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Out of Sight, Out of Mind During NO CONTACT? Will Your Ex Forget About You?
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- Опубликовано: 19 июл 2020
- Out of sight, out of mind? Will your ex forget about you? If you're going through a breakup, you may be worried that if your ex doesn't see you or hear from you that they will forget about you. This concept can be traced back to the common idea "out of sight, out of mind". In this video, Coach Craig and Coach Margaret discuss how this is not the case in romance and attachment and why it is difficult to forget someone that you were connected to.
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Im not even here to get my ex anymore. I have to admit i started watching craig and margs so i can get my ex back. But the more i watch your videos the more i learn about people and how to treat them. Its really fascinating and I learned alot to improve myself and how to interact with others.
Same here ... nah Imma always take her back ... unless she had kids with someone else
Any updates? Did she contact you?
@@BD-gd9fe any updates my boi
@@ur_really_salty “return of the Mack” that’s my update
@@naadde nope and it’s a good thing too cuz she’d def get trashed if she does lmao
I’ve been watching Craig and margrets videos for a few months now. I got dumped about 6 months ago and was completely devastated . I wasn’t needy at all luckily and I just let her go, but I thought there was absolutely no hope. I watched the videos, dedicated my life to improving myself in all aspects and I got over her completely. Just this week she showed up on my doorstep and begged me to take her back. I told her there was no chance of us getting back together and she continues to send me long texts about how much she loves me. She’s turned into a total simp and it’s so crazy how the tables have turned. Be patient!! If you genuinely grow and work on yourself they will come back at some point! You just might not want them back when they do ;) thanks for these videos! They are truly helpful and insightful
There’s a lot of crappy videos on RUclips about getting your ex back who are just trying to get your money. Craig and Margret are genuine! *I have never worked one on one with either of them, just a long time viewer*
Thank you for sharing that! Crazy, but I have a family member with your same name!!! I saw it and was like... what the heck. But he’s only in middle school 😂
You give me hope.... because I also think there is no hope at all, so the only thing left to do is to focus on myself.
Hope you don’t take her back
Hope mine comes back... i have a bit of hope being togethrr 9 years an have a lil boy together.. done nc for a week now an split 5 weeks ago.. who knows what the future holds
I finally solved the dilemma... If you dont wanna suffer from a break up, say no to relationships 😂
😂😂
The anxiety of being left is overwhelming... keep wondering if he is with someone else and wishing I could turn back time and change some of my behavior.
You don’t know what you don’t know. Fill in your knowledge gap and make the next relationship LAST! ❤️
True true true true
Amen to that. They did their part I’m sure as well or we wouldn’t have been so upset. Hopefully you corrected your issues so they can see that :)
Is it better a year later.
No contact was IMPOSSIBLY HARD until I found this channel. By having you guys explain how and why I feel the way I do it has helped me beyond measure.
You guys can do it! Do no contact for you, not to get them back! I used to listen to this because it comforts me but over time, things do get better. Do this for you, think about yourself, come back to yourself first before wanting to someone back :)
They definitely don’t forget about you. It’s been almost a year since my breakup and my ex still blocks and unblocks me on FB almost every week!
😂
Shelly Shel She actually showed up on my Suggested Friends list tonight on FB. Unblocked once again. 🙄😂
Shelly Shel You will. You’ll be fine, recover and thrive again. I felt the same but didn’t delete my FB or change anything because I didn’t want her to see how bad it bothered me. I still watch a video from time to time but not anywhere near as much as I used to. Time does heal but you don’t forget and neither do they. She was the most stubborn woman I’d ever met and she still checks up on me.
Shelly Shel If you had been together that long he definitely still thinks about you. Probably more than you think he does. I wish I had found out about No Contact and had seen these videos sooner as well. Keep watching them, they do really help.
This made me cry...it’s so hard to let him go when he clearly doesn’t like me the way I love him. 😞
That breakup was saving u from something. Consider it a blessing. Love, a dumpee. ❤️
His loss , you’ll see it soon I promise 🥺
You can love me instead of that sob 😘
Am going thru the same breakup I can relate to your feelings instantaneously... Stay strong... Let's see what life has to offer us afterwards. Xxx
Take it day by day. Each day will bring you closer to a happier you. You'll get there. Small steps
2 months no contact so far. The relationship didn’t end on bad terms and I’ve done no contact since the start. Starting to just not care I’m used to not hearing from her now. I’m gonna continue living my life and if she ever reached out I’d totally give her a chance. I just wanted to thank you guys for helping me through this. I binged your videos just for comfort and learned so much.
UPDATE: She did reach out finally. using a very corny indirect/direct approach. It was her daughters 1st birthday and she said “Hey hope you’re doing well. You were totally right when you use to say she would get so many presents I wouldn’t know what to do with them all” we talked that day and it went very well but the next day she ghosted me and we havnt talked in 4 days now. So I’m confused but if she ever reaches out again I’m gonna hold back even more and really make her do all the heavy lifting.
Nice last name dude, your ex probably will come back around, mine did after 2 months of no contact and honesty, it’s confusing. She clearly stated we are not friends anymore and we won’t be. Yet she follows me on social media and even messages me. Therefore I’m confused. I hope things work out well for you!
Scott Seal Thanks for the kind words man
Second update?
@@richardseeley6311 update?
Good to see you both! “The bliss did not last so long but the abandonment seems to last forever.” So true in my case Margaret. Thanks for helping to put some if this into words.
The Love Chat, Dating Guy and Susan Winter are my other favorites and they are excellent, but Coach Craig and Coach Margaret bring the analysis to a whole other level that can't be beat - gold standard. Thank you!
Susan Winter is not normal. She is 60 yrs and only dates men in their 20's. I think she is paying them. lol. She looks her age in the face. Listen to Craig and Marge. Also Coach Lee. ;-)
@@mixedchickULike really? her advices sounds wise.
So true
Combine with Clay Andrews.
I could not go back to someone tht didn't talk to me for weeks or months. I feel like they don't want to be with me anymore or they found someone else.
28 days no contact after I was dumped suddenly. Absolutely brutal.
Any update did you ever get your ex back or at least did they call you or message you anything
update?
@@mimi-my1lu she reached out 2 months after the breakup to ask for her printer back. Very random. At that point tho, I realized I didn’t want her back. Point is tho, no contact seems to work.
You find a new hot girl yet?
@@toddblanco8493it was her way of trying to talk to you.
As hard as it may sound, you’ve got to learn from the breakup and rise above it to make the next one beautiful, sustainable and memorable. You learn from mistakes and insecurities. You can always rely on time to heal yourself and broken relationships.
I’m in 5 months of no contact. And I can care less if she doesn’t contact me at all. Working on myself by working out.
Update
I play these videos so many times over. Margaret saying they did have some genuine feelings for me is so validating. Honestly you guys and the love chat have kept me going in very low spots
Craig really says what we are all feeling. I couldn’t do anything not even watch tv the first three days I cried non stop and lost 5 pounds from not eating
last week i happened to end up at the same event my ex was at. I truly believe that people don’t forget. When things were good with us they were really good but we had problems we couldn’t over come and he ended up ending our 3 year relationship. We have both moved on but i noticed he was still glancing over at me every now and then and i did the same. i’ll never forget the great times we had and i hope he is doing well.
It breaks the heart when two good people have feelings for each other, but can’t be together. It hurts even more when someone wishes well for their ex despite the heartbreaks. 😞
What I love so much about your video is that you explain in detail how you feel after the break up and that makes me feel understood and not judged for everything going on in my mind and heart! Thank you for all your work. I don’t think that there is any coach out there who could compare to you Margarete and Victoria! ❣️
Thank you Craig and Margaret. I was forced to end my 2 year relationship with my ex because he would never make it official, never allow a photo of us on his Facebook or even if I took a photo of him without me. I mentioned it to him six months earlier and he never addressed it, so during the pandemic, two months ago I finally said I can't continue living in the shadows I feel like you are hiding me. And he simply never answered me back. So even though I was the one with the issue, I really feel like it was he who walked away and gave up. All the things you talk about are real to me. I am healing from it by just being ok with my solitude and understanding that for me, a relationship is more like an addiction, so the time alone is really good. Maybe you can do a video on "when it's unclear who is the dumpee and who is the dumper"
Same here with me. It still hurts that he did not try to reach out.. or maybe its too soon. Its been 1 month NC. Keep watching the videos everyday every night to stay strong, even so tears will roll down my cheeks late at night. Its painful.
@@ernitahap2718 did he reach out
I cried for an entire week when I was dumped! Can I share that? I was devastated… I guess I was “in” pretty deep! Attachment sucks sometimes. Felt like my beating heart was ripped out of my body!
I was in love with the person that dumped me… 💔
Move on. Simple. The problem with Get-your-ex-back dating coaches nowadays is that they all have their specific marketing formulas to pull in the broken-hearted. Coach Greg and Coach Margaret are one of the few that encourage healthy behavior to understand ones' self post-breakup which is the best information ever - It's not about getting your ex back, it's about understanding who you are and what you need to move on for yourself. You need to keep moving forward. Your ex is your ex is for a reason. It had to end because you both weren't in sync. That alone should be enough to state that the relationship wasn't balanced and wasn't working out. Learn from it. Understand what went wrong. Then move on when you finally make peace with your ex's decision but moreover when you understand why you were so hurt. I know it's difficult, but they'll move on, so why shouldn't you? Why should you fight for someone who doesn't want to fight for you? "Oh but I know that they will come around someday..." "I'll be their friend and hopefully they'll come back" "I'll do no contact and reach out in 30 days..." Stop living in the past. The past can't hurt you unless you allow it to do so. The present allows you to heal, learn and grow. The future is where your true path to happiness lies. So move on.
meta1gear4 who is this u sound like my ex with a different name?
This is something I didn’t want to hear but needed to hear
I question if you watched any of the videos or the messages because your comment is cynical and states a lot of tactics that are discouraged. Not every ex is an ex for a reason. Sometimes and a lot of times it’s right person wrong time and they force you to do the work heal and grow as well as themselves. Keep your options open but there’s no harm in loving someone and returning to them as healthier more loving people. You need to believe in change and you need to believe in self work. This comment has a negative vibe. And his name is coach Craig lol it’s all over the background and is the name of the channel 😑
Newly discovered this channel and it is helping me so much! I’m on day 2 of No Contact and am determined to be disciplined and focus on myself. Today is incredibly hard though, and my anxiety is through the roof :(
Update?
How are you doing?
Margaret is the best. I find her soothing and calming. Thank you for all your work!
The studies I've seen confirm absence makes the heart grow fonder, and if that doesn't convince you, think of all the stories written by humans. Lovers who were separated being reunited. Long separated people meeting up again and falling in love. People write about the experiences and feelings they experienced. Being reunited is almost a universal wish of all humanity.
That's all well and good when the partner wasn't a mentally ill narcissist incapable of admitting fault.
this is encouraging until you realize that if his connection with you will never fade, it also won't fade with every other girls he was talking to, sleeping with, dating
Thsnk you guys. I'm six months in no contact and losing hope. Still having nightmares. My heart is still just completely broken. I'm really trying hard to keep moving forward. Your vids seem to come at the right time. Thank you.
It’s so so hard, six months later and still the first thought in my head in mornings
i’m six months in as well, we broke up in november 2019 and the last time we spoke was january 2020 and it ended very very messy. 😞💔
@@MoriahxGrace Is there no end to it? I did nothing to deserve the way she is treating me. We were house shopping the same week she dumped me.
Nicolas Rodriguez i am so sorry, my ex and i were talking about marriage and living situations as well. i wish i could offer some advice but the best i can give it’s what’s in this video, it definitely helped me and made me feel more validated and less alone. i just hope and pray to whatever god is out there that my ex will find my way back to me when she is ready. :(
@@MoriahxGrace These videos definitely help and you are certainly not alone.
So, quick insight here I would like to share. My ex and I broke up June 18, 2019, about a year ago. I followed Craig Kenneth videos and then I booked a skype call with Margaret. It really helped me. After two months had passed of no contact, she started posting things directed to me on social media and then came to my apartment and dropped off a note when I wasn't home. Long story short, I contacted her after the note (broke the rules) and we got back together and started dating. She moved in with me and we shared another year together. Worked through things, got better at communication, overcame COVID problems, and I continued to apply the things Craig and Corey Wayne teach.
After awhile...We started seeing big differences. I felt she was controlling, she felt I was too care-free with things. We broke up again on June 21st, 2020 (coincidence?). She broke up with me but I was prepared. We mutually agreed. I come here with a different perspective now. the first time, I felt like I was physically dying and Craig's work helped to ease the pain...This second time around, I have literally NO desire to get back. She blocked me after 30 days because she could not stop contacting me on how upset she was about dumping me and wanted to figure things out. I just wasn't interested anymore because we knew that a marriage to eachother would be a lifetime of differences. I told her to move on and we need to find people more compatible.
Moral? Think of the breakup as a BIG SIGN! These things don't happen if its the right person. I know that's hard to believe that statement and maybe you just need to go through it yourself. The first time we broke up, I would have done ANYTHING to get my ex back. I felt psychotic and doing the no contact rule absolutely killed me...I should have paid more attention to our differences instead. Here I am a year later, a month after this second breakup, and I feel so much less pain. It's like I just fast-forwarded through the whole thing and I could care less if im out of sight and out of mind. Food for thought about your ex.
Best not to dwell on it.
This is me. Broke up a second time and I am at peace! I know they will contact me but I am good and thriving 😌
Guys there is a reason every single coach on RUclips go hard behind NO CONTACT, and that’s because IT WORKS !!
This guy gives me hope when I most need it
Sheesh, Margaret stays clutch with the words of wisdom!
Keep doing what you do
You're the best Craig
You and Margaret have been lifesavers for me
Love from india
I really wish you guys had a Facebook group where lots of us could exchange stories and help one another in some ways. It would be a great idea Craig. I’m sure it would help grow your RUclips, website and your workbook series. Please consider this. Thank you for your thoughts and for putting out such great information. I’m sure we all wish we had found you years ago. Lol
Yessss! Marget is back! I just started this video, but I also just got dumped for the final time today. As usual I am sure that I will receive a message that is uplifting! You TWO ALWAYS come through for US!
Update?
17 days in no contact, I miss him and sometimes I feel a lot of separation anxiety. I won’t break NC tho!
Update?
@@dwightschrute8141 he reached out and we even got back together for a few days, but we broke up again because he still doesnt know what he wants. he didn’t work on himself since he jumped into a rebound relationship, and then came back to waste my time
It's been little over a year now since my ex and I broke up. Throughout the past year I would reach out to her (about once a month) just to see how she was doing. Looking back, I wish I hadn't done that since that was just a form of pursuit.
The last time I reached out was 4 months ago to congratulate her on finishing school. After that, I finally made the decision to stop. There's no point in pursuing someone who doesn't see you in the same way. I have been doing things to better myself these past 4 months and feel a bit better, but every now and then I still catch myself thinking of her. I can't help but wonder if she does the same, or if I'll ever get another chance with her. At this point, I'm almost certain she's already moved on.
Update? She ever reach out again?
@@TheShady380 No, I haven't heard from her since. Given the way she ended our relationship, it's definitely for the best.
@@jasonc3152 I understand bro. Never an easy thing to go through. Just keep improving and who knows, maybe years down the line she will reach out. I've heard of many testimonies where women reach out 5,10,20 years later. Fersure don't wait for it though lol
@@TheShady380 I appreciate the words of encouragement! I hope you're doing well :) Yeah, I've pretty much moved on since writing that post and have been doing great. I'm currently in the process of going back to school, and still finding things to better my life and give me fulfillment. As for her, though the possibility of hearing from her is there, I'm pretty sure I won't and I'm fine with that. Even if I did, I could never take her back. It just wouldn't be the same. That and I have a one strike and you're out rule lol. Last I heard, she got into a relationship with a guy she had been friends with for years, had a child with him last year, and they're now engaged. She got with him not long after she broke things off with me, so I'm fairly certain something happened between them while we were still together. This is why women who have a lot of male friends (orbiters) is such a red flag. I saw this, but overlooked it because of my feelings for her and giving her the benefit of a doubt. Even though she did me dirty, I have no ill will towards her and wish her the best.
Craig for president 😎
According to our current standards..Craig is over qualified for that job😂
Haven't watched a video in a while I was focussing on me but this one is interesting to me
@@annaj.b7689 why does starwars remind you of me?
@@annaj.b7689 ah okay my bad then
One of my besties sends me these videos, she's going through a hard break up. I watch them to understand more of my friend's point of view, but also y'all help me to better understand my trauma, and past. Even if the information isn't for me, I really enjoy y'all. I'm sorry to find out Margaret has past, she seems like she was wonderful lady. ❤
3.5 months since I got ghosted (4 year relationship, lived together etc) and a month into no contact round 2. Shit is hard, man.
I got totally drunk after a long while since the start of this pandemic, checked my phone after and didn't see any drunk text or call. I'm proud of myself lol
Cheers to everyone going strong during these hard times
😂
The alcohol cannot even get me drunk anymore , too much pain 😬
Everytime a lose comes up we work through it a little further
So long story short NO Contact !!! Works ! I highly suggest everyone do it. But you must work on yourself. Become the better version of yourself so she sees wow he’s doing great without you. Craig and Margaret Thank you both so much. You too saved my relationship me and my ex are taking it slow
After how long your ex reached out?
@@lols5851 like 1 month but every relationship is different and i thought at times it was hopeless. But be truly work on yourself because it’ll show if your ex comes back. You have to be ready otherwise it’ll just fail
@@josphewho oh Thank you so much :) Your comment is gold :)
And Yes...Congratulations for getting your ex back :)
Margaret with those under cover zingers.
Thank you for the work, research and transparency you both invested in this excellent video, Coaches Margaret and Craig.
Love how you remind us from time to time about the importance of no contact, my gf broke up with me a week ago and your words are keeping me strong!
;) Been there almost a year, then again I don't want to get back anymore. Nowadays I watch videos like this just to learn new things.
Electronite1337 true that! I wanna make the woman I’m with happy.
ShapSh0ot3r you’ve taken right step by coming to this channel 👍
IASOU2005 Yea, been here for the past few months and got the workbooks a few days ago, we gotta keep bettering ourselves, right?
@@ShapSh0ot3r As a hint - Watch Alexander Grace - he talks about female psychology and how to increase your value as a dating partner. In principle it very simple just focus on self improvement and you will be successful with women.
Absolutely true coach Craig and margaret. I love you both discussing about this topic of "Out of mind Out of sight of No contact."
Been watching your videos for less than 2 months. Just so grateful of what i've learnt from your insights and wisdom to become a strong and better person. GOD bless you both..❤
5:00 O’Clock in the morning, this video is really worth it to watch it, very different and useful video❤️ always enjoy this unique world famous duo coaches.. Really appreciated for uploading.. both coaches has a very authentic, personable styles❤️
I saw this video right on time. Recently split almost 2 weeks now after 1 1/2 yrs. Then my grandfather passed away. He was there for me I thought we could work.We spoke daily after breakup but him being bipolar unmedicated hes so up and down with anger hatred/then he loves me so much. I am anxious as he is as well. Why do I miss him? The horrible things he would say🤷♀️So YES no more disrespect! Emtionally abusive but good times too..I finally stood up too him. Then he walked away for good🤔 He said get out of my life for good. Thank you coaches 🙏 I choose ME💜💜💜💜💜💜I wish I can afford a Skype but unfortunately out of work from dental field but could you guys do bipolar or mental illness a new one soon?😊
Margarets joke was funny. She's good value
Great advice. Mom died when I was 9 and man I go down a rabbit hole... I know now to be a big boy and get my big boy pants... Thanks
Great video Craig and Margaret. You guys helped so many! Thanks
I’m scared to watch this . I don’t want feel anymore pain
I grief by looking at my ex girlfriend’s picture and sometimes listen to one of our songs that we used to slow-dance to or a song that reminds me of the pain she caused.
I agree with what you guys say but at least for me as the dumpee even though I want her in my life really bad, when I don’t look at her pictures, when myself or others don’t talk about her, when I’m not reminded of her, it gets easier. Now that it’s been 6 months since the break up and our last contact, it’s much easier compare to 5 or 4 months ago. Why it’s not the same for her? There is no doubt that she respect me because I didn’t reach out but definitely easier for her as well and as time goes on, I’m only a memory.
I think I should just move on. It's been two months and I work with my ex and it's just awful. He treats me like a friend/ co-worker and it just makes me feel so sad all the time. It hurts seeing him look perfectly happy without me all the time while I'm suffering everyday. I had hope we could work it out but I know we won't. It's like he never loved my those three years. I just feel like dying everyday.
Aawwww. I can totally relate to this. I work with my ex and I sometimes think that I will resign. He's dating someone else right now and I thought we would get back together because there was really something. But he didn't win me back the way I wanted him to be. I am hurt if he is happy. I honestly want him to be miserable because he treated me badly. 😂 My mind changed because I want that before I will resign, he will see me bloom and happy without him. It's like he's my enemy but I admit it's unhealthy because it's like my world is revolving around him. Not to care on his presence and be successful is the best way!
This video came at the perfect time!
Thanks guys you both are amazing! 💕💕💕
Very good video! I agree with them that Out of sight, out of mind is not healthy, not if you had a relationship that lasted for 6 years and you were intimate with them. I guess it would work for short term relationships like a few weeks or so, or even if they did something bad, like cheat or something. Which my ex girlfriend was very faithful. One of my sisters says that to me, but I just ignore it. She did, because her ex husband wasn’t a good father and he was lazy. My girlfriend was neither and like I said, she was very faithful.
Hey Coach. Is it ever too early to begin personal growth? I'm in high-school and I was wondering if I was too young to work on the workbooks and begin personal growth after my first ever break up
Great question. Never too early! I wish I knew this stuff in HS!
Bro I am 22 go at it honestly best thing ever
Craig, I’ve been a follower of your videos. I’ve been in no contact for just shy of three months. I’ve been doing well and moving forward on my life. I did need to return some belongings and get something of mine back from the relationship. I reached out via email, as I did not have her number, it was very professional and to the point and asked for time frames to leave them outside my house or hers, specifically not asking for anything in person and asked for my belonging to get dropped on my mailbox and that was it. No opening/attempt for any conversation outside of the business mentioned and nothing emotional.
I hope this doesn’t constitute really breaking no contact, I really needed this stuff out of my house and that item back. I waited so long as I was really not previously emotionally ready to deal with it and now I am and I need it gone as I’m starting to see new people.
Update? She ever reach back out?
Oh Craig! Your childhood story is my biggest fear! I am going through that exact situation currently hoping to not to give my one and a half year old my anxiety! :(
You’re so beautiful
how can I ever believe that she ever cared about me at all. she teased me, and she stuck around until I helped her to get a job in the country that I live in, once she had the job.. goodbye.. she discarded me so cruelly.. I could not believe this was the same person. she told me that I was not the same person she had met.. she looked sincere.. I wish I no longer felt like this..
I first came across you wanting to get my ex back and I didn't listen and kept reaching out and my situation got worse! So now I'm here hurt yes but I don't want him back he isn't the man I thought him to be. 3.5 yrs and he is very cold and mean to me I don't like mean treatment so I put my big girl pants on and now I'm just trying to get past the loneliness because I feel thats why I stayed as long as I did! I love you and Margaret! You help me to see I can do this!
I love how serious this woman is 😄
💀💀💀love her.
Thankyou very much for these videos.its serving broken heart people.i am helping my loved one in the family and doing therapy in her severely hurt broken time ...I must admit here that you are the best team..I request here that please also guide that for the long long distance relationships.where love has touched Heart and soul never touched skin I mean never ever shook hand too in real but never seen in real..
Great video it's been 5 months since my break up 57 no contact we broke up because his mom was always his priority. This is sad . He told me to move on last time. No hope because his mom.
@@lesliejohns987 yeah there is so sad when they don't value our love but one day they will end up alone and they will regret it.
finallly need some new good advice i was about to break no contact i always come back here whenever i breakdown im so grateful i found you guys ima try to do skype with you and get the workbooks
Update?
My worry is, if i stay no contact, he think i dont want him back or he will think im better off without him ( he suffers from ptsd)... Even though logically, my last text told him i still want to be with him. Im afraid he wont reach out because he thinks i better off 😭😭😭😭
Guys, this separation anxiety and pain is soooooo overwhelming. Most days i feel like i cant bare it.😢
Thanks you two Very Much.Extremely helpful 😀
This is very timely thank you for uploading this one ❤️
Struggling with all the memories. I miss him so much.But he is busy with his new job.
Bless you both ! I am going through the worst time of my life... I have been broken up with by the man I love and I found out I'm pregnant, shortly after I found out I'm having a miscarriage... It feels like I'm losing everything and I won't have a chance to get my ex back as well....
I hope you are doing better now...
Are there any videos where you address break ups due to genuine incompatibility? Like a couple who have an amazing connection but different values?
What I want to know ,why do there leave you in the first place, and then come back again? Happens to me with my Ex , but don’t even know if I want him back!!!
The grass wasn't greener
I did something so stupid . I did the grand gesture . She accepted it but now it’s like she barely speaks to me , she is avoidant , says she doesn’t want to hang out and I feel so awful .
So my ex broke up with me 5 months ago and moved out 2 months ago. However, 3 weeks ago, he posted on social media that he's in a new relationship and we've been in no contact for only a little over a month. I truly feel like he has forgotten about me and he's just gonna keep moving forward even if this relationship he's in doesn't work out. We had the best bond and were together for almost 3 years but directly after the break up, he immediately started trying to get to know other people. It stresses me out because he's the one I'm sure I want to be with and I just don't know what to do or how to get him back.
You do nothing. Time will do it for you. So after you broke up 5mnths ago, you guys still lived together until he moved out?
@@ericwatt3220 yes the break up was feb. 8th and he moved out may 14th. I got furloughed from my job because of the virus so he decided to move out and leave me struggling alone and I had to move back in with my mom. From the time he moved out in may until the last time we talked on June 13th, we've only talked about 4 times about our tenant charges from our old place. And that was it.
He hasn't forgotten you. You are still on his mind. He takes awhile to get over someone
Stick to strict NC. Add radio silence on top. Stop checking his social media,it will kill you before your time 😅. Later on,many weeks from now , when you have clarity of thought, you will look back and maybe even realize that you really don't need him that much. Or,he will come back running to you. Be strong
@@ericwatt3220 thank you so much. As long as it's been, my feelings haven't changed and I'm feeling like none of the days without him are getting easier. I need a push to keep moving forward. I literally threw up when I found out about the new relationship. I still cry a lot too. I've never been in love until now so it's hard.
2 yrs later, i cant stop thinking of her.
She seems happy in a new relationship.
I think her rebound is a rare case where it's working.
It is hard to watch
craig merrila same boat. Just be happy for her. As longs she’s happy your happy. She will come back one day trust
@@craigmerrila7767why are you watching? Completely go no contact……
Craig & Margaret, As far as one particular viewer of y'all's -- who mentioned in the past how he planned to whistle the introductory tune (used in these vids) to his ex if/when she returned -- I truly wonder if he's had the opportunity to do so yet. 😄😜😊😀😁😂
lol I thought of that the other day- not a bad jingle to keep in mind while moving on
Out of sight, out of mind works very well. Women just leave you and don`t look back. I had a relationship with a strong woman. A good relationship, without any serious problem. Just one day she asked: "Would you like to move together?" I wanted to be cool and independent. and said: "Er, not yet." She answered. "Ookey... Understand."
Next week she was living with another men. Next week. And said not to call her any more. I did no contact hoping she is just doing some show. But no, she was gone for me. I never saw her any more.
I moved across the country with the girl of my dreams we were together six months and three months we moved to Iowa she was from California . We met off my RUclips channel I moved her from California to Iowa and then a few weeks later I moved to Iowa. And one night she got really pissed off at me and laid hands on me over and over again till the neighbors called the police and she ended up getting arrested. I left every single thing I ever loved and known behind for this girl my career, my friends, family . I haven’t spoke to her since that night it’s been two months now today.I guess partly because there’s a court order no contact but I tried to have it lifted. She ended up just slamming me a newspaper and tried to twist the story on me because she’s a news anchor and she is in jeopardy of losing her job because of her trial. She didn’t try to slam in a newspaper until her job found out about her arrest and took her off the anchor desk I’m assuming she tried to hide it but I don’t know cause we haven’t talked I looked all across RUclips and all over the Internet to find a similar situation and it just doesn’t exist. I don’t think I’ve ever been in the lowest point like this in my entire life but these videos definitely help to some extent. Thinking about taking the email coaching from Craig or Margaret but it doesn’t tell you when you’re going to get the coaching session so I’m not about to pay that kind of money and then have to wait a month. On another note I have no idea if she even thinks about me at all those things seem just fake to me now at this point she also has some things she still hasn’t picked up. I also never got an apology from her. It was like she didn’t even think she did anything wrong.
I'm back again , I dated s guy don't know what to call it ( "mood swings") his like I just need yo be alone its over a week his been gone , all I want is closure : tell me I'm not good enough for you ...then I can move on with my life
The break up was 4 months ago, improved myself greatly but still have suicidal thoughts about every day. I have her blocked on everything but cant get her out of my head
Please don't think of hurting yourself. I know it's hard not to think negative thoughts. I'm 54 and my woman left me two months ago. I feel like I am dying. I feel like I will never find love at my age. I'm freaked out and have thought some dark thoughts myself. You will survive and you will be happy again someday. And you are not alone in this. Take care.
You will feel the pain for the first four to six months. That is if you do not want to work on yourself, do not want to date and meet new people.
Thank you, Craig! I needed this video 💕
Hey, Coach Craig, I got a video topic suggestion on some questions that will help build attraction & intimacy with your partner or someone that you're dating. I think this will be helpful for guys in the friendzone or guys like me who have a fearful-avoidant attachment style.
Thanks a million, Craig you're doing a GREAT JOB!!!!
I love yalls videos I needed to see this! ❤️
Hi Craig, a video about hypergamy and attachment would be great. It makes your own life feel totally worthless.
I feel u Craig, applebees girl still on ur head :( more examples that out of sight out of mind doesn't work
Was he talking about Dan Bacon or Clay Andrews?
It's a bummer not hear from my ex, it has been 1.5 years now. I still have contact with her brother.. Hese great as a friend but we don't talk about her... Wondering if i ever hear from her 🧐.. Don't get me wrong, I'm doing fine but we had a relationship for 6.5 years, this makes it hard for me not to know anything about her anymore.
You haven't had a relationship since brk up?
@@tindplus3505 Nope I'm in a wheelchair, relationships isn't something i get often (this was my first) I have a car - work - rent a home - see people.. want to connect, but people see the chair first 😉. Sad but true.
My friend has also handicap, 33 and never had a relationship. In that way I'm lucky i guess.
He's talking about Clay Andrew and Brad Browning to name at least two.
Iv not seen my ex or heard from him in years and we've been divorced for 6 months, hes a narcissist, he only wanted me for what he could get then he walked away. So its very true, out of sight, out of mind for deffo.
I did not hear from my ex for 4 month after he broke up with me (5 years of relationship).
Update?
@@Kenedamick he reached out to me( just to check how am I) but I was already married and believe me that the husband I met is way better personality and loves me to the moon and back. He doesn't let me doubt if I'm am loved or not
@@valeriavoltage4262 Wow good for you!
I have aphantasia I can’t visualise anything in my mind it’s true. All my memories are in photos and videos. I have ptsd so trauma I think caused this and my brain blocked this ability out so it protected me.
Craig
What should I do if my ex girlfriend wishes me a happy birthday
We'll it's today
And she wished me 4 hours ago when I was asleep
@The Hip hop Guitarist thanks buddy
Happy birthday man
Wow wow wow the space I used to be in when I first started binging these night and day. The cycles I read people were going through that I swore I wouldn’t. Imma tell you this… I am an ultimate manifestor and by doing the inner self soothing and patting yourself on the back (physically) goes a long way.
I think of her daily n anger and I actually WORK to SIT with the anger and resentment and then add in the feeling of bliss and satisfaction. Literally I create the emotions I want all day, never been a crazy emotional dude so this exercise has been a really right brained thing to do and I love it.
Do I relish on the day she is chasing me the same way I did out of being a genuine person and not this desperate, mistake she told everyone I was ?
Do I want to witness her swallow all the words she said ? Yes yes yes yes
Am I still winning in OTHER aspects of my life?? FUCK YES.
It’s just nice coming back to these clips and literally Feeel how much I’ve settled 💯. Impress yourself with your new life and relationships.
I try to watch your videos and understand. I try to work on myself, go for walks, journal, plan my unknown future. Idk what to do anymore. I feel little to no joy anymore
Connecting with old friends and your family can help and also going to talk to a counselor. You can text counselors now it's crazy. I'm right there with ya though it seems like no matter how hard I try to self improve and reflect to make myself the best version I possibly can there is this piece missing. Itll come back like everyone says "over time" but you have to want it. It can get easier and easier to allow your mind to sink into this pit of negativity especially in times like these in the middle of a pandemic. Stay strong.
Craig can you do a session about a relationship in which the guy claims that he was never interested in you even though his actions spoke otherwise
My break-up was very chaotic and horrible to the point I know he will never come back. he blocked me from everywhere possible. He blocked my existence too...So how do I know if he even checks my Instagram account for example if I'm blocked...It just feels like I'm forgotten and do not even exist in his mind, I doubt he even bothers too. So why don't I feel what they're saying above. All I know is that there will never be a return from his side. He showed all the signs a person would do to cut someone out for good. the same he did with his previous ex he never returned back too.
When did it happen? If it is just so recently, you have to give it time and space.
@@dreib5129 hey thank you for commenting, it’s been over a month... but we were suppose to get married in December. Everything was set and planned. But our distance relationship caused a lot of conflicts, problems and fights. I wasn’t ready to give up so soon, but he insisted on it for months before he ended it officially. So to him it was a thought process . Which means by now he’s moved on probably since I was never able to see him in person... distance is also a big impact... and he’s moving out to another country in 2 months time for his work...
@@dreib5129 the other issue, he has blocked me from every where possible so he would be able to move on with his life as what he said. This by far has been the toughest thing for me since I still love him so deeply! Our relationship hasn’t been stable at all... and he has been unhappy for a while so I believe based on his actions he is never coming back 😞he did specifically say this is final decision and there’s no turning point
@@amnaal-muhandes1559 hey, how are you doing now? hope you’re in a better situation
5 months since he ghosted on me. There’s been no contact. He never came back and he won’t. It hurts so much.
hey, how are you doing now?
@@byunsdale believe it or not... I'm in a serious relationship with a wonderful sweet man. I can't believe I found someone so loving. I also can't believe I felt so bad after my ex ghosted me. Met my new bf 7 months ago and i've never been so happy. I would tell my old self to be patient!! and know that something good is on it's way!
love is the most dangerous thing in the world, my whole world is dark now, i’ll never be the same….
You guys kill me. Lol. Beakie buzzard. Love it