In the USA, weddings can either be a big event or a smaller event. However, generally we do not charge the guests for the meal. They are our guests to the wedding. Gifts are normally given, but not required. Most couples will have registered at stores, so you can purchase them a gift from their wish list. You can also give money, but that isn’t as common. Many couples now will not accept gifts,, but donations to their favorite charity or organization. The couple will send out thank you notes to all of the guests who attended, regardless of they gave a gift or not and if a guest didn’t come, but gave a gift, they would get a thank you card
This is what happens here in Australia as well. In the small settlement in NZ where I come from there is no invitation. It's open to anyone as most people are either related, friends, or friends of friends. A gift of money is sometimes given but not necessarily expected. No guest pays for their meal. Alcohol is banned from the venue but guests can go to the local pub and pay for their own. Relatives donate food which is considered their wedding gift 🎁
i forgot to add. the wedding takes place normally at a religious place(church,temple, etc) and then there is a reception afterwards. the reception includes the meal and then there are hours of dancing. sometimes the wedding is done in an outdoor setting as well. many couples get married at city hall with just a few witnesses and then hold a reception for many guests afterwards. in the USA, getting married by a priest, rabbi, whatever your religious belief is, is not enough to be considered married. you have to get a license from the state as well. marriage in the USA is secular not religious based
@@kristinesharp6286never heard of that rule! must be regional, as where i am from, it’s considered tacky for the couple to count how much the gift was in relationship to the cost of the meal. my sister did that and i looked at her in shock and said, you invited the guests to celebrate your day, not to recoup the cost if your wedding
@@cbiancardi9233 the parents surely count to see if they got their’s back when they were a guest or what to gift that guests daughter or son when they marry.
The most interesting and shocking part for me was that a wedding lasts only 1 hour. 🌷 that's really unusual, in my country ( Bulgaria) weddings are usually in the evening and there are many ceremonies before that, so a wedding can last maybe 5 - 6 hours.
Hello, another interesting video. Australian weddings , from my observations, take three forms :- 1. The low key, backyard/park/beach venue with an official marriage celebrant - wishing well box where guests may- or may not deposit cash . A buffet lunch party- may last all afternoon and well into the night paid for by parents of the couple. 2. A wedding service at a church followed by a reception at a restaurant or reception/ events centre. Sit down meal, speeches, music dancing - paid for by the parents - may last into the night - suggested gifts ( white goods, appliances etc.) are posted online by couple for guests to buy, but not compulsory. 3. The Resort wedding, either in Australia or overseas - guests travel to whichever country is nominated and the wedding and reception is paid for by the families of the couple. The low key (1.) is the current most popular type of wedding and the high end (3.) is getting more and more popular.
Interesting. As a Filipino, I've always thought that as a guest (to any event) you should not be required for anything. Weddings in the Philippines usually happen in the afternoon just right before dinner. Gifts are appreciated but not required. The only ones required to give such extravagant presents are the godfathers and godmothers who have close relations to the people getting married. And even these people, get asked first, prior to the event if they could be godparents for both the bride and the groom or not. Meaning, they could decline politely if they don't think they are capable. Other guests could give presents in any shape or form. I served as the best man for my cousin's wedding a few years back, and I remember giving him a set of perfume and a wine. The most expensive gift he might have received that night was from a godfather who happens to be a politician and is closely related to his wife's family. He gave them both $20,000 to start as a family. Even to this day, my cousin and I remain shocked about that night.
in the west, the wedding guests do not have to pay for their meal. they also can give anything they want as a gift, can be money, can be an item. there is usually dancing after the meal too. people make note of the gifts/money they received so that they can write thank you cards to the guests but the records are not really for the purpose of reciprocating later on although some people might naturally remember what someone gave them and reciprocate later on but that's done much more casually. then there are destination weddings where the wedding is held in another state or country. that can get very expensive for guests as they have to take off from work, pay for airfare, hotel, unless the bride and groom cover those costs.
I don't like to hear Korea has developed such a transactional love system. It sounds so superficial. =( Back when my mom lived there, it was traditional to bring something for the household or to bring good luck for the couple and for them to have children.
I am a french-speaking girl from the province of Québec in Canada. When you go to a wedding you bring a gift, usually something useful for the new couple, things that they will need in their new home. You will normally pay between 25$ to 100$ for the gift, of course depending on how close a relationship you have with the bride or the groom. Some couples will let you know they have a list of gifts in a store. So you go to that store and buy one of the gifts listed. After the wedding, there is always a reception with a meal or buffet and there is a reserved place where all the gifts are displayed. Of course the parents of the bride and groom usually give a very expansive gift or a large sum of money according to their financial means. Whe I got married a very long time ago, my father give me a pearl necklace and I was very happy.
I’m Canadian and we usually 2 or 3 parts to a wedding, the church service and the reception. The reception can includes lunch or dinner (sometimes both) and lots of dancing. As for gifting, you can give a gift, cash or both.
In the US it is somewhat similar. The closer you are to the person, especially a relative, you are expected to give more. Usually in gift cards or actual gifts from a wedding registry. The registry is a list of stores that have items the couple will show for products they wish to have. It is customary to buy these gifts for them to start their newlywed life. Some people don’t pay anything which is frowned upon but not a big deal I would say. Thanks for sharing South Korean culture.
We have lots of dancing at the weddings 💒 and before the wedding 💍 there's a Bridal Shower I myself if I am invited to the Shower must give a 🎁 for their home and at the Wedding we give money in an envelope for both the groom and bride... At the wedding party there is dancing, eating plus drinks 🎉 at least the wedding party lasts 4 to 5 hrs 😅 either in the afternoon or at night during Saturdays or Sundays mostly. 😂❤
giving money at a wedding is similar to Indonesian culture..but in Indonesia there are no food coupons..everyone who comes to the party can freely eat anything..but for very, very rich families they forbid guests from bringing gifts and giving money..and Another thing is that there are always wedding souvenirs given by the bride and groom's family to the guests
It sounds similar to Italian weddings, they usually have an engagement shower, which we did at the same venue for our wedding. At the shower you register at a store and people pick from choices you have selected. Family usually spends more like aunts and uncles and parents. I pretty much still have all the gifts I was given for our engagement shower. First you have your marriage ceremony, then have pictures done at chosen location. At the wedding reception they have a beautiful boosta box where guests place their wedding card and monetary gift. I would say everyone gives $100 per person which essentially covers the cost of the meal as you mentioned. Italians have quite a few courses. Every one get a gift called a bomboniere. There are speeches made by your wedding party and parents and then bride and groom. Then there is certain dances between bride and groom, then father and daughter, then bridal party. Usually you play some traditional Italian music for the older family and friends and then regular music. Close to the end of the evening people play a game to win the centre piece on the table they sat at. Money for the event is payed before bride and groom leave for their honeymoon. Thank you cards are sent out after the honeymoon sometime they contain a picture of the bride and groom. Canadian weddings can be all different depending on people’s financial situation or preferences there is not a set tradition.
The biggest issue Korean and Asian men have in general is the fact they need to be self set up before marriage, car, house, savings etc before they can even think of getting a woman’s family to marry them. In the west, many couples “grow” together, you may get married out of college not earning much but you build a fortune together whereas in Asia a man needs to be self made. Now we have women who are too , self made so they don’t need men to marry now in order to have a life where as their lives used to be dictated by who they marry BUT while they may not need a man to support them, culturally, their families won’t let them marry a man who has less then them even if they are self sufficient earners. So men have all the onus of wealth upon them. So many women aren’t willing to sacrifice for the sake of a relationship and having kids.
Oh that’s makes more sense now, thank you for explaining, I couldn’t understand why he said people avoid marriage because housing is too expensive. To me I thought it would be better married because you have someone to split costs with now. But from what you wrote, it makes sense. A man won’t want to marry because he would view all of the finances as his sole responsibility and that would be an extra mouth to feed. Correct?
@@S41GON that wasn’t my intention. It was just a simple play on how we live our lives, go to college get a job, get married. There is not that many people who wait to be fully set up before they marry, especially if you find someone you really like, you generally tend to start to build a life together regardless of marriage anyway.
Don't say "nobody" because some people *STILL* do get married right after college and are not religious. Some get married during college. "Nobody" is an inaccurate assumption. 😌@@S41GON
Here in UK. It's a short wedding as well most people gives gifts or money but that's all your choice . Then later everyone usually goes to a large or small hall where they will celebrate till late in the evening ❤
Book is called a "Guest Book" in US. Names for thank you notes, here. It is tacky to treat the gifts like an accounting scheme. However, I knew one bride who told everyone that each invitation cost $50.00. Sick. Not that different in US.
Here it is quite similar. Most of the time you will gift money or you will team up with other guests/friends for an expensive present or just buy something small from a wish list. Weddings can be expensive but they don‘t have to be. Depends on what kind of party you will throw (number of guests, location, catering, music, fun acts). Keep it small or big, whatever. The most extraordinary wedding I attended was in a castle. They rented a castle with all decorum. The wedding once held by a cousin of mine in a farmer‘s barn was way more fun. We guests were camping in tents on a meadow or in some hotels (the elderly) nearby.
I'm in the US and agree with @cbiancardi9233. There is usually a large ceremony in a church or outside venue for the ceremony and a large guest list of family & friends. Gifts are not mandatory as we just want our loved ones and friends to be a part of the special day. After the ceremony guest go on to the reception and are treated to lunch or dinner, drinks, dancing and cake. All of this at the cost of the Bride/Groom and sometimes with the help of their family. Basically a very large party to celebrate the Bride & Groom. 🥂🎉 Thank you notes are sent to all who attended or sent best wishes and could not attend. ❤💛💚
In Québec, Canada, formerly, the wedding was always a religious wedding, catholic wedding, held at the church. The bride would wear a long white dress and the groom, a very elegant suit. After the wedding, the guests were invited to attend a réception where a very expensive traditional meal will be served : first an appetizer or «hors-d'oeuvre», then two main courses, fish and meat, then a cheese platter with many sorts of cheese, and finally a wedding cake. Of course wine and champagne are also served. That is the sort of wedding I had. Unfortunately, it only lasted two years. Nowadays, there are still religious wedding, but more often civil mariages. I must add that he province of Québec in Canada is the place in the world where you find the most important number of persons living in cohabitation, that is to say they live together, have children and live a normal family life, but never get married. This is what I did after I had divorced my husband. Historians say that this custom goes back to the beginning of the «Nouvelle-France» and was inherited from the native people who occupied the territory of Canada when the first Europeans arrived in the XVIth century.
Wow. So I just did the conversion and as of today 50,000 won to USD is like $36.00. If that's the case that's really not a lot. I mean maybe for Korean culture and finances it is but when I attend a wedding in the US I'm giving at least $100-150 just for myself. If I bring a guest if I am allowed one I add more. In Canada it is a bit less money as the societal expectation is less. We basically have the expectation we will cover what the couple spent for our meal and the additional per guest items. When I lived and worked in Korea and Japan I experienced what you're speaking of. I think a commonality is that if you're close to the person or couple you give more money. For reference I'm half Japanese, spent part of my childhood and part of my adulthood thus far in Japan.
Having just returned home to the UK from a short holiday in Seoul (loved every minute by the way) we find your videos very interesting and informative indeed. Keep them coming!
I think it isn’t much different from other countries. In Spain you usually have to give anywhere from 100 to 500€ on the wedding day as well as a gift from the wedding list. Weddings can cost a guest hundreds of euros between gifts and clothes.
This is so interesting, here in the west people don't invite you to a wedding for money, but because your there friend, whether you give a gift or not because not everyone can afford to give a present 🎁 so different..
Considering the fact that weddings in korea are not that common, and you are invited from time to time, than it's ok. In Israel people get married relatively young and have 2-3 children so you are invited to many weddings in one year so it is quite an expense. We give more money than what you explained and if It's a good friend it could be a lot, but it's more or less the same like in Korea. We don't write bank transfer on the invitation and you can give a present or a gift card insted of money.
Wow, thats really interesting. Thank you for sharing this with us! This is very different from the country where i live (Germany). On german weddings, we just give gifts, not even nessecarily money. We give things like salt shakers, or some beautifully crafted containers with money in them and flowers, or Household appliances or something like that. The gifts for German weddings are similar as for German birthday presents. And i think german weddings are much smaller. Most weddings have a maximum of 80 guests. There is usually a ceremony at the registry office and sometimes there is an officiant who performs the ring exchange. There is usually a ceremony at the registry office and sometimes there is an officiant who performs the ring exchange. But the most important thing is always the after-party and that the bride and groom have fun with their closest friends and relatives!
In the UK people have lots of different types of wedding. Some people just go to the registry office on their own, some have close family and friends only, then a bigger celebration party on a different day. It’s become so expensive and I think a lot of people would prefer to spend the money on a deposit for a house or a holiday. Gifts - not obliged to give one but people usually have a list or may ask for money towards something.
For me, it is the strangest thing that you have to pay for your lunch. Wen I got married, very long ago, my father had rented a large room in a restaurant and he paid for a very nice lunch, and also the drinks -that is wine - for all the guests, around forty to fifty pesons. This is considered a small marriage. And I am so sad now because I cannot remember if I thanked my dad before leaving for my honeymoon. Of course, I also wrote a personnel letter to all the people who had given a gift to thank them. I have never heard of people giving money instead of a gift.
I was a wedding Photographer in the Uk, the Bride & Groom pay everything usually.I have seen reception meals usually 3 course meal for up to 100 guests all paid for its not expected to receive a gift or money but most guest usually gift something. celebrations after the ceremony are in a hall or hotel till late in the evening & sometimes its a free bar for a few hours.
I’m looking forward knowingly to this video content lol. I’m Canadian and married a Korean lady in Canada. It was a very small home wedding with dinner at a restaurant. Only family and a few friends. We had a second wedding in Korea so my wife’s parents could recoup the money gifts. They gave some of that money to my wife and she kept that lol. Actually it was a very nice wedding. Nice memories and great photos. In Canada you do give wedding gifts. Sometimes they have a “gift register”. I think a lot of times they actually give things like toaster or blender, and my impression is america is more like this. Money makes more sense.
In place where I lived for a long time, this culture `Buy me a wife` is a bit more sophisticated and developed than just for wedding. At the end of each month usually employees of the same company or family members give up a portion of their money to one person who participates in this `enterprise`. So the person gets a large sum of money to buy something big...maybe a house...maybe a car. And then pays back every month that fixed amount for the next guy/gal to enjoy this `investment`. It continues until everyone gets their chance. It is a way to avoid using banks or loansharks and it zero interest loan.
In Italy it's more or less the same, you have to spend for the gift at least the price of the meal 100/200 eur for each person invited. The big difference is this one: as Italians are obsessed with elegance and refined manners we don't usually make bank transfers, it's considered cold and rude, we usually give high cost jewels or something for the house. But anyway actually Italians don't get married anymore these days, living together in the same house it's enough 😅 so we don't have to think about the marriage 🙃
Here in the U.S. in the state of New Mexico, there used to be a custom that some families followed. The Bride’s brothers and her friends would kidnap the bride. Then the groom, who would be very stressed, would have to go to all the guests and ask them to contribute because it would be a very big amount of money, something like a thousand dollars or more which a long time ago was a lot of money. Sometimes to tease the groom, the guests would refuse and the groom would have to ask many times and explain how well he would treat the bride. Gathering all the money would take a long time and the meal could not be served until the groom obtained the “ransom”. Of course, drinking was allowed and so everyone would drink! And sometimes they would raise the ransom! When the groom finally gathered the required amount, the “kidnappers” would bring back the bride. Upon her return it would be clear she had been crying. The poor couple would hug each other and at one wedding the bride yelled at her brothers and friends and called them many bad words. I think this was a terrible custom. But this was the way to gather money from tight-fisted family members. It could be funny at moments. But as you can guess after attending a wedding like this brides and grooms would demand from their families and friends never to have a “kidnapping” or really “bride-napping “.
This has to be one of the most fascinating things I've ever read. How terrible for the couple on their special day. At first, I thought it was a joke and wondered why the groom would be so stressed. But wow. I can't imagine how that tradition got started and picked up traction, but I sure am glad it's not popular anymore.
In crete is the same usually closer relatives give more money ( even though we still have a finantial crisis) and then if u are like a 2 cousin you could give only 100e . I moved to finland and all i see is that people are too individualistic and even if there would be a reason to party its so lame and everything is around alcohol because they are like robots without it
Happy to invite you to my wedding in the “west” no way we have coupons or even 30mins speed ceremony. It’s way too fast 😂! Wedding in my country, a Caribbean french island is you have a pre ceremony a few days before for legal formality. Then the wedding day where people usually attend a church ceremony usually around 2pm then a few hours in between where the couple and their closest family and bridesmaids and groomsmen will go somewhere take pictures. Then the wedding guest (like i saw in the U.K. we do not have 2 guests lists that’s rude as hell - if you are invited to the wedding you are invited to everything!) then the wedding reception in the evening can start anytime but I usually saw 6-7pm until late or even until the next morning 😅 (those are the best!) where loads of food are available either table service or buffet (my mom was a chef so I helped her do weddings when she was literally begged by couples to do theirs because she was good 😅) and then the couple will give away at the end often with some of the wedding cake in a box a small gift with either almond covered sugar not very popular anymore. And most importantly we give money in french culture no gift, no names is needed on the envelope but I wish I could ask for names because I saw people giving 5 euros to wedding and other celebrations or worst!! A
In the US you either give a gift or money the amount is up to you . Sounds like it’s not as stressful 🤗 The wedding usual has food and music paid by the family or the bride and groom depending on finances.
Hi! Another great video. Very interesting video on Korean weddings. And in the USA we do not charge quests at a wedding. And US weddings take hours and hours.
HI! My friend who lives in South Korea and got married 30 years ago told me that at that time there was another custom, the money was given to the parents of the bride and groom. This is all very interesting! even in Italy we give away money to pay for lunch :) thank you very much ❤
Yes, that's also true but that's more of a family issue actually. It really depends on the family. So you have to discuss with your family about how to deal with the money
In my country (Poland) the wedding usually starts with the ceremony, during the wedding mass, in the church. And if it's not a Catholic wedding, it starts with the civil ceremony at the registry office (that may be located for instance in a town hall). And later the newlyweds with their family and friends, so all the guests, go to a rented restaurant or similar place to eat, drink, dance and have fun until late hours, often up till early morning on the next day. The guests, while saying wishes to the newlyweds when they come out of the church, give them money in an envelope, and also flowers (or instead of flowers, sometimes a bottle of wine). How much money to give, it also depends on the relation with the newlyweds (I'm not exactly sure, but I think that currently it may usually be equivalent of about 150-250 dollars per a couple of guests, so for two people). But for sure the parents give them more than others.
Interesting. I live in Trinidad and Tobago and once you are invited to a wedding and accept, it is polite to walk with a nice gift usually for the home. Or... the invitation may include a card for a bridal register at a specific store where the couple registers for specific items usually for the home and the guest can select which item they would like to gift them. Once the item is selected it is crossed off the register. ...and finally money is given, but it is up to the guest to choose to do so. It can be given separately as the gift or with a gift. Because I live in a highly integrated multi-cultural country I can say that in other cultures it is a custom, for example at Hindu weddings which can be for more than one day, it has a part in the ceremony. If a gift is not given, money or otherwise the relationship does not automatically end though. It may be uncomfortable, or not, it depends on who the guest is.
In Ireland generally weddings held in a hotel banquet hall would be approx 100 close family and friends, sit down meal and open bar drinks, average gift value would range between Euros 100 - 300. Then we have what we call the "afters" which eg, work colleagues or people slightly outside the close circle are invited once the meal etc has finished. They then can join in later and enjoy the rest of the celebrations. It works and no-one feels left out. The Irish know how to party and can go on until the early hours of the morning!! Basing friendship via marriage on monetary value, in my opinion is not friendship. Not everyone can afford to pay large amounts due to circumstances, we are just happy that everyone can celebrate the Happy Day! And of course an excuse to have a drink/dance!
Hi, well must say in Italy you will need the whole day. Usually starting in the late morning with the very traditional wedding ceremony at church and then a long long time eating 😂😂😂😂 drinking eating drinking dancing drinking eating....until late at night.
In the Philippines, traditionally it's the family of the male who pays for all the expenses of the wedding. Though, nowadays both share the expenses specially if the couple to be is working. Gifts are in kind or in cash. The godmothers and godfathers give gifts, too. The amounts vary depending on where the wedding is going to be held and if their following traditional activities. Some weddings in the lowland provinces ask the godparents to contribute to pay the band or music. This is apart from your gift. There is also an activity where the bride and groom have their first dance and family, relatives, guests and friends go to pin money on the clothes of the newlywed. Usually, they pin to either the groom or bride whom they know. So sometimes, it shows who is richer by the amounts pinned on their clothing. In the province, the wedding takes 1 day. Cooking starts dawn the day before the wedding date. This is a rich celebration. In the cities, there are church and civil (judge/mayor officiated) weddings then there is a restaurant reception that could take 3 hours.
In USA weddings vary.according to the culture of the bride and groom . They can be very.small.4.people to.very.large.with venues and thousand people. Some couples travel to destinations with their groups How they are handeled.sre all different also depending on their religion. They can last for 15 min if done by a judge or longer if there is a dinner or reception Lasting hours. Some are days. It really does depend on all of this. The gifts vary on a huge spectrum as well .
In French Polynesia, we give money in a box, inside an envelop with a card congrats. I give more than the cost of the meal because money will help the married couple. A wedding is very expensive. And sometimes, there are two meals, the D Day, on evening until past midnight with all sort of music so people can dance, and the day after with traditional food at lunch, with local songs. For the couple and their families it’s like a marathon.
In Sweden, the wedding in the church is about 40 min but then the dinner lasts for hours, and after that you often have a Ballroom dance until very late. You are supposed to give gifts that the couple have asked for in different stores(from an app so they dont get double gifts) food and wine are free for dinner and dance, but sometimes they will have a bar (if you are in a hotel) where you have to pay. There is always a toastmaster that keps track of all the speakers and entertainment during the dinner.Thanks 💖💖💖
It’s weird. If I’m attending the wedding, it’s totally fine to pay. Weddings are expensive and they are paying for my food and so. But if I’m not attending, why is it mandatory to pay otherwise I’ll be cut off!. I’m from Kuwait, we do give wedding presents, but it’s never mandatory, whether you’ve attended the wedding or not.
It's the same amounts in Canada. You show up alone $100-150. As a couple you double the amount. If bride/groom are close friends of you, maybe $200. No show, no money. still friends.
Even I knew a lot of things in this Video I enjoyed it because living abroad I didnt know how much money (in korean Won) koreans usually give on a Wedding happening in Korea.😊
Good to know. I heard that weddings there are fast…in the US…you’re there forever 😂 it starts at 3 in the afternoon and you get home until midnight😂 also you don’t have to give them money if you don’t want to…a lot of times the newlyweds have a gift registry…telling us what they need for their new home and it’s still pricey 😂
Yes , but what he doesn't say is there is no time with the bride and goom , you watch the ceremony then you go to the buffet and leave. they do at the beginning allow guests to visit the bride before the wedding. So not very much of a celebration with your guests .
I think it is Asian thing coz it’s the same in Thailand but in Thailand, we only give the money when we join the wedding ceremony, if you cant’t join or dont wanna join the ceremony you can come up with an excuse like you are engaged with work or you already have plan to leave town during the wedding day 😅😂
That seems a very reasonable amount of gift money to give. The book is a guest book I assume. Do the bride and groom send thank you cards to people from the guest book? It is pretty similar in Irish, Nepali, and Irish American weddings (my cultures). It depends on your religions too. Like people who keep old religion(Animism/Muism, Buddhism, Taoist, Hinduism/Vedas, etc.) In Ireland, usually weddings are either Catholic or "Old Ways" and they are very different kinds of weddings. it is different, people who keep modern religions are the typical Western white dress thing. Buddhist are of course more traditional. I always loved going to traditional Korean weddings. They are very beautiful to me. I do not like white wedding "princess" stuff so much. I prefer more ancient traditions I guess. Either that or a beach wedding would be really pretty. I love the ocean.
@@average_korean_man Thank you for the reply. No, not at the moment. I enjoy learning siju, history and traditional archery, so. I will come visit in two years at Yonsei, maybe for my PhD. I am pulled to the Southwest or Southeast though. We will see. Meanwhile I study and learn and get to know people naturally and gently. I grew up around many Koreans and participate in community here. I would spill my blood for either country. (Korea was my theater in the air force, yes)
Im planning to go to Seoul in February, hope you make a video on it so i can know what to do and what to expect, I think South Korean women are the most attractive in the world.
thank you for your information on the reality of Korea: i watch a bit of K drama/films on YT & get a somewhat idealized or overly bleak view of your society. Get the impression from films that K high schools are rife with bullying- is this true?
Dramas are dramas. Of course there is bullying but that exists everywhere around the world. The bullying you've seen on dramas are way over exaggerated
Korean-American weddings are an interesting mix of traditional and western weddings. Mostly I've seen Korean-Christian style weddings, but they usually serve Korean food buffet style for the first meal. The 1st generation adults eat the Korean food, and then the 2nd generation "children" but still adults then go to a second location to have Western food and drinks and have an after party. Then the close friends will go to a hotel and have the third party. It could be an 18 hour day if you're part of the wedding party. The service will usually be done in English, but if the married couple are recent immigrants they might have the service in both languages. Gifts are usually cash unless the couple very westernized, in which case they'll have a registry. More currently, many couples ask for donations to a fund for honeymoon or charity, depends how wealthy they are. I've also seen koreanized couples have a 2nd wedding in Korea for their Korean relatives. Or sometimes they'll do traditional Korean customs including changing into hambok, mixed with Western style wedding. Also it's constantly changing as the times change or people have mixed race marriages.
As a family member of the bride, I felt obligated to gave $1000 each time my both nices got married and I felt more was expected. Now, waiting for two nephews' turn. And, don't forget same goes for attending funeral. I personally struggle with these type of Korean culture as an American.
Interesting! But but in my eyes it seem you have to pay for the wedding you are invited to. That would be very rude in my country or at least in my social group.
This is totally sick; I have never heard of anything so sick. What kind of society has such customs ? I am so happy to live in a normal society like Canada, Québec.
From what I have heard of korean weddings this from brides and grooms the money does not go to the couple the parents take the money because they foo the bill for the wedding.
So strange because you can be verry close to a person and like that person very much, but be poor. What can you do then, not go to the marriage and lose a friend ?
From my experience, in America, gifts or cash are expected as well. If you don’t come with one or the other it’s viewed as shameful. How expensive the gift or how much money you give is dependent how extravagant the wedding is. If it’s a smaller wedding and it’s more like a potluck where family or friends provide dishes, you aren’t expected to give as much buy if it’s an extravagant wedding at an expensive venue with catering, you’re expected to give more to help offset the cost of the wedding. If you don’t attend the wedding, it’s still proper etiquette to give a gift or money, especially if you’re close to the person or related, but it’s not viewed as being as shameful if you don’t give a gift or money if you don’t attend.
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In the USA, weddings can either be a big event or a smaller event. However, generally we do not charge the guests for the meal. They are our guests to the wedding. Gifts are normally given, but not required. Most couples will have registered at stores, so you can purchase them a gift from their wish list. You can also give money, but that isn’t as common. Many couples now will not accept gifts,, but donations to their favorite charity or organization. The couple will send out thank you notes to all of the guests who attended, regardless of they gave a gift or not and if a guest didn’t come, but gave a gift, they would get a thank you card
This is what happens here in Australia as well. In the small settlement in NZ where I come from there is no invitation. It's open to anyone as most people are either related, friends, or friends of friends. A gift of money is sometimes given but not necessarily expected. No guest pays for their meal. Alcohol is banned from the venue but guests can go to the local pub and pay for their own. Relatives donate food which is considered their wedding gift 🎁
i forgot to add. the wedding takes place normally at a religious place(church,temple, etc) and then there is a reception afterwards. the reception includes the meal and then there are hours of dancing. sometimes the wedding is done in an outdoor setting as well. many couples get married at city hall with just a few witnesses and then hold a reception for many guests afterwards. in the USA, getting married by a priest, rabbi, whatever your religious belief is, is not enough to be considered married. you have to get a license from the state as well. marriage in the USA is secular not religious based
In U.S. it is tacky not to gift the cost of the meal provided it’s not too over the top and the person can afford it.
@@kristinesharp6286never heard of that rule! must be regional, as where i am from, it’s considered tacky for the couple to count how much the gift was in relationship to the cost of the meal. my sister did that and i looked at her in shock and said, you invited the guests to celebrate your day, not to recoup the cost if your wedding
@@cbiancardi9233 the parents surely count to see if they got their’s back when they were a guest or what to gift that guests daughter or son when they marry.
The most interesting and shocking part for me was that a wedding lasts only 1 hour. 🌷 that's really unusual, in my country ( Bulgaria) weddings are usually in the evening and there are many ceremonies before that, so a wedding can last maybe 5 - 6 hours.
Hello, another interesting video. Australian weddings , from my observations, take three forms :- 1. The low key, backyard/park/beach venue with an official marriage celebrant - wishing well box where guests may- or may not deposit cash . A buffet lunch party- may last all afternoon and well into the night paid for by parents of the couple. 2. A wedding service at a church followed by a reception at a restaurant or reception/ events centre. Sit down meal, speeches, music dancing - paid for by the parents - may last into the night - suggested gifts ( white goods, appliances etc.) are posted online by couple for guests to buy, but not compulsory. 3. The Resort wedding, either in Australia or overseas - guests travel to whichever country is nominated and the wedding and reception is paid for by the families of the couple. The low key (1.) is the current most popular type of wedding and the high end (3.) is getting more and more popular.
Interesting. As a Filipino, I've always thought that as a guest (to any event) you should not be required for anything. Weddings in the Philippines usually happen in the afternoon just right before dinner. Gifts are appreciated but not required. The only ones required to give such extravagant presents are the godfathers and godmothers who have close relations to the people getting married. And even these people, get asked first, prior to the event if they could be godparents for both the bride and the groom or not. Meaning, they could decline politely if they don't think they are capable. Other guests could give presents in any shape or form. I served as the best man for my cousin's wedding a few years back, and I remember giving him a set of perfume and a wine. The most expensive gift he might have received that night was from a godfather who happens to be a politician and is closely related to his wife's family. He gave them both $20,000 to start as a family. Even to this day, my cousin and I remain shocked about that night.
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in the west, the wedding guests do not have to pay for their meal. they also can give anything they want as a gift, can be money, can be an item. there is usually dancing after the meal too. people make note of the gifts/money they received so that they can write thank you cards to the guests but the records are not really for the purpose of reciprocating later on although some people might naturally remember what someone gave them and reciprocate later on but that's done much more casually. then there are destination weddings where the wedding is held in another state or country. that can get very expensive for guests as they have to take off from work, pay for airfare, hotel, unless the bride and groom cover those costs.
I don't like to hear Korea has developed such a transactional love system. It sounds so superficial. =( Back when my mom lived there, it was traditional to bring something for the household or to bring good luck for the couple and for them to have children.
Thanks for sharing! From the USA 😄
I am a french-speaking girl from the province of Québec in Canada.
When you go to a wedding you bring a gift, usually something useful for the new couple, things that they will need in their new home. You will normally pay between 25$ to 100$ for the gift, of course depending on how close a relationship you have with the bride or the groom. Some couples will let you know they have a list of gifts in a store. So you go to that store and buy one of the gifts listed. After the wedding, there is always a reception with a meal or buffet and there is a reserved place where all the gifts are displayed. Of course the parents of the bride and groom usually give a very expansive gift or a large sum of money according to their financial means. Whe I got married a very long time ago, my father give me a pearl necklace and I was very happy.
I’m Canadian and we usually 2 or 3 parts to a wedding, the church service and the reception. The reception can includes lunch or dinner (sometimes both) and lots of dancing. As for gifting, you can give a gift, cash or both.
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In the US it is somewhat similar. The closer you are to the person, especially a relative, you are expected to give more. Usually in gift cards or actual gifts from a wedding registry. The registry is a list of stores that have items the couple will show for products they wish to have. It is customary to buy these gifts for them to start their newlywed life. Some people don’t pay anything which is frowned upon but not a big deal I would say.
Thanks for sharing South Korean culture.
We have lots of dancing at the weddings 💒 and before the wedding 💍 there's a Bridal Shower I myself if I am invited to the Shower must give a 🎁 for their home and at the Wedding we give money in an envelope for both the groom and bride... At the wedding party there is dancing, eating plus drinks 🎉 at least the wedding party lasts 4 to 5 hrs 😅 either in the afternoon or at night during Saturdays or Sundays mostly. 😂❤
This is really interesting, thank you.
giving money at a wedding is similar to Indonesian culture..but in Indonesia there are no food coupons..everyone who comes to the party can freely eat anything..but for very, very rich families they forbid guests from bringing gifts and giving money..and Another thing is that there are always wedding souvenirs given by the bride and groom's family to the guests
It sounds similar to Italian weddings, they usually have an engagement shower, which we did at the same venue for our wedding. At the shower you register at a store and people pick from choices you have selected. Family usually spends more like aunts and uncles and parents. I pretty much still have all the gifts I was given for our engagement shower. First you have your marriage ceremony, then have pictures done at chosen location. At the wedding reception they have a beautiful boosta box where guests place their wedding card and monetary gift. I would say everyone gives $100 per person which essentially covers the cost of the meal as you mentioned. Italians have quite a few courses. Every one get a gift called a bomboniere. There are speeches made by your wedding party and parents and then bride and groom. Then there is certain dances between bride and groom, then father and daughter, then bridal party. Usually you play some traditional Italian music for the older family and friends and then regular music. Close to the end of the evening people play a game to win the centre piece on the table they sat at. Money for the event is payed before bride and groom leave for their honeymoon. Thank you cards are sent out after the honeymoon sometime they contain a picture of the bride and groom. Canadian weddings can be all different depending on people’s financial situation or preferences there is not a set tradition.
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The biggest issue Korean and Asian men have in general is the fact they need to be self set up before marriage, car, house, savings etc before they can even think of getting a woman’s family to marry them.
In the west, many couples “grow” together, you may get married out of college not earning much but you build a fortune together whereas in Asia a man needs to be self made.
Now we have women who are too , self made so they don’t need men to marry now in order to have a life where as their lives used to be dictated by who they marry BUT while they may not need a man to support them, culturally, their families won’t let them marry a man who has less then them even if they are self sufficient earners. So men have all the onus of wealth upon them.
So many women aren’t willing to sacrifice for the sake of a relationship and having kids.
Oh that’s makes more sense now, thank you for explaining, I couldn’t understand why he said people avoid marriage because housing is too expensive. To me I thought it would be better married because you have someone to split costs with now. But from what you wrote, it makes sense. A man won’t want to marry because he would view all of the finances as his sole responsibility and that would be an extra mouth to feed. Correct?
Nobody really gets married right after college in the West, unless it's some extreme outlier or the couple is very religious.
@@S41GON that wasn’t my intention. It was just a simple play on how we live our lives, go to college get a job, get married. There is not that many people who wait to be fully set up before they marry, especially if you find someone you really like, you generally tend to start to build a life together regardless of marriage anyway.
Don't say "nobody" because some people *STILL* do get married right after college and are not religious. Some get married during college. "Nobody" is an inaccurate assumption. 😌@@S41GON
Here in UK. It's a short wedding as well most people gives gifts or money but that's all your choice . Then later everyone usually goes to a large or small hall where they will celebrate till late in the evening ❤
Book is called a "Guest Book" in US. Names for thank you notes, here. It is tacky to treat the gifts like an accounting scheme. However, I knew one bride who told everyone that each invitation cost $50.00. Sick. Not that different in US.
Here it is quite similar. Most of the time you will gift money or you will team up with other guests/friends for an expensive present or just buy something small from a wish list. Weddings can be expensive but they don‘t have to be. Depends on what kind of party you will throw (number of guests, location, catering, music, fun acts). Keep it small or big, whatever. The most extraordinary wedding I attended was in a castle. They rented a castle with all decorum. The wedding once held by a cousin of mine in a farmer‘s barn was way more fun. We guests were camping in tents on a meadow or in some hotels (the elderly) nearby.
Very helpful information!
Luckily not many people get married over there. Terrible way to take advantage of people. You get married you pay for your own wedding
Ohh Korea, my Korea 😢
I'm in the US and agree with
@cbiancardi9233. There is usually a large ceremony in a church or outside venue for the ceremony and a large guest list of family & friends. Gifts are not mandatory as we just want our loved ones and friends to be a part of the special day. After the ceremony guest go on to the reception and are treated to lunch or dinner, drinks, dancing and cake. All of this at the cost of the Bride/Groom and sometimes with the help of their family. Basically a very large party to celebrate the Bride & Groom. 🥂🎉 Thank you notes are sent to all who attended or sent best wishes and could not attend. ❤💛💚
In Québec, Canada, formerly, the wedding was always a religious wedding, catholic wedding, held at the church. The bride would wear a long white dress and the groom, a very elegant suit. After the wedding, the guests were invited to attend a réception where a very expensive traditional meal will be served : first an appetizer or «hors-d'oeuvre», then two main courses, fish and meat, then a cheese platter with many sorts of cheese, and finally a wedding cake. Of course wine and champagne are also served. That is the sort of wedding I had. Unfortunately, it only lasted two years.
Nowadays, there are still religious wedding, but more often civil mariages. I must add that he province of Québec in Canada is the place in the world where you find the most important number of persons living in cohabitation, that is to say they live together, have children and live a normal family life, but never get married. This is what I did after I had divorced my husband.
Historians say that this custom goes back to the beginning of the «Nouvelle-France» and was inherited from the native people who occupied the territory of Canada when the first Europeans arrived in the XVIth century.
Wow. So I just did the conversion and as of today 50,000 won to USD is like $36.00. If that's the case that's really not a lot. I mean maybe for Korean culture and finances it is but when I attend a wedding in the US I'm giving at least $100-150 just for myself. If I bring a guest if I am allowed one I add more. In Canada it is a bit less money as the societal expectation is less. We basically have the expectation we will cover what the couple spent for our meal and the additional per guest items.
When I lived and worked in Korea and Japan I experienced what you're speaking of.
I think a commonality is that if you're close to the person or couple you give more money.
For reference I'm half Japanese, spent part of my childhood and part of my adulthood thus far in Japan.
Having just returned home to the UK from a short holiday in Seoul (loved every minute by the way) we find your videos very interesting and informative indeed. Keep them coming!
I think it isn’t much different from other countries. In Spain you usually have to give anywhere from 100 to 500€ on the wedding day as well as a gift from the wedding list. Weddings can cost a guest hundreds of euros between gifts and clothes.
This is so interesting, here in the west people don't invite you to a wedding for money, but because your there friend, whether you give a gift or not because not everyone can afford to give a present 🎁 so different..
Considering the fact that weddings in korea are not that common, and you are invited from time to time, than it's ok. In Israel people get married relatively young and have 2-3 children so you are invited to many weddings in one year so it is quite an expense. We give more money than what you explained and if It's a good friend it could be a lot, but it's more or less the same like in Korea. We don't write bank transfer on the invitation and you can give a present or a gift card insted of money.
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Wow, thats really interesting. Thank you for sharing this with us! This is very different from the country where i live (Germany). On german weddings, we just give gifts, not even nessecarily money. We give things like salt shakers, or some beautifully crafted containers with money in them and flowers, or Household appliances or something like that. The gifts for German weddings are similar as for German birthday presents. And i think german weddings are much smaller. Most weddings have a maximum of 80 guests. There is usually a ceremony at the registry office and sometimes there is an officiant who performs the ring exchange. There is usually a ceremony at the registry office and sometimes there is an officiant who performs the ring exchange. But the most important thing is always the after-party and that the bride and groom have fun with their closest friends and relatives!
In the UK people have lots of different types of wedding. Some people just go to the registry office on their own, some have close family and friends only, then a bigger celebration party on a different day. It’s become so expensive and I think a lot of people would prefer to spend the money on a deposit for a house or a holiday. Gifts - not obliged to give one but people usually have a list or may ask for money towards something.
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For me, it is the strangest thing that you have to pay for your lunch. Wen I got married, very long ago, my father had rented a large room in a restaurant and he paid for a very nice lunch, and also the drinks -that is wine - for all the guests, around forty to fifty pesons. This is considered a small marriage.
And I am so sad now because I cannot remember if I thanked my dad before leaving for my honeymoon.
Of course, I also wrote a personnel letter to all the people who had given a gift to thank them.
I have never heard of people giving money instead of a gift.
I was a wedding Photographer in the Uk, the Bride & Groom pay everything usually.I have seen reception meals usually 3 course meal for up to 100 guests all paid for its not expected to receive a gift or money but most guest usually gift something. celebrations after the ceremony are in a hall or hotel till late in the evening & sometimes its a free bar for a few hours.
I’m looking forward knowingly to this video content lol. I’m Canadian and married a Korean lady in Canada. It was a very small home wedding with dinner at a restaurant. Only family and a few friends.
We had a second wedding in Korea so my wife’s parents could recoup the money gifts. They gave some of that money to my wife and she kept that lol. Actually it was a very nice wedding. Nice memories and great photos.
In Canada you do give wedding gifts. Sometimes they have a “gift register”. I think a lot of times they actually give things like toaster or blender, and my impression is america is more like this. Money makes more sense.
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In place where I lived for a long time, this culture `Buy me a wife` is a bit more sophisticated and developed than just for wedding. At the end of each month usually employees of the same company or family members give up a portion of their money to one person who participates in this `enterprise`. So the person gets a large sum of money to buy something big...maybe a house...maybe a car. And then pays back every month that fixed amount for the next guy/gal to enjoy this `investment`. It continues until everyone gets their chance. It is a way to avoid using banks or loansharks and it zero interest loan.
In Italy it's more or less the same, you have to spend for the gift at least the price of the meal 100/200 eur for each person invited. The big difference is this one: as Italians are obsessed with elegance and refined manners we don't usually make bank transfers, it's considered cold and rude, we usually give high cost jewels or something for the house. But anyway actually Italians don't get married anymore these days, living together in the same house it's enough 😅 so we don't have to think about the marriage 🙃
Here in the U.S. in the state of New Mexico, there used to be a custom that some families followed. The Bride’s brothers and her friends would kidnap the bride. Then the groom, who would be very stressed, would have to go to all the guests and ask them to contribute because it would be a very big amount of money, something like a thousand dollars or more which a long time ago was a lot of money. Sometimes to tease the groom, the guests would refuse and the groom would have to ask many times and explain how well he would treat the bride. Gathering all the money would take a long time and the meal could not be served until the groom obtained the “ransom”. Of course, drinking was allowed and so everyone would drink! And sometimes they would raise the ransom! When the groom finally gathered the required amount, the “kidnappers” would bring back the bride. Upon her return it would be clear she had been crying. The poor couple would hug each other and at one wedding the bride yelled at her brothers and friends and called them many bad words. I think this was a terrible custom. But this was the way to gather money from tight-fisted family members. It could be funny at moments. But as you can guess after attending a wedding like this brides and grooms would demand from their families and friends never to have a “kidnapping” or really “bride-napping “.
Well that's disgusting.
This has to be one of the most fascinating things I've ever read. How terrible for the couple on their special day. At first, I thought it was a joke and wondered why the groom would be so stressed. But wow. I can't imagine how that tradition got started and picked up traction, but I sure am glad it's not popular anymore.
Yeah, it was very mean.
In crete is the same usually closer relatives give more money ( even though we still have a finantial crisis) and then if u are like a 2 cousin you could give only 100e . I moved to finland and all i see is that people are too individualistic and even if there would be a reason to party its so lame and everything is around alcohol because they are like robots without it
Happy to invite you to my wedding in the “west” no way we have coupons or even 30mins speed ceremony. It’s way too fast 😂! Wedding in my country, a Caribbean french island is you have a pre ceremony a few days before for legal formality. Then the wedding day where people usually attend a church ceremony usually around 2pm then a few hours in between where the couple and their closest family and bridesmaids and groomsmen will go somewhere take pictures. Then the wedding guest (like i saw in the U.K. we do not have 2 guests lists that’s rude as hell - if you are invited to the wedding you are invited to everything!) then the wedding reception in the evening can start anytime but I usually saw 6-7pm until late or even until the next morning 😅 (those are the best!) where loads of food are available either table service or buffet (my mom was a chef so I helped her do weddings when she was literally begged by couples to do theirs because she was good 😅) and then the couple will give away at the end often with some of the wedding cake in a box a small gift with either almond covered sugar not very popular anymore. And most importantly we give money in french culture no gift, no names is needed on the envelope but I wish I could ask for names because I saw people giving 5 euros to wedding and other celebrations or worst!! A
That sounds amazing
In the US you either give a gift or money the amount is up to you . Sounds like it’s not as stressful 🤗 The wedding usual has food and music paid by the family or the bride and groom depending on finances.
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I would lose so many friends in Korea, haha
Hi! Another great video. Very interesting video on Korean weddings. And in the USA we do not charge quests at a wedding. And US weddings take hours and hours.
Thanks for sharing!
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HI! My friend who lives in South Korea and got married 30 years ago told me that at that time there was another custom, the money was given to the parents of the bride and groom. This is all very interesting! even in Italy we give away money to pay for lunch :) thank you very much ❤
Yes, that's also true but that's more of a family issue actually. It really depends on the family. So you have to discuss with your family about how to deal with the money
@@average_korean_man thank you so much!
In my country (Poland) the wedding usually starts with the ceremony, during the wedding mass, in the church. And if it's not a Catholic wedding, it starts with the civil ceremony at the registry office (that may be located for instance in a town hall). And later the newlyweds with their family and friends, so all the guests, go to a rented restaurant or similar place to eat, drink, dance and have fun until late hours, often up till early morning on the next day. The guests, while saying wishes to the newlyweds when they come out of the church, give them money in an envelope, and also flowers (or instead of flowers, sometimes a bottle of wine). How much money to give, it also depends on the relation with the newlyweds (I'm not exactly sure, but I think that currently it may usually be equivalent of about 150-250 dollars per a couple of guests, so for two people). But for sure the parents give them more than others.
Interesting. I live in Trinidad and Tobago and once you are invited to a wedding and accept, it is polite to walk with a nice gift usually for the home. Or... the invitation may include a card for a bridal register at a specific store where the couple registers for specific items usually for the home and the guest can select which item they would like to gift them. Once the item is selected it is crossed off the register.
...and finally money is given, but it is up to the guest to choose to do so. It can be given separately as the gift or with a gift. Because I live in a highly integrated multi-cultural country I can say that in other cultures it is a custom, for example at Hindu weddings which can be for more than one day, it has a part in the ceremony.
If a gift is not given, money or otherwise the relationship does not automatically end though. It may be uncomfortable, or not, it depends on who the guest is.
In Ireland generally weddings held in a hotel banquet hall would be approx 100 close family and friends, sit down meal and open bar drinks, average gift value would range between Euros 100 - 300. Then we have what we call the "afters" which eg, work colleagues or people slightly outside the close circle are invited once the meal etc has finished. They then can join in later and enjoy the rest of the celebrations. It works and no-one feels left out. The Irish know how to party and can go on until the early hours of the morning!! Basing friendship via marriage on monetary value, in my opinion is not friendship. Not everyone can afford to pay large amounts due to circumstances, we are just happy that everyone can celebrate the Happy Day! And of course an excuse to have a drink/dance!
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Hi, well must say in Italy you will need the whole day. Usually starting in the late morning with the very traditional wedding ceremony at church and then a long long time eating 😂😂😂😂 drinking eating drinking dancing drinking eating....until late at night.
In the Philippines, traditionally it's the family of the male who pays for all the expenses of the wedding. Though, nowadays both share the expenses specially if the couple to be is working. Gifts are in kind or in cash. The godmothers and godfathers give gifts, too. The amounts vary depending on where the wedding is going to be held and if their following traditional activities. Some weddings in the lowland provinces ask the godparents to contribute to pay the band or music. This is apart from your gift. There is also an activity where the bride and groom have their first dance and family, relatives, guests and friends go to pin money on the clothes of the newlywed. Usually, they pin to either the groom or bride whom they know. So sometimes, it shows who is richer by the amounts pinned on their clothing. In the province, the wedding takes 1 day. Cooking starts dawn the day before the wedding date. This is a rich celebration. In the cities, there are church and civil (judge/mayor officiated) weddings then there is a restaurant reception that could take 3 hours.
In USA weddings vary.according to the culture of the bride and groom . They can be very.small.4.people to.very.large.with venues and thousand people. Some couples travel to destinations with their groups
How they are handeled.sre all different also depending on their religion.
They can last for 15 min if done by a judge or longer if there is a dinner or reception
Lasting hours. Some are days.
It really does depend on all of this.
The gifts vary on a huge spectrum as well .
this is actually very interesting and informative
Nice to meet you I'm from India country brother
Yes, quite different.
How much a Korean wedding typically cost?
What can it cost if it lasts only an hour?
In French Polynesia, we give money in a box, inside an envelop with a card congrats. I give more than the cost of the meal because money will help the married couple. A wedding is very expensive. And sometimes, there are two meals, the D Day, on evening until past midnight with all sort of music so people can dance, and the day after with traditional food at lunch, with local songs. For the couple and their families it’s like a marathon.
In Sweden, the wedding in the church is about 40 min but then the dinner lasts for hours, and after that you often have a Ballroom dance until very late. You are supposed to give gifts that the couple have asked for in different stores(from an app so they dont get double gifts) food and wine are free for dinner and dance, but sometimes they will have a bar (if you are in a hotel) where you have to pay. There is always a toastmaster that keps track of all the speakers and entertainment during the dinner.Thanks 💖💖💖
Thanks for the information!
It’s weird. If I’m attending the wedding, it’s totally fine to pay. Weddings are expensive and they are paying for my food and so. But if I’m not attending, why is it mandatory to pay otherwise I’ll be cut off!.
I’m from Kuwait, we do give wedding presents, but it’s never mandatory, whether you’ve attended the wedding or not.
i am from the Philippines, and from what i have observed in most weddings here, people dine and dash 😁😁😁
It's the same amounts in Canada. You show up alone $100-150. As a couple you double the amount. If bride/groom are close friends of you, maybe $200. No show, no money. still friends.
Even I knew a lot of things in this Video I enjoyed it because living abroad I didnt know how much money (in korean Won) koreans usually give on a Wedding happening in Korea.😊
Good to know. I heard that weddings there are fast…in the US…you’re there forever 😂 it starts at 3 in the afternoon and you get home until midnight😂 also you don’t have to give them money if you don’t want to…a lot of times the newlyweds have a gift registry…telling us what they need for their new home and it’s still pricey 😂
Yes , but what he doesn't say is there is no time with the bride and goom , you watch the ceremony then you go to the buffet and leave. they do at the beginning allow guests to visit the bride before the wedding. So not very much of a celebration with your guests .
I think it is Asian thing coz it’s the same in Thailand but in Thailand, we only give the money when we join the wedding ceremony, if you cant’t join or dont wanna join the ceremony you can come up with an excuse like you are engaged with work or you already have plan to leave town during the wedding day 😅😂
That seems a very reasonable amount of gift money to give. The book is a guest book I assume. Do the bride and groom send thank you cards to people from the guest book?
It is pretty similar in Irish, Nepali, and Irish American weddings (my cultures). It depends on your religions too. Like people who keep old religion(Animism/Muism, Buddhism, Taoist, Hinduism/Vedas, etc.) In Ireland, usually weddings are either Catholic or "Old Ways" and they are very different kinds of weddings. it is different, people who keep modern religions are the typical Western white dress thing. Buddhist are of course more traditional. I always loved going to traditional Korean weddings. They are very beautiful to me. I do not like white wedding "princess" stuff so much. I prefer more ancient traditions I guess. Either that or a beach wedding would be really pretty. I love the ocean.
No, unfortunately there is no thank you card. Did you live in Korea?
@@average_korean_man Thank you for the reply. No, not at the moment. I enjoy learning siju, history and traditional archery, so. I will come visit in two years at Yonsei, maybe for my PhD. I am pulled to the Southwest or Southeast though. We will see. Meanwhile I study and learn and get to know people naturally and gently. I grew up around many Koreans and participate in community here. I would spill my blood for either country. (Korea was my theater in the air force, yes)
Im planning to go to Seoul in February, hope you make a video on it so i can know what to do and what to expect, I think South Korean women are the most attractive in the world.
Yes. They have brains too!
Is the amount per individual or can it be a group gift?
Individual 😁
thank you for your information on the reality of Korea: i watch a bit of K drama/films on YT & get a somewhat idealized or overly bleak view of your society. Get the impression from films that K high schools are rife with bullying- is this true?
Dramas are dramas. Of course there is bullying but that exists everywhere around the world. The bullying you've seen on dramas are way over exaggerated
Korean-American weddings are an interesting mix of traditional and western weddings. Mostly I've seen Korean-Christian style weddings, but they usually serve Korean food buffet style for the first meal. The 1st generation adults eat the Korean food, and then the 2nd generation "children" but still adults then go to a second location to have Western food and drinks and have an after party. Then the close friends will go to a hotel and have the third party. It could be an 18 hour day if you're part of the wedding party. The service will usually be done in English, but if the married couple are recent immigrants they might have the service in both languages. Gifts are usually cash unless the couple very westernized, in which case they'll have a registry. More currently, many couples ask for donations to a fund for honeymoon or charity, depends how wealthy they are. I've also seen koreanized couples have a 2nd wedding in Korea for their Korean relatives. Or sometimes they'll do traditional Korean customs including changing into hambok, mixed with Western style wedding. Also it's constantly changing as the times change or people have mixed race marriages.
As a family member of the bride, I felt obligated to gave $1000 each time my both nices got married and I felt more was expected. Now, waiting for two nephews' turn. And, don't forget same goes for attending funeral. I personally struggle with these type of Korean culture as an American.
$1000 is much more than enough. That's a lot...
Interesting! But but in my eyes it seem you have to pay for the wedding you are invited to. That would be very rude in my country or at least in my social group.
This is totally sick; I have never heard of anything so sick. What kind of society has such customs ? I am so happy to live in a normal society like Canada, Québec.
From what I have heard of korean weddings this from brides and grooms the money does not go to the couple the parents take the money because they foo the bill for the wedding.
Yes, that's also true. But more of a family issue. It really depends on the family. So you have to discuss with your family how to deal with the money
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If you really dislike the person, go to the wedding, put in an envelope with no money in it, get the coupon for lunch and enjoy the lunch. 🙂
🤣🤣🤣 yo that's hilarious
I'm in the US and if the couple is family I give money and lots of it.
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I think it's about wedding gifts in Korea, right?
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Wow. What happens if you have multiple invitations in one season?
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This sounds like some of the South East Asians culture,my culture we put the money in the box but no minimum required . It goes in one box!
When can I attend your wedding?? 😁😁😁😁
Can you make a video about the spitting culture in Korea, everyone around seems to spit in public with no regard for others around them..
So its just another way of saying `Hey people, buy me a wife`.
can you tell us about the 'shaman' thing in korea? and what's the state of christianity there? maybe too controversial for your channel, but.
So strange because you can be verry close to a person and like that person very much, but be poor. What can you do then, not go to the marriage and lose a friend ?
Somehow they will have the money ready for their best friends
What about funerals? Same thing?
If you are talking about the amount of money, yes pretty much the same
someone who has not spoken to you for seventeen years and invites you to his (her) mariage, seems to me it is clearly only for the money
Wow!!! That is amazing. So why aren't you married?? Do men married late ??? You say you are 32?? But thank you for all the info.
lol so if you are never married you are screwed because you're always paying.
Lol
Is it worth it for a foreign man to come to South Korea and meet girls and eat tons of kimbap, cold noodles, bulgolgi, bibimap, korean bbq?
You're not old, quit saying that
'32-years-old' not 'old' it means my age is 32
Just elope
I don’t think I’m going to Mary Korean the cultures is terrible not being rude oe negative to many no good rules,
From my experience, in America, gifts or cash are expected as well. If you don’t come with one or the other it’s viewed as shameful.
How expensive the gift or how much money you give is dependent how extravagant the wedding is. If it’s a smaller wedding and it’s more like a potluck where family or friends provide dishes, you aren’t expected to give as much buy if it’s an extravagant wedding at an expensive venue with catering, you’re expected to give more to help offset the cost of the wedding.
If you don’t attend the wedding, it’s still proper etiquette to give a gift or money, especially if you’re close to the person or related, but it’s not viewed as being as shameful if you don’t give a gift or money if you don’t attend.
are u gonna have kids?
I don't know 😅
Bit of a personal question!
@@LynnD0109 I don't care woman. I am half ricecel. I don't need a toilet's opinion.