The thing is most husbands can get the moneys worth of value for this ring (30K) from the woman they marry in under a year. Women do so much work- cooking, cleaning, surrogate (which costs 110K-170K upfront per child), nanny (even a nanny in NC which has the lowest cost of living makes 30K per year), laundry worker, family personal secretary and so much more. And then there is exclusive s3x whereas most men have to pay money if they want s3x outside a marriage and that woman will only have him as one of the many men who go to her. Besides, hiring someone to do all the domestic work means that they only work 8 hours a day and get all weekends off plus sick days and whatnot. Women don’t even take time off from their families to rest. So this is like the bare minimum a man should do to have a woman. I don’t understand these dusties getting offended because that man clearly gets so much from her.
Think it's a little ridiculous tallying things like surrogate at whatever cost knowing full well the men obviously aren't having the kid for themselves, and most men are not paying a surrogate on their own so that's a mute point. Even "exclusive sex", but at the same time women shouldn't be objectified? Just because prostitutes exist doesn't mean its value can be added up for a ring.
@@Ghosty716mute vs moot 🥴 but they're just saying that people get paid to perform the tasks the women are performing. not that they're surrogates or should be paid as such
That interviewer was beyond rude. This was embarrassing for the interviewer. Exposing how low class the interviewer is in mindset, life experience and emotional intelligence. Seeing a happy, healthy couple not giving the interviewer what he was looking for, would have been eye opening for him.
I will never forget getting chivalrous treatment from a gentleman for the first time (as a young woman). We were both taking the same exam and he opened the door for me, made polite small talk. It felt so wonderful. I could feel he had good intentions. Ladies, they are out there!
Men like this give me hope. I love Romance and I'm glad there are good men out there. My elderly Neighbour is one such man. His wife died 5 years ago (they were married 50 years!!) and he visits her grave every 2 days to light a candle that lasts 48 hours. He does so because she had always been scared of the dark so he makes sure here gravesite is well lit. He talks about here with so much love, so I wish that each and everyone of you here will meet a man that loves you the way my neighbour loves his late wife.
The insane part is that if she did get in her “proving energy” and say something like “I have a house, a degree in economics and a six figure job. That’s what I bring to the table.” She would STILL be discredited because that’s “too masculine” therefore not valuable. Fatherless behavior is a great way to define the problem.
Yes! This is why “what do you bring to the table?” from a man is always a trap. If you say something focused on your career or education, “men don’t care about that.” If you say something related to looks, sex, or nurturing behavior, “see that’s really all women have to offer,” as if it’s worthless. If he is asking that type of question, he is just trying to get you to devalue yourself, period. And you should run.
@@Lovelygirl908 So they will discredit a woman for doing that, and discredit her for not doing that and for staying at home because "his job is more stressful". Men need to decide.
@@northstar2621 i don’t know what ppl u listen to. Your home life might be toxic. My mother is workaholic immigrant who barely speaks English, no one ever told her anything. My sister is a stay at home mom and her Husband supports her and marriage works fine and when she goes back to work, her husband supports her. So if a relationship is healthy, both partners support each other. If relationship around you are bad like single parent homes/divorced maybe that’s where u see toxic comments
The fact the man responded to the "what do u bring to the table" question was gold. Now the interviewer seems offended, triggered, shocked, sad, that a woman he doesn't know, is being provided for by a man. It's so bizarre.
@@FoundSheep-AN It's true. I've seen males say they want flowers too. It's a total reversal of gender roles, but still in a patriarchal system. I mean they should get that from other males
@@cloudypolly22I know a lot of women who in one way or another live off of men not a man but just men for diffrent things, and even though I have got money for Ubers hair cuts food weed ect, there’s just a level of opportunity women have that men nowadays and I’m not trying to be ignorant but that’s how it feels
look at how shes so enamored with her man! she knows whatever he says will be respectful and said in love she doesn't even try to say anything she knows he's got it. she doesn't have to do anything but stand there and stare at him adoringly.
Thats resting in her feminine and letting him lead so many men complain about. They want this without doing the work😂 better yet they want us to do all the work and they want the benefits. 😂
My husband took me to the ring store and told the man to give me whatever ring I wanted. He also just sent me architectural plans for the house he is building for me. I definitely inspire him to conquer the world, then he turns around and PROUDLY showers me with all of my heart’s desires. He told me it makes him feel so good and I deserve nothing but the best ❤❤
@@dakiller5957 your projections are apparent. Please talk to a considerate counselor instead of random ppl on internet like me. I can't answer that for you. You have to answer why you're asking these questions here
This makes me think of when I was a 7 years old. I saw peacocks in person for the first time. The female peacock were so plain on comparison to the males. I asked my mom "Why aren't the girl ones pretty like the boys?!" And she said "That's because it's a man's job to impress the girl. And she chooses who she wants to be with." Never forgot that. Lol. When you see someone's inherent value effort is made. For both men and women. The couple in the video is so sweet. Wishing them happiness.
If your partner is your reason to live I must say you hadn't fully matured yet, there is plenty of things a balanced life should focus on and marriage/relationships is just a small part of it.
Its obvious, the interviewer is jealous of this beautiful feminine woman. He tried so hard to dog her and get a reaction out her. I LOVE that she could stand there, relaxed, happy and at peace because she knows her husband has her back and lets him speak for her because she trusts him to stand up for her and say the right things with weight. If you man does not do this when your worth us questioned, why you with him? My Dad may be a jokester. However, as soon as a man or woman tries to question my mum's worth without reason or imvitation, my Dad calls them out and tells them my mum's worth.
There’s no reason to be with a man who doesn’t stand up for you. I was in a relationship where I felt like was battling an entire family. B/c I had a single mom I haaad to be a gold digger (which I should have been-receiving gold somewhere, on easy mode) . I thought I was doing my part when I was explained to him how I wasn’t a gold digger, how I wasn’t going nowhere in life, how I didn’t want to babytrap him. A year later we broke up and he gleefully let slide he used to talk shit about me with his sweet family 🤣🤣🤣All that time I wasted talking is the worst part. I seriously think the birth control gave me brain fog.
That couple were so cute! I can confirm men like that do exist. My husband is like that - bought the nice ring, planned the proposal etc. he was the one who wanted his wife to have “a big rock” because he understands that it’s a status symbol FOR HIM. These dusty men who shame women for wanting nice engagement rings don’t get it. And the question “what does he get in return?” Gross.
Nothing wrong with wanting nice things, the question becomes how many women are out there that wouldn’t care about having a ring or not? How many would say “babe let’s out that money towards a house or an unforgettable vacation”. To each his/ her own.
@@oecksteiyou are acting like she knew the price of the ring. There are women who don't want expensive rings. Please go and find them and stop the tears
Exactly. Men like that are looking for ways to cheap out on a symbol of love and commitment that’s supposed to last for life, how are *they* going to feel that the ring they bought turns green within a year?
That interviewer probably has never fallen in love in his entire life. It seems like he is so bitter that the man is so in love with the woman. He wants to destroy their relationship by humiliating the woman. If he wants someone who would spend 35k on a ring for him he should just date a man himself.
I caught my self this summer saying how I think expensive rings are ridiculous and a Pandora ring would be fine. I said it to a guy who was my bf because I knew he would never propose to me so I hoped if I removed the pressure from an expensive ring he would want to marry me - I was wrong and such a pick me.
I read somewhere that the original root of the word 'chivalry' related to the fact that knights, as swordsmen on horseback, had the ability to pose a significant threat to anyone who wasn't, and as such were bound to a code of honour where they were expected to use this extra power generously and for the good of those around them. Its very similar to the way that pedestrians get automatic right of way over cars because they are more vulnerable. As such, with men having structural power under patriarchy, we really should only date men who are chivalrous - those who use their access to masculinity to benefit those who are exculded from it - because in this understanding, chivalry becomes a recongition of patriarchy and an attempt to rectify the power imbalance imposed by patriarchy on heterosexual relationships.
Yes very true I remember my high school english teacher speaking to us about the origin of chivalry. I think that's why I never had an issue with it. Great point!
Notice how she didn't want to talk to the interviewer and was giving him a side eye because of his attitude, so his fiance started talking for her ❤ What's up with these black broke dudes saying the nastiest things all over the internet about women😅 in an interview, he was telling a lesbian why she is not getting a man 😂 In another video, he was shaming a woman in her 40s who said he likes being happy and single. Most of his street interviews are shaming drink young women. And the comment section is filled with nasty comments from other broke fatherless males like him 💀🤭 It's like they have created a cult and all fatherless males hang out and talk trash about women
The worst part is how some of these black men talk about black women. I'm not black, but as a woman seeing the way black men treat their women just makes me sad and angry. I've even seen some of these men compare black women to cockroaches. It's absolutely disgusting.
@@chickensalad3535 I have seen this too. Anti black woman content is too popular online its disgusting how the algorithm pushes it. Thank God I dated out and am marrying up. My Polish fiance treats me like a princess. 👸 That's why I focus on encouraging black women to open their options and date out on my channel.
@@chickensalad3535I also saw those behaviour too I am indian and once I was literally quarrelling with a black man about it and at last he called me a racist magot. It's so funny cause he was calling himself an alpha man and when he couldn't reason with me the first thing he did was pulling a race card.
I switched saying "not all men" with "yes all men" and it's been so freeing. It really is all men, and even the good ones know that. So _nobody_ should be saying that, because not only is it not true, it lets the men we are absolutely talking about (because only that kind of fragile male would feel insecure enough to say that) off the hook. Strong men know even they need to do the work and deprogram their misogyny, they know they are a part of the solution or a part of the problem.
@@kittykatz4001 even that isn't true. Literally all men are raised on planet earth. There is not a single place on this planet where men are not taught from the womb that they are special, more special than women. Strong men know this and have done at least some work to deprogram themselves. YES. ALL. MEN.
@@kittykatz4001 even saying that is literally enabling the fragile men _who we are talking about_ Strong men say yes all men, because they know what they were taught. If they are strong, they are capable of being honest about their biases. Don't be a fragile woman and give into the enabling of fragile males.
I agree. When we say, “Not all men” as women, they see it as: “They’re not talking about ME! I can get off the hook from this statement!” And then they still relish in their low-income, incel ways. The same dudes that also think that it’s okay to hit women (if not physically attacked first) because “ITS FEMINISMM” There’s a fine line between feminism and misandry. Men need to get with the times when proclaiming “not all men”!
@@kittykatz4001see i get it. It doesn't shut up the "not all" dips. I still use qualifiers. Or literal data gained percentages Things like: Most Some A few The majority A portion A significant Etc qualifiers. I'll have to use critical mass sometime cause it's funny That doesn't stop multiple People form coming in going NOT ALL MEN. Which is than just *huge sigh Did I say All? NO! The only men/people who come in having to clarify "Not all" are trying to derail the conversation and protect their ego. "Well i dont do that." Which great. Since you don't do that how about talk about the issue being discussed instead of this "not all" deviceness. Everytime i try than engage with this person. They suddenly have nothing more to say to me. They just had to jump in to TELL Me NOT ALL MEN. Than run away They get up in a tizzy and than leave without engaging in the issue being discussed. It's exhausting. I just don't engage with those who go "not all." Anymore unless I'm feeling charitable or wanting to troll them.
@@zhangningfuleveryone deserves to be treated kindly by their partner. I wouldn’t say it’s “golden retriever”, but that’s what the term is being used like here
I was walking downtown after my therapy session and saw this interviewer looking for his next victims. Bad Vibes. I immediately power-walked the other way. No way he was gonna ruin my day!
Even if people don't know what this is about, I'd never answered any personal questions relating to finances or relationship for this dusty man to use my voice online😢
The reason men used to spend so much money on a diamond, is so when sht hits the fan, she can sell it and be OK financially (esp with kids). Men bargaining on an investment, are men that dont desserve to be married. Men benefit from marriage, not the other way around. The reason its the best day of her life, is because its downhill from there on (hard work).
@@chula_Isa nothing negative of asking a woman a question about what do she earn that ring. In my point of view there’s millions of women I can choose from and I have to choose one of them, in order to have that ability to choose 1 out of millions of women to be in my life for longer term I need to have a very good and specific reason as to why I pick this particular girl out of millions on the planet, when I choose this woman and I choose her right and she ended up the women of my dreams that can do xyz (sex not included) for me which made me do things for her and I give her a highly expensive ring because this woman does everything that I dreamed of, then I expect her to appreciate of all the things i do and give to her because she does everything that I ask for or not ask for. Because without appreciation there’s no love and when there’s no love there’s no effort hence why men like the interviewer thinks women who don’t put in any effort in the relationship don’t actually love the man but what he can provide for her and when the providing stops she’ll leave without remorse and be with other dudes that she genuinely loves.
The interviewer’s behaviour irks me so much because I have met so many men with that kind of mindset. These are the men asking their dates to go Dutch on a first date and think that the little money that they have can buy women, but these are the SAME men who will go above and beyond the moment they meet women that are 10/10 in terms of appearance and obviously out of their leagues.
The wackness of that interviewer is beyond beyond. Sad. Sad AF. Also, how a person views marriage is key. Some people in some cultures feel like marriage is a once in a lifetime endeavor. A joining of souls and FAMILIES! Producing CHILDREN! If you don't see marriage like that, it's difficult to grasp the excitement and beauty of deciding on a life partner. Elle, great video. Ladies, never explain, justify or apologize for who you are. ( I'm not talking about the apology when you're wrong, I'm talking about the apologizing for existing and doing you. For the no nuance Nellys😘) And I am so loving how that guy told the interviewer is broke in the nicest way. Ladies, men are insecure about money. Can you imagine a man telling another man how to spend his money. They don't do it. The fact that any man would question another man's wallet is absurd and not even accepted. It's the CLEAREST red flag that a man is broke AND insecure. ❤❤❤
And the worse part is, dudes like the interviewer are influencing a lot of other men to think and behave the way he does. If you read his comment section, they all sound like sad drones. They think it's cool. And when I see a man deviate from what is traditionally written in the comment section, they jump on him and call him a simp. They are being influenced by the wrong people y'all. Smh.
@@k.em5424 I know. It's so sad. Really really really really sad. But I will say this....high value men are really not on the internet in comment sections. They are out living their lives. Or making money from the internet. Not sitting on their phone or computer, typing horrendous things they wouldn't say in public. Comment sections these days of divisive videos, attract divisive people who can't even type!
I saw that reel on IG and a lot of men were commenting how a high value woman can't be bought. That comment had soo many likes. Lord help us all unfuck the dating market!!
They’re right - she can’t be “bought” in that her inherent value is more than they could pay in a lifetime 😂 BUT as Elle says the least a man can do is pay. 😉
I usually don't care about the money, but I've had a friend whom her wife proposed to her with a ring she made herself after taking blacksmithing classes. I guess it also helped that they're a lesbian couple, but the effort was there and I'm not settling for any less.
Yes to me it’s the style and beauty of the ring and how it matches me vs how much it cost. My engagement ring I picked out myself (bc I’m picky af) but it has Celtic designs and a Diamond heart. I don’t LIKE huge gemstones so I got the largest heart that looked beautiful in the setting. I love the thought and effort route too with a homemade ring omg 😭 that’s one of a kind and love is poured into it! 💍 ✨
Omg that part about men only respecting other men. My parents don’t speak English very well and would ask me to read their mail and explain it to them. I would tell them and then they would go to my brother to read and explain it. My brother would say the same exact thing I would say and they would trust his word more 🙄
People who do this piss me off. The uncountable number of times I've called my mom out on this....Istg. Like if all I say is unbelievable to you, just don't ask me anything, how's that?
It is disrespectful to you so stop doing that for them. They teach your brother to devalue you and the women around him. If they want him to read the mail, then they need to just have him read the mail. If my parents pulled that on me one time, that would have been it. I would have made it plain and clear that reading the mail would be HIS job only. I don't play games.
We don't know what goes on behind closed doors BUT her body language indicates she feels safe loved and taken care of and that she really loves and adores him in return. I think both were eloquent and respectful in how they handled the interviewer's massive disrespect.
@@brokeboiacey5674i think he loves spoiling her, he said that its worth it, he looks like he has respect for himself and wouldnt be with a gold digger, just because a man or a woman buys their partner a lot of stuff doesnt make them a gold digger
@@atinybruh yes but look at this, HUMANS don’t appreciate SHYT when you give them things for free. It’s not rocket science. There’s countless of relationships ended very soon and some later before the man or the woman spoiled their significant other.
We shower people we love with: affirmations, quality time, loving touch, acts of service AND gifts! Yes gifts! These are the 5 articulated love languages. The ultimate love language is to be KNOWN by someone. And they express this knowledge of you through these 5 languages which including buying things and taking you in trips if you love to travel (yes!). If you don’t do these things for people in your life… well words are hollow. You can say “I love you” but if you’re not backing it up with reciprocal action it’s nothing. My husband primarily is affirmation and acts of service so he appreciates getting pumped up with confidence boosting words and praise + coming home to a clean kitchen. (He also naturally cleans and is the first one to pull out the mop!) Mine are quality time and touch so I appreciate cuddling on the sofa, watching movies together, and getting a massage. Neither of ours tested heavy in gift but we still do honor this and give each other amazing gifts for special occasions and he still provides and gives me treats and gifts at random 🥰
Just those few minutes was enough to blow my mind. Omg men like these do exist and they're not just a fairy tale, my standards were always reasonable despite what everyone said about how i was unrealistic, asking for too much etc etc... I somehow almost feel like crying lol but in a good way
Glad to hear it girl. Makes me sad at the same time that what’s in the video is considered a fairytale. This is the standard in my circle and my friends who have partners like in this videos and are engaged/marry parents would not allow them to marry if the man doesn’t have a provider mindset and the means to.
@@Rosierose902 yes, actually because of what I had seen thus far, I never dated. Because I thought, 'if this is what's available, there's no point in me dating at all. I would literally rather chew off my own leg than ever date an undesirable (now we call them BBMLE) man.' But now I see that what I desire exists, so I'll start looking for it. I hope to change my reality to reflect this, like you already have. ♥️
The whole message of him wanting you at a discount blew my mind. This is all so validating and sheds light on so many past experiences that turned me off when I was too young/naïve/inexperienced to actually understand why. Thanks!
Exactly. Hearing her say that they know your worth already and that’s why they approached you in the first place but then they try to belittle and bargain with you so you don’t recognize how valuable you truly are. I realized this when online dating in the past and how some guys would see me in person and decide they needed to spend a lot of money to impress me. Just by seeing me, they recognized this is someone who is deserving of the best. I never really got it to be honest and I’d stupidly be like you don’t have to take me to then 5th place this night and spend so much money. Not realizing that they knew from just looking at me that I was someone they felt they need to impress to get with. I never had to ask, it was just given like that. So when I left them and later stupidly went and dated someone who was broke, not realizing that money to them is value, they consider it a privilege to provide for someone. (Also apparently, I look hotter in person but only cute in pictures so I guess beauty has a lot more monetary value that I thought)
She could immediately tell she didn’t like where this was going and you could see she was visibly uncomfortable so the way the husband spoke up very nonchalantly like “pry about $35k but she definitely deserves it” was so sweet. Omg and the “I think I should answer that” this man is wonderful.
The man in the interview reminds me of my husband. He also bought me a $35k+ ring and planned an amazing proposal at a picturesque spot at my alma mater. He would have answered the same way when asked what he gets in return. I’m his partner for life and he values how I treat him and his family (very close to my in-laws, we are going on a couples trip with his parents to South America in the new year), my family and all the people we both love.
The trip to Florence was thoughtful, since it is personal. Not just a random cool city, but something meaningful for her. They look so happy together. Every gift that I cherish was personal. That means a ring too. I don't care how much it costs, I care about the effort and thought behind it. I know wedding rings without diamonds, but with other precious stones that have a special meaning. It is never about money, it is about respect, consideration and valueing your partner.
I saw this video on another Womens site , and she totally went in on that low vibrational dog minded interviewer whose whole intent was trying so hard to downgrade the women and these Men of this sort is the biggest turn off and to me it's disgusting .....That couple looks Happy ,balanced and content and That man speaking up for her Acknowledging her Values is Priceless...I hope to acquire that one day...that is the type of Male mentality we need around ...Thank you 💚🙏🏾👑💫
It is SO good to see two good people find one another in this world. I wish that lovely couple all the blessings. It is not about the money; it is about the abundance. What a bountiful example of emotional intelligence, creativity and love from a man to a woman. She will truly bless all his days.
Can we find a different term than golden retriever behavior? I get the sentiment but it seems demeaning, as if they’re just puppy dogs lapping up after us. No, a man in his masculine energy is so much more than that - it’s powerful, it’s assertive, it’s sexy at the deepest level
I think its fine, golden retrievers are nice friendly cute loyal and still being able to protect the family, stand up for themselves, its not like the person is a dog bro like someone said lets use panther or tiger does that indicates that they are just a predatory animals that would kill or hurt anyone smaller than them, i dont think so
The term is specifically "golden retriever" and not the generic "dog." That's because, whilst the entire species of dog is known to be loyal, golden retrievers are the golden standard. Look up the traits of golden retrievers: calm, affectionate, protective. They are the go-to family breed and service dog breed. The term is a compliment!
I did hear a relationship coach suggest coffee dates to " protect ones time" among other things like night time safety. But that's after finding them online and never meeting them before. So also to make sure they aren't creep material and one feels safe to go on a dinner date and feels one wants to spend the more time invested in such dinner date.
I do agree with a "coffee date" being the very first date. But ONLY as the first date. If ya click after that date, then he needs to invest more. But a coffee date shouldn't just be at some Starbucks, but a genuine coffee/tea house. But yeah, if we can't click on a short first date, odds are we won't click on longer dates. My time is valuable, and I'd rather find out quickly if we click. I've been on dinner dates that lasted longer than they should have because we had to wait to be seated, wait for the food, etc., and the guy and I didn't click. So it was awkward.
I can't stand the thought of coffee dates. My first date with my fiance was a 5* Restaurant and we went to 2 other restaurants that same day. He paid for everything. To me coffee dates are so low effort and casual that I wouldn't waste my energy. If I am going to dress up lavishly and look amazing then I need to be taken to a place that matches my dressing because some of these men really think you'll fall into bed with them and all it takes is a coffee and a croissant. Grim!😒
The reason for women going on low effort dates like coffee and walking is not without reason. Coffee dates are a lot quicker and easier to walk out on. Also, they are often while it is still light outside. It is a safety thing. Many only go out for dinner on a second date. Home dates are an instant red flag, and men don't seem to understand that. Walking dates are mainly a covid thing. Unless it is really long walks, but that is reserved for boyfriends and for when you are in a nice city, often combined with lunch, café and an activity (perhaps a movie or concert).
that guy handled the interviewer like a pro and the woman can chill and trust her man and my good sis is gloooowiiiing, their lives are probably so blessed cause she is taken care off and can thrive
I was watching a video on heteropessimism the other day and I think it captured some of how I felt towards dating and relationships. Pessimistic on the outlook of it all today, and I struggled with accepting that bc I don’t see enough content that makes me see or feel much hope. Which is really hard. I’ve tried being a gentleman for most of my life - in my early 20s now and I still try for the life of me to be “good”. Not perfect or amazing, but just good. Kind. Strong. Caring. Virtuous. I really enjoyed your video and the comments that I’ve been reading bc they remind me to not stop trying to be that way. And sometimes the words/videos we see the most often may not reflect the reality of the world. So I just wanted to say great video! Gave me some hope to remember
I love how she keeps her gaze on her husband with not just an encouraging smile but the energy that he can win this "competition" ❤ it helps him be more calm and collected dealing with that moron. High value feminine energy right there❤ awesome couple.
If they didn’t know how valuable we were, they wouldn’t lose their minds when they can’t get the woman they want 🤷♀️ ☕️ look at the incel movement…they’re bitter bc they know we’re priceless
I don’t think the problem is them not seeing how much value we have, it’s them feeling like we don’t value them back i.e. a general lack of reciprocity. What I gathered from talking to male friends/family members lol
@@anuhassan5596woman multiplies everything she gets from a man be it love or misery. So it's either the woman was not meant for them or they did nothing in that relationship.
Girl, I normally don't really write comments. But your content is too precious to not write one. I always struggled with my feminine energy and what does it mean to be a woman. My father was very harsh and emotionally abusive. He hated women and pushed me to be more masculine but still submisive to control me. I really appreciate your content and the subjects you cover. I especially like how throughout you are and realistic and pragmatic. It made me change my opinions and my stand on romantic relationships. You are very eloquent and the way you speak and explain makes it very interesting and easy to understand. Thank you so much.
My bf asked me to get whatever ring I wanted. I def chose the cheapest one, but only because I have bigger interests, I don't care about expensive rings, and I knew he was going to give me some money to help me pay my debts. Yesterday, he said that I could choose the apartment I wanted for us. I've visited the place and apparently, yeah, we're going to move in there. My sister is a real estate broker, and she was responsible for finding us our new home. Even when he was unemployed, he always tried to spoil me, give me jewelry and chocolate. The place is perfect guys, it has two pools (I love swimming), two gyms, it's a 4 min walk from my work and it has easy acccess to a lot of places. That's the difference, guys.
If a man doesn’t spend at least a few months worth of pay on your ring and get you a dowry, he doesn’t care for you. I know some feathers are gonna be ruffled lol
Exactly. My fiance has to pay a bride price on top of the 2 carat diamond ring he got me and we are having two weddings as I am Nigerian 🇳🇬 and he is Polish. 🇵🇱 So our families have strong traditions. I will be having a Nigerian traditional wedding with about 500 guests and a Polish wedding in Poland for his family in Poland to attend. We even had to do a pre traditional engagement dinner with my parents which cost money as my fiance pays for everything. Marriage and weddings is not for broke men. Starting a life with someone costs moneyyyyy.
@@cherxii4781 Funnily enough dating apps. I met my wealthy European fiance on a dating app. Similarly Akila Releford Gould met her husband Andrew Gould the VP of Roc Nation on the Raya app. Its mostly luck too.
Oh no babe! He definitely knew it was Florence Italy but he couldn't wrap his head around the fact that the woman was more cultured and traveled than him so he was trying to reassure himself that it couldn't possibly be Italy.
One of my newfavouritee videos out of urs! I like how u describe all dating as a market, and it especiallyy in the US I saw many men whose novadays targeting foreigners from 2nd world countries as postal brides because they can`t cope with local market. Myself I`m 2nd world country woman and it`s disgusting every time hearing my lower worth on dating apps by those men, they so convinced that if I match them it means I`m their bride without even one cup of starbucks coffee lol. I left all dating apps, and leaving every man instanstly if he insults my nationality, life situation, job or anything from my life, and of course NO to guys whose blaming their local women for dating market. I`m so done of it.
These redpill dudes got too comfortable being surrounded by “Yes Men” online and carefully planned play dates that they forgot the golden unspoken rule of men. Don’t disrespect a man’s woman ESPECIALLY in front of him unless you want a can of whoop hide opened on you. Reminds me of when Myron from Fresh and Fit called Preach’s wife a Beluga Whale but chickened out of the boxing match HE proposed.
Pheeewwww another banger!!!! I spent almost 5 years in a relationship with a man who didn't see my inherent value, and absolutely kept me in "proving myself" mode. Glad to say I've been single for the past 2 years and will DIE single if I must! I'm never letting someone treat me like that again.
I feel like golden retriever behavior is but a subset of benevolent sexism/chivalry. I recall a situation once in my previous job where us research assistants and our PI was going out for a team dinner, and he paid for us. But i could feel that he didn't seem to be respecting us very much at all; i felt in me that I didn't want him to pay, and we all felt the need to express our thanks in a very over the top way. On the face of it, that was benevolent sexism, nothing he did or expressed was hostile, but he would always have these views like women all needed to be helped etc etc. It felt disempowering. Whereas in the video, the golden retriever man clearly respected his woman. If he helps her do something, im sure he would be doing it out of a desire to lighten her load, not because he thought she needed help. I would imagine that he makes her feel empowered, that she has someone to protect her. So i guess both cases are benevolent sexism/chivalry in action, but the first case is clearly not golden retriever. I think it depends from what place the man is acting.
As an Italian spoiled girlie here , I wish you an amazing trip to Florence ! , and thank you for coming to my country ! Be careful of scams on the streets of Florence tho ❤🫂
Manifestelle, I'm from Mexico and I'm absolutely loving your content, I think a lot of us women who are spanish speakers often have a very "proving energy" and the men in our cultures are feminine and only care about receiving from and using women for the benefits, I'd love to take your videos and translate them to spanish to post them so that more people are able to access such valuable information you give us; I'd need your permission to do this, though. It's totally fine if I don't have your permission. I'm in love with your channel!! Hugs from Mexico.
I think what you're doing on this channel is really necessary for young girls to understand what it really means to be a woman. Thank you for doing this.
The traditional rule for price was three month's salary, but I agree that it's subjective both for what you can afford and what it means. I know many people who find wearing expensive things simply too stressful.
1:16 Maybe it's just me but if some stranger walked up to us and started asking how much our jewelry is worth, I would be a little paranoid and tell him it's fake
Elle, I agree with you that if a man wants you to prove to him your worth and values, it's not a loving relationship and it won't work. My ex demands so much from me and yet he's unable to offer much to me.
Good that you are raising such topics. Here we see two examples of Man. One who is proud of what he has. The other -A frustrated one. So, let us not generalize. Good heart reaches to good hearts ❤
In the wise timeless words of Fran Drescher "Men and women and equal in everything, except that they have to open the door and pay for everything.'' A man who is able to see the worth of the woman who is by his side, showing him love and her feminine side in a comfortable and natural way because he inspires that; feels fulfillment, pride and is active when it comes to show how much he respected his woman and the relationship they are in. 🎉
I love that you analyzed that video. I get awful energy from this man’s interviews. He OFTEN makes the worst out of the women he interviews, and when I saw this video it was so relieving how the couple remained respectful of themselves while participating.
Biggest red flag is if a guy says “what do you bring to the table” this one guy said that to me from then I just knew that person wasn’t the one. Let’s be real if a man see’s your worth he wouldn’t even ask that question. Ask if a guy asks you that don’t answer it, it’s a trick question. They are trying to make you question your worth and self
PS my husband surprised me with the proposal on a trip that we planned together (I hate that type of surprise), but my favourite FAVOURITE thing is that he pretended to forget something on a visit to my parents and ran back into the house - unbeknownst to me - to ask them for permission to marry me. It was obviously 100 percent my choice, I was already independent at that point and it wasn't actually up to them as such - it was just such a very nice way to make them feel involved and valued. And he was so right, we were all so pleased!!
It's not even the money that he spends on her that makes him a lovely person and a nice partner because there are plenty of nice men who aren't rich. It's the way he listens to her and her interests and acts on them to make her happy, shows that he truly cares for her.
i just need to let everybody know that my mom pays the rent of the house for her boyfriend… all the bills… and this is seriously not okay. like girl😀 at least i know exactly what to avoid in a man☺️
This video is such a confirmation. People will try to devalue you. Make it seem as if you are not worth anything remotely good. As an indigenous women who is deeply melanated I have to consistently remind people of my worth. They are always shocked and taken back at my expectations and standards for myself. Their lack of etiquette shows inconsistencies in their performative behavior and speech. If your discerning it will be helpful in weeding out the disingenuous.
Honestly that video was just so sweet. I saw it on tik tok and was like oooooohhhh here we go and was probably gonna scroll. But I didn’t. I love that video. I’m used to the bs ! Another video of that interviewer.. of course showed a woman (black woman like me) who was gorgeous and just not being treated to that level of affection or protection. And that’s what a lot of these interviews or real life experiences. I have seen love like the one of the lovely couple. It’s just very very rare. I hope one day to have that and of course aligned to what the universe or God Himself wants for me. * I’ve also been single all my life and have no problem with it being that way rest of my life. Either cause I’m maybe aromantic, haven’t found the one that clicks, or simply not for me.
What you explained is basically the difference between equity and equality. We need equity so that even tho we are born with differences we can both achieve the same level of happiness and comfort in society.
Yes girl, speak the truth! Some of us have learned the hard way, with a man asking us to prove our worth after giving them everything 8 years down the line, including our youth. Don’t ever forget that one of the first things I did for you was take you shopping for new clothes, for t-shirts that actually fit you instead of expose your belly because you couldn’t afford to. If I started with that in month one (which was dumb and foolish of me) then ask yourself how much more did I do after 8 years. Chapter closed and lessons learned! Period
Another beautifully made video 🙌🏽✨ I just want to add that, personally I stopped going on dinner dates as a first date op, one time I went on one with a guy that was SOOO boring I didn’t even want to eat any more and we had 14:15 already ordered food so I was stuck there for like 2 hours when all I wanted to do was leave. So now, I keep first dates low investment because 1: I don’t know them 2: if they’re boring im not going to give you more than 30 minutes, MAX.. love the spoiled girly support group. This has become my FAV channel 💸
This interviewer pisses me off and I know he is not worth getting mad over buttt I hate when shows up my feed, he just gives broke, pathetic and weak. This couples was a stunning example of healthy relationships. ❤
I agree with everything you said except the coffee date. The first date I had with my amazing husband was a beach date. He picked a beach date because he knew that being a woman I was afraid of him murdering me so he planned a first date so we would be around a lot of people during the day. The second date was a dinner date and most dates after that were expensive restaurants and such. I knew I was the prize. The phone rang so much that one week he neglected to call and I thought he did call and wasn't bothered at all. It was back before caller ID and he said, "I should have called but I didn't...." And I said, "Oh that is okay I thought you did call. I got a message that someone named Bah ah...." and my voice trailed off knowing I couldn't tell hims someone with the same name left me a message. Later I realized that couldn't have gone better if I planned it. And you are right, men only talk to women they find attractive.
The thing is most husbands can get the moneys worth of value for this ring (30K) from the woman they marry in under a year. Women do so much work- cooking, cleaning, surrogate (which costs 110K-170K upfront per child), nanny (even a nanny in NC which has the lowest cost of living makes 30K per year), laundry worker, family personal secretary and so much more. And then there is exclusive s3x whereas most men have to pay money if they want s3x outside a marriage and that woman will only have him as one of the many men who go to her. Besides, hiring someone to do all the domestic work means that they only work 8 hours a day and get all weekends off plus sick days and whatnot. Women don’t even take time off from their families to rest. So this is like the bare minimum a man should do to have a woman. I don’t understand these dusties getting offended because that man clearly gets so much from her.
In under a year? Try a month or two. Men derive SO MUCH value from women.
Not to mention being personal therapist and nurse. Therapy alone can cost upwards of $500 a session!! We are out here doing charity work 😅
Think it's a little ridiculous tallying things like surrogate at whatever cost knowing full well the men obviously aren't having the kid for themselves, and most men are not paying a surrogate on their own so that's a mute point. Even "exclusive sex", but at the same time women shouldn't be objectified? Just because prostitutes exist doesn't mean its value can be added up for a ring.
@@AshleySingler 30k in a month? Let's be realistic. A full house of staff wouldn't even be close
@@Ghosty716mute vs moot 🥴 but they're just saying that people get paid to perform the tasks the women are performing. not that they're surrogates or should be paid as such
Mind y’all this dusty interviewer tried to gaslight a lesbian woman on why she doesn’t have a boyfriend
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Whaaat? Whats the name of the video thats crazyyyy
Lord Have Mercy......
@@salsipuedes8425 Look up “Why She Stopped Dating Men” by The Desirable Truth. Then look at the comments by sheltered grown men…pitiful.
@@MrFLstyle It’s okay if you’re a dick rider! The LGBTQ+ community is more accepting this time of year! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
That interviewer was beyond rude. This was embarrassing for the interviewer. Exposing how low class the interviewer is in mindset, life experience and emotional intelligence. Seeing a happy, healthy couple not giving the interviewer what he was looking for, would have been eye opening for him.
this dusty interviewer tried to gaslight
He was trying to be on some red pill and dude blocked him every time
0% real couple
He's probably never been loved so all he does is play victim spread hatred. It's ok to not have found love but not ok to spread bitterness everywhere
Well it should've been.
But he just kept trying to devalue the relationship, the proposal and HER...
Right in front of him!
He protected his fianceé, he didn't even give that low-value clown a chance to hurt her
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Exactly
Fatherless behavior 😂
I love that so much. I hate seeing people not stand up or defend their partner, like if anyone should have your back it should be them.
Yes!!! Love this!! That was my favorite part too. This gives me hope for our future
I will never forget getting chivalrous treatment from a gentleman for the first time (as a young woman). We were both taking the same exam and he opened the door for me, made polite small talk. It felt so wonderful. I could feel he had good intentions. Ladies, they are out there!
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I mean a lot of it is just being a decent human being. I feel like.. women like men who are genuinely decent human beings 😂
@@ACAB.forcutiefacts,,, who knew being a decent human being was actually difficult for some lmao
@@therealmanifestelle chivalry is a must have code of honour for all men
....Girl what ??? Are your standards pushing daisies??
Men like this give me hope. I love Romance and I'm glad there are good men out there. My elderly Neighbour is one such man. His wife died 5 years ago (they were married 50 years!!) and he visits her grave every 2 days to light a candle that lasts 48 hours. He does so because she had always been scared of the dark so he makes sure here gravesite is well lit. He talks about here with so much love, so I wish that each and everyone of you here will meet a man that loves you the way my neighbour loves his late wife.
Omg😭❤
That’s so sweet!!!!
This makes me tear up; what a sweetheart!
This is so cute I almost started crying. Wtf😭😭
sending love to your neighbour! these type of men are gems honestly
The insane part is that if she did get in her “proving energy” and say something like “I have a house, a degree in economics and a six figure job. That’s what I bring to the table.” She would STILL be discredited because that’s “too masculine” therefore not valuable. Fatherless behavior is a great way to define the problem.
Great point wow!!thank you for this
Yes! This is why “what do you bring to the table?” from a man is always a trap. If you say something focused on your career or education, “men don’t care about that.” If you say something related to looks, sex, or nurturing behavior, “see that’s really all women have to offer,” as if it’s worthless. If he is asking that type of question, he is just trying to get you to devalue yourself, period. And you should run.
Biologically men want to go out and hunt and bring back food.
@@Lovelygirl908 So they will discredit a woman for doing that, and discredit her for not doing that and for staying at home because "his job is more stressful".
Men need to decide.
@@northstar2621 i don’t know what ppl u listen to. Your home life might be toxic. My mother is workaholic immigrant who barely speaks English, no one ever told her anything. My sister is a stay at home mom and her Husband supports her and marriage works fine and when she goes back to work, her husband supports her. So if a relationship is healthy, both partners support each other. If relationship around you are bad like single parent homes/divorced maybe that’s where u see toxic comments
The fact the man responded to the "what do u bring to the table" question was gold. Now the interviewer seems offended, triggered, shocked, sad, that a woman he doesn't know, is being provided for by a man. It's so bizarre.
They are jealous
They want to be given princess treatment
@@FoundSheep-ANexactly. Too man out there wanting that kind of treatment nowadays.
@@FoundSheep-AN It's true. I've seen males say they want flowers too. It's a total reversal of gender roles, but still in a patriarchal system. I mean they should get that from other males
The interviewer had bad intentions
@@cloudypolly22I know a lot of women who in one way or another live off of men not a man but just men for diffrent things, and even though I have got money for Ubers hair cuts food weed ect, there’s just a level of opportunity women have that men nowadays and I’m not trying to be ignorant but that’s how it feels
look at how shes so enamored with her man! she knows whatever he says will be respectful and said in love she doesn't even try to say anything she knows he's got it. she doesn't have to do anything but stand there and stare at him adoringly.
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It's the freedom for me!
Loved seeing this 🥰❤️
Thats resting in her feminine and letting him lead so many men complain about. They want this without doing the work😂 better yet they want us to do all the work and they want the benefits. 😂
He REALLY does too!!!
He wasn't about to let some random guy on the street try to knock her down a peg or two....
He knows her worth
My husband took me to the ring store and told the man to give me whatever ring I wanted. He also just sent me architectural plans for the house he is building for me. I definitely inspire him to conquer the world, then he turns around and PROUDLY showers me with all of my heart’s desires. He told me it makes him feel so good and I deserve nothing but the best ❤❤
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I love this for u 😊
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So happy for you 😢❤
"I inspire him to conquer the world" if this ain't goals 😂
The husband is an ABSOLUTE KEEPER!!! THIS is the type of man we should be with ladies👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yeah, maybe he has a brother or 2 😂❤
@@dakiller5957making lots of assumptions.guess you know them personally huh?
@@dakiller5957i bet you just project your own fears onto others. that’s curable though
@@dakiller5957 you just can't digest that they are happy and he respects her so you're praying on their downfall. most relationships don't last but.
@@dakiller5957 your projections are apparent. Please talk to a considerate counselor instead of random ppl on internet like me. I can't answer that for you. You have to answer why you're asking these questions here
This makes me think of when I was a 7 years old. I saw peacocks in person for the first time. The female peacock were so plain on comparison to the males. I asked my mom "Why aren't the girl ones pretty like the boys?!" And she said "That's because it's a man's job to impress the girl. And she chooses who she wants to be with." Never forgot that. Lol. When you see someone's inherent value effort is made. For both men and women. The couple in the video is so sweet. Wishing them happiness.
Nature understands it. Not just peacocks but so so many animals.
All male birds court female birds with rocks, snacks and entertainment 😂 if only
What does she brings on table? A FUCKING REASON TO LIVE. Look at her. She’s stunning af and gave him beautiful children 💅🏽
love it 😂💯❤️🔥
So if she wasn't pretty, she doesn't deserve to get nice things?
@@awol6574it is lol
If your partner is your reason to live I must say you hadn't fully matured yet, there is plenty of things a balanced life should focus on and marriage/relationships is just a small part of it.
Lmao
Its obvious, the interviewer is jealous of this beautiful feminine woman. He tried so hard to dog her and get a reaction out her.
I LOVE that she could stand there, relaxed, happy and at peace because she knows her husband has her back and lets him speak for her because she trusts him to stand up for her and say the right things with weight.
If you man does not do this when your worth us questioned, why you with him?
My Dad may be a jokester. However, as soon as a man or woman tries to question my mum's worth without reason or imvitation, my Dad calls them out and tells them my mum's worth.
There’s no reason to be with a man who doesn’t stand up for you. I was in a relationship where I felt like was battling an entire family. B/c I had a single mom I haaad to be a gold digger (which I should have been-receiving gold somewhere, on easy mode) . I thought I was doing my part when I was explained to him how I wasn’t a gold digger, how I wasn’t going nowhere in life, how I didn’t want to babytrap him. A year later we broke up and he gleefully let slide he used to talk shit about me with his sweet family 🤣🤣🤣All that time I wasted talking is the worst part. I seriously think the birth control gave me brain fog.
***He used to act so clueless when he expressed his family’s opinion. thats actually the worst part
He wishes it was him so bad!😂
That couple were so cute! I can confirm men like that do exist. My husband is like that - bought the nice ring, planned the proposal etc. he was the one who wanted his wife to have “a big rock” because he understands that it’s a status symbol FOR HIM. These dusty men who shame women for wanting nice engagement rings don’t get it. And the question “what does he get in return?” Gross.
@@i_am_funny LOL I know, it's because of my job and content I plan to make.
Nothing wrong with wanting nice things, the question becomes how many women are out there that wouldn’t care about having a ring or not? How many would say “babe let’s out that money towards a house or an unforgettable vacation”. To each his/ her own.
@@oeckstei But why a man wouldn't care about giving his future wife a symbol of his love?
@@oecksteiyou are acting like she knew the price of the ring. There are women who don't want expensive rings. Please go and find them and stop the tears
Exactly. Men like that are looking for ways to cheap out on a symbol of love and commitment that’s supposed to last for life, how are *they* going to feel that the ring they bought turns green within a year?
That interviewer probably has never fallen in love in his entire life. It seems like he is so bitter that the man is so in love with the woman. He wants to destroy their relationship by humiliating the woman. If he wants someone who would spend 35k on a ring for him he should just date a man himself.
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He's just a typical bandit they're hardly capable of most human emotion ESPECIALLY love.
I caught my self this summer saying how I think expensive rings are ridiculous and a Pandora ring would be fine. I said it to a guy who was my bf because I knew he would never propose to me so I hoped if I removed the pressure from an expensive ring he would want to marry me - I was wrong and such a pick me.
The better you treat men, the less respect they have for you.
Self awareness is priceless. At least you recognize it and can avoid doing it in the future
Girl I’m so glad it didn’t work 😭
Recognising this is the first step to taking better decisions and doing better. Good luck bestie ❤
And you would have put your standards down even more.
I read somewhere that the original root of the word 'chivalry' related to the fact that knights, as swordsmen on horseback, had the ability to pose a significant threat to anyone who wasn't, and as such were bound to a code of honour where they were expected to use this extra power generously and for the good of those around them. Its very similar to the way that pedestrians get automatic right of way over cars because they are more vulnerable.
As such, with men having structural power under patriarchy, we really should only date men who are chivalrous - those who use their access to masculinity to benefit those who are exculded from it - because in this understanding, chivalry becomes a recongition of patriarchy and an attempt to rectify the power imbalance imposed by patriarchy on heterosexual relationships.
this actually makes so much sense 👏 ❤ thank you sm for sharing
This is kinda mind-blowing.
Love that the origins of chivalry is rooted in a code of honour! 🙌🏾 Thanks for sharing 💛
I love this
Yes very true I remember my high school english teacher speaking to us about the origin of chivalry. I think that's why I never had an issue with it. Great point!
Notice how she didn't want to talk to the interviewer and was giving him a side eye because of his attitude, so his fiance started talking for her ❤ What's up with these black broke dudes saying the nastiest things all over the internet about women😅 in an interview, he was telling a lesbian why she is not getting a man 😂 In another video, he was shaming a woman in her 40s who said he likes being happy and single. Most of his street interviews are shaming drink young women. And the comment section is filled with nasty comments from other broke fatherless males like him 💀🤭 It's like they have created a cult and all fatherless males hang out and talk trash about women
The worst part is how some of these black men talk about black women. I'm not black, but as a woman seeing the way black men treat their women just makes me sad and angry. I've even seen some of these men compare black women to cockroaches. It's absolutely disgusting.
@@chickensalad3535 I have seen this too. Anti black woman content is too popular online its disgusting how the algorithm pushes it. Thank God I dated out and am marrying up. My Polish fiance treats me like a princess. 👸 That's why I focus on encouraging black women to open their options and date out on my channel.
@@chickensalad3535They treat their kids even worse.
@@chickensalad3535I also saw those behaviour too I am indian and once I was literally quarrelling with a black man about it and at last he called me a racist magot. It's so funny cause he was calling himself an alpha man and when he couldn't reason with me the first thing he did was pulling a race card.
you’re saying this as if there aren’t hundreds (if not thousands) of white men making this same type of content
The way that man stands up for his woman, is such a beautiful, heartwarming sight to see! 🥰 He truly values her and she trusts him.
That woman is sooo lucky
The best couple I've ever seen
Wish them happiness forever ❤
This is how a woman should be treated ❤
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Exactly, he values her. It's clear he's got a good head on his shoulder, that's why he's so successful AND how he bagged such a catch himself 👏
Chaimaa- i low key envy the girl
They're both happy and value each other....
Why does this upset the dusties?
We know why?
He's lucky too!
I switched saying "not all men" with "yes all men" and it's been so freeing. It really is all men, and even the good ones know that. So _nobody_ should be saying that, because not only is it not true, it lets the men we are absolutely talking about (because only that kind of fragile male would feel insecure enough to say that) off the hook. Strong men know even they need to do the work and deprogram their misogyny, they know they are a part of the solution or a part of the problem.
Try saying “a critical mass” of men to shut the “it’s not all men” ppl up
@@kittykatz4001 even that isn't true. Literally all men are raised on planet earth. There is not a single place on this planet where men are not taught from the womb that they are special, more special than women. Strong men know this and have done at least some work to deprogram themselves. YES. ALL. MEN.
@@kittykatz4001 even saying that is literally enabling the fragile men _who we are talking about_
Strong men say yes all men, because they know what they were taught. If they are strong, they are capable of being honest about their biases. Don't be a fragile woman and give into the enabling of fragile males.
I agree. When we say, “Not all men” as women, they see it as:
“They’re not talking about ME! I can get off the hook from this statement!”
And then they still relish in their low-income, incel ways. The same dudes that also think that it’s okay to hit women (if not physically attacked first) because “ITS FEMINISMM”
There’s a fine line between feminism and misandry. Men need to get with the times when proclaiming “not all men”!
@@kittykatz4001see i get it. It doesn't shut up the "not all" dips. I still use qualifiers. Or literal data gained percentages
Things like:
Most
Some
A few
The majority
A portion
A significant
Etc qualifiers.
I'll have to use critical mass sometime cause it's funny
That doesn't stop multiple
People form coming in going NOT ALL MEN. Which is than just *huge sigh
Did I say All? NO!
The only men/people who come in having to clarify "Not all" are trying to derail the conversation and protect their ego. "Well i dont do that." Which great. Since you don't do that how about talk about the issue being discussed instead of this "not all" deviceness.
Everytime i try than engage with this person. They suddenly have nothing more to say to me. They just had to jump in to TELL Me NOT ALL MEN. Than run away
They get up in a tizzy and than leave without engaging in the issue being discussed. It's exhausting. I just don't engage with those who go "not all." Anymore unless I'm feeling charitable or wanting to troll them.
In Short:
“Golden Retriever” dudes are the only men who are worthy of us.
I agree 100%.
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Okay, have you (including the owner's channel)? Or how make you sure you deserve it?
@@zhangningfuleveryone deserves to be treated kindly by their partner. I wouldn’t say it’s “golden retriever”, but that’s what the term is being used like here
It should be balanced. A woman should also make herself worthy to that "golden retriever" man as well.
“he already sees your value and he’s hoping that you don’t” THISSSS
I wish nothing but happiness and prosperity for the engaged couple. 💍 ❤🥰
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I was walking downtown after my therapy session and saw this interviewer looking for his next victims. Bad Vibes. I immediately power-walked the other way. No way he was gonna ruin my day!
Even if people don't know what this is about, I'd never answered any personal questions relating to finances or relationship for this dusty man to use my voice online😢
Nahhh see I’d go any other way 😂😂😂
Good for you. He's a weirdo
The reason men used to spend so much money on a diamond, is so when sht hits the fan, she can sell it and be OK financially (esp with kids). Men bargaining on an investment, are men that dont desserve to be married. Men benefit from marriage, not the other way around. The reason its the best day of her life, is because its downhill from there on (hard work).
Or maybe he can afford that type of ring and he truly loves and respects her. Everything doesn't have to have a negative side to it.
@@chula_Isa She was just saying the historical reason, because I've also been told this as well. But yes, what you said can also apply.
@@joonsbrownwife0613 I was told that it's in case the man dies she can sell it.
@@Tessy29k That is a case of sht hitting the fan.
@@chula_Isa nothing negative of asking a woman a question about what do she earn that ring. In my point of view there’s millions of women I can choose from and I have to choose one of them, in order to have that ability to choose 1 out of millions of women to be in my life for longer term I need to have a very good and specific reason as to why I pick this particular girl out of millions on the planet, when I choose this woman and I choose her right and she ended up the women of my dreams that can do xyz (sex not included) for me which made me do things for her and I give her a highly expensive ring because this woman does everything that I dreamed of, then I expect her to appreciate of all the things i do and give to her because she does everything that I ask for or not ask for.
Because without appreciation there’s no love and when there’s no love there’s no effort hence why men like the interviewer thinks women who don’t put in any effort in the relationship don’t actually love the man but what he can provide for her and when the providing stops she’ll leave without remorse and be with other dudes that she genuinely loves.
Her man even deescalated his energy towards her despite him still trying to dog her. A real man.
The interviewer’s behaviour irks me so much because I have met so many men with that kind of mindset. These are the men asking their dates to go Dutch on a first date and think that the little money that they have can buy women, but these are the SAME men who will go above and beyond the moment they meet women that are 10/10 in terms of appearance and obviously out of their leagues.
Honestly no. The interviewer act crazy no matter who he is with.
Usually this type of men never go above and beyond, including their dream women. Because the cheap stingy men do not charge.
The wackness of that interviewer is beyond beyond. Sad. Sad AF.
Also, how a person views marriage is key. Some people in some cultures feel like marriage is a once in a lifetime endeavor. A joining of souls and FAMILIES! Producing CHILDREN!
If you don't see marriage like that, it's difficult to grasp the excitement and beauty of deciding on a life partner.
Elle, great video.
Ladies, never explain, justify or apologize for who you are. ( I'm not talking about the apology when you're wrong, I'm talking about the apologizing for existing and doing you. For the no nuance Nellys😘)
And I am so loving how that guy told the interviewer is broke in the nicest way.
Ladies, men are insecure about money. Can you imagine a man telling another man how to spend his money. They don't do it. The fact that any man would question another man's wallet is absurd and not even accepted. It's the CLEAREST red flag that a man is broke AND insecure. ❤❤❤
He really kept repeatedly trying to devalue her.....
right in front of him!
@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 SMH 🎯
And the worse part is, dudes like the interviewer are influencing a lot of other men to think and behave the way he does. If you read his comment section, they all sound like sad drones. They think it's cool. And when I see a man deviate from what is traditionally written in the comment section, they jump on him and call him a simp. They are being influenced by the wrong people y'all. Smh.
@@k.em5424 I know. It's so sad. Really really really really sad. But I will say this....high value men are really not on the internet in comment sections. They are out living their lives. Or making money from the internet. Not sitting on their phone or computer, typing horrendous things they wouldn't say in public. Comment sections these days of divisive videos, attract divisive people who can't even type!
"Wackness" 😭😭
I saw that reel on IG and a lot of men were commenting how a high value woman can't be bought. That comment had soo many likes. Lord help us all unfuck the dating market!!
that equals = I want everything for nothing 🙄
@@dinosaur___7209the redpill wants the princess treatment 😂
@@dinosaur___7209sad asf
They’re right - she can’t be “bought” in that her inherent value is more than they could pay in a lifetime 😂 BUT as Elle says the least a man can do is pay. 😉
That black dude was trying so hard to lower her value but her fiancé stepped in and put him in his place. Love to see it. ❤
Fatherless vibes 😂😂😂
It was giving “jealous”.
Most BM view their own women as a placeholder and lower their value.
I usually don't care about the money, but I've had a friend whom her wife proposed to her with a ring she made herself after taking blacksmithing classes. I guess it also helped that they're a lesbian couple, but the effort was there and I'm not settling for any less.
Yes to me it’s the style and beauty of the ring and how it matches me vs how much it cost. My engagement ring I picked out myself (bc I’m picky af) but it has Celtic designs and a Diamond heart. I don’t LIKE huge gemstones so I got the largest heart that looked beautiful in the setting. I love the thought and effort route too with a homemade ring omg 😭 that’s one of a kind and love is poured into it! 💍 ✨
That's so cool.
Omg that part about men only respecting other men. My parents don’t speak English very well and would ask me to read their mail and explain it to them. I would tell them and then they would go to my brother to read and explain it. My brother would say the same exact thing I would say and they would trust his word more 🙄
I would tell them no next time
People who do this piss me off. The uncountable number of times I've called my mom out on this....Istg. Like if all I say is unbelievable to you, just don't ask me anything, how's that?
Stop doing it
Eww
It is disrespectful to you so stop doing that for them. They teach your brother to devalue you and the women around him. If they want him to read the mail, then they need to just have him read the mail. If my parents pulled that on me one time, that would have been it. I would have made it plain and clear that reading the mail would be HIS job only. I don't play games.
We don't know what goes on behind closed doors BUT her body language indicates she feels safe loved and taken care of and that she really loves and adores him in return. I think both were eloquent and respectful in how they handled the interviewer's massive disrespect.
And all he had to do was spend thousands on clothes, gifts, trips, 35k engagement ring and a list of other things just to make her happy lmao
@@brokeboiacey5674i think he loves spoiling her, he said that its worth it, he looks like he has respect for himself and wouldnt be with a gold digger, just because a man or a woman buys their partner a lot of stuff doesnt make them a gold digger
@@atinybruh yes but look at this, HUMANS don’t appreciate SHYT when you give them things for free. It’s not rocket science. There’s countless of relationships ended very soon and some later before the man or the woman spoiled their significant other.
We shower people we love with: affirmations, quality time, loving touch, acts of service AND gifts! Yes gifts! These are the 5 articulated love languages. The ultimate love language is to be KNOWN by someone. And they express this knowledge of you through these 5 languages which including buying things and taking you in trips if you love to travel (yes!). If you don’t do these things for people in your life… well words are hollow. You can say “I love you” but if you’re not backing it up with reciprocal action it’s nothing.
My husband primarily is affirmation and acts of service so he appreciates getting pumped up with confidence boosting words and praise + coming home to a clean kitchen. (He also naturally cleans and is the first one to pull out the mop!)
Mine are quality time and touch so I appreciate cuddling on the sofa, watching movies together, and getting a massage. Neither of ours tested heavy in gift but we still do honor this and give each other amazing gifts for special occasions and he still provides and gives me treats and gifts at random 🥰
@@brokeboiacey5674You are the man she talks about.
The ring is symbolic, but it's also a gift. I don't see why any man should be shamed for giving a gift (whether expensive or not)
Well in the interviewers community this sort of behavior is called "Simping". In his community usually it is the women that provide and protect All
I LOVE that clip. It's so rare to see positive examples of husbands but they give me so much life
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Just those few minutes was enough to blow my mind. Omg men like these do exist and they're not just a fairy tale, my standards were always reasonable despite what everyone said about how i was unrealistic, asking for too much etc etc...
I somehow almost feel like crying lol but in a good way
Glad to hear it girl. Makes me sad at the same time that what’s in the video is considered a fairytale.
This is the standard in my circle and my friends who have partners like in this videos and are engaged/marry parents would not allow them to marry if the man doesn’t have a provider mindset and the means to.
@@Rosierose902 yes, actually because of what I had seen thus far, I never dated. Because I thought, 'if this is what's available, there's no point in me dating at all. I would literally rather chew off my own leg than ever date an undesirable (now we call them BBMLE) man.'
But now I see that what I desire exists, so I'll start looking for it.
I hope to change my reality to reflect this, like you already have. ♥️
Okay when will you prove you get your standard, just wait?
It's not even about money. It's the efforts/ intention. Beautiful.
The whole message of him wanting you at a discount blew my mind. This is all so validating and sheds light on so many past experiences that turned me off when I was too young/naïve/inexperienced to actually understand why. Thanks!
Exactly. Hearing her say that they know your worth already and that’s why they approached you in the first place but then they try to belittle and bargain with you so you don’t recognize how valuable you truly are. I realized this when online dating in the past and how some guys would see me in person and decide they needed to spend a lot of money to impress me. Just by seeing me, they recognized this is someone who is deserving of the best. I never really got it to be honest and I’d stupidly be like you don’t have to take me to then 5th place this night and spend so much money. Not realizing that they knew from just looking at me that I was someone they felt they need to impress to get with. I never had to ask, it was just given like that. So when I left them and later stupidly went and dated someone who was broke, not realizing that money to them is value, they consider it a privilege to provide for someone. (Also apparently, I look hotter in person but only cute in pictures so I guess beauty has a lot more monetary value that I thought)
She could immediately tell she didn’t like where this was going and you could see she was visibly uncomfortable so the way the husband spoke up very nonchalantly like “pry about $35k but she definitely deserves it” was so sweet. Omg and the “I think I should answer that” this man is wonderful.
The man in the interview reminds me of my husband. He also bought me a $35k+ ring and planned an amazing proposal at a picturesque spot at my alma mater. He would have answered the same way when asked what he gets in return. I’m his partner for life and he values how I treat him and his family (very close to my in-laws, we are going on a couples trip with his parents to South America in the new year), my family and all the people we both love.
Where you find him?
The trip to Florence was thoughtful, since it is personal. Not just a random cool city, but something meaningful for her. They look so happy together. Every gift that I cherish was personal. That means a ring too. I don't care how much it costs, I care about the effort and thought behind it. I know wedding rings without diamonds, but with other precious stones that have a special meaning. It is never about money, it is about respect, consideration and valueing your partner.
I hate those kind interviews. Going those streets and trying to ask stupid questions. But I'm glad someone finally answered that.
I saw this video on another Womens site , and she totally went in on that low vibrational dog minded interviewer whose whole intent was trying so hard to downgrade the women and these Men of this sort is the biggest turn off and to me it's disgusting .....That couple looks Happy ,balanced and content and That man speaking up for her Acknowledging her Values is Priceless...I hope to acquire that one day...that is the type of Male mentality we need around ...Thank you 💚🙏🏾👑💫
It is SO good to see two good people find one another in this world. I wish that lovely couple all the blessings. It is not about the money; it is about the abundance. What a bountiful example of emotional intelligence, creativity and love from a man to a woman. She will truly bless all his days.
Can we find a different term than golden retriever behavior? I get the sentiment but it seems demeaning, as if they’re just puppy dogs lapping up after us. No, a man in his masculine energy is so much more than that - it’s powerful, it’s assertive, it’s sexy at the deepest level
I agree!!
I agree! A masculine man comes off as agile & alert, yet confident. Maybe Jaguar/Panther/Leopard behavior?
Second that!
I think its fine, golden retrievers are nice friendly cute loyal and still being able to protect the family, stand up for themselves, its not like the person is a dog bro like someone said lets use panther or tiger does that indicates that they are just a predatory animals that would kill or hurt anyone smaller than them, i dont think so
The term is specifically "golden retriever" and not the generic "dog." That's because, whilst the entire species of dog is known to be loyal, golden retrievers are the golden standard. Look up the traits of golden retrievers: calm, affectionate, protective. They are the go-to family breed and service dog breed.
The term is a compliment!
I did hear a relationship coach suggest coffee dates to " protect ones time" among other things like night time safety. But that's after finding them online and never meeting them before. So also to make sure they aren't creep material and one feels safe to go on a dinner date and feels one wants to spend the more time invested in such dinner date.
I do agree with a "coffee date" being the very first date. But ONLY as the first date. If ya click after that date, then he needs to invest more. But a coffee date shouldn't just be at some Starbucks, but a genuine coffee/tea house. But yeah, if we can't click on a short first date, odds are we won't click on longer dates. My time is valuable, and I'd rather find out quickly if we click. I've been on dinner dates that lasted longer than they should have because we had to wait to be seated, wait for the food, etc., and the guy and I didn't click. So it was awkward.
I can't stand the thought of coffee dates. My first date with my fiance was a 5* Restaurant and we went to 2 other restaurants that same day. He paid for everything. To me coffee dates are so low effort and casual that I wouldn't waste my energy. If I am going to dress up lavishly and look amazing then I need to be taken to a place that matches my dressing because some of these men really think you'll fall into bed with them and all it takes is a coffee and a croissant. Grim!😒
chivalry is a must have code of honour for all men
Chivalry is dead and women killed it
He just raised the standard!! She definitely is in her female energy
The reason for women going on low effort dates like coffee and walking is not without reason. Coffee dates are a lot quicker and easier to walk out on. Also, they are often while it is still light outside. It is a safety thing. Many only go out for dinner on a second date. Home dates are an instant red flag, and men don't seem to understand that.
Walking dates are mainly a covid thing. Unless it is really long walks, but that is reserved for boyfriends and for when you are in a nice city, often combined with lunch, café and an activity (perhaps a movie or concert).
He is secure man who will never let down his women in front of anyone, he is truly a gatekeeper ❤
She's definitely glowing, when women are well loved it shows...
that guy handled the interviewer like a pro and the woman can chill and trust her man and my good sis is gloooowiiiing, their lives are probably so blessed cause she is taken care off and can thrive
I was watching a video on heteropessimism the other day and I think it captured some of how I felt towards dating and relationships. Pessimistic on the outlook of it all today, and I struggled with accepting that bc I don’t see enough content that makes me see or feel much hope. Which is really hard. I’ve tried being a gentleman for most of my life - in my early 20s now and I still try for the life of me to be “good”. Not perfect or amazing, but just good. Kind. Strong. Caring. Virtuous. I really enjoyed your video and the comments that I’ve been reading bc they remind me to not stop trying to be that way. And sometimes the words/videos we see the most often may not reflect the reality of the world. So I just wanted to say great video! Gave me some hope to remember
Thank you so much for mentioning fatherless behavior because that is truly what this is
I love how she keeps her gaze on her husband with not just an encouraging smile but the energy that he can win this "competition" ❤ it helps him be more calm and collected dealing with that moron. High value feminine energy right there❤ awesome couple.
Her man just constantly raising the bar!!! Like god he is the gold standard.
It's shocking to me how there are men who don't understand and see the value women have
tbh I think they know and want to negg us
If they didn’t know how valuable we were, they wouldn’t lose their minds when they can’t get the woman they want 🤷♀️ ☕️ look at the incel movement…they’re bitter bc they know we’re priceless
I don’t think the problem is them not seeing how much value we have, it’s them feeling like we don’t value them back i.e. a general lack of reciprocity. What I gathered from talking to male friends/family members lol
Not all women and men have value to be fair. Value is not because someone has one gender.
@@anuhassan5596woman multiplies everything she gets from a man be it love or misery. So it's either the woman was not meant for them or they did nothing in that relationship.
The interviewer is always so condescending toward the women. He is not a chivalrous man and just does not get it.
Girl, I normally don't really write comments. But your content is too precious to not write one. I always struggled with my feminine energy and what does it mean to be a woman. My father was very harsh and emotionally abusive. He hated women and pushed me to be more masculine but still submisive to control me. I really appreciate your content and the subjects you cover. I especially like how throughout you are and realistic and pragmatic. It made me change my opinions and my stand on romantic relationships. You are very eloquent and the way you speak and explain makes it very interesting and easy to understand. Thank you so much.
"men are market driven" i have never heard such a true and real phase till now
My bf asked me to get whatever ring I wanted. I def chose the cheapest one, but only because I have bigger interests, I don't care about expensive rings, and I knew he was going to give me some money to help me pay my debts. Yesterday, he said that I could choose the apartment I wanted for us. I've visited the place and apparently, yeah, we're going to move in there. My sister is a real estate broker, and she was responsible for finding us our new home. Even when he was unemployed, he always tried to spoil me, give me jewelry and chocolate. The place is perfect guys, it has two pools (I love swimming), two gyms, it's a 4 min walk from my work and it has easy acccess to a lot of places. That's the difference, guys.
If a man doesn’t spend at least a few months worth of pay on your ring and get you a dowry, he doesn’t care for you. I know some feathers are gonna be ruffled lol
@@MedusssssaChristoif a man buys you a cheap ring he might as well present a ring pop lmao
@@cherxii4781 its not always about them being rich, its about them being financially stable/literate and generous.
Exactly. My fiance has to pay a bride price on top of the 2 carat diamond ring he got me and we are having two weddings as I am Nigerian 🇳🇬 and he is Polish. 🇵🇱 So our families have strong traditions. I will be having a Nigerian traditional wedding with about 500 guests and a Polish wedding in Poland for his family in Poland to attend.
We even had to do a pre traditional engagement dinner with my parents which cost money as my fiance pays for everything. Marriage and weddings is not for broke men. Starting a life with someone costs moneyyyyy.
@@cherxii4781 Funnily enough dating apps. I met my wealthy European fiance on a dating app. Similarly Akila Releford Gould met her husband Andrew Gould the VP of Roc Nation on the Raya app. Its mostly luck too.
@@Tessy29k love this for you!
He outed himself as a dusty brokey with these questions. He never traveled out of the US thats why he thought of Florence, SC instead of Italy 😂.
Seems very murican to not know about other countries ngl
Oh no babe! He definitely knew it was Florence Italy but he couldn't wrap his head around the fact that the woman was more cultured and traveled than him so he was trying to reassure himself that it couldn't possibly be Italy.
He sounds a little jamaican, explains his misogynistic personality.
@@adeleisnamedaftermePuhlease black American men show their bs online DAILY especially on their precious podcasts.
One of my newfavouritee videos out of urs! I like how u describe all dating as a market, and it especiallyy in the US I saw many men whose novadays targeting foreigners from 2nd world countries as postal brides because they can`t cope with local market. Myself I`m 2nd world country woman and it`s disgusting every time hearing my lower worth on dating apps by those men, they so convinced that if I match them it means I`m their bride without even one cup of starbucks coffee lol. I left all dating apps, and leaving every man instanstly if he insults my nationality, life situation, job or anything from my life, and of course NO to guys whose blaming their local women for dating market. I`m so done of it.
These redpill dudes got too comfortable being surrounded by “Yes Men” online and carefully planned play dates that they forgot the golden unspoken rule of men. Don’t disrespect a man’s woman ESPECIALLY in front of him unless you want a can of whoop hide opened on you. Reminds me of when Myron from Fresh and Fit called Preach’s wife a Beluga Whale but chickened out of the boxing match HE proposed.
What an irony to read this on the "Yes Women" side of RUclips
@agapon2023 LOL these women on this channel are no different from red pill guys.
Pheeewwww another banger!!!! I spent almost 5 years in a relationship with a man who didn't see my inherent value, and absolutely kept me in "proving myself" mode. Glad to say I've been single for the past 2 years and will DIE single if I must! I'm never letting someone treat me like that again.
If he had asked me "Well what does he get in return?" I would've just given an incredulous laugh and been like "he gets to be with ME. Duh!"
I feel like golden retriever behavior is but a subset of benevolent sexism/chivalry.
I recall a situation once in my previous job where us research assistants and our PI was going out for a team dinner, and he paid for us. But i could feel that he didn't seem to be respecting us very much at all; i felt in me that I didn't want him to pay, and we all felt the need to express our thanks in a very over the top way. On the face of it, that was benevolent sexism, nothing he did or expressed was hostile, but he would always have these views like women all needed to be helped etc etc. It felt disempowering.
Whereas in the video, the golden retriever man clearly respected his woman. If he helps her do something, im sure he would be doing it out of a desire to lighten her load, not because he thought she needed help. I would imagine that he makes her feel empowered, that she has someone to protect her.
So i guess both cases are benevolent sexism/chivalry in action, but the first case is clearly not golden retriever. I think it depends from what place the man is acting.
This was thought provoking
I have a golden retriever man and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I love us calling men out with "fatherless behavior." It stings.
And I love Florence, Italy. Going there this christmas ❤
As an Italian spoiled girlie here , I wish you an amazing trip to Florence ! , and thank you for coming to my country ! Be careful of scams on the streets of Florence tho ❤🫂
Manifestelle, I'm from Mexico and I'm absolutely loving your content, I think a lot of us women who are spanish speakers often have a very "proving energy" and the men in our cultures are feminine and only care about receiving from and using women for the benefits, I'd love to take your videos and translate them to spanish to post them so that more people are able to access such valuable information you give us; I'd need your permission to do this, though. It's totally fine if I don't have your permission.
I'm in love with your channel!! Hugs from Mexico.
I think what you're doing on this channel is really necessary for young girls to understand what it really means to be a woman. Thank you for doing this.
The traditional rule for price was three month's salary, but I agree that it's subjective both for what you can afford and what it means. I know many people who find wearing expensive things simply too stressful.
1:16 Maybe it's just me but if some stranger walked up to us and started asking how much our jewelry is worth, I would be a little paranoid and tell him it's fake
You're right for that bless you little dude
Girl where we’re you when i was in my early 20s 😭😭😭😭 you’re preaching sis!!!!!
Elle, I agree with you that if a man wants you to prove to him your worth and values, it's not a loving relationship and it won't work. My ex demands so much from me and yet he's unable to offer much to me.
He finally interviewed a happy couple and was left speechless😂😂
Good that you are raising such topics.
Here we see two examples of Man. One who is proud of what he has. The other -A frustrated one.
So, let us not generalize.
Good heart reaches to good hearts ❤
In the wise timeless words of Fran Drescher "Men and women and equal in everything, except that they have to open the door and pay for everything.''
A man who is able to see the worth of the woman who is by his side, showing him love and her feminine side in a comfortable and natural way because he inspires that; feels fulfillment, pride and is active when it comes to show how much he respected his woman and the relationship they are in. 🎉
I love that you analyzed that video. I get awful energy from this man’s interviews. He OFTEN makes the worst out of the women he interviews, and when I saw this video it was so relieving how the couple remained respectful of themselves while participating.
The fact I’ve never received a bouquet of flowers in my lifetime is SIN.
I received a potted cactus that lived for a few years before my kids killed it
Very well-spoken ❤
This must get viral!
Thanks for inspiration. Your brains are working in engineer-type of way, incredibly articulated!
Biggest red flag is if a guy says “what do you bring to the table” this one guy said that to me from then I just knew that person wasn’t the one. Let’s be real if a man see’s your worth he wouldn’t even ask that question. Ask if a guy asks you that don’t answer it, it’s a trick question. They are trying to make you question your worth and self
PS my husband surprised me with the proposal on a trip that we planned together (I hate that type of surprise), but my favourite FAVOURITE thing is that he pretended to forget something on a visit to my parents and ran back into the house - unbeknownst to me - to ask them for permission to marry me. It was obviously 100 percent my choice, I was already independent at that point and it wasn't actually up to them as such - it was just such a very nice way to make them feel involved and valued. And he was so right, we were all so pleased!!
The guy is provider and a protector(he protected her when he explained that to the interviewer)
It's not even the money that he spends on her that makes him a lovely person and a nice partner because there are plenty of nice men who aren't rich. It's the way he listens to her and her interests and acts on them to make her happy, shows that he truly cares for her.
I've been seeing a lot of what I'm doing through the lens of your "multiplier" theory and it's been very eye-opening and beneficial to me. Thank you!!
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i just need to let everybody know that my mom pays the rent of the house for her boyfriend… all the bills… and this is seriously not okay. like girl😀 at least i know exactly what to avoid in a man☺️
SMDH.
Is your mom in her 40’s-50’s??
Glad you recognize that is not the way ❤
@@jashaehall154yes…😕😭
@@YourFavoriteRealEstateAgentim glad too💗
This video is such a confirmation. People will try to devalue you. Make it seem as if you are not worth anything remotely good. As an indigenous women who is deeply melanated I have to consistently remind people of my worth. They are always shocked and taken back at my expectations and standards for myself. Their lack of etiquette shows inconsistencies in their performative behavior and speech. If your discerning it will be helpful in weeding out the disingenuous.
“Behind her back?” Salty little boy trying to start trouble in their marriage after insulting this woman.
Honestly that video was just so sweet. I saw it on tik tok and was like oooooohhhh here we go and was probably gonna scroll. But I didn’t.
I love that video. I’m used to the bs !
Another video of that interviewer.. of course showed a woman (black woman like me) who was gorgeous and just not being treated to that level of affection or protection. And that’s what a lot of these interviews or real life experiences.
I have seen love like the one of the lovely couple. It’s just very very rare.
I hope one day to have that and of course aligned to what the universe or God Himself wants for me.
* I’ve also been single all my life and have no problem with it being that way rest of my life. Either cause I’m maybe aromantic, haven’t found the one that clicks, or simply not for me.
Interviewer was VERY rude. They're engaged. She has nothing to prove to you. 👎🔥🔥👏
What you explained is basically the difference between equity and equality. We need equity so that even tho we are born with differences we can both achieve the same level of happiness and comfort in society.
Yes girl, speak the truth! Some of us have learned the hard way, with a man asking us to prove our worth after giving them everything 8 years down the line, including our youth. Don’t ever forget that one of the first things I did for you was take you shopping for new clothes, for t-shirts that actually fit you instead of expose your belly because you couldn’t afford to. If I started with that in month one (which was dumb and foolish of me) then ask yourself how much more did I do after 8 years. Chapter closed and lessons learned! Period
That's high value man versus low value men
Another beautifully made video 🙌🏽✨ I just want to add that, personally I stopped going on dinner dates as a first date op, one time I went on one with a guy that was SOOO boring I didn’t even want to eat any more and we had 14:15 already ordered food so I was stuck there for like 2 hours when all I wanted to do was leave. So now, I keep first dates low investment because 1: I don’t know them 2: if they’re boring im not going to give you more than 30 minutes, MAX.. love the spoiled girly support group. This has become my FAV channel 💸
This interviewer pisses me off and I know he is not worth getting mad over buttt I hate when shows up my feed, he just gives broke, pathetic and weak. This couples was a stunning example of healthy relationships. ❤
The guy asking dumb questions is the kind of people you don't want around your healthy relationship
I agree with everything you said except the coffee date. The first date I had with my amazing husband was a beach date. He picked a beach date because he knew that being a woman I was afraid of him murdering me so he planned a first date so we would be around a lot of people during the day. The second date was a dinner date and most dates after that were expensive restaurants and such. I knew I was the prize. The phone rang so much that one week he neglected to call and I thought he did call and wasn't bothered at all. It was back before caller ID and he said, "I should have called but I didn't...." And I said, "Oh that is okay I thought you did call. I got a message that someone named Bah ah...." and my voice trailed off knowing I couldn't tell hims someone with the same name left me a message. Later I realized that couldn't have gone better if I planned it. And you are right, men only talk to women they find attractive.