Me: I don’t want to go there, because I don’t want to intrude. They might want space to work it out on their own FJs: Why aren’t you asking how I’m doing!? Don’t you care about me? Why are you pulling away? Me: Oops I did it again.
Do they ever reach out to you first before getting upset? Because if not then why is it only up to you to keep the conversations starting? It's a two way street. Also true friends should know that's just how you are, I'm not the warm reaching out type, and my friends understand that and still like me anyway.
@@nooneneedstoknowmyname Yeah, I was just trying to illustrate a typical scenario between strong Fi and strong Fe, projecting own approach onto others. When we know each other enough, we can definitely try to meet each other halfway, like you mentioned with good friends. I think our own mental approaches can easily lead to misunderstanding the kinds of motivations involved, and potential missed opportunities for connection. Knowing Type potentially helps with knowing when to approach vs when to give space. But even then it is very easy to forget preferred interaction styles of others, as we tend to easily fall back into our own default.
@@VeggieJohnx2 I see that makes sense. You're completely right about knowing type can potentially help with knowing that sort of stuff, like I know now not to approach the INFP and the ESTP I know in the same way. My intentions getting misinterpreted happens to me ALL the time. People seem to think that I have all these deep feelings and meanings behind what I say when that's not the case, usually, things aren't that deep. Take an arms ban for example (I'm not sure if the G word would be allowed to comment or if it would get my comment deleted) I personally don't like them, but I can see a bunch of ways why banning them won't work, therefore I support the second amendment even though there's no personal feelings behind it. I know that's a pretty strong topic for a lot of people, so sorry for bringing it up, and if you feel differently that's fine, like I said, no personal feelings. That's another thing people misinterpret about me, that I'm trying to change their mind by stating my opinions, when that's not the case, I don't really have personal feelings towards a lot of things I talk about, I just point out the obvious facts that should be apparent to everyone, but isn't. I think I might be experiencing a high Te low Fi vs a high Fi low Te clash. TL;DR: People seem to think that I care way too much about stuff when I don't and the they end up getting mad at me for some reason, and they always seem to be the avoiding confrontation type, so we never get to settle anything. I don't get why they're so afraid, all I want is to have everything settled. What do people usually misinterpret about your intentions?
@@nooneneedstoknowmyname Ah, possible high Te/low Fi vs High Fi/low Te. I can totally see how there would be misunderstandings. It sounds like your main intent is to highlight the obvious facts, without necessarily trying to change the minds of anyone. And it isn’t personal. Hi Fi, it tends to totally go in the opposite direction, trying to personalize beliefs, actions, and just about anything, in order for the thing to have deep personalized meaning for the Fi-user. So if the Fi-preferring person uses Te as a means to debate or to talk about facts, it is very likely they are trying to convince others of something they believe in strongly, something they feel in their bones. As an INFP, I have definitely had moments where I enter crazy debate mode, where I think some fact is incorrect, and I believe that spreading such a belief can indirectly cause harm to others. And when I debate I feel totally emotionally charged up to the point where I feel possessed, and not my usual self! It’s like a tidal wave where I can potentially destroy things in my wake… well, more relationships in my wake. It feels super uncomfortable for me to do, and yet once I have bitten the hook, I can’t help but stay in that place. Total tunnel vision when caught up in the Inferior for me. So yeah, also no listening involved when I enter that state, which is opposite of my usual more receptive state. I hope that was kind of helpful? Different mental realities totally create different sets of expectations and altered interpretations. It is super hard for me to not personalize things, so I have to learn ways to step back via acknowledging other ways of thinking, or that I misinterpreted the other.
ni vs ne is a source of much frustration over failed collaborations in my life … I find that INFP and ENTJ like myself can usually sort it out because the Fi Te access for admiration and the (N)-auxiliary allows us to see both N’s”.. what you think?
Me: I don’t want to go there, because I don’t want to intrude. They might want space to work it out on their own
FJs: Why aren’t you asking how I’m doing!? Don’t you care about me? Why are you pulling away?
Me: Oops I did it again.
Do they ever reach out to you first before getting upset? Because if not then why is it only up to you to keep the conversations starting? It's a two way street.
Also true friends should know that's just how you are, I'm not the warm reaching out type, and my friends understand that and still like me anyway.
@@nooneneedstoknowmyname Yeah, I was just trying to illustrate a typical scenario between strong Fi and strong Fe, projecting own approach onto others. When we know each other enough, we can definitely try to meet each other halfway, like you mentioned with good friends. I think our own mental approaches can easily lead to misunderstanding the kinds of motivations involved, and potential missed opportunities for connection. Knowing Type potentially helps with knowing when to approach vs when to give space. But even then it is very easy to forget preferred interaction styles of others, as we tend to easily fall back into our own default.
@@nooneneedstoknowmyname Have you ever had situations where your intentions were totally misinterpreted? I know I have had my share! lol
@@VeggieJohnx2 I see that makes sense. You're completely right about knowing type can potentially help with knowing that sort of stuff, like I know now not to approach the INFP and the ESTP I know in the same way.
My intentions getting misinterpreted happens to me ALL the time.
People seem to think that I have all these deep feelings and meanings behind what I say when that's not the case, usually, things aren't that deep.
Take an arms ban for example (I'm not sure if the G word would be allowed to comment or if it would get my comment deleted)
I personally don't like them, but I can see a bunch of ways why banning them won't work, therefore I support the second amendment even though there's no personal feelings behind it.
I know that's a pretty strong topic for a lot of people, so sorry for bringing it up, and if you feel differently that's fine, like I said, no personal feelings.
That's another thing people misinterpret about me, that I'm trying to change their mind by stating my opinions, when that's not the case, I don't really have personal feelings towards a lot of things I talk about, I just point out the obvious facts that should be apparent to everyone, but isn't.
I think I might be experiencing a high Te low Fi vs a high Fi low Te clash.
TL;DR: People seem to think that I care way too much about stuff when I don't and the they end up getting mad at me for some reason, and they always seem to be the avoiding confrontation type, so we never get to settle anything.
I don't get why they're so afraid, all I want is to have everything settled.
What do people usually misinterpret about your intentions?
@@nooneneedstoknowmyname Ah, possible high Te/low Fi vs High Fi/low Te. I can totally see how there would be misunderstandings. It sounds like your main intent is to highlight the obvious facts, without necessarily trying to change the minds of anyone. And it isn’t personal. Hi Fi, it tends to totally go in the opposite direction, trying to personalize beliefs, actions, and just about anything, in order for the thing to have deep personalized meaning for the Fi-user. So if the Fi-preferring person uses Te as a means to debate or to talk about facts, it is very likely they are trying to convince others of something they believe in strongly, something they feel in their bones. As an INFP, I have definitely had moments where I enter crazy debate mode, where I think some fact is incorrect, and I believe that spreading such a belief can indirectly cause harm to others. And when I debate I feel totally emotionally charged up to the point where I feel possessed, and not my usual self! It’s like a tidal wave where I can potentially destroy things in my wake… well, more relationships in my wake. It feels super uncomfortable for me to do, and yet once I have bitten the hook, I can’t help but stay in that place. Total tunnel vision when caught up in the Inferior for me. So yeah, also no listening involved when I enter that state, which is opposite of my usual more receptive state. I hope that was kind of helpful? Different mental realities totally create different sets of expectations and altered interpretations. It is super hard for me to not personalize things, so I have to learn ways to step back via acknowledging other ways of thinking, or that I misinterpreted the other.
havent encountered with an INFP but did meet an ISFP…what I felt was he feels quite negotiating and always friendly but to be honest very stubbon…
ni vs ne is a source of much frustration over failed collaborations in my life … I find that INFP and ENTJ like myself can usually sort it out because the Fi Te access for admiration and the (N)-auxiliary allows us to see both N’s”.. what you think?