Why People Don't Get Inkwells
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The misapphrension of the inkwell phenomenon is not unique to inkwells but rather part of a broader trend and feature of human beings being stuck in their own heads and limited in their ability to perceive things beyond their own experience. This is particularly pernicious when it comes Inkwells because the category they are in affords them virtually every disadvantage possible when looking at them from the outside but as stated, this is not unique to inkwells and cuts across every facette of human existence.
I knew a guy in college who had a heavy lisp. He was a good 8/10. Women loved him, said his lisp was so cute.
Met a 4 with a heavy lisp. Women recoil and have to contain their laughter when he talks to them.
Halo effect is brutal
I knew someone who was below average height and who had a lisp, they took their life
Yes, people have a more positive reaction towards attractive individuals, it's crazy how many people have been brainwashed to think otherwise, when it's so evident in every facet of life.
The fact we had to create a "theory" to explain this is insane to me, it's gaslighting on a macro-scale in order to protect individual egos.
This is where RehabRoom would then start talking about how this effects the employability and incomes of both of these men based on the workplace now being filled with women. That's where I think something need to be changed in the overall social contract, otherwise we're going right back to natural eugenics as a basis for any right to status or recognition of competence.
@carbon1479 that’s how it always was going to go. You can only “beat” nature for so long.
Mike Tyson
I'm not stuck in my head. I was put in my own head from years of negative reinforcement
This comment hurt
So it's someone else's fault
@@theoneandonly7063 Perception is reality; have as much confirmation bias as you want; it's the easy way out
I was forced to go into my head as coping defence mechanism based on treatment from the outside world.
@@theoneandonly7063 At what point do we blame ourselves for others actions? That doesn't make sense.
"Just focus on sleeping more bruh, insomnia is bad for you"
Great “Green Day” album & TV show
But actually.
incels just need to touch grass = insomniacs just need to sleep
Just sleepmax, bruh.
I mean, sleep is important.
I struggle to sleep but I am unemployed so I get about 10 hours a day minimal. I love laying in bed, and it helps that I can afford to.
Also the reason why everyone hates inkwells is because anybody who is ugly, poor or stupid, constantly shines a mirror of potentiality on them, telling: "this is how you could've ended up too, had the universe decided so. and there is nothing you can do to get out of it". People simply don't want to be reminded of the harsh reality.
Yea its a reminder of determinism
The black pill is one of the few places people have the balls to admire genetic determinism.
Many generic leftists: Noooo! You can't just say people aren't unlimited blank slates.
Many generic right leaning people: If you are poor, you just have crappy work ethic and won't pull your bootstraps hard enough.
yeah you watched his other video about it
Just like some people don't like very old people because it reminds them thier going to die.
It's true that smart people have a brain blind spot of assuming others are as equally talented. Friedrich Gauss, perhaps the greatest mathematician of all time, was quoted saying that the reason for his perceived genius was because he spent more time on problems than other people. That's from a guy that solved a 1500 years old problem in mathematics at the age of 15.
General factor intelligence does exist and is significantly heritable. However, Gauss existed in a largely homogenous society where he was talking about his own folk having potential. Universalism is a modern anachronism.
I have the issue of assuming that everybody views the world from my moral and ethical perspective. Their moral compass is not based on what is right or wrong, it is based more on how it makes them feel. People with lower self-esteem, in my experience, have lower standards of what counts as moral and immoral. Where as I feel like my standards are common sense, there are a lot of people who would disagree.
One of the most shocking thing is that people view being "nice" to other people as being a good person. I view it as being socially manipulative, and not actively doing something physically constructive. Most people want to be seen sounding good, but are not really interested in doing good acts.
I was just talking about this yesterday…so many RUclipsrs suffer from this, especially the mathematically inclined ex-financial advisors etc
God knows that I've had that blind spot for most of my life.
I still see it manifesting in my own thinking, even today.
@@toxicmale2264 "I have the issue of assuming that everybody views the world from my moral and ethical perspective. Their moral compass is not based on what is right or wrong, it is based more on how it makes them feel. People with lower self-esteem, in my experience, have lower standards of what counts as moral and immoral. Where as I feel like my standards are common sense, there are a lot of people who would disagree. "
My response. Given that morals and ethics are learned and not innate it is obvious to me that people do not share the same morals. One of the main benefits of reading John Locke is that I've come away with an understanding that the knowledge and beliefs that people hold are learned and are not inscribed from birth. Therefore every skill, ability, knowledge that another person wields is learned. There are no such thing as naturals. People do not know algebra from birth and I would say poppycock to anyone who would dispute this. In fact knowledge from birth is exceptionally limited.
That said, some people may have an easier time learning things. But having an easier time is not the same thing as knowing mathematics from birth.
The satiated does not believe the hungry.
Agreed
When people say "Relationships aren't everything" or "Getting a girlfriend won't magically make you happy" I always picture a morbidly obese westerner walking up to some starving child in a war-torn third world country, and - while stuffing his fat face with a full McDonald's Menu - telling the child "Meh, food's kinda mid"
"I must be doing something right to be winning, they must be doing something wrong and as the winner, I have the authority to decide, judge and criticize the loser"
The best chef is an empty stomach.
@@NickGreiner1988Superiority Complex.
Agreed with the overall message. Francis bacon calls it the idol of the cave. For those who genuinely don't get it. I also believe there is a group of people who are just too scared to get labeled. Even if they understand more than they let on.
Regarding O'pry, it's a possibility for sure. That he just can't wrap his head around it cos that's all he's known. But I personally don't believe it. He just doesn't seem genuine to me, he lied about not knowing about m.o.g etc etc
Agreed, especially when alot of these bp slang started getting mainstream on tiktok by Gen Alpha kids, Im sure he or his manager had to look up what that word meant at some point to ease the confusion.
Stop being so pessimistic. Just stop a bully and you will get Sean O'pry treatment.
Happy to see u here ily bro 😍😅big fan of ur videos
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@@TheSilentWand3r😂
admitting to inkwells problems,
is admitting to your own privilege,
nobody wants to do that
I can do that. I’ve been deep diving into this stuff lately, it’s made me rethink my entire life and come to the humbling realization I got lucky
I love those arguing against "giving up", that "you should work harder!" that are trying to "cheer you up", and they say "Look, you have possibilities, it's not like you're 5'4".
I'm 5'4".
Well, what do you want? Chances are it requires a lot of money.
Wife and kids? Money, fitness, going overseas, and staying there.
Just kids? Surrogacy, which requires money.
A loving relationship? Get a dog.
A loving relationship with a flesh and blood human female? Try the fiction section.
My favorite part of the "I know it's difficult, but you can't just give up!" argument is how often I hear it from someone for whom I'm simultaneously correcting an issue that they've given up on because it's too difficult for them.
the "tryharder bros" and "dontgiveup tards" are also the first to shit on you when you will inevitably fail, one more of these pep platitude that piss me off is "if i can do it, you can too".
Poor lil feller…
I can imagine those kinds of people working as a teacher or a school coach. They're just there screaming at the kids, "YOU'RE A LOSER, YOU AINT SHIT". lmao @@outrunracer82
I just got done watching Morgoth's "the hatchling" video about liberals and I realized it perfectly describes why people don't get inkwells. I used to call this concept "pretending not to understand" but "the hatchling" is an even better descriptor. It's as if they hatched from an egg 5 minutes ago with no prior knowledge of history, humanity, how people and groups interact with each other, or how anything works at all. You are then tasked with explaining everything to them while they pretend not to understand. It's exhausting, and they end up simply wearing you down over time until you no longer have any will to continue indulging them. Then they claim victory.
That's a perfect name for them. I listened to the video after reading your comment now I'm off to see if he did videos on the other archetypes.
Morgoth is a gem.
Most of your issues are emotional. I cannot control how you feel. I can sympathize with your suffering, but ultimately, I cannot understand why it matters to you. When it comes to emotional issues, most are chains that you have self-inflicted around your life. So you cannot do certain things, but does that mean that you can't do something else? It is a down spiral of self-pitying, and I cannot help you feel better when that is only something you can do for yourself. Being reasonable and delusional are concepts that most people struggle with. If you are not meant to be something, why do you torment yourself for that? Why not seeking something else that you can do?
That describes my mother-in-law perfectly.
@@stevehaney344 We already have a word for that behaviour. It's called being disingenuous.
Ignorance is bliss and just a cope for most people that don't care about the rest ,it's all a gynocentric way of perceiving things
Yes, life isn't fair and people are not actually equal.
so true. Unfortunately, most guys are, and will be invisible most of their lives. Most women in the contrary have their "5 minutes" on the main stage.
Hey there is someone here that actually gets it!
That’s exactly right, whilst all people should be treated equally, unfortunately we were not created equally.
@@masteryoda498 not sure that is doable. If we are not equals which we are not why should we be treated as equals, I think the word that suits the ideal better is being treated fairly and justly, as that has nothing to do with the concept of equal and it addresses things more individually which is proper.
Equalitarianism is the most dangerous idea ever invented in human history. We are equal only before a higher power ( if you believe in such) and before the law( on paper anyway).
My own body is a prison, I am stuck in a cell.
Someone called it "being born in a genetic prison," and I quite liked that metaphor
@@FellTreeZ We are all victims of our own genetics. Not just our looks, our Strengths and weaknesses, our propensity for monetary success, criminality, social quirks, charisma, mannerisms and tism....all decided at birth.
It was never over for some of us, it was never _meant_ to start.
@@MDE_never_diesexactly incel=in a cel. The confines of the meat suit you never chose
I like song "My body is a cage".
@@MDE_never_dies I think we are born of people that WERE able to compete in the days before social media. You used to just have to be good enough to compete in your town, not on the world stage.
We WERE meant to start, but in the previous world, not the current one.
It seems like when people just tell you that ‘you need to improve your personality’ or ‘you need to act more excited’, it’s really just them subconsciously gaslighting you, so that they don’t seem like the bad guy. Like a knee jerk reaction. They don’t want to know what it’s like for an inkwell and they will do mental acrobatics to avoid it. No. You’re the bad guy. You need to… act more cheerful!
a sense of humor and talking fast is an adaptation for less attractive men. make use of these adaptations, if you can.
@@snowcloudshinobii don’t believe in jestermaxxing or sperging out, especially for normies. I don’t have to entertain anyone
For a lot of people, sex and relationships are common to the point where the majority of them don't imagine a world where they can't achieve them. If we put things like autism aside, then the problem with many of these guys (myself included) is due to a lack of good looks. It's not a warm fuzzy feeling to recognize that looks determine a lot in life, and if you lack those looks, including height as a man you will have demonstrable differences in your experience trying to date than the average guy. Again, we are putting things like autism aside and assuming that the guy is neurotypical.
Until it happens to them, a lot of people don't and won't care about something, and our experiences are individualized. My mind and experiences are different than what you have. For some people, sex just isn't a big deal - and I think a lot of these other guys see it as them being left out of something that many others can achieve for reasons out of their control. You can change your weight, you can change the clothes you wear, get a haircut, etc but usually you cannot change height or basic genetics that make up your appearance. You can make more money, you can try to gain a wide range of knowledge to use in conversation, but you can't change height or basic looks. Being judged by what you can't change stings because you're perpetually stuck hitting the same wall. It's also a lot easier for someone to say sex doesn't matter when they have had plenty of it. The lack of sex and the feeling of being forced to go without something common based on things they cannot control surely makes it lonely and unpleasant. Most people will never be billionaires or famous and they accept that as things that happen to only a few people comparatively to the rest of the world. But this is not a billion dollars, rather these men feel denied a common and frankly one of the best human experiences. Most of these guys know that women don't owe them sex, which is contrary to the common argument against them.
What I would say to critics is that I didn't get to pick how tall I am or my basic appearance, so it's not my fault I'm undesirable. Being short and ugly wasn't my choice - hence the involuntary aspect of incel. Even when I max out everything else, I'm never going to be more than a 5 or 6/10. This is problematic when you have to compete with guys who start the game as a 7/10.
It's sad that it makes me feel better about my situation, but statistically a lot more men are not having regular sex. A man who can't get sex used to be a bit of an anomaly, now while not the majority (yet) it is far from uncommon.
yeah, learning that every girl in high school already had experiences was a wake-up call for me. suddenly the divorce rate makes so much sense! no hymen, no diamond.
@@snowcloudshinobi Passport up brother. Time to leave western society
Seeing external environment being hostile towards you isn't in your head, it is objective truth
Totally missed the point of the video.
the hostile external environement of single mom drainign men dry prefer not being seen, cause the need good mens with big wallet
@@thinking-ape6483 just cause when you leave comments on a video that has to do with overall summary of the video. Doesnt mean everyone does. Some people just comment off a single statement you made.
right on@@bhutehole
@@bhutehole Exactly. The phenomenon of some individual statement being so egregiously wrong (among an otherwise reasonable discussion) can often be the most worthy of discussion. Like the concept of "the fatal flaw" or "the turd in the punchbowl".
I cannot believe they hit you with the vicarious "just learn to code lmao". Absolutely insane.
Yeah it's not like you need to be smart and intelligent to be a good programmer or computer scientist lol as if every person has that gift. Even most normies and Chads are too dumb for that shit.
This world is Hell for most of Humanity and the lucky few to whom the world is Heaven are convinced that all of us all wrong.
I will make a Heaven out of my Hell.
This world is a prison. The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing everyone that he is god. Every religion that has ever been popular worships the devil who made this world. Only entity that is even remotely possibly good is Jesus but most people misunderstand him. The reason he forgives all sins is cause he understands we are pieces of consciousness trapped in flesh which inherently predisposes us to deterministic fractalization of genetics interracting with fated environments, which is why it would be better had we never been born in this world. We existed before this and some will exist after it's all over but we must seek salvation in order to avoid the false light of samsara
@@mirceazaharia2094 I will cause HELL to chads and normies
Invisible at the best of times, feared and despised at the worst. Those are the parameters of our lives.
I’m a type 1 diabetic and Indian. Where you are now you can’t even imagine what the bottom will be like.
I mean, can you even consider that guy intelligent anymore, if he said such a stupid thing as "poor people should just learn to code bro"
reminds me of the phd recipient scoring the lowest in a group on an iq test
I think people understand them they just don’t care and intuitively understand that it pacifies them more to lie to them than it does to tell them the truth
People in general are naive and selfish when it comes to human nature. People in general are not concerned with who you are as a person, they just want to extract some kind of value to make their own lives better. If you are not interested in offering people something more, then stop torturing yourself. People only want what they can get out of you. People are overestimating human beings.
The suggestion for homeless people to learn IT skills or learn to code reminds me of the SpongeBob episode where a giant worm was going to attack the city so Patrick suggested taking the city and pushing it somewhere else.
Highly intelligent people are paradoxically some of the biggest dumbasses walking the planet.
@@lol69203 That's because intelligence and wisdom are different things - not all intelligent people are wise.
Your patient observational and descriptive approach to understand the world is the most rewarding and beneficial part of the Manosphere. I always look forward to your new ideas or observations, and trust you as a reliable observer in today's unreliable world. Your approach is sound and appreciated. A real gem.
"Inkwell" is an alteration of the term "incel" for anyone is unfamiliar, as most people should be. Most people IRL, at least in the geriatric community where I live, would not know what "incel" itself means. I hate the area where I live.
Bruh, sleep is easy. You gotta try this blah blah blah
have you tried closing your eyes
You just gotta go to bed breh
You did? And? Well, try closing them harder next time!
If you did all that stuff, you just did not believe in yourself enough.
'to understand all is to forgive all'
I’m 5’9” and went from being 250lbs to 150lbs over the course of a few years. I can 100% tell the difference in the way that people react to me now. But you also have to consider all the confidence that I carry with me these days, as opposed to when I was overweight. Strangers try to talk to me all the time now just out of the blue, men and women both. It’s definitely an eye-opener
Noticed the same thing. It's disheartening. I've seen how these people will treat a person when they don't meet certain standards. Now, it's important to be fit and healthy for the sheer sake of it, so people's reactions to being fit isn't necessarily a bad thing. However, when you know the people speaking to you now wouldn't even have given you the time of day during the part of your life when you were fighting for the change, when you were down on your luck and struggling to earn that change, it makes you see them kind of like gold diggers.
Oh sure, babe, you're eyeballing me now, but the me from 3 years ago is still here. Would you have been here right now twiddling your hair if I was making less money? If I weighed 20 lbs more?
I get it, people are attracted when you've put the work in and built your confidence, but it doesn't matter to them that the work it took to get there was spawned from people like them treating men as lesser when they are at a point in life where they haven't achieved their dreams.
Ladies will flock to you when you've "earned" that, because women do not care about the real you, they only care about your status. They'll never be there for you when you're a work in progress, when you're trying to improve your circumstances but you just want someone to care.
The irony is that they'll never be more attracted to you than when you've made yourself into the kind of self-sufficient, personally content man that no longer has any need for their love.
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@@OckhamAsylum its why anyone who virtue signals is utter garbage. They lack complete understanding of reality, and/or are a liar seeking good boy/girl points.
It’s because people trust people who are in shape because they can actually function normally and get things done.
Unhealthy people reflect poorly on themselves and on others. I try to have a clean cut appearance, despite my long hair and scruffy beard. I do not want to be seen with drug addicts, the tattooed, the promiscuous, the broke, overweight, the lazy, etc. Overweight people have the stereotype to overcome of being lazy, depressed, and unpleasant to be around. If I was with such a person, it would reflect poorly on me from a social perspective. You would also reflect poorly on whoever you associated with.
The company I keep is more important to me than people's opinion of me being alone. Unhealthy people are like something depressing to be around, and repulsive to interact with. People always want to be around people who are their level or higher. Being around someone who is doing worse than you, there is a chance that you could fall to that level. So you shun people who are doing worse than you.
In my case, I would rather be alone than be seen around people who are doing worse than me.
“Consciousness is much more than the thorn, it is the dagger in the flesh.” - Emil Cioran. The Trouble With Being Born (1976).
As a conational of his, I cannot believe I have not read his work.
I should be ashamed and remedy that ASAP.
Damn - this is literally something I have been thinking of recently.
Noticed how "Invisible" I am. Having a good job, making decent money, hobbies, with good body - still something missing. I recently realised that my average face and height literally made me invisible to women.
@@mirceazaharia2094 His works accessible because they are mainly aphoristic but he's a very BP, pessimistic, doomer philosopher. A NEET legend. One must have undergone a lot of suffering like him to be able to understand him. Read at your own risk.
i went from being 5'9" 250 lbs around high school to around 175lbs with a glow up in my late 20's. I lost respect for the general masses so much because of how differently treated i was, and not just by women. by "friends", i received a promotion at work, i had taken women lying to their boyfriends to shoot their shot with me. It was quite an eye opener to the true nature of things when i had always assumed the best in people. i tend to assume the worse in people now and i'm usually closer to the mark.
Hey that’s good now think are there good people yes but now that world view has shattered the people your around are not the people who you can trust yes see the worst in people but see the good as well it’s like advantages and disadvantages with every person they either enhance what you have your debuff you and can eventually buff you it’s all about the people your around because i don’t have this problem and I’m not that attractive with this patchy bear of mine I’m tall 6”4 but like skinny as shit still can talk to girls like it’s nothing and I simply just tell the boyfriends their girl a disloyal person simple call them out that’s all
Good some people can see this, even being on the other side of attractiveness spectrum. The life of an average men in this world is a tragedy. Being short or bad-looking - you live in horror mode unfortunately
I'm 5'5 112 lbs
Never forget that you are human too. Love your wretched neighbours with all your wretched heart
I sometimes wished I lived in the middle ages
royalty, knights, priests, scientists, commons and beggars
although there were plenty of jesters in the alleyway's
there wasn't much confusion about where you belonged
@@JesterMax24
"A little pain never hurt anyone!"
THEY SIMPLY DON'T CARE.
Ape, I've been an insomniac my whole life. I've never found a solution but I did find a crutch to help a little. Farley Mowat wrote a book,"Never cry wolf." In it he observed that the wolves he was watching would always spin around three times before laying down to sleep. I have developed a pattern of positions in bed that I follow in a slow rhythm each night. It takes about ten minutes. At the end I accept my fate and release my mind to daydream. It is subjective but I feel it has a helped now and then. Love your stuff, by the way.
I've never had a problem falling asleep generally, although we all have a few nights we struggle to get to sleep. I don't have a physical routine, but I actively daydream in a way that I forget about the real world stress and anxiety. I normally just put myself in the classic underdog, but is actually the chosen one, fantasy/scifi/superhero movie, type daydream. Basically, you don't want to think about real life. Fight dragons in your head at night to help you get to bed alright.
@@jabbrewoki im too blackpilled to daydream like that before sleep. I used to do it a lot when i was young and inexperienced.
Another thing that might help those struggling with sleep is cutting on the constant stimulation from phones etc. just take it out as much as possible from your day to day.
@@Ravix0fFourHorn
Find a sort of ambient soundscape that relaxes you. Something on the order of maybe 2 hours.
Put it on. Allow yourself to relax. Relinquish control. Get comfortable. You MIGHT fall asleep.
Hey, it's something. I hope it helps. I wish you all the best.
usually i take my arms and tuck them between my legs for warmth, stretch my legs, kick my feet, and repeat. when i'm able to daydream it means that the sleep is near.
@@JesterMax24 I had this for years. Wandering around the house at 3am, wide awake. For me what fixed it was 1/4 piece of weed brownie. Not enough to get high...but enough to get me a consistent solid 7.
Took me a while to figure out what inkwells had to do with anything, then I realise its kind of like saying knee grow, I feel foolish now.
As for the subject, people seem to hate it when men give up on dating and remain single, even if you are an inkwell.
Depends on whether you're making a living. If you're single and making a living, people think you should be married.
I have one of these "no one understands" issues... I'm unemployed and haven't been able to get a job, for two decades now. Most people just say, "You're just not trying, just go down and get a job, take whatever you can get." Doesn't work like that, pal. I've been fired from a commission only job. My brother was fired from a miles only job driving a truck. I've applied for bottom of the barrel jobs and been turned down. I've applied for jobs that required scoring 99% on the LSAT (I did) and been turned down. It doesn't matter. Whatever it is that I'm doing wrong, it negates my ability to get hired no matter what job it is. I've applied for over a thousand jobs, been interviewed over a hundred times, by Walmart and small law firms, and didn't get hired once in the last twenty plus years. I'm sick and tired of trying to explain why I'm unemployed. "You're just not trying hard enough." F*** you.
how do you eat without a job?
Saved income maybe@@yagovmolotov5127
I just stopped drinking last week. I do try to see and understand other people's perspectives. What's sad is when you realize that some of these problems can't be resolved. Specifically with debilitating health issues.
Outstanding. I'm glad for you.
They can't understand that sometimes the only rational response to the circumstances of one's life IS misery and defeatism and not playing the game. It terrifies the average person to consider that some people exist to be burned as fuel for the self-love of others. May all beings find happiness.
Yes, touch grass, as if grass actually benefits all who touch it.
In the event any of you "ascend" or improve yourselves to the point that you find yourselves attracting women, I do have to warn you that it is really rough out there. If you are under the impression that you can have a "girlfriend", those don't exist anymore.
Started noticing this trend in women around 2003. The women I were dating were beginning to enjoy the no-strings-attached lifestyle, and monogamy was an outmoded practice. With one of these women, I asked her where we stood in the relationship, and she flat-out said, "Sure, I still date other of guys. This isn't the 1950s!" They didn't even advertise that it was going to be an open relationship, they didn't sneak around, it was just a given.
Having given up on women in 2010, I've heard this dynamic has gotten far worse. Coming home with your "girlfriend" and another guy isn't unheard of anymore. Or she just goes off with another guy mid-date. Point is, even if you satisfy your goal, don't expect her to stick around for long.
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"Inkwells" - first time I hear that name for them.
I was a bit confused for a bit (WTF are inkwells?) until the context clued me in, it's just a bit censorship avoidance.
@volentimehwhat does it meam
@@oranges557 other word for incels but you know youtube censorship or whatever
As a sub5 myself (probably sub4 in modern day terms by now I am in my late 40s) I always found (especially the last years) people to be constantly polemical , defiant and argumentative against me even for the smallest things. The only way they will respect you if you are sub4 or anything similar it's for you to be able to impose even enforce on them your will if you are able to do this through your status or skills that you might have.
Otherwise, they're constantly polemical as I said for no reason at all while "normal" people let alone good looking people have got totally different treatment even if they're making huge mistakes and unbelievable fouls.
Had I done these fouls and mistakes I would have paid a huge price.
Now that experience is impossible for someone who is outside to understand what I am going through on a daily basis as well as on the long run in life.
That's true.
I think men are more likely to understand, but less likely to concern themselves with the plight of inkwells. Too misery-making to dwell upon.
Women, who are incapable of empathy, seem to get genuinely mad at people whose plights they cannot recall from an experience in their own lives. They try to signal virtue when the reward is expedient, but they can be horribly callous and unhelpful when the challenge is actually difficult (if not impossible) to overcome.
I’m a normie+ but I understand inkwelldom as well as I can in a detached cognitive context. I also live the consequences of it. But I don’t know the expression on a stranger’s face when an uggo leaves his gaze on her for a moment too long. I imagine it’s demoralizing.
Yeah even when men locker room tease incels, deep down most can empathise.. because they felt it at periods in their lifes. But femoids and their solipsistic hypergamy can't tolerate any form of weakness. Weird to them is even getting less than 10 messages per day
As a woman I would like an example to what you consider a lack of empathy.
@@melchiorlise2466 Go Away.
@@melchiorlise2466women and men express empathy very differently, but hes coping if he thinks men have a moral high ground over women. Everyone, men and women, is an @sshole, no one feels any real empathy
Empathy requires you to have went throuh the same or similar experience
Let me break this down in simple terms being treated like a pest for years will obviously affect you in a negative way no one likes to be disrespected right?. Now imagine being treated like shit throughout most of your life It's pretty apparent to how someone can be damaged mentally and people will still try to argue against this it's insane.
I am 5’6.5” and is generally overall unattractive. In middle school I suddenly went from “cute” to “creep” with no stops in-between. The struggle is real.
My family have been trying to polish this turd and telling me to go out there and get a girlfriend. I remember when my mom told me “no woman will ever want to be with you” and yet she’s still trying to polish this turd.
You may not be able to polish a turd but you can throw glitter on it
You're not a "turd" bro, chill out.
People are shallow and basic, you don't have to base your own self worth on the opinion of literal monkeys.
There's someone out there for everyone mate. 7 billion people on the planet, someone will find you desirable. Keep your head up as best you can, even though it isn't easy.
Yo damn your mom did that to you damn ain’t no way bad mother right there just got some questions though I wanna see where your at.
1. How would you rate your social skills from a scale from 1-10
2. When was the last time you talked to a girl in a weekly basis
3. When was the last time you’ve had a relationship with a girl nonsexual sexual ?
4. How would you rate your confidence in the scale of 1-10
5. Have you started a skincare routine like a acne cream exfoliate
6. Have you done any research on styles of clothing or do you dress well
7. What is your weight ? Average body fat? Skinny fat fat skinny built what is your body type right now?
@splatterkat3838 1. Women find my very existence offensive
2. it is nature that women, no matter where on Earth, wouldn’t want their children to inherit my health problems and neither do.
Another good thoughtful video from you. Realizing the fact of self extrapolation is why people will always assume you are personally affected by a problem if you advocate for it or feeling strongly about it. I finally understand know why people are quick to make that assumption with a lot of confidence.
Very well done on this topic. My dad has a very high i.q and doesnt understand like in my case that im not mentally as intelligent as he is but i understand things in a different way. I mean for example we always argued about the best way to take care of my sick mom. I quit my job because my dad was working a 9 to 5 with over time just to keep our house. He never understood why i sacrificed my job to make sure my mom was happy during her last couple years. It wasnt until she passed and me and him got way closer that he actually saw my perspective and not his. Anyway me and my dad are like best friends now and respect each other which in the end is all my mom ever wanted.
I can relate to this. My dad and I see things very differently and I often have a hard time getting him to understand my own perspective simply because his life was so different than mine. Despite this, we have been working on improving our relationship which has been nice.
"He never understood why I sacrificed my job to make her last couple years happy." Holy autism. Had it not been for you, your mother's life would have been hell. It's a good thing then that you understand things differently to him. May she rest in peace.
@@someguy403 That's awesome to hear. My dad is not the most sentimental person in the world so it was hard to explain things to him at first but one day after a few beers at a random bar I just straight up let my heart out and he was shocked and kind of confused why I felt that way but he gets it now. Communication is everything in not just relationships but family as well. Im glad you and your father are getting closer.
@@johnfarley2365 Thanks, I'm glad to hear your relationship with your dad is getting better too. I think the relationship between a father and son is really important so I want to make an effort at strengthening it. And I agree with you, communication is vital for relationships to succeed. The closer you can be with someone, the stronger that bond will be.
Great video, I think one of the reasons many people don’t understand or get inkwells, is a lack of empathy.
Unfortunately a lot of men and women, simply don’t have the ability to place themselves in the hands of people much less fortunate than themselves (especially in the looks department).
Speaking as a sub3 man myself, I have had zero luck with vvomen, as for bedroom fun, I just pay mature age ladies of the night.
Greetings from Australia 🇦🇺.
Being an average guy is like making a Dark Souls character and putting 1 point in every attribute instead of just maxing out one stat like STR, INT, or LUCK - it's a terrible idea.
I'll just make a DS2 mundane build then.
As far as looks go, I'm probably in the chad-lite range. More so in my youth. I'm 50 now. I feel now that there are two barriers to happiness in the Animal Universe. The first obstacle is mating. Everything we do, work towards, think about, is in some way motivated by our drive to mate. The second obstacle is permanence. This problem arises when we realize nothing lasts forever and is ultimately empty anyway. One can almost get over the inability to mate and the isolation that comes with it. Deep Time and futility is not so easy.
Sometimes I can almost feel, rather than see, a path to contentment with it. But it's so delicate a wire to walk.
It's not too late to get a wife and have a couple kids. But be prepared they will resent you a bit for the age gap and because they will burry you too early in their life. But from dying childless it's a far more preferable scenario
@keylanoslokj1806 I was twice married and twice divorced. I have three grown kids. Not looking for a woman. Just looking for meaning.
I like your writing. I'm 38 BTW.
@@DisasterService meaning is in Christ. In the Bible
@keylanoslokj1806 thank you, but not for me.
I thought an inkwell was the ho at the job place. You know, the company inkwell that everyone dipps their pen into.
JFL
"Never dip your nib in the company ink"
My old friends see me as an inkwell. But they all despise me now, I’ve travelled the world, built a career and am a successful artist. I passed them all up, because no woman latched onto me and refused to fade into the darkness.
So they're jealous?
While you were grinding, your chad friends who accomplished nothing in life ordered beckys like a fat redneck inkwell orders KFC.
You are as free as you could make yourself.
Value your freedom more than gold, more than a harem's worth of sensuous pleasures.
More than a thousand adoring crowds. More than a thousand banquets' worth of delicacies.
Continue to be free. Make yourself free-er if you can. Keep on keeping on and being true to yourself. o7
@@redpillsatori3020 Could be, they tend to just be pissed that I didn't stick around my hometown after high school and continued to be a doormat.
The reason you as a 8+/10 dude wouldn’t consider what it’s like to not be that is lack of empathy. When you see men less attractive than you struggling to get women, you would seek to understand why that is if you even cared about them
I think successful people cant comprehend the fact that not all their success is due to them. Many people coming from affluent families attribute their career success to themselves. "When i succeed, it is because of me. When i fail, it is because of everyone else!!"
@@COSMICCATSCOVENwhich is why I don’t respect them (if they show they think like that)
Being six two ideal BMI still doesn’t keep me from being a nihilistic Goth with dark humor who sees all as animals because none surprise.
8:42 Insomnia is the worst, you feel sick all the time and have to constantly fight through low levels of energy just to get through the day. It will turn basic tasks into a struggle.
Stardusk is the king of Newspeak.
i know stardusk has discussed his sleep issues before, but holy crap i can really hear it in his voice today
If people are failing, they look inept. If people are succeeding, they look strong and good and competent.
In one aspect i chose the right parents, but what changed my life was having disfiguring severe acne for 5 years. I went from women fighting over me to everyone literally shutting down and looking away once i got within 10 feet of them.
Ive since recovered somewhat but im still hyper aware of lighting conditions.
In my instance, severe acne is something that almost caused self deletion
Semen Retention while cope to many has a lot of reported benefits of removing acne. It's not a guarantee, but it's perhaps worth the try.
For acne, take pantothenic acid and zinc, four times daily. I wish so badly that everyone knew about this combo.
Keep in mind that acne is just oil plus bacteria combining to form a pimple. Pantothenic acid reduces oil, zinc reduces bacteria. Multiple studies showing both work.
Thats why i love my extreme empathy. I live in other peoples shoes every single day in my head. I now find people to be extremely predictable.
Yes. People think consciously having empathy for others makes you "weak", but, on the contrary, it simply helps you understand the motivations of other people, which is good in almost any situation.
Maybe you could start an youtube channel and teach us your tricks
@@MatheusCarvalho-ev9hw ..lookup NVC or Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Terrible name, but it's good stuff
You socks must smell awful 😉
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This is why i traveling and being willing to look foolish is important; in order to grow. Most of my life i've been told i'm ugly and dumb, when in my late 20's i realize its the complete opposite. I actually appreciate what i've gone through, as it allowed me to experience different people's perspectives. Ironically, despite coming across the same people who gave me so much negativity, i ended up understanding them a bit. Even the smartest person i ever met, i realized could never understand certain things beyond her own world. Is it wrong to feel bad for her? I'm unsure of the right words to describe my thoughts towards this discovery, but pity wouldn't be far off. Also, these same people that are less attractive physically, from what i've encountered, seem to have other qualities that THEY don''t believe they have. Of course, others wouldn;t give them the time of day. I can't help but empathize with them as i was treated similarly (only for me to find out its just part of certain peoples tricks to keep you from growing). Maybe im wrong, but i'd like to think that they shouldn't be so focused on getting people to like them. i was once like that too, but once i started learning to love myself, things changed. You'd be surprised how "others" also took it. A complete 360! Some tried to keep me down, but got annoyed when i learned to ignore the negativity. It was hilarious at first, but i ended up feeling bad for them. You spend so much time spitting poison, you better be aware that you aren't poisoning yourself too. You spend more time trying to control someone, you may end up unable to empower yourself.
Apologies for the long response, but here's my take.
Such a good channel. I admire your honesty and insight into humans and their disregard or just incapability of experiencing empathy.
Our consciousness arent separated from one another. Our ego's are.
Your last example highlights a very important concept; intelligence does not equal wisdom. Wisdom is where a person can see things broadly and not within that very self focus you mentioned throughout the video. Experience clearly shows day after day that repulsion / revulsion of the world is to be expected, and it's men that deal with it in a harsher form. I find it makes a man incapable of accepting or comprehending the care of those few individuals who might empathize with their situation.
Not only that.. People around You, including your mother, sisters, close family, want You to stay in line! Which means: If U fight for better well being, U gonna struggle even more!! They do not want U to cross the invisible line of attractiveness. Astonishing.
The biggest cheat code a man can have is be extroverted. If you're not that, its much harder to have success in dating
Majority of people are extraverted, it's just that lots of them suck at socialising or generally suck as people, making their existence pain.
Well, not extraverted, but, just having social skills public speaking is a great thing that presidents invest in, so gain some experience by talking to old people first then younger people.
if you look good: extroverted = social butterfly, introverted = mysterious
if you look ugly: extroverted = annoying, introverted = creepy
Probably one of the most useless categorisations you can speak over yourself
The biggest cheat code a man can have is being extroverted(6 figure job), be able to hold a conversation(tall) and obviously a decent personality(good looking)
Regarding Sean O'Pry, I think he definitely knows about the inkwell dynamic in society and was feigning blue pilled ignorance to not damage his image/brand with cynicism. With that said, much like with Chad Williamson, he almost certainly views it like a fascinated academic stumbling on new zoological research.
Guys like that will never be able to fully empathize. That takes having roughly similar experiences that they can never even come close to. At best, they can lend a tourist's ear to your woes, listening with childlike glee as to how such a piteous creature can continue to exist.
Can't even blame them, really. This is a new concept in the entire history of humanity. We can no longer rely on martial prowess or social contracts to carry the day; all we can do is roll the DNA dice.
I remember Chris Williamson talking, not really bragging, about how girls actually went out of their way to approach HIM at the club a handful of times. He didn't seem to realize that the odds of this happening to the average dude are negative.
I'll take partial empathy over zero empathy. Most Chads can't even fathom that inkwells exist.
@@Krelian4400 Well said. I guess it's about counting blessings and being grateful for small mercies at this point.
Conflict is inevitable, so not too sure about the last part, but who knows. Maybe the world will end when it finally does and by then it's too late for any change.
It’s a good skill to be empathetic towards others by seeing things from their perspective, but there are some people that will use that to extort others for personal gain unfortunately. Much like how attractive women take advantage of simps & nice guys until they typically had their fun and finally want to settle down. Yet, it’s up to those same men to be honest with themselves and question why those kind of women are even giving them any attention to begin with outside of potential genuine interest.
I really didn't know, until this video, that the term "inkwell" is being used as a synonym for incel . It's new to me. Thank you.
I didn't know either.cant he say it in the video or will it be deleted🧐🤔
Funny I was recently talking with a bestie about how every individual cannot ultimately fathom anything outside of their own head. We cannot truly know how people interpret ideas, beliefs, phenomenons, etc. And sadly our language can only get us so far with that connection, but it is good that we at least have that.
You have to live an experience to really know what its like, imagining yourself in someone else's shoes isn't enough. This is why in this specific topic of discussion Chad's and women dont care/can't feel empathy for sub 5s and truecells
Self-extrapolation is such an impactful issue as it’s, as you said, the root cause of virtually all misunderstanding. Thanks for being one of the few people to talk about this issue.
Been lurking for just over a year thanks for the content
Similar to many people not understanding the lived experience of other races.
Anyone who says “lived experience” is a retard.
Long time listener and fellow insomniac, nothing anyone says has ever helped, and anyone suggesting this or that thinking you have the secret, I promise you don’t and you are not the first to suggest that
The blackpill is of no use to a rich chad who was born like that.
The successful will never acknowledge their good luck because that means having to relinquish unearned benefits.
Quasimodo is the best example of blackpill.
No matter how nice you are, Chad still gets her in the end.
You're nothing but the awkward third wheel forever basically all while society still hates and makes fun of you
Less than 1% of men look like quasimodo so not accurate at all
@@ekko6757 To Women they might as well be Quasimodo.
This could be easily summed up as a phrase that goes like this... "If I can do it, you can do it too."
I don't know about Inkwells and other people, but I often wonder what it would feel like to be a cat. To be able to leap high onto a place that is many times higher than one's own height. To be so cute, enough to charm a human into catering for one's every need.
But in all seriousness as a man, as always, one should seek to avoid self-pity:
"The stone cannot know why the chisel cleaves it; the iron cannot know why the fire scorches it. When thy life is cleft and scorched, when death and despair leap at thee, beat not thy breast and curse thy evil fate, but thank The Builder for the trials that shape thee."
Outstanding THIEF series quote. I'll write that down, thanks.
And cats are magnificent animals whom I adore.
Cats are like women, only that Cats actually do care and love you.
@@mirceazaharia2094 I actually have that Hammer Book of Tenets quote on a Tshirt that will be making its maiden voyage at the bowling alley this weekend. The Builder shall give me strength to strike my enemies...the pins.
It's about the locus of control. A beautiful person can relinquish control over their life and still live a good life. Flowing with the stream and allowing others treatment of you steer and limit your life does not work without those boons. However, accepting this is as much down to genes and environment as your looks are. Most of these people are doomed to a life of self-categorization and reacting to their situation rather than acting and authorship.
Ive struggled with addiction for my entire adult life. I still look on those times when i was on way worse things with a strange fondness. The fact that I still feel that fondness for it makes me realize that it is always lurking somwhere, like a gd predator.
Everyone is different, but I figured I had to feel that black and white to "beat" it. Most recovered addicts I've met, especially a.a. guys do the same thing. It's a coping mechanism. The only way to beat it is to "just not do it" or you die.
Scary choices addicts have to make internally, that don't really seem that bad to a sober person.
Thank gawd video games exist and you can still get loner x con jobs like trucker to keep away from people.
Born to suffer.
Working is your equalizer.
Born to feel 😎😎😎🔥🔥
I fail to see my obligation to entertain others problems. In fact many "sufferers" will take liberties with my time, to no betterment of their own.
Very interesting. It seems that genuine empathy and altruism are very, very rare qualities in human beings. For example, I am always a bit suspicious of someone who dedicates his career to helping people with maladies completely foreign to his own personal experiences. What is an example??? The doctor on My 600-lb. Life who presumably has always been normal weight. On the show, he appears to be extremely compassionate and empathetic and just trying to help people. But, I always wonder what is really going on inside that head??? I have always suspected that there may be some underlying contempt and disdain for the very people that he is ostensibly there to serve. 🤔🤔🤔
The topic of addiction has helped me understand, at least a bit, other problems. I'm the opposite of Stardusk - I could go days without food or sweets as they are indifferent to me, besides necessity, but my bloodline seeks booze at any cost. If I were to superimpose that desire that I know onto, say food, sweets, heroin, women, fast cars, etc... I could perhaps "understand it." I can't personally understand how someone becomes morbidly obese, as I walk at least 10km per day. I then evoke mine issues and it's like "ah, okay, I think I can see a little clearer now."
"what’s got you so flustered? things aren't so bad my friend.
what causes you to struggle, to writhe and twist and bend?
I hate to see you suffer, but i just cant comprehend,"
said the candle in the window to the candle in the wind.
- David Berman
Inkwells need to hit the gym, get a haircut, take a shower, hold frame 🖼️ and be confident !
It won't get them love, or laid. Probably not.
But it may get them a genuine sense of accomplishment.
And self respect. Do it for yourselves, gents, if nothing else.
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Hold Frame 🤣🤣
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And if it doesn't work, they just didn't believe in themselves or trust the process enough.
Inkwell also describes the utterly chaotic chasm of rampant crime, drug use, mental illness all of which are compounded with millions of illegal immigrants who had the same problems in their own poor countries.
I first thought of inceldom when I was a teen, and knew mainland China was a massive sausage fest.
This is the issue I have with my friend, for years he tried to help me overcome my issues with women, he has a natural talent when I don't, not to mention he is 6' 2" with Blue Eyes and I am 5' 10" with brown eyes.
He is completely unable to extrapolate my issues because they aren't issues he had, even though he claims he had issues in the beginning. However, having that issue made it easier to be empathic to people with issues I do not face.
Get rid of chronic insomnia is way harder than people can admit. I'm struggling with sugar addiction at times, poor quality of sleep or insomnia and insulin resistance. It reduced significantly my quality of life and ofc, nobody cares because they're not directly affected.
Since we've migrated to screen world, one thing's for sure: aesthetics is destiny.
You just need to close your eye-lids at night, bro
I'm 5'9. When I wear my boots, I'm like 5'10. If I wear a hat, I can fool some minds into thinking I'm 5'11.
I have an overbite and recessed jaw. So I grow a properly trimmed beard and it does wonders. I used minoxidil to get that beard. Don't grow patchy shit.
I have seen the halo effect, but it's a temporary facade with me.
Man, I was kind of stoked at first to hear Stardusk talk about why people don't write/journal much anymore (probably the hobby overtaken by social media) and if there's some psychological reason for this change. Or why people hate my thicc glass collectors items.
To the point about that mathematics professor discussing homeless people. The majority of healthcare professionals, doctors/general practitioners in America i would say cannot properly diagnose illnesses or chronic pain issues. And these are people who were specifically trained to do this.
I get this all the time. So I don't like to go outside anymore.
Empathy my friend it’s called empathy
Funny how everyone in the comments is pretending to not knot what a inkwell is, but you know what a 304 is and some of you watch Rehabs videos.
they bunch of failed normies.
I just realised that 5'11 is a high tier manlet, brutal.
Your height is not problem, you prbbly suck in other areas too.
Don't buy into this nonsense. The average height for males in America is 5'9". Worldwide, it's 5'7.5". There are soooooo many dudes shorter than 5'11." I'm 5'11." I'm taller than most males on earth. Do I tower over them like some 6'4" outlier? No, but taller than many to most is more than tall enough. I'm so sick of this dating app height preference nonsense that is not anchored in reality, just like any other current female delusion. What is it up to on the dating apps now? 6'3?" It grows by an inch every year, lol. Ludicrous. The only reason society gets away with this unreasonable height preference is male inadequacy. It's because YOU internalize that taller is better, too. Stop idolizing sports, especially basketball. Only 3% of the US male population is 6'3" or taller. Want to have a war against them? They'd be crushed in an instant, lol. They're nothing. Every bit of an outlier as the 5'3" or below, man. It's all the more ridiculous because this isn't a "beauty is in the eye of the beholder thing." It's totally quantifiable. We have the distribution. Sorry ladies, but it's not mathematically possible for you each to get an NBA player. It's not even statically likely that you'll even encounter a man of those heights in public for more than a brief instant, lol. This is just more female delusion that this ridiculous society loves to cater to.
Where's my other comment?
Is it because I said war?
Bro shut up with that goofy ahh sh*t. 5'11 is not short, 6+ foot is just tall. Problems only arise if you're 5'8 or shorter.
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I saw a guy coping once, about how if the world was fair all Chads would have micro-D’s, blud was malding so hard😂😂😂