So helpful. Reminds me to not take flirting too seriously. It just means he's attracted to you but doesn't necessarily mean he really likes or values you.
@@CyndieAmala idk then, I've never had that instant strong attraction towards anyone. They can be the hottest but as soon as they prove their IQ is average or below im out like the Sahara desert.
@@CyndieAmala ok, if they were intelligent then it was the combination of lust and intelligence. Lust first then intelligence. But I don't see how they'd fall for lust if they were intelligent. Attraction is complicated. Glad I don't have to worry about it. Good luck.
I’m a divorce attorney and my advice is to find a person whose habits and priorities you can accept. Would it be great if they match? Sometimes. But a functioning couple over the decades sometimes have acceptable but not matching skills and priorities. People become skilled in what they prioritize. A couple is more than the sum of its parts. But there are red flags that cannot be overlooked or changed. Things that should be absolutely unacceptable to anyone. Violence, evil and petty heart, things like that. He could be the most handsome charming devil and easy with his money, but don’t stay with that. It will crush your soul.
Thank you ismael ❤ I'm 20 years old... I'm really happy that I'm working on my self , I have learned that I should prioritize my needs and give my self the love that I was always looking for, I have realized that I'm Divine and I deserve all the best, I'm so proud of the woman I'm becoming ☺
I married a very alpha male. I was to take care of everything on the inside of the house, while he took care of the outside, which consisted of mowing once a week and changing the oil in the cars every 3 months. He made more money than I did, so no matter how much more work I did (cleaning, cooking, laundry.. everyday!), affection and sex, when and how (whether I liked that 'how' or not), was on his schedule. If a man does not respect you, run.
@@julieaskingforafriend are you sure that's an alpha or just a very outgoing beta? Id rather go for a sigma but at the same time being a lone wolf marriage is not for me. My mentality is if I can cook and clean for myself why do I need a guy?
What? What does this even have to to with alpha or beta man.. what you are describing is you not being happy with what he wants and what he wants is some one that takes care of everything at home etc and I get that, but has nothing to do with being an alpha male. Or a "very" alpha male.. either he was alpha or not. And alpha doesn't mean that a man has traditional values. There are plenty of alfa males that are not traditional in their values.
I'm not kind of person who post messages, I'm so shy for that; but your videos are the best. They've been helping me a lot😊. I completely agree with you, books are investiments in ourselves. Thank you so much for your so accurate advices. ❤ from 🇧🇷
OMG!!!! U r so so so exceptionally great in ur work, Ismael!! Ur points are so crisp, logical, versimilitude!! We shouldn't spend money on relationship coaches when you are here a selfless saviour!!!
Such a great video! I was with someone who manipulated me and played games to get me attached to him, but he only brought chaos into my life. I’ve ended that and I’m with someone who is completely amazing and loving. There’s no chaos only peace.
God is the father of Love. The pressure to get into a relationship after so many breakups leads many to make the wrong choice. Learn to be cool and love God, your partner will attract you with no work done.
I've thought this many times: why "ego"? i think that is a very male perspective on rejection / unreciprocated interest. In my experience, for women far more often it is the desire to love and to be loved, but a lack of knowledge what real love feels like and how to develop a loving relationship with a man. Girls and women, how do you see this?
I’m happily married , yet I find this information fascinating. I’ve been trying to figure out the mind of a man all my life. I’m 60. Still confused 🤔 confused 😵💫
THIS time? No. Just no. I'm in law and mediation. 1. Your ex is your ex for a reason. 2. 2 + 3 = 5. 3 + 2 = 5 Want a different outcome? Change the variables. 3. 25 + years in law and 18 in mediation, and I've only heard of or had THREE cases where a second chance worked. THREE. ❤🙏
Question please if the man don’t say I love you and always say will compensate by his actions , is that something else to overthink about ? Appreciate any answers thank you
Actions are important, yes. However, if he KNOWS it's important to you (you have actually TOLD him that's what you need to hear) and still doesn't tell you, then he's purposefully ignoring your feelings and what's important to you to feel (happy, secure, loved, etc.)____. It's extremely likely HE WILL NOT CHANGE. Do not give him a pass or let your ego (see Ismael's #1 in video) excuses for his behavior. You need to set your standards of what makes you happy, loved, supported, and secure in a relationship. If a man ignores any of that and you stay, then you're settling. ❤🙏
আমি জানতে চাই যে আমি বর্তমানে যাকে ভালোবাসি বা যার সাথে বিয়ে করতে চাচ্ছি। তার ফোন চেক করে দেখলাম তার পূর্বের পূর্বের ভালোবাসার মানুষের সাথে প্রায় পাঁচ থেকে ছয় হাজার পিকচার সেফ করে রেখে দিয়েছে।। তাকে ডিলিট করার কথা বললে বলে তার মনে নেই বা সে ভুলে গিয়েছে।। তার ফেসবুকে গিয়ে দেখি তাদের ক্লোজ কিছু পিকচার যেগুলো সে অনলি মি করে রেখে দিয়েছে সেগুলো ডিলিট করেন নি।এখন যদি তার সাথে আমার বিয়ে হয়ে যায় আমি কি ভালো থাকতে পারবো বা সেই ছেলেটা কি সত্যিই আমাকে ভালোবাসে।। প্লিজ এ ব্যাপার একটু সাজেশন দিলে ভালো হয়।।
I'm a single mom,and now having a new boyfriend how I'm blaming for in a relationship now,we are not compatible I'm so very disappointed his character is so worst, he didn't listening all my advice he is stubborn huhuhu
I mentioned to a male friend that love does not exist; lust brings people together, but if they make it past the initial attraction, it's generally codependence, with each person willing to give just enough to get something from the other. He told his wife, who's a divorce attorney, and she pretty much agreed with me.
@julieaskingforafriend yeah pretty much love is a series of actions that is taken towards someone. Lust is a chemical reaction in the brain which can be overlooked if one doesn't go off of feelings as in "doing what feels right"
I think not believing in love is a symptom of some serious deep-rooted depression that might not even be curable… It sounds very sad and void of emotions. Everyone who is good at self-love knows that it‘s simply not true. 😄
Before I considered dating my husband. I read his resume first and Asked for his credit score. 😂 Trust me ladies, if he is not good on paper. He probably isn’t worth your time. 😅
Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
So helpful. Reminds me to not take flirting too seriously. It just means he's attracted to you but doesn't necessarily mean he really likes or values you.
Damn! Never knew this.
Learnt something new😮
I never take flirting seriously.
I think a big reason my relationships haven't worked out is because they were based on that strong instant attraction instead of true compatibility.
@@CyndieAmala you mean lust?
@lynnh1682 no that word is too shallow to describe it. It wasn't as if we had nothing in common.
@@CyndieAmala idk then, I've never had that instant strong attraction towards anyone. They can be the hottest but as soon as they prove their IQ is average or below im out like the Sahara desert.
@lynnh1682 I didn't say any of them weren't intelligent though.
@@CyndieAmala ok, if they were intelligent then it was the combination of lust and intelligence. Lust first then intelligence. But I don't see how they'd fall for lust if they were intelligent. Attraction is complicated. Glad I don't have to worry about it. Good luck.
I’m a divorce attorney and my advice is to find a person whose habits and priorities you can accept. Would it be great if they match? Sometimes. But a functioning couple over the decades sometimes have acceptable but not matching skills and priorities. People become skilled in what they prioritize. A couple is more than the sum of its parts. But there are red flags that cannot be overlooked or changed. Things that should be absolutely unacceptable to anyone. Violence, evil and petty heart, things like that. He could be the most handsome charming devil and easy with his money, but don’t stay with that. It will crush your soul.
Great advice, Ceci. Thanks for taking the time to leave such an insightful comment.
I always say, you will never like everything about a person, but the things you dont like you have to be able to live with.
Thank you! I appreciate the advice.
Thank you ismael ❤ I'm 20 years old... I'm really happy that I'm working on my self , I have learned that I should prioritize my needs and give my self the love that I was always looking for, I have realized that I'm Divine and I deserve all the best, I'm so proud of the woman I'm becoming ☺
I’m glad you’re prioritizing your needs and self-love. The choices you make in your 20s will undoubtedly have a major impact on your life.
I married a very alpha male. I was to take care of everything on the inside of the house, while he took care of the outside, which consisted of mowing once a week and changing the oil in the cars every 3 months. He made more money than I did, so no matter how much more work I did (cleaning, cooking, laundry.. everyday!), affection and sex, when and how (whether I liked that 'how' or not), was on his schedule. If a man does not respect you, run.
@@julieaskingforafriend are you sure that's an alpha or just a very outgoing beta? Id rather go for a sigma but at the same time being a lone wolf marriage is not for me. My mentality is if I can cook and clean for myself why do I need a guy?
What? What does this even have to to with alpha or beta man.. what you are describing is you not being happy with what he wants and what he wants is some one that takes care of everything at home etc and I get that, but has nothing to do with being an alpha male. Or a "very" alpha male.. either he was alpha or not. And alpha doesn't mean that a man has traditional values. There are plenty of alfa males that are not traditional in their values.
Looks are important, but knowledge will transform your life!
It seems like someone wasn't multitasking and stayed to watch until the end. I'm smiling right now.
Thanks!
I'm not kind of person who post messages, I'm so shy for that; but your videos are the best. They've been helping me a lot😊. I completely agree with you, books are investiments in ourselves. Thank you so much for your so accurate advices. ❤ from 🇧🇷
Thank you for your comment, Cristiane. I'm glad to see you taking the courage to post your thoughts.
Good on the contrary, what they have been telling you, mature men is not all about looks, it's what's on your inside that matter's
I wish you were around when I was way younger…you’re just awesome and thank you so much!!!
Unfortunately, I had to get the scars first to be able to teach it. Thank you for watching, Michelle.
😅 You got it right, Ismael: vitamin c moisturizer is a game changer...Nothing more important than that, I agree with them😁
OMG!!!! U r so so so exceptionally great in ur work, Ismael!! Ur points are so crisp, logical, versimilitude!! We shouldn't spend money on relationship coaches when you are here a selfless saviour!!!
Ismael, you are very good at what you do! Congratulations!
Such a great video! I was with someone who manipulated me and played games to get me attached to him, but he only brought chaos into my life. I’ve ended that and I’m with someone who is completely amazing and loving. There’s no chaos only peace.
I'm so happy to hear that you've found peace and love in your new relationship.
God is the father of Love. The pressure to get into a relationship after so many breakups leads many to make the wrong choice. Learn to be cool and love God, your partner will attract you with no work done.
As Always best advice and straightforward 💯💯👍👍
I've thought this many times:
why "ego"? i think that is a very male perspective on rejection / unreciprocated interest.
In my experience, for women far more often it is the desire to love and to be loved, but a lack of knowledge what real love feels like and how to develop a loving relationship with a man.
Girls and women, how do you see this?
Men reason with ego much more than women
@Lea-xt5sg yup and that is a huge problem all over the word.
- Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst, and cold -
Thomas Jefferson
Awesome. Thank You 🙏
Thanks Ismael for elaborating the meaning of finding peace in your partner. ❤❤
I think a lot of people don't want to hear what you have to say because they know the answer is the same: leave the person you're addicted to.
Sometimes, facing the reality is the hardest part. But it’s the first step toward healing.
This was so helpful.
I love you advice - it is genuine and straightforward
Good one, thank you.
Such great words of wisdom. You are a gem!
Peace and fun 👍 🔥
Thank you
I m eagerly waiting for your video..thank you ...❤❤
I’m dating yet but your advice is always so healthy and helpful. Thank you Ismael!
Thank you for Another great video.
"it must be because she special" wow that's powerful! Thank you love all your content.
I disagree on ignoring because if you are in the relationship and you don’t feel like continuing it, you must tell the other person.
I’m happily married , yet I find this information fascinating. I’ve been trying to figure out the mind of a man all my life. I’m 60. Still confused 🤔 confused 😵💫
I’m glad you said this even while happily married. Someone shares a similar perspective.
WE FIGURED THIS ONE OUT …SO THIS IS WHY WE CHOOSE TO STAY BUSY DOING US . 😇
Pls, make a video about great self-development books. It would be very helpful.
That's a great idea! I think I may share a short list as a community post this week.
What book should I read to get to know more...
I think my guy is definitely putting in the work. Things have been going really well. I just hope he means it this time. It's too soon to tell.
THIS time? No. Just no. I'm in law and mediation.
1. Your ex is your ex for a reason.
2. 2 + 3 = 5.
3 + 2 = 5
Want a different outcome? Change the variables.
3. 25 + years in law and 18 in mediation, and I've only heard of or had THREE cases where a second chance worked. THREE.
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@@eileenstasczak6606wow thank you mam. Really appreciate this insight 😮😢
He does...😍
Yeah..our biggest mistake is overlooking things that's annoying😮
Thankyou iwish we met earlier your video are the powerful truth pillar from india
Yeah, I married a guy under #1. Stuck in a one sided marriage.💔
Can you suggest a good book?
@@vaishalibadhele2923 the KJV Bible. Wonderful book, world's best seller too
Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie.
Question please if the man don’t say I love you and always say will compensate by his actions , is that something else to overthink about ? Appreciate any answers thank you
Actions are important, yes. However, if he KNOWS it's important to you (you have actually TOLD him that's what you need to hear) and still doesn't tell you, then he's purposefully ignoring your feelings and what's important to you to feel (happy, secure, loved, etc.)____. It's extremely likely HE WILL NOT CHANGE. Do not give him a pass or let your ego (see Ismael's #1 in video) excuses for his behavior. You need to set your standards of what makes you happy, loved, supported, and secure in a relationship. If a man ignores any of that and you stay, then you're settling. ❤🙏
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I guess every person has red flags. I mean no one is perfect.
That's absolutely true-nobody is perfect, and we all come with our own quirks and flaws.
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আমি জানতে চাই যে আমি বর্তমানে যাকে ভালোবাসি বা যার সাথে বিয়ে করতে চাচ্ছি। তার ফোন চেক করে দেখলাম তার পূর্বের পূর্বের ভালোবাসার মানুষের সাথে প্রায় পাঁচ থেকে ছয় হাজার পিকচার সেফ করে রেখে দিয়েছে।। তাকে ডিলিট করার কথা বললে বলে তার মনে নেই বা সে ভুলে গিয়েছে।। তার ফেসবুকে গিয়ে দেখি তাদের ক্লোজ কিছু পিকচার যেগুলো সে অনলি মি করে রেখে দিয়েছে সেগুলো ডিলিট করেন নি।এখন যদি তার সাথে আমার বিয়ে হয়ে যায় আমি কি ভালো থাকতে পারবো বা সেই ছেলেটা কি সত্যিই আমাকে ভালোবাসে।। প্লিজ এ ব্যাপার একটু সাজেশন দিলে ভালো হয়।।
I'm a single mom,and now having a new boyfriend how I'm blaming for in a relationship now,we are not compatible I'm so very disappointed his character is so worst, he didn't listening all my advice he is stubborn huhuhu
Remaining single for the rest of my life however short that may be. I dont believe in love as a feeling.
I mentioned to a male friend that love does not exist; lust brings people together, but if they make it past the initial attraction, it's generally codependence, with each person willing to give just enough to get something from the other. He told his wife, who's a divorce attorney, and she pretty much agreed with me.
@julieaskingforafriend yeah pretty much love is a series of actions that is taken towards someone. Lust is a chemical reaction in the brain which can be overlooked if one doesn't go off of feelings as in "doing what feels right"
I think not believing in love is a symptom of some serious deep-rooted depression that might not even be curable… It sounds very sad and void of emotions.
Everyone who is good at self-love knows that it‘s simply not true. 😄
@karadiberlino 🙄😒 feeler
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I'm 63 years old never on a date .Get a relationship with Jesus
❤ you are very cute
Before I considered dating my husband. I read his resume first and Asked for his credit score. 😂 Trust me ladies, if he is not good on paper. He probably isn’t worth your time. 😅
Thank you
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