I was in a long-distance relationship for 2 years that didn't end up working out. An unexpected benefit for me was, when the relationship ended, I never needed to go through a period of "finding myself" again. I already had so much independence and my own life that had always remained separate from his. Though the breakup was devastating, I felt like I was able to move on more easily than if we had lived close to each other right away.
The hardest part for me was I was dreading and subconsciously counting down the days we had left together, making it harder to truly enjoy the present moment with each other.
This came at the perfect time! Me and my partnerhave been talking about going long distance for a semester before getting married and I'll admit I'm a little scared.
Long distance relationships during college are perhaps the main reason guys get falsely accused of sex crimes by women who have consensual sex and then become remorseful for cheating on their boyfriends whille in a LDR.
How do you feel about Jordy vaping. Dangerous, self destructive. He could ruin his lungs and singing career. You would end up being his caregiver and source of financial support. How would you feel about raising children when their father is on the road so much of the time. No help or support. Even if you move to California to be with Jordy, he will leave to be gone and on the road again. You need to be somewhere where you have friends and family close by for help and support during those times when he is away.
Being married for 23 years I love and look back fondly on the times that we have lived apart. There has been 2 times when we lived apart for 3-6 months each time. We lived apart due to moving and job commitments. It actually was a nice break in marriage. It was a time I was able to focus on myself and our kids. It was a nice reset for both of us.
My husband and I were long distance for our entire relationship (2 years) before we got married. One of the things I found really beneficial (especially considering my first relationship was quite the opposite) is that you have to be understanding of each other’s different schedules. Our time zones were 8 hours apart so finding time to FaceTime was sometimes difficult, and we had to be understanding and patient when schedules didn’t align well. But you also learn to prioritize time together, which is huge for a “quality time” love language person ❤ 2.5 years into marriage and I couldn’t trust him more!
Love this video. Currently my second relationship EVER is 15 hours. We spend time communicating on Facebook and video chatting. NOT phone calls since I don't have international calling. Wr are doing Face to Face in October when he comes visit. We will be getting dinner and possibly walking around an area near me.
Long distance when your future husband is in the military makes for a difficult situation. But when you have time to chat you don't want to miss out on it .
Hi. I was in a long distance relationship for three years and we just decided to get married as he was forces and in Berlin. We have now been married for 48 years and counting. It was hard at times but we overcame it.
Yes, long-distance sucks. We did it for years internationally, only seeing each other every few months... but sometimes you find that one person that you can't imagine your future without. Our two-year wedding anniversary is next month, and the risk of all the unknowns were so worth it. Yes, there have been sacrifices - but what we have now is worth more to me because I know what we went through to get here. The only question that matters, in my opinion, is if that person is worth the wait.
When you mentioned the part of my friends vs your friends it made me think that also something that might be part of a long distance relationship is not being able to see how your friends and/or family interact with the person you are dating. Sometimes friends and family can also see things about the person that we don't see that may may be good or bad. It is always good to get other people's perspectives on things.
Before my husband and I were married we were long distance for 4+years. When distance was finally over it was a new phase of us moving to different places because of his job. All I can say is that, no matter who makes the sacrifice, there’s always going to be emotions surrounding a move. I have felt all the emotions about moving, genuine happiness, resent, etc. the main the I like to do is, when I am feeling sad about missing family or resentful about the sacrifice, is to keep an open conversation. It’s totally natural to feel all the things. Just be honest and help each other through those emotions. ❤
My husband and I dated long distance for a year and I loved it. I had been in a relationship before in which all I did was spend every waking moment with my partner, and I knew I didn't want that going forward. Dating long distance allowed me to put in a lot of time into my friendships and also volunteer at my church, which took up every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday (I volunteered for youth ministry at that time of my life).
My husband and I met when we were 13. I lived in Illinois and he was from Alabama. Fast forward 11 years later and we have been married for 4 years and have an 11 month old together ♥️ hard is an understatement but long distance is sooooo worth it if it’s with the right person. Having that communication and commitment as a foundation changes everything in a marriage 😊
My husband and I have been doing long distance for 4.5 years now. He works on a remote island in Alaska. He schedule is nice though; he works for 8 weeks then gets 4 weeks off. The hardest part is missing the life events and we are trying to conceive and only get a 3rd of the year to actually try. The best part is all the amazing things we get to do during his time off. We plan a fun adventure each time he is off, like climbing Mt. Whitney and learning to sail in Cabo. We are planning on 2 more years of LD then will be together full time.
A lot of the trust things can go either way once you’re together. You could find out you were trusting someone who wasn’t worthy of that trust. Or it could be a deep trust builder. Not knowing what they are really like every single day can wind up being a big deception or….it can slowly grow the relationship. For communication….again it can go either way. It can build wonderful communication but it could all be a show too. And that sacrifice of being the one who moves also puts that person in a particularly vulnerable position because you have no individual friends or family to help you or support you if things do go wrong once you move. It’s easier to manipulate someone when they are physically isolated from others because your friends and family can’t see warning signs or changes as easily when they aren’t around you daily.
I just watched the video where you announced Jordy's music. I've been going back and watching old videos because you were on vacation, and I had so many I hadn't watched. That was fun! I'm still watching. I love the relationship you and Jordy have. I hope there will be a wedding someday, no pushing, just hoping! :) Love watching your videos. Thank you for sharing your life with us! :)
My husband and I were also long distance for a year. Separated for 8 months due to the pandemic. I’m from Toronto, Canada and he was living in Raleigh, North Carolina. 8 months into the pandemic I moved and we got married. It’s such very challenging to do long distance but the reward is well worth it. You learn to appreciate your significant other so much more with distance and value time so much more because it’s limited. At least that has been my experience.
I will just leave an input on the editing process: the blurring of the background when the writing pops up was actually bothering my eyes. I think the quick jump from focus to blur to focus was doing something weird to them. It may just be me, so it would be a non-issue in that case, but maybe it bothers somebody else as well. I had to stop watching and put the video as a background noise while doing something else.
I get a very positive vibe from Jordy. He seems very chill, caring and a go with the flow kind of man. Much much different than your ex. I truly wish you both all of the best❤
For consideration: If you move to where Jordy lives, and he goes on tour, all your other support and familiarity is not there. Wouldn't that feel even more difficult, my especially in the beginning? Hope you don't mind me, thinking out loud.
Congrats on your engagement Michel!! 🎉 I've been doing long distance for nearly a year now and we just got engaged in May, getting married next June. 6 hours apart. The toughest part in the beginning is when you are both taking the plunge with no guarantee on the other persons part and slowly getting into more and more trust and commitment as you see how much they are willing to put into knowing you, and realizing how much you do want them in your life no matter the cost. Both definitely have to be in all the way for it to work. Its funny because both of us were in years long relationships prior, but it was not the right person even though we held on longer than we should have. God was so good in writing this love story for us that we both feel unconditionally loved and wanted and cherished ❤
I hesitate to comment on other people’s bodies - you have shared about your nose repair… Your nose looks SO incredible - just adorable! Right now!!! I hope you like it now and in a year from now when it is completely healed ❤
Hi Michel good morning happy Tuesday morning and happy 4th of July Independence day and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter
I did long distance with my boyfriend when I went abroad to Japan for a year and a half work assignment. It was difficult, especially because of the time difference. But i think the most helpful thing is that our long distance had an end date and I stuck to the end date even when I could have extended my time. I knew how important it was to him that I came home when I said I would. Now we've been reunited for about 3 months and life is good 💕
Five years of going out before getting married, only during 10 months in total did we live in the same city, for the rest of the time we were if different countries... and in the time before mobiles. I think it makes everything more romantic. The mixed tapes and the letters! xm
I love how Jordy looks after you from afar it’s so sweet. You are both being so intentional about this relationship from what we get to see and I’m so pleased for you both ❤ hope you had an amazing break together
Hi Michel! I know we only see bits of you two, but I love the way you both are mindful and aware of each other's needs. I wish you two the best always! Take care
I agree the biggest positive for me was being alone helped me figure out me, what I needed and wanted, what I loved to do, and I stopped being so dependent on my partner. And my current relationship is so healthy now.
Yaay welcome back! I've enjoyed watching your old videos the past week, but happy to have present-day Michel back. Hope you've enjoyed your well-deserved vacation! :)
I feel like some of our story is the same-post divorce, new relationship of about the same timeframe! I’ve been very fortunate to not have a long distance relationship this time around up to this point in my current relationship (although my boyfriend will be gone for work half the month beginning next month), BUT!, I wanted to chime in on the friendship and communication part! It is an entirely new world when you have those things, isn’t it?! ❤ It feels so incredibly wholesome and healthy!
My experience so far is I lived about3 min drive away from my gf and now she lives 3h away and she’s at uni while I save up for uni I’ve got 128 days To go but I haven’t seen her in over 30 because I work 6 days a week and 1 day a week is my night/ spending money job. I miss her more than anything so much so that it hurts and all I want to do is quit and go there but I need the money before to complete my goal of 5 years. She can hardly come here because she works as well but also has to pay rent and the fear of not knowing when we are going to see eachother or what it’s going to be like when we are together like if the busyness makes us both have problems with communication and by the time I finally finally get there and move up and start uni our feelings have faded. Idk I’m not asking For help but I just want to say unless u can see you’re whole life including the other and u go to long distance either welcome the harsh challenges or don’t do it my gf and I have been together for almost a year and a half and this has put us through multiple moments of long conversations and easy resolutions realising that fuck it we’re almost a third deep and we love eachother so much its painful if it hurts this much there’s no question, it’s worth it and we have to push but I promise u it’s harder than u think
Move to Denver!!!!! It’s the best city here and Colorado is a 10/10 I will never live anywhere with less than 300 days of sun again - I moved to CO in 2020
Great video content, but the transition with the blur for almost 10 seconds on each topic was painful. I had to tilt the screen away as it made my eyes pull so badly. Maybe it's because I wear glasses? Just thought I'd mention it because the blur was not necessary. I know us follower just love you, but this editing truly stained my eyes. Hoping it's not going to be a new thing 🤞 Have followed you for years and love all that you share ❤
Great analogy and perspective about doing something you don’t like but know will help you in the long run like going to the gym. Looks like you and Jordy are navigating this pretty well.
Michel Whenever you posts a vlog it's makes my day instantly and my sister is so so excited to watch this vlog you are my inspiration and I wish you have a wonderful day💗💫🙂
Welcome back, Michel😊 I hope the you and Jordy had a wonderful time together during your time in CA🤩🎶 I think you missed some of the terrible heat in Texas which was lucky timing!!! This was a great video - very insightful. Have a great 4th of July🇺🇸🎇🎆🎵
My husband and I were kinda long distance for the first two years of our relationship. He lived two hours drive away. We've been together 13 years now. ❤️
My first long distance relationship didnt work, I was young (19) and it lasted 7 years but I was young and very needy. Felt that I didnt really have a life apart from when I was with him! So that was my fault really and I didnt know any different. He had lots of friends and hobbies so he could cope with the long distance. I'm 37 now, so I've established a social life, hobbies and I LOVE my own space, love my quiet time. Years ago I felt that I needed to do everything with my partner- not a healthy mindset I suppose, and he didnt understand that. I think it also depends on what your parents are like as a couple. My parents did everything together, whereas his parents seemed to live seperate lives and ultimately his parents divorced. I remember being shocked that his mum did the food shop by herself 😂 whereas my parents loved doing the food shop together.
Yes long distance relationship. I lived in Scotland my ( hubby then boyfriend in Europe ) I was very ill when i met him ,so had to rush back home for treatment. He asked me to marry after 6 months him , we been happily married 38 years ❤❤ Lovely to see you Michel.
I enjoyed your video and you made alot of valid points. But, I must say that long distance relationship didn't work for me. While I trusted him completely, I ultimately found out he had been cheating the whole 5 months. It was heartbreaking as I had trusted him 100%. I won't do it again! But, I truly see something different with you and Jordy. Jordy seems like a truly genuine guy. I still wouldn't recommend long distance for you two very much longer. It wears on you. I wish you both the very best in your journey together.
Would love a video on long distance date ideas! I’ve found myself in my first long distance relationship and I love the little things you and jordy do to show you still care from afar. Like when he sends you food, coffee dates, etc. I need inspo!
My husband and I were long distance for 2 years. He was from Peru and me from the US. It was very difficult to be apart, but also hard when he came to the US just in a different way. I do agree with you about easier to conceal that is why we started telling each other EVERYTHING and I mean everything because without that our relationships wouldn’t survive. That has continued into our marriage and we have been married 6 years.
It's truly amazing how Jordy was sent to you. He seems to balance you so well and makes you so happy. And you were able to regain your independence and resilience, whilst building a new relationship after everything you went through. I can't imagine how hard it is at times to be so far from a loved one, but it's meant you could grow as individuals and together as a couple 🤍
Entering a Long distance relationship in two weeks. Leaving Switzerland for the US to pursue a master degree. Been living with her since a year, having hugs everyday. Will be very difficult to switch and I am really afraid of the future... And I am afraid things will never be the same after the distance once I'm back
My friend is in the U.K. and her boyfriend lives in the U.S. and they make the best of FaceTime and scheduling calls together every day. Physical visits they try and get together a number of times throughout the year. They work so well together and they are open and honest and they have to trust each other with the distance. So far so good for them and eventually I see my friend moving across the pond to be with him. His family are amazing and so welcoming to her which is great to see. Hats off to all of you that do manage long distance relationships, I hope you all keep happy and get you ever after moments ❤
have you ever thought of getting Jordy to like plan a girls day/friend's day between you and your audience? like just throw it out there and follow it 100% :P
Currently going thru LDR between Japan-Brazil. Before we parted we spend one full month together in Brazil so it is hard to adjust the transition of not being able to be together all the time. I sometimes feel jealous of not being able to talk to him while he is going out and we end up arguing 😢
Being married at 20, my ex and I had to be 6 months apart after 1 month of marrige. I had to go back to my country to apply for a visa (green card). I’m european.
I think for me the worst part of long distance is the lack of physical touch and the best part is when we’re together I don’t mind the mundane days where we only watch tv because I can’t get those days when we’re apart
One thing that I found as a negative. When I see flaws and red flags, I left the relationship, because I had no desire to invest money or time off further into a relationship.
Me and my husband were long distant for 6 months and then I couldn’t do it anymore so I moved to his country but that was even harder. (I moved from The Netherlands to Israel) Very different country, culture and language. I’m glad you don’t have to deal with all of those things and you are with someone inside of your own country, just different states. Still very hard though.. so I hope you guys will get be together soon, I’m guessing that you will move to oceanside to be with Jord ❤
Michel, I have no question in my mind that you have got a match made in heaven with your sweetheart. I bet if you were to make a list of all the things you want in your next man Jordy would meet the criteria. All your boxes would be checked. He absolutely is a gem.
This is very helpful as my boyfriend of 3 years & I are going to start long-distance in autumn after a year of living together 💔 I am really scared but you’re giving me hope that it’ll be fine :)
I think you have experienced the trust aspect bc it takes SO MUCH to keep it going and to continue in a relationship with that person! You're doing it now and so is he! 😊
I loved this video so much bc I do be in the long distance club too + also so glad you are back but hope your break was so sweet and restful and was beneficial to your health!! :))
My husband and I were “long distance” (an hour apart) for the first 5 months while we were dating. We got to see each other one day every weekend, two if we were lucky. I would agree it was a highlight reel because it wasn’t normal every day life and we had to make the most of our time together. I totally agree that having that space apart allowed both of us to process our relationship. We were able to pray and seek God for clarity if marriage is what He wanted for us. And when we became more serious about moving toward marriage, we decided together that I was gonna be the one to make the move to be in the same city as him. I didn’t feel like I made a big sacrifice to move away from my parents and the church I grew up in because as bad as it might sound, I didn’t feel like there was anything keeping me there. I wasn’t able to make any deep connections in my hometown after moving home from college, and I already wanted to move to where he lived. I wanted to be a part of his church and community. Those 2 months before we got married that we were able to spend together doing real life was one of the best things we did for our relationship. And now we’ll be celebrating 2 years of marriage next month. ❤️
I was in a long distance relationship once before and it was quite challenging. It brought up some real important factors for me as well. But it made me realize he was not the one the Lord has for me and that I needed to really lean on the Lord, be patient and wait on Him to bring it into fruition. I thank the Lord He rescued me from it. So glad you made this important vlog. It'll help so many in similar circumstances. I truly can relate to you on so many levels so thank you, Michel. The good Lord bless you. ❤ 1 CORINTHIANS 13:7-8 ~ 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends.
@@MichelJanse Dear Friend Michel, you're absolutely right; there's always hope. And your awesome vlogs and openness are a major Godsend. I can't thank you enough. {BIG HUG} ❤️
Hey Michel! I just wanted to say that welcome back I am so obsessed with your videos Thank you for showing up for me every day Ilysm and I hope you're having a beautiful day 💕
Hey Michel! I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me and I am so obsessed with your content! Thank you for always being such a light and showing up for us with every upload! Ilysm and I hope you’re having an amazing day 💕💕
With the acts of service, I feel like you and Jordy really excell in (from what I've seen of your relationship) it always makes me happy all the times you've mentioned Jordy sending you something and vice versa! And it's all the more meaningful because of the extra effort of sending them something.
Thanks for this video with long distance pros and cons. I’m someone who loves my independence but has also never been in a relationship so I don’t know what that love is. I have always wanted to be in a relationship but haven’t made that connection or had anything last more than a few months.
I'm in the middle of this with my partner at the moment, and this is one of the most well-articulated videos I've seen on long distance! It's hard, but it certainly can make a relationship stronger.
My fiancé and I are in an international long distance relationship, so we only see each other every few months. We’ve been doing it for over two years, we’re waiting on immigration. The end is near, we just had an approval and are waiting for travel authorization! God is good 💕
Thank you for this video and for sharing your thoughts (and Jordy’s & crowdsourced ones). I found myself with a huge smile when you shared that it was your first time experiencing the friendship part of a relationship due to having good communication with your partner! 😊
Love this and can totally relate..only 60 miles apart but still have to plan and everything you said..both working have our own homes…on bad days 60 miles seems like 1000 miles..and being coeliac is a pain too trying to plan meals out in the area he lives..but it is all so totally worth it when your heart jumps when you see them ❤ xxx
Why not date others?..still see each other when you can, but by taking the labels off, you're both just out building a life you love! When you meet others who love what you do, date them! By dating others, the cream will rise to the top!
Michel, you are so honest, productive and kind! I enjoy watching your videos because you’re so truthful with your subscribers (including me) 🥹 I aspire to be like you one day 🩵You’re so loved by me and every single one of your subscribers 🦋
No relationship works from Day 1. We all blame distance, but the truth is even many live-in relationships fail. Relationships need work. Communication. Sharing feelings and actively listening. To practice this, I sometimes play questions games like “Lovify” with my boyfriend. It has helped me understand my partner much better. he enjoys it. Currently we are working on our career & One day, we gonna live together our dream life 💗💗
I've never been in a long distance relationship but this was still really interesting to watch and listen to. You've got so many intelligent thoughts on communicating and trusting others, especially about being intentional when it comes to spending time with others and intentionally putting time and effort into building relationships 🤍
I was in a long-distance relationship for 2 years that didn't end up working out. An unexpected benefit for me was, when the relationship ended, I never needed to go through a period of "finding myself" again. I already had so much independence and my own life that had always remained separate from his. Though the breakup was devastating, I felt like I was able to move on more easily than if we had lived close to each other right away.
The hardest part for me was I was dreading and subconsciously counting down the days we had left together, making it harder to truly enjoy the present moment with each other.
This came at the perfect time! Me and my partnerhave been talking about going long distance for a semester before getting married and I'll admit I'm a little scared.
Long distance relationships during college are perhaps the main reason guys get falsely accused of sex crimes by women who have consensual sex and then become remorseful for cheating on their boyfriends whille in a LDR.
How do you feel about Jordy vaping. Dangerous, self destructive. He could ruin his lungs and singing career. You would end up being his caregiver and source of financial support.
How would you feel about raising children when their father is on the road so much of the time. No help or support.
Even if you move to California to be with Jordy, he will leave to be gone and on the road again. You need to be somewhere where you have friends and family close by for help and support during those times when he is away.
Being married for 23 years I love and look back fondly on the times that we have lived apart. There has been 2 times when we lived apart for 3-6 months each time. We lived apart due to moving and job commitments. It actually was a nice break in marriage. It was a time I was able to focus on myself and our kids. It was a nice reset for both of us.
My husband and I were long distance for our entire relationship (2 years) before we got married. One of the things I found really beneficial (especially considering my first relationship was quite the opposite) is that you have to be understanding of each other’s different schedules. Our time zones were 8 hours apart so finding time to FaceTime was sometimes difficult, and we had to be understanding and patient when schedules didn’t align well. But you also learn to prioritize time together, which is huge for a “quality time” love language person ❤ 2.5 years into marriage and I couldn’t trust him more!
This is great advice and very sweet to hear!! Thank you for sharing friend!!🥰🤍
Love this video. Currently my second relationship EVER is 15 hours. We spend time communicating on Facebook and video chatting. NOT phone calls since I don't have international calling. Wr are doing Face to Face in October when he comes visit. We will be getting dinner and possibly walking around an area near me.
Long distance when your future husband is in the military makes for a difficult situation. But when you have time to chat you don't want to miss out on it .
Hi. I was in a long distance relationship for three years and we just decided to get married as he was forces and in Berlin. We have now been married for 48 years and counting. It was hard at times but we overcame it.
Yes, long-distance sucks. We did it for years internationally, only seeing each other every few months... but sometimes you find that one person that you can't imagine your future without. Our two-year wedding anniversary is next month, and the risk of all the unknowns were so worth it. Yes, there have been sacrifices - but what we have now is worth more to me because I know what we went through to get here.
The only question that matters, in my opinion, is if that person is worth the wait.
This is great advice thank you for sharing friend!!🤍🤍🫶🏼
Your revision surgery was a huge success. Your new nose is beautiful and fits your face perfectly.
When you mentioned the part of my friends vs your friends it made me think that also something that might be part of a long distance relationship is not being able to see how your friends and/or family interact with the person you are dating. Sometimes friends and family can also see things about the person that we don't see that may may be good or bad. It is always good to get other people's perspectives on things.
Before my husband and I were married we were long distance for 4+years. When distance was finally over it was a new phase of us moving to different places because of his job. All I can say is that, no matter who makes the sacrifice, there’s always going to be emotions surrounding a move. I have felt all the emotions about moving, genuine happiness, resent, etc. the main the I like to do is, when I am feeling sad about missing family or resentful about the sacrifice, is to keep an open conversation. It’s totally natural to feel all the things. Just be honest and help each other through those emotions. ❤
My husband and I dated long distance for a year and I loved it. I had been in a relationship before in which all I did was spend every waking moment with my partner, and I knew I didn't want that going forward. Dating long distance allowed me to put in a lot of time into my friendships and also volunteer at my church, which took up every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday (I volunteered for youth ministry at that time of my life).
Congrats on your engagement 😊🎉❤
My husband and I met when we were 13. I lived in Illinois and he was from Alabama. Fast forward 11 years later and we have been married for 4 years and have an 11 month old together ♥️ hard is an understatement but long distance is sooooo worth it if it’s with the right person. Having that communication and commitment as a foundation changes everything in a marriage 😊
My husband and I have been doing long distance for 4.5 years now. He works on a remote island in Alaska. He schedule is nice though; he works for 8 weeks then gets 4 weeks off. The hardest part is missing the life events and we are trying to conceive and only get a 3rd of the year to actually try. The best part is all the amazing things we get to do during his time off. We plan a fun adventure each time he is off, like climbing Mt. Whitney and learning to sail in Cabo. We are planning on 2 more years of LD then will be together full time.
Wow that can be hard, thank you for sharing your story friend!! The adventures sounds really fun!! 🫶🏼🤍
A lot of the trust things can go either way once you’re together. You could find out you were trusting someone who wasn’t worthy of that trust. Or it could be a deep trust builder. Not knowing what they are really like every single day can wind up being a big deception or….it can slowly grow the relationship. For communication….again it can go either way. It can build wonderful communication but it could all be a show too.
And that sacrifice of being the one who moves also puts that person in a particularly vulnerable position because you have no individual friends or family to help you or support you if things do go wrong once you move. It’s easier to manipulate someone when they are physically isolated from others because your friends and family can’t see warning signs or changes as easily when they aren’t around you daily.
I just watched the video where you announced Jordy's music. I've been going back and watching old videos because you were on vacation, and I had so many I hadn't watched. That was fun! I'm still watching. I love the relationship you and Jordy have. I hope there will be a wedding someday, no pushing, just hoping! :) Love watching your videos. Thank you for sharing your life with us! :)
My husband and I were also long distance for a year. Separated for 8 months due to the pandemic. I’m from Toronto, Canada and he was living in Raleigh, North Carolina. 8 months into the pandemic I moved and we got married. It’s such very challenging to do long distance but the reward is well worth it. You learn to appreciate your significant other so much more with distance and value time so much more because it’s limited. At least that has been my experience.
I will just leave an input on the editing process: the blurring of the background when the writing pops up was actually bothering my eyes. I think the quick jump from focus to blur to focus was doing something weird to them. It may just be me, so it would be a non-issue in that case, but maybe it bothers somebody else as well. I had to stop watching and put the video as a background noise while doing something else.
I get a very positive vibe from Jordy. He seems very chill, caring and a go with the flow kind of man. Much much different than your ex. I truly wish you both all of the best❤
For consideration: If you move to where Jordy lives, and he goes on tour, all your other support and familiarity is not there. Wouldn't that feel even more difficult, my especially in the beginning?
Hope you don't mind me, thinking out loud.
Maybe she would go with him on tour?
I've never had a girlfriend before when I went to high school in 2006.
Congrats on your engagement Michel!! 🎉 I've been doing long distance for nearly a year now and we just got engaged in May, getting married next June. 6 hours apart. The toughest part in the beginning is when you are both taking the plunge with no guarantee on the other persons part and slowly getting into more and more trust and commitment as you see how much they are willing to put into knowing you, and realizing how much you do want them in your life no matter the cost. Both definitely have to be in all the way for it to work. Its funny because both of us were in years long relationships prior, but it was not the right person even though we held on longer than we should have. God was so good in writing this love story for us that we both feel unconditionally loved and wanted and cherished ❤
I hesitate to comment on other people’s bodies - you have shared about your nose repair… Your nose looks SO incredible - just adorable! Right now!!! I hope you like it now and in a year from now when it is completely healed ❤
Hi Michel good morning happy Tuesday morning and happy 4th of July Independence day and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter
Omg the cleaning thing 😂😂😂 my bf and I are medium distance and I always go to his place so he never sees what an absolute disaster my space is 😅😅😅
I did long distance with my boyfriend when I went abroad to Japan for a year and a half work assignment. It was difficult, especially because of the time difference. But i think the most helpful thing is that our long distance had an end date and I stuck to the end date even when I could have extended my time. I knew how important it was to him that I came home when I said I would. Now we've been reunited for about 3 months and life is good 💕
Five years of going out before getting married, only during 10 months in total did we live in the same city, for the rest of the time we were if different countries... and in the time before mobiles. I think it makes everything more romantic. The mixed tapes and the letters! xm
Hi Michel!!
Welcome back to RUclips!!! We missed you❤❤
Welcome back Michel! You were missed ❤
🥰🥹🤍I missed you guys!!
I love how Jordy looks after you from afar it’s so sweet. You are both being so intentional about this relationship from what we get to see and I’m so pleased for you both ❤ hope you had an amazing break together
Just started the video but wanted to say, "Yay! I missed you!" 🩷 Also your nose looks INCREDIBLE, Michel!! I'm so happy for you!!
Heheh thank you friend!! I missed you guys!! 🫶🏼🤍🤍🥰
Hi Michel! I know we only see bits of you two, but I love the way you both are mindful and aware of each other's needs. I wish you two the best always! Take care
I agree the biggest positive for me was being alone helped me figure out me, what I needed and wanted, what I loved to do, and I stopped being so dependent on my partner. And my current relationship is so healthy now.
Yaay welcome back! I've enjoyed watching your old videos the past week, but happy to have present-day Michel back. Hope you've enjoyed your well-deserved vacation! :)
Hahah awe Christina, this is very sweet!!! I missed you guys!!🤍🥰🥹
Congratulations!
I feel like some of our story is the same-post divorce, new relationship of about the same timeframe! I’ve been very fortunate to not have a long distance relationship this time around up to this point in my current relationship (although my boyfriend will be gone for work half the month beginning next month), BUT!, I wanted to chime in on the friendship and communication part! It is an entirely new world when you have those things, isn’t it?! ❤ It feels so incredibly wholesome and healthy!
My experience so far is I lived about3 min drive away from my gf and now she lives 3h away and she’s at uni while I save up for uni I’ve got 128 days To go but I haven’t seen her in over 30 because I work 6 days a week and 1 day a week is my night/ spending money job. I miss her more than anything so much so that it hurts and all I want to do is quit and go there but I need the money before to complete my goal of 5 years. She can hardly come here because she works as well but also has to pay rent and the fear of not knowing when we are going to see eachother or what it’s going to be like when we are together like if the busyness makes us both have problems with communication and by the time I finally finally get there and move up and start uni our feelings have faded. Idk I’m not asking
For help but I just want to say unless u can see you’re whole life including the other and u go to long distance either welcome the harsh challenges or don’t do it my gf and I have been together for almost a year and a half and this has put us through multiple moments of long conversations and easy resolutions realising that fuck it we’re almost a third deep and we love eachother so much its painful if it hurts this much there’s no question, it’s worth it and we have to push but I promise u it’s harder than u think
Move to Denver!!!!! It’s the best city here and Colorado is a 10/10 I will never live anywhere with less than 300 days of sun again - I moved to CO in 2020
Please quiet with the Debbie downer.
Great video content, but the transition with the blur for almost 10 seconds on each topic was painful. I had to tilt the screen away as it made my eyes pull so badly. Maybe it's because I wear glasses? Just thought I'd mention it because the blur was not necessary. I know us follower just love you, but this editing truly stained my eyes. Hoping it's not going to be a new thing 🤞 Have followed you for years and love all that you share ❤
Great analogy and perspective about doing something you don’t like but know will help you in the long run like going to the gym. Looks like you and Jordy are navigating this pretty well.
🥹🫶🏼🥰🤍Thank you Vicky!!
Michel Whenever you posts a vlog it's makes my day instantly and my sister is so so excited to watch this vlog you are my inspiration and I wish you have a wonderful day💗💫🙂
I love that y’all both watch!! That is so sweet and makes me really happy!!🤍🥹🫶🏼
Welcome back, Michel😊 I hope the you and Jordy had a wonderful time together during your time in CA🤩🎶 I think you missed some of the terrible heat in Texas which was lucky timing!!! This was a great video - very insightful. Have a great 4th of July🇺🇸🎇🎆🎵
Hahaha I am so glad I missed that heat friend!! 🤣🤣 Thank you friend, it was very fun!! 🤍🤍
i’ve never thought abt pros for ldr!! i love that thought
My husband and I were kinda long distance for the first two years of our relationship. He lived two hours drive away. We've been together 13 years now. ❤️
Awee so sweet!! 🫶🏼🤍🥰
My first long distance relationship didnt work, I was young (19) and it lasted 7 years but I was young and very needy. Felt that I didnt really have a life apart from when I was with him! So that was my fault really and I didnt know any different. He had lots of friends and hobbies so he could cope with the long distance. I'm 37 now, so I've established a social life, hobbies and I LOVE my own space, love my quiet time. Years ago I felt that I needed to do everything with my partner- not a healthy mindset I suppose, and he didnt understand that. I think it also depends on what your parents are like as a couple. My parents did everything together, whereas his parents seemed to live seperate lives and ultimately his parents divorced. I remember being shocked that his mum did the food shop by herself 😂 whereas my parents loved doing the food shop together.
Oo that is a good perspective to think about when dating!! Thanks for sharing friend 🥰🫶🏼🤍
Yay! You’re back!!! So glad to have you back 🤗🤗I hope you enjoyed your vacation!
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AND YOU JUST GOT ENGAGED AHHH congrats 💜
How did you find out?
Oopsie! Typo re real future intro. Shows " kowing". Know you are a perfectionist as I am, so you won't get upset. Love your honesty!
Would u move to a new place new state?
WOW! Your nose is perfection!!! Glad you're spending time with sweet Jordy!
Yes long distance relationship. I lived in Scotland my ( hubby then boyfriend in Europe )
I was very ill when i met him ,so had to rush back home for treatment.
He asked me to marry after 6 months him , we been happily married 38 years ❤❤
Lovely to see you Michel.
I enjoyed your video and you made alot of valid points. But, I must say that long distance relationship didn't work for me. While I trusted him completely, I ultimately found out he had been cheating the whole 5 months. It was heartbreaking as I had trusted him 100%. I won't do it again! But, I truly see something different with you and Jordy. Jordy seems like a truly genuine guy. I still wouldn't recommend long distance for you two very much longer. It wears on you. I wish you both the very best in your journey together.
Would love a video on long distance date ideas! I’ve found myself in my first long distance relationship and I love the little things you and jordy do to show you still care from afar. Like when he sends you food, coffee dates, etc. I need inspo!
Ooo this is a great idea!!! Thank you friend!! 🤍🤍
Love this idea!!!!! I'm currently dating a guy 15 hours away. We met through a Virtual Conference last November for our genetic issue.
No input on long distance dating... I've been married 42 years. But, glad you're back and you look wonderful!
My husband and I were long distance for 2 years. He was from Peru and me from the US. It was very difficult to be apart, but also hard when he came to the US just in a different way. I do agree with you about easier to conceal that is why we started telling each other EVERYTHING and I mean everything because without that our relationships wouldn’t survive. That has continued into our marriage and we have been married 6 years.
It's truly amazing how Jordy was sent to you. He seems to balance you so well and makes you so happy. And you were able to regain your independence and resilience, whilst building a new relationship after everything you went through. I can't imagine how hard it is at times to be so far from a loved one, but it's meant you could grow as individuals and together as a couple 🤍
🥹🥹it is truly a gift!! 🤍
These vlogs always put a smile on my face.
Yay!!🥰🫶🏼
Entering a Long distance relationship in two weeks. Leaving Switzerland for the US to pursue a master degree. Been living with her since a year, having hugs everyday. Will be very difficult to switch and I am really afraid of the future... And I am afraid things will never be the same after the distance once I'm back
My friend is in the U.K. and her boyfriend lives in the U.S. and they make the best of FaceTime and scheduling calls together every day. Physical visits they try and get together a number of times throughout the year. They work so well together and they are open and honest and they have to trust each other with the distance. So far so good for them and eventually I see my friend moving across the pond to be with him. His family are amazing and so welcoming to her which is great to see. Hats off to all of you that do manage long distance relationships, I hope you all keep happy and get you ever after moments ❤
have you ever thought of getting Jordy to like plan a girls day/friend's day between you and your audience? like just throw it out there and follow it 100% :P
Currently going thru LDR between Japan-Brazil. Before we parted we spend one full month together in Brazil so it is hard to adjust the transition of not being able to be together all the time.
I sometimes feel jealous of not being able to talk to him while he is going out and we end up arguing 😢
Being married at 20, my ex and I had to be 6 months apart after 1 month of marrige. I had to go back to my country to apply for a visa (green card). I’m european.
I think for me the worst part of long distance is the lack of physical touch and the best part is when we’re together I don’t mind the mundane days where we only watch tv because I can’t get those days when we’re apart
One thing that I found as a negative. When I see flaws and red flags, I left the relationship, because I had no desire to invest money or time off further into a relationship.
Me and my husband were long distant for 6 months and then I couldn’t do it anymore so I moved to his country but that was even harder. (I moved from The Netherlands to Israel) Very different country, culture and language.
I’m glad you don’t have to deal with all of those things and you are with someone inside of your own country, just different states. Still very hard though.. so I hope you guys will get be together soon, I’m guessing that you will move to oceanside to be with Jord ❤
Michel, I have no question in my mind that you have got a match made in heaven with your sweetheart. I bet if you were to make a list of all the things you want in your next man Jordy would meet the criteria. All your boxes would be checked. He absolutely is a gem.
Yay!!!
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❤ great video
Dont you feel like when you finally meet youre kind of glued together?? I have it with my bf and its hard not to cuddle and kiss all the time
Watching this video after seeing your engagement announcement is so dang precious! Congratulations to you and Jordy!!
This is very helpful as my boyfriend of 3 years & I are going to start long-distance in autumn after a year of living together 💔 I am really scared but you’re giving me hope that it’ll be fine :)
I think you have experienced the trust aspect bc it takes SO MUCH to keep it going and to continue in a relationship with that person! You're doing it now and so is he! 😊
Your top!! Love the colors
🥰🫶🏼thank you friend!!
@@MichelJansehi love the top, may I ask where it’s from?
Michel since your nose suffered due to a staph infection(the first infection), does insurance cover the plastic surgery in part for reconstruction?
I loved this video so much bc I do be in the long distance club too + also so glad you are back but hope your break was so sweet and restful and was beneficial to your health!! :))
Maybe, this time is training or preparation for being a musician’s wife❤
Nice to see you still growing and learning Michel! Thanks for bringing us along with you! ❤️❤️🐕❤️
Happy 4th of July long weekend!
Thank you for being a part of this community friend🥰🥰
@@MichelJanse You are very welcome! ❤️
He is sweet and so are you. Two special people found each other.
My husband and I were “long distance” (an hour apart) for the first 5 months while we were dating. We got to see each other one day every weekend, two if we were lucky. I would agree it was a highlight reel because it wasn’t normal every day life and we had to make the most of our time together. I totally agree that having that space apart allowed both of us to process our relationship. We were able to pray and seek God for clarity if marriage is what He wanted for us. And when we became more serious about moving toward marriage, we decided together that I was gonna be the one to make the move to be in the same city as him. I didn’t feel like I made a big sacrifice to move away from my parents and the church I grew up in because as bad as it might sound, I didn’t feel like there was anything keeping me there. I wasn’t able to make any deep connections in my hometown after moving home from college, and I already wanted to move to where he lived. I wanted to be a part of his church and community. Those 2 months before we got married that we were able to spend together doing real life was one of the best things we did for our relationship. And now we’ll be celebrating 2 years of marriage next month. ❤️
Relationship first, then friends, etc.
Do you still have an agent for film roles?
Love my alone time, but no thank you
I was in a long distance relationship once before and it was quite challenging. It brought up some real important factors for me as well. But it made me realize he was not the one the Lord has for me and that I needed to really lean on the Lord, be patient and wait on Him to bring it into fruition. I thank the Lord He rescued me from it. So glad you made this important vlog. It'll help so many in similar circumstances. I truly can relate to you on so many levels so thank you, Michel.
The good Lord bless you. ❤
1 CORINTHIANS 13:7-8 ~
7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends.
Can be so difficult! Thank you for sharing your story. There’s always hope, truly! Thank you friend for being here and supportive!
@@MichelJanse Dear Friend Michel, you're absolutely right; there's always hope. And your awesome vlogs and openness are a major Godsend. I can't thank you enough. {BIG HUG} ❤️
Missed you!
Hey Michel! I just wanted to say that welcome back I am so obsessed with your videos Thank you for showing up for me every day Ilysm and I hope you're having a beautiful day 💕
Thank you friend!! 🫶🏼
@@MichelJanse you’re welcome beautiful!! ❤️
Hey Michel! I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me and I am so obsessed with your content! Thank you for always being such a light and showing up for us with every upload! Ilysm and I hope you’re having an amazing day 💕💕
🥹🥹Thank you friend!!🫶🏼🤍
With the acts of service, I feel like you and Jordy really excell in (from what I've seen of your relationship) it always makes me happy all the times you've mentioned Jordy sending you something and vice versa! And it's all the more meaningful because of the extra effort of sending them something.
Thanks for this video with long distance pros and cons. I’m someone who loves my independence but has also never been in a relationship so I don’t know what that love is. I have always wanted to be in a relationship but haven’t made that connection or had anything last more than a few months.
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I'm in the middle of this with my partner at the moment, and this is one of the most well-articulated videos I've seen on long distance! It's hard, but it certainly can make a relationship stronger.
Yay I am so glad!! 🤍🫶🏼
My fiancé and I are in an international long distance relationship, so we only see each other every few months. We’ve been doing it for over two years, we’re waiting on immigration. The end is near, we just had an approval and are waiting for travel authorization! God is good 💕
Thank you for this video and for sharing your thoughts (and Jordy’s & crowdsourced ones). I found myself with a huge smile when you shared that it was your first time experiencing the friendship part of a relationship due to having good communication with your partner! 😊
Love this and can totally relate..only 60 miles apart but still have to plan and everything you said..both working have our own homes…on bad days 60 miles seems like 1000 miles..and being coeliac is a pain too trying to plan meals out in the area he lives..but it is all so totally worth it when your heart jumps when you see them ❤ xxx
Why not date others?..still see each other when you can, but by taking the labels off, you're both just out building a life you love! When you meet others who love what you do, date them! By dating others, the cream will rise to the top!
Michel, you are so honest, productive and kind! I enjoy watching your videos because you’re so truthful with your subscribers (including me) 🥹 I aspire to be like you one day 🩵You’re so loved by me and every single one of your subscribers 🦋
Awe Maria 🥹🥹 you’re so kind friend thank you!! 🤍🤍
No relationship works from Day 1. We all blame distance, but the truth is even many live-in relationships fail. Relationships need work. Communication. Sharing feelings and actively listening. To practice this, I sometimes play questions games like “Lovify” with my boyfriend. It has helped me understand my partner much better. he enjoys it. Currently we are working on our career & One day, we gonna live together our dream life 💗💗
I've never been in a long distance relationship but this was still really interesting to watch and listen to. You've got so many intelligent thoughts on communicating and trusting others, especially about being intentional when it comes to spending time with others and intentionally putting time and effort into building relationships 🤍
Awe, thank you Ele!! 🤍🫶🏼