Working Through Ups and Downs *Marriage is Hard*
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
- Katie takes over the vlog today and has a very, very eventful and overwhelming day! The kids had to go to the doctor. Then Katie gets pulled over! THEN Katie has a heart to heart with y'all after everything has started to catch up to her! Send Cullen and Katie your good vibes, thoughts and prayers....it's a long journey and everything's good right now. ❤️
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The best advice I've ever received in this area is "When you're working through a problem with someone, always remember that it's not you vs. them. It's the two of you vs. the problem." and I've never forgotten that. Sending prayers your way!
“Nobody wants to see a bunch of downs”
Maybe not a bunch of downs but seeing this one is helpful. I’ve had days where I’ve had to sit in my car and cry because life is getting too hard, only to wipe away the tears and head into work like everything is fine. This is a nice reminder that everyone has those moments. That we are all just trying to get through this, and showing a bit of kindness can go a long way.
I'm so sorry Katie! I always remember what my grandmother says, "A bad day doesn't mean a bad life." You got this!
Kari Craven I like that !
Thanks for not being fake. It is refreshing. My husband and I will be married 30 years in August:) My only advice is to learn to not take on his frustrations as yours, because though we are together, we are all still on our own journey. You need a touchstone that centers you during trying times. I didn't know that when I was younger and I let marriage difficulties rob me of my health. Now I know how to not take words personally and how to see the bigger picture. Some people lash out, when they have inner turmoil, but in the end, they were trying to release buried pain. We shouldn't allow ourselves to be abused, but we also have to deal with uncomfortable things, when living with someone for many years. I built my self-esteem over these many years, so now no one can make me doubt who I am. I am conscious of what I do and why I do it, so if anybody comes at me, I live in a space of complete self-knowledge. No words can take me down. The work comes from the inside out, so what comes from the outside is owned by the other person. Stay strong and don't forget to breathe through it. You got this:)
So why are you watching them? It's so funny when people do this. I'm trying to uplift and you want to kick a person when they are down. It's so sad that you want to hurt people. I think you need to look in the mirror and find out why.
Anita Entringer well said! I totally agree with you. Just celebrated 35 years of marriage myself.
Anita Entringer Try to ignore. Someone just wanting to stir up trouble.
You are right on!!!
Ignore the haters. They just want attention.
It’s hard to be so vulnerable in front of the camera. But by doing so , you are helping so many people realize that hey, ya’ll have problems too! Makes you really relatable.. not that I wish bad upon ya’ll , but it just makes you guys seem genuine in every aspect.
Channels that portray perfectionism can make people think... hey what’s wrong with me? I’ve been turned off to many channels I used to watch daily because of that.
Just know that everybody has issues .. and the harder you have to fight for something the sweeter the reward. Ya”ll have so many people that love your entire family to pieces and wish you nothing but the best and brighter days ahead. ✌️& 💗
Girlie, I totally feel you. My heart aches when I saw you get choked up. My husband and I have been blessed to be married 12 years and I can totally relate to what you’re saying. I found myself nodding a lot during this video. Thank you for not being afraid to be vulnerable. In my experience, others find that kind of vulnerability the most meaningful because it’s raw, it’s real, and yes, sometimes it just sucks. God is so good and patient with us though. He’s right there alongside us when we can’t even talk to our best friend (ie husband). My heart goes out to you. Hang in there, honey, and this season will pass. Sending love ❤️❤️
I just cried it out with you. I’m 4.5 months pregnant and had a fight with the hubs, and my almost 3 year old is so naughty lately, I needed the encouragement! We love you and will always be here!
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Katie my love you look so sad in today’s vlog though. :( you just look sad. You seem like you need a good cry...don’t be afraid to feel whatever you feel. You seem like you ply hold a lot in for everyone around you- the kids, Cullen’s the one with depression, the vlogs. You need to take time for you- even if that time involves time for you to let it all out. You’ve been through a lot lately and that’s not easy on anybody. If you don’t let it out you will burst- and we don’t want that! Take some time for you. Watch a good cry movie and let it out. Seriously. It helps so much- soon you are crying about everything but the movie. Just want to see you happy and not having to hold it together for everyone else all the time. I know as a mom that’s kinda the job description but behind closed doors you have got to take care of you internally. Love you lady. ❤️❤️
missychelle33 was a really weird night feeling better today but I’m sorry 😐 is
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Katie, don't ever think that you are the only one going through stuff. My husband and I have been married for 42 years and I love him dearly. But, I sometimes feel I am in it alone. Even when our boys were young, I felt that way. He worked away from home a lot and long hours when he was working at the office. I did everything by myself except the yard work.
Cullen reminds me of him in a lot of ways. I have to say, Cullen is much funnier than mine. Lol.
This past November, my husband had knee replacement surgery. Can we say "big baby"! I had ALL of his medicine within reach of his chair and STILL I had to get them for him. Believe me, I was never so glad to have someone return to work! I was never so tired of waiting on him, hand and foot.
I am grateful for him and finally he has learned to appreciate me and what I do in the home, our kids and him. Sorry for venting about mine. Sometimes you just have to do it. Love you girl. I hope it gets better.
Janet Gray your life sounds so similar to mine I've been married 36 years I wish we both will learn to respect and be grateful for each other and have empathy we are reaching out for counseling at this time.. 36 years is a long time to throwaway we do love each other we just need to respect each other more I hope counseling helps us have a good day
Is cullen in the vlog at the end or is it just Katie please respond
Good for you that he realized. We are just over two years and I can relate to you and it’s already draining me but I love him. Idk for how long.
Marriage IS Hard. LOVE you guys. Thanks for sharing so much with all of us out here in RUclips land. ~*~
Katie, you are an incredible mother and wife. You are such an inspiration to me because you always rally. You always push through. You carry those kids and your husband, and at some point being married to someone with depression is like being sucked down a drain. And you’re clinging to the side and it’s just swirling and making that awful gurgling noise and it’s not you, it’s Cullen. And there’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with taking time to yourself. Running away. You deserve it and sometimes you have to for your own sanity.
Katie I love how honest you are, we all have problems and being able to talk about them is the best therapy! It broke my heart to see you cry but it is real emotion and life is not easy. I will be praying for y'all if I could give you a hug I would❤️
I think all of us who have been married awhile (40 years for us this summer) know that there are struggles throughout marriage. Some you won't want to share in a vlog. It must be hard to film on a bad day. You want to give something to your subscribers but keep certain parts of your life private. It sounds like you had a day with many many challenges. Hang in there. Seems like when I have a day that feels like it couldn't get any worse, I'll be blessed with a particularly good day.
Oh my darling Katie.... I want to give you a huge hug, sit and have a big girly chat.... andddddddd maybe a glass of wine with lots of laughing and then a big snotty cry. You guys seam to have been thrown one thing after another after another lately.... and that’s just the stuff we know about on the vlogs....... You need to be able to get stuff out.... you need to talk ...whether it be with a girlfriend , a councillor, psychologist etc..... just look after you.... love you up a bit..... caring for someone with depression is bloody hard work at times.... and it’s sooooooo important that the carer (you) gets looked after too... you got this GF ..... sending you and Cullen lots of love xx
Dear sweet Katie...
I have been married for 42 years and I have come to realize at this point of my life, that the 'ups' are just as important as the 'struggles'. Yes! The struggles are important too bc w/o those, the ups wouldn't mean as much. I truly believe that God has put you and Cullen on this journey b/c you're HONEST ENOUGH with not only us, but yourselves, to help,teach,share,walk through life and all the many phases of it to keep REAL the many facets of getting to the end with dignity,blessings,family,friends and memories that mattered enough to fight for....You choose and share to help all of us realize everyone of those days,even the difficult, were for something and if we can at least KEEP OUR FAITH IN THAT-we know that when its time for us to say goodbye to those we have shared our journey with-we have left them with love,honesty and blessings. Hang in there-you're NOT alone and the sun will rise on us tomorrow and if by chance it doesn't-our legacy was worth it all. 💛💛
Bless you. I’ve been married for 7 years and it is hard. There are times where we have to work really hard to stay happy. Especially when you have small children. Life it tough. Cry when you need to and take time for yourself. If our cups are empty we haven’t got anything left to give to others. You are doing great x
That’s a great way to put it. “If our cups are empty we haven’t got anything left to give to others.” ❤️
Ahh the bucket book .)
Katie, marriage will get easier as the kids get older. Hubs and I sometimes fought like cats and dogs when the kids were very young. I felt like I had most of the responsibilities, kids all day, cleaning, laundry, cooking, it felt like it never ended. I had days where I resented my husband and marriage. I didn't want a broken family so I worked on it. My kids are 24 and 26, my husband and I just got back from Florida and it was worth the effort. So hang in there Katie, it will get better and easier. We love you, you have thousands of us that support you. ❤
My mom has always said this and remember it. It is you and your significant other against the problem, not you against your significant. You can make it through it. It is normal to be sad we love to see your emotions hoping it makes you feel better. We love you guys all of you.
Katie, my heart and prayers go out to you in earnest because as evidenced by today's vlog problems persist but I am also praying for both you & Cullen for peace and happiness and a healthy marriage for you both moving forward.
Love you both, praying for you both!...
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We always do our best not to air our dirty laundry, we have so many friends who are constantly blasting their fights with their spouses. I think it is so much healthier to have a conversation with your spouse than everyone else.
Never feel like you have to share everything with us. Film clips and you don't even have to add it to the vlog, just do it for yourself.
Marriage can be hard, but it also can be the most beautiful thing. In the hard times remember you guys are fighting the same fight, you are on the same team. And sometimes you just need to remember why you chose them!
You guys are always included in our prayers. 💓💓💓
Katie, I love how you guys keep it real and open up about your lives. I feel like so many vloggers are fake like their life is perfect. God never promised anything would be easy. So glad ya’ll keep things in perspective, even though you don’t have to. P.S. you made me cry. Lol...that’s not hard to do though these days.
Wow lady!!! Talk about having more than your share of hard things happening in one day... my heart goes out to you. You’re a fantastic mother, wife, friend and person. You’re genuine, which is hard to find these days in a world preoccupied with showing only the best side. Thanks for you honesty and openness. We, the village, love you and your sweet family and need no explanation. I stopped and immediately prayed for you and your family and will continue to hold you in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you a big hug and kiss from San Diego.
Sincerely, Anne Marie
This is the reason I stay subscribed to your channel.
The thing that turns me off to most daily vloggers is they put on airs that their life is perfect, they never have conflict and they just naturally do this intense over the top things every day.
It's obviously fake. And I'm not saying that I'm happy y'all are having problems. It's tough to go through those rough patches but it's real. And you have every right to privacy and to choose what you want to share.
My thoughts are with your family.
Katie, I'm in a similar boat of things feeling overwhelming, especially today. I'm a single momma of two kiddos. I feel like the world and my children were determined to break me today. So I'm taking a timeout to watch the vlog, and you said just the right things to pull me back up a little bit. Thank you for being you. 💜
I love you guys. Communication is key!! Marriage counseling is wonderful, but both parties need to be willing.
Today would have marked 11 years being with my husband. We were 16 when we started dating. Next month would have been married 7 years.
Just shy of 3 weeks ago, he completely blindsided me and said he was done. We’re now getting a divorce. I had zero say. He has always been bad at communicating but this was insane. I fell apart. I’m just now starting to pick up the pieces and be happy again. Seeing a therapist twice a week and on an antidepressant. We have two children.
We should have gone to counseling when things started changing. But he was unwilling.
This is the part that scares me about marriage. You can put all the work and effort into it but you never know how the other person is gonna react, you never know if they are going to be willing to work at it too.
I relate Katie. I have been with my husband for 8 years, it's hard. But we fight for what we love 💚 praying for y'all . Thanks you for sharing what that women said she said it better than me lol 😘
The dynamic of both being around each other constantly is a hard thing, he should or you maybe get an outside job other than RUclips. It would give a sense of independence or just the sense of self.
Thanks for sharing. Once we stopped doing daily vlogs I felt like our marriage finally had room to heal, I didn’t feel like I needed to put on a show anymore even though I’m real on my vlogs. We were able to work through it. Praying for you both, i know how hard it is. Having young kids just adds more to the mix!
Thank you for being real and vulnerable Katie! Prayers for you and your family in this season of life. ❤
Cullen & Katie. I owe so much to you guys. About a month ago my marriage was completely falling apart. We would go days without having a conversation and I contacted a divorce lawyer. We have a 1 year old son and I wanted to fight for him. So with your recommendation I read the 5 love languages book. OMG it opened my eyes to so many things and gave me the courage to tell my husband that I think we should fight for us. I told him my love languages and he told me his and since that day we have never been happier. I know we still have a lot to learn but know we have manual to go by and an understanding of who we are to each other and to ourselves. So thank you a million times.
Going into my 13th yr of marriage we have been having s hard time with the “sameness” lately so thank you for this Katie ! The village is here for you just as I consider you all here for us because you do help me often so no it’s never stupid .. your ups & downs have been my life lately & it helps to know I’m not alone ❤️ we are the village & we love you !
Aww she is still tiny to me.
Love your honesty! Marriage is hard, life is hard, but at days end it’s worth every second. You guys are on my prayer list every day! ❤️
Katie, I just want to tell you that you and Cullen have been a very inspiring couple to me. My husband and I just reconnected after being separated for 2 years. It was the hardest 2 years of my life. But I grew so much in those 2 years. And watching y’all had given me so much hope. I know that may sound silly. But it’s true. Keep your head up and keep your faith. I love your family. God bless ❤️
My husband and I have only been married for 4 years and we’re already seeing a lot of this. We’re growing and learning together that it’s so important to keep some things just between us. It’s so important when you’re upset or frustrated with each other to work through it together instead of always turning and venting to someone else. I have been watching since you were 9wks with Gaines and it has so impressed me that you’re willing to admit when you’re having tough times, but you’re also so committed to each other and making your marriage work that you won’t blast all of your business on social media/RUclips. I love y’all and I really am praying for y’all. ❤️
Thank you for being so real with us. I really appreciate your openness and honesty. We are here to support you, and you guys have our support! ❤
People shouldn’t say to stop vlogging this is their job and what they enjoy doing. This is also their outlet. I think they obviously love one another and I believe they will be fine. I don’t have a husband or children but I am a child of parents married over 46 years. My dad made it very clear Mom was #1 and if the parents aren’t good no one is good. I think the husband and wife should always be #1 don’t do anything just for the kids. When the two of you are good things just fall into place. Putting anything or anyone other than God before your relationship will end your relationship.
Thanks for being real Katie. I left a long comment on the wound dressing change video on how my husband and I learned to appreciate each other more. It took a serious health scare to make us stop and slow down and learn to be more patient, more understanding , and loving toward each other. Life is tough, it sometimes really sucks, but I am so grateful that God gave me an amazing husband to share it with. I am also so thankful that he gave (gives) us obstacles to overcome. Things can’t always be perfect (or anywhere close to perfect), so we just have to keep our head up and tell ourselves our relationships with our spouses, our children, our family, etc. is worth fighting for. It is worth the daily struggles, always try to remind yourself the reason you fell in love in the beginning. My husband and I have been married 28 years, some of those years have really been hard, and some have been very happy. I am praying for you and Cullen, and your family. God Bless
We “the village” love y’all!!! Sometimes you just need to cry. Sometimes crying helps. We understand life is tough. We will always be here for y’all to listen to you cry.
We keep you guys in our prayers! I even have my parents invested in the vlogs and how you guys are! Katie and Cullen, you guys are truly an incredible couple and an inspiration to my fiancé and I! Keep focused on God and remember he has you guys!
Marriage is hard! I have been married 28 years. Hang in there. Remember to talk to each other and you both have to be willing to work on it and be willing to compromise. I will for sure be praying for you all.
I love this. Too many people think marriage is all kitty’s and rainbows. And I love that this is real life. Love you guys!! ❤️❤️❤️
Last weekend my husband and I escaped to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary and first real night away since our second baby (now 15 months) was born. I bought a ton of “newly weds “ stuff and we actually drank some mojitos and pretended that our we weren’t parents. We go to counseling with our pastor but this got us through a scary down cycle. We praise the Lord so much for this healing 🙌🏼 Love you guys!!!! Will be praying for you! 🙏🏼
Katie...you did a great job with the kids....handling two kids by yourself CAN be overwhelming. Yes, marriage is full of ups and downs....prayer really does help. When you feel that you just can't take it anymore...God is ALWAYS there for us. He helps us to calm down so we CAN handle whatever Life throws our way. Know that you are loved. Your family helps other families see that what they are going thru is "normal"...May you find peace in the stillness of the Lord and know he is always holding your hand. Amen. 💖 🌹 😉 👍
Noone wants to see the downs? I must disagree. It can be really isolating to see everyone going about their stuff all on the up, when you see people showing the downs, it feels relatable. Obviously you want a balance, but don't ever think we only stay here for the up stuff. The two majorly amazing marriages I know of (my parents and my own) have gone through terrible times and almost splits (in my case, splits and returns) and came out the other side stronger than ever. If people looked at my marriage now, without the knowledge of our past, they would never guess what we went through. What got us through was deciding. And by that I mean I decided that I wanted to be my husbands wife, I wanted it to be good, so I made it happen and we are stronger and more in love now, 21 years in, than ever before. My parents struggled around the same point in parenting as you guys and honestly, looking at how strong they are now, you would be stunned to know they were so unhappy way back then. It really is about deciding. Deciding if you want to be his wife/her husband. Nothing is insurmountable once you decide that. Much love to you, I truly know how it feels.xx
StephieAck I disagree. In my opinion these couples who live in front of camera need more balance and learn to look at life and look at their relationship with their own eyes, not through a lens.
I think these youtube families lose touch with real life when they arent looking through a view finder. They forget how to just talk to each other without an audience
Miss-my main point was about marriage, nothing to do with RUclips and camera's. About marriage in general. But also, the minor point being that they don't have to feel that what they show us needs to be all 'up'. But I do agree with that point you made.
Hang in there Katie. It’s good to talk out your problems and feelings. Don’t hold them in. Things will get better. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
You are definately not alone katie, been in that place, many times, many times ive wanted to close that door behind me, but im not a quiter, and theres many more good things than bad things. But i have to say sometimes my shoulders just ache with the weight, you rightfully choose what you want to share, but just know, you touch my heart. Sending a hug, no words, just a big scottish hug. Xxxxx
I'm not married and I don't have great words of wisdom, but I am one of many cheerleaders for you and Cullen. Always in my thoughts and prayers. Love you guys!!
Hi Katie and Cullen. I think being real is the best way to go to get through the hard times. Sometimes situations take not talking and processing before you can deal with the person you have issues with. We've been married 24 years and I can tell you that sometimes I (probably he too) would like to walk away BUT when you look at the other side of the of fence that isn't any greener. I feel what has gotten me through is remembering the feelings you had on your wedding day and focusing on those are what has gotten me through the tough times..and PRAYER. If everything was always great would you grow? Or do those hard times solidify the bond? Many prayers coming your way.
Telling all of your marital issues is like having your windows open all the time and expecting people not to look in. Marriage is never ending work no matter if it has been a year or 60. You just keep pushing always.
Thank you for your example! You guys are doing the work- and honestly, that’s what makes us love you even more. You don’t give up when it’s hard. What an incredible message to share with the young people who watch and admire you! Keep fighting! Love your OG from Oregon! 💚💛💚💛
Aw, Katie, I cried along with you! You did a great job with the vlog, btw. Your pain was easy to see in your eyes as you talked. We women need to just have a good cry once in awhile and get it out!!! You and Cullen have been through so much lately!!! Hang in there and don’t be too tough on yourself needing time alone. Just being a mom ~alone time is precious let alone being with your spouse 24 hrs a day. Hoping and praying your outlook will be brighter tomorrow. My hubby and I will celebrate our 42nd anniversary on may 7th! Life is hard, marriage is hard, parenting is hard! But the joy you receive in return is far better than the hard times you go through. Wishing you and Cullen all the best 💕
Hi Katie!! Thanks for that! i've been married ten years & we've had our hard times & good times but what i've learned is first give it to God & talk to him then i'll talk to my husband & after that we always b on the same page. We've all had our days. Stay blessed & i love ya'll blogs keep them coming.
Katie I really appreciate you opening up to us about what was going on with you that day. You are a beautiful strong woman and yes I feel like you are a part of my family.
Love you Katie!! Thank you for sharing the real stuff. I definitely look up to you and Cullen and y’alls parenting style. Especially because you don’t sugarcoat anything. Everyone has bad days, and they help you appreciate the good ones. 💕
hi katie! i’ve only been married for a short period of time but my husband and i went on a retreat together last month. it’s called a weekend to remember by familylife. it is so amazing. it gives you a break from reality for a couple of days so you can really hone in on just the two of you. the speakers do a great job and they are always available for questions. the sessions are so productive and we learned so much. i think you and cullen could use the break and also some time to focus on just each other! there’s one in destin, florida in november. we will definitely be praying for you and cullen as individuals and as a couple! ❤️
I have been married 21 years. It is not all roses. My husband and i love each other so much and we are best friends. God gives us these trials to go thru that we didn’t know we could handle. These trials make u stronger. My grandma always told me u have to work on your marriage everyday. Never let a day go by with a hug or kiss. Have dates as much as u can. Doesn’t have to cost money. You are amazing. Yes u have been thru a lot and it takes is hard when u have depression on top of that. Your a team u got this and your doing good. Love ya guys :)
Katy- I don't feel any words I say will be what you need at the moment so I will send my love and a big hug. I've had those tears and sad days and felt your pain while watching. ❤❤
Katie hang in there. My hubby and I are on 26 years. And we still have those days that I'm like why is this so hard we should be pasted all this. But it happens to all couples especially when you have kids. Being married is a challenge in itself and then you had these little beautiful people into your life and then you realize that you're going to have the best best days and then you're going to have some really hard days but the best days always override the bad days at the end of it all you realize you wouldn't want it any other way. Hang in there❤️
Katie I understand how much work a marriage is! My husband and I have been married 32 years and have two boys 3 years apart and I worked as a RN and my husband is in finance. I promise things will get better as long as you keep the lines of communication open and support each other as best you can at the time you are going through your trials. God bless you both!
Sending hugs to you Katie. Me and my husband have been married for 24 years this November and we have ups and downs but always make it over the bumps. We just keep our faith and work our way through it. Sending our love n prayers your way.
If y’all chose to open up about it here, we will all be super supportive and kind. Your followers love you and support you. We have the same kinds of problems out here too. Your tears are so hard to see. I wish I could take your pain away. You’re so sweet and kind. Such a beautiful soul❤️
Oh, sweet Katie! ❤️ Marriage isn't easy, I've been married 7 years and have been through some really really rough times and I feel you. Take some time for you, we take time for everyone else but ourselves... Don't forget that you're important too! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Katie you are amazing and life can be crazy. God blesses us through trials and I will keep praying for y'all. Keep the faith!
Been married 22 years and theres always ups and downs . Rejoice in the ups and hang tight in the downs. Sorry you had a rough day and hopefully tomorrow will be brighter!
This video blessed me so much not only your transparency but the many people in the comments sharing their story. Feels good to know your not alone and that its perfectly normal. Sending you love and prayers. #justkeepswimming
Talk it out, communicate! That’s your best friend and he’s yours! You guys confide in each other and come to a solution! Also most importantly, PRAY together!
You can renew your license online! I’m from Alabama and just did recently. It cost like $40 and they just use your old picture!
Sending love to you both. I love seeing the ups, but I also enjoy hearing about the downs. Even if we don’t really know, it’s nice to have the encouragement that life isn’t always happy and perfect and that it takes work. We never want you guys to struggle, but we truly appreciate the real ness that you always give. Rooting for more ups, praying for your communication and love through the downs. Enjoy the small moments and take heart that this too will pass.
Katie my heart was breaking while you were talking! My husband and I have been married going on 8 years now, and I appreciate you opening up a bit about it being HARD! Life is so damn hard. Hold on and I appreciate your sweet family❤️
Shelly Lynn yes, it is! 💕
About to have our 14 year anniversary. Marriage is hard! You change and grow at different speeds and time. Things that I think help are of course date nights! Taking turn who picks what we do. Also think just having some time away from your spouse is a gift. Let’s you focus on yourself. Which I struggle with that one. Sometimes we give so much we are left with being overwhelmed, tired, and our brains spinning with thoughts. Might sound silly but I like to go to Gold’s gym in the movie room and run on the elliptical in the dark. It’s amazing and I sometimes silently cry releases the stress. I always go late at night. Hope you find a little sunshine to brighten your spirit. You guys really seem like nice people
I really appreciated watching a vlog that is very relatable to my life right now. You explained everything very well without infringing on specific details. Keep smiling Katie! 😘😘
It's so hard when you're struggling or even just irritated at your spouse and there's no one to vent to. I don't like to vent about my husband to my Mom or sisters bc I don't want them to gain an opinion in my defense and then hold onto to it when I have gotten over it. Unfortunately, we had to live with my parents for 4 months between moves and it was hard to hide our emotions and not argue. So my mom now brings up things that she is stuck on that I have moved passed. 😑
Yes! This, for sure!!
totally get this this!!! you said it perfectly
It's really hard to share ur couple arguments with family.. they do make opinions and stick to them.. I've been married 11 years.. disabled 8 of them and my disability is for life.. no kids.. my husband is an amazing guy.. he takes care of me like no one else ever has.. but yes there are times when we can bite eachothers heads off.. go too far in an argument.. but we have a few rules we follow..
Never go to bed angry..
Take a moment and be silent..
Talk it out..
Agree to disagree..
If one of us says "stop".. the other has to stop and walk away for a bit without asking any questions.. it really works bcoz both of us realise that we were either wrong or didn't need to argue.. These rules works for us.. hopefully they will help someone else too..
Kelsey Cooper Very well put. I can relate!
Katie, I don’t have anything wise or even super inspirational to share right now, but just know that we all go through rough times and we are always here to listen. Life is tough, marriage is tough but there isn’t anything we can’t get through. Keep your chin up💜💜
I love the realness. It is so hard to find real people with real issues that are willing to share. Which then makes you feel like... Well crap I must be the only one. Seeing that other people who have an all around wonderful life struggle to sometimes. I get to see you grow through them. I see that this to shall pass. Thank you for being real. Thank you for allowing us to see that we all have issues in some way and that it will pass. Praying for you and your family! 🤗😍😘
Katie thank you for sharing your thoughts today. This is encouraging to hear especially since in five weeks Rob and I will be starting our marriage journey. Love you all ❤️
Marriage is so hard sometime! We've been married almost 14 years and there have been seasons that were more work than others! One of my favorite sayings in "marriage isn't always easy, but it's always worth it!"
We are all here for you Katie, even the whole family! We love you know matter what problems you might have, and we are your shoulders to cry on if you ever need to let out any steam❤️ we love you!
I can say hearing both the ups and downs is very helpful. It lets us know we are not alone in or struggles. I suffer from anxiety and ptsd. Cullen honest video about what he was going through and hearing that you struggled with post partum issues made me feel like oh I am not crazy or alone. It's hard to watch families that seem perfect. It makes you feel like you are not good enough or something is wrong with you. I would welcome more honest and open vlogs. You never know what will help someone. Love and hugs
Oh Katie, I understand what you’re trying to say here. My husband and I have been married for 5 years this year, we had a baby in that first year, and another 18 months later, and are currently pregnant with our 3rd, and we had a loss at one point too. I truly did not understand the depth of “in the good times, and bad times” until we went through these last 5 years. At the end of the day, even if my husband, and I have had a really bad day, there’s no one else I’d rather be doing this life with. When he, and I are working through our tough spots, I do so much praying because like you said, some things I’m just not going to tell other people, it’s solely between me and him, and so I just give it to God at that point. Hope you’re having a better day today, and I’m sending prayers to you and Cullen for whatever y’all are going through right now.
We love you guys! Sorry you had a tough day Katie! Please feel free to take time for your family. We support you all!
I just want to give you a big ole hug Katie ❤️ you’re such a strong woman but sometimes we need a break. Take care of you and don’t apologize for having feelings and having real life days.
I love how authentic and raw your videos are. It's amazing that you're so open and honest - even in those hard and rocky times. Praying for you all throughout this time!! The Lord has it all under control. Much love!
Bless you guys. We are having a year where the downs seem more obvious than the ups. I just keep holding on to the fact that God loves us and is a good good Father no matter what. Prayers for you blth as you navigate this labyrinth of emotions 💗
I have been married 23 years, and sharing helps, but it is true, keep some things private. I do, because I know we will work through it and move forward, and there's no need for others to know every detail. Every marriage is different, but they are all hard and take work. Those who are willing to put in the work will benefit the most. Praying for your family
23 years of marriage here too and 4 kids. It’s a lot. But keep persevering.
Debbie Mora yes ! Going on 24 years . All 3 kids have moved out and we are alone again . I can hardly remember all of the things that we have disagreed about but wish I had kept 99% of them to myself. LOL .
love y'all! Some days are just HARD, it always feels like the days you think things cant get worse they do and sometimes you just need to cry and that's totally ok! but just remember it could ALWAYS BE WORSE. marriage is rough, life is rough, parenthood is rough, hold eachother close, and get through it together 💙💙💙
Unfortunately, it seems, anything seems like a struggle these days. Love is hard. Anything worth keeping or having or relationships etc..... Seems so hard. Like you have to work extra hard at it. But........ You are blessed to have each other!!!!! I would give my left arm, leg, hand , foot (lol) to have another argument/ fight with my hubby. In June it will be 3 yrs since he passed. Our marriage wasn't easy. It was flipping hard!!!! Anything worth having you have to work (hard😄) at keeping. Have faith my dear, have faith. 😉😉😉😉
Patricia Gelenaw thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry for your loss.
Me and my husband are going through some major stuff right now and i'm hoping we make it because i love him with all my heart and soul.
Prayers for you guys. I feel bad that ya'll are going through this . The longer you're married, the harder it seems sometimes. I hope ya'll can get over all the downs and celebrate the ups like the lady said. Thanks for sharing. The vlog wasn't to tell us nothing, it told us more than you think and we are pulling for ya'll and praying for you.
You’re not alone. Relationships in general are hard to balance. It can be overwhelming to fill the roles of daughter, friend, mother, sibling and wife all at once. My favorite quote is “the balance of life is in the ripe and ruin.” I take it as the ups and downs, beginnings and ends, etc. Marriage is a whole new playing field because doing life next to someone is so much fun and rewarding but can be really difficult in the most vulnerable aspects. I’m here for you, I hear you, I love you!
Girl... sometimes life is super hard. Sometimes it’s not hard and still so overwhelming! I have no reason for things to be “hard” and find myself struggling. Try to remember you are both human and I totally agree about not sharing everything with everyone. ❤️❤️❤️
Prayers for you sweet lady. We all have hard times but that’s what makes the good times better. We appreciate the good when we fight so hard for them. It’ll get better, with God all things are possible. Love you ❤️
Praying for you both. Katie, you seem like the most down to earth person like I could just sit and talk to you about anything. I hate seeing you so sad :( I pray you guys get through this and your marriage will be stronger because of it ❤
Bless you Katie. You just needed to talk to someone. We're here to comfort you. Marriage can be stressful and raising little ones adds more stress. It's ok, you'll get through this.
Gaines hair is getting so long and pretty! She’s precious!
Also sorry you had a rough day. When it rains, it pours!! ❤️
Been married for 27 years, and trust me, you’ll get through it if you are open and honest. It may not go the way you want but you’ll appreciate the honesty..
So y’all have had a tough day. It gets better! Look at your two beautiful kids. Helps :) And the editing was great when talking about the expired things...😆 hard to laugh at a serious vlog.
I love how real and open you guys are! You show emotion and the realisation of life like no other you tuber!
💜We love you, Katie and Cullen. Your subscribers will always be here for you all - in good times and bad.💜
I'm so sorry for your crappy day Katie. I'm sending prayers and hugs. I think you guys are amazing.
Sweet Katie my prayers are with you and Cullen.Life will get better.there have been a few times in our 51 years of marriage I felt like walking away .Let God guide you and hold you and trust him in all things.Cherish the ups and downs they make the marriage stronger and better.