Small or big amount, if she didn't tell Carlos or asked permission to withdraw, it's still stealing. Even if you're family, if it's not yours, you have no right. Carlos only found out when he asked for a bank statement. He found out thru the bank, not from the mother herself. When caught, she cried to social media? Wtf is that. No matter how much money Carlos have, they betrayed him already by going behind his back, trust is already broken. People defending the mother are enablers and thinks the same. I bet they wouldn't think twice to do the same & steal if given chance. 🙄
That's the reason why she is such a failure; she didn't know her son. And the reason why Carlos is a failure too because he brought their family problem into social media. Both failed.
then there's this thing where as chloe was just helping to do the "bumukod sa pamilya" thing to carlos yulo... she only did that coz she just realized that from the very beginning of carlos yulo's gymnastics journey till the time she and carlos started chatting on messenger until tokyo Olympics, carlos haven't even used half of his winnings and incentives on things that he needed or wanted.... most of the time only his family are using it more than him... she's just concerned on carlos that he can't even go to any Disneyland, enjoy some gadgets, pc's, laptop, go to cinemas and etc. coz most of his money is always being used by his family🤦🤦🤦...... many of the bashers and haters doesn't realized that coz they don't know what it feels like that.... as in the biggest earner won't have any money left at the end of the day🤦🤦🤦... they only care to the toxic culture: "it's ok to be leeched out till you dry/run out of money"🤦🤦🤦
₱11.7million is not a small amount to be lost and trust destroyed. Think about the reasons Carlos Yulo distrusts his mom and mom using socal media to destroy his ego before he won the 2 golds. Am not surprised at his reaction.
Carlos Yulo is a big, black heart liar with his gf, when Carlos released about that 11M+ the mother released also a presscon, she did not spent that amount…you closed your eyes to her side of story, I believed you are the gf relative.😂😂😂
No one knew what really happened between them and how much money was allegedly spent by his mom. All are just speculations including yours. Let them settle their family problem by themselves. Time will heal everything.
My parents died in california with the assistance of my sisters and brothers. My one sister is working and my other sister to watched them. They were well cared while living abroad, given the love and cared enough. They were brought back home to the Philippines after all for their funeral .. Our relatives from other state of the USA, Hong Kong have arrived in the Philippines during their mourning weeks. We still missed them no matter we don't see them.. Every time we goes home, we visit their graves, our relatives back home does too, cleaning their tombs, lightning a candle due to love and respect..
We are no perfect people but if given a chance to live another life I'd definitely choose to be filipino again. The love for family is simply overwhelming.
I grew up in the province of the Philippines then moved to the US after marrying an American. I got into the field of mental health for work. What I realized about our relationship within my family and in others is how enmeshed we are. There is a point that is healthy but we don't recognize when it has become unhealthy.
Agree. Enmeshed is not love. A healthy family honors individual choices and encourages autonomy, independence and accountability. There is a tendency to over-sentimentalize abs romanticize Filipino families, where we are in denial of our dark side
"In Filipino culture, the family stands as a central thread, weaving through every aspect of life. From birth to death, and every milestone in between, the family serves as a pillar of strength, offering support, guidance, and unconditional love.Apr 15, 2024"
I was raised by a single dad and he never asked for anything from us BUT he appreciates if we give anything. That's the difference. Some kids are ungrateful and won't even remember yhe sacrifices of their parents but some parents are just so demanding that they forget that they are not helping their kids progress by being a burden to them.
It's just how we have been as a people. It's a cycle where you took care of your parents the way they took care of theirs. You would expect them to take care of you. That's why westerners find our culture odd, very family oriented. Contrasting this to westerners where you leave your parents at 18, consume, pay tax, work-sleep for 45 years then die alone. This is the inspiration for the movie the matrix. Because your children became just like you. The corporations and the government benefits from this. This may explain why the Philippines is financially poor, but contented. Money doesn't make sense around the deathbed, loved ones do.
Its very rare to find a contended local. Most are constantly stressed out about their "family problems". You knock Western culture, but most Western parents don't ever want to be a burden to their children. It is unconscionable
SO TRUE. You are so right about that issue BUT you forgot to mention the ISSUE of INGIT. It is apparent that the main issue here is Carlos mother Angelica. It is obvious that she felt neglected that Carlos found a girlfriend. Angelica was the one who opened a can of worms thinking that by doing so will gain sympathy for her. She did gain sympathy but to what extent? She practically gave the Yulo family and the Philippines a black eye in the world stage. She was using the social media to gain sympathy and it is sad the majority of the Filipino people still cling to the notion that children should love and honor the parents whether the parent is is worthy or not. Angelica tried to portray herself as a loving and suffering mother who said that she lost countless nights of sleep because she is always looking to the needs of the family. But, she was caught lying when reporters was their house during the Olympics when the reporter asked the husband where Angelica was during the live broadcast of Carlos’es performance. The husband said that Angelica is sleeping upstairs. Also, she was complaining that Chloe’s post on vlogs wearing sexy attires while she was posting revealing posts of herself on social media.
I completely agree. I grew up with an abusive mother but fortunately with a loving father. Growing up I thought of why did my mother give birth to me when If I had been given a chance I would rather not be brought into this world and experience such mysery of being emotionally abused. Now that I am an adult and working, I have the chance to leave my family (since my father already passed) and live somewhere far from them. But I still choose to go back and give back to my mom, not as a responsibilty but as a gift. I do not have any emotional connection with her but maybe because the Filipino culture in me, I feel like I want to somehow give back. Because of my childhood trauma, I do not have the urge to give birth to a baby, I have a lot worries of not being a good mother myself. I believe that it is the parents" responsibility to raise their children because the children were not the ones who begged to born in this world. When children reached adulthood only then they should be let go on their own. It is up to the children whether they want to give back, it will speak a lot about their character and how they were raised for sure.
There are two sides of the story , I agree . If a child have supported the family for a long time , he or she has the right to say ENOUGH is ENOUGH and start preparing for his own life while he is still young and able to earn for himself . It is never wrong to stand up for yourself . If you dont , who will take care of you when you grow old ? Your parebts will die .Your siblings will have their own families . What if you have not saved for yourself . I am the eldest among 11 siblings and have experienced same unfortunate fate . I should have done better for myself and perhaps the community if not for this Filipino "toxic" tradition .
Im a filipino and also the "tagasalo sa pamilya" honestly the treatment my parents gave to me and to my siblings is very unfair. And its very frustrating and toxic. Im not the oldest , im actually the 3rd child of 4. i have a family of my own now but i still support my youngest sibling to send him to college. our oldest is jobless and keeps borrowing money from me without returning it so everything she borrow money again, its either i gave her small amount because i know she wont pay it back or i just ignore her messages cos im tired of her drama. Our 2nd sibling has a job but still broke and ask money to my parents who are also jobless( so dont get why shes still working but at the same time broke, she has actually tons of debt). And our last sibling is still in college which i am the supporting him.. so literaly all of them rely on my money. So with that im so disconnected to my family because i felt like im only an atm to them..
As a Filipino,Half Japanese, I see that in my Parent. They believe that my oldest sister , and older brother will make them rich. So they paid for a good private school, while Me in public school, and my brother. many years past my brother sister always depend on my parents ,while I help my parents, and my brother too!. who never being given the same things in life... In my mother dying moments she asked me "why your oldest brother ,and sister don't come to me". I just said you don't know them after all those years. She said " I'm sorry ".... In the family there are people with good heart, and no empathy with their parents or siblings. so it's easy to understand. We are Catholic, and we honor our parents even they done wrong to you. We try to forgive our brother, and sister. Because they come from private school with rich family friends, and don't understand poor people. Working hard in life to have a good paying job that's the goal of poor people.
Thank you sharing your perspective. One thing I believe is the siblings that work hard realize the real value of a dollar. They will not be wasteful or irresponsible. People like that I consider “Very high value!” ❤️😊
You are definitely right. It is a matter of cultural differences between American and Filipinos. But I would also like to add that every family in the Philippines is different. I do not have the statistics, but at least in my family, particularly with my mom, she never obligated us siblings to take care of them when they grew old. Her principle is to give us all the tools we need to thrive in this world (including and most especially, a college degree). To her, it was more than enough to see us grow, thrive and become successful in the path we chose. In parallel to this, she tried to save up for retirement, putting investment here and there, and never really rely on us siblings financially. Of course, life is not always a straight path and sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. And when we saw our parents, well at this point, my dad, struggle in old age, my brothers and I chipped in to help. But that is on top of his pension, not the primary source of finance. But that 's just us. Some families are different.
it depends on the situation, if you dont tell them that you suffered because of being a breadwinner then they will not know. some parents will understand but some dont. After telling them, you should be able to tell as well that you will limit sending money since you work hard for it and your other siblings are also capable of working. Then the burden will be light. But there is always this giving to the parents that the children always have and most of us but not to the extent that we deprive ourselves. Filipinos are always be thankful to the parents who raise them and give love. That is why we also give back. That is our culture.
some of the culture here in the Philippines is that in one family most of the time there's 1or 2 of the siblings in the family going work but the other siblings like the total of siblings is 5... only 1 or 2 goes to work the rest are just there at the house doing NEET/ sometimes got unwanted pr3gn@ncy(female sibling) b4 finishing highschool 🤦🤦🤦... then there's the parents where as one like either father or mother has a job but not that very big and there's s wife/hubby doesn't have any job... just stays at the house and just waste the money on things... wife= wasting on bags, accessories, appliances that ain't needed and always going out bringing friends to either mall or restaurant... on husband= just stays at house... sometimes on the day goes to sari-sari store buys beer/alak... then drinks it all the way... sometimes they do it at night and sometimes do it from morning till night... then there's other things toxic in the Philippines where-as there's only 1 family member who only earns plenty money like carlos yulo's winnings and incentives on gymnastics... all of the family members doesn't do any jobs or the adults fam members have a job but not earning enough, all of them just goes to the biggest earner and use the money... most of the times they don't work with enough earnings... they leech the earnings of the biggest earner😅🤦😅🤦.... and they don't even take care grandparents like it stays on one fam relatives for 4 months then they move it to another family relatives🤦🤦🤦... they just put the grandparents stay at the fam that has a fam member who only earns bigger... at the end of the day... that fam member that earns bigger won't have enough for himself/herself coz the other fam members just kept on leeching on his/her hard earned money 🤦🤦🤦
I'll start off by saying I don't want to be a retirement plan. I'll be there to assist but not entirely. It's a good thing that my dad had planned for his retirement years ahead of time. Life is extremely stressful already and if you want to start your own family, being that reitrement plan will just not work.
I love that Filipino culture. I love my parents and i was willing to give to my parents what i have.As a Filipino my parents didn't depend on us children. But because we live our parents we give without them asking from us. It's our culture that make us look back to our parents because Filipinos are God fearing people. If we love God we love our parents. There was no pressure.
Look at what's going on with Sarah Geronimo's life and the mother. She thinks she owns Sarah and wanted to control her for life to a point of causing animosity and severe stress for Sarah and her husband! Extremely TOXIC LIFE! My heart bleeds for Sarah. This toxic culture will never change. I sometimes wonder about the so-called Filipino strong family oriented and their faith in God mentality???
@@jesssc402 the Philippines is pattern after the American system in law but we cannot change our Confucian way of thinking. That is one reason why the Chinese and the Pilipinos remains in quagmire. This is due to Lim Ma Hong legacy.
@@jeansenco150 everything I knew is from the posted of both sides Carlos and the mother, in my own opinion, I did not see any taking advantages frm the mother, I believed just Carlos became boastful and arrogant when he was started earning, according to mom, Carlos doesn’t want to go home to the old place since he got millions, that is why the mom, both a house for him, but he didn’t like that idea…sooooo…and then he meet the gf, and the mother did make a comment against her…and he doesn’t like that comment
@mariafepeterson682 in the 1st place, the mother wouldn't intervene all the activities of his son because he's at the right age. Whatever Carlos does, the mother shouldn't do anything.
It depemds on the parents but it does have that cultural norms here in the Ph. My parents for example, my mother sort of have that mentality whiley father is the opposite. He wants to be able to help his children even in our adult years and doesnt expect us to tale care of him.
Simple philosophy: help or give If you have means to even a bit rather than you have but it’s so hard to let go that small amount to give. Giving is happiness and blessings. Giving is love. And God is love. If you have God in your life you know how to think of your parents. It’s not about their being parents responsibility,it’s about how to give.
Yes what you said is true. some have different side of it. so, you already knew both side. Thank you for sharing and posting. I really appreciate you because some doesn't know. so I hope they do understand what is going on. Right now, I'm living in Canada very expensive but we manage. I'm looking after my husband because he is not well. I hope I'll be home soon. I send money back home but not every month only if I have extra cash. My family understand the life here but not everybody back home. They think your picking up money here in abroad because some Pilipino have big mouth and that's the big issue. They should explain to their love one that working in other country is quiet hard because of different culture.
Yes John the situation that I have experience with is the “breadwinner” format let’s call it. In the case I was brought into one was the breadwinner and after sometime my gf became the second. They both have discipline and good spending/savings habits. I implored them both to not allow themselves to be taken advantage of as the saviour. Well I can tell you that I was perceived as the bad guy with the other 2. 🤭 Well so be it. No way I was allowing my gf to divest her savings to support irresponsible and lazy behaviours. It wasn’t happening. Even the parents are onboard now with this mindset and also saving. This being a saviour is not really helping the others at all in the long term. They are slowly getting it although it difficult!! 🤭😊💪🏻
Hello there, I would like to know from you the following please: Which one is a better marriage choice overall in the Philippines...a civil or church wedding? Thank you.
Most Filipinos honor Debts of Gratitude. And they avoid having bad reputation. In primary school, we are taught "Good Manners and Right Conduct ". So we respect elders including elder siblings like kuya and ate. In exchange, most elder siblings feel responsible to younger siblings. So most Filipinos don't suffer from loneliness.
Those cultures especially the breadwinner culture is the reason why this country is so poor. As a Filipino, I also do not get that there are many OFWs or a family member working hard and majority of the family members(most of the times, all) are just in the house doing nothing waiting for the padala. You are right that is unjust. I am thankful my family is not like that.
This is a sensitive and delicate subject and I understand both the Filipino and Western sides of the coin. But no matter where you are from I believe most or every parent wants the best possible life for their child. I am going to meet my LDR early next year and if all goes well we will build a family together in the Philippines, but if we have more than one child I want nothing to do with breadwinner thinking, I want to raise them as equally as possible.
As they say “ nobody is perfect”. Each culture has its own own “ toxicity” values/ or traditions…Carlos succeeded n should go on with his life.. Angelica can give him some advice n let him make his own decisions n let go..after all as parents we don’t want to be blame should our plans followed n failed..
The mother of carlos has no shame. She did'nt even support carlos.She is just after the money that carlos could possibly claim.As for his personal life, He is entitled to his own happiness.. he deserve to be happy and only chloe can give this kind of happiness to him.
I think what Carlo's mother want is control of his life (finances, etc.). She did not like the fact that Carlos became independent and doing things his way. They should have talk it over and not involve the media.
I think she is just protecting NOT controlling. Only Caloy went out, the other children are okay. So, Caloy has a problem esp when she met the manipulative GF.
@@rubylao4352Nah, it proves that the parents don't want Carlos, they only want the money, and money alone. They never genuinely congratulate their own son, but they are yapping and showing things about poverty publicly so that people will blame Carlos by not providing them. Sorry, brainwashing won't apply to those who know the truth. 😏
When I was a child my dream was when I grew up I’ll get a high paying job, give money to my parents so they’ll not work anymore. I want them to relax and enjoy their life. Their happiness is my happiness. Dream fulfilled but my parents didn’t spend the money; instead they saved it for my future. They didn’t know that I have my own savings. Individual differences I think. Some parents expect from their kids and some do not. Both of them are no longer around.
We admire manny Pacquiao as he is so generous to his family .. he even gave house to his father who abandoned them .. plus the luxury life his mom is enjoying 😉😀 I’m happy traveling with my family even it means extra expenses 😉😊😊
Manny relationship is different from Julo’s family and no one can compare ones family to another family and one important thing Manny handed the money personally or with consent but Carlos mother in other hand withdrawing the money with out the consent of her son .You can see the difference? Who don’t respect to whom?
the relationship is different... Manny mother does not go out to destroy her son... Unlike Carlos mom. It also looks like Carlos mom just sees her son as a bank account.
I'm not saying there are no Pilipino patents who came out prepared after retirement. Many did but most of them had good family backing them up. But common scenario for ordinary working Juan dela Cruz only earns175 to 500 usd per month. And yes most parents are still in their 40s by the time children can work but remember many of these parents came from a poverty stricken background that they were not able to have a good physical health. So after 20+ plus year of bringing up their children for life, majority of them have exhausted their healthy youth and many of them are battered with health issues and lifetime illnesses. And many of us working class don't have health insurance in place before and after retirement. So health care is not part of our expenditure.
Your right so different here SS and government help in US but not here and loyalty to family can mean different things here Mom and pop may be first but aunts ,uncles,cousins,neices,nefews may be on the list depends so many not working and those who are sometimes just surviving so many variables here but poor and working poor make up a large %
it is just basic human nature and give and take. The parents take care of their children growing up, prepare them for the world and the children should take care of their parents if they are already old, retired, ill and let them have a peaceful day of what little time left they have. also when the children have their own family it is more hard for them to give to their parents as they have their own family to think about. neither the parents nor the children should leech off whoever is working hard and really well. The concept was good but can easily be abused, everyone in the family will work together to uplift everyone, not pull everyone.
Here in my neck of the woods (Europe) we all know that raising kids cost money, time & effort. Now, if I want to make my kids responsible for supporting me when I am old bec I have suffered when my kids were young then all I can say and think: dont start making kids. It sounds to me like emotional blackmail (also known as utang na loob). And it also goes against Maslow's pyramid (hierarchy of needs). Pair that together with the mano. Can you imagine being a kid being raised and live your entire life in poverty? And then have to the mano every day, while that kid couldnt change anything about living in poverty but the parents COULD easily (by not putting that kid in this world)?
@@haighton the problem with the other filipino parents is that when their kids is able to work sometimes they stop working and leech off the kid even if they are still strong and able. what I'm saying is as parents you do your duty because you love your kids, you don't want them to experience the hardships you have experienced. so don't be the weight to hold your children down to achieve greater success. when you are old and retired, 70 - 90 years old, you don't force your children to take care of you but you wish they did and if you have raised them right to have compassion and love they will do it because they love you. Then what? cry on the coffin, filled with regrets you wish you could have spent more time with your parents or something, wish you could have done more. its too late for regret to express your love to your love ones if the person is dead.
@@rharrenmercxz9618 His point is,. having kids is a major responsibility. Hence don't have kids if you can't handle it As a parent myself, i agree. Let's not even 'hope' to make them our wallets/retirement one day. Best to just stay single/childless,.so you can just spend your money on yourself, all the way to retirement. No need to be a burden to anybody else
Your BIG question ... we all know why. Money sent home... From my observations (unless it goes to tuition) ok. Otherwise, it's pissed away (and in most cases) not much if anything to show for it. You forgot to mention the Gov. and agencies LOVE OFWs. The biggest beneficiaries.
I think there are 2 kinds of parents not just in Philippines but in whole Asia. Although I think the news about the yulo parents being toxic is not true because i saw some of the old videos of caloy with parents when he was not with Chloe yet and also I think if the parents are toxic it will show from the siblings of caloy but I see the whole dynamic of the family with the extended ones is but a normal family life where parents are imperfect but loving…i think it’s up to the children if they want to be independent like Carlos and Chloe but what is not good is to mock your parents just because you think they deserve it I think if they think their parents are toxic as a child who is already mature and do not want to be like their parents they should start their life right not by shaming their parents or hurting them…for how do u make things right with another wrong?
Karma is a very strong word in our Filipino culture, if you do not take care of your parents, your children will not take care of you, that is Biblical as well. Taking care of your siblings is not embedded in our culture however some of them will live with our parents and our parents will not push the other kids out of their house when they come stay in our parents house. If you the bread winner will say something, the siblings then will pool together and say something to destroy you against your parents. Your parents will also say something to make you guilty instead of pushing their other kids to get out of their house because then your family will be the talk of the whole community.
I truly understand there are deep cultural practices and beliefs about these things in Filipino culture, and there's a lot that I deeply admire about Filipino families. However, there are some things that I see create a lot of pain, stress, heartache, and anxiety for many Filipinos who have an overwhelming weight on their shoulders especially when it comes to being a breadwinner or the level of responsibility to parents or younger siblings. I don't think I'd bring what's biblical into this because its clearly not biblical to have one person in the family who is able to work not working (e.g. 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 "Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: “Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.” Yet we hear that some of you are living idle lives, refusing to work and meddling in other people's business."). There's also nothing in the Bible that says that adult children should be financially paying their parents bills, though of course they should support them if they have the ability too and their parents can't support themselves.
Carlos Yulo is very fortunate to win double Gold Medals at the 2024 Olympic Games. His unfortunate situation is mainly due to his greedy, stupid mother who is not ashamed to broadcast their family problems.
Get your facts right before making judgements.It was the son...your golden boy who disrespected his mother calling his mothrr a thief and a lier...with the very supportive disrespectful girlfriend.
Why did you say ? The mother is disrespectful to the child? It never happened to Filipino culture that the respect goes to younger ones. Our respect goes first to older ones , because the older has a lot experienced and knows better than the younger.
Love your parents no matter what. Even if they are bad to you or not good parents! As god said honor your father and mother He did not say honor them because they are good. If we will only live and adhere on God’s word, definitely there won’t be any issue among children about who is who…. Who has done this and that? Who suppose to do this and that?…. Taking care of parents especially when they are olders means love and respect. Let’s us remove the mindset of they are just using you to have a good life or something. That is extremely toxic thinking! Without your parents you will not live! Basic queation, did you feed yourself wen you are new born? Did you change your own diaper and cleaned yourself when you made a mess? 😅😅😅 Huh! Certainly! Even if you showered your parents a million dollars bucks that would never be enough. Love your parents unconditionally.
Honor them--yes, that's biblical. But 18 year old, 20 year old, 25 year old etc kids financially supporting parents in their 40s and 50s who are able to work isn't biblical. It's cultural in the Philippines, but it's not accurate to say its biblical.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat lol and this one you should've added to the list. I'm super embarassed to even be associated with "that" kind of Filipino. "No matter what" is a dumb concept and it gives criminals justification to do what they do. Some people really need to go back to their caves.
Things like this are things that westerners will likely never understand. It's just their culture, it's the way they have done things for generations, and it's unlikely to ever change
Filipino parents wants the best for their kids, theyre more concern on getting their kids ready for their future like sending them to college even to the point of selling their properties and not leaving anything for them in old life. They concern of what is happening at the moment and the future of their kids .
A LOT of Filipino parents want the best for themselves through their kids. Sorry but this is the truth. These people give zero efs as to what the adult kids want to do with their life
Mother only spent 70k not 11M the 11M remain savings of carlo. Both parents had a decent job father is a kagawad (public servant) the mother had online selling business. Simple life but they didn't take advantage the money of their son. He (carlo) wanted to live his own life, doesn't care about the family anymore So Christmas wil not be as happier as before because he choose to throw his family away But since he had a lots of money he can buy a new parents he can pick on catalogue 😂or buy happiness to travel around the globe 😂😂 but he can't buy peace of mind.
Culture of the philipines i think we become slum and poor country after...becuase if iur culture is great our country now is rich..am i right ..?coreect m3 if im wrong
Carlos Yulo is a product of failed parenting. Both his mother and he have mistakes. Carlos grew up outside his home, training without a family member beside him, which is why there is distance between him, his mother, and other family members. Another Filipino athlete in the same but similar situation is tennis player Alexandra Eala. She grew up outside her home as well, but the difference is that, she is always accompanied by her father.
The wrong parenting to me iis the lack of family planning. Having kids that they can't really support well, and worse, making their kid the breadwinner
@@fredtacang3624 Mali ka... merong mga adapted children na lumaki sa maayos na adaptive parents....Anim ang kapatid ko pamilyado lahat.. kumpleto, pero ang dalawa sa kanila failed parents.. kumpleto mother and father... Yulo's mother failed because di sya nagabayan ng ayos...Carlos failed as well... yong pera dapat di na dinala sa public, eh nag video pa kasama ang GF.. adds fuel to the fire...
@@vareseources Ano failure ni caloy? Setting boundaries is not a failure I'm a parent myself and to me, failure ng anak ay failure ng magulang. Til they're 18 and can make their own decisions already. Pag ganyan edad na anak, di na 'kasalanan' ng magulang ano gawin nila sa.buhay nila. Kaya nga sila na haharap sa batas pag 18 na bec age of maturity/consent na yan. Ang failure to me is pakialamanan mo anak mo kahit adult at independent na
11m was withdrawn over the counter sweep by CY. Her mother only use a small amount to save their house in Cavite, the motorshop that went bankrupt, she has all the receipts. Nothing more nothing less. Proof of that is Government never sued her for the years she properly liquidated the money. One different athlete also an Olympian his mother get sued by government. That is the difference between CY's Mom and the other athlete's Mom. So you already know from the gf script and figure out who is lying.
And also these foreigners please mind you moral compass when you try to pull away a Pilipino child from his/her parents influence. Don't turn our country into the next moral deprived society.
I'm a little confused what you mean. Do I feel foreigners split families up? In my experience there are MANY single Filipinas mothers and the dad's aren't doing anything to take care of the children. This seems morally bankrupt for father's not to take care of their young children and this has nothing to do with foreigners.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat he's one THOSE type of Filipino that thinks the Philippines can continue to exist without foreign help. Basically he's an isolationists
Carlos yulo accusing his mother a THIEF!! is a NO NO...he is just disrespectful & ungrateful....the money was spend / invested to the house but now the family is selling it just to return the money....Carlos is not a good role model to the youth..he & his red flag gf...both rebel child....the girlfriend is carlos downfall...
Dude/Maam, the mother STILL took the money without consent. Imagine being an adult, saving money to buy a motorcycle you've always dream of having for a looong time, but then your mother took the money and bought home appliances instead (without you knowing) because she said it would serve you (and them) better. What would you feel?? Remember, Caloy is already an adult.
@@wilcals5294 lol...the motorcycle was given by caloy to his father but unfortunately the father was planning to sell it jst to return the money....and the money accusing to the mother was invested for caloys future as she spend it buying a house in cavite all of these has receipts shown in natl tv...the house is currently for sale not sure of someone bought it already for the family to return the money to caloy....and also why parents handling his money because he was still a minor that time...caloy only ask for his money when chloe is already on the scene & the mother doesnt like chloe...its like saving his son from misery..but the son didnt listen but love chloe & the fued started + caloys relationship to his japanese trainor is also affected thats why they seperate ways....the culprit here is the red flag gf!! But its already caloys choice....turn back his family & choose his woman instead
@@chichaypetchay8898Thus, by your comment, you proved that Carlos Yulo's parents are the real reasons of their own demise, and their son chose to be independent because they are toxic. 😂
STOPPED LOOKING AT THESE MATTER IN YOUR PRIVILEGE AMERICAN POINT OF VIEW. TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION TO THE POINTS I'LL LAY DOWN HERE. BTW I'M A PUBLIC HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER FOR 2O YEARS SO YES I HAVE FIRST HAND KNOWLEDGE ON THE INTRICACIES FOR A COMMON PILIPINO PARENTHOOD.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpatI don't think they watched the video sir, don't mind them. Keep doing what you're doing, I am glad someone from the outside is looking in.
Now I wonder if there are any foreign vlogs out there scrutinizing and over- analyzing the US the way this channel does it with the Philippines.. I dont think so...or no one is interested in the US culture? 😊😂 is it too boring to be discussed?
So by the time these parents reaches mid 40s, early 50s many are slowing down and don't have the drive to fight for good career with younger generation of workers. And they just be contented and fulfilled seeing their children that they successfully gave a fighting chance in life. So please don't look at this matter in your privilege American mentality. Many Pilipinos dive in to parenthood without enough savings because it all stem to hand to mouth salary system here in the Philippines. Just asked your ordinary employees the break down of their day to day expenses you'll see many hardly keep a monthly savings to which this is still to majority of Pilipinos saving account is a alien concept.
There are lots of OFW just to give good life to their families .. Yulo is not a good idol for a champion .. sorry I was his fan in gymnastics but not as a person anymore 😉😝 I will just root for female gymnasts as they’re so loving persons 😀
Small or big amount, if she didn't tell Carlos or asked permission to withdraw, it's still stealing. Even if you're family, if it's not yours, you have no right. Carlos only found out when he asked for a bank statement. He found out thru the bank, not from the mother herself. When caught, she cried to social media? Wtf is that. No matter how much money Carlos have, they betrayed him already by going behind his back, trust is already broken. People defending the mother are enablers and thinks the same. I bet they wouldn't think twice to do the same & steal if given chance. 🙄
That's the reason why she is such a failure; she didn't know her son. And the reason why Carlos is a failure too because he brought their family problem into social media. Both failed.
then there's this thing where as chloe was just helping to do the "bumukod sa pamilya" thing to carlos yulo... she only did that coz she just realized that from the very beginning of carlos yulo's gymnastics journey till the time she and carlos started chatting on messenger until tokyo Olympics, carlos haven't even used half of his winnings and incentives on things that he needed or wanted.... most of the time only his family are using it more than him...
she's just concerned on carlos that he can't even go to any Disneyland, enjoy some gadgets, pc's, laptop, go to cinemas and etc. coz most of his money is always being used by his family🤦🤦🤦...... many of the bashers and haters doesn't realized that coz they don't know what it feels like that.... as in the biggest earner won't have any money left at the end of the day🤦🤦🤦... they only care to the toxic culture: "it's ok to be leeched out till you dry/run out of money"🤦🤦🤦
₱11.7million is not a small amount to be lost and trust destroyed. Think about the reasons Carlos Yulo distrusts his mom and mom using socal media to destroy his ego before he won the 2 golds. Am not surprised at his reaction.
Agree 💯
Are you sure that that amount of money was lost?
Carlos Yulo is a big, black heart liar with his gf, when Carlos released about that 11M+ the mother released also a presscon, she did not spent that amount…you closed your eyes to her side of story, I believed you are the gf relative.😂😂😂
No one knew what really happened between them and how much money was allegedly spent by his mom. All are just speculations including yours. Let them settle their family problem by themselves. Time will heal everything.
First how and where that money spent to, family needs or vices?
My parents died in california with the assistance of my sisters and brothers. My one sister is working and my other sister to watched them. They were well cared while living abroad, given the love and cared enough. They were brought back home to the Philippines after all for their funeral .. Our relatives from other state of the USA, Hong Kong have arrived in the Philippines during their mourning weeks. We still missed them no matter we don't see them.. Every time we goes home, we visit their graves, our relatives back home does too, cleaning their tombs, lightning a candle due to love and respect..
We are no perfect people but if given a chance to live another life I'd definitely choose to be filipino again. The love for family is simply overwhelming.
I really understand you.
I grew up in the province of the Philippines then moved to the US after marrying an American. I got into the field of mental health for work. What I realized about our relationship within my family and in others is how enmeshed we are. There is a point that is healthy but we don't recognize when it has become unhealthy.
Agree. Enmeshed is not love. A healthy family honors individual choices and encourages autonomy, independence and accountability. There is a tendency to over-sentimentalize abs romanticize Filipino families, where we are in denial of our dark side
"In Filipino culture, the family stands as a central thread, weaving through every aspect of life. From birth to death, and every milestone in between, the family serves as a pillar of strength, offering support, guidance, and unconditional love.Apr 15, 2024"
I was raised by a single dad and he never asked for anything from us BUT he appreciates if we give anything. That's the difference. Some kids are ungrateful and won't even remember yhe sacrifices of their parents but some parents are just so demanding that they forget that they are not helping their kids progress by being a burden to them.
It's just how we have been as a people. It's a cycle where you took care of your parents the way they took care of theirs. You would expect them to take care of you. That's why westerners find our culture odd, very family oriented. Contrasting this to westerners where you leave your parents at 18, consume, pay tax, work-sleep for 45 years then die alone. This is the inspiration for the movie the matrix. Because your children became just like you. The corporations and the government benefits from this. This may explain why the Philippines is financially poor, but contented. Money doesn't make sense around the deathbed, loved ones do.
Its very rare to find a contended local. Most are constantly stressed out about their "family problems". You knock Western culture, but most Western parents don't ever want to be a burden to their children. It is unconscionable
Seems you are very scared to die alone.. you will see things very differently when you're not afraid anymore. 😊
SO TRUE. You are so right about that issue BUT you forgot to mention the ISSUE of INGIT.
It is apparent that the main issue here is Carlos mother Angelica. It is obvious that she felt neglected that Carlos found a girlfriend. Angelica was the one who opened a can of worms thinking that by doing so will gain sympathy for her. She did gain sympathy but to what extent?
She practically gave the Yulo family and the Philippines a black eye in the world stage. She was using the social media to gain sympathy and it is sad the majority of the Filipino people still cling to the notion that children should love and honor the parents whether the parent is is worthy or not.
Angelica tried to portray herself as a loving and suffering mother who said that she lost countless nights of sleep because she is always looking to the needs of the family. But, she was caught lying when reporters was their house during the Olympics when the reporter asked the husband where Angelica was during the live broadcast of Carlos’es performance. The husband said that Angelica is sleeping upstairs.
Also, she was complaining that Chloe’s post on vlogs wearing sexy attires while she was posting revealing posts of herself on social media.
I completely agree. I grew up with an abusive mother but fortunately with a loving father. Growing up I thought of why did my mother give birth to me when If I had been given a chance I would rather not be brought into this world and experience such mysery of being emotionally abused. Now that I am an adult and working, I have the chance to leave my family (since my father already passed) and live somewhere far from them. But I still choose to go back and give back to my mom, not as a responsibilty but as a gift. I do not have any emotional connection with her but maybe because the Filipino culture in me, I feel like I want to somehow give back. Because of my childhood trauma, I do not have the urge to give birth to a baby, I have a lot worries of not being a good mother myself. I believe that it is the parents" responsibility to raise their children because the children were not the ones who begged to born in this world. When children reached adulthood only then they should be let go on their own. It is up to the children whether they want to give back, it will speak a lot about their character and how they were raised for sure.
There are two sides of the story , I agree . If a child have supported the family for a long time , he or she has the right to say ENOUGH is ENOUGH and start preparing for his own life while he is still young and able to earn for himself . It is never wrong to stand up for yourself . If you dont , who will take care of you when you grow old ? Your parebts will die .Your siblings will have their own families . What if you have not saved for yourself . I am the eldest among 11 siblings and have experienced same unfortunate fate . I should have done better for myself and perhaps the community if not for this Filipino "toxic" tradition .
@@cielosi3749 have you heard or seen the presscon of the mother with his lawyer?
Im a filipino and also the "tagasalo sa pamilya" honestly the treatment my parents gave to me and to my siblings is very unfair. And its very frustrating and toxic. Im not the oldest , im actually the 3rd child of 4. i have a family of my own now but i still support my youngest sibling to send him to college. our oldest is jobless and keeps borrowing money from me without returning it so everything she borrow money again, its either i gave her small amount because i know she wont pay it back or i just ignore her messages cos im tired of her drama. Our 2nd sibling has a job but still broke and ask money to my parents who are also jobless( so dont get why shes still working but at the same time broke, she has actually tons of debt). And our last sibling is still in college which i am the supporting him.. so literaly all of them rely on my money. So with that im so disconnected to my family because i felt like im only an atm to them..
As a Filipino,Half Japanese, I see that in my Parent. They believe that my oldest sister , and older brother will make them rich. So they paid for a good private school, while Me in public school, and my brother. many years past my brother sister always depend on my parents ,while I help my parents, and my brother too!. who never being given the same things in life... In my mother dying moments she asked me "why your oldest brother ,and sister don't come to me". I just said you don't know them after all those years. She said " I'm sorry ".... In the family there are people with good heart, and no empathy with their parents or siblings. so it's easy to understand. We are Catholic, and we honor our parents even they done wrong to you. We try to forgive our brother, and sister. Because they come from private school with rich family friends, and don't understand poor people. Working hard in life to have a good paying job that's the goal of poor people.
Thank you sharing your perspective. One thing I believe is the siblings that work hard realize the real value of a dollar. They will not be wasteful or irresponsible. People like that I consider “Very high value!” ❤️😊
You are definitely right. It is a matter of cultural differences between American and Filipinos. But I would also like to add that every family in the Philippines is different. I do not have the statistics, but at least in my family, particularly with my mom, she never obligated us siblings to take care of them when they grew old. Her principle is to give us all the tools we need to thrive in this world (including and most especially, a college degree). To her, it was more than enough to see us grow, thrive and become successful in the path we chose. In parallel to this, she tried to save up for retirement, putting investment here and there, and never really rely on us siblings financially. Of course, life is not always a straight path and sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. And when we saw our parents, well at this point, my dad, struggle in old age, my brothers and I chipped in to help. But that is on top of his pension, not the primary source of finance. But that 's just us. Some families are different.
it depends on the situation, if you dont tell them that you suffered because of being a breadwinner then they will not know. some parents will understand but some dont. After telling them, you should be able to tell as well that you will limit sending money since you work hard for it and your other siblings are also capable of working. Then the burden will be light. But there is always this giving to the parents that the children always have and most of us but not to the extent that we deprive ourselves. Filipinos are always be thankful to the parents who raise them and give love. That is why we also give back. That is our culture.
some of the culture here in the Philippines is that in one family most of the time there's 1or 2 of the siblings in the family going work but the other siblings like the total of siblings is 5... only 1 or 2 goes to work the rest are just there at the house doing NEET/ sometimes got unwanted pr3gn@ncy(female sibling) b4 finishing highschool 🤦🤦🤦... then there's the parents where as one like either father or mother has a job but not that very big and there's s wife/hubby doesn't have any job... just stays at the house and just waste the money on things... wife= wasting on bags, accessories, appliances that ain't needed and always going out bringing friends to either mall or restaurant... on husband= just stays at house... sometimes on the day goes to sari-sari store buys beer/alak... then drinks it all the way... sometimes they do it at night and sometimes do it from morning till night...
then there's other things toxic in the Philippines where-as there's only 1 family member who only earns plenty money like carlos yulo's winnings and incentives on gymnastics... all of the family members doesn't do any jobs or the adults fam members have a job but not earning enough, all of them just goes to the biggest earner and use the money... most of the times they don't work with enough earnings... they leech the earnings of the biggest earner😅🤦😅🤦....
and they don't even take care grandparents like it stays on one fam relatives for 4 months then they move it to another family relatives🤦🤦🤦... they just put the grandparents stay at the fam that has a fam member who only earns bigger...
at the end of the day... that fam member that earns bigger won't have enough for himself/herself coz the other fam members just kept on leeching on his/her hard earned money 🤦🤦🤦
I'll start off by saying I don't want to be a retirement plan. I'll be there to assist but not entirely. It's a good thing that my dad had planned for his retirement years ahead of time. Life is extremely stressful already and if you want to start your own family, being that reitrement plan will just not work.
I love that Filipino culture. I love my parents and i was willing to give to my parents what i have.As a Filipino my parents didn't depend on us children. But because we live our parents we give without them asking from us. It's our culture that make us look back to our parents because Filipinos are God fearing people. If we love God we love our parents. There was no pressure.
Me, too, I don't understand only one sibling will work to get the rest of the family live a better life.
That’s why I hate stereotyping. Filipinos are no different from anybody else.
What makes you say that?
Caloy case is similar to Britney Spears case where the parents take advantage of their adult children.
So true.. difference is it’s in the Philippines where the parents are revered and can do no wrong
Look at what's going on with Sarah Geronimo's life and the mother. She thinks she owns Sarah and wanted to control her for life to a point of causing animosity and severe stress for Sarah and her husband! Extremely TOXIC LIFE! My heart bleeds for Sarah. This toxic culture will never change. I sometimes wonder about the so-called Filipino strong family oriented and their faith in God mentality???
@@jesssc402 the Philippines is pattern after the American system in law but we cannot change our Confucian way of thinking. That is one reason why the Chinese and the Pilipinos remains in quagmire. This is due to Lim Ma Hong legacy.
@@jeansenco150 everything I knew is from the posted of both sides Carlos and the mother, in my own opinion, I did not see any taking advantages frm the mother, I believed just Carlos became boastful and arrogant when he was started earning, according to mom, Carlos doesn’t want to go home to the old place since he got millions, that is why the mom, both a house for him, but he didn’t like that idea…sooooo…and then he meet the gf, and the mother did make a comment against her…and he doesn’t like that comment
@mariafepeterson682 in the 1st place, the mother wouldn't intervene all the activities of his son because he's at the right age. Whatever Carlos does, the mother shouldn't do anything.
It depemds on the parents but it does have that cultural norms here in the Ph. My parents for example, my mother sort of have that mentality whiley father is the opposite. He wants to be able to help his children even in our adult years and doesnt expect us to tale care of him.
Simple philosophy: help or give If you have means to even a bit rather than you have but it’s so hard to let go that small amount to give. Giving is happiness and blessings. Giving is love. And God is love. If you have God in your life you know how to think of your parents. It’s not about their being parents responsibility,it’s about how to give.
Carlos Yulo will have no money in 2 years. Every cousin and friend will ask to "borrow" money from him and will never pay him back.
This is so true.
Not sure about 2 yrs but I agree people will borrow money and not pay him back.
Manny got more blessings by being generous to his family .. he even gave a house to his father who abandoned them .. he loves his mommy D to the max ❤
@@lizacana2898 Manny kept fighting kahit medyo may idad na sya. Si Carlos 24 y.o lang. he still have a lot of yrs ahead of him
And the woman He ia with will fall out bec Caloy has no more money
Yes what you said is true. some have different side of it. so, you already knew both side. Thank you for sharing and posting. I really appreciate you because some doesn't know. so I hope they do understand what is going on. Right now, I'm living in Canada very expensive but we manage. I'm looking after my husband because he is not well. I hope I'll be home soon. I send money back home but not every month only if I have extra cash. My family understand the life here but not everybody back home. They think your picking up money here in abroad because some Pilipino have big mouth and that's the big issue. They should explain to their love one that working in other country is quiet hard because of different culture.
Yes John the situation that I have experience with is the “breadwinner” format let’s call it. In the case I was brought into one was the breadwinner and after sometime my gf became the second. They both have discipline and good spending/savings habits. I implored them both to not allow themselves to be taken advantage of as the saviour. Well I can tell you that I was perceived as the bad guy with the other 2. 🤭 Well so be it. No way I was allowing my gf to divest her savings to support irresponsible and lazy behaviours. It wasn’t happening. Even the parents are onboard now with this mindset and also saving. This being a saviour is not really helping the others at all in the long term. They are slowly getting it although it difficult!! 🤭😊💪🏻
Hello there,
I would like to know from you the following please:
Which one is a better marriage choice overall in the Philippines...a civil or church wedding?
Thank you.
Most Filipinas would want a church wedding
He's been helping the family since 12 years old??? That's enough! Poor guy been abused
Most Filipinos honor Debts of Gratitude. And they avoid having bad reputation. In primary school, we are taught "Good Manners and Right Conduct ". So we respect elders including elder siblings like kuya and ate. In exchange, most elder siblings feel responsible to younger siblings. So most Filipinos don't suffer from loneliness.
Those cultures especially the breadwinner culture is the reason why this country is so poor. As a Filipino, I also do not get that there are many OFWs or a family member working hard and majority of the family members(most of the times, all) are just in the house doing nothing waiting for the padala. You are right that is unjust. I am thankful my family is not like that.
This is a sensitive and delicate subject and I understand both the Filipino and Western sides of the coin.
But no matter where you are from I believe most or every parent wants the best possible life for their child.
I am going to meet my LDR early next year and if all goes well we will build a family together in the Philippines, but if we have more than one child I want nothing to do with breadwinner thinking, I want to raise them as equally as possible.
Thank you for sharing
As they say “ nobody is perfect”. Each culture has its own own “ toxicity” values/ or traditions…Carlos succeeded n should go on with his life.. Angelica can give him some advice n let him make his own decisions n let go..after all as parents we don’t want to be blame should our plans followed n failed..
The mother of carlos has no shame. She did'nt even support carlos.She is just after the money that carlos could possibly claim.As for his personal life, He is entitled to his own happiness.. he deserve to be happy and only chloe can give this kind of happiness to him.
I think what Carlo's mother want is control of his life (finances, etc.). She did not like the fact that Carlos became independent and doing things his way. They should have talk it over and not involve the media.
I think she is just protecting NOT controlling. Only Caloy went out, the other children are okay. So, Caloy has a problem esp when she met the manipulative GF.
@@rubylao4352Nah, it proves that the parents don't want Carlos, they only want the money, and money alone. They never genuinely congratulate their own son, but they are yapping and showing things about poverty publicly so that people will blame Carlos by not providing them. Sorry, brainwashing won't apply to those who know the truth. 😏
Nicely explained..... Nice understanding of the topic..
Really appreciate it.
When I was a child my dream was when I grew up I’ll get a high paying job, give money to my parents so they’ll not work anymore. I want them to relax and enjoy their life. Their happiness is my happiness. Dream fulfilled but my parents didn’t spend the money; instead they saved it for my future. They didn’t know that I have my own savings. Individual differences I think. Some parents expect from their kids and some do not. Both of them are no longer around.
Children are not retirement for the parents but parents are obligations just like children are obligations
We admire manny Pacquiao as he is so generous to his family .. he even gave house to his father who abandoned them .. plus the luxury life his mom is enjoying 😉😀
I’m happy traveling with my family even it means extra expenses 😉😊😊
Manny relationship is different from Julo’s family and no one can compare ones family to another family and one important thing Manny handed the money personally or with consent but Carlos mother in other hand withdrawing the money with out the consent of her son .You can see the difference? Who don’t respect to whom?
the relationship is different... Manny mother does not go out to destroy her son... Unlike Carlos mom. It also looks like Carlos mom just sees her son as a bank account.
Whats ironic is that his mom got an award, and some supports her. Even my mom thinks carlos is on the wrong side.
Negative side of our culture.
Shempre mababasag majority ng may plans ng retirement plan anak..
I'm not saying there are no Pilipino patents who came out prepared after retirement. Many did but most of them had good family backing them up. But common scenario for ordinary working Juan dela Cruz only earns175 to 500 usd per month. And yes most parents are still in their 40s by the time children can work but remember many of these parents came from a poverty stricken background that they were not able to have a good physical health. So after 20+ plus year of bringing up their children for life, majority of them have exhausted their healthy youth and many of them are battered with health issues and lifetime illnesses. And many of us working class don't have health insurance in place before and after retirement. So health care is not part of our expenditure.
The filipino way you cannot move on you have to drag them with you till you have none left then they left you to rot..
Your right so different here SS and government help in US but not here and loyalty to family can mean different things here Mom and pop may be first but aunts ,uncles,cousins,neices,nefews may be on the list depends so many not working and those who are sometimes just surviving so many variables here but poor and working poor make up a large %
it is just basic human nature and give and take. The parents take care of their children growing up, prepare them for the world and the children should take care of their parents if they are already old, retired, ill and let them have a peaceful day of what little time left they have. also when the children have their own family it is more hard for them to give to their parents as they have their own family to think about.
neither the parents nor the children should leech off whoever is working hard and really well. The concept was good but can easily be abused, everyone in the family will work together to uplift everyone, not pull everyone.
Here in my neck of the woods (Europe) we all know that raising kids cost money, time & effort. Now, if I want to make my kids responsible for supporting me when I am old bec I have suffered when my kids were young then all I can say and think: dont start making kids. It sounds to me like emotional blackmail (also known as utang na loob). And it also goes against Maslow's pyramid (hierarchy of needs). Pair that together with the mano. Can you imagine being a kid being raised and live your entire life in poverty? And then have to the mano every day, while that kid couldnt change anything about living in poverty but the parents COULD easily (by not putting that kid in this world)?
@@haighton the problem with the other filipino parents is that when their kids is able to work sometimes they stop working and leech off the kid even if they are still strong and able.
what I'm saying is as parents you do your duty because you love your kids, you don't want them to experience the hardships you have experienced. so don't be the weight to hold your children down to achieve greater success.
when you are old and retired, 70 - 90 years old, you don't force your children to take care of you but you wish they did and if you have raised them right to have compassion and love they will do it because they love you.
Then what? cry on the coffin, filled with regrets you wish you could have spent more time with your parents or something, wish you could have done more. its too late for regret to express your love to your love ones if the person is dead.
@@rharrenmercxz9618
His point is,. having kids is a major responsibility. Hence don't have kids if you can't handle it
As a parent myself, i agree. Let's not even 'hope' to make them our wallets/retirement one day. Best to just stay single/childless,.so you can just spend your money on yourself, all the way to retirement. No need to be a burden to anybody else
@@rharrenmercxz9618 you're part of the problem
Your BIG question ... we all know why.
Money sent home... From my observations (unless it goes to tuition) ok. Otherwise, it's pissed away (and in most cases) not much if anything to show for it.
You forgot to mention the Gov. and agencies LOVE OFWs. The biggest beneficiaries.
I think there are 2 kinds of parents not just in Philippines but in whole Asia. Although I think the news about the yulo parents being toxic is not true because i saw some of the old videos of caloy with parents when he was not with Chloe yet and also I think if the parents are toxic it will show from the siblings of caloy but I see the whole dynamic of the family with the extended ones is but a normal family life where parents are imperfect but loving…i think it’s up to the children if they want to be independent like Carlos and Chloe but what is not good is to mock your parents just because you think they deserve it I think if they think their parents are toxic as a child who is already mature and do not want to be like their parents they should start their life right not by shaming their parents or hurting them…for how do u make things right with another wrong?
Karma is a very strong word in our Filipino culture, if you do not take care of your parents, your children will not take care of you, that is Biblical as well. Taking care of your siblings is not embedded in our culture however some of them will live with our parents and our parents will not push the other kids out of their house when they come stay in our parents house. If you the bread winner will say something, the siblings then will pool together and say something to destroy you against your parents. Your parents will also say something to make you guilty instead of pushing their other kids to get out of their house because then your family will be the talk of the whole community.
I truly understand there are deep cultural practices and beliefs about these things in Filipino culture, and there's a lot that I deeply admire about Filipino families. However, there are some things that I see create a lot of pain, stress, heartache, and anxiety for many Filipinos who have an overwhelming weight on their shoulders especially when it comes to being a breadwinner or the level of responsibility to parents or younger siblings. I don't think I'd bring what's biblical into this because its clearly not biblical to have one person in the family who is able to work not working (e.g. 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 "Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: “Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.” Yet we hear that some of you are living idle lives, refusing to work and meddling in other people's business."). There's also nothing in the Bible that says that adult children should be financially paying their parents bills, though of course they should support them if they have the ability too and their parents can't support themselves.
There is no karma in the Philippines. Karma is a Hindu belief. Filipinos are predominantly Catholic.
Karma is not part of the Filipino language per se. It was adopted. Karma is a Hindu concept.
Carlos Yulo is very fortunate to win double Gold Medals at the 2024 Olympic Games. His unfortunate situation is mainly due to his greedy, stupid mother who is not ashamed to broadcast their family problems.
The mother of Carlos is disrespectful to her son that's why Carlos distances from her
Get your facts right before making judgements.It was the son...your golden boy who disrespected his mother calling his mothrr a thief and a lier...with the very supportive disrespectful girlfriend.
He was influenced by his westernised girlfriend..
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Why did you say ? The mother is disrespectful to the child? It never happened to Filipino culture that the respect goes to younger ones. Our respect goes first to older ones , because the older has a lot experienced and knows better than the younger.
That's wrong.
There’s no nursing homes or real social security right, and companies here don’t hire older people. So how would people survive without their kids?
True
Just wondering what will really happen when people have no kids and how they will 'survive'?
@@haighton they die alone
@@haighton the nieces and nephews steps in for childless members of the family that’s the Filipino way westerners will never understand.
That's why I don't plan on having kids. The curse ends with me .
You could also have kids and do things differently
Amen!!
All that Gaslighting/Guilt-Trip tactics are overrated.
Love your parents no matter what. Even if they are bad to you or not good parents! As god said honor your father and mother He did not say honor them because they are good. If we will only live and adhere on God’s word, definitely there won’t be any issue among children about who is who…. Who has done this and that? Who suppose to do this and that?…. Taking care of parents especially when they are olders means love and respect. Let’s us remove the mindset of they are just using you to have a good life or something. That is extremely toxic thinking! Without your parents you will not live! Basic queation, did you feed yourself wen you are new born? Did you change your own diaper and cleaned yourself when you made a mess? 😅😅😅 Huh! Certainly! Even if you showered your parents a million dollars bucks that would never be enough. Love your parents unconditionally.
Honor them--yes, that's biblical. But 18 year old, 20 year old, 25 year old etc kids financially supporting parents in their 40s and 50s who are able to work isn't biblical. It's cultural in the Philippines, but it's not accurate to say its biblical.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat lol and this one you should've added to the list. I'm super embarassed to even be associated with "that" kind of Filipino. "No matter what" is a dumb concept and it gives criminals justification to do what they do. Some people really need to go back to their caves.
Things like this are things that westerners will likely never understand. It's just their culture, it's the way they have done things for generations, and it's unlikely to ever change
Maybe it should change.
@@JMgmkh it's called a sandwich generation.
Filipino parents wants the best for their kids, theyre more concern on getting their kids ready for their future like sending them to college even to the point of selling their properties and not leaving anything for them in old life. They concern of what is happening at the moment and the future of their kids .
A LOT of Filipino parents want the best for themselves through their kids. Sorry but this is the truth. These people give zero efs as to what the adult kids want to do with their life
Mother only spent 70k not 11M the 11M remain savings of carlo.
Both parents had a decent job father is a kagawad (public servant) the mother had online selling business. Simple life but they didn't take advantage the money of their son. He (carlo) wanted to live his own life, doesn't care about the family anymore So Christmas wil not be as happier as before because he choose to throw his family away But since he had a lots of money he can buy a new parents he can pick on catalogue 😂or buy happiness to travel around the globe 😂😂 but he can't buy peace of mind.
Culture of the philipines i think we become slum and poor country after...becuase if iur culture is great our country now is rich..am i right ..?coreect m3 if im wrong
Carlos Yulo is a product of failed parenting. Both his mother and he have mistakes. Carlos grew up outside his home, training without a family member beside him, which is why there is distance between him, his mother, and other family members.
Another Filipino athlete in the same but similar situation is tennis player Alexandra Eala. She grew up outside her home as well, but the difference is that, she is always accompanied by her father.
The wrong parenting to me iis the lack of family planning. Having kids that they can't really support well, and worse, making their kid the breadwinner
@@fredtacang3624 Mali ka... merong mga adapted children na lumaki sa maayos na adaptive parents....Anim ang kapatid ko pamilyado lahat.. kumpleto, pero ang dalawa sa kanila failed parents.. kumpleto mother and father... Yulo's mother failed because di sya nagabayan ng ayos...Carlos failed as well... yong pera dapat di na dinala sa public, eh nag video pa kasama ang GF.. adds fuel to the fire...
@@vareseources
Ano failure ni caloy? Setting boundaries is not a failure
I'm a parent myself and to me, failure ng anak ay failure ng magulang. Til they're 18 and can make their own decisions already. Pag ganyan edad na anak, di na 'kasalanan' ng magulang ano gawin nila sa.buhay nila. Kaya nga sila na haharap sa batas pag 18 na bec age of maturity/consent na yan. Ang failure to me is pakialamanan mo anak mo kahit adult at independent na
@@vareseources this comment is one of the examples why Filipino parenting is stuck in the Agricultural revolution
@@jayvhoncalma3458 Explain why. Your comment is vague.
Every one is different I have seem spoiled children and many many many poor starving Children, They use babies to beg,
Its really poverty
Mrs. Yulo is both RIGHT and WRONG
She did Caloy RIGHT, and also DIRTY
11m was withdrawn over the counter sweep by CY. Her mother only use a small amount to save their house in Cavite, the motorshop that went bankrupt, she has all the receipts. Nothing more nothing less. Proof of that is Government never sued her for the years she properly liquidated the money.
One different athlete also an Olympian his mother get sued by government. That is the difference between CY's Mom and the other athlete's Mom. So you already know from the gf script and figure out who is lying.
And also these foreigners please mind you moral compass when you try to pull away a Pilipino child from his/her parents influence. Don't turn our country into the next moral deprived society.
I'm a little confused what you mean. Do I feel foreigners split families up? In my experience there are MANY single Filipinas mothers and the dad's aren't doing anything to take care of the children. This seems morally bankrupt for father's not to take care of their young children and this has nothing to do with foreigners.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat he's one THOSE type of Filipino that thinks the Philippines can continue to exist without foreign help.
Basically he's an isolationists
Toxic mother who curse her son because of her failure to support her son during Olympic competition ..she supported JAPAN NOT HER SON…
Carlos yulo accusing his mother a THIEF!! is a NO NO...he is just disrespectful & ungrateful....the money was spend / invested to the house but now the family is selling it just to return the money....Carlos is not a good role model to the youth..he & his red flag gf...both rebel child....the girlfriend is carlos downfall...
Dude/Maam, the mother STILL took the money without consent. Imagine being an adult, saving money to buy a motorcycle you've always dream of having for a looong time, but then your mother took the money and bought home appliances instead (without you knowing) because she said it would serve you (and them) better. What would you feel?? Remember, Caloy is already an adult.
@@wilcals5294 lol...the motorcycle was given by caloy to his father but unfortunately the father was planning to sell it jst to return the money....and the money accusing to the mother was invested for caloys future as she spend it buying a house in cavite all of these has receipts shown in natl tv...the house is currently for sale not sure of someone bought it already for the family to return the money to caloy....and also why parents handling his money because he was still a minor that time...caloy only ask for his money when chloe is already on the scene & the mother doesnt like chloe...its like saving his son from misery..but the son didnt listen but love chloe & the fued started + caloys relationship to his japanese trainor is also affected thats why they seperate ways....the culprit here is the red flag gf!! But its already caloys choice....turn back his family & choose his woman instead
@@chichaypetchay8898Thus, by your comment, you proved that Carlos Yulo's parents are the real reasons of their own demise, and their son chose to be independent because they are toxic. 😂
Hahahahahahahahhahaha
STOPPED LOOKING AT THESE MATTER IN YOUR PRIVILEGE AMERICAN POINT OF VIEW. TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION TO THE POINTS I'LL LAY DOWN HERE. BTW I'M A PUBLIC HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER FOR 2O YEARS SO YES I HAVE FIRST HAND KNOWLEDGE ON THE INTRICACIES FOR A COMMON PILIPINO PARENTHOOD.
What exactly did I say in my video that is from a privileged American point of view?
@@WatchCaliforniaExpatI don't think they watched the video sir, don't mind them. Keep doing what you're doing, I am glad someone from the outside is looking in.
Thank you 🙏
@@PlayerAwesomeEnigma True some of us have the Indian mindset where if someone is critical of our country they get very defensive.
Now I wonder if there are any foreign vlogs out there scrutinizing and over- analyzing the US the way this channel does it with the Philippines..
I dont think so...or no one is interested in the US culture? 😊😂 is it too boring to be discussed?
I predict the girlfriend will leave as soon as the shine , money , and parades are gone!
Yulo is a simp . He has no clue to what is going to happen to him. His head is clouded . It’s the classic story of rags to riches to rags .
So by the time these parents reaches mid 40s, early 50s many are slowing down and don't have the drive to fight for good career with younger generation of workers. And they just be contented and fulfilled seeing their children that they successfully gave a fighting chance in life. So please don't look at this matter in your privilege American mentality. Many Pilipinos dive in to parenthood without enough savings because it all stem to hand to mouth salary system here in the Philippines. Just asked your ordinary employees the break down of their day to day expenses you'll see many hardly keep a monthly savings to which this is still to majority of Pilipinos saving account is a alien concept.
There are lots of OFW just to give good life to their families ..
Yulo is not a good idol for a champion .. sorry I was his fan in gymnastics but not as a person anymore 😉😝
I will just root for female gymnasts as they’re so loving persons 😀
John, going where angels fear to tread.
Good for him !