He was pretty unique in that he was super wholesome, and an absolute nerd in his own field. That’s why he nailed his sound and his writing style was eloquent and incredible. This all sucks.
Honestly, man, I can't thank you enough for posting this as soon as you have. I've felt disconnected from reality since yesterday afternoon, so seeing people talk about it helps. TBDM's routine of releasing an album every two years cemented them as such a massive part of our lives for nearly 20 years. In an almost ritualistic sort of way, we knew there would be a release that year and the new album would become its soundtrack. I think this hits harder than we all expect because Trevor was all of us. He was a living embodiment of the 15 yr old kid we all were, digging through records, constantly searching for the next band to get into, and telling everyone about them. It isn't just Trevor that's gone, but a huge part of ourselves. Thanks again for posting this. RIP Trevor. "Sworn to black we'll always be."
So well said bud, I'm even considering taking a break from metal for a while and build my identity a little more outside of that world. Trevor was really someone I looked up to and his death made me reconsider why I love that music so much and where it's really leading me. Anyway, all of you guys be well, please! ❤️
@@bingokill it's a piece of you forever, take a break. I've done it a few times but you'll always go back and listen to that sweet loud violence once again.
Another person we lost to the isolation brought on by the pandemic. He said himself in that interview: he can't and shouldn't be left alone with his thoughts. He also spoke of anxiety in relation to performing on stage and how it was manageable when he was in regular touring schedules. After two years of not touring, he was doubting himself about finally returning to the stage. This sucks man. Quite literally the best vocalist, the best lyricist, the best dude. Universally loved. I hope he knew just how legendary he was. How poignant and significant. What a lasting effect and memory he long already had on the genre and it's fans. The definition of phenom and an absolute legend.
I'm 42 years old. About 6 years ago I decided to start working on my mental health, which I knew needed done. I'm bi-polar with PTSD relating to childhood traumas and I have suicidal iterations. It doesn't matter how successful you are, how many people adore you, how financially comfortable you are, how loved you are on a personal level, depression can trump it all. Sometimes, no manner of distraction can overcome that mountain of trauma and pain. I know I'm just a lowly factory worker guy, and, every single day is an emotional struggle for me.
I’m with you brother. Sometimes life is a suffocating black hole. But we’re warriors none the less and we can overcome anything we put our minds to. Never surrender, this storm too shall pass…and it will return time and time again but, let’s take it in stride and remember that nothing is permanent. There will be good times as well
@@davidphillips9726 cheers man, same here! My dad was around but was a drunk and an abusive prick. I’m trying to be everything to my kids that he wasn’t to me. Live, laugh and love them! Having my kids in my life makes all the other trivial shit transparent.
A good friend of mine took his life years ago. It was totally unexpected because he was such a happy guy who loved life, nobody could ever imagine him doing that. It was much later his brother told me that he had gotten a grime cancer diagnosis and he didn’t want to do the treatments. You never know what someone else is carrying.
Thanks Robb. Been trying to process this tragedy and I appreciate you being honest. I feel like I’ve lost a best friend I’ve never met before. Trevor was an incredible man, and thank you for speaking from the heart. The relatability is tangible, and we lost a monument in this microcosm of our fucked up world. I love you Trevor, I’m sorry, and I hope you have found peace. Thank you for sharing your gift. Watch over us brother
The Black Dahlia is one of the only bands whose albums I've thoroughly enjoyed through most of time I've been enjoying music. Trevor was an great poet and musician. The world seems to have less in it because of his passing.
I've been listening to them since I first heard Funeral Thirst. That's all it took. They've been one of my top 5 favorite bands since high school. I'm gonna miss TBDM and Trevor greatly. His lyrics were always amazingly deep and metal as fuck!
Trevor Strand was an absolutely wonderful, kind, and positive ambassador in the heavy metal community. He was truly an amazing soul and I will miss him dearly. Loved BDM a lot too, they were so consistent and gave new life to Metal Blade.
Thanks for sharing that man! I’m grateful when Trevor came up to me at the house of blues LA show years back. I just moved to LA and came to the show alone. He saw me there sitting on the curb waiting for the show to start. He came up to me an told me he digged my discharge shirt and thanks for coming to the show. He must have noticed I was alone there. Made me happy an I’ll never forget that. Cool Dude. R.I.P Trevor
Thanks Robb for this. It's NEVER too early to talk about suicide. One of my close mates decided it was his time. It will be 4 years at the end of this May. We laughed till we cried a few times, we shared many a great memory. He struggled with his inner demons. I can still hear him say my name.We rocked at metal shows , bonded with SLAYER and The Haunted , we vibed on good hiphop, He was a G, Super mega intelligent , good looking dude , great skater , charismatic but he needed peace. Just like Trevor , he was loved , He was the shining personality in the room. He will be missed. Sorry to see you go. We will catch you at the next stop. If you're considering leaving , just pause and think of those that truly love you and there will always be another day that has some joy and beauty.
Trevor made a friend of darkness. He taught us to laugh at the dark. I heard his voice almost every day of my life. There are few people I can say that about. We will see him again.
as someone who’s got depression and suicidal thoughts from time to time, this hits me hard. The option is always lurking around the corner. Always one step away. It’s horrible to live like this.
I feel it...I have a shitload of mental health issues and it is always lurking...that feeling I shouldn't know so well. Stay strong homie, we'll be alright through strength and adversity.
@@PleaseForgiveYourself me to been suffering from mental health issues like PTSD ANXIETY Depression severe but I fight it in my own with breathing exercises which help so much
@@PleaseForgiveYourself it's damn hard. most ppl think it's a pity party but it's totally the opposite. I don't have much to complain but I'm sick, man. I can't put into words but it's bad.
@@Hell_Inc The invisible war; fought against yourself inside of your own head. Your biggest cries for help, disguised as your funniest jokes. The worst part is... Those are just the thoughts that you're able to voice.
@@Blurzzyface you’re much more eloquent than I could be. But it’s the internal fighting that is draining. Maybe this the word I was I looking for : draining. This everyday struggle is too much. Everyday. Anyways be good. I appreciate you. truly.
I'm so fortunate to have shared a room with him on a few occasions. He was such a cool guy. Alot of metal guys take themselves so goddamn seriously, but these guys are just so humble and talented. RIP Brother and long live the ape.
Rob, we met a long time ago in Fort Lauderdale Florida at a club called Revolution in the early 2000’s with Coal Chamber and Slipknot. We were talking about my friend Frank. Seeing this makes me so sad. My best friend was Frank Watkins from the band Obituary. Frank first told me about TBDM and gave me a demo. This is going back early 2000's. I've been watching different interviews with Trevor since he passed and didn't know he was such a big Obituary fan. Frank passed away from cancer in 2015. I miss him everyday. My prayers and thoughts go out to Trevor's family and friends. REST IN POWER !
I'd never really listened to The Black Dahlia Murder until I listened to Trevor on your podcast. I fell in love with that band the minute I heard them. So thank you for your podcast, Robb. Trevor passing really hit a nerve. Thanks for doing this video!
the man was a complete poet. i have loved TBDM since i was an early teen. his writing was always so eloquent and melodic. i remember he gave me a fist bump after a show in florida and i will never forget that. i always looked up to him and TBDM. RIP Trevor, you will be missed dearly
@@l.-._.-._.-._.-._.-.l agreed. Their entire discography is a shrine to madness Haha. I love it. I'm still in shock man. He will forever be immortal to me though. Stay metal friend
Thanks for doing this Robb. It is absolutely not too soon to talk about it. It helps deal with the pain at the right time. RIP Trevor. See you on the other side brother!
thank you for doing this... Trevor was the man ... never meet him personally but he seem full of light ... he must have been in a dark place and just thought that was a good decision... wish it wasn't true... we all been in our own darkness and unfortunately it takes our life away... going to miss him... RIP TREVOR
"I'll love you forever! And forever it shall be!!!" You were the most brilliant and poetic lyricist in the history of Metal to me. And your highs were unmatched grimness and your love for underground metal was insanely intense. You were a true Warrior of metal! RIP Trevor. We'll miss you.
I’ve been jamming to TBDM since 06-07. I remember going straight to fye after a dentist appointment to pick up nocturnal on its drop day. Finally had the chance to see them live in September 2021! Was hoping to see them again this month with parkway drive! I brought TBDM albums with me too Afghanistan in 2010-2011! Rest in power Trevor!!!
Rest in peace Trevor- a beautiful soul taken too soon and an ambassador for positivity in metal. Robb, I have been thinking about something. Metal and punk rock does attract a lot of emotionally wounded people seeking a spiritual refuge in this music. The reality is that metal and punk rock has a disproportionately large contingent of people (both bands and fans alike) with mental health issues. This music is both an acknowledgement of our pain and an escape from that very pain which haunts us. We need a more honest conversation in metal and punk rock about dealing with our demons and our mental health issues in a productive way. To engage in healthy endeavours to deal with our pain. We need to reinforce the stance that there is always a way to resolve our problems without contemplating ending our lives. Keep doing what you’re doing. This show is great and looking forward to seeing you in London. RIP Trevor, beautiful and sweet soul taken too soon. 🤘🏻
BDM was one of our bigger influences we will miss him dearly. Thank you for this Robb and the previous podcast you did with him. It is still so unreal, we wake up everyday and someway or another he pops back into our minds and we talk again about this tragedy. Every time someone we treasure passes it is very difficult but for some reason like you said in this episode....it is just so damn hard to think that he is gone. He was a great artist and it sucks to lose his talent but I think it hurts to see someone who was so lovable and kind suffer the way he did and then suddenly vanish from us. Trevor lived with a darkness in his mind while providing light to others and that is nothing short of a heroic life.
I am still in disbelief. Of all those we lost in recent years, this one hit me the most. Trevor was a master of his craft and a pillar of good in the communit as well as an inspiration to so many people. He will be sorely missed. This was a nice little catharsis. Rest in peace Trevor
I remember that disaster tour you speak of. I was supposed to see MH with TBDM and Dethklok and was SOOOO stoked! TBDM came on first and we were told MH couldnt be there; I believe Robb was not feeling well. As disappointed as I was... TBDM still killed it! I remember, vividly, Trevor said at the end of a shorter than normal set "well, we better get out of here so you can see who you really came for; Dethklok." And then a bunch of us were like NOOOOOOOOO!!! And we tried to get an encore, but with no avail.... You could tell how sarcastic he was about it too lol what a character he was.... thanks for this podcast they are much needed!
The dudes passion for metal and positivity for his band and fans seemed to radiate from him. A good reminder to check in on your mates, no matter how “happy” they seem. Also thanks for doing this video Robb, it helps
Thanks for doing this Robb. TBDM have been one of my fav bands since I heard Unhallowed, and this is still a gutpunch a week later. The loss for music is incalculable. I'll see you guys in London for your show with Amon Amarth, if you see a big guy in a BDM shirt at the bar, come do a shot with me for Trevor 🤘
Thank you for making this. It’s helping me put closure to this in my mind. Just like so many, Trevor changed my life. My friends and I spotted Trevor and Brian in the crowd at Ozzfest during another band’s set. I was wearing my BDM shirt from Unhallowed and naturally I asked them to sign it. He was super stoked I was wearing it. Brian signed my hotdog and ate the half he signed and Trevor signed my shirt and we talked for a bit. I was so surprised how natural the conversation was. He told me to listen to Carcass and how they were pranking Will Smith and some other stuff I don’t remember. It was so weird/awesome to have a conversation with a band you were solely there to see. It seriously changed everything for my 17 year old brain from then on.
I'm glad your still here Robb, I know how you feel I never met Trevor, but knowing its easy to sink back into these thoughts is heartbreaking stay strong everyone
Thanks for this episode Rob. Trev was the best, dude supported bands big and small and was just so fucking sweet. Really hurts but I hope he’s in a better place. Take care everyone.
The Black Dahlia Murder was one of my first steps into extreme metal in grade school; somewhere along 7th grade. I even remember having a Nocturnal advertisement I cut out of Hit Parader hanging in my locker. Trevor's vocals always stuck out to me in particular, and still do. Nobody can do highs like his, they're forever his own. As I found more and more bands, I'd put them down for a bit, and suddenly a new album would come out and utterly shock me how much crazier they sounded than the one before. This pattern continued into my teens when I was in early high school and Deflorate came out. I remember watching Headbangers Ball and watching the Necropolis music video and being floored by both the music, the video and how much older they had gotten. I immediately bought the album and was lucky enough to find a shirt of theirs that was just awesome (it's unfortunately gone through the years and near impossible to find anymore). At some point in the chaos of my life, I lost track of them and completely missed the release of Ritual (A masterpiece of music in its own right) and didn't hear new TBDM until Everblack released. It happened to pop up on RUclips as I was listening to music, and yet again I was floored. At a certain point in my adult life now, something clicked in my head, and everything TBDM is fell into place for me. I completely got it. It's Metal history in sonic manifestation. Years and years and years of varying genres old and new blended into one cohesive behemoth of a band. Trevor adding so many literary influences from horror to fantasy and everything in between to create a world in each song with it's own soundtrack of orchestrated chaos and personality. All created by stoners I deeply relate with on a fundamental level; because they were me and my friends in high school. Making a band out of sheer will and love for the music and culture we made our own. Lonely people ostracized by society at large coming together in comradery and brotherhood. They immediately became my favorite band upon this realization, and it took much of a life lived as a metal head to completely appreciate what they are. They've always been older than me, I'm 28 now; but in a strange way, I grew up with them. They were there in the background of my life since I was 12 years old. I think this is why Trevor's death has hit me so hard comparatively to other people we've lost through the years. I never even had the chance to see them live living where I live and growing up poor. It's devastating for how much they ended up meaning to me through all those years. I wish I could have thanked him just once for being himself, and just being awesome in an utterly awful world at times. I count each of them as extended brothers in this madhouse as well as every person that helped make mine and many others lives better through their art. Thank you for being there, you will be missed, but not forgotten. RIP Trevor Strnad 🖤
My brother and I were discussing our mourning and grief and we both said its like losing a best friend. having only met trev twice, and my bro never met him, its unimaginable what his real best friends and family are going through. Rest easy, Trev. Your's was not a life taken in vain nor in disgrace. You are a legend immortalized in the music you created.
Interesting to hear you reflect... I went through some similar feelings when I heard. I think partly was to do with my own mental issues. I'm not a big extreme metal fan but it made me very sad and I wasn't sure why it affected me so much. I've seen interviews and had a perception of how I thought he was as a person and I'm glad I was basically exactly right. The Blackening is one of my all time favorite albums and it makes me happy to know how much of an influence he had on it. Also, I live about 15 min from the mass shooting in Buffalo and metal is distracting me from the shit world we live in right now. Metal really is a community that I'm glad to be a part of. RIP Trevor 🤘
My deepest condolences Robb. I had no idea you were such an awesome dude and appreciate this so very much. You clearly cared about Trevor very much, I'm really sorry about the loss of your friend. I'm still sad and I'm just a Dahlia fan from South Africa. They were actually the last band I saw play live. This hit me harder than I would have ever thought. You have a new fan in me and I will be following yourself and Machine Head going forward. Much love brother.
When I was still in college (06-07ish) I got to kick it with him outside the Croc Rock in Allentown PA. It was like talking to one of your best friends.
I appreciate your humility in talking about your relationship to him. Genuine testimony. Thank you Mr. Flynn. This one hurt but I believe it will elevate the discussion of mental health in the metal community.
I really do appreciate this post…I never knew the guy but ALWAYS looked up to him and literally lived for their albums. He is an idol and I am truly beyond gutted!
I was not a fan of Black Dahlia, but I have heard Trevor on a few different podcasts . This dude was an absolute sweetheart of a man. As many have said he was just different. A nice fn dude. Rest In Peace dude.
Somehow I knew that you would do something like this for him Robb, especially since the interview last year. Mental Health is a serious issue, people should understand that life is hard. Be kind to each other out there. RIP to Trevor, His Family, His Friends, and The Band. It just sucks.... Songs like Apex, Unhallowed etc. are death metal classics for sure. I saw TBDM a few times live. One that really stands out is when I saw them open for King Dimond and Nile.... Sick.
RIP Trevor. The dude inspired me to get way more into death metal. Saw them with CCorpse in Detroit. What a show! We've truly lost a metal icon. BDM is a huge musical influence for me and countless upcoming and successful bands.
I feel you. It’s affecting me a lot more than I thought it would also. I can’t stop feeling this overwhelming sadness when I think about him and if he did go the way it seems like he did.
I’m not really a fan of his band so much, but he seemed like a really cool guy and it always sucks when someone who gives so much joy and entertainment to the world feels so lost and hopeless that they feel like there is no way out. The metal world is in mourning, my thoughts are with his family and band mates. RIP Trevor
I still remember finding out. Just got to the theater parking lot and opened my phone to get a news notification from Google about Trevor's passing. Immediately told my friend when they arrived and sat there for 15 minutes in silence. Unironically, all I could think was what a horrible night to have a curse. Hope he's at peace now. Metal does give us that sunshine when all we may see, hear, or even read is darkness. Rip Trev and everyone keep your head up 🤘.
If you are struggling, with any mental health crisis, talk to someone you trust. If you share your thoughts, sometimes it is like a release valve, and that someone will be there for you. A lot of people struggle, this is not unusual. Don’t be afraid to open up.
i just recently discovered TBDM a few weeks ago and it felt like I had found a bunch of new friends and a whole new world of metal. Trevor seemed like a seriously awesome person and had a charisma that was so hard to resist. I am deeply saddened by his loss but I also look forward to exploring all his music. thankfully he got to share his gifts with the world. RIP Trevor
Such a sad day, Trevor is one of my favorite musicians in the World and I have been listening to the Black Dahlia Murder albums all day , there will never be another one like him, one of the greatest 👑 RIP Trevor and Thank you for all the great music and memories 🙏
That's rough, man. But Robb MH Flynn, I'd like to thank you dude for this podcast during this pandemic so we as fans of METAL can have some cold ass beers and check our comrades/musicians talking to ya about tour's stories, the way they really are and etc. just like Trevor did months ago at your podcast. I enjoyed a lot! The world seem a bit smaller without a person like TREVOR STRNAD among us... Thanks a lot TREVOR for your music ambassador🤘
Damn I appreciate the sheer vulnerability in this piece. Not sure if many people share this, but I think it's important to share the bad and the good from these person struggles. I know Robb you got some good stories from being drunk and high, but I also like the disclaimer how it could have led down a dark road if you continued. Great message and great music from your band and Trevor! R.I.P Trevor. Horns up!
My favorite band , this is absolutely devastating much love to all of you we still have , much love to you Rob and all the rest of fellow musicians and fans. 🤘rip Trevor Strnad
I saw the TBDM a couple of times years ago. They’re a fantastic band live. I heard about this on Give Me Metal. Someone was writing in the comments that Trevor had passed. I thought it was some kind of sick joke. Then I found out on the band’s page that it was true. I was shocked and very saddened. The world is dark and cruel to us. I think the lockdowns were just as rough on him as ithey were on all of us. RIP Trevor 🫶🏻🤘🏻
He was in this podcast just 8 months ago. I knew he was in pain but I thought he was feeling better with treatment, but no, not at fucking all... This makes me sad. So talented dude and uncomparable.
It's been a little while since I heard the unbelievable heartbreaking news about Trevor and there's something inside me that refuses to believe he's gone. This fucking sucks, the pain is unreql
"I don't know why but I was really effected by this" I agree. For people I don't know, I usually just keep it pushing. But this bothered me. This one and dmx a while back. Rip
I only met him once but he was just a real down to earth genuine person. No huge ego on display. Spoke to me as if I knew him for years. This pains me.
All i know is, i saw some video of theirs early in their career, like 2003… & something struck me about how he raised his free hand while singing, in a way that i’ve not seen. Call me weird, idk what it was, but the way he was belting out his words & physically emphasizing with the raised arm… all the crazy funny pics i’ve seen of him over the years… that friendly, genuine smile… and i thought to myself that he was gonna go early. i had the same feeling about Jeff Hanneman, Dimebag & Kurt Cobain. Not saying i’m a clairvoyant or any kind of mystical shit like that. It’s just a feeling i had, a feeling i dreaded & feared, yet thought about when i was alone & in my thoughts, listening to their Music. i would cry in those moments of utter solitude & invisibility, as if it had already happened. And it just kills me that all these good ones seem to go first man. They were some of my biggest heroes when all i had in this world was myself, my own worst enemy. Now they’re gone. And i’m still here, a factory defect. That just seems wrong to me. i know what it’s like to try to die. Somehow i survived hanging myself in my mid teens. i very nearly died. i struggle with mental health issues & always have, since i was a pre-teen. Metal saved my life. i heard Metallica in 1986, when i was 10. i secretly lived for the day i could make that sound, too. i still make heavy sh!t happen at 46. It remains to be seen, whether something else will take its place, but i also deeply love my family & my kids, living long enough to hear another great song, or play my drums & guitars, & record my shitty little ideas. It’s barely enough, but it all coalesces & becomes something out of the ashes of my life. i really wish Trevor could have seen a way through to another day. And another. And another. Bc i worry about the plight of that man’s Soul. Just like the rest of the above mentioned guitarists. Thanks Robb. Your Music has also helped me through too many dark seasons. Please don’t go anywhere. Know that you’re among those i have feared to think will not be here, one day too early. i hope you outlive me! Blessings & thank you for your huge portion & contribution to Metal. Glad i was born in this Universe, where all you guys exist. My life was changed forever by all of you. 🤘🏽🤘🏽🤘🏽🦾🦾🦾🔈🔉🔊🎼🥁🎸🎶🎵🖤🖤🖤🌞
I'm on disability for PTSD and BPD. suicide is something I think about often. BUT...Medication DOES HELP!! Counseling/therapy DOES HELP!! I know...sitting in a room and talking isn't going to change your situation, and I don't know why, but just getting it out, getting validation for your crazy thoughts and emotions, learning about why you may think or behave the way you do IS TREMENDOUS for your understanding of yourself. If you feel like doing it, just give yourself 24 hours. make no big decisions for 24 hours. You know your brain isn't thinking clearly right now. I've been in the psych ward twice and both times helped me so much!! Do that. It helps, If in no other way than just getting a break from life's struggles and being in a safe space but sometimes that's all we need. Just a couple days away to calm down and get some insight. There are so many options out there that don't involve harming yourself.
I've studied psychology and work as a counselor and I've noticed the people with severe depression and suicidal thoughts often let those around them know "Hey I'm really struggling and I'm scared of hurting myself" as a way of putting it out there and giving themselves some accountability to the people they tell. Most of the suicides I've seen have been people that do not like asking for help and they certainly don't tell those around them they plan to do it! Opening up and asking for help is a huge sign your not ready to kill yourself yet. The more we discuss our suicidal ideation openly the less likely we are to actually do it. Good luck with your path mate!
I just found out recently and my heart is so broken! He was my idle man! I wanted to go to his last concert but decided not to because my gf was pregnant and we were expecting our first! Every part of me is killing I didn’t go! He’s the reason I’m still grinding till this day! Rip Trevor
I've seen TBDM probably seven or eight times; my favorite was at a shitty little club in Kansas City called The Riot Room(RIP). Misery Index and Napalm Death were there too; the main stage area doesn't have a barricade, and is maybe a foot off the ground. I remember fighting through the pit when they played The Window, screaming lyrics word for word and him leaning down and smiling while singing only a few inches away. They played that show like they were headlining a festival, -- every time, that's how they played: no matter how large or small the venue, they played their hearts out. Another time I saw them open for Metalocalypse, on The Ritual tour, and I got to talk to him for about 20 minutes. We talked about bands like Aborted and Impaled, and why I don't smoke weed anymore. He was a super nice dude, a powerful frontman, and I truly adore his writing. He will be missed profusely.
Trevor was amazing and what a metalhead should be like, open to ALL THE SUB GENRES and Genres of metal one of the few not a elitist by any means going to miss that guy
the only thing that's too soon was Trevor's death. I'm so broken by this, all went down the drain. Love Trevor, a genuine human being who will be forever missed.
Trevor was built from a different cloth. The world needs more people like him and it's a darker place now that he's gone.
You're very right, and it's so ironic that when a death metal icon dies, the world is darker. We need these people.
He was pretty unique in that he was super wholesome, and an absolute nerd in his own field. That’s why he nailed his sound and his writing style was eloquent and incredible.
This all sucks.
No words. Just sad. I don’t understand
Rip to a legend
Honestly, man, I can't thank you enough for posting this as soon as you have. I've felt disconnected from reality since yesterday afternoon, so seeing people talk about it helps. TBDM's routine of releasing an album every two years cemented them as such a massive part of our lives for nearly 20 years. In an almost ritualistic sort of way, we knew there would be a release that year and the new album would become its soundtrack. I think this hits harder than we all expect because Trevor was all of us. He was a living embodiment of the 15 yr old kid we all were, digging through records, constantly searching for the next band to get into, and telling everyone about them. It isn't just Trevor that's gone, but a huge part of ourselves. Thanks again for posting this. RIP Trevor. "Sworn to black we'll always be."
Perfectly said. I’ve tried explaining why this has tore me up so bad and this is a spot on explanation. 🙌🏾
"To my brothers who've fallen before me I will walk with you again"
So well said bud, I'm even considering taking a break from metal for a while and build my identity a little more outside of that world. Trevor was really someone I looked up to and his death made me reconsider why I love that music so much and where it's really leading me. Anyway, all of you guys be well, please! ❤️
@@bingokill it's a piece of you forever, take a break. I've done it a few times but you'll always go back and listen to that sweet loud violence once again.
Another person we lost to the isolation brought on by the pandemic. He said himself in that interview: he can't and shouldn't be left alone with his thoughts. He also spoke of anxiety in relation to performing on stage and how it was manageable when he was in regular touring schedules. After two years of not touring, he was doubting himself about finally returning to the stage.
This sucks man. Quite literally the best vocalist, the best lyricist, the best dude. Universally loved.
I hope he knew just how legendary he was. How poignant and significant. What a lasting effect and memory he long already had on the genre and it's fans.
The definition of phenom and an absolute legend.
I'm 42 years old. About 6 years ago I decided to start working on my mental health, which I knew needed done. I'm bi-polar with PTSD relating to childhood traumas and I have suicidal iterations. It doesn't matter how successful you are, how many people adore you, how financially comfortable you are, how loved you are on a personal level, depression can trump it all. Sometimes, no manner of distraction can overcome that mountain of trauma and pain. I know I'm just a lowly factory worker guy, and, every single day is an emotional struggle for me.
Sending u good vibes
unfortunately I understand you and I wish you nothing but the best and a trillion friendly hugs.
I’m with you brother. Sometimes life is a suffocating black hole. But we’re warriors none the less and we can overcome anything we put our minds to. Never surrender, this storm too shall pass…and it will return time and time again but, let’s take it in stride and remember that nothing is permanent. There will be good times as well
@@corvusthule I'm still here, for my kids. I'm trying to be the example of a father that I never had.
@@davidphillips9726 cheers man, same here! My dad was around but was a drunk and an abusive prick. I’m trying to be everything to my kids that he wasn’t to me. Live, laugh and love them! Having my kids in my life makes all the other trivial shit transparent.
A good friend of mine took his life years ago. It was totally unexpected because he was such a happy guy who loved life, nobody could ever imagine him doing that. It was much later his brother told me that he had gotten a grime cancer diagnosis and he didn’t want to do the treatments. You never know what someone else is carrying.
Thanks Robb. Been trying to process this tragedy and I appreciate you being honest. I feel like I’ve lost a best friend I’ve never met before. Trevor was an incredible man, and thank you for speaking from the heart. The relatability is tangible, and we lost a monument in this microcosm of our fucked up world. I love you Trevor, I’m sorry, and I hope you have found peace. Thank you for sharing your gift. Watch over us brother
Trevor was not only a metal knowledge god, he was also a great friendly person. He was the shit! Thanks for doing what you do.
The Black Dahlia is one of the only bands whose albums I've thoroughly enjoyed through most of time I've been enjoying music. Trevor was an great poet and musician. The world seems to have less in it because of his passing.
I've been listening to them since I first heard Funeral Thirst. That's all it took. They've been one of my top 5 favorite bands since high school. I'm gonna miss TBDM and Trevor greatly. His lyrics were always amazingly deep and metal as fuck!
Trevor Strand was an absolutely wonderful, kind, and positive ambassador in the heavy metal community. He was truly an amazing soul and I will miss him dearly. Loved BDM a lot too, they were so consistent and gave new life to Metal Blade.
Well said. Couldn't agree more nor say it any better dude. Cheers.
Thanks for sharing that man! I’m grateful when Trevor came up to me at the house of blues LA show years back. I just moved to LA and came to the show alone. He saw me there sitting on the curb waiting for the show to start. He came up to me an told me he digged my discharge shirt and thanks for coming to the show. He must have noticed I was alone there. Made me happy an I’ll never forget that. Cool Dude. R.I.P Trevor
Thanks Robb for this. It's NEVER too early to talk about suicide.
One of my close mates decided it was his time. It will be 4 years at the end of this May. We laughed till we cried a few times, we shared many a great memory.
He struggled with his inner demons. I can still hear him say my name.We rocked at metal shows , bonded with SLAYER and The Haunted , we vibed on good hiphop, He was a G, Super mega intelligent , good looking dude , great skater , charismatic but he needed peace.
Just like Trevor , he was loved , He was the shining personality in the room. He will be missed.
Sorry to see you go. We will catch you at the next stop.
If you're considering leaving , just pause and think of those that truly love you and there will always be another day that has some joy and beauty.
condolences on your loss.
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Trevor made a friend of darkness. He taught us to laugh at the dark. I heard his voice almost every day of my life. There are few people I can say that about. We will see him again.
as someone who’s got depression and suicidal thoughts from time to time, this hits me hard.
The option is always lurking around the corner. Always one step away. It’s horrible to live like this.
I feel it...I have a shitload of mental health issues and it is always lurking...that feeling I shouldn't know so well. Stay strong homie, we'll be alright through strength and adversity.
@@PleaseForgiveYourself me to been suffering from mental health issues like PTSD ANXIETY Depression severe but I fight it in my own with breathing exercises which help so much
@@PleaseForgiveYourself it's damn hard. most ppl think it's a pity party but it's totally the opposite. I don't have much to complain but I'm sick, man. I can't put into words but it's bad.
@@Hell_Inc The invisible war; fought against yourself inside of your own head. Your biggest cries for help, disguised as your funniest jokes. The worst part is... Those are just the thoughts that you're able to voice.
@@Blurzzyface you’re much more eloquent than I could be. But it’s the internal fighting that is draining. Maybe this the word I was I looking for : draining. This everyday struggle is too much. Everyday. Anyways be good. I appreciate you. truly.
I'm so fortunate to have shared a room with him on a few occasions. He was such a cool guy. Alot of metal guys take themselves so goddamn seriously, but these guys are just so humble and talented. RIP Brother and long live the ape.
Rob, we met a long time ago in Fort Lauderdale Florida at a club called Revolution in the early 2000’s with Coal Chamber and Slipknot. We were talking about my friend Frank. Seeing this makes me so sad. My best friend was Frank Watkins from the band Obituary. Frank first told me about TBDM and gave me a demo. This is going back early 2000's. I've been watching different interviews with Trevor since he passed and didn't know he was such a big Obituary fan. Frank passed away from cancer in 2015. I miss him everyday. My prayers and thoughts go out to Trevor's family and friends. REST IN POWER !
Thanks for the history buddy and I'm sorry to hear about Frank.
I'd never really listened to The Black Dahlia Murder until I listened to Trevor on your podcast. I fell in love with that band the minute I heard them. So thank you for your podcast, Robb. Trevor passing really hit a nerve. Thanks for doing this video!
the man was a complete poet. i have loved TBDM since i was an early teen. his writing was always so eloquent and melodic. i remember he gave me a fist bump after a show in florida and i will never forget that. i always looked up to him and TBDM. RIP Trevor, you will be missed dearly
Deathmask divine has an amazing lyrical chorus.
@@l.-._.-._.-._.-._.-.l so happy to hear someone say that. It's always been my favorite song from them. Hell it's one of my favorites period
@@apopaf cheers friend! I'd say throne of lunacy is up there as well for me.
@@l.-._.-._.-._.-._.-.l agreed. Their entire discography is a shrine to madness Haha. I love it. I'm still in shock man. He will forever be immortal to me though. Stay metal friend
I can relate to him a lot. My personal favorite depression coping mechanism is making other people happy since I can't make myself happy.b
Thanks for doing this Robb. It is absolutely not too soon to talk about it. It helps deal with the pain at the right time. RIP Trevor. See you on the other side brother!
I met Trevor once at The Rave in Milwaukee and I was at the edge of tears for days when he passed. He will be missed forever.
thank you for doing this... Trevor was the man ... never meet him personally but he seem full of light ... he must have been in a dark place and just thought that was a good decision... wish it wasn't true... we all been in our own darkness and unfortunately it takes our life away... going to miss him... RIP TREVOR
"I'll love you forever! And forever it shall be!!!" You were the most brilliant and poetic lyricist in the history of Metal to me. And your highs were unmatched grimness and your love for underground metal was insanely intense. You were a true Warrior of metal! RIP Trevor. We'll miss you.
I’ve been jamming to TBDM since 06-07. I remember going straight to fye after a dentist appointment to pick up nocturnal on its drop day. Finally had the chance to see them live in September 2021! Was hoping to see them again this month with parkway drive! I brought TBDM albums with me too Afghanistan in 2010-2011! Rest in power Trevor!!!
Rest in peace Trevor- a beautiful soul taken too soon and an ambassador for positivity in metal. Robb, I have been thinking about something. Metal and punk rock does attract a lot of emotionally wounded people seeking a spiritual refuge in this music. The reality is that metal and punk rock has a disproportionately large contingent of people (both bands and fans alike) with mental health issues. This music is both an acknowledgement of our pain and an escape from that very pain which haunts us.
We need a more honest conversation in metal and punk rock about dealing with our demons and our mental health issues in a productive way. To engage in healthy endeavours to deal with our pain. We need to reinforce the stance that there is always a way to resolve our problems without contemplating ending our lives.
Keep doing what you’re doing. This show is great and looking forward to seeing you in London. RIP Trevor, beautiful and sweet soul taken too soon.
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"This affected me more than I thought it would." my thoughts exactly bro, i've lost friends of many years recently that didn't hit me this hard...
BDM was one of our bigger influences we will miss him dearly. Thank you for this Robb and the previous podcast you did with him. It is still so unreal, we wake up everyday and someway or another he pops back into our minds and we talk again about this tragedy. Every time someone we treasure passes it is very difficult but for some reason like you said in this episode....it is just so damn hard to think that he is gone. He was a great artist and it sucks to lose his talent but I think it hurts to see someone who was so lovable and kind suffer the way he did and then suddenly vanish from us. Trevor lived with a darkness in his mind while providing light to others and that is nothing short of a heroic life.
I am still in disbelief. Of all those we lost in recent years, this one hit me the most. Trevor was a master of his craft and a pillar of good in the communit as well as an inspiration to so many people. He will be sorely missed. This was a nice little catharsis. Rest in peace Trevor
Thanks for doing this Robb! He was such a kind soul and THE metal ambassador! Rest in Peace Trevor!
Been putting this off until I was ready. Thank you for sharing Robb. Trevor's death hit me so much harder than I thought it would.
With the closing of this chapter it feels like a bit of my youth went with it. Happy for all the times I got to see TBDM live. Bittersweet.
I remember that disaster tour you speak of. I was supposed to see MH with TBDM and Dethklok and was SOOOO stoked! TBDM came on first and we were told MH couldnt be there; I believe Robb was not feeling well. As disappointed as I was... TBDM still killed it! I remember, vividly, Trevor said at the end of a shorter than normal set "well, we better get out of here so you can see who you really came for; Dethklok." And then a bunch of us were like NOOOOOOOOO!!! And we tried to get an encore, but with no avail.... You could tell how sarcastic he was about it too lol what a character he was.... thanks for this podcast they are much needed!
The dudes passion for metal and positivity for his band and fans seemed to radiate from him. A good reminder to check in on your mates, no matter how “happy” they seem.
Also thanks for doing this video Robb, it helps
Thanks for being so transparent also Rob, really appreciated man.
Thanks for doing this Robb. TBDM have been one of my fav bands since I heard Unhallowed, and this is still a gutpunch a week later. The loss for music is incalculable.
I'll see you guys in London for your show with Amon Amarth, if you see a big guy in a BDM shirt at the bar, come do a shot with me for Trevor 🤘
Man i wish this was a joke. It sucks. Trevor ment so much to me and im sure so many other metalheads.
Yeah, at first I was like "this can't be, is that a meme? some prank?"
@@777malkavian yeah me too damn that hurt
Thank you for making this. It’s helping me put closure to this in my mind. Just like so many, Trevor changed my life. My friends and I spotted Trevor and Brian in the crowd at Ozzfest during another band’s set. I was wearing my BDM shirt from Unhallowed and naturally I asked them to sign it. He was super stoked I was wearing it. Brian signed my hotdog and ate the half he signed and Trevor signed my shirt and we talked for a bit. I was so surprised how natural the conversation was. He told me to listen to Carcass and how they were pranking Will Smith and some other stuff I don’t remember. It was so weird/awesome to have a conversation with a band you were solely there to see. It seriously changed everything for my 17 year old brain from then on.
Thank you Rob, much love - I am going to miss Trevor so much.
You really said it best, Rob. This video was a place for fans to come and mourn 💔
I'm glad your still here Robb, I know how you feel I never met Trevor, but knowing its easy to sink back into these thoughts is heartbreaking stay strong everyone
Thanks for this episode Rob. Trev was the best, dude supported bands big and small and was just so fucking sweet. Really hurts but I hope he’s in a better place. Take care everyone.
The Black Dahlia Murder was one of my first steps into extreme metal in grade school; somewhere along 7th grade. I even remember having a Nocturnal advertisement I cut out of Hit Parader hanging in my locker. Trevor's vocals always stuck out to me in particular, and still do. Nobody can do highs like his, they're forever his own. As I found more and more bands, I'd put them down for a bit, and suddenly a new album would come out and utterly shock me how much crazier they sounded than the one before. This pattern continued into my teens when I was in early high school and Deflorate came out. I remember watching Headbangers Ball and watching the Necropolis music video and being floored by both the music, the video and how much older they had gotten. I immediately bought the album and was lucky enough to find a shirt of theirs that was just awesome (it's unfortunately gone through the years and near impossible to find anymore). At some point in the chaos of my life, I lost track of them and completely missed the release of Ritual (A masterpiece of music in its own right) and didn't hear new TBDM until Everblack released. It happened to pop up on RUclips as I was listening to music, and yet again I was floored. At a certain point in my adult life now, something clicked in my head, and everything TBDM is fell into place for me. I completely got it. It's Metal history in sonic manifestation. Years and years and years of varying genres old and new blended into one cohesive behemoth of a band. Trevor adding so many literary influences from horror to fantasy and everything in between to create a world in each song with it's own soundtrack of orchestrated chaos and personality. All created by stoners I deeply relate with on a fundamental level; because they were me and my friends in high school. Making a band out of sheer will and love for the music and culture we made our own. Lonely people ostracized by society at large coming together in comradery and brotherhood. They immediately became my favorite band upon this realization, and it took much of a life lived as a metal head to completely appreciate what they are. They've always been older than me, I'm 28 now; but in a strange way, I grew up with them. They were there in the background of my life since I was 12 years old. I think this is why Trevor's death has hit me so hard comparatively to other people we've lost through the years. I never even had the chance to see them live living where I live and growing up poor. It's devastating for how much they ended up meaning to me through all those years. I wish I could have thanked him just once for being himself, and just being awesome in an utterly awful world at times. I count each of them as extended brothers in this madhouse as well as every person that helped make mine and many others lives better through their art. Thank you for being there, you will be missed, but not forgotten. RIP Trevor Strnad 🖤
Thanks for this Rob . Been taking his loss really hard and it helped to here some nice words from a legend
Trevor still was dealing with his mom passing last year and now Trevor can be with his mom. R.I.P
My brother and I were discussing our mourning and grief and we both said its like losing a best friend. having only met trev twice, and my bro never met him, its unimaginable what his real best friends and family are going through.
Rest easy, Trev. Your's was not a life taken in vain nor in disgrace. You are a legend immortalized in the music you created.
Interesting to hear you reflect... I went through some similar feelings when I heard. I think partly was to do with my own mental issues. I'm not a big extreme metal fan but it made me very sad and I wasn't sure why it affected me so much. I've seen interviews and had a perception of how I thought he was as a person and I'm glad I was basically exactly right. The Blackening is one of my all time favorite albums and it makes me happy to know how much of an influence he had on it.
Also, I live about 15 min from the mass shooting in Buffalo and metal is distracting me from the shit world we live in right now. Metal really is a community that I'm glad to be a part of. RIP Trevor 🤘
Fellow Buffalo metal nerd and lover of the Blackening who is also going through some tough times. Hi!
good to hear you talk about him man, still beyond shocked at this. happened so damn fast. RIP
My deepest condolences Robb. I had no idea you were such an awesome dude and appreciate this so very much. You clearly cared about Trevor very much, I'm really sorry about the loss of your friend. I'm still sad and I'm just a Dahlia fan from South Africa. They were actually the last band I saw play live. This hit me harder than I would have ever thought. You have a new fan in me and I will be following yourself and Machine Head going forward. Much love brother.
When I was still in college (06-07ish) I got to kick it with him outside the Croc Rock in Allentown PA. It was like talking to one of your best friends.
I appreciate your humility in talking about your relationship to him. Genuine testimony. Thank you Mr. Flynn. This one hurt but I believe it will elevate the discussion of mental health in the metal community.
I really do appreciate this post…I never knew the guy but ALWAYS looked up to him and literally lived for their albums. He is an idol and I am truly beyond gutted!
I miss him so freaking much! Words cannot express the sadness we're all feeling.
I was not a fan of Black Dahlia, but I have heard Trevor on a few different podcasts . This dude was an absolute sweetheart of a man. As many have said he was just different. A nice fn dude. Rest In Peace dude.
This was a very touching episode to watch. Losing Trevor affected me more than I thought it would when I first heard the news. May he Rest In Power.
Somehow I knew that you would do something like this for him Robb, especially since the interview last year. Mental Health is a serious issue, people should understand that life is hard. Be kind to each other out there. RIP to Trevor, His Family, His Friends, and The Band. It just sucks.... Songs like Apex, Unhallowed etc. are death metal classics for sure. I saw TBDM a few times live. One that really stands out is when I saw them open for King Dimond and Nile.... Sick.
RIP Trevor. The dude inspired me to get way more into death metal. Saw them with CCorpse in Detroit. What a show! We've truly lost a metal icon. BDM is a huge musical influence for me and countless upcoming and successful bands.
I feel you. It’s affecting me a lot more than I thought it would also. I can’t stop feeling this overwhelming sadness when I think about him and if he did go the way it seems like he did.
I’m not really a fan of his band so much, but he seemed like a really cool guy and it always sucks when someone who gives so much joy and entertainment to the world feels so lost and hopeless that they feel like there is no way out. The metal world is in mourning, my thoughts are with his family and band mates. RIP Trevor
I still remember finding out. Just got to the theater parking lot and opened my phone to get a news notification from Google about Trevor's passing. Immediately told my friend when they arrived and sat there for 15 minutes in silence. Unironically, all I could think was what a horrible night to have a curse. Hope he's at peace now. Metal does give us that sunshine when all we may see, hear, or even read is darkness. Rip Trev and everyone keep your head up 🤘.
If you are struggling, with any mental health crisis, talk to someone you trust. If you share your thoughts, sometimes it is like a release valve, and that someone will be there for you. A lot of people struggle, this is not unusual. Don’t be afraid to open up.
R.I.P. TREVOR you will always be loved and missed. The world lost an amazing man,soul and muscian
i'm going to miss his spellcasting, can only imagine how the fam and the band are feeling. you will be remembered forever.
Thank you for this Robb. This one cuts deep. Real deep.
Thank you Robb, for sharing your stories
This sucks so bad man. Trevor gave me alot of good times and memories as a fan. Huge loss for the metal community
Thank you Robb. I, we needed this. The timing is perfect.
i just recently discovered TBDM a few weeks ago and it felt like I had found a bunch of new friends and a whole new world of metal. Trevor seemed like a seriously awesome person and had a charisma that was so hard to resist. I am deeply saddened by his loss but I also look forward to exploring all his music. thankfully he got to share his gifts with the world. RIP Trevor
Rob thank you for this. This helps with the pain of the loss. 🤘🤘 Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Trevor was an absolute pillar of the death metal community and without him it feels our structural integrity has been weakened.
Such a sad day, Trevor is one of my favorite musicians in the World and I have been listening to the Black Dahlia Murder albums all day , there will never be another one like him, one of the greatest 👑 RIP Trevor and Thank you for all the great music and memories 🙏
That's rough, man. But Robb MH Flynn, I'd like to thank you dude for this podcast during this pandemic so we as fans of METAL can have some cold ass beers and check our comrades/musicians talking to ya about tour's stories, the way they really are and etc. just like Trevor did months ago at your podcast. I enjoyed a lot! The world seem a bit smaller without a person like TREVOR STRNAD among us... Thanks a lot TREVOR for your music ambassador🤘
What a guy. He had me hooked from the Statutory Ape music video. Loved the fun energy he brought with the band. Rip Trevor 🤘🏽.
Still can't get over this. So sad 😭
Damn I appreciate the sheer vulnerability in this piece. Not sure if many people share this, but I think it's important to share the bad and the good from these person struggles.
I know Robb you got some good stories from being drunk and high, but I also like the disclaimer how it could have led down a dark road if you continued. Great message and great music from your band and Trevor!
R.I.P Trevor. Horns up!
not to soon Robb...to many people taking their own lives...needs to be spoken..much love
Thank You for this
My favorite band , this is absolutely devastating much love to all of you we still have , much love to you Rob and all the rest of fellow musicians and fans. 🤘rip Trevor Strnad
Thanks for doing this robb.
Dude, when Christ Deformed kicks in.. That intro is so insanely tight!
Trevor you will be missed dearly not only by me but friends , fans, band mates Rest In Peace my friend
I saw the TBDM a couple of times years ago. They’re a fantastic band live. I heard about this on Give Me Metal. Someone was writing in the comments that Trevor had passed. I thought it was some kind of sick joke. Then I found out on the band’s page that it was true. I was shocked and very saddened. The world is dark and cruel to us. I think the lockdowns were just as rough on him as ithey were on all of us. RIP Trevor 🫶🏻🤘🏻
Man....he was a bad ass singer!!! R.I.P LEGEND!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
He was in this podcast just 8 months ago. I knew he was in pain but I thought he was feeling better with treatment, but no, not at fucking all... This makes me sad. So talented dude and uncomparable.
It's been a little while since I heard the unbelievable heartbreaking news about Trevor and there's something inside me that refuses to believe he's gone. This fucking sucks, the pain is unreql
"I don't know why but I was really effected by this"
I agree. For people I don't know, I usually just keep it pushing. But this bothered me. This one and dmx a while back.
Rip
I only met him once but he was just a real down to earth genuine person. No huge ego on display. Spoke to me as if I knew him for years. This pains me.
All i know is, i saw some video of theirs early in their career, like 2003… & something struck me about how he raised his free hand while singing, in a way that i’ve not seen. Call me weird, idk what it was, but the way he was belting out his words & physically emphasizing with the raised arm… all the crazy funny pics i’ve seen of him over the years… that friendly, genuine smile… and i thought to myself that he was gonna go early. i had the same feeling about Jeff Hanneman, Dimebag & Kurt Cobain.
Not saying i’m a clairvoyant or any kind of mystical shit like that. It’s just a feeling i had, a feeling i dreaded & feared, yet thought about when i was alone & in my thoughts, listening to their Music.
i would cry in those moments of utter solitude & invisibility, as if it had already happened. And it just kills me that all these good ones seem to go first man. They were some of my biggest heroes when all i had in this world was myself, my own worst enemy.
Now they’re gone. And i’m still here, a factory defect. That just seems wrong to me.
i know what it’s like to try to die. Somehow i survived hanging myself in my mid teens. i very nearly died. i struggle with mental health issues & always have, since i was a pre-teen. Metal saved my life. i heard Metallica in 1986, when i was 10. i secretly lived for the day i could make that sound, too. i still make heavy sh!t happen at 46.
It remains to be seen, whether something else will take its place, but i also deeply love my family & my kids, living long enough to hear another great song, or play my drums & guitars, & record my shitty little ideas. It’s barely enough, but it all coalesces & becomes something out of the ashes of my life.
i really wish Trevor could have seen a way through to another day. And another. And another. Bc i worry about the plight of that man’s Soul. Just like the rest of the above mentioned guitarists.
Thanks Robb. Your Music has also helped me through too many dark seasons. Please don’t go anywhere. Know that you’re among those i have feared to think will not be here, one day too early. i hope you outlive me!
Blessings & thank you for your huge portion & contribution to Metal. Glad i was born in this Universe, where all you guys exist. My life was changed forever by all of you. 🤘🏽🤘🏽🤘🏽🦾🦾🦾🔈🔉🔊🎼🥁🎸🎶🎵🖤🖤🖤🌞
Really enjoyed this one Rob. Trevor sounded like a great guy. All the best Rob. Rip Trevor.
Love Dahlia, loved Trevor's voice, personality and lyrics. Incredibly sad for all his family and friends, and us, his fans. Rest In Power.
Band: Scarlet
Song: obsolete
Album: this was always meant to fall apart
Rest easy Warrior Knight. Your songs gave me power for a 1000 battles strong.
I'm on disability for PTSD and BPD. suicide is something I think about often. BUT...Medication DOES HELP!! Counseling/therapy DOES HELP!! I know...sitting in a room and talking isn't going to change your situation, and I don't know why, but just getting it out, getting validation for your crazy thoughts and emotions, learning about why you may think or behave the way you do IS TREMENDOUS for your understanding of yourself.
If you feel like doing it, just give yourself 24 hours. make no big decisions for 24 hours. You know your brain isn't thinking clearly right now. I've been in the psych ward twice and both times helped me so much!! Do that. It helps, If in no other way than just getting a break from life's struggles and being in a safe space but sometimes that's all we need. Just a couple days away to calm down and get some insight. There are so many options out there that don't involve harming yourself.
I've studied psychology and work as a counselor and I've noticed the people with severe depression and suicidal thoughts often let those around them know "Hey I'm really struggling and I'm scared of hurting myself" as a way of putting it out there and giving themselves some accountability to the people they tell. Most of the suicides I've seen have been people that do not like asking for help and they certainly don't tell those around them they plan to do it! Opening up and asking for help is a huge sign your not ready to kill yourself yet. The more we discuss our suicidal ideation openly the less likely we are to actually do it. Good luck with your path mate!
I just found out recently and my heart is so broken! He was my idle man! I wanted to go to his last concert but decided not to because my gf was pregnant and we were expecting our first! Every part of me is killing I didn’t go! He’s the reason I’m still grinding till this day! Rip Trevor
I've seen TBDM probably seven or eight times; my favorite was at a shitty little club in Kansas City called The Riot Room(RIP). Misery Index and Napalm Death were there too; the main stage area doesn't have a barricade, and is maybe a foot off the ground.
I remember fighting through the pit when they played The Window, screaming lyrics word for word and him leaning down and smiling while singing only a few inches away. They played that show like they were headlining a festival, -- every time, that's how they played: no matter how large or small the venue, they played their hearts out.
Another time I saw them open for Metalocalypse, on The Ritual tour, and I got to talk to him for about 20 minutes. We talked about bands like Aborted and Impaled, and why I don't smoke weed anymore.
He was a super nice dude, a powerful frontman, and I truly adore his writing. He will be missed profusely.
Maybe smoke a little weed for him...
Thank you Robb.
Trevor fue mi top 3 vocalistas favoritos 😢😢😭😭😭💔
Trevor was amazing and what a metalhead should be like, open to ALL THE SUB GENRES and Genres of metal one of the few not a elitist by any means going to miss that guy
we'll miss you trevor
the only thing that's too soon was Trevor's death. I'm so broken by this, all went down the drain. Love Trevor, a genuine human being who will be forever missed.
i've been to a show in Montreal where you were playing with them, ATR and Dethklok, i'll never forget
*May* Trevor Strnad *finally be at peace.*