Amen. I have a sexual past and anytime I think about meeting a christian man, the anxiety tries to come in, that I ruined the chances of having a christian marriage. But the truth comes flooding in. God didn't give up on me and He has a plan for me. I am redeemed and His will will prevail in my life and the anxiety flees, praise God! Continue trusting in God! Thank you for sharing!
Honestly when Sadie was tearing up and crying ,,, it totally crushed my heart. I was thinking about the guy i like.. and just feeling like, Lord what have I done. The last thing i want to do is hurt anybody. ESP if that person is going to be my husband. It’s just horrible, and maybe I’ve been avoiding him bc im afraid of this. I encourage everyone to wait until marriage, its just super sad.
@@kristellcar44Nope. It's called having standards. People who save themselves deserve to be critical about who they invite in their lives, especially when that person's past might affect your future.
@@billy503You're a human saved by God's grace, you don't DESERVE anything, and who are you to judge someone for that? Sorry but you're not better than anyone else. And how does someone else's past affect their spouses future? Unless they're carrying an STD or they have children out of wedlock, I can't think of a reason why it would.
As a single person, an observation of most of my friends relationships is that the Lord often uses them for sanctification. I also overthink things as Sadie and really process it. I think that’s a beautiful story of redemption through your relationship.
I believe the Lord is using my relationship for this purpose. My boyfriend and I both grew up struggling with certain things, and in a relationship you have to hold each other accountable with said things. My boyfriend and I have been through the HARDEST times, but Jesus works ALL things out for good🤍
Nah. That's why people become players. Because girls literally don't care. Many advantages to having a past. Have experience. Girls care more about guys who have status than virgins. That's why men say don't blame the player, blame the game. If girls only dated virgins this wouldn't happen.
@@kelvintrollol Exactly right. Women whine and cry about Chad who slept with 72 women, but they still marry him anyway. Red Pill wisdom is proven right yet again.
@@kelvintrollol it's misguidance, not some dumb game. people become players because they are naive. and people who dont care are just ignorant. nothing more, nothing less. life isnt a game and reality isnt as simple as slapping a label on someone
The fact that he stuck with her comforted her how ever long it took to process something like this is amazing to me. My experience has always been getting a response along the lines of 'oh you're still thinking on that?' or 'you should be over it by now' or 'I feel badly about it cut me some slack already'. (both friends and potential partners) Im healing my trauma though so Im learning to see the kind of ppl who have little patience for empathy towards others more quickly. Seeing this gives me hope there are better people to hope for as I learn to Rest in God and seek Him.
I had a sketchy sexual past. Show compassion please. I was molested as a small child by my dad and the damage was insurmountable. It took a long time for God to heal my deep trauma and get me grounded in purity.
I'm glad to hear that God got you out from that. I can only claim to know what it's like to be a family member of someone who did go through that(I found out in college that my little brother had been assaulting my little sister for years. Tore my entire family up pretty good. I only recently 6-ish years later got out from my own guilt and anger over it) so I can't know how you feel or what you've been through but I am very happy to know that you're still here. All I can give you is encouragement to stay strong in the faith. God never gave up on you and I hope and pray that you are doing well and as healed as can be reasonably expected after something like that.
Thank you for sharing. Couples tend to not share the heavy stuff, and those are some of the things I want to hear about as a single person. So I can learn and be more prepared for a real relationship.
Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable. I have been on both sides of the spectrum, and I wanted to share a bit of my story. I had been saving myself for marriage my entire life, and didn’t have my first kiss until I was about to turn 25. I started dating a guy that I admired greatly. He was a youth leader… as the relationship progressed… I learned about his past and the number of girls he had been with sexually. I even knew one of the girls, because she was from the same church. I was completely devastated and fell into depression. We were engaged, but I’d cry almost everyday for months because I felt the exact same way you did Sadie. It was painful. During that time, the enemy was able to get a hold of my thoughts… to the point that my self-esteem hit the floor. I ended up sleeping with him… I felt that it would try and make me feel better… Special somehow, from the other girls. But I felt worse. We are no longer together, and now that’s something I will have to tell my future husband about. I feel both sides of the story. But now that I’m on the other side, I can assure you… past sexual experiences are a scam. You don’t feel the beauty you’re meant to feel, when you do it the right way. You’re simply left feeling empty, regretful, and you begin to hate yourself for the decisions you’ve made. I know when I meet my husband and we get married… I will finally be able to experience true sexual intimacy. The kind that leaves you feeling special and valuable. The one that blesses you. I know Sam has felt something special with you, that he’s never been able to find until he met you 💙 Trust. I speak as a girl who waited faithfully for years, and let it go in a matter of seconds. You are precious 🤍
It takes a lot to share what you guys have shared with us and I want to take time to thank you for that. I am sure that will help a lot of people, nobody is perfect and as Christian I believe we are all here to uplift, help each other when we are going through sins that we find hard to abandoned. Be blessed guys and send love to you all the way from France ♥️
This is such an important topic! Thank you for being so vulnerable and for blessing us by sharing your story. ❤ Praise the Lord for His grace and forgiveness! 🙌🏼 This story is such a testament to that.
Sam and Sadie, thank you so much for sharing your story! It is amazing how God has been working in your lives and has brought both of you closer to each other and Him through this experience. Your love for Jesus shines through, and it is even more beautiful to see how much you both love Him and desire to share His love with others, even through stories of past mistakes and heartache. I have been struggling personally and with certain things in my relationship with my boyfriend and family. You reminded me that God is so good to us, loves us all so much, and has set us free from our sins no matter how big or small. Because of His great love for us, God’s grace is all we need to live, let go, love Him first, and love others. I pray for both of you to be blessed and to continue walking in His love and light!
Thanks for your honesty Sadie. I also struggled with that at one point with a guy I was talking too. I began to compare myself and thought that he wouldn’t want me or would connect with me well. I no longer have those thoughts.. praise the Lord for His grace and guidance.
This is the powerful aspect of your testimony which makes the rest of the miracles God did in your relationship even more powerful. Without this missing piece, your story would not be whole. I’m very thankful you felt the burden to share it, especially being one that saw my own relationship end because of his lack of physical boundaries. It’s a very hard and painful place to be.
Hello, Sam and Sadie. Thanks for these videos. Please be encouraged in the Lord and keep them coming. Just make sure that you're always doing what He asks you to do. This is a good ministry, and seriously, you cannot tell the extent of the impact you're making.
Often on social media a certain perception/ mask is presented. You both being genuine, open, real is refreshing and encouraging as I continue to heal & grow in singleness and in God's plan this time (divorced some yrs ago). So thankful for Christian couples such as you! Let your light shine.
This is exactly the same situation happened to me. I am 19 years married now. I decided to leave the situation and my husband"s heart to the Lord. If the Lord already forgave him, I don't have the right to bring up sins and past life that the Lord has taken care of already. May the Lord be the center of your marriage and keep using you with your videos.
I appreciate you guys opening up about this sensitive topic and being honest about the struggles. It's SO crucial to discuss any intimate pasts. I believe these should be laid out early on in dating to be transparent to the person we're getting to know. Each of us has a different way of handling things, so people in a similar situation might experience a different outcome. Nonetheless, we must not lose hope. It's far from easy, but the Lord can redeem us and heal our hurts. ❤️🩹
Hey guys just saw you video rightnow and truthfully speaking i agree with most of what you spoke about and i feel there are other things from the past that can really affect somebody in a relationship and really have them look at you differently like having been a Drug dealer,a gangster,murder or even partook in anything like witchcraft that Stuff also heavy enough i think to really mess with Somebody's head.I like what Sadie said when you said he's been washed by the blood and everything is in the past.As much as somebody can be tranformed and changed the other can't bear the thought of you having done something like that in the past.And i think its the Power of grace at work in us that most people can talk about it and work through it Thank you for sharing guys. I really appreciate it and God Bless❤
Thank you so much for this video, truthfully I fear my future wife having a past when I know I’ve saved myself in areas while at the same time regretting some things I know I’ve done myself so I understand Sadie completely but also understand Sam so much at the same time. Life is hard man! We’re in this together and God gives us our strength. Thank you for sharing your biblical perspectives on this topic, it was helpful! God bless you two!!!!
Thank you guys, such honesty helps us to know we are not the only ones who mess up and that God really loves us and desires to redeem us. Praise God. Keep.up the good work brother and sister. God with you always.
Thank you for making this video and being so honest. I have a past unfortunately as Sam does. God has fixed me up and turned my heart in the right direction-away from sexual sins. I look forward to meeting and marrying a kind-hearted Christian woman one day but I struggle to prepare myself for the conversations about past experiences. This video helps with that. Thank you 🙏🏼
This is an emotional video to watch but really worth it. And, no Sam, we are not going to see you from another perspective now, there are a lot of people like you in the world that made those kinds of mistakes. it just.proves that there are people that really repent of their sin and change. GBY
I have a past as well and I understand the conversation about it with the Christian man you love is scary and I am thankful I am not alone. Thank you for your openness.
Sadie, I was once in a very similar situation as you before I was a Christian, and it was equally difficult. I was basically the last man in her long line of sexual sin. We dated for three years and I never felt like I knew the whole story but always suspected there was something much bigger and darker than what she had been telling me. Turns out I was right. I was stuck just like you were. What made it the most difficult was that she wasn’t accountable for her actions. She made excuses and justifications and made me feel crazy for having jealousy about her past. What I needed from her was for her to say more than “I made mistakes” but to look at her past, her childhood, her previous relationships, and ask herself what hole in her heart was she trying to fill and how was her sexual sin the thing that numbed the pain for her. I needed her to understand herself. I needed accountability. I didn’t know this was what I needed until after we broke up. Instead I got excuses, justifications, “I’m forgiven don’t hold my past against me,” temporary comfort and reassurance when I was upset, and her unwillingness to acknowledge the consequences of her actions. Maybe you are still in a place where you feel like you need something more but aren’t sure what. It seems that Sam has been more than comforting and accommodating for you but there may be more answers you need. A deep dive into his childhood/subconscious is something I think an intelligent guy like Sam is capable of and it may provide answers and forgiveness for the both of you. In the end I had to do the deep dive for her based on what I knew about her childhood from her and from her family. It helped me to have compassion in place of judgement, and to forgive her and myself. We aren’t together anymore, but I am finally free from the hurt that I carried even after we broke up. It feels like a betrayal sometimes. You aren’t alone, sister. Prayers and blessings to you both.
Bro 1:34 why do I feel like just 1 min in already and you guys are talking into my own life story too. I love when God teaches the body of Christ the same things. And you guys talk so clearly
Thanks for sharing ...this encouraged me...I have done some mistakes in my past relationship and even though it ended I felt a huge guilty and was thinking whether i did wrong to my future partner ...still im single but now I realized how much of forgiveness God has given us through accepting true salvation ....thanks you both for reminding me that...God bless you ...❤️
God Ordained Relationships definitely not easy I’m preparing for one myself watching you guys You both are so amazing for being vulnerable towards one another no secret feelings No secret grudges it’s beautiful God bless both of you!
I don’t look at you differently at all. However I am a virgin guy and that is a really hard line I’ve drawn as well for my future wife. Some people can overcome it but it’s just something I really don’t want to have in my future spouse. You guys are awesome.
The most most most important thing is not sex. It's cutting off all ungodly soul ties with ex-lovers, with ex non-sexual partners, even flirting ones, before consummation. The spiritual spouses and Jezebel spirits are very real, even with some counsellor-patients relationships. I wish I knew this when we were just married.
@@danilaroche1156You need his cooperation and he has to be willing to let go of his past; but first he has to be willing to identify that his past is a problem in the present and that he recognises that he needs to be delivered from them. If he's not at the point of recognising the harms and acknowledging them, then you won't get anywhere.
You are so adorable. You can see that you love each other very much. Thank you for being honest and I'm sure you helped a lot of people with this video. Especially we women struggle with questioning whether we are good enough and beautiful enough, and I completely understand how you felt. Stick together for the rest of your life. I wish you lots of happiness and love. God bless you ❤
I'm really happy and grateful for you sharing your story with so much honesty. Thank you. It really helped me process through some things. God bless you!
Those who are sick need a physician. He wants us to obey him and get his blessings. I have made mistakes and we reap what we sow. I feel like your husband. I dont have an extensive past, but it's still a past of regret and shame from my teen years. I pray God brings me a man who will see me and my love for God and forgive me and we grow together. I don't want what I had in my past and haven't for a long time. I was in a short relationship and it was heading the wrong way and God mercifully saved me from making a further big mistake. Praying to be content single even though it's been so long but I want to be spiritually and emotionally ready for if God does bring me the right man for me. 🙏🏻
This video encouraged me, very broken sexual past and have repented from all of it and have saved myself for the last 5 years now; really hoping my future wife will accept me as I am
Sam bro I’m in the same boat as you fr. I’m a completely different person than I was six months ago. But I’ve done stuff in my past that’s really messing with my thoughts towards my future. This video helped a ton though. Also no homo, but you have some of the best teeth/lips I’ve ever seen no cap.
LOL the balance of giving a compliment and not being gay Hahahha Also same about my past messing with thoughts of my future, it makes it hard for me to not feel guilty about even considering a relationship with another godly person. I wonder if I should be celibate and alone for the rest of life or not? Even tho I desire marriage etc, i just dont want to hurt anyone with my past…but God did wash us clean.
@@celesteessel4500I desire marriage but I'm too damaged for one. No virgin girl will ever want me and I can't be with a non-virgin girl. So im screwed regardless. In my case I'll just have to accept my desire will remain unfulfilled but good luck to you I guess.
Thank you guys for being willing to share your story. For the sexually immoral, y’all shine the hope of Christ so brightly, and we as viewers really appreciate y’all.
As someone who just found out a guy I like has done some bad stuff, this video was helpful. However, I know I cannot judge since I have also done things I shouldn't have done. God has allowed us to become closer, but the guy doesn't know that I know this information about him. I'm glad however that I found out about this before trying to start something with him. He is a really great person, but like me he has a difficult time handling his temptations. I am no better than him, but knowing that information about him does make me a little bit worried. I just hope that I can be of help in his life in some way and that he can open up to me about it and not feel ashamed.
I just found you. Your wonderful. I need advice concerning my breakup with my fiancé. I am having a hard time. Can i email? Also, Sadie don't be ashamed to be emotional or cry. It's beautiful! Jesus wept.
I believe that it is way more important what we do now than what we've done in the past. I haven't always been a Christian. I had others beliefs. But was it really my fault? It was a journey that was planned for me by God. It all happened for a reason. Our only goal now is to please The Lord in the present - right now. Have the best and the purest intentions, I believe it is possible to build new relationships correctly according to Bible and I believe that God will help anyone who chose this path now. The Lord wouldn't want us to live in hate and shame❤
@@BansheeKing22 you should definitely watch Michael Knowles' interview with a former p*rnstar, it's a great story about how anybody can be forgiven and changed, I loved it
@@BansheeKing22That’s certainly not true. The forgiveness of Christ is full. Your issue is never too big for God. He’s the one that made you, and He can remove that damage I assure you. Do you believe in Jesus?
@grantstidham9322 I believe in Jesus but nothings changed. I'm still alone because no girl wants me. I have to pretend to smile to couples when they talk about their significant others while hiding that I'm dead inside. I have to pretend to be happy for my younger siblings who have someone in their lives while telling them "I'm fine." I have to keep telling myself I have Jesus so im fine even though I'll never stop wanting a wife that will never come. So please just stop. You don't know how I feel so go away.
I'm leaving a comment for anyone who might be watching this video with internal convictions or a past like his. I think it's incredibly important to share your past and deep dark secrets right off the bat, even before you enter a relationship. The sooner, the better! 👏 That way, it doesn't come up later as a surprise or as an "Oh, this isn't the person I thought I knew." This is a scary thing to do (trust me, I know), and the enemy will whisper to you to tell you to do it "later" or maybe hide it forever, but sharing your past demons BEFORE letting that person make an assumption about you is so, so helpful to build a successful relationship. You guys got this!!! ❤
I believe you did the right thing Sadie. You have a big heart for forgiving him! Also I believe purity culture can ruin people's expectations of finding love setting the bar too high because not everyone is perfect. I'm sure he would have been beating himself up if you called it off!
I see Sadie in me😢. I equally have the same story. We are newly Weds and i am still struggling to come to terms that he's had severals in his past. I am not even sure about the count because I still have trust issues . I feel cheated on and yes i cry myself to sleep sometimes; but my loving husband understands my pain. Hes got my back in all this and he's my drama shoulder🤭. God i thank you for this video. I now know that its ok to feel cheated on sometimes because of our partners past. But regards, love wins. Thank you lord.
Very very good video Sam and Sadie my heart and prayers go out to both of you and I can relate to your struggles with sexual sin Sam as I am struggling with pornography it’s a battle that is still ongoing and it’s a battle that I am currently losing but I also know that it’s not right for me and it’s something I have to sort out I mean I don’t do it every night just to put that into context I’m not thinking about pornography every second of the day but it’s definitely a bad habit and one in which that generates very sinful and immature thoughts about women in general and I know that is not good at all especially since I want a beautiful Godly woman in my life and I know sure as hell any beautiful Godly woman of good standing will not tolerate that in the slightest so I need to do everything I can to be free myself from the clutches of sexual sin and pornography as well as pray to God to help me but so far it’s been a losing battle but keep making the great content that you are I always enjoy your videos and God bless.
Five, attainable tips for you my friend. I've been sober for years I've lost count. It's not easy by any stretch, just what I did and still do. 1. Yes, you need to pray. But also pray for healthier desires. Know that you are forgiven and can heal. 2. There's a video by RUclipsr John Doyle. Once you understand the lie of porn, it will help finding relationship grounded in truth. Must watch if you want to quit. 3. I don't know if you exercise, but go hard on an exercise regime. I run well over 100 kilometers a month. A goal for myself. 4. Understand that porn is directly linked to human trafficking. Every view contributes to destroying someone's life. Don't participate. 5. Get some new hobbies. I'm a gamer and I love reading books. You gotta redirect that dopamine.
@@nickmaestro Five answers for your tips. 1. Prayer is what I need and I do it as often as possible and I pray to God about my needs, wants, desires, as well as pray to him whenever I need help. 2. I appreciate your consideration about the RUclipsr by the name of John Doyle, and I’ll be mindful to look him up as soon as I can. 3. Are used to exercise, but it’s some thing I have a strong desire to get back into, but I’ve never followed through on it recently and I know it’s a beneficiary to my health. 4. I don’t fully understand your meaning behind your claim that pornography is directly linked to human trafficking indeed pornography is a terrible habit but not everyone in the adult industry is a victim of human trafficking if that’s what you’re suggesting I’ve known some adult actresses that actually got into the business as young adults and by young adults I’m referring to 18 years of age or older and when I say I’ve known some adult actresses I don’t mean that I’ve actually met some but I have done research on some but nonetheless pornography is a terrible business and is a cheap thrill and nothing more. 5. I actually have other hobbies besides that I like to play video games I love watching documentaries on history I like listening to music there a variety of things that I like to do one thing I would like to do is get out more and experience more social exposure meet new people because I’m largely a homebody mostly by choice because I enjoy the comforts of home so in someways, I’m pretty introverted, but that doesn’t help my cause to get a godly woman in my life and I also attend church almost every Sunday as I am a Catholic Christian. I appreciate your help for advice thank you and God bless.
I have the most important tip for you brother…. Fully love and accept and embrace your sexuality and your desire for sex as the good gift that made it to be by God as a way to glorify Him in marriage. Use the power And peace of this truth to spiritually discipline yourself when the urge comes on to then study the Word and pray the Rosary to calm yourself and ask God to few you and He will since that is how he did with me after 16 years. The truth of this revelation set me free as the motivation for why I couldn’t stop until 6 months ago after 16 years. I hated and condemned myself for struggling to quit and failing in my own until I realized that only God can help me overcome it and it’s not hopeless.
Ryan, I have the same issues with porn. I grew up as a gay male and was promiscuous and watched and watch porn. Remember, God is forgiving, and to let you know, there are many with our issues. They say 70 percent of men have that addiction. What triggers this addiction is anxiety and being alone. I will come to grips with this issue at some point. It's tough. God Bless.
I was addicted to porn for soo long. But one day I just declared I was free in jesus name I dont have spiritual attacks anymore. I sleep like a baby ❤❤❤❤
I really appreciate this video! I have a relatively extensive sexual past from before I was a christian but have since found Jesus and have radically changed my life and am waiting for marriage now. The person I'm dating (who has a much less extensive sexual past) knows I have fallen short in that area but I didn't share the details out of fear.. part of me wants to move on and leave it in the past and keep what I did to myself, but part of me feels like I should tell my current partner the extent I sinned or else they could resent me for holding back on that information. What would you suggest I do? Do I owe it to him to share how many past partners I've had or is it valid to keep some personal details to myself now that I've moved on from those choices? I don't want to be defined by a number or looked at differently for decisions I made when I was a very different person.
Would you please respond to the question I asked in the comment section in the video about insecurities in relationships. It was about a clip inserted talking on recognising the good old days while we are in them.
I was never raised in a Christian upbringing so I never had a chance. I had morality and know good and evil, regarding sexual discipline, but no awareness of sin being serious and lust etc. I had no concept of being Christian or seeking a Christian partner. Luckily I don’t have an std and have a wonderful son. I don’t know if I can ever marry again.
***I have different advice she love you so she fill insecure becouse she fills maybe he was happy before i mean you have to tell her how you are happy with her and how much different she is.
I know my past and prior childhood issues are too much. While I do desire a wife I'd want her to be a virgin. However since im not one myself I highly doubt any would be able to look past that with me and I wouldn't blame them because even i cannot look past a girls history which is why I personally can't be with a non-virgin. Essentially im in a never ending loop and I really have no other options at my age but to try and push aside my God given desire for marriage and pretend it doesn't exist. It's always going to hurt watching others, especially early twenties couples get what I wanted and tried for when I was in my early twenties but I just have to learn to live with that. One day I'll have to tell my father to give up on ever getting grandkids from me. My mother did and even stopped praying for me so now he needs to give up too. You both have something I'll never have and while I cannot help but feel some measure of jealousy, I do congratulate you both. I've gotten the short end of the stick countless times in my life and always felt overlooked and forgotten but maybe thats just how it has to be. The eternal balance, one must suffer for another to be happy.
I am 29 and I have never had sexual experience but its does not makes me happy, unfortunately I cry a lot. It seems too me there must me something wrong with me. Guys how old are you?
Good. Work on building yourself up, improve your confidence, work on building resources, and do inner work to conquer your fears and your setbacks. The best thing you have to offer someone as a Christian is your purity.
🥺🙏🏼💔 Ah.. it's hard. But at least you know he's straight- It is some kind of consolation I guess. I just expect a past from a male now. Before, I was shattered so easily. Now I've toughened my heart to bear it. As long as he's only for me once we're together and moving forward, that's what matters. There's all kinds of men married, with a past, but devoted to their wives from when they met and on. I had a friend who changed my perspective on this, wanting an inexperienced man, she called it my "princess view". But she said in her country, the advice is, if a man has hit 30 and hasn't been or isn't actively pursuing the opposite sex or marriage- Leave Him Alone. Do not try to hint or pursue him, he's prob gay. Leave him be. If he's not, of course he'll be talking to someone, or "struggling" or pursuing Some female in some way. He's a man.
That's why sex outside of marriage is wrong in every meaning of the word. I think Sadie has every right to feel the way she felt or feels (and I am not judging Sam by saying this, it's my general opinion on this matter). Think of the chance of transferring STD's to someone that saved him or herself for marriage out of fear and love for God. God is holy and He has His principles (remember you reap what you sow). So if Sadie really wanted to end the relationship when she found out about the pre-marital sex and couldn't accept it, I think God would have helped her through the process and that He would have brought her what she sowed for in purity. I know we all are sinners needing forgiveness from our heavenly Father, but I consider sex outside of marriage another category that could have consequences the trespasser should not cry about. In the old testament you would have gotten a death sentence, so it just shows God's grace through Jesus that many fornicators are still alive.
absolute truth here. Most people can't fully appreciate the depth of just how evil society has become from the normalization of such an egregious sin. The God of the Old Testament is the God of the New Testament. Bring back capital punishment for fornication.
I'm going to be brutally honest here: I completely side with the way Sadie expresses her feelings here. Insofar to say, I could feel the hurt from her soul emanating from her words, because you can tell she is/was absolutely sincere about her intentions and respect and outlook on the santcity of holy matrimony. That being said, I really did not feel anywhere near as much conviction of contrition from Sam as the situation seemed to warrant, and in some ways, it feels like that's where the continued hurt from Sadie comes from. If it's still rattling her very core to this day, then it means there are still some elements of that pain that are not resolved. I think this is because what Sam did was infidelity of the soul, not the body. She was looking for someone who was pure in body as a reflection of their soul, and that wasn't what Sam was bringing to the table, and so even though what he did wasn't done during your time of dating, it was done in a way that hampered the purity of what your soul was seeking. Obviously, Sam could not have known he was going to meet Sadie, and obviously I'm sure his choices would have been different had he known the future. That being said, I think there's still a long way to go in the healing process of Sadie's poor soul, and I hope that Sam is up to the task of helping mend something that extends beyond the sins of the body, and something that clearly fractured Sadie on a spiritual level in terms of what sort of connection she was hoping to attain and build with a partner in Christ.
I think it would be better if people with "very active" pasts leave more inexperienced people alone. This might be what damages more relationships than anything else. Why not marry another reformed individual?
I appreciate this video. But at the end, Sam is not taking accountability. He says he had pure intentions but Satan twisted them, and mistakes are ok as long as your not content, etc. And Sadie seems to blame her justified indignation and maybe resentment about marrying a man who didn’t exercise the same discipline she did - which is greater on her end because men have to go out of their way to sleep with women whereas women have to enforce their boundaries more often to avoid sex with the many willing participants. Sadie did nothing wrong. Her anxiety and resentments were justified. It was her choice to forgive him and not seek out a partner who had the same discipline and unwavering faith that she did. Sam disappointed me here, not because of what he did but because he did not take FULL accountability and also did not make it very very clear to Sadie that her reaction was justified and she did in fact deserve someone who waited too - then simply ask for forgiveness and give her space to connect with God and decide to marry him.
I think you two should be very proud of your testimony because you're living example to those who have fallen short that God can still bless them after repentance ( God's love doesn't change because of sin) God can still give them an unexpected end. Honestly if you don't share your testimony about what God did for you then what's the point of saving people and reaching out to the Lost after they've sinned. If they're going to just be stuck with "they're not as good as someone who have saved themselves".. God can wash your sins as far as the East is from the West. And the more time you spend with God your innocence is restored. I don't think that gets talked about enough how God restores your innocence even after you've had some sort of perverse past. Now don't get me wrong when you sin. There is a consequence and sometimes it takes a while for some to really get for freedom and deliverance from the choices that they've made. Especially in their mind. Because we can be forgiven by God but sometimes it's hard for us to believe that we're forgiven. And there are some people who need Deliverance after they've committed sin.. so there is a huge benefit from waiting to have sex until marriage.
If God, the definition of righteous and purity can forgive our trespasses , who are we to not forgive others. She was just as unclean as her husband without the love and blood of Jesus christ. She said "i was upset because I had self control." In reality, all of us were out of control and unclean before the Lord saved us. Im glad the truth was shown to this woman, but we christians can miss out on beautiful connections if we think too highly of ourselves and become self-righteous because of our good works. I mean look at the pharisees .No Christian ever has the right to hold another to a sin that God has forgiven unless they want God to hold them accountable for their own sin,as well.
I'm sorry but I don't understand these types of videos at all. Like what does someone else's sexual past have to do with you? If they have repented and God has forgiven them, what's the issue? I just feel like this is what happens when the church idolizes virginity.
Absolutely, no. We as chrsitians must be aware of the fact that at anytime we may be called to give account of our actions. Bear in mind: sin carries along consequences.
@@ESEben10 It's a self righteous attitude to think you're above anyone or anything. We're all human. Don't think the sun shines out of your butt just because you waited until marriage. I'm really sick of our community acting as if premarital sex is the worst sin a person can commit. The worst sin is the rejection of Jesus, that's it. This stuff needs to stop. We should be seeking a spouse who has a heart to serve the Lord, not someone who is a virgin. Also, yeah some sins do carry consequences. You might have to pay for theirs and they might have to pay for yours. Still not a good reason to idolize virginity.
It's not idolizing virginity, but choosing someone who also succeeded in running away from the sexual sin. Only them can understand the joy/importance of waiting. We have to respect the demands of those who decided to pass through all the struggles to keep themselves pure. This reminded me of Paul (Acts 15:36-40).
As they should. You never heard of telegony and microchimerism? Thats from a scientific standpoint that validates the Bible. Stop finding excuses for shit actions.
When you save yourself for marriage, you expect the same from your future spouse. So now when you fall in love with someone who didn't wait for marriage, it is hard. Because you waited despite how difficult it was and someone didn't wait. No one knows who will come into our lives, but those saving themselves for marriage desire someone who is doing the same.
If he was a Christian guy he wouldn't have done that. You talk about holding on to your standards Sadie but you didn't. You excused it. Here's a test: can you decorate it? Can you celebrate it? If not then move on. Who wants someone who has been with someone else! Is that kind of a guy God's best? No! What did your parents say? Is that what you would want for your daughter? Did the girl get pregnant and then what? Big mess that you didn't create Sadie!
he already has LOL but thank God, when we accept the truth of our horrible sinful nature, there's redemption and love and transformation! Thank you Jesus!
Creepy? OK. I think of you as a brother in Christ. That's it. Your very depressed. I suffered serious depression over 20 years. Despair. I'm going to sleep. I can share how Jesus rescued me later. Bye.
Hi sam and sadie I came to your most recent video so you can see this message.Thank you guys so much for all your videos. I appreciate all the hardwork, care and love you put into them. It was a blessing from God that I came across the both of you. It has really been helping me and making me happy. My walk with God hasnt been an easy one,but you have help it become a bit easier.Your words are so wise and Godly they truly do shine a light on my confusion and teach me new things I didn't know about before, I can really see Gods work shining through you both and your relationship keep up the great work and thank you so much again for everything you do to spread Gods awareness to others. I love you both and pray that God continues to shine goodness in your life. GOD bless you both❤ @samandsadie
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Amen. I have a sexual past and anytime I think about meeting a christian man, the anxiety tries to come in, that I ruined the chances of having a christian marriage. But the truth comes flooding in. God didn't give up on me and He has a plan for me. I am redeemed and His will will prevail in my life and the anxiety flees, praise God! Continue trusting in God! Thank you for sharing!
Felt that
Am going thru this thing now😢
Amen. I have been feeling like this too
You are all so strong!☺
Most of us do! Don't let the devil condemn you.
Honestly when Sadie was tearing up and crying ,,, it totally crushed my heart. I was thinking about the guy i like.. and just feeling like, Lord what have I done. The last thing i want to do is hurt anybody. ESP if that person is going to be my husband. It’s just horrible, and maybe I’ve been avoiding him bc im afraid of this. I encourage everyone to wait until marriage, its just super sad.
@@kristellcar44Nope. It's called having standards. People who save themselves deserve to be critical about who they invite in their lives, especially when that person's past might affect your future.
@@billy503You're a human saved by God's grace, you don't DESERVE anything, and who are you to judge someone for that? Sorry but you're not better than anyone else. And how does someone else's past affect their spouses future? Unless they're carrying an STD or they have children out of wedlock, I can't think of a reason why it would.
As a single person, an observation of most of my friends relationships is that the Lord often uses them for sanctification. I also overthink things as Sadie and really process it. I think that’s a beautiful story of redemption through your relationship.
I believe the Lord is using my relationship for this purpose. My boyfriend and I both grew up struggling with certain things, and in a relationship you have to hold each other accountable with said things. My boyfriend and I have been through the HARDEST times, but Jesus works ALL things out for good🤍
Sadie is so tender-hearted. I appreciate the honesty here. And we don't think any less of you, Sam. Kudos for being so open.
Nah. That's why people become players. Because girls literally don't care. Many advantages to having a past. Have experience. Girls care more about guys who have status than virgins. That's why men say don't blame the player, blame the game. If girls only dated virgins this wouldn't happen.
@@kelvintrollol Exactly right. Women whine and cry about Chad who slept with 72 women, but they still marry him anyway. Red Pill wisdom is proven right yet again.
@@kelvintrollol it's misguidance, not some dumb game. people become players because they are naive. and people who dont care are just ignorant. nothing more, nothing less. life isnt a game and reality isnt as simple as slapping a label on someone
@@shmoop6543 words and definitions are vague. It can be both depending on how terms are defined. No one arguing over a definition.
The fact that he stuck with her comforted her how ever long it took to process something like this is amazing to me. My experience has always been getting a response along the lines of 'oh you're still thinking on that?' or 'you should be over it by now' or 'I feel badly about it cut me some slack already'. (both friends and potential partners)
Im healing my trauma though so Im learning to see the kind of ppl who have little patience for empathy towards others more quickly.
Seeing this gives me hope there are better people to hope for as I learn to Rest in God and seek Him.
Thanks so much Sam n Sadie. Lots of love from Uganda 💕
I would think someone saying get over it or cut me slack would A. Have little empathy or B. Feel ashamed.
I had a sketchy sexual past. Show compassion please. I was molested as a small child by my dad and the damage was insurmountable. It took a long time for God to heal my deep trauma and get me grounded in purity.
I'm glad to hear that God got you out from that. I can only claim to know what it's like to be a family member of someone who did go through that(I found out in college that my little brother had been assaulting my little sister for years. Tore my entire family up pretty good. I only recently 6-ish years later got out from my own guilt and anger over it) so I can't know how you feel or what you've been through but I am very happy to know that you're still here. All I can give you is encouragement to stay strong in the faith. God never gave up on you and I hope and pray that you are doing well and as healed as can be reasonably expected after something like that.
Thank you for sharing. Couples tend to not share the heavy stuff, and those are some of the things I want to hear about as a single person. So I can learn and be more prepared for a real relationship.
Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable. I have been on both sides of the spectrum, and I wanted to share a bit of my story.
I had been saving myself for marriage my entire life, and didn’t have my first kiss until I was about to turn 25. I started dating a guy that I admired greatly. He was a youth leader… as the relationship progressed… I learned about his past and the number of girls he had been with sexually. I even knew one of the girls, because she was from the same church. I was completely devastated and fell into depression. We were engaged, but I’d cry almost everyday for months because I felt the exact same way you did Sadie. It was painful. During that time, the enemy was able to get a hold of my thoughts… to the point that my self-esteem hit the floor. I ended up sleeping with him… I felt that it would try and make me feel better… Special somehow, from the other girls. But I felt worse.
We are no longer together, and now that’s something I will have to tell my future husband about. I feel both sides of the story.
But now that I’m on the other side, I can assure you… past sexual experiences are a scam. You don’t feel the beauty you’re meant to feel, when you do it the right way. You’re simply left feeling empty, regretful, and you begin to hate yourself for the decisions you’ve made.
I know when I meet my husband and we get married… I will finally be able to experience true sexual intimacy. The kind that leaves you feeling special and valuable. The one that blesses you.
I know Sam has felt something special with you, that he’s never been able to find until he met you 💙
Trust.
I speak as a girl who waited faithfully for years, and let it go in a matter of seconds. You are precious 🤍
It takes a lot to share what you guys have shared with us and I want to take time to thank you for that. I am sure that will help a lot of people, nobody is perfect and as Christian I believe we are all here to uplift, help each other when we are going through sins that we find hard to abandoned. Be blessed guys and send love to you all the way from France ♥️
This is such an important topic! Thank you for being so vulnerable and for blessing us by sharing your story. ❤
Praise the Lord for His grace and forgiveness! 🙌🏼 This story is such a testament to that.
Sam and Sadie, thank you so much for sharing your story! It is amazing how God has been working in your lives and has brought both of you closer to each other and Him through this experience. Your love for Jesus shines through, and it is even more beautiful to see how much you both love Him and desire to share His love with others, even through stories of past mistakes and heartache. I have been struggling personally and with certain things in my relationship with my boyfriend and family. You reminded me that God is so good to us, loves us all so much, and has set us free from our sins no matter how big or small. Because of His great love for us, God’s grace is all we need to live, let go, love Him first, and love others. I pray for both of you to be blessed and to continue walking in His love and light!
Thanks for your honesty Sadie. I also struggled with that at one point with a guy I was talking too. I began to compare myself and thought that he wouldn’t want me or would connect with me well. I no longer have those thoughts.. praise the Lord for His grace and guidance.
This is the powerful aspect of your testimony which makes the rest of the miracles God did in your relationship even more powerful. Without this missing piece, your story would not be whole. I’m very thankful you felt the burden to share it, especially being one that saw my own relationship end because of his lack of physical boundaries. It’s a very hard and painful place to be.
Hello, Sam and Sadie. Thanks for these videos. Please be encouraged in the Lord and keep them coming. Just make sure that you're always doing what He asks you to do. This is a good ministry, and seriously, you cannot tell the extent of the impact you're making.
Often on social media a certain perception/ mask is presented. You both being genuine, open, real is refreshing and encouraging as I continue to heal & grow in singleness and in God's plan this time (divorced some yrs ago). So thankful for Christian couples such as you! Let your light shine.
It takes courage to be vulnerable like that. Thank you.
This is exactly the same situation happened to me. I am 19 years married now. I decided to leave the situation and my husband"s heart to the Lord. If the Lord already forgave him, I don't have the right to bring up sins and past life that the Lord has taken care of already. May the Lord be the center of your marriage and keep using you with your videos.
This is beautifully said! God bless you! ♥️🙏🏻
Thanks for your honesty. And Sam, I don't think we can look at you differently, because we all messed up in our own way. We're all sinners.
I appreciate you guys opening up about this sensitive topic and being honest about the struggles. It's SO crucial to discuss any intimate pasts. I believe these should be laid out early on in dating to be transparent to the person we're getting to know.
Each of us has a different way of handling things, so people in a similar situation might experience a different outcome. Nonetheless, we must not lose hope. It's far from easy, but the Lord can redeem us and heal our hurts. ❤️🩹
This is such a serious subject that so many people struggle with. Thank you for your honesty. I know it will help a lot of people.
thank you guys for sharing this! so much vulnerability but it was needed 🤍 I cried with you Sadie
Hey guys just saw you video rightnow and truthfully speaking i agree with most of what you spoke about and i feel there are other things from the past that can really affect somebody in a relationship and really have them look at you differently like having been a Drug dealer,a gangster,murder or even partook in anything like witchcraft that Stuff also heavy enough i think to really mess with Somebody's head.I like what Sadie said when you said he's been washed by the blood and everything is in the past.As much as somebody can be tranformed and changed the other can't bear the thought of you having done something like that in the past.And i think its the Power of grace at work in us that most people can talk about it and work through it
Thank you for sharing guys. I really appreciate it and God Bless❤
Thank you so much for this video, truthfully I fear my future wife having a past when I know I’ve saved myself in areas while at the same time regretting some things I know I’ve done myself so I understand Sadie completely but also understand Sam so much at the same time. Life is hard man! We’re in this together and God gives us our strength. Thank you for sharing your biblical perspectives on this topic, it was helpful! God bless you two!!!!
Thank you guys, such honesty helps us to know we are not the only ones who mess up and that God really loves us and desires to redeem us. Praise God. Keep.up the good work brother and sister. God with you always.
Thank you for making this video and being so honest. I have a past unfortunately as Sam does. God has fixed me up and turned my heart in the right direction-away from sexual sins. I look forward to meeting and marrying a kind-hearted Christian woman one day but I struggle to prepare myself for the conversations about past experiences. This video helps with that. Thank you 🙏🏼
This is an emotional video to watch but really worth it. And, no Sam, we are not going to see you from another perspective now, there are a lot of people like you in the world that made those kinds of mistakes. it just.proves that there are people that really repent of their sin and change. GBY
Thank you Sam and Sadie ❤
I have a past as well and I understand the conversation about it with the Christian man you love is scary and I am thankful I am not alone. Thank you for your openness.
Sadie, I was once in a very similar situation as you before I was a Christian, and it was equally difficult. I was basically the last man in her long line of sexual sin. We dated for three years and I never felt like I knew the whole story but always suspected there was something much bigger and darker than what she had been telling me. Turns out I was right. I was stuck just like you were. What made it the most difficult was that she wasn’t accountable for her actions. She made excuses and justifications and made me feel crazy for having jealousy about her past. What I needed from her was for her to say more than “I made mistakes” but to look at her past, her childhood, her previous relationships, and ask herself what hole in her heart was she trying to fill and how was her sexual sin the thing that numbed the pain for her. I needed her to understand herself. I needed accountability. I didn’t know this was what I needed until after we broke up. Instead I got excuses, justifications, “I’m forgiven don’t hold my past against me,” temporary comfort and reassurance when I was upset, and her unwillingness to acknowledge the consequences of her actions. Maybe you are still in a place where you feel like you need something more but aren’t sure what. It seems that Sam has been more than comforting and accommodating for you but there may be more answers you need. A deep dive into his childhood/subconscious is something I think an intelligent guy like Sam is capable of and it may provide answers and forgiveness for the both of you. In the end I had to do the deep dive for her based on what I knew about her childhood from her and from her family. It helped me to have compassion in place of judgement, and to forgive her and myself. We aren’t together anymore, but I am finally free from the hurt that I carried even after we broke up. It feels like a betrayal sometimes. You aren’t alone, sister. Prayers and blessings to you both.
@@themelodicbowhello would you mind expanding on that pls
Bro 1:34 why do I feel like just 1 min in already and you guys are talking into my own life story too. I love when God teaches the body of Christ the same things. And you guys talk so clearly
You two are such a blessing to the world.
Thanks for sharing ...this encouraged me...I have done some mistakes in my past relationship and even though it ended I felt a huge guilty and was thinking whether i did wrong to my future partner ...still im single but now I realized how much of forgiveness God has given us through accepting true salvation ....thanks you both for reminding me that...God bless you ...❤️
Thank you guys!!
Thank you guys.. God is so good
Amen!! 🙏🏻♥️
I can relate with you Sadie. Your honesty is very valuable guys😇😇
Thank you for sharing this personal topic with us. May the Lord bless you for your ministry.
God Ordained Relationships definitely not easy
I’m preparing for one myself watching you guys
You both are so amazing for being vulnerable towards one another no secret feelings
No secret grudges it’s beautiful God bless both of you!
Thank you for your courage!
I don’t look at you differently at all. However I am a virgin guy and that is a really hard line I’ve drawn as well for my future wife. Some people can overcome it but it’s just something I really don’t want to have in my future spouse. You guys are awesome.
God bless you. I am the same
The most most most important thing is not sex. It's cutting off all ungodly soul ties with ex-lovers, with ex non-sexual partners, even flirting ones, before consummation. The spiritual spouses and Jezebel spirits are very real, even with some counsellor-patients relationships. I wish I knew this when we were just married.
So well said.
Can I do this dismantling of spirits on behalf of my fiance? His spirits & past are hindering our relationship. Big time.
@@danilaroche1156You need his cooperation and he has to be willing to let go of his past; but first he has to be willing to identify that his past is a problem in the present and that he recognises that he needs to be delivered from them. If he's not at the point of recognising the harms and acknowledging them, then you won't get anywhere.
Thank you both for your honesty. May God bless you both!
You are so adorable. You can see that you love each other very much. Thank you for being honest and I'm sure you helped a lot of people with this video. Especially we women struggle with questioning whether we are good enough and beautiful enough, and I completely understand how you felt. Stick together for the rest of your life. I wish you lots of happiness and love. God bless you ❤
Biggest fear unlocked: my past, hope my future wife won't be hurt, I'm on the verge of crying 😶
I'm really happy and grateful for you sharing your story with so much honesty. Thank you. It really helped me process through some things. God bless you!
God bless you both.
You guys are a sweet genuine couple❤
May God bless your marriage...
You guys are so God led and such a beautiful couple. Thank you so much for sharing this with us❤️
Sadie I’m dealing the same emotions and all you went thru how did you get thru it some days I feel like I have a split personality or losing my mind.
Those who are sick need a physician. He wants us to obey him and get his blessings. I have made mistakes and we reap what we sow. I feel like your husband. I dont have an extensive past, but it's still a past of regret and shame from my teen years. I pray God brings me a man who will see me and my love for God and forgive me and we grow together. I don't want what I had in my past and haven't for a long time. I was in a short relationship and it was heading the wrong way and God mercifully saved me from making a further big mistake. Praying to be content single even though it's been so long but I want to be spiritually and emotionally ready for if God does bring me the right man for me. 🙏🏻
This video encouraged me, very broken sexual past and have repented from all of it and have saved myself for the last 5 years now; really hoping my future wife will accept me as I am
Sam bro I’m in the same boat as you fr. I’m a completely different person than I was six months ago. But I’ve done stuff in my past that’s really messing with my thoughts towards my future. This video helped a ton though.
Also no homo, but you have some of the best teeth/lips I’ve ever seen no cap.
LOL the balance of giving a compliment and not being gay Hahahha
Also same about my past messing with thoughts of my future, it makes it hard for me to not feel guilty about even considering a relationship with another godly person. I wonder if I should be celibate and alone for the rest of life or not? Even tho I desire marriage etc, i just dont want to hurt anyone with my past…but God did wash us clean.
@@celesteessel4500I desire marriage but I'm too damaged for one. No virgin girl will ever want me and I can't be with a non-virgin girl. So im screwed regardless. In my case I'll just have to accept my desire will remain unfulfilled but good luck to you I guess.
Sadie is so patient and I can resonate with her. How did you heal from this situation and do you still get unwanted thoughts regarding this?
Thank you guys for this video, everything is so real and honest. More people can relate to this than you think, including myself!
Thank you guys for being willing to share your story. For the sexually immoral, y’all shine the hope of Christ so brightly, and we as viewers really appreciate y’all.
Sam thank you for your patience and kindness to Sadie ❤
As someone who just found out a guy I like has done some bad stuff, this video was helpful. However, I know I cannot judge since I have also done things I shouldn't have done. God has allowed us to become closer, but the guy doesn't know that I know this information about him. I'm glad however that I found out about this before trying to start something with him. He is a really great person, but like me he has a difficult time handling his temptations. I am no better than him, but knowing that information about him does make me a little bit worried. I just hope that I can be of help in his life in some way and that he can open up to me about it and not feel ashamed.
Thank youuuuu!!!!!!
I just found you. Your wonderful. I need advice concerning my breakup with my fiancé. I am having a hard time. Can i email? Also, Sadie don't be ashamed to be emotional or cry. It's beautiful! Jesus wept.
Thank you for sharing
Great video, esspecially from Sadie's heart! MAy God bless you!
I believe that it is way more important what we do now than what we've done in the past. I haven't always been a Christian. I had others beliefs. But was it really my fault? It was a journey that was planned for me by God. It all happened for a reason. Our only goal now is to please The Lord in the present - right now. Have the best and the purest intentions, I believe it is possible to build new relationships correctly according to Bible and I believe that God will help anyone who chose this path now. The Lord wouldn't want us to live in hate and shame❤
Good luck with that. Ive already given up. Im too damaged and no virgin girl will ever want me.
@@BansheeKing22 you should definitely watch Michael Knowles' interview with a former p*rnstar, it's a great story about how anybody can be forgiven and changed, I loved it
@@BansheeKing22That’s certainly not true. The forgiveness of Christ is full. Your issue is never too big for God. He’s the one that made you, and He can remove that damage I assure you. Do you believe in Jesus?
@grantstidham9322 I believe in Jesus but nothings changed. I'm still alone because no girl wants me. I have to pretend to smile to couples when they talk about their significant others while hiding that I'm dead inside. I have to pretend to be happy for my younger siblings who have someone in their lives while telling them "I'm fine." I have to keep telling myself I have Jesus so im fine even though I'll never stop wanting a wife that will never come.
So please just stop. You don't know how I feel so go away.
I'm leaving a comment for anyone who might be watching this video with internal convictions or a past like his.
I think it's incredibly important to share your past and deep dark secrets right off the bat, even before you enter a relationship. The sooner, the better! 👏 That way, it doesn't come up later as a surprise or as an "Oh, this isn't the person I thought I knew."
This is a scary thing to do (trust me, I know), and the enemy will whisper to you to tell you to do it "later" or maybe hide it forever, but sharing your past demons BEFORE letting that person make an assumption about you is so, so helpful to build a successful relationship.
You guys got this!!! ❤
May God Bless you both❤❤.
I believe you did the right thing Sadie. You have a big heart for forgiving him! Also I believe purity culture can ruin people's expectations of finding love setting the bar too high because not everyone is perfect. I'm sure he would have been beating himself up if you called it off!
I see Sadie in me😢. I equally have the same story. We are newly Weds and i am still struggling to come to terms that he's had severals in his past. I am not even sure about the count because I still have trust issues . I feel cheated on and yes i cry myself to sleep sometimes; but my loving husband understands my pain. Hes got my back in all this and he's my drama shoulder🤭. God i thank you for this video. I now know that its ok to feel cheated on sometimes because of our partners past. But regards, love wins. Thank you lord.
Angels sent from above, pray for my and my beloved! I would like to meet my future husband!
Very very good video Sam and Sadie my heart and prayers go out to both of you and I can relate to your struggles with sexual sin Sam as I am struggling with pornography it’s a battle that is still ongoing and it’s a battle that I am currently losing but I also know that it’s not right for me and it’s something I have to sort out I mean I don’t do it every night just to put that into context I’m not thinking about pornography every second of the day but it’s definitely a bad habit and one in which that generates very sinful and immature thoughts about women in general and I know that is not good at all especially since I want a beautiful Godly woman in my life and I know sure as hell any beautiful Godly woman of good standing will not tolerate that in the slightest so I need to do everything I can to be free myself from the clutches of sexual sin and pornography as well as pray to God to help me but so far it’s been a losing battle but keep making the great content that you are I always enjoy your videos and God bless.
Five, attainable tips for you my friend. I've been sober for years I've lost count. It's not easy by any stretch, just what I did and still do.
1. Yes, you need to pray. But also pray for healthier desires. Know that you are forgiven and can heal.
2. There's a video by RUclipsr John Doyle. Once you understand the lie of porn, it will help finding relationship grounded in truth. Must watch if you want to quit.
3. I don't know if you exercise, but go hard on an exercise regime. I run well over 100 kilometers a month. A goal for myself.
4. Understand that porn is directly linked to human trafficking. Every view contributes to destroying someone's life. Don't participate.
5. Get some new hobbies. I'm a gamer and I love reading books. You gotta redirect that dopamine.
@@nickmaestro Five answers for your tips.
1. Prayer is what I need and I do it as often as possible and I pray to God about my needs, wants, desires, as well as pray to him whenever I need help.
2. I appreciate your consideration about the RUclipsr by the name of John Doyle, and I’ll be mindful to look him up as soon as I can.
3. Are used to exercise, but it’s some thing I have a strong desire to get back into, but I’ve never followed through on it recently and I know it’s a beneficiary to my health.
4. I don’t fully understand your meaning behind your claim that pornography is directly linked to human trafficking indeed pornography is a terrible habit but not everyone in the adult industry is a victim of human trafficking if that’s what you’re suggesting I’ve known some adult actresses that actually got into the business as young adults and by young adults I’m referring to 18 years of age or older and when I say I’ve known some adult actresses I don’t mean that I’ve actually met some but I have done research on some but nonetheless pornography is a terrible business and is a cheap thrill and nothing more.
5. I actually have other hobbies besides that I like to play video games I love watching documentaries on history I like listening to music there a variety of things that I like to do one thing I would like to do is get out more and experience more social exposure meet new people because I’m largely a homebody mostly by choice because I enjoy the comforts of home so in someways, I’m pretty introverted, but that doesn’t help my cause to get a godly woman in my life and I also attend church almost every Sunday as I am a Catholic Christian.
I appreciate your help for advice thank you and God bless.
I have the most important tip for you brother…. Fully love and accept and embrace your sexuality and your desire for sex as the good gift that made it to be by God as a way to glorify Him in marriage. Use the power
And peace of this truth to spiritually discipline yourself when the urge comes on to then study the Word and pray the Rosary to calm yourself and ask God to few you and He will since that is how he did with me after 16 years. The truth of this revelation set me free as the motivation for why I couldn’t stop until 6 months ago after 16 years. I hated and condemned myself for struggling to quit and failing in my own until I realized that only God can help me overcome it and it’s not hopeless.
Ryan, I have the same issues with porn. I grew up as a gay male and was promiscuous and watched and watch porn. Remember, God is forgiving, and to let you know, there are many with our issues. They say 70 percent of men have that addiction. What triggers this addiction is anxiety and being alone. I will come to grips with this issue at some point. It's tough. God Bless.
Also take an action step. Throw out your computer if you have to. Get a flip phone for a season
I was addicted to porn for soo long.
But one day I just declared I was free in jesus name
I dont have spiritual attacks anymore.
I sleep like a baby ❤❤❤❤
What about a good church fellowship where you can enjoy the people, Bible and be encouraged?
If anyone looks at you differently..they can kick rocks.
Stay blessed in Christ ❤
Have you guys seen any videos from The Noble Marriage?
He is a good guy❤, your Blessed
Whoever is in Christ is a new creation. . .
Thank you so much for this🙏
I really appreciate this video! I have a relatively extensive sexual past from before I was a christian but have since found Jesus and have radically changed my life and am waiting for marriage now. The person I'm dating (who has a much less extensive sexual past) knows I have fallen short in that area but I didn't share the details out of fear.. part of me wants to move on and leave it in the past and keep what I did to myself, but part of me feels like I should tell my current partner the extent I sinned or else they could resent me for holding back on that information. What would you suggest I do? Do I owe it to him to share how many past partners I've had or is it valid to keep some personal details to myself now that I've moved on from those choices? I don't want to be defined by a number or looked at differently for decisions I made when I was a very different person.
It's amazing how quick Jesus' grace takes ahold of the lives that are lost and broken, and sets them on a completely different path!
Would you please respond to the question I asked in the comment section in the video about insecurities in relationships. It was about a clip inserted talking on recognising the good old days while we are in them.
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Jesus wipes the slate clean 🙏❤️
I was never raised in a Christian upbringing so I never had a chance. I had morality and know good and evil, regarding sexual discipline, but no awareness of sin being serious and lust etc. I had no concept of being Christian or seeking a Christian partner. Luckily I don’t have an std and have a wonderful son. I don’t know if I can ever marry again.
***I have different advice she love you so she fill insecure becouse she fills maybe he was happy before i mean you have to tell her how you are happy with her and how much different she is.
Amen
I know my past and prior childhood issues are too much. While I do desire a wife I'd want her to be a virgin. However since im not one myself I highly doubt any would be able to look past that with me and I wouldn't blame them because even i cannot look past a girls history which is why I personally can't be with a non-virgin.
Essentially im in a never ending loop and I really have no other options at my age but to try and push aside my God given desire for marriage and pretend it doesn't exist.
It's always going to hurt watching others, especially early twenties couples get what I wanted and tried for when I was in my early twenties but I just have to learn to live with that. One day I'll have to tell my father to give up on ever getting grandkids from me. My mother did and even stopped praying for me so now he needs to give up too.
You both have something I'll never have and while I cannot help but feel some measure of jealousy, I do congratulate you both. I've gotten the short end of the stick countless times in my life and always felt overlooked and forgotten but maybe thats just how it has to be. The eternal balance, one must suffer for another to be happy.
Don't give up so easily brother. God can do the impossible. That's why Jesus came to Earth. 🙏✝️❤️
@user-yq7vl1dj7i It's too late. Ive already given up.
@@user-yq7vl1dj7i it's too late, I've already given up.
@@user-yq7vl1dj7i it's too late. I've long given up. It's fine.
I am 29 and I have never had sexual experience but its does not makes me happy, unfortunately I cry a lot. It seems too me there must me something wrong with me. Guys how old are you?
Good. Work on building yourself up, improve your confidence, work on building resources, and do inner work to conquer your fears and your setbacks. The best thing you have to offer someone as a Christian is your purity.
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Ah.. it's hard. But at least you know he's straight- It is some kind of consolation I guess. I just expect a past from a male now. Before, I was shattered so easily. Now I've toughened my heart to bear it. As long as he's only for me once we're together and moving forward, that's what matters. There's all kinds of men married, with a past, but devoted to their wives from when they met and on.
I had a friend who changed my perspective on this, wanting an inexperienced man, she called it my "princess view". But she said in her country, the advice is, if a man has hit 30 and hasn't been or isn't actively pursuing the opposite sex or marriage- Leave Him Alone. Do not try to hint or pursue him, he's prob gay. Leave him be. If he's not, of course he'll be talking to someone, or "struggling" or pursuing Some female in some way. He's a man.
That's why sex outside of marriage is wrong in every meaning of the word. I think Sadie has every right to feel the way she felt or feels (and I am not judging Sam by saying this, it's my general opinion on this matter). Think of the chance of transferring STD's to someone that saved him or herself for marriage out of fear and love for God. God is holy and He has His principles (remember you reap what you sow). So if Sadie really wanted to end the relationship when she found out about the pre-marital sex and couldn't accept it, I think God would have helped her through the process and that He would have brought her what she sowed for in purity. I know we all are sinners needing forgiveness from our heavenly Father, but I consider sex outside of marriage another category that could have consequences the trespasser should not cry about. In the old testament you would have gotten a death sentence, so it just shows God's grace through Jesus that many fornicators are still alive.
You sound somewhat radical 😅. Though you said a truth.
absolute truth here. Most people can't fully appreciate the depth of just how evil society has become from the normalization of such an egregious sin. The God of the Old Testament is the God of the New Testament. Bring back capital punishment for fornication.
You expected a 6'7" basketball player to be a virgin? lol
I'm going to be brutally honest here: I completely side with the way Sadie expresses her feelings here. Insofar to say, I could feel the hurt from her soul emanating from her words, because you can tell she is/was absolutely sincere about her intentions and respect and outlook on the santcity of holy matrimony.
That being said, I really did not feel anywhere near as much conviction of contrition from Sam as the situation seemed to warrant, and in some ways, it feels like that's where the continued hurt from Sadie comes from. If it's still rattling her very core to this day, then it means there are still some elements of that pain that are not resolved.
I think this is because what Sam did was infidelity of the soul, not the body. She was looking for someone who was pure in body as a reflection of their soul, and that wasn't what Sam was bringing to the table, and so even though what he did wasn't done during your time of dating, it was done in a way that hampered the purity of what your soul was seeking.
Obviously, Sam could not have known he was going to meet Sadie, and obviously I'm sure his choices would have been different had he known the future. That being said, I think there's still a long way to go in the healing process of Sadie's poor soul, and I hope that Sam is up to the task of helping mend something that extends beyond the sins of the body, and something that clearly fractured Sadie on a spiritual level in terms of what sort of connection she was hoping to attain and build with a partner in Christ.
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I think it would be better if people with "very active" pasts leave more inexperienced people alone. This might be what damages more relationships than anything else. Why not marry another reformed individual?
Well said
I appreciate this video. But at the end, Sam is not taking accountability. He says he had pure intentions but Satan twisted them, and mistakes are ok as long as your not content, etc. And Sadie seems to blame her justified indignation and maybe resentment about marrying a man who didn’t exercise the same discipline she did - which is greater on her end because men have to go out of their way to sleep with women whereas women have to enforce their boundaries more often to avoid sex with the many willing participants. Sadie did nothing wrong. Her anxiety and resentments were justified. It was her choice to forgive him and not seek out a partner who had the same discipline and unwavering faith that she did. Sam disappointed me here, not because of what he did but because he did not take FULL accountability and also did not make it very very clear to Sadie that her reaction was justified and she did in fact deserve someone who waited too - then simply ask for forgiveness and give her space to connect with God and decide to marry him.
I think you two should be very proud of your testimony because you're living example to those who have fallen short that God can still bless them after repentance ( God's love doesn't change because of sin) God can still give them an unexpected end. Honestly if you don't share your testimony about what God did for you then what's the point of saving people and reaching out to the Lost after they've sinned. If they're going to just be stuck with "they're not as good as someone who have saved themselves".. God can wash your sins as far as the East is from the West. And the more time you spend with God your innocence is restored. I don't think that gets talked about enough how God restores your innocence even after you've had some sort of perverse past. Now don't get me wrong when you sin. There is a consequence and sometimes it takes a while for some to really get for freedom and deliverance from the choices that they've made. Especially in their mind. Because we can be forgiven by God but sometimes it's hard for us to believe that we're forgiven. And there are some people who need Deliverance after they've committed sin.. so there is a huge benefit from waiting to have sex until marriage.
If God, the definition of righteous and purity can forgive our trespasses , who are we to not forgive others. She was just as unclean as her husband without the love and blood of Jesus christ. She said "i was upset because I had self control." In reality, all of us were out of control and unclean before the Lord saved us. Im glad the truth was shown to this woman, but we christians can miss out on beautiful connections if we think too highly of ourselves and become self-righteous because of our good works. I mean look at the pharisees .No Christian ever has the right to hold another to a sin that God has forgiven unless they want God to hold them accountable for their own sin,as well.
I'm sorry but I don't understand these types of videos at all. Like what does someone else's sexual past have to do with you? If they have repented and God has forgiven them, what's the issue? I just feel like this is what happens when the church idolizes virginity.
Absolutely, no. We as chrsitians must be aware of the fact that at anytime we may be called to give account of our actions. Bear in mind: sin carries along consequences.
@@ESEben10 It's a self righteous attitude to think you're above anyone or anything. We're all human. Don't think the sun shines out of your butt just because you waited until marriage. I'm really sick of our community acting as if premarital sex is the worst sin a person can commit. The worst sin is the rejection of Jesus, that's it. This stuff needs to stop. We should be seeking a spouse who has a heart to serve the Lord, not someone who is a virgin.
Also, yeah some sins do carry consequences. You might have to pay for theirs and they might have to pay for yours. Still not a good reason to idolize virginity.
It's not idolizing virginity, but choosing someone who also succeeded in running away from the sexual sin. Only them can understand the joy/importance of waiting. We have to respect the demands of those who decided to pass through all the struggles to keep themselves pure. This reminded me of Paul (Acts 15:36-40).
As they should. You never heard of telegony and microchimerism? Thats from a scientific standpoint that validates the Bible. Stop finding excuses for shit actions.
When you save yourself for marriage, you expect the same from your future spouse. So now when you fall in love with someone who didn't wait for marriage, it is hard. Because you waited despite how difficult it was and someone didn't wait. No one knows who will come into our lives, but those saving themselves for marriage desire someone who is doing the same.
If he was a Christian guy he wouldn't have done that. You talk about holding on to your standards Sadie but you didn't. You excused it. Here's a test: can you decorate it? Can you celebrate it? If not then move on. Who wants someone who has been with someone else! Is that kind of a guy God's best? No! What did your parents say? Is that what you would want for your daughter? Did the girl get pregnant and then what? Big mess that you didn't create Sadie!
Take the red💊 dude, you gonna need it
he already has LOL but thank God, when we accept the truth of our horrible sinful nature, there's redemption and love and transformation! Thank you Jesus!
I dont know how much money Sam is making. But if he really did care, donate the money to the women he slept with.
Purity culture is toxic, and this video is a great example for it.
Creepy? OK. I think of you as a brother in Christ. That's it. Your very depressed. I suffered serious depression over 20 years. Despair. I'm going to sleep. I can share how Jesus rescued me later. Bye.
Hi sam and sadie I came to your most recent video so you can see this message.Thank you guys so much for all your videos. I appreciate all the hardwork, care and love you put into them. It was a blessing from God that I came across the both of you. It has really been helping me and making me happy. My walk with God hasnt been an easy one,but you have help it become a bit easier.Your words are so wise and Godly they truly do shine a light on my confusion and teach me new things I didn't know about before, I can really see Gods work shining through you both and your relationship keep up the great work and thank you so much again for everything you do to spread Gods awareness to others. I love you both and pray that God continues to shine goodness in your life. GOD bless you both❤ @samandsadie