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How Long Should I Wait For My Ex?
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- Опубликовано: 17 апр 2022
- Life after a breakup can feel very unpredictable and unclear. When is it a good time to "move on"? How long should you wait before dating new people? In this video, we address some of these questions and discuss the concept of holding on to hope after a breakup.
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Do The Knowledge 30 minutes a day. Think of how many changes you can make. You either blow your ex away or you find someone else… You win either way when you stay ambitious ❤️
Because of your channel, I got my ex back TWICE. Ultimately, I found I am the one who made a lot of changes and this person remains the same. Also thanks to your channel, I have done so much work. My level of security and growth transcended more than my desire to make this relationship work. At some point you have to ask, do you even want them back? These were my feelings third time around. Just be careful what you wish for, all. I found I had only been romanticizing good times and what I wished we could have been.
Wow- great wrap for Craig! And good honesty from you. ❤️👍
Melissa I personally think you made a VERY GOOD POINT. We woman tend to romanticize many times in our relationship. We grew up watching Cinderella, Beauty & The Beast. I don't know about you but also like around the holiday season. Watching Hallmark movie's. It's always the perfect guy, looks great, takes her from skiing in the mountains to sandy beaches in the summer and strolling the beach at night with a glass of wine. Living happily ever after. Then I find myself looking at my guy saying "See we never do thing's like that." He jokingly said "I have an Idea we will both apply for The Bachelor & The Bachelorette." Then we will still find each other. Lol .. you made a lot of great points. I can relate for sure. Love this program. Thank you to all 3 coaches, and your input Melissa. JL
Wow thank you 🙏🏽
@@kabirmuazu4190 what the hell are you talking about
Thats the thing we make the changes they don't..
"no one can tell you how to grieve and at what pace." Thank you Margaret 💛
The pain doesn’t really feel like it’s gone away…. It’s just more dull than sharp. So thank you Margaret, because I also thought I should be over it by now (over a year now after a 10 year relationship) I do want to be over it but it’s hard 😣
@@susananavarrete2801 i hope you have at least treated yourself to a fun date, 10 years is a long time, but if you want to date and meet sm1 new i dnt think u shld hold yourself bck
@@touche5029 it is a long time. I just want a break from any dating or relationship. So although I haven’t been open to anything or anyone else yet… I think shortly I will be soon. There’s no rush, because honestly I have no business with anyone else when I’m just not feeling it lol. It wouldn’t be fair to them
@@susananavarrete2801 Thats good, i always say if a person wants a fun refreshing date, simple no expectations
just go..life is so short..Go bowling and have fun ❤❤❤
Don't wait move on and work on your self if they come back win if they don't still win cause your a better person.
Yes
Taking notes! It’s been 3 months in no contact and I’m already excited to start meeting other people because I’ve been learning tons of knowledge from watching you guys
I'm currently in a 'waiting phase' since I am dealing with an avoidant who is going through the "sadness deactivation" because of a lot of personal stuff going on.
It's hard being cut off from someone you love dearly and seeing them (supposedly) not care.
I've been told there are many fish in the sea and I shouldn't wait for someone like this. However, the heart wants what the heart wants and until the day comes they verbatim tell me to go (they're keeping the connection alive by not blocking me on anything but sending daily snapchat pictures of whatever) I'll try to hold on.
Even if I would explore my options as Victoria says, which I appreciated a lot by the way (not thinking in either/or), it's not just the feeling of 'cheating' but I also cannot bring myself to use another person as a distraction. How fair is it to someone else to give them the idea you might be interested, while your heart is dead set on somebody else already?
To me it feels like using people. Perhaps this is a wrong way to look at it, but if my heart belongs to someone -regardless if they're being difficult or avoidant- I cannot bring myself to feign interest in other people, regardless of how good or great a match they also are.
Perhaps interesting to explore this as well?
Thanks for all the videos, they've been a great help so far!
Hello, you didn't say how long this have been going? I've been in same situation and life is too short to wait. You are wasting your own energy and time if you just keep waiting to thing which might never happen.
It's little bit over a year when my ex left, i'm now in new relationship, been like half year. I heard once from my ex last summer, after that she vanished from the earth and i haven't heard anything from her.
If you meet someone new you need to tell her how you feel and be honest about your situation, you need to start to live your life man, i know it's difficult. That's what i did, i've been working out this whole year and packed close to 10 kg muscle and doing great at work and found myself again and i'm happier than ever before in my life. With this new relationship i also noticed many things what was wrong with my old relationship. I'm completely new person today, my break up was worst thing in my life and also best thing what happened to me, make it matter and learn from it!
I know exactly what you’re going through. I’ve been with my ex on and off for the past 6yrs. She’s avoidant as well. She’s not one that communicates very well so that makes it tough. It got to the point she was blaming me for the problems in the relationship. I love my ex so much and yes it’s very hard to move on. For me,I just want to see and hear from her. Hang in there. You’re definitely not alone. Good luck.
I totally understand not wanting to use other people as a distraction. I literally cannot do it.
Exactly how I also feel. Completely unfair to date someone else if you are not fully over your ex.
I still watch these vids even tho I’ve gotten over my break up for about two years now. Regardless of how u feel u jus gotta keep movin forward. Don’t ignore ur pain u must grieve and from what I’ve found, use that as fuel in ur daily life. Whether they come back or not remember that ur gonna be ok u were ok before u met this person and u will be ok after. I never ever heard anything from my ex and I don’t expect to. At the end of the day focus on yourself and u will get thru this. They’ll never forget u cuz love was involved, they’re gonna think about u and they will think of if it’s the right decision but u’ll most likely never hear it. At the end of the anyone who’s left u wasn’t meant for u at least at this point in time. Stay strong brothers and sisters we’re all in this together
you guys have no idea how much you helped an still helping me out with these videos. It's exactly how I feel now ... I'm still thinking about my ex but also going out and be open to other possibilities. The problem is always the comparison because you tend to look at their best version of themselves and you forgot the "dark side" which gave you so much pain. So when you go out and meet someone else, you start comparing the newcomers to you ex. Clearly not Fair since your ex has an advantage of years.
Anyway Craig and Margaret .... you've got a killer new coach. Victoria shoot some bullets to the target that blew my mind. Good job Vicky. :)
Some great points in here. I’m at this point, moving back n forth in different feelings everyday. And I struggle with black and white thinking. Have watched the video on that btw.. 😏
thanks Craig, Margaret, Victoria. ❤
Constantly looking at things that remind you of your ex is not going to help you to get over them.
You must discipline yourself not to do these things as this will help you to heal and move on
from the hurt and pain.
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What a timely video. I was just thinking about this topic last night. A lot of the answers to the questions proposed there are "I don't knows". I think it goes without saying it will be a lot of hard work and the thought that they could leave and be so cruel at any point will linger. After 5 and a half years, it's hard to let go. I've been using the workbooks (almost on #3) and the things I've learned have been huge. I'm into the second month of self work and the flip flop of feelings as you guys said is true. I'm going to stay true to working on myself as it has already brought about new potential prospects- but the loyalty that Victoria mentions is still there. I'm going to give it time, I know she's attempting a rebound (through the ubiquitous third party always mentioned), and I'm not going to stick around as a backup plan for when that fails (shes sharing victim posts about heartbreak while chasing after him too, which feels very odd). It's got to the point where it almost feels like time is more on my side- and her window for reaching out is dwindling. I love her, but I deserve respect too. Thanks for another great video to think about.
@unicornworshiper for sure. It's been over a year, I'm doing much better. I have her blocked on everything as I realized it was much better for my mental health this way. Been leveling up personally in the gym and lost some weight. Even got a puppy that loves going on hikes with me. I'm a much happier person and am enjoying life more now. I hope whatever you're going through goes quick. There's no easy way about it. I know I was miserable for probably 3 months when it happened, it did beat me down to a very low point i wont lie. But listening to these videos, getting through day by day - it got better. Sometimes, just getting through the day is the accomplishment we need - no shame in that either. Best wishes to ya. I'll reply as long as I get the @ notification.
I don’t understand when people say you need to work on yourself and you lost yourself. I work on bettering myself everyday break up or not nor have I ever lost who I was I always know exactly the person I am.
Yep, it's a saying people use to avoid accountability.
I have learned so many things from your channel 😊 i have completely transformed my life . gone through so many ups and down and finally i got him back
Email me a success story!
My favourite people on internet 🙂 I like to think about all of you like Sister Victoria, grandmother Margaret and uncle Craig ❤️ keep up the excelent work 💪
How long do you wait? DON'T. Move forward.
That's as deep as to say to someone lacking an arm to grow another one.
@@r.maelstrom4810 Ok so wait years to your ex. You will suicide
@@victora.g.2708no one said wait years.
I've been in no contact for 7 months. She went abroad on a trip with a guy who was supposed to be "just a friend". Well turns out she just used me when I tried to get her back. She has no respect for me and therefore she's never coming back.
I don't even know if I would take her back. She would have to show her sincerity in such a way that women don't do it.
In this specific situation where someone was unfaithful with you I think you’re better off without them. I know that doesn’t change how you feel but I’m of the mindset that you always have to maintain self-respect and dignity. I, personally, can forgive a lot but adultery and infidelity I will never tolerate. Regardless, I hope things work out for you, mate.
Have your ex ever reach out to you???
@@archangelelmo Hi! No it's been soon 3 years or something. I don't think she even remembers how I looked or even my name.
I have moved on myself. Single and going strong
it took me a long time to get to the point of knowing i would never go back to my ex. i started watching all of Craig's videos as a direct result of the breakup, and they were all that was keeping me sane some days.
To get an ex back and that an ex never even solely contacts you at least once are two differents things. Did she reach out to you? We broke up a year ago and i went no contact three weeks later, we broke up in seemingly good terms (we knew each other since 20 years ago and were on a relationship two times) but she's completely disappeared, she never blocked me on social media and the like but it is as if i had never existed. I'm still absolutely perplexed by this considering how nice she was during our relationship.
@@r.maelstrom4810 not sure if that reply was for me. did my ex reach out to me? no, and i know she never will. furthermore, i don''t want to talk to her again. my sympathy for your situation, i know losing someone you cared about is hard.
More of coach Victoria please.
Your videos are so helpful!
2 months ago, the girl of my dreams out of the blue just left. She did not like I was going to a wedding of two good friends where dancing would be there. The thought of me potentially dancing or even talking with other women drove her crazy. She admitted to me she was obsessive of me and couldn't handle me being around any other woman. She totally flipped. She needed time alone to process it. Well, I've worked so hard on me and am much happier. I thought how cold and unfeeling she was to me. She has serious anxiety and controlling issues and after my heart healed, I decided she isn't what I want. I started to date someone else who I already tested for those issues and it's been great. Work on yourself and just let go if they gave you red flags. I'm free of her and it only took less than 2 months! I have 0 contact with her, and I'll disconnect myself from her on Facebook and everything else soon I'm sure. I'm not going to tolerate a cold and cruel woman, I don't care how perfect we were for each other. She can get on her hands and knees and tell me how she changed if she wants, but I'm done with you woman!
Job well done let them go there are so many good women out there.
Happy for you. I am in 7 weeks of NC and my heart still wants him back, against my mind...
@@Kredka66 Just make sure he's worth getting back. I realized mine wasn't by the awful way she treated me when I viewed her near perfect.
@@Kredka66 I am in a similar situation of no contact and I have a similar situation. I love her and my mind says one thing but my heart another. Ultimately she has issues too, and is very stifling, possessive and jealous, every contact with another woman (we are talking friends here) is suspicious.
I love you guys. You're taking the words out of my mouth... or rather out of my heart 😉💛 I've never before heard so much truth in such a short amount of time-and I've read and listened to a LOT on this topic.
It's so true for example that one should NOT listen too much to other people's advice in love. What counts is your inner voice (if it is usually reliable)
So much good content and wisdom! Do the work and you'll get there. I'm about 9 months in (3 months therapy before being put through a horrendous breakup, now at almost 6 months no contact), and if I hadn't done the work, the situation would have destroyed me. Instead, I let myself grieve, processed a lot of feelings, worked through the things I needed to, and had a lot of 'ah ha' moments and ups and downs emotionally. I've continued therapy that whole time, I've skyped with both Craig and Margaret, I've worked on myself, I've done the things they emphasize. It's tough, especially at first, and it does take time before the changes stick and become easier for you. But you get so much confidence going through that whole process, so much growth. I'm now at the point where I am starting to date again, in a much more secure place within myself, and with so much more insight into myself and others. I've rebuilt a whole new life and am loving it, regardless of anybody else, but I have so much to offer and I feel ready enough to be open to meeting someone again. But I'm not rushing, and I'm not stopping the work, and I'm open to my ex reaching out, I'm ok if she doesn't. I know my worth 🤷♂️. Do the work, whatever that is for your situation, and you'll get to this point too!
Keep going
@@aaronk4310 absolutely! Some days can be harder than others, but overall it's onwards and upwards ✊✊✊
It really does take about a year tbh. There’s a lot to learn and even un-learn from our childhoods and parents.
@Samantha linch
@Samantha linch
@Samantha linch
Was with my partner for over five years. She’s American, I’m Australian. She lived with me in Australia for about three years. Spent all of the pandemic here and during that time her father passed away and she was unable to return to the US to see her family. It was a terrible experience. She left for the US on Feb 6 and broke up with me about a week later. We had a healthy relationship with the usual stuff here or there, a mild argument, some slightly raised voices, etc. but the overwhelming majority of the relationship was beautiful and the best thing I’ve ever experienced. After the break up we were friendly for a week, maybe a week and a half, and then I sort of lost my emotional cool and I haven’t heard from her since. No contact. We haven’t spoken for about a month and a half. I deleted her number and removed her from social media. She has reached out to my sister on one occasion a few weeks ago to say “I hope your family is well.” The two of us were going to get married this year. I’m a little broken right now as I try and figure out how to live my life again.
What’s the best move here? What should I do?
I should add that she recently contacted me and told me that she can’t be friends with me.
@@marcelthorsen she's more than likely seeing someone else and was talking to them before she left back to the US. Cut her out of your life. She'll come back and when she does, don't even respond. She made her bed, let her lay in it.
Leave her alone. It’s still early days in the breakup. She’ll probably come around.. she’s had a death in the family.. that’s often a big factor to shake people. Craig says, feelings change like the clouds that move across the sky..
@@LG-ly7pw Thank you for the considered reply.
You gotta forget my man. It will be hard, but eventually you just kind of unclick from them. Took me ~1 year, still think of her, but wouldn't take her back. You will get there too. People said the same thing to me and I didn't believe them, but it will happen for you too. The only thing you can do is evaluate yourself - are you the best possible version of yourself you possibly could be? Forget her and work towards that. If she changes her mind, she will come to you. There is nothing you can do, if you contact her (directly or indirectly) it will solidify her decision. Just focus on reaching your maximum human potential and have patience with yourself. You will get there.
Thanks. Great subject. Maybe a little more can be said next time about the cases of the ex touching base during the no contact and "interrupting" the healing process. However, again thank you.
Im in no contact 22x days now...tears till my eyes couldn't produce no more...nuclear anxiety...reliving good times....unable to focus....she said she needed her "time" possible bi-polar she used to say...but ive decided to leave it to destiny....if there meant to be it will be...i know its hard youtubers....but believe in destiny....if they really want to be in ur life they will be....but never take them back if you know theyve been seeing someone else during dat time...."Fool me Once...."
WOW I love your show so so much, but this one today I must say I do believe is my favorite... Hard to say because I've never had a bad one. Never had a boring one each and every one of your shows I learned so much about. PLEASE keep doing what you're doing. You really have done more for me than anyone. I have talked with a couple of therapists. I want to sign up for a Skype session very soon. I'm not sure which one of you to pick. Thank you for what you do each and every day. You truly are making this world a better place. You're making us become a happier and healthier version of ourselves. 💞🌻🙏
I agree 💛 (and those spam comments above are annoying 😁)
Been seporated for 7 months now. Working on myself and in no contact from my wife of 6 years. Everyone is telling me to divorce her but I will let her decide. She's a DA and I'm an AP. I'm trying to become secure and improving myself internally
Shes a what and you're an affair partner?
@@woooffbetweenFlairandJlethal you are getting terms from attachment theory mixed up with infidelity. AP - anxious preoccupied and DA - dismissive avoidant
Listening to you helps me to always feel better. This isn’t my first brake up. But this is definitely one that has meant the most.
Notes
10:07 Be ware of this: no-one else can tell you how and how long you should grieve
8:13 - 8:42
This is where I am at currently.
The break-up uncovered a lot of trauma and highlighted some issues I still need to work through.
The thought of being with someone at this time is unpleasant.
I have a lot of work to do.
I wish that in this time I could stop missing her, but it's very difficult.
I know logically that I just enjoyed finally having someone listen to and understand me (or at-least seem like they did).
Ironically, the relationship dissolved due to communication issues and social-pressure.
It's hard to find someone who loved having deep conversations as much as I do.
But I suppose I didn't find her this time either.
I’ve been struggling with this recently! And thank God I ran into this vid! Thank you coach Craig, maragret rest in peace :/ and coach Victoria 🙏🏽
its 45 days since the break up. 16 days of no contact - the contact that I did have was two times and both were to get some stuff back and it was very cordial - I was professional, calm, unemotional. Let him know I loved him, he said he loved me. He said he did not want to work on the relationship because he feels we do not fit right. He previously said he loved me very much and wanted to fight for the relationship. He has b een married several times - He told his friend that he was afraid to be in a relationship since he just got divorced ( we were together 8 months - together almost daily ) and his friend said - her words - she didn't feel that he loved me as much as I loved him. wonder if it's worth waiting for....
to clarify - We were not married - he just got a divorce from his previous wife. I sometimes wonder if I was just a rebound relationship to distract him from the pain of the divorce as she had left him. He did act very loving to me though. so confusing.
@@kathyyoest4085 sorry this imbalance between how you see him and how he sees you has made you suffer. Only time will tell if he’s truly in love with you. If it isn’t him you will find someone who is more suitable and loves you just the way you are. I am in a break up situation too and am realising after something like 6 weeks of NC that although I have strong feelings for her, we probably aren’t compatible character and value wise. The problem is reconciling the mind with the heart.
Great to see you back Coaches 🤗🙂👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you for this video. So very helpful. I’ve watched many of your videos, and this one is top notch! Very useful information.
You are the best! God bless you all! And special hugs for coach Margaret, who surely is helping many people in heaven, too! ❤
Almost 2 weeks of no contact, and thanks to these videos, I am shifting towards having a secure attachment style. I am ready to move on, sure I was hurt and wish her the best, but if she realizes my worth later on and/or figures herself out later down the line, maybe we can work things out. But I'm not going to wait for her to come back, I am ready for a relationship and I can grow with or without her. You snooze you lose!
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
I wanted the version of my ex that broke up with me to “work on himself” by going to therapy and doing the work. But instead, shortly after the BU he was on a boys trip in the Caribbean while I was in therapy and doing the work 😑 the irony
You are more mature and way more sensible than him. The working on oneself part is very important or we will fall into making the same mistakes and falling for the people who are not right for us.
Same thing. She dumped me and started going to beaches and shit. And I'm sitting here taking therapy
It can be horrendous to start dating someone new and their ex comes out of the woodwork - wrecking your new relationship. IMHO it is the decent thing to only countenance dating once one has fully gotten over their ex.
This is such a great channel.
Mines comes back and hasn’t changed at all, avoidant, leaving an everlasting empty feeling
Yet another terrific video - so helpful.
People telling me to move on and find somebody else plenty fish in the sea..personally at the moment is such a selfish bad advice when my mind is towards another person...I have done this mistake in the past using someone else to get over of one of my exes and i ended up losing both of them so no..i am gonna be loyal and stay single until the right person comes by..everyone else acting tough is a narcissistic asshole...I am honest with myself and if i want this person back i am gonna fight for it by staying away and risk by trying to reach out after 3-4 months to see how they respond...
update?
@@StarReact001 They responded cold dry and indifferent and ultimately telling me to move on with my life,i last reached out to her last year in December after 8 months of No Contact ever since i stopped reaching out and i disappeared and left the groups/servers that i was in with their mutual friends and her...i am moving on with my life alone,i just simply cannot try to stay in someone's life uninvited..so i dipped and i am better off single
I like that... I wish there would be an update....
Since day 1 you hace to focus on yourself and try to move on, because you will never know what will happen. you can't be stuck in your past, although you want to be with your ex again.
Tomorrow is four months and it feels like it was freakin yesterday! I get the feeling she’s seeing someone else, but I don’t know for sure.
I’m gonna wait for the rest of my life for her, and I’m happy with this decision
Thank you for this video..it was very helpful n im at present my feelings fo back n fourth ..its been 11 weeks for me since he left our 3 week marriage..I am doing better than early days , im still doing my books but Ned get back on them doing them again daily ..
Mentally I ended it .do I want to he hurt like that again from him , he won't give up drinking. Yes guilt does play in your mind ..I. keep telling myself it's ok his one left n chose to end our marriage..who knows whatever reason thank his freedom n friends....
I am at the point to now I notice a nice looking guy etc ..lol ..
I had date , n found a spark wry another but there off limits..
But I look at it it helps me get out there bit again n guess test waters 💧..
Still in back of mind my ex stil there, stil have my moments, but I can go to work now not think of him 24/ 7 thank goodness..still sleep with teddy bear he bought me when we first met ❤️
I guess I leave myself open n to see .
The best Video yet!
Better then the last best video 😝
These videos have really helped, I really want to work it out with my ex as she never should’ve left. It’s been five months with no sign of her wanting to get back if she has I’ve not seen them as I don’t get hints. It’s now 2024 I think I need to focus on myself and figure out what I want even though in 6 days I was planning on asking her to marry me
My spouse ghosted me for 2 months and hid my 3 year old son from me. The next time I seen her was In court when she was asking for a 3 year restraining order. The next time I seen her was 3 weeks later when she broke her own restraining order and came to my house to apologize and try to fix the marriage, that's the day she realized the mistake she made. Her face the moment she seen me in bed with my stripper friend was priceless. Today she's learning to sleep in the bed she made.. 😂🤣😅 The Show Must Go On.
@@kabirmuazu4190 thanks brother, but the separation and distance only made my heart turn cold. I no longer love my spouse, I'm actually in the process of moving on, my new girl is moving into my house as I text you. Bro there's an ocean of women out here. Today I feel good bro, knowing that I don't need her for anything. The only emails I send are inregards to my son whom she continues to hide from me. For that reason I wouldn't reconcile the marriage even if Jesus dropped to his knees and begged me to accept her again. I'm happy for your reconciliation with ex, I wish you guys the very best. Stay Woke And Stay Blessed Bro.
@@alexislaura9487 thank you, but I'm cool. I'm not in jail and anyone that knows me knows I would die fighting the corrupt system before i allow swine try to silence me or tie me down.. Fukk the police, the court systems, family law, and the rest of the bitcches that support the corrupt system that has your Mental Health in shackles. I'm Good.
Can you do a video on what to do if an ex says they will message you when they are ready
Hold them to their word and let them get back to you. It has to be their idea to get in touch otherwise you’ll push them away. Do nothing.
a month or so in NC. What does it mean when your ex every now and then removes some of your photos (not all of them) from their social media? Are they trying to make me break NC or are they moving on?
Have your ex ever reach out to you
It’s been 2 months of the breakup and I still can’t move on I still wakeup everydayyy wishing and hoping he comes back it’s the longest 2 months in my hole life I feel sad and unhappy everyday as a child I always never had love or attention from my family but he alwayss made me feel like a princess had me feel things I never felt in my hole life it’s really hard he have a crazy job he developed depression and after that he became a different person it made me feel bad he takes long to answer or he’s answers are short and because of the way he was I made him my number one and he always used to tell me you are an amazing person I swearrr I was a great person for him then he really changed now after the breakup it feels like he will neverrrr come back I’m honestly so broken and I don’t know what to do anymore
Great video bro
I always used the rule to wait by month for as long as we have been tgthr..so 3 years 3 months , life is so short i dnt think u shld wait a long time ..
I like that rule
Can you make a video on dealing with a partner who is in midlife crisis and keeps coming and going into your life constantly? My husband‘s in midlife crisis right now and for the last seven months he has left three times only to come back sometimes just within two days. He can’t even seem to make up his mind on what he wants he’s completely confused. And this is a real struggle for someone who has to be the partner dealing with the midlife crisis and it’s fall out.
I ran into my ex a couple days ago after 7 months. She was very short and cold and told me she had a boyfriend. It set me back a little while but I think it’s over now. Just trying to move on now
Thanks a lot. So interesting. Jana - Texas
Thank you for everything
In your professional opinion, how long should you wait until you would want to start dating, so that your mind can get off of it for a while. However, I’ve heard that you shouldn’t commit in to another relationship until you have truly gotten over your ex.
I’ve been blocked by my ex for a month now. Just before the weekend I wrote her a letter basically saying that I understood why she did what she did and I support her in her own journey through therapy and her need to have her own life away from me. She had a detachment issue and broke up with me over a misunderstanding. She was wrong but I couldn’t get her to understand that. She just got angry all at once and blocked me after a couple days. She had wanted space and I violated that by sending flowers. Back to the letter. I believe she received it Saturday. Via a friend I’m told she now seems all sad and has posted a lot of sad things on social media. I can’t see it as I’m blocked. In the letter I said I could only wait to hear from her just so much longer. I hope this is good news but honestly I know I’m still blocked. It’s hard to not be a little excited. But the reality of the situation is I’m still in the same place I was before I mailed the letter. Just wish I could figure out something. 5 weeks ago I couldn’t imagine my life being anything without her in it and then it suddenly ended over something I didn’t even do.
Thank you for all you do it has helped me a me lot through my break up but it seems you guys talk more on dating life not marriage and kids can you expand it a little more .
My wife left me after a relation of 37 years. No contact for 8 months now, it's killing me. We never had an arguiment of whatever. She agrees she has all symtoms of a midlife crisis but thats not what she has she says.
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I’ve been broken up with my ex a year an half she kicked me out next day so called friend was their next day 2 kids we have together and found out so much more about him and how much of an narcissistic person he IS and She lies worse than a sidewalk everything she told me we broke up for he’s all that and more doesn’t look after his own kids deadbeat father And grandpa too boot on top of all this I realize now it’s all because of the big money he makes and she’s nothing but a Golddigger doesn’t matter how much wrong he does as long as the money is there that’s all that matters to her and she puts my kids off to the side too for him and tells me lies to try to make it look like it’s not that bad and says he’s changed but no he hasnt when he goes out back to work everything‘s up his nose and drinking and says he quit drinking So all I can say is I’ve gotten through this there’s probably a lot more worse things that happens to a lot of people It just takes a lot of time and listening to this channel And you doing everything for yourself and my kids is helped me lots and thank you Criag if you could do a situation on my paragraph here it would be nice thank you
No need to get them back if you feel better without them in your life.
I will wait for as long as it takes. God leaves the flock for the one lost sheep. I will stay the course. I love her that much.
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@@YerDa67 depressed. I miss her so much.
Coach craig I requested a coaching with Margaret about 2 weeks ago and have not heard anything. Can you advise.
Email us on your website. Did you check your spam? Did you put the correct email address? Probably one of those 2 things happened.
I have been broken up with 18 months now and my partner is with some one else, i guess this is it now, i've worked hard, moved house, new job, but i'm stuck with what else i should work on myself because, i wasn't told what the issues were, so i have been lying in bed, what if it was this? What if it was that? We have not spoken much in all that time, just bout practical things.
We were together 18 years, we were both heartbroken when he said he wanted to go.
I guess to the Naked eye i've moved on e.t.c, but the pain is just as bad, and my heart still waits.
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@@andrim9931 much better thank you. Sometimes you just got to let it hurt . . . . . Until it dosen't.'
Do they ever try to hoover even after a year? Why would they block me on facebook and then unblock me but leave me blocked on Facebook messenger? Is that a game? Do you have any videos on that? I feel like I've watched all your videos but don't see anything on social media games. I was healing. It's been 15 months of no contact, basically because he assaulted me and by law, can not contact me.. otherwise I feel like he would've reached out by now. .but these games are making me feel crazy. I don't want to block him because I know he is looking for a reaction from me and I can't give him that..after over a year of healing, I am back to square one. Why do they do this? He has a new partner. Why wouldn't he just keep me blocked?
Should I contact her after a month ?
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yeyy i'm early
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My ex reached out to me about a month ago after being in a 6 month relationship with a rebound, we were together for a year and she sent me the “ 🙄” in a Instagram dm to which I left on read, she then followed it up with “ I miss you text and etc” so I decided to reply and we started hitting it off again just like old times, only thing was I got too excited and gave in a little too fast, I was giving off the impression that I was trying to get back together and I guess it scared her in a way, she is an avoidant I’m 100% sure, kept going hot and cold, one day she would tell me how she wants us back together then the next it would be cold as ice, sometimes I wouldn’t even hear from her all day, she then told me she didn’t want a relationship and she just wants to “ live her life” to which I agreed and said that’s probably what’s best, she then told me a few days later she’s been sleeping with multiple people and it’s just fun hooking up, i then told her I didn’t want to speak to her anymore, and let my emotions get the better of me, we had met up 2 times prior yo this and everytime we met we never had sex, most we would do was kiss and hold each other, even sleep in the same bed, but whenever it came down to sex she said she just couldn’t do it, she said if we ever slept with each other it would be too emotional and she would probably cry, I respected her wishes no problem, but I just couldn’t stand that I was giving all this free attention to her and she’s giving her body and attention to others, I then backed off completely and then she started to chase me for some reason, She told me that she wanted me all to herself but still wanted to live her life, and I just said that was absurd, she’s a struggling single mother and she was having trouble with her rent situation, so I helped her pay it like an idiot, we then made a date to meet up for dinner, which we did I picked her and her son up from her apartment and we all went out of course I paid for dinner and even bought her an outfit at the store, she kept trying to bring up the people she was talking to and I just told her I didn’t want to hear about that, I wasn’t complimenting her or giving her too much validation and I saw how it was affecting her crazy, it built a lot of sexual tension between us and whenever we got back to her place we started drinking and had a wonderful time, we stayed up all night just having fun and whenever it came down to sex I unfortunately couldn’t perform because of how intoxicated I was and this threw her into a rage, she grabbed her blanket and asked me not to touch her and was just very upset, she then asked me to leave at 5 am in the morning while I am very intoxicated, I disagreed and said there was no way for me to drive the 2 hours back to my home because of how drunk I was, she was not understanding and even called the police on me, I couldn’t understand how something so minor to me could affect her so much, she then texted me after I left and said she never wanted to see me again or have a relationship with me, I of course gave in like a fool and begged for us to continue our connection and felt disgusted with myself, like all my hard work had gone out the window, this isn’t the first time she’s said those words to me but I just can’t understand how she can be so cold and if my chances are really over now.
Why in the word do you even tolerate this girl. Find some respect for yourself and close that door on her completely. Don’t ever be her sucker again.
She’s using you bro. Work on yourself for a while, pursue life goals and eventually you’ll end up with a much better relationship than this toxic one you are pining after.
Yall get back with ppl after they been fucked by others "rebound"...madness😂