I wish black women would give each other the space to wear their hair in whatever way pleases them and makes them feel confident and beautiful. We don't have to love and like one another but we can choose to respect one another's decisions. Allow one another to grow.
The reason I went natural was because I understood that we African women wouldn't be on relaxed hair if they whites had not made us think out hair is ugly and unkept in its natural state..... Secondly, I hate the smell of relaxers and it changes my hair color from off black to light brown. Thirdly, I can do alot of things with my natural hair .... I can go from curly to coily to straight if I want to..... and I cannot achieve that with a relaxed hair without adding extentions... I hated natural hair before now because I thought it was difficult to manage. But it is the kind of stress I'd always wish for over and over again. Taking my time to take care of my natural makes me feel more feminine.
RELAXERS ARE BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH, FORGET THE SOCIAL PART. IT IS A SERIOUS HEALTH RISK, IT IS SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN TO POSSIBLY CAUSE ADVERSE EFFECTS ON THE WOMEN'S WOMB. www.researchgate.net/publication/221737842_Hair_Relaxer_Use_and_Risk_of_Uterine_Leiomyomata_in_African-American_Women
Women need to stop with those who perm their hair hates themselves. There was a time WE ALL PERMED our hair and we rock it without hating ourselves. We did health hair practices on our PERMED hair. Now that we are natural we look back at the ladies and through hate. But that was us. Grow up ladies with the comments and show some growth in your beliefs. Challenge yourself to show some love to others. Is that so hard????
@@Babybookieboo Not me My dad was a Black Panther from back in the day. I love my melanin skin and always have. My skin don't burn in the sun it glistens all thanks to the melanin. ❤
I was introduced to your channel through your last video about relaxed hair in Africa and I just have to say, I appreciate the way you talk about black hair. I’m natural and I promote the beauty of natural hair, but I don’t believe all women who relax “hate themselves” etc. I think sometimes it’s simply a matter of preference, and that’s okay. I love that you understand the science of black hair and don’t shy away from pure facts even when it doesn’t paint relaxed hair in the best light. I genuinely respect that about you. I personally don’t like the “chemical” sodium hydroxide, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like the “look” of straight hair from time to time. That’s why as a natural I choose to straighten my hair a few times a year. Anyway, you’ve done an excellent job taking care of your relaxed hair, and though I’ll be staying natural, I enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work! ❤️
Everybody do whatever you want with your hair. Im a black woman and i do whatever with mine. Currently my hair is is medium sized braids that are half pink with red streaks and half yellow with orange streaks. I have been natural for 4 years but i like to watch this channel because she be having knowledge and easy styles.
Actually some men look down on women with natural hair. They validate their women with perms, makeup and all the artificial things wanting them to look like the Caucasians and because they think that is beautiful. Until our men start appreciating the naturalness women are going to be falling for their crap. Only few women went into perms and still do because they like it.
I personally don’t like relaxers because of the chemicals, side effects, process, and look on me.... but, I think that you should do your hair how you want to and know about the things that could happen if you do certain things. Relaxers and curly hair aren’t for everyone, and if it works for you then it works. Your very beautiful women, congratulations on you graduating and have fun on your journey.
I’m natural and never thought about relaxing my hair. I love my natural hair. But Why do people care what black women do to their hair?? Why does it bother people? I’m natural, my cousin wear wigs and my sister is relaxed. We all have different hair styles and it’s none of your business cause its just hair lol.
I could care less about a woman relaxing her hair. But I do become sad when I hear black women say they hate their natural hair, it isn’t good hair, it isn’t manageable, etc.
The point is natural hair does not automatically equate to healthy and vice versa. Everything depends on how you now love and treat your hair. Some people cannot manage full natural hair In their busy lifestyles. Relaxing is their option,their choice just to help with managing the texture and not because one wants they want to look caucasian. I relax mine thrice in a whole year and it is ok. I still get to use short curly weaves and my white friends cannot tell which is which. 😊They like the changes the variety and versatility. I take my time and use products that agree with my hair. As long as it is not shedding excessively,,the edges aint missing, it is lustrous and not dull,what are we talking about then? Remember! Sistas be having problematic hairs whether texturixed ,relaxed or not. Treat your hair right ,..choose products and stylists even your combs...wisely. Lol! Mind your own scalp and live a little. I know you look at Seun's and think 'Well now! How did that happen? Yea, Naija babes can rock their hair. Thank you. Mind your own patch and let others live! Simple!
I want you to go natural for a purely selfish reason... YOU HAVE SOOOOO MUCH HAIR!! I would love to see it in its natural state. See, a selfish reason. Your hair will be beautiful natural or relaxed, in the grande scheme of things, I promise you, it really doesn’t matter. Do you. People feel a certain way because of THEIR life experiences. You have your own life experience. You should do whatever the heck you want to do.
I laughed so hard when you said “ I didn’t want those white people to know it wasn’t my real hair...” Lol I couldn’t agree more. Love your videos and bubbly spirit.
I honestly don't care about this relaxed vs natural debate because I have tried it allllll and I found something that works best for ME (which is natural - going onto 2 full years now). What I really would like to know is what is your secret?!!! Is it drinking a lot of water? What food do you eat? Because girlll you have inchessss!!! EDIT: I just saw the videos you referenced so thanks, I'll definitely check them out.
Only reason I don’t relax my hair anymore is because I’ve never liked straight hair. While YOU are definitely beautiful, I just don’t like the style of relaxed/straight hair on myself and never have. As a kid, I would always curl my hair with a hot iron and after high school I switched to a Jerry curl perm to try to get curly hair. It wasn’t until the natural hair movement blew up that I realized my hair was naturally curly, it’d just been altered by chemicals. So I shaved my head and never looked back. I just can’t stand straight hair. Whether it’s relaxed or not, it’s never looked good to me.
Vay Babe My mom relaxed my hair when I was 3. It was the 70s when Afros were in, so WTF? I never liked straight hair and I wanted big, fluffy ponytails like the other girls around me. I went natural in the 90s before it was a thing and I got a lot of shit talking, but I didn’t care! I also had a Jheri curl in the 80s, which was a waste of money because my natural hair is as curly as a Jheri curl! Black people could have saved so much money on Jheri curls and just took care of the curls growing out of their heads! 🤣🤣🤣
My hair wasn't even this long when I was relaxed. I love my natural hair but I feel black women should be able to do whatever they want with their hair without judgement.
yeah a lot of people have been going natural ... and it's like are u doing it because u genuinely want to or are you doing it just cause it's a trend ? i went natural in the summer of 2017... and honestly i started regretting it later on , so i ended up relaxing it in the summer of 2019. I'm never going back natural, i LOVE relaxed hair !
I have hair that it's just fine natural, but I chose to relax it at least once a year for when I where it down. I do it because it's easy to care for. For myself feel I have too many more important things to focus on than doing my hair, and I don't like spending a lot of time on my hair. I do protective styles during the summer (braids/crochets) and relaxed/straightened/dyed (fire red) hair during the winter months. It gives me the best of both worlds and helps me retain length past my shoulders. We really need videos like yours to show tried and true methods of caring for relaxed hair and ways to do protective styles that don't damage your natural/relaxed hair. Thank you so much!!!
I Relax My Hair Because I Want To, Because That's The Best way I Know How to Look After My Hair. When A lot of People Around Me Went Natural, They Used to Tell Me What To do With My Hair, Since Their So "Woke". Lord It Irritates Me So Much I Went On A Rant, Telling Them That How Somebody Wears Their Hair Won't Pay Your Bills😂. Most of Them Have Either Started Relaxing Their Hair Again Or Even Cut It Off Because They Can't Manage It. Thank You for Using Your Platform To Say And Educate People, Especially The Ones That Think They Know Everything ❤
The dangerous chemicals are the only issue I have with relaxers. Anything that burns you skin when left for for 30 minutes or more is a red flag. As a style I love the convenience of straight hair and wigs.
I just found you and I’m so glad I did. I’m a Nigerian living in Nigeria and I have heard so much about our hair omg. I have heard it’s because of the climate or because we’re black or because of genes. I’m currently relaxed and I’m taking my hair down right now and it’s breaking so much and it makes me so sad. But I’ve decided to be intentional about my hair growth and I’ll try to stick to your steps and see. God bless you Oluwaseun
Yesterday, on Halloween, I relaxed my hair. It was like ... kind of stressful waiting for the product to act, so I decided to take it out in the middle of the estimated time. It was traumatic to wash my hair and not feel all that volume and I was always afraid to brush and break my hair. But it went well ... the texture is wonderful and I feel more comfortable waking up later without worrying about the time I will spend combing myself. My best friend was the one who introduced me to the natural hair community, but I felt like I was in a cult: using such oil, avoiding stretching my hair with heat or chemicals, spending huge amounts of money on natural products that didn't always work ... anyway , many rules for just living with a hair and an identity. My natural hair is 3C / D (mixed in some parts) and so people thought it was easy! Just washing your hair took an hour, untangling, styling and styling in general was an unnecessary waste of time. I will continue to take care of my relaxed hair with the same love that I treated my natural hair, but I think it will be easier and cheaper, but I also think I will lose some friends. Thanks for the video, I was waiting for someone to tell me that it was not a mistake or anything rash ❤️
Well baby I've Venn down the relaxer road and it was cool while it lasted..i totally support your choice to relax your hair..you know what it does to your health..your a big girl..knowledge is power..natural hair is WORK and i get it..your hair is beautiful regardless..and my prayers are with you..I've traveled to nairobi Kenya back in the 90s...hehe
Curious what parts of natural hair you feel is the work? I’ve been thinking about it and I see this sort of comment a lot but it’s never felt that hard to me. I cut it short and it takes like no time to do and even when it was long on lazy days I would just pull it into a puff and it was chill. So I’m always wondering if I’m just lucky and what has been so hard for others? And I’m legitimately asking, not trying to come for anyone. Oh and I was relaxed before. It’s been 8 years. I remember always looking a mess lol so at least for me it wasn’t that easy but that was also pre RUclips
I have A LOT of hair, I relax it and it is still ALOT. There is so much more to me than hair , relaxed or natural my opinion is that identity is much deeper than that. I know of people with relaxed hair that are afraid to go natural because they think it will be too difficult just like I know of naturals scared of relaxing just because of what people will say. I use olaplex to protect my hair and have become hooked ! The difference I have seen is on another level. So my hair is far from bone straight, full of body yet relaxed. I say love yourself and do what works for you and don't ever let other people's opinions define or sway you because at the end of the day you are the only one carrying your hair! Trends change like clockwork what's in today may not be in tomorrow , I remember when glues on wigs were like abominations and now no one seems to care about it or should we talk about big bums? You are all beautiful and loved . Great video SEUN as always
I’m natural because my hair didn’t do well with relaxer. Even if I followed package instructions and used super strength, my hair was at best texlaxed really unevenly. It would be nice fresh from the relaxer, but then after a wash, it would almost undo itself. I can’t really explain it, just my hair really hated being relaxed, and I was tired of fighting my hair lol. I just woke up one day and said “enough. It don do.” Big chopped and never went back. If my hair worked with relaxer properly, best believe I’d still be relaxed. My hair now is bum length, I have 4c low porosity hair, I do protective styles for months at a time like our good sis Seun. One day I might relax it, but it just seems like ich a waste of time given my experience from when I was a child/teen. I hate the “natural nazi” trope. I hate this whole “my hair is x so it means I love myself”. Do you boo! If relaxer works for you, use it. If it doesn’t work for you, leave it.
There are soooooooo many chemicals in almost anything and are bad for the body and such, but the body can take a lot and can build an immunity to things imo so I think that it depends on you. I currently love relaxing and I’m doing that now, I love it.
The last part with the voice over was very encouraging. I'm natural and I never plan on relaxing but I bought a big afro wig that I'm very scared to wear out in public. I want to make this wig my "everyday" wig but You rarely see other black women wearing afros. Im very nervous and I know it will cause unnecessary attention
My main problem with relaxers is the toxic chemicals. Honestly, if I liked straight hair more(on me), and if it wouldn't react badly, I may have relaxed it a year ago for ease(I have chronic illness). But every woman in my family that has gotten a relaxer had their hair fall out. Mom, grandma, aunts, great aunts, cousin. All'em. I've been natural all my life and I don't want to mess it up. And the smell and burn may me feel worse. But I mean, tons of naturals heat train, relaxing seems to take less energy. It is a preference thing. I just worry about the health of my body if I put that in my hair, and I don't want it to fall out. I would rather just cut it short. Your hair is v pretty tho, and I'm happy this works for you.
You have such a refreshing spirit. I wear a short relaxed style, and that's my crown, unapologetically! But your tutorials are so awesome. Don't let these Cancel Vultures put their follicular agenda on your scalp. That is YOUR HAIR glowing out of YOUR SCALP.
My hair as been relaxed for over 2 decades i am not interested in going natural not because I hate myself but simply because I like my relaxed hair and it's the only way I know how to deal with my hair.
I agree you can have black pride no matter if you're hair is natural or relaxed. And black women should just encourage and celebrate each other period with out judgement.... Love your videos and I recently relaxed my hair after trying to go natural 3 different times it's just not for me 🥰
I really don't understand why people question what status someones hair is. Natural, relaxed, etc it all takes MAINTENANCE. NO matter what you decide to do to your hair it takes work and care. I know people with natural hair that is unhealthy, relaxed hair that is unhealthy. I've done all types of things to my hair from relaxed, to braids, to natural, wigs, etc..ALL OF IT TAKES WORK. NO matter what you do to your hair if you do not maintain and care for it, IT WILL FALL OUT. This is why I don't understand why people make a big deal about what ever path people take.
Congratulations on your graduation. I took my daughter there when she was in Duke Tip. She participated in a science program there. Congratulations again!
I appreciate your video. I am natural and have been since 2003 years, but prior to that I was relaxed since I was 12 years old. I have loved and hated elements of both states. I loved the ease of doing my hair with little fuss when I was relaxed but hated the chemical processing. I love the look and feel of my natural hair but not the forethought required to make it look "presentable". I very much believe that we can do what we want with our hair, the rule should be not to pass judgement or negative remarks on what others choose to do with theirs.
Seun your hair relaxed or straight it's exactly that YOUR HAIR!!! You are beautiful either way. I never understand why people are so obsessed about what other people do with THEIR HAIR. Sheesh.. Anyway interesting time to post these videos I love it and I appreciate it, thank you💖
I love your videos and I'm natural, I have learned a lot about my hair in this channel coz you are honest and thorough with giving information. We love you and your videos forget the hate comments I feel like they're projecting their issues on you.
As a hairstylist, I firmly believe that taking care of relaxed hair is the same as taking care of colored/lightened hair. In the sense that the amount of "damage" is the same. You obviously take great care of your hair, and I think you should do whatever you want with it (:
What’s wrong with people lol being mean . I am natural but I still respect all kinds of hairs. I even watch many relaxed hair videos. You have amazing hair and they are probably jealous lol , don’t listen to haters! I have 4a/4b bras size hair which is difficult to manage as it getting long so on difficult days I think about relaxers lol so it great to see that some people are doing great with relaxers!!!
Oh, I was waiting for you to say that part. I was so happy and impressed with the "relaxed hair in Nigeria video" that someone like you is actually so brave enough to show those parts that are not so pleasing & even the pleasing parts of Nigeria. Your Videos Are AMAZING!
My hair hates relaxers, just prefer its dax grease and to be left the hell alone, and i like my coils and spongy texture,your hair is beautiful, though, continue taking care of it.
You’re a sweetheart as always. Just do you hun. Forget the opinions of others. You’re the one handling your hair. Do what you want when the mood strikes. Remember no matter what choices we make some detractors want to open their mouths. Your opinion is the only one that matters. Off topic Lulutress is a brand I use. I like how quick the 4b pre looped hair installs.
I have natural hair, but I love these video's you make because you make me see how beautiful and artistic black hair can be in all its states. Also making long videos seems super appropriate since I am doing my hair while watching and it definitely takes longer than that lol. Love your content :)
I find it amazing with people feel that they have a right to question your choice. We can ask the same question, why do you have your hair natural? Who cares? What does this hair stuff have to do with character. It is a style choice, the same as natural women who choose to wear wigs and weaves. Loved your documentary. Congratulations on graduating from Duke!
Seun, I stumbled upon your channel a few weeks ago and I’m happy I did. I’m Nigerian and I agree with so much that you say. I went natural three times in my life and my hair didn’t grow long. Now I have *very* short relaxed hair that I have not been able to grow for years, and truly, I think I’ve given up on it 😅 but I’m going to keep watching your channel because you’re fun and I’ll try to do what I can. God bless you, and stay relaxed as long as you want/go natural whenever you want to 🙏🏽
I'm Nigerian too, and I once gave up on my hair because I thought it would never grow. Now it is doing great! Just check out RUclips for kinky haired naturals with their waist length hair and check out what they did.
My hair is relaxed cuz my mom wouldn't like it if I went natural, and lately I've been disliking my hair cuz it's not as curly as my friend's hair but this video made me feel better about my hair. So thanks ❤️
You are NEVER a bore Seun!! I am a Jamaican and I just started my long and healthy hair journey because of you. I started last week. I watched a bunch of other person's vids, but your presentations are the best and most inspiring. I'm proud of you and look forward to have awesome hair like yours!
Very few people with afro textured hair can take hair relaxers. The hair is usually damaged in two to three years. Unless your hair is very coarse, try not to relax your hair. Some people can take heat straighted hair but still be careful with heat. I know it is your hair but unless the hair manufacturers find a way to make relaxers safer for Afro textured, avoid hair relaxers especially the no lye relaxers because they are extremely drying to afro textured hair..
More living. Less judging. The beauty about your life is just that. It's your life! You get to choose what works for you. You get to change your mind at anytime about anything that doesn't negatively affect others. I first went natural in 2005. When it started getting longer it took longer to detangle so I decided to texlax. It worked great. I went into the military and heard all the horror stories about how people gave women a tough time about braids etc. I decided to relax and cut it onto a bob. A couple years later I went natural again. Years later it grew long I relaxed again. In March 2020 I did another big chop. Its growing once again. The difference now is I have so many options with my hair. Crochets and curly wigs are my go to. I'm grateful that I can do so many things and not need to depend on someone else to do it. Will I relax again in a couple years? My choice. Will I remain natural and keep it at a manageable length and rock protective styles for the next 20-40 years? My choice. Embrace who you are realizing that those negative responses really have NOTHING to do with you. Most times people are unsure, insecure or afraid and take it out on the next person.
The style turned out beautifully!! Very impressed with how you put that hair in. I have to watch a few more times to see how you did it. This would be cute on my daughter. Thanks for sharing!!!
It turned out beautiful. Thank you for making this video sis. Honestly, all African hair is gorgeous. Virgin natural, texlaxed, relaxed, or loc'd. Our hair is versatile.
Thank you so much for this video. I am excited to see how long I can grow my relaxed hair. I have decided to start doing my hair at home and have found your videos so insightful. I have also thought about going natural but my hair is past my shoulders and have always wanted length. Seeing your videos has inspired me. I think as well that being proud to be black is not limited to a hair style. It is so easy for people to share negativity. And am sorry you got negative comments. I hope you continue to be brave and look forward to whether you have natural or relaxed hair on your hair journey. 😃😃
I'm natural, and I'm subscribed to you because the wealth of knowledge you bring is one I've benefited from many times. That and the fact that I love your personality. I just want you to know that whatever path you take, relaxed or natural, choose what makes you happy, because your passion shines through and inspires us to choose the same.
I remember the days of getting my hair relaxed and scalp burning because I was ignorant about what the relaxer is for. It shouldn’t be bone straight but relaxed enough to manage! Well I know better now. Those were my teenage years as a young adult I found out my true texture. This is in the 90’s I went nature without a plan. I didn’t big chop I kept my hair moistures or already in my natural curl pattern. Lol, people thought I had a jerry curl, nope all natural with gel to keep it that way or curl activator. All early 90’s. No social movement. Only getting to know my hair. Even before this I wouldn’t do the 6-8 week touch up with relaxers. I would go four months with good conditioning and the stylist would say it helped my hair rather than damaging it! It is all about know what works for your hair. Education and endurance. Thanks for all you do! I love your smile!
@Sherry G, hi..i liked reading what u wrote..are u still natural? My last relaxer wz on March 8th..since the pandemic, i wz thinkin bout goin natural, but im not likin the 2 textures, plus my hair looks constantly dry. I moisturize ALOT, but my hair dznt care!! I do notice i havnt shed alot & wonder if its cuz of moisturizing 2× daily..any thoughts, advice??
nygal628 hi yes I am natural. Good conditioners and a moisturizing shampoo. Keep moisture in your hair low maintenance hairstyles. I have a soft texture that can matte easily. I have to find the right balance with moisture and protein. Low maintenance hairstyles help me.
Is relaxed hair really easier? I had a perm for 20 years and love to style my hair. I find that my natural hair takes less maintenance and styles hold better and can be worn for longer. Less scalp treatments. Less breakage.
Everybody’s hair is different and requires a different level of maintenance. I’ve been natural for 7 years, and my hair honestly isn’t that difficult to manage. But I know that’s not everyone’s experience.
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For me yes it is. But my hair is THHHHHIIIICCCC like 16 heads on my head. So detangling takes forever natural. My hair would be wet for days. Relaxed it cuts all that time in less than half. I use the same products though
I have always relaxed my hair! I'm just not a natural hair person. There's tons of negativity around relaxers but all you have to do is take care of it and you'll be fine. So what if it's a chemical . Women that have natural long hair constantly dye , and heat stress their hair and are fine because they still take care of it .
I hate that as black women we have to explain ourselfs for our own personal preferences!! You want to. You want to. You want to. And that is a complete sentence and a worthy reason. Youre sweet and sometimes you can just say, because I want to and smile. People must just leave us alone lol! Anyway I absolutely love listening to you. You're gorgeous, you're so intelligent and talented and hard working and I'm so grateful that you're sharing your journey and lessons with us. You are so loved and appreciated. PS I'm natural but your lessons are universal so I'm learning so much. THANK YOU ♥️
It's YOUR choice and you take GREAT care of it. Most of us didnt have a choice when our parents decided for us and didnt want to take the "extra effort" to do our natural hair. As long as you're doing the necessary things to maintain your treated hair, it doesnt matter what others think you relaxed your hair for, what doesnt work for other's, works for you.
Girl you do what you want to your hair!! I'm natural and like your videos, so don't let your RUclips channel stop you from living your life. Other girls think the same as you. You should do a documentary on why girls are relaxed and why girls went natural in America.
Hey girl!! How are you?! :) You popped into my mind, wanted to drop in and say hello. Now rewatching this video, I get what you remind me of-- that smile-- like literally, our jaw shape is so similar :), I kept wondering about the familiarity.. And the way you smile so much- I actually get called smiley face at wrk. Anyhow, nice rewatching this video. I love how you put your thoughts out there, it's all in the process of growth-- it really helps you refine your mindset. I find that when I let my thoughts out, be it to myself or others, acknowledging what's going on, I can then realign myself or reaffirm where I stand.
So glad I found your videos. I couldn't get past shoulder length my whole life. I went natural 10 years ago but still had length problems due to breakage. I was frustrated with my curls and tangles and decided to texlax my hair after 10 years of being natural, but it was too strong and I'm basicy relaxed again 😂. For a moment I was sad that I was no longer a part of the " natural" community, but realized I need to do what works for me. Natural or not my hair was breaking. You're channel is refreshing. It give me hope for my hair again ☺️
We’re all influenced by what’s around us. Especially as children, we are impressionable and as teens we don’t want to stand out as too “different”, cause that’s what gets you bullied! I think all black hair is beautiful-short, long, straight, curly or kinky-coily. But Most definitely, Black hair is a blessing. Our options are virtually limitless!
I'm a relaxed girl too and it works well for me and I enjoy the low maintenance aspect of it. :D We do not hate ourselves. Natural hair is beautiful too! Thanks for your videos x
Your hair is gorgeous and healthy. I did relax my hair in 2017 and I loved it. Then I used a different stylist in 2018 for the touch up and and it wasn't good at all. I then decided to go natural again. I did the transition route and oh my goodness! I've had people tell me that they think I look better with straight hair, but my Grandpa always told me that my curls were beautiful!! After reflecting on what my Grandpa told me I decided to go back to my natural hair texture. Learning how to take care of my hair in general has been a process, but it will be well worth it for me. Your hair is beautiful and I love the way you incorporate the natural crocheted hair into your hair. Always do what works best for you.
Im not against her keeping her hair straight, idrc but this comment doesnt even apply to the situation. Coloring your hair and changing the texture are two completely different things.
I’m glad you decided to keep your relaxed hair you don’t have to be bullied to change what you want to do with your hair so far as you love your hair. Some people are actually benefiting from your relaxed hair tips. Keep it up
Hi, Seun! You are such a bubbly person! Your energy and positive attitude, as well as smile makes us smile. I've taught many ages and subjects over the years. I've done a variety of things with my hair and additional hair since the late 1970s. I've taught others how to do a variety of things with their hair. When I came across your video about protective styles and growing your hair I decided to start putting other hair back with mine. I feel like I'm a student learning many new techniques again. As far as other people of many different races, including Blacks, they've always complimented my various styles. Other races have wanted to try similar things with their hair. One noted actress observed one of my interlock styles and for me it was a compliment! :-) Your tips have opened my eyes. As I tell people, be a ready student! Continue improving, young lady! GOD Bless!
I loved your video. I am white and grew up in the 1980s with a close friend of the family from Nigeria. He spent lots of his university vacations with us. I was a little kid and very curious about his life in Legos. Watching your video was a great opportunity for me to continue learning.
Thanks for recording all the videos that have helped me understand and care for my relaxed hair. Whatever you eventually decide I’m sure you’re viewers will benefit from your work.
Seun you can make a vid for 1,000 hours and I will watch the whole thing lol you are so genuine and honest about your hair journey and thoughts. I like watching hair videos during my spare time and it does not matter to me how long it is especially if its good info. . I appreciate the content and you slaaaayyyeeedd your hair 👌🏾👌🏾❤
You have such a sweet spirit! Keep that sweet, beautiful soul! Relaxed hair is easier. Even my hairdressers have said it. They have said that natural hair IS a lot of work. Most people who are honest will tell you that it is especially depending on your hair type. You have to do what works for you. Black hair gives you options!!! That's the beauty of it. Like you said, black hair is a privilege!!! And congratulations on your graduation 🎉! So happy for you, Duke Lady!!! If you need help or coaching or thinking throughout your next steps.
Seun you are so nice!!! If I was relaxed and someone asked me "why are you still relaxed?" I would say because I want to be. The way you wear your hair is your choice and it's beautiful by the way. I'm learning to embrace my natural curls and not fight it lol
Loved this video!! I feel we as black women should encourage each other not bash because of how you choose to wear your hair. I'm texlaxed , I watch all kinds of hair videos and learn from them all never say anything negative . Love your personality, LOVE your hair, enjoy all your videos!!! Yes more than a 20 minute video is fine with me!!!
Hello Seun, I was adopted by a white family when I was a kid and always had relaxed hair. I never learned how to take care of my own hair and now at 30, I'm like better now than never. lol I did a big chop in 2014 and switched to being natural. I can not for the life of me leave my hair alone and see why it has not grown and is always breaking off. I sooo appreciate your videos on how to do your own hair, as i feel in doing so, we grow to love our hair!! I can say, I have never loved my natural hair but am learning how to.
Regardless of what you do with your hair, the most important thing is to love yourself! If you wear fake due to not loving your own natural hair, that is a issue. You have a beautiful face, so whatever you choose to do with your hair it will only enhance the beauty u have naturally👍🏽
My documentary on The Use of Relaxers in Nigeria: ruclips.net/video/HitexZ5cNAY/видео.html
Sis it looks like the link just leads back to this video.
Yep. The link loops back to the current video playing above.
This is the link: ruclips.net/video/HitexZ5cNAY/видео.html
Sorry about that! Just fixed it!!
I have two rules. Don’t ask me about my hair and don’t ask me about my weight. None of them affect your daily life. ❤️
Ahahaaaaaaaaaaa! 👏🏾💀💯🤸🏾♀️
Facts
Lavander Jackson doctors still don’t ask lol. The scale makes it clear what weight you are without asking.
Girlllllll I love this ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌺
Man I felt this 🙌🏾😩
I wish black women would give each other the space to wear their hair in whatever way pleases them and makes them feel confident and beautiful. We don't have to love and like one another but we can choose to respect one another's decisions. Allow one another to grow.
Amen !
Thank you. Stop the shaming. We are all creative beings. Allow us to be free to create.
I agree.
It's true. Hair should really bring us together, not divide us!
Simply_JodiAnn it’s sad that you feel that way abt BW 🥴
Your smile is unbelievable! I smile every time you do. Anyone else?!
Aww, thank you!!!❤️
I do too!!
Yes!😃
It is a super cute smile.
Congratulations on graduating from Duke. 🎉🎉
Thank you so much !! 😊💕💕
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@@SeunOkimi Your video-making skills ... amazing! Self-taught?
I need guidance on how to relax hair for beginners.
Congratulations! 🎉
The reason I went natural was because I understood that we African women wouldn't be on relaxed hair if they whites had not made us think out hair is ugly and unkept in its natural state.....
Secondly, I hate the smell of relaxers and it changes my hair color from off black to light brown.
Thirdly, I can do alot of things with my natural hair .... I can go from curly to coily to straight if I want to..... and I cannot achieve that with a relaxed hair without adding extentions...
I hated natural hair before now because I thought it was difficult to manage. But it is the kind of stress I'd always wish for over and over again.
Taking my time to take care of my natural makes me feel more feminine.
Noone cares. We like her long relaxed hair so get your irrelevant opinions elsewhere
@@ontheedge9708 sis calm down your on th fence about nothing she wasnt talking about her if you care to burn your hair with relaxer do you sis
On the edge shut up
RELAXERS ARE BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH, FORGET THE SOCIAL PART. IT IS A SERIOUS HEALTH RISK, IT IS SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN TO POSSIBLY CAUSE ADVERSE EFFECTS ON THE WOMEN'S WOMB.
www.researchgate.net/publication/221737842_Hair_Relaxer_Use_and_Risk_of_Uterine_Leiomyomata_in_African-American_Women
On the edge you’re way too angry, learn to speak with other black women with respect you miserable person
Women need to stop with those who perm their hair hates themselves. There was a time WE ALL PERMED our hair and we rock it without hating ourselves. We did health hair practices on our PERMED hair. Now that we are natural we look back at the ladies and through hate. But that was us. Grow up ladies with the comments and show some growth in your beliefs. Challenge yourself to show some love to others. Is that so hard????
Yes mam!
Never permed my hair ever
Ebony Ritchie Lolol that’s you everybody didn’t but you get what she saying
Yeah and everybody hated being black
@@Babybookieboo Not me My dad was a Black Panther from back in the day. I love my melanin skin and always have. My skin don't burn in the sun it glistens all thanks to the melanin. ❤
I was introduced to your channel through your last video about relaxed hair in Africa and I just have to say, I appreciate the way you talk about black hair. I’m natural and I promote the beauty of natural hair, but I don’t believe all women who relax “hate themselves” etc. I think sometimes it’s simply a matter of preference, and that’s okay. I love that you understand the science of black hair and don’t shy away from pure facts even when it doesn’t paint relaxed hair in the best light. I genuinely respect that about you. I personally don’t like the “chemical” sodium hydroxide, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like the “look” of straight hair from time to time. That’s why as a natural I choose to straighten my hair a few times a year. Anyway, you’ve done an excellent job taking care of your relaxed hair, and though I’ll be staying natural, I enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work! ❤️
Aww, thank you so much! I really appreciate your comment
Seun ☺️💕
This is why I'm subscribed to your channel 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
@@LaToyaEbonyHair Your comment was EVERYTHING
Nice
Everybody do whatever you want with your hair. Im a black woman and i do whatever with mine. Currently my hair is is medium sized braids that are half pink with red streaks and half yellow with orange streaks. I have been natural for 4 years but i like to watch this channel because she be having knowledge and easy styles.
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Actually some men look down on women with natural hair. They validate their women with perms, makeup and all the artificial things wanting them to look like the Caucasians and because they think that is beautiful. Until our men start appreciating the naturalness women are going to be falling for their crap. Only few women went into perms and still do because they like it.
@@kemi.a.2000 I'm so sad to see comments about what men think about us. Why do women crave validation from males so much?
@@Monicaizpeace I ask myself that question too because without them we are strong and determined.
I personally don’t like relaxers because of the chemicals, side effects, process, and look on me.... but, I think that you should do your hair how you want to and know about the things that could happen if you do certain things. Relaxers and curly hair aren’t for everyone, and if it works for you then it works. Your very beautiful women, congratulations on you graduating and have fun on your journey.
Thank you!
I’m natural and never thought about relaxing my hair. I love my natural hair. But Why do people care what black women do to their hair?? Why does it bother people? I’m natural, my cousin wear wigs and my sister is relaxed. We all have different hair styles and it’s none of your business cause its just hair lol.
If it's unhealthy it's bad, simple
... and this is what women, across all races / ethnicity's do.
I could care less about a woman relaxing her hair. But I do become sad when I hear black women say they hate their natural hair, it isn’t good hair, it isn’t manageable, etc.
The point is natural hair does not automatically equate to healthy and vice versa. Everything depends on how you now love and treat your hair. Some people cannot manage full natural hair In their busy lifestyles. Relaxing is their option,their choice just to help with managing the texture and not because one wants they want to look caucasian. I relax mine thrice in a whole year and it is ok. I still get to use short curly weaves and my white friends cannot tell which is which. 😊They like the changes the variety and versatility. I take my time and use products that agree with my hair. As long as it is not shedding excessively,,the edges aint missing, it is lustrous and not dull,what are we talking about then? Remember! Sistas be having problematic hairs whether texturixed ,relaxed or not. Treat your hair right ,..choose products and stylists even your combs...wisely. Lol! Mind your own scalp and live a little. I know you look at Seun's and think 'Well now! How did that happen? Yea, Naija babes can rock their hair. Thank you. Mind your own patch and let others live! Simple!
YES! How beautiful!
I want you to go natural for a purely selfish reason... YOU HAVE SOOOOO MUCH HAIR!! I would love to see it in its natural state. See, a selfish reason.
Your hair will be beautiful natural or relaxed, in the grande scheme of things, I promise you, it really doesn’t matter. Do you.
People feel a certain way because of THEIR life experiences. You have your own life experience. You should do whatever the heck you want to do.
lol, thank you!
I laughed so hard when you said “ I didn’t want those white people to know it wasn’t my real hair...” Lol I couldn’t agree more. Love your videos and bubbly spirit.
LOL😂 Thank you so much!❤️
I honestly don't care about this relaxed vs natural debate because I have tried it allllll and I found something that works best for ME (which is natural - going onto 2 full years now). What I really would like to know is what is your secret?!!! Is it drinking a lot of water? What food do you eat? Because girlll you have inchessss!!!
EDIT: I just saw the videos you referenced so thanks, I'll definitely check them out.
Only reason I don’t relax my hair anymore is because I’ve never liked straight hair. While YOU are definitely beautiful, I just don’t like the style of relaxed/straight hair on myself and never have. As a kid, I would always curl my hair with a hot iron and after high school I switched to a Jerry curl perm to try to get curly hair.
It wasn’t until the natural hair movement blew up that I realized my hair was naturally curly, it’d just been altered by chemicals. So I shaved my head and never looked back. I just can’t stand straight hair. Whether it’s relaxed or not, it’s never looked good to me.
ME TOOO!
I feel you
SAME. My face is too big for straight hair. Natural hair fits my face better.
@@teacuppie4881 I feel like you...my face is too round for straight hair...my curly hair frames my face better
Vay Babe My mom relaxed my hair when I was 3. It was the 70s when Afros were in, so WTF? I never liked straight hair and I wanted big, fluffy ponytails like the other girls around me. I went natural in the 90s before it was a thing and I got a lot of shit talking, but I didn’t care! I also had a Jheri curl in the 80s, which was a waste of money because my natural hair is as curly as a Jheri curl! Black people could have saved so much money on Jheri curls and just took care of the curls growing out of their heads! 🤣🤣🤣
My hair wasn't even this long when I was relaxed. I love my natural hair but I feel black women should be able to do whatever they want with their hair without judgement.
Congratulations Graduate. Thumbs up for real.
Thank you so much!
yeah a lot of people have been going natural ... and it's like are u doing it because u genuinely want to or are you doing it just cause it's a trend ? i went natural in the summer of 2017... and honestly i started regretting it later on , so i ended up relaxing it in the summer of 2019. I'm never going back natural, i LOVE relaxed hair !
I feel you
You look like Gabrielle Union, so pretty 😍
Aww, thank you!!❤️
I stretch my relaxers my hair also grows fast longer and healthy I am a Nigerian too Ibo precisely
I have hair that it's just fine natural, but I chose to relax it at least once a year for when I where it down. I do it because it's easy to care for. For myself feel I have too many more important things to focus on than doing my hair, and I don't like spending a lot of time on my hair. I do protective styles during the summer (braids/crochets) and relaxed/straightened/dyed (fire red) hair during the winter months. It gives me the best of both worlds and helps me retain length past my shoulders. We really need videos like yours to show tried and true methods of caring for relaxed hair and ways to do protective styles that don't damage your natural/relaxed hair. Thank you so much!!!
I Relax My Hair Because I Want To, Because That's The Best way I Know How to Look After My Hair. When A lot of People Around Me Went Natural, They Used to Tell Me What To do With My Hair, Since Their So "Woke". Lord It Irritates Me So Much I Went On A Rant, Telling Them That How Somebody Wears Their Hair Won't Pay Your Bills😂. Most of Them Have Either Started Relaxing Their Hair Again Or Even Cut It Off Because They Can't Manage It. Thank You for Using Your Platform To Say And Educate People, Especially The Ones That Think They Know Everything ❤
The dangerous chemicals are the only issue I have with relaxers. Anything that burns you skin when left for for 30 minutes or more is a red flag. As a style I love the convenience of straight hair and wigs.
agreed after 12+ years i came to the conclusion this possibly cant be good for me...as our scalp probably absorbs the bad chemicals....
I just found you and I’m so glad I did. I’m a Nigerian living in Nigeria and I have heard so much about our hair omg. I have heard it’s because of the climate or because we’re black or because of genes. I’m currently relaxed and I’m taking my hair down right now and it’s breaking so much and it makes me so sad. But I’ve decided to be intentional about my hair growth and I’ll try to stick to your steps and see. God bless you Oluwaseun
Aww, awesome!
I relaxed my hair, it also broke allot but when I went natural and learned to manage my hair it grew faster and I retained more length:)
Black hair is a privilege. we can do just about anything with it.We should love it no matter what state it's in. You go gurl we rock.
Yesterday, on Halloween, I relaxed my hair. It was like ... kind of stressful waiting for the product to act, so I decided to take it out in the middle of the estimated time. It was traumatic to wash my hair and not feel all that volume and I was always afraid to brush and break my hair. But it went well ... the texture is wonderful and I feel more comfortable waking up later without worrying about the time I will spend combing myself. My best friend was the one who introduced me to the natural hair community, but I felt like I was in a cult: using such oil, avoiding stretching my hair with heat or chemicals, spending huge amounts of money on natural products that didn't always work ... anyway , many rules for just living with a hair and an identity. My natural hair is 3C / D (mixed in some parts) and so people thought it was easy! Just washing your hair took an hour, untangling, styling and styling in general was an unnecessary waste of time. I will continue to take care of my relaxed hair with the same love that I treated my natural hair, but I think it will be easier and cheaper, but I also think I will lose some friends. Thanks for the video, I was waiting for someone to tell me that it was not a mistake or anything rash ❤️
Girl yesssssssssss expensive as hell
Well baby I've Venn down the relaxer road and it was cool while it lasted..i totally support your choice to relax your hair..you know what it does to your health..your a big girl..knowledge is power..natural hair is WORK and i get it..your hair is beautiful regardless..and my prayers are with you..I've traveled to nairobi Kenya back in the 90s...hehe
Thank you!!❤️
Curious what parts of natural hair you feel is the work? I’ve been thinking about it and I see this sort of comment a lot but it’s never felt that hard to me. I cut it short and it takes like no time to do and even when it was long on lazy days I would just pull it into a puff and it was chill. So I’m always wondering if I’m just lucky and what has been so hard for others? And I’m legitimately asking, not trying to come for anyone. Oh and I was relaxed before. It’s been 8 years. I remember always looking a mess lol so at least for me it wasn’t that easy but that was also pre RUclips
@@vnessaw I'd say your lucky😔. If my hair isn't at all moisturized, pulling it up even into a puff just won't work
To quote Lil Wayne, "Don't worry about what's in my cup, its MY cup"!
Not quoting "that's not my problem" wayne
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I have A LOT of hair, I relax it and it is still ALOT. There is so much more to me than hair , relaxed or natural my opinion is that identity is much deeper than that. I know of people with relaxed hair that are afraid to go natural because they think it will be too difficult just like I know of naturals scared of relaxing just because of what people will say. I use olaplex to protect my hair and have become hooked ! The difference I have seen is on another level. So my hair is far from bone straight, full of body yet relaxed. I say love yourself and do what works for you and don't ever let other people's opinions define or sway you because at the end of the day you are the only one carrying your hair! Trends change like clockwork what's in today may not be in tomorrow , I remember when glues on wigs were like abominations and now no one seems to care about it or should we talk about big bums? You are all beautiful and loved . Great video SEUN as always
I’m natural because my hair didn’t do well with relaxer. Even if I followed package instructions and used super strength, my hair was at best texlaxed really unevenly. It would be nice fresh from the relaxer, but then after a wash, it would almost undo itself. I can’t really explain it, just my hair really hated being relaxed, and I was tired of fighting my hair lol. I just woke up one day and said “enough. It don do.” Big chopped and never went back.
If my hair worked with relaxer properly, best believe I’d still be relaxed. My hair now is bum length, I have 4c low porosity hair, I do protective styles for months at a time like our good sis Seun. One day I might relax it, but it just seems like ich a waste of time given my experience from when I was a child/teen.
I hate the “natural nazi” trope. I hate this whole “my hair is x so it means I love myself”. Do you boo! If relaxer works for you, use it. If it doesn’t work for you, leave it.
There are soooooooo many chemicals in almost anything and are bad for the body and such, but the body can take a lot and can build an immunity to things imo so I think that it depends on you. I currently love relaxing and I’m doing that now, I love it.
The last part with the voice over was very encouraging. I'm natural and I never plan on relaxing but I bought a big afro wig that I'm very scared to wear out in public. I want to make this wig my "everyday" wig but You rarely see other black women wearing afros. Im very nervous and I know it will cause unnecessary attention
I love when i see women with afros its beautiful! Do it
Embrace that afro!! Yu bought it so it's yours lol. I'm sure you could rock it
Better to stand out with an Afro than blend in with Brazilian body wave. Embrace your uniqueness!
I wear some type of afro crochet style as my go to and every day style. Be encouraged because we are out here with you!🌹👑
@@tayjahvu0378 omg thanks its nice to know that I'm not the only one
Do you. People will always talk. 🤷🏾
It's true
My main problem with relaxers is the toxic chemicals. Honestly, if I liked straight hair more(on me), and if it wouldn't react badly, I may have relaxed it a year ago for ease(I have chronic illness). But every woman in my family that has gotten a relaxer had their hair fall out. Mom, grandma, aunts, great aunts, cousin. All'em. I've been natural all my life and I don't want to mess it up. And the smell and burn may me feel worse. But I mean, tons of naturals heat train, relaxing seems to take less energy. It is a preference thing. I just worry about the health of my body if I put that in my hair, and I don't want it to fall out. I would rather just cut it short. Your hair is v pretty tho, and I'm happy this works for you.
You have such a refreshing spirit. I wear a short relaxed style, and that's my crown, unapologetically! But your tutorials are so awesome. Don't let these Cancel Vultures put their follicular agenda on your scalp. That is YOUR HAIR glowing out of YOUR SCALP.
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My hair as been relaxed for over 2 decades i am not interested in going natural not because I hate myself but simply because I like my relaxed hair and it's the only way I know how to deal with my hair.
I love how much u smile sis this is the reason I watch your videos u are so warm pleasant and very humble I like listening to you 😊
Aww, Thank you so much!!❤️
Healthy hair is beautiful 😍. Relaxed, Natural and all. Whichever allows you to stay healthy is the right way
I love that you said this. I had so many people telling me relaxed hair is unhealthy but my hair is so much healthier when it’s relaxed
Pandemic new growth....we all have it lol
LOL
Lol Amen💕
Yep..and it's amaaaaazing
You make my obsession with hair so justified. it is indeed a canvas. I enjoy doing hair and seeing hair being done
I agree you can have black pride no matter if you're hair is natural or relaxed. And black women should just encourage and celebrate each other period with out judgement.... Love your videos and I recently relaxed my hair after trying to go natural 3 different times it's just not for me 🥰
I really don't understand why people question what status someones hair is. Natural, relaxed, etc it all takes MAINTENANCE. NO matter what you decide to do to your hair it takes work and care. I know people with natural hair that is unhealthy, relaxed hair that is unhealthy. I've done all types of things to my hair from relaxed, to braids, to natural, wigs, etc..ALL OF IT TAKES WORK. NO matter what you do to your hair if you do not maintain and care for it, IT WILL FALL OUT. This is why I don't understand why people make a big deal about what ever path people take.
it's your hair you can do whatever you want with it without addressing anything to anyone.
You do you girl.
As a Nigerian I agree with you. The use of relaxers is a norm
Congratulations on your graduation. I took my daughter there when she was in Duke Tip. She participated in a science program there. Congratulations again!
Aw, That's awesome! Thank you so much!!
I appreciate your video. I am natural and have been since 2003 years, but prior to that I was relaxed since I was 12 years old. I have loved and hated elements of both states. I loved the ease of doing my hair with little fuss when I was relaxed but hated the chemical processing. I love the look and feel of my natural hair but not the forethought required to make it look "presentable". I very much believe that we can do what we want with our hair, the rule should be not to pass judgement or negative remarks on what others choose to do with theirs.
I really appreciate your comment as well. It's so true!
Seun your hair relaxed or straight it's exactly that YOUR HAIR!!! You are beautiful either way. I never understand why people are so obsessed about what other people do with THEIR HAIR. Sheesh.. Anyway interesting time to post these videos I love it and I appreciate it, thank you💖
Thank you!
Wow! The way you did your hair made it look so easy. When I see hairstylists do crochet on my hair, it looks way more complicated lol.
I love your videos and I'm natural, I have learned a lot about my hair in this channel coz you are honest and thorough with giving information. We love you and your videos forget the hate comments I feel like they're projecting their issues on you.
Facts. Same for me im also natural and ive been watching this channel for the hair knowledge
Me too
Thank you so much!
You cannot please everyone! Well said! Stay strong sista and I love your hair.
As a hairstylist, I firmly believe that taking care of relaxed hair is the same as taking care of colored/lightened hair. In the sense that the amount of "damage" is the same. You obviously take great care of your hair, and I think you should do whatever you want with it (:
Thank you!
I personally think that you do you as long as you don’t hate what you are naturally 💁🏾♀️
What’s wrong with people lol being mean . I am natural but I still respect all kinds of hairs. I even watch many relaxed hair videos. You have amazing hair and they are probably jealous lol , don’t listen to haters!
I have 4a/4b bras size hair which is difficult to manage as it getting long so on difficult days I think about relaxers lol so it great to see that some people are doing great with relaxers!!!
Thank you❤️
Oh, I was waiting for you to say that part.
I was so happy and impressed with the "relaxed hair in Nigeria video" that someone like you is actually so brave enough to show those parts that are not so pleasing & even the pleasing parts of Nigeria.
Your Videos Are AMAZING!
😊 thank you
My hair hates relaxers, just prefer its dax grease and to be left the hell alone, and i like my coils and spongy texture,your hair is beautiful, though, continue taking care of it.
You’re a sweetheart as always. Just do you hun. Forget the opinions of others. You’re the one handling your hair. Do what you want when the mood strikes. Remember no matter what choices we make some detractors want to open their mouths. Your opinion is the only one that matters. Off topic Lulutress is a brand I use. I like how quick the 4b pre looped hair installs.
Aw, thank you so much! It's true. Lol! I wasn't too familiar with Lulutress until recently actually!
I have natural hair, but I love these video's you make because you make me see how beautiful and artistic black hair can be in all its states. Also making long videos seems super appropriate since I am doing my hair while watching and it definitely takes longer than that lol. Love your content :)
I find it amazing with people feel that they have a right to question your choice. We can ask the same question, why do you have your hair natural? Who cares? What does this hair stuff have to do with character. It is a style choice, the same as natural women who choose to wear wigs and weaves. Loved your documentary. Congratulations on graduating from Duke!
Thank you!!
Seun, I stumbled upon your channel a few weeks ago and I’m happy I did. I’m Nigerian and I agree with so much that you say. I went natural three times in my life and my hair didn’t grow long. Now I have *very* short relaxed hair that I have not been able to grow for years, and truly, I think I’ve given up on it 😅 but I’m going to keep watching your channel because you’re fun and I’ll try to do what I can. God bless you, and stay relaxed as long as you want/go natural whenever you want to 🙏🏽
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I'm Nigerian too, and I once gave up on my hair because I thought it would never grow. Now it is doing great! Just check out RUclips for kinky haired naturals with their waist length hair and check out what they did.
My hair is relaxed cuz my mom wouldn't like it if I went natural, and lately I've been disliking my hair cuz it's not as curly as my friend's hair but this video made me feel better about my hair. So thanks ❤️
I hope you can learn to embrace your natural texture regardless of your mother's beliefs.
You are NEVER a bore Seun!!
I am a Jamaican and I just started my long and healthy hair journey because of you. I started last week. I watched a bunch of other person's vids, but your presentations are the best and most inspiring. I'm proud of you and look forward to have awesome hair like yours!
Very few people with afro textured hair can take hair relaxers. The hair is usually damaged in two to three years. Unless your hair is very coarse, try not to relax your hair. Some people can take heat straighted hair but still be careful with heat. I know it is your hair but unless the hair manufacturers find a way to make relaxers safer for Afro textured, avoid hair relaxers especially the no lye relaxers because they are extremely drying to afro textured hair..
More living. Less judging. The beauty about your life is just that. It's your life! You get to choose what works for you. You get to change your mind at anytime about anything that doesn't negatively affect others. I first went natural in 2005. When it started getting longer it took longer to detangle so I decided to texlax. It worked great. I went into the military and heard all the horror stories about how people gave women a tough time about braids etc. I decided to relax and cut it onto a bob. A couple years later I went natural again. Years later it grew long I relaxed again. In March 2020 I did another big chop. Its growing once again. The difference now is I have so many options with my hair. Crochets and curly wigs are my go to. I'm grateful that I can do so many things and not need to depend on someone else to do it. Will I relax again in a couple years? My choice. Will I remain natural and keep it at a manageable length and rock protective styles for the next 20-40 years? My choice. Embrace who you are realizing that those negative responses really have NOTHING to do with you. Most times people are unsure, insecure or afraid and take it out on the next person.
The style turned out beautifully!! Very impressed with how you put that hair in. I have to watch a few more times to see how you did it. This would be cute on my daughter. Thanks for sharing!!!
It turned out beautiful. Thank you for making this video sis. Honestly, all African hair is gorgeous. Virgin natural, texlaxed, relaxed, or loc'd. Our hair is versatile.
Thank you!!❤️ It's true!
Thank you so much for this video. I am excited to see how long I can grow my relaxed hair. I have decided to start doing my hair at home and have found your videos so insightful. I have also thought about going natural but my hair is past my shoulders and have always wanted length. Seeing your videos has inspired me. I think as well that being proud to be black is not limited to a hair style. It is so easy for people to share negativity. And am sorry you got negative comments. I hope you continue to be brave and look forward to whether you have natural or relaxed hair on your hair journey. 😃😃
I'm natural, and I'm subscribed to you because the wealth of knowledge you bring is one I've benefited from many times. That and the fact that I love your personality.
I just want you to know that whatever path you take, relaxed or natural, choose what makes you happy, because your passion shines through and inspires us to choose the same.
Thank you!!❤️
I remember the days of getting my hair relaxed and scalp burning because I was ignorant about what the relaxer is for. It shouldn’t be bone straight but relaxed enough to manage! Well I know better now. Those were my teenage years as a young adult I found out my true texture. This is in the 90’s I went nature without a plan. I didn’t big chop I kept my hair moistures or already in my natural curl pattern. Lol, people thought I had a jerry curl, nope all natural with gel to keep it that way or curl activator. All early 90’s. No social movement. Only getting to know my hair. Even before this I wouldn’t do the 6-8 week touch up with relaxers. I would go four months with good conditioning and the stylist would say it helped my hair rather than damaging it! It is all about know what works for your hair. Education and endurance. Thanks for all you do! I love your smile!
@Sherry G, hi..i liked reading what u wrote..are u still natural? My last relaxer wz on March 8th..since the pandemic, i wz thinkin bout goin natural, but im not likin the 2 textures, plus my hair looks constantly dry. I moisturize ALOT, but my hair dznt care!! I do notice i havnt shed alot & wonder if its cuz of moisturizing 2× daily..any thoughts, advice??
nygal628 hi yes I am natural. Good conditioners and a moisturizing shampoo. Keep moisture in your hair low maintenance hairstyles. I have a soft texture that can matte easily. I have to find the right balance with moisture and protein. Low maintenance hairstyles help me.
I wish I had your patience to spend as much time doing my hair.
Is relaxed hair really easier? I had a perm for 20 years and love to style my hair. I find that my natural hair takes less maintenance and styles hold better and can be worn for longer. Less scalp treatments. Less breakage.
Everybody’s hair is different and requires a different level of maintenance. I’ve been natural for 7 years, and my hair honestly isn’t that difficult to manage. But I know that’s not everyone’s experience.
For me yes it is. But my hair is THHHHHIIIICCCC like 16 heads on my head. So detangling takes forever natural. My hair would be wet for days. Relaxed it cuts all that time in less than half. I use the same products though
I have always relaxed my hair! I'm just not a natural hair person. There's tons of negativity around relaxers but all you have to do is take care of it and you'll be fine. So what if it's a chemical . Women that have natural long hair constantly dye , and heat stress their hair and are fine because they still take care of it .
I hate that as black women we have to explain ourselfs for our own personal preferences!! You want to. You want to. You want to. And that is a complete sentence and a worthy reason. Youre sweet and sometimes you can just say, because I want to and smile. People must just leave us alone lol! Anyway I absolutely love listening to you. You're gorgeous, you're so intelligent and talented and hard working and I'm so grateful that you're sharing your journey and lessons with us. You are so loved and appreciated. PS I'm natural but your lessons are universal so I'm learning so much. THANK YOU ♥️
Thank you. I just stumbled upon your channel. My husband is Nigerian. It is great to see an amazing example for my girls.
BECAUSE THATS WHAT TF YOU WANNA DO ♡
It's YOUR choice and you take GREAT care of it. Most of us didnt have a choice when our parents decided for us and didnt want to take the "extra effort" to do our natural hair. As long as you're doing the necessary things to maintain your treated hair, it doesnt matter what others think you relaxed your hair for, what doesnt work for other's, works for you.
Girl you do what you want to your hair!! I'm natural and like your videos, so don't let your RUclips channel stop you from living your life. Other girls think the same as you. You should do a documentary on why girls are relaxed and why girls went natural in America.
I am proud of you. Keep up the good work you are doing. You are such an example.
Thank you so much!
Hey girl!! How are you?! :) You popped into my mind, wanted to drop in and say hello. Now rewatching this video, I get what you remind me of-- that smile-- like literally, our jaw shape is so similar :), I kept wondering about the familiarity.. And the way you smile so much- I actually get called smiley face at wrk. Anyhow, nice rewatching this video. I love how you put your thoughts out there, it's all in the process of growth-- it really helps you refine your mindset. I find that when I let my thoughts out, be it to myself or others, acknowledging what's going on, I can then realign myself or reaffirm where I stand.
Aw, I loved this comment
So glad I found your videos. I couldn't get past shoulder length my whole life. I went natural 10 years ago but still had length problems due to breakage. I was frustrated with my curls and tangles and decided to texlax my hair after 10 years of being natural, but it was too strong and I'm basicy relaxed again 😂. For a moment I was sad that I was no longer a part of the " natural" community, but realized I need to do what works for me. Natural or not my hair was breaking. You're channel is refreshing. It give me hope for my hair again ☺️
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Hey Seun! I would not mind a longer video at all love hearing your thoughts.
We’re all influenced by what’s around us. Especially as children, we are impressionable and as teens we don’t want to stand out as too “different”, cause that’s what gets you bullied! I think all black hair is beautiful-short, long, straight, curly or kinky-coily. But Most definitely, Black hair is a blessing. Our options are virtually limitless!
I'm a relaxed girl too and it works well for me and I enjoy the low maintenance aspect of it. :D We do not hate ourselves. Natural hair is beautiful too! Thanks for your videos x
Your relaxed hair is so BEAUTIFUL 😍 Wow!!!!!
Thank you!!
Your hair is gorgeous and healthy.
I did relax my hair in 2017 and I loved it. Then I used a different stylist in 2018 for the touch up and and it wasn't good at all.
I then decided to go natural again. I did the transition route and oh my goodness!
I've had people tell me that they think I look better with straight hair, but my Grandpa always told me that my curls were beautiful!!
After reflecting on what my Grandpa told me I decided to go back to my natural hair texture.
Learning how to take care of my hair in general has been a process, but it will be well worth it for me.
Your hair is beautiful and I love the way you incorporate the natural crocheted hair into your hair.
Always do what works best for you.
Thank you so much! I appreciate this comment
White woman not asking each other why they constantly coloring their hair ijs
#facts
Im not against her keeping her hair straight, idrc but this comment doesnt even apply to the situation. Coloring your hair and changing the texture are two completely different things.
@@itsmefaith3168 Its the same context because when the perm( curl) their hair they still not up in arms
Alright, THAT i can agree with but not the other one
@@itsmefaith3168 Its just hair.. we can do what we please. It will grow again God willingly
I love you so happy I found this page!! I feel so validated and excited to start my hair growth journey
I’m glad you decided to keep your relaxed hair you don’t have to be bullied to change what you want to do with your hair so far as you love your hair. Some people are actually benefiting from your relaxed hair tips. Keep it up
Hi, Seun! You are such a bubbly person! Your energy and positive attitude, as well as smile makes us smile. I've taught many ages and subjects over the years. I've done a variety of things with my hair and additional hair since the late 1970s. I've taught others how to do a variety of things with their hair. When I came across your video about protective styles and growing your hair I decided to start putting other hair back with mine. I feel like I'm a student learning many new techniques again. As far as other people of many different races, including Blacks, they've always complimented my various styles. Other races have wanted to try similar things with their hair. One noted actress observed one of my interlock styles and for me it was a compliment! :-) Your tips have opened my eyes. As I tell people, be a ready student! Continue improving, young lady! GOD Bless!
Point blank, I would never chop off hair of such length, regardless of how I feel about the stigma.
I loved your video. I am white and grew up in the 1980s with a close friend of the family from Nigeria. He spent lots of his university vacations with us. I was a little kid and very curious about his life in Legos. Watching your video was a great opportunity for me to continue learning.
That is awesome! Thank you!!
Thanks for recording all the videos that have helped me understand and care for my relaxed hair. Whatever you eventually decide I’m sure you’re viewers will benefit from your work.
Aw, it makes me so happy to be able to help! Thank you❤️
Seun you can make a vid for 1,000 hours and I will watch the whole thing lol you are so genuine and honest about your hair journey and thoughts. I like watching hair videos during my spare time and it does not matter to me how long it is especially if its good info. . I appreciate the content and you slaaaayyyeeedd your hair 👌🏾👌🏾❤
Aww, thank you so much!❤️ I really appreciate your comment
AWEEEE your hairstyle came out cuteeee I was scared at first 😭❤️❤️❤️
You have such a sweet spirit! Keep that sweet, beautiful soul! Relaxed hair is easier. Even my hairdressers have said it. They have said that natural hair IS a lot of work. Most people who are honest will tell you that it is especially depending on your hair type. You have to do what works for you. Black hair gives you options!!! That's the beauty of it. Like you said, black hair is a privilege!!! And congratulations on your graduation 🎉! So happy for you, Duke Lady!!! If you need help or coaching or thinking throughout your next steps.
Thank you so so much!!❤️
I feel that
I see this beautiful spirit in you as I watch and then of course you mention Nigeria 💜 my beautiful sister
Seun you are so nice!!! If I was relaxed and someone asked me "why are you still relaxed?" I would say because I want to be. The way you wear your hair is your choice and it's beautiful by the way. I'm learning to embrace my natural curls and not fight it lol
Loved this video!! I feel we as black women should encourage each other not bash because of how you choose to wear your hair. I'm texlaxed , I watch all kinds of hair videos and learn from them all never say anything negative . Love your personality, LOVE your hair, enjoy all your videos!!! Yes more than a 20 minute video is fine with me!!!
Thank you❤️ Its so true!! Thank you so much for your comment
Hello Seun, I was adopted by a white family when I was a kid and always had relaxed hair. I never learned how to take care of my own hair and now at 30, I'm like better now than never. lol I did a big chop in 2014 and switched to being natural. I can not for the life of me leave my hair alone and see why it has not grown and is always breaking off. I sooo appreciate your videos on how to do your own hair, as i feel in doing so, we grow to love our hair!! I can say, I have never loved my natural hair but am learning how to.
Love your comment
Regardless of what you do with your hair, the most important thing is to love yourself! If you wear fake due to not loving your own natural hair, that is a issue. You have a beautiful face, so whatever you choose to do with your hair it will only enhance the beauty u have naturally👍🏽
I don’t like the fact that people call it “natural hair” like it still grows out ur scalp it’s ur hair people should call it 4c or there hair type
Good point