we’re just busy with careers and personal hobbies. I’m 25 and make 88k a year with a promotion coming up and, in my free time I play soccer, workout, travel and some gaming. Even when I travel too I always do it solo because I enjoy meeting new people and most of the time it’s in nature. I’m content with being single for now because I’m thriving and I’ll find a woman when the time is right, but my personal goals, family and care come first before anyone and anything else
You shouldn't stop hanging out with those guys completely, if they are nice people and you know them for a long time. Just make sure they aren't your only friends and your social life stays and falls with them, so that you can always make the move like "pausing" the friendship for a few months. Edit: It actually makes you look stronger and weak guys will look up to you if you do the "pausing" thing. I recently made that experience. Maybe you'll be considered to be more independent from them.
I worked in Construction to. That job made me stop being as sensitive and taught me what actual male friendship is like. Ball busting is a good ol time among guy friends.
@Bryan Gonzalez I mean the ball busting goes away after a few weeks. Once they know you're cool, you'd be surprised how well those guys treat you. Those professional jobs you speak of, I work one now, have their own issues via office politics and passive agressive micromanagers. I'd rather be able to tell dirty jokes and be an ass than have to deal with stiffs with no sense of humor. Luckily, the majority of my group are all a bunch of degenerates like myself.
Bro, I was the pussy whipped guy. BUT I would never leave my bros. YET I was very pussy whipped. Thanks for calling me out, I never wanna do this anymore. edit: fuck I'm depressed too. Many things have gone wrong in my life health-wise. I'm gonna fight back harder.
Ahh so Number 7 I am gotcha. Glad to know. Been there for years and forgot how to live until I got a job and just began living life I guess saving and spending on whatever I feel but still feel depressed. Common feeling but it goes once I do something else. (Busy hands = less thought of knowing how I feel and just do it)
Hey guys, real live and i hate if this takes away from this guy, for the good intentions and advice he gives, but stop watching pickup videos. You live vicariously through it, just a whole bunch of unneeded emotions besides that too get tangled up. Chances are if you wqtch those things, your mind gets knotted easier than you like in the first place. Also i was 3/3 on first 3 things, but i have shot game in the past and can tell you the pickup videos are not helping you.
Dislike for more, dislike for better = envy. The biggest reason why you don't have successful friends, no friends who can approach girls = envy. Envy is the belief that you deserve everything they have right now, but for some reason you don't have it, and for some reason they do, and you don't like them. 1. And full confidence that this is unfair.And nothing can be changed, these communication skills, etc. they "should" be with you, but since they are not there, you will not get them in any way.And these people have them . They have them either unfairly, or because just like that "it should be" you see a dude like Denmo and you think, of course, you don't count yourself in this, but that's how you think he always had it and just has it just like that. You don't think how much he saddled and overcame situations to have it, to learn these skills, how much he got up and fell and that he was once the SAME AS YOU 2. Or absolute confidence in hopelessness = that if a person is better than you in something, then he will not be interested in you.I'll tell you a secret, there are people who like to teach other people what they have. But you don't have that picture in your head. You don't have a picture in mind that you can meet a dude like Denmo on the street, only he doesn't have a RUclips channel, but he also wants to share his lifestyle, and this dude can become your friend and raise you to his level and teach you to approach women.But you don't have that picture in your head.
On male depression: Man you actually genuinely have the worst possible understanding of depression I have ever seen. It’s an accomplishment, really. You just talk and talk on things you know absolutely nothing about. This is the 8th type of guy to avoid
Each human being on this planet sees things a bit differently. There's no such thing as ultimate truth, or the best thing to do to succeed in anything. Just live your life, live accordingly to your own set of values, don't take gurus, coaches and motivational speakers too seriously, because at the end of the day you are still you and you naturally do things your way. If such people inspire you, that's fine, but remember that you are not worse than them, you are not a 'loser'. In life we have ups and downs, but nothing lasts forever and as long as we are alive, there's always a way out, even if at first a situation may seem totally hopeless. One advice from me, a guy who has experienced and seen a lot: don't spend too much time on RUclips and other social media, try to cut yourself off from the regular media as well. Go for a walk. I've found solutions for the biggest obstacles in my life while walking in nature.
I think every point was alright i guess until the last one. I get what you are saying, but the phrasing is bad. You are talking about the 'always a victim' type, it's not depressed people. Also, stop stating facts like you are a doctor or something. Yes, exercise reduces symptoms and definitely helps, but you can't just say it is the cure because young guys that watch your videos are going to believe it when it is simply not true. It could be dangerous for someone who is actually sick.
I'm the last one, battling with my self hate and negative self talk, i tend to dissappointed around people i live with, i hate people in general, including some guy you mention here, i almost fight them just like you, easily offended guys, i found that here.....
A real based supporting friend is one of the best things a man can have. Unfortunately, many of ambitious and principled men are surrounded by pussies, dragging them down…
Yeah I could never be friends with white knights and simps, there's no way. I had a co worker buddy who could approach and pull women, but he was the biggest white knight I've ever met in my life, it was tilting. I couldn't even crack jokes about female customers who would come in, he would instantly get dead serious and defensive over strangers. Also had tons of friends from school who were all simps. I was just like man, how can you idiots tunnel vision so hard on one person, it's just mind boggling to me. Obsessive personalities are weird as hell. So many insecure people.
I'm 26 years old struggling with alcohol addiction for the past 7 years. Been to therapies 2 times. I'm definitely 3 and 7. Look man with depression, i get where you're coming from but at the same time i feel like it's like saying "you're depressed? Just be happy bro". Yeah excuse but fuck me sideways when u spend Soo much fucking time being so introverted to the point it just becomes like one of your traits. I dunno man. And i had girls. I even pulled a 10/10 27 year old when i was 19. Like she had the body of a model no word of a lie. Didn't last long but that's when my drinking started ... Yeah i thought i was mad in love. I had a mid girl for 4 years after that but that wasn't love. Just good sex, we couldn't connect with each other. Was still drinking too. I tried working out. I even got like a homemade workout kit. Coz i just hate gyms. I dono man i am a looser i need help.
I would just recommend to get away from this type of content. It's bad for young impressionable people, and even worse for people that actually had problems and have realized is not as easy as buying the stupid 2023 course of the youtuber in turn. Good luck with those problems man, if you want to talk to someone I'm here for you
I've never approached any girls irl, but everyone thinks that I'm getting a lot of girls because I'm very confident, so I have a lot of friends at the same time, but no bitches...
What you said about depression really resonates. In most cases, exercise is literally the cure for depression. I know it cured my depression time and time again. So to all the people who are depressed but not even exercising: Bro you literally have the cure to depression right next to you, but you're like "Naaaah, I prefer to stay depressed". And then you complain how you're depressed! You already have tools to fix your problem, but you don't wanna use them!
exercise doesn't do much if u have real depression. when depression is at its worst u dont have the willpower to get out of bed, going to the gym then is practically impossible. starting to gym is great for everyone and can obviously reduce some symptoms but calling it a cure to depression is like calling autophagy from a two hour fast a cure to cancer.
Exercise helps, but it definitely isn't the cure lol. It's only part of it. If it works that way for you, then that's all well and good! 😊 but every human is wired differently. The same thing doesn't work for everybody.
Thing depression tends to decrease energy and loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities so its harder for them. Depending on how serverity of the depression, how much they trust the advice if they even know about it in the first place. This may be eazier , harder or bordering on impossible (either severe clinical depression or they do not know but may figure it out accidentally). How I personally managed to treat my (non-diagnosed, likely subclinical but never went to a shrink for an actual diagnostic) depression/whatever you wanna call it was (not sure how much it will help for more severe clinical cases): -1. Not scrolling reddit 24/7 (a bad habit I got into during the pandemic), didn't know any better , eazier said than done but trust me , it can be done. Some notes: - Dopamine got so fried I actually quit videogames without wanting to just because brain wanted to scroll more , even videogames I used to enjoy felt overwheming and i would pretty much burnout on them just by starting for 8 seconds at the desktop icon deciding "should I or should I not" and lost sex drive. - Rage+desperation at my current circumstance + website timegate to prevent the funny instinctual r+enter or equivalents. (if you actually need to grab any piece of information from the website you are hooked on , get in and get out, do not stay for a second longer than needed. - It is gonna suck for a bit but you will actually start enjoying your hobbies again after 1 month or so, 100% worth it , the first week will usually be the hardest, after that relatively smooth sailing. (had a pretty bad case, more moderate cases would likely have the first 3 days and enjoying the hobbies in about 1-2 weeks time) -2 Being eazier on myself. Notes: - Used to pretty much just force myself to do anything , including hobbies for the sake of maximising productivity. - It was never enough productivty , always more time out of the day I am WASTING , as long as there was no physical limit in the way it was my fault. - Turns out you need more rest than literally just the (usually less than) 8 hours of sleep and you cannot be productive 24/7, which is to say relatively mindless rote activites, unless you are a kid or something. - My biggest productivity hack was pretty much just using fear and/or adrenaline rushes for motivation and energy. How you do this is that you wait for a deadline or some sort of fear to catch up to you then use the adrenaline as an energy source. Anything I did like this was usually done faster and similar or higher quality than "chipping away at it". Including hobbies, don't wanna draw today, think about how much it would suck to get rusty at it and then give up. Do this sparingly, this will burn you out fast, especially if you spam it for absolutely anything, also it just the emotional state just sucks in general (save for managing to "clutch" it at the end feeling). - Enjoy the present moment ,I am not talking mindfulness here, I am talking find something you enjoy and do it even if its a waste of time , even if it's done inefficently, if done correctly you won't even "feel the present" , you wont even have the concept of time (unless something/someone reminds you of it) , if you focus only on achivement you are just chasing the dragon. Not everything has to be optimised, Think playing a FPS like counterstrike with a meme strat , you don't care about optimising your chance to win, but you are having a lot of fun despite your shitty performance. The opposite of "tryharding". - Actually more productive and happy this way, but ngl, a bit less disciplined. Mostly figured these things out thought trial and error.
Oh boy, here we go. Another person who thinks exercise is the cure-all for mental health issues. Let me tell you something, pal. Depression is a serious illness that can't just be cured by going for a jog or doing some push-ups. Sure, exercise can release endorphins and boost mood, but it's not a substitute for proper treatment. So stop spreading this oversimplified and potentially harmful message, and let's focus on getting people the real help they need.
Denmo, this needed doing so much , you are rarer than hens' teeth , most male youtubers are awful and put women down and are pests and annoying as hell! but you are good ! these boys need some help what a bunch of pansies ! they are weird!
you sure are a good looking man and have some sense ! you are a miracle for women hopefully as would like to have a fella!! but not a dang grouch , get funnier !!
Bless Denmo. Two steps ahead of you, perhaps one ahead of him. Wife and multiple children. Yall can change. Find the best version of yourself. Build on it.
*loves to play games (particularly mmorpg's) to escape reality *Broke because lives in poor country *Depressed because how unfair society is Holy sht man.
Im willing to admit i am some of these guys and thats ok. Thanks for making me aware, time to work on myself. No more excuses and pretending to be a victim. Lets go fellas, only we can change our livea for the better.
8:10 in my country we have a literal epidemic of refugees that come here to get wellfair. Over 50% of all long time refugees dont work. They stay here for years without learning our language and not wanting to work. There are limits. I understand that they first need help, but after a couple month they should start doing something.
exercice helped me 100%, self improvement helped me 130% in litterly all aspect of my life. And the funnier about it is that, if you have begin it, and saw that it worked, people still will tell you your not a doctor or any kind of shit...
Lol 12:13 here is Scryptonite, great rapper from Kazakhstan. Dude, how did you even find his video? That's cool. I don't think he's famous worldwide, but music he's doing is great.
I accidentally posted this at midnight boys 😂 glad you all liked it though. Anybody on this list I missed?
you are just slime
yeah you forgot guys with bad habits
I wanna say something here that in many asian countries, adults don't realise you have interest on the opposite sex until you are like 20, and if you get girls before that they think you are embarrassing as you are still a "kid" and shan't be doing stuff like that
next, I find it hard to not overthink. it's almost never that I'm scared to approach girls, is that every time when I get back home I overanalyse everything and think that she hates me or stuff and eventually I stopped hanging out with them cuz I am worried that they are trying to reject me but not saying it straight and I should know my place and stay away. oops
with friends I never mention girls or related stuff cuz I always have this feel that sexual desire is a forbidden thing and you should suppress it as much as you can. its the same thing w parents and family. and I guess since this is asia its pretty normal to not have a girlfriend until you are like 30 and I believe its the way it is half across the globe here.
Yet, the tips are accurate, broke, sensitive and depressed people don't make good influences as friends.
why do you hate video games hhhhhhh for reel you can be successfull and play games
@@ggggg9676 video games aren't bad though they are if you play too much to numb your depression
You can't fully blame the male depression and male lonliness rates on dudes who aren't getting any or don't have girlfriends, it's also because girls can be super manipulative and toxic among other things which can create significant damage for men but no one wants to talk about that. It's always about how girls are the ones getting treated wrong... please
Western men should pack up and leave for overseas to find their Queen!
I've seen what you mean but I'm making excuses if I think that's all women.
Might be approaching wrong, might be approaching girls with boyfriends, it's hard to say but what I mean is there's a huge amount of ambiguity in what you say. Maybe you're making excuses, it might be the sociological upbringing of the women, it might be psychological in that she's seen so many toxic or low-value guys before and has to be strong.
There is so much toxicity in not knowing who you are and that I would venture is at least most of what I interpret you're saying - and likely or easily, not even about you.
You know you cant control what they do once you get them. However, you cant blame not getting a gf on cheating which happens after you got her. I also see men like to be the power ones in relationships but fail to realize with the most power comes most responsibility and most blame.
In regards to the depression bit, even if exercise is the solution, tell me how you’re going to get someone who can barely get out of bed to lift. Obviously exercise should be a part of the treatment plan, but you need to build up to it. Depression sucks the life out of people
Depressed and addicted. Didn't have the courage to change my life for many years, 41 now, these things will slowly eat away at your soul until you realize that 15 years went by and you're a mess.
It’s 2023 and this guy is still judging all of personality from sexual conquests, that’s something
After getting accused for sexual harassment just because I told a chick that she looked nice today, yeah. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. It is what it is. I'm weak i guess.
Nah man you aren't weak . You are alr , you just had a bad experience with a bitch of a girl ig . Stay strong brother , it's gonna get better .
@@chuman999 Thank you. I appreciate that
If that’s the worse thing that happened to you than your lucky lol
@@vegasskidd7081 no. But I don't owe you or anyone else an explanation
You aren’t weak. She was weird for that. Head up high king
I quite literally had a conversation with one of my friends (a good one, not anyone on the list) about the amount of people/family in my life I've had to distance myself from who have these problems AND don't want to help themselves lol 😆
Good timing
damn bro glad you are improving
Nothing wrong with gaming in moderation, it actually makes it fun when hobbies and fun activities are in moderation
yeah
Cope
@@Kyonak sounds more like you having a coping problem there buddy. 🤡
As a gamer I find what he said very based & fucking true.
But with that said, being a gamer is not being a loser.
If anything; watching sports on TV or going to a stadium to watch it; makes you even far more of a loser than becoming a talented gamer or athlete yourself.
I don't personally care if others gets this; people choose to live their lives how they wish & have their own type of entertainment that they enjoy; that isn't up to me to decide.
And then there is THIS: 6:00; you REALLY do not need to study this at all to master; if you can't do this by default, you have a problem.
But glad he figured it out even tough the way he chose to figure it out is cringe as hell & the way of a real loser. 🤣
Women are not trophies or something you have to try & "impress" by approaching; nor does that give you "balls" when you do.
No; if you're a try hard & you try & approach them trying to look tough, you're a failure & here's why; they're just another human being like anyone else & a possible partner you actual idiots; they're nothing else. 🤡
If you haven't figured this out yet in 2023; you're a loser. 🙃
@@Kyonak there are strong men, and then people that try to hard to look like strong men. You're the second one my friend
@@Kyonak buddy says cope with the anime pfp
Weak men are everywhere in my school, thanks @SaggyFace
If you’re in highschool….this is normal. You’re still going through puberty, still trying to figure out how to tie a tie, etc. This is for people like 19-35. Just fyi
“Weak MEN are EVERYWHERE” yo wtf is your grammar
Weak men include grammatical errors.
@@saggyface1796 weak men call people who make mistakes weak men
@@saggyface1796 😭
Sleeping around is degenerate heavier. Keep it in a relationship boys, work on yourself when single.
Before I got married my ideal situation was finding my girl that liked to kick it with no strings attached. We went to festivals, out to dinner, hooked up on a regular schedule but never did the boyfriend/girlfriend requirements like holidays appearances at parents and such. Finding someone to fulfill needs that you have great chemistry with can be done without sleeping around or wrapping a chain around your neck. There are plenty of females that are looking for the exact same situation and they aren't hard to find. Engaging in a relationship with hard limits that does not lead to marriage is a colossal waste of time and heart ache. Find a consistent piece of cake and roll with it.
Not errbody wants a relationship dawgg
I agree with the rest of the list...
But #3 is a bit of a poor take. Like, don't get me wrong, I kinda get it, but I know people who can't approach girls who are some of the best people who I met in life. This part is a bit shameless like you really wanna make money 💀
And holy shit #7 is such a bad take... Why would you AVOID people who are depressed? Help your fucking homies. Some people just don't recognize it dog... The fuck? I know as someone who has fought outside of depression that it's a dark, hopeless void and you don't know what is right and what is wrong. It's not bullshit, it's delusion caused by a chemical imbalance. Get your homies straight...
Dang, to think that I asked a girl out when I was 13 and that full grown men can't even muster the strength to ask a lady out kinda gives me confidence for my future. Heck I even wrote her a poem. Guys, I hope you find a great lady in your life and I hope you live a life worth fighting for. 🔥 ❤ 💥
Dude I feel like such a loser when it comes to dating. I remember back in high school I once had 6 dates in one week from asking out strangers. Literally have had less than 5 dates since and it’s been YEARS. I just don’t do it. I don’t even think to ask them. I used to make a game out of it. Now when I do try, it’s awful.
You’re outta shape in that regard, but you seem like you know how this works. Get back it’s gonna hurt anyway
It's a muscle bro.
Train it, I would say.
We all suck at almost everything but once we put in the work, things will improve.
21 and I'm going over a year without even attempting it after my last relationship
I mean I got a good job a dope car some muscle and looks but I'm still single af.
It's hard no matter who you are unless you got some game brother. Just start practicing again.
At least you’re not me. I’m almost 30 and never been on a date, despite taking care of my appearance, hitting the gym and having many hobbies
I don't reach out to women, but I have. I asked out the most attractive woman at my old job (everyone else was too nervous to do it) and she said yes. This is while my confidence was low and i was awkward. I didn't even know I was capable, but it was cool to know I could.
However, for me, it's a huge waste of time when it takes away from improving myself. I have things to accomplish, and sleeping around like everyone promotes you should is not helpful to me.
Also dating within the workplace is also a huge no go, I did this and it made things real rocky for me lol
@Triston Schwarz exactly, lol. Showed my lack of experience. However, it was somehow fine. I did it mostly because I wanted to see if I could.
Sleeping around isnt that helpful for anyone. But yeah, if youre going to date you should be looking for someone that helps your self improvement. An intelligent and stable young lady can do wonders. I believe the masculine requires the feminine to function efficiently. Im not religious but men and women were made to help eachother, you just have to find the right gal. Not that that is easy. Ive maybe been on 16 first dates in the last 6 months and not one of them has been worth a second. Girls are icky and have coodies anyway
you can approach women while improving
@@LoktarOgar69420 I was thinking the same thing for a couple reasons. #1 is fake MeToo allegations against you, #2 your co-workers are your competition for a raise, and #3 there might be a difference in authority at work which may cause problems legally.
I just like being alone. Relationships aren’t attractive to me.
Same bruu
1. people that get easily offended
2. white knights (guys that get offended on behalf of other people)
3. guys that cant approach girls in real life
4. guys that are broke (not contributing to society)
5. the guys that get a girlfriend and disappears
6. simps
7. guys that are depressed
I'm 3 and in the last 9 months depressed too
I’m 3 and 4 lol but I’m working on it and I hope the end of the year I’ll have one of them figured out hopefully 4 😂
2 n 6 is facts but i disagree wihh the rest espically 1 n 7. Not everything is a "joke" or meant to laugh at espically if its offensive. Yu never kno why someone could b depressed
I've become the depressed, unconfident type that doesn't initiate conversation with anyone except for family members from time to time. For some reason I just always gravitate towards my comfort zone. Now I'm 22 and I feel like I've underachieved in high school and university because I let fear hold me back (although I do have a successful RUclips channel). Guess I've gotta to get to work on getting better in the real world.
What's your channel about?
@@self-improver NASCAR. Probably not what you were expecting but I've been passionate about it since day one pretty much.
@@nathanm2993 That’s awesome, what is your channel?
@@grizzyy26 NRF Productions
Successful? Bruv I’m sorry to say but that channel isn’t successful at all.
Denmo is on momentum like he said. Man of his words.
to the moon im guiding you all
Choosing your friends like that is weak. Real men raise up the people around them
agreed
That's been my goal. I don't think I'm "above" other people so I make it clear to others. I've improved myself in many ways over the past 5 or so years and I feel great, but they come up with excuses like "you're built, you have nice hair, you're cool" or whatever. I'm like bro, you can be as cool as you want without completely changing your personality. 95% of shit people are jealous of are totally attainable. But they simply don't want to do it, and it bothers me when the boys are down on themselves.
@@digitalcamaro9708 Good for you bro. Lot of good people never learn to believe in themselves, all you can do is give them the push
The main point is to be careful who you hang out with. The average dude in their 20s only hangs out with brokies and losers and that shit rubs off. Its like lobsters in a bucket, they'll pull you down, be jealous, sabotage you and it is hard to succeed in that environment. But like you said, dont be an elitist asshole who only hangs out with rich people and snobs their nose at anyone else. Most our friends are fairly well off but we have close friends from the spectrum from not well off at all to billionaires
Real chad will help his friends, motivate them. A fake chad or idiot will make friends down, there you know, he is not worthy of a friendship, probably a narcissist. Throw them away! Narcs are cancer!
Started kickboxing, hitting the gym since 3 months, deleted my Playstation account and packed that thing up for selling, started my appreanticeship in 2022 as a surgical mechanic, got my drivers license since November and still going to becoming better
Do you really need to sell your playstation lol?
I think you guys are taking it too far if you think any form of playing video games is horrific for you...
I don't think it was worth selling your Playstation, man. I think you're a tad paranoid.
I'm a person with a sense of humor. I'm not easily offended, but I do have to let you know something. The only reason I didn't date in high school was because my parents still believe in finding wives for their sons. That's all! It had nothing to do with confidence levels. Of course I didn't want to follow it and rebelled. But that was the situation.
This video makes me feel like such a loser. I get 0 bitches even though I'm 9 years old, make $250K/year, finishing up the fourth grade, getting shredded at the gym, hang out with the boys every day at recess, and taking cold showers on the regular while reading Marcus Aurelius. Please help
Try planting grass in your shower and hold frame while you’re in ice water
Honestly , it’s truthfully hard to find dudes that are “on it”. Even bros that go to the gym are insecure, depressed, and awkward. Girls are definitely more disciplined, focused, and social. Hamza made a video about this a few months ago. Girls have passed dudes and a lot of dudes haven’t caught up. That’s why a lot of girls think that dudes are dorks. It is sad as hell.
It is what happens when society shits on you from the moment you're born
A big issue is there are so many dorky and subpar dudes that these women will meet a guy at or above her level and much of the time they'll try to treat those men the same.
Facts dudes walking around like zombies no energy just waste of life
Easy for a girl to be "disciplined, focused and social" when they can do literally anything or nothing at all, and get positive social feedback, get into relationships without lifting a finger, and have sex on demand whenever they want with an attractive guy thanks to Tinder/Bumble and other such apps. Man can work his fingers to the bone and still be a lonely depressed loser that gets shitted on by society and treated worse than a dog.
Girls get constant attention and validation which is a nice motivation. Trust me, without that they would be depressed as hell. Their entire well being is based on their dopamine addiction. Guys don’t have that luxury
Everyone is a loser..its really hard to find actual winners
dating is overated, sex is mandatory, when i was younger i had a lot of confidence and care about my looks and everything but you get used to it eventually, human nature is not lineal, when you get older sex and relationships become almost like a routine, the best advice i can give is to do it everything to improve yourself first, after that everything gets clearly.
I might be 4 but I'm not broke. I worked a lot when I was younger like you. But I take pride in the fact that I don't contribute to this sick society. It needs to be forced into collapse.
You dont know what the hell you're talking about. Collapse? You dont even know what that means
Philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti once said, “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
Dude I got shot in the face and I’m still going through surgery. Wanna call me a pssy for being single? I’m fking trying
I'm sorry you went through that shit.
I've been through a lot of shit in life as well.(not anything close to actually being shot. I was ALMOST shot by corrupt cops)
I think the important thing is to not give up.
Things have been rough for me for the last 7 years.
We can do this, bro.
Stay strong.
Just have a beautiful face bro. These kids only live for women, they are so fragile.
thats badass bro keep it up
@@Denmosocial thank you
you should always take care of yourself, but never leave behind people you know who can change. also don't ever take denmos gospel and go "im the shit and everyone else is a loser" that's lame
Approaching women doesn't work like who does that when women are on the phone all the time
Seeing as you’ve got your phone in your hand, you may as well take my number.
Yep only works in natural settings with frequent interaction with someone this is just clickbait
@@richardjamesclemo6235 I'm straight no thanks
That's sad, you lost a parent, and it took you a couple of weeks. Don't lie to yourself. 20 years later and it still hurts. Everyday I think about them.
i think about my parent but i had to move on brother otherwise i cant help others
Playing video games is good for socialising but do not let it consume you, a 2-4hr of playing video games per week is optimal for me. As for depression the feeling of burnouts is terrible, I heard huberman talk about it chasing something big then once it's achieved the reward system goes below the threshold.
Remember guys nobody is perfect try to be 1% better every day but don't put that burden on other people doesn't mean if people don't meet it you expections doesnt mean you should stop hanging out with them
This video hurt my feelings. Unsubscribed
💀
it hurts but its meant to help brother
Bro, don´t be offended, it might hurt but you have to face the pain. Embrace the f*cking pain man to become stronger! Life is hard, we all know that! That´s why such videos exist!
Dude it's awesome what you're trying to accomplish with your channel. Please keep it up. It's what society needs right now.
Let's all be human again
lets gooo
You should do a video on how to make jokes back and how to distinguish jokes from disrespect. People thumb up so Denmo can see.
About #2, I actually refused the advice of everyone around me to go on welfare simply because I didn't feel it was right, since I have the ability to work. If you're wondering what I have been doing instead, it's self teaching web development. Finished everything yesterday skill and project-wise, and am making a few resumes right now as I listen to this.
Good luck.
Selfmade milionaire gamer, 21 years old. Crypto invester, few houses, few exotic cars....no friends.
Meeting women in an organic environment rather than cold approaching takes away that whole stigma of "pickups" and it usually works out better.
If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.
Time to change it up fellas
we got this
I have friends that i think should change some habits in their lives, but I'm either afraid that they'll get offended if i point out their flaws or that they'll stop taking me seriously if anything i talk about sounds remotely "red pilled".
Are you their mom? Why not lead by example?
Brother, I'm 15, I'm currently friends with people you've listed, and I'm also the depressed type, luk ily I'm recovering from my lack of accountability, though I also hav what you called a reliability on my friends as I have no other options. I'm going to be studying at the same school as them for years to come, and I don't know if I should end the friendships, stay further away, or find others.could you helped me out with the decision?
if they're your friends and you got love for them, stay friends with them! listen to your heart, not some advice from a stranger on the internet!
Stay friends with them until you find more decent people. Avoid burning bridges. Just hang out less and less with your old friends
@@AJ_Alliance A high quality friend will not judge you for being friends with underachievers. According to your logic an ambitious new friend might reject you because you're a loser who has no friends. It's always better to have some kind of companionship than to have no friends at all. Your old friends won't stick around forever anyway. You don't need to purposefully end things by declaring it. If you hang out less and less it's just a smooth transition. If they truly care about you, they will reach out to you and suggest to hang out more frequently. But most of the time they won't care that much about your friendship and the friendship will slowly fade. It's common.
@@AJ_Alliance well whatever you say man. if you don’t follow your heart, you’ll eventually suffer those decisions where you didn’t. plus life will fuck you over but i guess you need to learn that for yourself first
be friends with them, but be better. Be a role model. Be the reason they wna get better. The ones that are worth will stick with you after that. Dont end any friendships, let bad ones die out on their own. Being friends doesnt mean you have to be there for them 100% of the time, value yourself the most but try ur best to make effort for ur friends
Hes got a few tid bits of solid advice mixed in with a lot over exaggeration and hyperbole.
This guy graduated sociology on tik tok🤡
Most people here are thinking ''uh let me see who are my friends that fit these types'' but I was looking at it like ''let me see if I'm one of those''.
I'm not depressed, not a simp, not pussy whipped, I can approach girls, I'm not a white knight, I don't get easily offended and I hit the gym.
It's not that I'm broke (family) but I still haven't worked yet and I'm starting to see my friends get some money for themselves and I have yet to do the same.
I'm on college right now and I know that seems like a reason not to work but I want to make money so bad.
Other thing is that I literally can not find friends who are masculine, every guy is either a simp, pussy whipped, can't approach, easily offended or depressive.
I don't wanna sound like a pussy but I feel like a friend who would do the masculinity journey with me would be AMAZING.
Bro. It sucks but the crab in the bucket mentality is true.
yup
Jokes on you I spend time with nobody. I have no friends!
Most friends from High School and even University haven’t improved nor want to. My circle got smaller as I leveled up in school and landed
career job.
Many people peak in high school and college
You forgot toxic people on the list that’s the thing I’m trying to avoid
Tbh the real dudes who have a set career and are still single like myself, are taking time finding the right woman not just some girl from tinder. Most of the time we’re just busy with careers and personal hobbies. I’m 25 and make 88k a year with a promotion coming up and, in my free time I play soccer, workout, travel and some gaming. Even when I travel too I always do it solo because I enjoy meeting new people and most of the time it’s in nature. I’m content with being single for now because I’m thriving and I’ll find a woman when the time is right, but my personal goals, family and care come first before anyone and anything else
copecel
I kinda knew watching this video that it was gonna be stupid, but it is so much worse its a fucking ad for the 1000th online guru course 😂
How is it even possible to approach women when you're an introvert and have social anxiety? 💀
You shouldn't stop hanging out with those guys completely, if they are nice people and you know them for a long time. Just make sure they aren't your only friends and your social life stays and falls with them, so that you can always make the move like "pausing" the friendship for a few months.
Edit: It actually makes you look stronger and weak guys will look up to you if you do the "pausing" thing. I recently made that experience. Maybe you'll be considered to be more independent from them.
I think that's very true. It's very hard to make real friends who actually care about you.
Exactly. Sort of a dick move if you've known them for years and just all of a sudden abandon them.
I worked in Construction to. That job made me stop being as sensitive and taught me what actual male friendship is like. Ball busting is a good ol time among guy friends.
yup construction jobs change a man
@@Denmosocial absolutely I work in steel mills and its a totally different vibe to do a dangerous job.
Thats why i avoid physical and trade jobs, i rather be treated professionally than some immature teenage boy.
@Bryan Gonzalez I mean the ball busting goes away after a few weeks. Once they know you're cool, you'd be surprised how well those guys treat you. Those professional jobs you speak of, I work one now, have their own issues via office politics and passive agressive micromanagers. I'd rather be able to tell dirty jokes and be an ass than have to deal with stiffs with no sense of humor. Luckily, the majority of my group are all a bunch of degenerates like myself.
Bro, I was the pussy whipped guy.
BUT I would never leave my bros.
YET I was very pussy whipped.
Thanks for calling me out, I never wanna do this anymore.
edit: fuck I'm depressed too. Many things have gone wrong in my life health-wise. I'm gonna fight back harder.
Ahh so Number 7 I am gotcha. Glad to know. Been there for years and forgot how to live until I got a job and just began living life I guess saving and spending on whatever I feel but still feel depressed. Common feeling but it goes once I do something else. (Busy hands = less thought of knowing how I feel and just do it)
The youtube algorithm really hittng me where I need it
So let me get this straight men that go their own way are weak? Lol!
They cant handle mgtow men
I can't make jokes. I'm autistic
I don't have friends nor do I want any
Hey guys, real live and i hate if this takes away from this guy, for the good intentions and advice he gives, but stop watching pickup videos. You live vicariously through it, just a whole bunch of unneeded emotions besides that too get tangled up. Chances are if you wqtch those things, your mind gets knotted easier than you like in the first place. Also i was 3/3 on first 3 things, but i have shot game in the past and can tell you the pickup videos are not helping you.
Dislike for more, dislike for better = envy. The biggest reason why you don't have successful friends, no friends who can approach girls = envy. Envy is the belief that you deserve everything they have right now, but for some reason you don't have it, and for some reason they do, and you don't like them.
1. And full confidence that this is unfair.And nothing can be changed, these communication skills, etc. they "should" be with you, but since they are not there, you will not get them in any way.And these people have them . They have them either unfairly, or because just like that "it should be" you see a dude like Denmo and you think, of course, you don't count yourself in this, but that's how you think he always had it and just has it just like that. You don't think how much he saddled and overcame situations to have it, to learn these skills, how much he got up and fell and that he was once the SAME AS YOU
2. Or absolute confidence in hopelessness = that if a person is better than you in something, then he will not be interested in you.I'll tell you a secret, there are people who like to teach other people what they have. But you don't have that picture in your head. You don't have a picture in mind that you can meet a dude like Denmo on the street, only he doesn't have a RUclips channel, but he also wants to share his lifestyle, and this dude can become your friend and raise you to his level and teach you to approach women.But you don't have that picture in your head.
On male depression: Man you actually genuinely have the worst possible understanding of depression I have ever seen. It’s an accomplishment, really. You just talk and talk on things you know absolutely nothing about. This is the 8th type of guy to avoid
14:00 where did I hear that depression actually could be hereditary (something you're born with)
this is so toxic and unnecessary
Each human being on this planet sees things a bit differently. There's no such thing as ultimate truth, or the best thing to do to succeed in anything. Just live your life, live accordingly to your own set of values, don't take gurus, coaches and motivational speakers too seriously, because at the end of the day you are still you and you naturally do things your way. If such people inspire you, that's fine, but remember that you are not worse than them, you are not a 'loser'. In life we have ups and downs, but nothing lasts forever and as long as we are alive, there's always a way out, even if at first a situation may seem totally hopeless. One advice from me, a guy who has experienced and seen a lot: don't spend too much time on RUclips and other social media, try to cut yourself off from the regular media as well. Go for a walk. I've found solutions for the biggest obstacles in my life while walking in nature.
I think every point was alright i guess until the last one. I get what you are saying, but the phrasing is bad. You are talking about the 'always a victim' type, it's not depressed people. Also, stop stating facts like you are a doctor or something. Yes, exercise reduces symptoms and definitely helps, but you can't just say it is the cure because young guys that watch your videos are going to believe it when it is simply not true. It could be dangerous for someone who is actually sick.
I'm the last one, battling with my self hate and negative self talk, i tend to dissappointed around people i live with, i hate people in general, including some guy you mention here, i almost fight them just like you, easily offended guys, i found that here.....
i have 0 friends so I'm good i think
A real based supporting friend is one of the best things a man can have. Unfortunately, many of ambitious and principled men are surrounded by pussies, dragging them down…
Yeah right dude... i couldn't get a job when i was 18 and i was on ebt... fuckin hated and started working when i could
You managed to properly insult everyone, 5:30am is coming like a freight train choo choo!
Yeah I could never be friends with white knights and simps, there's no way. I had a co worker buddy who could approach and pull women, but he was the biggest white knight I've ever met in my life, it was tilting. I couldn't even crack jokes about female customers who would come in, he would instantly get dead serious and defensive over strangers.
Also had tons of friends from school who were all simps. I was just like man, how can you idiots tunnel vision so hard on one person, it's just mind boggling to me. Obsessive personalities are weird as hell. So many insecure people.
I'm 26 years old struggling with alcohol addiction for the past 7 years. Been to therapies 2 times. I'm definitely 3 and 7. Look man with depression, i get where you're coming from but at the same time i feel like it's like saying "you're depressed? Just be happy bro". Yeah excuse but fuck me sideways when u spend Soo much fucking time being so introverted to the point it just becomes like one of your traits. I dunno man. And i had girls. I even pulled a 10/10 27 year old when i was 19. Like she had the body of a model no word of a lie. Didn't last long but that's when my drinking started ... Yeah i thought i was mad in love. I had a mid girl for 4 years after that but that wasn't love. Just good sex, we couldn't connect with each other. Was still drinking too. I tried working out. I even got like a homemade workout kit. Coz i just hate gyms. I dono man i am a looser i need help.
I feel awkward in my own fucking skin
I would just recommend to get away from this type of content. It's bad for young impressionable people, and even worse for people that actually had problems and have realized is not as easy as buying the stupid 2023 course of the youtuber in turn. Good luck with those problems man, if you want to talk to someone I'm here for you
I've never approached any girls irl, but everyone thinks that I'm getting a lot of girls because I'm very confident, so I have a lot of friends at the same time, but no bitches...
What if one of these people is a family member?
This man woke up one day and decided to spread wisdom in the platform.
yup. Now spread it with your friends G
What you said about depression really resonates. In most cases, exercise is literally the cure for depression. I know it cured my depression time and time again. So to all the people who are depressed but not even exercising: Bro you literally have the cure to depression right next to you, but you're like "Naaaah, I prefer to stay depressed". And then you complain how you're depressed! You already have tools to fix your problem, but you don't wanna use them!
exercise doesn't do much if u have real depression. when depression is at its worst u dont have the willpower to get out of bed, going to the gym then is practically impossible.
starting to gym is great for everyone and can obviously reduce some symptoms but calling it a cure to depression is like calling autophagy from a two hour fast a cure to cancer.
Excercise doesn’t cure depression at all it does help though
Exercise helps, but it definitely isn't the cure lol. It's only part of it. If it works that way for you, then that's all well and good! 😊 but every human is wired differently. The same thing doesn't work for everybody.
Thing depression tends to decrease energy and loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities so its harder for them.
Depending on how serverity of the depression, how much they trust the advice if they even know about it in the first place. This may be eazier , harder or bordering on impossible (either severe clinical depression or they do not know but may figure it out accidentally).
How I personally managed to treat my (non-diagnosed, likely subclinical but never went to a shrink for an actual diagnostic) depression/whatever you wanna call it was (not sure how much it will help for more severe clinical cases):
-1. Not scrolling reddit 24/7 (a bad habit I got into during the pandemic), didn't know any better , eazier said than done but trust me , it can be done.
Some notes:
- Dopamine got so fried I actually quit videogames without wanting to just because brain wanted to scroll more , even videogames I used to enjoy felt overwheming and i would pretty much burnout on them just by starting for 8 seconds at the desktop icon deciding "should I or should I not" and lost sex drive.
- Rage+desperation at my current circumstance + website timegate to prevent the funny instinctual r+enter or equivalents. (if you actually need to grab any piece of information from the website you are hooked on , get in and get out, do not stay for a second longer than needed.
- It is gonna suck for a bit but you will actually start enjoying your hobbies again after 1 month or so, 100% worth it , the first week will usually be the hardest, after that relatively smooth sailing. (had a pretty bad case, more moderate cases would likely have the first 3 days and enjoying the hobbies in about 1-2 weeks time)
-2 Being eazier on myself.
Notes:
- Used to pretty much just force myself to do anything , including hobbies for the sake of maximising productivity.
- It was never enough productivty , always more time out of the day I am WASTING , as long as there was no physical limit in the way it was my fault.
- Turns out you need more rest than literally just the (usually less than) 8 hours of sleep and you cannot be productive 24/7, which is to say relatively mindless rote activites, unless you are a kid or something.
- My biggest productivity hack was pretty much just using fear and/or adrenaline rushes for motivation and energy. How you do this is that you wait for a deadline or some sort of fear to catch up to you then use the adrenaline as an energy source. Anything I did like this was usually done faster and similar or higher quality than "chipping away at it".
Including hobbies, don't wanna draw today, think about how much it would suck to get rusty at it and then give up.
Do this sparingly, this will burn you out fast, especially if you spam it for absolutely anything, also it just the emotional state just sucks in general (save for managing to "clutch" it at the end feeling).
- Enjoy the present moment ,I am not talking mindfulness here, I am talking find something you enjoy and do it even if its a waste of time , even if it's done inefficently, if done correctly you won't even "feel the present" , you wont even have the concept of time (unless something/someone reminds you of it) , if you focus only on achivement you are just chasing the dragon. Not everything has to be optimised,
Think playing a FPS like counterstrike with a meme strat , you don't care about optimising your chance to win, but you are having a lot of fun despite your shitty performance. The opposite of "tryharding".
- Actually more productive and happy this way, but ngl, a bit less disciplined.
Mostly figured these things out thought trial and error.
Oh boy, here we go. Another person who thinks exercise is the cure-all for mental health issues. Let me tell you something, pal. Depression is a serious illness that can't just be cured by going for a jog or doing some push-ups. Sure, exercise can release endorphins and boost mood, but it's not a substitute for proper treatment. So stop spreading this oversimplified and potentially harmful message, and let's focus on getting people the real help they need.
Denmo, this needed doing so much , you are rarer than hens' teeth , most male youtubers are awful and put women down and are pests and annoying as hell! but you are good ! these boys need some help what a bunch of pansies ! they are weird!
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Being bald isn’t an excuse. Some chicks love the masculine look. Bald >> Balding. Embrace being bald bro
Late night grind? I see u denmo
sup john i see you too
Depression medication is really bad, it makes me have serious brain fog to the point it’s affecting my driving skills lol
you sure are a good looking man and have some sense ! you are a miracle for women hopefully as would like to have a fella!! but not a dang grouch , get funnier !!
Bless Denmo. Two steps ahead of you, perhaps one ahead of him. Wife and multiple children. Yall can change. Find the best version of yourself. Build on it.
we got this
*loves to play games (particularly mmorpg's) to escape reality
*Broke because lives in poor country
*Depressed because how unfair society is
Holy sht man.
Jack changed his upload time to make europeans week by giving them a vid first thing in the morning xD
lmao bro it was accidental
Im willing to admit i am some of these guys and thats ok. Thanks for making me aware, time to work on myself. No more excuses and pretending to be a victim. Lets go fellas, only we can change our livea for the better.
Jokes on you, I hang out with exclusively artistic women.
I csnt go and talk to girls and date I'm 14 TF lol 🤣 but don't get offended I have a gf
8:10 in my country we have a literal epidemic of refugees that come here to get wellfair. Over 50% of all long time refugees dont work. They stay here for years without learning our language and not wanting to work. There are limits. I understand that they first need help, but after a couple month they should start doing something.
No joke this video made me cry. I just can't do it man. Can't face failure
This is one of my favorite videos from you, helpful and eye opening af. Cheers mate!
might sting a bit but yeah bro, gamechanger
It’s pretty simple for a lot of men,maybe you wanna wait until you find the right one instead of tryna tap on every girl you get a chance with
Homies just rip on each other that’s just how it is and some people just don’t understand that
Well said, Denmo.
Stay intentional, men!
Supporting from Yuma, Arizona, USA
been to AZ several times big shoutout
I can agree wihh the simp n white knight one but everything else is CAP
exercice helped me 100%, self improvement helped me 130% in litterly all aspect of my life. And the funnier about it is that, if you have begin it, and saw that it worked, people still will tell you your not a doctor or any kind of shit...
Lol went bald and went on the best pork spree of my life. People will talk shit but you gotta dish it back. It's all testing man.
Lol 12:13 here is Scryptonite, great rapper from Kazakhstan. Dude, how did you even find his video? That's cool. I don't think he's famous worldwide, but music he's doing is great.
Legit question
How do i stop being a wight knight?
Stop defining myself over the validation from others?