THE GUY'S GIRL VS THE GIRL'S GIRL
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- Опубликовано: 7 авг 2024
- THE GUY'S GIRL VS THE GIRL'S GIRL
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hi everyone! back with the regular uploads! in this video, we will be discussing the differences between a guy's girl and a girls girls and testing it on all of you at the end.
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is it just me or has the quality of her videos improved tremendously? Like she has improved so much and shes so underrated!!!
wow, you are so kind! thank you so much 🤍✨
Also you can tell that she is having fun with video making again
Agreed!
I'm a woman whose had guy friends majority of my life to the point that I feel weird around other women now, even though I really want to make some girl friends and change up my circle. I think being friends with only guys isn't always the healthiest. They tend to end up wanting more and that ruins the friendship, or it's a friendship where you can't really talk about some things that are important to you because it's tmi to share with a guy.
This was literally me up until my junior year in high school. I ended up staying to myself after that cause their drama/raging hormones were…yuck… and now here I am an old lady (I’m only 20💀) not knowing how to make lady friends 😢
I'm in the same boat! I moved a couple years ago on top of it, and have found it so intimating to try to make new girl friends because I wouldn't even be sure how to.. I grew up trying to please my father and be more in my masculine energy so it's been a journey to get back to being in my healthy feminine.
@@casscars3405i think you shld embrace ur interests and then get into making female friends with the same interests because tbh it can be detrimental if u try to fit a mold u cant fit and healthy friendships are built on trust and love. From there u can slowly progress into ur goals
@espeon871 I 100% agree. I've made some "friends" but can't get close because we don't have the same values or interests, so that's been a little more difficult. Until I meet my people, I'm just doing my own thing, and that's okay 🤗🥰
right!! i'm a girls girl nd i have well more like had male friends nd girls always say "men r less drama" but it's not true at all! having that sisterhood with another female is so important which a man can not deliver to you. Of course men and women can be friends but you really have to have similar qualities for it to be worth anything! ❤
its natural for your energy to shift a little around guys, certain guys can bring out different parts of your personality. and its normal to want male validation and be desired by men. what's not okay is bringing other girls down/embarrassing them around guys.
no need for labels and to worry about being a guys girl, some people vibe better with guys. as long as you protect and are fair to the girls around you there's gonna be no problem.
great video made a lot of good points about the importance of female allyship
this is perfectly said
Yepp, also being a girls girl just means u support girls and protect them doesnt mean u like defend every girl esp if theyre harming people more like women and femmes having women's backs.
It's not normal to risk safety for male validation. Majority of SA of women is perpetrated by men they know well e.g male friends, male work colleagues and sometimes male family. As a woman, I would never choose to be close friends in a majority male friendship circle. Also, most males will defend other males in SA cases. Guy's girls are easy targets for guys.
EXACTLYYYY THANK U
I get along with both men and women equally and definitely enjoy having guy friends but in the end of the day I’ll choose my homegirl. Period. I’ve been through my fair share of guys girls who disguised themselves as a girls girl and those friendships definitely traumatized me lol. My last friendship ended with her choosing a man over me that she had only known for 2 months. 🙃 when she came back around to rekindle I declined.
I also feel like insecurity is such a huge factor in being a guys girl or a girls girl, like nearly every guys girl I know is really insecure about her appearance, and usually hasn’t had great relationships with girls. I would say I’m for sure a girls girl, but I’m also a little insecure so when I get a compliment from anyone at all, it really boosts my confidence. I guess when I get a compliment from a guy, it feels different because it almost makes me feel more desirable. But at the same time, guys always seem to expect something in return whereas girls are usually more genuine.
That's not completely true. I have more male friends because I've found that my friendships with men are less superficial. But then it backfires because they sometimes catch feelings 😅
That's such bullshit lmao
Some of us had no choice, we were relentlessly bullied by our peers or just isolated and had to settle for the only people who would accept us
But then they wanted to sleep with us 💀
That's why i resent this guy's girl vs girl's girl perspective it's so simplistic and not to mention utterly lacking in compassion. It fails to consider how some women have a harder time with other women due to trauma or even neuro divergence that is going unchecked that might make it harder to conform to gender expectations and general social norms. thus leading to conflict and many more complicated reasons that cant be summed up by a fucking quiz like fr. In a world where you can never know what people are going through how does this help?
I am not a girls girl but I am certainly not a guys girl as I've been through a fair amount of shit and have a truckload of trust issues with ALL people, the issue with these explanations is they try to carve out clean narratives that prevent people from getting to the root of the real problem- trauma or worse literally _glossing_ over it. While encouraging women to overlook each others stories and reaching instead for labels, which is ironically what is being criticized about the films mentioned in the video. It's fun pop psychology at best and downright harmful at worst and it needs to be left in Cosmo or whatever tabloid started this shit.
Idk if anyone else feels this way but What I want to know is why do women have to belong to anyone? A "girl's girl" "guy's girl". Men dont. Cant we just be girls or better yet, women? Unapologetic-diverse-and impossible-to-confine-and-define- women?
Compliments from women are nice and safer typically
I think bc of Wattpad has made girls obsessed with finding a male bff. I think having male friends is not something ground breaking. Yes you can learn something from having male friends but it's not a necessity.
I had this friend that is such a guys girl but pretends not to be. Like every time I'm relaxed or just not looking my best she's always taking a photo and sending it to guys we know. I don't really care because I'm not insecure and a bad photo won't destroy my confidence but it still bugs me. And she kind of stopped doing this but I was hanging out with a guy I was seeing and she was there and that day i spilled coffee on my pants so she gave me some of hers and we ended up switching my entire outfit using her clothes. She offered btw. And when I was out with the guy she kept commenting on how I was wearing her clothes and how "great I looked" even though "my pants are way too tight on that waist". Like ughhhhhh. Also, I don't really think having a lot of guy friends means anything. Unless the girl is so desperate for validation that she's putting down her girl friends in front of them.
I’m sorry but that’s not your friend.
You should confront her about it or at least indirectly hint that her behavior is not right
@@marchymeow4584 yeah i was thinking of doing it tomorrow, in person. Just directly confront her so she has no room to lie
this is not normal behaviour at all, don't let her mess with ur mental I'm srs !! look out for urself girl try hang out w other people
Choosing my boyfriend over my friends is incredibly easy for me because of my experiences in my friendships with women. I think it’s a little more nuanced than just being a girls girl or a guys girl because a lot of women have awful experiences with other women bullying them, backstabbing them, etc. I’ve had instances where I’ve been humiliated in front of masses of people by “friends” that I thought I could trust. These are things I experienced from the time I started kindergarten to graduating high school and it crippled me from wanting to have any friendships at all really. I think there’s more questions that need to be asked because at some point I think the girls girl mentality becomes very toxic and cliquish and results in ostracizing other women simply because they don’t conform to female standards or other reasons and sometimes it’s just for the purpose of hurting someone else, it doesn’t even have to involve male validation.
Coming as a girls girl i prefer compliments from men because i feel it’s the opposite. I feel women only compliment me after I compliment them or if they compliment me I have to compliment them back. Also a lot of the times with women’s compliments it’s hard to tell if they’re just trying to be nice or they genuinely feel that way. With a man’s compliment usually I feel they’re being genuine and aren’t lying. I would rather know they are telling me what they actually think than what I want to hear.
Im the opposite I feel more safe and genuine when the compliments come from
Girls and when guys compliments me I feel a lot of times there’s strings attached to it like they are only complimenting me because they want sex or want to be with me. I straight up have never had a guy who wasn’t trying to get something from me compliment me.
same that's how i feel
@@cosmicionicc5134even if it’s true that there are strings attached, the compliment in and of itself from men is definitely more genuine . It’s hard for them to say you look pretty when you don’t . But I have looked the worst in my life and a girl has said NOOO you’re SOOO pretty! And I always get way less compliments from women when I look amazing and more from men.😂
@@cosmicionicc5134 thats true but with women I feel its very hard to tell if their lying or being fake. I can admit myself I have complimented girls just to be nice when it was in fact not true.
@@classyandchristian true I have very blunt Friends so maybe it’s just my experience where they won’t sugar coat things not in a mean way but they are honest. I also feel there there is almost always something true you can compliment about a person wether it’s an accomplishment or, a personality trait or physical appearance. If someone is lacking in any of those areas there is somewhere else you can always compliment that’s true.
the timing of the clips is so perfect. like truly big did not care if carrie lived or died 😭 great video 🫶
Girlhood is really important and having female friends for a woman is invaluable, they can provide the emotional support and understand your struggles like no man could ever do. But they can also screw you over like no man could ever do. Be very careful choosing your besties, girls. This romanticized idea of female friendships is great and I'd like to see it encouraged, but in real life men AND women come in all kinds of characteristics and souls.
As a gay girl, I’m sort of both. I love hanging out with my girl friends (and my gf) but I also love being stupid and doing straight guy activities w my best friend who is a guy (playing video games, eating junk food, sports)
Growing up I was in “boyish” activities (playing chess, always into tech and gaming), and I was really pretty as a kid and boys swarmed me before girls could even get to me. I remember at recess in 1st grade, making the boys run laps around the playground to decide to I would spend recess with 🤣
This fell apart for me in college, when being a boy’s girl meant I had to hear them talking about women, and I’d feel sad realizing, why are they looking at other women instead of me? Now I’ve switched to the other end of the spectrum and I’m deeply in my feminine energy. I prefer it over here. I don’t need men waiting in the wings as friends, because we can always get a man. I much prefer the deep feminine friendship that comes from a girl’s girl, and I will always prioritize my girls over a man (within reason of course. It’s important to value your significant other).
YESSSSSSS GIRL
i prefer compliments from men im not even going to lie, i do like validation from men and i think it's fun being flirty. however i'd never put another girl down, grew up with sisters, love my female friendships so much more than my male ones etc. i'd also never self proclaim myself as a girls girl bcs- lol i've seen too many girls do that and then snake their friends but i've gotten the compliment from others and it means a lot.
i tell my husband everything, he’s truly my best friend.
but i also tell my mom and my actual best girl friend everything to and i tend to get along w girls easily. so i’m not sure what this makes me 😢
Interesting take. I grew up with mainly brothers, every girl group I was involved with ended in not the best way. I got married & he is my literal best friend. I tell him everything… I have no singular guy friends. All of his guys friends are mine and I have my own girl friends. I feel like I fall in both categories. I personally wouldn’t want to go to an only girls trip for more than 3 or 4 days because there’s just different energy when there’s all girls. Idk it’s an interesting take… what if there are guys and girls girls?? What then? 😂
The guy girl you’re describing is a ”pick me” girl, and anyone can be acting desperate like that imo, girly girls or guy girls can be toxic and talk bad about or reveal someones secrets, and if they do, they don’t like that person anyway 😅
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I love your topics!! literally things I love discussing❤ SO INTERESTING 😭
I have always had male friendships as well. I never knew how to be "feminine" growing up since my mom and I did not get along and she was physically and emotionally abusive towards me. I got along much better with my dad, and also grew up with a brother and a grandfather so I was very much a tomboy, and never knew how to be vulnerable or share my feelings. It's been difficult to find, make and maintain female friendships, and I still struggle with that as an adult (33y/o). I crave female friendships and I am more intentional about seeking them now as I get older. If you have good girlfriends, hold on to them!!
i think there are telltale signs of guy's girls: (since it must be explicitly said, this doesn't gurantee that they are one, it js increases the chances from my experience)
- overly nice or touchy towards guys
- shows signs of jealousy towards u, tries to support u but cant be genuine abt it
- insecure abt things that seems to scream "i crave male validation" eg. complaining abt not having big boobs, big ass, etc.
Well maybe some guy's girl's are born because they're the ones who were never wanted by a guy before and they have some sort of trauma due to missing out on a crucial part of teen development puppy love
@@Naruto_fishcake i know, guy's girls usually are extremely insecure with themselves and will do anything to get validation.
I don’t think being insecure about your body means yours a guys girl. I absolutely hate having a small chest but I’m definitely not a guys girl, I’m actually terrified of men and never interact with them because I’ve had multiple bad experiences like being stalked. I have pretty much zero guy friends and avoid social interactions like parties and clubs because I’m to afraid of being approached by a guy.
i think they mean when the girl is bragging about her insecurities as a way if fishing for compliments@@cosmicionicc5134
@@cosmicionicc5134 everybody has insecurities and that's understandable. these telltale signs are usually js to indicate the CHANCES the girl may be a guy's girl. ik because all my friends who have outwardly expressed such insecurities (even tho they have the same body type as me ...) have been guy's girls.
Honestly when it comes to baecation vs girls trip I don’t think I could really choose one over the other as someone who's had neither lol. They both sound amazing
gurlll we need more vids like that & the 'male vs female gaze fits' 😭💖
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I’m a survivor of being a guy’s girl and evolving to girl’s girl (thank god)
Thank you for this video!
This is a long random tangent but my experience:
100% who you grow up with is important, I grew up with 3 brothers and 2 guys cousins (I have like 2 other guys cousins and a girl cousin but I don’t talk to the guy cousins and the girl cousin is more than a decade older than me) and I realized I tended to float towards guy friends because that’s just all I knew growing up, I felt like a “tomboy” because I only knew the idea of male companionship.
I also feel your looks almost affect that too, growing up I was ugly so I think because I was bullied sm over my looks I also wanted male validation because all the girls I knew were getting it but me so I believe that plays a big part of it too, but it all just depends on the person.
I have grown up to value both equally, I would definitely consider myself a girls girl as I love my girl friends more than anything, but I equally love my guy friends (girls just a little more though haha), it all just depends on your company as well !
hey i recently started watching your videos and i’m so glad i subscribed LOVEE ur content!
so happy to have you here!
Your videos are literally so high quality and well made and these topics you discuss are so intriguing love you!
i have j found ur channel from the female v. male gaze and im loving it ur videos r so intriguing such good quality
Interesting self quiz!💞
I love Coco’s girls vs guys videos smmmm. I hope she keeps making videos like this 😩🫶🏿🫶🏿
i definitely will ✨🤍
Keep going chichi! I missed you
haha it’s only been 4 days girl!!!
im loving all the new content, & the think pieces that come with them! I think you should start adding captions + I dont think this pale filter works. it really dulls the clips and washes them out. i hope you'll continue to adjust it to something more on brand for you!
I am someone who moved out a lot growing up, and at a certain point it felt more easily to connect with guy friends. I've wanted to have girl friends so bad, but I always felt that girls once they create their intimate circle it is so hard to enter T_T Now I'm an adult and feel pretty alone most of the time, without really having opportunities to meet new people and girls to befriend
You’re touching on real stuff. Love it
was abt to go to sleep then this vid dropped
You are stunning it’s crazy 😍😍😍
Im a 25 y/o woman and I have to say I am neither a GIRLS girl or a Guys girl. I have mostly sisters but I grew up with one brother and one sister in the house. I played with them both equally for example with my sister we did girl stuff like play in makeup and talk about boys and with my brother we did guy stuff like play violent video games and fart. Im not a feminist neither am I against women that stand for women but truly I enjoy people individually male or female in order for me to be a friend of yours I have to like your personality and conversation. I was raised to treat everyone with respect and if I have nothing nice to say not to say it at all. I have dealt with both problematic female and male relationships and honestly I rid myself of both because people as a whole can be quite toxic and seeking approval from another human being will always leave you feeling empty. I advise people to seek out their morals and use their time setting boundaries for what's acceptable and what's not. After all this life does not last forever and stressing trying to figure out what group or category you fall into as a woman is pointless in the longterm. I will leave you all with this... Not everyone is going to like you in fact many people may dislike or not care for who you are as a person but rather than let that break you down Be of good cheer you were not place on this earth to be liked by everyone and the people that do enjoy who you are and what you believe are the people that will appreciate your time that you spend with them and that is something to get excited about. Much love ❤
Why don't y'all just say pick me ....
Because the goal isn't to put down other women or judge them
@@Hmletmetry huh-
i loved this videoooo. the quality is uppppp
Yeahh a new video
so happy! hope you like it 🤍✨
Dang, you really exposed the pickmesha's ways. I didn't realize it was so bad in the media, and so subtle at that! 😟
I'm a girl's girl. I've never had genuine male friendships ever. So that makes sense. But I'm PROUD TO BE A GIRL'S GIRL.❤❤❤
Thats messed up revealing secrets of someone to anyone it doesnt matter if its a guy or girl.
While its TRUE that both Men/Women should not compromise their own relationships for the sake of the other gender (ofcourse context is improtant)..i've met alot of women who still prefer male friends over female friends..apparently their experiences with most guy friends is that they tell you as it is while most female friends share what they feel is good enough or necessary to boost each others confidence
I am so sorry but I was so shocked when I found out my friend's partner knew personal stuff about me. I did tell her I felt uncomfortable about it, because he also kinda used it against me :| She did tell him not to do that again but I still find it hard to tell her anything too personal now... ://
No hate, but I feel like the video ended kind of abruptly. Maybe try summarizing your main points before signing off next time or adding similarities and differences or pros and cons about both types of girls 🤷♀️
Love your content btw
Based on these questions, I’m a guy’s girl but it’s riggeddd! I just don’t have any friends (yet🤞🏾) besides my bf🥺….Also, I was very confused about that 4%😭 getting compliments from ladies will always feel way better💀 I’d be blushing for weeks
3:04 this scene made me roll my eyes so hard they got strained 😂
I grew up with so many cousins who were boys because I never knew my older sister who’s 11 years older than me and struggled with addiction. Ever since I was two, three walking around I always loved male superheroes and dressed like a tomboy. I always played basketball with guys from 6 years old up until high school and when I played with girls they hated how aggressive I was but I always grew up that way. To this day I still trust more men who have feminine energy they’re straight but more in touch emotionally. Girls bullied and beat me up in middle school and I have sexual trauma from a guy from 8 years old. I consider myself demisexual and don’t really fit in with either. I don’t have a lot or many friends just because of trauma in general but I have my boyfriend of two years to confide in. I’m starting to branch out but sometimes anxiety makes me pull away from everyone, even my family.
how do i balance boys and girl friends? im 15 (freshman) and its a struggle for me because i feel like both should be equal(?) priority but girl friends are slightly more important to me personally BUT i dont want a guy to think that i care for my friends more than him 😭
honestly, daddy issues. and this is coming from a healing guys girl. Also, grew up with brothers
Or trauma from not experiencing a crucial development teen puppy love
yh and not getting attention and love from home so they seek it heavily from outsiders
i was the girl who only made guy friends once, they were so much easier to talk to since they liked the same things as me and they dont have the usual girls "chatter about boys" that i hate (soo lesbian) so it was all okay until some of them started liking me in a romantic way lol
one of those guys i met that time is still my friend, but now im part of a little group of girls (my girlfriend included in it lol) and i cant help but having way more trust in the girls. specially when i found out that the guy cheated on his girlfriend (who is also in my girls group) and i realized he is just a man as any other is. i dont like to kinda segregate things like that but looks like a joke how the only decent guy i ever met became by friend and was a shitty boyfriend like that lol cant look at him the same way and cant value my pals more than i do now
I think some of these stats change when you're married
I would love having female friends but every time I have trusted on a girl I have been treasoned. I was bullied by a girl when I was a child, my high school best friend moved to my house when she was kicked out of hers and stole some money and clothes, I found out that a friend from university was sending my Instagram pictures to other people to laugh at me… I have seriously wondered if I was the problem, but I ended up finding out that I’m just very unlucky when choosing my friends, because they all ended up not being girl’s girls! I hope I find someday a girl’s girl
This video was really well produced but I found a point or two to be hollow in explanation. I think your comment on the girls trip vs baecation to be a harmful generalization (I do understand that this video discusses generalizations) and in my opinion that’s one of the circumstances that is dependent on multiple factors and isn’t the type of thing that someone can just prefer.
Its kinda sad how you could tell from the thumbnail which girl is which.
I been in girl groups before i was really popular when i was younger the problem was ewen girls stick up 4 guys when their guy friend is being rude or aggresive somtimes girl groups can be a guys group i basically dont have alot of friends becuse i dont like toxic learnd from being in groups when i was younger ewen when its just girls they can be mean towards one of the girls in the group but stick up 4 eachtor but not her as soon as some guy their intrested in is being a dush or just plain abusive they protect him and make her out to be a the bad guy 4 sticking up 4 herself and only the girls at the top of the hierarky can do that and turn the others against her and if you refuse to take the queens side you get bullied 2 its allways a form of hierarky in girl groups and its never fair i wouldnt call a girl group sticking up 4 youre gender and i wouldnt call a guy group sticking up 4 women.
OMGGG IM EARLY!!!
Also if ur mates spend time with their boyfriend a lot more than you she’s definitely a guys girl especially if she tries to acts quirky or unique in front of you when her boyfriend is around. I didn’t get mad at all it was just so cringy!
Complements
Body I prefer man
Outfits woman
I just feel like a lot of these statistics are wrong bc she has a specific target audience, I know so many women who’s answers are different , even some of mine were different but at the same time I 100% consider myself as a girls girl ❤️ (not a hate comment)
Idk this is too shallow of an exploration of a subject that demands _way more_ nuance
Am i the only one who preferres to Do vacation alone?!
What percent never shares juicy gossip with anyone?
Jesus Christ loves you and he’s coming Back soon so be prepared before it’s 2 late
guy's girl is basically pick me girl
i dare you to wear your natural hair for 2024 for the entire year. bet you won’t
I'm by default a girl's GIRL'S