Give You The Ick -- Two Hot Takes Podcast Full Ep -- Reddit Stories
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- TW on story about the uncle: Contains talks about SA !!
Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Alejandra. Some of these stories are nightmare fuel and left us feeling a little icky. What are YOUR thoughts on these and were they as bad as we thought?
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Time Stamps:
00:01:53 : Story 1 The Nurse
TW: SA 00:18:31 : Story 2 The Uncle
00:29:44 : 3 y.o in White Dress at a wedding
00:40:04 : BF mad about boob Job
00:56:40 : BF + dog at the vet
01:13:39 : Wife and text message...
Can y’all do an episode that is themed: nobody saw that coming, Just have stories with the most unexpected updates, like shocking updates. Love the podcast keep the wonderful guests and episodes coming.
I'd watch this for sure! Great idea ☺️
Love this idea
Yesss, I so want this to happen!
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Love this idea!
If I may also offer my own suggestion, I also want an episode themed “clap back” where the person the post is about claps back in the comments or makes their own Reddit post.
Okay, the boob job story- throw the whole guy away. Being a woman who actually likes her body and now he’s withholding sexual intimacy from her because of a part of her that she’s confident about? He’s not a man, he’s a child. My heart is with her because she’s always going to have it in the back of her head that someone she liked, didn’t like them.
I have the same opinion
It really pissed me off!!! I felt so triggered. My ex wanted me to get a boob job, too and always made me feel inadequate. I’ve got a 34C so they’re not huge but wtf.
@@KitCat898 ugh that's so awful, I would have told him to get a D*ck job. All men have is the audacity
I've also struggled with my boob size and have considered wanting a reduction. Saying her boobs are "kinda gross" um first of all they're boobs they are not gross (lol). But second that sort of comment will definitely stay with her and she will always feel like the guy that she is with silently judging her. Also the fact that he's refusing to have sex with her or go down on her because of her boobs (???) Is completely stupid and feels a little manipulative. Also him saying he just had too much to drink, as if it makes yelling and kicking her out better? This one got me heated lol
He's a whole men. They met just before she turned 18 (so 17) and he would've been 31-32. very icky
The dog with cancer one pissed me off .
When my girl died I was Howling at the vet, they had to take me out the back door .
I’m sorry for your loss
honestly Alejandra is my all time favorite guest like i’ll even rewatch the episodes with her i value her opinions so much
I literally was on the verge of tears hearing the story about the guy and his dog. I have had to experience my husband putting down his dog, who he has had with him for 13 years. I had to hold back my own tears to allow him his time to grieve and hold her as she passes. A dog/cat or any animal is not just a pet, they are family as you both put it. Loss is loss, pain is pain and I'm so sorry that man did not have the support he needed at that difficult time.
"I've never cried that way, even as a woman" the misogyny is coming from inside the house
I missed Alejandra so much!!! I always like how calm and mature her takes are ✨
I loved this episode, thanks a lot Morgan for making my week AGAIN ♥️
We need a dedicated episode for the absolute queens who leave toxic and/or abusive situations and hearing them thrive ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
im right there with you girl. I caught some nasty flu or something, its not covid because i tested negative but omg im barely getting thu. Thank god you all uploaded. finally something to help sleep through the night XD
It's been rough. Justin's got the vid but I'm still testing negative. Hope you feel better soon!!
I was at the vet one time taking my babies to get their updated shots and heard a woman in the next room sobbing. I quietly asked the veterinary tech If I could do anything for the person next-door I told her if she felt it was necessary she could talk to the person next-door and I could go in there and hold her hand because I had been through what she was going through before. The person next-door asked for me to come sit next to her and I held her hand while she stopped for two or more hours.
Dog story- I've been in some traumatic situations with emotions and there's a difference between feeling your emotions & making a scene. Falling on your knees & sobbing in public when you're on your way to the car is extra af. He straight up denied going to the car or reining it in, it's like he wanted everyone to see it & feel bad for him so he could get some external attention & validation.
Honestly, heard my wife listening and talking about yalls and seemed interesting so I checked out and is hooked! ☺️😁
My brother was flower “girl” at my wedding! He was 18 at the time and loved his role at the wedding! He owned it and I love the memories and pictures!!
About the boob job story: any time I have ever mentioned anything about getting surgery done like that or changing my body drastically, my boyfriend has never ever ever agreed that I need to change. He 100% of the time has told me that he loves me the way I am. If you’re with someone who wants you to change, you’re not with the right person. So proud of this girl for realizing her worth and dumping him
I'm a training medical imaging professional, for the first story I can say that nurse was acting highly unprofessional. Within my area of work we must ask AFAB people form ages 12-55 if there is the possibility or chance of pregnancy for radiation protection purpose. We are trained you respond neutraly to that answer. If a patient asked a question I don't know or cannot answer, I would kindly let them know I am not sure how to answer that question and that it is out of my scope of practice. It's not that hard as a health professionals to act ..... Professionally.
About the dog story,
My dog had to be put down over a year ago due to cancer and old age. I still cry thinking and talking about him. It’s not embarrassing. Grief and hurting takes time to work through and that girlfriend is cold hearted.
If I were the exgf I wouldn’t want the message deleting wife in my child’s life. That would be a major point of contention for me when ironing out what co-parenting together is going to look like going forward once she moves past the anger and accepts the reality that he’s going to have parental rights.
I think he should divorce his wife, I don’t see how it can last now. The daughter is going to ask why she didn’t meet her father before now and they’ll have to explain the truth, your dad’s wife purposely kept him away from you.
For the vet story, I actually had a vet office itself opt to not service me after I had a meltdown over my sick cat. They helped find issues other vets didn’t catch and I was grateful but also heartbroken and stressed. My cat ended up needing to be put down and I wasn’t even allowed to bring my other cat to the one vet that was actually thorough in their treatment.
the dog story............... i'm livid
I've been accused of being an emotionless robot with a heart of stone, multiple times due to the fact that I almost never tear up. That's just the way I am.
However, I could never imagine shaming anyone else for showing their emotions or crying in front of others, especially when faced with losing a pet or loved one. That woman is despicable.
You absolutely can not control how you react to trauma!!!!! I threw up when i found out someone died… should i tell my stomach to chill out?? Omg
THIS FEELS LIKE SUCH A SLUMBER PARTY!!
I can relate to the story of the man crying at the vet. She was definitely the asshole. I was put into a situation like this with my ex and he was sitting on the floor sobbing, head in knees over something that I believed wasn't that "major." HOWEVER, I still got down to my knees and gave him my support since that was what he needed. Just because I feel a certain way about the scenario doesn't mean his feelings are not valid. She needed to read the room a little better lol
Thank you Morgan for also being annoyed if a baby showed up in white to a wedding, whether or not it's something silly for others to comprehend, if it's YOUR wedding (of course, the husband's too) and you don't want others wearing white, that should be that and respected, it's something so simple to follow, I don't understand why it's such a hard thing for people to do and NOT wear
OH MY GOD- the woman in the vet clinic is literally heartless. i guess she has never had to deal with the loss of a pet, or a loss of any kind that’s so cold
- edit -
i suppose people do grieve differently so i don’t see why she was so embarrassed by his emotions, so icky
Getting upset over a baby wearing white is extra. The upside is that if you are too upset about what the child is wearing, they will probably poop or vomit on it soon. The point of not wearing white is so you don't upstage or be confused for the bride. If you are concerned about a baby upstanding you or being confused for the bride, I think your issues might go deeper than just propriety.
The dog story is wild! It’s always the least empathetic people who are quick to assert how empathetic they are. I had an ex who pulled this shit and her caveat was “your perception of reality is unique and valid to you”. She had a very similar perception that there were acceptable ways to express emotions. The thing about trauma and emotional reactions to trauma is that you don’t have control over them, you just experience them. If he was inconsolable and reacting that physically then he didn’t have control and that’s okay. She doesn’t get to dictate others emotions for them.
The vet one just made me remember when I lost my cat. She had a stroke and I wasn’t sure what was happening to her, I called the emergency line. They told me to come in in 4 hours. I knew at that point, my cat was going to die.
Two hours later, she died. And after the vet finally arrived to the animal clinic, she had her family there, which didn’t bother me. But what bothered me was her young child running around and kept trying to touch my dead cat in my arms. She could’ve easily put her in a different room so I could mourn my poor cat.
I was too upset to flip my sh*t but the vet was just ignoring her kid the whole time. It was just as traumatic as watching my cat have a stroke and die. No compassion whatsoever. It’s hard enough losing an animal.
My endometriosis pain specialist blamed my hip tattoo for my issues. I kid you not. Any doctor involved with pelvic should in no way ever comment on your personal choices unless it's detrimental to your health. So icky.
My aunt recently passed of ALS, she had a doctor walk in and tell her the diagnosis, and was put in a few minutes.
I’m regards about the breast augmentation/reduction story, this is exactly why I choose to pay for my own breast augmentation procedure. My boyfriend did offer to pay as a gift because I did state I wanted one so badly, but I declined because I never wanted him to potentially hold that against me. He did respect my decision. All in all, I paid for my own procedure, and it made me feel so good to say I did it all on my own!
2 years and 6 months ago I had an issue with an OBGYN nurse. She was actually someone I grew up with and graduated with(first time seeing her since graduation). I went as an emergency because of pain from my endometriosis(had my surgery three months later). They were not my OBGYN, just in the same system because my OBGYN couldn't see me at the time.
Well, the nurse came in and asked me if it was okay for her to see me since we knew each other. I said yes. She asked about the pain and whats going on....so on. She then told me "maybe you just have an STD" instead of endometriosis. I said no, I don't have a STD. She pressed. And brought up one I got a year ago. I told her "if I have an STD then (my bf at the time) has some explaining to do" and asked "did you read the file on how I got the STD?" (I was r@ped by someone we graduated with, he gave it to me, and that was in my file). She said "are you sure?" And I said yes. Then she walked out. I didn't see her again after that. Found out later her sister was talking with my bf for the first few months of our 1.5 year relationship.
I don't know why, but i still think about it. Next year is our High school reunion.
She made it seem like I was cheating on my bf
Both my ex and I got tested before we got together. Everyone i sleep with I ask about if they have been tested. I don't sleep around, I don't like my number going up or chance getting an STD.
we didn't have any little kids in our family yet, so we asked our grandparents to be the flower ladies and ring escort. they loved doing it and we loved having them in our wedding. ❤
It's not how he reacted its just how he reacted. Listening to her say that in so many different ways gave me a headache. Losing my dog was one of the most traumatic experiences I've had.
Also does it count as going through someone's phone when the message is open when the phone is unlocked? I found out my wife was doing drugs behind my back because I grabbed her phone to find mine. (This was a number of years ago and that was what pushed her to get clean. She doesn't hold bad feelings over it but I still feel somewhat guilty but the message was literally open)
One of our friends was my flowerman! He had a fanny pack and was also a groomsmen! He had the time of his life
The one story about the gf and her boyfriend losing his dog - she's wanting him to "handle it better" because it makes HER more comfortable. She's making it about HER and how she feels in that moment, how she and her bf was seen in that moment. It's not about you! Oh, and that's cool, you don't show emotion in public or in front of people 🙄 You're sooo much better. You can handle your grief in your own way, but shouldn't expect everyone to grieve your way and should be supportive. 100% the a hole.
Okay. I’m a nurse. So that first story you read got me heated. FIRST OF ALL: her “friend” in nursing school, doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I WISH that random piercings were all I had to deal with. And if she thinks that’s a violation of her consent? She isn’t cut out for the medical field. SECOND OF ALL: it’s not a healthcare professional’s place to tell people what to do with their bodies. Our job is to treat and educate. So that nurse was way out of line and needs reported. We deal with way worse on a daily basis and they’re acting like a NSFW body piercing is the worst of it, and that is NOT the case. Lol
I would have reported that nurse. And told the other friend she needs to work on her professionalism.
For the first one it felt like the nurse was dismissive from the beginning with the “see if you actually need the doctor” comment. I feel like the nurse should have worded it more like “see if it’s something I can help with so you don’t have to wait so long” or something along those lines. How the nurse worded it implies that op could have been wasting the doctor’s time when op had a legit concern and worry. Plus it was super rude and unprofessional of the nurse to judge op for having piercings. Having piercings doesn’t make anyone a better or worse parent, not to mention it’s somewhere the kid will never see
For the Baby and the Bride story, it doesn’t matter if you or any of your friends wouldn’t have an issue with it. The bride still said no, and that needs to be respected. It’s not the baby’s day, it’s the bride’ and groom’s and unless the baby’s mom and dad have paid for any aspect of the wedding, they don’t get to be upset about what the couple does and doesn’t want.
OMG first story: that’s literally something any med professional would get a write up for. We are NEVER supposed to make patients feel judged. I feel like her question was very valid !
The first one is actually horrible because if she’s not doing a c section which I’m assuming because she asked about the piercing anyways, like when giving birth it tears and it can tear upwards and having a piercing I would imagine that being some of the worst pain in your entire life.
I was in Walmart when we got the call that my baby kitty had to be put down cuz we couldn’t afford the surgery to fix him. He was 8 months and very sick from birth and nobody knew or could’ve changed it in time. I think I was 14/15 when it happened. I remember crying and wanting to freak but trying to control myself. But who knows I’m pretty sure there was a bit of a show with all of us at the news and there’s nothing anyone could’ve done. Just have some sympathy and if you feel the urge to approach and offer any kind of comfort, why not, sometimes just having others acknowledge your hurt is enough. Be kind ❤️
As someone training to be a nurse myself, I find the nurse-in-training friend to be the most maddening part of that story. We all know there are people in the medical field currently who have no business pushing their antiquated views on patients when we now live in a more progressive world. However, if this friend is new to the field and is still going to bring these values to the practice in 2023? I'm not looking forward to getting to know my future coworkers. Do better.
Listening to this ep again in 2024, and i just remembered when I was five my older brother got married. My sister who was eight and I were flower girls and wore white knee-length dresses with white stockings and shoes with the same color purple sash.
in regards to the first story i hope that person filed a complaint/report on the nurse who was so rude to her she didn’t not deserve to be treated like that
Start a book club on Fable!! I'd love to read y'alls picks!
aw great ep today guys even if the stories made my blood boil like nothing else lol. also i love the little flower in the logo for spring time!
Many brides and grooms have their adult friends as ring bearers and flower girls nowadays. It’s a vibe!
Deleted text: I might be a bit of a bić but the wife knew what the message said. It's very difficult to erase a message without reading it. Also, what if the ex had found something important that belonged to husband (so her ex), like something sentimental or she truly needed his help or whatever?
If she really hadn't read the text before deleting it, she was very insecure, and maybe too insecure to be in a relationship. Don't get me wrong, I'm very insecure about certain things, especially with my disability. We all get insecure at some point in our lives, that's not the problem with OP's wife. The problem is that she took action instead of either letting him decided if he wanted to stay with her but co-parent his ex, or go back with his ex. If she saw the message, as difficult as it would have been, she should have been honest and told OP that she had seen it and if they could talk. Her action took away somebody's choice, she took away a little girl's father, and as OP stated, he feels awful about everything he has missed.
Insecurities don't go away so easily, I know that. Sometimes they just quiet down a bit but never go away. But if wife cannot be mature enough to not react impulsively to her insecurities, maybe she could benefit from therapy? I mean, in general everyone could benefit from therapy but it's still pretty stigmatized, sadly...
Dog and cancer: Excuse me for my French but ELLE SE PREND POUR QUI CETTE ABRUTIE DE COPINE?!?! As someone who does have "embarrassing" breakdowns (I'm not embarrassed but I am positive many people get 2nd hand emb. from me) because the doctors don't have good solutions for my pain, for me to walk again, for me to get back to the 2 things I love the most (horse riding and snowboarding), for me to drive, and especially for me to not live my entire life (context: I'm 24, pain got "crutches needed to walk" at the end of 2017, now I'm on 1 leg and crutches), so I start crying and I don't care if I'm still crying when I leave, because I've lost everything and I need a solution (I'm on so many medications, have tried 3 days back-to-back ketamine infusion, nothing is working)
26:15 “Gatekeeping”
Welp here I've lived all these years thinking CHP was California highway patrol
@@infjandcoping4614 chips is a show
Love this show
The story of the uncel reminds me of a Criminal Minds episode.
He was in love whit his brothers wife and then he saw how mutch there daughter lookt like her mom (the wife) and he kidnapt her and tortured her when she rejecthed him..
Not mad at the baby; mad at the parent because THEY dressed her
Her consent, BS, That is exactly who you are supposed to ask! Her judgement is out of line! Be a Mom, maybe that nurce needs to find a new job!
Uuummmm for the nurse story... you work in a field where the downstairs can be a place you have to work with. Not to mention you work in an office where the downstairs is a pretty big part of your job
Regarding the last story there’s always a chance the man cheated on his now wife with the ex , since it was so recent and she got triggered by the exes name . Still sad how it all turned out and I’m sure she regrets going through his phone in the first place more than anything now .
For story 1, I have a problem kinda unrelated to the story but did have a doctor walk in clinic doctor shame me(as I didn’t have a GP at the time) when I asked a question when I went to make sure my positive pregnancy test was correct(thank the gods they no longer do this lol) but when I asked if my frevious partying would effect my baby and the man proceeded to tell me I needed to abort my baby as I wasn’t capable of being a mother due to that! I was so happy until he told me all that so I left there in tears, I felt like I was going to be a awful mother and the worst I had lost my own mom just a cpl months before. When I finally got my doctor and told her she said that wasn’t true and they’re never allowed to say things like that to a patient.
This is such a bad thought but the uncle story reminds me of an episode of Criminal Minds where this guys brother was in a similar position to the uncle and was obsessed with his brothers wife and ended up kidnapping his niece
For the vet girl with the guy crying story. For one how Lauren’s point on how she said she gets second hand embarrassment for people easy so seeing that in public might be embarrassing but also stop and think where they are think about how that they probably know exactly what’s going on in that dudes head
Edit: literally 2 second after I said that Megan brought that up thank you
I just flew to the comments----BOOK CLUB!? 👀😍
The podcast has indeed been a pretty good representation of what not to do 😂
The girl being embarrassed about her boyfriend losing his pet, she must not really love her partner.
I am literally only 5 mins into the video and am absolutely dumbfounded with the first story and how OP's nursing student friend reacted! As a nursing student myself, every patient has absolutely every right to ask anything they need to about their own health if something concerns them or they are unsure. Medical professionals are there to literally help and inform people not to judge. The way the friend reacted is total asshole vibes, if she thinks being asked intimate questions like that is a violation then she should not be a nurse!!! and the nurse was very unprofessional, she has no right to judge how people present themselves and should be focused on the health and wellbeing of the patient and not the ways in which they choose to express themselves eg with piercings or tattoos
Same here, not about being in the medical field lol but about being 5min into the episode and I'm just stunted with this story... not that I've never been in a bad situation with a gynecologist but it's just so far away from any doctor I've been to, so judgmental and rude
I feel really bad for the girl whose boyfriend made her feel bad about her body and was insisting on paying for a surgery. I think it was mentioned that there is a significant age gap, her being just 20 and him being 32 and them only dating for four months. It's weird that he got so angry about an offhanded comment and it wasn't his place to get upset. It would be one thing if they were together long term and maybe she had concerns but they haven't been together long, she's younger(her mind not even fully developed yet) and he is trying to govern her body. He also seems like the type that if she agreed to surgery and they ended things, he would try to make her pay him back even though he "offered out of the kindness of his heart". Alternatively, if something went wrong and either affected her physical or mental health, he would ditch her. I wish I had her confidence at 19 to love herself just the way she is, and that she dumps the creep.
Edit: I clapped with you both when you read out that she dumped him. It was the best outcome of this and I'm glad the commenters lead her to realizing that he was taking advantage of her being "young and dumb". The addition of them meeting when she was underage and he didn't immediately leave things alone with her is so icky. I'm so glad that she left this situation before things escalated and hope she finds someone who loves her just the way she is, and is closer in age to her
The anger is at the parents of the baby dress in white.. is what I feel Morgan was trying to express
I went to the obgyn recently and was asking the nurse about getting my tubes tied and somehow we got on the topic of abortion and she blatantly told me she's against it. Which like, fine be against it for yourself but you're not supposed to bring your views into patient conversations.
I love Alejandra as a co-host
On the one with the wife who deleted the message, I think the majority opinion was the wife probably read the message before deleting and blocking; but was it specified that the first message said “hey, I’m pregnant!” or could it have been “hey, I really need to see you/talk you.” Wife felt insecure and threatened and deleted/blocked, and then following messages stated that she was pregnant, but those were all blocked.
Also, baby mama could have gone after him for child support five years ago. A lot of this is on her as well. She clearly had other avenues of reaching him, including the courts, and she never did. Now to deny him access to the child when he is willing to pay support and do whatever is asked. I don’t want to call her TA in this situation, but I don’t think it is the wife either.
i was also shamed by a gyno multiple times. sad it’s such a common experience
In regards to the dog story, he needs to leave her. That’s such an AWFUL reaction to someone’s emotional breakdown over their dog being diagnosed with cancer. Men deserve someone to share their emotions and vulnerability with. She won’t be a supportive partner in the future.
yes Joey Swoll !! he is so amazing
Can you sue an ex for child support if they didn’t even know about the child tho???
This is why I will never step foot in a Obgyn office ever ! Midwives need to be more available everywhere!!!
The one about the guy's reaction to his pet dying hits close to home. Not because of his pet, but because his gf refuses to comfort him. As a guy, It reminds me of how my mom used to be (still kinda is) so cold and distant towards me if i were to cry.
IM SORRY WHAT. The nurse refused to get the on call Dr. and wanted to know. Her response was so rude and uncalled for! She strayed from being professional and decided to state her take that OP didn’t ask for. I agree, plenty of people in the medical industry go unchecked.
My dad went to the doctor with chest pain, talked to a nurse who dismissed him without getting checked by an actual doctor. The next day he died at work.
@Jen Agrippa No! It’s okay, it was so long ago! I was just agreeing, some people are not qualified.
That nurse's management and staff need to be at minimum notified of the unprofessional conduct. As someone myself training in the medical field (Medical Imaging) the first aspect of medical professionalism is to act NEUTRAL and IMPARTIAL towards the patient. Neither which was demonstrated by the Nurse!
Yeah I’m a CNA the nurse was unprofessional and needs to be reported
I got into it with a charge nurse who was telling me I should "go to the emergency room" instead of seeing a doctor where I was already an established patient. This was because I was dealing with leg numbness because I had two serious car accidents in less than two years.
of course the nursing student defended the mean nurse. it seems like at least half of nurses are mean girls
Not all nurses are mean girls but most mean girls become nurses
Literally most of my highschool bullies went directly to nurse school.
Oh for sure.. Sooo many mean girls become nurses or like, military wives
Honestly. I know the profession is hard and that they are often overworked and patients can be assholes. But I have met so many nasty nurses that are nasty for no reason.
I always thought the mean girl nurse theory was a stretch until my VILE sister and some of her truly evil friends became nurses.. These are people that screwed any and everyone over in the worst way for their own gain/entertainment and then blasted THEM on social media and irl for defending themselves. I wonder if it’s just another way to achieve a power trip.. Being in control of other people’s lives.
For the first AITA story about the piercing, the nurse asked and she answered. The nurse’s response was very unprofessional. If she can’t keep her thoughts to herself, the nurse should not answer at all
I missed Alejandra on the show. I really like hearing her mature and collected thoughts! 😊
yes i agree with everything you said. alejandra is always such a great guest i love all the podcast eps shes in.
Dude the peircing???? Of course her nurse friend said don't report her, she knew it was a very punishable offense
That nurse is the asshole. If you can’t handle deeply personal things don’t become a medical professional.
@@TimeQuxxn well the nurse friend is HER friend, not the rude nurse’s friend, she should’ve supported her not make her feel bad for asking a genuine question
@Sara Alcani agreed! That's why I'm thinking she had some weird camaraderie with the other nurse or she probably wanted to use the same excuse to treat a patient terribly in the future
Story 1: It’s not violating a medical professional’s consent to talk about things like that, it’s literally their job. If she came up to her on the street and started talking about her piercing that would be different.
I really hope OP’s friend saw the thread and reflects on it because she has a problematic viewpoint for a future nurse.
Thank you!!!! Took the words right out of my mouth
She did that because she knows it's a reprimandable offense and she KNEW how much trouble that nurse would get into
@@infjandcoping4614 I meant the friend defending the nurse. What is she on??? She just wants to be able to complain in the future lol
Exactly!!! It reminds me of that therapist that blew up on tiktok for complaining about her clients "trauma dumping". When you join a field like that you are consenting to patients sharing ANY information that may be pertinent to their health and treatment. I would not want to have OP's friend as a nurse. I would be extremely uncomfortable.
Totally agree. Not to mention, if you're uncomfortable talking about sexual health with patients, don't take a nursing job! You're going to get so many weird/gross/off-putting questions about anything that has to do with a human body for the rest of your career, my dear.
People were probably looking at the guy crying over his dog because they were worried about him! And the staff at the clinic are used to things like that. How could she have so little sympathy? Pets are so special, I feel so terrible for him.
Right?! I don't understand how anyone can see someone they love so upset and feel embarrassed. I would just want to comfort them.
i mean.. his gf said hey can we please go to the car…
Yes! Most people tend to be kind and concerned if they see someone crying like that. I understand feeling embarrassed because often society can put expectations on managing emotions and “appropriate” public behavior but she just seems so heartless.
She had no care for his feelings. Pets are family, losing them is a great loss. Not everyone can go stone faced and pretend they don't have emotions in such a deeply emotion moment.
pets aren't just special but they’re your family
That first OP's friend should absolutely not be a nurse if they are triggered by someone asking a valid question about their body to a NURSE. Literally your job to look at bodies unobjectively
Exactly!!! She’s gonna be biased and kill patients by not listening. You’re a nurse get a dr wtfff. Nothing is inappropriate
My take on the baby wearing white to the wedding - the mom totally wants extra attention for the baby & her on the wedding day. She's 3 AND the only grandchild? The baby's mom might be too passive to wear white to someone's wedding, but she could totally achieve some 2nd hand attention from having the only grandchild/baby at the wedding. Especially if she makes her a "tiny bride".👀☕
☕ This 100%. I bet the mom is an attention seeker
Yes she wants everyone to think she is the flower girl and get extra attention and photos.
the 3yo is already going to be getting attention being the only kid, that’s one of the reasons why some people have kid free weddings. the little girl is going to be dancing and talking to people, she’s probably going to be fussed over. like she will have enough attention, i think the mom wants some “oh she would’ve made a perfect flower girl” comments. like OP’s wife wants attention/attention for her daughter so badly, knowing that she would upset the bride and groom, upset her husband, and for what? to make it known she wasn’t picked as a flower girl?? definitely ick behavior. if i was the bride, i would strongly consider uninviting the wife, tell OP that he is welcome to come and she can’t wait to see the little one’s yellow dress. or straight up uninvite the daughter as well, because the three year old isn’t going to care about not being at the wedding, and it would make it clear to the wife that she does not call the shots and her desperate grab at attention is not being tolerated in the slightest
@@abbychurchya3496 exactly. I had a child free wedding for multiple reasons, this being one. My husband's sisters made a huge deal out of it. They thought it was because we didn't like their children 🤦 I honestly just don't believe 10+ children should be at a wedding!!
@@abbychurchya3496 well said!
I wouldn’t be mad at a baby for wearing white Id be mad at the parents for putting the baby in white lol
I wouldn't care that a kid was wearing white but also WHY?? Kids are messy. That dress is gonna be ruined in 5 seconds
I never understood dressing up the baby to also look like a bride, like let the kid look cute, but sometimes those flower girls look like a mini bride, and the dress looks like a miniature version of something an Adult Woman would wear
@@clairesmallwood2953 yeah my dress as a flower girl when i was in my aunt and uncle’s wedding was white and definitely resembled a brides dress. i don’t see it as weird per se but it does make me wonder why that’s the norm.
Kind of creepy, is the idea for a small child to look like a bride or the bride to look like a child…?
Asking TMI sex questions is literally in the job description for medical workers, no matter the field, but especially in the OB/GYN field. She was NOT breaking rules of consent AT ALL. It was so out of line for the friend to be saying she was crossing the line. The OB/GYN field is all about sexual health. That made me MAD.
Responses like the friend's / nurse's are exactly why people can be too uncomfortable to tell the doctor embarrassing medical stuff! Good medical professionals should make you feel like "I've heard it all, it's just science, I won't make you feel embarrassed at all, this is a safe place to be honest."
It wasn't even a sex question 😂 this nurse needs to call the on duty doctor to remove the stick out her ass.
Thank u for helping that Hispanic man. I almost started crying. You don’t understand how immigrants don’t have a voice and are super confused all the time. (Bc of stuff like this) I would have 10000000 % reported that doctor
That one made me cry too. My dad speaks primarily Spanish and has a hard time understanding people that are me and my brothers or my mom. The idea that someone would (and have) treat/treated him that way kills me.
That story about the dog with cancer is sooo relatable. My father once told me it wasn't appropriate for me (at the time 12yo boy) to cry in public. Recently when my cat died (cancer) I couldn't be there for him, it happened really quickly and I was at school 75 minutes away and I wasn't in a position to leave until later in the day. I had to hold tears back hours because I didn't want to make a scene. I had lost a family member that had been in my family since I was 4 and yet I was scared to mourn in public. We need to normalize crying men.
We definitely need to normalize it. We also need to normalize grieving the loss of pets, because they’re family, too. I’m so sorry for your loss 😞
I was in the same situation. I drove home to be there for euthanization of my cat who I had since I was 8…and was sobbing the whole time.
They're family members. Anyone of any gender should be allowed to grieve. I feel so bad for the guy.
Where is this in the episode?
If you ever need reassurance that it is absolutely manly to cry over your best fur buddy, check out the band Bloodywood. They are an all male Indian metal band that wrote an entire BEAUTIFUL song about missing your best furry friend. They used the money they made from the song to refurbish a van for their local dog rescue to use as an ambulance. They're pretty bad ass too. 10/10 highly recommend.
I’m doing my makeup while watching and I literally paused and stopped my makeup to write this. I cannot believe the AUDACITY of that girlfriend telling her boyfriend she is embarrassed of him for crying after finding out his dog has cancer. She must be a heartless person because what the fuck.
Just paused my workout for the exact same reason. Seriously girl, what the fuck? He's really sad, get down on your knees and comfort him.
no literally i did this morning too! could not BELIEVE someone could be so heartless.
when i dropped off my guinea pig that passed the same day on christmas eve 2021, all the woman in the waiting room had to say to me was "hi sweetie" and i started sobbing. i could barely get a word out while saying thank you. i wish i wouldve had someone there to hug me or something.
Omg i literally was also doing my makeup💀💀💀🤚
I think the gfs emotions were consider embarrassing and dismiss by the people around her. She said that when her dad died she cried in private. Showing emotions is considered a weakness and you shouldn’t make them other peoples problems in my family. I have to remind myself sometimes I’m not the only one who has feelings and its normal to show them to others so don’t feel comfortable/embarrassed. She’s probably not heartless but she should go to therapy bc that can turn into a much bigger problem.
Vet clinics ARE an appropriate place to have an emotional breakdown over a pet, I just did it last month. She was just back-pedaling to make herself look better lol
For the one with the wedding, it’s not about the baby wearing white it’s the fact the mom feels so entitled to do whatever at a wedding that isn’t hers.
YEP - it’s absolutely the mom needing some weird form of attention all to herself
The toxicity in l&d nursing needs to go. Here is a story. I was 20 when I had my kid. At 23 weeks, I was having extreme cramping. I was telling the nurse and she ask if I was drinking enough water. Or your probably having a uti. Nope. Those were real contractions and I dilated 0.75. My doctor heard her and asked if she was the doctor. To which she replied no. So my doctor say don't diagnose my patients then.
My friend lost her baby because a nurse kept dismissing her symptoms. She was pregnant and in severe pain and the nurse kept saying she was fine.. She wasn't fine, and full term baby died shortly. So fucked.
@@Naejakire3 I hope she got fired or sued because that’s horrible
@beth9199 👏👏👏 what a wonderful Doc
@@Naejakire3 that person can not be in the medical field anymore and should be charged for manslaughter. My mom started having contractions in the middle of the night and the nurse told her to hold it in and not push cuz she wanted to nap. The morning round doctor did an emergency delivery after seeing my mom and I was born purple. Thank god I was fine.
@@smellykellybelly I read this and had to pause my life for 10 seconds in order let that sink in.
With the uncle story, the parents are not only doing a disservice to their child but also to the uncle himself. They are enabling him and eventually he will feel emboldened to act physically. They are leading him straight to a prison cell instead of helping him learn how to cope with his impulses.
Exactly, and boundaries can be set with people who act out sexually. The issue is they will have to make themselves uncomfortable by asking for outside help from professionals. Could be the case that he needs medication so he can better manage his behavior or a therapist can help them learn how to redirect him when he is sexually inappropriate. Very sad that they don't care about their child's comfort and instead turns it into a competition of who has it worse. It's also crazy how a parent can just sit there and listen a to a grown man flirt with their child and from the sounds of it, he's been doing this since she was very young
Yeah these parents absolutely fucking suck because eventually he will escalate cuz he sees there's no consequences for what he's doing. And they've already traumatized their child enough they should go to jail with him
this reminds me of a chicago med episode with a really genuine sweet couple, the episode starts with the husband rushing in the hospital and telling the staff he needs to speak to a doctor and then the wife coming in after him. they have a good relationship but recently he was having thoughts of harming his wife and he cant control his thoughts but he hasnt acted upon it yet so he decided to head straight to the hospital before something happens cause he acknowledges that he needs help.
I had an adult autistic male for a neighbor once and he would always flirt with the women around. Me and two other female neighbors spoke with his sister more than once about it but She always dismissed it, saying he was harmless and didn’t know any better. Some months later, he did it on the street with a random woman and got beat up so bad he had to spend months in the hospital. He stopped harassing women after that, but it is a shame it had to get to this… i feel like his sister could have prevent This if She had listened
@@isacarral2736whats crazy about that is he clearly had enough control to stop after he got his ass beat. So he should've been able to stop before.
I went to the gynecologist to get an IUD. IUDs are extremely painful as it is but my doctor ended up putting mine in wrong which caused me to black out and vomit. I didn’t even ask for medicine but the doctor rolled her eyes at me, said that I was faking because “the pain wasn’t that bad” and told the nurse “oh great another college student wanting narcotics.”
I have been afraid to ask for any kind of medicine from a doctor in fear they will think I just want drugs. I have never abused drugs in my life but she is not the only doctor to treat me like an addict. On that note, they shouldn’t even treat people with substance abuse issues badly to begin with.
But yeah, it was a really terrible experiencing and when I went back to her a couple weeks later after severe pain, she refused to take my IUD out and prescribed me the birth control ring to go along with it. She also said that I had endometriosis and wanted induce early menopause on me when I was just 18. She gave me a bunch of pamphlets and I went home crying. My IUD ended up falling out a few days later and I was perfectly fine afterward. I never ever went back to her.
That is terrible and very unprofessional. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Some people can be truly cruel.
That is so wrong. I'm sorry this happened to you. I've had a similar experience while getting my blood drawn. The phlebotomist didn't know how to properly draw blood, so she stabbed me multiple times. I get very lightheaded from getting my blood drawn, so I almost ended up passing out. The phlebotomist told me I was being overly dramatic and getting your blood drawn isn't a big deal. I'm like dude... I can't help the physical reaction I have. Some people should not work in healthcare.
I also have an IUD horror story. My doctor told me to take ibuprofen before I came, as if that was going to help. Left me in the room alone legs still in stirrups, & left the door wide open, I had blood down my legs & I was so dizzy and sick. They just left me there until my mom came and cleaned me up & helped me. They came in while I was cleaning myself up to tell me to hurry because they needed the room.🥲
Im so sorry you had this terrible experience... that was so bad D:
@@randiwest4221 god that is so awful. Im so sorry you went through that. Seems like many of us have traumatic stories like this. They also told me to leave when I got mine. They were annoyed at me because I was in so much pain I couldn’t move without puking so I laid on the bed and she got super impatient with me. One of the nurses was actually advocating for me and helped me to the bathroom and tried to ask the doctor to prescribe me medicine. Such a horrible doctor.
My Golden Rule: never go down on a man before he has done anything for me. Haven't had penetrative sex or him go down on me yet? hahaha never. pull your weight my dude.
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Wedding story is a total teachable moment for a kid - "we're going to pick a different dress for you, because it's SUCH a special day for the bride, and she gets to be the only person at the whole wedding wearing white. So we get to give her a special gift and help her day be amazing by wearing different colors." You can't manufacture those chances for your child to learn, so it pays to embrace them when they come along.
Love love love the show!
Right!? And you could even make a day of it to create a fun memory for your daughter. Bring her to the store and let her pick out her own dress. Take her to Claire’s and let her pick out some jewelry to wear with it or some new nail polish. She’ll be excited to wear the dress that she picked out, the bride will be happy that she’s the only one in white, and you’ve spent a nice day out with your child.
I highly doubt a three year old gives a crap what she wears. It’s the mom giving a finger to the bride for not asking her daughter to be the flower girl. Besides, why are we teaching little girls how important and special weddings are? They will grow up dreaming and fantasizing about the “big day”. That’s how bridezillas are made. There are more important things in life.
@@smellykellybelly I nanny a 3 year old girl who certainly has some strong opinions about what she wears and she makes sure to vocalize them. A plain white dress, though, would not be at the top of her list. Hahaha
The wedding dress story happened at my wedding sort of and im still annoyed by it. A woman in my husbands family brought her 3yr daughter in white dress and veil and then proceeded to parade the kid all over and interrupt the wedding photographer to take photos of her daughter with me and my husband and every person and item in the wedding. It was so narcissistic. I then found out she does this at other ppl’s weddings too. Once she interrupted a bride’s walk down the isle to take a pic of the bride with her daughter
would be booted out of my wedding
@@doinkeykong right? try to interrupt me walking down the aisle and you’re getting thrown out lmao
Uhm....what
People lose their damn mind at weddings. That mom must have major main character syndrome.
I think you're 100% with this. The 3yo's mom is the issue here, sounds like she's got a beef with the bride and groom or is wanting to do it to divert attention from the wedding couple. Feels narcissistic.
I just wanted to comment about the story about the deleted text about the baby. Interestingly enough, I got pregnant by a man 7 years ago who didn’t want anything to do with me or the baby and blocked ME after I told him about it. Fast forward to now, I’m married to my husband who wants to adopt my son. The court made me hire a private investigator to find this man so I could have his rights terminated before the adoption could take place, despite me having proof of the texts that said he was blocking me and no contact whatsoever for over 7 years. There’s virtually no chance this woman would be able to keep him away from their kid, especially when he wants to be there and is willing to pay the child support.
I was cuddling with my bf and listening. He grabbed my body and told me “I love your body, I’d never ask you to change it” it made me cry. I’ve had weight loss/gain so I have some saggy skin on my thighs and belly. I’ve considered getting surgery but dread the idea of the pain and money of it. I said “you don’t think I should get my fat removed?” He said “of course not. Didn’t I lay my face there yesterday? I love you for you. Don’t pay money to change yourself when you don’t need too” 🥺💕 I can’t believe assholes like the guy in that story exist. But I feel so lucky to have my bf. I’m seeing myself through his eyes, and it’s making me love myself. I know that’s cheese. It’s been an uphill battle my entire life with my body
This is so lovely, I'm so glad you have such a wonderful partner who loves you for you ❤That is true love to me. Our bodies will change and age our entire lives, and someone that accepts you wholly for who you are, regardless of how you look, is someone you can grow old with. Thanks for sharing this
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Reisurrance is my love language
My dad's best friend started flirted with me at 12 and 20 years later still does. My dad doesn't care. It's so uncomfortable. Once he called me sexy at 14 when he was 55. I feel OP's pain on that one.
May I suggest if you can, drop that father -
That’s disgusting. Your dad is disgusting for not giving a sh*t and protecting you
@@alexshaw8167thanks, I totally agree
People always take the easy route and just push these issues to the side rather than face them. It’s so frustrating.
@@deltaloraine so frustrating🤦🏾♀️
As a mom with insomnia, this couldn’t have uploaded at a better time. Random bath at 3:00am and some ✨tea✨
a student doing her final project lol
Glad to know I’m not the only insomniac that likes to take a late night bath! ❤️
As a mother, those 3am baths just hit different. Surreal and magical 💕💖
@@lunaisbellavalentine1823 I’m not a mother yet but I can definitely see myself doing this when I have children. I absolutely love taking baths! It’s so therapeutic for me!
These girls are so calming too!
Hypothetically, if you deleted a message 5 years ago from an ex, how would you know immediately that what it said was about his child... If she hadn't read it she probably wouldn't even remember doing it, let alone bring it up the second he finds out. That's my take.