How it has impacted me, I struggle with intimacy, I’m always scared, always uncomfortable, I feel weak and powerless all the time. I don’t trust myself, I don’t believe in myself. I am paranoid, self conscious and I find myself wanting to abandon everyone and everything.
I know it affects to mind tremendously . My wife was sexually assaulted as a child and it’s really made her “off” . It’s tuff watching her deal with her day to day flow. I can feel her energy of hate of the world. She is very positive about life still.
Can I just add that sexual abuse is incredibly challenging to recover from. It never ceases to amaze me when another "bit" comes along for recovery, and I've done a tonne of recovery work.
My wife of 24 years has given me "bits and pieces " of her childhood abuse. It started from 7 and stopped at 11, the same year her father remarried. The most I've ever been told is that it was two male family members, but "not my father!"she swears! We're believers, but I also believe she's getting worse. I have brothers that I can talk to, but these anger outbursts around my mother and new friends have caused me to pull back from her in many ways. I'm praying that the Holy Spirit will meet her at that crossroads. I asked her about these abusers a month ago, and she replied, "For the sake of their identities, I will never tell you!" I feel I'm the man and husband who's existing in this marriage, from the outside.
Honestly, my heart goes out to you and your situation, it's not easy at all. Sometimes we have to step back and step away if the other spouse is not seeking professional help to be well. Otherwise we risk becoming unwell also. Take just one step at a time. It matters not who the abusers are unless you have children, and you need to keep them away from the abusers, it matters most that the abused get treatment.
Im so late but I've been asking the lord that lately. Heck im just realizing that something is wrong. I thought this was a way of living! The lord has me on a journey
childhood sexual abuse may lead to sexual acting out, sexual addiction or drive you in the opposite direction of shutting down sexually - or anything in between. It depends on the individual completely. I don't have a definitive answer why someone in the family would abuse you as a child. I've seen so much of it, in so many family's, that for me, it can sometimes seem like it's been an acceptable part of family life. Acceptable in that no one ever questions it. I have no idea why people choose to do something that happened to them on repeat.
How it has impacted me, I struggle with intimacy, I’m always scared, always uncomfortable, I feel weak and powerless all the time. I don’t trust myself, I don’t believe in myself. I am paranoid, self conscious and I find myself wanting to abandon everyone and everything.
Are you or have you been able to get help to recover from this abuse?
I know it affects to mind tremendously . My wife was sexually assaulted as a child and it’s really made her “off” . It’s tuff watching her deal with her day to day flow. I can feel her energy of hate of the world. She is very positive about life still.
Can I just add that sexual abuse is incredibly challenging to recover from. It never ceases to amaze me when another "bit" comes along for recovery, and I've done a tonne of recovery work.
She's glad to have you as a husband who cares because all I attract are sex addict men or narcissistic women.
My wife of 24 years has given me "bits and pieces " of her childhood abuse. It started from 7 and stopped at 11, the same year her father remarried. The most I've ever been told is that it was two male family members, but "not my father!"she swears! We're believers, but I also believe she's getting worse. I have brothers that I can talk to, but these anger outbursts around my mother and new friends have caused me to pull back from her in many ways. I'm praying that the Holy Spirit will meet her at that crossroads. I asked her about these abusers a month ago, and she replied, "For the sake of their identities, I will never tell you!" I feel I'm the man and husband who's existing in this marriage, from the outside.
Honestly, my heart goes out to you and your situation, it's not easy at all. Sometimes we have to step back and step away if the other spouse is not seeking professional help to be well. Otherwise we risk becoming unwell also. Take just one step at a time. It matters not who the abusers are unless you have children, and you need to keep them away from the abusers, it matters most that the abused get treatment.
my soul feels raped
I am submerged in darkness
please Jesus, heal me
and turn my life around
in beautiful miraculous ways
just one step at a time
Im so late but I've been asking the lord that lately. Heck im just realizing that something is wrong. I thought this was a way of living! The lord has me on a journey
You're definitely on your right path for recovery. x
Amen, sister! God is our healer - and wants to heal from any kind of abuse we may have been through. He is more than able. 🙌 Blessings.
@@PreparingTheWay94why didn’t he stop it from happening then?
I am so grateful for this content! ❤
You're so welcome!
Thank you very much it was really very helpful and explained me a lot of things 💙💚💜
Glad it was helpful!
Can you explain also why adult survivors seem to attract amd be drawn to other abusers? Its like my body loves being abused.
Will do in another video, I'm just catching up! Thanks for asking too.
Does Sexual abuse leads to sexual addiction? Why would someone in the family sexual abuse you as a child
childhood sexual abuse may lead to sexual acting out, sexual addiction or drive you in the opposite direction of shutting down sexually - or anything in between. It depends on the individual completely. I don't have a definitive answer why someone in the family would abuse you as a child. I've seen so much of it, in so many family's, that for me, it can sometimes seem like it's been an acceptable part of family life. Acceptable in that no one ever questions it. I have no idea why people choose to do something that happened to them on repeat.
What about when it’s an older sibling and not an adult?
The impact remains as they used power against you
This is what I am currently dealing with. An older sibling and I never told my family. I was 9 when it happened I am 37 now.
Wow I’m getting lots of these posts in my account. Seems like hacking or something. Weird.
I hope they all help you take one next step x
Thank you 🙏🏼
You’re welcome 😊
U do eight ty you so much I will share with my theopist
you're so welcome!
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Thank you!