Natalie's words hit hard because even though I'm not pregnant and have never been, my thoughts about pregnancy are exactly the same to hers. I am so grateful to you Nat for being so vulnerable and sharing how you feel. I finally see that I am not alone in my thoughts and feelings. I'm sending you a huge hug and I really believe in you!
I feel the same except I have had children and went through fear of giving birth and postpartum depression, and feeling isolated as a then stay at home mom. But I appreciate Nat’s openness and honesty because you don’t hear that a lot. I remember at one point every one being like congratulations congratulations and I remember at the time not feeling it at all, and not wanting to hear that at all(after the 3rd pregnancy) Now my kids are all teenagers and I have no regrets. But I truly have so much respect for people who decide not to have kids at all. I personally don’t understand that because I always wanted to have kids but I respect it and I don’t believe in trying to convince those who say they don’t want kids otherwise. Having a child or children is a lot of work but it’s so worth yet definitely NOT for everyone. The best advice I could give Nat is accept and ask for help from those you trust!
I felt the fear even though I’m not and haven’t experienced this before. I’m just so relate to the uncomfortable feelings and so understand sometimes the negative thoughts can stay around there for a while.
My kid is 2.5 and it's absolutely terrifying. That first year was painfully slow (we had zero help from the beginning due to COVID) and we were so exhausted. It's so much fun now and going waaay too fast!
This message is for Nat. I have had two pregnancies in my life, under very different circumstances. The first was unplanned, in the midst of leaving an abusive marriage, and when I was very young. I hated every minute of it, but when my son was born, I was hit with a never-before-felt wave of love for this child that was fierce and amazing, and erased every bit of the pain of the pregnancy, labor, and delivery. I remember them as a fact, but I cannot recall how they actually felt. With my youngest, the situation was much different. He was planned and brought into a loving, stable marriage. In that pregnancy, I grew to love him and know him while he was still growing in my belly. He would get so excited when he heard his father’s voice, that he would dance and reach for the hand placed on my belly. He loved our nightly chocolate milk, and he held a dance-party every night at 3am.😂 I am not going to tell you that pregnancy is a beautiful, Earth-Mother, experience. I will tell you that there is joy and happiness to be found amidst the discomfort, and that the discomfort will fade, but the joys will last forever. Yes, this will be the hardest thing you have ever done. It will also be the most fun, most rewarding, most joyful experience you will ever have. I hope you can focus on the joy and the fun, and thoroughly enjoy these next few months and the years of joy to follow!
Congratulations! My two generic pieces of advice: 1: Don't wait until a gender reveal, open that envelope in your own home where you can be emotional and feel everything 2: Everyone says "wait till they start crawling" or "just wait till they won't stop talking" and all this kind of stuff. Don't let that get to you, every stage of infancy was better than the one before it, and being a parent can be a lot more fun than other people make it out to be.
I also don't like gender reveals at all I hav a little girl and I found the first month the hardest or u would say the first year but now its sooo sweet 😋
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We tried for 15 years to have our daughter and it was a surprise when it finally happened. I spent my entire pregnancy paranoid we'd lose her and a fear that I couldn't do it and especially birth. I was scared until It finally came time to have her and then it was like someone flipped a switch in my brain and I was 100% ready and pushed her out. I can't explain to you how you'll feel after you have her, generally, but I just want you to know you'll be okay
Such a realistic response to pregnancy, so refreshing. I was not over-the-moon giddy with excitement, but enjoyed my pregnancy. All the knowledge intake surrounding having a baby, how to manage yourself, which gear to buy, how to do this, that, etc, was like having a part-time job. You both seem to be healthy, moderate people, just go with your gut and enjoy yourselves!
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I thought the same! It's refreshing to see Natalie addressing pregnancy as I would: with a lot of very valid fear and concerns, without sugarcoating it at any point.
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I love how candid and honest Natalie is. I love her. I so appreciate that you both made such an honest video about how you're feeling, I haven't seen many if any conversations like this, and I just know there are people out there who feel the exact same as you and need to know that they aren't alone. Thank you both for being you!
The thing I loved about this video is that it felt like Natalie (hope it's right) was the protagonist of it, and you let her have her space to tell the story, and even if it wasn't always optimistic and joyful but rather scared and doubtful, you were there to support her. I've been following you for a while (a long one haha), I'm just so so so happy for you two. You both are going to be the greatest xxx
Congratulations! As a parent I would like to share some advise! - No parent knows what they are doing, we are all improvising. - All kids are different, that is why there is no guide book for parenting, is just impossible. - Don't blame the other, both are tired, both of you will feel lost and scared, supporting each other is the best mindset to have during that first year. - is good to hear advise from others, but at the end you are the parents, you know what is best for the kid. - They grow really fast, so enjoy every phase. - And.... a fever is 37.5 C, not 36.5, not 37.... 37.5 C
What a genuine and sincere testimonial about pregnancy. In a world full of filters on social media, it’s not usual to be honest about your felling. Nat it’s gonna be a wonderful mother! ❤
I started watching your videos in 2019 when I had just turned 18 and left my parents house to go to college. Your impact on me has been immense, I have no doubt you’ll be a great father to your own kid, as you have already influenced a bunch of other “kids” (:
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Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
Love Nat's real talk on the fear many of us have about having a baby, giving birth, life changes and all the other anxieties that come with it! Not every woman/parent is super elated and not afraid. I went through the same thing. Love her for this ❤️ you'll be okay mama
I broke my “no social media before 12pm” rule to watch this video and I HAVE NO REGRETS! 😁 I was grinning through the entire thing like a fool and I love everything here and sending you both, oh wait, you three (!) all the best wishes and love! Love how natural and truthful and sincere Nat was and also really loved how Matt was following her around the house with his camera 😄😁🤗❤️
Or just a section on the channel, but I need that!! I always love her point of view of everything and how she delivery and the whay they work together as a couple
Congratulations guys ❤ our little man is 11 months and we got told you will be “never so tired, never so HAPPY” by a waiter at a restaurant and I have to say that is the PERFECT way to sum it up
As an anxious person, what helped the most during my three pregnancies was reading positive birth stories, or even stories where there was a scary part but the outcome was ultimately great. It was also super helpful to keep telling myself that women have given birth since the beginning of time and I CAN TOTALLY DO THIS. (I also avoided parenting books and baby books -- too much noise.) I hardly ever comment but coming out of the woodwork to say congratulations! Baby news is the best news. You're gonna be great.
Congratulations! This comment is mostly for Nat. I completely understand how you feel. I can only describe pregnancy as feeling like you’re going downhill in a car with no breaks. Your body completely takes control of this process and mentally and emotionally you’re just trying to hold on. Having made it to the other side of things my advice is to remember that “this too shall pass” the hard times, the pain, the struggle, the joy, the peace and the chaos. Everything comes and goes. I felt like pregnancy lasted forever. I also felt like the fragile infant stage lasted forever. But everything was a phase. My last message to both of you, as much as your life will inevitably change when you become a parent, you also have the opportunity to introduce this new family member to all the things that you both love and enjoy. With your creative minds you can keep a lot of your hobbies and interests but just have to make adjustments to bring the little one along. Introduce your kid to your favourite foods and music and activities etc. they will develop a unique taste in life that is only unique to your family. Best of luck!
I have a 4 year old daughter we been to 20 countries together now we are in Costarica and we will be in USA soon it makes our life so much fun and make us be more great full from teaching her things and making her smile, congrats after you have kids everything is possible as well just with less calm at home
You literally don’t understand that I GASPED and got SO HAPPY just at the thumbnail!! I’ve been following for about 4 years now and you’ve helped me so so much - I’m extremely happy and excited for you both, thank you for everything ❤
I never wanted to be a minimalist more than when my kids were a few years old. We had “ stuff” , I was overwhelmed. Limiting the “stuff” and focusing on other things was the key. They never missed what they didn’t have. We played, we laughed, we adventured. Now as adults, they do not focus on physical things to fill their lives. I think you will find that less stuff brings you peace so you can put your effort in other areas. Many blessings to you both.
Upcoming videos: Why my child has one diaper I tried to be a father for 30 days How I paid my student debt as the father of a child with future student debt P.S congrats man! I've been here for almost four years now and I'll be here for many more. Love you and your family.
Wow! Thank you, Natalie, for really being honest with the world about how you’re feeling. My husband and I recently got married, and he feels the way Matt does and I feel the way you do lol. We both appreciate you sharing your experience! If it aligns with your path, it will be really valuable to see videos where you guys talk about how you’re intertwining minimalism into parenthood. I’ve imagined teaching this to a child but I’ve never seen videos on it. Good luck guys and please know you have so much support and love on this journey! ❤
Check out the minimal mom. By the way this is absolutely normal for women to feel the way Nat does; they are taking the much bigger risk in this for the rest of their lives.
Would love to hear more from Nat as the pregnancy progresses. I identified with pretty much everything she said in this video and would be super interested in learning how her outlook and feelings evolve as you go. And congrats!
Can’t wait for minimalist parenting content to come!! As a mama of 4, getting ready to downsize into an RV to follow my husband travel as an RN, your videos and documentaries have turned my life into the best direction. So happy and excited for you both.
Currently pregnant and about to enter the third trimester and I feel every word Natalie is saying. And not to mention how taxing being pregnant in general is. My body doesn’t feel like it’s just mine any more and it’s hard to get used to.
Congratulations! It's so amazing for you both ❤️ I'm a newish mama, and my advice would be; Buy what you want, and don't worry about what you think you need or what someone else says you need. Buy onesies with ZIPS! The person who invented poppers hates parents! Don't overthink how you think you should feel. It took me about 4 months to get that overwhelming falling in love feeling that mothers get and I felt awful about it. But actually, more people get that than I thought. Matt, do ANYTHING that Nat asks. No matter how unreasonable. Pregnancy is hard! You guys are going to ace this!
Agreed on zippers! I got the same as you for both my babies: it took me a while to love them in that overpowering way. I thought the second time might be different but it wasn't. For someone who overthink everything like me, it's pretty logical.
@@abigaelmacritchie1365 thank you for being so honest about it. I cried when I started to feel the love because I felt so guilty that I hadn't until then x
@@thehomemakersblog23 aww I'm sad for you that no one warned you 😢 I was lucky enough that my cousin's wife told me that's how she felt when she became a mum, long before I even became pregnant. She said "I needed to get to know my daughter" and that resonates so much with me. Love can be at first sight, but it almost always deepens with knowing the person, why wouldn't it be so with our babies?
A BABY D’AVELLA 😂😂😂!!!! NO WAY Watched you since I was a young teen, I’m 25 this year…. What a journey you’ve taken us all on! This is surreal news! So excited for you 🔥✌🏼 LETS GOOO
I love that Natalie opened up about those fears, I’ve been on the fence for so long about having kids because of all those same reasons and to see someone so opening talk about it and put the anxiety into words is so refreshing. Lots of love to you both!
Hey Nat, congratulations! I've been a mum for 3 months now and all the fears and worries you mentioned in the video are true. Yes, pregnancy is hard, your body changes a lot and labour is very painful. But it really is worth it. The positives far outweigh the negatives. Your baby will bring you joy and laughter. You will realize your capacity for love is greater than you ever imagined. You will realize you are so much stronger (mentally and physically) than you thought. You will gain a new respect for your body. Your life will be turned upside down in the most beautiful way. The best is yet to come pet. Keep smiling and focusing on the positive.
I'm a newish mom of an 8 month old, and I'm here to say that it can be SO much fun! The joy she brings and the amount of times she makes us smile and laugh is hard to explain! All the hard stuff is 100% worth it! You've got this!
Thank you, this helps a lot, I'm considering really bad if I want or not to be a mom for all the scary factors. This kind of comments help to let go the fear
Congratulations!! I felt the same way as Natalie when I was pregnant: all the fears and the negative aspects of parenting were very much in my mind. And it's good to be prepared and know realistically that parts of this are going to be hard. But let me tell you from someone whose first baby turns 7 soon: nothing can prepare you for how wonderful it will be to have this new person in your life. How much you'll love them and be charmed by them and how much they'll make you laugh. You're prepared for the hard times, but rest assured there is SO MUCH good coming that you can't even imagine yet ❤️
All will be well, I was in a similar situation literally 2 years ago when my wife conceived. We found out in early Jan and we didn't want having a kid to change too much of our lives as both of us are at a stage of our career where we need to put in that time and effort to scale/grow. We just ensured that the fundamentals are they for my son and we planned things around him. Of cos things like your schedule changes, your responsibilities change and your priorities change but that's just part and parcel of being a parent. I love challenges and my wife thrives on positivity, so I completely understand and can relate. You guys will do great, just trust the process and do what you can to prep for the baby. Besides that enjoy the journey as its one ride you would want to remember for both the positives and negatives. Congrats Matt and Nat, you will be awesome parents! 😄🎉
Congrats, a child is one of the best gifts gives us. My dad wasn't around when I was a kid, I missed that whole experience, so it's become my life goal to become a father one day. Right now I'm building my business as a self improvement RUclipsr, going to gym, eating clean, boxing, taking care of my mental health, going to church, etc... All of these will set me up financially, physically, mentally and spiritually to be a great Father one day, I can't wait but I want to reach my full potential so I can help my son or daughter reach their full potential
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Becoming a parent IS terrifying, and it is hard but on the flipside of that there is nothing like it in the world. It is such an amazing experience watching your little ones grow! It is one of the most rewarding journeys you can undertake. I have two teen daughters now and they've shown me a new depth of love and I continue to grow as a person right alongside them. Trust that you've got this Nat, you'll be an amazing mommy!💖🙂
You are starting with the right mindset. Your life is going to change, you will make sacrifices, but you will still be able to go out, travel... but not in the same way, in a different way, and that's fine
So happy for you! I confess - when I found out i was pregnant, i was depressed the first six months of my pregnancy. Thrown into morning sickness overnight. Exhausted and sick constantly. Planning in overdrive. Then one day - i fell in love with my baby. She’s now two and a half and is my bestest little buddy! Life changes in crazy ways, but it’s so worth it. You will become a new version of yourself. Take care!
Congratulations! And just take things as they come. Things will change, but you will adapt and grow into the changes--and they will feel natural. You guys have got this!
Congrats, guys! I became a dad last year, and every part of this video brought back an incredible wave of emotions and memories. My wife and I spent 11 years living the life we wanted before our daughter entered the picture, so we definitely felt the pull of "leaving your life behind" when our daughter came along. We've kind of taken this approach of fully embracing the new with the understanding that we can always revisit the favorite parts of our former self whenever we want to. It simply requires intentionality and communication. Since you're a master Intentionist™, I have no doubt you'll find the method that brings you the most fulfillment. So stoked for you! You're going to love every second of it.
I recognize the negative spiral completely! As a mom of two kids I can now reassure: you will grow into it all during the pregnancy. Nature designed us this way. No need to oversee it all from the start. ❤
Nat, I resonate with your words so much. I’ve been crying so much from my own pregnancy symptoms. You’re absolutely right. Everything changes immediately when you get pregnant. I’ve been so sick with my pregnancy, and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. There’s so much that feels negative around childbirth and parenting. You’re right, it’s terrifying. I want to cry listening to your words, because I too, am “spiraling in the negative.” It’s so refreshing to hear a pregnant person say that they too are terrified and scared of the negative changes. It’s just hard. This is difficult. I don’t have any comforting words, just that I understand and you are not alone. ❤
Natalie, you are so incredibly in tune with your body to recognize the changes early, you will naturally be ready! You are going to be an amazing mom! Congratulations.
Congratulations, you two. No one is ever ready for this, but the minute you see your child for the first time, suddenly you are SO ready. You will be amazing.
Her story telling skills are so good can see why you two are a good pair, I was hooked when she was explaining "IT'S TWO LINES!", maybe the baby will inherit this storytelling gene😂Congratulations & love to your family ❤
That's a great news, Matt and Nat! I've been following you for a long time ago and I learned a lot in terms of productivity, and I am looking forward on how you develop your own productivity system being a husband and a dad. God will bless both of you!
I am also pregnant and just made it through the first trimester. I had HG which made it even worse. Hearing Natalie talk about her fears is super comforting as I have been feeling the same way. My brain is always anxious especially since we had a miscarriage earlier this year with our first.
My first pregnancy was a miscarriage as well. When I got pregnant again with our now 18 month old I spend the entire first 10 weeks unwilling to move or do anything for fear of causing another miscarriage. I'm so sorry for your loss.❤
I had the best, and I mean the BEST experience being pregnant and giving birth. Be positive in yourself and know that you can do this. Don't listen to the negative stories because they will undoubtedly make your experience negative. Think positively, and you'll rock this pregnancy! 🧡
The sad thing about watching videos is that you want to answer like it’s a normal conversation. I felt like I had something to say for every sentence 😂 I think the first sign that you’re going to he an amazing mom is that you have questions and try to get answers. You research and doubt and generally care. And that’s all it takes. As a dad, wanting to know everything and be involved is the ultimate goal. I shed a tear. Happy parenthood, you guys ❤🎉
For Nat, your fears are valid and warranted. The main thing is you have a partner in Matt who is willing to accept challenges and really tackle them head on and is exactly what you will need in going through pregnancy and raising a child. As a dad of 2 children it isn’t easy but the main thing is you figure it out, you dig deep and you manage and it is surprising the sheer will of your spirit when you are beyond tired yet you still manage. Best of luck and I sincerely wish you all the best and loads of happiness
Always loved Matt (and Natalie's content). I'm so looking forward to watchimg Matt's slow descent into maximalist hell. We have a five year old daughter who has created the worlds greatest dichotomy by being the best thing thats ever happened to us and also ruined everything at the same time. Blessed.
As someone who dealt with depression during and after pregnancies, lost my first baby almost full term, and now has a healthy 8 year old - it’s so worth it. You guys are in a great position working for yourselves; you can travel, sleep in, etc. My best advice is don’t push yourselves when you don’t have to. We didn’t travel the first 2 years of our daughter’s life. It was more trouble for us and her. We just enjoyed taking it easy for that season.
Nat, thank you so much for your brutally honest and vulnerable words. I am no mum and I am not pregnant, but I feel like your words prepared me more for what 'could still be' than any of the happy-flower-beaming mummy-pictures and stories.
Her words make me feel understood. My pregnancies were like hers, I got flooded with changes in my body and mind and mood. It overwhelmed me and stole my energy. It was weird because nine month were too long and too short as well. Too long because I really wanted myself back and too short because I wasn't done figuring everything out. (But the good part is I bounced back one day after giving birth both times.) Anyways ... congrats!
As someone who's due in April, totally relate to everything that natalie was saying. Both an exciting and terrifying time, especially as the person carrying the baby.
As someone who started watching this channel single and now has 2 kids, I'm excited to see how you handle your family growing and the transition to parenthood. It's hard but you can do it, best of luck!
Congratulations, that’s amazing! I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and I completely understand all the things Natalie’s saying. Especially what she said about not having 9 months to prepare; that’s so true! From the moment that you are pregnant, everything changes already (mentally and fysically). Take it one day at a time, and listen to your body and mind about what is necessary at that moment. Attending a mindfulness birth-class was so helpful for me! :)
Искренне рад за вас! Смотрю сейчас на вас, и мне кажется, что вот ОН, образец идеальной семьи! Мне очень нравится атмосфера ваших видео, всегда от них веет добром. Хорошей вам жизни, ребята! 😄
I definitely feel like new parents think they should feel a certain way. We are totally allowed to feel however we are feeling and I think that is definitely the healthy way to go about it.
I love how honest Nat is, I’m a mom of 2 girls and I had 2 natural births one at a birth center and the other at home. For me motherhood is figuring it out in the way but at the same time learning/ informing yourself so you can be ready. Not just wait for someone to tell you what to do. You guys got this! ♥️congratulations!
I’m 15 weeks pregnant today and I completely understand how you feel Nat. I was feeling that way since knowing about my pregnancy. The first trimester was extremely draining for me, it wasn’t enjoyable at all. Remind yourself to listen to your body, rest if you feel like you need to rest. Take a day off if you can. I spent lots of weekends watching pregnancy videos - lots of Aussie mums on RUclips. I feel a lot different now, my pregnancy anxiety is gone and I’m feeling so excited. All the best ❤
Awww... Congratulations to you both 😊 Yes.. your life will change in expected and unexpected ways, but you will be so glad for it. And - as a proud Nanny ( grandmother).. when doubt hits you, remember that no kids means no grandkids... and that would be the biggest regret of all. I wish you all the very best xx
Dear Natalie, thank you for these honest words, I felt exactly the same when I was pregnant. For me, the pregnancy was very hard, physically and mentally. Being pregnant, you experience all the "negative" things, things you can't do anymore, the body changes, the illness, the fatigue, the overwhelming thoughts... It's hard to stay positive, because the why, the baby, isn't there jet. My son is now 18 months old, and it has been the most wonderful and most hard 18 months of my life. I think you don't need advice, except of this one: try to focus on the moment, don't think of the past or the future. How do you feel now? And what can you do now for yourself to make it a little bit better/easier? Be kind, forgiving and loving to yourself. You will learn everything you need to know at the right time. Wish you all the best! Congratulations from Germany.
Congratulations! You are going to have a lot of fun with your child no doubt. The truth is nobody is prepared. Nobody is prepared to the amount of love that is coming in your family!
Good on Nat to realize she's both excited and terrified about the process. I have no idea why someone would go through that willingly! Hopefully everything will go smoothly. Congratulations to you both!
Congratulations to you both. Keep in mind you can control many aspects of the process, including whether to use pain relief during labour. That is your decision and please don't let anyone else's views (apparent judgement) sway you, they are not you and each person's situation is unique to them. You do you. Good luck, you are going to be fantastic parents.
Congratulations! I have a five year old but Natalie brought back all of those emotions I had while pregnant. Take care of yourself, let yourself feel whatever you’re feeling without judgement, and remember that you are completely capable of being amazing parents. Also, a word about stuff and kids - there is a lot you don’t need, for sure, but there are also things that you may need only for a super short period of time but they will make something in your life more comfortable/convenient/etc, especially during the first year, so don’t beat yourself up too much if you end up with more “stuff” than you like. That’s the reason it’s so easy to find baby gear used!
Agree with this! I just had my 3rd baby last February and Natalie’s words rung true even for my third. But, it gets easier. Don’t feel like you have to share this journey either. Having children will change your life and sometimes, you may feel you want to keep it private. It will try your relationship, it will change your lives. Your hearts will grow and you will feel like life is much more worth living. Once your child turns 1, that is when things start to get easier. Keep strong!!!
I second this! There are some things we used with our daughter for only a month or two, but it made life sooooo much easier during that time, so don't be afraid to get the things you need!
Congratulations to you both and the little human who has already scored two of the worlds best humans as parents!! Honestly the horror stories frustrate me so much.. everyone has something to say and usually those horror stories come hard and fast and exaggerated sometimes. So I’ll take this moment to say I’ve had two terrific births, we somehow find our way as parents and every step is somehow more beautiful than the last - between the poops and learning curves you face becoming parents, you feel a magic you are so blessed to experience by raising a human being!!! I wish you an enjoyable pregnancy and the journey becoming parents to be a magical one. You’ve got this 🙌🏼
Congratulations!!! So good news, labour is not the hardest and YES you will be able to keep your identities and lives, what I can suggest to you is to check out the social media of people who have kids and have your lifestyle, you can see that the patience and calm you put in your activities that you want to share now with your baby, will keep the baby calm and confident...
Congratulations to you two! I totally relate to Natalie and the feelings she’s having. Life looks different after children and it’s OKAY and NORMAL to grieve the loss of a “prior life.” Luckily, the “new” life you get is one filled with so much love your jaws will drop to the floor with how much love your hearts can hold. And you are right, Matt, you can continue to do the things you love with a baby/child. It may take some time and adjusting to get used to new routines and such but you can always make room for the most important things. Kids shift your priorities and help you focus in my experience. Can’t wait to follow along your journey :)
Don't worry, Nat, you'll go through waves of despair and fear, and moments of uncontainable joy and fun - through pregnancy and raising a baby. As far as I am concerned, that rollercoaster of emotion doesn't go away, you just learn to ride the waves better (and your hormones typically balance around child's age 2 or so, and that helps A TON). Congratulations! So happy for you both.
If pregnancy and parenthood seems too overwhelming, please seek out help. It is a sign of strength to be able to recognize the need for help. I also want to add. If anyone who wants to help, says something that feels wrong to you as a parent, then please listen to your own instincts. Parents know their babies the best. All the love and happy nesting vibes ❤
To help Nat with focusing on the positive, there’s a podcast called “Australian Birth Stories” and also their Insta which is so helpful. I’ve just had two babies in the last two years and the most important thing to remember is that everything is just a phase. You may lose your minimalist path for a little bit while you work out what things work for you and what doesn’t. But you’ll find your groove eventually. The nights are long but the years are short. Congratulations Xx
Very well said... as everything in live it is just a phase and will pass by more or less quickly. With kids we will be just much more aware of that truth.
Congrats. Currently expecting our third very soon and the best advice I can give you is to not be too hard on yourselves or compare the growth of your child to others. Kids go their own way and what worked for one doesn’t work for the other. Be present and keep their safety and development at the forefront and you’ll figure it all out.
Taking baby name suggestions starting now...
David! If it’s a boy!
Biceps ofc!
Optimus Prime or Kevin if it´s a Boy
Brody
Barry for a boy and Barbara for a girl.
Natalie's words hit hard because even though I'm not pregnant and have never been, my thoughts about pregnancy are exactly the same to hers. I am so grateful to you Nat for being so vulnerable and sharing how you feel. I finally see that I am not alone in my thoughts and feelings. I'm sending you a huge hug and I really believe in you!
❤ This! Thank you, Natalie! Congrats to the both of you!
Right? Just how I felt!
I feel the same except I have had children and went through fear of giving birth and postpartum depression, and feeling isolated as a then stay at home mom. But I appreciate Nat’s openness and honesty because you don’t hear that a lot. I remember at one point every one being like congratulations congratulations and I remember at the time not feeling it at all, and not wanting to hear that at all(after the 3rd pregnancy) Now my kids are all teenagers and I have no regrets. But I truly have so much respect for people who decide not to have kids at all. I personally don’t understand that because I always wanted to have kids but I respect it and I don’t believe in trying to convince those who say they don’t want kids otherwise. Having a child or children is a lot of work but it’s so worth yet definitely NOT for everyone. The best advice I could give Nat is accept and ask for help from those you trust!
I felt the fear even though I’m not and haven’t experienced this before. I’m just so relate to the uncomfortable feelings and so understand sometimes the negative thoughts can stay around there for a while.
Same 🤍
The truest advice I have ever heard when it comes to raising children: “The days go slowly but the years go fast.” I blinked and my babies are adults.
This made me tear up. I'm going to go see my mom right now
My kid is 2.5 and it's absolutely terrifying. That first year was painfully slow (we had zero help from the beginning due to COVID) and we were so exhausted. It's so much fun now and going waaay too fast!
This message is for Nat. I have had two pregnancies in my life, under very different circumstances. The first was unplanned, in the midst of leaving an abusive marriage, and when I was very young. I hated every minute of it, but when my son was born, I was hit with a never-before-felt wave of love for this child that was fierce and amazing, and erased every bit of the pain of the pregnancy, labor, and delivery. I remember them as a fact, but I cannot recall how they actually felt.
With my youngest, the situation was much different. He was planned and brought into a loving, stable marriage. In that pregnancy, I grew to love him and know him while he was still growing in my belly. He would get so excited when he heard his father’s voice, that he would dance and reach for the hand placed on my belly. He loved our nightly chocolate milk, and he held a dance-party every night at 3am.😂
I am not going to tell you that pregnancy is a beautiful, Earth-Mother, experience. I will tell you that there is joy and happiness to be found amidst the discomfort, and that the discomfort will fade, but the joys will last forever. Yes, this will be the hardest thing you have ever done. It will also be the most fun, most rewarding, most joyful experience you will ever have. I hope you can focus on the joy and the fun, and thoroughly enjoy these next few months and the years of joy to follow!
Well said! Helped me get a glimpse
Well said and spot on! My son is 6 months now and I agree!
Congratulations! My two generic pieces of advice:
1: Don't wait until a gender reveal, open that envelope in your own home where you can be emotional and feel everything
2: Everyone says "wait till they start crawling" or "just wait till they won't stop talking" and all this kind of stuff. Don't let that get to you, every stage of infancy was better than the one before it, and being a parent can be a lot more fun than other people make it out to be.
2.5 Infancy goes quick, soak it up.
3. Dont do a gender reveal...gender isnt that important
First of al congrats. Yes, do not do a gender reveal. Made up commercial trash. Not knowing the gender until birth.
I also don't like gender reveals at all I hav a little girl and I found the first month the hardest or u would say the first year but now its sooo sweet 😋
Totally agree! ❤️ And no, pregnancy don't need to be the best season of your life. Everyone experience it differently
So happy for the both of you!!
Me tooooo❤
Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
IM just saying she doing something a lot of women are missing out on
We tried for 15 years to have our daughter and it was a surprise when it finally happened. I spent my entire pregnancy paranoid we'd lose her and a fear that I couldn't do it and especially birth. I was scared until It finally came time to have her and then it was like someone flipped a switch in my brain and I was 100% ready and pushed her out. I can't explain to you how you'll feel after you have her, generally, but I just want you to know you'll be okay
Such a realistic response to pregnancy, so refreshing. I was not over-the-moon giddy with excitement, but enjoyed my pregnancy. All the knowledge intake surrounding having a baby, how to manage yourself, which gear to buy, how to do this, that, etc, was like having a part-time job. You both seem to be healthy, moderate people, just go with your gut and enjoy yourselves!
Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
I thought the same! It's refreshing to see Natalie addressing pregnancy as I would: with a lot of very valid fear and concerns, without sugarcoating it at any point.
Aw congratulations you guys!! 🥹💕
Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
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Awwww.... ❤️
congrats you two!
so exciting!
I love how candid and honest Natalie is. I love her. I so appreciate that you both made such an honest video about how you're feeling, I haven't seen many if any conversations like this, and I just know there are people out there who feel the exact same as you and need to know that they aren't alone. Thank you both for being you!
The thing I loved about this video is that it felt like Natalie (hope it's right) was the protagonist of it, and you let her have her space to tell the story, and even if it wasn't always optimistic and joyful but rather scared and doubtful, you were there to support her. I've been following you for a while (a long one haha), I'm just so so so happy for you two. You both are going to be the greatest xxx
I love this comment, you make a great point :)
Yep!!
Thank you Nat for being so open and honest. We need more people like you in this world. 💗
Congratulations!
As a parent I would like to share some advise!
- No parent knows what they are doing, we are all improvising.
- All kids are different, that is why there is no guide book for parenting, is just impossible.
- Don't blame the other, both are tired, both of you will feel lost and scared, supporting each other is the best mindset to have during that first year.
- is good to hear advise from others, but at the end you are the parents, you know what is best for the kid.
- They grow really fast, so enjoy every phase.
- And.... a fever is 37.5 C, not 36.5, not 37.... 37.5 C
That is some great advice!
There's no guide books for parenting???
In Germany, a fever is 38.5 lol
What a genuine and sincere testimonial about pregnancy. In a world full of filters on social media, it’s not usual to be honest about your felling. Nat it’s gonna be a wonderful mother! ❤
Congrats guys! ✨
I started watching your videos in 2019 when I had just turned 18 and left my parents house to go to college.
Your impact on me has been immense, I have no doubt you’ll be a great father to your own kid, as you have already influenced a bunch of other “kids” (:
Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
Love Nat's real talk on the fear many of us have about having a baby, giving birth, life changes and all the other anxieties that come with it! Not every woman/parent is super elated and not afraid. I went through the same thing. Love her for this ❤️ you'll be okay mama
I broke my “no social media before 12pm” rule to watch this video and I HAVE NO REGRETS! 😁
I was grinning through the entire thing like a fool and I love everything here and sending you both, oh wait, you three (!) all the best wishes and love!
Love how natural and truthful and sincere Nat was and also really loved how Matt was following her around the house with his camera 😄😁🤗❤️
We need a separate channel for Natalie with her motherhood journey
Or just a section on the channel, but I need that!! I always love her point of view of everything and how she delivery and the whay they work together as a couple
At least a playlist
Congratulations guys ❤ our little man is 11 months and we got told you will be “never so tired, never so HAPPY” by a waiter at a restaurant and I have to say that is the PERFECT way to sum it up
agreeed!
As an anxious person, what helped the most during my three pregnancies was reading positive birth stories, or even stories where there was a scary part but the outcome was ultimately great. It was also super helpful to keep telling myself that women have given birth since the beginning of time and I CAN TOTALLY DO THIS. (I also avoided parenting books and baby books -- too much noise.) I hardly ever comment but coming out of the woodwork to say congratulations! Baby news is the best news. You're gonna be great.
Congratulations! This comment is mostly for Nat. I completely understand how you feel. I can only describe pregnancy as feeling like you’re going downhill in a car with no breaks. Your body completely takes control of this process and mentally and emotionally you’re just trying to hold on. Having made it to the other side of things my advice is to remember that “this too shall pass” the hard times, the pain, the struggle, the joy, the peace and the chaos. Everything comes and goes. I felt like pregnancy lasted forever. I also felt like the fragile infant stage lasted forever. But everything was a phase.
My last message to both of you, as much as your life will inevitably change when you become a parent, you also have the opportunity to introduce this new family member to all the things that you both love and enjoy. With your creative minds you can keep a lot of your hobbies and interests but just have to make adjustments to bring the little one along.
Introduce your kid to your favourite foods and music and activities etc. they will develop a unique taste in life that is only unique to your family.
Best of luck!
I have a 4 year old daughter we been to 20 countries together now we are in Costarica and we will be in USA soon it makes our life so much fun and make us be more great full from teaching her things and making her smile, congrats after you have kids everything is possible as well just with less calm at home
You literally don’t understand that I GASPED and got SO HAPPY just at the thumbnail!! I’ve been following for about 4 years now and you’ve helped me so so much - I’m extremely happy and excited for you both, thank you for everything ❤
Can't wait for Matt to be doing 30 day challenges with the baby in 9 months time 😂
Donc ;-)
The fact that Nat is feeling vulnerable and some amount of fear is a signal that she’ll be a great mother. You both got this.
I never wanted to be a minimalist more than when my kids were a few years old. We had “ stuff” , I was overwhelmed. Limiting the “stuff” and focusing on other things was the key. They never missed what they didn’t have. We played, we laughed, we adventured. Now as adults, they do not focus on physical things to fill their lives. I think you will find that less stuff brings you peace so you can put your effort in other areas. Many blessings to you both.
Upcoming videos:
Why my child has one diaper
I tried to be a father for 30 days
How I paid my student debt as the father of a child with future student debt
P.S congrats man! I've been here for almost four years now and I'll be here for many more. Love you and your family.
he/she won't have one diaper, but three and they'll all be black 😜
Think this is the most we've ever heard Natalie, well done giving her the space to express herself. Y'all Gona be great 👍🏾
Wow! Thank you, Natalie, for really being honest with the world about how you’re feeling. My husband and I recently got married, and he feels the way Matt does and I feel the way you do lol. We both appreciate you sharing your experience! If it aligns with your path, it will be really valuable to see videos where you guys talk about how you’re intertwining minimalism into parenthood. I’ve imagined teaching this to a child but I’ve never seen videos on it. Good luck guys and please know you have so much support and love on this journey! ❤
Check out the minimal mom. By the way this is absolutely normal for women to feel the way Nat does; they are taking the much bigger risk in this for the rest of their lives.
something tells me because the dads aren't the ones going through all the physical changes and discomfort and pain and labor and have to give birth
Would love to hear more from Nat as the pregnancy progresses. I identified with pretty much everything she said in this video and would be super interested in learning how her outlook and feelings evolve as you go. And congrats!
Can’t wait for minimalist parenting content to come!! As a mama of 4, getting ready to downsize into an RV to follow my husband travel as an RN, your videos and documentaries have turned my life into the best direction. So happy and excited for you both.
Currently pregnant and about to enter the third trimester and I feel every word Natalie is saying. And not to mention how taxing being pregnant in general is. My body doesn’t feel like it’s just mine any more and it’s hard to get used to.
Congratulations! It's so amazing for you both ❤️
I'm a newish mama, and my advice would be;
Buy what you want, and don't worry about what you think you need or what someone else says you need.
Buy onesies with ZIPS! The person who invented poppers hates parents!
Don't overthink how you think you should feel. It took me about 4 months to get that overwhelming falling in love feeling that mothers get and I felt awful about it. But actually, more people get that than I thought.
Matt, do ANYTHING that Nat asks. No matter how unreasonable. Pregnancy is hard!
You guys are going to ace this!
Yes zippers!!
Agreed on zippers! I got the same as you for both my babies: it took me a while to love them in that overpowering way. I thought the second time might be different but it wasn't. For someone who overthink everything like me, it's pretty logical.
@@abigaelmacritchie1365 thank you for being so honest about it. I cried when I started to feel the love because I felt so guilty that I hadn't until then x
@@thehomemakersblog23 aww I'm sad for you that no one warned you 😢 I was lucky enough that my cousin's wife told me that's how she felt when she became a mum, long before I even became pregnant. She said "I needed to get to know my daughter" and that resonates so much with me. Love can be at first sight, but it almost always deepens with knowing the person, why wouldn't it be so with our babies?
@@abigaelmacritchie1365 that's lovely that you had that guidance 😊 you do need to take time to get to know the new tiny person 😊 x
A BABY D’AVELLA 😂😂😂!!!! NO WAY
Watched you since I was a young teen, I’m 25 this year…. What a journey you’ve taken us all on!
This is surreal news! So excited for you 🔥✌🏼 LETS GOOO
I love that Natalie opened up about those fears, I’ve been on the fence for so long about having kids because of all those same reasons and to see someone so opening talk about it and put the anxiety into words is so refreshing. Lots of love to you both!
Hey Nat, congratulations! I've been a mum for 3 months now and all the fears and worries you mentioned in the video are true. Yes, pregnancy is hard, your body changes a lot and labour is very painful. But it really is worth it. The positives far outweigh the negatives. Your baby will bring you joy and laughter. You will realize your capacity for love is greater than you ever imagined. You will realize you are so much stronger (mentally and physically) than you thought. You will gain a new respect for your body. Your life will be turned upside down in the most beautiful way. The best is yet to come pet. Keep smiling and focusing on the positive.
This is adorable. Congrats ya'll!
I'm a newish mom of an 8 month old, and I'm here to say that it can be SO much fun! The joy she brings and the amount of times she makes us smile and laugh is hard to explain! All the hard stuff is 100% worth it! You've got this!
Thank you, this helps a lot, I'm considering really bad if I want or not to be a mom for all the scary factors. This kind of comments help to let go the fear
In the same situation and feeling the same things!
The first 2 months were hard but since it's been 80% joy
Aaaa
Congratulations!! I felt the same way as Natalie when I was pregnant: all the fears and the negative aspects of parenting were very much in my mind. And it's good to be prepared and know realistically that parts of this are going to be hard. But let me tell you from someone whose first baby turns 7 soon: nothing can prepare you for how wonderful it will be to have this new person in your life. How much you'll love them and be charmed by them and how much they'll make you laugh. You're prepared for the hard times, but rest assured there is SO MUCH good coming that you can't even imagine yet ❤️
All will be well, I was in a similar situation literally 2 years ago when my wife conceived. We found out in early Jan and we didn't want having a kid to change too much of our lives as both of us are at a stage of our career where we need to put in that time and effort to scale/grow. We just ensured that the fundamentals are they for my son and we planned things around him.
Of cos things like your schedule changes, your responsibilities change and your priorities change but that's just part and parcel of being a parent.
I love challenges and my wife thrives on positivity, so I completely understand and can relate.
You guys will do great, just trust the process and do what you can to prep for the baby. Besides that enjoy the journey as its one ride you would want to remember for both the positives and negatives.
Congrats Matt and Nat, you will be awesome parents! 😄🎉
Congrats, a child is one of the best gifts gives us.
My dad wasn't around when I was a kid, I missed that whole experience, so it's become my life goal to become a father one day.
Right now I'm building my business as a self improvement RUclipsr, going to gym, eating clean, boxing, taking care of my mental health, going to church, etc...
All of these will set me up financially, physically, mentally and spiritually to be a great Father one day, I can't wait but I want to reach my full potential so I can help my son or daughter reach their full potential
Loved the video! Btw I make videos to help this upcoming generation learn and develop fundamental and life changing wisdom! Let me know what you think! Thanks in advance
Becoming a parent IS terrifying, and it is hard but on the flipside of that there is nothing like it in the world. It is such an amazing experience watching your little ones grow! It is one of the most rewarding journeys you can undertake. I have two teen daughters now and they've shown me a new depth of love and I continue to grow as a person right alongside them. Trust that you've got this Nat, you'll be an amazing mommy!💖🙂
You are starting with the right mindset. Your life is going to change, you will make sacrifices, but you will still be able to go out, travel... but not in the same way, in a different way, and that's fine
So happy for you! I confess - when I found out i was pregnant, i was depressed the first six months of my pregnancy. Thrown into morning sickness overnight. Exhausted and sick constantly. Planning in overdrive. Then one day - i fell in love with my baby. She’s now two and a half and is my bestest little buddy! Life changes in crazy ways, but it’s so worth it. You will become a new version of yourself. Take care!
Wow big congratulations to you both!!! What a beautiful time it is 🧡
Congratulations! And just take things as they come. Things will change, but you will adapt and grow into the changes--and they will feel natural. You guys have got this!
Congrats, guys! I became a dad last year, and every part of this video brought back an incredible wave of emotions and memories. My wife and I spent 11 years living the life we wanted before our daughter entered the picture, so we definitely felt the pull of "leaving your life behind" when our daughter came along. We've kind of taken this approach of fully embracing the new with the understanding that we can always revisit the favorite parts of our former self whenever we want to. It simply requires intentionality and communication. Since you're a master Intentionist™, I have no doubt you'll find the method that brings you the most fulfillment. So stoked for you! You're going to love every second of it.
I recognize the negative spiral completely! As a mom of two kids I can now reassure: you will grow into it all during the pregnancy. Nature designed us this way. No need to oversee it all from the start. ❤
Congrats and much love and happiness. The best gift in life is your children. I am blessed with four..
Nat,
I resonate with your words so much. I’ve been crying so much from my own pregnancy symptoms.
You’re absolutely right. Everything changes immediately when you get pregnant. I’ve been so sick with my pregnancy, and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
There’s so much that feels negative around childbirth and parenting. You’re right, it’s terrifying. I want to cry listening to your words, because I too, am “spiraling in the negative.”
It’s so refreshing to hear a pregnant person say that they too are terrified and scared of the negative changes. It’s just hard. This is difficult. I don’t have any comforting words, just that I understand and you are not alone. ❤
Natalie, you are so incredibly in tune with your body to recognize the changes early, you will naturally be ready! You are going to be an amazing mom! Congratulations.
Congratulations to you both! baby tip from a father of two, keep a ton of cloth nappies on hand, not to be used as nappies but for everything else.
Congratulations, you two. No one is ever ready for this, but the minute you see your child for the first time, suddenly you are SO ready. You will be amazing.
Her story telling skills are so good can see why you two are a good pair, I was hooked when she was explaining "IT'S TWO LINES!", maybe the baby will inherit this storytelling gene😂Congratulations & love to your family ❤
That's a great news, Matt and Nat! I've been following you for a long time ago and I learned a lot in terms of productivity, and I am looking forward on how you develop your own productivity system being a husband and a dad. God will bless both of you!
Congrats guys! I'm watching this at the hospital waiting for our doctor to come break my wife's water. Get ready for an adventure!
I am also pregnant and just made it through the first trimester. I had HG which made it even worse. Hearing Natalie talk about her fears is super comforting as I have been feeling the same way. My brain is always anxious especially since we had a miscarriage earlier this year with our first.
My first pregnancy was a miscarriage as well. When I got pregnant again with our now 18 month old I spend the entire first 10 weeks unwilling to move or do anything for fear of causing another miscarriage. I'm so sorry for your loss.❤
This video is going to be beautiful for your kid in the future! Congratulations!
I had the best, and I mean the BEST experience being pregnant and giving birth. Be positive in yourself and know that you can do this. Don't listen to the negative stories because they will undoubtedly make your experience negative. Think positively, and you'll rock this pregnancy! 🧡
The sad thing about watching videos is that you want to answer like it’s a normal conversation. I felt like I had something to say for every sentence 😂 I think the first sign that you’re going to he an amazing mom is that you have questions and try to get answers. You research and doubt and generally care. And that’s all it takes. As a dad, wanting to know everything and be involved is the ultimate goal.
I shed a tear. Happy parenthood, you guys ❤🎉
You're going to be fine. Trust the process it will come naturally. Congrats!
Congrats, Matt & Nat! After 5 years of IVF, we just welcomed our daughter in November. Enjoy every moment. It’s an a journey!
For Nat, your fears are valid and warranted. The main thing is you have a partner in Matt who is willing to accept challenges and really tackle them head on and is exactly what you will need in going through pregnancy and raising a child. As a dad of 2 children it isn’t easy but the main thing is you figure it out, you dig deep and you manage and it is surprising the sheer will of your spirit when you are beyond tired yet you still manage. Best of luck and I sincerely wish you all the best and loads of happiness
Always loved Matt (and Natalie's content). I'm so looking forward to watchimg Matt's slow descent into maximalist hell. We have a five year old daughter who has created the worlds greatest dichotomy by being the best thing thats ever happened to us and also ruined everything at the same time. Blessed.
As someone who dealt with depression during and after pregnancies, lost my first baby almost full term, and now has a healthy 8 year old - it’s so worth it. You guys are in a great position working for yourselves; you can travel, sleep in, etc. My best advice is don’t push yourselves when you don’t have to. We didn’t travel the first 2 years of our daughter’s life. It was more trouble for us and her. We just enjoyed taking it easy for that season.
Nat, thank you so much for your brutally honest and vulnerable words. I am no mum and I am not pregnant, but I feel like your words prepared me more for what 'could still be' than any of the happy-flower-beaming mummy-pictures and stories.
Great! I am very happy because I have been with you since the beginning. congratulations on the pregnancy!
wow, and how do I get into it?
Her words make me feel understood. My pregnancies were like hers, I got flooded with changes in my body and mind and mood. It overwhelmed me and stole my energy. It was weird because nine month were too long and too short as well. Too long because I really wanted myself back and too short because I wasn't done figuring everything out. (But the good part is I bounced back one day after giving birth both times.) Anyways ... congrats!
As someone who's due in April, totally relate to everything that natalie was saying. Both an exciting and terrifying time, especially as the person carrying the baby.
been watching for a while, congrats Matt!
As someone who started watching this channel single and now has 2 kids, I'm excited to see how you handle your family growing and the transition to parenthood. It's hard but you can do it, best of luck!
Congratulations, that’s amazing! I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and I completely understand all the things Natalie’s saying. Especially what she said about not having 9 months to prepare; that’s so true! From the moment that you are pregnant, everything changes already (mentally and fysically). Take it one day at a time, and listen to your body and mind about what is necessary at that moment. Attending a mindfulness birth-class was so helpful for me! :)
OMG !!!! Congrats, So happy for you both! Wishing you nothing but the best. Nat----Hope you have a safe pregnancy and a healthy baby.
Искренне рад за вас! Смотрю сейчас на вас, и мне кажется, что вот ОН, образец идеальной семьи! Мне очень нравится атмосфера ваших видео, всегда от них веет добром. Хорошей вам жизни, ребята! 😄
I definitely feel like new parents think they should feel a certain way. We are totally allowed to feel however we are feeling and I think that is definitely the healthy way to go about it.
Awe Nat, thanks for being so honest! I appreciate that as a women cause I have similar fears.
I love how honest Nat is, I’m a mom of 2 girls and I had 2 natural births one at a birth center and the other at home. For me motherhood is figuring it out in the way but at the same time learning/ informing yourself so you can be ready. Not just wait for someone to tell you what to do.
You guys got this!
♥️congratulations!
I’m 15 weeks pregnant today and I completely understand how you feel Nat. I was feeling that way since knowing about my pregnancy. The first trimester was extremely draining for me, it wasn’t enjoyable at all. Remind yourself to listen to your body, rest if you feel like you need to rest. Take a day off if you can. I spent lots of weekends watching pregnancy videos - lots of Aussie mums on RUclips. I feel a lot different now, my pregnancy anxiety is gone and I’m feeling so excited. All the best ❤
Best of luck to you as well!! how exciting 🎉
Congrats everything is gonna be good.
Awww... Congratulations to you both 😊 Yes.. your life will change in expected and unexpected ways, but you will be so glad for it. And - as a proud Nanny ( grandmother).. when doubt hits you, remember that no kids means no grandkids... and that would be the biggest regret of all. I wish you all the very best xx
I took about 3 months away from social media, I’m back on the channel and this is the 1st vid to alert me! Wow congratulations Matt & Nat 🎉🎉🎉
Dear Natalie, thank you for these honest words, I felt exactly the same when I was pregnant. For me, the pregnancy was very hard, physically and mentally. Being pregnant, you experience all the "negative" things, things you can't do anymore, the body changes, the illness, the fatigue, the overwhelming thoughts... It's hard to stay positive, because the why, the baby, isn't there jet. My son is now 18 months old, and it has been the most wonderful and most hard 18 months of my life.
I think you don't need advice, except of this one: try to focus on the moment, don't think of the past or the future. How do you feel now? And what can you do now for yourself to make it a little bit better/easier? Be kind, forgiving and loving to yourself. You will learn everything you need to know at the right time.
Wish you all the best! Congratulations from Germany.
Congratulations! You are going to have a lot of fun with your child no doubt. The truth is nobody is prepared. Nobody is prepared to the amount of love that is coming in your family!
CONGRATS!!! The ultimate minimalist baby guide is coming.
We've been waiting!!!!
@@MagicalMandi facts!!
Good on Nat to realize she's both excited and terrified about the process. I have no idea why someone would go through that willingly! Hopefully everything will go smoothly. Congratulations to you both!
Congratulations to you both. Keep in mind you can control many aspects of the process, including whether to use pain relief during labour. That is your decision and please don't let anyone else's views (apparent judgement) sway you, they are not you and each person's situation is unique to them. You do you. Good luck, you are going to be fantastic parents.
Congratulations! I have a five year old but Natalie brought back all of those emotions I had while pregnant. Take care of yourself, let yourself feel whatever you’re feeling without judgement, and remember that you are completely capable of being amazing parents. Also, a word about stuff and kids - there is a lot you don’t need, for sure, but there are also things that you may need only for a super short period of time but they will make something in your life more comfortable/convenient/etc, especially during the first year, so don’t beat yourself up too much if you end up with more “stuff” than you like. That’s the reason it’s so easy to find baby gear used!
This is such great advice!
Agree with this! I just had my 3rd baby last February and Natalie’s words rung true even for my third. But, it gets easier.
Don’t feel like you have to share this journey either. Having children will change your life and sometimes, you may feel you want to keep it private.
It will try your relationship, it will change your lives. Your hearts will grow and you will feel like life is much more worth living.
Once your child turns 1, that is when things start to get easier. Keep strong!!!
I second this! There are some things we used with our daughter for only a month or two, but it made life sooooo much easier during that time, so don't be afraid to get the things you need!
Congratulations to you both and the little human who has already scored two of the worlds best humans as parents!! Honestly the horror stories frustrate me so much.. everyone has something to say and usually those horror stories come hard and fast and exaggerated sometimes. So I’ll take this moment to say I’ve had two terrific births, we somehow find our way as parents and every step is somehow more beautiful than the last - between the poops and learning curves you face becoming parents, you feel a magic you are so blessed to experience by raising a human being!!! I wish you an enjoyable pregnancy and the journey becoming parents to be a magical one. You’ve got this 🙌🏼
Congratulations!!! So good news, labour is not the hardest and YES you will be able to keep your identities and lives, what I can suggest to you is to check out the social media of people who have kids and have your lifestyle, you can see that the patience and calm you put in your activities that you want to share now with your baby, will keep the baby calm and confident...
Congratulations to you two! I totally relate to Natalie and the feelings she’s having. Life looks different after children and it’s OKAY and NORMAL to grieve the loss of a “prior life.” Luckily, the “new” life you get is one filled with so much love your jaws will drop to the floor with how much love your hearts can hold. And you are right, Matt, you can continue to do the things you love with a baby/child. It may take some time and adjusting to get used to new routines and such but you can always make room for the most important things. Kids shift your priorities and help you focus in my experience. Can’t wait to follow along your journey :)
Don't worry, Nat, you'll go through waves of despair and fear, and moments of uncontainable joy and fun - through pregnancy and raising a baby. As far as I am concerned, that rollercoaster of emotion doesn't go away, you just learn to ride the waves better (and your hormones typically balance around child's age 2 or so, and that helps A TON). Congratulations! So happy for you both.
Congratulations to both of us. A life with a child is wonderful, fun and lifechanging.
So exciting! You’re going to be great parents 🎉 thank you for sharing this with us Matt.
Minimalism just gets more and more important as a parent.
Congratulations 🎈
Good luck! Honestly looking forward to the upcoming videos.
If pregnancy and parenthood seems too overwhelming, please seek out help. It is a sign of strength to be able to recognize the need for help.
I also want to add. If anyone who wants to help, says something that feels wrong to you as a parent, then please listen to your own instincts. Parents know their babies the best.
All the love and happy nesting vibes ❤
To help Nat with focusing on the positive, there’s a podcast called “Australian Birth Stories” and also their Insta which is so helpful.
I’ve just had two babies in the last two years and the most important thing to remember is that everything is just a phase. You may lose your minimalist path for a little bit while you work out what things work for you and what doesn’t. But you’ll find your groove eventually.
The nights are long but the years are short.
Congratulations Xx
Very well said... as everything in live it is just a phase and will pass by more or less quickly. With kids we will be just much more aware of that truth.
Congrats. Currently expecting our third very soon and the best advice I can give you is to not be too hard on yourselves or compare the growth of your child to others. Kids go their own way and what worked for one doesn’t work for the other. Be present and keep their safety and development at the forefront and you’ll figure it all out.
First of all congratulations on this great news! Now you can create a new series of minimalist lifestyles as a first-time parent ;)