PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Be More Charismatic & Confident TODAY! | Vanessa Van Edwards

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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  2 года назад +405

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    • @angeliquevasinathan7538
      @angeliquevasinathan7538 2 года назад +10

      Je m’y m

    • @wilhouts6173
      @wilhouts6173 2 года назад +9

      not sure if you saw my other post: Kinda reminds me of the lady who gives herself a HIGH FIVE IN THE MIRROR every morning.!

    • @chandranimukherjee414
      @chandranimukherjee414 2 года назад +2

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    • @Vancouvernuck
      @Vancouvernuck 2 года назад +5

      Hand gestures .. like it !!!

    • @Mariaodgers
      @Mariaodgers 2 года назад +11

      I've learned so much from you and your guests. Very informative! I am still striving to learn and grow at 57yrs old.
      Well Done. Thank you!!

  • @nowaybackvalorant8799
    @nowaybackvalorant8799 2 месяца назад +79

    She's a live example of every point she's making. Top tier content

  • @Dancing_Alone_wRentals
    @Dancing_Alone_wRentals 2 года назад +2043

    She teaches with so much joy, it was a joy to listen to her words.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +86

      Oh this made my day -- thank you!

    • @Dancing_Alone_wRentals
      @Dancing_Alone_wRentals 2 года назад +14

      @@vanessavanedwards8014 will be looking forward to your next adventure...(book or talk...sounds so...well lets just say I want to live a little more Disney and a little less Library. So Whatever your next adventure turns out to be....please take us along!)

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 года назад +3

      @@Dancing_Alone_wRentals you've put it across so well.. 💕

    • @olguiq1013
      @olguiq1013 2 года назад +4

      Love this... great vibe you too. Thank you.

    • @connectingthesciences4621
      @connectingthesciences4621 2 года назад +18

      Yeah I have this catch-22 situation where I keep feeling like I'm falling for her but realizing that she is literally teaching seduction. So it's like verification that she's definitely a professional and knows what she's doing. It's like I have no idea who she really is but I keep feeling like I want to place more trust in her than I would for a normal stranger. Basically demonstrating how effective it could be used against me if someone did. The fact that she's able to verify everything she's saying while she's explaining it it's really effective. I really appreciated this topic being covered; it was a great Podcast.

  • @OCFitBabe
    @OCFitBabe Год назад +547

    She’s just a perfect blend of competence and warmth. She’s adorable and we are fortunate to learn from her. ❤

    • @Walperion_Music
      @Walperion_Music Год назад +14

      Yet, if she's teaching "competence+warmth" it means she tought herself for years to present that in herself, of course she's the best at that!
      Makes you question if she even remembers where are her real emotions where her learned emotions are.

    • @BettyCollins88
      @BettyCollins88 11 месяцев назад +13

      She comes off as more competent than warm, whereas he comes off as more warm than competent. I think it comes down to something in their eyes, the rapidity of their respective speech, and their body language. He's sitting back and his body is open, for example.

    • @karimehendrix
      @karimehendrix 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@BettyCollins88yes you can tell she’s reminding herself to remain sitting straight to exude confidence

    • @loveisreal7766
      @loveisreal7766 10 месяцев назад +2

      She is very interesting. I am curious to learn about her journey to be competent and warmth.

    • @fishcanon8141
      @fishcanon8141 6 месяцев назад

      @@BettyCollins88I think you’re right on. It might have something to do with the pace of the speech, and how quickly they each respond to things.

  • @abhijithajikumar8751
    @abhijithajikumar8751 2 месяца назад +32

    This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. 1hr 40 minutes went in a flash.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 месяца назад

      Glad you enjoyed it! 🧡

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 месяца назад

      That's wonderful to know! Thank you! 💗

  • @ellelorde5487
    @ellelorde5487 2 года назад +886

    To be successful we need a mixture of competence and charisma.
    To be charismatic:(trustable +reliable)
    1. Not standing too close to someone.
    2.Use your hands to express your words (not jazz hands)
    3. Gift people success words
    4. Point out similarities between you and the person
    5. Don’t do up talk. (Important how you say words not just what you say)

  • @juliejuju7419
    @juliejuju7419 2 года назад +640

    This whole interview was absolutely AMAZING. I turned 51 yesterday and learned something new today. Wow. We are NEVER too old to learn🤩

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +13

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
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    • @sunnygirl9691
      @sunnygirl9691 Год назад +14

      Don’t be ridiculous! Of course you’re still learning! You’re still a baby!! Why do I say this … because I’m 50!! 😊

    • @hulamei3117
      @hulamei3117 Год назад +16

      68 and still learning...

    • @GirishVenkatachalam
      @GirishVenkatachalam Год назад +9

      Learning is oxygen of life and growth.

    • @katherine3107
      @katherine3107 6 месяцев назад +2

      We never stop learning until the day Jesus comes! He is our perfector 💖

  • @relaxwithme__
    @relaxwithme__ 2 месяца назад +18

    She is the queen of body language education 👑

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 месяца назад +2

      Oh! Thank you! 💕💕💕

    • @relaxwithme__
      @relaxwithme__ 23 дня назад

      @@ScienceOfPeople you are so welcome! 🤗

  • @cherishparkhurst8124
    @cherishparkhurst8124 Месяц назад +5

    When someone isn't to sure and question themselves I find that being encourageing to empower them to find their confidence in themselves is such a great thing

  • @NotReallyAEvilMorty
    @NotReallyAEvilMorty 2 года назад +895

    This is easily your best episode Lewis. The chemistry between you two is amazing and the learning content is high quality. I'm 100% going to buy the book.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +50

      Appreciate you! 🙏

    • @PaulinaMedia
      @PaulinaMedia 2 года назад +28

      Lewis and Vanessa have always had amazing chemistry. 👏🏽👏🏽

    • @vahinipillay2660
      @vahinipillay2660 2 года назад +17

      I could not agree more! I could feel myself learning from start to finish! ❤

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +55

      WOW! Thank you so much. I am so honored.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +24

      Thank you 🙂

  • @kangkanabora5366
    @kangkanabora5366 4 месяца назад +9

    She is such a good charmer, Lewis was blushing the whole podcast ❤

  • @dialaa.4001
    @dialaa.4001 9 месяцев назад +7

    Around minute 11( charisma): perfect blend of competence and warmth

  • @Soulenergy31
    @Soulenergy31 11 месяцев назад +26

    5:23 when you express your vulnerability, you acknowledge then you are less afraid
    21:20 use gestures

  • @vanessavanedwards8014
    @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +538

    This was so amazing to do! Thank you for allowing me to share

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +31

      Thank you as well🧡

    • @soniasinghinternational
      @soniasinghinternational 2 года назад +17

      Vanessa you are amazing!!! Loveeeed this interview and I learned so much. Lewis you are the best interviewer ever. Your energy together is wonderful to watch.

    • @xjessy5280
      @xjessy5280 2 года назад +11

      I’m not even 10 minutes in and I’ve learned so much already! Your enthusiasm is contagious Vanessa. Thank you so so much for everything that you do. You’re a joy to listen to and I can’t wait to listen to the rest of the show ❤️🥰

    • @mitchharrington9427
      @mitchharrington9427 2 года назад +3

      Great research and information from this interview. Love it thank you for so much insight on the things I need to be aware of.

    • @hienly8956
      @hienly8956 2 года назад +4

      Loved your enthusiasm in all your sharings. Of course Lewis too did an amazing job as an interviewer. So fun to wacth. You two were on fire! ❤️

  • @air_19
    @air_19 2 года назад +293

    This talk held me until the very end. Every sentence mattered. Grateful for this. I especially learned how to be authentic with someone toxic in the work place.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +2

      🧡

    • @jwallaby7895
      @jwallaby7895 8 месяцев назад +1

      When was it said how to be authentic with someone at the work llace? Time stamp please?

  • @freshmintsky
    @freshmintsky 2 года назад +128

    I love that she is generous with acknowledgments, gives credit where it’s due, and appreciates the work people do to support her presentations

  • @Jenls72
    @Jenls72 Год назад +222

    Omg as an introvert I feel like this has so many answers to my questions! She's amazing! I've bought the book and I'll watch this video every week for a while since there is an abundance of treasure in here!

    • @ChristianaSenibo
      @ChristianaSenibo Год назад +4

      Really insightful conversation 🙂

    • @Michael-bf1dt
      @Michael-bf1dt Год назад

      Hi Jenis how are you. Greetings from Ireland ☘️. It’s a good video. I love the pictures on your channel. Best wishes for a lovely day 😊🙏 Michael

    • @josegcondado
      @josegcondado Год назад

      Yes, same here

    • @irmang4790
      @irmang4790 6 месяцев назад

      Very informative, truly enjoyed this interview and learned so much. Grateful to you both for this video. Loved it, going to buy the book. Awesome ❤

  • @elfhririn
    @elfhririn 2 года назад +110

    I never comment... I just came to say THIS LADY IS AWESOME. Like wow! I learned a TON and I 100% agree with EVERYTHING she said! That does NOT happen often. Very grateful for her sharing her wisdom and virtues with us

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +4

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 года назад +3

      Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed it 😀

    • @ashrichman9956
      @ashrichman9956 Год назад +1

      Josh, she is awesome and so are you!! Let’s practice her tips to help us develop more confidence and then we’ll be awesome and warm 💕

  • @cutzymccall7675
    @cutzymccall7675 2 года назад +222

    It helps to be feeling good about yourself - and life. I never feel vulnerable socially because I love life and people from all walks of life. I don’t “separate” myself from others. I enjoy meeting strangers because I don’t see anyone as a stranger. I believe that we are all One, from every place, culture, race, religion and every walk of life. Everyone is my friend until they prove otherwise and if they aren’t I might feel sad or down for a few moments but then quickly accept it and walk away. Also: humor is your best friend in making friends and connecting with others. Yes, warmth and confidence - and giving.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +4

      👍

    • @mini_Pills
      @mini_Pills Год назад +3

      Thank you for this very interesting perspective.

    • @fulol
      @fulol 11 месяцев назад +6

      maybe that's because u haven't come across any murderers, rapists, perverts or crooks yet, i think once u do u might have a different view then about the so called "we are all one"

    • @piitaa108
      @piitaa108 10 месяцев назад +2

      'We are all one', 'Everyone is my friend' is magical thinking, a fantasy.

    • @IB4UUB4ME
      @IB4UUB4ME 10 месяцев назад

      Yeah but look at you, your very sexy looking, that makes it a tan bit more easier 😉

  • @Introvertedalpha
    @Introvertedalpha 2 года назад +29

    'If you show authentic happiness, you are more likely to infect happiness.' -- love this quote!

  • @guntertorfs6486
    @guntertorfs6486 7 месяцев назад +11

    She's very likeable , warm , smart , knowledgeable , enthusiastic AND physically very attractive. Such a winning combination.

  • @MD-yp7im
    @MD-yp7im 2 года назад +144

    She’s incredibly likable and captivating, beyond her obvious beauty. She’s really selling her product. Great episode

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 2 года назад +6

      The personality is fun and bubbly

    • @2abalsys
      @2abalsys Год назад +2

      i think it was over the top and contrived. got annoying after 5 mins or so. couldn't finish it...

    • @denisedoherty4909
      @denisedoherty4909 Год назад +1

      Not likable at all. Very annoying. Keeps overtalking him.

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 Год назад

      @@denisedoherty4909 He has a habit of hard headed listening, so not giving the guest attention. Shes powerful in her area and that's what we hear.

    • @denisedoherty4909
      @denisedoherty4909 Год назад +1

      @@dennisrobinson8008 Interesting. I think he is an excellent listener and interviewer. Very low key. As opposed to her over the top exuberance which seems forced and phony to me. Maybe some of the content is good but I cannot get through this because I find her extremely obnoxious. I guess perception really is everything.

  • @princessh2626
    @princessh2626 2 года назад +45

    As a teacher, when I started watching you here, right away I thought “smart man!” Asking great questions to his guests…the right questions, questions I would ask, questions that make sense…bringing awareness and clarification to your audience. Thank you Lewis…YOU ARE GREATNESS!!!☀️📚💕☀️

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +3

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @sirensguide153
    @sirensguide153 7 месяцев назад +26

    this interview was so enthralling that i actually was excited with anticipation to hear every next word from the both of their mouths. not only was it exuding such a comfortable, wonderful energy, but it was also packed full of absolute GEMS. i even feel better after watching this because the energy was just that refreshing. such a beautiful and genuine chemistry between two intellectually stimulating human beings.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  7 месяцев назад

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 7 месяцев назад

      Wow, thank you so much! I'm so happy to hear this ❤

  • @vishalchauhan3007
    @vishalchauhan3007 Месяц назад +4

    She is wholesome ❤

  • @8675-__
    @8675-__ 2 года назад +8

    And this is why Italian people are so good at expressing their thoughts!
    They always use their hands and colorful language

  • @lifecoachrosanna4934
    @lifecoachrosanna4934 2 года назад +57

    Once I became more comfortable in my own skin and started living for me the easier it is is to engage others. I was watching this and thinking, I haven't experienced social rejection in the longest. Probably because I surround myself with others that care about self-love, self-development and are focused on being their best version. When I was blaming the world for my problems and being self-absorbed, i did experience many of the social rejection cues she mentioned.

    • @barry963
      @barry963 Год назад

      Sad part is those filled with the most confidence are the biggest aholes ever on average.

  • @dushisoundsmeditationmusic
    @dushisoundsmeditationmusic Год назад +80

    To the person reading this: THANK YOU for being here and adding value to our world 💖 Hope you have a blessed day filled with joy, happiness, health and love! 💖

  • @Cynthiadiddat2
    @Cynthiadiddat2 Год назад +43

    I am so great full I stumbled across this video and just in time. My work environment is very toxic. The women I work with have given up and r very toxic. On Monday morning I go back to work and change this. I will no longer work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. I absolutely love what I do. I am filled with all this new confidence and knowledge from this inspirational and powerful video. Thank you from the tips of my toes to the palms of my hands and Thank u for reminding me that life is to short.🙏🏻💁

    • @elladapetrosyan9610
      @elladapetrosyan9610 Год назад +4

      Sorry you have to go through that, Cynthia. Good luck with changing it, hope it works!

    • @ssgundes1
      @ssgundes1 Год назад +1

      Good luck to you. Keep this attitude

    • @mlothiclan
      @mlothiclan Год назад +2

      I wonder how this has progressed

  • @positivevibes3418
    @positivevibes3418 2 года назад +6

    Words are Energy. Be impeccable.
    Great tools, and stay authentic!

  • @seamasmanly
    @seamasmanly 2 года назад +16

    My biggest takeaway is smiling at the sides of my eyes. I just used that during my performance, and I experienced better connection with my audience.

    • @ertongashi488
      @ertongashi488 2 года назад +1

      If you do that yo will get wrincles...

  • @Jananicholson874
    @Jananicholson874 Год назад +103

    i think that these skills are very useful in relationships though. very single expereince is useful and in my opinion you're doing great job . and also my man is doing great job :-) he's a lawyer but i mean that he's great w spanish drops

  • @LindseyObrooke
    @LindseyObrooke 7 месяцев назад +6

    This just helped me figure out why my senior manager is amazing, and why I look up to her so much -- she sincerely has the perfect blend of warmth and competence. I really hope I can morph into this!

  • @BuddyLuv
    @BuddyLuv 2 года назад +18

    I have a low attention span. I'm 23min in and you guys have still got me completely engaged. The topic and content are really interesting but they way you're presenting is everything. I'm learning so much - thank you!

  • @dakotablueskies
    @dakotablueskies 2 года назад +6

    So practical.
    She has a perfect balance of warmth and confidence.

  • @alexryan9869
    @alexryan9869 9 дней назад

    This is a great interview. I love how she teaches people how to communicate properly.

  • @florinamarchis4081
    @florinamarchis4081 3 месяца назад +2

    Such a well-prepared lady

  • @robh3267
    @robh3267 2 года назад +33

    There is so much information she is presenting it seems almost overwhelming to try and incorporate it all in daily interactions, some of the greatest liars and con artists have mastered many of these techniques, I've found that honesty, caring and true sincerity goes a long way when it comes to being charming and charismatic, Vanessa is a fascinating person and much of her charm comes from her enthusiasm of her work, she has an incredible amount of knowledge.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +3

      Thank you so much! I know it is a lot -- start with one cue at a time = )

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 года назад +1

      @@vanessavanedwards8014 I find it amazing how you don't just repeat same stories over and over again in different interviews. I can't even imagine how challenging this must be when you're promoting your book and have to talk about it over and over. Loved every moment of this interview 💕

  • @daryl5379
    @daryl5379 2 года назад +23

    I am 77yrs old. take no meds, played rugby for 20 yrs, worked in construction since I was 15yrs old, have no arthritis, sleep at least 8hrs a nite and sex at least 2 times a week. I never smoked, stopped drinking alcohol 40 yrs ago, have not had a coke, hamburger, mexican food or that type of rubbish in 50yrs.I go for my annual physical with these expensive doctors here in NB and they say, amazing, keep doing what you doing. But when I point out its all about diet and exercise they actually turn away, don't want to hear it. My contemporaries actually get very angry at me when i point out diet will help them but they would rather be sick and overweight with all their medications than be skinny and active like me. People say all the time, no way you almost 80, My apple watch said I walked 53 miles last month. Hope I don't sound egotistical, just want to point out diet and exercise are the answer at any age.

    • @DELERY2.0
      @DELERY2.0 10 месяцев назад

      A year ago. Oops. I just replied to you and my reply didn't even post connected to your comment lol
      Hope you're still out there! Keep walking! We're going to run into each other eventually LOL teehee cuz I'm a walker too .
      Gnite! Stay safe out there

    • @IB4UUB4ME
      @IB4UUB4ME 10 месяцев назад +1

      No matter what we do, we still die. However that is not normal and very soon now death will be no more and we will live like what our original purpose was from our Creator! What a great time that will be!!

    • @caspermoes6762
      @caspermoes6762 28 дней назад

      @@IB4UUB4MEmby

    • @shanashawl1024
      @shanashawl1024 16 дней назад

      You inspired me sir! 😮
      Great things in life like your health is really a product of discipline and consistency. Not that complicated .. but very hard to sustain.
      I guess it's never too late to regain and give honor to what's given to us as a gift. Our one life and one body. 😊 Man! I wanna be like you too.. Seems cool! Keep doing what you're doing ~

  • @johnhalcroft7283
    @johnhalcroft7283 2 года назад +9

    Thank-you Lewis & Vanessa for the great interview!! Love the quote "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care" Love it!!! Super Power

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @Eussenciall
    @Eussenciall 2 года назад +20

    I love everything about this episode, but MAINLY how she expresses her gratitude and acknowledgement to Lewis. The world would be such a better place if we could simply share how appreciative we are!

  • @littoy
    @littoy 2 года назад +52

    Really good. She actually advances the body language and charisma subjects.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +3

      Thank you thank you! I really wanted to deepen our knowledge of both.

  • @EveningTV
    @EveningTV 2 года назад +36

    Charisma is why narcissists are so successful. Dr. Ramani Durvusula says she goes running the other way when she sees a charismatic person. She likes the quiet people in the corner. Judging by my two marriages I'd say she is on to something. 💕

    • @slchance8839
      @slchance8839 2 года назад +1

      so people who watch this video, for self-improvement, and discipline themselves to become better....are now AVOIDED by Dr Durvusula? For getting better?
      interesting.

    • @Thenoobestgirl
      @Thenoobestgirl 2 года назад +2

      Maybe you should start running the other way yourself lol

  • @analaurar7202
    @analaurar7202 Год назад

    What a great combo and educational moment. My BF talks to me about gestures and I realized he got that corporal behavior on point. Loved this show

  • @lauraaqui
    @lauraaqui Год назад +1

    What i love about you Lewis is you always ask the great questions, which leads to a much more intriguing talk. the questions are just as interesting as the answers. Laura in uk

  • @sonjaglasklar7624
    @sonjaglasklar7624 2 года назад +52

    Vanessa is such a lovely and competent person. I am so happy Lewis you invited her again ❤😀 I am so glad to have the opportunity to listen to your highly insightful talk. I learn so much from it. Thank you so much!!! I 'd be so happy to meet you one day insha'Allah

  • @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
    @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD 2 года назад +60

    I don’t know what it is Vanessa, but whenever I listen to you just resets my nervous system to calm and content. Thx Lewis for this amazing platform.🙏🏽

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +2

      Happy to hear this :)

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 года назад +3

      Thank you so much 🥰

    • @VG-qu3vb
      @VG-qu3vb 2 года назад +5

      Yesss there’s something so authentic about her

  • @katt9208
    @katt9208 Год назад +2

    Great reference to Dr. Ramani. She says often that she just doesn’t trust charismatic people because in her experience, they are almost always insincere and narcissistic. I’ve been told that I have good presence…and I strive for that balance of warmth and competence…but I am trying to make others comfortable and not necessarily to advance my own agenda. So respecting Dr. Ramani as I do, I’ve really been questioning this approach. Should I not be striving for charisma, but just for an appropriate level of warmth? But being a (small) woman in a logical male field, I worry about being “too warm.” I have been told, too, by other women and even warmer men, that I am too expressive and personal and “hand-gesturey.” I am concerned about being perceived as too smooth and manipulative or as “outside of my integrity.”

  • @bigdogmack8692
    @bigdogmack8692 Год назад +29

    Hey Lewis your content is better than a college can ever teach. I listen to these podcasts and walk away with knowledge wisdom and an overall well-being. I'm so happy that I found this channel. I have recommended it to others and they all say the same thing. They say wow why isn't this taught in high schools why isn't this taught in colleges it's amazing I want to thank you for bringing this content to the masses. Keep doing what you are doing it is awesome.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.

  • @steveg3940
    @steveg3940 2 года назад +6

    Idk about everyone else but I love this chick, I’m so fascinated with her research and expert knowledge on these topics. She’s so interesting and I love the passion you can see on her face.. 😍

  • @19daniellegut
    @19daniellegut 2 года назад +12

    She has to be one of the most charming, engaging, insightful & beautiful individuals on the planet. Her smile can light up the universe. Her husband is so blessed… he won the lottery when she agreed to marry him!

  • @michaeleccher4068
    @michaeleccher4068 9 месяцев назад

    She is so Beautiful, her in enthusiasm is very contagious. Excellent video, thank you.

  • @scottfromsouthcarolina3185
    @scottfromsouthcarolina3185 7 месяцев назад +1

    I read that Trial Lawyers study voice techniques, cadence, tone to have a hypnotic effect on the jury. They like to start questions with "Isn't it True that you did X and Y.

  • @ambersnow9601
    @ambersnow9601 2 года назад +28

    I love listening to Vanessa - she’s so charismatic,both warm and competent Thank you for this great video.

  • @wanasong5611
    @wanasong5611 2 года назад +17

    Beautiful Interview. One of the BEST 'Take Aways' for me was a WONDERFUL REMINDER.
    When WE receive A QUE from another... Wether it be Verbal, or subtle Body Language.... The KEY TO TRUE DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATION is in ASKING OURSELVES: I See, Hear, and or FEEL that.... Now ' How can I HONOR IT' ? 😘💖🙏🌎✌🏼

    • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
      @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 2 года назад +2

      Most of society is based around supporting the negative EGO... rather than being spiritual...all kinds of selfishness... negative synergy/darkside...😰😰

    • @VessiTessi
      @VessiTessi 2 года назад +1

      Beautifully said!❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +1

      Yes yes yes! You got it!

  • @frankG335
    @frankG335 Год назад +2

    When I took exams in college, I would think in terms of mastering the material and winning the top grade, rocking the class, LOVING the material, feeling like I won the prize just by being able to go to this college and study what I had ALWAYS wanted to do all my life.
    I saw exams as a joy. I rewarded myself instantly by first answering all the ones where I knew the answers. That got my confidence racing.
    Once all those were done, I did the ones I wasn't sure about.
    It always worked.

  • @Jeh06
    @Jeh06 Год назад +5

    Vanessa teaches actually useful tips we can put into practice to achieve charisma. She opens up a door for us and makes our goals tangible. It was a pleasure watching this video.

  • @Forgiveness55
    @Forgiveness55 2 года назад +10

    Thank you Lewis. I am grateful for you and the amazing guests you bring to the masses. I learn soo much about emotional intelligence and how to be a better human being.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @missdaisydoodle
    @missdaisydoodle 2 года назад +3

    So much of this changes when in international conversations. Culture must be considered.

  • @josuecastrog8456
    @josuecastrog8456 Год назад +5

    Vannesa is so energetic, I am really want to know more

  • @chrismaki5456
    @chrismaki5456 3 месяца назад +1

    I enjoy being at the stage of my life (late twenties) where I can truly listen to discussions like this, still liking the speaker, while being actively conscious of the statements I disagree with.

  • @louisatate5879
    @louisatate5879 2 года назад +8

    I found this interview full of easily accessible & impactful information. Giving examples of each idea physically and verbally was so helpful and fun to watch. Thank you for shining your light to illuminate the darkness and for helping others to shine theirs.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 года назад +1

      Thank you!

  • @Maxhindle
    @Maxhindle 2 года назад +59

    Confidence is saying I am amazing… but not better than another, I recommend looking in the mirror daily until you can truly say you are amazing without ego 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️

    • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
      @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 2 года назад

      Don't be afraid of being honest about who and what you are...🥳🥳

    • @Laivinski
      @Laivinski 2 года назад

      @@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 So true.

    • @candiceberg5232
      @candiceberg5232 2 года назад

      Perfectly worded

    • @sonnylisten8131
      @sonnylisten8131 2 года назад +1

      But I am BETTER than you all😀😀

    • @sonnylisten8131
      @sonnylisten8131 2 года назад

      @Brittany Carnes Then you must not be that good at it😀✌

  • @bitarezaee6152
    @bitarezaee6152 Год назад

    There is so much to unpack from this conversation! Wow. I have to listen to this one more time...

  • @priscilagonzalez3273
    @priscilagonzalez3273 10 месяцев назад +4

    She talks with so much excitement I love it

  • @LizzoBlizzo
    @LizzoBlizzo 2 года назад +74

    This was lovely and powerful! Loved Vanessa’s response on handling toxic people in a work environment that response was magnificent!!! 💥💥💥

  • @KimGonzalez-kt8uh
    @KimGonzalez-kt8uh Год назад +51

    Is it just me or am I sensing some good chemistry between these two?!

    • @nadiavance3777
      @nadiavance3777 Год назад +12

      Hahah his gaze!! Definitely! Seems really into her

    • @rovalq1
      @rovalq1 Год назад +2

      @Nadia Vance and obviously she is noting his mesmerised 👀

    • @nadiavance3777
      @nadiavance3777 Год назад +2

      @@rovalq1 maybe this is how charismatic people look like? Mesmerized, both haha

    • @XxDarkRaverxX
      @XxDarkRaverxX Год назад +2

      She is married

    • @vanessajones3041
      @vanessajones3041 Год назад

      off the charts

  • @ganymeade5151
    @ganymeade5151 8 месяцев назад +1

    See, spot, disengage is great advice for more understanding, less social anxiety, and more self confidence and empowerment.

  • @okitopie
    @okitopie Год назад

    My favourite episode/interview was absolutely joyfully, and I learn so much! Thank you Mr Lewies and Vanessa Van Edwards

  • @tinaclayson4791
    @tinaclayson4791 2 года назад +15

    So so powerful 💗 I absolutely love Vanessa’s enthusiasm. Lewis, you are the best person to interview her, you have fantastic nonverbal cues and are a great example of charisma and power. I’m excited to read this new book. Thank you both for what you are putting into the world.

  • @mamoako1521
    @mamoako1521 Год назад +3

    35:57 Mutual Connection is highly competent (37:58 Amazing Life Changing Quote)

  • @ciao2315
    @ciao2315 5 месяцев назад +1

    I could listen to Vanessa all day! She’s such an inspiration! Thanks for this conversation Lewis ❤

  • @irina.mio.
    @irina.mio. 2 года назад +7

    You guys made me cry by the end! Gratitude is powerful! ❤️ Great interview, thank you so much, I appreciate you! 🙏🏼

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @daytripper3601
      @daytripper3601 2 года назад +1

      I just got done saying the same thing!! That was an Awesome way to wrap it up! Nice to see you thought so too!!

  • @christianpayaalonso1264
    @christianpayaalonso1264 2 года назад +3

    I think the way she's describing labeling emotions to disengage is a way of bypassing/numbing the pain. I personally find it's healthier to allow the discomfort to move through you without trying to get rid of it so quickly. It depends on the situation of course: if I'm in an emergency where I need to keep a clear head, doing what she describes can be really helpful.

  • @davidknickerbocker5134
    @davidknickerbocker5134 8 месяцев назад +5

    It was perfect timing for me to come across such an informative and inspiring video. I’m gathering a new group of creatives who I picked based on their positive moral character. Your insight and research on effective communication will be extremely helpful in my goals with this group. Thank you!

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 7 месяцев назад

      Yay! I'm so happy to hear that ❤

  • @carisamartin4226
    @carisamartin4226 Месяц назад

    I'm inspired and so proud of your will, and your words. You are a beacon of hope my girl ❤

  • @animefigurejunkie
    @animefigurejunkie 2 года назад +10

    This is phenomenal. I have severe trauma and OCD, and I think this may be a tiny step in getting my life back. I am OBSESSED with social cues. They can destroy me.

  • @sherryripepi6024
    @sherryripepi6024 2 года назад +11

    Knowledge is power, understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video on the different cues of charisma. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Charismatic leaders utilize a wide range of nonverbal warmth and likeability cues. They display genuine smiles, maintain positive eye contact, use a variety of gestures, orient their torsos toward those with whom they are engaging, touch others during conversations, and so forth.

  • @elizabethprovida1115
    @elizabethprovida1115 7 дней назад

    Shes walking her talk! Thanks Lewis for having her❤❤❤.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  7 дней назад

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @tabone888
    @tabone888 Год назад +3

    Confidence is the belief in yourself and preparation.
    The more you practice the more confident you become.

  • @blueplanet8750
    @blueplanet8750 2 года назад +156

    Hey Lewis (Hand wave, Full Face Smile) Lots of Gems in this interview. She says she is an introvert, but what comes through is nothing short of explosive charisma and confidence. Obviously practicing EVERYTHING that she preaches - total alignment. - Kudos Wil be reviewing the Transcript as well. Great job bringing her back to the Shark Tank Research findings, love your focus.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +2

      Thank you so much 🙂

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 Год назад +1

      Oprah says she too is an introvert. Go figure.

    • @youngraymond9293
      @youngraymond9293 Год назад +2

      I was a complete introvert. I learned to be an extrovert, it might be the same with Vanessa Van Edwards, she learned and adopted and practiced being more confident.

    • @DiscoveryWonders
      @DiscoveryWonders Год назад +6

      Charisma and being introvert are two separate and independent -not related things. you can be a confident and a charismatic introvert. Or an ambiverted introvert. In that sense. You can also be an insecure overwhelmed with anxiety extrovert.

    • @richmondballer20
      @richmondballer20 Год назад +2

      @@DiscoveryWondersthank you! It baffles me how people think introverted means you can’t be charismatic.

  • @davids3388
    @davids3388 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for this podcast. I found the things you and Ms Van Edwards were discussing to be so interesting that I hopped on an online bookseller and purchased her cues book during the video. As a fellow introvert (an oblivious INTJ), many of the things she said resonated with me. I also saw myself in a few of the negative phrases and cues she was describing. I can't wait to read the book.

  • @Iam_ramankaur
    @Iam_ramankaur Год назад

    her each and every information is so valuable and useful ! she is amazing

  • @carolgates5297
    @carolgates5297 Год назад +1

    The slightest opportunity to go into anger and then the quickness with which they intend to apologize indicates all I need to know.
    An opportunity to see their ability to exercise responsibility and respect for their effects on others.

  • @paradisecolors
    @paradisecolors 2 года назад +16

    Lewis Howes, I find your vides really really helpful. I have studied psychology, and I always learn so much new and interesting content from watching your interviews :) Thank you

    • @mecsonreuben
      @mecsonreuben 2 года назад

      FALL ASLEEP in a minute like baby after eating this get a nice sleeping and mind relaxation 👉ruclips.net/video/8wX2Q4TcFbY/видео.html

  • @joujou7052
    @joujou7052 2 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for introducing VV Edwards to us. This was such an impactful and informative interview. She is AMAZING. This is truly life changing and will make such a profound impact on my career and how I show up in the world. It will help me expand my level of self awareness and help me improve my social confidence of warmth and competence 😊 This is a game changer!
    Thank you for also investing in her by being supportive, encouraging, and motivating her to share her gift in the space of YT with us🙏🏾

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @Gigi.973
    @Gigi.973 2 месяца назад

    I cant get over how much i enjoy her enthusiasm for her work ❤

  • @zealorimkey8076
    @zealorimkey8076 Год назад

    there's so much information per square minute, that I keep having to stop the video and reflect on what she just said because she keeps blowing my mind. Incredible interview! Wow!

  • @DianneOrwig333
    @DianneOrwig333 2 года назад +27

    In all her brilliance, it’s hard to pick a favorite moment, but for me the true highlight of the interview is when Vanessa addresses the “question inflection,” something that has driven me crazy for such a long time, but I never really understood why until now. So insightful…I love this interview!

  • @debbieknight1224
    @debbieknight1224 2 года назад +47

    I loved Vanessa and Lewis' interaction! They have a lot of chemistry and can really delve into the topics with examples. Great job!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

    • @tanixatanixa
      @tanixatanixa 10 месяцев назад +2

      Oh yeeeah! I was looking for this comment, the chemistry creates a different kind of synergy here, so beautiful

  • @user-nt8ih7qq6t
    @user-nt8ih7qq6t 6 месяцев назад +17

    What a great podcast that was! I am an introvert and work in communication. I was literally taking notes, along. Thank you Lewis, thank you Vanessa ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  6 месяцев назад +2

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 4 месяца назад

      You’re so welcome ❤ Thank you for watching!

  • @teenguyen4124
    @teenguyen4124 9 месяцев назад +1

    I have listened to many videos of all kinds of things and I hv to say this is the most important and powerful video I hv ever seen/listened to. I hv forwarded this video to so many people. Everything about this video is amazing. Just hearing Vanessa’s voice is a joy. You can feel in her voice that she’s upbeat and happy since u feel ever cue we send out. Body language does not lie. The only thing about this video I don’t agree on is it’s very easy to detect a narcissist bc the truth will always come out. There are many signs coming out from a liar…no one can keep up with lies long term.

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 8 месяцев назад

      Amazing ♥ Thank you for your kind words!

  • @jaredocampo3707
    @jaredocampo3707 2 года назад +3

    True, it happens with me during interview. The moment I enter the room, I saw different kinds of social rejections and I can't conttol my emotions and black out.

  • @brieocea
    @brieocea 2 года назад +15

    so excited for our kids to start learning this stuff in school 🙌🏼

  • @joeldanford8817
    @joeldanford8817 4 месяца назад

    So much value in this interview and all your interviews Lewis. Thank-YOU for constantly showing up!

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 4 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching ❤ So glad you found it helpful!

  • @devorahplanell8625
    @devorahplanell8625 Год назад

    Thank you so much 😭😭😭😭😭 I say to myself I can't talk without moving and doing gestures with my Hands. I feel so good like being yourself out there 😌. Thank you both so much.

  • @able5777
    @able5777 2 года назад +21

    What fantastic, easy-to-understand, clearly communicated insights. She is amazing. And Lewis I love how, in your interviews in general, you always make sure to ask questions to make sure that you - and the audience at the same time - understand what the guest is saying. It's rare that I watch a video and really feel like I'm easily going to implement the lessons in my daily life, but that's how I feel with this one. I am only a fraction of the way through and am already amazed. Thank you!

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 Год назад +3

    The trick to being charismatic... like everything... is to ASK for it... "Ask and ye shall receive..."😇😇

  • @DCayce
    @DCayce 8 месяцев назад +1

    Sincerity is everything… once you can fake that, you’ve got it made.

  • @missnurseeri
    @missnurseeri Год назад

    I have used this these tips to speak with patients and it really does work. I want my patients to be at ease. Especially since everyone seems so in edge these days.