Same here. I worry so much about being left by people I care about that I find myself doing as much to help them as much as I can. It may not be the primary conscious reason--I genuinely like helping others--but I've realized that this is some underlying reason I do things. It's like if I'm not fulfilling a need, I can be discarded so much more easily.
Yes but only if you're overweight. It's not ok if you're underweight. Also, it's terrible that you think it's alright to convince children into thinking that being obese is ok and something they shouldn't work to change, for health reasons if not for beauty.
Who said? She could have a disease or be on steroids for a sickness YOU should not be so judgemental you don't know everyone's story or health js think before you speak
jeb tweebance In first place. why should YOU or anybody tell someone what any person should do? If you are a doctor and that person is you patient then by all matters you can do it. Being healthy is not the same as being thin, or eating to much or to little, it's not about your size and only a doctor can tell you if you are healthy or not. You say "Should we not be telling people like her to maybe STOP eating so much; because it's unhealthy?" Oh believe me, you do tell us to stop "eating so much", and by you I mean society (which means society tells you too), you tell us every time we look at the media, when we are with our friends, with our family, at work... everywhere. But, the reason it's hardly ever because it's unhealthy like you said. It's because its not "pretty", not "attractive". Not like you should look. It's not right, YOU are not right. .Society is not just gently telling us " We want you to be healthy, no matter what that looks physically, as long as you are healthy then it's fine", no, The message society is sending is "If you don't look certain way, the way we are portraying as the right way, you should not expect to be as loved, successful and happy as the people who are because the way you look is not enough to get those things you want, YOU are not enough, you are less than them, you are not worthy of happiness, love and success". And that's why so many girls starve themselves and throw up, because they think (how could they not) that that's the way to happiness and everything that comes with being the "right" size. The message I got from Mary is "You don't have to hurt yourself, either physically or emotionally, to be happy, to be loved or to be successful. It doesn't matter what size you are, you have value, you are important, you are worth it, nobody and nothing can take that way from you".
@jeb please tell me how telling kids that's being overweight is wrong and they need to fix it. If it is hereditary you can't fix it. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome. I exercise every day and eat healthy and take medicine to help but guess what, you can't cure pcos. Your stuck with it. A lot of girls are overweight from it. A few don't have the weight problem but that like 1 in 10 women who have pcos. This song is so uplifting. Women shouldn't have to be ashamed of their body any size. So before you spout off saying you should tell kids to fix their weight problem maybe you should look up pcos. And maybe you should look up your family history. Because it could run in your family too.
natalie haupt If you are an outlier and have a medical condition that makes it hard for you to lose weight, then okay, but this is an overly common excuse used by overweight people for being overweight. Kids should be told that it's unhealthy to be overweight, and that it carries major health risks. I don't think it's right that we're making kids think it's okay to be unhealthy. You're advocating "love your body" instead of "strive for improvement" and "better yourself". It's a defeatist/ lazy attitude.
loool lmao, you must be really triggered. there is a reason most people are disgusted by freakin overweight. I don´t hate them. but try to lose weight instead of fucking glorify that shit for sake
Imozep4Live Her talent has nothing to do with her weight. Absolutely, Nothing to do with her weight. Her having fame and publicity for her VOICE is not glorifying obesity or dangerously overweight.
not to ruin the streak of not posting on your comment but those are the most powerful words for me. As a young woman it's a constant battle between being who I want to be and who I think will be more acceptable and alluring.
I saw Mary Lambert at my local Pride festival a few days after the Orlando Pulse shootings, and she performed this live. Lots of tears that day from Mary and everyone in the audience. She's a wonderful performer and human.
This poem is a huge part of why I have made it to 177 days without harming myself. It never fails to move me to tears and empower me to make it through even the roughest days.
"I only know how to exist when I am wanted." Girls like us are hardly ever wanted, you know We're used up and we're sad and drunk and Perpetually waiting by the phone for someone to pick up and tell us that we did good Well, you did good.
im so in love with her and her message and what she stands for. she's so amazing. this video was so powerful and beautiful and it almost made me cry, because it just spoke volumes to me. i've been so so so depressed for all of my life and so insecure about myself and i finally made a choice to stop that and im learning to accept my flaws and god, is it a struggle but im trying so hard to overcome it. and, because of that determination im now 138 days clean from self harming.
dropdead_Zion omg i just read your comment and wow that is so amazing. i dont know you and you dont know me but god the fact that you haven't self harmed in that long is amazing . i am so proud that you have the courage to love your body like everyone should. i wish you luck with the journey that your on! -proud random girl
I'm so glad you feel a bit better. I hope you are still clean. Please stay safe, people care for you, I can promise you that. And please remember that you are never alone.
Zion Daniels wow. That is INCREDIBLE. Seriously. I'm not sure how many days I am clean but it's been like two months. That is wonderful. I'm so proud of you to not harm you body like that anymore.
Jonagor97 2 fuck you! This video doesn't reply just to girls! But yeah we have bigger problems than guys because you're the one who judges us and that really hearts!
You got to be kidding me. Are you realy saying girls don't judge people? Girls and boys are all people. We all judge eachother. You are judging boys making a false claim that only boys judges girls. I'm tired of girls thinking all men are monsters and women are always being opressed in every country.
Jonagor97 2 The message of this video was to love your body, but since this was directed mostly towards women (men too, but mostly women) people like you always have to find something wrong with it. Nothing is ever good enough for you people.
some people can't help it if they're overweight. some people take medications, or have metabolism problems. learn your facts before categorizing all overweight people as "lazy", some were brought up knowing nothing but food. binge eating is an eating disorder, too, you know. This is a slam poem and song mashed as one, and it's beautiful. Maybe Mary wrote this to help herself gain motivation to lose weight, we will never know; nor do we have to know. what Mary wants to do with her body (overweight or not) is something that's up to her, and as long as she's not carving up her skin or doing things such as purging and starving, we shouldn't have to say what she should and shouldn't do. maybe Mary puts makeup on because she is confident with herself, but she has to do them for jobs because producers tell her to, or maybe she just wants to to add a little MORE confidence. I bet at home she's makeup-less and doesn't curl/straighten her hair. again: what Mary does is HER business. stop trying to add in your argumentative two-cents.
Alexandra Drexhagen No matter what problem they have, if they tried, they could be a role model and push trough their problems instead of accepting it.
I have trouble gaining weight and I can't help how small I am. I have a fast metabolism and I try to eat as much as I can but I continue to lose weight that I need and I hate it.
This gave me chills, she is simply amazing. I also love how she features various body sizes as well as men too. Loving your body is something all sizes and genders need to do.
***** Would you please explain to me what a 'normal human' is? Because as far as I have seen from the multiple places I've been, a 'normal human' does not exist. Some people have medically proven problems that prevent them from losing weight. But as I think you believe, there are some lazy ass people who refuse to do anything about it. Another thing, she has, much like many of the viewers of this video, something called depression. Now I understand that you might be to ignorant to know what that means, but the basics of it is you feel sad for some possibly explained reason or might not be able to find comfort in your own body. Now then tell me this: What percent of the songs that have been made, have said something promoting someone or something? Saying something good about themselves or a specific group they are in? At least 30% of songs out there have mentioned the musician in a good way to add onto their self esteem as well as the viewers opinion of them. But those people must be normal right? News flash. We are all considered 'normal'. And what makes her not human? The flab that her body has attained? Well then in my eyes all the sports kids out there with obscene muscles are far from human. But that's my opinion. Just like yours my opinion has its own flaws. But my main question is: If you are so against the video then why are you still here? Next reproductive organ please.
***** you disgust me... And you are hiding both your face and your name Mr. Or miss Noone... So I think you disgust you too... Fucking troll... Worthless, fearfilled, sad waste of space... Reveal yourself or go away...
***** If you are a educated person above the age of acceptable naivety, then I would expect a better constructed response. Not a response that holds opinionated, unknowing, naive half-truths that when studied upon further are thoroughly incorrect. And if you are not a person above the naive age, then why are you responding to a video with such negativity, if you feel disdain for this then just leave.
And how long ago did you achieve this degree? Modern researchers have discovered new problems, for example: hypothyroidism. Your thyroid is under-active which in turn makes your metabolism slower. Most people with a slower metabolism tend to sink into depression due to their already 'low calorie' intake not working. Depression will either lead to massive food intake, or lack of nourishment- anorexia/ bulimia. You could also have polycystic ovary syndrome, where if you are a female you have too much testosterone in your body causing an internal 'battle of the sexes' (hormones battling for dominance) It doesn't work for everyone, the majority? Yes, but the defects? No.
***** Honey, I'm not saying they cause people to gain weight. I'm saying they restrict the amount of weight the person can lose, two completely different statements.
there were trans guys in this video I am really happy because we're practically nowhere in mainstream media and seeing people like me in a video by one of my favorite artists is making me really happy
Celia Wylie yes I’m very glad we were represented. Basically every trans person I know including me are so insecure about our bodies, I relate with this
Oh my god. I have been waiting for this video for forever, but i didnt expect it to be this.. powerful. This is why mary lambert is one of my favorite people in the whole wide world.
8 years later, I’m now 3 years on testosterone almost a year post op top surgery. This was one of the first music videos i had seen that showed bodies that were gonna be the way mine would be in the future. The visibility of trans men showing their scars having such self love. Tomorrow (3/30/23) i am getting the tattoo i have known i wanted since the first time i heard it. “My body is home” because i am finally home in this body. I was 13 when i first listened to this. I will be 22 in April. 8 years of always coming back to remind myself, my body is home.
Big Hugs!! We are so much more than our genders, bodies, skin hair color. We have so very much to offer! You are amazing; what courage!! I hope you got that tatoo!
As a transgender man this was really powerful to me and made start crying. I am learning to embrace the scars on my chest and know that I am still beautiful. When the girl was kissing his chest and the line was after it talking about sexiness it was when I started crying. I used to think I wouldn't be attractive with these scars on my chest but this really helped me.
as a trans man, sometimes I find it really hard to love my body and how I look, but this song is just so powerful and positive and it helps me get through the day. I love this.
I saw her perform this live and It was so good I started crying. This is so beautiful and amazing. I live how you can here the emotion in her voice. Can't believe she isn't more well know.
You do not have self confidence because you depend on people for confidence. If your friends or that boy who you have a crush on does not like you for who you are, then those arent people to have around. Love yourself before you can love anybody else, and stop caring what people have to say. Victoria secrets models probably have the lowest self esteem because of how controlled they are just to keep an image. They can be free, something you have - freedom. Express it.
Mary I wish more people knew of the incredible work you are doing in the music industry, I hope that through this and your debut full album that your message reaches more and more people! You truly are a remarkable woman and I am so glad I had the pleasure of seeing you live and hearing your heart and soul be poured into these pieces. All the best in the future!
I agree. I didn't get to see her live yet, but clearly Mary Lambert is one of the most moving and transformational (for the music industry - for the world) artists of our times.
Nobody Special Yeah, I noticed the trans-men in the video because of their scars. It's a sad reminder of what they used to be, but what matters is who they are inside.
Vanja no, it's not sad - it's so great. Their old bodies are those ashen branches and those scars are left behind reminders that they were able to be reborn, that they chose the life they get to live in a way that cis people will never get to own. I never find scars from the surgeries of my trans brothers and sisters sad, those reminders of how far we can come help us to appreciate what we have.
I.....I didn't even realize trans men were in this. I have been so obsessed with Mary Lambert because every single song and video has been the very definition of me...except, what I thought was this one. I listened to this only once, years ago, and thought "wow! how nice! a body loving song for women." and rejected it for myself any further because of my own obsession with self masculinity. Now I'm watching it repeatedly, weeping. How wrong I was. Trans men are in this. She's kissing his scars....My body is home.
Thank you Mary Lambert for standing up against society's expectations and showing the world that we are all equal and beautiful. I want all of the young women in my life to hear your music and feel the truth and heart that is entwined in your lyrics. You are an amazingly beautiful person and I truly hope you know how appreciated you are.
I cry like a fucking baby whenever I hear this. Even if you're planning on changing yourself or quitting something, you need to realise that you're mind and your soul and what you think when you look at art isn't shown on the scale. You're favourite qoute isn't on the measuring tape and the way you're eyes light up when you're happy isn't on the back of your jeans. It's okay to want to change and to want to better yourself, as long as you realise it isn't absolutely necessary and as long a you realise it's for you. Because you're beautiful and you need to know it.
The epitome for me: " I only know how to exist when I am wanted, because girls like us are hardly ever wanted, you know ?" Can't change until you know exactly what it is that is wrong. & now I know. Thank you Mary for articulating it so well it penetrated my soul.
i come back to this allot, over the past 3 years ive been slowly recovering from an eating disorder and now im finally ad recovered as i could be,, im obese now but im learning to love myself and understand that heavy isnt a negative, that skinny isnt better,, im learning that i am just as much of a handsome man as anyone else, my body is my home and someday ill share that with another man when im ready, after ive learned to touch every part of myself and feel love. thank you for this, its one of the most raw and beautiful videos ive ever seen and ill continue to carry it with me forever
This 4 minute 12 seconds is everything for someone like me.. Want to let you know that YOU ARE ALL (!!!!!!!!!!!!) GOT SOMETHING SPECIAL! which make you WORTH IT!
Powerful. Beautiful. Truth. Now, how do we learn and except this truth? Need to share this with my daughters. I've done everything I could to complement and instill a good sense of self for my daughters, only to find them still hating their bodies. I did everything except love myself.... Children learn what they live. I could tell them every day how beautiful they are but when they hear me complain about myself, that's what they pick up on. Kick myself every damn day for this. Still trying to love myself at 45 years of age.... Fu**!
imtheresamarie Yes. Children are sponges. My parents tell my sisters and I we're beautiful, but it doesn't mean much because they're our parents and we feel like they "have to" say those things. Also, my younger sister & I've been picked on SINCE DAYCARE!!! It's really sad. I'm slowly, VERY SLOWLY getting some confidence at 26. What helped the most was my mother & father warning us about the kind of people there are in the world. Although the picking, teasing, mental, verbal, & emotional abuse continue to play in my head, the warning my parents gave me really helped me not completely break. They didn't portray the world as a bad place or that all people are bad; they just warned us about how some people may do this or that.
Dear Random Person, You are amazing. You mean something. You mean everything to at least one person. Don't hurt yourself. Because, if you do you hurt the person you love. The person who loves you.You probably think no one will notice if your gone. Your parents will think of what they could have done. Your best friend will wonder why she didn't notice. Your siblings will think it's their fault because they were rude to you. I care about you. You don't know me. I don't know you. But I care about you. We all have a purpose. Even if you believe you don't. You do. Be the best you you can. And then you'll be happy with the you you are. ~Someone You'll Never Know
This comment has me bawling, and I thank you for letting me know that someone cares. I thank you because you saved my life, you made me realize I do indeed have a purpose. thank you.
Aquatic Rainxx This is why I do these things because people need to know that they do matter. And I'm so glad I helped you. That's more than I could have ever wished for.
This song change the way I saw myself I've always seen my reflection and hated what I saw but now I love every single part of me despite what others say.
'I only know how to exist when I am wanted' that line just wow... it makes me think about how I have lived the moments in my life when I was the saddest, the moments when I was the weakest, all come down to this line. When you are a child you strive so hard to be wanted by your friends loved by your parents but when that falls apart and you never reclaim it what then? I was able to move on put the pieces back together thanks to people I found eventually in my life but not everyone can be so lucky and its not a weight issue its a society issue. Stop tearing others down and build people up!
Dear sister you are so much more than your body you are so much more than your scars you are so much more than any mascara any lipstick any blush any makeup you are beautiful the way you are you are so much more than any sharpness you are so much more than society demands you are so much more than your hair your skin your hips your lips you are beautiful the way you are you are soul you are voice you are feelings you are real you are ....whole and you are beautiful just the way you are
This is so such a beautiful piece of work. It really stings because we as women... or should I say people do not know our own worth usually. It takes time to find it. To realize we need to love ourselves and not depend on someone to do it for us. We all get tempted to fall back into something unhealthy weather it's self-harming, an unhealthy relationship, or being promiscuous just to feel wanted and attractive... Yet we are enough. Get those irrational negative thoughts out of your head and forgive yourself... read self help books, think positive, you can overcome whatever it is that is hindering you're growth as a person! Overcome whichever battle you are struggling with.
This is beautiful I don't know how to express it. I can't even tell you how much this has touched me. That smile at 3:30 combined with the lyrics and music and everything made me cry I just wanted to say.
I can't stop watching this. I keep thinking as cruel as we can be, when we have these beautiful and undeniably important thoughts we manage to express them in such stunning and creative ways. Amazing, I need more from this woman. xx
In my opinion, this song is literally perfect. I am quite a large person, and I'm so done with the shit that people say that I "Eat too much" Or "You don't exercise enough" Because in all honesty, I am healthy and on rare times I have junk food. Enough with telling someone what they did wrong and help them feel better about themselves. Think before you say.
So powerful. I'm glad that the video portrayed men as well because we as women we identified totally to these words but we have the tendency to forget that men suffer from those "scar" too and more than we think. Your words, Mary, touched me to my core and i cried. Thank you for reminding me that i need to love myself, body and soul, because that is the path to healing.
this entire video, the concept, the message, the imagery, the people.....are all so beautiful. everything about this gives me so many shivers. it's just so stunning.
When I feel bad about myself I come here and read through the comment section because it's almost all positive, which is a hard thing to say about youtube videos.
I ran into this by accident, I had no idea I needed to hear this. I had no idea, but I knew I was broken. I am broken but now I want to learn to love my broken self. I want to love myself, maybe some day I will.
Mary Lambert is such a beautiful human inside and out. I look up too her so much for what she does for society as a whole, teaching everyone to accept themselves. She makes me feel happy every time I hear her speak, because she's so god damn good with words. I wish a lot of people could be more like her.
I started my ed recovery just under a year ago and I make a point to try and listen to this song as much as I can. If all music was like this, we would live in a much happier world.
This is an incredibly moving video, wonderfully directed too. (PSA to everyone who relates and/or actually grasped the message of this, you might not want to scroll through the comments, there be lots of fat-shaming, sexist dickheads)
It has been many years since I last listened to this song. And I knew it was gonna make me cry. And I listened to it again anyway. And I cried. After years of growth it hits differently, but it still hits those feels hard.
This made me cry and then smile. As a kid I was really insecure about myself, and thank god I didn't know what cutting was because I was so depressed I probably would have. I used to look at all the other girls and I saw how pretty they were, and I looked at myself in the mirror and I cried. And bullying didn't help, I had one really slutty friend and she never helped me so I talked to myself and I cried. Things brightened up when I moved to a new school, but at times I was still depressed and I was to scared to cut and I turned to reading and RUclips and music and they were the only things that helped. I have awesome friends, but sometimes things happen and they just aren't there for a while. And I smiled because this is a real confidence booster for me, and I really appreciate it.
This song is still so powerful to me. I remember before i listened to it, i had only looked at the lyrics and i said "this song'll be perfect if instead of actually singing it, she says it (just like how it's done here)" i was so happy.
Makes me cry everytime I hear it but the tears make me stronger! Connect with this song more than any other song I have ever heard, made me a fan of spoken word songs on the spot. The Video is just as Beautiful and worth the wait!!! This is Golden Mary :D
This is amazing. Beautiful. She reaches out and puts what all of us have felt at one point in our lives, she puts all of our pain into words and makes it into a healing balm. I wish I had discovered this years ago, but I'm glad I have now.
I'm so glad I stumbled upon this. I was at the gym yesterday, it was my first day back in months and I had put on a few pounds. I already felt really shitty about myself and was planning to go back when I'd gotten back to my original weight, but I decided to go anyways. I had a great work out until I had a personal trainer walk up to me and say "you've gained so much weight! What happened?" She said that in front of everyone and I was mortified and angry! Like how can you talk to guests like that? Anyways, listening to Mary Lambert has made me feel better. She's an amazing woman with a great message.
this made me cry so hard. I'm going to make it a goal to watch this every morning. I have delt with anorexia but am in recovery and this has helped me so much
The way she's saying it reminds me of The Today This Day Project by Shane Koycan. If you have never seen it, you need to. I'm crying at this about as much as I cry at that, which is a lot for the person who isn't fond of crying
I am fascinated by the way she speaks and pronounces things. Her passion and enthusiasm really makes her words hit hard. I love this about her. She is REAL about everything.
Mary Lambert is such a beautiful and talented artist. She promotes such a good message and yet she remains so unpopular. Why though??? Her voice is beautiful and her lyrics are so poetic and she's a beautifully positive person. She is too good for us and we don't appreciate her enough
EDIT: I just recently remembered that I made this comment 2 years ago and I was 14 at the time. I'm proud of myself for growing as a person with this mindset. So I started reading the comments and some of them made me really disgusted. Yes I'm a kid and yes I don't know shit but I know that you're crossing a very thin line here. So are you saying that every positive thing that comes towards people with low self esteem and psyhical problems should be walked over. And unlike most of you pricks out there think this video isn't meant only for people with weight problems. There are a lot of people who don't feel good in their skin and can't help it. Be it their sexual prefrence, their personality,their face or anything else that they don't feel comfortable with. Nobody is perfect and you can't compare people.
to prove your point, the man at 3:29 is my manager. He has been on a long journey and is an inspiration to me. He is like a big brother to me and although I've only known him a short time, he has made such a big impact on my life and how I approach things. I know that he wasn't comfortable in his skin for a LONG time, back when he was a she. I love this man and am so thankful that I have met him and am privileged to have him in my life as a friend.
This video gives me chills. Every. Fucking. Time. The other day, my parents asked me if anyone was still making music that meant something, that had a message. And instantly, Mary Lambert came to mind. Thank you Mary, for saying the things that everyone's afraid to say, but so many people need to hear. We all love you for it.
"Love your body the way your mother loved your baby feet". I love this lyric so much. Do you know how much love and adoration that describes? When a mother admires and loves and stares in complete amazement that something so precious could be all hers? To be able to have that type of love for your body.. is incredible
All i can say is this is the message people need to hear once a day. Not to hear about looking like everyone to make someone else happy. She puts it in the perfect way. Thank you
Absolutely beautiful! I know so many people with similar struggles and it really helps to hear this. I listen to this song everyday before school just so I remember it throughout the day. I wish I could meet Mary Lambert, the artist that truly turned many people's lives around. My dream is to inspire many people with art and help others so Mary Lambert is a great role model/idol for me and so much more of society. Society is really cruel sometimes but everybody should remember that whatever you may be going through, it won't last forever.
Everything I have heard from you has been powerful. I listen to your music when I am writing. When I am relaxing. When I am trying to sleep... and when I am incredibly sad and thinking I am alone. Your music has helped me not only begin new stories, but it has also helped me see that I AM in fact beautiful and that my life has only just begun. I love your music, and you probably won't ever read this because very few artists do, but I wanted to thank you. Thank you for being open about your love and who you are, for sharing what you truly think and mean, and even sharing the dark moments, because we are all human. You shed light on the fact that weakness does not mean we are weak; it means we are human. So thank you from this small town girl about to face college and my adulthood. Thank you.
This woman has saved my life.
+Olhos de Nuvens She saved me too
same! she's pure inspiration 👌👌
I'm so happy such a strong beautiful person is still amongst us all. I love you so much without my eyes and I love everyone here!
Aiiii, que linda!
Letícia Akemi brasileira aaa ❤
"I only know how to exist when I am wanted" that struck a nerve. God, it is so good to hear a slam poem like this.
Ikr
Same here. I worry so much about being left by people I care about that I find myself doing as much to help them as much as I can. It may not be the primary conscious reason--I genuinely like helping others--but I've realized that this is some underlying reason I do things. It's like if I'm not fulfilling a need, I can be discarded so much more easily.
Body acceptance is not about glorifying obesity. It's about fucking loving your body at whatever size you are at. - Mary Lambert
Yes but only if you're overweight. It's not ok if you're underweight. Also, it's terrible that you think it's alright to convince children into thinking that being obese is ok and something they shouldn't work to change, for health reasons if not for beauty.
Who said? She could have a disease or be on steroids for a sickness YOU should not be so judgemental you don't know everyone's story or health js think before you speak
jeb tweebance In first place. why should YOU or anybody tell someone what any person should do? If you are a doctor and that person is you patient then by all matters you can do it. Being healthy is not the same as being thin, or eating to much or to little, it's not about your size and only a doctor can tell you if you are healthy or not. You say "Should we not be telling people like her to maybe STOP eating so much; because it's unhealthy?" Oh believe me, you do tell us to stop "eating so much", and by you I mean society (which means society tells you too), you tell us every time we look at the media, when we are with our friends, with our family, at work... everywhere.
But, the reason it's hardly ever because it's unhealthy like you said. It's because its not "pretty", not "attractive". Not like you should look. It's not right, YOU are not right. .Society is not just gently telling us " We want you to be healthy, no matter what that looks physically, as long as you are healthy then it's fine", no, The message society is sending is "If you don't look certain way, the way we are portraying as the right way, you should not expect to be as loved, successful and happy as the people who are because the way you look is not enough to get those things you want, YOU are not enough, you are less than them, you are not worthy of happiness, love and success". And that's why so many girls starve themselves and throw up, because they think (how could they not) that that's the way to happiness and everything that comes with being the "right" size. The message I got from Mary is "You don't have to hurt yourself, either physically or emotionally, to be happy, to be loved or to be successful. It doesn't matter what size you are, you have value, you are important, you are worth it, nobody and nothing can take that way from you".
@jeb please tell me how telling kids that's being overweight is wrong and they need to fix it. If it is hereditary you can't fix it. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome. I exercise every day and eat healthy and take medicine to help but guess what, you can't cure pcos. Your stuck with it. A lot of girls are overweight from it. A few don't have the weight problem but that like 1 in 10 women who have pcos. This song is so uplifting. Women shouldn't have to be ashamed of their body any size. So before you spout off saying you should tell kids to fix their weight problem maybe you should look up pcos. And maybe you should look up your family history. Because it could run in your family too.
natalie haupt If you are an outlier and have a medical condition that makes it hard for you to lose weight, then okay, but this is an overly common excuse used by overweight people for being overweight. Kids should be told that it's unhealthy to be overweight, and that it carries major health risks. I don't think it's right that we're making kids think it's okay to be unhealthy. You're advocating "love your body" instead of "strive for improvement" and "better yourself". It's a defeatist/ lazy attitude.
"You are no less valuable as a size 16 then a size 4"
This lyric hit me hard.
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"lyric"
yes i screwed up and i realized but was too lazy to do anything
DanceNation 14 same😢😢
Than a size 4.
She is so underrated she need more publicity
Mya Adams ikr
yeah obese people need more publicity, let´s glorify unhealthiness! god this world is fucked up, we need another world war
Imozep4Live
loool lmao, you must be really triggered. there is a reason most people are disgusted by freakin overweight. I don´t hate them. but try to lose weight instead of fucking glorify that shit for sake
Imozep4Live Her talent has nothing to do with her weight. Absolutely, Nothing to do with her weight. Her having fame and publicity for her VOICE is not glorifying obesity or dangerously overweight.
"I only know how to exist when I am wanted!" This never gets old. So amazing!
not to ruin the streak of not posting on your comment but those are the most powerful words for me. As a young woman it's a constant battle between being who I want to be and who I think will be more acceptable and alluring.
Too bad looking at your profile picture you are.
As I was reading this she said that
I saw Mary Lambert at my local Pride festival a few days after the Orlando Pulse shootings, and she performed this live. Lots of tears that day from Mary and everyone in the audience. She's a wonderful performer and human.
This poem is a huge part of why I have made it to 177 days without harming myself. It never fails to move me to tears and empower me to make it through even the roughest days.
THIS WAS POWERFUL AND YOU CANNOT DENY THAT.
Awe, thanks for the response
I cry everytime I watch and listen to this, idk it's just something about the way I can identify with it. Boys need to love their bodies too.
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i especially love that there were trans men in the video!
"I only know how to exist when I am wanted."
Girls like us are hardly ever wanted, you know
We're used up and we're sad and drunk and
Perpetually waiting by the phone for someone to pick up and tell us that we did good
Well, you did good.
Live that verse
Beautiful
willthethrill325 congratulations you know how to speak.
lolololol
So, you need people's confirmation and acceptance to feel happy? Sounds like low self-esteem.
im so in love with her and her message and what she stands for. she's so amazing. this video was so powerful and beautiful and it almost made me cry, because it just spoke volumes to me. i've been so so so depressed for all of my life and so insecure about myself and i finally made a choice to stop that and im learning to accept my flaws and god, is it a struggle but im trying so hard to overcome it. and, because of that determination im now 138 days clean from self harming.
dropdead_Zion omg i just read your comment and wow that is so amazing. i dont know you and you dont know me but god the fact that you haven't self harmed in that long is amazing . i am so proud that you have the courage to love your body like everyone should. i wish you luck with the journey that your on!
-proud random girl
im so happy for you
I'm so glad you feel a bit better. I hope you are still clean. Please stay safe, people care for you, I can promise you that. And please remember that you are never alone.
thank you guys for all your wonderful comments & words of encouragment! 5 months later im still going strong
Zion Daniels wow. That is INCREDIBLE. Seriously. I'm not sure how many days I am clean but it's been like two months. That is wonderful. I'm so proud of you to not harm you body like that anymore.
I thought this was a song but it was better
yes
+Anna Corn same
Why is this not viral??? EVERYONE needs to hear this.
Yeah because everyone needs to know only women have this problem. -_-
Jonagor97 2 fuck you! This video doesn't reply just to girls! But yeah we have bigger problems than guys because you're the one who judges us and that really hearts!
You got to be kidding me. Are you realy saying girls don't judge people? Girls and boys are all people. We all judge eachother. You are judging boys making a false claim that only boys judges girls. I'm tired of girls thinking all men are monsters and women are always being opressed in every country.
Jonagor97 2 The message of this video was to love your body, but since this was directed mostly towards women (men too, but mostly women) people like you always have to find something wrong with it. Nothing is ever good enough for you people.
i love artists like Mary. They're positive people and these comments are supporting and positive along with it.
some people can't help it if they're overweight. some people take medications, or have metabolism problems. learn your facts before categorizing all overweight people as "lazy", some were brought up knowing nothing but food.
binge eating is an eating disorder, too, you know.
This is a slam poem and song mashed as one, and it's beautiful.
Maybe Mary wrote this to help herself gain motivation to lose weight, we will never know; nor do we have to know. what Mary wants to do with her body (overweight or not) is something that's up to her, and as long as she's not carving up her skin or doing things such as purging and starving, we shouldn't have to say what she should and shouldn't do.
maybe Mary puts makeup on because she is confident with herself, but she has to do them for jobs because producers tell her to, or maybe she just wants to to add a little MORE confidence. I bet at home she's makeup-less and doesn't curl/straighten her hair.
again: what Mary does is HER business. stop trying to add in your argumentative two-cents.
Amen! I have PCOS, i eat a low calorie diet but i cant louse weight because i have insulin intolerance
Alexandra Drexhagen
No matter what problem they have, if they tried, they could be a role model and push trough their problems instead of accepting it.
I have trouble gaining weight and I can't help how small I am. I have a fast metabolism and I try to eat as much as I can but I continue to lose weight that I need and I hate it.
@@natalies.5097 they we're talking specifically about being overweight.....
@@Amy_The_unbearded people who can't gain weight have body issues too ,its not just about size skinny shaming is real.
This gave me chills, she is simply amazing. I also love how she features various body sizes as well as men too. Loving your body is something all sizes and genders need to do.
My eyes watered then I went down to leave a peaceful comment about how heartfelt I thought this was, but then I read the comments.
***** Would you please explain to me what a 'normal human' is? Because as far as I have seen from the multiple places I've been, a 'normal human' does not exist. Some people have medically proven problems that prevent them from losing weight. But as I think you believe, there are some lazy ass people who refuse to do anything about it. Another thing, she has, much like many of the viewers of this video, something called depression. Now I understand that you might be to ignorant to know what that means, but the basics of it is you feel sad for some possibly explained reason or might not be able to find comfort in your own body. Now then tell me this: What percent of the songs that have been made, have said something promoting someone or something? Saying something good about themselves or a specific group they are in? At least 30% of songs out there have mentioned the musician in a good way to add onto their self esteem as well as the viewers opinion of them. But those people must be normal right? News flash. We are all considered 'normal'. And what makes her not human? The flab that her body has attained? Well then in my eyes all the sports kids out there with obscene muscles are far from human. But that's my opinion. Just like yours my opinion has its own flaws. But my main question is: If you are so against the video then why are you still here?
Next reproductive organ please.
***** you disgust me... And you are hiding both your face and your name Mr. Or miss Noone... So I think you disgust you too... Fucking troll... Worthless, fearfilled, sad waste of space... Reveal yourself or go away...
***** If you are a educated person above the age of acceptable naivety, then I would expect a better constructed response. Not a response that holds opinionated, unknowing, naive half-truths that when studied upon further are thoroughly incorrect. And if you are not a person above the naive age, then why are you responding to a video with such negativity, if you feel disdain for this then just leave.
And how long ago did you achieve this degree? Modern researchers have discovered new problems, for example: hypothyroidism. Your thyroid is under-active which in turn makes your metabolism slower. Most people with a slower metabolism tend to sink into depression due to their already 'low calorie' intake not working. Depression will either lead to massive food intake, or lack of nourishment- anorexia/ bulimia. You could also have polycystic ovary syndrome, where if you are a female you have too much testosterone in your body causing an internal 'battle of the sexes' (hormones battling for dominance) It doesn't work for everyone, the majority? Yes, but the defects? No.
***** Honey, I'm not saying they cause people to gain weight. I'm saying they restrict the amount of weight the person can lose, two completely different statements.
I am beautiful. I am worthy. I know I am, because I said I am. Thank you Mary.
no you're not!!!😜
maria lopez Lol, do you feel better about yourself Maria?
I wish I could feel the way you do
there were trans guys in this video I am really happy because we're practically nowhere in mainstream media and seeing people like me in a video by one of my favorite artists is making me really happy
Celia Wylie yes I’m very glad we were represented. Basically every trans person I know including me are so insecure about our bodies, I relate with this
Oh my god. I have been waiting for this video for forever, but i didnt expect it to be this.. powerful. This is why mary lambert is one of my favorite people in the whole wide world.
8 years later, I’m now 3 years on testosterone almost a year post op top surgery. This was one of the first music videos i had seen that showed bodies that were gonna be the way mine would be in the future. The visibility of trans men showing their scars having such self love. Tomorrow (3/30/23) i am getting the tattoo i have known i wanted since the first time i heard it. “My body is home” because i am finally home in this body. I was 13 when i first listened to this. I will be 22 in April. 8 years of always coming back to remind myself, my body is home.
Big Hugs!! We are so much more than our genders, bodies, skin hair color. We have so very much to offer! You are amazing; what courage!! I hope you got that tatoo!
@ i definitely got the tattoo and I love it daily
More people should think like this, this woman is wonderful.
This video and She Keeps Me Warm are the best, really.
As a 39 year old woman who has struggled with body image and weight all my life I want to say thank you.
I am worthy. I am amazing. I am not unwanted. I believe in myself. ---- I am recovering currently and this video is my life.
+Kate Acord nope
+Kate Acord congratulation! I hope your recovery is going good!
You are beautiful and strong!
What are you recovering from? 😢
As a transgender man this was really powerful to me and made start crying. I am learning to embrace the scars on my chest and know that I am still beautiful. When the girl was kissing his chest and the line was after it talking about sexiness it was when I started crying. I used to think I wouldn't be attractive with these scars on my chest but this really helped me.
as a trans man, sometimes I find it really hard to love my body and how I look, but this song is just so powerful and positive and it helps me get through the day. I love this.
I do the same thing, especially when my dysphoria is really bad
I love how there are men in this video. I deal with body issues, and it sucks. But I must continue to learn to love myself.
Fen Alpha And every gender in between! :)
I saw her perform this live and It was so good I started crying. This is so beautiful and amazing. I live how you can here the emotion in her voice. Can't believe she isn't more well know.
no matter how much I see positive stuff all over the Internet, I still think the same about myself. I'm probably that stubborn.
+Dixie Flores if u dont like it .. do something about it.
she's right
The Internet is the worst place to go to see the positives in ourselves..
@@dodobird1991 there are people who do something about it and they still see flaws on their bodies... sometimes it's not that easy..
I cried. This is just me every day, I have no self-confidence. I know I'm not the only one.
You are definitely not the only one.
You do not have self confidence because you depend on people for confidence. If your friends or that boy who you have a crush on does not like you for who you are, then those arent people to have around. Love yourself before you can love anybody else, and stop caring what people have to say. Victoria secrets models probably have the lowest self esteem because of how controlled they are just to keep an image. They can be free, something you have - freedom. Express it.
kayonahotgurl its hard to not care what ppl think . Its harder then to jusr have someone tell you . Its really hard for some ppl
kaylee from the 5sosfam 卌 You know what isn't hard? Basic English Grammar.
Moon Beam yeah I know but im lazy
Mary I wish more people knew of the incredible work you are doing in the music industry, I hope that through this and your debut full album that your message reaches more and more people! You truly are a remarkable woman and I am so glad I had the pleasure of seeing you live and hearing your heart and soul be poured into these pieces. All the best in the future!
I agree. I didn't get to see her live yet, but clearly Mary Lambert is one of the most moving and transformational (for the music industry - for the world) artists of our times.
*beautiful women*
and
*handsome men*
plus
*trans recognition*
I am pleased.
And I may be crying.
Nobody Special Yeah, I noticed the trans-men in the video because of their scars. It's a sad reminder of what they used to be, but what matters is who they are inside.
Vanja no, it's not sad - it's so great. Their old bodies are those ashen branches and those scars are left behind reminders that they were able to be reborn, that they chose the life they get to live in a way that cis people will never get to own. I never find scars from the surgeries of my trans brothers and sisters sad, those reminders of how far we can come help us to appreciate what we have.
+Vanja you mean transgender
I do love your cover photo, but I have to agree, I bawled my eyes out when I saw the man touching his scars. To me, that really means freedom.
Right? Incredible.
I.....I didn't even realize trans men were in this. I have been so obsessed with Mary Lambert because every single song and video has been the very definition of me...except, what I thought was this one. I listened to this only once, years ago, and thought "wow! how nice! a body loving song for women." and rejected it for myself any further because of my own obsession with self masculinity. Now I'm watching it repeatedly, weeping. How wrong I was. Trans men are in this. She's kissing his scars....My body is home.
BeardedJay trans men share the experience of having to conform to what cis men expect of all of us. It’s your pain as much as it is ours.
this is beautiful. This is for the hurt and the damaged. spread it around.
I know I am, because I said I am.
Kinda want that as a tattoo
You know who's beautiful? Read the first word again.
thanks
+The Two Kawaii Potatoes You are too
you're right. it is you. you are beautiful.
see what I did there
Gay space Rocks Lol cx
Thank you Mary Lambert for standing up against society's expectations and showing the world that we are all equal and beautiful. I want all of the young women in my life to hear your music and feel the truth and heart that is entwined in your lyrics. You are an amazingly beautiful person and I truly hope you know how appreciated you are.
First thing I ever heard from Mary Lambert and tbh she slays my entire existence
same now i am love her
She is an artist and deserves far more recognition than she gets. Powerfully magnificent
I know right
I cry like a fucking baby whenever I hear this. Even if you're planning on changing yourself or quitting something, you need to realise that you're mind and your soul and what you think when you look at art isn't shown on the scale. You're favourite qoute isn't on the measuring tape and the way you're eyes light up when you're happy isn't on the back of your jeans. It's okay to want to change and to want to better yourself, as long as you realise it isn't absolutely necessary and as long a you realise it's for you. Because you're beautiful and you need to know it.
The epitome for me: " I only know how to exist when I am wanted, because girls like us are hardly ever wanted, you know ?" Can't change until you know exactly what it is that is wrong. & now I know. Thank you Mary for articulating it so well it penetrated my soul.
oh my god I'm crying, I cry every time I here this, every time I feel like shit, I listen to this, and I remember who I really am
same
i come back to this allot, over the past 3 years ive been slowly recovering from an eating disorder and now im finally ad recovered as i could be,, im obese now but im learning to love myself and understand that heavy isnt a negative, that skinny isnt better,, im learning that i am just as much of a handsome man as anyone else, my body is my home and someday ill share that with another man when im ready, after ive learned to touch every part of myself and feel love. thank you for this, its one of the most raw and beautiful videos ive ever seen and ill continue to carry it with me forever
This 4 minute 12 seconds is everything for someone like me..
Want to let you know that YOU ARE ALL (!!!!!!!!!!!!) GOT SOMETHING SPECIAL! which make you WORTH IT!
you too ♡
Leiana Hope thank you!
+Leiana Hope you too
+Pandichu yeeessss
+Pandichu YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL TOO.
Powerful. Beautiful. Truth. Now, how do we learn and except this truth? Need to share this with my daughters. I've done everything I could to complement and instill a good sense of self for my daughters, only to find them still hating their bodies. I did everything except love myself.... Children learn what they live. I could tell them every day how beautiful they are but when they hear me complain about myself, that's what they pick up on. Kick myself every damn day for this. Still trying to love myself at 45 years of age.... Fu**!
imtheresamarie Yes. Children are sponges. My parents tell my sisters and I we're beautiful, but it doesn't mean much because they're our parents and we feel like they "have to" say those things. Also, my younger sister & I've been picked on SINCE DAYCARE!!! It's really sad. I'm slowly, VERY SLOWLY getting some confidence at 26. What helped the most was my mother & father warning us about the kind of people there are in the world. Although the picking, teasing, mental, verbal, & emotional abuse continue to play in my head, the warning my parents gave me really helped me not completely break. They didn't portray the world as a bad place or that all people are bad; they just warned us about how some people may do this or that.
This song tells me I'm beautiful in so many way
Dear Random Person,
You are amazing. You mean something. You mean everything to at least one person. Don't hurt yourself. Because, if you do you hurt the person you love. The person who loves you.You probably think no one will notice if your gone. Your parents will think of what they could have done. Your best friend will wonder why she didn't notice. Your siblings will think it's their fault because they were rude to you. I care about you. You don't know me. I don't know you. But I care about you. We all have a purpose. Even if you believe you don't. You do. Be the best you you can. And then you'll be happy with the you you are.
~Someone You'll Never Know
This is so sweet!
thank you this is so sweet I was seriously thinking of just going away forever. thank you. reading through the comments helps a lot
7stine Some people need it. That's why I do what i do.
This comment has me bawling, and I thank you for letting me know that someone cares. I thank you because you saved my life, you made me realize I do indeed have a purpose. thank you.
Aquatic Rainxx This is why I do these things because people need to know that they do matter. And I'm so glad I helped you. That's more than I could have ever wished for.
This song change the way I saw myself I've always seen my reflection and hated what I saw but now I love every single part of me despite what others say.
'I only know how to exist when I am wanted' that line just wow... it makes me think about how I have lived the moments in my life when I was the saddest, the moments when I was the weakest, all come down to this line. When you are a child you strive so hard to be wanted by your friends loved by your parents but when that falls apart and you never reclaim it what then? I was able to move on put the pieces back together thanks to people I found eventually in my life but not everyone can be so lucky and its not a weight issue its a society issue. Stop tearing others down and build people up!
I'm so filled with chills at how much I realize this song has saved my life so many times since it came out
you are rath
This gave me goosebumps and tears... So powerful.
Dear sister
you are so much more than
your body
you are so much more than
your scars
you are so much more than
any mascara
any lipstick
any blush
any makeup
you are beautiful the way you are
you are so much more than
any sharpness
you are so much more than
society demands
you are so much more than
your hair
your skin
your hips
your lips
you are beautiful the way you are
you are soul
you are voice
you are feelings
you are real
you are ....whole
and you are beautiful just the way you are
Wow that was beautiful💕👏👏👏
5Hforlife Thank you :)
Thank you this is the best thing i read in the comments
+Michele Cariveau did you write this?
This is so such a beautiful piece of work. It really stings because we as women... or should I say people do not know our own worth usually. It takes time to find it. To realize we need to love ourselves and not depend on someone to do it for us. We all get tempted to fall back into something unhealthy weather it's self-harming, an unhealthy relationship, or being promiscuous just to feel wanted and attractive... Yet we are enough. Get those irrational negative thoughts out of your head and forgive yourself... read self help books, think positive, you can overcome whatever it is that is hindering you're growth as a person! Overcome whichever battle you are struggling with.
This is beautiful I don't know how to express it. I can't even tell you how much this has touched me.
That smile at 3:30 combined with the lyrics and music and everything made me cry I just wanted to say.
I can't stop watching this. I keep thinking as cruel as we can be, when we have these beautiful and undeniably important thoughts we manage to express them in such stunning and creative ways. Amazing, I need more from this woman. xx
In my opinion, this song is literally perfect. I am quite a large person, and I'm so done with the shit that people say that I "Eat too much" Or "You don't exercise enough"
Because in all honesty, I am healthy and on rare times I have junk food. Enough with telling someone what they did wrong and help them feel better about themselves.
Think before you say.
Way better message than Meghan Trainor's "All About that Bass." Thank you Mary Lambert for this beautiful song/poem.
Love this. made me cry! reminds me of Sonya Renee Taylor's "The Body is NOt An Apology"
So powerful. I'm glad that the video portrayed men as well because we as women we identified totally to these words but we have the tendency to forget that men suffer from those "scar" too and more than we think.
Your words, Mary, touched me to my core and i cried. Thank you for reminding me that i need to love myself, body and soul, because that is the path to healing.
this entire video, the concept, the message, the imagery, the people.....are all so beautiful. everything about this gives me so many shivers. it's just so stunning.
When I feel bad about myself I come here and read through the comment section because it's almost all positive, which is a hard thing to say about youtube videos.
Yeah u-u
It just shows how many people are ACTUALLY nice ^u^
It just shows how we're all human.
this song/poem changed my entire life and my view of myself. I will always be grateful that I found you, mary.
I ran into this by accident, I had no idea I needed to hear this. I had no idea, but I knew I was broken. I am broken but now I want to learn to love my broken self. I want to love myself, maybe some day I will.
Mary Lambert is such a beautiful human inside and out. I look up too her so much for what she does for society as a whole, teaching everyone to accept themselves. She makes me feel happy every time I hear her speak, because she's so god damn good with words. I wish a lot of people could be more like her.
I started my ed recovery just under a year ago and I make a point to try and listen to this song as much as I can. If all music was like this, we would live in a much happier world.
This is an incredibly moving video, wonderfully directed too.
(PSA to everyone who relates and/or actually grasped the message of this, you might not want to scroll through the comments, there be lots of fat-shaming, sexist dickheads)
There are no words to explain how much I love this
It has been many years since I last listened to this song. And I knew it was gonna make me cry. And I listened to it again anyway. And I cried.
After years of growth it hits differently, but it still hits those feels hard.
This made me cry and then smile. As a kid I was really insecure about myself, and thank god I didn't know what cutting was because I was so depressed I probably would have. I used to look at all the other girls and I saw how pretty they were, and I looked at myself in the mirror and I cried. And bullying didn't help, I had one really slutty friend and she never helped me so I talked to myself and I cried. Things brightened up when I moved to a new school, but at times I was still depressed and I was to scared to cut and I turned to reading and RUclips and music and they were the only things that helped. I have awesome friends, but sometimes things happen and they just aren't there for a while. And I smiled because this is a real confidence booster for me, and I really appreciate it.
This song is still so powerful to me. I remember before i listened to it, i had only looked at the lyrics and i said "this song'll be perfect if instead of actually singing it, she says it (just like how it's done here)" i was so happy.
Makes me cry everytime I hear it but the tears make me stronger! Connect with this song more than any other song I have ever heard, made me a fan of spoken word songs on the spot. The Video is just as Beautiful and worth the wait!!! This is Golden Mary :D
Goosebumps and tears, good lord I love this.
This is amazing. Beautiful. She reaches out and puts what all of us have felt at one point in our lives, she puts all of our pain into words and makes it into a healing balm. I wish I had discovered this years ago, but I'm glad I have now.
I'm so glad I stumbled upon this. I was at the gym yesterday, it was my first day back in months and I had put on a few pounds. I already felt really shitty about myself and was planning to go back when I'd gotten back to my original weight, but I decided to go anyways. I had a great work out until I had a personal trainer walk up to me and say "you've gained so much weight! What happened?" She said that in front of everyone and I was mortified and angry! Like how can you talk to guests like that? Anyways, listening to Mary Lambert has made me feel better. She's an amazing woman with a great message.
This is the first piece of yours that drew me to you, even before Same Love, and it wows me now more than ever. Thank you, Mary Lambert.
this made me cry so hard. I'm going to make it a goal to watch this every morning. I have delt with anorexia but am in recovery and this has helped me so much
This absolutely BROKE me emotionally. Thankyou so much.
I hear the words, and they bring a tear to my eye, I only wish I could feel and live them as well
I have been depressed, sexually abused and assaulted and ashamed, bulimic for so long and I need this song.
The way she's saying it reminds me of The Today This Day Project by Shane Koycan. If you have never seen it, you need to. I'm crying at this about as much as I cry at that, which is a lot for the person who isn't fond of crying
yes i fully agree
I am beautiful and i am strong. I know i am because i said i am.
Thank You Mary Lambert for making this song.
i cry every single time i watch this. this is so important and i think about it everyday.
I am fascinated by the way she speaks and pronounces things. Her passion and enthusiasm really makes her words hit hard. I love this about her. She is REAL about everything.
Mary Lambert is such a beautiful and talented artist. She promotes such a good message and yet she remains so unpopular. Why though??? Her voice is beautiful and her lyrics are so poetic and she's a beautifully positive person. She is too good for us and we don't appreciate her enough
People need to BEGIN by loving themselves. Only then can they be truly healthy.
EDIT: I just recently remembered that I made this comment 2 years ago and I was 14 at the time. I'm proud of myself for growing as a person with this mindset.
So I started reading the comments and some of them made me really disgusted. Yes I'm a kid and yes I don't know shit but I know that you're crossing a very thin line here. So are you saying that every positive thing that comes towards people with low self esteem and psyhical problems should be walked over. And unlike most of you pricks out there think this video isn't meant only for people with weight problems. There are a lot of people who don't feel good in their skin and can't help it. Be it their sexual prefrence, their personality,their face or anything else that they don't feel comfortable with. Nobody is perfect and you can't compare people.
I think you're one of the few people who truly got the whole video, "kid" (;
MeowMeow The Cat definitely, a wise man said before, humans aren't rational creatures.
to prove your point, the man at 3:29 is my manager. He has been on a long journey and is an inspiration to me. He is like a big brother to me and although I've only known him a short time, he has made such a big impact on my life and how I approach things. I know that he wasn't comfortable in his skin for a LONG time, back when he was a she. I love this man and am so thankful that I have met him and am privileged to have him in my life as a friend.
Preach sister
That is just amazing
This video gives me chills. Every. Fucking. Time. The other day, my parents asked me if anyone was still making music that meant something, that had a message. And instantly, Mary Lambert came to mind. Thank you Mary, for saying the things that everyone's afraid to say, but so many people need to hear. We all love you for it.
"Love your body the way your mother loved your baby feet". I love this lyric so much. Do you know how much love and adoration that describes? When a mother admires and loves and stares in complete amazement that something so precious could be all hers? To be able to have that type of love for your body.. is incredible
All i can say is this is the message people need to hear once a day. Not to hear about looking like everyone to make someone else happy. She puts it in the perfect way. Thank you
I've literally thought about this everyday since I first heard it a couple years ago and it's actually changed my life
Me too. I make sure to listen to it when I am at my absolute low and it helps pull me back.
Holy shit...I don't even know what to say. Millennials, you just found the songwriter of your generation.
Dare I says this song alone made me more shook than the whole Lemonade album.
Absolutely beautiful! I know so many people with similar struggles and it really helps to hear this. I listen to this song everyday before school just so I remember it throughout the day. I wish I could meet Mary Lambert, the artist that truly turned many people's lives around. My dream is to inspire many people with art and help others so Mary Lambert is a great role model/idol for me and so much more of society. Society is really cruel sometimes but everybody should remember that whatever you may be going through, it won't last forever.
i almost forgot how monumental this was to me when i was younger watching this
Thank you for speaking about this and being the voice for so many girls. You may have changed someone's live.
this is truly beautiful. boys and girls can relate to these so much. especially teenagers.
AWE THERE'S TRANS GUYS IN HERE
THAT MAKES ME SO HAPPY
I LOVE MARY LAMBERT
Man this song gives me the chills..
Everything I have heard from you has been powerful. I listen to your music when I am writing. When I am relaxing. When I am trying to sleep... and when I am incredibly sad and thinking I am alone. Your music has helped me not only begin new stories, but it has also helped me see that I AM in fact beautiful and that my life has only just begun. I love your music, and you probably won't ever read this because very few artists do, but I wanted to thank you. Thank you for being open about your love and who you are, for sharing what you truly think and mean, and even sharing the dark moments, because we are all human. You shed light on the fact that weakness does not mean we are weak; it means we are human.
So thank you from this small town girl about to face college and my adulthood. Thank you.