I can relate to Heather, as I desired marriage and family early in life. While waiting, I was a college graduate working as a nurse. While continuing to wait and pray, I decided to move cross country, continue school and WAIT..... I started traveling around the world in my 30's, bought a house, worked as a nurse on a cruise ship. I have had many tear filled years hoping that a marriage companion would come my way. However, I made a decision to live my best life that God orchestrated for me. The man of my dreams and I married when I was 45, and had a baby one day shy of my 47th birthday. So remember some miracles just take time!
I would be so ticked off I would not even want to meet a guy by then. I do not want a pregnancy where doctors poke at me constantly and call it a geriatrics pregnancy and constantly try to get me to kill the baby to because of my age and I want more then one kid that any love I would have for that man would turn to resentment that he could not have net me when I was young enough to have children. You story give me zero hope and making me feel hopeless.
@@nicoleackerman205 ahahahah come on sister,cheer up a bit,Abraham had one son at late age,saint John the baptist was a only child of st.Ana and st.Joachim...even our lord was only child so it is not that bad
My advice to Catholic singles is: 1) Work on becoming the best possible person you can be, physically, emotionally and spiritually. 2) Forgive people who have hurt you. Holding on to bitterness and anger from past injustices will hurt future relationships. 3) Accept that maybe God's plan for you is to be single. It's better to be alone than with the wrong person.
Yes! I think your last point is particularly true… I would rather be single and in a good relationship with our Lord than in a bad relationship with a man out of loneliness. Yes singleness can hurt at times, especially when comparing… my advice - ditch the social media if you are struggling! At least on my feed, I swear every post is about an engagement, a wedding, or a pregnancy. If you are not in a place to rejoice for your friend’s happiness in these areas, perhaps you need a break from the comparison.
No it not all I want is to die because I honestly can't live with the fact that I will never have children because I live in a trashiest town that is not a city where everybody just wants hook up after hook or a supermodel I am no good. I am sad all the time and I feel pathetic and I hate society because of it and I cannot live 30 plus years like this. Ask God to kill me because it is a miserable existent to want something and to know there is absolutely nothing you can do to get it. I do not want to get old because I will be alone and at the mercy of the corrupt State and I definitely do not want that. These videos do not help I thought it would say how to meet a decent guy but everyone in these just talks in riddles or say things that are not and options and I have no idea how they can be an option for anyone. Now I will not be killing myself I do not want to go to hell but if God does it I don't see the problem. I wish someone would have told me when I was a child that I could not have kill they I would never have this desire for them and I would actually be happy but it is to late now. If you have children do not tell them they can be whatever they want to be because that is lie you are just setting them up for pain in their adult life.
I totally identify with this video's topic. I'm a 26 year old man still waiting for the catholic woman of my life. No one in the horizon yet, but I trust God that if marriage is right for me, then eventually I'll meet someone.
Being a single woman called to marriage in a country with only 15,000 other Catholics is tough but for the past six months I've felt very calm and comfortable with waiting for my husband. The peace that God has put into my heart is incredible, I'm so thankful for it; being anxious over meeting my spouse was emotionally draining. I'm praying for all you fellow singles waiting for the one!
Amen. And you never know, your spouse could be out of the country. He could be travelling to your country or you to his. He could be converting to Catholicism or on his journey back to practicing the Faith. Just pray for your future spouse. You never know what God is pruning from him right now. Don't loose hope! We got this
To the singles...please really discern who you want to marry. Yes I did marry a Catholic man BUT he is not a practicing Catholic. He won’t pray with me or attend mass. It’s the same as being married to a non Catholic. It’s difficult and marriage is hard enough to begin with.
That is truly GREAT advice❣️ I think longing to be married makes so many of us ( women especially) desperate for a companion that we lose sight of the fact that being married to the wrong one can be more frustrating than being single and exploring the joys of being betrothed to Christ the Bridegroom of our soul. Mary help of Christians PRAY for us🙏🌹
Too many people like that.... there are also ppl who attend mass but they do it because it's a habit, and not of love and necessity for the Lord....it's really hard to find someone like that.
I feel for you...my mother is in your position and I watched her suffer as a child. My parents are separated now as my father fell to sexual sin, and if my parent's marriage taught me anything it would be to choose a partner who is on the same page spiritually and has the same goals for holiness. It is the most important thing and people so often miss the mark.
@@MagdalenaIsaiah431 I was engaged to a catholic man and he told me before marriage he wanted to become protestant and I was protestant what i hadn't yet told him was God was working in my heart to become Catholic. I couldn't marry him. So I didn't because God is not a god of confusion so that's confusion. Switching faiths before marriage so what basis would our marriage be on and if he hated mass and I loved mass but he preferred going to protestant churches only it means our house would be divided and the bible states the house divided cannot stand. So it wouldn't work. I thank God for the discernment.
I see my 23 yo son going through this now. He is a Catholic and his faith means a lot to him. It is difficult to find other young Christians in this very secular world. I have entrusted him to Mother Mary to help with this.
I recently turned 28....I am struggling in the exact same way....I really hope he soon finds a good Catholic woman to share a life of love and virtue with.....🙂🙏
@@avb20540 ah yes I’m a young Catholic woman and I also struggle with finding someone I am attracted to as well. Other girls seem to easily find someone they like and get in an out of relationships but I’ve only ever liked one person and it didn’t work out.
I'm a 24 year old Catholic woman, went to an all girls school and have not even met a Catholic man during my studies at uni nor now in my work life, it is tough. At church I do not see people my age, a lot of youth have just disappeared since high school
Met my husband on a blind date that neither of us wanted to go on. Reluctantly we both went and immediately we knew we made the best decision. Five years later, we are expecting a baby boy and are about to celebrate our first year of marriage.
I was single for 9 years until I started dating my fiancé at 31. The best thing I did in that season was pray for my husband. Now knowing him he needed my prayer and I needed his prayer. Love that you made this video, Heather! 💜🙏🏻
As a divorced catholic I can promise you marrying the wrong person just because you want to be married and live 'happily ever after" is not only painful during a marriage that is just wrong wrong wrong on so many fronts and then afterwards knowing that you cannot just take up with someone else (unless you go through the annulment process) carries its own challenges. Looking back...Oh what I wish I could tell 20 something year old me! While you are waiting for the right mate (if that is God's plan for you) and you get frustrated, take some time to look at posts from divorced Catholics undergoing annulment procedures. There is so much pain in some of their journeys. How I wish some of that would have been part of marriage prep. It is my own fault that I went off and did my own thing instead of seeking God. He is so merciful that he saved me from such a bad decision in my life. Oh please wait and pray so you avoid this for yourselves!
I can relate to your pain. Though I've created even more of a mess for myself. I'm separated from my husband and plan to get an annulment since we have grounds for it due to my foolishness. Loneliness and isolation has already been my cross but this just adds to it and I'm expecting a child with another guy no longer in my life who I sought comfort in. I'm just broken and sad with mostly myself to blame. No way ready to be a single mother, so I hope a good Catholic couple will want to adopt my child, God-willing.
I deleted all online dating anything including my FB account. Focusing on me. I’m letting go & letting God take control. That’s it. Trusting His plan 🙏🏼 God is good 🙏🏼 Amen 🙏🏼
I met ny husband of 30 years when I was 29 too, Heather. I thought there was nobody out there for me. All my friends were married and starting families. It turned out God had somebody hand picked for me and it happened in God's time, not mine. I am so glad that I didn't give up and just marry anyone. It is so worth the wait! 🙏❤
I'm 32. I'm very close to full blown despair. I don't think there are any men who find me attractive whom I also find attractive, and my tastes are pretty broad.
I'm praying for my future husband. I will patiently wait until he is ready. GOD will find a way for our paths to cross one day in His most perfect time. Amen ✝️
The dude you described who wanted to marry you, sounded like me 1 year ago before I found my Catholic faith. Since coming to the Church I first had to work on my purity and making the decision to not "come together" with anyone else until marriage. I also had to quit smoking pot, that drug seems benign but what it really does is cloud the mind and put me in a state that makes me much more susceptible to temptations and sin. I'm so thankful that Jesus and our Blessed Mother helped pull me away from impurity and drugs🙏🕊️💪 I've never been happier and I don't care about being single either. God has a plan for me.
Celebrating 15 years of marriage this fall. For me, I put the search in God's hands and consecrated myself to God to live in purity until I got married. During this time, I really got to know what I wanted in my husband. I met him online and he was the only man I met that agreed with me about purity until marriage. I was 39 when we married. Our cornerstone is being selfless with each other and trying to outserve one another, along with being swift to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger. Marriage is the best place to become more like Jesus - what other earthly relationship gives you the chance to love and forgive the way He did? Anyone can plan a fabulous wedding, but you should invest in planning for a lifelong marriage. Also, dont rush to get married until you're completely ready and you know what you want and not willing to compromise.
If you’re single and losing hope, don’t be too upset! Remember that in 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, Jesus says: “I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say it is well for them to remain single as I do.” Your #1 goal should be to dedicate yourself to Catholicism, and if marriage comes with that, that’s wonderful! And if it doesn’t, you’ve dedicated yourself to Catholicism, which is all you needed to do! I wish all of you the best in your relationships, keep God on your mind and stay safe!
I’m 24 years old and I have been praying for a devout practicing Catholic husband since I was 16 I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom and homeschool mom Heather I love your videos I feel so much better after watching them
Divine timing ❤ I'm single. This is a very tender topic for me. I appreciate your suggestion to get on my knees and pray for the man God has intended for me. Thank you, I'm on it!❤
I'm 66, and I used CM less than ten yrs. ago, didn't find anyone in 700 profiles I would date let alone marry, I never felt called to marriage, your best way to meet a Catholic spouse is go to a Catholic college or university,, your prime dating yrs. are 18-30, after that it's rough going, I was never encouraged to marry and I didn't want children, so I knew early on marriage wouldn't happen for me --it's been lonely many times, but I know a bad or failed marriage would be much worse, when I was in college 74-80 I rarely saw students dating, and no one talked about marriage, this was the 70s, lots of girls I grew up with never married or wound up divorced, our culture is not good at promoting marriage and family life, and in my time the Catholic church gave no help in this area, only now is that changing- not too many Catholic churches do much for singles, and this needs to change, people marry what they can get and this is one huge reason why so many Catholics marry a non-Catholic, they marry because they fear they will miss out
Thank you for this video. I am 40 and I am patiently waiting for my husband. I pray everyday that the Lord will send me a wonderful, Catholic man. Thanks again for your words of hope. 🙏🏻💗
Thank you so, so much for being a light to single women like myself. These desires for our vocation are very real, and sometimes painful to bear in the waiting. I appreciate your honesty and encouragement so much! Please be praying for me, that my heart will rest in the love of Christ & allow Him to be enough for me as I fulfill the little callings before me in my daily life.
Omg. Yes❣️ i took time off from dating to re-evaluate my life and purpose. I’m getting baptized into the Catholic faith this Easter- I’m also moving to Las Vegas for a career offer, and I’m really looking forward to a new relationship with a Catholic man 🙌🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
I stumbled upon your channel looking for the 54 day novena to help me though a very painful breakup. I'm on day 30ish lol but I wanted to look at your other videos and found this one. Instantly I found a sense of comfort when you said you were 29 when you met your husband. I always feel like I'm losing time. I'm learning to trust gods timing again. Thank you so much.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤️❤️❤️ I needed this video. I’m 31 years old, still single. I struggled with the thought of does God want me in the religious life or married life? Through prayer His vocation for me is marriage. It’s hard growing up in a big Catholic family where all your cousins are getting married ( unfortunately a lot of them have gotten divorced) and staying single through the midst of the marriages. I’m working on surrendering myself to God and working not worrying so much. I don’t know if I’m there yet... it’s only the beginning of 2021, it could happen later this year. Anything is possible with God. Thanks again, Heather for this video!
Heather, last Saturday, Fr Chris Alar at the National Shrine of Divine Mercy in Stockbridge featured your Home Altar on their RUclips Channel. He encouraged everyone to set up a Home Altar. Glory to God❣️
Heather, this is such a timely video! I was just thinking earlier today that my vocation must be that of a permanent single. Thank you for the advice and encouragement during our waiting time! I'm going on 49 years old and yet to meet my spouse. Often times it's easy to loose hope when you have been waiting for nearly half a century to meet the man God intends for me to marry. You have given me hope to keep trying! Thank you!
I'm 30 and single. I have given up hope almost entirely because I suspect that Catholic men think I'm too old now, but I think I can still live a happy life anyway. I get a lot of consolation from a lot of other areas of my life, which helps me a lot.
I do not how things are where you live but most of my friends of the Catholic church get married after 30 y.o. I think you should not loose your hope but really abandon your will of getting married to God and keep enjoying life as you are already doing.
@@sarasampaio9053 Well, now I'm nearly 32 and still single. It sucks so much. I'm in Australia. There aren't that many serious Catholics here. I'm struggling very much to see a happy future.
@@thatsfunny2051 I'm 31 single male who loves the Traditional Latin Mass. There are no good, decent, pure, virgin, modest girls anywhere i'm afraid. It feels like I was born in the wrong century.
In May 2019 I met my wonderful husband on Catholic Match!! I had felt the need to give it a try. I had only had my account for 2 DAYS before he first messaged me! He had been on there for a year and a half. We got married July 18th, 2020! We are a young married couple😊
How wonderful! Encouraging to see a success story lol I just temporarily deactivated my account, 8 months and nothing special...I plan on giving it another try after a break :) God bless you and your new marriage!
Wow same I was on it for about a year so I canceled my subscription. I’m so glad to hear stories like yours, maybe I’ll consider reactivating again sometime in the near future if nothing happens the old fashioned way of dating. Thank you for your testimony may God bless you both.
Great video, Heather!!! Thanks for giving singles such great advice. I watched the video with my 16.5 year old daughter who, although still young, really appreciated your video. She loved it! She prays for her future husband and says she feels the same as you did-ready to get married and have a family after high school. I would prefer she focus on her relationship with God for the moment and her schooling. My prayers are with all the singles. Hang in there. Blessings to all!
I've been through that... I decided to re-focus all that desperation energy on improving my relationship with God and prayer life...that takes away a lot of the emotional burden
It’s very hard to accept this Cross. I’m getting up there as a woman, and also trying to accept both the will of God, the decisions I’ve made in my life, and the factors that were/are out of my control. I am generally getting better at accepting this Cross... every time I feel a searing pain through my heart, I offer it up to Jesus through Our Lady for the salvation of souls. Sometimes I have to be intentional about doing this multiple times in a short span, until the pain lessens. God is good .. we may never get to be a mom or dad, but God does wonderful things with our offerings, and I’m sure that one day we will find out the fruit that our tears have borne when united to the sufferings of Christ. God bless you.
This is completely relatable to me I feel because I went through a very rough patch in my teens which was against my will and now I want to wait for the Lords will Heather... Please pray for me
The problem is sometimes what we want comes from disordered desires due to our past issues. Our desires are not always from God or are in line with God's will. Just because we desire something really bad it doesn't mean it is what is best for us. Detachment and openess is what saints always practice.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm 24 and have never even been on a date (but that's ok!). One day it clicked for me that if I have a high standard for what I look for in a guy, shouldn't I have to meet his standards too? Definitely made me realize I was probably not ready yet. It feels like there's no good guys out there but I have to believe there are!
I'm in the same situation as you. My college friends used to make fun of me. I felt like I missed the memo on romance and that I would never learn the rules. But I think God has saved me from many traumatic situations and has made me wiser for it. God's time is the right time, but I believe I have to play my part as well to prepare to be of use to others and myself. Good luck on your journey
This gave me so much hope:):) Im 24 and Ive been single my whole life pretty much. Like Ive been on dates but never had any relationships. But your words about being ready really struck me Im not ready yet if Im honest and honestly thats kind of comforting. It takes the pressure off a little.
This was amazing! I can relate so much to it all. May the Lord keep blessing you. I'm 26 and waiting on God for a man that is truly devoted to God and the Catholic faith. I know that waiting on God will always be rewarding at the end! He knows what's best.
I’m 31 years old and met my husband when I was 19. I met him as a friend after praying for God to ONLY bring me someone who would truly love me & not hurt me. We dated for 3 years and got married at 21. My husband is catholic and we remarried in the church last year and I converted shortly after. God works in HIS time and trust me it’s so much better than you could ever imagine! We have 3 children and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I wouldn’t change anything I’ve been through because it brought me the greatest husband
Hi Heather! My 20’s have been very hard. I just knew I would have married and started a family by now. I’m now 29 and will be 30 this year. I have completely lost hope that my husband is out there, but I am starting to get discouraged. Thank you for this video.
Heather you are so right! It is the best time to be single right now. Trusting in the Lord during this season of singleness and in his timing has been such a beautiful thing. I love that you’re speaking out on this topic and I hope it blesses so many hearts out there waiting. Please pray for me as I experience the sacrament of reconciliation and my confirmation soon!
I know what you mean. Thank you for talking about this. I'm single and in the RCIA program. I've always had a conservative view that's why I'm still single. Taking things slow doesn't exist anymore. 🥰❤
Thank you so much for creating this video. Your advice is so practical and I'm definitely following it. It's like God's been talking to me while I keep praying to him to help me find a husband. I'm in the process of becoming Catholic and I'm hoping to meet someone Catholic once I've fully converted. Thanks again! ❤
So true about having the Holy Spirit in you before dating. There is something about having the fathers love with you that can't be compared to any love of a spouse or partner (of course) but its also a window into yourself that God provides you with...he shows you how to loved by how much he loves you/us..which in turn makes it easier to distinguish if someone else is worthy for US....and how we should also treat them :D
Just turned 30 last month and honestly my hope is fading. Been praying for my future husband since I was 9 years old! Thank you so much for this video Heather. It’s true, Jesus is really the One we desire and need to become close to first and foremost.
There is still hope for me!! I am also gonna be 30 this year and desire marriage and family very much!! Thanks for that hope! And I LOVE to so the love that you have towards your marriage and family.
Thank you Heather! I am not ready yet but I know my vocation is marriage. It is so hard sometimes to wait. I am doing a rather long dating fast because I know I am not ready for my vocation. I know that this was what God called me to for now. I am in graduate school and am trying to become a special education teacher. I have dated other guys before, but I know that this is is not the time for that. I know I have to really work hard to become a virtuous women first. I know I have to do this first and get a job before I can meet my future husband. It is hard to have hope sometimes since it feels like there aren't any devout virtuous catholic men out there, but I just have to remember that God will provide me a wonderful husband one day when I am ready. Mother Mary helps me a lot because she trusted in God's will for her life.
I've thought that too - I want it so badly it must not be the "tough" choice and He'll want something different for me. But I don't think so, just patience building ;) Thank you for sharing!! Best and blessings!! 💕💖
Thank you so much for posting this! I feel the same exact way as you felt about getting married young and having a family. I also had this burning desire to get married (after college) I’m 31 and still waiting for a Catholic man but I feel like it’s slim pickings. Ive been praying for my future husband. I feel like my patience is low. I’m working on my relationship with God.
where are you looking for men to marry? you've had your entire 20s to make a selection, the dating pool shrinks for women after 30 for 2 reasons - men your age now are either married or looking for younger women, also many men are no longer trying to date, I quit at 46 since I realized there was no point of going on, after 30 you face competition from both women your age and much younger, it isn't fair , but it's reality, review your search patterns and stop waiting -- you must be very active from now on, good luck
Thank you so much Heather for your beautiful stories and encouragement. I appreciate your special care for the single Catholics like myself excited to to live out our vocation of marriage. I too will remember to follow your example and help other single Catholics when I marry soon. I believe my future spouse is coming my way soon and I agree on spending this season as a single wisely. Thank you may God continue to bless you and your amazing family.
Thank you for making this video! I always wanted to have a husband and kids. I just wanted domestic bliss, but I'm 34 this year and still haven't met 'the one,' it's not as painful as it was a few years ago, but it's not easy. I've had long term relationships but they were not the one. But it's interesting that I've now been single for three years but I can't say it's been all bad because I found God! I'm now in RCIA. And I really do think God had to kind of take everything away from me to draw me to him, and I'm so so glad he did. But I would really like that husband now!
Your story sounds very similar to mine. Within the past year or two I have realised that I haven't been ready for marriage yet, and that there were some very important lessons I needed to learn first. Especially during 2021 I have developed a lot in a positive way. I can't tell whether I'm completely ready for marriage yet, but I can tell that I wasn't ready before. I hope you will find your husband soon :)
Thank you so much for posting this. I have also been through an experience where a man has told me “I’m his wife”, and he had similar struggles to the man you dated, I said no, respectfully 😇 We are good friends today.
I agree, I am a 52 yo Catholic single boy. When I was younger I never worried about marrying nor going out with a girl; to say the truth I believed in God but I did not realize how important is having truly present him in our lives. I would like to try one of those online dating websites but I think that is much better let God to take control because if I choose is quite probably I will be wrong. So patience. Thanks for sharing and advices.
Thank you Heather, I just recently got out of a relationship that I knew wasn’t fitting for me. I am excited for my future husband and am often praying about this!
Heather, Thank you so much ❤️ for making this video. I was engaged last year but now I'm single and 29 years old. I do feel the call to huddle right by Our Lord, deepening my faith and love in him so that I may be all that he needs me to be for everyone else, all for his Glory. I have really felt like maybe I don't even desire marriage, perhaps it's not my vocation however I do understand the importance of not closing my heart off to something that which God may be calling me to.. like marriage or living a consecrated life. (I should be living a consecrated life to Christ regardless of my state in life anyways.) Right now I am trying to live a virtuous life in really loving God in all things and all people. I desire a virtuous life, a holy life. I think it is important to not get lost in thinking I should be married or be in a relationship because I'm getting old, since this mentality is toxic, it can lead to big mistakes. Besides, tomorrow is not guaranteed so, Instead I strive to renew and fulfil my baptismal promises and live the Gospel with faith hope and charity, daily with God's grace. Your such a blessing Heather, your words of wisdom have really appealed to my spirit and I appreciate that incredibly much, I really needed to see this video. God is good and faithful, as you say 🤗 oh also Heather thanks to you, subconsciously I have a greater devotion to Saint Joseph and just basically the Holy Family, with Our Beautiful sweet Blessed Mother🥰
Thank you for this great video! I’m 19 and I’ve been in one relationship, it made me realize how not ready I am for a relationship. I have things to improve on, and I’m trying my hardest to enjoy the time I have now to myself and of course my relationship with Jesus!
In my 20s I was lost to the world. I found and saved by the grace of God in my late 40s. I pray that I will get married and the God will present me to my future husband. I have prayed the 54 novena and learning patience. As I’ve learned because we pray a novena doesn’t mean God will grant our desires in our hearts as he know what we need and when.. patience is a virtue I pray for
I hope this not too personal , I am 41 years old next month and all I ever wanted was to get married and gave children. Your story gives me hope. I am wondering did God bless you with children?
Thanks Heather, always beautiful to watch you and learn from you. I need your prayers pls dear in my discernment currently talking to someone two years after engagement break up. I can relate to your journey too, I had to give myself time and let Jesus heal my heart, now feel more confident to date than I was a year ago, still trying to work on myself by God’s Grace to grow more in virtue, it’s hard but makes me humble and learning patience with myself and others. Thank you so much for always putting out pleasant and insightful videos and for praying for us. I pray for you also and your family. You’ve helped me fall more in love with the catholic faith. Love you so much ❤️💕❤️
I wish I had known that not everyone "just meets someone". Nearly all my friends met their spouses by happenstance, so I thought I would too. No one I know had to "try" to find someone. I wish I had realised at an earlier stage that I would have to be more proactive about it.
Being 39 and single never married is very rough. I have days its super depressing. Someone I worked with asked me one day if I was married or girlfriend or if I had kids, when I said no her reply was you have nothing to look forward to go home to or live for. I looked at her and said nope, you are correct.
I really like the advice Paul gives in 1 Corinthians 7:17-19 "Each of you should go on living according to the Lord's gift to you, and as you were when God called you. ... what matters is keeping God’s commandments." The focus should be God whether we are married or single, and we should be happy just to follow God no matter our calling or state in life. The best and most important relationship is the one we have with God and everything else comes second. But if you cannot remain single, marry. If you cannot stay married, do not remarry. 1 Corinthians 10:31 "Whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God."
Heather, you can be my patron saint any dang day! I love the advice in this video and thank you for sharing your story - it’s been truly inspiring to me and has encouraged me not to settle!
I have such a deep desire to be a mother. I am engaged to my high school sweetheart and it’s been almost 9 years since we graduated. It has taken time for us to get to marriage and he is not perfect as neither am I. But we treat each other good and love each other a lot. We have a lot of the same values and belief’s. When I was in 6th grade at a slumber party, I was told I was going to be a good mom when I was folding all the blankets for everyone. But I feel like the devil has made me afraid to be a mom, that I am going to fail and not be good enough. I really look up to your advice and love your videos Heather. If you can keep me in your prayers, I’d appreciate it! You’re in my prayers too!
I really wish I knew what I was being called to, one way or another. If it was single life, I could start living my life in a way to prepare for that and be as successful as I should be in the endeavor. If it's marriage, then i could worry less about it and trust more in the timing, rather than spending my time wondering if it might be single life I'm called to.
So happy I found this video! I’m 25 and I’ve been single for so long and I feel like I’m ready to love someone else... But I trust God and I know when he provides, it will be better than anything I could wish for myself.
Oh my goodness😃 Thank you so much for putting out this video Heather😭 I’ve been praying for my 24 year old daughter who is feeling like you did before you found your love. She’s very impatient. Please pray for her. Her name is (Rebekkah) I’m praying for her future spouse and for my son’s future wife too. Thank you for your prayers for both of them. May the Lord continue to bless you & yours always❣️🙏🏼🕊✝️
Thank you for your advice! I am still not sure what my vocation is and I'm also nearing my thirties, but I agree wholeheartedly about growing in virtue and being of service to others as Christ has shown us. I was slightly scared to pray for my 'future' husband because I wasn't sure he existed, but I think I've come to the decision that I do want to marry whether it'd be a man or God as a consecrated person so I will definitely pray for that person and myself.
1:55 I need help 2:22 I’m looking for someone who wouldn’t cheat using me and my money 3:09 someone who wouldn’t use me for lustful things. 4:18 I have been waiting and find a good job 4:57 that I am happier with 5:16 li actually love 5:25 taking pictures
When i was single, my parents keep telling me, go church join youth activities, Thank God, we have a blessed life, we don't have a very good financial, we are working hard and wonderful together
14:18 someone who is willing to help and think of her partner. Than 14:51 selfish self centered Person 15:44 ❤ I wanted to get married to someone who is supportive and etc 16:30
1) Be good at what you do. Strive after being a virtuous person. Become like the person you want to marry someday. 2) use your time wisely. Use this time, to serve others. 3) pray for healing on your end. Take some time off to heal yourself emotionally, spiritually, & mentally. The best way to heal is to ask God to heal you. 4) the best thing you can do as a single person is to cling onto God and pray for your future spouse. Marriage is a lot of dying to yourself. A lot of compromise and sacrifice. “When you give your life away (in service of others), you will feel the most fulfilled.” “God put in your heart your vocation; there should be a draw to your vocation.”
I can relate to Heather, as I desired marriage and family early in life. While waiting, I was a college graduate working as a nurse. While continuing to wait and pray, I decided to move cross country, continue school and WAIT..... I started traveling around the world in my 30's, bought a house, worked as a nurse on a cruise ship.
I have had many tear filled years hoping that a marriage companion would come my way. However, I made a decision to live my best life that God orchestrated for me. The man of my dreams and I married when I was 45, and had a baby one day shy of my 47th birthday. So remember some miracles just take time!
You gave me hope that at 43 I can still find someone. Thank you!
If that’s not a miracle, I don’t know what is.
If I have to wait 20 plus years I don’t think I can make it
I would be so ticked off I would not even want to meet a guy by then. I do not want a pregnancy where doctors poke at me constantly and call it a geriatrics pregnancy and constantly try to get me to kill the baby to because of my age and I want more then one kid that any love I would have for that man would turn to resentment that he could not have net me when I was young enough to have children. You story give me zero hope and making me feel hopeless.
@@nicoleackerman205 ahahahah come on sister,cheer up a bit,Abraham had one son at late age,saint John the baptist was a only child of st.Ana and st.Joachim...even our lord was only child so it is not that bad
My advice to Catholic singles is:
1) Work on becoming the best possible person you can be, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
2) Forgive people who have hurt you. Holding on to bitterness and anger from past injustices will hurt future relationships.
3) Accept that maybe God's plan for you is to be single. It's better to be alone than with the wrong person.
I know a girl I like her name is Britney she 23 she catholic also and rest her family is catholic too
Yes! I think your last point is particularly true… I would rather be single and in a good relationship with our Lord than in a bad relationship with a man out of loneliness. Yes singleness can hurt at times, especially when comparing… my advice - ditch the social media if you are struggling! At least on my feed, I swear every post is about an engagement, a wedding, or a pregnancy. If you are not in a place to rejoice for your friend’s happiness in these areas, perhaps you need a break from the comparison.
You make my day !!
You are right !!
No it not all I want is to die because I honestly can't live with the fact that I will never have children because I live in a trashiest town that is not a city where everybody just wants hook up after hook or a supermodel I am no good. I am sad all the time and I feel pathetic and I hate society because of it and I cannot live 30 plus years like this. Ask God to kill me because it is a miserable existent to want something and to know there is absolutely nothing you can do to get it. I do not want to get old because I will be alone and at the mercy of the corrupt State and I definitely do not want that. These videos do not help I thought it would say how to meet a decent guy but everyone in these just talks in riddles or say things that are not and options and I have no idea how they can be an option for anyone. Now I will not be killing myself I do not want to go to hell but if God does it I don't see the problem. I wish someone would have told me when I was a child that I could not have kill they I would never have this desire for them and I would actually be happy but it is to late now. If you have children do not tell them they can be whatever they want to be because that is lie you are just setting them up for pain in their adult life.
So with number 3 what if you feel a stab of pain when you think about being single at 40-50-60 and not sure where to get answers?
I totally identify with this video's topic. I'm a 26 year old man still waiting for the catholic woman of my life. No one in the horizon yet, but I trust God that if marriage is right for me, then eventually I'll meet someone.
That's lovely! I'll pray for you
Being a Catholic man means you are outnumbered by Catholic women so you should have plenty of options
You still need to do your work to find her. A man’s job is to seek, not wait!
Being a single woman called to marriage in a country with only 15,000 other Catholics is tough but for the past six months I've felt very calm and comfortable with waiting for my husband. The peace that God has put into my heart is incredible, I'm so thankful for it; being anxious over meeting my spouse was emotionally draining. I'm praying for all you fellow singles waiting for the one!
Amen. And you never know, your spouse could be out of the country. He could be travelling to your country or you to his.
He could be converting to Catholicism or on his journey back to practicing the Faith.
Just pray for your future spouse. You never know what God is pruning from him right now.
Don't loose hope! We got this
To the singles...please really discern who you want to marry. Yes I did marry a Catholic man BUT he is not a practicing Catholic. He won’t pray with me or attend mass. It’s the same as being married to a non Catholic. It’s difficult and marriage is hard enough to begin with.
That is truly GREAT advice❣️
I think longing to be married makes so many of us ( women especially) desperate for a companion that we lose sight of the fact that being married to the wrong one can be more frustrating than being single and exploring the joys of being betrothed to Christ the Bridegroom of our soul.
Mary help of Christians PRAY for us🙏🌹
Too many people like that.... there are also ppl who attend mass but they do it because it's a habit, and not of love and necessity for the Lord....it's really hard to find someone like that.
Pray the surrender novena it will make a huge change
I feel for you...my mother is in your position and I watched her suffer as a child. My parents are separated now as my father fell to sexual sin, and if my parent's marriage taught me anything it would be to choose a partner who is on the same page spiritually and has the same goals for holiness. It is the most important thing and people so often miss the mark.
@@MagdalenaIsaiah431 I was engaged to a catholic man and he told me before marriage he wanted to become protestant and I was protestant what i hadn't yet told him was God was working in my heart to become Catholic. I couldn't marry him. So I didn't because God is not a god of confusion so that's confusion. Switching faiths before marriage so what basis would our marriage be on and if he hated mass and I loved mass but he preferred going to protestant churches only it means our house would be divided and the bible states the house divided cannot stand. So it wouldn't work.
I thank God for the discernment.
I see my 23 yo son going through this now. He is a Catholic and his faith means a lot to him. It is difficult to find other young Christians in this very secular world. I have entrusted him to Mother Mary to help with this.
I think your son will be okay. There are lots of young Catholic women -- he's outnumbered 😊 Best of luck to him!
I'm 29 and I might have the same experiences as your son. For me, it's really really hard to find a virtuous catholic woman that I am attracted to
I recently turned 28....I am struggling in the exact same way....I really hope he soon finds a good Catholic woman to share a life of love and virtue with.....🙂🙏
@@avb20540 ah yes I’m a young Catholic woman and I also struggle with finding someone I am attracted to as well. Other girls seem to easily find someone they like and get in an out of relationships but I’ve only ever liked one person and it didn’t work out.
I'm a 24 year old Catholic woman, went to an all girls school and have not even met a Catholic man during my studies at uni nor now in my work life, it is tough. At church I do not see people my age, a lot of youth have just disappeared since high school
Met my husband on a blind date that neither of us wanted to go on. Reluctantly we both went and immediately we knew we made the best decision. Five years later, we are expecting a baby boy and are about to celebrate our first year of marriage.
Congrats!
Congratulations
Congratulations and may the lord bless and keep you all
I was single for 9 years until I started dating my fiancé at 31. The best thing I did in that season was pray for my husband. Now knowing him he needed my prayer and I needed his prayer. Love that you made this video, Heather! 💜🙏🏻
AMEN
"He needed my prayer."
That is so sweet ❤
❤️
Beautiful
As a divorced catholic I can promise you marrying the wrong person just because you want to be married and live 'happily ever after" is not only painful during a marriage that is just wrong wrong wrong on so many fronts and then afterwards knowing that you cannot just take up with someone else (unless you go through the annulment process) carries its own challenges. Looking back...Oh what I wish I could tell 20 something year old me! While you are waiting for the right mate (if that is God's plan for you) and you get frustrated, take some time to look at posts from divorced Catholics undergoing annulment procedures. There is so much pain in some of their journeys. How I wish some of that would have been part of marriage prep. It is my own fault that I went off and did my own thing instead of seeking God. He is so merciful that he saved me from such a bad decision in my life. Oh please wait and pray so you avoid this for yourselves!
I can relate to your pain. Though I've created even more of a mess for myself. I'm separated from my husband and plan to get an annulment since we have grounds for it due to my foolishness. Loneliness and isolation has already been my cross but this just adds to it and I'm expecting a child with another guy no longer in my life who I sought comfort in. I'm just broken and sad with mostly myself to blame. No way ready to be a single mother, so I hope a good Catholic couple will want to adopt my child, God-willing.
@@AC-tu3kj praying for you and your child. That sounds like a heart wrenching experience.
Praying for you, my man. I'm a 26 year old single Catholic man and I struggle with understanding and vocation/career and thoughts of having a family.
45 and still waiting and praying. God Bless you! X
Hi sis, 44 and the same 😊
@@tratincica2211 nearly 42. I had no idea what a Godly relationship was when I was younger 😞
61!
48... it's hard and a blessing at the same time.
Be honest with me. How does it feel like to be 45 and still waiting?
I deleted all online dating anything including my FB account. Focusing on me. I’m letting go & letting God take control. That’s it. Trusting His plan 🙏🏼 God is good 🙏🏼 Amen 🙏🏼
I have always been single and it feels hopeless at times. Praying for patience and to know that God has a plan for me.
Me too :(
I met ny husband of 30 years when I was 29 too, Heather.
I thought there was nobody out there for me. All my friends were married and starting families.
It turned out God had somebody hand picked for me and it happened in God's time, not mine. I am so glad that I didn't give up and just marry anyone. It is so worth the wait! 🙏❤
I'm 32. I'm very close to full blown despair. I don't think there are any men who find me attractive whom I also find attractive, and my tastes are pretty broad.
I'm praying for my future husband. I will patiently wait until he is ready. GOD will find a way for our paths to cross one day in His most perfect time. Amen ✝️
The dude you described who wanted to marry you, sounded like me 1 year ago before I found my Catholic faith. Since coming to the Church I first had to work on my purity and making the decision to not "come together" with anyone else until marriage. I also had to quit smoking pot, that drug seems benign but what it really does is cloud the mind and put me in a state that makes me much more susceptible to temptations and sin.
I'm so thankful that Jesus and our Blessed Mother helped pull me away from impurity and drugs🙏🕊️💪 I've never been happier and I don't care about being single either. God has a plan for me.
Celebrating 15 years of marriage this fall. For me, I put the search in God's hands and consecrated myself to God to live in purity until I got married. During this time, I really got to know what I wanted in my husband. I met him online and he was the only man I met that agreed with me about purity until marriage. I was 39 when we married. Our cornerstone is being selfless with each other and trying to outserve one another, along with being swift to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger. Marriage is the best place to become more like Jesus - what other earthly relationship gives you the chance to love and forgive the way He did? Anyone can plan a fabulous wedding, but you should invest in planning for a lifelong marriage. Also, dont rush to get married until you're completely ready and you know what you want and not willing to compromise.
Awesomest advice ❣️
Right. Good advice!
Well said. You hit the target..
If you’re single and losing hope, don’t be too upset! Remember that in 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, Jesus says: “I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say it is well for them to remain single as I do.” Your #1 goal should be to dedicate yourself to Catholicism, and if marriage comes with that, that’s wonderful! And if it doesn’t, you’ve dedicated yourself to Catholicism, which is all you needed to do! I wish all of you the best in your relationships, keep God on your mind and stay safe!
It is not Jesus that says that, it is S. Paul. But thanks for sharing this word.
I’m 24 years old and I have been praying for a devout practicing Catholic husband since I was 16
I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom and homeschool mom
Heather I love your videos I feel so much better after watching them
That's what I'm looking for!😳😊
@@jacksonbrown2827 that’s awesome 😊
@@jacksonbrown2827 do you have a Facebook or Instagram
How’s the search going Faith?
don't just pray, go out and meet men, go online, and be available, 30 comes fast and after that the dating pool shrinks a lot
Divine timing ❤ I'm single. This is a very tender topic for me. I appreciate your suggestion to get on my knees and pray for the man God has intended for me. Thank you, I'm on it!❤
I'm a 29-year-old single exactly as you describe, Catholic Mom. Thanks for the love.
Showing this to my students at a Catholic high school. Thanks for making this video.
I'm 66, and I used CM less than ten yrs. ago, didn't find anyone in 700 profiles I would date let alone marry, I never felt called to marriage, your best way to meet a Catholic spouse is go to a Catholic college or university,, your prime dating yrs. are 18-30, after that it's rough going, I was never encouraged to marry and I didn't want children, so I knew early on marriage wouldn't happen for me --it's been lonely many times, but I know a bad or failed marriage would be much worse, when I was in college 74-80 I rarely saw students dating, and no one talked about marriage, this was the 70s, lots of girls I grew up with never married or wound up divorced, our culture is not good at promoting marriage and family life, and in my time the Catholic church gave no help in this area, only now is that changing- not too many Catholic churches do much for singles, and this needs to change, people marry what they can get and this is one huge reason why so many Catholics marry a non-Catholic, they marry because they fear they will miss out
Single Catholic Lady here (34), I’m hopeful and believe, trust, and have faith in the process.
Single, Catholic, and 33 🙏
Amazing. You have been on RUclips more than half your life.
Anyway. Payers for both of you 🙏
Thank you for this video. I am 40 and I am patiently waiting for my husband. I pray everyday that the Lord will send me a wonderful, Catholic man. Thanks again for your words of hope. 🙏🏻💗
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@@connieparcaro7502 Thank you so much Connie, your prayers mean the world to me! God Bless you!!
May I be of some assistance my lady? 🗡✝️
@@jamesmedina6015 🤨
Thank you so, so much for being a light to single women like myself. These desires for our vocation are very real, and sometimes painful to bear in the waiting. I appreciate your honesty and encouragement so much! Please be praying for me, that my heart will rest in the love of Christ & allow Him to be enough for me as I fulfill the little callings before me in my daily life.
We’re you able to find a husband?
Omg. Yes❣️ i took time off from dating to re-evaluate my life and purpose. I’m getting baptized into the Catholic faith this Easter- I’m also moving to Las Vegas for a career offer, and I’m really looking forward to a new relationship with a Catholic man 🙌🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
That’s amazing, so happy for you 🙂
I stumbled upon your channel looking for the 54 day novena to help me though a very painful breakup. I'm on day 30ish lol but I wanted to look at your other videos and found this one. Instantly I found a sense of comfort when you said you were 29 when you met your husband. I always feel like I'm losing time. I'm learning to trust gods timing again. Thank you so much.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤️❤️❤️ I needed this video. I’m 31 years old, still single. I struggled with the thought of does God want me in the religious life or married life? Through prayer His vocation for me is marriage. It’s hard growing up in a big Catholic family where all your cousins are getting married ( unfortunately a lot of them have gotten divorced) and staying single through the midst of the marriages. I’m working on surrendering myself to God and working not worrying so much. I don’t know if I’m there yet... it’s only the beginning of 2021, it could happen later this year. Anything is possible with God. Thanks again, Heather for this video!
Me too...still single, turning 31 this year. Best of luck to you!
Heather, last Saturday, Fr Chris Alar at the National Shrine of Divine Mercy in Stockbridge featured your Home Altar on their RUclips Channel. He encouraged everyone to set up a Home Altar. Glory to God❣️
Oh wow thank you for sharing! I love his channel lots of great information
Heather, this is such a timely video! I was just thinking earlier today that my vocation must be that of a permanent single. Thank you for the advice and encouragement during our waiting time! I'm going on 49 years old and yet to meet my spouse. Often times it's easy to loose hope when you have been waiting for nearly half a century to meet the man God intends for me to marry. You have given me hope to keep trying! Thank you!
Maybe God Doesn’t want to share some of us and is keeping us just for him. God bless you x
Love Jesus and Mother Mary in the background. Thank you, Heather for encouraging and praying for us. God bless you and your family always 🙏🏼
Thank you. Just thank you.
Of course! Hope it blesses you:)
I'm 30 and single. I have given up hope almost entirely because I suspect that Catholic men think I'm too old now, but I think I can still live a happy life anyway. I get a lot of consolation from a lot of other areas of my life, which helps me a lot.
I do not how things are where you live but most of my friends of the Catholic church get married after 30 y.o. I think you should not loose your hope but really abandon your will of getting married to God and keep enjoying life as you are already doing.
@@sarasampaio9053 Well, now I'm nearly 32 and still single. It sucks so much. I'm in Australia. There aren't that many serious Catholics here. I'm struggling very much to see a happy future.
i'm a 45 yo man.....it's hard for us too...
@@Napoleon1Blownapart Like your name!
@@thatsfunny2051 I'm 31 single male who loves the Traditional Latin Mass. There are no good, decent, pure, virgin, modest girls anywhere i'm afraid. It feels like I was born in the wrong century.
In May 2019 I met my wonderful husband on Catholic Match!! I had felt the need to give it a try. I had only had my account for 2 DAYS before he first messaged me! He had been on there for a year and a half. We got married July 18th, 2020! We are a young married couple😊
How wonderful! Encouraging to see a success story lol I just temporarily deactivated my account, 8 months and nothing special...I plan on giving it another try after a break :) God bless you and your new marriage!
Wow same I was on it for about a year so I canceled my subscription. I’m so glad to hear stories like yours, maybe I’ll consider reactivating again sometime in the near future if nothing happens the old fashioned way of dating.
Thank you for your testimony may God bless you both.
Thank you for posting this! Very timely for me.
Great video, Heather!!! Thanks for giving singles such great advice. I watched the video with my 16.5 year old daughter who, although still young, really appreciated your video. She loved it! She prays for her future husband and says she feels the same as you did-ready to get married and have a family after high school. I would prefer she focus on her relationship with God for the moment and her schooling. My prayers are with all the singles. Hang in there. Blessings to all!
Hi Joseph@abichugobana9509
Thank you Sis. 🙏🏿
These were the best 16:40 minutes of my day. I needed to hear everything you said.
Wanted kids and family since I was little. Now I'm trying to accept that this will never happen. I only wish God took away this craving
I dont know if you are a girl or a guy by your username but im sorry. Maybe there is still time.
I've been through that... I decided to re-focus all that desperation energy on improving my relationship with God and prayer life...that takes away a lot of the emotional burden
It’s very hard to accept this Cross. I’m getting up there as a woman, and also trying to accept both the will of God, the decisions I’ve made in my life, and the factors that were/are out of my control. I am generally getting better at accepting this Cross... every time I feel a searing pain through my heart, I offer it up to Jesus through Our Lady for the salvation of souls. Sometimes I have to be intentional about doing this multiple times in a short span, until the pain lessens. God is good .. we may never get to be a mom or dad, but God does wonderful things with our offerings, and I’m sure that one day we will find out the fruit that our tears have borne when united to the sufferings of Christ. God bless you.
This is completely relatable to me I feel because I went through a very rough patch in my teens which was against my will and now I want to wait for the Lords will Heather... Please pray for me
Where you from Valentina
Didn't know how much I needed this video as a reminder. God will provide ☺️
I just came to your channel, at my 40s but still praying for a good spouse, of course a practising catholic
God bless you Heather. Thanks for pray for us.
The problem is sometimes what we want comes from disordered desires due to our past issues. Our desires are not always from God or are in line with God's will. Just because we desire something really bad it doesn't mean it is what is best for us. Detachment and openess is what saints always practice.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm 24 and have never even been on a date (but that's ok!). One day it clicked for me that if I have a high standard for what I look for in a guy, shouldn't I have to meet his standards too? Definitely made me realize I was probably not ready yet. It feels like there's no good guys out there but I have to believe there are!
I'm in the same situation as you. My college friends used to make fun of me. I felt like I missed the memo on romance and that I would never learn the rules. But I think God has saved me from many traumatic situations and has made me wiser for it. God's time is the right time, but I believe I have to play my part as well to prepare to be of use to others and myself. Good luck on your journey
I'm a 31 year old male and have never been on a date. It also feels there's no good girls out there. Life is awful.
@@thegreatrestoration6784are you working out?
This gave me so much hope:):) Im 24 and Ive been single my whole life pretty much. Like Ive been on dates but never had any relationships. But your words about being ready really struck me Im not ready yet if Im honest and honestly thats kind of comforting. It takes the pressure off a little.
I'm Brazilian and decide to practice my listening with this video, and I learned more than that. Thank you! 😃😍
Brasil aqui!
This was amazing! I can relate so much to it all. May the Lord keep blessing you. I'm 26 and waiting on God for a man that is truly devoted to God and the Catholic faith. I know that waiting on God will always be rewarding at the end! He knows what's best.
I’m 31 years old and met my husband when I was 19. I met him as a friend after praying for God to ONLY bring me someone who would truly love me & not hurt me. We dated for 3 years and got married at 21. My husband is catholic and we remarried in the church last year and I converted shortly after. God works in HIS time and trust me it’s so much better than you could ever imagine! We have 3 children and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I wouldn’t change anything I’ve been through because it brought me the greatest husband
I Love that prayer❣️ So simple and sincere! Someone to Love me and not to hurt me.....❤️❤️❤️
That’s beautiful. I’m 17 and really want to be a wife and a mother young. I need patience and trust in God’s plan
Hi Heather! My 20’s have been very hard. I just knew I would have married and started a family by now. I’m now 29 and will be 30 this year. I have completely lost hope that my husband is out there, but I am starting to get discouraged. Thank you for this video.
You might see him sooner than you think
Hiii
@@jamesmedina6015 I hope so.
@@davidsilva556 Hi
@@marissacoleman3115 we can chat by email?
Heather you are so right! It is the best time to be single right now. Trusting in the Lord during this season of singleness and in his timing has been such a beautiful thing. I love that you’re speaking out on this topic and I hope it blesses so many hearts out there waiting. Please pray for me as I experience the sacrament of reconciliation and my confirmation soon!
I know what you mean. Thank you for talking about this. I'm single and in the RCIA program. I've always had a conservative view that's why I'm still single. Taking things slow doesn't exist anymore. 🥰❤
Thank you so much for creating this video. Your advice is so practical and I'm definitely following it. It's like God's been talking to me while I keep praying to him to help me find a husband. I'm in the process of becoming Catholic and I'm hoping to meet someone Catholic once I've fully converted. Thanks again! ❤
So true about having the Holy Spirit in you before dating. There is something about having the fathers love with you that can't be compared to any love of a spouse or partner (of course) but its also a window into yourself that God provides you with...he shows you how to loved by how much he loves you/us..which in turn makes it easier to distinguish if someone else is worthy for US....and how we should also treat them :D
Heather you are so lovely. Thank you for your beautiful thoughts and advice. Greetings from Ireland
Just turned 30 last month and honestly my hope is fading. Been praying for my future husband since I was 9 years old! Thank you so much for this video Heather. It’s true, Jesus is really the One we desire and need to become close to first and foremost.
Focusing on me right now and praying for my future spouse. 🙏🏾
There is still hope for me!! I am also gonna be 30 this year and desire marriage and family very much!! Thanks for that hope! And I LOVE to so the love that you have towards your marriage and family.
Thank you Heather! I am not ready yet but I know my vocation is marriage. It is so hard sometimes to wait. I am doing a rather long dating fast because I know I am not ready for my vocation. I know that this was what God called me to for now. I am in graduate school and am trying to become a special education teacher. I have dated other guys before, but I know that this is is not the time for that. I know I have to really work hard to become a virtuous women first. I know I have to do this first and get a job before I can meet my future husband. It is hard to have hope sometimes since it feels like there aren't any devout virtuous catholic men out there, but I just have to remember that God will provide me a wonderful husband one day when I am ready. Mother Mary helps me a lot because she trusted in God's will for her life.
Hi Abbey I’m a catholic man looking for the same thing, do you have Instagram?
Thank you. God bless you and your family!
I've thought that too - I want it so badly it must not be the "tough" choice and He'll want something different for me. But I don't think so, just patience building ;)
Thank you for sharing!! Best and blessings!! 💕💖
Thank you so much for posting this! I feel the same exact way as you felt about getting married young and having a family. I also had this burning desire to get married (after college) I’m 31 and still waiting for a Catholic man but I feel like it’s slim pickings. Ive been praying for my future husband. I feel like my patience is low. I’m working on my relationship with God.
Keep the Faith
Maybe have a chat to the guy above there has to be someone here you could try dating 🙂
where are you looking for men to marry? you've had your entire 20s to make a selection, the dating pool shrinks for women after 30 for 2 reasons - men your age now are either married or looking for younger women, also many men are no longer trying to date, I quit at 46 since I realized there was no point of going on, after 30 you face competition from both women your age and much younger, it isn't fair , but it's reality, review your search patterns and stop waiting -- you must be very active from now on, good luck
@Michael Six why do you feel an urge to put down a suffering person you know nothing about?
Thank you so much Heather for your beautiful stories and encouragement. I appreciate your special care for the single Catholics like myself excited to to live out our vocation of marriage. I too will remember to follow your example and help other single Catholics when I marry soon. I believe my future spouse is coming my way soon and I agree on spending this season as a single wisely. Thank you may God continue to bless you and your amazing family.
Really good video 💞👍🙏✝️😇 well done and thank you 🙏 God bless
Thank you for sharing this, Heather!
Thank you for making this video! I always wanted to have a husband and kids. I just wanted domestic bliss, but I'm 34 this year and still haven't met 'the one,' it's not as painful as it was a few years ago, but it's not easy. I've had long term relationships but they were not the one. But it's interesting that I've now been single for three years but I can't say it's been all bad because I found God! I'm now in RCIA. And I really do think God had to kind of take everything away from me to draw me to him, and I'm so so glad he did. But I would really like that husband now!
Your story sounds very similar to mine. Within the past year or two I have realised that I haven't been ready for marriage yet, and that there were some very important lessons I needed to learn first. Especially during 2021 I have developed a lot in a positive way. I can't tell whether I'm completely ready for marriage yet, but I can tell that I wasn't ready before. I hope you will find your husband soon :)
Thank you so much for posting this. I have also been through an experience where a man has told me “I’m his wife”, and he had similar struggles to the man you dated, I said no, respectfully 😇 We are good friends today.
I agree, I am a 52 yo Catholic single boy. When I was younger I never worried about marrying nor going out with a girl; to say the truth I believed in God but I did not realize how important is having truly present him in our lives.
I would like to try one of those online dating websites but I think that is much better let God to take control because if I choose is quite probably I will be wrong. So patience. Thanks for sharing and advices.
Hi let trust in God He is the beginning and the end... also looking for a devoted catholic man.
Thank you Heather, I just recently got out of a relationship that I knew wasn’t fitting for me. I am excited for my future husband and am often praying about this!
Hi Samantha do you have Instagram?
Heather, Thank you so much ❤️ for making this video. I was engaged last year but now I'm single and 29 years old. I do feel the call to huddle right by Our Lord, deepening my faith and love in him so that I may be all that he needs me to be for everyone else, all for his Glory. I have really felt like maybe I don't even desire marriage, perhaps it's not my vocation however I do understand the importance of not closing my heart off to something that which God may be calling me to.. like marriage or living a consecrated life. (I should be living a consecrated life to Christ regardless of my state in life anyways.)
Right now I am trying to live a virtuous life in really loving God in all things and all people. I desire a virtuous life, a holy life. I think it is important to not get lost in thinking I should be married or be in a relationship because I'm getting old, since this mentality is toxic, it can lead to big mistakes. Besides, tomorrow is not guaranteed so, Instead I strive to renew and fulfil my baptismal promises and live the Gospel with faith hope and charity, daily with God's grace.
Your such a blessing Heather, your words of wisdom have really appealed to my spirit and I appreciate that incredibly much, I really needed to see this video. God is good and faithful, as you say 🤗 oh also Heather thanks to you, subconsciously I have a greater devotion to Saint Joseph and just basically the Holy Family, with Our Beautiful sweet Blessed Mother🥰
Thank you for this great video! I’m 19 and I’ve been in one relationship, it made me realize how not ready I am for a relationship. I have things to improve on, and I’m trying my hardest to enjoy the time I have now to myself and of course my relationship with Jesus!
Andrea do you have Instagram?
This totally relates to me as I am 23 and have never even dated yet. Still figuring out if my vocation is marriage or the convent.
I relate to this so much! I’m 24 and in the same situation.
@Dominika Oracz maybe it's just as a single person that is okay too
Thank you so much for making this video.
In my 20s I was lost to the world. I found and saved by the grace of God in my late 40s. I pray that I will get married and the God will present me to my future husband. I have prayed the 54 novena and learning patience. As I’ve learned because we pray a novena doesn’t mean God will grant our desires in our hearts as he know what we need and when.. patience is a virtue I pray for
I hope this not too personal , I am 41 years old next month and all I ever wanted was to get married and gave children. Your story gives me hope. I am wondering did God bless you with children?
Thanks Heather, always beautiful to watch you and learn from you. I need your prayers pls dear in my discernment currently talking to someone two years after engagement break up. I can relate to your journey too, I had to give myself time and let Jesus heal my heart, now feel more confident to date than I was a year ago, still trying to work on myself by God’s Grace to grow more in virtue, it’s hard but makes me humble and learning patience with myself and others. Thank you so much for always putting out pleasant and insightful videos and for praying for us. I pray for you also and your family. You’ve helped me fall more in love with the catholic faith. Love you so much ❤️💕❤️
I wish I had known that not everyone "just meets someone". Nearly all my friends met their spouses by happenstance, so I thought I would too. No one I know had to "try" to find someone. I wish I had realised at an earlier stage that I would have to be more proactive about it.
I'm glad I found this video. God bless you. Now I know that I'm definitely still not ready yet. So much to work on. Please pray for me.
Being 39 and single never married is very rough. I have days its super depressing.
Someone I worked with asked me one day if I was married or girlfriend or if I had kids, when I said no her reply was you have nothing to look forward to go home to or live for.
I looked at her and said nope, you are correct.
Awww you do honestly just got to find the right one she’s out there xx
I really like the advice Paul gives in 1 Corinthians 7:17-19 "Each of you should go on living according to the Lord's gift to you, and as you were when God called you. ... what matters is keeping God’s commandments." The focus should be God whether we are married or single, and we should be happy just to follow God no matter our calling or state in life. The best and most important relationship is the one we have with God and everything else comes second. But if you cannot remain single, marry. If you cannot stay married, do not remarry. 1 Corinthians 10:31 "Whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God."
This was fantastic thank you
Heather, you can be my patron saint any dang day! I love the advice in this video and thank you for sharing your story - it’s been truly inspiring to me and has encouraged me not to settle!
I have such a deep desire to be a mother. I am engaged to my high school sweetheart and it’s been almost 9 years since we graduated. It has taken time for us to get to marriage and he is not perfect as neither am I. But we treat each other good and love each other a lot. We have a lot of the same values and belief’s. When I was in 6th grade at a slumber party, I was told I was going to be a good mom when I was folding all the blankets for everyone. But I feel like the devil has made me afraid to be a mom, that I am going to fail and not be good enough. I really look up to your advice and love your videos Heather. If you can keep me in your prayers, I’d appreciate it! You’re in my prayers too!
Jesus came to give you life in all its fullness. John 10:10.. Claim it
I really wish I knew what I was being called to, one way or another. If it was single life, I could start living my life in a way to prepare for that and be as successful as I should be in the endeavor. If it's marriage, then i could worry less about it and trust more in the timing, rather than spending my time wondering if it might be single life I'm called to.
😂🤣 Heather you cracked me up with the pot guy! Lol you’re so sweet.
So happy I found this video! I’m 25 and I’ve been single for so long and I feel like I’m ready to love someone else... But I trust God and I know when he provides, it will be better than anything I could wish for myself.
Do you have an Instagram Cece?
Thank you for this. I'm a traditional catholic woman still waiting for my husband to find me, some times I feel discouraged, please pray for me 🙏❤️
Oh my goodness😃 Thank you so much for putting out this video Heather😭 I’ve been praying for my 24 year old daughter who is feeling like you did before you found your love. She’s very impatient. Please pray for her. Her name is (Rebekkah) I’m praying for her future spouse and for my son’s future wife too. Thank you for your prayers for both of them. May the Lord continue to bless you & yours always❣️🙏🏼🕊✝️
Hi I’m a catholic marriage minded man, it would be great if you would put me in touch with your daughter Rebekkah
Thank you for your advice! I am still not sure what my vocation is and I'm also nearing my thirties, but I agree wholeheartedly about growing in virtue and being of service to others as Christ has shown us. I was slightly scared to pray for my 'future' husband because I wasn't sure he existed, but I think I've come to the decision that I do want to marry whether it'd be a man or God as a consecrated person so I will definitely pray for that person and myself.
The loneliness I feel as a catholic single young adukt absolutely sucks 😥😥😥
I just picked up, "Love Like A Saint" by Elizabeth M. Kelly to read this summer!
1:55 I need help 2:22 I’m looking for someone who wouldn’t cheat using me and my money 3:09 someone who wouldn’t use me for lustful things. 4:18 I have been waiting and find a good job 4:57 that I am happier with 5:16 li actually love 5:25 taking pictures
When i was single, my parents keep telling me, go church join youth activities, Thank God, we have a blessed life, we don't have a very good financial, we are working hard and wonderful together
14:18 someone who is willing to help and think of her partner. Than 14:51 selfish self centered Person 15:44 ❤ I wanted to get married to someone who is supportive and etc 16:30
Thank you ❤
I love it this topic
1) Be good at what you do. Strive after being a virtuous person. Become like the person you want to marry someday.
2) use your time wisely. Use this time, to serve others.
3) pray for healing on your end. Take some time off to heal yourself emotionally, spiritually, & mentally. The best way to heal is to ask God to heal you.
4) the best thing you can do as a single person is to cling onto God and pray for your future spouse.
Marriage is a lot of dying to yourself. A lot of compromise and sacrifice. “When you give your life away (in service of others), you will feel the most fulfilled.” “God put in your heart your vocation; there should be a draw to your vocation.”
34 and still searching! Taking applications 😊 🙏
Thank you for the message, i have been really struggling but your message just lit up my heart.
Thank you so much Heather, you truly inspire :)
Thank you for this message Catholic Mom. I really needed it :)