"Gaining weight" "being taller than me" "sweating a lot". Do these guys know the meaning of a red flag on a person? Honestly, these are the guys, to me, that are considered red flags. It's okay to have a preference in terms of appearance, but what they said was too much.
Yeah, he said a lot of things that make sense. In addition to family relationships, it's also important to see how that person interacts with people in the everyday. Stability is also very good!
I mean think of it if it was reversed? would you date a guy who's friendly to everyone the same way he is with you? would you be comfortable with that?
I think he meant being treated the same way as everyone else. Tbh I get it in public but if your partner treats you like a friend even when alone that’s a red flag imo
The term 'red flag' doesn't translate well into Korean. It was translated into "red light" which in Korea, means like a 'no,' so essentially "what traits would you avoid in women" is what the interviewer was pretty much asking. I think he should've explained what 'red flag' really means in context.
That was i thought tho, why these men instead saying like what makes them uncomfort from women! are they don't know what red flag means?! Red flag is such fucked up behavior form your partner that makes you wanted break up with
That’s why so many relationship crash and burn because people don’t look for a kindhearted woman or a kindhearted man someone that will be there for you when you are down sick but they look for for appearance. Your relationship is doom to fail because you don’t look at the persons heart.
That’s a fairytale, this is reality, there’s no such thing as “true love” or the “right one.” Someone can be so good at acting and pretend to love you without you ever finding out, that’s one of the reasons why divorce and break up rates are really high and common. Like the saying goes “love blinds you.”
Believe it or not there is true love we just don’t appreciate it when it’s right in front of us. I love someone for 20 something years never cheated never asked for anything yet he betrayed me my heart into pieces. People like us are broken. We do not trust anymore. They are a few of us. We just picked the wrong man or the wrong woman.
The little bit of us that’s left. We are all damage because some bad seed has ruined us, which is to stay single and do not love again we choose to love ourselves and take care of ourselves.
I’m just gonna go out there and say a girl getting weight and a girls height isn’t necessarily a red flag because a girl may not be able to help it if she gains weight and a girl cannot change her height so their commenting about things girls can’t change as being red flags a red flag is usually pertain to somebody’s actions and personalities not somebody’s appearance and definitely not something they can’t change guys who say girls are not attractive based on something they can’t change like height and sometimes weight is a red flag
i think they don't know what a red flag is??? maybe they were talking more about simply their preference or what would make them feel she is attractive or not?? idk though i'm just guessing cause it'd be weird if they knew and answered that hahaha
they probably meant their preference, maybe red flag here doesn't translate well to Korea. Either way, I do agree with the weight one heavily. In a lot of relationships, I've seen healthy relationships where the girl or even guy gain weight because they're happy together which is very normal. Some couples may work together to even lose weight, weight can be changed over time, and yes some can't control unless they go to the doctors. But that one guy kept talking about weight as if it was a bad thing and saying it's "difficult" to date a fat girl?? How is it difficult??? Unless he means a 300+ pound girl which is kinda rare in Korea... like what does he think is overweight? He's in korea, one of the skinniest countries or countries with low obesity rates so it's VERY strange he kept mentioning weight, it's as if he's projecting or something
facts like imagine if i girl said its a red flag if ur not over 6ft and u dont got abs and muscles. shes instantly getting clipped on tiktok and getting bashed for saying that
Being short or overweight is definitely not a red flag and it’s probably a misinterpretation, on the other hand how is it a red flag if they are not attracted to overweight women? Since everyone has their own preferences, if they find overweight girls unattractive, and especially if they are fit themselves, it’s their right. Like personally as a WOMAN, I don’t find obese men attractive and I don’t want to date anyone who’s overweight, and it’s my right to want a fit partner because I am fit and I take care of my own appearance. So why can’t men feel the same way? Simply being a woman doesn’t give you the privilege to be attractive in the eyes of everyone, and whoever says that they find all women (or people in general) attractive is generally a hypocrite. And I think more people should be aware of that.
When they mentioned the weight part, I think they meant obese/or overweight and it could be a red flag bc it shows they don't have determination to get healthier/change. It also shows they may be lazy or have bad habits, leading to it being a red flag
9:59 The best reply, in my opinion. Believing in your partner, which means you absolutely trust them, is essential in a relationship If you don't have that, your relationship won't last.
It's really a shame that so many guys are so focused on someone's height or someone's weight. You can't really change your height, and you have no idea what someone may be going through as far as weight is concerned. Being on the thinner side is probably great for how clothes fit and for guys thinking you are cuter, HOWEVER, being so focused on so much SURFACE stuff can cause you to really miss out on some great people. It not always just a personal mismanagement of yourself that causes people to gain weight. We will all grow old, if we live long enough and age will show up at some point in many ways.
All of these guys were red flags. UPDATED COMMENT: There are plenty of people in these comments that agree with your opinion if you happen to disagree with mine. Feel free to commiserate with them. I said what I said.
A lot of these guys probably can't date Westerners at all. Bro I take a whole day in some cases to respond to my husbands messages or totally forget and I do not at all make any form of a big deal in my mind or to him if he doesn't reply for any generic length of time. There is usually some kind of reason as our lifestyles have a lot involved in it during and off work hours. A quick call when you aren't getting any response to something important usually works. A quick i'll call you later also works when it isn't urgent. I don't know... it just isn't a big deal. Maybe it is just me and my husband that are odd about the whole 'not responding to messages' bit. Not responding to 2 consecutive calls may rather be a bigger issue especially if we called when we knew the other person would not be occupied. In the first place, we tell each other what our day plan is or is looking like so you have that in mind as well. I guess that wouldn't fly with Korean guys lol. Red flag they said.
you don't have to be talking all the time but I think it's kinda basic communication letting your partner know that you might be busy and won't respond as often and share some parts of your day through out it, like imagine you see an old friend and you're excited, or you ate your favourite food, I think those little things make a difference and don't even take 10 seconds to text
@@apoetsbrain6794 I think it's boundaries and the relationships itself. Me and my boyfriend text all the time but we don't find it strange if we don't text after hours either, we also tell each other if we're going to stop replying. I guess it depends how demanding the other person is. Some people get really attached and obsessive which is unhealthy. Me and my boyfriend may text a lot but we won't cry or complain if we don't get an answer every single hour lol
When I work, I work. When I study, I study. When I eat, I eat. Sometimes I go half the day without texting my husband and he understands because we have a life outside of each other. Personally I find texting each other about day-to-day or mundane details about our lives really a waste of time even if it is ten seconds. "oh work was good, I just did this task and that task" or "just had lunch!" I cannot do anything with that information. People used to go weeks without talking to each other if they lived in different areas but now everyone wants to be plugged in, connected, and have instant information...some people need to go touch grass, forreal. Pathetic state we live in nowadays.
The bigger guy (with the skinny friend holding the zanda bag) His expressive statements and opinions were spot on, excellent command of the English language too! Relationship with the father good point.
Absolutely love this segment. I concur with all their views and agree with the post below that the man in pink made the most sense. Good interviews, Jerry!👏👏
I’m short and it was never my option nor is it something I can change. How is that a red flag? That guy is a red flag 🚩 for being so superficial. I can totally understand he has a preference for a tall partner but to judge others like big No No
But as you said, maybe that's just his preference, which i think is okay, maybe he's not judging. If he is tall, i can see how he wouldn't be attracted to short girls
It might be a language barrier too, some people don’t understand what red flag actually means, I think that’s why so many guys just listed things they like and don’t like verses actual red flags
Koreans should date shop mannequins. Right measure, neither short nor tall, you can dress thrm to your taste and they don't curse, drink or put on weight. I saw only a few talking about values, ethics, or attitude.
I dont think mentioning physical appearance or cursing are necessarily negative. It just shows their maturity level and experience, some of these guys are quite you g. I remember as a university student, if someone asked what’s my type (or what’s totally not my type) I would only be talking about fashion style/ musical taste. Because I was young and never really had any deep relationships. And in my 20s because I was a professional athlete, yes I agree with not liking someone who is partying too much or eating unhealthily because it just didnt suit my lifestyle as an athlete. It’s just a quick street interview, most people wont want to be too vulnerable and give deep answers anyway. But you can see a few of them talking about personality, family values, communication. That’s when you know they have probably had mature and serious relationship already.
you can't generalize a whole group of people. there are people who deviate from the majority and have differing thoughts. You should judge the person right in front of you rather than media shaped assumptions
8:25 I get him. I used to like someone, but I didn’t consider the idea of us being together because of one of his sisters. I don’t think I could deal with her, especially since her family can’t even handle her most of the time.
The guy in the pink jacket was the only mature individual here he talked about Family;Personality;Partner Support: Understanding in a relationship not obsseive nature 😊❤❤
There're not talking about red flags, there're talking about personal preferences 😮💨 Except the guy with the pink jacket and 2-3 other replies about respecting others
A cracked phone is a red flag? Mine is cracked, has been for two years, but it works fine, so I don't see the point in replacing it. Some of us are just frugal and like to spend our money mindfully.
This may be because most women who like to drink all night long at places like clubs are holding phones with broken screens. It's not because they're frugal, but because they drink too much and break the screen too often, so they always seem to be holding a phone with a broken screen.
@@박똘똘-o1j Then I understand that logic a bit better. ^^ It would still make more sense to say that your red flag is going out to clubs to drink too much, but to each their own. Personally, I don´t like clubs, I only drink alcohol when I go back to my homecountry of France once a year, but I´ll keep my cracked phone until it dies on me. ^^
it's interesting to see what other culture considers a red flags, in the west many of us would never consider some of the things said here as a red flag, but rather a preference
This might vary among Koreans. My boyfriend and I sometimes don’t contact each other all day, and we only have a short call or chat at the end of the day. Of course, when we meet, we enjoy our time together and go on fun dates! It’s likely that the people interviewed are in their 20s or early 20s.
@@duolingo_pte_jeonmunga Do you think it is a generational dating scene issue? The responses surprised me honestly. It was almost 80% of them referring to responding to communication as a big deal.
@@apoetsbrain6794 Korean People in their early 20s and mid 20s tend to be a bit more attached or focused on frequent contact. As people reach their late 20s and 30s, living in a highly competitive society with heavy workloads and frequent overtime, the need or intensity for constant contact seems to lessen.
My husband and I are complete opposites of what we thought we wanted. These "red flags" wouldn't matter if you were in love like the guy at 7:38 mentioned. My hubby is a big gamer, and I'm not. He's an extrovert, and I'm not. Music, films, family dynamics, they're all different. We have been married for 15 years now. All these "preferences" means nothing when you meet "the one."
Do your values align with each other? I find that my husband and I are quite different as well but our treatment of people, how we think about social services, and poltics/law are quite similar.
@thesmellybaby @thesmellybaby Actually, we're quite different in that manner, too. My husband is apolitical, and our values are quite different as well. It's all about respect, trust, and compromise. We love each other for who they are.
Ahahahahaha the 4am ptsd talking ripped me into shreds by the viewers😂😂, I was just dang nervous talking in front of the camera in general so I babbled pretty hard 😅 it's just my personal experience and preference talking as someone who had a bad experience related to the matters I mentioned and yeah, her night was on her insta stories and I realised I prefer neither of staying out too long on weekends or do I have the energy of doing so in general. And yes!!! Women do use the bathroom at 4am too!! I was just too into thinking about my past relationships 🫠 Anyways, great video to find out how others think and thank you for stopping us for an interview!
Pretty accurate. Skin color, body size, personal interests can be diverse, but they really dislike tattoos, piercings, excessive drinking, smoking and swearing.
I think only the guy in the pink jacket was realistic and reasonable. The rest of them are red flags themselves and don’t even know what they are talking about.
I think most if not all of them said at least one or two reasonable things, like "if she talks bad about others", "if she lies", "if she doesnt communicate"
People say "they are red flags because they are judging based on appearance " (weight, sweat...). Please remember that it's the INTERVIEWER who ask for appearance red flags. It was literally the question so ofc their answers are based on appearance
I feel like some of them might be the real red flag, but: 1. Red flags in korean is basically something you don't want or don't desire. It's not that they aren't able to understand the term, but it's taken differently. 2. People in the comments complaining about the physical aspects, I don't really find the fault in desiring certain physical aspects. Not everyone is vocal about it but almost EVERYONE have a certain type, including women.
There was literally only two guys who actually gave a red flag - poor communication, disrespect. Every other one was a red flag themselves, only talking about body and beauty
Blond guy: I'm wearing a guitar. (I didn't know that's the new fashion now? hahahhahah) You carry a guitar, not wear them, unless you are literally wearing it. hahahahah
For the 2nd last couple it took me a sec, I thought one was a girl when they came on and with the over exaggerated hand movements thought he was gonna start signing. But agree about possessive others, total red flag, the family thing - depends on situation really
Red flag in Korean guys - 1. thinks a red flag is "too fat" and "too tall/small" 2. If you are not dressed to their taste you lack self control. 3. ends the relationship if you don't reply to his message within his set time frame . Too much drinking, the guys around her bla bla bla so bored of them
the guy with the pink jacket has the most rational answers and likely the most experienced one out of all the guys that's been interviewed here (though the family question might differ for some partners who may be estranged or have terrible relationships with their family). glad to hear someone talking about the heavy things in relationships i.e principles and compatibility. also as a woman with a pretty workaholic job, i'd think they'd hate me for being unresponsive most of the time lmao. cant deal with guys who are clingy and who constantly need to be replied like we have our own lives y'all
Short? What is short for koreans? Every country has it's own type of short lol 😂 it's not the same the short girls from Norway than the short girls of Philippines 😭
This video shows why many relationships don’t last The guy with the grey beanie gave the worst answers…how do you think that a woman would look in the morning?😂 Korea is so materialistic… Shoutout to the pink jacket
Lol. I wish i could have stuck with this too but I realised to stay married I couldn't keep stressing my husband by 'hanging out' excessively with my countless guy friends. I had to reduce it altogether or have my husband somehow in the hangout setting. If you get married it might change or contact time would certainly reduce. In my case, my husband had countless i really mean countless female friends as well and i flipped it and realised the trust weight is just too heavy so we both drew grounds and put in limitations.
I have no family other than my mother. When she goes I will be alone. My entire life I’ve chosen my friends very wisely & I don’t have many. We are all close, I am close to their spouses as well. I treat my friends just like i would family. They aren’t going anywhere and if my man can’t accept that then he likely wouldn’t be my man in the first place.
Sheesh this is so shallow. I take a long time to respond to messages sometimes, if you’re an adult you shouldn’t care. A lot of these “men” sound like teen boys.
whats wrong with people who are like not replying to messages is a red flag???? like what if they are busy- are u gonna break up if they don't reply in two hrs? bruh people like them are red flags... too obsessive in a bad way... disappointing...
The standards of at what caliber those red flags are. Not to mention with heavy women they mean anyone above 50kg it's all bout understanding their culture to understand the problematic of some statements
Great points, that translate internationally especially from the gentleman in the pink jacket. I think it’s interesting though that no one brought up that cheating is a huge issue on both sides though. 😅
@@판탈라사 hi! I meant no disrespect. I mentioned it because a lot of men, not any demographic specifically, will say all of those things are red flags in a partner when behind their back, they are cheating OR have done all of those red flags themselves.
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"Gaining weight"
"being taller than me"
"sweating a lot".
Do these guys know the meaning of a red flag on a person? Honestly, these are the guys, to me, that are considered red flags.
It's okay to have a preference in terms of appearance, but what they said was too much.
true 😊
Really
The word he used for red flag in Korean doesn't actually quite mean red flag. Surprised you didn't figure that out by the answers.
I quite agree with you. The answers are as stupid as the question itself. This is a bad image of human relations.
I think the word red flag doesn’t really translate well to Korean
The Guy with Pink Jacket got the best answers at all he had a very mature thinking
You saved me typing.
yes, he is a big green flag
the guy with pink jacket 💯
Yeah, he said a lot of things that make sense. In addition to family relationships, it's also important to see how that person interacts with people in the everyday. Stability is also very good!
"When a woman is friendly to everyone and friendly to me in the same way makes me uneasy"
What the fuck??? He's a red flag!!
I think it might make some people feel like Im not special for her
바보같긴 한데 사실 남자보다 여자들이 저런 생각을 더 많이 가지고 있죠. 애인이니까 특별취급을 해달라는 것. 동시에 인기가 너무 많으면 겁난다는 것.
I mean think of it if it was reversed? would you date a guy who's friendly to everyone the same way he is with you? would you be comfortable with that?
I think he meant being treated the same way as everyone else. Tbh I get it in public but if your partner treats you like a friend even when alone that’s a red flag imo
Wait. If he’s online at 4am because he’s going to the bathroom, why can’t she be doing the same? 😂😂
lol!! They both be creeping.
Cuz he's a hypocrite
Literally had the same thought. lol
Like do people hear themselves before they speak? 🥴
Like frl I wake up at 3-4 on a daily basis bc I sleep very early. Does that mean I’m doing smth I’m not supposed to do?💀
maybe he means on a regular basis
The term 'red flag' doesn't translate well into Korean. It was translated into "red light" which in Korea, means like a 'no,' so essentially "what traits would you avoid in women" is what the interviewer was pretty much asking. I think he should've explained what 'red flag' really means in context.
That was i thought tho, why these men instead saying like what makes them uncomfort from women! are they don't know what red flag means?! Red flag is such fucked up behavior form your partner that makes you wanted break up with
Korean women are right. Look at all these red flags in men front and center
Round of applause 👏 to both the guys at 8:24, the maturity of their values in a woman.
5:37 saying this when he himself has a double chin
BAHAHAH, I said the same thing myself. I made a comment about it, but it is SO weird that he kept talking about "overweight", he projecting LMAOO
LIKE PLS LMAOO
Yup, and people need to evaluate themselves before they judge others.
That’s why so many relationship crash and burn because people don’t look for a kindhearted woman or a kindhearted man someone that will be there for you when you are down sick but they look for for appearance. Your relationship is doom to fail because you don’t look at the persons heart.
That’s a fairytale, this is reality, there’s no such thing as “true love” or the “right one.” Someone can be so good at acting and pretend to love you without you ever finding out, that’s one of the reasons why divorce and break up rates are really high and common. Like the saying goes “love blinds you.”
Believe it or not there is true love we just don’t appreciate it when it’s right in front of us. I love someone for 20 something years never cheated never asked for anything yet he betrayed me my heart into pieces. People like us are broken. We do not trust anymore. They are a few of us. We just picked the wrong man or the wrong woman.
The little bit of us that’s left. We are all damage because some bad seed has ruined us, which is to stay single and do not love again we choose to love ourselves and take care of ourselves.
Ya but a higher percentage of women care more about a man's heart than appearance. Guys fail in every category
The line between men and women is not as clear as I once believed Once it's crossed there's no going back, because some across line is permanent
I’m just gonna go out there and say a girl getting weight and a girls height isn’t necessarily a red flag because a girl may not be able to help it if she gains weight and a girl cannot change her height so their commenting about things girls can’t change as being red flags a red flag is usually pertain to somebody’s actions and personalities not somebody’s appearance and definitely not something they can’t change guys who say girls are not attractive based on something they can’t change like height and sometimes weight is a red flag
i think they don't know what a red flag is??? maybe they were talking more about simply their preference or what would make them feel she is attractive or not?? idk though i'm just guessing cause it'd be weird if they knew and answered that hahaha
they probably meant their preference, maybe red flag here doesn't translate well to Korea. Either way, I do agree with the weight one heavily. In a lot of relationships, I've seen healthy relationships where the girl or even guy gain weight because they're happy together which is very normal. Some couples may work together to even lose weight, weight can be changed over time, and yes some can't control unless they go to the doctors. But that one guy kept talking about weight as if it was a bad thing and saying it's "difficult" to date a fat girl?? How is it difficult??? Unless he means a 300+ pound girl which is kinda rare in Korea... like what does he think is overweight? He's in korea, one of the skinniest countries or countries with low obesity rates so it's VERY strange he kept mentioning weight, it's as if he's projecting or something
facts like imagine if i girl said its a red flag if ur not over 6ft and u dont got abs and muscles. shes instantly getting clipped on tiktok and getting bashed for saying that
Being short or overweight is definitely not a red flag and it’s probably a misinterpretation, on the other hand how is it a red flag if they are not attracted to overweight women? Since everyone has their own preferences, if they find overweight girls unattractive, and especially if they are fit themselves, it’s their right.
Like personally as a WOMAN, I don’t find obese men attractive and I don’t want to date anyone who’s overweight, and it’s my right to want a fit partner because I am fit and I take care of my own appearance. So why can’t men feel the same way? Simply being a woman doesn’t give you the privilege to be attractive in the eyes of everyone, and whoever says that they find all women (or people in general) attractive is generally a hypocrite. And I think more people should be aware of that.
When they mentioned the weight part, I think they meant obese/or overweight and it could be a red flag bc it shows they don't have determination to get healthier/change. It also shows they may be lazy or have bad habits, leading to it being a red flag
Thumbs up for the guy in the pink jacket.
Looking for more content like this. Greetings from the Netherlands.
OMG I’m also from the Netherlands!!💗💗
@Raniaaaaa-h8k wat leuk!
Here another dutchie
4:01 😂 Jerry was trying hard to ask in Korean and the guy just replied in English
I knowww I chuckled here too
😂
The guy in the pink shirt/jacket had really good insight. I hope he finds a partner!
9:59 The best reply, in my opinion. Believing in your partner, which means you absolutely trust them, is essential in a relationship If you don't have that, your relationship won't last.
It's really a shame that so many guys are so focused on someone's height or someone's weight. You can't really change your height, and you have no idea what someone may be going through as far as weight is concerned. Being on the thinner side is probably great for how clothes fit and for guys thinking you are cuter, HOWEVER, being so focused on so much SURFACE stuff can cause you to really miss out on some great people. It not always just a personal mismanagement of yourself that causes people to gain weight. We will all grow old, if we live long enough and age will show up at some point in many ways.
The guy with the Pink jacket is absolutely correct. Such a good heart has experienced a lot of things.🙏
All of these guys were red flags. UPDATED COMMENT: There are plenty of people in these comments that agree with your opinion if you happen to disagree with mine. Feel free to commiserate with them. I said what I said.
Almost yes
literally every single one
I don't understand why all of them are red flag? I think some of them is reasonable
Except 9:59.
I don't agree
A lot of these guys probably can't date Westerners at all. Bro I take a whole day in some cases to respond to my husbands messages or totally forget and I do not at all make any form of a big deal in my mind or to him if he doesn't reply for any generic length of time. There is usually some kind of reason as our lifestyles have a lot involved in it during and off work hours. A quick call when you aren't getting any response to something important usually works. A quick i'll call you later also works when it isn't urgent. I don't know... it just isn't a big deal. Maybe it is just me and my husband that are odd about the whole 'not responding to messages' bit. Not responding to 2 consecutive calls may rather be a bigger issue especially if we called when we knew the other person would not be occupied. In the first place, we tell each other what our day plan is or is looking like so you have that in mind as well. I guess that wouldn't fly with Korean guys lol. Red flag they said.
u're so afraid that you can't handle any criticism huh?
you don't have to be talking all the time but I think it's kinda basic communication letting your partner know that you might be busy and won't respond as often and share some parts of your day through out it, like imagine you see an old friend and you're excited, or you ate your favourite food, I think those little things make a difference and don't even take 10 seconds to text
@@healsii yea. I see where you are coming from as well.
@@apoetsbrain6794 I think it's boundaries and the relationships itself. Me and my boyfriend text all the time but we don't find it strange if we don't text after hours either, we also tell each other if we're going to stop replying. I guess it depends how demanding the other person is. Some people get really attached and obsessive which is unhealthy. Me and my boyfriend may text a lot but we won't cry or complain if we don't get an answer every single hour lol
When I work, I work.
When I study, I study.
When I eat, I eat.
Sometimes I go half the day without texting my husband and he understands because we have a life outside of each other. Personally I find texting each other about day-to-day or mundane details about our lives really a waste of time even if it is ten seconds. "oh work was good, I just did this task and that task" or "just had lunch!" I cannot do anything with that information.
People used to go weeks without talking to each other if they lived in different areas but now everyone wants to be plugged in, connected, and have instant information...some people need to go touch grass, forreal. Pathetic state we live in nowadays.
The bigger guy (with the skinny friend holding the zanda bag) His expressive statements and opinions were spot on, excellent command of the English language too! Relationship with the father good point.
He didn’t sound Korean, so he probably wasn’t, that’s why more open
@@Kumulmeskis no hes definitely korean. hes prob lived overseas or works in a international company
I saw you in 남대문 last Tuesday but I was too shy to say hi!! Hi! ❤ The camera doesn't capture how much you glow in real life!!
Absolutely love this segment. I concur with all their views and agree with the post below that the man in pink made the most sense. Good interviews, Jerry!👏👏
you think a red flag is a girl’s height?
@@JessieMcConkey-v8d Nie chciałabym być wyższa od mojego męża.
I’m short and it was never my option nor is it something I can change. How is that a red flag? That guy is a red flag 🚩 for being so superficial. I can totally understand he has a preference for a tall partner but to judge others like big No No
But as you said, maybe that's just his preference, which i think is okay, maybe he's not judging. If he is tall, i can see how he wouldn't be attracted to short girls
It might be a language barrier too, some people don’t understand what red flag actually means, I think that’s why so many guys just listed things they like and don’t like verses actual red flags
Koreans should date shop mannequins. Right measure, neither short nor tall, you can dress thrm to your taste and they don't curse, drink or put on weight. I saw only a few talking about values, ethics, or attitude.
I dont think mentioning physical appearance or cursing are necessarily negative. It just shows their maturity level and experience, some of these guys are quite you g. I remember as a university student, if someone asked what’s my type (or what’s totally not my type) I would only be talking about fashion style/ musical taste. Because I was young and never really had any deep relationships. And in my 20s because I was a professional athlete, yes I agree with not liking someone who is partying too much or eating unhealthily because it just didnt suit my lifestyle as an athlete. It’s just a quick street interview, most people wont want to be too vulnerable and give deep answers anyway. But you can see a few of them talking about personality, family values, communication. That’s when you know they have probably had mature and serious relationship already.
you can't generalize a whole group of people. there are people who deviate from the majority and have differing thoughts. You should judge the person right in front of you rather than media shaped assumptions
First guy with "if she like kuromi..." like i got violated immediately. What did a cartoon character do to this man😭
The guy in the pink jacket had really good insight....❤🙌
7:53 oh wow i love the way he thinks and talk
Same!!
i'll come back to this video when i feel like i want a kdrama bf
8:25 I get him. I used to like someone, but I didn’t consider the idea of us being together because of one of his sisters. I don’t think I could deal with her, especially since her family can’t even handle her most of the time.
1:17 the kid at the back 😂 cute
Jerry.... always great content👍
Most of their answers were dumb AF lmao except the pink jacket guy
Yeah
I'm a korean girl and this made me sad lol
How is her relationship with her family😭👌🏿 9:27
The guy in the pink jacket was the only mature individual here he talked about Family;Personality;Partner Support: Understanding in a relationship not obsseive nature 😊❤❤
There're not talking about red flags, there're talking about personal preferences 😮💨 Except the guy with the pink jacket and 2-3 other replies about respecting others
A cracked phone is a red flag? Mine is cracked, has been for two years, but it works fine, so I don't see the point in replacing it. Some of us are just frugal and like to spend our money mindfully.
At what time stamp it was mentioned?
10:54 here @@jpcoronel8261
This may be because most women who like to drink all night long at places like clubs are holding phones with broken screens. It's not because they're frugal, but because they drink too much and break the screen too often, so they always seem to be holding a phone with a broken screen.
@@jpcoronel8261 I´m going to be honest, I´m too lazy to look up the time stamp. ^^
@@박똘똘-o1j Then I understand that logic a bit better. ^^ It would still make more sense to say that your red flag is going out to clubs to drink too much, but to each their own.
Personally, I don´t like clubs, I only drink alcohol when I go back to my homecountry of France once a year, but I´ll keep my cracked phone until it dies on me. ^^
it's interesting to see what other culture considers a red flags, in the west many of us would never consider some of the things said here as a red flag, but rather a preference
korean dating culture is super clingy,, if you dont respond to a text within an hour, u considered susss
clinginess is subjective
I agree with your summation. The wanting a response within max 2 hours for me is the red flag lol. Like let me breathe lol
This might vary among Koreans. My boyfriend and I sometimes don’t contact each other all day, and we only have a short call or chat at the end of the day. Of course, when we meet, we enjoy our time together and go on fun dates! It’s likely that the people interviewed are in their 20s or early 20s.
@@duolingo_pte_jeonmunga Do you think it is a generational dating scene issue? The responses surprised me honestly. It was almost 80% of them referring to responding to communication as a big deal.
@@apoetsbrain6794 Korean People in their early 20s and mid 20s tend to be a bit more attached or focused on frequent contact. As people reach their late 20s and 30s, living in a highly competitive society with heavy workloads and frequent overtime, the need or intensity for constant contact seems to lessen.
My husband and I are complete opposites of what we thought we wanted. These "red flags" wouldn't matter if you were in love like the guy at 7:38 mentioned. My hubby is a big gamer, and I'm not. He's an extrovert, and I'm not. Music, films, family dynamics, they're all different. We have been married for 15 years now. All these "preferences" means nothing when you meet "the one."
Do your values align with each other?
I find that my husband and I are quite different as well but our treatment of people, how we think about social services, and poltics/law are quite similar.
@thesmellybaby @thesmellybaby Actually, we're quite different in that manner, too. My husband is apolitical, and our values are quite different as well. It's all about respect, trust, and compromise. We love each other for who they are.
im lowkey dissapointed by a lot of these answers….
What can u expect from Korean men🤣 a lot of kdrama/kpop fans think Korean men r gonna be like men from kdramas/kpop groups, but they’re not!
8:49 so smart ❤
Ahahahahaha the 4am ptsd talking ripped me into shreds by the viewers😂😂, I was just dang nervous talking in front of the camera in general so I babbled pretty hard 😅
it's just my personal experience and preference talking as someone who had a bad experience related to the matters I mentioned and yeah, her night was on her insta stories and I realised I prefer neither of staying out too long on weekends or do I have the energy of doing so in general.
And yes!!! Women do use the bathroom at 4am too!! I was just too into thinking about my past relationships 🫠
Anyways, great video to find out how others think and thank you for stopping us for an interview!
Don’t worry man they are so on defensive mode they don’t realize it’s your opinion, there is nothing wrong about that. Freedom of speech 💯
No worries! We totally understand 👍🏻✌🏻
Women on Instagram were pissed.
Oga you go explain tire no evidence
Pretty accurate. Skin color, body size, personal interests can be diverse, but they really dislike tattoos, piercings, excessive drinking, smoking and swearing.
Wow! Guy in pink jacket is very profound 🙏
All of these guys have said at least one thing that's off.
I think only the guy in the pink jacket was realistic and reasonable. The rest of them are red flags themselves and don’t even know what they are talking about.
I think most if not all of them said at least one or two reasonable things, like "if she talks bad about others", "if she lies", "if she doesnt communicate"
Man this is off topic, but my God you look so handsome and classy 👌🏻💙 Your voice is so smooth too
Hmmmmm, the guys really don't like for their partners to have male friends. If you trust her, there should be no issue.
Most are concentrated on the physical appearance 😢
People say "they are red flags because they are judging based on appearance " (weight, sweat...). Please remember that it's the INTERVIEWER who ask for appearance red flags. It was literally the question so ofc their answers are based on appearance
Imagine this for a minute…asking the red flags what their red flags are 😂
Lmao so accurate😂
here's the lesson: red flags are all around the world. dont believe the k dramas
This is a interesting question ❤
8:31 this guy I like his says and I agreed with him 👏👏
I feel like some of them might be the real red flag, but:
1. Red flags in korean is basically something you don't want or don't desire. It's not that they aren't able to understand the term, but it's taken differently.
2. People in the comments complaining about the physical aspects, I don't really find the fault in desiring certain physical aspects. Not everyone is vocal about it but almost EVERYONE have a certain type, including women.
guy in a pink jacket - sane person
There was literally only two guys who actually gave a red flag - poor communication, disrespect. Every other one was a red flag themselves, only talking about body and beauty
Blond guy: I'm wearing a guitar. (I didn't know that's the new fashion now? hahahhahah) You carry a guitar, not wear them, unless you are literally wearing it. hahahahah
Guy in pink shirt - you are the best!
8:27 best answer so far👌🏻 9:33 on point 👍🏻
They're the biggest red flag
For the 2nd last couple it took me a sec, I thought one was a girl when they came on and with the over exaggerated hand movements thought he was gonna start signing. But agree about possessive others, total red flag, the family thing - depends on situation really
I’ll never text you again at 4am
The guy who said that being disrespectful to other people is a red flag has a point. It's kind of universal.
What if the weight is due to a thyroid problem? Or hormonal changes?
Majority of men have absolutely no idea about how different men and women carry weight. It’s all about appearance
Pink jacket guy on top ♥
How is gain weight a red flag ? Your just body shaming boy .
Red flag in Korean guys - 1. thinks a red flag is "too fat" and "too tall/small" 2. If you are not dressed to their taste you lack self control. 3. ends the relationship if you don't reply to his message within his set time frame . Too much drinking, the guys around her bla bla bla so bored of them
I work as a nurse. My job is busy and I certainly don’t have my phone in my hand all the time. I don’t reply messager during workday.
I love how the guy who mentioned weight was a little chubby himself 😂
8:27
A real man💕
Why does South Korea seem to be focused on looks more than anything? Like where did this start?
True but it is mostly at first but once they get to know you, they focus less on looks.
@ I guess they are human like anywhere else in the end
Okay, after listening to some of the red flags, i kinda get the birth rate thing going on.
the guy with the pink jacket has the most rational answers and likely the most experienced one out of all the guys that's been interviewed here (though the family question might differ for some partners who may be estranged or have terrible relationships with their family). glad to hear someone talking about the heavy things in relationships i.e principles and compatibility. also as a woman with a pretty workaholic job, i'd think they'd hate me for being unresponsive most of the time lmao. cant deal with guys who are clingy and who constantly need to be replied like we have our own lives y'all
8:47 the most body language and gestures I’ve seen...is he Puerto Rican 😁
Short? What is short for koreans? Every country has it's own type of short lol 😂 it's not the same the short girls from Norway than the short girls of Philippines 😭
Ya I’m short and petite but I’m Asian the west love it tho.
Active at 4am girls = maybe talking with guys late night and obsessed checking messages.
Respect your space. Family space,friends space,and your space with you girlfriend or boyfriend . Respect, respect and love survive. ❤❤❤
This video shows why many relationships don’t last
The guy with the grey beanie gave the worst answers…how do you think that a woman would look in the morning?😂
Korea is so materialistic…
Shoutout to the pink jacket
This vlogger guy is really fluent in Korean
Me: feels like fluent when only watching kdrama and singing kpop song🤣
There is no word for "Red flag" in Korean which is why you are getting all these answers. So calm down internet and don't be so offended.
It's the same purpose at the end of the story lol 'red flag' even becomes a synonym
@@97scous Really? Explain to me exactly what he said in his question and tell me how it means the same thing as red flag. I'll wait.
2:37 THIS ANSWER 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Red flag small girl...😂😂 seriously? 😅
Zandari bag guy was my favorite. Is he single? 😂
Is he ok that my Korean is elementary level at best?
You should've asked them (the ones concerned about appearence and sweating🥵) if they were dating. I'm quite sure the answer would be "no". 😝😝😝🙃🙃🙃
Just be yourself the one who likes you will like you.. and why you want to fit with someone who doesn't even like you.??? Don't change to fit in...
Los coreanos sorprenden por sus razonamientos surrealistas. Cada video con este tema es mas sorprendente que el anterior
I’m not giving up my male friends for nobody. Sorry not sorry 🤷🏾♀️
Bop
Lol. I wish i could have stuck with this too but I realised to stay married I couldn't keep stressing my husband by 'hanging out' excessively with my countless guy friends. I had to reduce it altogether or have my husband somehow in the hangout setting. If you get married it might change or contact time would certainly reduce. In my case, my husband had countless i really mean countless female friends as well and i flipped it and realised the trust weight is just too heavy so we both drew grounds and put in limitations.
I have no family other than my mother. When she goes I will be alone. My entire life I’ve chosen my friends very wisely & I don’t have many. We are all close, I am close to their spouses as well. I treat my friends just like i would family. They aren’t going anywhere and if my man can’t accept that then he likely wouldn’t be my man in the first place.
@@endera782idk what that means
@@Plez_Chillbasically that you’d let anyone be with you romantically and/or sexually
Sheesh this is so shallow. I take a long time to respond to messages sometimes, if you’re an adult you shouldn’t care. A lot of these “men” sound like teen boys.
whats wrong with people who are like not replying to messages is a red flag???? like what if they are busy- are u gonna break up if they don't reply in two hrs? bruh people like them are red flags... too obsessive in a bad way... disappointing...
The group at 9:00 are honestly the best,I hope they find partners that understand and compliment each other 😊
Most of them are wrong but some are kinda true
Ladies the guy 9.52 is good
Their red flags are not so different from the red flags of non-Korean people.
The standards of at what caliber those red flags are.
Not to mention with heavy women they mean anyone above 50kg it's all bout understanding their culture to understand the problematic of some statements
They are red flags
3.17 funny haha I like him 😊A bink cap
Me too❤.. he’s so cute
@@mojisolasanni yeah so cute 💜
Dang, so sad! I am married to an amazing man. But come on guys really. What happened?
Great points, that translate internationally especially from the gentleman in the pink jacket. I think it’s interesting though that no one brought up that cheating is a huge issue on both sides though. 😅
There was no need to mention cheating. Cheating is red beacon, red carpet, red neon sign, of course a red flag.
@@판탈라사 hi! I meant no disrespect. I mentioned it because a lot of men, not any demographic specifically, will say all of those things are red flags in a partner when behind their back, they are cheating OR have done all of those red flags themselves.
Tf is a hip hop style girl lol
That’s what I’m saying 😂
I thought it was only men in my country who are overlyconfident