The term 'red flag' doesn't translate well into Korean. It was translated into "red light" which in Korea, means like a 'no,' so essentially "what traits would you avoid in women" is what the interviewer was pretty much asking. I think he should've explained what 'red flag' really means in context.
That was i thought tho, why these men instead saying like what makes them uncomfort from women! are they don't know what red flag means?! Red flag is such fucked up behavior form your partner that makes you wanted break up with
@@indomiebakar1210 Red flag is a warning signal, *it's not the danger itself* but a sign that there will be danger in the future. Like a man stating insulting opinions about women is a red flag, predicting that in the future that man will not respect you as a person, and and may sabotage your plans for your life etc.
@@indomiebakar1210 Red flag is a warning sign of bad things to come, it's not the bad thing itself. Like a bad opinions are a red flag (a warning sign) for bad actions to come.
"Gaining weight" "being taller than me" "sweating a lot". Do these guys know the meaning of a red flag on a person? Honestly, these are the guys, to me, that are considered red flags. It's okay to have a preference in terms of appearance, but what they said was too much.
Yes Family Factor - which include loyalty, respect, care, love, belief, fun, happiness.. I’ve always thought marriage in South Korea is between 2 families, not just 2 individuals… My 2 cents 😅
Shoutout to the guys who said girls who are disrespectful of others/ talks behind people’s backs. That’s my red flag for anyone - dating, family, friends. Because if they’re doing that to others, they’re probably doing it to you too. Ick!
Yeah, he said a lot of things that make sense. In addition to family relationships, it's also important to see how that person interacts with people in the everyday. Stability is also very good!
9:59 The best reply, in my opinion. Believing in your partner, which means you absolutely trust them, is essential in a relationship If you don't have that, your relationship won't last.
I mean think of it if it was reversed? would you date a guy who's friendly to everyone the same way he is with you? would you be comfortable with that?
I think he meant being treated the same way as everyone else. Tbh I get it in public but if your partner treats you like a friend even when alone that’s a red flag imo
That’s why so many relationship crash and burn because people don’t look for a kindhearted woman or a kindhearted man someone that will be there for you when you are down sick but they look for for appearance. Your relationship is doom to fail because you don’t look at the persons heart.
That’s a fairytale, this is reality, there’s no such thing as “true love” or the “right one.” Someone can be so good at acting and pretend to love you without you ever finding out, that’s one of the reasons why divorce and break up rates are really high and common. Like the saying goes “love blinds you.”
Believe it or not there is true love we just don’t appreciate it when it’s right in front of us. I love someone for 20 something years never cheated never asked for anything yet he betrayed me my heart into pieces. People like us are broken. We do not trust anymore. They are a few of us. We just picked the wrong man or the wrong woman.
The little bit of us that’s left. We are all damage because some bad seed has ruined us, which is to stay single and do not love again we choose to love ourselves and take care of ourselves.
the guy with the pink jacket has the most rational answers and likely the most experienced one out of all the guys that's been interviewed here (though the family question might differ for some partners who may be estranged or have terrible relationships with their family). glad to hear someone talking about the heavy things in relationships i.e principles and compatibility. also as a woman with a pretty workaholic job, i'd think they'd hate me for being unresponsive most of the time lmao. cant deal with guys who are clingy and who constantly need to be replied like we have our own lives y'all
It's really a shame that so many guys are so focused on someone's height or someone's weight. You can't really change your height, and you have no idea what someone may be going through as far as weight is concerned. Being on the thinner side is probably great for how clothes fit and for guys thinking you are cuter, HOWEVER, being so focused on so much SURFACE stuff can cause you to really miss out on some great people. It not always just a personal mismanagement of yourself that causes people to gain weight. We will all grow old, if we live long enough and age will show up at some point in many ways.
Weight doesnt always reflect on how "healthy" you are or that you take care of yourself. There are sickenesses and medication that makes you gain weight. And there are skinny people who are more unhealthy than someone who has some extra weight.
Now you know how American men feel with American women's obsession with men's height. That's why so many American men have resorted to being passport bros
My entire point is sure ,we can all have preferences, BUT if you stay so rigid and never once look at someone who may be a bit shorter, a bit taller, a bit thinner or a bit heavier, different color eyes, from another country, etc, you just may miss out on an opportunity to meet a wonderful person that may bring more joy to your life than you thought possible.
Koreans should date shop mannequins. Right measure, neither short nor tall, you can dress thrm to your taste and they don't curse, drink or put on weight. I saw only a few talking about values, ethics, or attitude.
I dont think mentioning physical appearance or cursing are necessarily negative. It just shows their maturity level and experience, some of these guys are quite you g. I remember as a university student, if someone asked what’s my type (or what’s totally not my type) I would only be talking about fashion style/ musical taste. Because I was young and never really had any deep relationships. And in my 20s because I was a professional athlete, yes I agree with not liking someone who is partying too much or eating unhealthily because it just didnt suit my lifestyle as an athlete. It’s just a quick street interview, most people wont want to be too vulnerable and give deep answers anyway. But you can see a few of them talking about personality, family values, communication. That’s when you know they have probably had mature and serious relationship already.
I agree except the cursing, It is not a problematic preference some people are uncomfortable hearing a curse word so why would you date someone who curse a lot.
There was literally only two guys who actually gave a red flag - poor communication, disrespect. Every other one was a red flag themselves, only talking about body and beauty
They don't only talking about body and beauty BUT the question was about it, of course they answer it. This video isn't about "red flag" but just what you want to avoid
I’m just gonna go out there and say a girl getting weight and a girls height isn’t necessarily a red flag because a girl may not be able to help it if she gains weight and a girl cannot change her height so their commenting about things girls can’t change as being red flags a red flag is usually pertain to somebody’s actions and personalities not somebody’s appearance and definitely not something they can’t change guys who say girls are not attractive based on something they can’t change like height and sometimes weight is a red flag
i think they don't know what a red flag is??? maybe they were talking more about simply their preference or what would make them feel she is attractive or not?? idk though i'm just guessing cause it'd be weird if they knew and answered that hahaha
they probably meant their preference, maybe red flag here doesn't translate well to Korea. Either way, I do agree with the weight one heavily. In a lot of relationships, I've seen healthy relationships where the girl or even guy gain weight because they're happy together which is very normal. Some couples may work together to even lose weight, weight can be changed over time, and yes some can't control unless they go to the doctors. But that one guy kept talking about weight as if it was a bad thing and saying it's "difficult" to date a fat girl?? How is it difficult??? Unless he means a 300+ pound girl which is kinda rare in Korea... like what does he think is overweight? He's in korea, one of the skinniest countries or countries with low obesity rates so it's VERY strange he kept mentioning weight, it's as if he's projecting or something
facts like imagine if i girl said its a red flag if ur not over 6ft and u dont got abs and muscles. shes instantly getting clipped on tiktok and getting bashed for saying that
Being short or overweight is definitely not a red flag and it’s probably a misinterpretation, on the other hand how is it a red flag if they are not attracted to overweight women? Since everyone has their own preferences, if they find overweight girls unattractive, and especially if they are fit themselves, it’s their right. Like personally as a WOMAN, I don’t find obese men attractive and I don’t want to date anyone who’s overweight, and it’s my right to want a fit partner because I am fit and I take care of my own appearance. So why can’t men feel the same way? Simply being a woman doesn’t give you the privilege to be attractive in the eyes of everyone, and whoever says that they find all women (or people in general) attractive is generally a hypocrite. And I think more people should be aware of that.
When they mentioned the weight part, I think they meant obese/or overweight and it could be a red flag bc it shows they don't have determination to get healthier/change. It also shows they may be lazy or have bad habits, leading to it being a red flag
A cracked phone is a red flag? Mine is cracked, has been for two years, but it works fine, so I don't see the point in replacing it. Some of us are just frugal and like to spend our money mindfully.
This may be because most women who like to drink all night long at places like clubs are holding phones with broken screens. It's not because they're frugal, but because they drink too much and break the screen too often, so they always seem to be holding a phone with a broken screen.
@@박똘똘-o1j Then I understand that logic a bit better. ^^ It would still make more sense to say that your red flag is going out to clubs to drink too much, but to each their own. Personally, I don´t like clubs, I only drink alcohol when I go back to my homecountry of France once a year, but I´ll keep my cracked phone until it dies on me. ^^
The bigger guy (with the skinny friend holding the zanda bag) His expressive statements and opinions were spot on, excellent command of the English language too! Relationship with the father good point.
A lot of these guys probably can't date Westerners at all. Bro I take a whole day in some cases to respond to my husbands messages or totally forget and I do not at all make any form of a big deal in my mind or to him if he doesn't reply for any generic length of time. There is usually some kind of reason as our lifestyles have a lot involved in it during and off work hours. A quick call when you aren't getting any response to something important usually works. A quick i'll call you later also works when it isn't urgent. I don't know... it just isn't a big deal. Maybe it is just me and my husband that are odd about the whole 'not responding to messages' bit. Not responding to 2 consecutive calls may rather be a bigger issue especially if we called when we knew the other person would not be occupied. In the first place, we tell each other what our day plan is or is looking like so you have that in mind as well. I guess that wouldn't fly with Korean guys lol. Red flag they said.
you don't have to be talking all the time but I think it's kinda basic communication letting your partner know that you might be busy and won't respond as often and share some parts of your day through out it, like imagine you see an old friend and you're excited, or you ate your favourite food, I think those little things make a difference and don't even take 10 seconds to text
@@apoetsbrain6794 I think it's boundaries and the relationships itself. Me and my boyfriend text all the time but we don't find it strange if we don't text after hours either, we also tell each other if we're going to stop replying. I guess it depends how demanding the other person is. Some people get really attached and obsessive which is unhealthy. Me and my boyfriend may text a lot but we won't cry or complain if we don't get an answer every single hour lol
When I work, I work. When I study, I study. When I eat, I eat. Sometimes I go half the day without texting my husband and he understands because we have a life outside of each other. Personally I find texting each other about day-to-day or mundane details about our lives really a waste of time even if it is ten seconds. "oh work was good, I just did this task and that task" or "just had lunch!" I cannot do anything with that information. People used to go weeks without talking to each other if they lived in different areas but now everyone wants to be plugged in, connected, and have instant information...some people need to go touch grass, forreal. Pathetic state we live in nowadays.
My husband and I are complete opposites of what we thought we wanted. These "red flags" wouldn't matter if you were in love like the guy at 7:38 mentioned. My hubby is a big gamer, and I'm not. He's an extrovert, and I'm not. Music, films, family dynamics, they're all different. We have been married for 15 years now. All these "preferences" means nothing when you meet "the one."
Do your values align with each other? I find that my husband and I are quite different as well but our treatment of people, how we think about social services, and poltics/law are quite similar.
@thesmellybaby @thesmellybaby Actually, we're quite different in that manner, too. My husband is apolitical, and our values are quite different as well. It's all about respect, trust, and compromise. We love each other for who they are.
Absolutely love this segment. I concur with all their views and agree with the post below that the man in pink made the most sense. Good interviews, Jerry!👏👏
The guy in the pink jacket was the only mature individual here he talked about Family;Personality;Partner Support: Understanding in a relationship not obsseive nature 😊❤❤
This might vary among Koreans. My boyfriend and I sometimes don’t contact each other all day, and we only have a short call or chat at the end of the day. Of course, when we meet, we enjoy our time together and go on fun dates! It’s likely that the people interviewed are in their 20s or early 20s.
@@duolingo_pte_jeonmunga Do you think it is a generational dating scene issue? The responses surprised me honestly. It was almost 80% of them referring to responding to communication as a big deal.
@@apoetsbrain6794 Korean People in their early 20s and mid 20s tend to be a bit more attached or focused on frequent contact. As people reach their late 20s and 30s, living in a highly competitive society with heavy workloads and frequent overtime, the need or intensity for constant contact seems to lessen.
I think it's just part of their popular culture. They make money from good skin care products internationally also good looking actors and performers bring a lot of revenue to their country. Being attractive is a thing in every country their country south Korea is not that big and the content we get just happens to show mainly attractive people it doesn't mean everyone is focused on that.
At first when I heard them say communication is important I thought, “ oh good! I feel that good communication and trust are the foundations of a good relationship.” Then I started to notice the way they’re speaking about communication is more in a possessive way. It’s as if they’re so insecure they NEED the constant attention and validation from their partner to where if you don’t respond fast enough they’ll leave. Now that’s wild
OMG THISS!! i thought the exact same thing, like when they started talking about communication i was like "uh okay they're right" but the fact that i would BET that almost none of those who talked about "replying fast" and this type of things would actually communicate well about important matters - (just my opinion tho)
I’m short and it was never my option nor is it something I can change. How is that a red flag? That guy is a red flag 🚩 for being so superficial. I can totally understand he has a preference for a tall partner but to judge others like big No No
But as you said, maybe that's just his preference, which i think is okay, maybe he's not judging. If he is tall, i can see how he wouldn't be attracted to short girls
It might be a language barrier too, some people don’t understand what red flag actually means, I think that’s why so many guys just listed things they like and don’t like verses actual red flags
There're not talking about red flags, there're talking about personal preferences 😮💨 Except the guy with the pink jacket and 2-3 other replies about respecting others
I think most if not all of them said at least one or two reasonable things, like "if she talks bad about others", "if she lies", "if she doesnt communicate"
8:25 I get him. I used to like someone, but I didn’t consider the idea of us being together because of one of his sisters. I don’t think I could deal with her, especially since her family can’t even handle her most of the time.
People say "they are red flags because they are judging based on appearance " (weight, sweat...). Please remember that it's the INTERVIEWER who ask for appearance red flags. It was literally the question so ofc their answers are based on appearance
I don't like the comments of the man dressed in pink. Why do women always have to treat him well in relation to their brother? Was the brother good to her? Are women the servants of men? For me he is a red flag. He expects his wife to always treat the family with respect and that in relation to male family members, which means she has to cook for him, clean, clean up after him what he has left behind, make him drinks again and again when he runs out. I know a lot of people in my area who have said things like that and who use women as personal slaves who do everything for them! If I don't serve my brother, I would be a bad person who is not suitable for marriage or because I don't get along with my brother, there must be a reason why a person doesn't react well to his family. If he had said siblings, but he is referring directly to father and brother. Mother and sister are also part of the family, but men have to be served. That's my opinion, I don't want to attack anyone with that.
Pretty accurate. Skin color, body size, personal interests can be diverse, but they really dislike tattoos, piercings, excessive drinking, smoking and swearing.
The guy who talked about looking out for how a potential partner treats their parents and siblings made a whole lot of sense. Because eventually you're going to make a family with them, and both you and them will see each other's vulnerability much more often. Whatever reservations they might have felt regarding you or your relationship will melt away as time goes by, so you'll get to really see more of their truer selves that even they don't realise exist at times. For some, it may be super wholesome as vulnerabilities would only be ways they can love and take care of you, but for others, not so much of a pleasant surprise. It's a good idea to see how your partner/ potential partner is with their family early on in the relationship if possible. You don't have to meet them to figure it out. Listening to stories about their childhood/memories with family is an easy way to assess without probing or scrutinising Some may be victims of their families themselves, but unaddressed traumas and hangups may be pushed unto your new family either way. If discovered early, this can save everyone a ton of heartache. As cruel as it sounds, you can decide whether you want to stay and help them work through it or leave bc it may be a selfish thought, but you didn't inflict the trauma. Either way, jumping in blindly will not help anyone. Dayum that was a rant 😭
it's interesting to see what other culture considers a red flags, in the west many of us would never consider some of the things said here as a red flag, but rather a preference
Ahahahahaha the 4am ptsd talking ripped me into shreds by the viewers😂😂, I was just dang nervous talking in front of the camera in general so I babbled pretty hard 😅 it's just my personal experience and preference talking as someone who had a bad experience related to the matters I mentioned and yeah, her night was on her insta stories and I realised I prefer neither of staying out too long on weekends or do I have the energy of doing so in general. And yes!!! Women do use the bathroom at 4am too!! I was just too into thinking about my past relationships 🫠 Anyways, great video to find out how others think and thank you for stopping us for an interview!
I don’t think some of them understood what a red flag means…it’s not a turn off. It’s “this characteristic is a sign they’d be a toxic/bad/immature/etc person”
This video isn't about red flag at all, so of course they talking about personnal preference only, because he asked for that, not about red flag. The title of the video is a clicbait ...
For the 2nd last couple it took me a sec, I thought one was a girl when they came on and with the over exaggerated hand movements thought he was gonna start signing. But agree about possessive others, total red flag, the family thing - depends on situation really
As an 15yo indian boy... i dont know why but i love south korea😭... i mean they are all gorgeous... One day i will surely shift in korea... And thats my promise🙃🤚🏻
Guy in the pink jacket made solid points but ngl, as someone who grew in a toxic household that forced contact to be cut as much as possible (plus absent father since birth) that felt highkey invalidating.
I've alredy know something was off, before opening the video, the comments and the interview confirmed my thoughts, it's sad how corean standards are so strict.
Some of the points are valid like being disrespectful, drinking too much or lying but many like the guy who said gaining weight is a red flag don`t understand anything. He`s probably also one of those men who think their wife gets back to their old weight after a week after pregnancy. I`m so grateful that I`m the complete opposite of what Korean men want.
I don't think they quite understand what a red flag is. When a person does something that is not ok/sus which can subsequently affect you. Gaining weight or being short is not a red flag, it's just a preference in appearance mf.
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Korean women are right. Look at all these red flags in men front and center
😂😂😂😂 i pray for my korean sisters 🙏🏾
Yeap, I am not surprised at all
Well this sound just like the TikTok girls “ick list”….I think they thought red flag meant “icks” or smth.
It seems like some of them are confusing red flags with turn offs. Only way I can make sense of some of these answers
The term 'red flag' doesn't translate well into Korean. It was translated into "red light" which in Korea, means like a 'no,' so essentially "what traits would you avoid in women" is what the interviewer was pretty much asking. I think he should've explained what 'red flag' really means in context.
That was i thought tho, why these men instead saying like what makes them uncomfort from women! are they don't know what red flag means?! Red flag is such fucked up behavior form your partner that makes you wanted break up with
@@indomiebakar1210 한국어로 변역하면 RED FLAG는 "빨간색' 깃발로 변역이 되므로 번역에 문제가 있습니다.
Lol right
@@indomiebakar1210 Red flag is a warning signal, *it's not the danger itself* but a sign that there will be danger in the future. Like a man stating insulting opinions about women is a red flag, predicting that in the future that man will not respect you as a person, and and may sabotage your plans for your life etc.
@@indomiebakar1210 Red flag is a warning sign of bad things to come, it's not the bad thing itself. Like a bad opinions are a red flag (a warning sign) for bad actions to come.
"Gaining weight"
"being taller than me"
"sweating a lot".
Do these guys know the meaning of a red flag on a person? Honestly, these are the guys, to me, that are considered red flags.
It's okay to have a preference in terms of appearance, but what they said was too much.
true 😊
Really
The word he used for red flag in Korean doesn't actually quite mean red flag. Surprised you didn't figure that out by the answers.
I quite agree with you. The answers are as stupid as the question itself. This is a bad image of human relations.
I think the word red flag doesn’t really translate well to Korean
i'll come back to this video when i feel like i want a kdrama bf
This made me laugh so much 😂😂😂 Hopefully not all SK men/ women like these interviewees.
Yeah sadly the kdrama men aren't real
@@Sarah_1155 it's soo sad don't you think
my exact thought 😂
Haha true
The reality of alot of men
The Guy with Pink Jacket got the best answers at all he had a very mature thinking
You saved me typing.
yes, he is a big green flag
Yes Family Factor - which include loyalty, respect, care, love, belief, fun, happiness.. I’ve always thought marriage in South Korea is between 2 families, not just 2 individuals… My 2 cents 😅
I thought the same! He was the most mature one.
I fast forwarded based on this comment! 😂
Shoutout to the guys who said girls who are disrespectful of others/ talks behind people’s backs. That’s my red flag for anyone - dating, family, friends. Because if they’re doing that to others, they’re probably doing it to you too. Ick!
Wait. If he’s online at 4am because he’s going to the bathroom, why can’t she be doing the same? 😂😂
lol!! They both be creeping.
Cuz he's a hypocrite
Literally had the same thought. lol
Like do people hear themselves before they speak? 🥴
Like frl I wake up at 3-4 on a daily basis bc I sleep very early. Does that mean I’m doing smth I’m not supposed to do?💀
maybe he means on a regular basis
First guy with "if she like kuromi..." like i got violated immediately. What did a cartoon character do to this man😭
that’s what i’m saying!! 😭 like what..what did sanrio girls ever do to you?
He said it’s personal reasons so that’s good
Probably the type of ppl that kuromi obsessed act in ways he considers bad for him
I also have the same red flag. From experience, girls that like Kuromi want to be the bad girl. They're fun to be around but will hurt you
@@Jack-vy2hb wtf I like Kuromi but I don't do bad things to others lol
the guy with pink jacket 💯
Yeah, he said a lot of things that make sense. In addition to family relationships, it's also important to see how that person interacts with people in the everyday. Stability is also very good!
Imagine this for a minute…asking the red flags what their red flags are 😂
Lmao so accurate😂
They just speak about what they want to avoid ... You too don't pick up a random man/woman.
Ikr. These guys are the type women should be avoiding.
9:59 The best reply, in my opinion. Believing in your partner, which means you absolutely trust them, is essential in a relationship If you don't have that, your relationship won't last.
"When a woman is friendly to everyone and friendly to me in the same way makes me uneasy"
What the fuck??? He's a red flag!!
I think it might make some people feel like Im not special for her
바보같긴 한데 사실 남자보다 여자들이 저런 생각을 더 많이 가지고 있죠. 애인이니까 특별취급을 해달라는 것. 동시에 인기가 너무 많으면 겁난다는 것.
I mean think of it if it was reversed? would you date a guy who's friendly to everyone the same way he is with you? would you be comfortable with that?
I think he meant being treated the same way as everyone else. Tbh I get it in public but if your partner treats you like a friend even when alone that’s a red flag imo
for realll
That’s why so many relationship crash and burn because people don’t look for a kindhearted woman or a kindhearted man someone that will be there for you when you are down sick but they look for for appearance. Your relationship is doom to fail because you don’t look at the persons heart.
That’s a fairytale, this is reality, there’s no such thing as “true love” or the “right one.” Someone can be so good at acting and pretend to love you without you ever finding out, that’s one of the reasons why divorce and break up rates are really high and common. Like the saying goes “love blinds you.”
Believe it or not there is true love we just don’t appreciate it when it’s right in front of us. I love someone for 20 something years never cheated never asked for anything yet he betrayed me my heart into pieces. People like us are broken. We do not trust anymore. They are a few of us. We just picked the wrong man or the wrong woman.
The little bit of us that’s left. We are all damage because some bad seed has ruined us, which is to stay single and do not love again we choose to love ourselves and take care of ourselves.
Ya but a higher percentage of women care more about a man's heart than appearance. Guys fail in every category
The line between men and women is not as clear as I once believed Once it's crossed there's no going back, because some across line is permanent
Round of applause 👏 to both the guys at 8:24, the maturity of their values in a woman.
The guy in the pink shirt/jacket had really good insight. I hope he finds a partner!
5:37 saying this when he himself has a double chin
BAHAHAH, I said the same thing myself. I made a comment about it, but it is SO weird that he kept talking about "overweight", he projecting LMAOO
LIKE PLS LMAOO
Yup, and people need to evaluate themselves before they judge others.
Double chin isn't mean that you gained weight. You can have it even if you're in overage or skinny.
He doesn't tho?
4:01 😂 Jerry was trying hard to ask in Korean and the guy just replied in English
I knowww I chuckled here too
😂
the guy with the pink jacket has the most rational answers and likely the most experienced one out of all the guys that's been interviewed here (though the family question might differ for some partners who may be estranged or have terrible relationships with their family). glad to hear someone talking about the heavy things in relationships i.e principles and compatibility. also as a woman with a pretty workaholic job, i'd think they'd hate me for being unresponsive most of the time lmao. cant deal with guys who are clingy and who constantly need to be replied like we have our own lives y'all
Thumbs up for the guy in the pink jacket.
Looking for more content like this. Greetings from the Netherlands.
OMG I’m also from the Netherlands!!💗💗
@Raniaaaaa-h8k wat leuk!
Here another dutchie
@@Itscherryyy8 hoiiiui
@@Itscherryyy8 Dutch and Afrikaans are similar I'm half Afrikaner and half Dutch!
It's really a shame that so many guys are so focused on someone's height or someone's weight. You can't really change your height, and you have no idea what someone may be going through as far as weight is concerned. Being on the thinner side is probably great for how clothes fit and for guys thinking you are cuter, HOWEVER, being so focused on so much SURFACE stuff can cause you to really miss out on some great people. It not always just a personal mismanagement of yourself that causes people to gain weight. We will all grow old, if we live long enough and age will show up at some point in many ways.
Weight doesnt always reflect on how "healthy" you are or that you take care of yourself. There are sickenesses and medication that makes you gain weight. And there are skinny people who are more unhealthy than someone who has some extra weight.
Now you know how American men feel with American women's obsession with men's height. That's why so many American men have resorted to being passport bros
lol women be talkin bout some "men start at 180 cm" shit and that's okay but once a guy has a preference its rude?
My entire point is sure ,we can all have preferences, BUT if you stay so rigid and never once look at someone who may be a bit shorter, a bit taller, a bit thinner or a bit heavier, different color eyes, from another country, etc, you just may miss out on an opportunity to meet a wonderful person that may bring more joy to your life than you thought possible.
@@susanbarrett2226
You just described American women in a nutshell.
Koreans should date shop mannequins. Right measure, neither short nor tall, you can dress thrm to your taste and they don't curse, drink or put on weight. I saw only a few talking about values, ethics, or attitude.
I dont think mentioning physical appearance or cursing are necessarily negative. It just shows their maturity level and experience, some of these guys are quite you g. I remember as a university student, if someone asked what’s my type (or what’s totally not my type) I would only be talking about fashion style/ musical taste. Because I was young and never really had any deep relationships. And in my 20s because I was a professional athlete, yes I agree with not liking someone who is partying too much or eating unhealthily because it just didnt suit my lifestyle as an athlete. It’s just a quick street interview, most people wont want to be too vulnerable and give deep answers anyway. But you can see a few of them talking about personality, family values, communication. That’s when you know they have probably had mature and serious relationship already.
I agree except the cursing, It is not a problematic preference some people are uncomfortable hearing a curse word so why would you date someone who curse a lot.
this.
There was literally only two guys who actually gave a red flag - poor communication, disrespect. Every other one was a red flag themselves, only talking about body and beauty
They don't only talking about body and beauty BUT the question was about it, of course they answer it. This video isn't about "red flag" but just what you want to avoid
korean women are doing good with their 4B movement
The guy with the Pink jacket is absolutely correct. Such a good heart has experienced a lot of things.🙏
I’m just gonna go out there and say a girl getting weight and a girls height isn’t necessarily a red flag because a girl may not be able to help it if she gains weight and a girl cannot change her height so their commenting about things girls can’t change as being red flags a red flag is usually pertain to somebody’s actions and personalities not somebody’s appearance and definitely not something they can’t change guys who say girls are not attractive based on something they can’t change like height and sometimes weight is a red flag
i think they don't know what a red flag is??? maybe they were talking more about simply their preference or what would make them feel she is attractive or not?? idk though i'm just guessing cause it'd be weird if they knew and answered that hahaha
they probably meant their preference, maybe red flag here doesn't translate well to Korea. Either way, I do agree with the weight one heavily. In a lot of relationships, I've seen healthy relationships where the girl or even guy gain weight because they're happy together which is very normal. Some couples may work together to even lose weight, weight can be changed over time, and yes some can't control unless they go to the doctors. But that one guy kept talking about weight as if it was a bad thing and saying it's "difficult" to date a fat girl?? How is it difficult??? Unless he means a 300+ pound girl which is kinda rare in Korea... like what does he think is overweight? He's in korea, one of the skinniest countries or countries with low obesity rates so it's VERY strange he kept mentioning weight, it's as if he's projecting or something
facts like imagine if i girl said its a red flag if ur not over 6ft and u dont got abs and muscles. shes instantly getting clipped on tiktok and getting bashed for saying that
Being short or overweight is definitely not a red flag and it’s probably a misinterpretation, on the other hand how is it a red flag if they are not attracted to overweight women? Since everyone has their own preferences, if they find overweight girls unattractive, and especially if they are fit themselves, it’s their right.
Like personally as a WOMAN, I don’t find obese men attractive and I don’t want to date anyone who’s overweight, and it’s my right to want a fit partner because I am fit and I take care of my own appearance. So why can’t men feel the same way? Simply being a woman doesn’t give you the privilege to be attractive in the eyes of everyone, and whoever says that they find all women (or people in general) attractive is generally a hypocrite. And I think more people should be aware of that.
When they mentioned the weight part, I think they meant obese/or overweight and it could be a red flag bc it shows they don't have determination to get healthier/change. It also shows they may be lazy or have bad habits, leading to it being a red flag
I can see why the 4B movement has taken off 😂
A cracked phone is a red flag? Mine is cracked, has been for two years, but it works fine, so I don't see the point in replacing it. Some of us are just frugal and like to spend our money mindfully.
At what time stamp it was mentioned?
10:54 here @@jpcoronel8261
This may be because most women who like to drink all night long at places like clubs are holding phones with broken screens. It's not because they're frugal, but because they drink too much and break the screen too often, so they always seem to be holding a phone with a broken screen.
@@jpcoronel8261 I´m going to be honest, I´m too lazy to look up the time stamp. ^^
@@박똘똘-o1j Then I understand that logic a bit better. ^^ It would still make more sense to say that your red flag is going out to clubs to drink too much, but to each their own.
Personally, I don´t like clubs, I only drink alcohol when I go back to my homecountry of France once a year, but I´ll keep my cracked phone until it dies on me. ^^
The bigger guy (with the skinny friend holding the zanda bag) His expressive statements and opinions were spot on, excellent command of the English language too! Relationship with the father good point.
He didn’t sound Korean, so he probably wasn’t, that’s why more open
@@Kumulmeskis no hes definitely korean. hes prob lived overseas or works in a international company
I mean relationship with family don’t mean nothing. I don’t have a good relationship or speak to a lot of my family because they’re toxic etc.
1:17 the kid at the back 😂 cute
I saw you in 남대문 last Tuesday but I was too shy to say hi!! Hi! ❤ The camera doesn't capture how much you glow in real life!!
A lot of these guys probably can't date Westerners at all. Bro I take a whole day in some cases to respond to my husbands messages or totally forget and I do not at all make any form of a big deal in my mind or to him if he doesn't reply for any generic length of time. There is usually some kind of reason as our lifestyles have a lot involved in it during and off work hours. A quick call when you aren't getting any response to something important usually works. A quick i'll call you later also works when it isn't urgent. I don't know... it just isn't a big deal. Maybe it is just me and my husband that are odd about the whole 'not responding to messages' bit. Not responding to 2 consecutive calls may rather be a bigger issue especially if we called when we knew the other person would not be occupied. In the first place, we tell each other what our day plan is or is looking like so you have that in mind as well. I guess that wouldn't fly with Korean guys lol. Red flag they said.
u're so afraid that you can't handle any criticism huh?
you don't have to be talking all the time but I think it's kinda basic communication letting your partner know that you might be busy and won't respond as often and share some parts of your day through out it, like imagine you see an old friend and you're excited, or you ate your favourite food, I think those little things make a difference and don't even take 10 seconds to text
@@healsii yea. I see where you are coming from as well.
@@apoetsbrain6794 I think it's boundaries and the relationships itself. Me and my boyfriend text all the time but we don't find it strange if we don't text after hours either, we also tell each other if we're going to stop replying. I guess it depends how demanding the other person is. Some people get really attached and obsessive which is unhealthy. Me and my boyfriend may text a lot but we won't cry or complain if we don't get an answer every single hour lol
When I work, I work.
When I study, I study.
When I eat, I eat.
Sometimes I go half the day without texting my husband and he understands because we have a life outside of each other. Personally I find texting each other about day-to-day or mundane details about our lives really a waste of time even if it is ten seconds. "oh work was good, I just did this task and that task" or "just had lunch!" I cannot do anything with that information.
People used to go weeks without talking to each other if they lived in different areas but now everyone wants to be plugged in, connected, and have instant information...some people need to go touch grass, forreal. Pathetic state we live in nowadays.
My heart goes out to my South Korean sisters. 🙏🏻
My husband and I are complete opposites of what we thought we wanted. These "red flags" wouldn't matter if you were in love like the guy at 7:38 mentioned. My hubby is a big gamer, and I'm not. He's an extrovert, and I'm not. Music, films, family dynamics, they're all different. We have been married for 15 years now. All these "preferences" means nothing when you meet "the one."
Do your values align with each other?
I find that my husband and I are quite different as well but our treatment of people, how we think about social services, and poltics/law are quite similar.
@thesmellybaby @thesmellybaby Actually, we're quite different in that manner, too. My husband is apolitical, and our values are quite different as well. It's all about respect, trust, and compromise. We love each other for who they are.
Absolutely love this segment. I concur with all their views and agree with the post below that the man in pink made the most sense. Good interviews, Jerry!👏👏
you think a red flag is a girl’s height?
@@JessieMcConkey-v8d Nie chciałabym być wyższa od mojego męża.
The guy in the pink jacket was the only mature individual here he talked about Family;Personality;Partner Support: Understanding in a relationship not obsseive nature 😊❤❤
Stay on that 4B, Ladies!
korean dating culture is super clingy,, if you dont respond to a text within an hour, u considered susss
clinginess is subjective
I agree with your summation. The wanting a response within max 2 hours for me is the red flag lol. Like let me breathe lol
This might vary among Koreans. My boyfriend and I sometimes don’t contact each other all day, and we only have a short call or chat at the end of the day. Of course, when we meet, we enjoy our time together and go on fun dates! It’s likely that the people interviewed are in their 20s or early 20s.
@@duolingo_pte_jeonmunga Do you think it is a generational dating scene issue? The responses surprised me honestly. It was almost 80% of them referring to responding to communication as a big deal.
@@apoetsbrain6794 Korean People in their early 20s and mid 20s tend to be a bit more attached or focused on frequent contact. As people reach their late 20s and 30s, living in a highly competitive society with heavy workloads and frequent overtime, the need or intensity for constant contact seems to lessen.
Why does South Korea seem to be focused on looks more than anything? Like where did this start?
True but it is mostly at first but once they get to know you, they focus less on looks.
@ I guess they are human like anywhere else in the end
I think it's just part of their popular culture. They make money from good skin care products internationally also good looking actors and performers bring a lot of revenue to their country. Being attractive is a thing in every country their country south Korea is not that big and the content we get just happens to show mainly attractive people it doesn't mean everyone is focused on that.
Just like American women - 6 feet tall, 6 pack abs, 6 figures
real- thats a good question.
At first when I heard them say communication is important I thought, “ oh good! I feel that good communication and trust are the foundations of a good relationship.” Then I started to notice the way they’re speaking about communication is more in a possessive way. It’s as if they’re so insecure they NEED the constant attention and validation from their partner to where if you don’t respond fast enough they’ll leave. Now that’s wild
OMG THISS!! i thought the exact same thing, like when they started talking about communication i was like "uh okay they're right" but the fact that i would BET that almost none of those who talked about "replying fast" and this type of things would actually communicate well about important matters - (just my opinion tho)
These are not red flags. It's criticism
I’m short and it was never my option nor is it something I can change. How is that a red flag? That guy is a red flag 🚩 for being so superficial. I can totally understand he has a preference for a tall partner but to judge others like big No No
But as you said, maybe that's just his preference, which i think is okay, maybe he's not judging. If he is tall, i can see how he wouldn't be attracted to short girls
It might be a language barrier too, some people don’t understand what red flag actually means, I think that’s why so many guys just listed things they like and don’t like verses actual red flags
There're not talking about red flags, there're talking about personal preferences 😮💨 Except the guy with the pink jacket and 2-3 other replies about respecting others
Praying hard for our Korean sisters after watching this video😅
literally omg
im lowkey dissapointed by a lot of these answers….
What can u expect from Korean men🤣 a lot of kdrama/kpop fans think Korean men r gonna be like men from kdramas/kpop groups, but they’re not!
It's their personel preference, like you have too.
Stereotype culture
I'm high key disappointed. These guys are gross.
How is her relationship with her family😭👌🏿 9:27
but he only mention of father and brother lmfao
The guy in the pink jacket had really good insight....❤🙌
Okay, after listening to some of the red flags, i kinda get the birth rate thing going on.
Jerry.... always great content👍
I think most if not all of them said at least one or two reasonable things, like "if she talks bad about others", "if she lies", "if she doesnt communicate"
Most of their answers were dumb AF lmao except the pink jacket guy
Yeah
I'm a korean girl and this made me sad lol
8:25 I get him. I used to like someone, but I didn’t consider the idea of us being together because of one of his sisters. I don’t think I could deal with her, especially since her family can’t even handle her most of the time.
Active at 4am girls = maybe talking with guys late night and obsessed checking messages.
guy in a pink jacket - sane person
People say "they are red flags because they are judging based on appearance " (weight, sweat...). Please remember that it's the INTERVIEWER who ask for appearance red flags. It was literally the question so ofc their answers are based on appearance
5:45 bro is literally a walking red flag lol
I love how the guy who mentioned weight was a little chubby himself 😂
Oh c'mon! He's just not skinny like most of the men who were interviewed but he's definitely not chubby
I’ll never text you again at 4am
I work as a nurse. My job is busy and I certainly don’t have my phone in my hand all the time. I don’t reply messager during workday.
I don't like the comments of the man dressed in pink. Why do women always have to treat him well in relation to their brother? Was the brother good to her? Are women the servants of men? For me he is a red flag. He expects his wife to always treat the family with respect and that in relation to male family members, which means she has to cook for him, clean, clean up after him what he has left behind, make him drinks again and again when he runs out. I know a lot of people in my area who have said things like that and who use women as personal slaves who do everything for them! If I don't serve my brother, I would be a bad person who is not suitable for marriage or because I don't get along with my brother, there must be a reason why a person doesn't react well to his family. If he had said siblings, but he is referring directly to father and brother. Mother and sister are also part of the family, but men have to be served. That's my opinion, I don't want to attack anyone with that.
Wow! Guy in pink jacket is very profound 🙏
Pretty accurate. Skin color, body size, personal interests can be diverse, but they really dislike tattoos, piercings, excessive drinking, smoking and swearing.
The guy who talked about looking out for how a potential partner treats their parents and siblings made a whole lot of sense. Because eventually you're going to make a family with them, and both you and them will see each other's vulnerability much more often. Whatever reservations they might have felt regarding you or your relationship will melt away as time goes by, so you'll get to really see more of their truer selves that even they don't realise exist at times. For some, it may be super wholesome as vulnerabilities would only be ways they can love and take care of you, but for others, not so much of a pleasant surprise.
It's a good idea to see how your partner/ potential partner is with their family early on in the relationship if possible. You don't have to meet them to figure it out. Listening to stories about their childhood/memories with family is an easy way to assess without probing or scrutinising
Some may be victims of their families themselves, but unaddressed traumas and hangups may be pushed unto your new family either way. If discovered early, this can save everyone a ton of heartache. As cruel as it sounds, you can decide whether you want to stay and help them work through it or leave bc it may be a selfish thought, but you didn't inflict the trauma. Either way, jumping in blindly will not help anyone.
Dayum that was a rant 😭
The 4B Movement is understandable
The guy who said that being disrespectful to other people is a red flag has a point. It's kind of universal.
it's interesting to see what other culture considers a red flags, in the west many of us would never consider some of the things said here as a red flag, but rather a preference
Hmmmmm, the guys really don't like for their partners to have male friends. If you trust her, there should be no issue.
Ahahahahaha the 4am ptsd talking ripped me into shreds by the viewers😂😂, I was just dang nervous talking in front of the camera in general so I babbled pretty hard 😅
it's just my personal experience and preference talking as someone who had a bad experience related to the matters I mentioned and yeah, her night was on her insta stories and I realised I prefer neither of staying out too long on weekends or do I have the energy of doing so in general.
And yes!!! Women do use the bathroom at 4am too!! I was just too into thinking about my past relationships 🫠
Anyways, great video to find out how others think and thank you for stopping us for an interview!
Don’t worry man they are so on defensive mode they don’t realize it’s your opinion, there is nothing wrong about that. Freedom of speech 💯
No worries! We totally understand 👍🏻✌🏻
Women on Instagram were pissed.
Oga you go explain tire no evidence
Dont worry, and thank you for the clarification . I myself am often awake 4am. Just at home reading, or doing other things. Always been an night owl.
The pink jacket fella and his friend were honestly the best interviewed.
What if the weight is due to a thyroid problem? Or hormonal changes?
Majority of men have absolutely no idea about how different men and women carry weight. It’s all about appearance
8:27 best answer so far👌🏻 9:33 on point 👍🏻
here's the lesson: red flags are all around the world. dont believe the k dramas
I don’t think some of them understood what a red flag means…it’s not a turn off. It’s “this characteristic is a sign they’d be a toxic/bad/immature/etc person”
This video isn't about red flag at all, so of course they talking about personnal preference only, because he asked for that, not about red flag. The title of the video is a clicbait ...
For the 2nd last couple it took me a sec, I thought one was a girl when they came on and with the over exaggerated hand movements thought he was gonna start signing. But agree about possessive others, total red flag, the family thing - depends on situation really
This is a interesting question ❤
Your Korean pronunciation is amazing! 😊
"If they can't communicate well, I think that's a red flag"
Me with my social anxiety:
SAMEEE
Man this is off topic, but my God you look so handsome and classy 👌🏻💙 Your voice is so smooth too
Okay, but your white button-up was CRISP.
This vlogger guy is really fluent in Korean
Me: feels like fluent when only watching kdrama and singing kpop song🤣
This is why more Korean men are single 😂
honestly? black guys should get more credit for their appearence. this guy looks better than any korean he had interviewed. 😊
8:31 this guy I like his says and I agreed with him 👏👏
Man in the pink jacket is a real one 🫶
As an 15yo indian boy... i dont know why but i love south korea😭... i mean they are all gorgeous...
One day i will surely shift in korea...
And thats my promise🙃🤚🏻
8:28 had the best answer on point
Pink jacket guy on top ♥
Guy in the pink jacket made solid points but ngl, as someone who grew in a toxic household that forced contact to be cut as much as possible (plus absent father since birth) that felt highkey invalidating.
Tf is a hip hop style girl lol
That’s what I’m saying 😂
Man at 0:44 looks pleasing in the eye though. 😂
I've alredy know something was off, before opening the video, the comments and the interview confirmed my thoughts, it's sad how corean standards are so strict.
Guy in pink shirt - you are the best!
Pink Jacket and his friend gave the best answers!!
They don't know what is red flag...
Some of the points are valid like being disrespectful, drinking too much or lying but many like the guy who said gaining weight is a red flag don`t understand anything. He`s probably also one of those men who think their wife gets back to their old weight after a week after pregnancy. I`m so grateful that I`m the complete opposite of what Korean men want.
When her phone is broken....
I’m confused. Do they know what a red flag means or was this just translated wrongly to them? They all just say more preferences imo than red flags? 😅
I think it was poorly translated but I wouldn't be surprised if they responded the same way even if they understood 😂
@ yikes 🥲
There is no word for "Red flag" in Korean which is why you are getting all these answers. So calm down internet and don't be so offended.
It's the same purpose at the end of the story lol 'red flag' even becomes a synonym
@@97scous Really? Explain to me exactly what he said in his question and tell me how it means the same thing as red flag. I'll wait.
@@97scous Not at all, ref flag and personnal preference isn't the same !
@xia2830 How could it not be? It is literally that, the red flags are totally personal
8:47 the most body language and gestures I’ve seen...is he Puerto Rican 😁
Interviewer is majestic
I don't think they quite understand what a red flag is. When a person does something that is not ok/sus which can subsequently affect you. Gaining weight or being short is not a red flag, it's just a preference in appearance mf.