The whole “I am so unique” thing literally drove me to be in a depressed state. My cure was saying “actually, I’m a regular old person”. It was a relief. Made it easier for me to connect with others. - INFJ
The problem with all these videos is they lack objectivity and place personal choice in a strange capacity. Nothing can BE AN ABSOLUTE TO AN INFJ until they choose it then test the hell out of it. These videos lack humility. Awfully preachy to the one type that will never listen to you or anyone else. I dislike my tone here but age and wisdom are kicking. I worry that many will not have the emotional and or mental capacity to distinguish peer connectivity from a basic must do or else overtone. I'm sure on a whole the mutual connectivity from channel representative to the subscriber is overwhelming enough for the initial contact. After that, the depth of provided information was surface and honestly I can't imagine not feeling some inner voice concerned the most sensitive vulnerable and intentioned archetype was left umph.
ENFJ here. My depression tells me that no one understands me, then tells me I'm unoriginal and a waste of space. I make no sense. Wish I could do that. I'm happy you're happy and hope you find someone who gets you so you don't have to comfort yourself one day
@@lauriescott9775you said a whole bunch of nothing. Yes most of what he does is surface level content. I'm pretty sure most people realize this. Who cares? If you don't like it don't watch. It's mainly for comedy and definitely oversimplified. If you can't realize that. That's your problem.
I'm an INFP and I'm low-key terrified of being put in a leadership position. I remember in high school one of my English teachers said I could make a good leader and some people agreed, and there was one girl that shook her head and said "She's too quiet." Despite all the other comments, that's the one that got to me the most. I have often have a hard time believing in myself, and I'm so used to being and doing things on my own. I've also had some of my ideas stolen, making it difficult for me to trust people, so I'd say this "misconception" is pretty accurate in my case.
As an INFP, I have always found it odd that I get placed in leadership roles mostly against my will. I would never apply for a job that requires leadership but end up being in one. I think it's because I am 100% passionate about what I do and people find me to be very supportive and innovative. Thanks FJ. 😁
Same for me, it took a long time for me to believe I could be a good leader, in my work we have a term called “servant leadership” and it basically means lead by example, there no task that is below you, if it needs to be done whether you’re a manager or not you do it, help your team and they’ll help you, our passions can make us really good at that
As entp who has infp friend, whatever I see topic that relates to their interest,I would let them take over even they don't want since i want to see how far the potential they got and I would support them for the speech session whatever they need.Kinda fun
As an intj, I thought that having fun is pointless, way before I gave mbti. But during covid, even though the home school was like living my dream. But after a few months, I learned one important lesson. Give yourself experiences. I started doing shopping with my mom, attend different online fests, try silly games. These all let me learn so much more about my surroundings, and expand my strategy quota. And I still try to keep up my hunger for learning new things. So, FJ sure is true.
As an INTJ, I am also regretting the fact that I spent my lockdown by doing nothing cause I was just happy about being alone in the house. I just realised it now like how much time I have wasted and could've learnt some new things. One thing that lockdown helped in doing is I could spent some time with my parents and kind of engaging in hobbies but I didn't do any outside stuffs which kind of created a great impact on me after lockdown. I hated the fact to go out anywhere and meet people and just wanted to stay in house. I guess you may call it as a social anxiety at first but after sometimes I was able to overcome that. So now I am hanging out with my friend even though that's only once or twice in 2 months but giving yourself some free time is really important.
That's totally the same for me. I thought having fun was pointless even before I took the test. But now I'm forced to have fun. Otherwise, I won't be able to finish this school year or at least keep myself in the right mind.
my bros an intj and I think he mastered FJ's advice. hes kidna sick of doing the same thing over and over and loves to be outside, working out more than once a day
I don't really think fun is pointless because from what I've observed, I am better functioning when I've stepped out of my house. I always have the urge of sticking to my comfort zone but when I'm not within the narrow confines of my wall is when I'm truly learning new things. Also, my idea of fun is not partying or clubbing. It's rather exploring new places, being close to nature, visiting museums and art galleries. Also, theme parks. And all of these, as much as I hate to admit, I prefer doing it with someone. Not alone. It's nice to have someone to share my experiences with. To share the moment with. What I really find pointless is future planning. Like, I know what I want to do 5 years from now but I'm not so rigid about it because you never know if you'll see tomorrow. So having a little fun from time to time and creating moments is what makes life worth living for me. Otherwise, what's the point of chasing jobs/money/anything materialistic when at the end, It's all fleeting. You can't hold onto these forever. And even now when I look back, I don't cherish the time I topped in class or that I avoided any activity to focus on academics. What I really cherish is when I was forced to skip classes and had a thralling, memorable experience because of it. So yeah, I don't try to be spontaneous because I'm still afraid of it. But when spontaneity come my way, I welcome it with open arms. I dont succumb to anything.
As an INFP who has been put into leadership positions, I find it's easier to be in charge when you go in with a plan, especially for when things go wrong. Although, your colleagues will look to you for guidance, it's not a bad thing to get their opinions on things every once in a while. Sometimes they may know something you don't.
As an INTP, I agree with this 100%. I worry way too much about what other people think of me and sometimes I find myself just giving up and thinking that I just can't fit in with people. But I think that me, and other INTP's underestimate our inferior Fe by a lot. We can fit in with almost all the other types, it might just take a bit of work. For any fellow INTP's, just get yourself out there! The more experience you get, the more you will be able to hold a conversation and understand social cues. And just be friendly in general. Like FJ said, nobody cares that much if you mess up. You got this lol
Same! I always feel a little unsettled though, by the fact I know others don't really understand how my brain works, especially if I'm in an 'on it' mood with a task and others get upset by the directness I give off. After years of editing my words sometimes I just can't be bothered, feel like I'm having to make more of an effort than the other person. But millions of INTP's out there the same and we die anyway so... who cares :D
I’m the opposite, I just can’t be bothered to care what others opinions are of me. It puts me in situations where I’ve unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings just by existing and doing things my own way. It’s hard for me to make up with people when that happens because I feel like I’ve done nothing wrong and I struggle to understand why they are getting so upset by me just doing my own thing. I’m trying to be more emotionally aware though…
This is why i'm glad i met my lifelong friends (group of 9, 20+ years and counting) when we were little and we're all different mbti types. I still have the emotional capacity of a doorknob, but i learned to communicate from them all. Our quirks not even warranted a blink but we'll call each other out when we crossed a line, e.g. if i say something too bluntly they'll tell me that they understood what i want to say but will give an example on how to say it more effectively (and not accidentally hurt other's feeling)
I actually realized I can get along with anyone if I just put in the effort, but it takes waaaaayyyy too much energy. That's the problem. So it's a conundrum because obviously experience is the greatest teacher, and practice to stay sharp on my "game", but at the same time, too many social experiences each week can really be just too exhausting. I think it's OK to just not be perfectly fitting in with everyone and and choose a few people you really like to try to relate with regularly.
As an INFP who is in a leadership position and has doubted my capabilities to lead and would not, for the life of me, delegate tasks, THIS IS HELPFUL. Thank you, FJ ✨
@@atmodlee i notice that.. sometimes I'm surprised when some people come to me to ask my opinion on certain things that is not related to my profession as a nurse. Too many to mention. But I can't even fix my own situations, ie. solve my own problems, give myself good advice, get over my crush. 😂
@@atmodlee I am an INTJ with an INFP best friend. Of course, not everyone under this type is the exact same, but I can tell you that she has changed my life. She has gotten me to open up emotionally and trust her in a way that I could never trust anyone else. She is immensely respectful, empathetic, understanding, admirable, smart, clever, and has an excellent sense of humor. She is often misunderstood. There is no one like her--and I mean that as a compliment. She is her own person while also tending to relate to others. I am proud of my personality type, but INFP is by far my favorite one.
You are so right! As ENFP I had so many interests, like theatre, writing, singing, dancing, painting, animals, criminology and more that I couldn't choose because of FOMO. I almost lost my chance to do sth in life as a career but fortunately I chose psychology and now I have as wide range of possibilities as I like to have
Oh man it's so me.... It's exhausting. Here I am, 46 years old and thinking about either going back to school, starting a business, starting a RUclips channel, just finding a new job, maybe move to a different country 😂 I'm tired 😅😅😅
Omg…this is so spot on. (INTP here) I have always found myself caring so much about what others think, and as a response to that I try not to care at all; just say things the way they are. My family has always told me I am very blunt or just don’t speak much. So it is a struggle to communicate how I see things without dismissing someone else’s feelings or pov.
This is why I don't buy the notion that typology "puts you into a box". Who you are as a PERSON is not limited to your PERSONALITY type. If anything, typology SHOWS you the box that you ARE in, so that you can GET OUT of it
As an INFP, THIS IS SO TRUE. I’m a musician who makes all his music alone in his room because I’m uncomfortable with others meddling in my ideas, and I’m too timid to be a band leader. I want to respect the musicianship of others, but as such I hate telling people what to do. My whole life I’ve dreamed of musical success, but I know it will never come if I can’t assert myself in my own vision. (That said, doing everything on my own has forced me to develop skills I otherwise wouldn’t have.)
I would recommend reading the other INFP comments. When we're passionate about what we're doing, we become natural leaders. The leap to do so is scary, but is so satisfying. You have the ability to succeed with your experience, so trust yourself. 🙂
My boyfriend is an ISFJ and what you said about conflict avoidance is so true. Sometimes on a rare occasion that we are having an argument an unrelated issue will come up all of the sudden and I’m like “wait a second, that bothers you? I always do that and you never brought it up. How long have you been annoyed at me because of that?… what? SINCE THE BEGINNING? And you never said anything until now? We have been dating for years! Why didn’t you tell me!?” I now often find myself asking him “does this bother you? Tell me the truth.” even about random stuff that I would have never paid attention to because I know he won’t bring it up himself even if it does, he will just let it slide until eventually one day it blows up.
INTP: I often feel it is waste to explain to others my actions and it creates (almost everytime) negative misunderstanding. You know the scenes in the movies when one character blames the other for something and they remain silent and you are frustrated why they simply dont explain themselves? Yeah, thats me
I am an INTJ. I often feel as if people do the same to me, although I am the polar opposite of silent every time. I respect the way that you can just stay silent. I tend to make the mess even messier, haha.
Man, callin me out with INFP... This is completely accurate. Worrying about being a good leader is lower on my list of insecurities - I've been placed into leadership roles quite a lot, and I really don't mind it, I find it rewarding to be the guidance that someone needs - but I absolutely am protective of my projects and the dreams I want to accomplish, I struggle with letting other people in on it, even when help would be incredibly beneficial in so many ways. I've had a very "if you want it done right you have to do it yourself" type of mindset. It makes me very possessive over projects and the specific image I have of them, in a sense that if someone else worked on it and they didn't produce something exact to my vision, I wouldn't be able to do anything about it cause it'd seem mean to criticize them when they're just trying to help kfjfhj. Definitely something good to realize and keep in mind for improvement!
As an ENFJ student I have always asked my teachers questions and tried to foster connection with people in my classes... Sometimes it's hard for people to realize but that social interaction helps me learn!
I believed for years that my 36 year old daughter was an ENTJ because she was such a badass. So courageous. She takes no crap. And moved into a supervisory position after just a few years. But she took a mbti test a few months ago and got INFP. I was shocked.
Frank, I am an INTJ and my jaw almost dropped in surprise when you talked about "fun being a waste of time". Days ago I said this very thing to my wife and she, a probable ESFP who didn't want to take the test, got a little scared. Thank you
My jaw dropped as well. For a long time I wasn't sure what my type was bc there's a lot of things I can relate to in types other than INTJ, but FJ's videos have made me realize that yes. I am indeed an INTJ.😂
When you first began to mention INFP’s misconception, I thought you’d say “they aren’t good *enough*” and I thought “yep 🥲 so true.” Leadership is somewhat true only because I’m capable of stepping up when necessary but can come off as an ESTJ when I do it (and it scares people 🤣)
I feel like I can be the same in leadership positions (fellow INFP), but it isn't that strange given the cognitive functions are the same. ESTJs can be really effective leaders though so if we can tap into their efficiency and the way the healthy ESTJ supports others' strengths, while maintaining a creative vision we could probably do something special...maybe 😅
Same. I scare myself by turning into a pseudo ESTJ. At the same time I kinda like it and feel powerful for once. I just don’t know how long I can keep up that unnatural state.
I think another way to phrase it would be "INFPs think they can't trust others to help them carry out their goals". But when we do, even if only out of necessity, great things can happen as you mentioned. I've been struggling with thoughts like this in more than one setting recently, so I hope that I can take advantage of this wisdom somehow.
Sorta true. I used to be called tyranny by my teacher because of this pseudo ESTJ leading a group project lol Welp the problem is the classmates are procrastinate harder than myself. If I didn't do something, my own grade will be flunked lower than them since I can't lead those procrastinators to work hard, so... yeah had to be strict
as an INFP, that was one of the most relatable things I've ever seen. I struggle with this a LOT - I want to do something like writing, animating and producing an entire cartoon by myself when that isn't really realistic. But I wouldn't ask for help because I want to keep my ideas to myself, and the only time I'd show someone was after it was done :/
For INFJs thinking that they can't find "their place", I have a couple of pieces of advice, because I was in a very similar situation. 1) like Frank said, we (INFJs) are rare, but not THAT rare, and there are many people similar enough to us that it's absolutely possible to find a place where you feel more comfortable. If you're a bat that's grown up around birds, you're gonna think that there's no one like you, but as soon as you find another bat, you'll know that you're not alone. Indulge your "weirder" interests, and you'll surely find people more similar to you. 2) Even if you don't find "your place" out there in the world, you can Make your own place. I know we have Fe, and we want to fit in with everyone else, but it might actually be detrimental to us to try to fit in Too much. You have skills that many other people don't, so if you can find comfort in being "different" and starting to share it more, you can carve out your Own place in the world; you don't have to fit into a slot that already exists.
Yes!! Just be your weird self and everything will be so much better! xD I've started to more fully be myself in social contexts and claiming more space (even if it is with silence). I tell myself: "Since I've always adapted so much to others my entire life (and taken it for granted like isn't this what everybody does??), isn't it only fair that others get to adapt to me as well? For once??"😅 Now I don't feel as "responsible" for others' feelings/experiences as I did before. And life feels so much ligther! My god! It's also good to remember that sometimes people need to experience their own lessons in order to grow and develop as persons. Keeping others from conflict or discomfort isn't gonna help them in the long run, and it's also not our responsibility to do so! Our only responsibility is ourselves. I haven't met another INFJ in my life yet, but imagine how cool it would be to meet one at some point, one who's truly themself and shining brightly with their adorable weirdness. How amazing wouldn't that be!! Maybe one day...😁✨
@@FridoGrahnify Absolutely, being more quiet is something I've started to do more recently as well. It's also important to take care of yourself; "treat yourself like someone you're responsible for caring about". And finally, yeah, people don't learn if they don't catch the consequences of their actions. I don't actively Start conflicts (often), but I've started to hang back more now if someone is being an ass. I'm not going to try to smooth things out, they have to learn themselves. Also going by your name I'm gonna assume you're Swedish? Hoppas du hittar någon INFJ att prata med i verkligheten, det kan verkligen hjälpa. 😁
@@JokerCrowe Yeees exactly! It's so important to put focus on things like these, especially in crazy times like now...😨🤯 A lot of people are gonna have to change a lot (as everything everywhere also keeps changing😅), and the best for everyone is if that change can happen as quickly and smoothly as possible. I have just recently, like the last year or so, become so much more passionate about things like history, politics, and justice, and about speaking up about things rather than keeping quiet out of fear of conflict. It's a powerful change! And yes, you assume correctly! Haha! Så du kan svenska, du? Det var inte illa😁
@@FridoGrahnify That's great! Being passionate about things is something that can be really helpful for us to find "our thing/place". Och ja, det underlättar att jag också är svensk 😅 Valde ett engelskt användarnamn för typ 15 år sedan, så nu är jag "fast" med det. 🤣
First of all , we have to trust ourselves that whatever we do is not irritating all the time . I literally asked pardon to my crush when I talked with her while she was studying . We overthink too much (that's what she said) and like for being overlooked all the time , we loose confidence that people will listen to us . But that's where we actually need to improve . .... fellow INFP
As another INFP (specifically 4w3) though I am pretty good at the social thing & am pretty charismatic. I also feel like deep down no one cares what I have to say, so what's the point. Also feel like I am irritating everyone, & that I might be annoying. It comes from overthinking but after being told I was annoying & being shamed for having an opinion growing up. That led to it being rational for me to believe in a way Luckily the people around me now remind me that I am irritating no one & even if I was being annoying it really doesn't matter cause life is annoying sometimes.
I feel the exact same thing, but as an ENTJ. I always plan my day in order of importance and productivity. It can be beneficial at times when I need to focus and do work. However, I’ve found it challenging when me as a person simply requires fun, and I play hard as well. It’s just that I don’t allow my somewhat crazy, witty, fun side to escape due to the fact that I’m always busy. I’ve always related heavily to the INTJ irrespective of my 74% extroversion.
As an INTJ this was the best advice I’ve ever gotten. Really needed to hear that. I’ve noticed myself that whenever I’m in a creative dry spell, it’s because I haven’t done anything new in a while
Lol, that ad was S-tier. Frank's ads are one of the only ones I don't skip. And that song at the end of it was awesome. I'd 100% listen to the full version.
I don't skip his ad's but I really like also Neytirix's but its when Skillshare shows up because she has like pufferfish which apears out of nowhere and at the end of Sponsor advertisment he like blows up.
I’m an INFP who’s been told by many friends and family that I make a great leader, but tbh I don’t really see it. The way I look at it, I just get along well with others lol. But I have started seeing the value in reaching out to others in my creative endeavours. I realized pretty early on that the project I’m currently working needed some outside input if I don’t want to cringe when I look back on it later in life
The INFJ part made my mouth gape 😂 I was almost offended that being so ‘different’ wasn’t true. It definitely stems from the feelings of being misunderstood and being told that my personality type is so rare. Fascinating!
entp problem we know how to be so called perfectionist by knowing how to make people calling us perfectionist but deep inside our thinking telling us you should be telling the truth! what is truth....rumble running... cause beside entp we can be a fake humble isfj+ esfp + charismatic intj+ fearful when needed😂 untill finally our entp calling us i know who i am, i am a dude playing a dude, disguised another dude
Really don’t feel very well represented here as an ENTP, ngl. I’ve never found myself not caring about people, I hate the world and would like to see it burn, ofcourse! But individuals aren’t so bad depending on who it is. Although none of them understand us, yet still.
Really don’t feel very well represented here as an ENTP, ngl. I’ve never found myself not caring about people, I hate the world and would like to see it burn, ofcourse! But individuals aren’t so bad depending on who it is. Although none of them understand us, yet still.
"You should enjoy the little detours to the fullest. Because that's where you'll find the things more important than what you want." (Hunter x Hunter) I'm an INTJ and this is one of my all time favourite quotes. I've always found myself getting too focused on the long-term, to the point where I forget to enjoy (or even fully experience) the present moment. This quote helps to ground me when I feel myself getting into that unhealthy INTJ mindset. I'm sure for a lot of other types this quote is not a revolutionary concept but the first time I heard it was like divine wisdom had been bestowed upon me lmao
You completely nailed my son, who is an ENFJ...I think. What you described is something he's told me several times and I've noticed one on one and group discussion works better for him to learn.👏
I can agree with the INTP’s misconception. I know one and he generally keeps to himself and say little to people he doesn’t care about, but when you’re really close to him, he can say a lot. But I’ve been taking note on how he talks and it’s interesting because he’s good at it! I’ve always said he could be like a RUclipsr or streamer or even a teacher because he’s great at relaying information. I’m an INFJ and have been trying to get him to pay more attention to just social cues and etc., and he’s getting better at at. We met up with 2 random people and he carried the conversation and I was so proud of him and afterwards he was also really happy that he did it!
the infp is extremely accurate 😭 i have so many ideas, i want to do this to do that, it's A LOT. but the fact that i need many people to make that makes me anxious. how can i choose the right people? how can i trust them? how if i need to tolerate people when they do wrong just because they are a part of my team? ((this one is also the reason why i have a hard time to start getting a job because the thought that i need to tolerate my boss or co-worker doing wrong and how toxic work place can be terrified me ngl 💀)) i know how bad is that and it also troubles my life... that's why i start to think about how if i create my own team, my own workplace, but being a leader is also a huge homework for me. i've always thought that i'm capable of good ideas or manage a team project to make it as good as possible, but it's the people that always makes me step back and let someone else be the leader to manage that side ((eventho sometimes i ended up being like i'm the 2nd leader when the team starting to not be like what i want them to be lmaooo 😭))
As an INFP, I agree a 100% that I'm protective about my ideas and want to do it all alone. Like rather than taking help from a person who already knows X, I would think about learning it. Which is exhausting and very impractical. I'm just starting to realise it! Thanks for the video!
As an ENFP I chose the career path as psychologist well how'd you know.?!?!?! Seriously, your instinct is right!!! And I have been following your video for quiet a long time, and you've helped soo much. THANKS FOR THAT. ❤️
I am an ENFJ, and I have had that very problem since entering the software development industry for my work. I was a customer service guy before, a job I had supreme confidence in. My first software dev manager said to me multiple times: "You are a solid, smart programmer. What you need is to be confident in this. Confidence is the only thing you lack." It has been 7 years, now, and I am still in it, and slowly learning to trust my decisions more. I still circle back to that boss in my mind sometimes, and see how far I've come.
As an ISFJ, you were spot on in that I could never truly figure out when it was necessary to put my foot down, so when I did I did it so badly I lost friends and reacted very badly. In reality, its about choosing your battles and that something I'm still learning, but have gotten much better at in my almost 3 decades of living. What I'm feeling rn, however, is the ESFJs segment. I have a huge issue in not being confident in the things I want to pursue because the people around me would disagree with it or its not a stable career path, but not doing what I want to pursue has made me a really miserable over the years, so I'm trying to course correct.
Isfj here. 3:50 yes i noticed that in the past. So now Im very straightforward. It took me a lot of effort and time to be able to get into a conflict. Now I’m really comfortable at telling what’s wrong. Few years before it was almost impossible for me. I can use my Ti more easily now.
As an ENFP I agree on a spiritual level. My inability to stick with anything almost made my life pointless as I went to university… but then I discovered dancing and chose to try sticking to it, to see how much do I really like it. I’ve been dancing for 3,5 years already, it became my career and I realized how many things I can explore within the field only, ENDLESS!!! It doesn’t mean I don’t have other hobbies tho haha
I can relate to both ENTJ and INTJ. Hobbies is a selfish waste of time, and having fun is a waste of time and won't lead to anything meaningful. The amount of effort that I'm still putting to change this programing is tremendous. I was suppose to watch a movie last Friday, and I planned for it, instead, I worked for 3 hours!!! And seriously, the only reason that make me take sometime off, have fun and practice my hobbies is because I know it will help me comeback more energetic and fresh and more creative. SO, having fun is still revolve around work and for the sake of it haha. Now I don't believe that I'm bad in relationships, I'm just not looking for it. It just doesn't occur to me. Thank for the video, Frank. I always end up with valuable information.
Thanks, Frank. Your commercial was cute. I like the aunt giving you a ride. hehe. The INFJ thing...I've never felt like a god, that's for sure. The other part? Yeah, but I"m always working on improving and being less hard on myself. I appreciate your videos. 😊💜
As an INFP in college, i do find it a bit challenging to be a leader, even though most people want me to lol. So, eventually, I'll come through. Other than that, I'll try my best to let my ideas be known, lol. This video is very relatable, it l's kinda scary how accurate it is though 😂
As an INFJ, I have become a better version of myself thanks to your videos . There's still a long way to go, but at least now I feel comfortable living a life.
As an ENFJ, I don't feel I am smart, but my husband who😊😊 is INFJ says I'm very intelligent otherwise he would not be there with me. I still don't see it, but it is the best compliment he ever gave me, and he is not particularly good expressing his feelings. 😊
INFP who is sometimes diagnosed as INTP here and I sure love how the misconceptions are so true. I keep failing my personal projects because I keep thinking sth along the lines of "My job, my doing" etc. Doesn't help that I have a hard time fitting in and everyone seems to be really good at their progress making me think "Agh they keep succeeding in their things but if they do this on their own then aaa I'm useless..." kinda hurts the self esteem ;;;
I always felt incompetent or unintelligent, as an enfj, in school or the workplace. I wasn't good at problem solving like math or other subjects, while everyone around seemed to just.. get it. Teachers and co-workers were always frustrated with me, so I lost a lot of confidence. One even wrote to my boss that I needed more training, which is none of her business!! So I appreciate the reminder Frank, thank you.
Tested as INTJ early in life, and your saying exploring more things/fun in life was key to my (yes, work-related) success. Then discovered I was INFJ. I love just playing with who I am. Keep objectives in mind, but nice to experiment on how to do it. And know if I am not helping people I won't be motivated to do it. People told me to forget about helping others and focus on myself. Worst time ever! I now focus on what helps others and also helps me. That is how I am wired.
16 personalities learning how to drive? Maybe??? Btw I love your videos, they have inspired me. I like how your channel grew, though I do sort of wish you would sometimes put up videos about helping with anxiety and things like that y’know?
whenever you do these types of vids I always try to listen thoroughly to each type as each piece of advice because it always ends up being really helpful anyway - thanks! also the little song u made at the start was amazing xD
As an ENTP I wasted a considerable part of my life convincing myself that I was a loner and and introvert, when in reality it's not such. We don't get in people's faces usually but we enrich ourselves with interaction and connection (specially if it has to do with arguing)
As an INFP with social anxiety, being in leadership is quite scary to me. However, I have found out that my passion for the things I do is stronger than my fear. This passion helps me to do things while afraid. Hence, I feel like I am overcoming fear the moment I don’t let it stop me from doing what I have to do.
ISTJ here, and just yes. I’m a lead in my office in a progressive company which is amazing but also means they are very innovative in their field and have to change a lot (and frequently) to keep up with competitors and stay ahead of the market. As a lead, change is usually first rolled out to us first and we teach the others. The initial “hey, guess what?? New things!” is always my worst day that week because CHANGE. But once I’ve studied it and begin teaching people what I’ve learned, I become a lot more comfortable and confident. I absolutely despised this when I realized how often it could happen at this job, but it’s made me a better leader and teacher and a more stable and confident (and marketable) person.
ISTJ companion here, also often being thrown into situtations that I need to cope with changes a lot. This trained up my flexibility to changes. But I am still irritated everytime someone tells me to change as this triggers my anxiety on missing important details that may lead to chaos. Changes to me also indicates a waste of previous time and resources spent on planning ahead…..
ISTP here, there was a huge party going down which was for my birthday, but my best guess couldn't come, so I changed the location twice before deciding to through 2 parties, a before party and the next week on his arrival because he was in the hospital, he definitely agrees with this video after what you said about the improvising, ps. He is a ENFP
Nice Video FJ I rly mean it INFJ suits your personality type perfectly you’re videos are always my favorite to watch as if rn cuz I going through a lot and it’s comforting 💙💙💙
You got it right my overwhelming fear back then was just me assuming that I'm wrong without any reason but not because i don't know why . Well if I don't know why i won't even realize that I'm wrong . My Ti is pretty good with reasoning and i respect and listen to it . But i think what really made me hold back my opinion is early realization of societal consequences and my fear of being rejected so i just kept my reasons to myself and it was so painful :') luckily i learned that sharing my opinion is important ✨ _ esfj
The INTJ was so accurate! I find it hard to explain to people that it feels like I'm wasting time while doing something without a plan, but at the same time I know that I may discover something new while doing that, and that's STRESSING me out >-
As an INTJ I find myself in both intj and infj part of the video. Ps I like to try new things for example traveling, but as you said always if there's some point in that and I can learn/gain something useful. It is also always well planned, so it doesn't mess with my everyday plans and life, and I have to charge my batteries by being alone too. Google, music, movies, books and alone walks are my greatest plug ins.
INFP this is so true I’m really protective with my ideas and creativity I want to show a lot of people but at the same time I don’t want no one to know teal I looked at all the possibilities
1:22 dropped everything to rewatch the sponser portion of the video 😂(not gonna mention how many times), absolutely LOVED IT! literally the epitome of cool and attractive😎✨
INFJ here. I think many INFJ:s may be really sceptical at first about these tests or just cheat on the test to get a different result just to fit in. At least I did because of the societal expectations, I did not feel comfortable answering the questions based on how I truly felt but how society expects me to feel. It's been really liberating to finally figure out I'm an INFJ and get to know myself. I used to get different results from the test everyday based on how I felt about the surrounding world until I finally decided to be brutally honest with myself and INFJ it is. I used to get INTP on the test but felt something is off. Maybe I have a lot in common with INTP:s but still I'm an INFJ. Edit, trying to be more social and to put myself out there, I feel that my personality type can't be that uncommon but again I have little to no common experiences with other people (irl at least). I mean I can fit in if I really want to but it's not truly me, it's a version of me that is compatible with the society...? Any INFJ:s or other personality types your input is welcome here!
Fellow INFJ here- I totally feel the same way! Thank you for sharing your experience and best of luck as we both try to become more social and step out of our social comfort zones (important though: never change how you act in order to find more social circles or believe that you are ‘too quiet’ or ‘too different.’ I know this is a cliché but always try to be yourself and that way you can surround yourself with people who connect with the real you!) 😊
Hey Frank, great video as always! The edition was top notch and left me rofling more than once 👌🤣 Just a suggestion for future videos of this format, keep the name of the type you are talking about somewhere in a corner of the screen so if we get distracted for a second or two (wandering minds... ADHD + INFP problems) we don't lose track of which type you are talking about and have to wait anxiously until you say the name again. 🙏
I'm newly "transformed" into INTJ from INFP and even previously ENFP. I'm glad when Frank said those misconception that INTJ will have, I literally said "true, true.. we need to try new fun things, leisure and me time--maybe too much, to stay inspired!" Glad I'm still dragging those ENFP and INFP thingy to my new-found INTJ hahaha
Hi Frank. Can you make a video on how to get such a deep and comprehensive understanding of all the types as you do? Maybe some pointers, or some books that can help? Thanks.
ISFP--Yeah, as an art student (merely a coincidence for my mbti) who has been attending critiques for a few years now, it can suck. Personally, I have a hard time separating how it feels with its value (the critique) and this has often altered how I've even originally seen or liked my work before, seemingly against my will. Cause while I'm aware that its happening to benefit me (for the most part, some critiques can be toxic and it takes time to figure out what's actually helpful), it doesn't really change how it makes me feel. So sometimes it takes a bit of riding that emotion out to get to the actual absorption of the critique. And I will say, that after receiving so many critiques, a critique that takes the time to carefully take apart your work, for better or worse, is sometimes more desired than nothing......sometimes
INFJs don’t have to accept that their not weird to find their place in the world. We definitely are weird but if you accept your weirdness and own it you’ll find people who accept you for the weirdo you are. It may take time but you will.
I think that learning not to accept that you are special or want to be special helps you to be more open in meeting or trying different people. There are people who are not as weird as you but they will accept you because they like you. And pigeonholing yourself into telling you I'm weird, he won't like me or I don't think he understands me, forbids you from meeting those kinds of people. Maybe that's the challenge you're talking about
My INTP husband is easily the wisest person I know, but he frequently gives up on trying to communicate with people, so I worry his genius will die with him. Don’t give up, INTPs! We need you!
Frankly, this INTJ has a problem where my sense of humor and jokes end up sparking a project I spend years on. I can't stop making work for myself out of something that was just supposed to be silly. I end up giving it more purpose than intended. I will also admit that I FREQUENTLY and constantly guilt myself out of having fun if I feel there is work to be done or something I should be focusing on, which spirals into depression because I'm not experiencing much joy or allowing myself fun for the sake of it because it feels like I am putting off something that I will regret...
I'm a hyperfocused ENFP. But I was distracted by extreme abuse. I didn't understand it was abuse, and I couldn't focus on myself except trying not to self blame and stay safe.
I understand as an INTP I can communicate, I was thrusted into the world of debating by my English teacher and yes I was good at it without being need to be taught things like research and subject understanding. But it's just thst communication on such a scale is now easy because I am not concerned about people's perceptions but the informal conversations, bore me sometimes and scare me cause I may end up saying something nonsensical.
As an ENFP I feel understood. I struggle so much if I should focus on 2D art or photography bc I have the feeling I won't have time for the other thing of I focus too much on one. But I also miss the times as a barkeeper for example. Besides that I want to learn a thousand things like instruments and languages and have no clue how to deal with all of that!!!
In relating to what is said about ENTP, I had taken the two years of sculpture in college. Towards the end someone had said they liked my work because it was always about the rights of people. I was completely caught off-guard I had to evaluate everything I've done. There was definitely a pattern about people. There were pieces about worker rights, homelessness, David and Goliath corporation themes, etc. I have no idea why I think that way, I certainly didn't intentionally do anything about people.
As an INTJ I am genuinely surprised this was the misconception. I love trying new things, it's exciting! I try new things each and every time my energy levels and finances would allow it. I would be doing new things daily if I could!
hello I know a bunch of people have already left comments but im going to add my own to the pile I try and put myself in leadership positions as often as possible so I can get better at it as fast as I can. I often end up being put in those positions whether I volunteer or not, so I need to improve as fast as I can so I don't let people down. It's still difficult, even after several years of this. For example, I'm writing a song with a couple of my friends and one of them is crucial to the project but doesn't like anything I contribute. I tried letting *her* lead the project for a little bit, and she got nothing done. Things will get easier, INFPs, but difficult situations still arise. Prepare yourselves for them.
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The whole “I am so unique” thing literally drove me to be in a depressed state. My cure was saying “actually, I’m a regular old person”. It was a relief. Made it easier for me to connect with others.
- INFJ
I enjoy saying, "I'm no unicorn". ❤
The problem with all these videos is they lack objectivity and place personal choice in a strange capacity. Nothing can BE AN ABSOLUTE TO AN INFJ until they choose it then test the hell out of it. These videos lack humility. Awfully preachy to the one type that will never listen to you or anyone else. I dislike my tone here but age and wisdom are kicking. I worry that many will not have the emotional and or mental capacity to distinguish peer connectivity from a basic must do or else overtone. I'm sure on a whole the mutual connectivity from channel representative to the subscriber is overwhelming enough for the initial contact. After that, the depth of provided information was surface and honestly I can't imagine not feeling some inner voice concerned the most sensitive vulnerable and intentioned archetype was left umph.
ENFJ here. My depression tells me that no one understands me, then tells me I'm unoriginal and a waste of space. I make no sense. Wish I could do that. I'm happy you're happy and hope you find someone who gets you so you don't have to comfort yourself one day
@@liiiiich3n0nTheM00n I totally relate to that inner conflict, though I don’t struggle with depression personally. Sending love to you ❤️
@@lauriescott9775you said a whole bunch of nothing. Yes most of what he does is surface level content. I'm pretty sure most people realize this. Who cares? If you don't like it don't watch. It's mainly for comedy and definitely oversimplified. If you can't realize that. That's your problem.
I'm an INFP and I'm low-key terrified of being put in a leadership position. I remember in high school one of my English teachers said I could make a good leader and some people agreed, and there was one girl that shook her head and said "She's too quiet." Despite all the other comments, that's the one that got to me the most. I have often have a hard time believing in myself, and I'm so used to being and doing things on my own. I've also had some of my ideas stolen, making it difficult for me to trust people, so I'd say this "misconception" is pretty accurate in my case.
“She’s too quiet”. Wow , that doesnt make someone a bad leader , big mouth
lol i relate too much 🤣
I had the same experience :(
If I’m a leader, you better be prepared to deal with the outcomes of my baggage in my personality -INFP
As an INFP, I have always found it odd that I get placed in leadership roles mostly against my will. I would never apply for a job that requires leadership but end up being in one. I think it's because I am 100% passionate about what I do and people find me to be very supportive and innovative. Thanks FJ. 😁
The best leaders in the world do not want to be leaders.
As an INFP I recoil but at the same time crave power. If I was a global dictator things would be awesomesauce. But I won't cut corners to get there.
Same for me, it took a long time for me to believe I could be a good leader, in my work we have a term called “servant leadership” and it basically means lead by example, there no task that is below you, if it needs to be done whether you’re a manager or not you do it, help your team and they’ll help you, our passions can make us really good at that
I’ve never understood so clearly before why I always try to do everything All By Myself. So how to change that??
As entp who has infp friend, whatever I see topic that relates to their interest,I would let them take over even they don't want since i want to see how far the potential they got and I would support them for the speech session whatever they need.Kinda fun
As an intj, I thought that having fun is pointless, way before I gave mbti. But during covid, even though the home school was like living my dream. But after a few months, I learned one important lesson. Give yourself experiences. I started doing shopping with my mom, attend different online fests, try silly games. These all let me learn so much more about my surroundings, and expand my strategy quota. And I still try to keep up my hunger for learning new things. So, FJ sure is true.
Fellow intj. Thanks for the info
As an INTJ, I am also regretting the fact that I spent my lockdown by doing nothing cause I was just happy about being alone in the house. I just realised it now like how much time I have wasted and could've learnt some new things. One thing that lockdown helped in doing is I could spent some time with my parents and kind of engaging in hobbies but I didn't do any outside stuffs which kind of created a great impact on me after lockdown. I hated the fact to go out anywhere and meet people and just wanted to stay in house. I guess you may call it as a social anxiety at first but after sometimes I was able to overcome that. So now I am hanging out with my friend even though that's only once or twice in 2 months but giving yourself some free time is really important.
That's totally the same for me. I thought having fun was pointless even before I took the test. But now I'm forced to have fun. Otherwise, I won't be able to finish this school year or at least keep myself in the right mind.
my bros an intj and I think he mastered FJ's advice. hes kidna sick of doing the same thing over and over and loves to be outside, working out more than once a day
I don't really think fun is pointless because from what I've observed, I am better functioning when I've stepped out of my house. I always have the urge of sticking to my comfort zone but when I'm not within the narrow confines of my wall is when I'm truly learning new things.
Also, my idea of fun is not partying or clubbing. It's rather exploring new places, being close to nature, visiting museums and art galleries. Also, theme parks. And all of these, as much as I hate to admit, I prefer doing it with someone. Not alone. It's nice to have someone to share my experiences with. To share the moment with.
What I really find pointless is future planning. Like, I know what I want to do 5 years from now but I'm not so rigid about it because you never know if you'll see tomorrow. So having a little fun from time to time and creating moments is what makes life worth living for me. Otherwise, what's the point of chasing jobs/money/anything materialistic when at the end, It's all fleeting. You can't hold onto these forever. And even now when I look back, I don't cherish the time I topped in class or that I avoided any activity to focus on academics. What I really cherish is when I was forced to skip classes and had a thralling, memorable experience because of it.
So yeah, I don't try to be spontaneous because I'm still afraid of it. But when spontaneity come my way, I welcome it with open arms. I dont succumb to anything.
As an INFP who has been put into leadership positions, I find it's easier to be in charge when you go in with a plan, especially for when things go wrong. Although, your colleagues will look to you for guidance, it's not a bad thing to get their opinions on things every once in a while. Sometimes they may know something you don't.
As an INTP, I agree with this 100%. I worry way too much about what other people think of me and sometimes I find myself just giving up and thinking that I just can't fit in with people. But I think that me, and other INTP's underestimate our inferior Fe by a lot. We can fit in with almost all the other types, it might just take a bit of work. For any fellow INTP's, just get yourself out there! The more experience you get, the more you will be able to hold a conversation and understand social cues. And just be friendly in general. Like FJ said, nobody cares that much if you mess up. You got this lol
Same! I always feel a little unsettled though, by the fact I know others don't really understand how my brain works, especially if I'm in an 'on it' mood with a task and others get upset by the directness I give off. After years of editing my words sometimes I just can't be bothered, feel like I'm having to make more of an effort than the other person. But millions of INTP's out there the same and we die anyway so... who cares :D
I’m the opposite, I just can’t be bothered to care what others opinions are of me. It puts me in situations where I’ve unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings just by existing and doing things my own way. It’s hard for me to make up with people when that happens because I feel like I’ve done nothing wrong and I struggle to understand why they are getting so upset by me just doing my own thing. I’m trying to be more emotionally aware though…
This is why i'm glad i met my lifelong friends (group of 9, 20+ years and counting) when we were little and we're all different mbti types. I still have the emotional capacity of a doorknob, but i learned to communicate from them all. Our quirks not even warranted a blink but we'll call each other out when we crossed a line, e.g. if i say something too bluntly they'll tell me that they understood what i want to say but will give an example on how to say it more effectively (and not accidentally hurt other's feeling)
I actually realized I can get along with anyone if I just put in the effort, but it takes waaaaayyyy too much energy. That's the problem. So it's a conundrum because obviously experience is the greatest teacher, and practice to stay sharp on my "game", but at the same time, too many social experiences each week can really be just too exhausting. I think it's OK to just not be perfectly fitting in with everyone and and choose a few people you really like to try to relate with regularly.
Yes, confidence is key. I have zero care about what people think of me anymore 😂
As an INFP who is in a leadership position and has doubted my capabilities to lead and would not, for the life of me, delegate tasks, THIS IS HELPFUL. Thank you, FJ ✨
It's all about passion. 🙂 Also, Te is there, even if we hate it.
INFPs can do anything. There’s a reason the other types seek us out for wisdom and love. And it’s our natures.
@@atmodlee i notice that.. sometimes I'm surprised when some people come to me to ask my opinion on certain things that is not related to my profession as a nurse. Too many to mention. But I can't even fix my own situations, ie. solve my own problems, give myself good advice, get over my crush. 😂
@@atmodlee I am an INTJ with an INFP best friend. Of course, not everyone under this type is the exact same, but I can tell you that she has changed my life. She has gotten me to open up emotionally and trust her in a way that I could never trust anyone else. She is immensely respectful, empathetic, understanding, admirable, smart, clever, and has an excellent sense of humor. She is often misunderstood. There is no one like her--and I mean that as a compliment. She is her own person while also tending to relate to others. I am proud of my personality type, but INFP is by far my favorite one.
You are so right! As ENFP I had so many interests, like theatre, writing, singing, dancing, painting, animals, criminology and more that I couldn't choose because of FOMO. I almost lost my chance to do sth in life as a career but fortunately I chose psychology and now I have as wide range of possibilities as I like to have
Oh man it's so me.... It's exhausting. Here I am, 46 years old and thinking about either going back to school, starting a business, starting a RUclips channel, just finding a new job, maybe move to a different country 😂 I'm tired 😅😅😅
Omg…this is so spot on. (INTP here)
I have always found myself caring so much about what others think, and as a response to that I try not to care at all; just say things the way they are. My family has always told me I am very blunt or just don’t speak much. So it is a struggle to communicate how I see things without dismissing someone else’s feelings or pov.
I liked that analogy of an INFJ as a Charmander that little by little evolves in this world until it reaches its goals. thanks Frank for this video 😎💜
This is why I don't buy the notion that typology "puts you into a box". Who you are as a PERSON is not limited to your PERSONALITY type. If anything, typology SHOWS you the box that you ARE in, so that you can GET OUT of it
As an INFP, THIS IS SO TRUE. I’m a musician who makes all his music alone in his room because I’m uncomfortable with others meddling in my ideas, and I’m too timid to be a band leader. I want to respect the musicianship of others, but as such I hate telling people what to do. My whole life I’ve dreamed of musical success, but I know it will never come if I can’t assert myself in my own vision. (That said, doing everything on my own has forced me to develop skills I otherwise wouldn’t have.)
I would recommend reading the other INFP comments. When we're passionate about what we're doing, we become natural leaders. The leap to do so is scary, but is so satisfying. You have the ability to succeed with your experience, so trust yourself. 🙂
@@Xandycane I am an INTJ. I would just like to say, I love the way you put that.
Frank, this is your best educational video lately. Just pure practical advice for 16 types to be better versions of themselves.
well thanks!
The whole sponsor section felt like a separate video lol
It was funny, especially the song!
LOVED the song! Reminded me of the Pet Shop Boys 😂
My boyfriend is an ISFJ and what you said about conflict avoidance is so true. Sometimes on a rare occasion that we are having an argument an unrelated issue will come up all of the sudden and I’m like “wait a second, that bothers you? I always do that and you never brought it up. How long have you been annoyed at me because of that?… what? SINCE THE BEGINNING? And you never said anything until now? We have been dating for years! Why didn’t you tell me!?”
I now often find myself asking him “does this bother you? Tell me the truth.” even about random stuff that I would have never paid attention to because I know he won’t bring it up himself even if it does, he will just let it slide until eventually one day it blows up.
he needs to man up
INTP: I often feel it is waste to explain to others my actions and it creates (almost everytime) negative misunderstanding. You know the scenes in the movies when one character blames the other for something and they remain silent and you are frustrated why they simply dont explain themselves? Yeah, thats me
Same
same
I am an INTJ. I often feel as if people do the same to me, although I am the polar opposite of silent every time. I respect the way that you can just stay silent. I tend to make the mess even messier, haha.
Man, callin me out with INFP... This is completely accurate. Worrying about being a good leader is lower on my list of insecurities - I've been placed into leadership roles quite a lot, and I really don't mind it, I find it rewarding to be the guidance that someone needs - but I absolutely am protective of my projects and the dreams I want to accomplish, I struggle with letting other people in on it, even when help would be incredibly beneficial in so many ways. I've had a very "if you want it done right you have to do it yourself" type of mindset. It makes me very possessive over projects and the specific image I have of them, in a sense that if someone else worked on it and they didn't produce something exact to my vision, I wouldn't be able to do anything about it cause it'd seem mean to criticize them when they're just trying to help kfjfhj. Definitely something good to realize and keep in mind for improvement!
As an ENFJ student I have always asked my teachers questions and tried to foster connection with people in my classes... Sometimes it's hard for people to realize but that social interaction helps me learn!
I believed for years that my 36 year old daughter was an ENTJ because she was such a badass. So courageous. She takes no crap. And moved into a supervisory position after just a few years. But she took a mbti test a few months ago and got INFP. I was shocked.
The right environment is very important for us ... i think you did your best to do that in her childhood
Blood type is also count. What is her blood type? B?
Frank, I am an INTJ and my jaw almost dropped in surprise when you talked about "fun being a waste of time". Days ago I said this very thing to my wife and she, a probable ESFP who didn't want to take the test, got a little scared. Thank you
Omg! An INTJ with an ESFP partner! How do you maintain your sanity in this relationship?! Haha
@@nikivesta As I said, I'm not sure she's an ESFP ✌
My jaw dropped as well. For a long time I wasn't sure what my type was bc there's a lot of things I can relate to in types other than INTJ, but FJ's videos have made me realize that yes. I am indeed an INTJ.😂
As an INFP, today I was reflecting on my leadership skills according to my previous experiences on such posts and just this video came.
When you first began to mention INFP’s misconception, I thought you’d say “they aren’t good *enough*” and I thought “yep 🥲 so true.” Leadership is somewhat true only because I’m capable of stepping up when necessary but can come off as an ESTJ when I do it (and it scares people 🤣)
I feel like I can be the same in leadership positions (fellow INFP), but it isn't that strange given the cognitive functions are the same. ESTJs can be really effective leaders though so if we can tap into their efficiency and the way the healthy ESTJ supports others' strengths, while maintaining a creative vision we could probably do something special...maybe 😅
Same. I scare myself by turning into a pseudo ESTJ. At the same time I kinda like it and feel powerful for once. I just don’t know how long I can keep up that unnatural state.
I think another way to phrase it would be "INFPs think they can't trust others to help them carry out their goals". But when we do, even if only out of necessity, great things can happen as you mentioned.
I've been struggling with thoughts like this in more than one setting recently, so I hope that I can take advantage of this wisdom somehow.
Spot on about turning into ESTJ...
Sorta true. I used to be called tyranny by my teacher because of this pseudo ESTJ leading a group project lol
Welp the problem is the classmates are procrastinate harder than myself. If I didn't do something, my own grade will be flunked lower than them since I can't lead those procrastinators to work hard, so... yeah had to be strict
as an INFP, that was one of the most relatable things I've ever seen. I struggle with this a LOT - I want to do something like writing, animating and producing an entire cartoon by myself when that isn't really realistic. But I wouldn't ask for help because I want to keep my ideas to myself, and the only time I'd show someone was after it was done :/
For INFJs thinking that they can't find "their place", I have a couple of pieces of advice, because I was in a very similar situation.
1) like Frank said, we (INFJs) are rare, but not THAT rare, and there are many people similar enough to us that it's absolutely possible to find a place where you feel more comfortable. If you're a bat that's grown up around birds, you're gonna think that there's no one like you, but as soon as you find another bat, you'll know that you're not alone. Indulge your "weirder" interests, and you'll surely find people more similar to you.
2) Even if you don't find "your place" out there in the world, you can Make your own place. I know we have Fe, and we want to fit in with everyone else, but it might actually be detrimental to us to try to fit in Too much. You have skills that many other people don't, so if you can find comfort in being "different" and starting to share it more, you can carve out your Own place in the world; you don't have to fit into a slot that already exists.
Basically, the tale Hans Christan Andersen tells in "The ugly ducking" and in "Thumbelina", find your inner swan and your field of flower elves (;
Yes!! Just be your weird self and everything will be so much better! xD I've started to more fully be myself in social contexts and claiming more space (even if it is with silence). I tell myself: "Since I've always adapted so much to others my entire life (and taken it for granted like isn't this what everybody does??), isn't it only fair that others get to adapt to me as well? For once??"😅 Now I don't feel as "responsible" for others' feelings/experiences as I did before. And life feels so much ligther! My god! It's also good to remember that sometimes people need to experience their own lessons in order to grow and develop as persons. Keeping others from conflict or discomfort isn't gonna help them in the long run, and it's also not our responsibility to do so! Our only responsibility is ourselves.
I haven't met another INFJ in my life yet, but imagine how cool it would be to meet one at some point, one who's truly themself and shining brightly with their adorable weirdness. How amazing wouldn't that be!! Maybe one day...😁✨
@@FridoGrahnify
Absolutely, being more quiet is something I've started to do more recently as well.
It's also important to take care of yourself; "treat yourself like someone you're responsible for caring about".
And finally, yeah, people don't learn if they don't catch the consequences of their actions.
I don't actively Start conflicts (often), but I've started to hang back more now if someone is being an ass. I'm not going to try to smooth things out, they have to learn themselves.
Also going by your name I'm gonna assume you're Swedish?
Hoppas du hittar någon INFJ att prata med i verkligheten, det kan verkligen hjälpa. 😁
@@JokerCrowe Yeees exactly! It's so important to put focus on things like these, especially in crazy times like now...😨🤯 A lot of people are gonna have to change a lot (as everything everywhere also keeps changing😅), and the best for everyone is if that change can happen as quickly and smoothly as possible. I have just recently, like the last year or so, become so much more passionate about things like history, politics, and justice, and about speaking up about things rather than keeping quiet out of fear of conflict. It's a powerful change!
And yes, you assume correctly! Haha! Så du kan svenska, du? Det var inte illa😁
@@FridoGrahnify
That's great! Being passionate about things is something that can be really helpful for us to find "our thing/place".
Och ja, det underlättar att jag också är svensk 😅
Valde ett engelskt användarnamn för typ 15 år sedan, så nu är jag "fast" med det. 🤣
First of all , we have to trust ourselves that whatever we do is not irritating all the time . I literally asked pardon to my crush when I talked with her while she was studying . We overthink too much (that's what she said) and like for being overlooked all the time , we loose confidence that people will listen to us . But that's where we actually need to improve .
.... fellow INFP
As another INFP (specifically 4w3) though I am pretty good at the social thing & am pretty charismatic. I also feel like deep down no one cares what I have to say, so what's the point. Also feel like I am irritating everyone, & that I might be annoying.
It comes from overthinking but after being told I was annoying & being shamed for having an opinion growing up. That led to it being rational for me to believe in a way
Luckily the people around me now remind me that I am irritating no one & even if I was being annoying it really doesn't matter cause life is annoying sometimes.
As an INTJ… how are you so right?! I can’t even do my hobbies because “this isn’t beneficial” or I can’t go anywhere without it having a plan
I feel the exact same thing, but as an ENTJ. I always plan my day in order of importance and productivity. It can be beneficial at times when I need to focus and do work. However, I’ve found it challenging when me as a person simply requires fun, and I play hard as well. It’s just that I don’t allow my somewhat crazy, witty, fun side to escape due to the fact that I’m always busy. I’ve always related heavily to the INTJ irrespective of my 74% extroversion.
As an INTJ this was the best advice I’ve ever gotten. Really needed to hear that. I’ve noticed myself that whenever I’m in a creative dry spell, it’s because I haven’t done anything new in a while
Lol, that ad was S-tier. Frank's ads are one of the only ones I don't skip. And that song at the end of it was awesome. I'd 100% listen to the full version.
I don't skip his ad's but I really like also Neytirix's but its when Skillshare shows up because she has like pufferfish which apears out of nowhere and at the end of Sponsor advertisment he like blows up.
Haha thanks
I’m an INFP who’s been told by many friends and family that I make a great leader, but tbh I don’t really see it. The way I look at it, I just get along well with others lol.
But I have started seeing the value in reaching out to others in my creative endeavours. I realized pretty early on that the project I’m currently working needed some outside input if I don’t want to cringe when I look back on it later in life
The INFJ part made my mouth gape 😂 I was almost offended that being so ‘different’ wasn’t true. It definitely stems from the feelings of being misunderstood and being told that my personality type is so rare. Fascinating!
ENTP here, you just brought a tear to my eyes Frank, by telling me that I can do it ♥
We ENTP's are the best.
@@dificulttocure I would like to think so ♥
entp problem we know how to be so called perfectionist by knowing how to make people calling us perfectionist but deep inside our thinking telling us you should be telling the truth! what is truth....rumble running...
cause beside entp
we can be a fake humble isfj+
esfp + charismatic
intj+ fearful when needed😂
untill finally our entp calling us i know who i am, i am a dude playing a dude, disguised another dude
Really don’t feel very well represented here as an ENTP, ngl.
I’ve never found myself not caring about people, I hate the world and would like to see it burn, ofcourse!
But individuals aren’t so bad depending on who it is.
Although none of them understand us, yet still.
Really don’t feel very well represented here as an ENTP, ngl.
I’ve never found myself not caring about people, I hate the world and would like to see it burn, ofcourse!
But individuals aren’t so bad depending on who it is.
Although none of them understand us, yet still.
"You should enjoy the little detours to the fullest. Because that's where you'll find the things more important than what you want." (Hunter x Hunter)
I'm an INTJ and this is one of my all time favourite quotes. I've always found myself getting too focused on the long-term, to the point where I forget to enjoy (or even fully experience) the present moment. This quote helps to ground me when I feel myself getting into that unhealthy INTJ mindset. I'm sure for a lot of other types this quote is not a revolutionary concept but the first time I heard it was like divine wisdom had been bestowed upon me lmao
you watch hunterxhunter , respect
I LOVE HXH !!!!! 🥺💖
@@renosenpai me too
❤ HxH has been my favorite for years and that quote is definitely one I think about often
You completely nailed my son, who is an ENFJ...I think. What you described is something he's told me several times and I've noticed one on one and group discussion works better for him to learn.👏
I can agree with the INTP’s misconception. I know one and he generally keeps to himself and say little to people he doesn’t care about, but when you’re really close to him, he can say a lot. But I’ve been taking note on how he talks and it’s interesting because he’s good at it! I’ve always said he could be like a RUclipsr or streamer or even a teacher because he’s great at relaying information. I’m an INFJ and have been trying to get him to pay more attention to just social cues and etc., and he’s getting better at at. We met up with 2 random people and he carried the conversation and I was so proud of him and afterwards he was also really happy that he did it!
the infp is extremely accurate 😭 i have so many ideas, i want to do this to do that, it's A LOT. but the fact that i need many people to make that makes me anxious. how can i choose the right people? how can i trust them? how if i need to tolerate people when they do wrong just because they are a part of my team? ((this one is also the reason why i have a hard time to start getting a job because the thought that i need to tolerate my boss or co-worker doing wrong and how toxic work place can be terrified me ngl 💀))
i know how bad is that and it also troubles my life... that's why i start to think about how if i create my own team, my own workplace, but being a leader is also a huge homework for me. i've always thought that i'm capable of good ideas or manage a team project to make it as good as possible, but it's the people that always makes me step back and let someone else be the leader to manage that side ((eventho sometimes i ended up being like i'm the 2nd leader when the team starting to not be like what i want them to be lmaooo 😭))
As an INFP, I agree a 100% that I'm protective about my ideas and want to do it all alone. Like rather than taking help from a person who already knows X, I would think about learning it. Which is exhausting and very impractical. I'm just starting to realise it! Thanks for the video!
As an ENFP I chose the career path as psychologist well how'd you know.?!?!?! Seriously, your instinct is right!!! And I have been following your video for quiet a long time, and you've helped soo much. THANKS FOR THAT. ❤️
FJ: "They can't stand up for themselves."
Me, an ISFJ: "...True."
I really do avoid conflict if necessary😭
I am an ENFJ, and I have had that very problem since entering the software development industry for my work. I was a customer service guy before, a job I had supreme confidence in. My first software dev manager said to me multiple times: "You are a solid, smart programmer. What you need is to be confident in this. Confidence is the only thing you lack." It has been 7 years, now, and I am still in it, and slowly learning to trust my decisions more. I still circle back to that boss in my mind sometimes, and see how far I've come.
As an ISFJ, you were spot on in that I could never truly figure out when it was necessary to put my foot down, so when I did I did it so badly I lost friends and reacted very badly. In reality, its about choosing your battles and that something I'm still learning, but have gotten much better at in my almost 3 decades of living.
What I'm feeling rn, however, is the ESFJs segment. I have a huge issue in not being confident in the things I want to pursue because the people around me would disagree with it or its not a stable career path, but not doing what I want to pursue has made me a really miserable over the years, so I'm trying to course correct.
Isfj here. 3:50 yes i noticed that in the past. So now Im very straightforward. It took me a lot of effort and time to be able to get into a conflict. Now I’m really comfortable at telling what’s wrong. Few years before it was almost impossible for me. I can use my Ti more easily now.
FJ's examples are getting better and better every video.
thanks!
ISFJ 1w9...yes conflict avoidance is an issue for me. Letting stuff build up is the consequence.
Same
Agreed
That is the best sponsorship clip I have ever seen, it's not even close, well done Mr Frank James.
haha thanks
As an INFP in a leadership position this is the crux as to why I'm in therapy.
ENFJ here... this is the absolute truth :O Thanks for the advice, Frank
Isfp here 💝💝💝
Thank you for this video !!!
As an ENFP I agree on a spiritual level. My inability to stick with anything almost made my life pointless as I went to university… but then I discovered dancing and chose to try sticking to it, to see how much do I really like it. I’ve been dancing for 3,5 years already, it became my career and I realized how many things I can explore within the field only, ENDLESS!!! It doesn’t mean I don’t have other hobbies tho haha
I can relate to both ENTJ and INTJ. Hobbies is a selfish waste of time, and having fun is a waste of time and won't lead to anything meaningful. The amount of effort that I'm still putting to change this programing is tremendous. I was suppose to watch a movie last Friday, and I planned for it, instead, I worked for 3 hours!!! And seriously, the only reason that make me take sometime off, have fun and practice my hobbies is because I know it will help me comeback more energetic and fresh and more creative. SO, having fun is still revolve around work and for the sake of it haha. Now I don't believe that I'm bad in relationships, I'm just not looking for it. It just doesn't occur to me.
Thank for the video, Frank. I always end up with valuable information.
Thanks, Frank. Your commercial was cute. I like the aunt giving you a ride. hehe. The INFJ thing...I've never felt like a god, that's for sure. The other part? Yeah, but I"m always working on improving and being less hard on myself. I appreciate your videos. 😊💜
As an INFP in college, i do find it a bit challenging to be a leader, even though most people want me to lol. So, eventually, I'll come through. Other than that, I'll try my best to let my ideas be known, lol. This video is very relatable, it l's kinda scary how accurate it is though 😂
As an INFJ, I have become a better version of myself thanks to your videos .
There's still a long way to go, but at least now I feel comfortable living a life.
As an ENFJ, I don't feel I am smart, but my husband who😊😊 is INFJ says I'm very intelligent otherwise he would not be there with me. I still don't see it, but it is the best compliment he ever gave me, and he is not particularly good expressing his feelings. 😊
INFP who is sometimes diagnosed as INTP here and I sure love how the misconceptions are so true.
I keep failing my personal projects because I keep thinking sth along the lines of "My job, my doing" etc.
Doesn't help that I have a hard time fitting in and everyone seems to be really good at their progress making me think "Agh they keep succeeding in their things but if they do this on their own then aaa I'm useless..."
kinda hurts the self esteem ;;;
I always felt incompetent or unintelligent, as an enfj, in school or the workplace. I wasn't good at problem solving like math or other subjects, while everyone around seemed to just.. get it. Teachers and co-workers were always frustrated with me, so I lost a lot of confidence. One even wrote to my boss that I needed more training, which is none of her business!! So I appreciate the reminder Frank, thank you.
1:44 estp
2:12 esfp (me)
2:53 istj
3:51 isfj
4:42 estj
5:38 entj
6:16 esfj
7:10 enfj
8:00 istp
8:58 intp
9:56 isfp
11:10 infp
12:15 entp
13:24 enfp
14:26 intj
15:20 infj
These are wrong time stamps
@@ABCstockholm007typical esfp (that’s me)
correct time stamp for ISTJ is 1:43
Enfj 6:00
We love the editor. Thank you Kevin 👍🏻😎
Tested as INTJ early in life, and your saying exploring more things/fun in life was key to my (yes, work-related) success. Then discovered I was INFJ. I love just playing with who I am. Keep objectives in mind, but nice to experiment on how to do it. And know if I am not helping people I won't be motivated to do it. People told me to forget about helping others and focus on myself. Worst time ever! I now focus on what helps others and also helps me. That is how I am wired.
16 personalities learning how to drive? Maybe??? Btw I love your videos, they have inspired me. I like how your channel grew, though I do sort of wish you would sometimes put up videos about helping with anxiety and things like that y’know?
whenever you do these types of vids I always try to listen thoroughly to each type as each piece of advice because it always ends up being really helpful anyway - thanks!
also the little song u made at the start was amazing xD
As an ENTP I wasted a considerable part of my life convincing myself that I was a loner and and introvert, when in reality it's not such.
We don't get in people's faces usually but we enrich ourselves with interaction and connection (specially if it has to do with arguing)
As an INFP with social anxiety, being in leadership is quite scary to me. However, I have found out that my passion for the things I do is stronger than my fear. This passion helps me to do things while afraid. Hence, I feel like I am overcoming fear the moment I don’t let it stop me from doing what I have to do.
ISTJ here, and just yes. I’m a lead in my office in a progressive company which is amazing but also means they are very innovative in their field and have to change a lot (and frequently) to keep up with competitors and stay ahead of the market. As a lead, change is usually first rolled out to us first and we teach the others. The initial “hey, guess what?? New things!” is always my worst day that week because CHANGE. But once I’ve studied it and begin teaching people what I’ve learned, I become a lot more comfortable and confident.
I absolutely despised this when I realized how often it could happen at this job, but it’s made me a better leader and teacher and a more stable and confident (and marketable) person.
ISTJ companion here, also often being thrown into situtations that I need to cope with changes a lot. This trained up my flexibility to changes. But I am still irritated everytime someone tells me to change as this triggers my anxiety on missing important details that may lead to chaos.
Changes to me also indicates a waste of previous time and resources spent on planning ahead…..
ISTP here, there was a huge party going down which was for my birthday, but my best guess couldn't come, so I changed the location twice before deciding to through 2 parties, a before party and the next week on his arrival because he was in the hospital, he definitely agrees with this video after what you said about the improvising, ps. He is a ENFP
Nice Video FJ I rly mean it INFJ suits your personality type perfectly you’re videos are always my favorite to watch as if rn cuz I going through a lot and it’s comforting 💙💙💙
As an Infj watching this video I can relate to you 100%
… I retook the test and got INFP just sayin’
You got it right my overwhelming fear back then was just me assuming that I'm wrong without any reason but not because i don't know why . Well if I don't know why i won't even realize that I'm wrong . My Ti is pretty good with reasoning and i respect and listen to it . But i think what really made me hold back my opinion is early realization of societal consequences and my fear of being rejected so i just kept my reasons to myself and it was so painful :') luckily i learned that sharing my opinion is important ✨ _ esfj
This was interesting. I like these longer, more in-depth videos. Thanks Frank.-ISFP
The INTJ was so accurate! I find it hard to explain to people that it feels like I'm wasting time while doing something without a plan, but at the same time I know that I may discover something new while doing that, and that's STRESSING me out >-
you really nailed it with us INFPs
As an INTJ I find myself in both intj and infj part of the video.
Ps I like to try new things for example traveling, but as you said always if there's some point in that and I can learn/gain something useful. It is also always well planned, so it doesn't mess with my everyday plans and life, and I have to charge my batteries by being alone too. Google, music, movies, books and alone walks are my greatest plug ins.
Yup golden. Knew this but needed to hear it from the master!
My Sunday is MADE 😌 ISTJ right here ♥️
INFP this is so true I’m really protective with my ideas and creativity I want to show a lot of people but at the same time I don’t want no one to know teal I looked at all the possibilities
1:22 dropped everything to rewatch the sponser portion of the video 😂(not gonna mention how many times), absolutely LOVED IT! literally the epitome of cool and attractive😎✨
INFJ here. I think many INFJ:s may be really sceptical at first about these tests or just cheat on the test to get a different result just to fit in. At least I did because of the societal expectations, I did not feel comfortable answering the questions based on how I truly felt but how society expects me to feel. It's been really liberating to finally figure out I'm an INFJ and get to know myself. I used to get different results from the test everyday based on how I felt about the surrounding world until I finally decided to be brutally honest with myself and INFJ it is. I used to get INTP on the test but felt something is off. Maybe I have a lot in common with INTP:s but still I'm an INFJ.
Edit, trying to be more social and to put myself out there, I feel that my personality type can't be that uncommon but again I have little to no common experiences with other people (irl at least). I mean I can fit in if I really want to but it's not truly me, it's a version of me that is compatible with the society...? Any INFJ:s or other personality types your input is welcome here!
Fellow INFJ here- I totally feel the same way! Thank you for sharing your experience and best of luck as we both try to become more social and step out of our social comfort zones (important though: never change how you act in order to find more social circles or believe that you are ‘too quiet’ or ‘too different.’ I know this is a cliché but always try to be yourself and that way you can surround yourself with people who connect with the real you!) 😊
Hey Frank, great video as always! The edition was top notch and left me rofling more than once 👌🤣
Just a suggestion for future videos of this format, keep the name of the type you are talking about somewhere in a corner of the screen so if we get distracted for a second or two (wandering minds... ADHD + INFP problems) we don't lose track of which type you are talking about and have to wait anxiously until you say the name again. 🙏
OK, that is a good idea
finally, someone said this! 😂
I'm newly "transformed" into INTJ from INFP and even previously ENFP. I'm glad when Frank said those misconception that INTJ will have, I literally said "true, true.. we need to try new fun things, leisure and me time--maybe too much, to stay inspired!" Glad I'm still dragging those ENFP and INFP thingy to my new-found INTJ hahaha
Hahaha I'm an intp and I don't care at all what others think about me and I don't socialize much, totally true.
I'm an INTP teacher and yes, I was scared to communicate at first =)
Hi Frank.
Can you make a video on how to get such a deep and comprehensive understanding of all the types as you do? Maybe some pointers, or some books that can help?
Thanks.
17:15 thank you so much for saying this.
I always felt odd about being a INFJ on the Internet.
These are spot on!!
ISFP--Yeah, as an art student (merely a coincidence for my mbti) who has been attending critiques for a few years now, it can suck. Personally, I have a hard time separating how it feels with its value (the critique) and this has often altered how I've even originally seen or liked my work before, seemingly against my will.
Cause while I'm aware that its happening to benefit me (for the most part, some critiques can be toxic and it takes time to figure out what's actually helpful), it doesn't really change how it makes me feel.
So sometimes it takes a bit of riding that emotion out to get to the actual absorption of the critique.
And I will say, that after receiving so many critiques, a critique that takes the time to carefully take apart your work, for better or worse, is sometimes more desired than nothing......sometimes
Frank James is the channel to go to!!!
INFJs don’t have to accept that their not weird to find their place in the world. We definitely are weird but if you accept your weirdness and own it you’ll find people who accept you for the weirdo you are. It may take time but you will.
I think that learning not to accept that you are special or want to be special helps you to be more open in meeting or trying different people.
There are people who are not as weird as you but they will accept you because they like you. And pigeonholing yourself into telling you I'm weird, he won't like me or I don't think he understands me, forbids you from meeting those kinds of people. Maybe that's the challenge you're talking about
My INTP husband is easily the wisest person I know, but he frequently gives up on trying to communicate with people, so I worry his genius will die with him. Don’t give up, INTPs! We need you!
Frankly, this INTJ has a problem where my sense of humor and jokes end up sparking a project I spend years on. I can't stop making work for myself out of something that was just supposed to be silly. I end up giving it more purpose than intended.
I will also admit that I FREQUENTLY and constantly guilt myself out of having fun if I feel there is work to be done or something I should be focusing on, which spirals into depression because I'm not experiencing much joy or allowing myself fun for the sake of it because it feels like I am putting off something that I will regret...
He is the only guy whose sponsor segment is so good it makes me rewind.
As an InTP, it was just recently that I got out of my shell and found that middle ground and it feels amazing
ummm that AMAZING Pet Shop Boys-esque ad read? well done FJ 😲👍
I'm a hyperfocused ENFP. But I was distracted by extreme abuse. I didn't understand it was abuse, and I couldn't focus on myself except trying not to self blame and stay safe.
THE BEST ADVISE, NEED TO SAVE IT FOR LIFE. THANK YOU
I understand as an INTP I can communicate, I was thrusted into the world of debating by my English teacher and yes I was good at it without being need to be taught things like research and subject understanding.
But it's just thst communication on such a scale is now easy because I am not concerned about people's perceptions but the informal conversations, bore me sometimes and scare me cause I may end up saying something nonsensical.
As an ENFP I feel understood. I struggle so much if I should focus on 2D art or photography bc I have the feeling I won't have time for the other thing of I focus too much on one. But I also miss the times as a barkeeper for example. Besides that I want to learn a thousand things like instruments and languages and have no clue how to deal with all of that!!!
This is so true. You really understand all personalities as if you have lived their lives.
In relating to what is said about ENTP, I had taken the two years of sculpture in college. Towards the end someone had said they liked my work because it was always about the rights of people. I was completely caught off-guard I had to evaluate everything I've done. There was definitely a pattern about people. There were pieces about worker rights, homelessness, David and Goliath corporation themes, etc. I have no idea why I think that way, I certainly didn't intentionally do anything about people.
As an INTJ I am genuinely surprised this was the misconception.
I love trying new things, it's exciting! I try new things each and every time my energy levels and finances would allow it. I would be doing new things daily if I could!
healthy intj
@@neetpride5919 😘
I relate to a lot of these struggles, even the ones that are not similar to my type (ENTP.) this is pretty good life advice, thank you.
hello I know a bunch of people have already left comments but im going to add my own to the pile
I try and put myself in leadership positions as often as possible so I can get better at it as fast as I can. I often end up being put in those positions whether I volunteer or not, so I need to improve as fast as I can so I don't let people down. It's still difficult, even after several years of this. For example, I'm writing a song with a couple of my friends and one of them is crucial to the project but doesn't like anything I contribute. I tried letting *her* lead the project for a little bit, and she got nothing done.
Things will get easier, INFPs, but difficult situations still arise. Prepare yourselves for them.