My mom never spoke bad about my dad either. She was like Loni’s mom, lets focus on who loves you and wants to be in your life. She let me come to my own conclusion about how I feel about my dad. This whole baby mama baby daddy culture is so whack, and the exposing on social media is played out. Like what’s the point? It’s just whack
@@Prince_the_One but you don't have a put the video on socal media. The internet never forgets. That video is going to be online forever. It's traumatising for the child at such a young age, the don't understand complexity (like Tamara says).
Even still at the end of the day the child will know everything. A child that grows up with love will see the difference between the parent that’s there and the parent that isn’t. The child will see all the bad and make the decision themselves
Great response and I hope that you are able to make your own bond with your father even if not I'm glad you were surrounded by positive people so that you can respond to such a mature away as you just did much love and respect
We all know she wasn't talking about a birth control pill lol I'm almost certain some1 back stage told her something n that little earpiece they all where. Like clean up that statement nd say birth control pill. There not tryna push abortion pills which is understandable.
It’s so sad how the child wants to see her dad but the father doesn’t want to see her and honestly I believe the mother should’ve just said the dad was busy and explain more to her as she grows
As hard as it is your baby comes first. That baby is way to young. She is a baby. You keep your mouth shut and let them grow and learn in their own time support them through it.
@john smith I know. My mom never said anything about my dad. All she did was hold me up and remind me my feels are valid. That's how we should be handling those situations.
@john smith an I thank her for that because she taught me how not to be bitter. When we involved our babies in our adult issues we teach them to let another person's behavior control their response and we teach them it's okay to let another person hold the key to our happiness and or self worth. Girlfriend needs to sit down with her friends and her family get some love and remember no one holds her or her babies happiness but her.
@@forevergoddessqueen4404 okay? That's just how it goes sometimes. Yes it hurts but she will grow and learn. Sometimes we have to be the bad guys for our children. They need somewhere safe to put their hurt. But never ever involve children in adult situations.
@@bitch1780 as someone who been through this (as the child) i can tell just biting your tough saying your not just playing the bad guy your letting him off the hook as the child grow you can explain things but since of distrust could be there like " what if she lying " or " she could hiding something from me" won't matter you say until she hears it from dad.
My mom never bashed my dad. Didnt even bash my step mother and now as an adult, I have double love and respect for her. She was a rock and she was able to put her feelings aside to protect our emotional and mental health.
I honestly think when a child’s mind is so innocent and angel like... you don’t want to dim the light inside of them by telling them news that could possibly hurt them... but that woman right there had absolutely NO right to one tell her daughter such s terrible thing that could deeply hurt her... yes children deserve explanations but they have to come to terms on their own if they want to know that information... if she wants to , she will ask... but don’t vent to her like she’s s girlfriend that you’re hurt... he should be taking care of his daughter but calling him out on social media isn’t gonna help either...
I feel so bad for the baby. She looks really young. But I also understand the mother. My son is 5 and his dad will do good. Come and get him or see him every weekend or throughout the week and then he'll go months and not see him or barely call. My son even though he's 5 is starting to realize that something isn't right. He is starting to get upset with me. Thinking I'm not calling him thinking that I'm the reason that his dad isn't coming because I didn't text him Or something like that. So now I'm getting blamed for what his dad is not doing. I tried to explain to my son in a nice way that I don't know why daddy does this sometimes he didn't call he's not coming to get you today he said he was coming but he didn't and I'm sorry. I am not responsible for lying to my son as to why his dad isn't coming. Also you can try your hardest to pick the best man to have children with or think that you found somebody who's good to have children with but to be completely honest you do not know what's going to happen once you get pregnant and have that baby. Men will change up on you very quickly. Before I had kids I thought women were so stupid and I would blame them for the reason their baby daddy was so bad. I would say they just need to pick better. But you honestly won't know until it happens.
Catie Jaqua agreed she’s too young let your children be children and explain it to them when they are mature enough to understand. A lot of people as parents feel like that they don’t want to lie to there child. But all they are doing is damaging them ya know. This is so sad.
@@sumayachannel6966 i was talking after it happened... there are times we do things not anticipating the full results on other people and ourselves.. I dont think that she realized that it would hurt her so much to see her own daughter that sad... I agree that it wasnt right but im speaking about how she felt after doing it
So what else do you expect the mom to say to her daughter? The daughter most likely asks the mom constantly about her dad. She can't lie to the daughter. I was raised by a single mother and a part of me wishes my mom was this blunt. Instead, my mom try to do what she thought was right by allowing me to fantasizes about my dad. So it was more hurtful when I had to experience the truth about him. Either way, there is no way to protect that child's innocence.
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My mom raised my like amara. She let me see my dad’s deadbeat aspects and make the conclusions on my own. She never spoke poorly about my dad. Mothers/fathers should never speak ill about the absent parent. Let the child form their own opinions. Thank you
I have to commend my mother for always being honest with me. She allowed me to SEE for myself and then helped me process that. That’s so important. It teaches you not to chase after people that don’t want you. It teaches you to cope with being unwanted- even by your parent.
I agree with everything that they was saying but what about the single dads? I was completely brought up by my dad and it was so hard for him. He use to cook clean and go to a full time job with 4 children. I have to respect the single parents as a whole tbh 👍🏽❤️
My sister and i was also brought up by my dad. I'm glad so glad we chose him because my mother was toxic and only loved herself. So since we didn't chose to live with her when she asked us who'd we live with if her and my dad divorced. She was packing up and told my sister and I point blank I don't love you and leave me alone. Then left us. My dad worked so hard for us. He even rode his bike to work which was in the next two cities over and worked 10 hours then rode back home just to keep his job. Plus take care of us.
Silver Oasis How many men are single dads? There are way more single moms hence why they mention them plus they are women so can only speak from their perspective esp Loni & Amara who were raised by a single mom not dad
I love how people are always saying single mums do things for yourself. Its talking from privilege. I couldn't afford a sitter and had no one willing to help .
Agreed!! But I love her and feel for her especially with this topic. I wonder who her makeup artist is because loni is simply better than this. She’s better than this y’all.
🤣🤣🤣Omg I was wondering if the makeup artist left the baking part without brushing it off. I can't believe she didn't check herself on the mirror before going on the show. Lol
I'm in the same situation however, I never allow my child to hear my conversation with her father. If she asks for him and we call and he does not answer I change the subject and allow her to call her paw paw or uncle that will always answer her call and that makes her smile. So it's not about lying to your child but being honest at their age level. Never talk negative about your child's father or mother, their actions will show that child who they really are.
@@filmadcamp1512 Tamara’s life was very sheltered. She needs more life experience because as I watch old clips, she’s just naive to certain things and she wouldn’t be relatable. She may give good advice but it would be too boring and too perfect and she wouldn’t be able to draw from anything because life has been pretty much perfect for her.
wow.. Loni really made me emotional when she said she feels for the single mother... as a single mother, it is hard. I am lucky though , that I have family who is there for me and my son. He is 11 years old now, top of his grade, does sports, volunteers does magic.. he is an amazing child. So even without a father in his life.. he isn't missing out on anything, as he has male role models, good male role models who he looks up to.
No no no no! She is too young!!!! That is grown folks business. It's tough to feel like ”daddy doesn't love me” That is a conversation she can have with her mom or close girlfriend but not the baby. Momma needs a hug and reassurance that everything is alright. Check out #NevilleGoddard We make choices based on where we are in life and she needs to accept her choice and not beat herself up for making it. Focus on being the best mother and provider for her daughter as her actions will speak volumes. She now has to replace the feeling of rejection in her daughter with the stronger feelingS of LOVE & ACCEPTANCE in order to quickly facilitate healing in both of them. Much live to mommy and baby❤️
Elle D I understand what you're saying here. His actions over time will show her who he is. Her mother does not have to speak or call him. It is her mother's actions of ”chasing” him that may plant the seeds of her ”chasing” men who don't love her.
I feel that if the dad truly doesn’t want to be there for the child then I don’t think I’d even want her to be around him. Because if he’s forced to then she might even feel that love that a child should from a parent. I guess I agree with just showering the kid with love to at least mask that void. And I agree with honesty as well but cmon there’s an extent. yes the world is cruel but it doesn’t mean they should feel that from birth, let them keep their innocence for a while
I appreciated my moms transparency and honesty with my dad. She always told me to love him despite his faults and that he loved me but needed to love himself in order to heal and recover. But I never held any negativity towards my father or my mother bc I knew the truth, I saw it.
Start having the conversation as early as possible. Talk to them on their level. My daughter was 6 and asked me why I didn't like her dad and I told her. I also told her dont let how I feel about him effect how you want to deal and feel about him. She said ok and haven't brought it up since. She knows the truth and have for a while
I don’t have kids but I can understand how hard it can be to watch your child continue to love someone that doesn’t really want to be apart of their life like they should be to watch a child be loyal to an adult that’s not so loyal to them and it so happens to be their father that’s very painful I’m sure and so unfair to the child or children and as a mother that must be almost unbearable to witness without saying anything bad about the father when it’s the truth
No Jeannie. Don't teach your kids to always want to be happy because that's all they will chase, happiness is fleeting. Teach them to have joy in every situation, happiness is icing. Joy is the cake.
Nah, just love your kids and manage your emotional breakdowns. Mental health intact. Stay off of social media, everybody craves attention. We get it, but stop.
Nonono! Please make sure this girl does'nt feel responsible for her father not wanting to see her. IT'S NOT her responsibility or FAULT and she should'nt cry about her father not being there. Her mother should instead turn it around and learn her child to embrace and celebrate having a mother, who's there for her. You can only do you - not others. Talking from experience!
Women need to take responsibility for getting pregnant for pathetic men to begin with. If you see red flags in someone then dont lay down with them to begin with.
U do realize men play along acting like they are responsible...then when they find out you're pregnant they leave. Men need to take responsibility for who they get pregnant. Stop messing with ppls lives.
jevin june if she is a bad mother what is the father? It seems like the child keeps asking for daddy and the father refuses. Could it be that she was frustrated at the hurt the child feels by the constant rejection of the father? Come on man
Averil Williams I don’t know if the child is asking for the father, but it would seem to me that in most situations women chase the man away, and the men don’t know how to deal so they bail. I can’t judge the father, and neither can anyone else because his actions aren’t on display, but the mothers is, and she doesn’t exhibit good judgement.
My mom spoke bad about my dad for years. Lucky for me my stepmom always came to pick me up during the weekend to spend time with my dad. Even if he didn't spend much time with me I was happy to see that my mom had lied. That is one of the reasons I have a great relationship with my dad today. So I'll always be greatful for my amazing step mom🥰
As someone who has experienced this first hand there are ways to handle this that will preserve the self esteem of the child. Telling a child that their father doesn’t want to be in their life like that is damaging, and personally the mother was making it about her and not the child in that moment. When a ‘man’ walks away from their child, let them. That’s their cross to bear, not yours! The focus from then on is to ensure that child does not suffer as a result of other people’s poor choices. Keep it moving and take care of the child as best as possible because they did not ask to be here and they deserve to be loved and taking care of, not told that they are inadequate. That was complete projection on the mother’s part. Sad!
Well speaking from my experience with a single mom. She was busy doing two full time jobs day and night so my grandma raised me mostly. Back then I didnt know my mom was my mom. I just thought she was someone who is that scary principle with the ruler walking down the hall back in the day. I grew up in a house that the only person who showed me intimate caring love was my grandma and sometimes my uncles but they were in their 20’s so they weren’t in the house as much. My big sis and I were only with each other with my grandma most of my childhood because everyone else in the house is busy working or being busy with social entertainment. I kind of understand Loni in a sense that it’s hard for single moms out there, I can relate to that, now knowing how much my mom worked her ass off to save a lot of money for her kids future. I also can relate to what that mom in the video was trying to do because it’s reality and when I started to understand sentences and words that’s when my mom and grandma both let me know all the time that my dad left my big sis and I because he was poor and didn’t love us enough to stay and work his ass off. Constant reminder of that. So I grew up with an invisible wall of hatred towards my dad. I gave him three chances to meet my big sis and I after many years so we could reconnect and he never showed up or said to my grandma that he was busy he couldn’t make it. My mom always told me he was a drunk, smoker, and only cared about playing music at the vietnamese bar. I witnessed with my own eyes that my dad didn’t care about his kids and that he chose music and entertainment over his kids. To top it all off now my dad is trying to reconnect with my big sis, he didnt bother to add me on facebook because I had already said to my grandma to tell him, I’m done with him, I gave gave him three chances and he bailed out on all three, why should I give him any other chances. My big sister didn’t mind to reconnect but we grew up in America and my dad doesn’t speak much english so my big sis has a hard time texting in vietnamese so the convo gets awkward. Mind you last time we spoke to him was in 2010-2011, it’s 2020, still no response. It’s good to let your kids witness and know that their dad doesn’t love them but let them see rather than hear it constantly from a young age. Actions speak louder.
That is cruel, no child should know if a father doesn't want to see them. The mother should never have put her child in that position. Growing up my mum would never do that even though my biological father was flakey she let me figure that out by myself and just made sure she was there supporting me and that she was present with love.
So sad and our whole society is negatively affected and children are growing up all bent and twisty not having thier Dad like they should. These men in general need to STAND UP and parent the children they are bringing into the world. Absent dead beat dads are shameless losers and they cost all of us dearly emotionally
La negra and I have more in common than I thought. My mom was always honest with me about my father and always told me when I would get older I would see for my own and make my own judgement. And that’s what I did... the hardest thing but it made me stronger. My mom is my MOTHER AND FATHER 👏👏❤️
Every child is different. My son and 2 daughters were when it came to their Dad. My son was totally devastated when his Dad didn't come around but his sister's wasn't. I tried for many years to sugar cost what his Dad did to him and made him feel. Evenually, I had to explain it to him but the girls never cared or at least didn't ask so they never heard nothing negative about him. I think I owed it to my son to tell the truth, than to keep letting his Dad hurt him. My son just turned 18 about a week ago and he talks to his Dad on HIS terms.....NOT mine or his Dad's B.S. ijs
My Mom was honest with me about my father not wanting to be a part of my life and I appreciate that. Now, as an adult, I know how to deal with him and men who do not have relationships with their children. I also love my black Husband to pieces so if my Mom did the wrong thing, I can't see it.
My daughters dad hasnt been involved in her life since she was 3 or 4 years old shes 11 years old now and I had not ever spoken bad about him I just told her he will always love you but let's focus on us and be successful it's hard as a mother because all you want is to make your child happy but its life sometimes I dont think it is never a good time to tell ur child about their father just to be honest in a way for them to learn and understand maybe pit a cartoon that they like that they can understand their situation in a way if that makes sense God bless the little baby girl ❤❤❤😢😢😢😢
I literally relate with Loni here my mum did the same for me as well never spoke bad about dad even thou things got hard sometimes at the end of the day am always to love my mum forever. 😭
I agree the child was young and may not have fully understood, however, I think it’s important to be honest with your kids and tell them the truth. Sugar coating things or lying to avoid the truth doesn’t help either. Also, posting situations like that on social media never help
That's too much for a baby/kid to handle... I know what I'm talking about as a child who was kind of my mom confident. It breaks you as an adult... you feel responsible for your mother... You almost feel guilty for everything....
A child at that age is too young to be saying that. I consider that to be a form of parental alienation. We didn’t hear the convo with the dad just hers with her daughter. There’s always two sides to a story.
Should have called him live and proved him saying that Instead of using a kid that is trained to listen to its mother and obey. Me personally I need to see proof
I don't think any mom should bash the dad which is half of the daughter or son. And come on! The kid was still in a car seat... she was coming from a spiteful, vengeful, scorned place and NOT a place of compassion and reasoning. She planned all of that of course....
Ladies are you saying that mothers should lie to their children? I’ve seen mothers buy gifts for their children and put their fathers name on it, the child idolizes him and has an unreal expectation of the fathers. When that child grows up and try’s to connect to the absent parent, there’s usually rejection which leads to anger and resentment.
When my daughters dad acts out of pocket i and doesn't answer. I say daddy is in a meeting baby he cant talk right now. Lucky for me she just says ok and moves on.
A man will leave you with children even if you've been married for 5,10,15,20 years, you can never be careful enough with the kind of person you have kids with.
We as women especially black women should strive to be married before having kids. I believe men will be more emotionally attached to be a father once they are married. (Not saying there are absent minded married fathers though)
My mom didn't have to say anything because my sisters and I saw it, unfortunately. Just like I did, my son is seeing the same. Sometimes, you don't have to say anything because the child will see it for themselves eventually, whether it's good or bad. Kids are smart and notice EVERYTHING. However, there are plenty of moms who were married but got a divorce. All single moms didn't have kids out of wedlock just to put it that out there.
They missed the entire point once again. The website was made to protect women from predators and men that could potentially harm someone. It’s not talking about how bad they were at the date...
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My mom never spoke bad about my dad either. She was like Loni’s mom, lets focus on who loves you and wants to be in your life. She let me come to my own conclusion about how I feel about my dad. This whole baby mama baby daddy culture is so whack, and the exposing on social media is played out. Like what’s the point? It’s just whack
Sometimes it's best to let a child know if your partner is rotten to protect them and save them some heartache, but only when they're old enough.
@@Prince_the_One but you don't have a put the video on socal media. The internet never forgets. That video is going to be online forever. It's traumatising for the child at such a young age, the don't understand complexity (like Tamara says).
Even still at the end of the day the child will know everything. A child that grows up with love will see the difference between the parent that’s there and the parent that isn’t. The child will see all the bad and make the decision themselves
I agree! It’s crazy to me how immature people are who are raising children. Why would you do that? Why record that?
Great response and I hope that you are able to make your own bond with your father even if not I'm glad you were surrounded by positive people so that you can respond to such a mature away as you just did much love and respect
“I meant a birth control pill”😂😂💀💀loni good to be more specific
We all know she wasn't talking about a birth control pill lol
I'm almost certain some1 back stage told her something n that little earpiece they all where. Like clean up that statement nd say birth control pill. There not tryna push abortion pills which is understandable.
It’s so sad how the child wants to see her dad but the father doesn’t want to see her and honestly I believe the mother should’ve just said the dad was busy and explain more to her as she grows
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Layla Green agreed! I do not believe in lying to the child but you have to wait until the child is able to understand and process.
As hard as it is your baby comes first. That baby is way to young. She is a baby. You keep your mouth shut and let them grow and learn in their own time support them through it.
@john smith I know. My mom never said anything about my dad. All she did was hold me up and remind me my feels are valid. That's how we should be handling those situations.
@john smith an I thank her for that because she taught me how not to be bitter. When we involved our babies in our adult issues we teach them to let another person's behavior control their response and we teach them it's okay to let another person hold the key to our happiness and or self worth. Girlfriend needs to sit down with her friends and her family get some love and remember no one holds her or her babies happiness but her.
But, then the child feels like mommy is mean.
@@forevergoddessqueen4404 okay? That's just how it goes sometimes. Yes it hurts but she will grow and learn. Sometimes we have to be the bad guys for our children. They need somewhere safe to put their hurt. But never ever involve children in adult situations.
@@bitch1780 as someone who been through this (as the child) i can tell just biting your tough saying your not just playing the bad guy your letting him off the hook as the child grow you can explain things but since of distrust could be there like " what if she lying " or " she could hiding something from me" won't matter you say until she hears it from dad.
My mom never bashed my dad. Didnt even bash my step mother and now as an adult, I have double love and respect for her. She was a rock and she was able to put her feelings aside to protect our emotional and mental health.
What did your step mother do ?
Amen! Round of applause for your mother 👏
I didn't get a long with my oldest son's father. But we got a long for my son. And I never said a negative thing about his father to him.
I honestly think when a child’s mind is so innocent and angel like... you don’t want to dim the light inside of them by telling them news that could possibly hurt them... but that woman right there had absolutely NO right to one tell her daughter such s terrible thing that could deeply hurt her... yes children deserve explanations but they have to come to terms on their own if they want to know that information... if she wants to , she will ask... but don’t vent to her like she’s s girlfriend that you’re hurt... he should be taking care of his daughter but calling him out on social media isn’t gonna help either...
I feel so bad for the baby. She looks really young. But I also understand the mother. My son is 5 and his dad will do good. Come and get him or see him every weekend or throughout the week and then he'll go months and not see him or barely call. My son even though he's 5 is starting to realize that something isn't right. He is starting to get upset with me. Thinking I'm not calling him thinking that I'm the reason that his dad isn't coming because I didn't text him Or something like that. So now I'm getting blamed for what his dad is not doing. I tried to explain to my son in a nice way that I don't know why daddy does this sometimes he didn't call he's not coming to get you today he said he was coming but he didn't and I'm sorry. I am not responsible for lying to my son as to why his dad isn't coming.
Also you can try your hardest to pick the best man to have children with or think that you found somebody who's good to have children with but to be completely honest you do not know what's going to happen once you get pregnant and have that baby. Men will change up on you very quickly. Before I had kids I thought women were so stupid and I would blame them for the reason their baby daddy was so bad. I would say they just need to pick better. But you honestly won't know until it happens.
Disgusting. How dare you let that child hear that her father “doesn’t want to come get her.”
Catie Jaqua agreed she’s too young let your children be children and explain it to them when they are mature enough to understand. A lot of people as parents feel like that they don’t want to lie to there child. But all they are doing is damaging them ya know. This is so sad.
@@EvolutionofJaide the mother sound in pain as well. she didn't feel good after it happened
@@sumayachannel6966 i was talking after it happened... there are times we do things not anticipating the full results on other people and ourselves.. I dont think that she realized that it would hurt her so much to see her own daughter that sad... I agree that it wasnt right but im speaking about how she felt after doing it
She’s going to find out anyways
So what else do you expect the mom to say to her daughter? The daughter most likely asks the mom constantly about her dad. She can't lie to the daughter.
I was raised by a single mother and a part of me wishes my mom was this blunt. Instead, my mom try to do what she thought was right by allowing me to fantasizes about my dad. So it was more hurtful when I had to experience the truth about him.
Either way, there is no way to protect that child's innocence.
Oh wow Loni’s makeup. Is she still baking? She should’ve had Amara’s makeup artist do her makeup.
ItsEkcho agreed! It’s too much, a lighter hand was much needed.
ItsEkcho, Forget the makeup what about that blouse... 😳
It looks like she has it done at a funeral home. Don’t they have handlers to make sure she doesn’t go out looking like that.
Lol..i eas thinkjng the same thing
Her makeup always looks grey to me.
Why do her co-workers let Loni be on tv with makeup like this?? I was hoping she wouldn’t cry
😂😂😂
Yeah she's coffin ready
Cos her policy is If I dint ask, don't tell me.. So they are letting her be her..
She need a new team.
They did not blend out the setting powder 🤦♀️
I miss when Jeannie can talk freely like she did after Tamar and now with Amanda she’s back to be a lot more quiet🙄
Is this observation true? I just blissfully watch the show and don't really notice these things. Am I the only one not seeing this?
@john smith She's not really quiet though.
@john smithTrue, Amanda is quite brilliant
@john smith I think if you're truly inquisitive, curious, thirsty for knowledge and change for the better, you would welcome Amanda's addition to the crew with open arms and excitement. I can't wait to see what 2020 holds for The Real with this lovely gal...☺
john smith Logical? Lol the same woman who bring race into everything and bought up Jillian black child when discussing Lizzos obesity lmao
My mom raised my like amara. She let me see my dad’s deadbeat aspects and make the conclusions on my own. She never spoke poorly about my dad.
Mothers/fathers should never speak ill about the absent parent. Let the child form their own opinions. Thank you
I have to commend my mother for always being honest with me. She allowed me to SEE for myself and then helped me process that. That’s so important. It teaches you not to chase after people that don’t want you. It teaches you to cope with being unwanted- even by your parent.
They are talking about something serious but y’all wanna talk about loni makeup 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Right!
I agree with everything that they was saying but what about the single dads? I was completely brought up by my dad and it was so hard for him. He use to cook clean and go to a full time job with 4 children. I have to respect the single parents as a whole tbh 👍🏽❤️
My sister and i was also brought up by my dad. I'm glad so glad we chose him because my mother was toxic and only loved herself. So since we didn't chose to live with her when she asked us who'd we live with if her and my dad divorced. She was packing up and told my sister and I point blank I don't love you and leave me alone. Then left us. My dad worked so hard for us. He even rode his bike to work which was in the next two cities over and worked 10 hours then rode back home just to keep his job. Plus take care of us.
Heather s He probably made u girls cook and clean that’s what single dads do when they have girls
Silver Oasis How many men are single dads? There are way more single moms hence why they mention them plus they are women so can only speak from their perspective esp Loni & Amara who were raised by a single mom not dad
@@user-nq6um4bs5y No actually he cooked and he'd let us cook with him.
They're talking about single parent, they use mom because majority single parent are women.
This will scar the child for life. So immature to involve a young innocent child to a complicated adult issues. Grow up
Elle D is we am bck v cc
I love how people are always saying single mums do things for yourself. Its talking from privilege. I couldn't afford a sitter and had no one willing to help .
Yep, horrible!!! I would never let my future kids know that!! I would shield them
they did horrible on lonis makeup
Simlicity09 terrible
Too much banana powder
Simlicity09 They be doing her wrong
Simlicity09 okay that’s what I was thinking. They didn’t brush off her setting powder.... ugh that makes me so mad because she is so beautiful!
Agreed!! But I love her and feel for her especially with this topic. I wonder who her makeup artist is because loni is simply better than this. She’s better than this y’all.
Back when Loni’s MUA had her looking like a ghost 👻
That under eye baking
It's awful I'm suprised nobody said anything to her the WHOLE show about it
@@Bitch_I_Aint_Friendly not real friends
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🤣🤣🤣Omg I was wondering if the makeup artist left the baking part without brushing it off. I can't believe she didn't check herself on the mirror before going on the show. Lol
I'm in the same situation however, I never allow my child to hear my conversation with her father. If she asks for him and we call and he does not answer I change the subject and allow her to call her paw paw or uncle that will always answer her call and that makes her smile. So it's not about lying to your child but being honest at their age level. Never talk negative about your child's father or mother, their actions will show that child who they really are.
Amara is sooo beautiful.
Aahh so refreshing without Amanda. Miss that
Oh well get over it!
Same I just cant vibe with her
@@karman8229 y'all can get over it she is not going any where!
Pretty Nikki Moore I know that, that’s why I’m leavin
devon bell right lol
Agreed with Loni, be careful with who you have kids. For sure!
Men too like some of these rappers, with all these baby mamas lol
Tamera is sooo classy. She needs her own show.
I love Tamera but she would be boring to watch by herself.
bookishnatural she has a RUclips
FilMAD Camp kind of agreed even though she’s my absolute favorite. I think it’s because she’s always playing it safe.
I love Tamera 🙂 but she has help and money and it’s not the same, so there’s no comparison.
@@filmadcamp1512 Tamara’s life was very sheltered. She needs more life experience because as I watch old clips, she’s just naive to certain things and she wouldn’t be relatable. She may give good advice but it would be too boring and too perfect and she wouldn’t be able to draw from anything because life has been pretty much perfect for her.
wow.. Loni really made me emotional when she said she feels for the single mother... as a single mother, it is hard. I am lucky though , that I have family who is there for me and my son. He is 11 years old now, top of his grade, does sports, volunteers does magic.. he is an amazing child. So even without a father in his life.. he isn't missing out on anything, as he has male role models, good male role models who he looks up to.
I know you probably will not see this, but well done on your job as a mother! Make sure to take of yourself too lovely.
No no no no! She is too young!!!! That is grown folks business. It's tough to feel like ”daddy doesn't love me” That is a conversation she can have with her mom or close girlfriend but not the baby.
Momma needs a hug and reassurance that everything is alright. Check out #NevilleGoddard
We make choices based on where we are in life and she needs to accept her choice and not beat herself up for making it.
Focus on being the best mother and provider for her daughter as her actions will speak volumes.
She now has to replace the feeling of rejection in her daughter with the stronger feelingS of LOVE & ACCEPTANCE in order to quickly facilitate healing in both of them.
Much live to mommy and baby❤️
Elle D I understand what you're saying here. His actions over time will show her who he is. Her mother does not have to speak or call him. It is her mother's actions of ”chasing” him that may plant the seeds of her ”chasing” men who don't love her.
The one lady on the show that ever wore type 4hair❤
I feel that if the dad truly doesn’t want to be there for the child then I don’t think I’d even want her to be around him. Because if he’s forced to then she might even feel that love that a child should from a parent. I guess I agree with just showering the kid with love to at least mask that void. And I agree with honesty as well but cmon there’s an extent. yes the world is cruel but it doesn’t mean they should feel that from birth, let them keep their innocence for a while
I appreciated my moms transparency and honesty with my dad. She always told me to love him despite his faults and that he loved me but needed to love himself in order to heal and recover. But I never held any negativity towards my father or my mother bc I knew the truth, I saw it.
Start having the conversation as early as possible. Talk to them on their level. My daughter was 6 and asked me why I didn't like her dad and I told her. I also told her dont let how I feel about him effect how you want to deal and feel about him. She said ok and haven't brought it up since. She knows the truth and have for a while
I don’t have kids but I can understand how hard it can be to watch your child continue to love someone that doesn’t really want to be apart of their life like they should be to watch a child be loyal to an adult that’s not so loyal to them and it so happens to be their father that’s very painful I’m sure and so unfair to the child or children and as a mother that must be almost unbearable to witness without saying anything bad about the father when it’s the truth
Loniiiii, your make-up!!! 👀👀👀
Gisela Machado awwwww, cnt say shyt abt the fact she's not downing blk men huh. Wen all else fails i guess....
And Adrienne is a whole make up artist. Help yo friend.
My mother raised 5 of us and never spoke negative about my dad, I got my own perspective on him
No Jeannie. Don't teach your kids to always want to be happy because that's all they will chase, happiness is fleeting. Teach them to have joy in every situation, happiness is icing. Joy is the cake.
Loveee this yes!!!
Adrienne looks BOMB😍 where’s that dress from grll!
Nah, just love your kids and manage your emotional breakdowns. Mental health intact. Stay off of social media, everybody craves attention. We get it, but stop.
Nonono! Please make sure this girl does'nt feel responsible for her father not wanting to see her. IT'S NOT her responsibility or FAULT and she should'nt cry about her father not being there. Her mother should instead turn it around and learn her child to embrace and celebrate having a mother, who's there for her. You can only do you - not others.
Talking from experience!
Women need to take responsibility for getting pregnant for pathetic men to begin with. If you see red flags in someone then dont lay down with them to begin with.
U do realize men play along acting like they are responsible...then when they find out you're pregnant they leave. Men need to take responsibility for who they get pregnant. Stop messing with ppls lives.
@@kayla_battle women are the gatekeepers of sex, not men
Hold Loni's makeup artist accountable.
This is not a good mother. She lacks judgement in so many ways.
jevin june if she is a bad mother what is the father? It seems like the child keeps asking for daddy and the father refuses. Could it be that she was frustrated at the hurt the child feels by the constant rejection of the father? Come on man
Averil Williams I don’t know if the child is asking for the father, but it would seem to me that in most situations women chase the man away, and the men don’t know how to deal so they bail. I can’t judge the father, and neither can anyone else because his actions aren’t on display, but the mothers is, and she doesn’t exhibit good judgement.
they need to start writing the date the show aired in the description box
chris s long b4 she made her recent comments, n no she's not against blk men
I wouldn't even talk to an 12 y.o. like that. I get that the mom's hurt, but you vent to your friends and sisters with that type of drama.
I definitely agree with loni. Let your kids see people for who they are.
Actions speak louder than words.
PERIOD.
If he ain't there he don't care.
That fro! 💕✨😍
Loni, I got chills!!!! I loved your comment 100 You have a sense for children you should look into that as a way to help children have a voice!!!
This seating arrangement is everything ... wish the produces would switch it back!
Tam looks absolutely stunning!!! Love ya loni
My mom spoke bad about my dad for years. Lucky for me my stepmom always came to pick me up during the weekend to spend time with my dad. Even if he didn't spend much time with me I was happy to see that my mom had lied. That is one of the reasons I have a great relationship with my dad today. So I'll always be greatful for my amazing step mom🥰
As someone who has experienced this first hand there are ways to handle this that will preserve the self esteem of the child. Telling a child that their father doesn’t want to be in their life like that is damaging, and personally the mother was making it about her and not the child in that moment. When a ‘man’ walks away from their child, let them. That’s their cross to bear, not yours! The focus from then on is to ensure that child does not suffer as a result of other people’s poor choices. Keep it moving and take care of the child as best as possible because they did not ask to be here and they deserve to be loved and taking care of, not told that they are inadequate. That was complete projection on the mother’s part. Sad!
Well speaking from my experience with a single mom. She was busy doing two full time jobs day and night so my grandma raised me mostly. Back then I didnt know my mom was my mom. I just thought she was someone who is that scary principle with the ruler walking down the hall back in the day. I grew up in a house that the only person who showed me intimate caring love was my grandma and sometimes my uncles but they were in their 20’s so they weren’t in the house as much. My big sis and I were only with each other with my grandma most of my childhood because everyone else in the house is busy working or being busy with social entertainment. I kind of understand Loni in a sense that it’s hard for single moms out there, I can relate to that, now knowing how much my mom worked her ass off to save a lot of money for her kids future. I also can relate to what that mom in the video was trying to do because it’s reality and when I started to understand sentences and words that’s when my mom and grandma both let me know all the time that my dad left my big sis and I because he was poor and didn’t love us enough to stay and work his ass off. Constant reminder of that. So I grew up with an invisible wall of hatred towards my dad. I gave him three chances to meet my big sis and I after many years so we could reconnect and he never showed up or said to my grandma that he was busy he couldn’t make it. My mom always told me he was a drunk, smoker, and only cared about playing music at the vietnamese bar. I witnessed with my own eyes that my dad didn’t care about his kids and that he chose music and entertainment over his kids. To top it all off now my dad is trying to reconnect with my big sis, he didnt bother to add me on facebook because I had already said to my grandma to tell him, I’m done with him, I gave gave him three chances and he bailed out on all three, why should I give him any other chances. My big sister didn’t mind to reconnect but we grew up in America and my dad doesn’t speak much english so my big sis has a hard time texting in vietnamese so the convo gets awkward. Mind you last time we spoke to him was in 2010-2011, it’s 2020, still no response. It’s good to let your kids witness and know that their dad doesn’t love them but let them see rather than hear it constantly from a young age. Actions speak louder.
Phuoc Trinh .👏🏽👏🏽❣️
Ok this is a serious conversation but oh my god Amaras hair is Gorgeous ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💚❤️❤️💚💚💚❤️❤️💜💜💜💜💜
Tamera got the girls ALLL the way out . . . Well, alrighty then. #YassGurl
Amara is gorgeoussss. Her looks, mind, swag. Love her!
Men if you don't have kids yourself, stay away from single moms. You have been warned.
That is cruel, no child should know if a father doesn't want to see them. The mother should never have put her child in that position.
Growing up my mum would never do that even though my biological father was flakey she let me figure that out by myself and just made sure she was there supporting me and that she was present with love.
I think loni did her own makeup at this point
This is why I don't have kids, and I don't want kids.
Wooow they did Loni dirty!!! 🙈 concealer like 5 shades lighter & that’s definitely a flashback powder 🤦🏼♀️
So sad and our whole society is negatively affected and children are growing up all bent and twisty not having thier Dad like they should. These men in general need to STAND UP and parent the children they are bringing into the world. Absent dead beat dads are shameless losers and they cost all of us dearly emotionally
Susan W. Funny enough most dads are alienated from their kids
Tamara looks FABULOUS
La negra and I have more in common than I thought. My mom was always honest with me about my father and always told me when I would get older I would see for my own and make my own judgement. And that’s what I did... the hardest thing but it made me stronger. My mom is my MOTHER AND FATHER 👏👏❤️
Preach Adrian! women listen this will solve most issues 10:22 is where I need you to really listen
Lonie looks mad. Its like she faking.
Why Lonnie love makeup look like the tin man from the Wizard of Oz? What happened????
Her MUA IS WRONG AF
Every child is different. My son and 2 daughters were when it came to their Dad. My son was totally devastated when his Dad didn't come around but his sister's wasn't. I tried for many years to sugar cost what his Dad did to him and made him feel. Evenually, I had to explain it to him but the girls never cared or at least didn't ask so they never heard nothing negative about him. I think I owed it to my son to tell the truth, than to keep letting his Dad hurt him. My son just turned 18 about a week ago and he talks to his Dad on HIS terms.....NOT mine or his Dad's B.S. ijs
My Mom was honest with me about my father not wanting to be a part of my life and I appreciate that. Now, as an adult, I know how to deal with him and men who do not have relationships with their children. I also love my black Husband to pieces so if my Mom did the wrong thing, I can't see it.
Shes no better then the dad now.
NEVER RELATED TO LONIE LIKE I DID IN THIS POST
The real cast woman ♀️ should own a resolution to resolve issues company
Great conversation!!
When Loni cries it’s so out of knowhere
TheCabIsHeresOhYeah she needs those q tips like wendy williams 😂
That makeup!😬😬
TheCabIsHeresOhYeah *nowhere
Tracey Tracey shut up, it’s fine.
Not really
My daughters dad hasnt been involved in her life since she was 3 or 4 years old shes 11 years old now and I had not ever spoken bad about him I just told her he will always love you but let's focus on us and be successful it's hard as a mother because all you want is to make your child happy but its life sometimes I dont think it is never a good time to tell ur child about their father just to be honest in a way for them to learn and understand maybe pit a cartoon that they like that they can understand their situation in a way if that makes sense God bless the little baby girl ❤❤❤😢😢😢😢
I literally relate with Loni here my mum did the same for me as well never spoke bad about dad even thou things got hard sometimes at the end of the day am always to love my mum forever. 😭
My mom was very real about how my father was when I was young & she was right. He wasn’t in my life, but now he is a hobo.
Honesty is the best policy.
I agree the child was young and may not have fully understood, however, I think it’s important to be honest with your kids and tell them the truth. Sugar coating things or lying to avoid the truth doesn’t help either. Also, posting situations like that on social media never help
Loni spoke the truth!!! Word
That's too much for a baby/kid to handle... I know what I'm talking about as a child who was kind of my mom confident. It breaks you as an adult... you feel responsible for your mother... You almost feel guilty for everything....
A child at that age is too young to be saying that. I consider that to be a form of parental alienation. We didn’t hear the convo with the dad just hers with her daughter. There’s always two sides to a story.
Once again the men initiate the horrible characters they are and the women are blamed for being humans with feelings smh
Should have called him live and proved him saying that Instead of using a kid that is trained to listen to its mother and obey. Me personally I need to see proof
I don't think any mom should bash the dad which is half of the daughter or son. And come on! The kid was still in a car seat... she was coming from a spiteful, vengeful, scorned place and NOT a place of compassion and reasoning. She planned all of that of course....
Ladies are you saying that mothers should lie to their children? I’ve seen mothers buy gifts for their children and put their fathers name on it, the child idolizes him and has an unreal expectation of the fathers. When that child grows up and try’s to connect to the absent parent, there’s usually rejection which leads to anger and resentment.
Lonie is always crying 😢
Love Amara😍. Wish she would have been the permanent cohost instead of Amanda.
When my daughters dad acts out of pocket i and doesn't answer. I say daddy is in a meeting baby he cant talk right now. Lucky for me she just says ok and moves on.
A man will leave you with children even if you've been married for 5,10,15,20 years, you can never be careful enough with the kind of person you have kids with.
This seems that it was filmed so long ago
We as women especially black women should strive to be married before having kids. I believe men will be more emotionally attached to be a father once they are married. (Not saying there are absent minded married fathers though)
Adrienne soooo right
Premarital sex and lack of bonding from the lovers families is the issue...that is the only accountability
I feel like I haven't heard Tamera speak in a long time. I miss her voice
Can we say blend please!
Ronisha Williams apparently Loni’s makeup artist doesn’t know the definition of that word 🤣
My mom didn't have to say anything because my sisters and I saw it, unfortunately. Just like I did, my son is seeing the same. Sometimes, you don't have to say anything because the child will see it for themselves eventually, whether it's good or bad. Kids are smart and notice EVERYTHING.
However, there are plenty of moms who were married but got a divorce. All single moms didn't have kids out of wedlock just to put it that out there.
thanks a lot loni you have me in tears...beautiful advice...kudos to your mom.
Tamera being married and being single are two different experiences, please don't try to compare the two.
Absolutely..
They missed the entire point once again. The website was made to protect women from predators and men that could potentially harm someone. It’s not talking about how bad they were at the date...