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5 SECRETS TIDY PEOPLE KNOW (that you might not!)
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Think your house is always a mess because you're just messy? Just can't get on top of it? Let me let you in on my 5 little secrets to keeping a "tidy" home without total overwhelm.
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1:19 You are what you repeatedly do
2:38 Discipline now, or regret later
4:47 Simplify your stuff
7:41 Focus on flat surfaces
8:50 Spend time at home
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Very helpful - Cheers!
Thanks for this!
This was an awesome thought, thanks YEEAAAHHZZ! :)
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Hi from Germany! I swear to God you are one of the VERY FEW organizers on RUclips who don't waste any time on blah-blahing their way through a video. Whenever I watch your channel, I come away with new infos, different input ... Thanks for not wasting my time. Truly.
“Better not perfect” is my motto 😊 5 minutes of cleanup is better than 0!!
I’m currently trying to adopt this mentality about my home. I live alone and rarely have guests because I feel very inadequate as a housekeeper. My mom was the exact same way my entire childhood and I’d like to break that cycle. Love your content
My house can turn into a pig sty. Since setting a 5 minute timer and doing tasks like clean the kitchen counter, hoover the upstairs carpet, clean the bathroom. After 5 minutes I stop even if it's not totally done. I go have a chill and then go back to it later. It's totally changed my home. Good luck
I am also messy and live alone. My mother was tyrannical and the house was never messy...not tolerated and when I was a teen, I was left with 2 much younger siblings and a list of chores that would choke a horse...vacuuming a 2 story, 4 bedroom, 2-1/2 bathroom house and defrosting an old 1950s refrigerator. It was exhausting and I'd be babysitting sometimes all weekend. I still lived home but was going to move to a diffcity with a friend...the city of choice was hers and when we got there (2000 miles away) she decided she wanted to go back to our state of origin. I wasn't going to stay on my own and went along with her decision. I arrived home after less than a week. I was told I wasn't welcomed and wouldn't be staying. I ended up in a much better situation in the end for the next 4 yrs. After which I went on a vacation and met someone and got married. He unfortunately died and my parents showed up and wanted me to move back to the east coast. I said o and that I was going to move to LA and find a job and a place to live. I did with some help from my father and have lived in LA for about 50 yrs...best decision ever. I am now contemplating a move to So. Carolina where my brother had a house and has offered me the use of it.
@@patriciagarrett5526 I’m so glad you were able to overcome your mother’s extreme parenting and live a happy life. 🥰
@@NaeMuckle Thank you so much for the tip! I am trying to get better at organizing & cleaning. Not easy when my father's house is packed full to overflowing and he can't help. It is so overwhelming to go thru stuff & try to organize in such a small space. I am going to do the 5 minute approach! Thank you 4 sharing♡
I love having friends over for a casual visit. It forces my wife and I to clean up them little things, including nooks and crannies. 😅
My parents had the clean sink at night with four kids in our family. We have continued that as we raised our family with two kids. They are adults in their early forties so we are now retired. Our sink continues to be clean every night. It works. Thanks
Me too.
I’m glad to hear that… it’s a good family goal.
I'm trying my hardest to implement this. If it's not done before bed I'm up before work and cleaning. I would love to have a relaxing morning before work instead of cleaning all the time
The clean sink is a big deal, I have to do it , and if I am physically sick and can't do it. I have to cover it with a towel and get it first thing next day
LMAO. I get up to pee and 2 hours later still going. I do have to rest sometimes then get up and do more. 😉🙃😶🙄🤩🥰😍😇💐
I love your statement that your house didn't get cluttered in a day, and it won't get completely decluttered in one day. This is on par with my saying to new moms who are worrying about getting their pre-baby figure back: it took nine months for your body to change and bring a baby into this world, so give yourself nine months to "re-set".
Side note: You might never go back to the body you had, because you had a baby and went through an enormous change. But it’s definitely good to know it might take a long time if you ever do. The baby and the great accomplishment is the reward❤
I love “Discipline now or regret later”! Going to apply that to my food choices too!
This is gold!
Nice one
Great idea to apply it to food choices! I agree!
How’s it going for you?!
Spending as well!
I have lived in my house for 35 years. I work 8 out of 11 days. I realize now that I have “ too much stuff” I need to get rid of clutter. And even if I take one box of extra stuff a week, I feel like I’m getting somewhere. That doing something is better than nothing. That is my biggest challenge. Thank you for all your tips and help!! ❤
What do you mean 8 out of 11 days?
@@saramations Probably health care or oil industry, lots of people have weird schedules like that.
Our trash company has a limit of 7 bags weekly.. I always try to put out 6 or 7. We are always extra nice to our trash men. They don't always get the credit they deserve, they have a hard job. When the temp is over 90 degrees we give them ice cold bottles of water and when it is 30 degrees or lower I give them cups of hot cocoa and sometimes hand warmers if I have any laying around. The goal of that 6 or 7 bag limit gives me encouragement for some reason. lol
@@nancywelch1 for the first time ever I managed to catch our refuse collectors last Christmas time and gave them a tip £30, I wasn’t sure if it was enough but I guess it was because all year they have put my bins back at my house instead of leaving them out by the road and last week I forgot to put the bin out and when I got home they’d clearly taken it. Definitely wasn’t a neighbour, so it pays to be considerate and I do appreciate the job they do
@@saramations lmao
I had a young kid - maybe 8 or 9 - ask me why my house was so messy. I said because we're just messy people. He said, no I think it's because you don't clean. Boom. Wise beyond his years and honestly really hit me ... even though I'd already been watching homemaking videos on RUclips for years I was still letting myself believe the wrong message. My journey has been VERY slow but there have been improvements in action and - more importantly - in mindset.
Nothing like the truth from the mouth of babes!
HI-LA-RIOUS!! I wish it was on film! Thanks for the transparency. I realized the same truth for myself…
Lol. Kids, they'll tell us how it is and It's not always pretty. 😂
Trying to stay on top of things is just an ongoing thing for me. And it's not easy. I have chronic pain and issues too which adds to the challenge but stuff needs doing.
Just do what you can. There's one thing I do and that is not to leave the room empty handed. There's always something in the room that needs to be taken to another room to its regular spot. So I look around first before leaving the room to see what I need to take with me. That can really help on doing extra trips.
True but the child should have been made aware that it is rude to say that to someone. Some people can’t motivate due to illness depression or other and it certainly will not help their mindset pointing out their faults.
I agree with Bee. Kinda was funny, thou. Plus.. you can clean, and still have a mess
We usually have a fairly tidy house. But one thing that I think helps is that when things start to get out of hand, I do 'ten minutes' or 'ten things'... so if I have time, I do ten minutes in the kitchen, ten minutes in the living room, or whatever. Or, I say "put away ten things in the office". It's something my mother used to say, because ten minutes or ten things are EASY to do. You don't feel stressed. Then at the end, it really does make things better. Sometimes I pretend someone is on their way over, and the doorbell is about to ring. That gets me moving!
Kinda wish I had heard this earlier today as I mostly wasted away the day dreading all the things I need to clean up. Feels like I’m constantly fighting the overwhelm just looking at the mess and I don’t get started. It’s already late afternoon here, but I’ll still take a couple 15 minutes before bed today. So thank you! ❤
If it helps, years ago I started doing 'just one thing' - so even if it was a disaster, I would put one thing away. It really helps me when I'm feeling overwhelmed, good luck! 😊
Good for you!
Same
I feel exactly like you do.. we can do this!
Baby steps make ALL the difference! Like Jocelyn said, do just one thing. We can all manage that! And it often snowballs into a few more things: ) I noticed that I get overwhelmed thinking about how long something will take, and then once I do it, I realize I thought and fret about it so much longer than the actual task lasted!
Kallie, thanks for showing the difference of pleasure and gratification. It's true, we need to work on our homes every day a few minutes at a time. Decluttering along the way makes our future selves have less to manage. I'm about to make my morning coffee. While it's brewing I empty the dishwasher from overnight. My coffee is my reward!☕🙌🏼
I love this comment! Make things better for my future self.
I do the same thing!!!
Me too!! ☕️
Yes! But I feel like we all need both in balance to be healthy 😊. All joy and no fun does not mean happiness.
I’m going to try and steal that idea
She's literally the only person I can watch over and over again without getting bored or tired 💖 you inspire me sm w my channel 💖🥰🍓♥️♥️🥰♥️♥️🥰
THANK YOU!
I agree ❤❤❤❤
I agree - and I try to follow one idea every day. Not perfect yet but more stuff is going out now!
Yes!!
Totally agree! Her suggestions come from an honest place, not hey “buy this bin or rack” or something ❤
I am a stay at home mom and am always struggling with comparing myself to working parents - how do they get it all done?! I recently had this realization that not only am I home all day with my 2 small children, but my husband also works from home. This means that all 4 of us are home, making messes that I then need to clean up for the 8+ hours that a traditional family with two working parents is away from the home for.
*Not saying that either job is easier/harder. Just a friendly reminder, like Kallie is highlighting, that sometimes our homes are messy because we live in them!
The people that work all day relegate the raising of their child to someone else. Although it is often viewed as the societal norm, count your blessings if you can recognize how truly precious those days are.
Working from home, I felt like I was _constantly_ replacing toilet paper rolls & lightbulbs and refilling soap pumps. I needed to clean the bathroom more often and the dishwasher filled up faster! The dust bunnies multiplied faster. In an office, all these things are taken care of by someone else (except the dishes).
You know, you do that “polished-but-real” thing so well.
Like your videos are edited well which makes them easy to comprehend and follow, but you don’t edit out what makes you authentic and relatable.
I used to keep a newspaper clipping on my frig of a person laying on the grass with a saying that said “Why not spend tomorrow being glad that you did it today” I still have that clipping it’s very tattered and yellowed it will always remain on my frig to remind me.
Love your shorts and your content vids. ❤
Years ago I used to go out and leave the house because I was avoiding the things/ tasks I need to do. Plus I worked a 40+ hour a week job. I love your videos
Woke up this morning dreading the mess in the living room and your video helped me get it done. Now I’m even baking and putting away laundry 🎉
I always pick up the living room before bed.....always have
Way to go! Good for you! I need that same thinking! ❤❤❤
It's reassuring to hear others also have problems with clutter and hearing simple actions to eliminate it.
Gratification vs pleasure... you are pretty much my life coach now! Never heard anyone break it down that well
I also came into the comments to say this! That was a true eye-opener
My mother taught me to put away or tidy fifteen things before I go to bed. It makes a big difference to the look of my home.
Discipline now or regret later. I love this. I need this on a pillow 😊
Kallie, you are so young to be so wise. It has taken me years and to learn these decluttering lessons. Keep on girl!❤️
Glad someone finally addressed spending more time at home and finding satisfaction there. Therefore more time to “maintain” our clutter/chaos.❤
This is so true, the more you declutter the easier it gets to make decisions about whether to keep an item or not. You’ll be making the decision in 5 seconds or less
My hang ups always get me, the things I dread is putting the laundry away and washing the pots and pans!
I didn't realize how great the rewards were until I started doing things this way. I'm now thanking my morning self for being such a good friend to my afternoon self. It's almost like having an extra helping hand.
I just straightened up the bedroom, mostly my husband’s dresser and stuf he drops on any flat surface. He walked into the bedroom and says: wow it feels so much bigger in here…..lol my side of the room is always neat 😊
I started with making my bed every morning, now it's just automatic. After seeing this I'm working on the sink and kitchen sides - it really does make the morning nicer. I'm not getting 100% but much more often than not = progress.
I have a jute bag for charity stuff - when I see a book or an item of clothing etc that I don't want or doesn't fit etc I put it right in (or via laundry if worn). But having the place to put stuff makes me add more to the pile & clear out more.
These are the only tips that have actually helped me. I loved this video.
One other tip that may help some people: home decor matters. I used to not really decorate for the holidays or care about home decor any other time of the year either (broke for a while so couldn’t afford the nice home decor like I would always see in magazines and stuff). But since I’ve started trying to spice my house up decor-wise (minimalist decor style, in my case) I’ve noticed it’s easier for me to put in the effort to pick up clutter because I know that once I pick up the clutter and tidy up even a little bit, my house is going to look GOOD (versus tidy but empty and lifeless).
Won’t apply to everyone, but might help someone 😊
It really does help to do a little at a time. I just got rid a 2 big garbage bags of Tupperware tonight! Feels awesome!
In my case, the major things that have helped me in my decluttering journey and cleaning is everything must have a home. Decluttering, organizing and trying to make sure I get tasks done right away (laundry, dishes, etc) makes a big difference.
I haven't got the last part of that mastered yet. The laundry basket sitting in my living room and the dishes in my sink are evidence of it. But that first part has made a huge difference for me. My house gets a little cluttered at times, but it's never going to get severely cluttered. Even on the worst day, my place can be put back together in an hour or two. And that's me working about half normal pace because of my autism and attention deficit. Although, I do have a cleaning person who does a more deep cleaning of my bathroom, kitchen, etc. about once a month to make things a little easier for me. And with me living here by myself, things don't get very dirty. So, I mostly just need to do the dishes and do a little decluttering from time to time.
Yes, everything has a home is great. Just putting an item back is so much less mentally taxing than having to think where it should go.
I also love moving items to where I first looked for them if I couldn't find them straight away
And getting rid of excess that make it more convenient to procrastinate. I used to have a dozen towels for a household of 2, which just ment I avoided washing my towels, had to store a pile of dirty towels, and had to mentally plan for two full loads of just towels.
Yea, that've ruined my youth. I was always told I'm messy, I'm a pig, I'm a shame, but when I asked "Where should I put these things?" the answer was '''Errrm... someplace?"
"Gratification" "Pleasure" spot on. I continually remind myself and adult children of this!! Nicely done as always!
Cleaning the kitchen every night is something I have become disciplined about. It really is nice seeing a clean shiny sink in the AM.
I definitely do the FlyLady Morning Routine and Evening Routines:
1. A clean sink every night. 2. Set the table at night for breakfast. But, I still have to stay on top of clutter. I’m better… baby steps. I pick a day to be my cooking day. It’s working for me.
Every time I sit down and watch your videos in the evening. I spend half the night organizing, decluttering and cleaning LOL. You are very motivational!
I really struggle with having to pick up after a full grown man and a 4yo (well the kid is learning) but your advise to tell oneself “I deserve it” is what I am constantly saying to myself. I love my house and I deserve to come home to a house that is clean and calm.
I have to tell myself, “No one is coming to do this and if you didn’t have your family you would still be the only one there to do it…” it suck but I am getting peace from leaving the clutter behind. It’s been a huge boost to my mental health and it really does save some much time when there is a home for things.
I still have a long way to go but have made big steps and seeing some awesome results.
I love every word she said. For me it's dishes as soon as there are about 9 things in the sink . I get it done and fill in the rest of my home time with laundry, floors, trash, recycling, and exercise, repeatedly. I love the words for a homemaker. "You are what you do repeatedly." I would love to hear more.
My daughter and I recently repainted the upstairs hallway which needed it desperately! and while it was more of a large task as tasks go, it is definitely soooo gratifiing to emerge from my bedroom each morning to my beautiful hallway! So as you pointed out, the journey can be a long one, but the prize at the end it so worth it! love your videos, Kallie. Keep up the good work!
I just painted my bathroom after putting it off forever. My hallway is next.
#5 is so true. I tell my husband when we are busy and rarely at home, “I can’t clean my house if I’m not home!” So sometimes that’s saying no to the 3 bday parties that weekend lol. I have to have a chance to reset my home.
My sister has a very messy home and she’s always stressing about it. But she’ll pack her weekends with activities, and I know it’s to avoid the mess. But she has to figure it out on her own. Though if she keeps whining about her messy house to me, I might have to point it out!
Absolutely love love love this video - thank you so much 🙏
I have been in a horrible rut with my home & stuff & you have truly inspired me to take small steps of 15 minutes each time, clear flat surfaces etc. Instead of being overwhelmed & it getting worse - I now feel like I can achieve a tidier home each day.
Keep up the great videos!💗
Yes! I’m in the same boat! It feels nice to hear that discipline or uncluttered, tidy homes are a learned behavior. I used to feel like something was wrong with me, or that I was a failure. I’m trying to declutter one thing every day and tidying up better every day.
I totally agree with you about the going out all the time for pleasure and not being home to do things there that would be gratifying. We do camping trips often and I find when we book 2 trips within the same month, Im overwhelmed with how much we’ve let fall to the way side at home.
EXCELLENT... dedicate 15 minutes 1 or 2 times daily to my priorities... procrastination keeps me emotionally hostage to the clutter! Behavioral changes take time to develop. So give it 20 to 30 days to make it a habit!!!
I love your videos! I have added to my Reminders “discipline now or regret later”. Genius! Thank you!
I love love love your tipps
Especially your kitchen sink rule.
I have been doing it for a whole week now and it is absolutely mind-blowing.
I always considered myself a unstructured unorganised and messy person. And I have watched a whole bunch of videos but none of them are as helpful as yours.
And now I am building up my cleaning routine with your help.
10 minutes there, 5 minutes here.
And of course the sink ...every single night.
Thanks a lot
greetimgs from Germany
Steffi
I HAVE to do it or I get huge anxiety. I tidy a lot to keep my anxiety down. Like when people say "make your bed" I could not NOY do it. Wish I was more relaxed about it.
There's a saying that goes, "people tend to act the way they're described." So even when WE describe ourselves a certain way, we tend to believe it and then follow those patterns. Instead, start considering yourself as the type of person that enjoys and finds pleasure in tidying up and organizing.. See if that helps you shift even more into a solid routine that you know you'll keep: )
I started following you last night, and I’ve watched so many videos, I got up started cleaning! I’ve been in a slump for about 2 years now..THANK YOU!
Thanks for those first few minutes... I needed them... 😩 l was so guilty that my house was a mess... that I cried when you spoke those words out...Thank you 💓
This is true! There are things that are a must every single day!
-bed made
-empty dish washer before work.
-start dish washer prior to bed
-never leave dirty dishes in sink
-always have clean counters in the kitchen so I can make breakfast.
-leave the living room better than how I found it
-rules to live by. People say I always have a clean home but in reality, it’s just daily habits of cleaning up after myself on a daily basis.
When I have a super clean day - that’s every 2-3 weeks
THIS pleasure / gratification thing is my WHOLE life!!!! Thank you.
I love your videos. You motivate me and don’t make me feel lazy. Procrastination is my biggest problem. Thank you.
I think this is the best video of both encouragement and gentle, constructive criticism to get us to be real with ourselves and keep trying!
Thank you for your videos! Great job!
Just found this and WOW, so refreshing! You understand living in a home.
Kallie, the peace of mind and relief of anxiety I get from keeping up my routines and good habits are priceless. I love the atmosphere in our home and my positive attitude. Thank-you !
Love the 15 minute tip. You can actually see a difference. It is often easy to keep going after the 15 minutes is up!
Love love love how you broke this down for me. I have felt drained and overwhelmed because of the very things you talked of. And you made the solutions feel very do-able. Thank you so much for investing yourself, time and energy into helping others. Your on camera presence and delivery is also very genuine, like a friend talking to a friend. No over the top personality, cheerleaders, overly-dramatic. Just geared toward being real and helping others. You are awesome!
As I was listening, I happened to be sorting my clothes; yet I was rebuking myself for what I don't do 😳!!!
You made great points and, it was so good, I had to listen again and smile at the 'to go', pile!
Helpful reminders 😏 ❤️❤️❤️ 🙂
I spent some time without a safe place to stay, so I hung around and slept in friends' homes and had to be in cafés, libraries, malls... While they were gone because they didn't have spare keys or anything. It was a lonely and sad experience, and now I really value and adore my tiny studio apartment. It's so cute and peaceful and coming back after a long day feels like a warm hug. It's my escape from the world. I'm trying to find the energy to decorate it like it needs to be, but mostly I'm doing what I can to keep it as tidy as possible!
You nailed my internal argument about staying home to clean versus going out and doing something fun! Either way I usually feel guilty, which what is the point of that?! Staying home even for part of a day to get my home in order definitely pays off later on.
yes! That was actually very helpful. We went for a drive to a new coffee shop yesterday because my sister bought a new car and decided to quit the famous expensive coffee shop you all know... and have a love/hate relationship with! I love this plan SO MUCH! I don't want to just chug an expensive coffee. I love making it an adventure!
I have always been a do it all or nothing person, taking one while day. My mother once told me that it is too overwhelming to do it that way, and it is easier to do at least one thing a day. This is one thing I heard you say also, by taking15 minutes to do a task. This was very helpful for me. I like the clearing of flat surfaces also! I always feel better when they are decluttered! Thank you. I subscribed.
Hi Kallie, I love watching your videos, which help me to feel more in control of my mess, because I'm not the only one.
A couple of months ago my boyfriend bought a robot hoover - I was away at a course for a few days and came home to find "Lucy" in the house. I always thought that 2 adults in a normal sized house should be able to manage the cleaning between us, but it ends up usually being me, and I work full time and study part time as well, so the house is usually a bit of a mess. Anyway, Lucy has been a game changer. She can run round downstairs while I walk the dog, and I come home to a clean living room floor, which makes me feel happy and less stressed!
Don't get me wrong, if someone announced that they were coming over in 30 minutes, I'd still have to run round like a crazy person tidying, but I wouldn't have to get the dyson out.
My house is messy sometimes because I’m lazy and hate cleaning. Plain and simple. And I’m okay with that. There’s other things in life than having a sparkling clean house all the time. I’m one of those people that I appreciate when people call me ahead of time to let me know they are coming over. Then I clean. The rest of the time, I live here and I accept my mess.
Exactly we dont have to be perfect or anal
I used to but being 71 I just cannot do those 3 day, frantic clearing and cleaning marathons anymore. And I don't want my son to have to contend with a house full of stuff like my brother had to when our mom died. He literally filled a 3 ton dumpster. Who knows how many things just were tossed that could have been donated to help a worthy cause because he didn't have time to sort through it all. I could not help, I had a full time job and (at the time) a demanding husband and 6 year old son, and lived 8 hours away. My own messes to attend to.
Thank you Kallie for all your inspiration and encouragement.
I time a few tasks a long time ago. Clear clothes off the chair- 5 minutes vs the days of avoiding it. Make my bed- 3 minutes in the morning vs at night when it’s now covered in laundry too.
Run cross wave (vac/mop) in 15 minutes to keep up with pet hair etc vs panicking when guests are coming. Clean one drawer and feel success vs try to do the whole dresser and feel like I failed. Just a few tips from a 53 yr homemaker with 3 grown kids & a career.
Thanks for being kind enough to show us the honest truth. I love that your videos really are to down to earth and achievable
I'm always motivated to de-clutter or get more organized when I watch your channel. Thank you for all the great information!
My house always needs upkeep and work but it’s rarely “messy”. We effort constantly on it but yeah we have a lot going on and a lot of people coming and going!
You are absolutely right about it all! 🤩😍🤩! I purchased the silicone chair scuff protectors. I was so sick of the felt adhesive ones finding their way off and around my house and stuck to my Australian Shepherd 😂. As soon as I ordered them,I put together cleaning items for the task. Bucket, floor cleaner,wood cleaner for the chairs, scratch repair, etc. As soon as they arrived,I was excited and ready to go! Now that it's done,a week later, I am still thrilled 🤩😍🤩💖💖🎉! They work wonderfully and my kitchen set looks brand new. Thank youuuuuu! I love your videos 🤩🤩🤩🤩💖💖💖💖
So good about “the actually being home” to manage your home! Sometimes I feel like I’m not getting out enough but I’m totally satisfied with being home, especially with my kids being so young! Thank you for putting that into word!♥️
I find that going out, even if it's just wandering around Walmart or something, is often a coping mechanism for me so that I'm not looking at my mess and clutter. I can temporarily forget it when I'm not home, but then I get home and feel stressed, embarrassed, and depressed, and the cycle continues.
@@amandameleen9084, you’re not alone!
The staying home part 👌
I’ve actually had to try to explain that to women in my own generation/stage of life, that I need to stay home because I value whatever it is I need to do/catch up on, and that’s why I have to turn down whatever invite is being presented.
I also realize that I have a much lower clutter threshold then other women, with two toddlers, I really get overwhelmed when our house is cluttered and I am by no means a minimalist but I am intentional about what stays.
Such great advice and I love how you advocate for spending time at home and caring for it. It is a lost art and a valuable lesson for our children of having control over their environment - outer order, inner calm...
It’s 8:45 PM and I literally just paused the video and quickly went through the house to be sure that I picked everything up. 😊
Thank you for more good ideas. I have always been a believer in making my future self happy. I tidy my kitchen every night no matter what, my morning self is so happy to wake to a clean kitchen. We can conquer the world in small bites.
I have recommeded your videos for many clients who are wanting to be more able to keep their living spaces better organized. It is helpful to look at this issue more closely and to understand how people keep their living spaces clean. Thank you for tackling this issue which is a frustration for many,
I really love this, thank you so much. One thing I wish had been said regarding always being out and going and NOT being home is that, when you ARE (finally) home, you don't have the energy or mental capacity to then tackle the tasks of maintaining the home. You'd think NOT being home = home not getting messy, but that's really not true. Relating to the "stuff always coming in"...that stuff comes in whether you are home or not.
This is seriously one of the best videos on being tidy I’ve watched. Thanks for sharing your wisdom! 🥰
So glad you posted this today. I’m doing a painting project, all the living room furniture except the couch is in the den. Living in a house that’s not as organized as usual. Now figuring I have no reason to not maintain order and do a house blessing (cleaning) & decluttering today. Already put a load of laundry in this morning (easier doing more frequently than what I used to do - which was wait until I had 4 loads piled up). Put a meal in the crock pot then got the painting done. Much easier starting with an already organized house. A friend came out for a week to help me out getting unpacked & organized. Please, ask family and friends for help when you feel buried under your stuff. And offer to help them. The bigger projects are a lot more fun & quicker when done together. And I’m experiencing so much more pleasure living in my home. Thanks for all the good ideas.
Thank you! I am working on this. Sick of feeling mortified when someone says they are stopping by 😳
It can be super hard to keep the house tidy... My house was a mess before the weekend just because I stopped doing my 10 minute chores on a daily basis. It must have taken me about 10 hours over the weekend to get it 'back to normal' and I'm still getting through the laundry! I have to say, I'm not usually too bad but last week I just lost all motivation and I think it's important to remember that that's fine.. we can't all be perfect all the time. I do agree with her though, I always try to put everything in the dishwasher and wipe the sides down before bed and unload the dishwasher in the morning whilst my cuppas brewing. That way, anything used throughout the day goes straight in and it makes it all feel a little more manageable :)
The concept makes perfect sense. implementation is not quite so easy. My experience is to start with 5 mins and then build. Once we see how easy the 5 was and how happy we are when we wake to a semi done kitchen, we are more willing to go further. At least, it did for me. Great videos!!!
Your advice is priceless !! God bless you for helping a lady who is overwhelmed with clutter.
You might check out Clutterbug. Her channel is more doable as well!
Wow, close to one million! Thanks for your realistic advice and cheerleading attitude!
Thank you. Your videos have helped me to get motivated to organize and keep clean my spaces. The attitude of the "future me will thank me" thing has helped me so much. Plus the whole bit at a time thing really helps. I started that in my kitchen and now have gone through every drawer and cabinet!
I've been watching your videos while I'm working yesterday and I started to declutter all of my things that no longer values me. ❤️💖 You inspire me to do more activities at home. - your new subscriber, dani
She has really nailed it! I'm a mother of 3 and now a grandmother of 4. I was a single mom with my 3 kids, and worked multiple jobs all the time. I literally put everything she's saying into practice at that time and it works. Stop feeling overwhelmed with your situation and just start doing everything she suggests. It will work for you too.
Thank you for pointing out the plus of gratification versus pleasure.
It may not be "fun" but it "feels good"!
You always have great points and truly what mothers need to hear. I know not just mothers because I’m sure stay at home dads watch your channel too, but regardless, a lot of us feel regret or shame that we can’t just “have it together” 100% of the time. And we’re judged because we hear “but you’re here all day”. Ugh! Anyway, love your channel and your support of us as well! Thank you!
How would you balance this against the reality that there’s always something that needs to be done? How do you avoid the despair that might result from feeling like your daily life ultimately just consists if 5-15 min tasks that result in your house being clean. I suppose a shorter version of this question is how do you know when to just sit down and enjoy your coffee?
You have to make time for yourself too! 15 minutes to tidy and 15 minutes for you 😉 it’s a great reward after your task!
I don't have anything remarkable to say, this was just a Great video! Thank you Kalli for helpful content ☺️
The end was was so succinct, you delivered it perfectly! It really struck me, thank you ☮❤🇨🇦
Decluttering is soo important and beneficial
Dishes, laundry and trash or my three things that I focus on every day. Those are my pet peeves. Since our kids moved out, I can breath a little now. Their messiness was stressful to me.
I stopped and came back to this video a few times this hour to tidy up the house lol. Not even kidding. Cleaned the dishes, dusted under my bed (it was bad under there!), and did the floors. Thank you for the motivation
I'm going to be starting a new job next week, which is going to be drastically different for me, from the schedule I'll be working to less time off. I've watched about 4 videos from you and this advice is just awsome! I can see myself following your tips because they seem extremely doable, simple, not drastic. Any way, I'm so glad I found this channel. Thankyou so much for great advice!
I always learn so much every time I watch your videos! In fact, I now have begun sharing them with my daughter-in-love and you are inspiring her too! Thanks, Kallie for all you do! ❤
thank you so much!!
LOOVE that you call your daughter in law your daughter in love because a lot of moms and daughter in laws dont have great relationships 😢
Love this video. Gratification is so true. Felt it today after gutting the kids rooms of all the old unused toys, putting loads in loft to rotate round. When putting them to bed looked around and although not finished (still needs cleaning hoovering etc) it made me feel so much happier just knowing it was done. ❤️❤️❤️
I just got the same pots you have. I like them but keep touching the hot spots without using hot pads. Forming a new habit by learning from pain! Great 5 points.
It is so important to have a place for everything. Since donating a lot of things during my last move, it is so easy to keep things neat. Now I follow the rules that if I bring something new in , I need to have a place for it and I get rid of something. That also reduces how many new things I buy if I don't have anyplace to put it and can't think of anything to give away.
Love this video Kallie! My paper workstation in a kitchen corner has really been bugging me. I’m in and out of it all day long. As I was considering buying a pretty box with a lid, rather than the acrylic box I have, the voices of my favorite RUclipsrs, You, Dawn and Josh, spoke up and said Susan, you can’t organize so much clutter! 🙄. So I took 10 min, and decreased it to what I truly and honestly need there. Some stuff was tossed, some to my kitchen utility drawer and some to my Time will Tell box. Now, my workstation looks really great!
Kallie, You knocked this one out of the park with how you succinctly presented extremely pertinent information! This is the best ever one I have seen from you! You changed my life today.❤❤❤