My wife tried to lock me out of our bedroom once. I did not sleep on the sofa. I took the fucking door off its hinges. And went to bed. She ended up sleeping on our sofa. She never tried that again.
That's awesome. Mine wouldn't even try that shit, she knows better. One time someone said "oh boy you'll be sleeping on the couch tonight" when they saw us arguing about something. I laughed and said "yeah that doesn't happen in my house"
Problem is you've got to be careful even setting limits with crazy women. In the UK we now have a new-ish piece of legislation called Controlling and Coercive Behaviour. If you set limits with a woman and she goes to the police they will consider your actions to be "controlling" and "coercive". It happened to me. I was dragged through the courts because of it. In the UK, standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is considered criminal behaviour now if you're a man. I can't even begin to express how messed up the situation actually is. Having experienced it myself, let me tell you, it is dangerous to even be in a relationship with a woman now.
As a matter of fact, any kind of relationship with a woman is dangerous, even the professional ones. If a woman is your boss, you are completely vulnerable and no one will have your back.
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Holy shit! That's how my marriage ended! I finally said no, because it became so clear that what she was demanding was my submission - although of course, she did not have the honesty and character to say it. Plain old stubbornness and inability to abide injustice saved me.
Same here just walked 4 months ago... no contact... she discarded me bc I was not willing to submit basically... then tried to hoover me back.. nope.. No ffng way nada... 4 yrs relationship.. 61 yrs old... does not get easier with older women at all.. @@cjroberts7022
They can change.....and frequently do...not always, but frequently! Keep an Ace or two to yourself, don't show all your cards, it will save you if she ..... frequently...
I'm 40 and I wish I found this 20 years ago. please do what's best for YOU don't let anyone sham you into doing what they want . Stay true to yourself. and you 20 somethings you have so much more info at your finger tips. then I did at that time in my life . please educate yourself
I've always laid clear boundaries with women and often been told 'Gosh I love you being so firm with me - you're the Sargeant Major of my life' - to which I replied 'It's not a job I want so how about you police your own bwhaviour?' Shortly afterwards each relationship would end as the women found quitting me easier than stopping their unfairness.
I could not agree more. What is most infuriating about this sort of behaviour is the apparent obsession of certain women with the NEED to be lectured on how to behave decently. To these women, it seems that "policing" their own behaviour is unthinkable, or at least something they somehow consider unacceptable in a relationship.
They like it initially because they see it as a challenge. Once they realize this rock ain't budging, they move on like a viral cell looking for a healthy body to infiltrate.
You are exactly right. I have a woman that lives with me. But I've made it clear since day one that I am the man and I have final word on all matters. Don't get me wrong. I'm very good to hear. Very kind and loving. But she has tried to make a move several times now to be in charge and call the shots. I ended the attempt as quickly as it started. She made comments like, I have never run my house like this. I told her that if she wanted to head up the house, she needed to go get her own house and then she could run it anyway she sees fit. But this house is my castle and I'm the king here. Lets not forget even the queen bows before the king. She says I'm not happy living here. I told her then go Pac your shit and go. Your not being held prisoner here. You are free to leave any time. This is a woman that lives here free gratis and still wanted to b**** about taking care of the home and doing what's expected a woman to do in the home. I simply pointed out before she moved in I made it abundantly clear of what I expected of her and what I would provide and return. And pointed out the fact I have lived up to my end of the bargain 100%. And that if she felt she no longer wanted to live up to her part of the bargain then she needs to go. I'm not going to work 10 hours a day to come home and split the house work with her when she's here all day doing nothing. You have to set limits and boundaries and live by them don't back down.
A marriage is a partnership. Control is not love. I agree if she is not paying anything then yes, she needs to take care of the damn house, not you. Yes, you have and deserve boundaries, but the final say on everything? That is controlling her decisions. She honestly sounds a bit immature. She seems to have entitlement issues. She lives there free, and then wanted to run everything, bitch about housework, etc.? She sounds like she never had her own job, her own house, her own money. Just everyone else's like it belonged to her.
@@paulmryglod4802 not even dude i have a 3 story house i get 3 cleaning ladys that come once a week and it only costs me 75$, they are here for about 1 hour, vacuum everything, wash the hardwood floors, and dust all the walls and ceilings. place is spotless when i get home and all the furniture is shiny with pledge.
You describe my ex-wife pretty well. When I was still married to her, I used to feel a sense of dread whenever I looked at my ringing phone to see her name. All the constant nagging and pointless drama wore me down more than anything else.
That BS caused stress which causes increase rise of heart attack and stroke, speeds up againg, sets off the brains hypothalamus that sets off the adrenal glands which stes off adrenaline and cortisol which causes inflammation in the body which is the number one reason for type 2 diabetes, plaque in the arteries, kidney failure, stroke and heart attacks.
Man I feel you on that I had one too. Countless days at work were spent trying to do my job and handle the crazy bitch that was blowing up my phone with whatever drama she had decided to stir up that day. I still have anxiety just thinking about it
I just had a run in with my son. This past 5hrs of watching your vids helped me shut his shit down. This information is goes beyond dealing with Women. For sure it does.
Men must learn to say "No!" to defend their values, to not feel guilty about doing so, and to never apologize for it. But women typically do not heed the words of men in their lives, particularly the word "no". She has rarely heard the word since she was an infant. This is why your actions as a man convey the word "no" to her more effectively. In fact, I recommend action over words with women 9 times out of 10. Keep fit. Dedicate time and effort to lift, shop for good food to eat well. Never allow her to rob that time away from you, or to criticize you. Devote yourself to gainful employment and career of your choice and interest, and enjoy it. Never allow her to guilt your lack of acceptable production as a protector and provider of her reality, or your lack of time for her. Never allow her to wield the "silent treatment" tactic to control. Laugh at it out loud, as you would a spoiled little child. If she refuses sexual intimacy, then go find it elsewhere.
And never lose contact with your friends. Even if they marry. Make sure to reach out and become friends with other men. I find that friendships with both older men and younger men to be of incredible value. They keep me both far wiser and far younger than I would normally deserve. Wives and girlfriends commonly prevent preservation of friendships, and often subtly discourage it. Be wary of including her in outings, get togethers and plans with your male friends. You can try it out, but if she fucks any of it up, then set yet another new boundary. Set boundaries for your friendships because with opportunity she can and will try to destroy them.
Paul, I wish I had heard this twenty years ago. I’ve spent the last 20 years cowering in a corner while my wife wailed away at me. I know I could never hit back or I could go to jail, so I just suffer through it. And I have always been too ashamed to tell anyone. (I take that back; I’ve told several doctors who have just said, “yeah, women are like that”. I want to read that book. Thanks very much for telling it straight. I now know I’m not alone.
Stay up brother. You're stronger for the experience. Now work on and improve yourself. If necessary listen to comedian Patrice Oneals take on relationships. Deep
So true, a woman will take your last shred of dignity away if you let her. Your only hope is to get away from her before she can do this and then begin to repair all of the psychological trauma she has inflicted upon you.
women seem to have a need to create conflict, you need to put stops and checks in place but don't ever lower yourself to argue with them because that's exactly what they want .
I was in a situation where I kept feeding the bottomless pit of a woman child. It was difficult to break the cycle and I started to wonder if I was crazy. Whenever I tried to preserve my best interests, I was called selfish and inconsiderate. My significant other stopped talking to me for nearly a month and in that time, I gained clarity. My life was full and I was downgrading because I became fooled into thinking something was at stake by leaving. Eventually I got enough courage to say enough. I was blamed for her disconnect and her conduct. I was blamed for not being in love enough to give chase to a situation that held no visible benefit. She didn't even make an attempt to be appealing in some way and reveled in her demanding ways. As of this moment she is alone with herself pondering a conversation we had the other day. She eventually she called asked me if I wanted to know why she cut of communication. I said no. No is a powerful word and I stood by it. All power was removed and I am again in control of my situation. I took that break in communication to evaluate what I had and the madness being proposed to me. I live in a beautiful high rise apartment in the heart of downtown. I am able to breath easily on my days off. I do not have someone in my ear trying to manipulate me through my insecurities or man shaming. All is quiet on my northwestern front. The alternative was constant emotional restlessness on her part with me as the blame. the alternative was constantly feeding her worth and value with no give back. The alternative was giving and getting the exact same thing I would have if I had of just sat on my ass and did what I want, complaints constantly. Paul, I am glad I found your channel and it helped me finally say enough to dysfunction. Keep doing this great work!
I was one of those who "bent over, spread my cheeks, and said 'I'm a man!'' My church, parents, government, school, and ego, all convinced me that I must "man up" and silently prove my worth by care taking and submitting. I allowed my ego to identify as a "manly man" who should take care of the poor, inferior, helpless women. The result was a sort of masculine -codependent complex. I felt guilty for enjoying anything or having anything to myself. To relieve my guilt and anxiety I would overextend, neglect, and sacrifice myself. I ended up marrying a girl with both narcissistic and borderline disorders. That's what finally began the process of me challenging this complex and the beliefs that reinforce it. And it takes regular maintenance to prevent that complex from guilt-tripping me into submission to borderlines who can smell my complex from miles away and move in for the kill.
After 6 years of relationship ? investing in her, getting her through college.... looking away when she does dumb shit... and talking about her work every night because she is overburdened by work and the BAR exam .... Dunno man...
When I started dating my current girlfriend she made comments like I was in trouble , I stopped her and told her that I would not be censored and that I did not answer to her. I was firm with her on this issue and she did break up with me but I held to my standards and she did come back and now we have appropriate boundaries.
I have been contently married for 14 years. I have the greatest wife in the world. She doesn't expect much from me and I don't expect much from her. Too many people think that other people can make them happy. This is false. The problem is women have been taught this behavior. Since they were little girls they were taught they need to find a man that will take care of them. Men have been taught they need to support a woman even when they are no longer married. If a woman can't support herself she isn't worth marring. Women initiated 80% of all divorces. While just over 12,000 men receive spousal support more than 380,000 women receive it. This is despite the fact that 40% of households the woman is the breadwinner. There is a lot of work that need to be done men to make our society more fair. There dozens of issues that are not popular to talk about that affect mens health and well being but we need to start speaking up. We need to be active.
Crazy people, male and female, usually make some unreasonable, bizarre request early in the relationship. It is a sorting device. If you do as requested, they know they have hooked a fish, and will get crazier as time goes on. Say no, and they either behave normally, or walk away to find a different fish.
A few years ago, I got a job abroad. Before I started, my new boss asked me if I could get her some specific dog food because she could not get it in that place. Foolishly, I agreed, and from that moment I had taken the bait. Now I would simply say no, and explain why.
I have just come out of relationship with a narcissist woman who made my life hell for ten years. I am re-educating myself so that I don’t fall in the same woman trap again. As of now, i am rebuilding myself from scratch.
My girlfriend was in a relationship with a narcissistic man. I can understand your torment as she still suffers.She went into therapy specifically for narcissist abuse . My advice. If you are an empath like she is, be very careful because you are a magnet for narcissists.
Paul, this is by far he clearest message to men on the topic of women running men, I've talked about this on my channel many times. I'm more of a wing it and speak from experience when I talk about dating and women, but I love how you take the time to write, and read your material. We should colab at some point over skype and do a video, I'd like to introduce you to my audience.
Mirelle Wittig Why would you call Entrepreneurs in Cars an asshole? Quite a comment coming from a self-proclaimed "fun loving and peaceful soul". Is it because he's standing up for *_men_* ? You are obviously fat and shallow, probably the reasons why you are presently man-less but feel the need for one as shown in your video of the hunky guys dancing for your pleasure. More than likely a Democrat, a left-wing Liberal who voted for clinton and lost and is still pissed. I'm sure you're involved in the latest women's movements, all about equality and all that bullshit when women are getting *_more equal_* everyday and definitely getting more then they deserve. Why else would you troll a channel that's clearly a man's view of today's crazy bitches unless you *_are_* one and want to voice your useless comment? *Spooky MGTOW* is right, you are just "another cunt". Funny how a person (me) can form an opinion on just one comment and a bunch of 15 second shitty uploads isn't it?
I just opened my heart and home for the first time in over 5 years. She's destroyed everything...my home...my life....everything...while all i did was try to establish a meaningful relationship...she attempted to alienate me by being immoral and disrespectful to every aspect of my life with countless fights that had no purpose and constant accusations that i was a cheater...had mental issues....etc. I never want a relationship again...if i get through the ruin and destruction she has left me, in the wake of her lack of accountability and constant provocation, I will never open myself again. Everytime I let a woman into my life, theyve set me back emotionally, financially and morally. They so not build, in our society today they destroy. I hope to see truth be the victor, if so i will salvage and rebuild my life and never let another woman into my life because i honestly have alot going for me and refuse to ever risk and jeopardize this ever again, with one life to live...I wont have it wasted by anyone
Aw, it makes me sad to read this. I hope you find joy and stability. If you do choose to love again maybe follow the aforementioned advice and set very firm boundaries from the beginning. Good luck.
Kaela Land ... Boundaries have no value if someone ignores them...and its one thing to establish boundaries...its entirely another when it comes to moral and ethical decency...something people are supposed to be taught and understood by the age of 10 at the latest.
I understand that its a two way street. Still, I know that romantic relationships can bring immense joy and its unfortunate to be cornered into writing them off completely. Although, certainly other things can bring joy as well.
HOTDOG401 treat boundaries like national borders. if they are crossed, it is war until her troops are withdrawn from your territory, in submission, or you launch nukes. always be prepared to end the relationship.
Hey ! I like your video's, ... so ya know, I'm a single strait guy, Never married, 48 years old, Home owner, Handsome, No kids, Haven't had a girlfriend since college, 6 figure income, working on my dream of being a rich and famous artist, Free to do what I want, when I want. Spend my money on what I want. Very Happy !!! : ) ... haven't given up on finding a girl, I just don't care anymore. So now you know one of your viewer. :P
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." -E.E. Cummings
Paul, your continued pressure, pushing back against a female population that has increasingly failed to mature, face their failures and manipulated men into a very dangerous and negative culture is refreshing and oh so needed - keep it up. BTW your outro music was hilarious !!
Ya know what I did this past weekend? Tore apart a motor for the car I drove in high school , I dropped the heads off at a machine shop to get rebuilt this morning, picking up the transmission here in a week or so that i sent out to get rebuilt... I could never do this if I were married... Living the mgtow lifestyles
@ Steve Rennekamp : Hope you enjoy the ride! I did that with three motorcycles in earlier years and guess what - I could do it because I was single! 😀 Still single close to 60yo and happy as can be! Discovering MGTOW was the best thing ever. I finally figured out there's nothing wrong with me and I'm doing it right.
Said goodbye to crazy 10 years ago. Live a simple no frills life. Rebuilt from 2 decades taken in an instant. Have great kids and stable healthy wealthy life. Have no regrets glad it happened.
The scary realization from every concept Paul describes my mom as if he was with me for the last 47 years observing every single interaction, family event, in every way.
Hmm, my parents were married for 60 years until my mother passed. Both of my sisters have been married for over 30 years. Mt brother on the other hand married crazy and made his life a shitshow as well as severely screwing up their son. Not all women are crazy, the trick is how to tell which ones are crazy before you get too involved and invested. The best clue I have seen to tell them apart, is whether their parents are still married, and do they have a sane relationship. Same thing goes for women looking for good men.
Best video I’ve ever seen, period! I’ve said all of this for 5 years. Been single and HAPPY for 5 years! Been sober for 13 years. Been sober from the idea that I must have, and please a woman for 5. Thank you for spreading the word!
Full disclosure; I'm an asshole. Always have been. I never held women in high regard so maybe that's why I'm good with women. I always kind of saw them as interchangeable and not something to be afraid of losing. It just seems to me like they make everything less fun. I dunno. I'm rambling.
I have 3 pet narcassists in my life and after over ten years managed to get them in front of me so i can see the knives coming. I am definately a tucker carlson type and have been working for years to stop the abuse. Funnily enough, i siad no to my estranged wife this morning and was instantly accused of being a deadbeat and committing fraud and that her lawyer would be on me. I find it hilariously emancipating i am none of those things and never have been, however her actions over the last six months paint a clear picture of who is behaving like a stain. I will definately be paying attention to this feed. It resonated very deeply. Everytime i say no to any of my pet demons, the abuse, accusations and actions are very painful to live through. But a damn sight better than following the rules that say, smile and take it because they will stop one day. No they wont....they just take more and then heap more abuse on top.
As young as I can remember. I had this anxiety of the need to be useful and the ramifications of not being useful. This has followed me to this day and decided to share this deep insecurity with a woman. guess what happened when we had an argument. She said it in the most vindictive way possible. "you're useless". And that was the end of whatever we had.
ReerBaadia anytime you bare your soul to a woman you are giving her intel to use against you. Never tell them everything. Don’t show any weakness. Weaknesses spur there hypergamy and off they go to a stronger man.
I'm Married and I'm in a relationship with a damn good woman. She's always encouraging me to do better (as I am myself). I found your channel through Cassie Jaye and I find it extremely helpful because it helps me reflect on being a fatherless child with a mother that continually bashed men. Through your channel I've worked out many things -- like my suspicion of men was born through my mothers suspicion of men. I'm currently transforming from a raging Feminist into a MRA and realising that I had been duped by Feminism. That being said I hold no hatred to women because I own my own shit. Something I had to work long and hard over, and something my Mum wasn't very good at. Through my transformation I've started up my own Men's support group and we'll be subscribing to you via Patreon as soon as we can!!
If she knows you'll walk, she'll behave. If she doesn't, she never will. Whenever I've responded to bitchy behaviour by calmly exiting the situation, the woman in question has either pulled it together on the spot, or sought me out shortly thereafter to apologise and make things right. Women only respect a man they cannot manipulate. It doesn't matter what her grievance is or who did what - if you show her that you won't tolerate disrespect, she'll find a way to pull herself together, quickly.
I have a 15 and 22 year old sons, I was married to a Borderline woman for 7 years and about everything you warned about happened to me, I had a sister that was one and a mother with Bipolar Disorder, so I was predisposed to tangle with one I guess, it was nice for a little while than went south after 2 years, well actually 1 year was somewhat good, all hell broke lose at year 7. Your information is invaluable to me so I can pass it on to my sons to save them the agony and loss of years I went through.
I hope the young men listen to this. It took me awhile to break the "Tucker Syndrome" but I finally did at around age 40. Now 54 wise, single and happy.
This is not about a wife but my mother. I was in the waiting room of my doctor's office and my mother called and she asked me to borrow 20 thousand dollars which she would pay me back! You should have seen the look on my face as I got red and started to growl. I thought ' this immature person is going to put me on the poor farm and that it shouldn't be up to mothers to bankrupt their children! I mean smoke was coming out of my ears. She hung up .probably in shame before I could talk, which is just as well because I would have said"No!" After that I realized something special. If I could say no to my mother then I could say no to anyone! I'm not married and I'm glad that I found this guy before I ever did because I didn't realize but I saw how wrong things could go with relationships, especially the man / woman relationship which is really crucial for me. I'm 63 and I'm still in the woods , never been married and I thank god for that, heterosexual man who has a real retirement set aside for myself that I don't want to have a woman abscond with it. I never realized just how predatory some women are but I also see how I'm a real mark for such a woman. God help me if I open my mouth about how much money I have because that will become the main reason for "Us" bonding together. I'm not a millionaire but I'm on my way for sure and I don't need to be sidetracked by some woman I 'idolize" for her brains and beauty and charm. I'm sad but also heartened by what I believe to be the beginning of my real education about women. Thanks Paul. I think men and women really need to grow up and relate to each other on a more mature plane. However I didn't realize how many immature women there are in the world and it might be a miracle if we men can survive them. My niece is one of them , she is one of the most ungrateful people I know and she goes through money relationships and friends and jobs like a fish goes through bait. She even said to me "Uncle Bobby are you cheap?" Too keep her off balance I automatically said"Yes!" And it really made me angry. How she treats me and others makes me think about the poor shlep who is going to one day marry this jerk. And wind up regretting it.
I am in my 30’’s and married to a 33 year old 13 year old. No I do not mean a actual child, but I am married to a woman who acts like a child for those needing clarification. So do not panic. I am grateful for your words Paul. You have given me a lot of understanding about my relationship as well as myself.
She is 13? Wow, you are WAY ahead of the average man, most are stuck with 9, or 10 if they are lucky. I hope you figure it out and have a long prosperous marriage!
Thanks. Nope didn’t figure it out. Divorced 2 years now. And the trauma from her still plagued me. That and the fact I have to coparent with someone unable to be adult and civil makes healing and finding my own peace a challenge even in divorce. My best advice isn’t stay if leave. It’s never get with one of these toxic females I. The first place. They are life changers and not in a good way.
Lol. This is sadly true! This equality shift and me too movement really complicated things. I truly believe women were valued equally just in different capacities before but this redound power struggle they’ve undertaken has made them more entitled and just frankly insufferable to deal with in many ways. I read somewhere modern women love the wedding day, not the marriage. I believe this to be true. The perk without the work. It’s a shame. It’s as if they want “equality” but still demand chivalry. Which one is it?! It can’t be both.
in 2015 my parish priest gave a homily on fathers day -- the one day out of the year when fathers and by extension all men -- are to be honored for what they do; and this is coming from someone who has trouble being around his own father. He began by telling the fathers in the congregation that if he wasn't at home enough he needed to find another job, and ended with the statement that "I challenge you to be better fathers." Not the individual men who are shit, but the assumption that fathers/men are failures -- but don't worry, I know you can do better. I wish I had the homily to watch, but it wasn't recorded. I wanted to punch him. On another occasion he was giving a historical example of the status of women in some society, but had to preface it by telling the women that it wasn't him who was saying it, he was just making a historical reference. He couldn't even do that without first getting female approval. That is how much the feminist mindset has infected the culture. Not once has he ever scolded women for anything, laid any responsibility at their feet. It's all our fault. I just cannot respect him, try as i might. He's such a product of the culture.
Unfortunately I'm married to a crazy bitch for and have been for 20 years. I just recently discovered that the role as a man feeling obligated to be was completely wrong. I thought the differences was only a gender thing, but I've come to this cover my wife is a serious narcissist. Even knowing this I seem to be incapable of giving up on my perception about what it means to be a man. I've known this fact for about 7 months and I've still not been able to break it off with her. If I write on paper a list of positive and negatives of my relationship it is very skewed towards only negative. This video and talk is spot-on never heard anything more accurate about what it means to be a man and how to respond to that roll. Thank you very much for this information
Thank you Paul. An ear for men has been invaluable in making sense of the wreakage of my past marriage and helped me regain some integrity and reset my boundaries.
Thank you Paul for speaking out what I felt for the last 30 years! I almost got ripped off when I was young and never really trusted any woman again. I'm single for about seven years now and this has been the best time of my life so far. Being able to travel the world and spend money on cars and planes is far more enjoyable than trying to make someone happy with getting close to nothing in return! Life is great!
Hope more young men see this channel, at 58, recently single again, never married, let me tell you this channel will save you money,grief and loss of sleep and your sanity
I agree with a lot of what this man is saying. However, I am happily married with a 2 year old daughter. My wife and child saved me from alcoholism and self destruction. My family gave me a point to living in a productive way.
Thank you. There are plenty of bad women, crazy bitches out there , but there are also good women, just like good and bad men. I like this channel but the comments are hard, because there are some woman-haters. This channel is just about crazy bitches, not all women. Your comment is a breath of fresh air.
I am not married, once wanted to. I have always refused to compromise what and who I am, I do not expect her to compromise in who she is either. There is the difference, they expect me to compromise me. I am the king, and I expect my queen to work with me against everyone else. Every single one of the potential queens decided to rule me, and the were crossing the drawbridge 5 minutes later.
I wish I had heard this type of video before I got married the first time. I would still be a single guy today. I have met so many crazys in my life, I could write a book about them.
I can't stop watching you!! This has been so helpful...and hilariously funny. I've been with a wonderful guy for the last two years and his ex fits into most of the criteria for BPD... Along with a few of her female associates. It's been a nightmare having to deal with her drama and I think we need more of this advice. You really execute it perfectly. I'm happy to see this amid social network sites like Facebook being flooded with feminist supremacy bullshit. I agree with all that you say and I thank you for this. I've also shared this to Facebook for some of my male friends. You're wonderful. Keep it up! X
Joshua Taylor women have become so toxic to be around in recent years, it's worse than ever right now. I find the whole 'girl power's culture completely saccharine and annoying to the highest degree. Selfie culture, has spawned a movement of young girls who are the walking, breathing version of a migraine. I can't avoid it enough. So many selfies, so little knowledge of self, you know? Thanks for your reply, appreciate it x
There is in reality LOTS of great information here for women, IF they could just lay their feels at the door on the way in. Not all, but certainly much of the stuff Paul teaches is gender neutral, for example, know your values, if women could just stop being triggered long enough to absorb it.
I had no nuts for the first 10 years of a horrible marriage. I wasn't taught to stand up, was afraid to say no or disagree, the old 'anything for a QUIET LIFE' FOR ME. Then, I just got sick of being a victim & bullied & made a stand anywhere & wherever possible. My wife said a number of times 'Where's the humble man I married'?! I told her that the man she married was a fool. Men, learn how to say NO right from the get-go. There's no need to be a shit head about it, but just state your case & stick to it, no matter the circumstance. If she rants & raves & it's not your fault, don't be scared to say you can no longer be with a female who is that immature, then carry out your threat!!. Fight fire with fire. If she slaps you, slap her back...but only with the same force she used on you. Learn to say NO where it's appropriate & NEVER back down. If you do, you will regret it.
THANK YOU YOUR VIDEOS HAVE TOUCHED BASE ON EVERY PAINFUL ASPECT OF MY LOVELIFE AND I FEEL LIKE FOR THE FIRST TIME SOMEONE REALLY GETS IT. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. YOU ARE A GOOD MAN DONT STOP MAKING THESE PLEASE. I AM GONNA CONTINUE TO WATCH YOUR VIDEOS I NEED THEM. I HAVE BEEN BURNED REALLY BADLY BY A BORDERLINE.
Brian Maldonado stay strong, educate about narcissism and boderline, find your vulnerabilitys, forgive yourself, have compassion for the disordered person and no contact.
The other things is we set our boundaries by our values, they are our boundaries ,we do not boundary the other person. They are responsible for themselves. If I try to boundary someone else that is controlling behaviour. Rather than 'don't you dare speak to me like that', it is more like 'I don't tolerate being spoken to like that'. There needs to be a consequence. Which again is my empowered action, rather than over powering you. You expect and elicit self responsibility for yourself and of the other.
God's sent!! NO university graduate or post-graduate studies compares to this! a MUST course in education, in life, and self-respect! Elan thank you!! thank you! sir!!!!!!
Finally some useful advice and insight offered to man. An Ear for Men’s advice is useful because it did not come through the sewerage filled filter of political correctness. I have no doubt, he is ACTUALLY saving lives!
Wow, this guy is spot on. I think deep down I knew these things he talks about never actually thought them through if that makes any sense. I have been married twice and really could have heard this about 20 to 25 years ago and it would have saved me countless years of heartache and bull$hit beyond belief.I remember that my second ex-wife once got pissed at me and yelled "Go To hell you bastard!" I remember the look on her face when I said to her, I have been there now twice and the devil keep throwing me out;-) Anyway, great channel I just found and look forward to watching and listening to your video series.
Thank you for this video. It’s certainly going to be filed in my “keeper” folder. Respecting and loving oneself enough to tell her NO is, indeed, a sign of a man’s mental health. Thank you.
Paul, pure fvcking wisdom. So true, feels like I'm surrounded by men with chronic and terminal 'nice-guy' Tucker Carlson syndrome, constantly getting their ass kicked by the women in their life, and claiming that it's just 'what you have to tolerate if you're a man and you want a good relationship'. BULLSHIT! I'm 60 and I've only just figured this stuff out over the last few years, my most recent relationship just terminated being a case study on what you just described. THANK YOU, sir.
My wife constantly complained about me not being home enough. I work 14 hr days. One day while she was at the beauty salon I put for sale signs on both Mercedes and the house. When she got home she asked what the hell is going on. I said well you want me home more we can't afford these things. Haven't heard a word about not being home enough.
Hi PaulI think that the back ground of a bar makes you look like a bitter old drunk and the distilled spirits takes your power away!! Paul you are a AWESOME MAN !! Thank you very much for your work.
Right: I'm an old git now, but I had a woman for 30 years and 2 girls. About 5 years ago I got lucky and manged to find a cheap house ( a wreck, but do I care about decor? ) so I could move out. The last 20 years were just loveless, but I was rudderless. Now I live alone I've found the freedom to 'do my own thing'. What I do isnt particularly grand or noble, but the benefit of finally being my own master is considerable. The thing is, where the fuck were you 30 years ago? It's a bit late now. I'd take a wild guess that a lot of feminists out there get almost hysterical with rage at the things you say. You do realise that you make them feel 'unsafe' and that your harsh words are 'violence'? You do? Oh, good.
Been waking up slowly for a few years now. Finding MGTOW a couple days ago has been a revelation. This isn't just me or just her. Many men in the comments are saying the same as I have seen in my marriage. Thank you and keep up the great work
i actually appreciate this guys advice. my mother not only screwed over every guy in her life,..but in all her relationships.got trust issues with all women in my life. i get it...but i also know..i need to keep giving chick friends and fam. a chance..just with very firm boundaries.
My wife tried to lock me out of our bedroom once. I did not sleep on the sofa. I took the fucking door off its hinges. And went to bed. She ended up sleeping on our sofa. She never tried that again.
That's awesome. Mine wouldn't even try that shit, she knows better. One time someone said "oh boy you'll be sleeping on the couch tonight" when they saw us arguing about something. I laughed and said "yeah that doesn't happen in my house"
"Lock me out will ya, fuck you and this door!" 😂😂 glad you laid the law brother
They do not own the moral high ground! Don't treat them like they do! Get two single beds problem solved.
Legend
That is the way to handle that! What a King Move!
Problem is you've got to be careful even setting limits with crazy women. In the UK we now have a new-ish piece of legislation called Controlling and Coercive Behaviour. If you set limits with a woman and she goes to the police they will consider your actions to be "controlling" and "coercive".
It happened to me. I was dragged through the courts because of it. In the UK, standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is considered criminal behaviour now if you're a man. I can't even begin to express how messed up the situation actually is. Having experienced it myself, let me tell you, it is dangerous to even be in a relationship with a woman now.
As a matter of fact, any kind of relationship with a woman is dangerous, even the professional ones. If a woman is your boss, you are completely vulnerable and no one will have your back.
thx for info, im currently in the UK and possible you saved my ass dude
UK? Stick a fork in it, because the UK is *DONE* !!!
@@josealexi5141
i read article they want to do some extra reeducating lessons bcus of andrew tatte infuence, system is defencing, keeping man weak (only strong man can disobey robbery(taxing, lies etc) similar like canceling jordan peterson and trying to reeducate him
Welp, looks like I'll never look at the UK the same again 😂😂 I'm so sorry for your plight by the way, that's fucked.
Some women have criminal intent and need to be dealt with accordingly. Period.
3 years ago maybe it was 'Some'. Now its pretty much 'All' or 'Everyone'. 🙁
And that starts with narcissistic personality disorder.
The vast majority are evil.
@@ga8065probably applies to 99% of them
Holy shit! That's how my marriage ended! I finally said no, because it became so clear that what she was demanding was my submission - although of course, she did not have the honesty and character to say it. Plain old stubbornness and inability to abide injustice saved me.
im right there now
Same here just walked 4 months ago... no contact... she discarded me bc I was not willing to submit basically... then tried to hoover me back.. nope.. No ffng way nada... 4 yrs relationship.. 61 yrs old... does not get easier with older women at all.. @@cjroberts7022
"Find your inner Tucker Carlson and kill the son of a bitch." I almost died laughing when I heard that line.
That one had me in tears it was so scathingly funny.
Primal Self I am in the process of killing my « inner Tucker Carlson »
I was wondering where that quote came from, until I found this video.
Reformed Mr Nice Guy here… Nothing is more liberating than not giving a shit about what women think.
My brothers wife keeps saying "happy wife happy life"
i keep answering no wonder men die earlier....
My response to that comment is " Happy man life is grand"
Yaphet kotto "its cheaper to sleep her"
I dont agree with that..but i empathize with the thoughts that caused him to say that.
It's ALL about them.
Yup,somedays I regret that feminist proverb!!! Al Bundy was actually a prophet and a poet for many of us!!! NO MA'AM !!!!
Women who believe that need to grow the hell up. That view makes the woman sound like a toddler.
Happily Married 37yr old woman that loves your outlook and no BS approach!
They can change.....and frequently do...not always, but frequently! Keep an Ace or two to yourself, don't show all your cards, it will save you if she ..... frequently...
I'm 40 and I wish I found this 20 years ago. please do what's best for YOU don't let anyone sham you into doing what they want . Stay true to yourself. and you 20 somethings you have so much more info at your finger tips. then I did at that time in my life . please educate yourself
me too
Yep, at least we learned it midlife than never. Wish this existed in the 1990’s
I'm 110, I wish I have seen this when I was 16
I'm 20 and glad I found this now
@@w0bblyd0inkb0ink 😅
I've always laid clear boundaries with women and often been told 'Gosh I love you being so firm with me - you're the Sargeant Major of my life' - to which I replied 'It's not a job I want so how about you police your own bwhaviour?' Shortly afterwards each relationship would end as the women found quitting me easier than stopping their unfairness.
I could not agree more. What is most infuriating about this sort of behaviour is the apparent obsession of certain women with the NEED to be lectured on how to behave decently. To these women, it seems that "policing" their own behaviour is unthinkable, or at least something they somehow consider unacceptable in a relationship.
They like it initially because they see it as a challenge. Once they realize this rock ain't budging, they move on like a viral cell looking for a healthy body to infiltrate.
Great job. Clear and important message for all good men out there. Don't become a victim of some parasitic sociopath.
Red Pill Germany .. or borderlines .. amen !
THERE ARE ALSO MALE SOCIOPATHS
JUST STAY AWAY FROM SOCIOPATHS, REGARDLESS OF THEIR GENDER.
Mariana Alanis Salinas true but thats not what this video is about
You mean a priest, right?
Treat her like a queen and she'll treat you like a commoner.
Single 22 y/o here. Thank you and others for helping me make the right choices and keeping me out of possibly life altering situations.
1) don't get married
2) condoms or vasectomy
3) don't get married
4) don't get married
Stay Awake and Aware
Sheharyar Chaudhry hey, tell me your story....i did it twice too
But what about mind altering situations? Lol😜
You are exactly right. I have a woman that lives with me. But I've made it clear since day one that I am the man and I have final word on all matters.
Don't get me wrong. I'm very good to hear. Very kind and loving. But she has tried to make a move several times now to be in charge and call the shots. I ended the attempt as quickly as it started.
She made comments like, I have never run my house like this. I told her that if she wanted to head up the house, she needed to go get her own house and then she could run it anyway she sees fit. But this house is my castle and I'm the king here. Lets not forget even the queen bows before the king.
She says I'm not happy living here. I told her then go Pac your shit and go. Your not being held prisoner here. You are free to leave any time.
This is a woman that lives here free gratis and still wanted to b**** about taking care of the home and doing what's expected a woman to do in the home. I simply pointed out before she moved in I made it abundantly clear of what I expected of her and what I would provide and return. And pointed out the fact I have lived up to my end of the bargain 100%. And that if she felt she no longer wanted to live up to her part of the bargain then she needs to go. I'm not going to work 10 hours a day to come home and split the house work with her when she's here all day doing nothing. You have to set limits and boundaries and live by them don't back down.
Nah. Get half the rent n half the bill for a good quiet housekeeper. :)
I hope she is great in bed. Free rent, no home ownership bills, just has to clean? That's $100 a week in contribution.
A marriage is a partnership. Control is not love. I agree if she is not paying anything then yes, she needs to take care of the damn house, not you. Yes, you have and deserve boundaries, but the final say on everything? That is controlling her decisions. She honestly sounds a bit immature. She seems to have entitlement issues. She lives there free, and then wanted to run everything, bitch about housework, etc.? She sounds like she never had her own job, her own house, her own money. Just everyone else's like it belonged to her.
Hahaha sounds funny! I bet she is ugly.
@@paulmryglod4802 not even dude i have a 3 story house i get 3 cleaning ladys that come once a week and it only costs me 75$, they are here for about 1 hour, vacuum everything, wash the hardwood floors, and dust all the walls and ceilings. place is spotless when i get home and all the furniture is shiny with pledge.
There are too many risks in a marriage today and there isn't any reward
almost 0 reason for a guy to get married these days.
You got that right.
Marriage should be between a man, a women, and god. I think this is the inevitable result of getting government involved.
Way too many risks involved I stay away from any relationship and crazy bitches
@keecefly it's just a troll. Ignore.
You describe my ex-wife pretty well. When I was still married to her, I used to feel a sense of dread whenever I looked at my ringing phone to see her name. All the constant nagging and pointless drama wore me down more than anything else.
That BS caused stress which causes increase rise of heart attack and stroke, speeds up againg, sets off the brains hypothalamus that sets off the adrenal glands which stes off adrenaline and cortisol which causes inflammation in the body which is the number one reason for type 2 diabetes, plaque in the arteries, kidney failure, stroke and heart attacks.
Crystal clear that your ex-wife was a poor long term partner
Man I feel you on that I had one too. Countless days at work were spent trying to do my job and handle the crazy bitch that was blowing up my phone with whatever drama she had decided to stir up that day. I still have anxiety just thinking about it
@@JJones-cl4dm glad you got through it!
Why I don't understand is why you had the self defeating need to keep answering the phone whenever she called, like a trained chimp.
I just had a run in with my son. This past 5hrs of watching your vids helped me shut his shit down. This information is goes beyond dealing with Women. For sure it does.
I just think thyre all crazy , I never met a sane one . Better off single
Men must learn to say "No!" to defend their values, to not feel guilty about doing so, and to never apologize for it.
But women typically do not heed the words of men in their lives, particularly the word "no".
She has rarely heard the word since she was an infant.
This is why your actions as a man convey the word "no" to her more effectively.
In fact, I recommend action over words with women 9 times out of 10.
Keep fit. Dedicate time and effort to lift, shop for good food to eat well. Never allow her to rob that time away from you, or to criticize you.
Devote yourself to gainful employment and career of your choice and interest, and enjoy it. Never allow her to guilt your lack of acceptable production as a protector and provider of her reality, or your lack of time for her.
Never allow her to wield the "silent treatment" tactic to control. Laugh at it out loud, as you would a spoiled little child.
If she refuses sexual intimacy, then go find it elsewhere.
And never lose contact with your friends. Even if they marry.
Make sure to reach out and become friends with other men.
I find that friendships with both older men and younger men to be of incredible value. They keep me both far wiser and far younger than I would normally deserve.
Wives and girlfriends commonly prevent preservation of friendships, and often subtly discourage it.
Be wary of including her in outings, get togethers and plans with your male friends. You can try it out, but if she fucks any of it up, then set yet another new boundary.
Set boundaries for your friendships because with opportunity she can and will try to destroy them.
mfriedrich2012 - This is the best reply I have ever read...thank you sir for spelling it out clearly.
Liberals and feminests do not like the word "no."
@@artt9717 Donnie either.
Paul, I wish I had heard this twenty years ago. I’ve spent the last 20 years cowering in a corner while my wife wailed away at me. I know I could never hit back or I could go to jail, so I just suffer through it. And I have always been too ashamed to tell anyone. (I take that back; I’ve told several doctors who have just said, “yeah, women are like that”. I want to read that book. Thanks very much for telling it straight. I now know I’m not alone.
Stay strong!
50 % of domestic abuse is women on men, look it up...its a feminist lie men are the primary abusers
That’s sad, man. I really hope you get away safely from that abuse.
Stay up brother. You're stronger for the experience. Now work on and improve yourself. If necessary listen to comedian Patrice Oneals take on relationships. Deep
I did 20yrs too bro just like you.
Divorced 3yrs now. Totally worth it.
Stay strong guy's and God bless
IF a Man Does Not Know WHEN and Where To Say NO ....he is siting on a Time BOMB
I don't when it comes to my family. Thankfully I don't have much interest in dating or screwing women and I keep it that way.
So true, a woman will take your last shred of dignity away if you let her. Your only hope is to get away from her before she can do this and then begin to repair all of the psychological trauma she has inflicted upon you.
women seem to have a need to create conflict, you need to put stops and checks in place but don't ever lower yourself to argue with them because that's exactly what they want .
I was in a situation where I kept feeding the bottomless pit of a woman child. It was difficult to break the cycle and I started to wonder if I was crazy. Whenever I tried to preserve my best interests, I was called selfish and inconsiderate. My significant other stopped talking to me for nearly a month and in that time, I gained clarity. My life was full and I was downgrading because I became fooled into thinking something was at stake by leaving. Eventually I got enough courage to say enough. I was blamed for her disconnect and her conduct. I was blamed for not being in love enough to give chase to a situation that held no visible benefit. She didn't even make an attempt to be appealing in some way and reveled in her demanding ways. As of this moment she is alone with herself pondering a conversation we had the other day. She eventually she called asked me if I wanted to know why she cut of communication. I said no. No is a powerful word and I stood by it. All power was removed and I am again in control of my situation. I took that break in communication to evaluate what I had and the madness being proposed to me. I live in a beautiful high rise apartment in the heart of downtown. I am able to breath easily on my days off. I do not have someone in my ear trying to manipulate me through my insecurities or man shaming. All is quiet on my northwestern front. The alternative was constant emotional restlessness on her part with me as the blame. the alternative was constantly feeding her worth and value with no give back. The alternative was giving and getting the exact same thing I would have if I had of just sat on my ass and did what I want, complaints constantly. Paul, I am glad I found your channel and it helped me finally say enough to dysfunction. Keep doing this great work!
"no longer living with a crazy bitch who's making you miserable"
Yep, that's me!
Ditto!
I was one of those who "bent over, spread my cheeks, and said 'I'm a man!'' My church, parents, government, school, and ego, all convinced me that I must "man up" and silently prove my worth by care taking and submitting. I allowed my ego to identify as a "manly man" who should take care of the poor, inferior, helpless women. The result was a sort of masculine -codependent complex. I felt guilty for enjoying anything or having anything to myself. To relieve my guilt and anxiety I would overextend, neglect, and sacrifice myself. I ended up marrying a girl with both narcissistic and borderline disorders. That's what finally began the process of me challenging this complex and the beliefs that reinforce it. And it takes regular maintenance to prevent that complex from guilt-tripping me into submission to borderlines who can smell my complex from miles away and move in for the kill.
Yep you need to check yourself daily
Paul Elam should be every guy's wingman. I've watched 4 videos and I'm hooked. Thanks for the smack upside the head, Paul.
I watched 36 seconds. I'm not sure why. Maybe it was something about the provocative title.
If she is mentally draining you get out .
True👍
After 6 years of relationship ? investing in her, getting her through college.... looking away when she does dumb shit... and talking about her work every night because she is overburdened by work and the BAR exam .... Dunno man...
@@IHoratzyes happened to me after 6 years. She quietly dropped me and got pregnant within 2 months.
When I started dating my current girlfriend she made comments like I was in trouble , I stopped her and told her that I would not be censored and that I did not answer to her. I was firm with her on this issue and she did break up with me but I held to my standards and she did come back and now we have appropriate boundaries.
I would proceed with caution those leopards seldom lose their spots!
Yep, she is gone. I kept my manhood instead of keeping her.
Brian Waller Called it!
and now you keep a bottle of hand lotion and box of kleenex next to your bed......ahhh romance!
Piece of mind is far more valuable than she was. You made an excellent decision.
I have been contently married for 14 years. I have the greatest wife in the world. She doesn't expect much from me and I don't expect much from her. Too many people think that other people can make them happy. This is false. The problem is women have been taught this behavior. Since they were little girls they were taught they need to find a man that will take care of them. Men have been taught they need to support a woman even when they are no longer married. If a woman can't support herself she isn't worth marring. Women initiated 80% of all divorces. While just over 12,000 men receive spousal support more than 380,000 women receive it. This is despite the fact that 40% of households the woman is the breadwinner.
There is a lot of work that need to be done men to make our society more fair. There dozens of issues that are not popular to talk about that affect mens health and well being but we need to start speaking up. We need to be active.
Crazy people, male and female, usually make some unreasonable, bizarre request early in the relationship. It is a sorting device. If you do as requested, they know they have hooked a fish, and will get crazier as time goes on. Say no, and they either behave normally, or walk away to find a different fish.
A few years ago, I got a job abroad.
Before I started, my new boss asked me if I could get her some specific dog food because she could not get it in that place.
Foolishly, I agreed, and from that moment I had taken the bait.
Now I would simply say no, and explain why.
I have just come out of relationship with a narcissist woman who made my life hell for ten years. I am re-educating myself so that I don’t fall in the same woman trap again. As of now, i am rebuilding myself from scratch.
My girlfriend was in a relationship with a narcissistic man. I can understand your torment as she still suffers.She went into therapy specifically for narcissist abuse . My advice. If you are an empath like she is, be very careful because you are a magnet for narcissists.
Why did you wait so long?
Been there,done that.......never again!
richard casey i thought I will change her, I had no boundaries at all
15 yr marriage to the same. I still have marriage PTSD 5 years later after the divorce.
Paul, this is by far he clearest message to men on the topic of women running men, I've talked about this on my channel many times. I'm more of a wing it and speak from experience when I talk about dating and women, but I love how you take the time to write, and read your material.
We should colab at some point over skype and do a video, I'd like to introduce you to my audience.
Be happy to do so. Send me a message to anearformen@gmail.com
Entrepreneurs in Cars I found him by watching your channel. Thank y’all
Mirelle Wittig Why would you call Entrepreneurs in Cars an asshole? Quite a comment coming from a self-proclaimed "fun loving and peaceful soul". Is it because he's standing up for *_men_* ? You are obviously fat and shallow, probably the reasons why you are presently man-less but feel the need for one as shown in your video of the hunky guys dancing for your pleasure. More than likely a Democrat, a left-wing Liberal who voted for clinton and lost and is still pissed. I'm sure you're involved in the latest women's movements, all about equality and all that bullshit when women are getting *_more equal_* everyday and definitely getting more then they deserve. Why else would you troll a channel that's clearly a man's view of today's crazy bitches unless you *_are_* one and want to voice your useless comment? *Spooky MGTOW* is right, you are just "another cunt". Funny how a person (me) can form an opinion on just one comment and a bunch of 15 second shitty uploads isn't it?
I would pay to see this on stage.
Both of you are fantastic. I finally dont feel alone for having a red pill mind 🤙🏼👌🏻
I just opened my heart and home for the first time in over 5 years. She's destroyed everything...my home...my life....everything...while all i did was try to establish a meaningful relationship...she attempted to alienate me by being immoral and disrespectful to every aspect of my life with countless fights that had no purpose and constant accusations that i was a cheater...had mental issues....etc.
I never want a relationship again...if i get through the ruin and destruction she has left me, in the wake of her lack of accountability and constant provocation, I will never open myself again. Everytime I let a woman into my life, theyve set me back emotionally, financially and morally. They so not build, in our society today they destroy. I hope to see truth be the victor, if so i will salvage and rebuild my life and never let another woman into my life because i honestly have alot going for me and refuse to ever risk and jeopardize this ever again, with one life to live...I wont have it wasted by anyone
Aw, it makes me sad to read this. I hope you find joy and stability. If you do choose to love again maybe follow the aforementioned advice and set very firm boundaries from the beginning. Good luck.
Kaela Land ... Boundaries have no value if someone ignores them...and its one thing to establish boundaries...its entirely another when it comes to moral and ethical decency...something people are supposed to be taught and understood by the age of 10 at the latest.
I understand that its a two way street. Still, I know that romantic relationships can bring immense joy and its unfortunate to be cornered into writing them off completely. Although, certainly other things can bring joy as well.
Kaela Land Yeah...Im buying a motorbike and another hotrod.
HOTDOG401 treat boundaries like national borders. if they are crossed, it is war until her troops are withdrawn from your territory, in submission, or you launch nukes. always be prepared to end the relationship.
Hey ! I like your video's, ... so ya know, I'm a single strait guy, Never married, 48 years old, Home owner, Handsome, No kids, Haven't had a girlfriend since college, 6 figure income, working on my dream of being a rich and famous artist, Free to do what I want, when I want. Spend my money on what I want. Very Happy !!! : ) ... haven't given up on finding a girl, I just don't care anymore. So now you know one of your viewer. :P
I dated hot crazy as a younger man, and the angriest my girlfriend ever got was when I refused to argue with her.
My limit for crazy bitches i zero.
No crazy bitches= Easy going life.
wise words by a man who hasn't been fucked like EVER in his life. bitter n horny....yikes...the making of a serial killer.
xrayracer1 excellent retort. .see how much just a little bit of knowledgeable fact finding can negate idiocy!
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."
-E.E. Cummings
I agree. Copy that.
That's a great quote.
Paul, your continued pressure, pushing back against a female population that has increasingly failed to mature, face their failures and manipulated men into a very dangerous and negative culture is refreshing and oh so needed - keep it up. BTW your outro music was hilarious !!
Ya know what I did this past weekend? Tore apart a motor for the car I drove in high school , I dropped the heads off at a machine shop to get rebuilt this morning, picking up the transmission here in a week or so that i sent out to get rebuilt... I could never do this if I were married... Living the mgtow lifestyles
Salute. I'm working on my suzuki ninja this weekend instead of doing chores thstsome chic feels I need to complete
I've got my motorcycle in the living room of my mortgage free house :)
thats the spirit !!!
@ Steve Rennekamp :
Hope you enjoy the ride!
I did that with three motorcycles in earlier years and guess what - I could do it because I was single! 😀
Still single close to 60yo and happy as can be!
Discovering MGTOW was the best thing ever. I finally figured out there's nothing wrong with me and I'm doing it right.
I keep staring at that beer in the background lol.
YAH ! I Can't stop Looking at all that booze even at 7 in the morning . " LET's PARTY FELLA's "
thought it was just me!
Well at least we know how Elam copes.
Lmfao. Me too
Alcohol not healthy.
Said goodbye to crazy 10 years ago. Live a simple no frills life. Rebuilt from 2 decades taken in an instant. Have great kids and stable healthy wealthy life. Have no regrets glad it happened.
6:00 The look on Dr. Smith's face when she hears Carlson saying that...
Lorenzo Benito 3
That look said "dude, where are your balls?"
The scary realization from every concept Paul describes my mom as if he was with me for the last 47 years observing every single interaction, family event, in every way.
Hmm, my parents were married for 60 years until my mother passed. Both of my sisters have been married for over 30 years. Mt brother on the other hand married crazy and made his life a shitshow as well as severely screwing up their son.
Not all women are crazy, the trick is how to tell which ones are crazy before you get too involved and invested.
The best clue I have seen to tell them apart, is whether their parents are still married, and do they have a sane relationship. Same thing goes for women looking for good men.
There are l
alot of crazy women now. They are brainwashed in schools
Look at the parents to see what they released the Kraken.
@@schallrd1 hahahahaha llove it!!
I like how the landmines are painting themselfs bright colors nowadays.
Happily SINGLE.
I gotta have my nephew listen to u!!
Best video I’ve ever seen, period! I’ve said all of this for 5 years. Been single and HAPPY for 5 years! Been sober for 13 years. Been sober from the idea that I must have, and please a woman for 5. Thank you for spreading the word!
Full disclosure; I'm an asshole. Always have been. I never held women in high regard so maybe that's why I'm good with women. I always kind of saw them as interchangeable and not something to be afraid of losing. It just seems to me like they make everything less fun. I dunno. I'm rambling.
You're only in the game for the friction, then... 8)
the part about making everything less fun. " you are only supposed to get excited about her! " nothing else is acceptable. ;) " see the insanity ? "
I have 3 pet narcassists in my life and after over ten years managed to get them in front of me so i can see the knives coming. I am definately a tucker carlson type and have been working for years to stop the abuse. Funnily enough, i siad no to my estranged wife this morning and was instantly accused of being a deadbeat and committing fraud and that her lawyer would be on me. I find it hilariously emancipating i am none of those things and never have been, however her actions over the last six months paint a clear picture of who is behaving like a stain. I will definately be paying attention to this feed. It resonated very deeply. Everytime i say no to any of my pet demons, the abuse, accusations and actions are very painful to live through. But a damn sight better than following the rules that say, smile and take it because they will stop one day. No they wont....they just take more and then heap more abuse on top.
Have you killed that inner SOB yet?
Man .. How are you doing now ?? I might also get divorce after 15 yrs of hell 😢 .. I am scared .
As young as I can remember. I had this anxiety of the need to be useful and the ramifications of not being useful. This has followed me to this day and decided to share this deep insecurity with a woman. guess what happened when we had an argument. She said it in the most vindictive way possible. "you're useless". And that was the end of whatever we had.
ReerBaadia you leant a valuable lesson that day.
ReerBaadia anytime you bare your soul to a woman you are giving her intel to use against you. Never tell them everything. Don’t show any weakness. Weaknesses spur there hypergamy and off they go to a stronger man.
Fuck it. She's gone. Thank her for doing you a favor
Congratulations! You got rid of an evil b**ch.
I felt this when I was younger too, I think every man does. Fortunately, I was lucky enough not to share it with a woman.
I'm Married and I'm in a relationship with a damn good woman. She's always encouraging me to do better (as I am myself). I found your channel through Cassie Jaye and I find it extremely helpful because it helps me reflect on being a fatherless child with a mother that continually bashed men. Through your channel I've worked out many things -- like my suspicion of men was born through my mothers suspicion of men. I'm currently transforming from a raging Feminist into a MRA and realising that I had been duped by Feminism. That being said I hold no hatred to women because I own my own shit. Something I had to work long and hard over, and something my Mum wasn't very good at.
Through my transformation I've started up my own Men's support group and we'll be subscribing to you via Patreon as soon as we can!!
RUclips Win Worley Jezebel rides again.
If she knows you'll walk, she'll behave. If she doesn't, she never will.
Whenever I've responded to bitchy behaviour by calmly exiting the situation, the woman in question has either pulled it together on the spot, or sought me out shortly thereafter to apologise and make things right.
Women only respect a man they cannot manipulate. It doesn't matter what her grievance is or who did what - if you show her that you won't tolerate disrespect, she'll find a way to pull herself together, quickly.
Man .. How are you doing now ?? I might also get divorce after 15 yrs of hell 😢 .. I am scared .
I have a 15 and 22 year old sons, I was married to a Borderline woman for 7 years and about everything you warned about happened to me, I had a sister that was one and a mother with Bipolar Disorder, so I was predisposed to tangle with one I guess, it was nice for a little while than went south after 2 years, well actually 1 year was somewhat good, all hell broke lose at year 7. Your information is invaluable to me so I can pass it on to my sons to save them the agony and loss of years I went through.
I hope the young men listen to this. It took me awhile to break the "Tucker Syndrome" but I finally did at around age 40. Now 54 wise, single and happy.
This is not about a wife but my mother. I was in the waiting room of my doctor's office and my mother called and she asked me to borrow 20 thousand dollars which she would pay me back! You should have seen the look on my face as I got red and started to growl. I thought ' this immature person is going to put me on the poor farm and that it shouldn't be up to mothers to bankrupt their children! I mean smoke was coming out of my ears. She hung up .probably in shame before I could talk, which is just as well because I would have said"No!" After that I realized something special. If I could say no to my mother then I could say no to anyone! I'm not married and I'm glad that I found this guy before I ever did because I didn't realize but I saw how wrong things could go with relationships, especially the man / woman relationship which is really crucial for me. I'm 63 and I'm still in the woods , never been married and I thank god for that, heterosexual man who has a real retirement set aside for myself that I don't want to have a woman abscond with it. I never realized just how predatory some women are but I also see how I'm a real mark for such a woman. God help me if I open my mouth about how much money I have because that will become the main reason for "Us" bonding together. I'm not a millionaire but I'm on my way for sure and I don't need to be sidetracked by some woman I 'idolize" for her brains and beauty and charm. I'm sad but also heartened by what I believe to be the beginning of my real education about women. Thanks Paul. I think men and women really need to grow up and relate to each other on a more mature plane. However I didn't realize how many immature women there are in the world and it might be a miracle if we men can survive them. My niece is one of them , she is one of the most ungrateful people I know and she goes through money relationships and friends and jobs like a fish goes through bait. She even said to me "Uncle Bobby are you cheap?" Too keep her off balance I automatically said"Yes!" And it really made me angry. How she treats me and others makes me think about the poor shlep who is going to one day marry this jerk. And wind up regretting it.
I am in my 30’’s and married to a 33 year old 13 year old. No I do not mean a actual child, but I am married to a woman who acts like a child for those needing clarification. So do not panic. I am grateful for your words Paul. You have given me a lot of understanding about my relationship as well as myself.
She is 13? Wow, you are WAY ahead of the average man, most are stuck with 9, or 10 if they are lucky.
I hope you figure it out and have a long prosperous marriage!
Thanks. Nope didn’t figure it out. Divorced 2 years now. And the trauma from her still plagued me. That and the fact I have to coparent with someone unable to be adult and civil makes healing and finding my own peace a challenge even in divorce. My best advice isn’t stay if leave. It’s never get with one of these toxic females I. The first place. They are life changers and not in a good way.
@@proxemiafpv5746 Take out the word toxic and I would agree completely.
Lol. This is sadly true!
This equality shift and me too movement really complicated things. I truly believe women were valued equally just in different capacities before but this redound power struggle they’ve undertaken has made them more entitled and just frankly insufferable to deal with in many ways.
I read somewhere modern women love the wedding day, not the marriage. I believe this to be true. The perk without the work. It’s a shame. It’s as if they want “equality” but still demand chivalry. Which one is it?! It can’t be both.
@@proxemiafpv5746 "It can’t be both."
In a hamster wheel, it certainly can be both.
Protecting myself from my mother.. I need to get a restraining order.
in 2015 my parish priest gave a homily on fathers day -- the one day out of the year when fathers and by extension all men -- are to be honored for what they do; and this is coming from someone who has trouble being around his own father. He began by telling the fathers in the congregation that if he wasn't at home enough he needed to find another job, and ended with the statement that "I challenge you to be better fathers." Not the individual men who are shit, but the assumption that fathers/men are failures -- but don't worry, I know you can do better. I wish I had the homily to watch, but it wasn't recorded. I wanted to punch him. On another occasion he was giving a historical example of the status of women in some society, but had to preface it by telling the women that it wasn't him who was saying it, he was just making a historical reference. He couldn't even do that without first getting female approval. That is how much the feminist mindset has infected the culture. Not once has he ever scolded women for anything, laid any responsibility at their feet. It's all our fault. I just cannot respect him, try as i might. He's such a product of the culture.
Most so called churches today are little if anything more than the false prophets warned about in Revelation.
Unfortunately I'm married to a crazy bitch for and have been for 20 years. I just recently discovered that the role as a man feeling obligated to be was completely wrong. I thought the differences was only a gender thing, but I've come to this cover my wife is a serious narcissist. Even knowing this I seem to be incapable of giving up on my perception about what it means to be a man. I've known this fact for about 7 months and I've still not been able to break it off with her. If I write on paper a list of positive and negatives of my relationship it is very skewed towards only negative. This video and talk is spot-on never heard anything more accurate about what it means to be a man and how to respond to that roll. Thank you very much for this information
how you doing now dude?
You still alive my guy
Thank you Paul. An ear for men has been invaluable in making sense of the wreakage of my past marriage and helped me regain some integrity and reset my boundaries.
This video is totally on point. There is so much wisdom here. Funny too!
Took me 50 years to find a woman who wasn't a crazy bitch. Finally found her, and she loves your videos and your facebook page! :D
Are you in Brazil?
game bird - don't get your knickers in a twist! The truth will set you free..... after it breaks a foot off in your ass.
Yes indeed love .. Men are so clueless
LEE SOAREZ Inglês do Zero same here brother. Happily married for 25. Its a risk eather way.
What's your secret?
Thank you Paul for speaking out what I felt for the last 30 years! I almost got ripped off when I was young and never really trusted any woman again. I'm single for about seven years now and this has been the best time of my life so far. Being able to travel the world and spend money on cars and planes is far more enjoyable than trying to make someone happy with getting close to nothing in return! Life is great!
if they only taught this stuff in school,society would look quite different
Hope more young men see this channel, at 58, recently single again, never married, let me tell you this channel will save you money,grief and loss of sleep and your sanity
I agree with a lot of what this man is saying. However, I am happily married with a 2 year old daughter. My wife and child saved me from alcoholism and self destruction. My family gave me a point to living in a productive way.
Thank you. There are plenty of bad women, crazy bitches out there , but there are also good women, just like good and bad men. I like this channel but the comments are hard, because there are some woman-haters. This channel is just about crazy bitches, not all women. Your comment is a breath of fresh air.
I am not married, once wanted to. I have always refused to compromise what and who I am, I do not expect her to compromise in who she is either. There is the difference, they expect me to compromise me. I am the king, and I expect my queen to work with me against everyone else. Every single one of the potential queens decided to rule me, and the were crossing the drawbridge 5 minutes later.
25 years old . Thanks for your content . You have saved me so much BS and heart ache .
I wish I had heard this type of video before I got married the first time. I would still be a single guy today. I have met so many crazys in my life, I could write a book about them.
It’s because they’re all crazy. My experience anyway.
I can't stop watching you!! This has been so helpful...and hilariously funny. I've been with a wonderful guy for the last two years and his ex fits into most of the criteria for BPD... Along with a few of her female associates. It's been a nightmare having to deal with her drama and I think we need more of this advice. You really execute it perfectly. I'm happy to see this amid social network sites like Facebook being flooded with feminist supremacy bullshit. I agree with all that you say and I thank you for this. I've also shared this to Facebook for some of my male friends. You're wonderful. Keep it up! X
I'm a gay guy and can see what he's humorously talking about. I'm so glad that you're a woman and are strong and secure enough not to be threatened!
Joshua Taylor women have become so toxic to be around in recent years, it's worse than ever right now. I find the whole 'girl power's culture completely saccharine and annoying to the highest degree. Selfie culture, has spawned a movement of young girls who are the walking, breathing version of a migraine. I can't avoid it enough. So many selfies, so little knowledge of self, you know? Thanks for your reply, appreciate it x
Mr Mysterious - Go back to the farm. You will be a lot happier there.
Realist words ever spoke👍🏾 setting limits as a man, is one of the best things you'll ever do.
I'm actally a woman that appreciates the info. I had to deal with a mother in law like this. I had to divorce her too.
There is in reality LOTS of great information here for women, IF they could just lay their feels at the door on the way in.
Not all, but certainly much of the stuff Paul teaches is gender neutral, for example, know your values, if women could just stop being triggered long enough to absorb it.
I had no nuts for the first 10 years of a horrible marriage. I wasn't taught to stand up, was afraid to say no or disagree, the old 'anything for a QUIET LIFE' FOR ME. Then, I just got sick of being a victim & bullied & made a stand anywhere & wherever possible. My wife said a number of times 'Where's the humble man I married'?! I told her that the man she married was a fool. Men, learn how to say NO right from the get-go. There's no need to be a shit head about it, but just state your case & stick to it, no matter the circumstance. If she rants & raves & it's not your fault, don't be scared to say you can no longer be with a female who is that immature, then carry out your threat!!. Fight fire with fire. If she slaps you, slap her back...but only with the same force she used on you.
Learn to say NO where it's appropriate & NEVER back down. If you do, you will regret it.
THANK YOU YOUR VIDEOS HAVE TOUCHED BASE ON EVERY PAINFUL ASPECT OF MY LOVELIFE AND I FEEL LIKE FOR THE FIRST TIME SOMEONE REALLY GETS IT. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. YOU ARE A GOOD MAN DONT STOP MAKING THESE PLEASE. I AM GONNA CONTINUE TO WATCH YOUR VIDEOS I NEED THEM. I HAVE BEEN BURNED REALLY BADLY BY A BORDERLINE.
Brian Maldonado stay strong, educate about narcissism and boderline, find your vulnerabilitys, forgive yourself, have compassion for the disordered person and no contact.
Dump her asap and never contact again. Borderlines are totally messed up psychologically. You can't fix them. They will destroy you.
The other things is we set our boundaries by our values, they are our boundaries ,we do not boundary the other person. They are responsible for themselves. If I try to boundary someone else that is controlling behaviour. Rather than 'don't you dare speak to me like that', it is more like 'I don't tolerate being spoken to like that'. There needs to be a consequence. Which again is my empowered action, rather than over powering you. You expect and elicit self responsibility for yourself and of the other.
This is a very subtle, but wise distinction.
Subconsciously, I was aware of this, but to see it writ, breathes life and meaning into it.
Thanks.
You're the best 👍🏽
This can save a lot of men lives.
God's sent!! NO university graduate or post-graduate studies compares to this! a MUST course in education, in life, and self-respect! Elan thank you!! thank you! sir!!!!!!
Finally some useful advice and insight offered to man. An Ear for Men’s advice is useful because it did not come through the sewerage filled filter of political correctness. I have no doubt, he is ACTUALLY saving lives!
I'm married. We're sane. Took a lot of work. My boundaries are not negotiable. Neither are hers. That's the only way it can work, anymore.
I am a mangina, a guest in my own home, I love this message. Oh
Keeping the peace . BOHICA. haha me too pal.
Robert Gray That need not be how it is, in the future.
So kick some ass and take back what is rightfully yours.
If this was taught to men at a young age it would save them so much misery.
This information is so important for guys of any age.
Tucker is only justifying his own plight.
All the jabs at Tucker had me rolling
Wow, this guy is spot on. I think deep down I knew these things he talks about never actually thought them through if that makes any sense. I have been married twice and really could have heard this about 20 to 25 years ago and it would have saved me countless years of heartache and bull$hit beyond belief.I remember that my second ex-wife once got pissed at me and yelled "Go To hell you bastard!" I remember the look on her face when I said to her, I have been there now twice and the devil keep throwing me out;-) Anyway, great channel I just found and look forward to watching and listening to your video series.
Thank you for this video. It’s certainly going to be filed in my “keeper” folder. Respecting and loving oneself enough to tell her NO is, indeed, a sign of a man’s mental health. Thank you.
Thanks so much! Always a morale boost when I tune in!
Single 25, have an FWB that is borderline gf, I keep her at arms length. Just because I'm busy with other things, confirmed bachelor lifestyle
Paul, pure fvcking wisdom. So true, feels like I'm surrounded by men with chronic and terminal 'nice-guy' Tucker Carlson syndrome, constantly getting their ass kicked by the women in their life, and claiming that it's just 'what you have to tolerate if you're a man and you want a good relationship'. BULLSHIT! I'm 60 and I've only just figured this stuff out over the last few years, my most recent relationship just terminated being a case study on what you just described. THANK YOU, sir.
LISTEN UP MEN!! This man speaks the truth! Please listen
Dr Smith's facial expression at Carĺson, says it all
My wife constantly complained about me not being home enough. I work 14 hr days. One day while she was at the beauty salon I put for sale signs on both Mercedes and the house. When she got home she asked what the hell is going on. I said well you want me home more we can't afford these things. Haven't heard a word about not being home enough.
You are amazing Paul Briliant
Hi PaulI think that the back ground of a bar makes you look like a bitter old drunk and the distilled spirits takes your power away!! Paul you are a AWESOME MAN !! Thank you very much for your work.
What? Insult then compliment? WTF?
Papa Daddy Its called “constructive criticism”
Right: I'm an old git now, but I had a woman for 30 years and 2 girls. About 5 years ago I got lucky and manged to find a cheap house ( a wreck, but do I care about decor? ) so I could move out. The last 20 years were just loveless, but I was rudderless. Now I live alone I've found the freedom to 'do my own thing'. What I do isnt particularly grand or noble, but the benefit of finally being my own master is considerable.
The thing is, where the fuck were you 30 years ago? It's a bit late now.
I'd take a wild guess that a lot of feminists out there get almost hysterical with rage at the things you say. You do realise that you make them feel 'unsafe' and that your harsh words are 'violence'? You do? Oh, good.
Man .. How are you doing now ?? I might also get divorce after 15 yrs of hell 😢 .. I am scared .
Been waking up slowly for a few years now. Finding MGTOW a couple days ago has been a revelation. This isn't just me or just her. Many men in the comments are saying the same as I have seen in my marriage. Thank you and keep up the great work
This was way before its time. The MGTOW scene didn't truly get traction until about early 2018.
The man is spitting so many facts, I’m shocked that RUclips has been trying to cancel him. Subbed!!!
i actually appreciate this guys advice. my mother not only screwed over every guy in her life,..but in all her relationships.got trust issues with all women in my life. i get it...but i also know..i need to keep giving chick friends and fam. a chance..just with very firm boundaries.
You are a natural comedian, Paul; and very perceptive.
Thanks again for your priceless insights.