You mentionnéd thèse women pointed her out. Well, it keeps on happening in the comments of this vidéo. People are so mean and stupid. You are so on point in your comments 👍🏻
I always considered them preying on the weak minded. It was extremely creepy for me and I always stood clear but my “friends” would pursue those o heads. 🤢 There was NOTHING special about an old, dirty, unambiguous hood booger. 👎🏽
Ofcourse! No real man of true value is out preying on youngsters! They do that too bc the women their age won’t give them the time of day since they’re mentally delayed & obviously mental in other aspects
Same thing happens around high school premises too!!!! The older kids that graduated and are now 20, 30 something, would come back and prey on the young new freshmen girls /high school girls
Girl that is stash house. He lives in between those teenagers because it's not in the hood and anyone come looking for him will stand out like a degenerate just like him
It's becoming more and more obvious that the so called "preferences" aren't getting any preferential treatment outside of being told that they are the preference. 🥴
She was delusional.. a lot women have this dream Idea of a lala Land future with guys who have no Vision or purpose.. he wasn’t that type of guy and you can’t make him be that.. I think that’s exactly what lost toxic dudes mean by “don’t try to change me” he’s a comfortable bum and she saw that and still pursued and ignored when she should’ve ran
Absolutely non he will come back for round 2. That's how these losers secure a home and effortless sex Her red flag was SHE DIDN'T LIKED HIM !! Been there done that don't dare men your not interested in. You have fun and than you see each other every day and have sx. Than comes the illusions. She probably thought she was different or better. Or he'll change with me. Magical thinking I really hope she breaks contact for a while with this loser. Think of your mental health because you and your baby need it. Wouldn't be surprised if the runaway dad didn't want a light skinned tight curled baby girl ! Not the light skinned child he preferred. You forever tied to him and so are the other baby momma's, he just hops from one baby mother to the next. And when you don't want to deal with him, he will impregnate a new woman with baby number 7 . And when she has enough time to make his round of available baby momma's 🤮🤡
As a Black young man everytime I hear a story like this I immediately get residual shame. To be clear im nobody's father ,yet this isn't a good look for my demographic and whether or not I like it, this will change social perceptions of me. I once had a conversation with another guy who had fathered numerous children and it was so disgusting I actually stopped eating and walked away to the bathroom. He spoke of his children and their mothers like little trophies. They were exotic commodities to him and he was bragging about being an irresponsible, morally bankrupt character who was devoid of any guilt or shame. Although non of his baby Mama's where Black he took pride in specifically having mixed raced children from each racial group and this was a 32yr old manchild with 12 children. He didn't even have a job and was mooching off some white woman he had knocked up.I've never spoken to him and avoid him to this day but one thing he did show me is just what kind of man I do not want to be. I went and bought myself 100 condoms and went to study for my Econ finals. To this day I cary contraceptives on me and when I don't want to study for a class or attend a lecture, I just remember him and won't you know it I miraculously find the courage to cary on with my degree and internships.
I'm so glad his talk and behavior had the opposite effect on you. Too many young men would admire and emulate that behavior. Wishing you a very successful life. ❤
1 man but a bunch of baby mamas. There are more women making bad decisions in that single situation u just used which has more men to be inclined to hold women more accountable especially since they have to hold the bag when it comes to pregnancy.
My mom told me “remember, if you have this baby it is yours. A man can always leave, even in marriage.” My parents have been married for 37 years and my mom still gave me that advice!!
As someone that made the decision to not have kids …. The way y’all blame women for when men take off like they don’t be lying and manipulating is the reason …. I would never .
But women also have a responsibility as well to protect yourself and your womb. That man is definitely trash but don’t stop protecting yourself as well.
Exactly. And seeing them jump on the train of “you should marry a man first” like what? Divorce is expensive and marriage is not a guarantee a man will not treat you like trash if he feels like it. Only with marriage, you’re even more trapped.
@@HarajukuBarbie504 I see comments on both ends but it's still the same stick l. What you said is 100% true and everything you have to balance. It's not all on the man and it's not all on the women. It's his fault and in some ways her fault even if ahe knew it at the time or not.
I’m going to leave my unpopular opinion here. I think it’s funny that when non-black women go through this, black women are supposed to come with our capes and tell her that it’s OK and be there for her and be all sisterhood. But when regular black women have these stories of getting pregnant by a man who has six kids by six different women, we don’t go viral. We are taught and told to choose better, and that it’s all our fault but for some reason she gets to go viral, and have people feel sorry for her. No shade to her and her situation, props to her for staying in her child’s life. I wish her and her child all the best, but it seems like she got the same treatment, despite being a preference.
@@feliciadorsey3717 Having no sympathy is a good thing sweet heart. Because one day something could happen to you while you were naive and no care or fucks would be given.
For those saying it’s better to marry first, I married first. I lost my virginity in my marriage 😭 this man asked me to have his kids, I didn’t want to… I complied because were married. I had 3 of his kids. In my last pregnancy he cheated on me, abandoned me and my children and tried to get me evicted from my home when I found out he was cheating. I divorced him, and he hasn’t seen these kids since a month before the divorce was finalized. It’s been 7/8 months 😭😭😭 I am raising kids that weren’t in my life’s plan. Some men change up on you when they get what they want. The abuse was gradual but it became so much I couldn’t stand it. So, even the ones who wait until marriage aren’t safe Love.
It’s like you missed the point. Of course, anything can happen in a marriage and it all depends on WHO you married that’s why you have to look for red flags and do background checks in advance. But marriage does add more stability and it adds more commitment to someone. Marriage ITSELF is a better option but it all depends on who’s getting married. I’m sorry about what happened to you, but making a life long commitment to someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with is wayy better than deciding to have a baby with someone you just met just because you “like” him.
@@melanintingz6555 I feel like YOU missed the point Love, the man I married didn’t have a bad background. Nothing to report. He grew up in a good neighborhood in a good family. There weren’t any red flags. Even still, he turned out to be a nightmare. The point is that even though I dotted my I’s and crossed my t’s, I still ended up in the same place. Nowhere did I say steer away from marriage, this is just my sad story but thank you for insulting my intelligence.
@@briannab.8127 marriage protects you in the way that you can still get benefits or claim alimony when things go downhill but emotionally it did not bc of who this man revealed himself to be AFTER we wed.
People be so ready to hate women it’s crazy. My grandma(rest her soul) did everything for my grandfather. Gave him 6 beautiful children, cooked everyday, worked side hustles to help family, was a god fearing woman. When she started to lose you health and mind he treated her like shit, he was ready to cheat, he called her all types of names it was so sad. I’m saying all this to say, it doesn’t matter if you’ve known a man for 6 mons- 1 year or “vetted” him your entire life and made him wait until marriage, if he wants to be grimy and treat you poorly after years of good and honest behavior he can and will. It is truly baffling to me that anyone would see someone hurt and in pain and the first thing they say is “well maybe you should be a better judge of character” you’re just an evil person at that point and I hope karma comes for you.
I think most folks have the capabilities to hold both parties accountable. It's fair to say "practice having better judgment in character" because that's literally what happened in accordance with what this woman said. But additionally we can also say this man is absolutely piece of shit that should be paying child support on all of these kids.
@@SK-le4ljWhat?? This guy was a THUG and she knew it! She knew he sold drugs for a living and that’s what she wanted! If this were a black woman on here talking about how she knew her baby daddy was a drug dealer and had unprotected sex with him anyone, NO ONE WOULD FEEL SORRY FOR HER! Why are y’all doing it here?? 😂
I’m sorry but it got worse and worse with each part. A man near 30 did this to a 21 year old woman with no dating experience. So many red flags from the start. I’m glad she’s sharing her story in case other girls need a reminder
I swear I preach but it sounds so outlandish. We as young women really shouldn’t be allowed to date until the age of 25. We are just too green, naive, and don’t know enough yet. Things just don’t start clicking and settling in until then. And gosh can we just say no to older men!! Especially if we’re under 25. Of course this will never be a thing because men young and old just love having access to us when we are our dumbest.
@@toriyt2714 Yeah I don't agree. That's taking away personal autonomy. And that would be hard to monitor. At least with the alcohol law you can look at people's id's.
Imagine being skinny, pretty, having clear skin, a small waist, and being 21, with your entire life ahead of you. And you have such low self worth that you put yourself through this and allow a man to baby trap you and uproot your life. It's almost unfathomable. I'm sorry she had to learn life's lessons in this way. It's tragic.
RIGHT! STOP GIVING THESE DUSTY MEN TIME AND DAY! IF THEY ARE NOT WILLING TO STAY WITH YOU WHEN THEY GET YOU PREGNANT THEN THEY NEVER WANTED YOU! THEY USE SWEET TALK BECAUSE THEY KNOW WOMEN WILL FALL FOR IT SO THEY CAN HAVE SEX WITH YOU! WAKE UP LADIES!
Absolutely, idk what these girls be thinking sometimes wanting to be tied to these men forever. Also why fight for abortion if you don't get one when you need to 😭🤣
it’s always “not all men” until a woman puts her trust in one and is then shamed because men being distrustful and dangerous is something she “should’ve” expected
Women have a history of choosing trash men. Most Men who are solid get ghosted then a few years later she is in this same situation. Most Women and Men are Trash. Most people are average.
Lessons I have learned after watching this storytime: 1. Do not ignore red flags. Not even 1, not 2, Do not allow love endorphins to make you blind to the red flags. 2. Allowing one man into your life....CAN RUIN IT. 3. Be very very very selective of WHO YOU LET INTO YOUR LIFE. VET THEM!!!!!! 4. If a man tells you he has multiple other baby mamas, or multiple kids RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN 5. If a man is ever consistently mean to you for no reason he is either: GAY, CHEATING, or DOES NOT LIKE YOUUUUUU. Again, RUNNNNNNN
Sounds Good but y’all never do this then y’all try to find a guy y’all shoulda been trynna date to clean up the trash dudes mess. Y’all like drug dealers and etc . These are harsh truths and facts
@@drushaw2968 Also Men or people in general are free to give whatever opinion they want as this is a public video on youtube. If it don’t apply to y’all then y’all wouldn’t have to back her up either 👀👀👀. So where y’all Baby Daddy at?
I’ll give it to her that she had no idea that that deadbeat already had six kids but at some point you CANNOT look past the red flags. If your gut feeling tells you otherwise, do NOT ignore it.
@@mirandaholley9797she just needed to look around in the black community. Do these drug dealing, pathetic men who hang around college campuses seem like the kind of man you should be pregnant by? Or the type of man black women have had success with? Let's use our brains....
@@mirandaholley9797honestly yeah but he shouldn't have been a dead beat. Honestly I'm throwing all claws at the man in situations like this knowing how dangerous child birthing is and how naive 20s year olds are. Most really make this wild dumb decisions and suffer consequences while the men can just pack up and leave.
No matter how sharpened the skills women eventually evolve to develop for detecting this, men who are good at deception and manipulation are still going to take advantage of people. The narrative of “you should have picked better” needs to be retired because you do not know how evil a man can be with the shiniest smile
She needs to hold that man legally accountable, even if ends up evading child support. He gets away with it by throwing petty tantrums every time he squirts out another kid. Don’t let these men play victim when it comes to supporting their own offspring.
@@justonetime6179 I guess, I honestly don't care. She's stupid just like the other baby mothers.. Unless he's rich, she not getting much from him because he has a lot of kids. 🤣 If you fall for bs like this, you don't need to be having sex.
@@ieshjust16 Exactly, too late now. There’s a living breathing child now. If he stops working, then let them garnish $30 a month from his unemployment check.
Everyone knows that temper tantrum shit means nothing really. It only worked on her because she still has feelings for him. Any woman who was over him and was just trying to take care of her child would ignore that guy and move on with their life.
You know that'll never in a million years happen. The comment section would be littered with "should have chose better", etc, etc. We know how it goes.
There were wayyyy too many red flags for me to feel sorry for her . 6 kids, never took you on a date , sold narcotics for a living ??! Yea you knew what you were getting yourself into
exactly I feel bad for the kid, I’m trying to be empathetic towards the mum but they were so many red flags 😭😭😭 but I don’t want to judge because I’m not in the situation
Love blinds is a real saying. There needs to be some type of education or class for young women to learn these things cause obv obviously they aren't being taught at home to learn these warning signs 😕
This why older women tell young girls to stay away from older men. These fools know they are nothing but headaches and pain and a woman there age will see right through it, usually. This poor girl is making the best out of this situation and taking care of that adorable baby. Sending love and peace her way. ❤
Probably why these types of immature older men say that they prefer younger women because they’re less “bitter and jaded” than women their age. It’s code for wanting someone naive and inexperienced who hasn’t learned how to sniff out bs and set boundaries.
God bless you. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 wait until marriage. I lost my virginity at 22 and I regret it. I’m 35 now. I have no one to blame because I knew what Gods word said about fornication so I have to deal with the decision that I made being disobedient to the Lord.
Ive been abstaining for some years now and im so glad that God saved me from that lifestyle because this looks like torture and sounds like a miserable life.
I know I'm a random internet stranger but sis, for what it's worth I support your decision. Keep your head high in that decision and your standards even higher ❤
I get what you’re saying. Even if you do abstain until marriage, it may decrease the possibility but that does not mean after marriage the individual will treat you better or be an active parent. It’s really rough out here. I am hoping you find that person who treats you well 🤍🤍🥰🥰
And this is why no one can EVER make me feel a way for choosing to be childfree in my 30s. I'm grateful every single day that this isn't my reality. Single and lonely and all the other insults yall throw alt will ALWAYS be better than THIS. Respectfully. I hope this video reaches every 20 something yr old girl with a bright future ahead of her and a no good nxgga in her ear ready to ruin it. Because one thing about it, they USUALLY switch up and dip when that baby comes. And THEY can dip, YOU are stuck. Unless you go the adoption route or something.
Same. I'm 33 & childfree cuz this has always been my worst fear. I see it way too often & never wanted it for myself & if I did have children, it would be within marriage with a man that I prayed for.
LOL she done ran into a ninja eh?! She was sooooo scared of the ninja that she ended up in a relationship with him & having a baby with him LMAO!!!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was with my husband 12 years! From 18 to 30.. we had our first child last year. We’ve had our ups and down in our marriage but nothing like what happened recently. When our daughter was 8 months my husband started having an affair. I found out a week before her first birthday. And he left me with our child. He was so excited and attentive during my pregnancy. I wanted to end the pregnancy he reassured me how much he wanted a family with me and how much he would here for me, how much of a blessing I was to him.. If I had any indication he would’ve ever done anything like that I would’ve left before taking major life changing steps. I still think it’s better to marry first for legal security I’m just sharing my story as someone who did that.
@@KeraJaay he was still telling me how much he loved me every single day, how thankful he was that I was his wife, how much he loved his family. He said the most beautiful heartfelt things to me on Mother’s Day for me to find out that they were together the day before and after Mother’s Day… I’ve never felt such pain and betrayal
Thank you for your story! Some women truly think that this only happens to single mothers when nobody is talking about how men change after babies are born no matter the marriage status.
Having sex is not the issue, we are human and not everyone wants to wait until marriage to do it. The issue is CASUAL UNPROTECTED SEX. No matter who they are to you if you wouldn’t want a kid with them, there is no reason to not use a condom. This goes for people single, married, or somewhere between. And that goes for men and women
Condoms are not full proof. No form of BC is. We all know someone who got pregnant by a bandit while using a condom or when on the pill. My friend from high school got a pregnant by a super-bandit while on the pill and when he was wearing a condom. Don’t have sex with people you wouldn’t want to get pregnant by. Period. Smartest thing to do is vet before having sex with anyone. Being sexually disciplined is a life skill. Learning to self-pleasure is another life skill. If a man is not worth being the father to your child, he’s not worth having sex with.
Exactly. Getting pregnant by a walking red flag and deciding to keep the child (I live in a state where abortions and birth control are readily available) is a literal occurring nightmare I've had lol Just pregnancy in general. The fact that she knew he was a drvg dealer, pushing 30, was afraid of him from the start, and he made it clear he didn't like her really blows me. She was 23. Young? Yes. A child? Absolutely not. I got my iud at 21 for fear of pregnancy before I was ready.
These men irresponsibly make children and then selfishly leave kids and the mother for dead. Don’t care if they eat or have a bed to sleep in but somehow the woman is to blame for his shortcomings.
@@Laoriginal718all that is true. However, mama is still there handling her responsibilities and taking accountability for her actions by caring for her child at the end of the day. Where’s the dad? Probably somewhere complaining that she won’t let him see his child.
@@Laoriginal718 But why did had to go out your way to say that? that's how sex works? you can never know what a men is intel they themself show it to you. They put their sperm in her body and all she had to do was carry it and add DNA and shi but in the end of the day what happened to that child is none of her business but the males that put it in her. he is the problem he let his sperm in her! he supposed to wear a condom for the sake of both of them but he didn't. Don't have that kind of mindset that a women opening her legs mean what ever is going to happen to her is her problem. it like saying opening your mouth while you sleep and having a parasite stay in your mouth, you have to take care of it and it is your responsibility. So when you get worm in you or sick or any type of thing that invades your body you can't do anything about but to be a blame for it and having to let it do what it wants. Like you really sound dumb that you had to point out the women doing sex is part of why she is in that situation when she is calling out his part. Pick me vibes.
Absolutely! He chose to get her pregnant, and then abandoned the child! At the end of the day the mom would be wrong if she left, right? It’s so messed up!🤦🏾♀️
@@Laoriginal718 but he didn’t have to sleep with her. She can’t get herself pregnant. It’s takes two to tango. He needs to be held accountable. The mom already held herself accountable bc she’s the one that stayed with the baby.
Respectfully he tried to ruin her life. 6 children and now he has 7. I care about her mental health and wish her the best. She has taken it very well tho.
No...she's just doing what most of us BW do on the daily. Accept it for what it is, woman up and keep it pushing. We as women may not always get motherhood right but at least we stick around.
@@GepsenLuv he reminds of a certain bandit that was purposely going after college educated young women who were nurses mostly and ruining their lives by getting them pregnant and ditching them. It’s jealousy.
Yup a suburban mix girl . that fucked around and found out . A trash bag bandit love story . Bbc kangz know they love to fuck up a bitch life. Good thing she moved on . making the best out of it . Some girls never learn 😂
The man had multiple children when you met him. You leave at that point. You don’t lay with a man that has multiple children, because if he’s not taking care of those children, he’s not going to take care of yours. Young ladies, you don’t have magic cooch that changes a man straight. And he’s a controlling predator. Oh my. This breaks my heart.
@@moviefountain9599naw she said in another video that she found out he had other kids, because one of his baby mamas called her while she was heavily pregnant.
Older men that have low age “requirements”/preferences are a huge red flag. Another story on the addendum of why not to mess with older men as a young adult
She was dealing with a very low quality man. Ladies raise your standards. Please don’t let men like this waste your time and your womb. They do not deserve children. Keep your BC protection iron clad.
The fear she had of him initially was intuition telling her to flee. Ladies listen to your first man this man was a walking red flag she had no reason to 2nd guess herself but allowed outside influence or overrule intuition. I don’t blame her but as a rule of thumb for women don’t do that
beautiful baby girl. get your rant out, read your bible and talk to Jesus and love yourself and your baby girl. life goes on and it's better when you have Christ in you for guidance.🥰🥰🥰
I became single mom at 36yo. I own my home, 2 cars paid, nice bank acct, good career and STILL struggling!! DONT DEPEND ON CONDOMS ONLY‼️‼️‼️ GET ON BIRTH CONTROL‼️‼️‼️‼️
@@oulani exactly their only solution be like "condoms" "birth control" then you good to do whatever😂😂😂 i'm not absolutely girl NO ur being absolute ran through now ur still giving them what they want at the end
I like that she is keeping it 100! Learn from her mistakes and take your time. And pay attention to red flags. Marriage or not. My mom married my dad - she was young (1970s) and very subservient and quiet. For 30 years he put her through so much. Cheating, hitting her, outside babies etc. And she finally Left him. And my mom is enjoying her life now almost 70 years old. She talks to me about all the red flags she avoided in their early 20s. She can recount actual moments like they were yesterday. Take your time to know someone- and whether you mess around, date or marry…..DONT overlook red flags.
Whew this is a living nightmare. Red flag was that he was a drug dealer and never brought her out in public. Begging for a date is another red flag. The wrong man will literary tear you down. She managed to move out of state and had her own apartment and her life did a whole 180 downhill. He sounds like a bum and i wish she didnt waste her time with him
RIGHT. i feel like we need to start holding parents accountable for sheltering tf out of their kids and never teaching them anything of substance when it comes to their social lives. i always wonder "why do women fall for the same tricks when we live in the age of the internet where there are literally women who will make content for younger women to follow?". it's probably because it still goes over their heads due to being hardwired and sheltered since young into thinking that the world is relatively safe. i (20 years old) have never dated anyone but i can still see what i need to. my mom passed when i was a kid. my dad was abusive but i looked to women older than me online to teach me what i wasn't taught from my own parents - and my discernment for people in general is strong. probably because i started watching content from people when i was 12/13 years old. these women who didn't have the same experience are really sheltered and naive, falling for what a lot of us would be able to see right through - and it's because nobody was there to teach them anything of real substance from a young age. so even when they hear women warning other women about these things, it goes in one ear and out the other. they're so used to living in their bubble of delusion and nativity and it's sad af. i feel like there are little boys in grown men's bodies that never matured, preying on women who have stayed little girls in grown women's bodies who aren't mature enough either. that's why these grown men prey on younger women. they vibe together because they're on the same maturity level at one point (until the woman gets messed over and matures from betrayal). i'm actually sick of it.
@@dadao8564How can you say that based off some tiktok videos. If anyone is rebellious it's that dusty deadbeat grown man who impregnated a 20 year old girl
This was literally me at 19, my daughter is one of 8, her father was several years older then me too. I am now 38 and that baby I had is 18, if someone would have looked at my life then, they would never think I would be the woman I am now. Going from being broke and barely making rent on a $400 a month apartment to now living in an affluent suburb with my husband, 2 additional children and running a business. Everyone makes poor choices its how you recover from them that matters. If I was her though I would still file the child support because if he ever miraculously comes into some money it would go towards and outstanding child support. SN: if he is a little cray cray, lives recklessly and knows where she lives I would get my CCW and take out a life insurance policy on him. She has a vested interest and is well within her right.
@@ephraimsondoyi9966 Well duh! hahahaha No where in my soliloquy did I mention being raped so clearly the act was consensual. Next time say "excuse me" before inserting yourself in an adult conversation.
Well duh! hahahaha No where in my soliloquy did I mention being raped so clearly the act was consensual. Next time say "excuse me" before inserting yourself in an adult conversation.@@ephraimsondoyi9966
I gotta say I’m tired of the “hold women accountable “ narrative it’s starting to be holding women accountable for things MEN do TO YOU. It’s deflecting, now the spotlight is on HER and not HIM and what his action were towards her. Hold me accountable for MY ACTIONS when a woman talks about how someone abused her lied to her or cheated on her STOP deflecting to women.
No ma”m . Epic fail. Most women who choose these types of Men within 5 min of me meeting the guy I can tell he is trash. It’s plenty of Men who are solid across the board who are overlooked all the time. I can name 10 off rip . The funny part is the good Men have trouble finding decent women because y’all end up choosing this other crap then want REAL MEN to clean up the mess. The facts are REAL MEN are not falling for it anymore. Y’all want Ghost from Power or some Drug dealing clubbing dude then go ahead . You on your OWN
@@jarvisjennings5043first off don’t speak for real men they aren’t on women’s end of yt arguing with women. And second again you know what real men do? They hold other men accountable that’s it that’s all because real men who lead don’t blame the women who they want to follow them.
@@jarvisjennings5043and your one of those men who obviously have a masculinity issues ur jealousy of the thugs and “ghost” type that must of got the women u wanted. That’s really the problem go take that up with someone else or the girl in HS who didn’t choose u
@@zsazsa4159 You don’t know me so once again you trynna get internet points. I speak for Men who would never leave they children or do someone like this. The Men in my fam haven’t so I have real life results on what to look after and what not to. You can have the internet argument
HEALTHCARE PROVIDER HERE: if you consent to unprotected heterosexual sex you should EXPECT pregnancy as a result. expecting a result outside of this is irresponsible. period. while there was likely a great deal of manipulation and emotional abuse here--if you are a hetero woman that does not want to be pregnant in the next year, it would behoove you to not leave contraception up to the man. Its honestly the only way to prevent this from happening to you
Or just not having sex. Having self control and waiting to have sex with one person…. Preferably your husband? Someone who has good character, good job, ambition, respect for himself and others…I know not everyone believe in being married, but following Gods (Jesus) way have worked for so many people! Including myself. No one is perfect but Gods way has worked and always will 😭🫶🏽
@cairegrigsby7682 That's sound advice, but unrealistic. A BW waited to have unprotected s_x on their wedding night . He knowingly gave her h_v , she pressed charges & he went to jail . 😢 He knew he had it & his Mom tried to warn her . She asked him about it & of course he denied it . ( it's on u tube ) 😢
I can’t tell that you hate to victim blame……. She found out about his many many kids AFTER she was pregnant. The HOOD is full of Black girls who are just like her.
@@firewater365you forgot to mention that those black girls in the hood get ridiculed, judged, stereotyped and blamed for their situations & don’t go viral or receive empathy & the opportunity to profit off of their circumstances. 💕
This is literally just like MY STORY! Happened to me in 2012! My daughter’s father up and disappeared on me one random Thursday when I was 7 months pregnant with our baby. I was high risk pregnancy so I was on bed rest and couldn’t work. So I lost the apartment, had to break the lease and move in with my mom. I couldn’t ever reach him to even find out what was going on because he got a whole diff phone number! I later found out via mutual acquaintances and social media that he went back to his ex. This may have been the most painful experience I’ve ever went thru. Especially because we weren’t even beefing. He literally kissed me goodbye that morning, kissed my belly and left and never returned. That was my last time seeing him. I did take him to child support court eventually where he yelled in the hallway at court that he “ain’t getting a job because I’m not paying shit!” Mind you, our beautiful little 6 month daughter was there. Anyway, he died in 2019 of an overdose, and now my daughter gets his survivor’s benefits until she’s 18. 🤷🏽♀️ God always takes care of the just
@@A__Mina thank you, we have definitely been blessed. My husband is now my daughter’s father. The only one she has ever known and he takes great care of her. She’s such a daddy’s girl. He stepped up to the plate and has been amazing ❤️
First mistake was she lowered her standards. She dated a guy who wasn’t even her type to “go hang out” and basically do broke ish like go to the hood and sell….he never took her out on a proper date. Clue number one: He had a dog and no leash!😂 She paid all the bills and did all the housework ! I don’t understand how she thought this would go well….🤦🏽♀️
Advice to this woman in the video; baby girl give him his child and if he don't take her, put that baby up for adoption. THEN RUN FREE. Go back to school, build your life and when the right man with the right mindset comes along, marry him.
Who the heck was pushing for her to get with him!!? They are disgusting people!! I really wish she had followed her instincts. Young women watching, Please follow your instincts!! They will NEVER steer you wrong!
You know so many women get so upset when you say marry before you carry but honestly it is one of the only ways you can legally hold a man accountable for your child AND YOU. Especially when a man has a history of leaving kids. Marriage doesn’t ensure happiness but it does ensure ACCOUNTABILITY.
@@gelleh.5456 very true. But that doesn’t mean that the law ain’t on that side. They leave their husbands to better themselves they getting more than a child support check if they picked properly
This guy never planned to stay in Michigan. He moved her back to her parents to help himself feel less guilty about leaving her and the baby. This is a tactic that has been done for many years. I wouldn't be surprise if people close to him knew his plan.
I really don't like this trend of people posting their CHILD on the internet while exposing all of their business. Her child is going to grow up and have to see this at some point. Go to therapy!
This is triggering AF… this happened to me 16 yrs ago… in my case he begged me to have the kid. I would have preferred he disappeared because he wreaked havoc on my life for YEARS!!! I’ve never had another kid.
@@banyana6515 It truly has been absolutely awful… imagine having a demon attached to you for nearly 2 decades… I found my BC on top of his fridge months into my pregnancy and he must’ve slipped off the protection. Begged me to keep the kid and treated me like crap by the time I was 5 months. He was 32 I was 19 story started almost precisely the same… I was uninterested and not attracted… had a great job, was in college… on my 22nd birthday I gave birth. In hindsight I wish he would’ve disappeared because his presence was way worse. Broke me down physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’ve moved on to a loving marriage… but that man changed me in way that I have never recovered. And btw she is right about child support… I’ve had an order in place for YEARS… I’ve not seen a dime and it cost me thousands to go to court.
Not trying to be insensitive, but a lot of these single mothers who got ghosted are lucky. Bc giving some of these losers access to children is dangerous.
My brain will never comprehend how some men just be dropping babies in multiple women, with no plan, and dash away without a care in the world 🏃🏿♂️ 💨 👶🏻 Me personally, the guilt would be crippling, it would keep me up at night. Sadly I bet random man from Atlanta sleeps easy without a care in the world 🛌 😴 💤
I’m 25 with no kids and single. I see a lot of married women with kids saying how they’re single moms too… I guess we’re starting to see that men are not as great as the pedestal we put them up on
She’s naturally funny and not begging for sympathy. If anything, she’s owning up to it and offering herself up as a cautionary tale. Watch her build all this into a standup act or show lol
@@user-dv3kq3rm4hshe’s the definition of typical preference she’s using a situation that black women get vilified for and profiting sounds exactly like a preference to me.
@@KingRose339Not to be rude, but was she supposed to vilify herself instead? And the profit is obviously contributing towards the raising of the child. I understand it’s frustrating seeing the preference get preferential treatment but she has every right to post whatever she wants online, within reason, just like anybody else.
Oh no not this girl. I watch her stories. The baby is so precious. Despite getting in a bad situation with the dude from Atlanta, she seems to accept her situation and take care of her child. She has a great sense of humour though.
I went through this and packed my one year old up and got TF on!!!! That same one year old is 15.. all A student and doing well in life. My husband who has been raising her since she was 2 loves the ground she walks on and she calls him Dad..... Move ON!!! Do not let this stop you!
Stop saying that a baby is a blessing when it is NOT!! A baby is only a blessing when both parents are married, in a committed relationship and have the financial means to raise a child.
You’re beating yourself up after having an emergency c section because your body was healing. Bless your heart. This story was sad AF for your daughter especially but for you as well
I saw a few of her posts ! She keep asking women to find her baby daddy ! It's odd ! I don't understand why she still want to be involved with a man like that !
As a young woman, who saw both sides, married people in their family and people who are baby mamas, I realize a lot of men will be in a relationship, but they don’t wanna be fathers. I remember my aunt Babyfather coming to see her and not his children.
✔️Weren't dating for a long period. ✔️Weren't BOTH using contraception. ✔️Weren't committed via marriage. ✔️Weren't merging families together to create a community with their in-laws. I mean, even without the dealing of illegal substances and the out-of-wedlock kids from previous relationships, this situationship was never a recipe for success. Better luck next time ma'am ✌🏾
Her child playing the “take your birth control or you’re gunna look like me” to their therapist in 20 years 🥹 Reminds me of those precious memories of my mother saying she never wanted kids🫶
I’m sorry but I couldn’t get pregnant by a man who couldn’t take me out on ONE date 😭. No judgement to her I know she was young when it happened but dang I hope people learn from this. Always vet, don’t put yourself in a lifelong situation for a short term partner And omg getting two people pregnant around the same time?? The way that men play Russian roulette with their sexual health completely disgusts me
These clowns 🤡 do their preference DIRTY!!! He left his trash 🚮 at her house 🏡 so he can return when the ex-kicks him out Or when the other mothers of six children 🤦🏾♀️ won’t let his as_s sleep 🛌 for the night. Her poor parents, I know they are highly disappointed.
He likes what he sees. He destroys it. Men especially bm are guilty of this. I've had men tell me how they do it. And the target is YOUNG GIRLS. GIRLS WITH NICE BODYS. You have a future ahead of you? He'll stop you
Don’t have no man’s baby who is not already your husband, or who has no intentions on marrying you thereafter. We shouldn’t even be having risky sex with men who are not married to us. This is your entire future ladies, don’t put that kind or power into the hands or some rando man. Having a man’s child is an honor to that man. You risk your life to literally bring the child into the world. Every man does no deserve to be a father. Now she’s struggling with his baby, with no help from him.
Well it’s even worse when not consenting to unprotected sex and the guy gets mad at you and calls you demanding for asking him to reimburse you for plan b
The Random Man In Atlanta Has Been Found Kicking Up Dust 🧹👉🏿 ruclips.net/video/Tzc-38IE1XU/видео.htmlsi=TqVLVslUqPKlmi9q
You mentionnéd thèse women pointed her out. Well, it keeps on happening in the comments of this vidéo. People are so mean and stupid. You are so on point in your comments 👍🏻
I'm convinced those old dudes who hang around college campuses have a sole mission of destroying the lives of young ambitious naive women.
I always considered them preying on the weak minded. It was extremely creepy for me and I always stood clear but my “friends” would pursue those o heads. 🤢 There was NOTHING special about an old, dirty, unambiguous hood booger. 👎🏽
Ofcourse! No real man of true value is out preying on youngsters! They do that too bc the women their age won’t give them the time of day since they’re mentally delayed & obviously mental in other aspects
Same thing happens around high school premises too!!!! The older kids that graduated and are now 20, 30 something, would come back and prey on the young new freshmen girls /high school girls
Girl that is stash house. He lives in between those teenagers because it's not in the hood and anyone come looking for him will stand out like a degenerate just like him
Yup
It's becoming more and more obvious that the so called "preferences" aren't getting any preferential treatment outside of being told that they are the preference. 🥴
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Yup! Now they’re getting passports and going international with their derelict behavior.
You are right as another you-tuber says: "She got the same BM."
Sad to say but it’s true 🙃💯
They all get the same naker
I’m sorry but that man had 6 kids. He had zero intentions of marriage.
Marriage is the LEAST expectation this young woman should've had.
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She was delusional.. a lot women have this dream
Idea of a lala Land future with guys who have no Vision or purpose.. he wasn’t that type of guy and you can’t make him be that.. I think that’s exactly what lost toxic dudes mean by “don’t try to change me” he’s a comfortable bum and she saw that and still pursued and ignored when she should’ve ran
Absolutely non he will come back for round 2. That's how these losers secure a home and effortless sex
Her red flag was SHE DIDN'T LIKED HIM !!
Been there done that don't dare men your not interested in. You have fun and than you see each other every day and have sx. Than comes the illusions.
She probably thought she was different or better. Or he'll change with me. Magical thinking
I really hope she breaks contact for a while with this loser. Think of your mental health because you and your baby need it.
Wouldn't be surprised if the runaway dad didn't want a light skinned tight curled baby girl !
Not the light skinned child he preferred.
You forever tied to him and so are the other baby momma's, he just hops from one baby mother to the next. And when you don't want to deal with him, he will impregnate a new woman with baby number 7 . And when she has enough time to make his round of available baby momma's 🤮🤡
She didn't know and we've all be delulu for someone 😂
As a Black young man everytime I hear a story like this I immediately get residual shame. To be clear im nobody's father ,yet this isn't a good look for my demographic and whether or not I like it, this will change social perceptions of me. I once had a conversation with another guy who had fathered numerous children and it was so disgusting I actually stopped eating and walked away to the bathroom. He spoke of his children and their mothers like little trophies. They were exotic commodities to him and he was bragging about being an irresponsible, morally bankrupt character who was devoid of any guilt or shame. Although non of his baby Mama's where Black he took pride in specifically having mixed raced children from each racial group and this was a 32yr old manchild with 12 children. He didn't even have a job and was mooching off some white woman he had knocked up.I've never spoken to him and avoid him to this day but one thing he did show me is just what kind of man I do not want to be. I went and bought myself 100 condoms and went to study for my Econ finals. To this day I cary contraceptives on me and when I don't want to study for a class or attend a lecture, I just remember him and won't you know it I miraculously find the courage to cary on with my degree and internships.
I'm so glad his talk and behavior had the opposite effect on you. Too many young men would admire and emulate that behavior. Wishing you a very successful life. ❤
I’m glad he wasn’t doing this to black women
i'm sorry but the "i went and bought myself 100 condoms and went to study" is so hilarious
1 man but a bunch of baby mamas. There are more women making bad decisions in that single situation u just used which has more men to be inclined to hold women more accountable especially since they have to hold the bag when it comes to pregnancy.
i'm so glad you're a person with integrity and hope if/when your day comes you're able to raise morally right children and find someone you love
My mom told me “remember, if you have this baby it is yours. A man can always leave, even in marriage.” My parents have been married for 37 years and my mom still gave me that advice!!
Mama was spitting facts. The only way to avoid being a single mother is to not have children. Full stop
ABSOLUTELY
I got married and had 5 kids with my husband, once the marriage fell apart, he left the country. Probably making a new family. Say that again Boo!
this is such amazing advice. because a man can up and leave whenever. WE cant.
Well, are you a single mother now?
As someone that made the decision to not have kids …. The way y’all blame women for when men take off like they don’t be lying and manipulating is the reason …. I would never .
I completely agree. It's so sad and frustrating.
The way these kangs are deleting women, I would keep my knees closed to them.
But women also have a responsibility as well to protect yourself and your womb. That man is definitely trash but don’t stop protecting yourself as well.
Exactly. And seeing them jump on the train of “you should marry a man first” like what? Divorce is expensive and marriage is not a guarantee a man will not treat you like trash if he feels like it. Only with marriage, you’re even more trapped.
@@HarajukuBarbie504 I see comments on both ends but it's still the same stick l. What you said is 100% true and everything you have to balance. It's not all on the man and it's not all on the women. It's his fault and in some ways her fault even if ahe knew it at the time or not.
I’m going to leave my unpopular opinion here.
I think it’s funny that when non-black women go through this, black women are supposed to come with our capes and tell her that it’s OK and be there for her and be all sisterhood. But when regular black women have these stories of getting pregnant by a man who has six kids by six different women, we don’t go viral. We are taught and told to choose better, and that it’s all our fault but for some reason she gets to go viral, and have people feel sorry for her. No shade to her and her situation, props to her for staying in her child’s life. I wish her and her child all the best, but it seems like she got the same treatment, despite being a preference.
This.... this is the statement I was looking for. I was thinking am I the only one who isn't feeling "sad" about her situation🤷🏿♀️
This part!!
@@feliciadorsey3717 Having no sympathy is a good thing sweet heart. Because one day something could happen to you while you were naive and no care or fucks would be given.
Why should we comfort non black women? Are they family or our friends in that scenario??
All of the above ☝🏽 .... BW stand down. This is not our problem.
She’s hurt y’all and young…. She’s expressing her pain and single motherhood through humor.
Who cares
We don’t care
@@ieshjust16nobody told you to
@@ieshjust16 you do
@@KingRose339 if you didn’t then you wouldn’t have responded.
For those saying it’s better to marry first, I married first. I lost my virginity in my marriage 😭 this man asked me to have his kids, I didn’t want to… I complied because were married. I had 3 of his kids. In my last pregnancy he cheated on me, abandoned me and my children and tried to get me evicted from my home when I found out he was cheating. I divorced him, and he hasn’t seen these kids since a month before the divorce was finalized. It’s been 7/8 months 😭😭😭 I am raising kids that weren’t in my life’s plan. Some men change up on you when they get what they want. The abuse was gradual but it became so much I couldn’t stand it. So, even the ones who wait until marriage aren’t safe Love.
I am sorry that happen to you but people should still get married because of the benefits they can get in the divorce
Thank you for this ❤❤❤! I love how you mentioned marriage doesn’t protect you .
It’s like you missed the point. Of course, anything can happen in a marriage and it all depends on WHO you married that’s why you have to look for red flags and do background checks in advance. But marriage does add more stability and it adds more commitment to someone. Marriage ITSELF is a better option but it all depends on who’s getting married. I’m sorry about what happened to you, but making a life long commitment to someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with is wayy better than deciding to have a baby with someone you just met just because you “like” him.
@@melanintingz6555 I feel like YOU missed the point Love, the man I married didn’t have a bad background. Nothing to report. He grew up in a good neighborhood in a good family. There weren’t any red flags. Even still, he turned out to be a nightmare. The point is that even though I dotted my I’s and crossed my t’s, I still ended up in the same place. Nowhere did I say steer away from marriage, this is just my sad story but thank you for insulting my intelligence.
@@briannab.8127 marriage protects you in the way that you can still get benefits or claim alimony when things go downhill but emotionally it did not bc of who this man revealed himself to be AFTER we wed.
She described what sounds like a black bandit…
Thats what I said. He gotta be black. They will fuck tour body and life up ON PURPOSE
What is a black bandit?
@@JanJan4Infinity A black male who takes unfair advantage of others. A true menace to their community and whoever they encounter.
@@miss1130LMAOO maybe I’m young but that is new to me😭😭😭
@@jadam.2410shid I’m 29 and I’ve never heard of it 😂
People be so ready to hate women it’s crazy. My grandma(rest her soul) did everything for my grandfather. Gave him 6 beautiful children, cooked everyday, worked side hustles to help family, was a god fearing woman. When she started to lose you health and mind he treated her like shit, he was ready to cheat, he called her all types of names it was so sad. I’m saying all this to say, it doesn’t matter if you’ve known a man for 6 mons- 1 year or “vetted” him your entire life and made him wait until marriage, if he wants to be grimy and treat you poorly after years of good and honest behavior he can and will. It is truly baffling to me that anyone would see someone hurt and in pain and the first thing they say is “well maybe you should be a better judge of character” you’re just an evil person at that point and I hope karma comes for you.
It's crazy because I think this was super common with older generations and I mean our grandparents plus our parents.
Exactly. It's the easiest possible way to dismiss someone's life situation. Terrible
@@pegasusred8048It was. What a horrible way to live.
I think most folks have the capabilities to hold both parties accountable. It's fair to say "practice having better judgment in character" because that's literally what happened in accordance with what this woman said. But additionally we can also say this man is absolutely piece of shit that should be paying child support on all of these kids.
@@SK-le4ljWhat?? This guy was a THUG and she knew it! She knew he sold drugs for a living and that’s what she wanted! If this were a black woman on here talking about how she knew her baby daddy was a drug dealer and had unprotected sex with him anyone, NO ONE WOULD FEEL SORRY FOR HER! Why are y’all doing it here?? 😂
I’m sorry but it got worse and worse with each part. A man near 30 did this to a 21 year old woman with no dating experience. So many red flags from the start. I’m glad she’s sharing her story in case other girls need a reminder
I swear I preach but it sounds so outlandish. We as young women really shouldn’t be allowed to date until the age of 25. We are just too green, naive, and don’t know enough yet. Things just don’t start clicking and settling in until then. And gosh can we just say no to older men!! Especially if we’re under 25. Of course this will never be a thing because men young and old just love having access to us when we are our dumbest.
@@toriyt2714 I wouldn't say shouldn't be allowed to date, but waiting until 25 is a good idea.
@@anissa2361 nah it needs to be a hard law like alcohol after 21 lol
@@toriyt2714 Yeah I don't agree. That's taking away personal autonomy. And that would be hard to monitor. At least with the alcohol law you can look at people's id's.
Imagine being skinny, pretty, having clear skin, a small waist, and being 21, with your entire life ahead of you. And you have such low self worth that you put yourself through this and allow a man to baby trap you and uproot your life. It's almost unfathomable. I'm sorry she had to learn life's lessons in this way. It's tragic.
Let this be a lesson to all young ladies out there. Protect your womb!
Exactly!!
Please! I beg the girls!
RIGHT! STOP GIVING THESE DUSTY MEN TIME AND DAY! IF THEY ARE NOT WILLING TO STAY WITH YOU WHEN THEY GET YOU PREGNANT THEN THEY NEVER WANTED YOU! THEY USE SWEET TALK BECAUSE THEY KNOW WOMEN WILL FALL FOR IT SO THEY CAN HAVE SEX WITH YOU! WAKE UP LADIES!
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Absolutely, idk what these girls be thinking sometimes wanting to be tied to these men forever. Also why fight for abortion if you don't get one when you need to 😭🤣
it’s always “not all men” until a woman puts her trust in one and is then shamed because men being distrustful and dangerous is something she “should’ve” expected
Women have a history of choosing trash men. Most Men who are solid get ghosted then a few years later she is in this same situation. Most Women and Men are Trash. Most people are average.
Yep! They’ll tell us everytime that it’s our fault. Lord thank you Jesus for blessing me with a good man. These breeders are out of pocket.
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Whew.... Lord has blessed the words that you typed because AMEN
She holds herself accountable. She acknowledges where she went wrong. She deserves grace for taking on her responsibilities.
Our women won’t do that . We punish women who becomes mothers
@@destinixshakursome women don’t, some women do. Don’t sit here and play the blame game on BW. Watch yourself
@@aestheticstorm6492 girl , idgaf . Talk to yourself
@@destinixshakur whatever skank. 😘
Lessons I have learned after watching this storytime:
1. Do not ignore red flags. Not even 1, not 2, Do not allow love endorphins to make you blind to the red flags.
2. Allowing one man into your life....CAN RUIN IT.
3. Be very very very selective of WHO YOU LET INTO YOUR LIFE. VET THEM!!!!!!
4. If a man tells you he has multiple other baby mamas, or multiple kids RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
5. If a man is ever consistently mean to you for no reason he is either: GAY, CHEATING, or DOES NOT LIKE YOUUUUUU. Again, RUNNNNNNN
Sounds Good but y’all never do this then y’all try to find a guy y’all shoulda been trynna date to clean up the trash dudes mess. Y’all like drug dealers and etc . These are harsh truths and facts
@@jarvisjennings5043bro, if it don’t apply let it fly idk why people get upset about stuff if they supposedly don’t fit the description 🙃
@@drushaw2968because they fit the description sis. You said it! And you are clearly correct 😂
As soon as she said “6 kids” I was like yeah that’s a wrap!! What made you think he was going to stay for you and the baby if he left the others ?
@@drushaw2968 Also Men or people in general are free to give whatever opinion they want as this is a public video on youtube. If it don’t apply to y’all then y’all wouldn’t have to back her up either 👀👀👀. So where y’all Baby Daddy at?
If her story is true, this is why they say bad company corrupts good morals. Listen to your discernment and don’t let people ‘grow’ on you.
I needed to hear this ❤
She needs prayer you can tell she regret’s her daughter she seems to not be happy I hope she doesn’t hurt herself or baby 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
This is a WORD !!! 💯💯
Exactly. Now where are all those friends that told her to give that bum a chance.
damn that’s a word
I’ll give it to her that she had no idea that that deadbeat already had six kids but at some point you CANNOT look past the red flags. If your gut feeling tells you otherwise, do NOT ignore it.
She should have done her research.
@@mirandaholley9797she just needed to look around in the black community. Do these drug dealing, pathetic men who hang around college campuses seem like the kind of man you should be pregnant by? Or the type of man black women have had success with? Let's use our brains....
A girl with no self esteem or guidance from her parents and those around her has no "gut feeling."
@@mirandaholley9797But doing to much research on a partner could be considered stalking.
@@mirandaholley9797honestly yeah but he shouldn't have been a dead beat. Honestly I'm throwing all claws at the man in situations like this knowing how dangerous child birthing is and how naive 20s year olds are. Most really make this wild dumb decisions and suffer consequences while the men can just pack up and leave.
The way this baby is minding her business and is solely about her food...the Dedication...the patience...the Drive!!
All I have to say is I commend her for using her story as a PSA and reminder for other women.
I don't
One of the most important decisions in a woman's life is who she has children with and why (For women that want to carry not all women want children)
You ain’t lying
No matter how sharpened the skills women eventually evolve to develop for detecting this, men who are good at deception and manipulation are still going to take advantage of people. The narrative of “you should have picked better” needs to be retired because you do not know how evil a man can be with the shiniest smile
Sad he was using her as s*x doll,,, and she is very brezzy about it
CORRECT
#Facts
She needs to hold that man legally accountable, even if ends up evading child support. He gets away with it by throwing petty tantrums every time he squirts out another kid. Don’t let these men play victim when it comes to supporting their own offspring.
She could've held him accountable buy not having sex with him, but it's too late for that.
@@ieshjust16 …and she could still hold him accountable legally, even if that means he owes in back payment.
It’s also his child, so he should pay.
@@justonetime6179 I guess, I honestly don't care. She's stupid just like the other baby mothers.. Unless he's rich, she not getting much from him because he has a lot of kids. 🤣
If you fall for bs like this, you don't need to be having sex.
@@ieshjust16 Exactly, too late now. There’s a living breathing child now. If he stops working, then let them garnish $30 a month from his unemployment check.
Everyone knows that temper tantrum shit means nothing really. It only worked on her because she still has feelings for him. Any woman who was over him and was just trying to take care of her child would ignore that guy and move on with their life.
The bonnet on the baby 🤱🏾 is taking me out😂😂😂😂😂😂😭 she's adorable though
I pray a hedge of protection over her and that sweet baby!
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Amen in Jesus name🙏🏾
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Why ? Do u pray for bw in this situation?
No one prayed for to pick better dudes!
Let’s all keep this same attitude of grace and support for unambiguous black women as well.
This! Because you know they're quick to dog out a BW with a similar story
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Nope - they dog BW so they get the rope
You know that'll never in a million years happen. The comment section would be littered with "should have chose better", etc, etc. We know how it goes.
FACTS!! Lightskin privilege gets pitty for EVERYTHING smh
There were wayyyy too many red flags for me to feel sorry for her . 6 kids, never took you on a date , sold narcotics for a living ??! Yea you knew what you were getting yourself into
exactly I feel bad for the kid, I’m trying to be empathetic towards the mum but they were so many red flags 😭😭😭 but I don’t want to judge because I’m not in the situation
Thank you! She didn't know about the kids until she was pregnant but the other things...NEVER A DATE BUT YOU THINK ITS SMART TO CARRY HIS BABY?
She is not taking it seriously
That was her first relationship
Love blinds is a real saying. There needs to be some type of education or class for young women to learn these things cause obv
obviously they aren't being taught at home to learn these warning signs 😕
This why older women tell young girls to stay away from older men. These fools know they are nothing but headaches and pain and a woman there age will see right through it, usually. This poor girl is making the best out of this situation and taking care of that adorable baby. Sending love and peace her way. ❤
Probably why these types of immature older men say that they prefer younger women because they’re less “bitter and jaded” than women their age. It’s code for wanting someone naive and inexperienced who hasn’t learned how to sniff out bs and set boundaries.
Poor little peanut
Edit: that baby is so well behaved. I pray she has a blessed and fulfilled life
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They still leave though
She really is a calm baby!
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Ppl judge me for abstaining until marriage; buuuuut… 👀 Imma just keep abstaining! Cause it ain’t nothing out here.
Not a damn thing
God bless you. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 wait until marriage. I lost my virginity at 22 and I regret it. I’m 35 now. I have no one to blame because I knew what Gods word said about fornication so I have to deal with the decision that I made being disobedient to the Lord.
Ive been abstaining for some years now and im so glad that God saved me from that lifestyle because this looks like torture and sounds like a miserable life.
I know I'm a random internet stranger but sis, for what it's worth I support your decision. Keep your head high in that decision and your standards even higher ❤
I get what you’re saying. Even if you do abstain until marriage, it may decrease the possibility but that does not mean after marriage the individual will treat you better or be an active parent.
It’s really rough out here. I am hoping you find that person who treats you well 🤍🤍🥰🥰
And this is why no one can EVER make me feel a way for choosing to be childfree in my 30s. I'm grateful every single day that this isn't my reality. Single and lonely and all the other insults yall throw alt will ALWAYS be better than THIS. Respectfully. I hope this video reaches every 20 something yr old girl with a bright future ahead of her and a no good nxgga in her ear ready to ruin it. Because one thing about it, they USUALLY switch up and dip when that baby comes. And THEY can dip, YOU are stuck. Unless you go the adoption route or something.
Same. I'm 33 & childfree cuz this has always been my worst fear. I see it way too often & never wanted it for myself & if I did have children, it would be within marriage with a man that I prayed for.
Being pregnant should be a happy time in your life with a stable home, man, etc
@@BriaBarrowsI agreed! til then I’ll remain child free.
38 & child free,,🙋🏿♀️. Definitely been super close to this being my reality. Thank you God for getting me out
I’m 23 my bfs 37. I don’t plan on having his child/getting married but WHEW this comment sure did hit home!!! Must be a sign lol😩💯
LOL she done ran into a ninja eh?! She was sooooo scared of the ninja that she ended up in a relationship with him & having a baby with him LMAO!!!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was with my husband 12 years! From 18 to 30.. we had our first child last year. We’ve had our ups and down in our marriage but nothing like what happened recently. When our daughter was 8 months my husband started having an affair. I found out a week before her first birthday. And he left me with our child. He was so excited and attentive during my pregnancy. I wanted to end the pregnancy he reassured me how much he wanted a family with me and how much he would here for me, how much of a blessing I was to him.. If I had any indication he would’ve ever done anything like that I would’ve left before taking major life changing steps.
I still think it’s better to marry first for legal security I’m just sharing my story as someone who did that.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. After all that time you’d think you know a person 😢
@@KeraJaay he was still telling me how much he loved me every single day, how thankful he was that I was his wife, how much he loved his family. He said the most beautiful heartfelt things to me on Mother’s Day for me to find out that they were together the day before and after Mother’s Day… I’ve never felt such pain and betrayal
This is why marry before you carry doesn’t mean much unless the man your having a child with or marrying is rich with added assets 💰
Thank you for your story! Some women truly think that this only happens to single mothers when nobody is talking about how men change after babies are born no matter the marriage status.
What a disgusting human. I'll never understand people who move like that.
She thought that take me to the hood shit was cute until she became a single mother smh. Lil girl.
😭😭😭.
😂Exactly
💀🤣 ride and die and now he want her gone 😬
That’s crazy how she was focused on her goals then boom she got pregnant
Having sex is not the issue, we are human and not everyone wants to wait until marriage to do it. The issue is CASUAL UNPROTECTED SEX. No matter who they are to you if you wouldn’t want a kid with them, there is no reason to not use a condom. This goes for people single, married, or somewhere between. And that goes for men and women
Condoms are not full proof. No form of BC is.
We all know someone who got pregnant by a bandit while using a condom or when on the pill. My friend from high school got a pregnant by a super-bandit while on the pill and when he was wearing a condom.
Don’t have sex with people you wouldn’t want to get pregnant by. Period.
Smartest thing to do is vet before having sex with anyone. Being sexually disciplined is a life skill. Learning to self-pleasure is another life skill.
If a man is not worth being the father to your child, he’s not worth having sex with.
Good words, here.
Very true
Exactly. Getting pregnant by a walking red flag and deciding to keep the child (I live in a state where abortions and birth control are readily available) is a literal occurring nightmare I've had lol Just pregnancy in general. The fact that she knew he was a drvg dealer, pushing 30, was afraid of him from the start, and he made it clear he didn't like her really blows me. She was 23. Young? Yes. A child? Absolutely not. I got my iud at 21 for fear of pregnancy before I was ready.
@@Lill2895and shes holding herself accountable tho
So cant be mad at her
These men irresponsibly make children and then selfishly leave kids and the mother for dead. Don’t care if they eat or have a bed to sleep in but somehow the woman is to blame for his shortcomings.
The women that open their legs to these men are just as irresponsible for putting themselves in this situation to begin with. It takes two to tango.
@@Laoriginal718all that is true. However, mama is still there handling her responsibilities and taking accountability for her actions by caring for her child at the end of the day. Where’s the dad? Probably somewhere complaining that she won’t let him see his child.
@@Laoriginal718 But why did had to go out your way to say that? that's how sex works? you can never know what a men is intel they themself show it to you. They put their sperm in her body and all she had to do was carry it and add DNA and shi but in the end of the day what happened to that child is none of her business but the males that put it in her. he is the problem he let his sperm in her! he supposed to wear a condom for the sake of both of them but he didn't. Don't have that kind of mindset that a women opening her legs mean what ever is going to happen to her is her problem. it like saying opening your mouth while you sleep and having a parasite stay in your mouth, you have to take care of it and it is your responsibility. So when you get worm in you or sick or any type of thing that invades your body you can't do anything about but to be a blame for it and having to let it do what it wants. Like you really sound dumb that you had to point out the women doing sex is part of why she is in that situation when she is calling out his part. Pick me vibes.
Absolutely! He chose to get her pregnant, and then abandoned the child! At the end of the day the mom would be wrong if she left, right? It’s so messed up!🤦🏾♀️
@@Laoriginal718 but he didn’t have to sleep with her. She can’t get herself pregnant. It’s takes two to tango. He needs to be held accountable. The mom already held herself accountable bc she’s the one that stayed with the baby.
I love that she puts a sleep bonnet on her baby !! It’s really cute 🥺❤️
When she said he has 6 kids.. sis that was the universe trying to tell you to NOT add another baby to his roster!
That wasn’t the “universe” 🤦🏽♀️ y’all give credit to everything BUT God.
She didn’t know he had any kids until after
@@Laoriginal718cause not everyone believes in god, so screw off and let people attribute to their own beliefs weirdo.
@@Laoriginal718Where was this God during slavery?
@@kameralkutie5594here. And He’s still here. Who told you life’s purpose was to experience no difficulty, ever?
Respectfully he tried to ruin her life. 6 children and now he has 7. I care about her mental health and wish her the best.
She has taken it very well tho.
No...she's just doing what most of us BW do on the daily. Accept it for what it is, woman up and keep it pushing. We as women may not always get motherhood right but at least we stick around.
@@GepsenLuv he reminds of a certain bandit that was purposely going after college educated young women who were nurses mostly and ruining their lives by getting them pregnant and ditching them. It’s jealousy.
@@GepsenLuvexactly.
“He would, like, 🗣️TAKE ME TO THE HOOD” was all I needed to hear.
Yup a suburban mix girl . that fucked around and found out . A trash bag bandit love story . Bbc kangz know they love to fuck up a bitch life. Good thing she moved on . making the best out of it . Some girls never learn 😂
I literally did a double take lol
He has six kids” I would’ve ran so damn far
@@felipegambino6543 GIRL! Like, what now??? 👀
@@BaaaaadGirl I don’t think she knew up front
Don’t flatter that random guy from atlanta… he wasn’t a “drug lord” he was a middle aged block boy.
The man had multiple children when you met him. You leave at that point. You don’t lay with a man that has multiple children, because if he’s not taking care of those children, he’s not going to take care of yours. Young ladies, you don’t have magic cooch that changes a man straight. And he’s a controlling predator. Oh my. This breaks my heart.
She didn't know he had other children until after she got pregnant or gave birth, but yes totally right 😭
@@judyp1423 she never said she didn't know he had other kids. If she was head over heels and afraid of him then she knew.
She didn't know until she was pregnant herself.
@@moviefountain9599naw she said in another video that she found out he had other kids, because one of his baby mamas called her while she was heavily pregnant.
@@moviefountain9599 I've followed her for a while and she definitely said she didn't know beforehand 🤷🏿
Motherhood is a job, Fatherhood is a hobby.
I always tell them to leave those kids in their father house and run.
@@violetvictoria7248yep.
@@violetvictoria7248yes😊
@@violetvictoria7248 yeah, if you’re a decent mother, you wouldn’t leave your child with someone who doesn’t care for them, family or otherwise.
Yupp seems like it
Older men that have low age “requirements”/preferences are a huge red flag. Another story on the addendum of why not to mess with older men as a young adult
Most older women are overweight and stressed out with life, so men go for younger women
@@MrTwonetwone and older men are fit and peaceful in life, right? Lol
@@justonetime6179right, it's the audacity for me💀💀💀💀
@@MrTwonetwoneyounger women don’t want significantly older men . I’m 23 and won’t date over 29
@@MrTwonetwoneolder men have to take honey packs ..
Shot out to the well behaved baby who doesn't really cry or say much while her mom is recording herself having a nervous breakdown
😂😂
Lmfaoooooo
She was dealing with a very low quality man. Ladies raise your standards. Please don’t let men like this waste your time and your womb. They do not deserve children. Keep your BC protection iron clad.
The fear she had of him initially was intuition telling her to flee. Ladies listen to your first man this man was a walking red flag she had no reason to 2nd guess herself but allowed outside influence or overrule intuition. I don’t blame her but as a rule of thumb for women don’t do that
beautiful baby girl. get your rant out, read your bible and talk to Jesus and love yourself and your baby girl. life goes on and it's better when you have Christ in you for guidance.🥰🥰🥰
The terror she felt whenever he came around was literally God. Your intuition is a divine compass.
Her personality seems amazing. I pray she and her angel the best of everything.
True a lot of mom's would be bitter and abuse their children because of their fathers. She's so strong
Not “He would take me to the hood…” I- 👀😳🥴🫠
She must be from the burbs 🫢
I became single mom at 36yo. I own my home, 2 cars paid, nice bank acct, good career and STILL struggling!! DONT DEPEND ON CONDOMS ONLY‼️‼️‼️ GET ON BIRTH CONTROL‼️‼️‼️‼️
Just had my doctor send in my refill this morning. Even when I'm not having sex I still take them. Better safe than sorry.
stop sleep around with dusties omg
@@umm3766I'm saying! I'm over here screaming for you girls to use the mfing rose! Or keep it closed until god send you that saint, honey. 😂
@@oulani exactly their only solution be like "condoms" "birth control" then you good to do whatever😂😂😂 i'm not absolutely girl NO ur being absolute ran through now ur still giving them what they want at the end
IUD Kyleena works great for me. A bit of weight gain at first but 4 months post procedure and I can say I’m really happy with the decision.
I like that she is keeping it 100! Learn from her mistakes and take your time. And pay attention to red flags. Marriage or not. My mom married my dad - she was young (1970s) and very subservient and quiet. For 30 years he put her through so much. Cheating, hitting her, outside babies etc. And she finally Left him. And my mom is enjoying her life now almost 70 years old. She talks to me about all the red flags she avoided in their early 20s. She can recount actual moments like they were yesterday. Take your time to know someone- and whether you mess around, date or marry…..DONT overlook red flags.
Whew this is a living nightmare. Red flag was that he was a drug dealer and never brought her out in public. Begging for a date is another red flag. The wrong man will literary tear you down. She managed to move out of state and had her own apartment and her life did a whole 180 downhill. He sounds like a bum and i wish she didnt waste her time with him
Yup hit at least she selling merch to pick back off her feet
@@se2664 right ✅️
One her her only "dates" was him bringing her through the hood while he slung dope. I would argue that she was genuinely into that type of stuff.
She sounds like she was very naive and with him being almost 30 when they met he definitely saw an easy target with her. 🌚
Her parents didn’t teach her a DAMN things! Yes she’s young but she’s extremely sheltered…. Her parents failed her.
RIGHT. i feel like we need to start holding parents accountable for sheltering tf out of their kids and never teaching them anything of substance when it comes to their social lives. i always wonder "why do women fall for the same tricks when we live in the age of the internet where there are literally women who will make content for younger women to follow?". it's probably because it still goes over their heads due to being hardwired and sheltered since young into thinking that the world is relatively safe.
i (20 years old) have never dated anyone but i can still see what i need to. my mom passed when i was a kid. my dad was abusive but i looked to women older than me online to teach me what i wasn't taught from my own parents - and my discernment for people in general is strong. probably because i started watching content from people when i was 12/13 years old. these women who didn't have the same experience are really sheltered and naive, falling for what a lot of us would be able to see right through - and it's because nobody was there to teach them anything of real substance from a young age. so even when they hear women warning other women about these things, it goes in one ear and out the other. they're so used to living in their bubble of delusion and nativity and it's sad af. i feel like there are little boys in grown men's bodies that never matured, preying on women who have stayed little girls in grown women's bodies who aren't mature enough either. that's why these grown men prey on younger women. they vibe together because they're on the same maturity level at one point (until the woman gets messed over and matures from betrayal). i'm actually sick of it.
This was me but I was on bc. Thank God it never failed. Old and married now
Or she failed them..she looks like the rebellious type...not very bright😂😂😂
@@dadao8564How can you say that based off some tiktok videos. If anyone is rebellious it's that dusty deadbeat grown man who impregnated a 20 year old girl
Right, they make it worse.
This was literally me at 19, my daughter is one of 8, her father was several years older then me too. I am now 38 and that baby I had is 18, if someone would have looked at my life then, they would never think I would be the woman I am now. Going from being broke and barely making rent on a $400 a month apartment to now living in an affluent suburb with my husband, 2 additional children and running a business. Everyone makes poor choices its how you recover from them that matters. If I was her though I would still file the child support because if he ever miraculously comes into some money it would go towards and outstanding child support. SN: if he is a little cray cray, lives recklessly and knows where she lives I would get my CCW and take out a life insurance policy on him. She has a vested interest and is well within her right.
Your 19 year old self made that decision to sleep with him so it was your fault
@@ephraimsondoyi9966 Well duh! hahahaha No where in my soliloquy did I mention being raped so clearly the act was consensual. Next time say "excuse me" before inserting yourself in an adult conversation.
Well duh! hahahaha No where in my soliloquy did I mention being raped so clearly the act was consensual. Next time say "excuse me" before inserting yourself in an adult conversation.@@ephraimsondoyi9966
Different time single moms a no no. Times different to much information about them
I gotta say I’m tired of the “hold women accountable “ narrative it’s starting to be holding women accountable for things MEN do TO YOU. It’s deflecting, now the spotlight is on HER and not HIM and what his action were towards her. Hold me accountable for MY ACTIONS when a woman talks about how someone abused her lied to her or cheated on her STOP deflecting to women.
No ma”m . Epic fail. Most women who choose these types of Men within 5 min of me meeting the guy I can tell he is trash. It’s plenty of Men who are solid across the board who are overlooked all the time. I can name 10 off rip . The funny part is the good Men have trouble finding decent women because y’all end up choosing this other crap then want REAL MEN to clean up the mess. The facts are REAL MEN are not falling for it anymore. Y’all want Ghost from Power or some Drug dealing clubbing dude then go ahead . You on your OWN
Agreed
@@jarvisjennings5043first off don’t speak for real men they aren’t on women’s end of yt arguing with women. And second again you know what real men do? They hold other men accountable that’s it that’s all because real men who lead don’t blame the women who they want to follow them.
@@jarvisjennings5043and your one of those men who obviously have a masculinity issues ur jealousy of the thugs and “ghost” type that must of got the women u wanted. That’s really the problem go take that up with someone else or the girl in HS who didn’t choose u
@@zsazsa4159 You don’t know me so once again you trynna get internet points. I speak for Men who would never leave they children or do someone like this. The Men in my fam haven’t so I have real
life results on what to look after and what not to. You can have the internet argument
"He has six kids🫠" 😑
She took him from his six kids and expect him to stay with her one…😂
HEALTHCARE PROVIDER HERE:
if you consent to unprotected heterosexual sex you should EXPECT pregnancy as a result. expecting a result outside of this is irresponsible. period.
while there was likely a great deal of manipulation and emotional abuse here--if you are a hetero woman that does not want to be pregnant in the next year, it would behoove you to not leave contraception up to the man. Its honestly the only way to prevent this from happening to you
Or just not having sex. Having self control and waiting to have sex with one person…. Preferably your husband? Someone who has good character, good job, ambition, respect for himself and others…I know not everyone believe in being married, but following Gods (Jesus) way have worked for so many people! Including myself. No one is perfect but Gods way has worked and always will 😭🫶🏽
@@cairegrigsby7682 that part.
Doesn’t sound like being pregnant was that horrifying of revelation for her more so the man that just up and LEFT. So…
@cairegrigsby7682 That's sound advice, but unrealistic. A BW waited to have unprotected s_x on their wedding night . He knowingly gave her h_v , she pressed charges & he went to jail . 😢 He knew he had it & his Mom tried to warn her . She asked him about it & of course he denied it . ( it's on u tube ) 😢
@@wordswithkayand she probably wouldn’t be upset about a man leaving if she wasn’t pregnant with his baby.
Im just glad she turned her pain into profit. She's doing well and she has support from her parents.
22 dating a man almost 30 with 5 kids, sells drugs walking a pit bull not on a leash. I hate to victim blame but my sister there were signs
I can’t tell that you hate to victim blame……. She found out about his many many kids AFTER she was pregnant. The HOOD is full of Black girls who are just like her.
@@firewater365you forgot to mention that those black girls in the hood get ridiculed, judged, stereotyped and blamed for their situations & don’t go viral or receive empathy & the opportunity to profit off of their circumstances. 💕
@@firewater365 doesn’t change the fact that there were some obvious signs. With your approach , this scenario will happen time and time again
This is literally just like MY STORY!
Happened to me in 2012! My daughter’s father up and disappeared on me one random Thursday when I was 7 months pregnant with our baby. I was high risk pregnancy so I was on bed rest and couldn’t work. So I lost the apartment, had to break the lease and move in with my mom. I couldn’t ever reach him to even find out what was going on because he got a whole diff phone number! I later found out via mutual acquaintances and social media that he went back to his ex. This may have been the most painful experience I’ve ever went thru. Especially because we weren’t even beefing. He literally kissed me goodbye that morning, kissed my belly and left and never returned. That was my last time seeing him.
I did take him to child support court eventually where he yelled in the hallway at court that he “ain’t getting a job because I’m not paying shit!”
Mind you, our beautiful little 6 month daughter was there.
Anyway, he died in 2019 of an overdose, and now my daughter gets his survivor’s benefits until she’s 18. 🤷🏽♀️
God always takes care of the just
God bless you sis. You’ll be alright ❤
Wow sis gosh
Won't he do it 😂
That's a blessing 🎉
@@A__Mina thank you, we have definitely been blessed. My husband is now my daughter’s father. The only one she has ever known and he takes great care of her. She’s such a daddy’s girl. He stepped up to the plate and has been amazing ❤️
First mistake was she lowered her standards. She dated a guy who wasn’t even her type to “go hang out” and basically do broke ish like go to the hood and sell….he never took her out on a proper date. Clue number one: He had a dog and no leash!😂 She paid all the bills and did all the housework ! I don’t understand how she thought this would go well….🤦🏽♀️
Now she finna be broke
Anything to be cool and look cool.. now look 😑
She clearly didn't think.
Advice to this woman in the video; baby girl give him his child and if he don't take her, put that baby up for adoption. THEN RUN FREE. Go back to school, build your life and when the right man with the right mindset comes along, marry him.
No man marrying a women who abandoned her child.
Who the heck was pushing for her to get with him!!? They are disgusting people!! I really wish she had followed her instincts. Young women watching, Please follow your instincts!! They will NEVER steer you wrong!
She seems like a great mom and in good spirits despite her circumstance. Blessings to her and her beautiful baby girl
You know so many women get so upset when you say marry before you carry but honestly it is one of the only ways you can legally hold a man accountable for your child AND YOU. Especially when a man has a history of leaving kids. Marriage doesn’t ensure happiness but it does ensure ACCOUNTABILITY.
Only financially. Which doesn’t make a father !!!!
@@British_Cocoathat’s enough 💀
I agrée but. I know too many married single mothers doing it alone..
@@gelleh.5456 very true. But that doesn’t mean that the law ain’t on that side. They leave their husbands to better themselves they getting more than a child support check if they picked properly
@@British_Cocoa that’s very true but you can’t make ANYONE stay. You may as well do what’s needed to get what you can though.
That baby is gorgeous so so gorgeous. That's your blessing
This guy never planned to stay in Michigan. He moved her back to her parents to help himself feel less guilty about leaving her and the baby. This is a tactic that has been done for many years. I wouldn't be surprise if people close to him knew his plan.
I really don't like this trend of people posting their CHILD on the internet while exposing all of their business. Her child is going to grow up and have to see this at some point. Go to therapy!
Agreed!
Never date a man that walks around with a pitbull. They're almost always not worth a rusty penny.
😂😂
I concur!
This video should be shown to all teenagers as a warning.
This is triggering AF… this happened to me 16 yrs ago… in my case he begged me to have the kid. I would have preferred he disappeared because he wreaked havoc on my life for YEARS!!! I’ve never had another kid.
Sorry sis😢I don't have kids, honestly seeing all these stories has me scared..
I'm so sorry ❤
@@banyana6515 It truly has been absolutely awful… imagine having a demon attached to you for nearly 2 decades… I found my BC on top of his fridge months into my pregnancy and he must’ve slipped off the protection. Begged me to keep the kid and treated me like crap by the time I was 5 months. He was 32 I was 19 story started almost precisely the same… I was uninterested and not attracted… had a great job, was in college… on my 22nd birthday I gave birth. In hindsight I wish he would’ve disappeared because his presence was way worse. Broke me down physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’ve moved on to a loving marriage… but that man changed me in way that I have never recovered. And btw she is right about child support… I’ve had an order in place for YEARS… I’ve not seen a dime and it cost me thousands to go to court.
I’m so sorry but thank goodness you survived.
Not trying to be insensitive, but a lot of these single mothers who got ghosted are lucky. Bc giving some of these losers access to children is dangerous.
“Yeah I’m not doing this” to your own child is SO gross
My brain will never comprehend how some men just be dropping babies in multiple women, with no plan, and dash away without a care in the world 🏃🏿♂️ 💨 👶🏻
Me personally, the guilt would be crippling, it would keep me up at night. Sadly I bet random man from Atlanta sleeps easy without a care in the world 🛌 😴 💤
O don't worry that's why their demons keep them up at night.
The law allows them to
I’m 25 with no kids and single. I see a lot of married women with kids saying how they’re single moms too… I guess we’re starting to see that men are not as great as the pedestal we put them up on
She’s naturally funny and not begging for sympathy. If anything, she’s owning up to it and offering herself up as a cautionary tale.
Watch her build all this into a standup act or show lol
Exactly. I like her
I like her too. And her daughter is beautiful
She's so likeable and funny. Not your typical 'preference' at all.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4hshe’s the definition of typical preference she’s using a situation that black women get vilified for and profiting sounds exactly like a preference to me.
@@KingRose339Not to be rude, but was she supposed to vilify herself instead?
And the profit is obviously contributing towards the raising of the child.
I understand it’s frustrating seeing the preference get preferential treatment but she has every right to post whatever she wants online, within reason, just like anybody else.
Oh no not this girl. I watch her stories. The baby is so precious. Despite getting in a bad situation with the dude from Atlanta, she seems to accept her situation and take care of her child. She has a great sense of humour though.
Dating older men who aren’t established… nah. If you want to have kids, great. But choose the father that you would’ve wanted as a child.
Men don't hold other men accountable cuz they don't want other men to hold them accountable...they treat other men how they wanna b treated 😒
She needs to at least blur her baby's face out if she's gonna be telling the world her life story
Nah, we won't recognize her in 6 months or a year. Babies change every second. I agree though when the kid is about 2 or something.
No one's gonna remember or focus on the baby's face cmon now.
@@digimonalvatrax2738 Some of her videos have views in the 100K, people are focusing. Come on now.
I went through this and packed my one year old up and got TF on!!!! That same one year old is 15.. all A student and doing well in life. My husband who has been raising her since she was 2 loves the ground she walks on and she calls him Dad..... Move ON!!! Do not let this stop you!
Girl… you made a lot of mistakes. The baby’s a blessing. You’re still young & can still rise from this…Don’t fall into another ditch. 🤷🏽♀️
This!
😂
Stop saying that a baby is a blessing when it is NOT!! A baby is only a blessing when both parents are married, in a committed relationship and have the financial means to raise a child.
@@IVYSTARR-i3k I mean…. It’s subjective. A baby is a blessing to me. 🤷🏽♀️
@@girlwithathought2940 A baby can be a blessing if you planned it, if you love it and of course if you can afford it!
She’s sharing her story through humor… sometimes you have to laugh at how dumb you were. 😂
Morgan has a great sense of humor and a strong inner strength…babygirl is going to be alright!! ❤
You’re beating yourself up after having an emergency c section because your body was healing. Bless your heart. This story was sad AF for your daughter especially but for you as well
She seems unhinged. I’ll keep the baby in my prayers ❤
I saw a few of her posts ! She keep asking women to find her baby daddy ! It's odd ! I don't understand why she still want to be involved with a man like that !
As a young woman, who saw both sides, married people in their family and people who are baby mamas, I realize a lot of men will be in a relationship, but they don’t wanna be fathers. I remember my aunt Babyfather coming to see her and not his children.
✔️Weren't dating for a long period.
✔️Weren't BOTH using contraception.
✔️Weren't committed via marriage.
✔️Weren't merging families together to create a community with their in-laws.
I mean, even without the dealing of illegal substances and the out-of-wedlock kids from previous relationships, this situationship was never a recipe for success. Better luck next time ma'am ✌🏾
He had multiple kids with different women too. YIKES!
Exactly! That relationship was a recipe for disaster smh 🤦🏿♀️
Her child playing the “take your birth control or you’re gunna look like me” to their therapist in 20 years 🥹 Reminds me of those precious memories of my mother saying she never wanted kids🫶
At least your mother was honest, mine made it clear I’d never want children too and if I had them it’s because I was forced to
I’m sorry but I couldn’t get pregnant by a man who couldn’t take me out on ONE date 😭. No judgement to her I know she was young when it happened but dang I hope people learn from this. Always vet, don’t put yourself in a lifelong situation for a short term partner
And omg getting two people pregnant around the same time?? The way that men play Russian roulette with their sexual health completely disgusts me
Yes it’s nasty guy
MAKE THESE NINJAS WEAR A CONDOM! PEACE&LUV
These clowns 🤡 do their preference DIRTY!!! He left his trash 🚮 at her house 🏡 so he can return when the ex-kicks him out Or when the other mothers of six children 🤦🏾♀️ won’t let his as_s sleep 🛌 for the night. Her poor parents, I know they are highly disappointed.
He likes what he sees. He destroys it. Men especially bm are guilty of this. I've had men tell me how they do it. And the target is YOUNG GIRLS. GIRLS WITH NICE BODYS. You have a future ahead of you? He'll stop you
Tell me what they said? girl i'm interested asf!
They have kids with women they find attractive to trap them and piss on their tree whenever they feel like it
This is part of why they like younger women, because they are easier to manipulate.
Facts! Saw this happen with my own eyes. Men target teens/ young naive women to use their youth.
Don’t have no man’s baby who is not already your husband, or who has no intentions on marrying you thereafter.
We shouldn’t even be having risky sex with men who are not married to us. This is your entire future ladies, don’t put that kind or power into the hands or some rando man.
Having a man’s child is an honor to that man. You risk your life to literally bring the child into the world. Every man does no deserve to be a father. Now she’s struggling with his baby, with no help from him.
This is why they like them young enough easy to manipulate and police them around thank God I opened my eyes fast and dipped
I know what he looks like just by looking at the baby 😂
I will not be surprised once they expose him
I just don’t understand how ANYONE is having unprotected sex with strangers. Or partners without checkups 🤷🏾♀️
Well it’s even worse when not consenting to unprotected sex and the guy gets mad at you and calls you demanding for asking him to reimburse you for plan b
Y’all gone learn one day.