3 Crimes a Narcissist Commits out of their Jealousy
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- Опубликовано: 29 июл 2024
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00:00 Introduction
02:03 They become extremely jealous of you achievements
05:55 They alienate you from your children
08:03 The destruction of your reputation & isolation they cause
10:42 The conclusion
When a narcissist doesn't get his/her way, they get dangerous, literally.
& then everyone gives in to them to stop the abuse but it's a never ending cycle
Yes. If a narcissist desires for you to die then they are the ultimate danger to society. Once they are diagnosed as narcissist, they will need to be watched closely. Their veiw of the world is distorted. They have no sense of logic and most of their utterances are incoherent and nonsensical.
Don’t ever let them them know what is important to you. They will do everything they can to either take it or destroy it. The happiest they are is when you have a sad face.
Yes, the sadder you are the happier they become. And if your sick, don’t rely on them they’ll leave you for dead. No empathy what so ever.
Yes absolutely this happened to me recently he took me away for a few nights to the coast then he left me there in the caravan on my own while he drove back to London to get my door key behind my back from my neighbour who had instructions to look after my dog while I was away my partner of 8 years tried to get my key from my neighbour but he never had it neighbour called the police my partner drove away he wanted my electricals from my home he is A narnasist who played mind games always dissapeard gave me absence all through the 8 years he was jealous of what I had
@@sharondeer4866 that’s just dreadful. You have an amazing neighbour
Jealousy , constant Jealousy over everything stems from a monstrous selfishness.
A narc even while having things in life they often don't even deserve in the first place, are jealous because they don't want anyone else to have anything good in life, even when those things have been earned by sheer hard work and determination. That's why they sabotage and ruin other's lives.
100% FACTS! Ultimately, that's what it is & where it starts. And you see it in LITERALLY every single thing they do. They know nothing of doing something out of kindness of heart...nope...there must always be a reward and/or benefit for them. Oh, they'll make it seem as though they're the martyr, saint, hero, etc, for doing the wonderful, selfless thing they've done. Such is usually never the case, as they don't do things altruistically...unless it makes them seem/appear grand! smh...destructive forces...but their day is coming. Just pray for them...i kid you not...and watch Justice unfold. (might take some time, but God is the God of Justice!
"constant jealousy over everything" says it all. It's insane to be honest. I mean, how can they be jealous over something that you tell them about your childhood and punish you for it? I mean I didn't even know her as a child and I was just telling her things about myself, not to make her jealous, I just wanted to be honest and open with her. I'm not a jealous person. Just be honest with me so I can get to know you better, not so I can stand in judgement of you and all that comes with jealousy, and I sure as heck won't accuse you of wanting someone else just because you held a door open for another man or smiled at him. Their jealousy knows no bounds.
@@SharkE747 omigoodness...very tragic really. Imagine someone living in the depths of such insecurity! Though it's sad...it still doesn't give them any right to abuse us or anyone else for that matter
@@simonpegg1196 the sabotage can be unreal to experience. i sometimes catch them in the middle of sabotaging me & still...they'll lie, deny, turn a blind eye...till they die!
They kill your needs and your wants and your feelings. Yep.
You gave the perfect description, "every minute spent with a narcissist is like getting slowly poisoned."
Oh my! Exactly!!
1) Destroy or at least spoil things in a marriage, especially if the narc happens to be a parent or in-law.
2) Take credit for your achievements as their own.
3) Sabotage your career, by writing, for example, an anonymous letter falsely smearing your reputation, to your place of work.
The loser narcissist I Used to Know things that I'm jealous cuz he has a two bedroom apartment haha funny
They all know what my working including corporate so try what you want
The jealousy is a very real thing. There is this NEED to get things that are bigger and 'better' than those that belong to other people, even when they're never really going to be used.
And they don't necessarily like them. It's often more about impressing others.
They also get incredibly jealous when they realise other people actually like you better just for being yourself.. (a narcissist sometimes has to put in more effort to get a positive response. Because they're fake. ).
There's also a need to claim credit. A narcissist may deliberately sabotage your efforts to do something, for that reason. They'd then do that very thing themselves to claim praise.
I actually used this against a narcissist a few times. Once I let it be known I was going to get a tablet for a relative who wanted one. The narcissist caught wind of this and decided to do it first, while I was still 'researching'.
It was sort of win-win-win for everyone.
The relative got a tablet. The narcissist got some praise.
And I didn't have to spend a penny.
That's gangsta move w the tablet haha. I love it
Good one 😀
Right.With some it's a game. We used to call it one-up-manship but it is still a childish competitive game.
The sad part is this can cause conflict and keeps you tied to them if you react.
It is all they know how to create bonding or "friends" but it is dysfunctional and they know it.
They need psychological help. It can be malicious.
Yes. Pray for them and us all involved even though we don't want to be. 🙏
@@thatrugreallytiedtheroomto4537 Narcissists can get predictable at times. Especially if there's a situation they can use to their advantage. ..
You're lovely Xx well done🤣🤣🤣
My mother would take my things and then claim they were hers. She would comment on my long hair like she was obsessed. She actually come into my room one night while I was sleeping and cut a big chuck out of my hair. I was horrified! She would never admit to it. I started locking my door at night and she got very angry. She has passed and I am in therapy. So much to work through but I am healing.
I had natural blonde waist length hair, and my mum convinced me to get it cut short and dye it brown. When I did I looked awful.......which seemed to please my mum.
Bless you. You poor dear.
"I don't like you, but I need you."
Narcissist
You would think they would be nicer because of that fact smh
It goes to show just how dependent they really are!
They're shallow, need a trophy 🏆 wife/husband, need constant admiration, too bad most people are too busy to care, too involved in their own lives and doing a good job doing what needs to be done, envy is a sin, know why? Cuz it works against you, it's for your own good not to envy anyone, it's really a healthy way of taking care of oneself but narcs are their own worst enemies!
Going through this as you speak. Also in my case I noticed that self entitlement is a big part of narcissism. Starting to hate those two words with a passion!
A "hostil parasite, virus" .... pretty much sums it up. To be seen by a narc is to be "attacked". My sister goes after everything - hair, weight, husband, pets, hobbies, religion even the type of car the rental car company gave me. Now that I can step back and see it, it is almost humerous the energy she spends to hurt me - but it no longer works.
Again a very accurate video. I feel like I am being assasined at every opportunity by my narc mother in law and her flying monkeys just because I am an empath and stand up for myself. I am dying one dig at a time. She hurt me in the worst way possible by taking my daughter and destroying my family and health.
I'm so sorry. You're not alone. I'm going through something similar.
Hi, and me too, hope you find the strenght to take care of yourself, you're a target and no fun, if you don't stick up for yourselves who will! Your daughter doesn't know any better but don't bend, situations will only be more horrible you do! If MIL calls and starts up, warn her she's to be cordial and when she doesn't adhere (a leopard 🐆 cannot change its spots) sweetly say "Bye 👋", you'll hear her crap and your brain will smile 😃, great here she goes and so do I, protect your child frim her if you can, I was a buffer. So keep watching and learning, this stuff is fascinating, you'll understand later in that sucks to be them and guess what? We can't do anything about their behaviour, they can grease their own hamster wheel, save yourself, the wee hours are the worst but it wanes, it's not a sign, it's just what needs to be flushed out of your mind, it passes, I promise but it takes time, be patient, you'll survive, knowing is half the battle! Stay well❤
@@joseenoel8093 Thank you ❣️
@@overcomingnarcissism I am so sorry 😔.
Keep standing up for yourself. Plan to leave.
This is EXACTLY how they behave. My hateful, envious mum & sis do not hide their jealousy and envy towards me. They are ruthless. I am glad I have gone no contact and I have taken my life back. Their lives have unraveled and they are more miserable than ever. I learned this from a family friend who always believed me. I am happy again everyday and I have peace with those monsters out of my life. Thank You Danish😁
My older sister is a malignant narcissist who turned my own kids against me bc she can’t have a relationship with her own she stole mine. Keep these people far away from your family.
This has happened to me as well. My younger sister has been jealous of me my whole life. I only woke up fully 8 years ago she was a narcissist. She has poisoned my daughter's against me and I'm sure it's to prove how much better of a mother she was than me. It's so twisted and wicked. Jesus knows everything and my hope is only in him to sort her out, come to the end of herself and restore my children back to me
@@kim09031957 worse was how my adult children went along with this toxic aunt.
Oh my! I think I've met her!
I think that jealousy and over competing go hand in hand. It’s no fun being around people who just want to be better than you at everything you do and then rub it in to make you feel jealous of them and always be the loser in life. Not fun.
My mother takes credit for all my accomplishments. She claims that my accomplishments are a result of her prayers. The belittling and taking credit is insane, yet they always have a handout and try to guilt you into giving more. As if you don’t provide enough as is.
Very relatable! You might give up on your dreams, ambitions, goals, desires - everything dear to you, but it's still not enough for them. Rule 101 when dealing with a narc: never give up on yourself, or anything important to you. Go no-contact, live your best life, and the narc will not be able to harm you,
Oh my!
Every single word said is so true as i have badly suffered all this .I wish people red flag these signs in the beginning phase of this toxic relationship to save their time, energy and emotions and respect from such a psychopath.
You are so right. This person can’t show love . I’m the total opposite of her. My grandkids were adopted by them after my daughter was murdered. The grandkids lived with me as well as my daughter. The grandkids would run to me. This woman does not love on them like I do. She was very jealous of me. She knows I am on to her. She has lied so much to me. The only thing she could take from me was my grandkids. She did it too. I haven’t seen them over a year 😢.
I am so sorry to hear that youve been through all this and had to put up with that! You are such a strong person
@@effortless4588 God has helped me through this. I honestly didn’t know there were people like this.
I have girlfriend of my sons that does this same thing about my grandson my son had and took full custody of. I babysat for him free did all the motherly things for him till she became jealous. It just kills families when there's one who can't handle the love of a child.
@@JAYNEmM1962 yes it does
They hate you more than they love their own children😢seems so😢
There are many of them out there. It’s not only one.
Danish, absolutely spot on. You have put my life in a nutshell for what, both, my mother and ex have done to me. Except kill me, they are absolutely livid I am still alive😂 Sadly, karma doesn’t seem to be biting them in the arse, so instead I will leave it up to God and His justice in dealing w/both of them. They are truly demons that belong in the deepest recesses of h*ll.
Amén! I've come to realise that God truly knows them best (intentions & motives of the heart) & whatever punishment and/or Justice He has for them will be far better than I could ever imagine!🙏
this is exactly what's been done to me and my children
And me and my children 😢
Same
"Before meeting a narcissist you are a shining star and they turn you into dust." An accurate representation of my life. Now I am star dust at least …
Conversing with a narcissist is akin to entering a verbal minefield, where each word carries the potential to trigger an explosion of defensiveness, manipulation, or grandiosity.
You explained it all again of what I’ve been through and going through. Thank you for all you do!!!!!!!!!
The narcissists are nothing but Jealousy and Competition. Jealousy and Competition go hand in hand.
Thank you so much for your insight and wisdom on the narcissist. I experienced so much for so long and didn't know that I was being abused. I am so sorry for my adult children because they have become just like him. It is sad that they have no emotional intelligence and cannot communicate at the adult level about what they experienced other than seeing me as the villain. They all graduated with University degrees, one of them to the highest level. I pray for them, but I want the demon to pay for what he has done.
Same case for me, anger, sadness and bitterness but something helps me when I think about : Revenge is mine, retribution is mine, says the Lord
I believe they get their karma in time. Keep being you your children will come around.
THANK YOU. DANISH! My husbsnd and i work at the same office with a narcissist. Your post was timely he was just terminated from his position after 15 yrs of emplyment because a 77 year old narcissist female was trash talking him for the last 3 yrs.U R SOO RIGHT. A MILLION Thanks. We can laugh it off because we r secure in ourselves 😂😂 Deb
Correctly explained 💯. wishing for the worst punishment for them!
This video is on the point what the mother of my daughter is doing and finally after 4.5y split now I fire back. Stay strong
Why else people discarding me this way ? I must be the wrong one. May be all faults lye on me. I must be the monster 👹. this runs into my head almost every time .
This is so accurate. The pain these people cause is incalculable. It is parents, siblings, adult children, friends, coworkers, neighbors to the point of being constantly on guard, never trusting, become a recluse. It takes time for them to show their hand bcs they are clever manipulators. They DO enjoy the harm they do to others. Sometimes you hear therapists say the making of narcs comes from too much love or too much abuse! Does anyone know of any malady that comes from both extremes. It is like saying cancer comes from too much smoking or not enough smoking! I believe it is pure evil, and they are born this
way. No more second chances, no more forgiving, no more forgetting, no more excuse! NO MORE! Thanks, Danish, you are a blessing🙏🏻❤️
This is my life history. You are so so accurate Danish. Very very good commentary. I just love this. I could say so much but you said it all. Thank uou for your knowledge and inspiration
For 23 years my narcissistic partner would ask me over."Do you think you have friends?""Do your relatives love you?" Shame he mobilized our children against me but time tells abd heals!
I have a friend like this. He has claimed repeatedly that he keeps getting promotions and raises at work in an attempt to surpass my earnings, I guess. Because I don't believe him, when we hang out I purposely choose expensive things to do because he boldly and proudly claims to now make more than me. Funnily enough, he balks at every turn usually saying "dude that's expensive" and I just smile because I'm thinking "if I can afford it and you supposedly make more than me so you can too" and then I just wait for him to come up with a different cheaper thing to do. We both know we know but his jealousy and pride just can't let him admit he's FULL OF IT.
Sounds like it is an unhealthy friendship. He is bringing out the worse in you, too. So in a way, his behavior is causing vengeful or rretaliatory behavior in you. This behavior you are engaging in will eventually facture your self worth. Set standards of behavior for yourself and do not let anyone goat you into toxic behavior. If you feel like you need to play this game, then this should be a red flag to leave if you cannot fix it. If he is a true narc, believe me, they are without conscienceness. He will find a way to destroy you. Never think you can win. Also, They win by making you engage in underhanded behavior. For example, you are being deceitful and you are getting sick pleasure from getting back at your so-called friend. You seem to be enjoying hurting him and feel justified because you think he is lying to you. Your identity and self-worh slowly being destroyed by this toxic relationship. No one will win this game. Plus, He may or may not be a narc. He may just be highly competitive and/or a person who has deep issues that have never been addressed and is fixated on you. If his phyche is damaged by past traumas that you are unaware of, you might be playing with fire here. He may be a victim of abuse and may harbor deep seated rage. In other words, you do not know the lengths he would go to hurt you and screwing with him can be very dangerous. If you want to be friends with him then you need to show more compassion and try and get him help or maybe you need to talk to an expert to see how to disengage from this person. You need to confront him, set boundaries and standards of behavior, get in sync with one another or get the hell away from one another.
My maternal unit attacked me and strangled me, for standing my ground and getting divorced at 37yo. And then told everyone I was crazy, and everyone believed her without ever talking to me.. I can’t imagine what she said!!
burglarising your house just to break your stuff, there is a narcissist term for it: professional breaking they call it, that's actually a thing for them. They have the technical know-how to annoy you as good as possible by only destroying part of your technical equipment (but now she looks like a living dead because of surgery)
You are so awesome and we love you dear Danish.
SOOOOOOO TRUE ……THIS VIDEO….SOOOOOOO TRUE!
HUGS FROM JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
After putting boundaries with my mother who is a narcissist , my sister in law saw the abuse I went through, she started telling me I have a ugly heart, and that my ugly heart is showing through my kids! I cried ..... When this sister in law has seen my mothers abuse towards me and my kids! Why did she say that? And it was because I stated if my mother will go on a birthday Day family trip I will not attend nor my kids will attend. She then said I need to get over my mother and that I have a ugly heart and it shows thru my kids and my kids are showing a ugly heart because of me. Why would she say that when she has seen myself and my kids get abused
Maybe she's a narcissist herself?
😮she said that cuz she's deflecting her mean heart, they say the meanest things, my sister in law repeatedly hung up on me, mom gave them 10k, not me and when she went on again about how malignant covert mom didn't give them bucks (not true but this time I'd had it), I even supported her through her nutty family (her mom had an ate teen yr affair with my older brother, still they're married), then I had to call for something and got love bombed, screw that, mine was my bff at 14, threw herself at my bro, the drama was incredible (course it was), I put up with so cousins would interact but done is done, their kids are older than mine and messed up anyway (course they are..) We're with you sugar, you'll only find sympathy here, they sat the cruelest things, mine slandered me I was an exhibitionist cuz she's a prude!
Maybe your sister in law is also a narcissist?
It’s hard to believe but that’s how you won’t see it coming before it’s too late. Even the closest may do this it they’re jealous, they can’t help it.
When they do things that badly affect your kid(s) that's the worst😱💔
Thank you so much! Everything you say, is so true. It resonates my experience and years I wasted, being with a narcissist
Everything is so accurate! So validating. Not a single word here is inaccurate or an exaggeration… just absolute truth.. the satisfaction they get on destroying their partner’s aspirations and life’s work is what they live for… only the partner does not know it.
Does no one ask the Narcissist, "Then why are you in a relationship with such a person "?🤔
Their weird brains have an explanation for almost everything - if they don't, they just play dumb, as if they didn't understand your question. These monsters are just wired differently in the head.
Once again, Danish, you are right on.
100% accurate information. Going through this from inhome and outhome narcs from years! Couldn't agree more.
So sad for these families...
I freely chose the least possible treatment for my pain experienced during childbirth out of concern for my unborn children during the birth process. I wanted to practice attachment parenting and I wanted to take all of the world health organization recomendations about parenting too. Since I did not marry well while I was trying to so it only attracted more narcissistc people into my life who joined in with my estranged husband in their goal of revenge after I left them. I had little choice when having to leave them.
So very well explained. So true about the reversing of the roles making me the monster and him the victim. I couldn’t believe all the jealousy accusations that were thrown at me - it was like an attack and sadly even family bought the bs. Amazed me how low people will go without not even questioning anything they were told. That was the one thing I was really taken aback at how he managed to twist the narrative and they believed every single word. I’ve never experienced such hatred from people who believed lies that were actually his own projecting and jealousy towards me. This focus he had on jealousy really baffled me.
Wow. He just described my experience, my thoughts. Like he’s just gone inside my head and put it in this video.
He cut me off from my children, family, and friends. They were all bad. He did not even want us to participate in church functions.
Don't let him isolate you more!
my wife knows that it is important to me to treat all of my children equally because I grew up being treated differently by my stepmother, so she purposely tries to turn my kids against me by telling them that I playfavorites because she knows it's a huge vulnerability of mine. And I have been a fitness professional for the last 5 years or so and it's a career that I always cherished quite a bit. She ended up getting a job at the same gym that I worked at as just a custodial person, and she completely ruined my reputation there with absolutely everybody destroying my career. Now, all of a sudden she's taking classes to become a fitness professional while I am here broken. It's like she straight up took my personality and my life from me. Very parasitic and demonic for sure.
They just look at us at entertainment, unbothered, they just seek a reaction 😂, they never had any attention in drowning us.
Well in the last point you made I have to say this is usually the other way around, the people the narcissist keeps around are highly toxic and a testament to their own low self worth. Although they definitely insult the ones around you that see them for who they are or those that threaten their influence but more often than not you can also tell a narcissist by the company they keep. I was always under the impression the narcissists in my environment were naive to the people they kept around only to find out they are even worse themselves.
Danish every word of this video is perfectly said. 💯%, truth. In the end, you said the right thing that let's pray for their place in the worst of hell. Although it's a fact that they are already rotting in hell will do so more. But we should not waste time on getting focused on wishing them bad. We must put our energy on healing ourselves, moving on and later thriving. Let God work it out an appropriate punishment for them
They try to to make you dust but almighty is always there
WELL SAID! SPOT ON!
You are an inspiration and a voice to all us that have gone through an unexplainable torture with this creatures.
This is something for brothers and sisters alike to meditate on today jealousy is as cruel as the grave. Think about what God meant when he said that..
Because of my psychic abilities he used to call me a witch. He was a spiritual covert narcissist and tried to convince me I didn't believe in God.
😧😧😧🤯🤯🤯 Damn. I Could Never Figure Out Why My Half Sister or Others were Jealous Of Me 🙁🙁🤷♀️🤷♀️ Going Back They felt/ thought I was the ‘favorite’ of Our Father. Which I did Not really see. He Abused me too, So How Could I be the favorite ?? 🤨🤨 She ( half sister ) said I was Good at Emotional Qualities.. But then also Kept Accusing me of things that Weren’t True. She said : ‘ You Hate Me !!! ‘ I was only a little girl, I was Shocked but Couldn’t really Do Anything.. She Treated me Horrible Later on, but then did the things that I did, like Flower Arranging 😐😐 It’s like she Hated me, but Also Ended Up Copying me.. 😵💫😵💫 YAY, HARRY POTTER 😊😊⚡️⚡️
Ya me too and my life is no bed of roses but least I'm not a narc, I don't disagree that it sucks to be them but we can't help them, they've to help themselves and they see nothing wrong with their entitled behaviours, not much to be done about that, everyone has to help themselves it's how our problems get solved!
Keep this content coming❤
Describing the Narcissist are a parasite is the aptest description I have heard to date.
I love you and this Danish.
10:44
India love.
Absolutely correct. I wonder why he's so jealous. Even when someone appreciated me, he tried to make me feel small
This topic is so correct.my narc husband family destroyed my identity. Just i didn't know who I am, till I met my classmates in alumni gathering.then it happened to come across your videos which ultimately coaches me, the condition iam in. Thank you Danish.
He would always say “you’re so popular” or random things like that
there can b jealous people anywhere, in family , or other places, they hate our happiness and try to destroy it ,normal people find hard to deal with jins or psychopaths who are violent
God sees all. This video was deep and insightful. Thank you
200% ACCURATE Danish, to a T. Need to pass laws against their schemes, scams, cons in jail.
I went through this with my father growing up a very cruel cold hearted narcissist he had a hatred for me he has passed a few years ago .
This is sooo good!!!!
Amazing video, spot on!
Wonderful analysis!...thank you.... 11:36
This was a great explanation brother.
So true. Thank you
Thank you for creating this content. ✌️
You’re the best
Thanks for your support
Yes, absolutely right. Thanks for such nice, deep speech.
Another perfect video bro!!💓👍👏 Their jealousy is beyond!!🤯 They do unimaginable things, all this shows just how insane they truly are!! LOL
Geez your really dam good at explaining it
You said it all! Excellent ..
Jealousy and envy are not the same things...The difference is one is obtainable, the other is unobtainable.
O my God 100% true what you say in my life this is what happening.......
My brother is married to a narcissistic woman. She just don’t care of my brother’s health she just don’t care of her children’s education. She is epitome of hatred and jaleousy.
I just don’t know how bring my bother out of this😔
You’re on point Danish, each and every one of those!
I Am a good person and I live by that. Amen
Ur every video is about me,,IV suffered like hell,,It even effected my memory,IV lost myself in me n now collecting the peices
Thank you danish!
So true!
I don't bother or at least Try to bother anyone... I just try to mind to myself... Do not want to inflict any burden upon others...
SPOT ON!!! 💯
Thank you Bashir
Allll on point Danish.
Many thanks for sharing. I can resonate what you say to what I have been experiencing, you always hit the spot and the point you make is so clear and concise. Given that Narcissists stoop at any level to destroy you, should you scratch their back so that they can taste their own medicine? What advice could you give us?
Thank you Danish
You re definetly right!😊
Thankyou Danish ❤
One of my best friends ia a man. He is going through this as we speak. I've passed along the information I've learned on this channel. I helped expose that monster. She hates me with a burning passion because of it. She has accused me of having an affair with him (untrue). He finally sees her for what she is! I can't wait until he is totally free from her. These people absolutely age you! They suck all the happiness out of your life.