Battle Of The Wives: Trad Wife Vs. Traditional Wife

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  • Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
  • Message From Mom Episode 024:
    Are you curious about the difference between a trad wife and a traditional wife? Look no further! In this informative video, we break down the nuances and misconceptions surrounding these two terms.
    As we dive into the topic, we'll explore the values and roles of each type of wife and how they compare and contrast.
    But this video isn't just about definitions. We'll also discuss the benefits and challenges of each role and provide tips on how to embrace either one. Whether you're a modern woman exploring traditional values or a traditionalist looking to strengthen your role, this video has something for everyone.
    So if you're ready to gain a deeper understanding of the trad wife and traditional wife lifestyles, click the link below to watch the full video. You won't want to miss it! #TradWife #TraditionalWife
    #traditionalvalues #modernwoman
    Foundational Piece
    The New Yorker - The Rise and Fall of Trad Wives
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    New & Noteworthy
    Beth: Varley - rstyle.me/+2TT...
    Kelly: Crossroads by Jonathan Franzen - amzn.to/3Wu76jP
    Chelsea: Verity by Colleen Hoover - rstyle.me/+2zd...

Комментарии • 19

  • @dianaaugustine5438
    @dianaaugustine5438 Месяц назад +7

    Interesting discussion. I’m a 28 year-old stay-at-home-mom to a baby and a toddler. I disagree with the stereotype discussed in this show about staying home being relaxing and eating bonbons. It is nothing like that at all. Some days are more relaxing, but others are stressful. I’m on my feet most of the day cooking, cleaning, running errands, changing diapers, doing educational activities and outings for my oldest child etc. I do more physical labor in a day than my husband who works at a desk. I’m the one dealing with temper-tantrums and sick babies. Some days you’ve been up all night with the baby and the toddler is having a screaming fit about every little thing while you are trying to get everyone to a doctor’s appointment on time.
    I also disagree with the way this discussion frames staying home versus working as equal choices. They may appear that way from the parent’s perspective, but from the perspective of a young child, they are not at all equal choices.
    Children thrive with a consistent caregiver who loves them and invests in their future. They need consistent rules, and discipline. They must be taught values. Not to mention the health benefits of nursing and home-cooked meals.
    Most children of working mothers are placed in daycare with a revolving door of low-paid workers who may or may not actually care about the children. They are surrounded by their peers, not an adult teaching them values. They get sick all the time from this environment. They get very little time with their parents who often have to spend their time off of work hurriedly doing errands and chores.
    I just don’t see these two options as equivalent at all. You can’t hire out a mother’s love. That is why, unless they have a willing and able grandparent or other family member to fill this roll, I encourage other women of young children to stay home if at all possible. Only work away from home if you absolutely have to. When the children are well established and independent, yes, sure, go get a job, start a business, volunteer etc. But small children have needs that supersede the desires of a parent. The more time you can spend with them, the better.

    • @MessagefromMom
      @MessagefromMom  Месяц назад +3

      Thank you for being so honest! We appreciate you sharing your thoughts. While I (Beth) agree with many of your sentiments-I chose to stay home and raise three boys-it is an equal choice for women to make whether to work at home or work outside the home. Economics being what they are in 2024, it's a challenging environment for all. I hope that women support women and their decisions, whether we agree or not. A mother's love is a mother's love, whether she's at home or at work. And remember, countless single mothers bear the burden of all child-rearing responsibilities and economic stability.
      Thanks so much for stopping by!

    • @bethannsmith4969
      @bethannsmith4969 Месяц назад +1

      Children are the ones who potentially suffer when mothers work outside the home. It is a sacred time and deserves pause and attention. Thank you for speaking up on this topic. 💓

    • @MVBNov
      @MVBNov Месяц назад

      I totally agree with you BUT for less privileged people there is NO option, they must go work to be able to feed the children, therefore, day care should have quality.

    • @rokzane
      @rokzane Месяц назад

      Poor women have always worked, for hundreds of years, while raising babies, and the world survived. Staying home has only ever been the privilege of the extremely wealthy, and it wasn't an option for the middle class until the late 19th century. It takes a village to raise good humans, not just one parent, so we need stronger communities, more young families living closer to grandparents and aunts and uncles, so everyone can help. Women don't need to sacrifice their economic security and that of their children.

    • @rokzane
      @rokzane Месяц назад +1

      Just to give you a glimpse outside of the USA, it's the standard in many European countries for the grandparents to live with their kids who have very young children. It's expected that the parents will work, and the grandparents will be with the kids.

  • @kathyrea1630
    @kathyrea1630 Месяц назад +2

    The entire point of the women’s movement was for a woman to have the choice to do what she wanted. Sad that women don’t support one another. I was a stay at home mom as well as a working mother (home for 9 years while I raised my 3 boys). Those 9 years were the happiest years of my life. I gave up my career to be home. I was able to return to my career. But I was very torn/sad when I did return to the workforce.
    It was my experience that stay at home moms were very judgmental of working mothers. I went back to work when my son (oldest) was 6 weeks old. Broke my heart to do so, but financially I had no choice. I was home for 8 weeks with second son. Then was able to stay home when they were 2 & 6 (Colleagues were aghast that I was giving up my position). While home, I had my third son (at 44). I returned to work when he was 4.
    And now happily retired! Bottom line, we need to support one another in whatever we choose!

    • @MessagefromMom
      @MessagefromMom  Месяц назад +1

      I heartily agree! Women need to support women and their choices. Each choice involves sacrifices.

  • @charlessutton-dn3fe
    @charlessutton-dn3fe Месяц назад +3

    Excellent show, very interesting!!!!!❤❤❤❤

  • @JulieWeick
    @JulieWeick Месяц назад +3

    This is very interesting and I think that having choices is a very good thing.

    • @MessagefromMom
      @MessagefromMom  Месяц назад

      We could have talked about this topic for hours!

  • @kincaid70
    @kincaid70 Месяц назад +1

    Great show! Very interesting! Thank you!

    • @MessagefromMom
      @MessagefromMom  Месяц назад

      Glad you enjoyed it! It's an interesting topic.

  • @franktaylor7978
    @franktaylor7978 Месяц назад +4

    I thought trad was short for traditional.

    • @MessagefromMom
      @MessagefromMom  Месяц назад +1

      It is, but we thought there needed to be a distinction.

  • @grandmamoses6977
    @grandmamoses6977 Месяц назад +2

    Well, traditional wives do have hobby's they can use to make money.

    • @MessagefromMom
      @MessagefromMom  Месяц назад

      Definitely a possibility.

    • @rokzane
      @rokzane Месяц назад

      Those usually don't produce steady income. Even a part-time job with an hourly wage is better. That allows moms to put money away steadily into savings.