Letting go of immediacy | A reframe on rest, productivity, and life
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
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Omg, yes!! " Being bullied by a larger than life cultural message". These colonizing rules that your value is based on being a hardworking martyr are so ineffective. Thank you for this, deeply resinates and I'm with you. ❤
"Efficiency" and "Productivity" - yes, let's redefine these words for ourselves!!! I'm 53 years old, and realizing just in the last few years, that I have felt RUSHED my whole life long. My nervous system aches and creaks with the neverending expectation of efficiency and productivity, of getting it done and getting it right.
Your words today are like cool water in my body and my spirit. You're speaking to my soul, and I've slowed down enough so I can listen. Thank you ❤️💜💙
I wish someone had told me this when I was 20, in college. I would have saved a lot of time, thinking that I had to just choose one career and I would be successful, that it would make me successful and I would be okay. The shadow thought I would have is: "I just need to find the right path that will lead me to my best life ever"
I think I started thinking about this back when bar codes were first introduced in the grocery stores! (Yeah, I'm old.) Then counting key strokes at your desk and asking to go pee (and being timed) and the cell phone "on call" craziness came to be accepted as normal. We're people, not machines. When nobody cares about us, we can tell.
Yes. To all of what you shared. In honoring my need for stillness I often feel guilty that I’ve “done nothing” with my time. I continue to step into a personal level of comfort as I honor my body and souls need for stillness, connection and quiet allowing.
So my job is a full time in-home caregiver for my grandma (she has dementia and I came here after she had a stroke in 2021). For a month now she's been in outpatient nursing bc she fell and broke her leg. (I still feel terrible that I couldn't stop the fall) anyway, now she's going downhill. And I have a lot to do. Like today I'm trying to deep clean the house and build a wheel chair ramp for when she comes home. Hopefully. This entire month without her has been even longer hours of work, more stress, more crying. And I'm noticing that I can't function anymore with the really long lists and tons of caffiene and trying to get everything done. That is how I've lived for years and years. And I'm realizing now that...I'm coming to the same destination after all that as I would if I woulda just floated. I'm not sure I know how to just...float. I have always effort-ed and forced to get results. At the expense of my body and my peace of mind and rest. So ALL OF THAT TO SAY (lmao) you have no idea how your channel and each and EVERY one of your videos is showing me how to be a different way. And I just want to say I really appreciate you and every video you make.
Love ya fellow space blob. 🥰❤
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Thank you for sharing your story so vulnerably and openly! You are moving through so much. Thank you, thank you!!
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. My intuition has been telling me to slow down and take it easy. Most of our important downloads, that will ultimately make us more efficient, come when we sit in silence and take a pause. Thank you for being a safe voice here and giving us the permission to exist in a way that feels natural for each individual 🤍🙏🏼 keep being you!
I love this message! Realizing there is no wrong or right way and that there is no absolute truth I should be seeking has totally changed my life. It took me almost a half century but Im finally embracing the unknown path and it is indescribable!
Exactly what I would say!
Through my path of deprogramming the past nine years, it’s been a double sided coin. Some aspects have been easy and liberating, others have been very challenging & quite problematic for my sanity. These things have been occurring at different times also! I’m trying to find ways of being kind, patient and accepting of myself as I suffer with mental health issues; as one of the dominant heavy thought process is self criticism. Plant medicine has been key for my development & reminds me that I am love and loved. 😊🙏🏾🌿
Dear Sarah, the Joy of your newest 'Life-Light' delights, inspires and draws me, like a Child, into your beautiful aura, your blessed beauty, your caring enthusiasm and your happy playful spirit. Yes, you are leading us, in such a natural, humble
and profound way back to or around to embracing all those beautiful things we sensed and knew as an Innocent Child.
You help us to identify and deconnect from all the vicious, tenacious and emotional Bondage of Societal Expectations
and Commands. Your Radiance is today most precious to me, enabling my Soul to give thanks for your Angelic Being,
dear one. Your trusting ability to flow is one of the most outstanding spiritual gifts that you so generously share with
each and every one of us. May All that resonates with the True You be ever yours! Gwendolyn Marie
I shed tears listening to you describe the journey I’ve been on- putting words to a tension/pressure I couldn’t name. I can’t tell you how much it means to know I’m not alone and to hear this message right now. It’s right on time. It can be so challenging navigating in new territory. Thank you for opening up-it makes a difference ❤.
Efficiency in itself is a noble concept as you eluded to in the start. Nature is beautifully efficient because it allocates energy so every part is in harmony with the whole. Where things get tricky is our left brain dominant thinking has corrupted language to the point where most people now conflate efficiency with society's idea of being "productive". Also, we're not reliable judges on what's actually efficient, as the concept of time from our human point of view is so far removed from all that is.
yep I agree. As I have gotten in my 50's this is so true. You see how much the little time to just take a break and breath and know that we do not have to it all all the time.
I love your chats, I value these conversations, I feel seen! Nature is efficient. The efficiency that makes us feel like our life force is being drained is certainly NOT, ultimately efficient. That flavor of efficiency treats us like resources to be drained (and tells us we should enjoy it!) I've had these thoughts for sooo long and I'm so happy that these things are being discussed. I'm 53 now, I recall handwritten letters and telephone calls where you didn't know who the caller was. Technology was maybe implied to be a time and labour saver, but now we think we are servants to notifications any time of the day or night. Aagghh, a bit of a rant, but I have feelings about this!! Proud to be a space blob. I adore you!!❤🌻🤸♀️💐🌙🦇💙
Thank you for just shooting us a real message without the use of tarot cards and astrology.
While I love those tools, it's just as important, enjoyable and constructive to simply share your perspective in this way.
Good stuff, Sarah.
I’m listening to this chat from my hostel in Mexico, just after someone told me that it was already 11am and that I should be out visiting the city. I find it interesting that this concept of efficiency sneaks in even in the context of traveling, that should be about leisure and individual preferences. I’m someone who likes to go slowly and “feel” places, and I sometimes feel the pressure to “do things”, visit the right stuff, “don’t get stuck in one place” - in short, this was very timely, thanks for another insightful chat, Sarah !
Yesss. Feeling this. I think getting "off the path" is PART OF THE PATH, part of the journey. The contrast helps us know what we want/what direction we want to go in more clearly
Yes! That's it!!!
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definietly speaking my laungage 😊 learning to listen to my heart, truly, and honoring what feels right for you is a challenge when you also care about what family members may think or what not. but i believe it will inspire others to do the same! ❤ thank you for your beautiful energy
I appreciate you🙏
making things forces us to slow down. beautiful
Love this conversation. It is so needed in our Western, capitalistic society. I love just being and can function so much better when I take time to just be me.
Efficiency has been a word echoing in my mind too these days, so often! Our concious application of time and energy does truly have value beyond measure. Levels of productivity should be managed by and for the individual. It's a matter of personal well-being, not an intention to be measured by social standards. Sometimes being more "selfish" with our time leads us doing less "selfish" things.
Thanks for sharing, Sarah!
Randomly- you remind me of Marion in Indiana Jones Raiders of the Lost Ark, to me that's a good thing!🤩
Thank you Sarah.❤ This is a conversation I've been having with friends and colleagues since we came out of 2 years of lockdowns. It seems society equates effeciency with constant and immediate productivity, when in fact, some of the most creative and productive spaces and ideas come from stillness and settling into what we've already established without the need to constantly move forward. When you dive deeper, it's an industrialised/capitalist notion that we all work in ways that burn us out for the betterment of the 'individual'. When we are able to lean into our village and find spaces for collective stillness and sharing of resources, than we don't need to carry all this efficiency on our own. It's an interesting notion that appeared during 2 years of lockdown in Melbourne...the stillness and time to get off the hamster wheel actually benefitted a whole lot of people. But it appears it's 'business as usual' again. A conversation that needs to be had about shifting gears. Thank you. 🙏
So many good reflections here!
Let Refined change, adapt, efficiency to clarity to balance. I am efficient because I live a balanced life. I am not efficient when I live for others only.
Yay.... It must be the time for these insights!
Thanks for reaffirming.
I too am putting the guilt, stress, pressure in it's place.... Out of my life n out of my head.
Enjoy the time with you and spirit. We are doing enough n are enough. We are eternal beings with all the time we need. All in divine time.
I’ve been feeling this energy a lot recently. I found myself feeling ups and downs around the topic of efficiency. Learning and allowing myself grace to fully experience both experiences and allow them to flow when I do feel these emotions arise. Thanks you for the reminder ❤
perfectly said! thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing. Ironically, the need to be so "efficient" makes us less efficient. we become overwhelmed and then procrastinate more and all because of this constant trauma of needing to do, do, do. We take better care of our machines then we do ourselves. I totally agree with this! thanks again!
Thanks Sarah, I so relate to your conversation. It is not only your spirit but your soul that at times wishes to escape from those societal expectations. Cheers, Sue 😊
Watching this on the perfect day! Makes me feel like it's ok to be tired & not push myself when my body & mind jus can't handle it, like today
Sarah! I will take all the reminders I can get that it's ok to say no. That it's ok to slow down and meander, and not have everything "figured out" all the damn time. Those of us who are sensitive beings are especially vulnerable to the chaos and transformative energies of this particular space and time...and it has been a challenge to say the least to release myself from my own cultural/societal/familial expectations. Of feeling solely responsible for attempting to soothe the wounds of everyone all the time, and the self imposed pressure to anticipate their responses ...I am tired of it too. Learning to integrate the powerful lessons of these past few years and give myself more and more and MORE grace each and every day. I have found out how much more productive I am in fact, in the moments I intentionally allow a bit more space, and time, and flexibility. I am cautiously optimistic that as I let go more and more of my decades long habit of attempting (futile)control, I am lead more and more easily into a sense of peace and trust in this process of life. I still struggle with fear as I continue to break through layer upon layer of the containers I instinctually build...AND I am discovering more and more, that the fear may just be excitement of self actualization and the gift of choosing to be delighted by the gift that is my existence. Of BEing, inspired action, and an open and grateful heart learning to RECIEVE. Thank you Sarah! So much Love to you and those you continue to reach and comfort and inspire on this bananas ride!
I love all of these insights!
I had the recent epiphany that everything I want in life is merely due to programming and comparison. I went deep to figure out what it is I really want and even what I wanted as a child. Guess what I wanted as a child? Nothing! I was so present as a child, I had no urge for more. So now I’m just focused on right now. I don’t need what other’s experience even though I haven’t experienced much. It’s so hard. Everything past this now moment seems unachievable and this would bring me down so hard but now I see that I could not see it working because it was never my goal. It was striving based on comparing myself to someone else’s story.
this is the exact message i needed. the exact message i keep getting, and the one that i keep resisting.
This resonates so deeply. I love and appreciate how you have been able to question and reframe efficiency in a rebellious way and still show up to hold so much space for an online community in a consistent way for YEARS! It’s made a huge impact on me getting to listen to you over the years and learn from your spirit’s meanderings and the messages you share. I love that you can take it from the well of creativity and not the well of immediacy. I find myself wanting to create and build and share, and I have felt a lot of that internalized socioeconomic pressure to conform to a certain model of efficiency, but I am so happy to rest in the trust of organic growing organically and meandering as my soul desires. Thank you for this nugget
Thank you Sarah and everyone in the comments 💗 this level of honesty and openness to exploring beyond the status quo is how we enact world change
This is EXACTLY what I made room for this year by making adjustments and cutting back in my health consulting business. After decades of priding myself on my ability to multi-task, stay busy, be prompt on replies and be a go getter. I was literally just thinking about these things you discussed in the shower about an hour ago. I was marveling over how I didn't have a clue what to do with my new and slower pace of life initially. In fact, I'm still in the space of just choosing NOT. NOT keeping to do lists, NOT feeling pressured, NOT replying to that email, NOT doing things I don't want to (except for basic survival). I'm learning to lean into my stillness even more than I have in recent years, even though I'd already made a big shift there. Now I'm softening into it even more and choosing all the things in life I enjoy and that fill me up. I loved your washing machine analogy! It's so wonderful that you're recognizing this so early in life.
I really needed this today Sarah… To have someone say we don’t have just one path & to be reminded that it’s about the exploration, it’s about the journey… I’ve been putting so much pressure on myself & it’s been making me unwell as I step onto a new path exploring the thing I love most Sustainable fashion design… Thank-you for reminding me that it’s about the journey not about making shit happen & getting stuff right the first time.
Hi! First, I would like to say that I enjoy all of your videos. 🙂
Second, YES to everything you said here! I definitely resonate with it. I've been very reflective about life lately and what you talked about here goes along with it perfectly.
Thank you for all that you do! 💟
This feels like going to a University 400 level philosophy class & the teacher is a stand up (sitting down) comic with their sleeping side kick dog. Gentle sweet loving kind & surprisingly humorous. In varying degrees we are all introverts and extroverts. Western culture leans way over to honoring goal oriented extroverts. I feel cleansed and pledge to honor my quirky path and you're now officially my guru. I want to see a gummy bear based on you and your doggie pal.
You're words are like tea with honey for my soul 😁🩷
Each person creates his or her reality. The being and doing of each "space blob" (ha! Love the irreverence of that) is our free will. Whether we want to put systems and rules in place to do things efficiently--- there are no shoulds. Whenever I feel sad or put upon or less than, it alerts me that whatever groove I've been in has turned into a rut. Time to tweak. As much as I can be lighthearted in this, it's to my benefit. 😊
My god! Your on point...at 37 this has been my journey for the past 3 years...I finally feel like homecoming to myself, taking things slow and breathe. Life is becoming Calmer ❤
At 63 I have had quite a few “lives” I’ve lived. I’ve lived in different countries, spoke fluently several languages and I have had multiple jobs/ careers that had nothing to do with what I had done in my past. But today right now as I take a break from doing the task I finished and have a healthy snack watching you Sarah your message is perfect! As always it so good to see you and listen to where you are at!
I really needed this today, thank you Sarah🙏❤
Thank you Sarah for sharing your insights. Thought provoking for me. Word choice is very important to my daily life and while I have thoughts all over the place on this topic, I haven't been able to pull it all together. Efficiency, this word and its meaning, both the positive and negative pulls it all together, along with the wisdom you shared. Many thanks!
Love your deep musings, living in the present opens so much more spaciousness and connection also to ourselves. Ive been in this space this year and notice things that emerge and manifest are a lot easier than if i push for something it requires more listening and trust. Theres more ease and joy that comes from a deeper place even if at times it feels questioning thats part of its seeking. Its being in the unknown more too, i love how you talked about the boss babe. Theres a lot of posturing i feel that ties in, which comes from needing to fit in out of insecurity or from ego rather than being authentic. The word bullying jumped out for me! Sensitive souls reclaming their power and living as they like is powerful. Ty once again i enjoy listening to your thoughts with my morning coffee! ❤
As you spoke about efficiency, a word and posture I present to the world, I kept thinking about the related pressure to multitask! I even find myself checking email or text as I go to the bathroom (ok TMI, but I know I’m not the only one). So although I know that multitasking actually lowers one’s IQ, I find myself constantly trying to do more than one thing at a time. BUT when I become conscious of this default efficiency mode, I can integrate and focus on one thing. Thankfully I work for myself so I am able to maintain the pace I want, so I make myself efficient at self care, good nutritious food, playing with my puppy (although not enough.) I also have a new 1 year old baby grandson…if you want to dismantle efficiency and really be in the moment,immerse yourself in their world of discovery and play, where your reward comes from the joy of that beautiful baby smile. Puppies work too. Thanks Sarah for the confirmation that we don’t need to live according to others’ pace!
And that doesn’t make us incompetent or inadequate…the opposite according to Webster.
I just released my anxiety about all that with the full moon. I'll get to where I'm going when I'm supposed to. When I woke up the next morning it was like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. And the clarity that came with it. Patients is a venture, be virtuous. That's what I was hearing. So I'm going day by day, everything will arrive when it's ment to.
One path a day keeps the creativity awake and the doubt away! I sooo relate to your quest, but thank goodness to myself, I have enough confidence now to thrust the process and just do my best to manifest one day at the time...Magic is unfolding and clarity pops up anyhow. Don't stress and celebrate🎉 You are already a super being!❤
So resonant! I felt this so strongly this year I started a podcast on it! Thank you for sharing your perspectives Sarah. Always welcome and appreciated.
Your content lately is so soothing for the soul. I've been feeling these feelings for awhile, but you put them into words so beautifully. Please continue to share your ramblings
Thank you for saying what so many of us have been feeling and questioning! For five years, I worked at a company that touted efficiency as one of its core values. What that translated to was expecting employees to always be ready to respond to GChat and email immediately, regardless of what else they were doing in the moment. If I did not reply to a chat within a couple minutes, my boss would call my work and personal phones in succession until I picked up. There are very few (if any) situations in the average working person's workweek that are truly urgent. A certain degree of timeliness is polite; however, we're living in a climate that encourages us to treat everything like life or death.
Thank you. I totally resonate with this. I’m done with all the societal pressure.
Leo Moon here. My youngest daughter Aquarius ♒️ Sun. I shared this video with all 3 of my kiddos!
Thank You!
this reframe is everything 🙏
"Meant to meander" might just be my new motto... I loved your reframing of 'efficiency'. Yesterday I gave myself more grace and space after a time of being away a lot, did 3 yoga nidras throughout the day and the mind chatter around "You're not doing enough / being consistent/ staying on it" came in very I stayed with myself. Then later I felt inspired to write 2/3 of an article, play some music outside and record a music video. I would not have had the energy or inspiration available to do that if I had forced myself to stay in one track mind efficiency mode. It really IS more efficient in terms of my true values (creativity, self expression) to take that pace in a meandering way. Thank you SO much Sarah. I love your messages and will be coming back to this one.
Amen, sister! 💜
I really think efficiency and the desire to be most efficient in the most linear and productive way is a product of patriarchy. As a farmer I have to be efficient to a certain degree. Yet, I also love to get into the feminine and sit with the plants and talk with them and move slowly through the field. I think this might be one of the reasons the plants do so well out here!
i love this! definitely a much needed conversation and reframing around the expectations of being productive and efficient at all times, thank you ❤
love it! breaking the iceberg!
Hallelujah!
💯 percent agree!
I find the gentle wisdom of ' The Cottage Fairy' extremely powerful to assist and validate
the process you're speaking of.!! Maybe slowing down your speech could help as well? 💌
Hearing & feeling & I'm a rebel too! Neurodivergent with good boundaries. Love all your chats, thankyou
I love this message. Listening in three months later, but perfect timing to receive this message.
Thank you for this. Lately I have been really drawn to tune into the different phases of my menstrual cycle (after quitting birth control and getting my period back). Paying attention to when my body and my spirit needs more rest and isolation versus when I have high energy and the need for connection has felt like unlocking a secret power. I have hope that the world is awakening to and will shift to accommodate slower lives and individual energy cycles.
What a nourishing and helpful practice!
Such a great conversation! I am meant to meander. Gonna keep that one. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Thank you 🙏🏼 😊 from a lifelong inefficiency expert 😅 💖
Sarah thank you for this confirmation. I have come this very realization myself over the last two weeks and it just feels so affirming to hear others on this wave length. Thank you for what you share🌸
What a great message! Thank you!
Yes, definitely feel soul exhaustion
Nice one Sarah. Thank you x
That is exactly the topic of today for me! Could connect to my mind and renavigate my mind through yoga
Thank you, friend. 😊🙏🏽✨💖
Resonating... thanks, love!
Thank you Thank you for connecting
ugh you are the best!!!!! i love these videos
Sarah!! Thank you thank you for all that you do!!
I have been feeling this so much post university. This is the first time in my life since being a little kid that my life isn’t being dictated by the education system. First time in my life since being under 5 years old that I’m getting to choose engaging deeply and can actually sustain and support that choice. The past few years I have been slowing down, and then slowing down again and then slowing down some MORE. Lol. It’s so amazing to me to reconnect to feelings of calm in my body I haven’t experienced in two decades. To find the nourishment that only exists in those deeper subtle layers. Makes me feel emotional and grateful to get to find these parts of myself again and take good care of them, live my life the way that I want to now. And it’s still a bit of a shock to process the difference. To know I will not be choosing overexertion anymore, that that way of life is not going to be my norm ever again.. powerful thing to sit with.
Love to you all!! Hope everyone is able to feel deeply nourished and find rest and breath 🤍🫀♥️
Love everything you share, Nadia! You are such an amazing being!
This was all the comfort and nurturing I needed right now I am so grateful thank you!!!
RUclips has never needed a ❤️ button more than now.
I love your humor in this video 😂 the Yolo reference and the BOSS babe attitude lol 🤣😁👍🏽
You create such a sacred corner of the internet. Saw a great quote that this video reminds me of : “there is no wrong way to have a body”
Efficiency says “take the first idea and run with it
Creativity says, “can we process this? Let’s have lots of ideas, smoosh the best ones together and see if we feel good about what shakes out!”
Thank you, so needed this, feel I’m interested in so many different things and feel all my life I have changed path many times and felt like there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t efficient. This makes me feel a lot better about the way I navigate life 🙏✨💕
I can't thank you enough for this. Really needed the reminder. Thank you Sarah! 💜💜💜
Once again Sarah you’ve hit the nail on the head. I was contemplating yesterday leaving my current living situation that I felt happy about my decision but I found myself second guessing that decision about what if I had gone with option B. Really appreciate this message and your analysis ❤
hi :) sometimes i rewatch these chat videos just to hear your voice because it's so comforting to me when i feel overwhelmed
I so agree with you Sarah. I fight with this concept all the time. We're so deeply conditioned with it so it really takes focused energy to stop, reflect and to slow down... Thank you for being so present with us❣
This is would make a great book! Just transcribe! 💜
Aaaand now I'm crying. 😭😍🙏🏽
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Yes, this is such fresh energy!!! This is an incredible thought. 😮
You’re right that’s what’s draining us all. 😢
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Sarah, Dearest. Immediacy, How do we live with it? It's called the principle of the "Next Thing." It is being developed by Stephen Biskup, Portland Oregon. During the Covid Years I would attend Jam Sessions with Stephan. What do we work on NEXT??. there were no gigs coming up, no markets to look for. Taking suggestions from Stephan, Jam session members would follow their intuitive thoughts to fined their next music activity. I ended up finding endless techniques to develop my musicality. I am still doing it today. No one knows what's going to happen until you complete enough of your current activity, to have thoughts and find the NEXT THING. Fun, try it!
Love To all , Billy God
Loving all your videos extra lately Sarah ❤
Love this. This is something I'm working with and you really gave me some helpful insight.
Excellent
Exactly what I needed Ty
OMG your coffee cup is GLORIOUS!!!
That's amazing!
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