After leaving me and our kids for his online "HOT" girlfriend, my husband disappeared for eight...
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- Опубликовано: 27 июн 2024
- After leaving me and our kids for his online "HOT" girlfriend, my husband disappeared for eight years. Now he’s back, claiming he has an offer for me.
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0:00 - Story 1
18:43 - Story 2
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Dude, leaving a stable and happy family for some random "hot chick" met *online* is one of the STUPIDEST things a person can do.
As stupid as his dad still giving him a bloody lakehouse. Should have given that to his grandkids
AI do crazy things
Lust ... sexual immorality....dude is morally bankrupt!! No conscience....no soul..
Didnt ahe say they were going to divorce not too long before he suddenly left?
Stupid games, stupid prizes.
The parents in the last story are repulsive. Even if he was the result of an affair how is he to blame for his mother’s actions? Those two wanted a scapegoat and sacrificed their relationship with their child for it. They’re both scum and they deserve each other.
well he was sleeping around too,
@@potatoheadpokemario1931 I know, which is why I said they _both_ wanted a scapegoat. That doesn’t change the fact OP was being ostracized because of the belief he was a product of his _mother’s_ affair.
@@minutemuse on one side im like "god i hope she didn't only cheat around op's conception, but the siblings too and it turns out wupti doo, they're the AP babies" but on the other hand, im like, would they do the same shit again?
@@shadowmaster335 Considering the siblings also abandoned OP at the chance he was only their half sibling--I think they could use a dose of their own venom.
The whole family minus OP is horrible. The dad is understable as he is the reminder of the affair but even that falls on deaf ears since he cheated as well. The siblings and mother had absolutely no reason to treat OP that way. It honestly seems that they showed their true colors and I wouldn’t give them the opportunity to reconnect after that frankly deeply unacceptable behavior.
The fact that in the first story, his last desperate offer was to split the money shows everything. If he was genuinely sorry he would've gave the kids everything, instead he still thought he deserved half.
He's a manchild.
Very much this.
Something sounded fishy, given his sketchy behavior. Though, I thought he was planning to take the kids' college funds.
Good on Grandpa to organize closure for his DIL.
@@WilliamBrowningI mean, he left his wife and kids for a chick he barely knew online... That's some 14 year old BS right there.
My thoughts too. The updates just made him out to be worse
Robert deserves everything that happened for being so idiotic. Also, Isabella has some balls to cuss out OP when she knew he was married with children.
Fr. The absolute audacity of thinking she had ANY right to be angry when she had a hand in splitting their entire family apart.
yea, she's a strange one
@@saint037 A HYPOCRITE, more like.
the fact she knew
I like how OP just told his Family in a nicest way "Fuck you... You left me? I don't need you in my life anymore"
Feels like this coulda been settled in a few days rather than years, causing trauma and disdain.
I think the attachment to family is very strong even in abused children. 😢that's why it takes longer for some to let go
Story 2: Family sounds disturbed. They could have taken a paternity test. Very simple. But they choose the path of darkness. Says a lot about them. I don’t blame OP for not trusting them.
No. It doesn’t matter who the kid’s father is, it was wrong for his entire family to abandon him for something he couldn’t control.
@@peteryeeterson5766facts like it was okay the kid isnt the dads well damn might aswell be your raised the mf not the dad it woulf hurt yes but even so there is nothing wrong with adoption. They choose to belittle him and treat him like a mistake,not the affair was a mistake not the child its to late now you cant just drop somebody youve known all your life cause your own mistakes, the mother even rejected him that whole family a piece of sh-t.
They only care now cause they know its the dad, they still aint sh-t.
@@princessqueen6881And even if he wasn't the father's son, he was still his mother's! And the siblings for me are the most idiot ones, because why they threw him away for something he didn't had any fault? He was still their brother! And he wasn't the one who did anything, and the fact his mother and father got togheter again and didn't contact him? WTF! And why they took too long to do the DNA test? And more, if the grandfather didn't like the way they treated OP and wanted them to do the DNA text, why he took so long to suggest that? Seriously, i hope OP's ex family (i'm saying ex because if i was OP i wouldn't consider they as family again) burn in hell. If i was OP, i would wish that i wasn't their biological son, because i don't want their awnful DNA in me.
What I don't get is the mother. She turned away from him too? She LIED about the son not being her husband's and then treated her own son like shit. Then she got together again with her husband and didn't want the son around because it would "remind" the husband about her infidelity? I can only assume she was having sex with both men and wrongfully assumed the AP was the real father because otherwise, that would make her a psychopath.
scum family aside, it's great that he had friends that he could count on
they were his real family
To me the DNA test didn't matter, in fact it angered me. What would they have done if OP from the 2nd story wasn't a biological son, would they have still regret doing what they did? Probably not, especially since they didn't reach out to him for a long time. Don't lash out at your child if you think they are not yours, it's not their damn fault. If it wasn't for OPs friends OP wouldn't be here right now, and possibly would've committed die. I would've told them to F off, bio child or no bio child. Everyone turned their back on him.
It's so wrong what they did, even if he wasn't a biological son he was THEIR SON and BROTHER for all his life, blood might be important for some people but that doesn't automaticly give you a real relationship, they had that, all those years, and they throw it away so easily. The family decided that was easy to dump their emotions into OP than resolve it like adults, or at least target the real "culprits", after all both parents cheated... what a great family.
Happy for OP to have amazing friends who supports him and took him out from a dark and scary place, better for him to dedicated his time to his choosen family than his blood related one, after all they have already shown what little he means to them and now the only "real" connection that he has with them is his blood.
Yeah, that family clearly never gave a single fuck about op, otherwise they wouldn't have abandoned him and treated him in such a cruel way in the first place. So why should he now care about them, after all they've put him through? He was 100 % right to not reconnect with them and instead focus on spending time with his friends who supported and liked him.
Second story is likely to be ai written as it has so many logical errors and it lacks normal and needed details such as his age at the rejection,how many years have passed. and his mother and father reconciled but didn't reconnect with their son no one thought a paternity test.
I've seen this story elsewhere before, but my point still stands. There are people who do this crap in real life, I am certain 100%. People can be real jackasses.@@furkankamslgol9848
If The father was having doubts he should have got the DNA test at the beginning not after he alienated his child. Hope op never speaks to them again they've shown that their love is conditional.
first story: you can tell she was a good mom that raised her kids right, that story, if true, is beautiful
Well said!!
it was definitely a fake story; way to many plotholes and overgeneral statements
@@windinthewillow1871men try to tear women always down, men can literally do the worst and still blame the women.
@@jolinalee3887 I agree with you that men can be very awful and make just as bad decisions as women but for me, the story seemed really fake. The part that got me was the questions from the children to their dad. If she was recalling the questions verbatim then the questions were too eloquently worded to be asked by teenagers let alone the 12-year-old. It reminds me of those tweets by liberal parents where the children of four years old ask complicated, philosophical questions.
@@TheSammywammybarwell if its true we should drink one for the grandfather.
That guy's "offer" in the first story sounds 100% like a scam. Since that other lady had a gambling addiction and kept using him as a human ATM till he finally ran out of money, it sounds like he's crawled back to his first wife to siphon her money and possibly his family's money too to pay off casino debts or something. His increasing desperation about it is a de* ad giveaway.
I say let the casino mafia have em. Both he and that scammer bih deserve it.
Okay i get hes a jerk but he shouldnt have to get killed-
@@princessqueen6881 yes and they should alove to leech of people?
@@princessqueen6881 why couldn't you provide for them instead of others? You don't seem willing either 😏
@@princessqueen6881First off what is that "-" supposed to mean? Who is interrupting you? And second off, if you are gonna be an absolute leech to your family to the point of leaving them for dead and then coming back with some "fInAnCiAl oFfEr" then whatever comes after you after is gods judgement.
@@princessqueen6881it’s called the consequences of our decisions
The fact their regard for OP in second story changed entirely, twice, based on DNA alone, would have me cutting them out forever. Either their years as a family never meant anything to them, or they were willing to forget it all based on paternity. Both scenarios are unacceptable.
I was looking for someone to say that.
I really couldn't believe they abandoned him. I think that maybe (a big maybe) the dad was ok, but the siblings and the mom (specially her) were total and complete 4sholes for their actions
The fact that the parents and the other kids went to therapy and worked it out, yet had no desire to involve OP in the healing process, is just vile.
Scapegoating is an insane thing families do. It's sad it's so common, as the person scapegoated a large majority of the time never did anything.
The fact that the mother also told OP that he wasn't welcome in her home even if it wasn't his fault he was born. I'm happy for OP, he was outcasted simply because he MIGHT not have even been their blood relative. I can understand that he would be a constant reminder of an affair, but that doesn't wipe out however many years they spent together.
@@LazyartistLastnot to mention that the affair wasn't his doing. So what if he is a reminder? They'd rather make an innocent person suffer than face the consequences of their choices
Story 1: the husband only "regrets" his action cuz the isabella was not who he thought it was. If she indeed was a decent/better than OP, i doubt he would even try to reconcile or have regret/remorse
I bet it was because he didn't know about the kids. If she had told him, even if she was hotter and younger than his wife I doubt he would have gone. Just wanted to dump the kids on someone else.
Even if she was beautiful and free of any responsibility, all women age and all women change once they get together with a man.
Op in this story was probably young, hot and the love of his life once. It was only after the illusion was broken, that the husband started seeking other women.
People like these, who have a "midlife crisis”, they are trying to escape their own realities, they are unhappy with who they are so they try to change those around them in an effort to prove that they are not the problem.
@@mariapaz6379so you just admit that men dont view women as equals even though men also age? no one loses worth from their body aging. Both of you are gonna age and you wont look hot anymore. So essentially youre just acknowledging that men view women as replaceable objects and that you are not truly attracted to nor do you love your wives, and only like the sex and the idea of a young hot woman? youre the one who admitted it lol
2OP: Even if the test was negative, what they did was absolutely horrendous. After 3 years, they shouldn't expect him to accept them with open arms after everything they did over just a simple speculation
Second story is wild, the father cheated too but they took his side and the siblings were mean to their brother... That has no fault in this
Duh, because they didn't have to live with the consequences of his affair /sarcasm
It doesn't take 8 years to figure out if you like someone or not. Especially since he found out she was a single monther the first day of meeting her. "I didnt want to give up on a relationship for the second time" and "I was too scared to face you again." Are the dumbest excuses ever.
1st story: kudos to the brave mother. She is one hell of a real strong tough woman.
1)
I'm willing to bet he doesn't actually have any money and that his dad didn't leave him a dime for abandoning his grandkids. Robert just wants his kids inheritance from his dead dad.
Edit: update was the best
Exactly! It makes no sense why he wouldn't just sell the house and use the money to help himself and the new woman.
Story 2: I hope he never let's his "family" crawl back. They were only sorry when they found out he was blood, but had he not been it would've been justified in their minds. That's not a family. If anyone in my family turned out to not be blood it would change nothing in my eyes, because I love them, and that's what a family is. I do find it funny too that they all blamed him when he literally did nothing wrong, and that both his parents cheated but it only mattered regarding him.
I'm currently at the beginning of update 4 in the story and I can't help but think he's so desperate to get back together with his estranged wife and sell the house was because he was trying to get his mistress out of possible debt with her gambling and once it was done, he would waltz out of their lives again like a ghost.
When a man comes crawling back to you after he dumps you, it's always about money.
Facts
Sue him for the lake house
Sue him for child support
She didn’t mention any divorce or anything about going to court for anything
Take him to court for everything he has
Story 2.
Wow, what a terrible family op has. He was blamed fully for smth that was nowhere near his fault. & the family didn’t even have a solid reason treat op like such shit. So glad op didn’t let those selfish bitches back into his life, who only wanted to reconnect because of guilt & seeing that they’re wrong.
abandoned for 8 years and he wants to buy back his access using the money he never earned? what a living human garbage! Honestly, grandpa shouldve just left it his DIL.
The first story was selfish and wild. It sounded like he was catfished leaving his family for another woman with children. He disappeared for 8 years now he’s coming back with a financial offer. Why should she accept anything from him after he disappeared the way he did? The mother was correct to reject the ex husband. No one should guilt her about that. Robert left, willingly ended the marriage for an online single mother catfished. He should be held accountable for his actions. He doesn’t deserve a second chance. Isabella is a foolish woman for blaming Robert’s ex wife for his return. She has no idea what a selfish person he is. 2nd story. The siblings were out of order for directing their disdain and frustration towards the their brother instead of their cheating mother. The innocent person who could have been a product of an affair. Why wasn’t a test done at the time. Such family isn’t to be trusted. Completely insane people.
Oh my god it's fake stop wasting your time on writing paragraphs
@@Normief let me tell you a secret no body cares if its fake or real only you do
Yeah, completely agree. If I just up and left my wife for some random online woman, and came back 8 years later, she'd probably kick me in the balls immediately, and rightfully so.
@clairedragnex8066 it's just hilarious to see ppl taking these fan fictions so seriously lmao
crazy part is no one was mad at the dad who had admitted to an affair first
In a situation like that it's important not to forget that they're feeling guilty ONLY BECAUSE the test came back positive, had it come back negative, they'd be dropping you like the rotten apple of an even more rotten tree.
Story 1: Props to Father-in-Law for being so smart! Yes, the clause for his own son's inheritance...but he also left money *to his grandchildren*. He could easily have left it to his daughter-in-law since he clearly cared about her, but probably knew they weren't legally divorced, in which case, his son could have fought for that money when he didn't get the lake house. As it's in the kids name, he can't do that
But inheritance money can’t be touched regardless of whether you are divorced or not, no? So if she had inherited the lake house/money from him then the husband can’t fight for it right or does that only apply if you inherited it before marriage?
@@elithluxe7568 I believe once you've received it from the estate, it's treated like any other asset, so could've been divided as part of divorce
I could be wrong though/could be different rules depending on country/state
@@elithluxe7568depends on each state different laws. So maybe the grandparents knew what would happen if they gave it to her. She or the kids will probably receive it once the grandma dies
Regarding the second story: Yeah. If your family abandons you like that, they never really gave a shit about you in the first place. After doing something like this, they absolutely cannot and should not be trusted in any way at all. He was right to tell them to fuck off and continue spending his time with his friends who actually like him and want to be with him.
The siblings in the last story broke the number one rule
why does robert need to be with op to support his kids?? she needs to get him for back child support
the lake house lol
Ex wife did the same thing. Left the second time I caught her. Over 8 years down the toilet. Ten years later, she hears I'm doing well in a new career and "wants to give our life together a second chance". Told her "I built a new life, and this one doesn't have room in it for you.".
Good for you. I'm so glad that you were able to heal and have a happy, stable life.
Your wife had the chance to support you through your struggles and enjoy the bounty, but she chose not to.
That is her problem.
honestly the behaviour of children in the first story shows nothing but how much of a good mother OP is
Being family isn’t blood. It’s a bond.
For those who question if you put conditions like the one in the story in a will, you can put any clause in your will. There's a story from a few years ago about a dad who divorced a mom and left her and her daughter while taking the son but after his died the son was left everything with the conditions that he never contact them or he would lose everything. Unknown to the son, the dad had set up a separate trust which paid PIs to trail him randomly, so within 3 months, the son has lost everything but went to fight it in court and lost. The judge said," As long as he was sound mind and body and he didn't put anything illegal in the will, it couldn't be threw out as you are not entitled to anything just because you are his son, this will is a contract and your own actions while not under duress had void it. Have a nice day."
Wow, the dad in that story sounds like a real piece of work.
@@weirdlybeloved Mom cheated, daughter help hide it, son wanted to reconcile with the people who betrayed him, I think it was fair, now that money sits in a trust paying kids University
@@weirdlybeloved i dunno, we dont know enough about either parties to know which is at fault here. i wouldnt neccesarily point fingers yet because maybe his anger is justified, but its totally possible he could be a absolute POS as well.
nonetheless, whichever it is we dont know. so its better to not assume
The father in the first story is such a real one. He legit left one last "Son I am dissapointed in you" in his will. Fly high old man. Fly high.
And also the fact that he specifically worded it as "A Offer" is a dead giveaway that his motive is money related, not a genuine apology
in the first story, despite the absence of a father, the kids grew up to be very mature and responsible individuals. That woman is such a great mom bruh, the way she raised both her daughter and son. We love it. Even the son is so mature despite his age and absence of the father figure. Plus she's such a great mother for considering therapy and giving her children the life they deserve. She as a parent is more than enough , instead better than having Robert as a father. So proud of her.
Robert "i didn't have the strength to face yous."
Translation "I couldn't find my big boy pants until moneys was involved."
1st story: should've told Robbert they had no chance getting back together, but if their children wanted him in their life she wouldn't stop them. Doesn't seem like it would change anything tho.
2nd story: That family was actually trash. They didn't deserve any type of chance. W friends
she is such a good mom I have to say this.... she has a good head on her shoulders and so do her kids.... I'm happy that she now has the space to grow and heal
Hearing all these family stories makes me sad and forever grateful for my own family.
Story 1: That homewrecker had some audacity to blame OP.
Story 2: His family really is shameless.
For the last story. Doesn't matter he was the Dad kid or not what his family do to him was f***** up and unforgivable
The 2nd story just has me dumbfounded, what difference does the DNA have to do with anything?! At the very least OP is at least mom’s kid, and is definitely the sibling of the other kids, like WTF? Not to mention talk about scapegoating somebody, and in this case that person wasn’t even present when the cheating happened
Kind of sounds like my bio father. He skipped out on my mum because apparently I wasn't his, I was born sick so I wouldn't survive, and "he didn't want to be a dad at the time" at age 40. I'm his kid because my mum never went with anyone else. But he was the one going off every so often "on break" and didn't want to marry my mum. If they're willing to cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. I've been abandoned both physically and emotionally by my father and mother respectively, so I'm done with them and this whole ridiculous "family" business. I'm perfectly fine on my own and I never want to end up the same way. Good for OP I say.
5:42 - wow, so the internet “hot gf” lied? Who could have seen that coming? It’s almost like abandoning an established relationship for a stranger you’ve never met is a bad idea or something, who knew? Cheaters are just insane.
Story #1... You are a remarkable woman!!! Wishing you happiness, joy and a very good life with your kids ... your ex...is trash... worthless...no man is worth anything that abandons his family....he deserved the trash he got ...❤️♥️
Robert can be sued for unpaid child support and alimony so he would have had to sell the lake house anyway.
Story number 2: Good on OP for remaining nc.
Story 1: divorce him and get child support for the children's he has to pay for his children.
That Robert guy was such a walking red flag (who not only left them for childish reasons but also like most people pointed probably wanted to get back to them only to use them to pay his mistress' debts) that it taught me a valuable lesson that if this ever happens to me I won't cry but thank God instead because this is not abandonment this is just trash taking itself out. Like life telling me "ok you didn't dodge this bullet when you married him, so we're going to surgically take it out of you, for your own sake, it will sting for a while but it will be better than to stay with it"
Well said
I wonder if the family in story 2 imploded again after the OP rejected them. It would be fitting.
why is all the blame on the guy and his mother? the father cheated first. both the parents are horrible. the siblings are horrible.
If I was a kid in the first story and my mom went back to that worthless excuse for a man then I would never respect either of them.
My dad came back a year later drunk. My grandmother told him "ok, where's your children's money for the past year?" He had nothing that's why he was back. You don't always need fathers to raise men. But you do need a solid mother.
I disagree with your last statement. It might be your personal experience, but it is wrong to make a generalization like that. A child needs two strong parents to become strong, mature and responsible. I'm sorry that your father was absent, but there are good fathers who have raised wonderful children.
@@SneakNationCEO So what are you inferring about children with one parent, no parents, or abusive parents?
@@SneakNationCEO you're right. I just know my kids won't leave my side. I'll be dead the day they do. My wife and kids are provided. Not having a dad only made me take the good from my friends fathers and apply it. I'm not sorry, my dad was an abusive, cheater and was probably for the best.
@@FaizatheTempest It's known that statistically, children from broken homes are much more likely to have mental issues and especially >relationship< issues. That's because children learn from what they see growing up. Growing up with an example of what a healthy relationship looks like is extremely important to help the child understand and seek a similarly healthy relationship later in life, etc.
@MrMK211516 bro. You literally summarized why a strong father like figure is required. You mimic other good fathers u witnessed and became like them. Just because yours sucked doesn't mean that a strong male figure isn't required. Value yourself more, both parents are equally pivotal.
Story 1- I get that some people prefer saying denying this offer is clearly stupid it is not. You can't just go back with him like nothing happened he left her for another WOMEN. I get both viewpoints. He is clearly in the wrong and he realized it but that does not change the fact that he left her for another woman and DIDN'T VISIT HIS CHILDREN. She decided to not let him back in her life. It was his decision to leave her for another woman he realized his mistake to LATE.
Edit: I hate the fact that he came back to her for the HOUSE and he tried calling her multiple times even tho she made it clear that they can't have a relationship after what he did in the past. If she did come back to him he would probably be cheating on her with the "HOT" girlfriend and leave her soon after. In my opinion she had made a good choice not to go back to him.
People talk about how the mother is denying the money because of her own heartbreak…whilst not addressing the fact that the kids also were abandoned and were heartbroken (especially the older child, considering she remembered him initially).
He abandoned ALL of them, not just her.
Man that first story, I am surprised to not see more anger in her writing and just explain the whole situation so matter of factly. The guy abandoned his childeren for years and not a single word out of his mouth should ever be believed again. What a total piece of shit.
With that first story, what I wanna know is who DID get the lakehouse then? His mother? Another family member? Because frankly, if I were in the dad's position I would have done exactly the same thing with my own will. However, I would add that should he fail to reconcile, the lakehouse would go to her and/or the kids. Literally would have been so so perfect.
Yeah I kept waiting for that to be the update. Story feels unfinished.
I think grandkids did
the OP in the 2 story did right in not mantaining or reestablishing contact with his old family. in spite of the fact that he was not at fault for his parent's infidelities to eachother, he faced the brunt of the consecuences by his own family members in the form of hostility and distancing. he would've still been his sibling's brother and his mother's child, and even the father had built up a relationship with him, even though he believed he wasn't his son, but it didn't matter to any them. maybe they though low about him from the beginning, seeing as though a DNA test would've solved this issue instantly, it was only pursued 3 years after the fallout, and only because the grandpa pushed for it.
now they're asking for contact not to actually make up for their mistakes but to assuage their guilt. they're selfishly acting on feelings the very same way that they acted back then.
they're snakes with no integrity and OP's friends are literally more of a family than what the people he's actually related to are.
as the saying goes, the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
In regards to story 2 I want to say that what OP's family did to him was beyond despicable. I'd tell his parents that I have one condition.
That they sign the full ownership of their home over to you. Until that has occurred you have nothing to speak about.
Of course they'll never do that, and that's the point.
The first story really hit home because in the last 2yrs my father had decided a women he met once at a martial art convention over in America meant more to him then my mother who took in and raised his dead sisters kids who took care of his dying mother the women who was there for him when he almost lost everything 32 years of there lives having us then being told he felt unloved the year my brother was conceived only to raise us all we all enjoy martial arts until he started running his own I got the worst end of it every day of the week I at 12 was running classes sometimes left at the gym on my own to teach 4 yrs old and full grown adults everyone else in my family got to hang out with friends while me and my little brother ran a dojo even weekends we were ‘too busy’ every part of my life was controlled how I felt how I should do thing how I should react talk what to do as a future career NOTHING belong to me when my dad went to America without us we thought he needed a break from all the work he was doing he was already a very aggressive and verbally hostile but after his holiday became worse and he secretly booked another that’s where the argument started and when my mum found out about this women and became suspicious it’s not the first time he’s cheated so with out my mum knowing he booked another flight where he ended up sleeping with her came back again whole bunch of things happened including my dad trying to breaking into the house passed me because my younger brother didn’t want to talk trying to him my mum with a car turning my brothers against her and finally only contacting me to say how he doesn’t care if she drowns or that I don’t care about him or for updates on my brother never asking about me EVEN ON MY OWN BIRTHDAY I’m turning 21 and all I get is I don’t give 2 fucks if your mother drowns one argument got so heated in nearly threw my self out into the road to end it but I couldn’t do that to my little brother I’m no longer in contact with him but still get messages saying he misses me or the a reverse Uno to grow up things happen in life
He doesn’t want his family back he wants somewhere else to run
I think I’ve heard of a similar story to the second one, but it was a bit ago so idk if I got it exactly right. The whole family thought that op was an affair child so they turned on him. Not only was he not an affair child, but one of his brothers that mistreated him and was their father’s favorite turned out to be an affair child and everyone turned on him
he owes you current and back child support. get both the financial security AND not back with you, and keep him away from the kids until he proves he won't leave again
I would have told him the worst stories of the times he was gone, flipped him off, and stripped him of all the money I could legally get.
8 years and he wants to buy his way back in wtf type of parents do you have to say you need to do it wtf.
god that 2nd story broke me. what type of previously loving parents do that to an innocent kid?? and the harlots for parents who couldnt even take the son in even tho he would be at least one of theirs.... that level of betrayal is so fucked up and i'm proud he didn't let them back in. he couldve gone off the deep end for what they did but i'm so glad he found kinship in his friends. chosen families are better than blood :)
I will never understand blaming the child for the (possible) adultery.
"I still thought my husband would come back to us"....why tf would you want him to come back?
Nothing but respect to the OP and her children in story 1.
I laughed so hard when Robert revealed that he didn’t find out that Isabella was a single mother until he was at their doorstep 😂 and to sprinkle on top that she had a gambling addiction and spent all his money 😂
The grass is not always greener on the other side. Sometimes you just end up some else’s fool of a meal ticket-getting bled dry of every coin you earn. And after every bridge you’ve burned-you have nothing left for you in the end and no one who cares if you live or die alone. No one loves you at all.
The best thing you can do with people like this in story 2. Never speak to them again and though it hurts just don't. Be stoic and walk forward. Remember your legacy is made up of your deeds. Let that fuel you and let it push you to greater heights. An when you're standing up on the mountain and those people come to ask for a hand up. Turn away from them. Live your best life for you. Family isn't who you're born with at all. An you will find new family along your journeys.
Why didn't they do the paternity test right away when first suspicions came up in th 2nd story? All of this could have been avoided. Glad OP stood up for himself and declined contact.
That's what I wondered
Wow that first “dad” is beyond a deadbeat 🤮
HAHAHA 10:00
She was planning to leave him anyways so the whole 'He abandoned us' really stops hitting as hard.
It's crazy how in the first story, OP even considers the idea of financial freedom to be so enticing, that she almost went for it. She made the right choice in the end, but it didn't seem out of the rationale, that her husband is a walking talking red flag and will leave her in a ditch, the moment he finds something potentially better again. It was out of hurt and spite. (Which is understandable) But that hurt and spite was ALMOST not enough, to then just take him back into her life, because of financial freedom. Damn. Is this how much women value financial freedom over a good man?
what good man? there's no other man in this story. it's bad man vs no man. Your brain just felt the need to twist it into "choosing money over her man".
I mean who doesnt find financial freedom enticing? It is enticing but she did the right thing so what the f was that last statement?
@@tsm688 i dont think tsm688 people can read or have basic abstraction skills to understand nuance. if you think a question is about twisting something, i have bad news for you. questions generally provide clarity when being answered and thus untangle instead of twisting. you are projecting super hard, clearly with an agenda.
@@thousandyardgavri2785 what statement? its a question. are there any people that have basic skills other than clicking the send comment button? she did the right thing, yes, but obviously her ex being an absolute pos was not enough of a factor, for such an option to not enter her mind, time and time again. id argue a normal person would not in a million years even entertain that thoughty other than hear about its proposal. but then again, i dont think it makes sense to explain it in any more detail, when the original comment already provided all that and some people still fail basic understanding and cannot follow such simple reason. hell some dont even seem to comprehend the difference between a question and a statement.
@@gravity00x "Is this how much women value financial freedom over a good man?"
and I'm the one twisting super hard with an agenda? It's not just a river in egypt man...
That mother raised some very intelligent and wise children
when i tell you i bawled my eyes out on the second story. i hope I never meet anyone like that who would abandon someone like that just because they weren't blood.
Second story odd, but if true, both parents basically betrayed their child out of their spite for each other, and the family as a whole betrayed the child as well. Even worse as they had decided to get back together and still exclude their son.
1st story:
I hear so many stories of men leaving their families for someone they just met and it's so heartbreaking. The life they had with their spouse and kids never mattered to them if they were willing to leave them for a *stranger* so easily.
2nd Story:
Omg, the absolute nerve of OP's family outcasting him when they had ZERO proof that he was an affair child is so unreal! Even if it turned out he wasn't his dad's bio son, this would still be a low blow. I hope his family is happy with themselves knowing they were a POS to their son/brother for all those years for no good reason at all!
One of the wilder stories
Story 2: Even if he wasn’t the dad’s biological son, whose fault is that!? I hate the way people treat affair children
Why didn't they do the DNA test right away
First story. Why the freak would the grandfather give the lake house to his deadbeat son and not to his grandchildren?
He hurt his children too, he doesn’t deserve them or his ex
.No amount of money or inheritance is going to make up for the fact he made the conscious and selfish decisions to leave the family he had for his own selfishness.
Go Mama Bear and her brave strong kids for putting the coward in his place. Proud they did not let the ' money/ luxury lifestyle ' sway them to let him come back.
and what universe? would anyone think that she's the asshole dude left her for eight years? disappeared? in what universe is she in the wrong? the fact that she even gave it a thought is amazing
Because the people here watch andrew tate 24/7
Story 2: I’m pissed at the families reaction. Like what if they found out he wasn’t his father’s kid. Would they just abandon him again. How is he supposed to feel. Like I wouldn’t accept them because if I wasn’t what they wanted me to be, they’d abandon me.
Bailing on your family once is a horrid thing to do. Doing it twice makes it a pattern of behavior. Financial stabilty for another decade-ish isnt worth being kicked to the curb again when he meets the hottest woman hes ever seen again.
17:05 bold of Isabella to say that, given that it was her who taken away Robert to begin with
First story: the grandpa didn’t leave the mom anything? Wow.
Second story: fcken messed up
2nd story reminds me too much of my own family. Haven't heard from any of them in years.
Shame on that woman for keeping that father away from his children.
Story 1: I'm glad OP didn't listen to her parents and decided to get her children's thoughts on the matter since it was a situation that involved them too. Clearly, all Robert cared about was his own issues and how he could make his life better after his crappy decisions. Isabella also deserves a boot up her ass for thinking she had any right to accuse OP of anything. Delusional.
Story 2: the fact that no one thought to do a DNA test in the beginning and just decided blaming OP was the way to go shows that whole family is trash. I support OP for not letting his family back into his life considering they were content to treat him as the problem when it was the parents who screwed up. I don't even think they realize how close OP was to actually dying from his depression because of them. Those parents and siblings are pathetic and should be ashamed.
OP is a beautiful and resilient family woman. I pray her life keeps getting better
2nd story: a paternity test should have solved it at day 1. Why did it took them 3yrs?? OP is also an adult and working. This is crazy 🤦♀️🤦♂️🤦
Daddy issues makes you an artist
Mommy issues makes you a poet
Idk where i heard this but its funny how true i always find it
How the hell are you gonna forgive your cheating spouse but shun the child you raised who did nothing wrong???
Imagine blaming a child for an affair. Poor OP2 was a scapegoat.
I was thinking the hot woman he left them for would be a romance scammer.
In a sense she was. Being a gambling addict she just wanted him for his money, then when that was all gone he went crawling back to his family that he abandoned just so he could get more money and the house out of them. OP is a good mum for dropping his deadbeat ass and supporting her kids.
My 6 year old daughter said the same thing to my parents.
If you have gotten through all the crises without help, then you no longer need help when you are out of the hole.
Decisions have consequences, always be aware of that, maybe it will take 5-6 years before you want to open the door again, but some doors are closed forever
It is absolutely batshit how people will blame the child for the affair, and even more so they didn’t even do a paternity test?
What the parents of the 2 story wasn't justified. Even if he wasn't the biological son, no one should treat a child you raised differently. If you start to treat them differently it means you don't care about children, you have no empathy and shouldn't be a parent
Robert. You should be able to get 8 years of child support out of that guy.