If you believe your hometown is holding you back then it will. If you believe your city is filled with opportunity you'll find those opportunities. Your hometown conditions you to believe you're being held back more than it actually holds you back. You hold yourself back. Just a different perspective. Love the videos.
I agree but from someone going through it… it’s not that black and white but outlook matters for sure. But imagine being a shining star trapped in a barrel with crabs. Even though you can think the best and be optimistic. Trust me I understand I won the silver lining award in college for seeing the positive side of things. But I say this to say, you can do everything possible to make it in that barrel but are you really making it? You may be the best crab in that barrel with dreams as wide as the sun but how far can you shine from that barrel constantly reminded of who you aren’t and being an empath seeing those you love give up. It’s not so easy but definitely possible to stay and make it but hopefully this helps see the other side ❤
I moved cities and when I return to my home town on holiday it just feels so stagnant. All my friends that stayed there act the same as they did in high school, its like no one has had any growth or development personally or professionally. Whenever I go back I'm reminded that leaving was the best decision I've made.
Funny! that the exact same thing we say about our friend who flew to USA 10 years ago - the guy is the same is the conclusion every time we meet 😂😂😂 but on the other hand it doesn't need to be a rule, it's just that you didn't evolve together for the time that passed
@@BOG0690 Well depends on what you want ok? I am in my 30s and for me its completely stupid and delusional to spend next 30 years in NYC living in a shoe box for minimum $3k/mo dreaming that you'll make it some day .Guess what - 1 in 20 will do well, are you sure you're that guy? In today's day and age, where majority of the jobs are remote and people are not that social anymore I would reconsider the "big city dream".
35 minute video broken down simple: 1. Stay in your hometown if your needs are met, able to find work, surrounded by loving family/friends. 2. If hometown has too many bad memories, defeatist mentalities, dysfunctional/manipulative family = Get Out Of Dodge!!
I agree 100 percent. If one needs to get out of Dodge it's not a bad idea to learn a skilled trade i.e., electrician, mechanic, chef, computer programming, etcetera, before moving elsewhere. Besides having some cash saved up, marketable skills makes you more valuable when moving to a different country.
Exactly. #2 was my lot in life precisely. I tried and tried and tried but the hometown and its people and culture and my birth family are WAY too dysfunctional. I finally realized they like it this way and all attempts to share real growth and awareness go nowhere. They just hit the wash, rinse and repeat button.
I'm in my mid 30s and when I graduated high school, almost every single one of my friends left our small town to live in the big cities. Now they're all slowly coming back, one by one. I also plan on returning. Opportunities are way better in the big cities, but quality of life is terrible after living a decade or so here. Edit: I think it would be good to clarify that I don't regret moving and I believe that they probably don't as well. It was an important step to our personal and professional development
@@gcanaday1 Safety: On average, small towns have significantly lower crime rates, whether it's theft, property crime, or violent crimes. Health: Big cities are infamous for polluted air. Many small towns not only have better air quality but also better water quality. There is considerable variation, particularly with water quality in small towns, but it's usually easier to find. Access to Nature: Not all small towns, but several have nature that is easily accessible. Less Traffic: Traffic jams in small towns is virtually non-existent (with rare exceptions). Depending on the town you might not even need a car. Cost of Living: Due to fewer opportunities, small towns typically have a lower cost of living. For remote workers, this is great to build equity and reduce financially induced stress. More Space: Space is at a premium in big cities but is much more affordable in small towns. For the amount I pay for a 30 square meter (or 320 sqft) apartment in a capital city, I could rent a 200 square meter (or 2100 sqft) house with a garage and a yard in a small town. In the end we chose to move to a small town about a decade or so living in the city not because it is objectively better, but because I work remotely and we greatly enjoy living in a small town and the benefits we get from it. I suspect others have done so for similar reasons.
I remember when I was in my 20's, I thought the same way. Left my small hometown, traveled the world, had a good career all that. I worked hard and achieved alot. But now in my 30's living a quiet life, building a family closer to home and being in my hometown is much more appealing vs traveling everywhere. Im back in my hometown and met the love of my life there. And now, I see the value of where I live. You also empathize with the people that didnt leave home and value that they're still there. Life has many chapters and not every path is right for everyone. There's nothing wrong with traveling, but there's nothing wrong with staying where you grew up or returning back home.
Ahh Yeaah…huhmm… the hometowns not so bad now because you met the love of your little life back there so really now all that means is now you have a committed penis to suck on…and now it’s all so different and not so bad and you want to come on here and express your little joyfulness…I understand
there's truth in this. but there's compromises. there's probably other places that are a mix of a city and a small hometown that are good for starting a family. im from a very small closed-minded racist place, but its beautiful. but i live in a small city now. and while i could see home being better for making a family, i think ther's some place in between. i dont think home is necessary where you wshould return post professional and personal development either.
@@VannaMaethat’s what i’ve came to realize too, having similar values to the other person makes it so much easier to truly understand one another and communicate
Nothing about a pre determined reserved person for you makes sense. It's just that the two of you get along through the similar experiences, not that you two are supposed to be by default. Some people you agree with, with others not.
This hits hard for me. I’m 27 grew up in Myrtle Beach South Carolina Almost everyone here does the same exact shit and everyone is content living in a small town not seeing anything different. I’m working on getting my captains license so I can move and work in Miami or San Diego. I also had a quarter life crisis as well when I realized where I live kinda sucks and nothing really changes here and my friends are cool with working a 9 to 5 and are content with not seeing anything different. The best thing you can do for your mental health is get out your comfort zone, travel, meet new people and see what the world has to offer. A lot of people don’t bother thinking about what Denmo mentioned here. If you finished this video you’re already ahead of the game. Stay strong kings. 💪
@@Denmosocial Thanks man and thanks for the reply. I’m thinking about starting my own RUclips self improvement channel. I can definitely help people out and it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. Going to upload a couple videos this week.
@@Denmosocial$2000 dollar desk? Buy a drill and circular saw and make one in ten minutes with $60 of materials. Have your assistant paint it. What a tool.
I just wanted to know what's a great way to take a risk or any personal information on how you started trade work or online business and how long did it take to an earning.
Ugh. I think the manosphere self improvement community has gone too far when we just degrade people who are content for just being content… (content as in the opposite of ambitious)
This guy got really annoying when he started shitting on people consuming media when he himself produces content. And then Doubled down on it talking about hourly mindset like he hasn't been given the privilege to not work hourly because of the people that do.
@@wewillrise3663 nah I mean why would I work hard when I already have what I want? what's the motivation or what's point? well I kind of struggle with this too sometimes
People who leave their hometown have a calling on their heart that never goes away, you were meant to grow in a different field, then the one you were born in, it really cannot be explained 🤷🤷
I have a cycle of every year i live (extended holiday) somewhere abroad for minimum of 2-3 months like Japan, Nepal, Thailand etc. Technically iv not moved out of my UK hometown but this yearly cycle plan i do is my absolute saving grace. Iv seen the world and met so many people.
This is actually a must do for your health if you live above the 45th parallel longitude. For some people this will actually be life changing for their health. Im talking about people with seasonal affective disorder, autoimmune issues, people who are overexposed to blue light (everybody).
@@-whackd thats funny you mention that yeah because iv genuinly synced my cycle up so i always go away over winter (Dec to March) for that exact reason you stated
I am 10 times ahead of where I was at because I left my hometown. I met a girl and I found my independence from my family. This also fixed a lot of my old relationships because it proved I am responsible and capable of standing on my own two feet. I am just working on finishing my degree so I can move again to a new town and start a career.
Been to almost every US state and a dozen countries, lived in two other states and 1 other country for about 6 years, but I came back to my home state, because it turns out it’s an awesome place despite its flaws. I hope all of of ya’ll are lucky enough to find a place to call home, whether it’s where you were born or not.
Just today I ordered a plane ticket an next month moving out of my country to try and live spain thank you denmo for the motivation and the courage you gave me
I had moved to Ireland at the age of 14. Now I have returned to my motherland and I’m a farmer 💪🏼🚜 I still go back to Ireland but my passion for agriculture is growing significantly at the age of 28
We are basically like fleas. If you put fleas in a jar and close the lid they will learn to jump at that limited height. When opening the jar they will never jump higher than they actually can and will forever stay stuck in the jar despite them being capable of jumping higher. We are raised and taught to be followers and not leaders. When we get older we then believe, “oh I can’t do that or this or that,” when we never even tried. We learn the mentality that we are incapable and that mentality is reinforced b/c everyone around us also adopts that mentality. So in our minds it’s wiser to listen to authority, to follow the same path as everyone else. And if we think differently the other people (the other fleas) will lecture you and say, “bro what are you doing, we don’t jump that high, get back down here this instant! Stop being rebellious!” Misery loves company. Worse it’s to the point where we sometimes get to a point where it’s too late or rather more difficult to escape the position that mentality puts you in. Once you start the hamster wheel it’s harder to escape it. But at the same time most of the youth don’t realize where they are headed so most don’t realize until it’s too late. We become depended on the lifestyles which is why it’s hard to escape because if we try to escape we risk losing everything that helps us take care of our responsibilities. And that’s a scary thing because none of us want to be the next homeless guy on the street. There isn’t much separating us from that homeless guy on the corner if you think about it. We remain in the constant fear that our boss will put us in that position if we “disobey” so we must fall in line like submissive dogs. Any of us can be one bad day from losing everything. And in our minds a lot of us can’t afford that because we have people to take care of, houses to pay off, cars to pay off, bills, rent, insurance to pay, taxes to pay, etc. Edit: Our entire livelihoods depend on that 9 to 5 job, but we fail to realize that that 9 to 5 jobs become our entire lives. We live and breath out 9 to 5. We barely have freedom from it. And most of us end up working a lot more than that 9 to 5 because we need to make that extra money to get by. Our jobs become our personality. Most people I talk to, talk about their work drama, things they experienced in work, what they did in work. It’s like we are all the same. Our lives are non-existent outside of work for most people. It’s really sad. Same thing with one’s hometown. If we remain in the same place all our life our world views are shaped by the limited scope we have. Our hometown also becomes our personality
Moved from a small town in eastern alberta to Vancouver. Been here a week and my life went from disordered to literally like living in a movie. I get so much more done just from being self reliant in a big city. Would recommend if you’re going into your 20s
I moved to a big city to get my education done. After that though I moved straight back to my home town. I just hate big cities personally, and everyone I know and love are here in my home town and surrounding towns. Many of those city people aren't just people I want to be around.
@@cassu6yeah if your family wasn’t toxic and you had a lot of friends you probably didn’t have to move most people move to get away from bad backgrounds and get a new life and never go back.
the problem with listening to Parents out of respect even society can ruin you, they constantly beat down your creative and assertive self . thats why you end up living their goals and end up depressed in life.
EXACTLY! one cannot blindly listen to ones parents or family members. getting caught up in their drama is a huge risk when you're just trying to establish yourself as an individual.
Video hits hard. I live in one of the bigger growing cities in the US. It’s been rated by many places as a top 5 place to live in the country. But I’ve been here my whole life. Never been on a plane, never been to more that like 4 or 5 states. My parents want to me to come back home after I finish school and almost think I’m stupid if I don’t because of the job opportunities. But I want to move out. Not far… but somewhere else. A big city like a Miami. It may not be cost efficient or the “smartest” decision to make, but I want new experiences. I love my city for what it is and I want to return later in life, but I need to experience new things. Thanks for reinforcing that Jack.
Do it, move out. With respect for them, your parents just want you to stay to make them feel comfortable. They wouldn't have to deal with a big change in their lives and they'd be able to parent, making them feel good. When you think about it, they'll actually see the result of years of raising you when you're on your own and start living a successful life independently.
It's not about jumping around and finding where the grass is the greenest (just like with relationships). It's about finding something that is prespective, working on it and making it work for you. Flying around every month doesn't allow you to actually build something somewhere. I'm content with my city, because I've reconstructed an apartment here, made meaningful relationships with people and made it work for me. The base was there and I've built my life here. Just like with my wife. The qualities, sympathies and compatibility was there and we've worked hard on our relationship and built a beautiful relationship. I'm 24, I have an apartment and a beautiful wife and life. I am much further then if I'd slept around and had short meaningless relationships or traveled around from one rental to another just to find perfection that does not exist.
he didn't meant being a bully or disrespectful. He just meant by breaking the norms. Coming out of your comfort zone and escaped the matrix. You might feel comfort during the 20s working in corporate 9-5 everyday till you reach 40 having children. Then,you will suffered the midlife crisis like most people are after covid.
@@Daiman01 I've met these mid life crisis types. I met a guy who's divorced, ha 2 kids, works a min wage job and hates my guts cause I didn't make those choices
@@BOG0690 indeed,my father really suffered terribly on it. I've seen a lot of guys in there 40-50s goes to depression. Covid really exposed the flaws of the matrix system. Best we could do is to start doing something. Business,entrepenurship,services and find something in you different than others. Wish yalls find something on this.Its truly an eye-opener.
Funny I see this on my notification as I'm preparing to leave my hometown in the countryside area to go to a big city to pursue a master's degree next month. But I'll be hearing you out considering you seem one of the few genuine folks in these circles Jack.
My home city has all my family. I can live out of state for a bit, but as I turn 30 my parents are getting older and experiencing health issues.. same with my grandparents. It's very nice to see them on all holidays.
Really great video! Nice to know there are still some people out here with a similar mindset. I am actually moving out of my hometown next month to have a change in my life and separate myself from those who don't enjoy new experiences. At the same time I am actively pursuing my engineering masters degree part time at a top 10 university because I personally enjoy higher education and the connections you can make. I think in life it is necessary to take risks and take a step back to evaluate if those around you should be around you! You only live one life so work hard and take a risk!
I've traveled a lot all my life. I moved to America from India with my parents when I was 4 and we moved towns quite a lot. I've lived pretty much everywhere in California and moved like 3 times during the plandemic (I didn't misspell that) and now I'm in the mid west since I got my first job here. People in the mid west in the US have way more of that hometown mindset and it just made me think that despite all the struggles I went through moving around I've developed a different mindset regarding opportunity. So many of these people just go to a local college, get a local job, and just live there for 30-40 years until they want to retire and move to Florida like every freaking other person. Pretty pathetic. Meanwhile I always try to think of what's next and chase the next opportunity even if it's outside my hometown. Right now I want to just settle down and not think about moving again but in 2 years I could be somewhere completely different. Maybe I'll be in Japan on a business trip or maybe I move to Texas after getting headhunted. A lot of the people around me simply don't even think of that and separate themselves from that lifestyle mentally. DUDE. WTF. GROW THE HELL UP. Opportunities exist and the only thing keeping you from them is distance. Your hometown people don't care about you. MOVE.
Living a simple honest life isn't pathetic. You sound like you're suffering from "main character" syndrome, which is common when you're young but life will mellow you out.
@@Saru-yr3qk No I actually respect the simple life. It's the guys who can ONLY think of a life in their hometown that I have concern about. Those who know what can be done outside and still choose a simple life have my respect. I don't think I'm special or anything. Generally i always assume I know less than the other person but these last few years I've constantly met people who just can't think outside of the box. I'm sure I have a box I'm trapped in but my only real limitation is leaving my beloved cars behind in my country of residence lol
Why is it pathetic to live in your home town and want to retire in Florida? Nothing wrong with that, what is pathetic is hating for a stupid reason like that.
Everything this guy is saying is facts. I can say after starting my own business, moving cities and making my OWN money on my own time. Don’t be afraid to change and level up gentlemen. Leave the city, start the business, make new friends and experience new things.
I've been watching your videos for years Jack, and I'm really proud of both how far you've come and that you've always stayed true to being a man of integrity and passion (two qualities that are very lacking these days). At first when watching this video, I found myself saying that I disagreed and wanted to click away, but I remembered that respect I have for your opinion and wanted to listen all the way through. I think you clarified any point that maybe I disagreed with and I think you have an excellent way of articulating why leaving is so important, at least in your twenties. There's a verse I love in the Bible: “A prophet is not without honor except in his own country, among his own relatives, and in his own house.” I've noticed that in my own life too. The people who saw you grow up will be unable to see the potential of higher truths you may be able to bring. This video helped light a fire under my ass, can't wait to see what comes of it! It actually is pretty in line with a business idea I've had too, if you have any email or something where I could maybe run the idea by you, that'd be dope bro. Either way, keep it up my man.
Moved from eastern europe(moldova) to western europe(switzerland) and i gotta say i fkin hate my life now, i wish i could go back, the society here is just simply... dang
@@sosna1443 i dont like oversharing on the internet but, it was way too much poverty in moldova so we needed to move somewhere else, my father could somehow go to switzerland some years ago and could bring us here, lost all my friends and even my gf, the fast transition between the society there and the western society is so hard to adapt to, not tryna be the 12 yrs old kid saying "sOcIeTy bAd" but damn it is bad here
@@trisser39 Not enough mental peace and money chasing 24/7? You can take advantage of the good economy that the Swiss have and like move to a smaller city or something
Moved from Kentucky to Canada (London, Ontario) for school back in 2016. I am currently thinking about moving to a different city or go closer to home. Living away from where I grew up has taught me a lot. But having family closer to me is something that I miss. I will NEVER move back to my hometown but being closer to family does not sound that bad.
Im from kentucky visiting and broke down cause i felt like i missed out on my friends that i use to hang with until i realised that they left for better oppurtunitys and i now live in north carolina visiting these people have shown that i made the right decision to get out and start a new life i say to anyone who thinks happiness will come from being around your friends or people in your hometown forever you wont move and start a new life i am gratefull god moved me so i could become close and fix myself and my oppurtunity will be greater because i went into a new area so yes start that new life and prosper
Ive traveled the world, been to a lot of different countries. Had my fun in my teens and 20s, now im in my 30s, have a wife and a beautiful baby boy. Living in a small town that has 4 seasons. I have a comfy office job thats easy. Doesnt pay the best but i make enough to get by. Honestly at this point in my life im content and i dont feel like theres anything wrong with that. I have 2 full time jobs now, my actual job and being a parent. Being content and stable is what i need now to help raise my son and to be a good father for him. Granted your advice is good i just dont believe theres anything wrong with people happy just being content with their current situation. I certainly am
Hi, my name is chance I am 27 years old. I haven’t watched it all the way through yet but I’m almost done with the video great video and I just wanted to say I was on the fence about starting up my own RUclips business and I just wanted to say that I am all in now and I’m gonna get out of my hometown. Thanks, Jack.
This definitely fits with the eastern half of the US and Canada. In the east, most people just stay there and many are too scared to move and find better prospects. And what he says about city people holding you down is totally true.
Sorry, I just came across this video and don't know who you are, but I am impressed by your level of maturity at your age. I'm a 46 year old anglophone from small town Quebec. Dude, you are so correct about this. I always wanted to leave my hometown since I was a young teenager. I saw the larger world outside the bubble I was born in. Unfortunately, due to certain circumstances and a health problem that occurred when I was a young adult, I got stuck in my town. I predicted when I was a teenager what was going to happen to my life if I got stuck here. Surely enough my predictions came true, and it wasn't for the good. I still hold onto hope of leaving, and I may have an opportunity in the near future of leaving the province. It would have been better, and a life changing event, if I had moved out much younger. So it's kind of too late for it to make a difference in my life. However, something is better than nothing. Everyone I grew up with, a high school of 2000 students, all moved out of here. It's rare I ever see someone I grew up with. Wanting to leave ones hometown/region is something that is programmed within our DNA. Some of us just have those instincts stronger than others. Being stuck in a bubble of thinking and living one way is no way to live ones life. I'm a black sheep where I live. I do not fit in; however, when I have traveled to other places/countries I felt more at home than my own hometown. I also found that people will hold you back from reaching your potential in life because they know you have something within you that they don't have. Everyone wants to be ahead of the other, have more going for them, etc. It's also selfish, because people don't want to lose you. But the problem is that they don't care about you when you are around. They eventually take you for granted. And one more thing, people become too comfortable within their bubble, not realizing that one day their bubble can burst. Then what?! Also dude, I spotted something that you said in which I think you may be stuck in a bubble of thinking one way. You stated how some people will only hangout with people who have less going for them in life, etc. Then you referred to people who make more money. Dude, eliminate that way of thinking. You are blocking yourself off from meeting and building relationships with people from all walks of life. Only lookout for ones character and not anything else that goes along with it such as income, career, education, etc. Do not limit the world of possibilities of the people you can meet out there. So unless I misunderstood you, only judge people by their character and you'll be amazed at who you may run into sometimes.
As you said, you’re only in your 20’s, and it shows. A lot of this is 20’s hubris, before decisions you made 5, 10, even 15 years ago start to have consequences, and you start to gain true perspective.
Agreed. He's a kid and he expressed himself like a kid....not particularly well. In your 20's you just haven't been alive long enough to offer a thoughtful and informed opinion on matters such as this.
Yeah, this entire video is just typical youthful wanderlust. There's nothing wrong with wanting to see the world or feeling like your destiny lies somewhere other than the town you grew up in. But don't assume people who choose to stay are somehow deficient for wanting to stay and be content as they are. Young people often leave home because they need to figure out who they are and what they want in life. Some people are lucky enough to know that early on, and so they have no need to leave home.
@@derek96720 And some people move back because they realize how much they need their family when they have kids. And some never leave because family is more important in the first place.
I lived in three US states in my life so far. Leaving my hometown taught me a lot of things about the US that I never would've thought over a decade ago if I would've stayed there. I just moved into an apt. all by myself near the DC area and love it so far. You get to meet people from all over the world. My goal is to at least got to about four other countries someday if I ever have the money of course but I'm keeping up my chin for that one. Thanks for the vid Denmo.
You’re right Denmo! I can’t believe that most people live in there hometown or close to hometown there whole entire life. I moved far away from my hometown 10 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. 😂
This is why I got my commercial drivers license - I have seen the whole country in 8 months and I would’ve never gotten that chance if I didn’t decide to leave
I’m 17 and I live in Barrie Ontario. Not to far away is Hamilton so I can’t pretty much relate to a lot of what you’re saying. My goal is to move out of here as quick as I can. Barrie is a shit hole, And don’t get me wrong it’s a great functioning city but ever since I’ve gotten older my eyes have opened up more to all the bullshit around me and it’s terrible. Thanks for this video, keep up the great work bro!
I love where i live, been here my whole life and i dont plan on moving. I work for the family business and hope to one day take the reigns. I also co parent in my hometown so it would be hard to move away from my son. I get outta town from time to time, and thats enough for me. Im building something for myself and thats enough for me.
I have had the 100% opposite experience but I think that may just be true for people with especially poor home lives. I had to experience the world, go around it and come back to appreciate nuances and forgive flaws, lots of time away to become stronger so I could deal with the real dragon back home before it died. I realize that the town itself was actually quite tranquil but none of that matters in your own little teapot. Misery can be like a pocket dimension. When you see that, you can just step through that door that was already open. Wide open. Birds chirping, leaves rustling.
I agree with everything you said. Born and raised in the DC metro area (aka the "DMV"), everyone I went to HS with is stuck in their own bubble. So glad to have left in 2014 to live overseas in Thailand. Quality of life is much better, never stressed about money & finances, etc. I recommend everyone get out of their comfort zone and "man up."
I'm a home town kid. One could argue that moving away can also be seen the easy way out. Overall, you're argument is probably more aligned with a growth mindset than mine. However, there is much more opportunity elsewhere. If I want to find a meaningful career near my hometown I might have a handful of opportunities and the competition is stiff. If I want to find similar opportunities and am willing relocate, there may be 100's or even thousands of opportunities. I think what matters most is where one finds meaningfulness. Happiness is a farse. Don't chase it. Don't follow your passions. Treat it like your wallet and bring your passion with you everywhere you go. Whether you realize that in your hometown or if you need to move somewhere far away doesnt matter.
im 19 and moving to a city seems very overwhelming, much less traveling abroad. i already struggle with socializing and the friends i do have are important to me; moving to an entirely different town with totally different people, culture, and atmosphere is a terrible idea. great way to send yourself into a very deep depression and an overwhelming amount of instability in your life that can lead to you being financially destitute with zero safety net. ive done it before. twice.
@@SuperPenguin5495 They revoked the job offer because the other owner hired someone and didn't tell the guy I was interviewing with. Then my Dad ended up passing away shortly after so I'm back at my parents place putting it up for sale and cleaning up. I may end up buying a house now out there. It's been... rough to say the least
So, I'm almost 37, and I don't have kids. I dated someone for 6 years and didn't get married. I immediately dated someone else for 13 years and didn't get married. Now, I've been single for 3 years, and I'm envious of the happy families I see. So, instead of looking at them with pity, try to think how a life of loneliness could be the rest of your life with nobody to carry on your name. Please don't make my mistake.
@@FluffyBunny9002but the thing is man most of these chicks have very high standards and have a high body count I don't want to be somebody else's beta Billy Plan B
@ariesman5528 Haha! Yeah, that's absolutely an issue these days. Maybe don't pursue western women if you're looking for someone who's marriage material these days. A lot of Asian women hold traditional values still.
I think this topic is very complex and is reliant on a case by case perspective. Some small towns have the perfect opportunities and offer a good quality of life. Some folks grow up in an ideal town but need something different. Basically it's all anecdotal.
I left my hometown and ditched all my friends I grew up with. After that my life improved exponentially! Although I have to fight those feelings of nostalgia sometimes.
Agree with the most you have said, but remember not everyone wants the same, there are people happy living in a single place and I am not here to judge them. Cheers from Mexico bro
Thats respect, as somebody who went through that cheating shit where friends know but dont say shit. That petty shit aside, I stand by this. I’ve lived consistently in about 5 different states and the thing that always got to me was how people think that the “mainstream” paradigm of that one place is the same as everywhere. No, no it’s not.
So here’s the thing. A lot of people will view leaving home as the ultimate adventure/ pilgrimage to go somewhere far in life. However sometimes you are kind of born already in the premiere location. I’m born in NY, I got a job in NYC, now I’m by proxy looking for a house within an hour radius of NYC. It kind of is how it is 🤷🏼♂️
Mines the opposite story. I always wanted to leave and talked about it and actually had people copy me and my exact personality. Wish I talked less about my dreams and goals when I was younger. Literally have double gangers of myself walking around even with the same laugh. The people who were inspired by me turned on me and actually became quite abusive toward me once they had received all that knowledge off me. Then came back years later seeking more knowledge from me. My home town was already extremely international and I got to travel and live over seas a lot as a kid. I always couldn’t understand how people could be friends with the same group and I was always seeking more. But, there was a side to me that kinda wished I could just be simple minded and just fit in and be happy with the same group. Still till this day some of my friends from high school are all in the same group and extremely toxic for each other and they don’t even see it. Like a wasp nest, they cling to each other. Also very incestuous. All sleeping with each others exes but, all still remaining friends. It’s quite fascinating to observe. I’ve been back for almost 3 years now and am clawing to get out again. Can’t stand the miserable weather and the clickyness. Sometimes I wish I met a boy in my home town and settled and could be happy like ‘those couples’ but, I just knew if I stayed with that boy from high school that, I’d be so miserable. But, then I still haven’t found what I am looking for. Acceptance is in the heart. It’s in your own mind. Some days I love it and hate it, some days I’m so appreciative of my clean beautiful area with trees and friendly neighbours and other I feel I’ll blow my brains out if I see another familiar face waving at me. It’s all about mind set. But, I will say the crime here eg. stabbings is getting extremely bad here. So, once I’m done with wrapping up the stuff I came back for, I’m outttttty. And very sad to see a lot of mates from back in the day with serious drug addictions, and extremely toxic.
Talking About the benefits of consuming foreing contents, I´d Like to say that for me is a pleasure to watch this video and completely understand what was shared. I´ve Learned english alone when I was 17 and I´ve never imagined in the possibility to reach this point. I´ve faced depression for at least 4 years and today, I feel better just because I´ve noticed that nothing is more powerful than the knowledge. I considerate myself as a lover for knowing and understanting things. Knowledge, especially came from outside of our bulb, can make us give another meaning in our way to live. Well, I´m Antonio and this video was a true Eye-opening to look the world out of my bulb. Thanks, bro.
I think every situation can offer different fruit. Some hometowns are full of potential for the future, there are people who live in cities that never need to leave. There are also dead-end backwater industrial towns with nothing to see. It really is about taking initiative.
It makes more sense for your "soul mate" to be in the same city as you. You likely share a culture, heritage, values, and interests given you were raised in the same place. These are all components of successful, long-lasting relationships. It doesn't matter if there's 8 billion people. In fact, there's a much lower chance of compatibility with those who are foreign
I didn't even watch the video but let me tell you this is true. If you want to grow you have to move. It's why people become locals, live & die in their city. They never expand and commit their entire life to riding up & down the same block until their last breath. I get disgusted whenever I go back home. I couldn't believe I lived there for 20 years and not realizing nothing there was making me a better person or putting me ahead.
Yep. I traveled to five different countries in Asia for three months and between the two way ticket, food, boarding I spent less than $3000 USD. This was in 2017.
i am 63 and have seen more of this world than i ever expected to. i truly miss my hometown. pop. c.3,000 back in the day. next town? about 90' away. anonymity = the erasure of the individual. it destroys community. you need a street, a bar where everybody knows your name. it's human. travel is tech not connection.
Listen? don't listen? Hes wrong, he's right? It depends on you. Some ppl are home bodies, some ppl travel. Some ppl have the ambition to leave, some ppl would rather improve what they have.. don't do something because someone else tells you what you've been doing is a waste of time. Dont NOT do something because someone tells you its pointless. Do what YOU want. Not what a stranger tells you. This mans advice could help someone else find their path. But his advice could be completely useless to someone who has already found their path. Dont let someone flash things in your face to make you feel bad about not having it. Be you. Be content being you.
I still live at home. Getting my brain and health fixed from concussions has definitely held me back. I’ve learned and grown a ton since grade school. I allowed myself to get great at socializing, fitness, skills, and many other things. I’ve finally gotten to the point at 23 where I’m ready to go. For my growth as a man to be as much as possible. I’m doing it so I won’t hinder myself. I’m making myself uncomfortable. It’s definitely tough as a man but I’m ready for it. I have an awesome home life and great supportive family so it’s easy to be around the home town.
I grew up in a city with a small town vibes. I dropped out of college at 18 and joined the military. I was stationed out in Oceanside, CA (SD county), spend like 5 years there and got a chance to go to Australia for 5 in a half months. It was an eye opening for me that there is so much more out there than where I was from where everyone was doing the same thing everyday. After my active duty contract was up, I moved back to my hometown at 23 years old to finish college. Now that I am almost 26 years old and about to graduate from college pretty soon here, I do want to plan for my next future goals, but I don’t know where I want to go.
I'm in a position in my life where very soon I could cash it all in and go live in the Philippines for rest of my life. But why? Leave all my friends and family, the people I rely on and the people who rely on me? I'm useful here. My life has purpose here. It's good to travel, I guess, open your mind, but in the end, I want to be around my family every day and that's what I need and I'm never giving it up.
Moved from Montreal QC to Thunder Bay ON and lived outside of town when i was 19yo. Got to an amazing job sadly 6months after i had really bad news loosing a grand father and moved back down to MTL spend the remaining time he had with him. Now i got another incredible job but i'm just not diggin it again. Loved the lil village vibes, looking foward to moving to Alberta next summer!
I don’t know man I’ve been to nearly every state, and from my perspective, it’s pretty much all the same. All I really need is a computer, a TV, and a Taco Bell. I’m pretty much set anywhere I go.
Born in NJ, 30 minutes outside of NYC. Moved around the US for a while, and it has just given me a greater appreciation for my home town lmfao. Regarding moving outside the US... most of us are not internet entrepreneurs.
I left my hometown at 18, now 24. Now I have the opportunity to move to either Hawaii or Germany within the next year. Honestly it’s a tough choice lmao
I spent the first 19 years of my life growing up in Hamilton, ON. The best thing I ever did was get out of that town and move out west 11 years ago. That place is a total shithole now, it was always rough and bummy growing up but I can't believe how far it has fallen.
Damn. You put into words things I have been feeling for years. Thanks for waking up that ambitious part of me I had as a teenager and lost a grip on during the pandemic. I want to do better
I left my country and moved to Paris last year. best decision i ever made. Learning a new language meeting new people the job opertunities here are insane compared to my hometown im loving it.
I don't really have a "hometown," we moved around every 4 years and never really settled one place. But we have been here for 7 years, and I've been on my own for 3 of those years near my parents. I love my family and I want to be around them, but I'm getting ready to finish trade school and my lease will be up around then. I've lost friends and people I love and learned a lot in a short amount of time recently. I feel like at this turning point in my life, I need to go on my own adventure for a while. I've gotten some plans together to move myself to where I was born in Utah, though I have no memories from there. I think it'd be a good thing.
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If you believe your hometown is holding you back then it will. If you believe your city is filled with opportunity you'll find those opportunities. Your hometown conditions you to believe you're being held back more than it actually holds you back. You hold yourself back. Just a different perspective. Love the videos.
I agree but from someone going through it… it’s not that black and white but outlook matters for sure. But imagine being a shining star trapped in a barrel with crabs. Even though you can think the best and be optimistic. Trust me I understand I won the silver lining award in college for seeing the positive side of things. But I say this to say, you can do everything possible to make it in that barrel but are you really making it? You may be the best crab in that barrel with dreams as wide as the sun but how far can you shine from that barrel constantly reminded of who you aren’t and being an empath seeing those you love give up. It’s not so easy but definitely possible to stay and make it but hopefully this helps see the other side ❤
W take
Word.
Your mind can take you anywhere
Hanging in your own place can make you feel stuck
I moved cities and when I return to my home town on holiday it just feels so stagnant. All my friends that stayed there act the same as they did in high school, its like no one has had any growth or development personally or professionally. Whenever I go back I'm reminded that leaving was the best decision I've made.
Funny! that the exact same thing we say about our friend who flew to USA 10 years ago - the guy is the same is the conclusion every time we meet 😂😂😂 but on the other hand it doesn't need to be a rule, it's just that you didn't evolve together for the time that passed
I went back to my hometown on father's day. It was so dead across the city. It was a strong reminder of why I moved.
@@BOG0690 Well depends on what you want ok? I am in my 30s and for me its completely stupid and delusional to spend next 30 years in NYC living in a shoe box for minimum $3k/mo dreaming that you'll make it some day .Guess what - 1 in 20 will do well, are you sure you're that guy? In today's day and age, where majority of the jobs are remote and people are not that social anymore I would reconsider the "big city dream".
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Didn't say big city. Just don't need my hometown
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You are absolutely correct!!
35 minute video broken down simple: 1. Stay in your hometown if your needs are met, able to find work, surrounded by loving family/friends. 2. If hometown has too many bad memories, defeatist mentalities, dysfunctional/manipulative family = Get Out Of Dodge!!
I agree 100 percent. If one needs to get out of Dodge it's not a bad idea to learn a skilled trade i.e., electrician, mechanic, chef, computer programming, etcetera, before moving elsewhere. Besides having some cash saved up, marketable skills makes you more valuable when moving to a different country.
Exactly. #2 was my lot in life precisely. I tried and tried and tried but the hometown and its people and culture and my birth family are WAY too dysfunctional.
I finally realized they like it this way and all attempts to share real growth and awareness go nowhere. They just hit the wash, rinse and repeat button.
#2 sounds like me
I'm in my mid 30s and when I graduated high school, almost every single one of my friends left our small town to live in the big cities. Now they're all slowly coming back, one by one. I also plan on returning. Opportunities are way better in the big cities, but quality of life is terrible after living a decade or so here.
Edit: I think it would be good to clarify that I don't regret moving and I believe that they probably don't as well. It was an important step to our personal and professional development
In the end i think it's important to keep in movement
Same. Time to go back home :).
Quality of life is worse?? Just what exactly do you value?
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Safety: On average, small towns have significantly lower crime rates, whether it's theft, property crime, or violent crimes.
Health: Big cities are infamous for polluted air. Many small towns not only have better air quality but also better water quality. There is considerable variation, particularly with water quality in small towns, but it's usually easier to find.
Access to Nature: Not all small towns, but several have nature that is easily accessible.
Less Traffic: Traffic jams in small towns is virtually non-existent (with rare exceptions). Depending on the town you might not even need a car.
Cost of Living: Due to fewer opportunities, small towns typically have a lower cost of living. For remote workers, this is great to build equity and reduce financially induced stress.
More Space: Space is at a premium in big cities but is much more affordable in small towns. For the amount I pay for a 30 square meter (or 320 sqft) apartment in a capital city, I could rent a 200 square meter (or 2100 sqft) house with a garage and a yard in a small town.
In the end we chose to move to a small town about a decade or so living in the city not because it is objectively better, but because I work remotely and we greatly enjoy living in a small town and the benefits we get from it. I suspect others have done so for similar reasons.
@@bass2092yep, that's great summary.
I remember when I was in my 20's, I thought the same way. Left my small hometown, traveled the world, had a good career all that. I worked hard and achieved alot.
But now in my 30's living a quiet life, building a family closer to home and being in my hometown is much more appealing vs traveling everywhere. Im back in my hometown and met the love of my life there. And now, I see the value of where I live.
You also empathize with the people that didnt leave home and value that they're still there.
Life has many chapters and not every path is right for everyone. There's nothing wrong with traveling, but there's nothing wrong with staying where you grew up or returning back home.
thanks for sharing that perspective brother!
Ahh Yeaah…huhmm… the hometowns not so bad now because you met the love of your little life back there so really now all that means is now you have a committed penis to suck on…and now it’s all so different and not so bad and you want to come on here and express your little joyfulness…I understand
I could never🤣
there's truth in this. but there's compromises. there's probably other places that are a mix of a city and a small hometown that are good for starting a family. im from a very small closed-minded racist place, but its beautiful. but i live in a small city now. and while i could see home being better for making a family, i think ther's some place in between. i dont think home is necessary where you wshould return post professional and personal development either.
Sharing a hometown or, better yet, a childhood is actually a pretty important part of what makes a soulmate.
I 100% agree with this. I met the love of my life in my hometown. Us having the same values, growing up in the same place made a world of difference.
I use the salmon analogy....Salmon spawn usually where they were born.
@@VannaMaethat’s what i’ve came to realize too, having similar values to the other person makes it so much easier to truly understand one another and communicate
if you don't try anything else, you don't know any different.
Nothing about a pre determined reserved person for you makes sense. It's just that the two of you get along through the similar experiences, not that you two are supposed to be by default. Some people you agree with, with others not.
This hits hard for me. I’m 27 grew up in Myrtle Beach South Carolina Almost everyone here does the same exact shit and everyone is content living in a small town not seeing anything different. I’m working on getting my captains license so I can move and work in Miami or San Diego. I also had a quarter life crisis as well when I realized where I live kinda sucks and nothing really changes here and my friends are cool with working a 9 to 5 and are content with not seeing anything different. The best thing you can do for your mental health is get out your comfort zone, travel, meet new people and see what the world has to offer. A lot of people don’t bother thinking about what Denmo mentioned here. If you finished this video you’re already ahead of the game. Stay strong kings. 💪
you got this king
@@Denmosocial Thanks man and thanks for the reply. I’m thinking about starting my own RUclips self improvement channel. I can definitely help people out and it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. Going to upload a couple videos this week.
Hey man that sounds better than small town Iowa lol. At least youve got the ocean
@@Denmosocial$2000 dollar desk? Buy a drill and circular saw and make one in ten minutes with $60 of materials. Have your assistant paint it. What a tool.
I just wanted to know what's a great way to take a risk or any personal information on how you started trade work or online business and how long did it take to an earning.
Ugh. I think the manosphere self improvement community has gone too far when we just degrade people who are content for just being content… (content as in the opposite of ambitious)
This guy got really annoying when he started shitting on people consuming media when he himself produces content. And then Doubled down on it talking about hourly mindset like he hasn't been given the privilege to not work hourly because of the people that do.
What do you expect? these "self-improvement" youtubers are just recycling or copying videos. they don't really meant it at all.
@@mithush6221 im pretty sure he was dumping on people who mindlessly live through the content they recieve and never question it.
Being content and optimist is cowardice
@@wewillrise3663 nah I mean why would I work hard when I already have what I want? what's the motivation or what's point? well I kind of struggle with this too sometimes
People who leave their hometown have a calling on their heart that never goes away, you were meant to grow in a different field, then the one you were born in, it really cannot be explained 🤷🤷
I have a cycle of every year i live (extended holiday) somewhere abroad for minimum of 2-3 months like Japan, Nepal, Thailand etc. Technically iv not moved out of my UK hometown but this yearly cycle plan i do is my absolute saving grace. Iv seen the world and met so many people.
thats dope bro
This is actually a must do for your health if you live above the 45th parallel longitude.
For some people this will actually be life changing for their health. Im talking about people with seasonal affective disorder, autoimmune issues, people who are overexposed to blue light (everybody).
@@-whackd thats funny you mention that yeah because iv genuinly synced my cycle up so i always go away over winter (Dec to March) for that exact reason you stated
Man that sounds epic, do you work remotely as well?
Denmo your Santa Claus analogy also debunks religion in general
I am 10 times ahead of where I was at because I left my hometown. I met a girl and I found my independence from my family. This also fixed a lot of my old relationships because it proved I am responsible and capable of standing on my own two feet. I am just working on finishing my degree so I can move again to a new town and start a career.
Been to almost every US state and a dozen countries, lived in two other states and 1 other country for about 6 years, but I came back to my home state, because it turns out it’s an awesome place despite its flaws. I hope all of of ya’ll are lucky enough to find a place to call home, whether it’s where you were born or not.
It’s in the end about your ancestry. Not living in jooo mixed third world hell that’s coming. We all got tricked
Home state is quite different from hometown.
Just today I ordered a plane ticket an next month moving out of my country to try and live spain thank you denmo for the motivation and the courage you gave me
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Love that. Good job man
U cant bake 6 mil cookies in 3 years breh
(J)dude is going back to a place they were expelled from before Spain entered it's golden age.
Literally watching this video because I'm going to do the same, not sure where in Spain but fuck it
I had moved to Ireland at the age of 14. Now I have returned to my motherland and I’m a farmer 💪🏼🚜 I still go back to Ireland but my passion for agriculture is growing significantly at the age of 28
Where in ireland are u...i moved here 16 years ago but thinking to move on and find another place
I respect anyone who has a passion. Do it up! We need farmers, but people complaining about agriculture with their mouths full is clown world.
We are basically like fleas. If you put fleas in a jar and close the lid they will learn to jump at that limited height. When opening the jar they will never jump higher than they actually can and will forever stay stuck in the jar despite them being capable of jumping higher.
We are raised and taught to be followers and not leaders. When we get older we then believe, “oh I can’t do that or this or that,” when we never even tried. We learn the mentality that we are incapable and that mentality is reinforced b/c everyone around us also adopts that mentality. So in our minds it’s wiser to listen to authority, to follow the same path as everyone else. And if we think differently the other people (the other fleas) will lecture you and say, “bro what are you doing, we don’t jump that high, get back down here this instant! Stop being rebellious!” Misery loves company.
Worse it’s to the point where we sometimes get to a point where it’s too late or rather more difficult to escape the position that mentality puts you in. Once you start the hamster wheel it’s harder to escape it. But at the same time most of the youth don’t realize where they are headed so most don’t realize until it’s too late. We become depended on the lifestyles which is why it’s hard to escape because if we try to escape we risk losing everything that helps us take care of our responsibilities. And that’s a scary thing because none of us want to be the next homeless guy on the street. There isn’t much separating us from that homeless guy on the corner if you think about it. We remain in the constant fear that our boss will put us in that position if we “disobey” so we must fall in line like submissive dogs. Any of us can be one bad day from losing everything. And in our minds a lot of us can’t afford that because we have people to take care of, houses to pay off, cars to pay off, bills, rent, insurance to pay, taxes to pay, etc.
Edit: Our entire livelihoods depend on that 9 to 5 job, but we fail to realize that that 9 to 5 jobs become our entire lives. We live and breath out 9 to 5. We barely have freedom from it. And most of us end up working a lot more than that 9 to 5 because we need to make that extra money to get by. Our jobs become our personality. Most people I talk to, talk about their work drama, things they experienced in work, what they did in work. It’s like we are all the same. Our lives are non-existent outside of work for most people. It’s really sad.
Same thing with one’s hometown. If we remain in the same place all our life our world views are shaped by the limited scope we have. Our hometown also becomes our personality
I really like your analogy, blew my mind tbh
Facts wowww
@@BlueFireDudester yeah TIL. super interesting
Moved from a small town in eastern alberta to Vancouver. Been here a week and my life went from disordered to literally like living in a movie. I get so much more done just from being self reliant in a big city. Would recommend if you’re going into your 20s
good man well done. good choice too
I moved to a big city to get my education done. After that though I moved straight back to my home town. I just hate big cities personally, and everyone I know and love are here in my home town and surrounding towns.
Many of those city people aren't just people I want to be around.
Born and raised Albertan. Small town Alberta ain't what it use to be.
@@cassu6yeah if your family wasn’t toxic and you had a lot of friends you probably didn’t have to move most people move to get away from bad backgrounds and get a new life and never go back.
@@Leandre22_02 Yeah makes sense
the problem with listening to Parents out of respect even society can ruin you, they constantly beat down your creative and assertive self . thats why you end up living their goals and end up depressed in life.
EXACTLY! one cannot blindly listen to ones parents or family members. getting caught up in their drama is a huge risk when you're just trying to establish yourself as an individual.
Video hits hard. I live in one of the bigger growing cities in the US. It’s been rated by many places as a top 5 place to live in the country. But I’ve been here my whole life. Never been on a plane, never been to more that like 4 or 5 states. My parents want to me to come back home after I finish school and almost think I’m stupid if I don’t because of the job opportunities. But I want to move out. Not far… but somewhere else. A big city like a Miami. It may not be cost efficient or the “smartest” decision to make, but I want new experiences. I love my city for what it is and I want to return later in life, but I need to experience new things. Thanks for reinforcing that Jack.
Do it, move out. With respect for them, your parents just want you to stay to make them feel comfortable. They wouldn't have to deal with a big change in their lives and they'd be able to parent, making them feel good. When you think about it, they'll actually see the result of years of raising you when you're on your own and start living a successful life independently.
It's not about jumping around and finding where the grass is the greenest (just like with relationships). It's about finding something that is prespective, working on it and making it work for you. Flying around every month doesn't allow you to actually build something somewhere. I'm content with my city, because I've reconstructed an apartment here, made meaningful relationships with people and made it work for me. The base was there and I've built my life here. Just like with my wife. The qualities, sympathies and compatibility was there and we've worked hard on our relationship and built a beautiful relationship. I'm 24, I have an apartment and a beautiful wife and life. I am much further then if I'd slept around and had short meaningless relationships or traveled around from one rental to another just to find perfection that does not exist.
love your perspective and words
Being nice gets you nowhere? Dude, you really are in your early 20s. Learn who deserves niceness and who doesn't
he didn't meant being a bully or disrespectful. He just meant by breaking the norms. Coming out of your comfort zone and escaped the matrix.
You might feel comfort during the 20s working in corporate 9-5 everyday till you reach 40 having children. Then,you will suffered the midlife crisis like most people are after covid.
@@Daiman01
I've met these mid life crisis types. I met a guy who's divorced, ha 2 kids, works a min wage job and hates my guts cause I didn't make those choices
@@BOG0690 indeed,my father really suffered terribly on it. I've seen a lot of guys in there 40-50s goes to depression.
Covid really exposed the flaws of the matrix system.
Best we could do is to start doing something. Business,entrepenurship,services and find something in you different than others.
Wish yalls find something on this.Its truly an eye-opener.
Funny I see this on my notification as I'm preparing to leave my hometown in the countryside area to go to a big city to pursue a master's degree next month. But I'll be hearing you out considering you seem one of the few genuine folks in these circles Jack.
I'm moving out of my hometown next month! I can't wait!
i move next month,how’s your experience now a year later ?
My home city has all my family. I can live out of state for a bit, but as I turn 30 my parents are getting older and experiencing health issues.. same with my grandparents. It's very nice to see them on all holidays.
Really great video! Nice to know there are still some people out here with a similar mindset. I am actually moving out of my hometown next month to have a change in my life and separate myself from those who don't enjoy new experiences. At the same time I am actively pursuing my engineering masters degree part time at a top 10 university because I personally enjoy higher education and the connections you can make. I think in life it is necessary to take risks and take a step back to evaluate if those around you should be around you! You only live one life so work hard and take a risk!
I've traveled a lot all my life. I moved to America from India with my parents when I was 4 and we moved towns quite a lot. I've lived pretty much everywhere in California and moved like 3 times during the plandemic (I didn't misspell that) and now I'm in the mid west since I got my first job here. People in the mid west in the US have way more of that hometown mindset and it just made me think that despite all the struggles I went through moving around I've developed a different mindset regarding opportunity.
So many of these people just go to a local college, get a local job, and just live there for 30-40 years until they want to retire and move to Florida like every freaking other person. Pretty pathetic.
Meanwhile I always try to think of what's next and chase the next opportunity even if it's outside my hometown. Right now I want to just settle down and not think about moving again but in 2 years I could be somewhere completely different. Maybe I'll be in Japan on a business trip or maybe I move to Texas after getting headhunted. A lot of the people around me simply don't even think of that and separate themselves from that lifestyle mentally. DUDE. WTF. GROW THE HELL UP. Opportunities exist and the only thing keeping you from them is distance. Your hometown people don't care about you. MOVE.
"Plandemic"
I like you
Simply liked the comment for the plandemic haha
Living a simple honest life isn't pathetic. You sound like you're suffering from "main character" syndrome, which is common when you're young but life will mellow you out.
@@Saru-yr3qk No I actually respect the simple life. It's the guys who can ONLY think of a life in their hometown that I have concern about. Those who know what can be done outside and still choose a simple life have my respect.
I don't think I'm special or anything. Generally i always assume I know less than the other person but these last few years I've constantly met people who just can't think outside of the box. I'm sure I have a box I'm trapped in but my only real limitation is leaving my beloved cars behind in my country of residence lol
Why is it pathetic to live in your home town and want to retire in Florida? Nothing wrong with that, what is pathetic is hating for a stupid reason like that.
True, but you also need to learn to become self sufficient in your hometown, use your hometown as an opportunity to become the top g in your area.
@infinitegaming2144 what if i like it there? lol you people are corny
@@SPACEDOUT19 most people don't
Well if you tried being an actor in Hollywood you'll be a nobody, but if you're a known actor in a small town, now you're a local celebrity, right?
Everything this guy is saying is facts. I can say after starting my own business, moving cities and making my OWN money on my own time. Don’t be afraid to change and level up gentlemen. Leave the city, start the business, make new friends and experience new things.
Sometimes the polar bear is doing better on the snow rather than moving to Savannah. Remember that you're the one who's creating the opportunity
I want family and community I could be happy homeless with that
I've been watching your videos for years Jack, and I'm really proud of both how far you've come and that you've always stayed true to being a man of integrity and passion (two qualities that are very lacking these days). At first when watching this video, I found myself saying that I disagreed and wanted to click away, but I remembered that respect I have for your opinion and wanted to listen all the way through. I think you clarified any point that maybe I disagreed with and I think you have an excellent way of articulating why leaving is so important, at least in your twenties. There's a verse I love in the Bible: “A prophet is not without honor except in his own country, among his own relatives, and in his own house.” I've noticed that in my own life too. The people who saw you grow up will be unable to see the potential of higher truths you may be able to bring. This video helped light a fire under my ass, can't wait to see what comes of it! It actually is pretty in line with a business idea I've had too, if you have any email or something where I could maybe run the idea by you, that'd be dope bro. Either way, keep it up my man.
Would you like to share your ideas with me ?
@@shadab_0706 someone's trying to be sneaky
Moved from eastern europe(moldova) to western europe(switzerland) and i gotta say i fkin hate my life now, i wish i could go back, the society here is just simply... dang
damn bro
@@Denmosocial i mean shit we gotta adapt to the enviroment as humans, but it will be hard, hard like my cock when i see you🤤
Mind Sharing more details?
@@sosna1443 i dont like oversharing on the internet but, it was way too much poverty in moldova so we needed to move somewhere else, my father could somehow go to switzerland some years ago and could bring us here, lost all my friends and even my gf, the fast transition between the society there and the western society is so hard to adapt to, not tryna be the 12 yrs old kid saying "sOcIeTy bAd" but damn it is bad here
@@trisser39 Not enough mental peace and money chasing 24/7? You can take advantage of the good economy that the Swiss have and like move to a smaller city or something
Moved from Kentucky to Canada (London, Ontario) for school back in 2016. I am currently thinking about moving to a different city or go closer to home. Living away from where I grew up has taught me a lot. But having family closer to me is something that I miss. I will NEVER move back to my hometown but being closer to family does not sound that bad.
Moved from Missouri to California and I feel the same I wanna at least a drive away versus a day and some change away from home.
@@ggnero573 it’s tough man. I feel your pain. I hate watching my niece and nephew grow up through a phone. I tear up every single I leave them.
Im from kentucky visiting and broke down cause i felt like i missed out on my friends that i use to hang with until i realised that they left for better oppurtunitys and i now live in north carolina visiting these people have shown that i made the right decision to get out and start a new life i say to anyone who thinks happiness will come from being around your friends or people in your hometown forever you wont move and start a new life i am gratefull god moved me so i could become close and fix myself and my oppurtunity will be greater because i went into a new area so yes start that new life and prosper
Ive traveled the world, been to a lot of different countries. Had my fun in my teens and 20s, now im in my 30s, have a wife and a beautiful baby boy. Living in a small town that has 4 seasons. I have a comfy office job thats easy. Doesnt pay the best but i make enough to get by.
Honestly at this point in my life im content and i dont feel like theres anything wrong with that. I have 2 full time jobs now, my actual job and being a parent. Being content and stable is what i need now to help raise my son and to be a good father for him.
Granted your advice is good i just dont believe theres anything wrong with people happy just being content with their current situation. I certainly am
brother you proved my point. You were able to see the other side and come to a decision on your own.. as opposed to letting life decide for you
i’ve lived in West Palm Beach for 12 years. moved here when i was a kid. I’m tired of it. I want to move and branch out around the state
My parents didn’t let me leave hometown for uni. It devastated me. Recovery has been long and arduous
I’m in the same boat
Isn't college for adults?? My parents found each other at 23 In college got house at 25
@@sadhu7191 sure you can say that I think that’s what college is about getting your degree and meeting people
Hi, my name is chance I am 27 years old. I haven’t watched it all the way through yet but I’m almost done with the video great video and I just wanted to say I was on the fence about starting up my own RUclips business and I just wanted to say that I am all in now and I’m gonna get out of my hometown. Thanks, Jack.
This definitely fits with the eastern half of the US and Canada. In the east, most people just stay there and many are too scared to move and find better prospects. And what he says about city people holding you down is totally true.
I really like the videos denmo uploading now, long, not fast pace edits really love it! Please upload more like this!
Sorry, I just came across this video and don't know who you are, but I am impressed by your level of maturity at your age.
I'm a 46 year old anglophone from small town Quebec. Dude, you are so correct about this. I always wanted to leave my hometown since I was a young teenager. I saw the larger world outside the bubble I was born in. Unfortunately, due to certain circumstances and a health problem that occurred when I was a young adult, I got stuck in my town. I predicted when I was a teenager what was going to happen to my life if I got stuck here. Surely enough my predictions came true, and it wasn't for the good. I still hold onto hope of leaving, and I may have an opportunity in the near future of leaving the province. It would have been better, and a life changing event, if I had moved out much younger. So it's kind of too late for it to make a difference in my life. However, something is better than nothing.
Everyone I grew up with, a high school of 2000 students, all moved out of here. It's rare I ever see someone I grew up with. Wanting to leave ones hometown/region is something that is programmed within our DNA. Some of us just have those instincts stronger than others. Being stuck in a bubble of thinking and living one way is no way to live ones life. I'm a black sheep where I live. I do not fit in; however, when I have traveled to other places/countries I felt more at home than my own hometown. I also found that people will hold you back from reaching your potential in life because they know you have something within you that they don't have. Everyone wants to be ahead of the other, have more going for them, etc. It's also selfish, because people don't want to lose you. But the problem is that they don't care about you when you are around. They eventually take you for granted. And one more thing, people become too comfortable within their bubble, not realizing that one day their bubble can burst. Then what?!
Also dude, I spotted something that you said in which I think you may be stuck in a bubble of thinking one way. You stated how some people will only hangout with people who have less going for them in life, etc. Then you referred to people who make more money. Dude, eliminate that way of thinking. You are blocking yourself off from meeting and building relationships with people from all walks of life. Only lookout for ones character and not anything else that goes along with it such as income, career, education, etc. Do not limit the world of possibilities of the people you can meet out there. So unless I misunderstood you, only judge people by their character and you'll be amazed at who you may run into sometimes.
As you said, you’re only in your 20’s, and it shows. A lot of this is 20’s hubris, before decisions you made 5, 10, even 15 years ago start to have consequences, and you start to gain true perspective.
This guy doesn't have kids and it shows. He is still a kid himself. But good on him for trying to figure it out. We were all there once.
Agreed. He's a kid and he expressed himself like a kid....not particularly well. In your 20's you just haven't been alive long enough to offer a thoughtful and informed opinion on matters such as this.
Yeah, this entire video is just typical youthful wanderlust. There's nothing wrong with wanting to see the world or feeling like your destiny lies somewhere other than the town you grew up in. But don't assume people who choose to stay are somehow deficient for wanting to stay and be content as they are. Young people often leave home because they need to figure out who they are and what they want in life. Some people are lucky enough to know that early on, and so they have no need to leave home.
@@derek96720 And some people move back because they realize how much they need their family when they have kids. And some never leave because family is more important in the first place.
I lived in three US states in my life so far. Leaving my hometown taught me a lot of things about the US that I never would've thought over a decade ago if I would've stayed there. I just moved into an apt. all by myself near the DC area and love it so far. You get to meet people from all over the world. My goal is to at least got to about four other countries someday if I ever have the money of course but I'm keeping up my chin for that one. Thanks for the vid Denmo.
You’re right Denmo! I can’t believe that most people live in there hometown or close to hometown there whole entire life. I moved far away from my hometown 10 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. 😂
This is why I got my commercial drivers license - I have seen the whole country in 8 months and I would’ve never gotten that chance if I didn’t decide to leave
Isn't the world just water amd rock tho??? What is to see?
I’m 17 and I live in Barrie Ontario. Not to far away is Hamilton so I can’t pretty much relate to a lot of what you’re saying. My goal is to move out of here as quick as I can. Barrie is a shit hole, And don’t get me wrong it’s a great functioning city but ever since I’ve gotten older my eyes have opened up more to all the bullshit around me and it’s terrible. Thanks for this video, keep up the great work bro!
Lol Barrie is one of the gems of Ontario actually. But this whole province is going down the toilet.
I love where i live, been here my whole life and i dont plan on moving. I work for the family business and hope to one day take the reigns. I also co parent in my hometown so it would be hard to move away from my son. I get outta town from time to time, and thats enough for me. Im building something for myself and thats enough for me.
I could be broke in hood and be happy of I had my son and family
I have had the 100% opposite experience but I think that may just be true for people with especially poor home lives. I had to experience the world, go around it and come back to appreciate nuances and forgive flaws, lots of time away to become stronger so I could deal with the real dragon back home before it died. I realize that the town itself was actually quite tranquil but none of that matters in your own little teapot. Misery can be like a pocket dimension.
When you see that, you can just step through that door that was already open. Wide open. Birds chirping, leaves rustling.
I agree with everything you said. Born and raised in the DC metro area (aka the "DMV"), everyone I went to HS with is stuck in their own bubble. So glad to have left in 2014 to live overseas in Thailand. Quality of life is much better, never stressed about money & finances, etc. I recommend everyone get out of their comfort zone and "man up."
ima be honest: literally your best video ever!
I'm a home town kid. One could argue that moving away can also be seen the easy way out. Overall, you're argument is probably more aligned with a growth mindset than mine. However, there is much more opportunity elsewhere. If I want to find a meaningful career near my hometown I might have a handful of opportunities and the competition is stiff. If I want to find similar opportunities and am willing relocate, there may be 100's or even thousands of opportunities.
I think what matters most is where one finds meaningfulness. Happiness is a farse. Don't chase it. Don't follow your passions. Treat it like your wallet and bring your passion with you everywhere you go. Whether you realize that in your hometown or if you need to move somewhere far away doesnt matter.
im 19 and moving to a city seems very overwhelming, much less traveling abroad. i already struggle with socializing and the friends i do have are important to me; moving to an entirely different town with totally different people, culture, and atmosphere is a terrible idea. great way to send yourself into a very deep depression and an overwhelming amount of instability in your life that can lead to you being financially destitute with zero safety net.
ive done it before. twice.
After more than a year of experience I can say thay Leaving my hometown was the thing that ruins my life.
Leaving my hometown at the age of 30 in a few weeks to begin my career in a mountain town. Beyond stoked
how did it workout? leaving next month myself.
@@SuperPenguin5495 They revoked the job offer because the other owner hired someone and didn't tell the guy I was interviewing with. Then my Dad ended up passing away shortly after so I'm back at my parents place putting it up for sale and cleaning up. I may end up buying a house now out there. It's been... rough to say the least
@@andre5468 thanks for the reply. in a roundabout way - do you think everything 'worked out' even though not the way you wanted to?
This hit. Especially when you see friends getting married and having kids... shit lowkey blows because it's likely that'll be the rest of their life.
Marriage is a beautiful thing but yeah it really locks you down. Better be happy where you're at in life
So, I'm almost 37, and I don't have kids. I dated someone for 6 years and didn't get married. I immediately dated someone else for 13 years and didn't get married. Now, I've been single for 3 years, and I'm envious of the happy families I see. So, instead of looking at them with pity, try to think how a life of loneliness could be the rest of your life with nobody to carry on your name. Please don't make my mistake.
@@FluffyBunny9002but the thing is man most of these chicks have very high standards and have a high body count I don't want to be somebody else's beta Billy Plan B
@ariesman5528 Haha! Yeah, that's absolutely an issue these days. Maybe don't pursue western women if you're looking for someone who's marriage material these days. A lot of Asian women hold traditional values still.
@@FluffyBunny9002I don’t care if my name is carried on by I spawn. if your actions are honorable enough someone else’s spawn will do it for you
I think this topic is very complex and is reliant on a case by case perspective. Some small towns have the perfect opportunities and offer a good quality of life. Some folks grow up in an ideal town but need something different. Basically it's all anecdotal.
I left my hometown and ditched all my friends I grew up with. After that my life improved exponentially! Although I have to fight those feelings of nostalgia sometimes.
I would say very rich coming from you... but since I've seen you outside of Hammertown finally, I can't use my joke anymore. I'm devastated
Oddly enough, after seeing the world I realized my hometown is the best place to live. Living in your own hometown is awesome. Own it
It's all location. U could be is poor area but if sun sets perfectly on your porch it's hard to not feel special
Agree with the most you have said, but remember not everyone wants the same, there are people happy living in a single place and I am not here to judge them. Cheers from Mexico bro
My respect for you denmo has gone up 5x after you came out telling the truth about the covid and vaccine situation. You're a legend.
Moved 2,200 miles away from mine when I was 24 y/o. Never looked back.
Thats respect, as somebody who went through that cheating shit where friends know but dont say shit. That petty shit aside, I stand by this. I’ve lived consistently in about 5 different states and the thing that always got to me was how people think that the “mainstream” paradigm of that one place is the same as everywhere. No, no it’s not.
So here’s the thing. A lot of people will view leaving home as the ultimate adventure/ pilgrimage to go somewhere far in life. However sometimes you are kind of born already in the premiere location. I’m born in NY, I got a job in NYC, now I’m by proxy looking for a house within an hour radius of NYC. It kind of is how it is 🤷🏼♂️
Travel agencies convince u , u will find community traveling to the big main cities for tourism
Also if u move states company can ow. U amd u won't have aily so easy control
Damm well said when u move to another place it forces u to go outside ur comfort zone it pushes u to grow
i still live in my hometown... working remotely as a software engineer. Making big bucks and enjoying quality life at cheap prices lol
I moved back to my hometown, and I love it.
Mines the opposite story. I always wanted to leave and talked about it and actually had people copy me and my exact personality. Wish I talked less about my dreams and goals when I was younger. Literally have double gangers of myself walking around even with the same laugh. The people who were inspired by me turned on me and actually became quite abusive toward me once they had received all that knowledge off me. Then came back years later seeking more knowledge from me. My home town was already extremely international and I got to travel and live over seas a lot as a kid. I always couldn’t understand how people could be friends with the same group and I was always seeking more. But, there was a side to me that kinda wished I could just be simple minded and just fit in and be happy with the same group. Still till this day some of my friends from high school are all in the same group and extremely toxic for each other and they don’t even see it. Like a wasp nest, they cling to each other. Also very incestuous. All sleeping with each others exes but, all still remaining friends. It’s quite fascinating to observe. I’ve been back for almost 3 years now and am clawing to get out again. Can’t stand the miserable weather and the clickyness. Sometimes I wish I met a boy in my home town and settled and could be happy like ‘those couples’ but, I just knew if I stayed with that boy from high school that, I’d be so miserable. But, then I still haven’t found what I am looking for. Acceptance is in the heart. It’s in your own mind. Some days I love it and hate it, some days I’m so appreciative of my clean beautiful area with trees and friendly neighbours and other I feel I’ll blow my brains out if I see another familiar face waving at me. It’s all about mind set. But, I will say the crime here eg. stabbings is getting extremely bad here. So, once I’m done with wrapping up the stuff I came back for, I’m outttttty. And very sad to see a lot of mates from back in the day with serious drug addictions, and extremely toxic.
Talking About the benefits of consuming foreing contents, I´d Like to say that for me is a pleasure to watch this video and completely understand what was shared. I´ve Learned english alone when I was 17 and I´ve never imagined in the possibility to reach this point. I´ve faced depression for at least 4 years and today, I feel better just because I´ve noticed that nothing is more powerful than the knowledge. I considerate myself as a lover for knowing and understanting things. Knowledge, especially came from outside of our bulb, can make us give another meaning in our way to live. Well, I´m Antonio and this video was a true Eye-opening to look the world out of my bulb. Thanks, bro.
FIrst minute of this video and I already love it, for saying up front how easily manipulated people are
I think every situation can offer different fruit. Some hometowns are full of potential for the future, there are people who live in cities that never need to leave. There are also dead-end backwater industrial towns with nothing to see. It really is about taking initiative.
It makes more sense for your "soul mate" to be in the same city as you. You likely share a culture, heritage, values, and interests given you were raised in the same place. These are all components of successful, long-lasting relationships. It doesn't matter if there's 8 billion people. In fact, there's a much lower chance of compatibility with those who are foreign
I didn't even watch the video but let me tell you this is true. If you want to grow you have to move. It's why people become locals, live & die in their city. They never expand and commit their entire life to riding up & down the same block until their last breath. I get disgusted whenever I go back home. I couldn't believe I lived there for 20 years and not realizing nothing there was making me a better person or putting me ahead.
Thanks for beeing open and wurnurble about this Jack. I hade birthdays i spent alone also and that sucks
Yep. I traveled to five different countries in Asia for three months and between the two way ticket, food, boarding I spent less than $3000 USD. This was in 2017.
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I really enjoy the format of these new videos
i am 63 and have seen more of this world than i ever expected to.
i truly miss my hometown. pop. c.3,000 back in the day. next town? about 90' away.
anonymity = the erasure of the individual. it destroys community. you need a street, a bar where everybody knows your name. it's human. travel is tech not connection.
Listen? don't listen?
Hes wrong, he's right?
It depends on you. Some ppl are home bodies, some ppl travel. Some ppl have the ambition to leave, some ppl would rather improve what they have.. don't do something because someone else tells you what you've been doing is a waste of time. Dont NOT do something because someone tells you its pointless. Do what YOU want. Not what a stranger tells you.
This mans advice could help someone else find their path. But his advice could be completely useless to someone who has already found their path. Dont let someone flash things in your face to make you feel bad about not having it.
Be you. Be content being you.
Hearing Denmo talk about social media is the same way I feel. My respect for Demo is officially 12/10
I still live at home. Getting my brain and health fixed from concussions has definitely held me back. I’ve learned and grown a ton since grade school. I allowed myself to get great at socializing, fitness, skills, and many other things. I’ve finally gotten to the point at 23 where I’m ready to go. For my growth as a man to be as much as possible. I’m doing it so I won’t hinder myself. I’m making myself uncomfortable. It’s definitely tough as a man but I’m ready for it. I have an awesome home life and great supportive family so it’s easy to be around the home town.
I grew up in a city with a small town vibes. I dropped out of college at 18 and joined the military. I was stationed out in Oceanside, CA (SD county), spend like 5 years there and got a chance to go to Australia for 5 in a half months. It was an eye opening for me that there is so much more out there than where I was from where everyone was doing the same thing everyday. After my active duty contract was up, I moved back to my hometown at 23 years old to finish college. Now that I am almost 26 years old and about to graduate from college pretty soon here, I do want to plan for my next future goals, but I don’t know where I want to go.
I'm in a position in my life where very soon I could cash it all in and go live in the Philippines for rest of my life. But why? Leave all my friends and family, the people I rely on and the people who rely on me? I'm useful here. My life has purpose here. It's good to travel, I guess, open your mind, but in the end, I want to be around my family every day and that's what I need and I'm never giving it up.
Moved from Montreal QC to Thunder Bay ON and lived outside of town when i was 19yo. Got to an amazing job sadly 6months after i had really bad news loosing a grand father and moved back down to MTL spend the remaining time he had with him. Now i got another incredible job but i'm just not diggin it again. Loved the lil village vibes, looking foward to moving to Alberta next summer!
great video. relatable here in the uk. refreshing to have someone challenge my habits and beliefs. i am going to move out of my city asap!
All my classmates left the city for college then most moved back home.
I don’t know man I’ve been to nearly every state, and from my perspective, it’s pretty much all the same. All I really need is a computer, a TV, and a Taco Bell. I’m pretty much set anywhere I go.
Born in NJ, 30 minutes outside of NYC. Moved around the US for a while, and it has just given me a greater appreciation for my home town lmfao. Regarding moving outside the US... most of us are not internet entrepreneurs.
you can only save people that have the power to save themselves. cruel world
I left my hometown at 18, now 24. Now I have the opportunity to move to either Hawaii or Germany within the next year. Honestly it’s a tough choice lmao
@@maxresdefault8235 that’s what I decided. I fly out in 2 days actually
I spent the first 19 years of my life growing up in Hamilton, ON. The best thing I ever did was get out of that town and move out west 11 years ago. That place is a total shithole now, it was always rough and bummy growing up but I can't believe how far it has fallen.
Damn. You put into words things I have been feeling for years.
Thanks for waking up that ambitious part of me I had as a teenager and lost a grip on during the pandemic. I want to do better
Ambition is a snake eating it's own tail. Find out what you love. Lately all people love is money. That's an NPC mindset.
My city isn't that big and I wish, as a teenager, that I lived in a big city. More people, more friends, more girls, more activities...
Currently doing an engineering internship outside of my hometown and it has helped me lesrn a lot about my self
Wherever you go , there YOU are.
big quote
Your one on one interactions skills through videos have entered a whole new league.
I left my country and moved to Paris last year. best decision i ever made. Learning a new language meeting new people the job opertunities here are insane compared to my hometown im loving it.
I don't really have a "hometown," we moved around every 4 years and never really settled one place. But we have been here for 7 years, and I've been on my own for 3 of those years near my parents. I love my family and I want to be around them, but I'm getting ready to finish trade school and my lease will be up around then. I've lost friends and people I love and learned a lot in a short amount of time recently. I feel like at this turning point in my life, I need to go on my own adventure for a while. I've gotten some plans together to move myself to where I was born in Utah, though I have no memories from there. I think it'd be a good thing.
Could just take shrooms
I'm 23 and you nailed it
I am stuck in my crappy suburb, I am surrounded by crappy people and I’m sick of it. Eventually I hope I move somewhere new.
I don’t like podcasts but if you made one, I’ll definitely tune in
Thank you for this video! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Broski, great video... God bless up there 🙏
Not a Single Lie this guy told, Respect bro hope your doing good Mentally take care