How to Find Friends And Set Boundaries After You Leave A Cult
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- Опубликовано: 9 апр 2024
- Podcast Wally is back for episode 2!
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This is truly proper food at the proper time Wally.
I just signed the lease on my first apartment yesterday. I'm LEAVING the cult once and for all! Almost exactly 3 years ago, April 5th 2021, I got baptized.
Woke up a couple months later.
After being pimo to keep a roof over my head while I saved money .... I'm on my way out. It's crazy
Congrats!
You are brave and strong. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Everything will be alright.
DO NOT LOOK BACK ❤
great music choice
I wish the best for you man! I was baptized in April 2018, and left almost one year ago. Life is really good once your out for sure!
You've got this! Contrary to their belief, you'll be just fine!
Welcome to your freedom ❤
First thing is finding out who you are.
Like literally, "Who am I, and what do I like, may take years to tackle.
Almost 10 years out and in still finding me in my 40s. 😢😊😂
This is the best Sheparding call I've ever gotten! Thanks Wally😊
I swear it is!!!
Wally’s giving us Teddy Pendergrass as he casually lounges on the couch. I like this format.
Agreed!
If he was just drinking Covousier like "The ladies Man" on SNL 🥂
Things I accomplished since leaving the cult. Majored in art and colonial history at UMaine. Studied martial arts. Met and married my professor husband. Work with animals. Going back to school for a BS in animal behavior. I am 70 years of age, left the cult in my mid 20s. Never looked back. I and my cousins were 3rd generation. We have all left. My mom and sister stayed, they both died of cancer.
Love the video but the music is great but a bit loud.
That little voice in my head I have to fight everyday. Definitely groomed as a witness from birth. It is depressing but I know I have to recognize it & create new thoughts.
Thanks Wally!
Here’s a couple of name ideas, “Wally’s Pod Couch” or “Wally’s Sofa Sentiments”. Anyway, I have to say this was a fun and relaxing way to gain information and insight in a more up close and personal way. This will catch on quickly.
Fireside chat with wally. (reminiscient of FDRs radio broadcasts)
@@kylekataryn3454 I did think of that, but then I remembered Owen from Telltale has one called Fireside Chat. So that kinda sux that someone else has it. I don’t think he actually owns the words, “Fireside Chat”, but if it were me I wouldn’t want to use something someone else is already is using.
A lot of these cults teach us not to have a me first attitude. How can you help someone if you don’t help yourself?
Great video, Wally! I teared up when you were talking about being kind to ourselves. I struggle with that voice in my head as well. All around, great advice! Thanks, love the couch conversations! 🛋 ❤🐱🐶
You had me at "How to Find Friends And Set Boundaries After You Leave A Cult". Nice!
Hi, Wally! I logged out of therapy after talking about boundary-setting and why I still wind up in the relationships I end up in, over 8 yesrs after my 9-year marriage to my ex-JW ex-wife after being raised in the religion, then saw your video. I think this was "spritual food at the proper time!"😎👌🏽💪🏽💪🏽
Usually don't write long stuff, but this video really touched me a lot. I always wanted to have lasting friends outside of the org but ofc they're worldly people. Unfortunately Ive woken up since 12 but still too young to leave this cult. Hopefully this year I can finally leave to go live with my dad, as of right now typing that I can feel myself getting happier with that freedom I'll have to be myself... It's sad when a kid feels this way, and I wish this feeling was rare for children and teens...even adults. I can't wait when this religion that my mother is brain washed in will soon be a memory. And to all who are slowly waking up, always be curious.
Thanks Wally. This is some of the the best, most practical advice I’ve heard since waking up from the religion. Very helpful!
Thank you for making this. We grew up in the same area around the same people, and hearing you say these things has been so healing and gives me hope.
Love the lounge style vid with the music behind it. Feels like you're gonna cook me a tiny steak and have a platter of assorted cheeses layed out with red wine and candles lit....
This is actually really beautiful, the setting and the messages you bring. Good advice, not just for ex-jw's.
I like this setting a lot. Seems more personal.
Great video and format!
As a JW I always had a fascination with martial arts. Not so much the violent or competitive aspects of it, but the ability to learn something that will allow self defense and new physical abilities. The friends I have made in that community is great. Also, don’t be afraid to express where you came from and what you went through. Just don’t make that define who you are, it was just who you were and where you were at in that point in time. Sometimes I get sad thinking of the time wasted, but I think of the positives I enjoyed and knowing some have un-alived themselves at a much younger age because they could not find what I found. Stay safe everyone. ❤
I like the suggestions Wally. I know I need to work more on my self worth, and this is a good start. All the best to you and Zeezy.
So enjoyable to talk about our healing and future than what that cult is spewing. If we wanted to know all that we could just go back to the KH. We do need help moving forward though ❤
Love the Casual setting and relaxing on the couch having a fun heart to heart conversation very helpful and encouraging… 👍🏼😊👍🏼 TY Wally
I appreciate the time and work you put into these videos. I also love both formats. This particular content is great whether you are an ex JW or just someone from a crappy childhood. Just wanted to say thanks and absolutely love the Pachelbel Canon in the background.
Yippee!
Yes Wally, My Free Time Is, My Free Time! We can do so much more. Like Chilling in the house, with a Glass of Wine and Relax, and not Be Scared All the Time.
I really like these, and it's great information, especially for people who are just coming out of the cult. (In the REAL Truth™. LOL) But one critique; maybe turn the volume down slightly on the music cuz it competes a little with your voice. Love the chsnnel!
Hi Wally! Thank you 👏👏🌟🌟🌹☯️
Hey Wally. Good advice in this one as sometimes you really have to sit down & make an analysis of what's going on in your life, especially as you've been trained to never give much thought to yourself. I'm looking forward to seeing ways of letting go of ingrained habits . Hope you stay safe & have a good day.
this made me cry
Loving the sofa talk time!
❤😊❤ cool couch keep sharing love live well
Much appreciated Wally great stuff as usual. bit refreshing different topic👍
❤❤❤❤ Love your classical background music. I feel like I am in room talking to you. Hey? Where is my glass of red wine? 😂 It's such a JW comment to say...ITS NOT SELISH.....to take care of yourself.....we have been programmed to think that it is....even egotistical . Really nice talking to you this evening ❤❤❤
Thanks for the link to the Liberati Wally.
Goes both ways! Thank you ❤
I like "ON the couch With exWitness Wally", as a series name for these more informal, casual episodes.
@4.16, A vegetable, nay an underground tuber type of joke that didn't work? There was the obvious "Turnip / Turn up..."
Ya know, like "don't stay at home, buried under like a TURNIP, but maybe find a group and TURN UP...".
OK, tell me when I become too extra with the suggestions and I'll try to turn it down. TRY, no promises though 😉🤭
Music is too loud in the background my dude. Great video though
I found a great community online of trek nerds. Met my husband through it. And a lot of different people world wide like LGBT.
infinite diversity in infinite combinations.
@@kylekataryn3454 nice ;)
Very well said. Thank you,
This is amazing 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
PNW EXJW meetup when Wally?
Great advice! ❤
Good recommendations…I get the same questions. Once I published my book about surviving JW people were more aware of my experiences and look for help.
Thank you so much for your videos they are so helpful.
Great video, just the background music seems too loud for me to concentrate in the important info you're sharing. Thanks for your hard work and keep it up!
Great Job Wally thanks
Way to go buddy!
I remember asking, "How were student talks timed in the 1st Century?" Understanding the hisorical context helps the adjustment. Remember that human activities that build understanding and knowledge help.
if they had such talks, and did time them, there were a lot of interesting methods to calculate time: candles with pins, sand glasses, and you can look at the sun within 15 minute accuracy. each finger in a handspan outstreched from your body represents about 15 mintues. your handspan represents about an hour.
Greeks also began to use a Waterclock aroun the 4th cen BCE. the oldest method of time keeping might be the sundial: a stick in the dirt.
a really good book on timekeeping is Dava Sobe "Longitude" you need to know the time at your port of exit inorder to calculate how far north or south you are. latitude is measured by the angle of the sun.
@@kylekataryn3454 cool stuff to know! Talks in the winter would've been shorter, because the daylight and night were each divided into 12, the length of the hours fluctuating with the seasons.
What a great idea 💡
Ooohhhh me likie the couchie. Lol
I feel like you’re going to say, “Stay thirsty my friends”. Hehehe.
I’d ditch the music though. For me, it was distracting. Your voice is soothing. Or do nature sounds.
Since woke, I understood we human just needs a community. Just was delusional thinking jw was the best one cuz believing someone invisible of this community was the greatest love of all, but it wasn’t😅To me now, not being afraid of someone invisible is fascinating which meant I didn’t/ don’t need to fear the people in the community I was! Actually must be thankful at least the community of the country I’m in is a free country that allows free thinking and speech.
Me gusta mucho la charla de la sofa.
As soon as you read this comment …. Get your Bible and read Book of John. The light will flow from the page into you. Do it! Accept this invitation…..” The Spirit and the bride say,”Come.” Let everyone who listens answer,”Come”
Then let all who are thirsty come:all who want it may have the water of life, and have it free.” Rev. 22:17
Become ungovernable
😂 turn up people..
👍
❤❤❤👍👍👍
Unlike my wife I never drank the kool-aid.
not me trying to focus on what wally's saying trying not to get too sleepy from pachelbel's canon in d
I heard "Lifting Dreams" by Aakash Gandhi playing in the background 🎹🎹
9.18pm Qld Australia
Can you tell me where to find that link for the facebook page please??
Hey Wally, have you heard The new Watchtower Christmas Song? Give it a listen! I'd love to know what you think!
shux i was late
Its difficult for me, beause I reduced my life, so JW became my one and only interest… and now, I do not know where I am belonging to, or who I really am…
I know how this feels. I was a very studious JW, but in my case it was because I was searching for emotional support, healing, and spirituality. Now that I'm out, I seek out these same things elsewhere but the cult. Try to remember what made you interested in JW in the first place, and then find other more credible sources to replace that. Perhaps you can find a new sense of belonging and sense of self through it. Give yourself all the time you need too. It'll be quite the experience.
Its not so easy, especially after your teens. People have established relationships in adulthood, its nuch harder to get into somebody's live.
Legalistic interpretations of Christianity and be mind bending. We are "imperfect" - incomplete. We learn by experience (mistakes), we need to have fellow feeling. "Love your neighbor as yourself" - can't be done without having a good estimation of yourself. We show our love for God by how we deal with others.
Jesus gave an illustration about that…. A man that spent all his time and money and God got nothing.
He isn't talking about Jake, is he? 0-0
Wally, it's an unwritten rule for men never wear pants with no shoes. What’s up with it?
I disagree. He’s on his couch in his home! If I’m at home, I’m shoeless 90%.
You sound fun.
Close your legs fella
My ingles is not so good...they change the name of jehovah witness. ..they new name is...equalized from the church of the last change..jooooo😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
You and I could be great friends sharing stupid word puns like your attempted turnip (turn up) joke. Lol. It’s nice to see you are turning over a new leaf in your life but I just can’t beleaf it. See! I’m just as cringy lol. It’s a shame you are so far away so I can’t stop by and say Hi. I’m here in Germany struggling with the reality of being a PIMO for the simple fact I will be so alone and isolated if I go. And well let’s be candid here. This is Germany and full of Germans. They are not the friendliest bunch of people. So striking up a conversation in a coffee shop I will viewed as a serious weirdo. But I might have to take up drinking beer and go sit in the pub or in the beer garden. Oh how far I have fallen.
I found a church after being an exCatholic for decades, I wanted spiritual backup raising my kiddo cuz having 2 parents who left high control religions is not a great start for parenting purposes. I stripped it back found I wanted a safe space for questions/answers without dogma/doctrine and a strong sense of democratic community. My journey is respected as my own at my church whether I wander (paganism, atheism, deism etc) or choose to remain an agnostic. I love that no one questioned or corrected my young daughter when she ran around telling everyone ‘we’re all made of stars’, no one is telling her how or what to believe as she grows, they may share their beliefs but it’s always a polite discussion of view points where no one is right/wrong, everyone is just learning.
Love this more relaxed style for you Wally!
Cheers
That sounds like a precious place.
@@elisenieuwe4649 Our Unitarian Universalist Church is very humanist and we've loved being there these past 12 years! I hope everybody finds something that nourishes them spiritually!
Cheers
What do you call a circuit overseer going to my brother that is pimi to talk about me? I found out sneaky like but, my bro didn’t say anything…but, he did invite me to memorial 🫤.
I’m not d’fd or have I said I’m an apostate. Which I am TOTAL Pomo! Soooo….thoughts on what y’all think? Going behind back? Lmao 😂 I did not say that I knew CO talked to him.
They ALL talk about us with our family. They are constantly searching for our address and phone numbers. They just want to regain members that have left. They are the easiest prey, as they already have much biblical knowledge from their past. They are trying to recruit Jbot zombies..Not at my house…or on my phone. 😂😂 Hey Wally???