Great video. Yep day 78ish and have made the shift. I dont miss numbing out/crap sleep/moodiness and hangovers. I love the fact of being 'present' when i play sports and socialise. Must admit i am afraid the old feelings come back to want a drink but so far so good. Thankyou for these videos they help so much
Could you do video on self medicating. Everyone associates drinking with partying and it's rare you hear about the person alone in a room, isolated and trying to numb themselves
Mine had 45 days sober. He wasn’t working any sort of “program”. Just stopped after a his 4th stay in the hospital in 3 years. He started back up after a fight we had. He is now in the bargaining stage. He goes back in forth of wanting to stop completely to staying to drinking weekend only. He had mentioned medication that has curbed alcohol use. Has anyone had success with it and should I encourage it?
My most desired goal of recovery is how to show up healthy in my relationships to include ❤with myself, with my adult children ❤, friends, coworkers and family.
I know an addict in recovery who has a mantra of "real life is ALWAYS better". - "real life" meaning life experienced without being under the influence of drugs or alcohol. - where "real life" is an adventure that's always worth taking, exploring, and discovering. Some other mantras are; "Today is an adventure." "Show up for the great adventure that is your life". He has lots of mantras individually written on yellow post it notes that cover the front of his fridge (in neat little rows). It's actually a really useful and a great idea. I call it "The Fridge of Wisdom"! 😸😁
@@PutTheShovelDown Hi Amber!🤗 My friend looks at it first thing every morning and says "which one do I need today?" And it's funny because I've seen him do it and he does it with such childlike enthusiasm, excitement, eagerness and positivity. 😂😁 To watch him do it is to think "we ALL need a Fridge of Wisdom!" 👍🤔😁
My addiction is to my husband who lies, cheats and is doing drugs now and is wrong for me. I’m going to Al- anon to fix this and it helps alot but I can see that I’m seeing very little effort on my husband’s part as enough to stay in the relationship because secretly I can’t or don’t want to let go.
I wish I had a partner I could trust in every way. I wish I had a partner I could be generous to, and my love would be appreciated. With my addict, all I ever get is how mean I am and I'm not nice enough. Meanwhile he betrays me at every opportunity - toying with my sanity. Addiction is very different from being diabetic. Diabetics don't steal cash to buy more insulin and then yell at you and say its your fault. I'm hurting so much right now.
Susan don't put up with that! Kick them out or cut them off. If he is betraying you he will continue doing so until you set a boundary and say 'no more'.
I've got some subtle addictions that are still stealing finances. It's not complex, but it is. 1 choice is all it is.......and a clear mindset. It can be draining to maintain constant awareness of the correct mindset and easy to slide backward to our undesired behavior. On another note, My mommy took care of things for me as I raised a child alone. Over the years, I have conditioned my mind to believe that if I could do it on my own, then my mommy would not be doing it in the 1st place. That is the "confirmation bias". Correct?
What happens when you’re missing out on your 6 yr olds life b/c you’re sleeping all the time? And after 3 yrs of sobriety he’s still sleeping and uninterested? And the mom is using to keep up and do the job of both parents and spends the most time with their boy? There doesn’t seem to be any missing out b/c although she uses a “small amount” each day, she always has it. It remains to work for her. IF/WHEN she doesnt have it, she’ll realize, but what if there’s no depravation b/c she ‘hasn’t lost the joy.’ Her husband is still waiting for the shift after 3 years. He’s miserable but refuses to go back to it Meth&subutex
I’m so happy I made the shift. ❤
So proud of you! 💝
Truly hope that you're still enjoying being the proper you that you were always meant to be! 💪☯️
Great video. Yep day 78ish and have made the shift. I dont miss numbing out/crap sleep/moodiness and hangovers. I love the fact of being 'present' when i play sports and socialise. Must admit i am afraid the old feelings come back to want a drink but so far so good. Thankyou for these videos they help so much
Could you do video on self medicating. Everyone associates drinking with partying and it's rare you hear about the person alone in a room, isolated and trying to numb themselves
Glad i listened to this. Day 1 tomorrow
10:38 to 12:47 I want to play this section over and over again. The crux of the biscuit right here!
"the crux of the biscuit"....I haven't heard that one before! Love it!!!!! I might have to steal that one from you 🥐🥐🥐🥐🥯🥯🍩🍩🧇🧇
Extremely enlightening! Thank you for these brilliant analyses!
Thanks for saying it was a brilliant analysis! 😁😮
Thanks! I'm so appreciative of all of the helpful content you share.
My pleasure. So glad it was helpful!
Mine had 45 days sober. He wasn’t working any sort of “program”. Just stopped after a his 4th stay in the hospital in 3 years. He started back up after a fight we had. He is now in the bargaining stage. He goes back in forth of wanting to stop completely to staying to drinking weekend only. He had mentioned medication that has curbed alcohol use. Has anyone had success with it and should I encourage it?
Yes I’m struggling to give up alcohol, and struggling to even believe I really have a problem 😔
Same; we got this
Great 1st impression on me with this video
Thanks!
This hits his belief on the head. He says it makes him happy and is his choice and life.
Wow, that is so inspiring!
Ahhhh thanks Deborah!
More excellence & motivation! 💕
Thanks Fred!
My most desired goal of recovery is how to show up healthy in my relationships to include ❤with myself, with my adult children ❤, friends, coworkers and family.
Love this!!! ⭐⭐⭐⭐
I know an addict in recovery who has a mantra of "real life is ALWAYS better".
- "real life" meaning life experienced without being under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
- where "real life" is an adventure that's always worth taking, exploring, and discovering.
Some other mantras are;
"Today is an adventure."
"Show up for the great adventure that is your life".
He has lots of mantras individually written on yellow post it notes that cover the front of his fridge (in neat little rows). It's actually a really useful and a great idea. I call it "The Fridge of Wisdom"! 😸😁
"The Fridge of Wisdom" - Love it! 💯😁⭐
@@PutTheShovelDown Hi Amber!🤗 My friend looks at it first thing every morning and says "which one do I need today?" And it's funny because I've seen him do it and he does it with such childlike enthusiasm, excitement, eagerness and positivity. 😂😁
To watch him do it is to think "we ALL need a Fridge of Wisdom!" 👍🤔😁
My addiction is to my husband who lies, cheats and is doing drugs now and is wrong for me. I’m going to Al- anon to fix this and it helps alot but I can see that I’m seeing very little effort on my husband’s part as enough to stay in the relationship because secretly I can’t or don’t want to let go.
I wish I had a partner I could trust in every way. I wish I had a partner I could be generous to, and my love would be appreciated. With my addict, all I ever get is how mean I am and I'm not nice enough. Meanwhile he betrays me at every opportunity - toying with my sanity.
Addiction is very different from being diabetic. Diabetics don't steal cash to buy more insulin and then yell at you and say its your fault.
I'm hurting so much right now.
Susan don't put up with that! Kick them out or cut them off. If he is betraying you he will continue doing so until you set a boundary and say 'no more'.
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So many false believes 😠😣😞 ...
in so many important matters ...
Time to find out the truth ✌️🙌🏼🙏.
Works for family members as well!
Confirmation bias comes from our reticular activating system.
That's right!
I've got some subtle addictions that are still stealing finances.
It's not complex, but it is. 1 choice is all it is.......and a clear mindset.
It can be draining to maintain constant awareness of the correct mindset and easy to slide backward to our undesired behavior.
On another note,
My mommy took care of things for me as I raised a child alone.
Over the years, I have conditioned my mind to believe that if I could do it on my own, then my mommy would not be doing it in the 1st place.
That is the "confirmation bias". Correct?
I think most addicts are aware that if they quit their destructive behavior that their life will be better. At least in that aspect.
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Really well explained!
Yo Amber!!!
Thanks Mary 😁😁🙏🏻
Do you think this is something that can be shared with my addicted love one
As long as they believe they have an addiction and would like to change
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What happens when you’re missing out on your 6 yr olds life b/c you’re sleeping all the time? And after 3 yrs of sobriety he’s still sleeping and uninterested? And the mom is using to keep up and do the job of both parents and spends the most time with their boy? There doesn’t seem to be any missing out b/c although she uses a “small amount” each day, she always has it. It remains to work for her. IF/WHEN she doesnt have it, she’ll realize, but what if there’s no depravation b/c she ‘hasn’t lost the joy.’ Her husband is still waiting for the shift after 3 years. He’s miserable but refuses to go back to it Meth&subutex
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Thanks Eileen!
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